My life right now is the exact opposite. I go back to old memories that I honestly didn't care about when they said them to me but, now I think about them and I just feel depressed and shed some tears.
@@omegasbathtubgangshitposti9275 thats because your depressed eat right get sun and exercise stop using cheap highs like drugs and you wake up one morning soon thinking wow Iam so happy I forgot what it felt like.
@@missmygamergirl445 Well first of all I don't do drugs (I'm literally in middle school lmfao) and second of all I'm not always depressed it's mostly when I'm alone and I have nothing to do and all I do is just get stuck on my thoughts. I just seem to be happy and laughing half of the day and the other half feeling gloomy and I just switch between the two constantly (Idk read some stuff online, might be manic depression).
So freaking true! Lol and the oldet I get, the more other people should worry what I think about them, as well. ☺ With age comes wisdom... Getting better all the time at spotting the ppl I want to avoid pretty quickly, at last.
“You think you’re being nice but you’re not living true to yourself.” (Being a people pleaser.) This is completely true and I’m 21 and just now learning this because everyone- especially jobs, will encourage these people pleasing behaviors and make it feel like a positive quality.
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"Ignoring negative people doesn't mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being" I found this concept impressive. Perfect for people-pleasers, and I think their description was quite accurate too. They suffer because of the toxic relationships they create themselves and someone needs to tell them. Thanks for having done that.
In my community, pleasing people is given importance. People should hear about you what they think it is good and right even if they are wrong and you do not.agree with them
Is it a fact of life, why then bother, if you fail, ignorance should be used, is it selfish to not care, blame society, avoid drama, do you distance yourself, demanding attention makes you unlikable, unforgiving people won't feel pleased, if your insecure you'll disappoint others, remind people that your only human, and nobody's perfect, nothings impossible, don't let people steal your life from you, annoying habits deserve to be punished✅⛔🆘💲🈵🚩
This video showed me that I could be the drama queen sometimes and that's why some people ignore me sometimes. Thank you for this video, I wanna change myself for the better. ❤
Sum up: 1) Avoid people that dramatize too much 2) Avoid people who you can never please 3) Avoid people that try to push you down by laughing at you and your goals 4) Avoid manipulators 5) Avoid people who complain that you have changed over the years
You just summed up 70-85% of the human race. This is why I wish more than half the world's population will disappear. Just imagine how much better life would be without dramatic, controlling, arrogant, narcissistic, stupid, manipulating, greedy,non sympathetic, backstabbing, war loving, disgusting, filthy, rotten people. When they ask me why am I so quiet,or they tell me I need to be more social and go to social gatherings. My response is "what's so fascinating about humans?" "Why should I get to know humans?" The fact of the matter is,most people are trash,so I choose to walk alone.
That's the issue, when your immediate family is toxic, its hard to manage them. Best is make new associates networking and make that a constant process so you never feel left out. And people who will value you will keep in touch, else they self filter.
I just want to thank whoever put the time into creating this masterpiece. I recently just broke it off with my best friend of 4 years. In reality, she is extremely manipulative and a toxic person in general. I felt guilty and blamed myself for HER behavior. I was afraid I made the wrong decision until I came across this video. Thank you for this 💕💕
Nagetive people are always course by depression and family problems and that's why they are always rude to others everyday they will become unhappy everyday.
We all take turns at being every one of these so called 'negative' types. It's perfectly natural. It's doesn't mean you're a terrible person it just means you're a human.
I personally think being a critical thinker is the most positive thing you can do. Yet critical thinkers are often seen as negative. To understand the world as it really is rather than how you want it to be. I know many so-called "positive" people who are miserable because they are often really just pretending, and the reality is not matching their positive view and they really have no idea why.
@@phenomenalmusic5034 negative maybe but idiot not. The negativity and positivity is more like what you focus those things that are good or those that are bad. You can be critical while you are in positive or negative mind set.
This is exactly what I'm doing, that’s why there are a lot of people that hate me, but so there are a lot of people who love me. I Can be so rude at joking, but I deeply care about people who I think is good for me. (Not for me, but for society. I do respect.)
@Sangeeta Gupta This line sounds a lot like what Kurt Cobain said. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not” I don’t know if that’s the exact quote, but pretty close.
Oof thats me then i get disrespected for who i am all the time at school lol i get called annoying a lot but it doesnt rlly bother me haters can hate!🤷♀
@@vsatonthebeat4101 I was thinking the same thing .I have a so called friend we live in the same city . She has a kid I am have 5 kids. But unfortunately I am just trying to keep an distance from her. Because I felt she wasn't a friend to me
One story I never forgot hearing about from my mother was when I was in elementary school and I got left out from our class and when I told my parents, they asked me if I wanted to change my class and I’d always refuse and say “if they don’t want to be friends with me then I don’t care and I won’t let it hinder my academic progress in school or my happiness in life” and I used to get 90-100% in every exam which would make me happy enough at school as well as at home. I still have that type of mindset, if a person I know is obviously uninterested or toxic, then they aren’t worth my time.
👍You are so going places. . I'm learning to not bother myself with toxic people anymore - I either don't tolerate their schemes straight out on their face or just avoid & ignore them completely - it's sooo freeing 🎉😆 Some folks learn this late in life. . but it's never too late 🙏
I used to do something I called, pulling a disappearing act. When I had collected too many toxic people, I would just move and not tell anyone where I went. Fortunately, I am much better in choosing my friends now so I haven't had to do that in decades, but when I was young I was a magnet for all six of these types of people!
