My dad told me one time: " It does not matter how jealous or crazy you get ..if someone wants to cheat on you, they will. So, you better relax and OPEN your eyes, that's way better for your health" And that changed my perspective of things....
Jealousy is not god to have in a relationship. The fact that Valeria does not get jealous is a good thing. She trusts you so Gary be happy your wife knows you are a committed and loving person.
'jealousy comes from insecurity' that's right, but it's also a partner's role to not make the one feel insecure. Sometimes partners create the insecurity as well, like Gary said, Valeria never gave him a reason to feel insecure. If your boyfriend or girlfriend shows a lot of interest in other people or doens' t show a lot interest in you, or worse, takes you down, then it's not easy to control jealousy even without expressing it. It makes you feel bad. Both have a role in this.
“How to not be jealous of your partner’s previous relationship?” My best answer is always they’ve ended it for a reason, it stays in the past and now he chooses me and I choose him. So the previous partner in the past will not come in the picture. I agree with Gary where he said “Do not talk about it.” I don’t think it’s worth the time or energy to compare the previous ones with our present relationship, you think so?😊✨
@@Elizabeth-jb1ii then you should work on your insecurities and what triggers you the most then discuss it with your partner. I do it by doing self-love meditation, reading books, watching TH-cam about healthy relationships, doing hobbies etc. I was once jealous with him and I explained to him what triggered me and he listened to that so we solved the problem.
That was my question, and I totally agree with your’s and Valeria and Gary’s answer. But, obviously, this is something that I still need to work on with my therapist ☺️
Gary I’m so sorry you went through that when you were younger. Men a lot of times don’t express when they are hurting, so I hope you aren’t silently hurting and are getting the help that you need because I went through similar things and it really affected me for a long time.
It’s really inspiring how Gary and you have (slightly) different opinions on certain topics but you both listen to each other, accept the other opinion and try to understand each other’s perspective.
Really love this Q&A series, like chatting with close friends. And this topic really on time, cause lately I‘ve been through “jealousy ” issue. his ex always come to my mind, just cannot stop thinking what he would send her when I received a gift from him. You’re right! I should learn to enjoy her training rather than punish myself. Cannot wait next QA episode
I'd love to watch another couples video like this on cultural differences in relationship from you and Gary. My husband is from a different country than me (I'm an immigrant here in the UK) and I find this topic really interesting!
13:20. Amen to valeria shaking her head no. I always felt my fiancé was hiding something from me. I ignored it for a while but then addressed it and he denied. So I left him because I didn’t feel I deserved to be left in the dark. And then a few days later he told me he’s an addict and had been using. He’s sober 4 years now. But I learned that my hunches are right, and not to ignore the gut feelings.
Love that you guys are doing these videos!! The one on one deep talks/ couple deep talks make this channel feel so real and genuine it’s my favorite kind of content. Thanks Valeria and Gary!! :)
I'm a 21 y.o girl from IraN🇮🇷 you & Gary have tought me so many lessons for life from business to relationships etc , I love you guys deeply & I hope I can meet you guys & your cute boys one day❤❤❤❤
These types of videos really educate me. One thing I will take from this video is: "I definitely need to stop talking about my previous relationship when dating."
This video brought me so much peace of mind.. I was hanging onto each word both of you were saying the entire video. You guys really do have something so so special and I love to see it!!❤️
Thank you Valeria!!! Love watching this types of videos so that when I ever get in a relationship I know what is to have a healthy one and what are the red flags right in the beginning.
Fear of abandonment doesn't just come from not being content with where you are in life or feeling insecure in yourself. It can easily come from experiences in being abandoned, again and again. By partners, family, friends. It can be trauma induced.
Oh that 8 question - I am more on Valaria team. It is not that easy. You can be the most confident person in the world and yet your are going to be hit! I have spent almost a year trying to break that pattern..but once it is done, everything fell into places including meeting the right guy.
I’m with Gary on this one. I think a certain degree is healthy and can be a sign of love. Because it keeps you on your toes I agree with Gary definitely
Great advice from you both. It's clear you are both secure within yourselves, you trust each other whole heartedly and communicate effectively. Your intune with each other, it's lovely to see especially in a marriage!!! Keep these videos coming, loved it🙏🏾👌🏾🙌🏾
You guys talked about how Gary supported you in the beginning like crazy even when at the time you were somewhat directionless or at least less sure of your direction. How did you Valeria creatively come to your direction and what role did Gary play in you finding that direction.
