Jordan Peterson Teaches a Shy Kid How to Communicate
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- More than merely exchanging information is required for effective communication. It's all about deciphering the emotion and motivations underlying the data. You must be able to clearly communicate a message as well as listen in such a way that you grasp the entire meaning of what is being said and make the other person feel heard and understood.
Effective communication appears to be a natural instinct. But, all too frequently, something goes wrong when we try to communicate with others. We say one thing, but the other person hears something completely different, resulting in misunderstandings, dissatisfaction, and conflict. This can cause issues in your relationships at home, school, and at work.
Jordan Peterson Teaches a Shy Nerdy Kid How to Communicate
This kid thinks he’s a bad communicator but he hit the nail on the head with his observation and then knew exactly how to ask it. He’s on the right track.
you're wrong, that question was prepared, a prepared speech doesn't indicate you as a good communicator
Kid? He's a grown man with a beard.
@@skiddzjust1389 well, anyone who's saying anything is prepared at some point of their life... Just a matter of perspective 🤷
@@user-lz2mt5nc9e Maybe Graham is 67 years old and a very good communicator... Can't criticize him.
That's a kid'll win prizes
Deep conversations with the right people are priceless
true
Dialogos
Jordan Pederson conversations are deep and lifechanging to uniquely insecure and ignorant people.
So true. Not only is it priceless, it clams a lot of that insecure anxiety you hold on for years.
Deep is not a must
"You aren't delivering a speech to people. You are speaking to individuals.' That is so powerful.
The actor of old superman series said same on comiccon in Prague
Why I love Jordan Peterson is because he gives great, actionable answers. No hocus-pocus 'good vibes' speech about 'just be confident' or 'be yourself', but an actual answer that you can follow and put into action!
Especially after listening to some Guru's who sometime leave us with quite abstract answers to figure ourselves out for later, Jordan gives really clear connection of understanding our concern, laying down the abstractions, giving action points and everything with it! Absolutely amazing articulation!
He offers theoretical answers and then moves on to apply those concepts in a practical example. Don't forget he was a university lecturer. A very good one, too.
That's why he is one of the best communicator
guys what does guru mean
Inspiring
Let me tell you this advice WORKS. I basically never bothered to study when growing up really at all, and over the years I isolated myself playing video games and got to the point I couldn't formulate sentences properly, because I didd't have much to talk about, and my lack of speaking to people made me worse over the years. But one day I decided to start reading and every time I had a sleep after the read (I read on a night), I used to wake up every morning and my words would just flow from my mouth... It's weird but it's true.
I've noticed that too. Now, I admit I don't read books usually, but reading comments or just listening to videos like these, obviously not the same as reading books, but I have been more flowing and articulate afterwards. Could be because of other factors like getting good sleep etc but you know what I mean.
Have you been reading fiction or nonfiction? If both, have you noticed a difference between the two in terms of how they affect your articulation?
Nothing weird about it. I dont do any thing yet everything is given. Apparently until I learn to do something...
I read all the time, stuff online but not books, does that still count? lol
I feel this.
- Practice is important.
- To become great at articulation, you need to both read a lot and write a lot.
- Preferably write 15 minutes every day. Do this for 10 years and you straighten out your thinking a lot.
- If you want to speak effectively, you need to know way more than what you're speaking about.
- When you do public speaking, you're not speaking to a group. You always speak to one individual. Pick one in your mind.
- Don't talk to a thousand people: Talk to a thousand individuals, one at a time.
- You don't 'deliver a talk' to an audience. You have a conversation with them.
- Having the goal to be a great communicator is a great start.
- It doesn't matter what you do, whatever you do, you are 10 times better at everything if you are a good communicator.
- If you're a very good negotiator, everyone walks away from the negotiation happy. And that comes from communicating effectively.
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Your writing for the day is done
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Have now just sat in on a communication class and didn’t have to take notes😀
Loved the talk to the individual not people, a highly under-valued sentiment
Advice to shy people:
Sometimes in your life you feel like it is easy to talk and communicate. sometimes not.
When you feel it is goes for you smoothly, just talk as much as you can and try to consolidate this ability, feeling and mindset. After some time you will become better at speaking and engaging people.
Great advice
thank you so damn much for this post
Can't believe no one in the audience clapped at this answer. It was brilliant, insightful and extremely useful for everyone and anyone. Amazing to listen to this man, always.
‘Step one: never answer a question with less than 800 words’
-Jordan peterson
😂
lol, good one
2. Constant hand gesturing
3. Mimic a Sesame Street character's voice .
This answer is certainly true. If you're not used to hearing such answers, you might get overloaded with information. Many such answers follow a common pattern: laying out the foundation for the answer, that is, articulating the background assumptions, then examining the thing at hand and finally, drawing conclusions about it.
