7 Psychological Tricks To Get Respect FAST
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- 7 Psychological Tricks To Make People Respect You IMMEDIATELY
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Earning respect takes time. This is something that you build over years of being honest, having integrity, and showing your character But that said, there's a couple things that you can do that really do create respect immediately. And that's why in this video, I want to give you seven things that you can do today to create respect right now. Now, don't think of these as replacements for actually developing stalwart character. But think of these as guidelines to help get you there.
The first one is defending your time because when people don't respect your time enough to give you a heads-up when they're going to be late beforehand and this is a first interaction it means that they likely don't think very much of you and it's not gonna go well regardless so just get out of there. And this is very important in dating; defend your time - don't always be available, don't sit around waiting for someone to call... Now in friendships and work or any area where you have an ongoing relationship, of course you'll be late, people will be late and sometimes they might forget to text; it happens. But if it becomes a habitual thing, the right thing to do
0:26 Our first psychological trick, defend your time
1:40 Second trick to get respect is to pause
2:15 Gesticulate and take up space, use body language
3:03 Finish your sentences strongly
4:25 Display social courage
6:36 Share your values
8:40 Call people out on their bad behavior
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1) respect your time
2) pause before you talk
3) take up your space
4) finish your sentences strongly
5) displaying social courage
6) sharing your values
7) calling people out on their bad behavior
Much more easily stated, "Be an honest person, be a moral person and lead the pack.
Thanks, summarising points always makes things easier to absorb in the aftermath
Very well thanks
THANK YOU🙏🙏🙏
Confidence can be gained by experience, people are more confident if they are doing something they love to do. I think this helps too.
Confidence can *definitely* be gained through experience. The more you do something, the less fear of failure in doing it, because you've become accustomed to navigating all the angles.
@@jondunmore4268 however, i have an example of this going wrong.
Doing card tricks for a long time, when you finally mess up, you feel bad and worse than if you were new to it, so just dont feel bad and try again
I believe this is true in any profession
Hey much love and respect from Chicago!!!!
Yeah
Yep it’s the only way. Watching yt won’t help!
1. Defending your time - Don't always be available - Lower your tolerating levels when people disrespects your time
2. (When giving public speaking/presentation) Survey the audience, take a deep breath, and begin - It makes them feel as if you are the one who is commanding the room
3. Gesticulate big body language and take up space - Move your arms, walk around and take up space around you
4. Finishing your sentences strongly even someone is cutting you off while you are talking.
5. Displaying social courage - It will get you respects from others
6. Sharing your value - Talk about why you do the things you do
7. Calling people out on their bad behavior - What gets you respect always won't start from pleasant experience - if you spot unjustifiable behavior, don't hesitate to point it out.
Sean Jung thank youuuuuu
Spoiler alert
thanks for saving 10 min
Not rly a saving... You should still watch it ;)
you guys know he puts these summaries in the description right?
“You don’t have to smash the like button, just click it” FINALLY someone said it
8. Show Respect.
You only get what you give, well said
It seems that is implied in the behaviors he talks about. If you think you can behave those ways without respecting yourself or the other person, then you're not being genuine.
True that.
You mean "trade respect"
You don’t owe anyone anything to deserve to be treated decently. So no I don’t have to show/ earn respect. People need to be just be decent.
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
Whenever I watch your videos I feel like a sociopath learning how to human
Oh thank God thought I was the only one lol
Lol
orange gang here huh?
i am a sociopath learning how to make friends after bullying all of mine n then losing them
Oddly, very true...
I always say “you earn respect by how you handle disrespect” especially in a patriarchal culture.
Brilliant and so true!
Its hard in the moment😂😭
Whats your advise for women?
These videos are turning me into a sociopath
As long as you don't become apathetic you should be fine.
What? Are you turning from Emmanuel Marshall into Emmanuel Macron?
Emmanuel Marshall lmao!
Grazikon good one lol
lol you can't become a sociopath
His teeth are brighter than my future. His mouth is wider than my circle of friends.
Lacy Proudhouse its his charm though 😁
His biceps are bigger than my bank account
His shirts are more consistent than my sleep patterns
if smiles could kill, this guy would be a mass murderer.
😂
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I’m too petty to finish my sentence when someone interrupts me. I just wait for them to finish speaking, not acknowledge it at all, then finish my thought lol. Too many times at work I’ve heard people do this but they just talk louder and louder over each other and I want to throw myself out a window. Why should I enable this kind of behavior by participating in it? I feel like I should 7 your number 4 in that situation hahaha.