So much understanding between u two and couldn’t believe u have 18 years age gap. A lot of things good bad happen in private life between a couple but the important things are to try and work hard to maintain relationship and understand each other feeling. ❤️
I adore these videos so much, Please expand this series! I apply some of these advices to my own relationship with my boyfriend (we have a 19 year age gap)
Love your couple videos - keep it coming! On the ex question, I am personally very good friend with one of my ex and it has never bothered my current partner exactly because - to Gary's point - I made him feel very secure that there was no option I'd go back there and that he is my #1 priority. A lot can happen with an ex in the picture but sometimes it just works out really well too and you get to keep really good friends too out of your past relationships :)
I kind of agree with Gary on the love relationship, you can show "jealousy" in just noticing that someone else is looking at your partner., doesn't mean that you are going to ape at the person. If you look at the "jealousy" as a possessive thing then yes of course it's negative and red flag, but just highlighting that you noticed that someone is looking at the person in a cute way. It really is all about balance and how you make the other person feel. But I totally agree with Valeria about going to talk to someone, I think that Gary's generation is more about the "just get on with it" where our generation is more about resolving our issues and understanding them and not just ignoring them.
I feel like the ex thing is soooo circumstantial. I was with my ex for 6 years and we started dating at 18 and 24 we were together for 6 years and i kind of sensed a wandering mind on his part. I understood that he was very attractive and received a ridiculous amount of attention from women. So one day I said what if were together because its what we know and attachment and because breaking up on bad terms makes someone wrong and second guess it. I suggested we break up for 6 months and see what happens. we can always get back together. at this point I was 24 and he was 30. We lived together but had separate rooms as I do now with my current boyfriend. as soon as he starting dating i could sense it and second guessed it and became and there was a time he second guessed it. Thats when we decided we obviously need to not live with each other to give this an honest chance. So we both moved me to my new house. He dated about 10 girls and I found my angel and soulmate pretty soon after when I was planning to be single. After he dated around he found a girl who was made to be here with him as well. They got married and had a baby. He hired by boyfriend to work for him when he decided he dint want to be a layer anymore. my boyfriend and I are now business partners and Leaf and Mel are two of our closest friends and the first ones here if we're in trouble. I watch their baby. Leaf (the ex was part of my family for 6 years. I was with him when his sister died, he was here with us when my sister died. Mel (his wife) and I talk on the regular and me and the baby have such a special relationship. She's so magical and it makes the big picture so magical. This is the way it was meant to be but started as a long term relationship. My whole family was heart broken when we broke up but than learned they didnt lose anything and also adore my current boyfriend I've had ever since. We didn't have a very toxic relationship though. We left our egos out of it.
I don’t follow my hubby on social media and he doesn’t follow me either. I feel social media has created a lot of issues in relationships that needn’t be there. Ruining your marriage over likes and comments is ridiculous to me, so I rather avoid that by keeping our accounts separate. Remembering my husband is devoted to me and me only keeps me from being jealous also.
My husband gets upset when I have work events and I get home late and he does not have a time frame. I totally get it Gary. I try to communicate in those instances a lot to maintain the trust and to keep my husband feeling like he is still and always my priority. I think it’s fair because if the shoe was on the other foot I would be upset if my husband went to a work event and got home at 3am and I expected him at 10pm
If you consider the opposite of jealousy, which is confidence, trust and security, then it becomes clear what is missing in the relationship or the partner who is experiencing it. Not experiencing trust and security in a relationship is not one of the partner's fault usually but a deficit of love and affection from childhood. Therapy can help in this case, to get to the root of our behavior or recognizing our need for love and sharing it with our partner.
I'm not a jealous person so if I ever feel jealous I know it is indicative of my partner doing something that I am not comfortable with. Crossing unhealthy boundaries. At that point, I verbalize my discomfort and, if not rectify, leave the relationship. I do not date men that have a strong presence online or follow a lot of models online. I would never want to be with someone that is that comfortable with that constant stimuli. It's an addiction and not healthy.
with all due respect: Girl, what exes? you barely lived before you got married. not saying it's good or bad, but I don't think you can have profound and memorable and mature relationship with your ex before you turned 20.
