How I Knew He Was The ONE After Only 2 Months
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- Hi beauties! Gary and I are back with another couples Q&A, answering your questions about our relationship. We talk about how we met, and how I knew he was the one after only dating for two months 😉
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Wait so Gary is human ? He’s got emotions and everything ?? The way he is so straightforward about what he feels is so wholesome, makes me appreciate him on a whole new level
+1
Hahaha the way I see their relationship so far, he is a little more sensitive with emotions than her, which is fine since it looks like it works for them
wut? how could he not have emotions??
You can’t be mad about the trial period Gary, although it looked funny when you did. 😂 Honestly, she is a smart girl, lots of abusive relationship for example start with what’s called “love bombing” which is basically making big commitments fast and putting the person on a pedestal of perfect and it can be confusing and difficult in the beginning when you don’t know the person well to separate genuine intentions and feelings from that. Sadly, speaking from experience. You are obviously a great guy, and it just clicked for both of you but she was really smart to give herself the time to get to know you. You both look so happy now. 😊💕
Thank you for this sweet message❤️
Jovana exactly! I was just getting ready to write it all out and you have put my thoughts out there already! It is great that it all worked out well. Girls, always move into relationships slowly. If the person is the right person the time will tell and there will be NO pressure. Gary if you had a daughter I hope you would have thought more rationally and there is no space for ego in this instance - you should have shake Valeria's hand for this. Well done Valeria
Just to add, you as a 38-year-old man at the time surely wanted to lock things down, but her as a 20-year-old girl has/had absolutely right to hesitate. The general rule of thumb is to proceed VERY carefully when someone proposes to you only after 2 months. Love bombing involves statements as you are the best, you the one, you are the smartest, most beautiful, the most special, and all other superlatives in a very short period of time. Gary gave a huge explanation of how there are many pretty girls out there yet Valeria can not have the same critical judgment. Women hear love bombing alllll the time.
Totally. You've put my thoughts into words. The love bombing, the fairy tale, the age difference.. there's no place for ego on this one. It is the smartest thing to put a hint of logic into a pie of emotions.
I love this comment because so many people just don’t get that marriage ISNT your feelings,marriage is the choice you make.when you’re dating and getting to know someone it’s much less messy to leave if things go down hill.
The way that Valeria stayed grounded and unreactive even when her partner was upset is really eye-opening to me. How easy it is to confuse other people's emotions with our own. How easy it is to feel implicated in someone's emotional reaction.
Agreed! 💯 she is emotionally intelligent and well grounded!
What do you mean?
yeah lol she let him go through emotions without making this about herself.
@@nio731 like when you get upset and the person who made u upset gets upsets because you're upset and that makes them upset so it's not fair
Same ! When she didn't get phased with him not wanting to answer the second question and just went on telling her reasons she knew he was the one, I thought now THAT's precisely why they're working!
"Alright let's continue...I'm a little upset but whatever" Gary hahaha
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I am unsure why Gary reacted this way to the first question. For him, of course, he knew straight away that he wants to be with her “for ever”. She was so much younger and you can’t expect a 20 year old to know you’re “the one” within only 2 months and think that this is it for her. Of course it was a trial period.
It’s true! He was already old and wanted to lock it in :)
I think the issue is not that she needed time to make sure he was the one, it’s that he is only finding out now. Imagine thinking someone is as sure of you as you are them, only to find later you were being tested. I think what they described is super normal, but maybe having articulated it at the time would have made sense.
Nah he’s just super insecure and spouts this kind of thing often, even by the standards of these relatively short videos as a small window of these peoples lives x
@@authentic_path creepy asf
@@laurent2523 yep i see this too, hes insecure about his age
I thought he was the logical calculated one. It turns out she is the logical one. The trial period thing was a smart move on her part.
No body should rush into a life commitment so quickly specially as young as she was. I'm glad she took her time and didn't allow him to love-bomb her.
You talk about him like he is some bad guy. He is the rational one. Don't take a moment to define the general roles.
When they were talking about how when Gary proposed she thought it was a “trial period “ the only thing I could think of was “we were on a break” from friends 😂
Seriously true 😂😂
Awe when he said “hi Benny” that was so sweet. Just little things like acknowledging someone is what makes a good human. ☺️
I noticed that too and it touched me
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Gary, I think if you reflect more about the first question you'll see that Valeria's comment about the trial period is actually very understandable. You made a serious move on her when she was only 20 and in two months and she loved you so much that she said yes, obviously she wanted to make sure she wouldn't lose you, but she just also still needed to make sure you were the man she believed you were, that you live well together before finally getting married. If anything, it shows just how seriously she takes the marriage.