If you can sort out what's about the assumptions, what's about the analysis and what's about the conclusion, then you can understand even quite complex answers.
@@excitedaboutlearning1639 Yes Very True. People who Really Answer the Questions and Not just Get Over it and Save their Faces.. do the same.
Those who ask Only for the Sake of It.. don't see the value of the Answer.
•read
•write (what you think)
•practice
•keep practicing
•have something to say
•pay attention to who you're talking to
•engage
Communicate, and do it well
Succinct.
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
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take valium it worked for jordan, no consequences only more money jesus saves
Have something to say as in KNOW your topic.
And talk to an audience as you would talk to one person. Audience is a bunch of individuals.
what a WONDERFUL man he took a simple question, and turned it into a 5 minute in debth answer that a layman could understand. he didn't say anything unachievable by anyone, yet explained exactly how to get there , without insults, without accusations. hell he even had time to compliment the man on first appearances. and his view on how to talk to groups was inspiring. if i could keep this in mind, i wouldn't be afraid to talk to 1000 people, because i wouldn't be..i'd be talking to ...one.
0:30 Practice
0:38 Read a lot and write down what you think
2:42 Have something to say and next thing pay attention to who you are talking too
3:17 We don't deliver a talk to an audience, you are actually engaged in a conversation with an audience
3:44 learn how to communicate
4:24 You can think, you can write, you can speak, you've read something, the economic value of that is incalculable
One thing I would add to his excellent advice: if you are young, allow for the fact that you are young and still learning. Respect yourself as a young person on the way to being a highly accomplished older person. I am 80 and that's how it looks from here. The beautiful courage of young people sometimes takes my breath away.
You’re 80 and watching jordan peterson on TH-cam?! That’s awesome!
@@armando1829 oh yeah life-long learners. Or may be just viewers(do we find something new at that age? 😅) but I like the spirit.
Yes, give yourself a chance.🏵️🙂
@@amit-mishra woah, woah, you don't stop learning or thirsting for knowledge at an old age, there's not like a lifetime databank - if you want and many do you could go on learning forever - what, do you think old people get tired because they are old - old people would be splitting atoms and studying particle physics and quantum computers and going on road trips to sky-diving establishments and getting laid as often as they could - whilst flying an exec jet and making brownies in the kitchen after tackling the latest software coding course before a political debate on climate change passing by the local maiti club for a pina-colada - yep, you don't stop with age, you just grab all you can. And, at the same time you admire and encourage the young 'uns for when you are young life is beautiful, and we cherish that thought and wish you well and great fun in your adventures and hope you party hearty and stay out of danger or at least fight like a lion or run like an antelope - most times it is a good idea to do one or the other very well indeed, it's advisable, unless you are an excellent, but excellent negotiator.
Good luck and have fun but hey, it does not stop there, you will keep on learning and discovering and learning. Life is never boring, my Lord!
This is a touching comment, I think about this a lot as a young person and it's genuinely great that you feel that towards the spirit of knowledge 😊
You can see how he places a lot of emphasis on the points he wants people to remember
Isnt that normal for a person who is used to speak in public. That is standard
@@philkeh sure it is a basic thing but if you want to communicate well that's a great thing to keep in mind
@@philkeh might not be standard for a shy pers0n
@@philkeh probably, but why are you saying it like that?
It's nice to experience the cultural ripples where some of his schools of thought are gaining traction.
Other than practice, here's the gist of what Dr. Peterson was saying:
- View communication skills (like any other skill) as input and output
- Be well-prepared for communications first by managing your input, understanding the talk subject very well and broadly
- Make sure your communicative output is not to a whole audience, but to specific individuals in the audience, one at a time.
- One last precious statement from him was about the "incalculable economic benefit" of being able to think, write, speak, and read as a liberal art's bachelor graduate, but I think it applies to any human being with a brain, a will, and a heart as well.
Ooh so you can minute take. Well done
To pay attention, as mentioned by Peterson, is really key.
Russell Brand talked about how as a shy or anxious person, the best way to communcate effectively or to be confident while doing it, so on - is simply try to be helpful. It makes you really listen to what others have to say, whilst also not being overly focused on how others percieve you. Corona messed me up mentally, and this really helped my anxiety. I finally managed to get a job, and just talking to strangers made my anxiety go away. On top of that, reading and writing is obviously immensly important too, just to be able to say what you wanna say.
Peterson was always on a "different level", but in 2022 he hit "the next level".
Recovering drug addict. That is great Mr. Peterson. Keep it up.