Totally filled up when you mentioned the no drinking thing I've sacrificed a lot of friends and my whole lifestyle in order to be a more organic, respectable being and it's been really hard but it's what I have to do.
Props to that. That will force the tee-totallers in the business world to respect you because you lead by example.
and you havel lost 90% of friends
Really like your advice. I'm 44, and just learning how to act maturely.. I was always confident,,,but in a drug induced false sense of superiority..I'm 3 years clean ,, and really use your advice.. I enjoy the learning, and actually trying out your techniques.. thank you, and please keep up your good work
Brian Loher you give me hope
Congrats on your efforts, good luck on growing as a person. This channel is very helpful.
Oana Puha ... thank you very much I appreciate the encouragement
That’s great, Brian. Wish you all the best.
Brian Loher congrats Brian. I'm 2.5 years sober. It is truly a blessing and new freedom!
Tried this with my cat. I don't think it worked hes still breaking things while looking me in the eyes. No respect
Haha 😺
It's an animal...not a human...
@@SatanenPerkele whoooosh
@@SatanenPerkele r/woooosh
He watched the video, too.
This is such an amazing channel. Thank you for your efforts. I dare to say this is definitely in top 3 best channels on entire youtube
~ Appreciate the kind words Marko!
When people respect you your life becomes a happier place!!
Very often defending your time against an inconsiderate person ends up with that person playing the victim against the control freak. That’s when it’s time to walk away. JMO
Lone Wolf ok
Lone Wolf Ok is sometimes used as acknowledgement to someone’s point. In this case it’s me acknowledging your reply to my TH-cam comment.
Thank you for this video! I gotta be honest. My father wasn’t in my life so learning how to be a good man with good morals growing up was like walking down a dark path with no flashlight. You guys have lit the way and I couldn’t be more confident going down this road now. Values, respect and everything in between. Charisma on command makes me a wiser human being. Thank you.
Nothing is worse than laughing at what they are saying to you, and then turning your back, and walking away! Works for me
1. Deffend your time - value your time and don't let pepole waste it for nothing and don't always be aviable
2. Take up space - open body languge
3. Explain your values - tell pepole why yo do the things u do and belive even if they don't understand they will respcat u for that
4. Call pepole out - if u see someone doing bad behvior call him out
5. Display social courge - don't affriad to talk with other peole in ther room who aren't neccesrely your friends
6. Finish your sentences - if someone cut u off while u talking finish what u have to say
7. Pause - take a long pauses to assert dominance
Love your videos man, you've helped me realize the difference between being walked over and being respectful. I used to make a lot of these social errors, such as going silent whenever someone would interrupt me. Before this video I didn't realize why they wouldn't let me finish. Also something I've learned over time is when in a big group, yelling isn't always the best way to get everyone's attention. That when multiple conversations are going on at the same time to get everyone's attention on you, is to speak to 1 person in a loud whisper forcing them to focus on you. As you tell your story, the other people will finish what they are saying and will also start to listen to you. Soon enough the whole room will be listening to what you have to say even if they don't hear the whole thing and now you are the center of attention. Again love the videos!!
Man the edition work really made a difference. I got more engaged, it made me laugh, i couldnt believe that this "infornt of the camera videos" could get any better but i was wrong. This is my favorite channel and i feel nothing but deep admiration for you both. Congartualtions and thanks for sharing and keep imporving. AMAZING
I have to say that it wasnt only the edition that improved. You tap into our emotions in this videos while taping into the power of logic arguments. I think, that this may be my favorite video so far. Not ol¿nly because of the infromation ( other videos of you have super valuable inforamtion as well) but for the whole way of presentig it.
AWESOME, AMAZING, MINDBLOWING. I will put this video in my "great presentation examples list"
You mean editing haha
Yes, Thanks :D
Sergio Rugerio let’s imporve everyone
I was actually shocked to hear what you had to say. Not only do you have the cuttest face n smile, you are very easy to listen to.. what you shared with us yearners, is self respect. Not just getting respect. Valuing ones time is a very precious commodity.. thank you for sharing your time with us and all those involved. Best wishes!!🙂🙂🙂
I like your delivery. You sound confident and you make eye contact with the camera, you don't try to be funny at all cost, which also is another trick to get people to listen to you and respect what you say.