"We agreed to never raise our voices", why does that sound like the answer to everything???😂💙💙
A trial period?!?!?!?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Ohh Gary. I love you
It's just *so good* to see a well-accomplished man like Garry talk about his emotions and treat Valeria with such love and appreciation. I wish more young guys and girls watched this video, you guys are real role models with your relationship. P.S. I love these Miami videos you are making, they resonate with me a lot more than what you were doing lately with the whole crew. It reminds me of the old days when you were doing recipes and makeup tutorials. 🥰 Xx
Thank you so much my girl🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Valeria got friggin' married at 20! And at 20, I still haven't figured out if I want to keep scrolling on my phone or get some a actual shit done!
i'm 28 and i'm still figuring it out
@@sofitocyn100 You will get there. I suddenly sorted out shit majorly at 29. Great job, great apartment all within one year. Your brain just goes' aight, we done, goodbye old you' :)
@@chipwanderlust113 hello dear stranger and thank you! Actually I am turning 29 in a month and I feel like my life is finally sorting out too! 29 could be the golden age :D glad your problems are gone :)
@@sofitocyn100 Hello to you too stranger! High five and I'm glad it all worked out for you. Welcome to the 29 Sorted Club. May we be sorted forever✋🥰🥰
@@chipwanderlust113 this made me happy. ^^
It's perfectly normal to hesitate when you enter new relationship and it was wise of her to wait and test the guy. She's younger but sooo much more mature then he is. She's also very patient with his childish tantrum over something that happened a decade ago.
agreed, his reaction was a bit er...reactive
She's not more mature.
@@bieateofan2251 she is
hes creepy asf
"you didn't try to make yourself less available to me in order for me to value you more because I already showed you that you're highly valued" this hit me hard lol, I'm gonna remember this when I meet the love of my life.
Gary shouldn't be upset with the trial comment. It's quite normal to feel like that when you first move in with a partner. Doesn't mean you think or feel less of the other partner. Being with someone in the beginning will always feel like a trial to see if you work.
Well I think his being upset is not wrong because If someone said that to me I would be upset too
He proposed.............. and she said yes.
Totally different situation.
I think he is upset because he was 100% sure he wanted to be with her and asked her to marry him. The comment of a trial period makes it sound like she wasn’t sure and was like fuck it I’ll play along with the wedding and if I don’t want him I’ll just call it off. I would feel bad if I hear my future husband say that, its kinda like playing with your feelings
Totally agree with you :)
@@zairanieto3608 Could not agree less. You can be 100% sure you want to be with a person, and live together and that you realise this person's rutine or life expectations do not match with yours. I believe it is smart to give room to the possibility that something can go wrong, specially when you've only met a person for 2 months and you are starting something very real that's suposed to last for a lifetime. Would be very innocent to not think, "let's live together to reinforce the feeling I have now".
The "never get loud" part I totally get it. I have a lot of family trauma due to this, found myself in a lot of screaming coming from my parents, and now they're divorce. Keep going with this rule, please!
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I have a confession. When I first started watching you a few years ago and I saw you and Garry my first thought was she is beautiful and young and he is rich, that is why they are together and I was amazed, that you guys were in a relationship (even though my parents are married and 20 years apart). BUT then video with Gary came out where you guys were talking a lot and my perspective shifted as soon as I saw how you were interracting with each other. I even feel almost ashamed. It makes perfect sence that you are together. I absolutely love how healthy and mature your relationship is. And from what you put on the internet this is what I want my relationship to look like. It showed me what I want and made me ralize that there is zero amount of 'unhealthy' I should tolerate in my romantic relationship. Hope this makes sence, english is not my first language. Thank you for putting videos like this one on the internet!
Same for me. I felt so bad after two or three videos because I could clearly see a happy married couple that I judged over stupid assumptions. No I watch their videos to be better in my own relationship haha. But I think that's one of the best things Valeria's channel reminded me : don't judge people. Focus on yourself, be kind, and listen.
I loooove Valeria and Gary, but my husband just pointed to me that it's easy for Valeria to love Gary since he's loaded and for him to love her for her looks, take away these attributes, would they still be together 🙄this started to make me think even though I love both of them. I hate my husband for putting this worm in my head😬
@@archanaganesh2704 Those are meaningless speculations because of course people are going to select for sexually attractive traits if they are looking for a committed secual relationship. The non-sexual aspect of one's partnership would not last if those were the only things there, though.