Seeing someone for my deep childhood-rooted fear of abandonment helped me tremendously. You need to be at peace with yourself before allowing anyone in ~ my opinion.
One like button is not enough for this video. This is golden advice in a society where toxic behaviour is first promoted on media then people are just called toxic at the first bad srep so easily without any guidance. Love you guys xxx keep showing the world what relationships should be like❤
Does your bf / gf find the person to just be attractive? Or are they developing feelings? To find other people good-looking is fine but to develop feelings for someone else while in a relationship is... Well, obviously not so great. The best way to establish this and set boundaries is by communicating especially if you're suspecting something is off! I hope you're okay though ❤😊 x
There’s a bad type of jealousy but there’s also a good kind. There’s also a bad way to handle jealousy and a good way to handle it. Good jealousy can put you on your A game bc you’re aware of how blessed you are to have your partner and you’d hate to lose them- just the thought of losing them breaks your heart. So you treat your partner really respectfully and lovingly and make sure you never take them for granted. That’s the good type of jealousy.
My ex and me are friends, we dated when we were young and we didn’t have a big break up, he’s a great friend and me and my fiancé are good friends with him. He’s one of the very few people that would actually be there at a moments notice.
I'm a wife 22 years of gap with my husband. And im jealous all The time but i know he is a very good person, he love me, and I really love him deeply. Sometimes jealousy i cant control, but i try not to be.
What if your ex is your best friend. Like ZERO romantic attraction and maybe broke up because you just became good friends/family. I think it’s so sad to let go of those we love who are basically family who know us deeply, just because you “shouldn’t be friends with your ex.” So I disagree there...
I keep in contact with my ex because we developed a friendship while we were a couple. We dont talk everyday, just when we have time. I ended the relationship because as a couple we didnt have a good communication and as a virgo I need to talk about the stuff haha. Last night, he told me he started dating someone that he "knew" just from hellos during our relationship at university. When he told me her name, I realized that I remembered this girl. When we were a couple I remember seeing that he followed her in ig and he liked all her photos, this were recent photos, I did not felt insecure or anything, I tought she was his friend. Now that he told me that he did not really know her at that time...I do think it was weird... I am interested in what do you think, Valeria. I know is not my business anymore but I dont like to feel that he kind of had this certain attraction to someone else. The likes in social media have never being an issue for me, it was ocassional that I found her ig at that time. What do you think of that kind of actions? In the video you talked about follow people you dont know, but what happens when she is a person that is 'a friend of other friends' and he still like all her photos? I would appreciate Garys opinion too if it is possible. Faithfull follower here :) love your personality and style 🤗
I've been watching your q & a videos with Gary and I feel like they're really helping me grow as a person and figure out how I can be the best version of myself. Спасибо большое 🤍
Valeria is correct. Any issues ie abandonment, but any start from childhood adversity. All the patterns that we are exposed to in our upbringing ie. actions and for sure words. Therapy is the way to deal with all inner child wounds. If the person is right they will be on this journey of self-growth with you - if you are aligned. None of us is perfect, we are all overcoming badly thought and learned love patterns. Hence, as they say, the right relationship is where two individuals are willing to be together on the path of self-growth - toxicity excluded. I agree with the jealousy, even though I had a bad experience as Valerie, but I always felt that in a healthy dose jealousy can give that little kink or spark to the relationship. I agree with that Gary. It depends on the individuals entirely tho and one should always care about and respect others' boundaries if you really care and love that person.
Gary wanting more jealousy comes from a place of insecurity and wanting to feel like Valeria holds onto him tightly and views him as desirable. Perhaps a tiny bit of jealousy here and there is a little flattering and cute but his strongly emphasizing how much he needs it is toxic. Not that he is toxic but he needs to work on his own insecurities and stop projecting them onto Valeria as if she needs to be different.
I think jealousy is a personal issue of the individual being jealous and making it known to your partner is making it their fault. YOU as a jealous person need to work it out by yourself, it's not your partner's fault and you should never make it that. No healthy relationship needs jealousy and the root of it is always feeling insecure and no one else can fix that but you yourself. Ofc partners can do shitty things to make you feel like that, but at that point I don't see it as jealousy but an actual cause to be upset with your partner. Jealousy is unnecessary in my opinion
Hello Valeria ...love the chemistry between you and Gary one of my favorite kind of vlog♥️♥️ 🥰😘 love how you communicate together...sending love from haiti..♥️
18 years gap is not much at all. But Val does have a young face which is good for a model. I think that if your spouse is jealous, he or she is jealous that you're not spending more time with him or her. So you should listen and spend more time with her or him. This applies for kids jealous of their siblings. The parents should listen to their kids jealousy too.