MyBrainEatsEverything One of the best comments I’ve read If I could like this again I would I got rid of toxic people went as far as deleting all social media account all I have now Is Sc and I rarely post
So I guess most social media lol but the ones that people can keep tabs on you like Fb Ig got deleted It was hard getting rid of them but once you do you feel so free
@Deliq I just want to share my thoughts about this. When it comes to these things. I cannot confirm whether if god is true or not. Things will remain a mystery for me.
Ignoring people is very important - it's one of those subtle things that dont really make sense because it seems so simple. Until it just works itself out.
I am completely lonely now. I had many friends in High school like 15-20 close friends. Half of them were completely negative and others wanted attention. I am starting my own business and I don't need any negativity. I have started networking with people I want to be around with and be friends with them. Life is so easy when pricks are not around.
Jay--- Most friends are the "fair weather" type, no matter where you go, or what you do. Society has taught the past couple generations to be completely isolating, even more so now in 2020. There is good news, though. The hyper individualism that creates all that loneliness in the 3d realm can be cured by delving into the 4d realm of consciousness and oneness. I suggest picking up a couple books by the Dalai lama, to get started.
I did this as a kid and I actually got bullied even harder. They would repeat it over and over again in my ear and I would tell the teacher and the teacher would say to simply ignore despite me explaining to them what I did. I also got hit a few times trying this as well and I was in trouble as well due to the “middle ground”. I did nothing to them and the few times I insulted them, it was an insult back.
Yeah, most bullies don't get phased by you ignoring them, worst case situation they get more angry. You actually have to beat the living crap out of them. If they can touch you, you can touch them. I don't understand why a more hands-on approach is being scrutinised by the society and the law. Your best bet is avoiding these people... which I have no fucking clue how is one supposed to do. Society sucks.
The best thing you can do is not self defence. It is only going to bring attention and get both the victim and the bully the same punishment. What you can do is bully them back, don't even wait for them to hit or disturb you. Hit them for no reason if you feel like they deserve it.
@@Cosmophage1 no that’s absolutely not okay. Yes physically fight back, but only when it’s necessary like when they threaten to hurt you or something. Bullying is wrong all the way. It doesn’t matter if you’re bullied back it’s still wrong. Also I’m not saying not to fight back, but it’s extremely unnecessary to start a fight. /lh
I instinctively knew this as a child. As I aged, parents, teachers, and other adults told me I needed to engage with others. I had to concern myself with other’s problems and feelings. Now I’m retired and studying Stoicism. I lost 40 years of my needs.
We need to do so much better with raising our kids to have strong boundaries. I am also delving into Stoicism. Its a relief to not be focussed on others all the time.
Same, when it's your own parents and close ones who tell you to do this & this, you can't really do anything about it, you can't simply say "no I am gonna do it my way, let them say whatever they want". You follow it while barely questioning it. It really takes some loses to realise you have been obeying the wrong people.
I don't know why I'm here, I've mastered the art of ignoring people ever since I've had to sit and listen to my mom go on tangents everyday about how crappy of a person I am.
@@Dude-cf8hb It's easy? If you are being screamed at you could daydream. Don't take it heart too, and respond back however you want in your mind if you aren't in the wrong. If it is just someone annoying you, focus your attention on something else and their voice will fade to background noise. (Read a book, do homework, draw, watch something, etc.)
@@funmitalabi9607 I'm not sure if you're implying your mom is abusive, but mine was so I'm leaving this in the comments for anyone else who has to put up with it: The only thing you can do in that situation is get out. Being around her fucked my social life up so bad, but when I got away all my problems basically disappeared with enough time.
I always felt social insecurities because I don't like having to deal with people complaining when I don't agree with something. But this video does help me remember that "If they actually cared, they would see why I disagree" and I don't need people to always like me lol
@@jimmyj4044 why so miserable? Did your priest force his hands on you long ago and now you hate everything and everyone? Rhetorical question, I predict it'll go over your head kiddo.
Thanks. I'm an introvert that used to be a big extrovert, and when people notice how much I changed, they think it's strange and that I should go back to how I used to be. I've been pressuring myself to make friends, and because of that I tend to please people. I was certain that I was a strong person, and that I wasn't a people pleaser, but it turns out that I am one. I did ridiculous things people asked me to do, and in the end when I did what they asked they laughed at me, and embarrassed me. Tbh I thought they were laughing because they thought I was a funny friend. I never thought people could be so mean. I didn't believe it when people said they were evil. Turns out people can be really, really mean, I don't even know if these people have consciousness or guilt anymore.
I was constantly told that i was good for nothing after marriage at 19, as I was not a competent housewife. One afternoon, i looked up the daily newspaper after finishing housework, applied for a suitable job, got selected for govt job, got promoted on merit, now retired after a satisfying career. Also, now am a good housewife, by the way! 🙂
I personally really needed this vid. I’m both an empath and a HSP (highly sensitive person) so I often feel guilty even when I know I’m being taken advantage of/ or shame at being “selfish” when I want to be alone to figure myself out I’m always wishing the best for those who have the same trouble ignoring these sorts of ppl in our lives. We CAN focus on the positive and squeeze it on life❣️
I know everybody has their own struggles, but I think I have the same "Empath" thing. I can highly relate when people say they feel guilty when they can't help or even when they know somebody is being mean/taking advantage of them when they want to help. I hope you feel better about this stuff along with the others struggling with us ❤️
SinginBlackbird same here. I’m extremely sensitive so when somebody says something about me or my body online, I somehow take offence to it even though I know that they are the ones in the wrong. Even in real life I always feel bad
I am an introvert, and trust me. I don't open up, what's mine is mine. It is a big "fuck you" to those who want to gossip. And even if, they still gossip of me. It is whatever to me. In order for me to take it seriously. I'll have to care first. Apparently, their efforts are lower than their personalities. I for one laugh at them. I could care less, if they want to know me or not. I'm not a People Person. I don't work Retail, Food Service, nor own a Business for that matter. I work around morons, yes. And can talk if needed if job related. But no personal shit.