@@archanaganesh2704 Exactly. Without looks and money there isn’t nothing
Dear Gary, you had 18 years of trial period so don't be mad about that 1 year she had.
Is this old guy seriously getting pissed over her not knowing that he was the one at 19/20 after 2 months? After a decade of being together he still gets upset by this?
I don't want to judge a relationship I don't know, but this sounds like he is not very mature. Which would also explain why he had the need for a young wife. Also the comment about she only javing female friends - dude it's perfectly normal for people to have friends of the other gender
Hi Gary, please don't forget when you met her and gave her the rig to seal the deal she has been just 19-20 which is basically still a kid trying to figure out what she wants and doesn't want for life. So it's completely natural and logical that she has not been so sure as much as you had been with 37 back then.
Yeah and he’s upset that a 19 yo child wasn’t sure about him. Lol
Yeah she was half his age back then so they probably had different mindsets
Switching your mindset from noticing flaws to noticing good aspects will lead you to a better life 🥳 Such great advice by Gary, never really thought of it that way
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This is validation of my belief that men are terribly emotionally fragile, no matter how old they are.
Lowkey agree sadly, it was an opportunity for him to understand where she was coming from, but he failed to do so.
I love love love these q&a’s!!! I think it would be really helpful to me and probably a lot of other people if you did a video specifically about boundaries in the early stages of a relationship. Like what were checkpoints that you both had in your minds along the way and how long did it take you guys to open up to each other on deeper more vulnerable levels. Basically just any more wise pieces of advice on starting a healthy relationship and caring for a partner and your own self during that stage.
I love these Q&As with Gary. He is so insightful and even without being too obvious or showy about it, you can tell how much he loves and adores you!
I really like this kind of videos with you and Gary. I'm 35 years old and still didn't find the right person to me and sometimes it worries me. Seeing you both give me a little hope. 💜
Sending you so much love❤️
Miss your really pretty, you'll have no problem finding someone :) wishing you luck x
You are really pretty + you dont need any man
why ? when sjhes much younger
I got that when Valeria said she thought that was a trial period , as a girl we become more cautious with our partner maybe bcs our past experience with our ex boyfriend didn't work out so good and make us less trust to man , we don't want our time and life to be wasted anymore we just want to find and marry the right one for us
It is so clear that you both take working on the relationship as one of the most important aspects of your life. Sometimes people think that if it is the right person then it doesn't take any work...which is absurd. Anything of value and anything that can stand the test of time takes work. A lot of it. It may not feel like work (and hopefully it doesn't) but it really is. And it is work you do on yourself. By being a better person you can be a better partner. I also love the part where Gary said that if you are just focusing on the flaws of the person then the problem is you. So true.
Love how you appreciate each other and the way you love each other😍 Have an amazing day🤗
Loved the relationship dynamic! Would love to see more videos where we can see you both interact in different contexts haha
Love how Gary is funny and insightful
To be honest when I see you guys I could see how efforts are made from both sides how it's a partnership in true form.... You made me learn so much about me and made me understand how I want my life ahead.... Now I'm on my way manifesting my partner
I love how you look at Gary when he's speaking, it's such a little thing but it shows relationship maturity I think
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💕 Valeria! Please make a video on you styling Gary, you guys have very different styles. It would be so much fun!
I've been married for almost 2 years now and you guys are my couple that I look up to !!!!
Xoxo
Same with my boyfriend, we’re not married but after 2 months dating we started to live together and 6 years later we are super duper good! I mean, some couples work this way and that's fine! people must understand that! emotional understanding is something unique that not all couples have ❤️🙌🏻 lots of love Valeria! loved this video!
Yeah I agree. Everyone is different. The dynamics and energy between couples can vary. For example my parents after meeting one time in a different country my father took the plane to meet my mom with flowers and ask her to come along with her (this was 40 years ago). Meanwhile I am together with my boyfriend for 6 years already and just nada like we just take it slow 😂.
WOW, loved this video. Especially the part about not raising your voice. Think I needed to hear it, haha. Just watched your other Q&A from 4 months ago too.... So wholesome :)) Maybe one day you will make one on how couples can do business together successfully but still have their own lives
Thank you so much❤️❤️
This made me cry!! 😭😭 A beautiful understanding marriage full of Love. God bless, you guys are goals❤️
I love how mature this couple is like honestly serious goals right here
I honestly loved this video cuz' I've never seen such a moody side of Gary and it was really nice.❤️
Also the bond you both share is just sooo amazing.❤️
And I wanted to ask Valeria, how did Gary propose???