@@jobuckley2999 *recovering medical drug
You let Peterson come across as an illegal drug user. Take his advice and be a better communicator
@@jobuckley2999 dark night of the soul and he comes out better
This video wasn't filmed in 2022
@@ecproth9296 a drug addict is a drug addict, wether it was prescribed or not. they are both equally worthy of compassion. one form of addiction is not less tragic than the other.
How to communicate:
1. Read more, write to synthesize your ideas, & practice (know way more about the topic than you have to say}
2. Talk to individuals in the group and get feedback by engaging individually
3. Aim to be a better communicator
4. PRACTICE
Step#3==>Step#1. Aim is first! Then you will choose better things to read etc.
PEACE
Did he say which books to read?
i agree! entirely accurate
I love this. I have such a difficult time speaking. I’m not articulate. My mind processes the words quicker than my mouth can say them so I skip words or say simple words. Anxiety also doesn’t help. Reading is helping me. I’m going to take his tip of writing my thoughts down after reading. ❤
I’m glad this helped!
Hey, have you improved that by now? And how much?
@@mma188 Wanna know too!
How is it going? I'm pretty interested in how fat you've got!
“Mind processes the words quicker than my mouth can say”…couldnt relate more💯
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How to communicate according to JP
• You need to have 10x the knowledge of the topic you're going to talk about. And then articulate yourself and pin point things that need to be said.
• It's intimidating to talk in front of 1000 people, but it's easier to talk to 1 person. So focus on 1 person and speak. That also gives you feedback, whether they're bored, engaged or asleep, in that case move on to the next person.
• Write. Writing 15 minutes a day will streamline your thoughts and make articulating your thoughts easier for you. Do that for 10 years daily and you're set.
• PRACTICE!
Good luck my friend 👍🏼
Nice clip. Because Peterson gives practical advises that we can apply directly. Nice job
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
Visit Ahayah-Truth. Co m
@@thebiblicalawakening4662 the Bible was ripped from the corpus hermiticum almost word for word in some sections. I hate to break the news to you but you're completely insane.
for sure. completely spot on.
I was a really shy kid that didn't like socializing at all (I still don't at times). But when I studied history at the University, and absorbed all that knowledge I began to notice my speaking became very formal and my sentences well constructed.
Before speaking I construct a sentence from countless examples from books in my head, and as dr. Peterson said, that is a skill that is completely overlooked in liberal arts today.
I like how he Geizes a one word answer, that nails it, he then give him a tool ( reading&writing), and how to add it into your day, and then he brings in examples, then comes back to the person asking the question and ends his monologue with the first word and therefore with the same answer. This is actually pretty well done
Easy to understand and solidly based in his own lives experiences.
Laura powers what a beautiful name. I was close to having a girlfriend named Laura barrera when she asked me if i wanted to have sex with her but i ran as i am a cowardly male i ran from a very attractive white redheaded female and i regret that i ran because i didnt know what to say or how to react. I was such a pathethic male back then oh how emasculated i used to be god damn the united states!
Writing maps of meaning for 20 + years teaches you a thing about writing
Roman's 11:25 For I would not, brethren, that ye should be ignorant of this mystery, lest ye should be wise in your own conceits; that blindness in part is happened to Israel, until the fullness of the Gentiles (MOST modern day Europeans/Caucasians/ etc) be come in. (Yes there are some black “dark skinned” gentile people as well but the main gentiles ruling this world behind the scenes are in fact “white” gentiles. Gentiles are known for being practitioners of lawlessness although not ALL gentiles are lawless but rather Most as a whole.
Part of the blindness is that we would not know who the true Father of Jacob(Israel) was and that we would worship false gods of [wood and stone] partially referring to worship of the cross(wood) and the “idol” of christianity the “jesus” that hangs on the cross tends to be made of (stone). Worship not literally meaning to bow down and speaking in gibberish nonsense tongue waving hands up and down, but rather worshiping meaning “To Submit To/Obey”. The speaking in tongue that some Christians do is nonsense, speaking in tongue only refers to the ability of being able to speak in a language or many languages to spread your message across multiple nations. Smh
Deuteronomy 28:36 TMH shall bring thee, and thy king which thou shalt set over thee, unto a nation which neither thou nor thy fathers have known; and there shalt thou serve other gods, wood and stone.
Deuteronomy 28:64
And TMH shall scatter thee among all people, from the one end of the earth even unto the other; and there thou shalt serve other gods, which neither thou nor thy fathers have known, even wood and stone.
Just as important as "what's his name," is "what is not his name."
However, it is 100% certain that his name was not Esus Crios aka “Jesus Christ”, the idol of the Celtics who the Catholics sing at Easter in the Vatican, aka what all surface level “Holy Bible” readers (Commonly identifies as “Christians”) refer to the Anointed One as.