My Ex-Boyfriend and I are best friends since the break-up, I'm very happy that my boyfriend and his girlfriend understand this completely. My ex and I shared a lot of memories and grew to like each other a lot just that there is no romantic side to it at all, he's just been a very important part of my life for a long time and I see no reason to ban each other from the life as adults that still get along and there is clearly no romantic oder sexual feelings left but still you like each other just as humans. We shared important parts of our lives and there is no bad blood so why just ban someone that is an important human in your life and a really nice person?
if a guy I was dating wanted me to be jealous of woman being attracted to him even though we have trust in each other id find it weird. id be flattered someone found him attractive but I wouldn't feel jealous I would feel concerned he would want me to be jealous. I'd think he was insecure and needed me to be jealous to stroke is ego which isn't attractive.
My dad told me one time: " It does not matter how jealous or crazy you get ..if someone wants to cheat on you, they will. So, you better relax and OPEN your eyes, that's way better for your health"
And that changed my perspective of things....
so true!!
Very wise your dad. Totally agree 👍
your dad is amazing! and his advice is brilliant!
Thankyou. Needed this to know
True dat 👏🏽
And, he’s said this because he’s probably cheated at some point in his relationships/marriage too 🤷🏽♀️
you guys need to make a podcast! you both have great advice!
Aw thank you! ❤️
Jealousy is not god to have in a relationship. The fact that Valeria does not get jealous is a good thing. She trusts you so Gary be happy your wife knows you are a committed and loving person.
Thank you so much for watching! ❤️
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'jealousy comes from insecurity' that's right, but it's also a partner's role to not make the one feel insecure. Sometimes partners create the insecurity as well, like Gary said, Valeria never gave him a reason to feel insecure. If your boyfriend or girlfriend shows a lot of interest in other people or doens' t show a lot interest in you, or worse, takes you down, then it's not easy to control jealousy even without expressing it. It makes you feel bad. Both have a role in this.
I love how you let each other say your peace. A lot of couples just talk over each other.
So sweet! Thank you love 🥰
“How to not be jealous of your partner’s previous relationship?”
My best answer is always they’ve ended it for a reason, it stays in the past and now he chooses me and I choose him. So the previous partner in the past will not come in the picture. I agree with Gary where he said “Do not talk about it.”
I don’t think it’s worth the time or energy to compare the previous ones with our present relationship, you think so?😊✨
Yes it is all nice, but then my mind going to how many people actually get back with their exes😞
@@Elizabeth-jb1ii then you should work on your insecurities and what triggers you the most then discuss it with your partner. I do it by doing self-love meditation, reading books, watching TH-cam about healthy relationships, doing hobbies etc.
I was once jealous with him and I explained to him what triggered me and he listened to that so we solved the problem.
Love that! Thank you so much for the insight 🙌🏻
That was my question, and I totally agree with your’s and Valeria and Gary’s answer. But, obviously, this is something that I still need to work on with my therapist ☺️
I would add one thing to all the amazing wisdom nuggets mentioned. Don't sabotage your own relationship when things are good by overthinking things.
Gary I’m so sorry you went through that when you were younger. Men a lot of times don’t express when they are hurting, so I hope you aren’t silently hurting and are getting the help that you need because I went through similar things and it really affected me for a long time.
Thank you so much for caring and your kind words ❤️
It’s really inspiring how Gary and you have (slightly) different opinions on certain topics but you both listen to each other, accept the other opinion and try to understand each other’s perspective.
Jealousy is definitely a red flag. Especially if one of the parts is purposely doing things to make the other person feel that way.
Really love this Q&A series, like chatting with close friends. And this topic really on time, cause lately I‘ve been through “jealousy ” issue. his ex always come to my mind, just cannot stop thinking what he would send her when I received a gift from him. You’re right! I should learn to enjoy her training rather than punish myself. Cannot wait next QA episode
I love your couples videos!! Always great topics.💫❤
So sweet! Thank you so much for watching 🙏🏻❤️
I'd love to watch another couples video like this on cultural differences in relationship from you and Gary. My husband is from a different country than me (I'm an immigrant here in the UK) and I find this topic really interesting!