Hey Charlie,
Do a video breakdown of Zayn Malik. I am gobsmacked how he's a very shy and introverted person, even labelled as 'socially awkward'. Yet he is extremely charismatic. Plus research says in modern times you could be a highly charismatic introvert.
Would really like you to break down his charisma.
Anonymous TH-cam he’s ridiculously attractive and rich... that kinda helps
Anonymous TH-cam good one
Anonymous TH-cam That would be a good one, I agree. Being an introvert myself, i would speculate that because he is naturally reserved (as introverts tend to be), it gives him an air of mystery which makes people want to know more, which can be interpreted as charisma...
I've also been waiting for a Charisma On Command video regarding introverted charisma. People like Ryan Gosling, Harrison Ford, Jay-Z, and JK Rowling also come to mind as being charismatic introverts.
Anonymous TH-cam I think a big part of it has to do with his lucky good looking genes. He’s incredibly good looking
I am a bit socially awkward and overthink when speaking to people I'm not comfortable around and stutter and speak too fast. But it really helps to chew gum, it makes me forget to overthink or something and i get way more comfortable. I thought that you could maybe make a video about that.
THE teret SYMDROME OF LIFE ENJOY IT
I now enjoy online meetings at work because our bosses rigorously enforce the use of our software's hand signs when people want to say something. The moderator calls on each one in turn, after the person before has finished. Meetings are much faster and more efficient this way. If only I could get my family to do that too... 😊
"He allows it to happen. He allows the conversation to be dynamic but FIRST he fini |*gets totally cut off by the commercial*|... " 😅
Maybe this didnt come across this way to anyone else, but You were talking about Ben getting respect and it sounds like what he did is bring some beautiful girls to the table of guys he wanted respect from, then they loved him. It might not have happened that way, but that is how it came out to me. I do love your vids, this one part just stood out to me.
Yes... that is exactly what happened.
Ben is a high class pimp.
Well, that's one of the ways to get respect from your fellows. There are other out there but this is one very powerful, indeed. Great job, Charisma on Command!
It was effective, but mostly because Ben is physically good looking. As a gay man, I can see this. If a less attractive man had tried this, it would not have worked, unfortunately.
I came looking for this comment...
Mate I've been watching your videos lately and I'm amazed! Thank you so much for quitting your job and risking it all, if you hadn't you wouldn't impact so many people! For the last few weeks I've learned more things about myself than I have for my whole life, thanks again and you have sincerely earned my respect! 🤝👏
I really love your videos. I've always been a more introverted, shy person with not alot of confidence . But I've been watching a lot of your videos and slowly been using your tips to help with those issues around co-workers and Friends and I have noticed it just comes a little more easy now to be more outgoing and confident. I just want to say thank you for your videos
so I've watched several of your videos (including the Tyrion/Framing and one of the videos about "winning" arguments (which to my mind also entails a complete reframing of what winning means in a really cool way) so I do want to let you know that I really love so much of what you do.
As a person with has an invisible disability that can make it really hard to get out the door on a daily and physically painful basis, I think it is SO important to consider context, before immediately leaping to the idea that someone late doesn't respect you. There are disabilities that can also cause difficulty in keeping track of time, such as ADHD, despite all the interventions. And so, just to reiterate, it is important to defend your time, but also it is important to always be open to the nuances of context and the individuals that you are dealing with, so as not to leap to assumptions about their respect for you that may or may not be true at all.
Oh... Here I am holding grudge against people who cut me off mid sentence 😆 and changing the topic to something else 😂
Shut up meg XD
My boss does this all the time during counseling our customers. It's freaking me out.
Its so fusterating when it happens. If I can I'll just walk away. Once in awhile my husband will do it and I'll say, "Wait, let me finish!! It works. Thankfully he doesn't always do that.
Hmmm is cutting people off mid sentence always bad? I had a situation at work this week when somebody was speaking b.s. of me and attacking me in front of others for no valid reason. I had to cut him off or he would have continued the abuse and the disrespect. I don't think I should have let him continue on, I respect and value myself.