I’ve never laughed so much in a Q&A as much as this one. Gary is such a good husband. Both of you are lucky to have each other.
I love the no raising voices during arguments thing! That’s great!
A lot of people when they have a strong disagreement, it doesn’t take long for shouting to start and even some insults.
Well yes swearing definitely no, the calm approach it is very good to the point when there are real problem and you have to express your anger and other emotions otherwise it becomes unhealthy to block them, to raise your voice is not bad; but this guy is so respectful, frank and inteligent that maybe it is not necessary in their case
Why was he so angry with the first question?? She s completely right obv she wanted to see if they are compatible
People do connect on emotions rather than words. Staying calm allows to focus on the issue.
Thank you so much!! Being at the right place in your own life and being content with yourself is CRUCIAL in order to be a good person to ourselves and to be a good partner as well. It all comes with time and experiences.
You guys get the same questions EVERY TIME! But you kill it every time with your magnificent wisdom. I've been married eight years and love my husband SO much and I feel so blessed to have him in my life. Marriage is a wonderful blessing.
i'm 21 and if anyone, but especially someone who is two times older than me, proposes to me even in 5 years of relationships ima gonna say "wait a sec..." and run as fast as possible
and he's upset about TWO MONTHS being not enough?????
always thought he was like that, but now i know it for sure
he really just wanted to catch her in a wed while she's still young and easy to manipulate
having a kid when you're just 20 and your husband that you only know for 1 year is like father-age for you... sounds like a nightmare
nothing is okay with that and he knows it too, that's why he reacts like that. no one wants their sins to be exposed
hopefully she's strong enough right now to never ever let him put her down again
but i can't even imagine how scary it was for her back then when they were engaged
*9 years and 3 kids later* is it real for you now?! Haha I really appreciate all the advice and experiences you shared, excited that you'll be doing q&as more often. Congrats on your relationship and your awesome family! 😁✨
Thanks for watching!!
uhhh I have been waiting for this video for sooo long YAYYYY !! LOVED IT, thank you guys! Pleaseee more videos like thissssssss
Why is he so bummed out at the trial thing lol. If anything thats what a logical person would think.
GAary is a sensitive soul! Both of you are so perfect for each other!
I believe it was very normal that eventhough you were super in love and you engaged after two months, you lived together for a while to reinforce that you're compatible. We did the same with my husband and it also worked out lovely, but there are cases where that doesn't happen. Love you both and love this Q&As :)
I love you guys and the realness in these q&a's 🥺❤ role models for sure
You both are funny but equally calm. Just watching you brings such a good energy. You are the Papaya of the relationships, tasty, good looking and healthy!
loved this raw interaction between you two
Really love what Gary said about conflict resolution and not raising your voice in arguments with your partner - totally agree that it takes away that feeling of 'attack' and makes any conflict easier to resolve and understand!
I agree. And personally, it's important for me to not have any condescension towards each other. Respect must be observed at all times
Fantastic video! Maybe you could make some storytimes about your previous relationships + advice.
I love this type of vid no bullshit whatsoever like 'oh I knew he was the one when I first laid eyes on him'. It's cause this two have been through a lot that they learn from it and they were able to form into their heads that this is something I want in my the one. And by the time they met each other same values, culture, beliefs and sentiments. Fuck it we're not perfect but we can make it work! Sorry for the bad words that happens when you're passionately explaining something. Most of all, I find you two so passionate and respectful to one another. And I love and respect you even more for that!
You guys! not disappoint 😍😍😂😂Love y’all !!
This was informative and hilarious! Seeing y’all’s love is magical 💕 thank you for letting us be apart of it. 💕💕
Sending you love❤️❤️❤️
omg I can listen to u 2 forever, pls do more videos together!
First of, looooove the content, thanks guys. About the flaws question: I think the question was not that much about focusing on the negative things, but more like: “we all know at rhe beginning of a relationship love is blind and we’re usually so happy, but then with time when hormones calm down and logic kicks in we see the flaws in each other, with a more realistic perspective and some people fall out love, so how did you guys get to “know know” each other so quickly overcoming the first in-love blindness”.
That’s how I understood it
Was waiting for this. So excited!!