This actually helps me deal with how toxic my grandma can be. When people say just ignore her or something I didn't know the best way to do it. Now I have a better understanding.
Sadly it's a term used so broadly by people who have little insight to the real situation in many cases. Women often use that as a defining reason to break up with men. While most women live so far in their own world that they rarely see the need of and the actual man in their lives for who he is. It's a term that can describe many other things such as a person who is on the autistic spectrum or someone with ADHD that talks to stimulate their own mind, etc. It is like a joker card / blanket term and is used irresponsibly WAY too often. Instead people can be more supportive and understand in some cases. Too many run to friends and social media strangers and actually take the advice or diagnosis without even seeing half of the complete picture.
Zombie Machinery stop with that misogyny please. Really. If a whole gender is a problem in your eyes that says more about you than the gender. I didn’t ask to be born a woman but trust me not all women are narcissists. That’s just as bad as me saying all men are narcissistic; it’s not true and really doesn’t solve the problem you seem to be having.
this just made me realize I'm such a toxic person I'm really glad that one person cut me off, now that I have learned my wrong doings I will now apply it to my self and change that. I will try as well not to be with the toxic people, I will go and ignore them as much as I can.
These traits generally come as a bundle on people with narcissistic personality disorder. They are people with deep inferiority-complex, mostly originates from childhood traumas. Whenever they feel that someone is superior, they use these methods to bring them down, so that they feel better for a short amount of time. They are impulsive, emotion-driven, self-focused, immature and cunning people with lack of symphathy and self-awareness. Don't try to heal them. Don't try to symphatize with them. They have practiced this for a life time, and mastered the methods. They will take you down without you even notice. They are masters of spotting people who are caring, loving, selfless with high empathy and generally low self-esteem (sorry guys, you need to work on that!). Ignore, keep your distance or remove them from your life as fast as you can.
. SO TRUE!!!! THANKYOU FOR SHARING... ITS TAKEN ME 6 & A HALF YEARS TO REALISE THAT MY NARCISSIST PARTNER WAS LYING AND CHEATING ON ME FROM THE GET GO... GAS LIGHTING TRAUMA BONDING, LOVE BOMBING AND DISGARDING ME FOR YEARS !!!! THESE VILE DRAMAS OF HIS HAD ME NEARLY LOOSE ALL BELIEF IN SELF AND IN THE INTEGRITY I USED TO HOLD SO FIRMLY TO... ITS TAKEN ME YEARS TO REALISE WHAT ID BEEN PART OF AND HURTS SO BAD ...BCOS EVEN KNOWING ALL THIS..IM THE ONE STILL MISSING THE MAN I 1ST FELL IN LOVE WITH.. THIS MAN EVEN OWNED IT CLAIMING " HES SUCH A GOOD LIAR..".. TO THE POINT THAT I HAD NO IDEA HE HAD BEEN MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING THIS WHOLE SITUATION/ ORDEAL ALL ALONG!!! I FEEL IV LOST MY SOUL...& DONT EVEN KNOW MY FORMER SELF ANY MORE...IM SO BROKEN BY THE TRUE REVELATION OF IT ALL!! ID FOUND OUT THE TRUTH FROM HIS MANY LIES AND WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM HE REFUSED TO ALLOW ME ANY CLOSURE BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE FACTS.. WHEN I HAD THEM ALL IN FRONT OF ME...IN BLACK & WHITE etc.. SO I WAS LEFT TO JUST WALK AWAY FROM HIM.. WITHOUT ANY CLOSURE FROM HIM.. WHICH IS WHAT NARCS DO..AS THEY WILL NEVER ACKNOWLEDGE ANY WRONGS THEY MAY DO TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR HAVING DONE THEM IN THE 1ST PLACE & AS LEAVERAGE TO HOAVER YOU BACK IN.. WHEN YOUR ON A LOW ..OR SELF DOUBTING! SO THEY CAN STILL ABUSE YOU AS NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY..NOTHING MORE.. THEY HAVE NO REAL LOVE OR AFFECTION FOR YOU..BUT IF UR A GOOD SOURCE OF NARC SUPPLY TO CAUSE INJURY TO, THEY GET OFF ON THE PAIN THEY CAN STILL CAUSE YOU..IF YOU ALLOW THEM.. THEY WILL ABUSE YOU..I KNOW..I FELL IN AND OUT OF THAT WEB/ TRAP FOR YEARS BELIEVING ONE DAY HE WILL LOVE AND SEE MY WORTH..JUST AS HE APPEARED TO AT THE BEGINNING!!! PLEASE PEOPLE!!! DONT BE SCAMMED BY THEIR EMOTIONAL BULL SHIT. THEY CAN BE VERY CHARMING BUT THEIR LACK OF CONSISTANCY IS THEIR BIGGEST GIVE AWAY..AS TOO THEIR DIFFERENT PERSONNAS AROUND DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!! REMEMBER THEY ARE F A K E.. THEY ARE SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO EVERY PERSON THEY TRY TO ENSNARE!!! BUT ONCE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED..THERE