@@gabea.2123 Sometimes it's needed especially when someone is being rude to you. Above all I feel you should have respect for yourself! 💪
I just love how you get to the point in your videos ASAP and hook us all the way through! So many others stall to promote themselves. What a great tip on pausing when presenting! I will certainly remember that. And love the Will Smith example. THANK U! You’re amazing 🙌🏻
~ Our pleasure! Glad you're digging the videos. :-)
Dude, i'm brazilian, you're so clear and honest to what you say that u don't even need an video editor. Claps!
The "continue to finish your sentence" is a great one for interruptions.
So awesome! I quit socially drinking over a year ago and I also found myself feeling the need to explain it to friends. Also quit my dreadful office job last summer as well and I wish I'd seen this video before now.
In Navajo culture, the length of time between when a person stops talking and you start indicates the level of respect you have for them. If you immediately start talking, or worse interrupt, it means that you think what you have to say is more important than thinking about what they just said, showing a lack of respect. Try interrupting the Chief some time, young'un.
Am atleast 10 years elder than you but learning so many good things from your video. Many thanks . God bless you !!
I've always had problems with people cutting me off or stopping listening mid sentence and it always made me feel like crap. I've gotten to the point where I'm tired of it and the tip that you gave I believe can really help me establish that respect that I don't seem to command with my peers
One thing I think is missing in this video: how to react when someone calls you out on your bad behavior
Watching your vids is i think something that is a must do during this lockdown. Thank you for your advice! I need these because I am an introverted teacher.
I can make an outstanding first impression, but later after I've got the job, started my project, I self-sabotage at the least discouragement.
Yep, been there myself. Often. And I haven't found anything that helps because I know it's coming and nothing gets past my own skepticism.
I respect myself so much more since I watch your videos. So irremediably I value my own opinion more. So, a big big thank you to you!
Hey Charlie, when I watch this, I see it from the perspective of how to respect MYSELF more as the two are closely intertwined. Standing up for yourself, your values and beliefs. Would you agree with me on this point, or is there something you'd like to add? Thanks for great content as always,
/alex
This is going to completely change the way I operate at work😳
Thank you!
Great stuff. Thank you for sharing. That guy standing up to the queen bee: solid. I read a study where it was determined that bullying in school started with trash talking someone not there. Things could then escalate to the stage where that person was bullied. However, like your firend, if someone said, "Hey, X is okay. She's my friend," the trash talk stopped the bullying never got started. My students would figure out that if you are someone who would stand up for someone not there, then everyone in that group now knows that you will have their back even when they're not around. You can see students taking this in and sitting up a little higher. Instead of just droning on about 'don't bully,' this is a positive action that students can do. Which is what you're videos are all about.
I realised when u gave the example that I actually tend to do the last one fairly often (or more than most people). - I only feel comfortable doing so with close friends but I try to hold myself (and others) to very high moral standards where possible so - usually when theyre drunk and acting stupidly - I often find myself 'telling off' my friends but when they see my intentions and they know me, they actually appreciate it afterwards!
You get my respect
I'd like to elaborate a little on Charlie's list in the description above---hope this helps!
0:26 Defend Your Time, especially if people constantly make you wait, or let meeting times run too long.
1:40 Pause (just a few seconds) to hold people's attention---esp for presentations.
2:15 Use Your Arms and Hands, walk around, and command your space!
3:03 Finish Sentences Strongly, even when people interrupt you.
4:25 Display Social Courage: Proactively introduce yourself, and connect people who otherwise may not talk with each other.
6:36 Share Your Values--esp where you are unique! But don't push your values onto others; just talk about how they've helped you "be a better you"
8:40 Call Out Bad Behavior to hold people to a higher standard. (But don't be just as rude when doing so!)
This is really a good way to help someone in a job interview. Be careful that you don't make cracks with the interviewer, give them respect but be friendly in a way that will help you get the job!!
1:27 I was in a reading competition in 8th grade and before I started reading I'd always take my time to look at the audience, even if they're quiet, to just calm my nerves and it helps a lot
Jaden is also still just a kid...his father has been in the limelight for decades so obviously he would be better at holding his ground and commanding an audience...I kind of feel bad for Jaden though b/c he'll always be trying to crawl out from under his dad's shadow...
Not really though, because if you watch Willow, she absolutely inherited Will's charismatic presence. I always thought she reminded me heavily of her father, but after watching Will's behavior analyzed on this channel i realized that she has many of the same traits as far as body language, humor, interjecting, reacting, and building others up in the group. And she's the baby of the family so age isn't the major factor.
asentzio I think that was the point though . Like Jaden is young still so ofcourse he isn’t going to be the same exact way. I don’t think he is a shadow though like he chose to follow fame to begin with. He has to hustle like everyone else . Will Smith is where he is for a reason and everyone can learn from him honestly I respect the man
Uhm...... they are both HUGE douchebags and using either an example of people to really respect is fucking sad.