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
You guys are absolutely fabulous!! Thank you for your healthy, productive conversations with us!!
So sweet! Thank you lovely 🥰
13:20. Amen to valeria shaking her head no. I always felt my fiancé was hiding something from me. I ignored it for a while but then addressed it and he denied. So I left him because I didn’t feel I deserved to be left in the dark. And then a few days later he told me he’s an addict and had been using. He’s sober 4 years now. But I learned that my hunches are right, and not to ignore the gut feelings.
Love that you guys are doing these videos!! The one on one deep talks/ couple deep talks make this channel feel so real and genuine it’s my favorite kind of content. Thanks Valeria and Gary!! :)
I'm a 21 y.o girl from IraN🇮🇷 you & Gary have tought me so many lessons for life from business to relationships etc , I love you guys deeply & I hope I can meet you guys & your cute boys one day❤❤❤❤
So sweet thank you! Sending love from Miami ❤️
These types of videos really educate me. One thing I will take from this video is: "I definitely need to stop talking about my previous relationship when dating."
Hi Valeria, please get back to your old vlogs. Absolutely loved them.
More vlogs will be coming soon! 🥰
🥰 how to avoid arguments on parenting deciosions, dividing parental responsibilities,good cop vs bad cop with kids
Love that! Thank you so much for watching 🥰
This video brought me so much peace of mind.. I was hanging onto each word both of you were saying the entire video. You guys really do have something so so special and I love to see it!!❤️
Thank you Valeria!!!
Love watching this types of videos so that when I ever get in a relationship I know what is to have a healthy one and what are the red flags right in the beginning.
Thank you lovely! Love the insight 🥰
Fear of abandonment doesn't just come from not being content with where you are in life or feeling insecure in yourself. It can easily come from experiences in being abandoned, again and again. By partners, family, friends. It can be trauma induced.
Oh that 8 question - I am more on Valaria team. It is not that easy. You can be the most confident person in the world and yet your are going to be hit!
I have spent almost a year trying to break that pattern..but once it is done, everything fell into places including meeting the right guy.
I’m with Gary on this one. I think a certain degree is healthy and can be a sign of love. Because it keeps you on your toes I agree with Gary definitely
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
You should do a QnA of jake and Ben answering questions bout yall
Hahah love that idea! 😂❤️
id love to hear about how kids affected your relationship
Yess! Would love to expand on this topic for sure 🙏🏻❤️
Great advice from you both. It's clear you are both secure within yourselves, you trust each other whole heartedly and communicate effectively. Your intune with each other, it's lovely to see especially in a marriage!!! Keep these videos coming, loved it🙏🏾👌🏾🙌🏾
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You guys talked about how Gary supported you in the beginning like crazy even when at the time you were somewhat directionless or at least less sure of your direction. How did you Valeria creatively come to your direction and what role did Gary play in you finding that direction.
Omg release *PART 2* 🙌 *PART 2* 🙌🙌
Gary killed it 👏👏
This video is something that i didn't realize that i needed. So much fun 🤣
So much understanding between u two and couldn’t believe u have 18 years age gap. A lot of things good bad happen in private life between a couple but the important things are to try and work hard to maintain relationship and understand each other feeling. ❤️
That's pure wisdom. I enjoyed this video too much! You both are absolutely amazing!
Gary is such a breathe of fresh air, I love his honestly and insight on these topics!!
I adore these videos so much, Please expand this series! I apply some of these advices to my own relationship with my boyfriend (we have a 19 year age gap)
hey sis! I am also in 19y age gape relationship. How are you guys doing year later? greetings
This was the best Q&A both of you ever did in my opinion, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts :)
Glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
Valeria promoting familly and relationship values ,that's why relatively not many views , but keep up the good work!
Love your couple videos - keep it coming!