REALLY IS NO TURNING BACK THE CLOCK..BCOS YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS A SERIAL CHEAT LIAR..ABUSER ,BULLY MANIPULATER CONTROLLER.. + IN SHORT A' NARCISSIST' !!!!! WHOSE PLEASURE IS BREAKING DOWN A PERSON WHO IS CAPABLE OF LOVE,CARING AND FORGIVING... THESE ARE THE SORT OF PEOPLE THEY HOME ON IN..ie:- Empaths, vulnerable people..warm hearted & generous people etc etc .......... NARCISSISTS ARE INCAPABLE OF FEELINGS of the HEART ..OR GIVING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OR REAL EMPATHY TO ANYONE!!!! THEY ARE 'ENERGY VAMPIRES' AND WILL DRAIN YOU DRY OF EVERY GOOD THING WITHIN YOU.. IF YOU BELIEVE IN THEIR LIES.. AS I DID..AND YOU ALLOW THEM TO.. THEY WILL SUCK YOU IN AND TGEN DEVALUE YOU UNTIL YOU BECOME A ZERO FORM OF YOUR FORMER SELF..WHILST THEY MOCK AND SCOFF AT THE SADNESS THEY THEMSELVES CRUELLY CREATED WITHIN YOU...TO PLAY THE ;... " IM HERE YO HELP YOU CARD!!" DONT BELIEVE THESE LIES!!!!.. THIS THEY WILL CONTINUE TO DO; UNTIL UR NOTHING MORE THAN THEIR EMOTIONAL PUNCH BAG. .. WHILST MEANWHILE THEY ARE HOOKING UP WITH OTHERS.. TO REPLACE YOU..+ THEY WILL HAVE MULTIPLE ...THEY WILL BE LOVE BOMBING & DECIEVING.. WHO HAVENT YET SEEN THRU THEIR MASK...TO KNOW WHAT SORT OF PERSON THEY REALLY ARE....BEHIND IT!!!! THEY WILL BE LAUGHING AT UR BROKENESS BCOS OF THEIR VIOLATIONS..& CONSTANT GAS LIGHTING!!! IF YOU ARE WIV A NARC!!! GET OUT AND AWAY FROM THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! 'THEY DONT WANT 2B HELPED!!' THEY WANT TO USE & ABUSE U! IV WASTED 6 & A HALF YEARS OF MY LIFE ON SOME ONE WHO WASNT THE PERSON THEY PORTAYED THEMSELVES 2B.. & ITS ME WHOSE BARELY TREADING WATER NOW... WHILST THEY ARE THRIVING & FULL OF LIFE FOR HAVING EMPTIED + DESTROYED ME + THE OPTIMISM 4 LIFE.. I ONCE HAD!!!!!! ' NOW GONE! ' PLEASE KNOW... YOU CANT HELP SUCH PEOPLE.. ¥ U MUST CARE, LOVE + PROTECT YOURSELF ...SO AS NOT TO BE TAKEN IN BY THESE TOXIC INDIVIDUALS!! ¥ Forgive Yourself ... THEN.... MOVE ON!!! 🖤 ¥ 'Peace Love & Light' ( 3▪6▪2020 ) ¥ I PRAY TO GOD THAT HE WILL FORGIVE & HELP HEAL THE WOUNDS CAUSED ME BY MY BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS NO CONCIENCE OR REMORSE 4 THE EVIL THEY DO UNTO OTHERS...+ TO BREAK ALL UNGODLY SOUL TIES FROM THIS MAN IN THE NAME OF ' JESUS ' A m e n ¥
helping people is definitely not bad but we indeed must be careful about how we do that and whether they can accept the help or not. we should know when to give up
When you view this as a game, it becomes fun to interact with them because you already know their playbook of negativity because after all, negative individuals are extremely predictable and one dimensional.
Very good. Learning 'People Games" helps deflect an attack so it doesn't touch you, because you Know what they are trying to do...get an emotional reaction out of you, belittle you, make you doubt your self worth, build up their inferiority problem, etc. When you realize what it is, it won't touch you. When you realize you don't need their 'approval' is when you can say "so, ok then" and walk away or just look at them and watch them back down. Once they pushed me to the point of 'l really don't care'... they have nothing to hold over me and their games didn't work anymore.
When I finally cut off all involvement/contact (after too many years) with the most toxic drama king I've ever known, the quality of my life shot upwards like a NASA rocket - without me doing anything else. Its like waking up from a 20 year coma and discovering you're still alive. No question in my mind - just get rid of them. You will never regret it. (Still smiling and loving life 6 years later!)
UNFORGIVING , it s hard to forgive someone who repeats the same mistakes also keeps trying to take advantage of your kindness. Keep your distance from users.
Katarina Tibai , now who sounds like a Drama Queen? hmmmmm.... how about an imagination and pretend it's just entertainment like when you binge on 24 hours of soaps :-)
You got any good people left? I hope so, would like to hear you are enjoying the relationships with beautiful individuals better now you have more time... Take care my friend...
@@nadineanne8106 There can be people you can't walk away from like work colleagues but with many people it's a choice whether or not you want to interact with them.
saganist why are you so against the other gender? Not everyone has some hidden agenda. Maybe women see how you approach life and run the other way. We’re not terrible and you’d be mad if I was spouting feminism bs about how men suck. Lets not. I see so many men hating in the comments and I cannot literally control the fact I’m a woman but I strive to be a good person.