I've accidentally implemented three of these already, and have definitely seen a positive change. Thank you for your fantastic videos.
I do all them and I am massively hated guy.
I want to come to be the type that inspires and makes everyone feel empowered and free to just let go of the cool thing and let your awkward or dork SOAR! I'm smiling as I watch and write this! So glad I stumbled upon your channel!
Two videos into this guys channel and I already have respect for him
Knowledgeable and useful content as always , thank u 🙏🙏
I love 7 so much! Its true!
There was this guy I was dating, while we were waiting for the train a guy I knew from school I hadn't seen in 6 years passed us, we talked briedly. He was SO different then I remembered him that when he turned away I just had to laugh about it. Immediately my date was like; don't laugh at him!!
I thought that this was SO hot! That even he didn't know the guy he stuck up for him, because you just don't laugh at people.
I loved how he displayed his principles
just loved it man .The content was so real . Amazing. Loved it.
Little story of mine. I was at a psychiatric ward. A lot of people with low self esteem. So they started calling out a nurse who was not doing her job well. But in the progress making fun of her all the time. I was in the middle of all of that and one point I sighed deeply. "If you have a problem with how she works take it higher up, but stop making fun of her you would not like that either, it is rude." It was all I said. All of them became quiet and everyone instantly there liked me and respected what I had to say. Never had to hear them make fun of others anymore.
Wow really good stuff. Super simple and I love how it overlaps with some do your other videos. Great stuff. Wish I would have refreshed my memory with some of this stuff before I went to a networking event this past weekend. But I will say point 7 is a 100% accurate. Even in business with people more successful than you. Calling them out on their bs for sure gains respect. Thanks for these.
~ Glad you're digging it!
Tip one: make people value your time.
Tip two: devalue theirs
I like your training videos, including now the, '7 Psychological ...getting respect'. I now finish what I began saying, and regained respect. I am amazed that I brought the childhood notion of being quiet when others interrupted (which was usually an adult) and allowed it to make others think what I was saying was unimportant,. Now I make sure what I am saying needs saying and edit myself accordingly, before talking, when I can, in a word, thanks, Jon.
I love all the personal stories you share of either your own experiences, or those of your friends', to help support your tips. Obsessed with your channel dude, nice work!
~ Super appreciate your support :-)
If you REALLY want to see a change, go out and try at least one of those tricks.
Because KNOWLEDGE DOES NOT WORTH ANYTHING IF YOU'RE NOT DOING ANYTHING WITH IT!
Great video!
dude, I'm so impressed, and I do the talking for living
Great video. I am not a very charismatic person, but I have gotten a lot of respect amongst my peers because of your last point. I would say that it should be balanced with a willingness to identify and encourage good behavior as well. Consistency and integrity are definitely key.
Excellent. That last one was a great story. Many of these points resonate with my experiences. I've seen the combination of people not respecting your time and not respecting your values play out in parties and social settings --- my wife and I would need to leave (e.g I had an early flight next day) but we could always be talked into staying. But another more assertive couple, who was very popular, when they said they needed to get going, it was understood that was a line in the sand and no one dared try to talk them out of it. These are complex dynamics.
It feels like this channel helps voice and organize everything I always knew deep down, over the course of me watching these videos. So I just want to say - Thank you. Genuinely, thank you!
Dale Carnegie teaches us to never criticize. I think you're right about the value of calling people out and holding them to a higher standard, but how can we do that in a way that isn't perceived as just being critical? P.s. great video, thanks!
I love Dale Carnegie, but I have some disagreements on a few points, this being one of them. I terms of calling people out, it should really only be done with regard to behaviors you totally will not tolerate. Because people usually don't "like" it. And is doesn't guarantee they like you. Though it often times doesn't create respect.
Second, you should stick to criticizing behavior and use the "minimum necessary force." So don't scream that this person "always" is a jerk. Speak to specific behavioral patterns. This makes it easier for them to self-reflect without the ego getting in the way.
Makes sense to me. Thanks Charlie!