On the ex question, I am personally very good friend with one of my ex and it has never bothered my current partner exactly because - to Gary's point - I made him feel very secure that there was no option I'd go back there and that he is my #1 priority. A lot can happen with an ex in the picture but sometimes it just works out really well too and you get to keep really good friends too out of your past relationships :)
Thank you so much for sharing! Love making these videos for you all 🥰
I love this type of video. Both of you may have different views, but they are all so legit. Very wise ppl. 👍🏼
I kind of agree with Gary on the love relationship, you can show "jealousy" in just noticing that someone else is looking at your partner., doesn't mean that you are going to ape at the person.
If you look at the "jealousy" as a possessive thing then yes of course it's negative and red flag, but just highlighting that you noticed that someone is looking at the person in a cute way.
It really is all about balance and how you make the other person feel.
But I totally agree with Valeria about going to talk to someone, I think that Gary's generation is more about the "just get on with it" where our generation is more about resolving our issues and understanding them and not just ignoring them.
Thank you so much for watching! So important to talk about these topics 🙌🏻
I love these topics! I really resonate with your opinions, such healthy tips thank you!
Thank you so much for watching 🥰
A body language expert would have fun with this video... Some things were truthfully said, and some were not ;)
I feel like the ex thing is soooo circumstantial. I was with my ex for 6 years and we started dating at 18 and 24 we were together for 6 years and i kind of sensed a wandering mind on his part. I understood that he was very attractive and received a ridiculous amount of attention from women. So one day I said what if were together because its what we know and attachment and because breaking up on bad terms makes someone wrong and second guess it. I suggested we break up for 6 months and see what happens. we can always get back together. at this point I was 24 and he was 30. We lived together but had separate rooms as I do now with my current boyfriend. as soon as he starting dating i could sense it and second guessed it and became and there was a time he second guessed it. Thats when we decided we obviously need to not live with each other to give this an honest chance. So we both moved me to my new house. He dated about 10 girls and I found my angel and soulmate pretty soon after when I was planning to be single. After he dated around he found a girl who was made to be here with him as well. They got married and had a baby. He hired by boyfriend to work for him when he decided he dint want to be a layer anymore. my boyfriend and I are now business partners and Leaf and Mel are two of our closest friends and the first ones here if we're in trouble. I watch their baby. Leaf (the ex was part of my family for 6 years. I was with him when his sister died, he was here with us when my sister died. Mel (his wife) and I talk on the regular and me and the baby have such a special relationship. She's so magical and it makes the big picture so magical. This is the way it was meant to be but started as a long term relationship. My whole family was heart broken when we broke up but than learned they didnt lose anything and also adore my current boyfriend I've had ever since. We didn't have a very toxic relationship though. We left our egos out of it.
I don’t follow my hubby on social media and he doesn’t follow me either. I feel social media has created a lot of issues in relationships that needn’t be there. Ruining your marriage over likes and comments is ridiculous to me, so I rather avoid that by keeping our accounts separate.
Remembering my husband is devoted to me and me only keeps me from being jealous also.
My husband gets upset when I have work events and I get home late and he does not have a time frame. I totally get it Gary. I try to communicate in those instances a lot to maintain the trust and to keep my husband feeling like he is still and always my priority. I think it’s fair because if the shoe was on the other foot I would be upset if my husband went to a work event and got home at 3am and I expected him at 10pm
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing. Love the insight 🙌🏻❤️
I think it depends ..i would need way more freedom than this to be happy. Its individual.
If you consider the opposite of jealousy, which is confidence, trust and security, then it becomes clear what is missing in the relationship or the partner who is experiencing it. Not experiencing trust and security in a relationship is not one of the partner's fault usually but a deficit of love and affection from childhood. Therapy can help in this case, to get to the root of our behavior or recognizing our need for love and sharing it with our partner.
This is the most useful Q&A you and Gary have ever done for me!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏 I can't thank you enough!!!
Love is so in the air during your videos ❤️ and the chemistry between you both ✨
I'm not a jealous person so if I ever feel jealous I know it is indicative of my partner doing something that I am not comfortable with. Crossing unhealthy boundaries. At that point, I verbalize my discomfort and, if not rectify, leave the relationship. I do not date men that have a strong presence online or follow a lot of models online. I would never want to be with someone that is that comfortable with that constant stimuli. It's an addiction and not healthy.
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing, love the insight 🥰
Love your relationship ❤️
So sweet! Thank you 🙌🏻
I like his responses DO MORE TOGETHER!