I lost my job 2 months before ,where I was drained in every way by a bunch of vampires at office ,I could not handle the drama and politics and also I am not a people pleaser ,but I had lot of frnds there and good memories too with them ,finally I gave up and thought need some time to find my way back ,do you think it's normal if I cut ties with frnds ,fb ,watsapp and just living with meditation and my plants because I am happy now with silence and solitude and with all what I have now 😊😊..now I use only TH-cam for some gardening tutorials .. is it perfectly normal ?
I wish I had this information when I was a kid. I had to learn these things the hard way. But I wouldn't change my experiences for nothing. Thank you for creating this channel btw. Your a beacon of light. May you prosper and achieve all of your desires.
The greatest gift my father ever gave me was a lack of worry what others think, and an inclination toward the concept that if nearly everyone thinks one thing it is likely best to investigate the other way.
I lived life in denial of people being a burden or something negative, always looked out the best in people and looked through their negative sides but that was such a mistake, never think people who constantly shit on you will change, they won't
Jealous people are miserable-Misery loves company. They’ll try to drag you down and make you feel bad about your self. My narcissistic ex friend unmasked herself by acting like a mean girl. Purposely not inviting me to party-I had talked to her the day of, and she never told me she was throwing a Halloween party. I found out and confronted her. I stared by telling her it hurt me. Then we got into it-she finally said something that woke me up-she said “you’re not that great” I realized she didn’t invite me because she wanted to be the center of male attention. I replied to her “ I never said I was.” Followed by-“You’re no friend. Stay away from me.”
@@stephaniesomer5934 Stephanie, give us some more juicy details; was there make-up sex the same night, did she beg and plead for you to come back, what happened. we need to know, and pronto
It's an awful thing...and we ALL have it! Don't pretend you don't have it. It's a perfectly normal human emotion. Like any other emotion it goes wrong if you have it in abnormal excess!
i disappeared on my family for almost 10 years when i was 18 years old because they were toxic i saved up money for 3 months and hitched a ride to the greyhound 50 miles away from my small hometown and got a ticket to Venice Beach
I left at 18 for 6 months with no contact for the same reason. When I returned I refuse to let them treat me like shit or I leave. Made my life happy. I see them for short visits only. No Holidays.
That is absolutely correct I've done it all years ago even though i remain the unforgiving type but it's better this way because some people take your kindness for weakness and I'm not really willing to waste time on finding the good people , therefore i keep it strictly business
Oh, but he's the man I made him into. Never will be take a shred of responsibility for himself. It's my fault he procrastinates maintenance until a preventable problem is a crisis. Then he drama queens all over the place trying to get that narc supply. It's my fault he drinks and smokes the money and doesn't pay the bills. Its my fault he thinks overdraft protection is a way to pay rent. Its my fault or bad luck. Or always someone or something else. Never ever Mr. Perfect. Poor, put upon brave little baby.
@@Ghost-vi8qm I'm going to guess it is either a reference to being a drama queen or to having a regal sense of superiority, entitlement and control. Both are totally accurate descriptions of a narcissist. He could be describing my mother.
I know a few hostile drama Kings who fit this exact description. Funny how these types speak in the exact same way, male or female, older people or younger using the same entitled and condescending tone of voice and vocabulary.
The pleasers are always the prey! Its important to maintain a healthy balance with yourself and with the people in your life. Sometimes you do need conflict so you can flex standing up for yourself.
I literally did this in high school. I ignored everyone and everything. It kept me sane. Socializing, simply for the sake of being deemed as "normal," just wasn't worth it to me. The best part is when insecure people talk behind my back, shaming me as a serial killer or something like that. People who lack strength, need others to make them feel "secure." I'm secure in myself. And this troubles most people I deal with, because they can't feel secure in themselves. They need others to hold their hand. They shame me, because I'm stronger. They fear me, because I'm better. Normies are babies that need to be coddled. lol
It is a good thing that you do what you do but the last one sounded a little arrogant. I am not saying this to bring you down or anything, it is just arrogance is a major cause of downfall
@@kimmson6356 You're right, arrogance can lead to negative outcomes. But I'm careful not to let myself become arrogant. I think that everyone should have a healthy amount of Narcissism. It's good to love yourself, regardless of what people think. I'm not overweight. I'm average looking. I'm short for a dude. (Just for context) There were times when I would give in to the pressures of social expectations, for the sake of trying to "fit in." It would backfire every-time. Nowadays, I simply value doing things my way, regardless of how people perceive me. It keeps me sane. Conforming to societal pressures for the sake of "being normal," always lead to me being easily manipulated by others. I would constantly worry about how others perceive me, and would constantly correct my behavior, or over-correct myself (which would be very awkward) due me trying to "fit in." For me, it simply wasn't worth it anymore. I'm self-aware enough to pick up on social cues, but when I try to put it in practice, it never goes smoothly. Now, I no longer worry about what people think about me, and it's a breath of fresh air. It may sound arrogant, but it works for me. I have one life to live, and I'm not going to spend the rest of my days, trying to "be normal." It's too much of a hassle. I'm not giving up, I'm setting myself free.