We have been tricked, deceived as a result of the curses of the law (Deut 28-64)...wake up and stop following the lies of the Gentiles that govern this world. True Israel is awakening.
I am no historian but I love researching and proving all truth. It was the so-called "Holy" Roman Catholic Church that banned us from reading certain books. Do not trust the Adversary's agents of deceit and destruction. The Catholic Church is not a good moral compass. Catholic meaning Universal.
They literally crusaded all over the world, had TMH’s people murdered, burned women alive, and made laws against poor people (peasants) from having translated Bibles and books of education in the past.
Who are they to condemn a book for any of us to read? They are certainly in no position to order us and they are most certainly NOT our Creator nor the Savior.
Do not trust those who come in sheep's clothing but are rather ravaging wolves. It has been told of us to be as harmless as doves AND as wise as serpents. For one to be wise, You must research and READ, and educate yourself, AND prove ALL TRUTH. The only one to lead you is The Most High. Pray for insight but don't trust when LIARS tell you NOT to read something but approve of what you “Should”!
It is good that we pray for you, and I do hope you pray for me as well. However, the decision is ours as to whether or not we fully submit to his will.
The Most High wants us to submit to his will through our own decisions. That is why the Messiah says if any man comes to me, let him deny HIMSELF. That is why the word also says to be transformed by the renewing of OUR minds. That’s why it says every man will have to give an account for what he hath done.
It is personal accountability and the sooner we accept this, the closer we will become to actually making the decisions that will make us submit fully to his will
And for those of you who deny the existence of The Most High or don’t take the ancient scriptures seriously, you need to seriously wake up. Biblical prophecy is literally unfolding right before our eyes. This is not a game.
A few notable mentions: Women wearing makeup should repent and change no debate, people who smoke weed (sorcery) should repent and change no debate, people who eat upon the flesh of animals… should reconsider. Everything is going according to prophecy, even ‘they’ have to move accordingly.. Go and sin no more and put in work for the kingdom. He that endureth to the end, the same shall be saved. We’re living in end times yall. APTTMH!
Visit Ahayah-Truth. Co m
@@topdog5252 It wasn’t that long
indeed. _100%_ correct dude
My dad always used to say that 50 years ago. He said read good writing it will make you more articulate, smarter, a better writer, and a confident speaker because you have the knowledge and information that is hard for people to refute.
Best speaking advise I've heard. You're not talking to a group, you're talking to individuals.
Summary:-
1 - practice
2 - if you are talking about something...have 10x more knowledge ( you have to do lots of reading and writing )
3 - talk to individuals not all of them
4 - skill plus good communication is a deadly combination to be successful...
Was deathly shy until adult hood. Had to throw myself on stage literally, which fixed this entirely somehow. I impulsively joined an stage acting class, and I think what helped is the fact that we all had to memorize lines to perform, which garnered a group confidence in performing such, so I felt no reason to worry. When performance night came it was cake, the crowd had no effect on me somehow. And keep in mind, I spoke to absolutely no one for most of my life prior.
Was like this somewhat untill junior high. Taking speech and drama classes really helped improve it. Still needs work but nothing comes instantly.
People working in Advertising take acting classes to improve their public speaking.
@@nataliam9764 yep, I got into advertising afterwords funny enough, it helped a ton with talking to clients
Wow, how interesting!
I also used to be shy but hearing speeches and podcasts improved by speech significantly and now i'm approaching people and being more extroverted more often
language really is our best tool
Read books daily....use Feynmans technique. Communicate with everyone around. Be humble and polite. Respect everyone
Respect everyone...
Yeah nah
@@tronix2x goes a long way...even I hate it, but time makes us do unusual thinga
every single answer Jordan has to a question has the weight of a thousand peoples advice, with the ability to help pave a better life for someone, somewhere in the world. i wish each helpful and insightful thought Jordan puts into the world effects someone positively because there is so much to take from it.
Talking to yourself also helps. Like actual conversations where you’re articulating your feelings and thoughts. Helps a lot
Along with lots of reading and writing, stand in front of a mirror and practice a conversation over and over. Old sales technique. In sales, the idea is to have a response on hand for every objection. As a formerly very shy person, I found the technique useful for everyday conversation. It helped me stop stammering.
Many people just don't think before they speak, they trip up. Jordan I love how your mind constantly searches for the right word at the time, and even how you will go back and correct yourself. It's always perfect👍
"You want to know 10x more than what you're talking about" This is excellent advice from personal experience
That Kid asking the question is on a good way. Really thoughtful and seems very aware and focused.
Agree. Was really inarticulate and shy when I was young. Obsessively read, wrote down notes etc. prior to meetings. Overtime, I grew more articulate and confident. It didn't happen overnight but over 10 years.