Gary is such a smart man ! And always gives good reasons
with all due respect: Girl, what exes? you barely lived before you got married. not saying it's good or bad, but I don't think you can have profound and memorable and mature relationship with your ex before you turned 20.
I do agree 100%🌹with your wise point of you . 😊Thank you dear Valeria and husband , you're such a wonderful and blessed couple ❤
This was soo good. Thank you! I was surprised how much I agreed with you and can’t wait to watch with my boyfriend and exchange opinions about it 💜🙏🏻
Seeing someone for my deep childhood-rooted fear of abandonment helped me tremendously. You need to be at peace with yourself before allowing anyone in ~ my opinion.
One like button is not enough for this video. This is golden advice in a society where toxic behaviour is first promoted on media then people are just called toxic at the first bad srep so easily without any guidance. Love you guys xxx keep showing the world what relationships should be like❤
Love all your videos! Definitely inspire me to be more open and confident in creating my own content. Love your passion and joy!
Loved it. Especially the part about Valieria being Oprah. Totally agree. 🥰🥰
Can’t wait for when that happens. I’m coming to the live shows. 😂🥰💖
Hahah thank you, hopefully one day 😂🙌🏻
Jealousy is a waste of energy!
"Who the hell is Chad?" deadddd
Hahah the best part of the video 🙌🏻
I love this type of videos 🥰
Thank you 😊
Love your videos 🥰🥰🥰
Always looking forward to them.
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Thank you so much for watching! 🥰
I love these kind of videos. I am learning so much!
Loved it! Lots of love to both of you...you're such an amazing couple 😊😊
So sweet! Thank you for watching 🥰
Love your couple Q and A videos!!! Your wisdom as a couple is amazing
Can you please talk about how to act if your boyfriend/ girlfriend feels attracted to another person? 🤔
Does your bf / gf find the person to just be attractive? Or are they developing feelings?
To find other people good-looking is fine but to develop feelings for someone else while in a relationship is... Well, obviously not so great. The best way to establish this and set boundaries is by communicating especially if you're suspecting something is off! I hope you're okay though ❤😊 x
There’s a bad type of jealousy but there’s also a good kind. There’s also a bad way to handle jealousy and a good way to handle it.
Good jealousy can put you on your A game bc you’re aware of how blessed you are to have your partner and you’d hate to lose them- just the thought of losing them breaks your heart. So you treat your partner really respectfully and lovingly and make sure you never take them for granted. That’s the good type of jealousy.
My ex and me are friends, we dated when we were young and we didn’t have a big break up, he’s a great friend and me and my fiancé are good friends with him. He’s one of the very few people that would actually be there at a moments notice.
I'm a wife 22 years of gap with my husband. And im jealous all The time but i know he is a very good person, he love me, and I really love him deeply. Sometimes jealousy i cant control, but i try not to be.
is he having a lot of female friends that he doesn't want to give up despite your feelings??
Her life is her art, what beauty💕
What if your ex is your best friend. Like ZERO romantic attraction and maybe broke up because you just became good friends/family. I think it’s so sad to let go of those we love who are basically family who know us deeply, just because you “shouldn’t be friends with your ex.” So I disagree there...
I keep in contact with my ex because we developed a friendship while we were a couple. We dont talk everyday, just when we have time. I ended the relationship because as a couple we didnt have a good communication and as a virgo I need to talk about the stuff haha. Last night, he told me he started dating someone that he "knew" just from hellos during our relationship at university. When he told me her name, I realized that I remembered this girl. When we were a couple I remember seeing that he followed her in ig and he liked all her photos, this were recent photos, I did not felt insecure or anything, I tought she was his friend.
Now that he told me that he did not really know her at that time...I do think it was weird...
I am interested in what do you think, Valeria. I know is not my business anymore but I dont like to feel that he kind of had this certain attraction to someone else. The likes in social media have never being an issue for me, it was ocassional that I found her ig at that time.
What do you think of that kind of actions? In the video you talked about follow people you dont know, but what happens when she is a person that is 'a friend of other friends' and he still like all her photos? I would appreciate Garys opinion too if it is possible.
Faithfull follower here :) love your personality and style 🤗
Love your Q&A ❤️ learned a lot 😊 thank you
My husband thought he owned me he didn’t want me to go anywhere without him.
you should do a podcast for this type of content
Always love a video from you two!