@@kirbydouglas1191 You sound like an average guy. There is nothing wrong with self love, self awareness, self respect, self confidence and all the other positive self's out there. Where I live it is normal to do so. If you aren't happy by the people that surround you then the world is a big place, move anywhere suitable. My religion Islam teaches us how to live a life of moderation and a happy life is to do little with people and not be materialistic. Humans are social creatures. I really hope you find someone who is similar to you and become your good friend. You are kind of like me tho,I am free bird myself and I deny any social norm or trend that I see as baseless or a hassle.
Like a playwright, you are in charge of casting the characters in your story. This train of thought has simplified my life. Thank you for this content... most people simply give too many f's
I wrote you a kind of lengthy response that I lost, so typical even though I copied it! :D Alas: When people judge us, we can sometimes continue that judgement upon ourselves because some of us have a more sensitive and caring heart. Others have no right to do this but their ego and want of others praise drives them. I've been a moron, almost a loner and girlfriendless for all my life, and I'm starting to see why. It's because I'm afraid of being judged again, that I haven't dared to live and explore. Follow your talents and what makes you really happy, contact people and challenge yourself, then that tribe you [and I] seek will automatically attract itself to you. Some teachers I recommend [no need to agree with everything] are Bernard Albertson's short videos with "Advice from an old man", and Dr. Jordan Peterson. Lots of respect and luck to you! PS: I'm open to gaming with you if you'd want [others too]. I don't game that much, but it would be fun to co-op now and then. I have very little experience in co-op but we all gotta start somewhere. I game the free, quite fun and challenging game Minion Masters and will finish Left 4 Dead and other games long overdue. Steam-account + Discord: Equalitor#5314.
@@LeporidaeanDream your words have stopped my great wound from Continuous bleeding, especially funny thing is, even social media makes me feel even more alone! So thanks for helping me!
@@blackfire1471 You're welcome friend! May the winds carry you to the most beautiful peak in the world, and I'll come meet you so we can send paper planes out in all directions and laugh of everything silly by the fire §
I loved these, you have no idea. The naysayer one really woke me up and made me laugh. It's great that you're not just listening and explaining problems, you're giving really helpful advice along with it, thank you.
Thanks for the pep talk refresher. Already relearned to say "no", focused on myself and either decreased the contact of toxic individuals or cut them away. Feeling great. But, there is a new round of eliminations coming. With new parasites showing their true selves and old parasites trying to get back in.
my ex 'bestfriends' they ignored me because they didn't want to be my friend anymore, they laughed and talked about me, I wanted to beat them up. I haven't fought with them yet tho
Confusing positive people with negative people is a fatal mistake. Announcing that the Titanic has a 300ft gash and it's taking on water doesn't make me a negative person. Ignoring the gash and announcing that everything is gonna be okay doesn't make you a positive person.
Sometimes when you give true advice, even though it sounds harsh but its the best advice someone could give theyll label you as a bad friend and wont accept it
The opposite is more often true, most ppl can recognize objective advice or criticism that is negative HOWEVER, a lot of us are manipulated by negative ppl into thinking that they're positive or good for us. This is why videos like these are incredibly important.
You will instinctively know though if you are dealing with a negative person. A friend who is giving negative remark doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is toxic and of course vice versa. You’ll know that the person your dealing with is toxic when interacting with them starts to affect you mentally..
Great video. I gone through having a lot of "friends" that have turned out to be emotional vampires. Learning to ignore and say No was the best thing I ever done. I've significantly cut down on the people I call Friends (most of them have been bumped to Associate level). Having fewer people has a benefit in that I am having more fruitful interactions and better relationships with them.
As a young man, I had terrible judgement in selecting friends. Well, actually, I exercised no judgement at all. Consequently, I ended up being friends with some people whom I really shouldn't have been hanging out with. They weren't bad people....but they were all troubled in some way or another. Over time I learned that most of them had some kind of problem, either emotional, psychological or substance abuse....or in some cases a combination thereof. Over time, as I struggled to move forward with my life, I became cognizant that these people were acting as drag. They riducled my efforts to go to school and improve myself. They laughed at me because I had a steady, 9-5 job (which didn't pay much, but at least it was a job). I gradually cut back my interaction with the downers. In doing so, I also changed my own behavioral patterns (like bar-hopping on Fridays, drinking, etc.). I can't tell you how liberating it is to be free from all the abject negativism, drama and adolescent behavior. Sure, I only have 3 or 4 people at the very most whom I can really call my friends, but as the old saying goes, quality over quantity. In moving away from my previous sphere of friends and acquaintances, I started observing more closely those individuals who were really moving forward in life, graduating from college, getting good jobs, developing meaningful and substantive relationships, getting married, having kids, etc., and I realized that those people were much more selective in their associations. They only hung out with people who could elevate them, not bring them down with their emotional/psychological toxicity. I took a lesson from their playbook and am now very selective in whom I associate with and as a consequence have no regrets....even though it does get kinda quiet on Friday nights.
I want to thank you for making this video and opening my eyes, I realized how I am and what I need to change and be a better me just thank you I wish other people fell the same
My dad is the same way. Just find the people in your life that benefit you, and make you feel better. The people that are good for you. Stick with those people, and even if you decide to keep your mother in your life, or if blocking her out just isn’t an option, don’t feed into the toxic moments. I hope that makes sense, but that’s how I handle my father. I hope you figure it out. I’m rooting for you.