One great thing about Dr. Peterson is he doesn't gush at people. He could have told the student, "You're doing great!" which is encouraging, but it's not what he was asking. Dr. Peterson answered the actual question.
In this interview, Jordan Peterson's speech is consistently meaningful, devoid of small talk or empty phrases. The depth of wisdom packed into the 5 minutes content is impressive, covering what to practice, when, how, and why to do so. This video offers a valuable short guide for anyone looking to improve their communication skills.
Where the shy kid at?
My first experience of speaking in a group setting was when I delivered my dad's eulogy. After that, I had no problems, but wow, what an emotional experience.
Easy to hear , Tough to Listen , Tougher to practice .... I hope everyone Practice what he said... including me
Interesting to hear. My favorite high school teacher was one of the wittiest people i had ever met. He was my english teacher of course. I asked him how i could get as witty as him and he told me to read. Nice to see consistency.
Dr Peterson has helped me to be confident and now I can present myself better in front of others. I practise how to speak to others before having a conversation.
the part where he talks about writing out what you think really resonated with me. I tend to be socially anxious and avoidant, so at the very least if im not around people who can listen to what i have to say, i can get it out of my head onto paper and look at the thought more objectively, which helps me get perspective on my personal distress and obstacles.
It wasn't necessarily 'aimed' at a 'Shy Nerdy' kid on how to communicate (which was the reason I clicked on this video btw as one of them) but the targeted audience was basically anyone voluntarily willing to improve one's competence in effective communication.
A more suiting title may have been: "Jordan Peterson Teaches How to Communicate and Why"
Thank you for the nicely clipped Video
Jordan is such a great guy. I don't understand how anyone can hate him. Truly a role model.
Because facts are like the tip of a spear to some people. That's my opinion on why people hate him.
Because there’s reality and fantasy. The people that hate him want to do whatever they want and believe whatever they want. Jordan Peterson however pulls people back to reality and that is uncomfortable for them and so they hate him.
Because he said “no, I’m not doing that” and actually could articulate why and back it up with non controversial arguments. There is nothing more annoying than your opponent being reasonable.
He's a licensed doctor who told someone to kill themselves on Twitter. Jordan Peterson is an unhinged lunatic
Great question, great answer, great conclusion and ending to a conversation. This is legit. I read one of his books all the way through. It was difficult because it resonated so well with myself but after completing his book. 12 rules to life it really helped me communicate more effectively and direct and objective. Now I am networking more and increasing my value through education, my network with communication, and my value to all the people I surround myself with. It is definitely a journey, not a race to the finish line. Just start somewhere and dont rush it.
Summary:
Q: How can I communicate/articulate better?
JP:
Inputs -
1- Practice
2- Read a lot (Know 10X more than you have to talk about)
3 - Write for 15 mins / day
Outputs:
1- speak to people individually in a crowd
2- take expressions as feedback from crowd and modulate
How is writing an input?
@@AEONIC_MUSIC it gives you time to organize your thoughts around simple principles and values and allows you to deepen and choose your vocabulary before you speak it out loud. Most people who talk don't even know what they're talking about because they did not take the time to become truly lucid on the subject matter that interests them in the moment.
@@rexjantze296 You are unable to answer AEONIC's question because you don't know what you are talking about.
It is very simple. An input is something that goes in. An output is something that comes out.
Listening and reading are input.
Speaking and writing are output.
Please take the time to understand this. Every additional piece of understanding will help you towards thinking clearly, which is a necessary condition for speaking and writing clearly.
@@omp199 Traditionally writing is an output, but in this case Rex is correct. The writing is not the end goal, the end goal is talking to an audience of people. You could throw away or burn what you wrote, it wouldn't affect the outcome.
Writing as referred to by JBP is more of a tool to synthesize one's disparate thoughts on the same topic and ideas from different texts one has read into a coherent set of ideas which can then be cohesively conveyed to the audience while speaking. Thus it is a form of input.
@@xn85d2 Nonsense. "Input" means it goes in. "Output" means it comes out. That's it.
The distinction between the two words has nothing to do with "end goals".
What you are saying is every bit as nonsensical as saying that if you go on a roller coaster and vomit as a result, the partially digested food does not actually come out of your body, on the grounds that vomiting was not the end goal of your ride on the roller coaster.
I learn from listening to Jordan. I try to emulate how he speaks and his inflections. Also yes ! try to write and read everyday
How to communicate:
1. Read a lot
2. Write to learn how to articulate your ideas
3. Know way more about the topic than you have to say (most lecturers are boring because they only know what they're gonna say so they read from a note)
4. In public speaking, You don't talk to the group, you talk to a bunch of individuals
5. Aim to be a better communicator
6. PRACTCE
I can vouch for this. I used to have very little social skills. Then I realized that I wasn't going to get very far in the world like that. I figured that the best way to learn anything is through practice, so that's what I did. And after years of powering through the awkwardness, my efforts have payed off.