Aw so sweet! Thank you for watching 🙏🏻❤️
this is so wholesome I LOVE IT
Love these Q&A videos!! :)
I've been watching your q & a videos with Gary and I feel like they're really helping me grow as a person and figure out how I can be the best version of myself. Спасибо большое 🤍
Your conversation is very interesting and many things to learn too.lots of love from NE India❤️❤️❤️
So nice of you! Thank you so much for watching 🥰
I absolutely love your opinious and these talks. You are so wise👏
Worth the watch ❤️
Valeria is correct. Any issues ie abandonment, but any start from childhood adversity. All the patterns that we are exposed to in our upbringing ie. actions and for sure words. Therapy is the way to deal with all inner child wounds. If the person is right they will be on this journey of self-growth with you - if you are aligned. None of us is perfect, we are all overcoming badly thought and learned love patterns.
Hence, as they say, the right relationship is where two individuals are willing to be together on the path of self-growth - toxicity excluded.
I agree with the jealousy, even though I had a bad experience as Valerie, but I always felt that in a healthy dose jealousy can give that little kink or spark to the relationship. I agree with that Gary. It depends on the individuals entirely tho and one should always care about and respect others' boundaries if you really care and love that person.
Gary wanting more jealousy comes from a place of insecurity and wanting to feel like Valeria holds onto him tightly and views him as desirable. Perhaps a tiny bit of jealousy here and there is a little flattering and cute but his strongly emphasizing how much he needs it is toxic. Not that he is toxic but he needs to work on his own insecurities and stop projecting them onto Valeria as if she needs to be different.
I think jealousy is a personal issue of the individual being jealous and making it known to your partner is making it their fault. YOU as a jealous person need to work it out by yourself, it's not your partner's fault and you should never make it that. No healthy relationship needs jealousy and the root of it is always feeling insecure and no one else can fix that but you yourself.
Ofc partners can do shitty things to make you feel like that, but at that point I don't see it as jealousy but an actual cause to be upset with your partner. Jealousy is unnecessary in my opinion
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing 🥰
Please do a part two on this topic!!! So helpful
this was more helpful than therapy sessions i've had!
Agree with Gary- a little bit jealousy is good ❤️
Hello Valeria ...love the chemistry between you and Gary one of my favorite kind of vlog♥️♥️ 🥰😘 love how you communicate together...sending love from haiti..♥️
Thank you so much!! Sending love from Miami 🥰
@@ValeriaLipovetsky you re welcome Valeria 🥰
Valeria is a queen :)
18 years age gab is not a matter at all..Love doesn't depend on age dear God bless you both couple ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Every girl needs a man like Gary in her life and vice-versa 🥰
22:00-22:38 was the best part for me!! 🥰🥰 Love you both! ❤️❤️❤️
So sweet! Thank you love 😊
18 years gap is not much at all. But Val does have a young face which is good for a model.
I think that if your spouse is jealous, he or she is jealous that you're not spending more time with him or her. So you should listen and spend more time with her or him. This applies for kids jealous of their siblings. The parents should listen to their kids jealousy too.
exactly!!! Well noted, takes observant, caring and thoughtful person to notice and put in practice it..
My Ex-Boyfriend and I are best friends since the break-up, I'm very happy that my boyfriend and his girlfriend understand this completely. My ex and I shared a lot of memories and grew to like each other a lot just that there is no romantic side to it at all, he's just been a very important part of my life for a long time and I see no reason to ban each other from the life as adults that still get along and there is clearly no romantic oder sexual feelings left but still you like each other just as humans. We shared important parts of our lives and there is no bad blood so why just ban someone that is an important human in your life and a really nice person?
if a guy I was dating wanted me to be jealous of woman being attracted to him even though we have trust in each other id find it weird. id be flattered someone found him attractive but I wouldn't feel jealous I would feel concerned he would want me to be jealous. I'd think he was insecure and needed me to be jealous to stroke is ego which isn't attractive.
Finally, someone not blindly simping and being realistic. This is a majour red flag and I can't believe no one else has said anything.
Yess completely agree 🥰
I want my own Gary. Need to put that on a t-shirt.
Get me one too please 😁
Hahah yess 😂
this video was so interesting!
Thank you ❤️
Garett and you are the perfect couple together!!!! The best foe eachother
I love an answer on fifth question, thank you guys!