Ignoring people is easy peasy for me. However, ignoring some people can prove dangerous, and even deadly. They tend to be mentally unstable, so though you should never allow yourself into being bullied into interacting with those monsters, stay mentally strong, stay one step ahead of them, never lose your cool, and above all, know your rights. If you gotta cap a loony in the skull cap, because they are too far gone to recognize others rights and boundaries, and threaten your safety, then so be it. If they are working in groups, these people tend to be easily sidetracked, distracted and are not very organized, so it's easy to poison the little culture within their ranks and have them turn on each other. The monsters are out there, people, and they are not playing around. They are simply not wired like everyone else. In the end, it's either you or them.
I think the cruelest thing I’ve done to myself (but never regretted about it) was to cut off people when our connections were shallow, or worse, artificial. Socialization takes energy and time, and I choose to nurture meaningful relationships with people who care about me as I do them. Business relationships would be a different story though.
I used to work in a school district where there are many drama queens and they support each other in their pathology. I avoided them as much as possible and learned to have answers ready then walk away. You can never ever win an argument. The best you can do is defend your actions then walk away. Sometimes I would say ,”oh ok then” followed by an exit. I think I really irritated them but what else could I do.
12:20 distancing yourself from negative people doesn't mean you hate them, it's just looking out for your wellbeing. Yeah, that's true - love your neighbor as yourself and what's always overlooked is AS YOURSELF. You have to love yourself and treat yourself rightly before you can treat others the same so treat yourself well and move away from those who don't. Really nice, helpful video. Thanks
Thank you for this video. I have had random encounters with strangers on the internet who don’t know me and make false statements that aren’t true. This video taught me how to not care about it if I’m true to myself
“People hate when you treat them the way they treat you”
And also some people attack you for telling others the truth for some reason
Your ugly
-me to me
Exactly….n they don’t like it one bit.
@@everestchuliene lol
Absolutely! Good insight.
"Sorry you're feeling bad but I've got some work to do." That is some savagery, right there.
try doing that if its your boss. enjoy unemployment?
@@dotdashdotdash Yeah, I would never dream of doing that to my boss. Boss wants to share their life story and drama, I am all ears.
I agree. The maker of this video offers great advice on how to be a jerk
😂😂😂 yes yes indeed I agree!!!!!
@@retro6991 I kind of like the ability to pay the bills, mortgage, and buy food
The older I get, the less I care what people think about me.
Therefore, the older I get, the happier I become!
My life right now is the exact opposite. I go back to old memories that I honestly didn't care about when they said them to me but, now I think about them and I just feel depressed and shed some tears.
Frank V. Yep
@@omegasbathtubgangshitposti9275 thats because your depressed eat right get sun and exercise stop using cheap highs like drugs and you wake up one morning soon thinking wow Iam so happy I forgot what it felt like.
@@missmygamergirl445 Well first of all I don't do drugs (I'm literally in middle school lmfao) and second of all I'm not always depressed it's mostly when I'm alone and I have nothing to do and all I do is just get stuck on my thoughts. I just seem to be happy and laughing half of the day and the other half feeling gloomy and I just switch between the two constantly (Idk read some stuff online, might be manic depression).
So freaking true! Lol and the oldet I get, the more other people should worry what I think about them, as well. ☺ With age comes wisdom... Getting better all the time at spotting the ppl I want to avoid pretty quickly, at last.
“You think you’re being nice but you’re not living true to yourself.” (Being a people pleaser.)
This is completely true and I’m 21 and just now learning this because everyone- especially jobs, will encourage these people pleasing behaviors and make it feel like a positive quality.
They make it seem positive, because it works well for their agenda when you give them more than they pay you for.
Better learned at 21 than 35. I know people in their 40s and older who still haven't learned. You're doing great!
In antm show, girls who's mean to others usually made it up to the finale, but they never win.
@@furg hard to accept still now huh? I get that a lot
FACTS- niceness can be used as a mask to "use" people
"It's better to be disrespected for who you are than respected for who you are not."
Lol so he disrespectful himself and brags about it lol.lamf negetitive man manipulate men druma man. Druma queen Paris Jackson lol.lamf
Don't need anyone approval either way. They manipulate anyone. Still ingore them either way.
Set boundaries standards privacy and avoided them. Not dont rewards them.
Dont have time for negetitive people distance myself need time for me. Dont waste my time on dating sites and not a person pleaser anymore.
Living on the life that better without negetitive people online so I cut them out.
Yes they have a problem with everything else.
Dont care to please anyone either way. My protorties come Frist. And want them to stop bullying me around push bossy me around stop abusing me harrassment and
Naysayer Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray Paris Jackson who are that yes I need to ingore them. No all of them. Not look for there input there annoying eleimated all of them. The manputior men online Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray and David Cameron are Anderson cooper dump them cut them out of my life.
Don't accept there bad childish behavior.
So proud of myself dump all those posers and those mean girls who are not good for me and those who harrassment bully or hate himself or his mother who doesn't know what they say bullshit about innocent people online and not childish comments about it.
Cut them out of my life. Close the doors in there face. Rise above them. Be my own hero im my own supergirl 8 🙂😁
@@mariamistretta3860 u wrote this for what
So good.😊
Bullshit
I was checking that one out too..facts!!! @The Bro
"Ignoring negative people doesn't mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being"
I found this concept impressive. Perfect for people-pleasers, and I think their description was quite accurate too. They suffer because of the toxic relationships they create themselves and someone needs to tell them. Thanks for having done that.