Like any other skill, I'll always have room for improvement, but at least now I'm an effective communicator.
What did you do to improve? Like what did you practice in... please help me, I'm exactly in the same position you are in at the beginning
@@muhammedfadi2078 just talk to people. Literally. Whenever you're in a position to talk with someone, consciously force yourself to start a conversation. Even if it's just small talk or thanking your waiter at a restaurant.
Your brain is designed to be able to communicate with other humans, so as you get more experience you will subconsciously improve your communication skills. Your brain just needs more data to go on, so you have to slog through the awkwardness long enough to get more experience.
You can also try talking to people online in text form because you can gauge their reactions with less risk. This can't be a replacement for in-person experience though, because it's not exactly the same. And you can't get feedback from their body language.
@@muhammedfadi2078 you can also take a writing class. It will help you learn how to condense your thoughts into words and structure your sentences better.
And reading books can help by expanding your vocabulary.
"IF YOU ARE REALY A GOOD NEGORIATOR; EVERY BODY LEAVES THE NEGOTIATION THRILLED"
This is so very extremely unbelievably deep and right!
And that's exactly what Jordan does, he takes notice of who he's talking to every time! Without fail!🥰
I just want to express my feelings. Even though this is a short video on how to communicate properly but it did get its job done I am always thankful I was just born at the right time with a vast amount of access of information across the globe.
This man explained it the best way ever.
My favorite contemporary thinker.
I could listen to Jordan speak for ages, always something to learn. What a great role model
I really thank you for uploading this video. It really means a lot.
I love this man.
Imagine if what he's teaching that's actually of proper use was common place. Would you still?
@@einarabelc5 Not sure what you mean.
It's easy for him to express his thoughts in a good manner in which we communicate to him subconsciously without knowing because he preach what he practice to himself. It's a good way of giving advice, to do your own thing and share it with other when necessary.
This is also great advice for content creators, communicating your ideas well will make you better at engaging with you audience, ty JP
Every word coming from Jordan Peterson is diamond! Cant appreciate how jam packed his words are!
It's crazy how much I feel like I needed to hear this.
I’m glad it was helpful 😋
💯!! Thank you for sharing this video. I hope that this video is seen by many of our children wondering what skills to develop in life.
I always type down my thoughts as I would usually forget about it the next day. It kind of helps me communicate better and I do all of the things that helps me without knowing that it helps until now.
It takes really some guts to stand up and open about your weakness.
I've learned so much from him, and he always gives practical advice that you can put into action right away.
Public speaking is one of my biggest fears. Sometimes talking to someone and having a second person right there listening can be daunting enough. I often feel like I couldn’t get to a point where I’m confident enough to regularly speak in front of people and I’ve come to accept that and just be okay with it. At least for now it rarely ever happens and even though I wish I could overcome this fear, I truly feel like I never will.
You will overcome it Anthony .. take small baby steps & be kind to yourself … no shame .. no blame only action .. every day .. create a routine and a have a structure . You’ll start noticing changes in your vocabulary. Try joining in a small way in conversations.. always leave a group conversation having contributed something , however small , it could be a question or a comment .. it will come through practice… It cannot not happen .. Input = output ….Good luck 👍🏾
There are two things that can help with your fear of speaking whether to a large group or just with two people in the room. First to organize your thoughts beforehand by physically writing it out and practice saying what you want. Even if you're going to talk to a prof or with classmates in a group project because it causes you to ramble less which will make you feel more confident. The second is to talk as much as possible. If you're in a group of people or with classmates don't sit silent, talk and always contribute. If you're always doing it then it's not suddenly this big event when you do. Another thing is some people use low doses of beta blockers when they speak. Just make sure you don't have low blood pressure or you could pass out and only take the minimum dose or even half the minimum dose. Its a drug but it works like a magic pill, like you literally don't get nervous it's crazy.
I’m the same way
Amazing video! Thank you for sharing.
Dr Peterson has the passion to teach willing human beings to engage in themselves to engage with others and learn💜🙏
To communicate is a graciously gift
God has been bestowed on us as human
JORDAN is a wonderful man.i love you .
the amount of respect i have for this guy has always been in a positive trend
Reading and writing helped tremendously in my communication skills, my creative speech tripled.
I respect the placement of the markers behind Sir Jordan.
And what a great dialogue!!