This video gived me the most important relationship material ever lol, loved it💓
I love you guys! Your answers are so pure and truthful I truly want to achieve what you guys have. Just today I was feeling a bit sad regarding my relationship and on what stage we are as well as to our fights but I will implement not raising our voices and just to be us and making the other person feel valued
Yes please!!! More couple related videos. I absolutely love them.
Will do!
Gary reminds me so much of my husband. This conversation is great❤
Omg you guys just spit true words out, I love listening to you. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story to which hopefully a lot of people can relate. You both are wonderful human beings and Gary seems to be a top husband, very considerate and with such respectful values. Wish you a lot of happiness, but my favorite of all is still your mom 😁
ואלריה את מהממת! היחידה שבאמת מראה את עצמה בלי משחקים בלי לייפות את החיים . תמשיכי להצליח! ❤️
U guys bringing sunshine to our lives 😍😍❤❤
Fantastic video....the maturity and wisdom with you both is commendable. Young people need to hear this more often.....popular culture is lying to us, too many emotions and not much thinking or respect.
''so at what point you decided like it's ok ye ye ye he can stay'' lol that was hilarious , you hurt his pride Valeria!
perfect... just the right kind of mindset to make the relationship long lasting. Its a little admirable she knew this already at a young age because I wouldn't. However I deduce you practically grow together. awesome, you blend.
and a woman would not play any games if she's feeling safe and secure in the relationship and a mature one that is.
Poor Gary, I felt for him on that first question :D
I just remembered how you once said that you went first time out with Gary only because your girlfriends didn’t have time and look how well it went 😅❤️
Pls make more of these videos . They are amazing , i love them ❤💜
I ADORE YOU TWO!! much love from Austria 😘
Lol really enjoy the bond you guys have together 💕
You keep taking my phone chargers had me 🤣💜💜
Absolutely love watching the both of you. You so genuine and honest. Love it. Two beautiful people. ♥️🤗♥️🤗
I really like that this was so real and not planned or having a script. I look up to you guys! I hope and pray I will find a partner and become the best team just like you! Also I feel like Valeria loves Gary very very much. It was funny to see him a bit upset, but I know he knows how much he means to Valeria!
Live for your q&as with Gary!
Thank you Val for the last question, I needed to listen to that. I've been asking myself whether I'm with "the one" or not for a long time.. and your answer made it more clear for me. For sure, you just know when it's not the one.
Thanks for all positive energy in all of your videos. You are right , we all have to be happy first , not waiting someone come and fulfill us. we would know who the right one, just listen to our heart.
So important🙏🏻 glad you liked the video!
I loved so much what Gary said when it comes to beauty and kindness! He is so right, beautiful ladies are everywhere but what's inside them it's more important than the outside!
Yes!
Believe me he would married a fat woman
This was so helpful :D I have never been on a serious relationship so these tips helped :)
So happy to hear this!
@@ValeriaLipovetsky :D
So nice to see an example of a healthy relationship :)
Thanks my girl😘
nah cap
You look really healthy and happy that s how u know that the marriage is working
Happy wife = happy marriage
I hope someday I can be that happy in a relationship
Thank you lovely!
Omg Valeria you look like a freaking fairy,you’re soo gorgeous 😍😍❤️
I LOVE this kind of videos of you💕💕
Love how you have build your relationship 💜💜
Okay so here's a thing...I have a boyfriend and we've been together for one and a half years now. We both are pretty young. But what is interesting to me is that since the begining of our relationship we always said that if we have a problem we will talk about it and will find a solution. We won't argue because it doensn't bring anything good. In that way I see so much connection with you two. You showed me that this kind of relationships do exist, THANK YOU ❤
Can we just know your individual life journeys? As I need to know what made you who you are and what you both have been through
thank you for making this video, it really opens up my mind
lmao you guys are so cute and funny!!! i loved this
The fact that she was so young whenever he preyed on her… It’s very sad. Tragic she can’t see
Good job Gary. Engagement isn’t a trial period 👏🏼
Gary all offended at the start, loved it hahahahah. Don't worry, my family is always annoyed about me stealing their chargers too!! And this whole aesthetic and look, wow, so gorgeous, you reminded me of a fairy or something! Lots of love xx
very appreciated! Thanks for making this video!
I really enjoyed watching you both Talk about relationships💜, can you Discusses Topics like jealousy or boredom in relationship?
Will keep this in mind!
Yaaas