I don’t think holding someone to your standards means you have to criticise them. Let’s say for example one of your friends says something insulting in a social situation. You wait until you’re alone and then tell them you didn’t appreciate it because you don’t insult your friends and expect them not to. You’re not criticising them just making them aware of your standards and that they didn’t meet them. You get me fam?
Bejamin, you know, when I read Carnegie's book (HTWFAIP), I kept reminding myself that the steps given in the book are for the purpose of making friends and influencing people. I guess this video is for the purpose of commanding respect. And what you want to do depends on the outcome that you want to get.
I thought of that because the book seemed so linear. And it didn't seem like a healthy way to live a life. You can only go so far of being kind before you burst. So I thought, that it isn't a way of life, it's just a "mode" you switch to when you want to make friends and influence people!
"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways." - Sigmund Freud
Benjamin Preston you call them out based on deeds not person they are, unless they're really terrible. But if you want your criticism to be taken seriously by those you criticise just avoid making things personal.
Always great information and practical application. Keep them coming!
Thank you so much I came across this abruptly and needed it.
I really agree that you should share your values and explain them to people. I often find myself feeling guilty whenever I do or express something different. It could be small things like how I want my coffee or whatever. I’ve realized that what makes me feel guilty is not being honest about why I do it that way, and most times I actually have a reason. You just have to remind yourself of your reasons and tell them. People distrust what’s foreign to them, but if you explain it it’s less foreign and they can respect it. Good video, truthbombs as always
I am really tired explaining people why I am a teetotaller and vegetarian. Most of people just didn`t get it and started dislike me strongly.
I've subconsciously begun implementing some of these rules into my life over the past year or so and I feel like a whole other person compared to how I was in highschool. Still got a long way to go to be truly in control of my social interactions but damn, I used to be the most shut-in antisocial dork in my whole highschool but now I have friends who follow my lead and people have recently been describing me as "probably has no trouble meeting people", "stands out in a group" and "has an outgoing, trustworthy posture". Also "the fat friend" but that's a different issue :P
ive found that once you start working on your inner you the outer you blooms ! you will get there, youve already started, be blessed!
1. Respect my time; everyone thinks I am not busy so, therefore I can keep helping them.
I personally struggle with this! Thanks so much for this video!
Heyy I love your videos (and I actually take notes lol)
Can you please do a video on why/how certain people are popular in high school
would really love to see a charisma breakdown on that :D
Hahaha I thought I was the only one
Yea that'd be cool I'd like to see that too
They're attractive.
Not necessarily. I think they just have the right kind of personality. Many average looking people were popular in high school. Smart or quiet kids usually fall into the unpopular groups along with the band and theater artsy types. sports players tend to be popular, but not like the movies show. Jokers and people who make others laugh become popular - check out Joe Gatto's school story of how he went from nerd to cool kid by using his nose as a joke.
Like Impractical Jokers Joe Gatto?
Could you do an analysis on Steven Crowder when he does his Change My Mind videos?
Yeah definitely considering this :-)
Good idea
Charisma on Command Or better yet, do an analysis on when he tries to own the libs and the LGBTQ community by dressing in drag. Do you genuinely believe Crowder is looking for an honest discussion about changing his mind by grandstanding in front of an audience?
There is enough people who disagree with him in his own comments, so I think it would be good to get the good and the bad about how he does things.
roentgen6 he can be a provocateur when he wants to be but at least he knows when to turn it off. While I don't think it's ok to provoke just for the sake of provoking, (which is why I don't watch those videos) I do at least respect that he knows when to turn it off and have a peaceful conversation.
I really dig the last point of calling people out. Save the best for last.
I'm working as a teacher with a problematic class. This is very helpful - thanks!
When I'm in a group of my friends, if somebody says something while I'm still saying some things then the others listen to that person
My favorite ones are #5-7. I think those ones in particular come naturally when you have good character. #1 also comes naturally when you have a vision you want to reach. #2-4 are definitely more on the side of "Psychological Tricks". Great video!
Imagine a small corner of the world where people can bond without barrier, without judgement, without ridicule.
But, until that day comes, watching these videos will help my day to day life.
Charlie and Ben, I want to thank you so so much from the bottom of my heart!! I was watching your channel for a month and two weeks, watched all your videos, and I'm so happy that I did😊You guys are just so awesome and great, I totally Love Charisma On Command ( definitely going to enter to Charisma University once I have the money :)) ) . Thank you for everything, you're changing my life!! 💜🙏
~ Glad you're loving the channel +Soul! And if you do decide to join Charisma University, we'll look forward to seeing you on the inside. :-)
I feel like stopping to explain myself at every point is gonna make me look like a pain in the ass ngl...