Straight to the point! Great advice
Think calling him a shy kid is a bit rude 🤣. He looks at least 20 and still talks pretty loud and coherently. I think he's trying to figure out how to talk in a precise and intelligent manner, which is a very powerful tool. I don't think the conversation is about how to perform the simple act of communicating or just communicating confidently.
He looks shy. He's asking for help communicating. That's shyness.
@@beyondwhatisknown if he was shy he wouldn’t have the courage to speak in front of many people, and in front of someone he respects. He also admitted that he isn’t a good communicator (I think he meant to say articulate communicator) in front those people to the man has a lot of respect for. He is not shy at all, he is hungry for self improvement. Shy people worry about how they look to other people. He didn’t care to admit that he isn’t perfect in order to learn something valuable. Many people who aren’t shy wouldn’t have the courage to do that.
i wish i could communicate like this "shy" student
@@sirmeurtrier6951 it's about environment and person you are taking to ....
Jordan Peterson is easy to talk to rather than a group of teenagers or your friends at work place.
As someone who is not that much of a good communicator, l find this very helpful. I've been going up and down TH-cam trying to find advice/information on how best l can achieve my goal (which is being articulate) l have to say this is by far the most enlightening piece of advice.
He is absolutely right! Key to success is to paint a picture with words, so others see where you exactly are coming from. Getting people to relate to your own point of view, and communicate with words ideas, as if it is their own; that is how ones own success manifests.
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1.09 So much Information knowledge is essential for good communication, so reading is must
3.55 Importance of being good communicator❤🧡
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I stopped listening/reading Dr Peterson on a drive home from Vancouver because it made me look at myself too hard at the time. This was a few years ago now and I can take my hard eyes again. I am really enjoying the content and where it brings me. Thank you🙏
Rigorous honesty will humble each one of us because we fail even adherence to our own standards, much less to God's. But there's Jesus' work on behalf of us all. Just look to Him and cast yourself upon Him for mercy and redemption.
@@edwardwalsh5477 To who?? Dr Peterson?
I'm messing with you. I'm not at all religious, nor shall I become. Ever. Jesus is just all right with me though. All the best my friend
@@chrisriehl1696 Glad you're not interested in religion. Others have been repulsed by what they see in consequence of serious introspection into their own lives so they may adopt religion as a cover. But don't overlook the man unjustly upon the cross who declared to a convicted, pleading criminal that, "Today you shall be with me in paradise." NO religion or ritual AT ALL. What authority! Just as locals early in His ministry noted that he did not teach as other rabbis but as one having authority.
Please realize, that your body did not come from nothing, nor will you (as a whole) exit into nothingness. Inquiry into the claims of someone having moral, scientific, biological, logical and theological mastery could be an important priority; better than denying failure (you're already getting there) or running from acknowledged failure nor trying to make your own cover (as in religion). Keep looking into not even "Christianity" but into Christ as seen through the experience of St. Paul (read Romans thru Titus - letters to Christians) who PERSONALLY met with Him on the road to Damascus where you might (figuratively) meet Him as well. As the nature of God (the Father and Holy Spirit) is spiritual, we can be blessed by His presence whenever and wherever we live should we do not diss Him or ignore or stiff-arm Him. Please seize the opportunity while it remains.
I have really bad social anxiety and Jordan Peterson has helped me overcome it way more than any therapy I went to
This man is brave enough to ask Jordan such a question, without any slurring is already showing his communication skills are on point.
It's true that the hardest thing in business or in relationships is to know what the other person wants, so learning how to negociate and how to communicate that "negociation" is key in every social interaction. I mean in every financial activity that doesn't involve another person directly, you can make a lot of money from without relating to them or ever having to run into a human being, but if you want like minded people that act as a virtous circle around you, or even successfull intimate relationships than you have to master the aspects of socialization. Which can be so easy at times when your mind is clear but you have to stop yourself and your emotions from getting out of control the rest of the time and to constantly recalibrate inside to stop running on auto pilot, it's trully a new way of life, that's probably why he says do it for 10 years, because then it's deeply wired in your physiology.
Read and aim to be a good communicator. Negotiate and good negotiators experience everyone leaving the negotiation thrilled.
It's very nice to see these kind of videos where i can learn about how to communicate better with people where i lacking from long time, Actually im the person who is coming to youtube every day to learn something about personality development and bunch of other good videos and communication skills videos are my top rated videos so that i can just go to any random video and watch the video and takes the notes from it.
And thanks to you for this video because in this video i learned how to be good communicator and that is PRACTICE, yes i agree that practice can make man perfect.So i hope im going to practice as much as i can to learn how to communicate with people in a better way.
Thank you.
great clip, thanks for sharing!
I'm 27 and used to be a shy and socially anxious. Got my first job in sales at age 23, somehow made it through the interview.