My issue is concerning prior loss of respect,especially concerning family members who already have their first impression of you set,is it possible to modify it or is it a lost cause.
Appreciate the fact that you said you quit drinking. Alcoholism has been my biggest self-sabotaging problem in life. And I've always had friends give me a hard time for wanting to quit
i really like these videos. this guy is so succinct and persuasive! he simplifies, makes sense, is an amazing, logical and powerful presenter. Very impressive!! And very correct!
First of all don't interrupt when someone is speaking that is the most basic thing we where thought when we where children and still these people don't understand how rude is feels to get interrelated 😣so plz stop
Belial "Anime Guy"
Have you ever been to a party?
Were* Taught* interrupted*
Cheers, (we can also edit here, too!)
I agree that it is rude to interrupt in most situations. However, sometimes what is interpreted as interrupting is just trying to get a word in edgewise when there is a hot air balloon who dominates the room or conversation and loves the sound of his or her own voice. One should not have to raise one's hand to speak as if one is asking permission to go to the bathroom; there is a rhythm to social interaction, especially in groups, and some people want to beat their drums the loudest and don't know when to put down the sticks. Almost every group, particularly so called "support groups", are dominated by one or two individuals who crave attention. Such individuals are ironically often the least interesting people in the room and they count on the group facilitator to allow them to blab non-stop for fear of seeming "rude" by cutting their monologues short.
@@FriendofDorothy And to add on to this, sometimes you *need* to get a word in, especially if the person has been lecturing you for over three minutes and you know for a fact that you get no say-so once they're done. This commonly happens between me and my mom. I constantly interrupt her because one, I'm jumpy but working on it, and two, her lectures are long, repetitive, and sometimes assassinate my entire character with her intense criticism. Who wants to hear someone shout at you to get their point across that you're a burden anyway? Meanwhile, it's not okay for me to interrupt her, but she can interrupt me with not only more lectures, but also jokes which totally irritate me and throw me off track. On the flipside, I rarely interrupt anyone other than my mom unless I'm incredibly wound up. I hold my tounge in place with my mouth when this happens so I don't end up interrupting by mistake. But yeah. There is a time and a place to interject, but only on special circumstances.
this was actually useful
~ Glad you're finding it useful Parsa!
This stuff hits right on with a sales series I have called How to Master the Art of Selling Anything by Tom Hopkins. This series taught me how to talk to people in general and approach them without the situation turning bad or unfavorable. I even figured out how to ask a girl out without giving her the chance or desire to say "NO"! AND without being some kind of manipulating con. I respect this guy when he say not to fake anything. I am in the middle of a lawsuit right now too and this info is also really good when trying to talk to a judge and get a positive result from the court! Good stuff!
I watched a few videos and this one really spoke to me. Thank you sir!
Damn that light switch in the bottom left corner is really bothering me lol
youve got a problem
@@sideman4501 Damn straight I do
When I was interviewed for a promotion, my boss showed up 15 minutes late. Gave me more time to go over my notes!
Also gain respect by being patient, as you were, whilst waiting. Better not to treat the late person as being disrespectful, rather that they are under some other pressure and thinking of you there waiting for them. Some kind understanding gains you their respect and gratitude, probably even the job....
@@DD-xt6vo Smart thinking and evaluation of the situation presented...
@@troybell9702 Thank you. Most companies are in the business of selling...how one waits is indicative of how as an employee any customer who is 'delayed' will be treated. And better than notes waiting for an interview can be used to observe how the company culture operates...
I just discovered your channel and I am amazed. I want to thank you guys for all this advice, it's incredible and I will certainly watch the rest of your videos and recommend your channel to others.
~ Awesome! Appreciate you shouting us out to your friends. :-)
You're a natural. Good insight and good delivery. And, yes, I dislike when people tell me to "smash" things too. A bit much with the contrived enthusiasm. Subscribed.
Title: How to immediately get respect
Literally the first 2 seconds: Earning respect takes time
wonderful, as always! Thank you :)
~ Thanks Marie :-)
I realy love this words: "What wins respect isn't always what people like in this moment"
Thx for that)