At work, you're forced to interact with other humans. Something I didn't have much experience of. So I quickly got better at communicating.
Now 4 yrs later I don't see myself as a master of communication or even great at it, but I consider myself competent, and I know the only way to improve is practice.
Now I initiate conversations with strangers at the gym, feel comfortable in my own skin and have zero fear of judgment.
Just writing this for any early 20-somethings. I've met so many formerly shy guys my age who now date and are normal.
I love the spacing of the markers on the whiteboard
my goosebump pops up when i heard him said 'when i talk to the group, i talk to each individual one at time' this is so powerful and it's like a lightening suddenly enlight my night, makes me know how to be less self-conscious in front of public. it really helps me!
The skill of communication "makes you spectacularly better in anything and everything" you do
It's too late for me. I'm an agreeable person. I loathe conflict, it always leaves me defeated and unsure.
I'm 66yo and this has been my life.
I'm not an arsehole, I really do care as much for other people as I do myself, but as soon as I try to go stick up for myself or others, if they bark back at me I'm a mess, and the hesitation
just takes away any chance of respect.
On the the very few occasions I have done it I just feel like shit and guilt trip myself for days.
It’s never too late if you take things one step at a time and stop punishing yourself for putting yourself out there and making mistakes (when they inevitably happen)
If you think too much and worry about stuff too, then you have an anxiety. You could take a non-addictive medication for it.
Try evaluating the situation as it really is and not what your mind is barking at you. "Oh no, that was weird. Oh no they'll get mad at me, how will I react?" Don't fight your instincts. If you're angry then be angry and show it. Just don't get out of hand. You panic because you don't evaluate the situation properly. Write about why you're nervous and try changing your thought patterns. No one cares about you as much as YOU do. Pretty much everyone is in their own heads like you are.
@@Aaron-nl9ji Some are naturally nervous. I am like that. My brain is always thinking. It isn't something you can control with just thinking about not doing that. That is called anxiety.
it’s never too late! Knowing what you’re uncomfortable with is already a tremendous help. Some people are unaware, but you are. Just don’t limit yourself, don’t put labels - agreeable person in one situation can be extremely disagreeable in another, you have moods, you have different sides to you, all of them are valid and important. You can’t access your disagreeable self if you label yourself the opposite. Try dropping that and see what happens. Your boundaries are just as important as anybody else’s. Honour what you want and feel like in any given situation, say what YOU think and prefer (not necessarily in a conflict based setting) and your self respect and confidence will improve. Conflict is normal though, and it’s normal to feel the way you do afterwards. Notice yourself and others will follow 👍
Great video and the tips really do work, so I encourage everyone to follow up on them if you want to get better. This is coming from an introvert.
Love that banner, truly communicate like a god, by being incredibly vague, or matter of fact don't even say anything and just let people assume what you think! Truly, god-like communication
I wholeheartedly agree with Jordan Peterson’s advice, which is that reading and writing make you a better communicator, English is not my first language but I allot time out of my day to read non fiction books, this serves two purposes, first it enriches my vocabulary (keeps my mind sharp like my knife) and second, I obtain the knowledge from the book I am reading, people underestimate the benefits of reading and writing, it is by far the best technology we as humans possess, nothing comes close to it.
The Best Oral Communicators of our time. Dr.Peterson has a way of making his Seminars,Interviews and General Open Discussion Topics seem not only relative but timeless. I Suggest buying his book on the 12 Laws of Life. Read one law every day for a week and apply it. Thank Dr.JP
I really recommend you listen to Robert Sapolsky too. An absolute genius in the realm of biology, has written many amazing books that touch on things Dr.Peterson covers too (even if they are at odds about some things), but above all, in this context, a wonderful orator.
I'm not a shy person, but one of my novel character is a shy person so this will actually still help. Thanks, Jordan! Thanks TH-cam!
"Dr. Peterson, your insights on communication are invaluable. The idea of knowing '10 times as much as you are saying' and engaging with individuals rather than a group resonates deeply. It's a reminder that effective communication is not just about speaking, but also about listening and understanding. Your emphasis on the importance of reading, writing, and a liberal arts education in fostering these skills is a much-needed perspective in today's world. Thank you for sharing your wisdom."
“Speak to individuals not to the group” this just transformed how I view public speaking. 😮
His answer to everything is the same - how not to be socially anxious? = get out and socialise! How nut to be unhappy? = be happy etc . Patronising.
So basically we already know the answer to most of our own questions
It really is that simple, believe it or not. It's just really hard and scary to practice.
I think that’s a point. We don’t really need these videos, we already have the answers and deep down, I think that we know what we’re supposed to do in order to make progress. In reality it’s about conquering your fears and doing it regardless.