In my community, pleasing people is given importance. People should hear about you what they think it is good and right even if they are wrong and you do not.agree with them
I'm too much "people pleasers" from childhood and now I'm suffering from that.😩😩
Is it a fact of life, why then bother, if you fail, ignorance should be used, is it selfish to not care, blame society, avoid drama, do you distance yourself, demanding attention makes you unlikable, unforgiving people won't feel pleased, if your insecure you'll disappoint others, remind people that your only human, and nobody's perfect, nothings impossible, don't let people steal your life from you, annoying habits deserve to be punished✅⛔🆘💲🈵🚩
Exactly!!!! Someone said it !!💯
Well the second one is true, i do want and wish them harmed or getting bad luck
I’m kind of a gloomy person but I’ve found hanging out with negative energy people can really bring you down to a really low point
that should be common sense brah
@@furtywelsh3482 Honestly sometimes that actually works haha
@@furtywelsh3482 lmaoooo
@Medieval Mushroom and once they start sticking around you, they will not stop.
@@Aquahonoredhi u suck
This video showed me that I could be the drama queen sometimes and that's why some people ignore me sometimes. Thank you for this video, I wanna change myself for the better. ❤
Same
Hi, congratulations for your waking up. Good for you.
It's take courage to accept one's fault. You got this.👊👊
Sum up:
1) Avoid people that dramatize too much
2) Avoid people who you can never please
3) Avoid people that try to push you down by laughing at you and your goals
4) Avoid manipulators
5) Avoid people who complain that you have changed over the years
You just summed up 70-85% of the human race. This is why I wish more than half the world's population will disappear. Just imagine how much better life would be without dramatic, controlling, arrogant, narcissistic, stupid, manipulating, greedy,non sympathetic, backstabbing, war loving, disgusting, filthy, rotten people. When they ask me why am I so quiet,or they tell me I need to be more social and go to social gatherings. My response is "what's so fascinating about humans?" "Why should I get to know humans?" The fact of the matter is,most people are trash,so I choose to walk alone.
6) End up alone
7) Find new friends
8) Repeat all over again
@@ancestrall794 So youre the number 1 situation
@@eden9536 damn, you got him there XD
@@thalukesta2112 😅
“The sun is all alone too but it still shines”
-Buddha
pod tide
Buddha??? HUH
That one was simple yet profound
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Can you cite this quote?
It's very hard when negative people happens to be the close ones in your life such as your family,you can't get rid of them.
That's the issue, when your immediate family is toxic, its hard to manage them. Best is make new associates networking and make that a constant process so you never feel left out. And people who will value you will keep in touch, else they self filter.
Yeah u r true, i also hv 1
I know how that is hope things get better for you
same
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Your friends are God’s way of making up for your family.
I just want to thank whoever put the time into creating this masterpiece. I recently just broke it off with my best friend of 4 years. In reality, she is extremely manipulative and a toxic person in general. I felt guilty and blamed myself for HER behavior. I was afraid I made the wrong decision until I came across this video. Thank you for this 💕💕
I use to have people I thought were my friends,now I call them frenemies.
I'm glad you're free now hehe
It hurts even more when you start to wonder if you are the negative person
Nagetive people are always course by depression and family problems and that's why they are always rude to others everyday they will become unhappy everyday.
We all take turns at being every one of these so called 'negative' types. It's perfectly natural. It's doesn't mean you're a terrible person it just means you're a human.
why it should hurt? Just axept it and work towards it. Also your avatar says a lot about you
@@sevastos2168 like what does it say about me?
@@RaidenMustDie3594 you know damn well
It’s not just drama queens, there are many drama KINGS as well.
Right bruh?
So many drama queens
Drama Queens outnumber Drama Kings
Emotional men are femenine
@@mankuqhapaqii4798 not necessarily unless you were trying to point out the problem with that
A man with positive attitude cannot be stopped
A man with negative attitude cannot be helped...
True...
Yeah
I personally think being a critical thinker is the most positive thing you can do. Yet critical thinkers are often seen as negative. To understand the world as it really is rather than how you want it to be. I know many so-called "positive" people who are miserable because they are often really just pretending, and the reality is not matching their positive view and they really have no idea why.
@@johngrear6506 negative idiot spotted
@@phenomenalmusic5034 negative maybe but idiot not. The negativity and positivity is more like what you focus those things that are good or those that are bad. You can be critical while you are in positive or negative mind set.
One of the best perspectives that I’ve found this far. It’s difficult to allow yourself to ignore your own parents even when it’s better for you.
I loved the sentence "it's better to be disrespected for who you are than to respected for who you are not and feel hollow inside"
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This is exactly what I'm doing, that’s why there are a lot of people that hate me, but so there are a lot of people who love me. I Can be so rude at joking, but I deeply care about people who I think is good for me. (Not for me, but for society. I do respect.)
@Sangeeta Gupta
This line sounds a lot like what Kurt Cobain said. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not” I don’t know if that’s the exact quote, but pretty close.
Oof thats me then i get disrespected for who i am all the time at school lol i get called annoying a lot but it doesnt rlly bother me haters can hate!🤷♀
Forgiving yourself really IS harder than forgiving others.
Yes so true
@Ink blobs Have fun with your loneliness.
yea because you always feel like you can do better than what you did
Not for me. It’s one and the same.
I know. You have to live your entire life with regret and guilt. even if you forgive yourself, u know that its still your fault.
It’s interesting how all these people can sometimes be just one person.
so true
Yes indeed, that's exactly what I was thinking
Maybe they are fake
It's called NPD; a cluster-B personality disorder.
@@vsatonthebeat4101 I was thinking the same thing .I have a so called friend we live in the same city . She has a kid I am have 5 kids. But unfortunately I am just trying to keep an distance from her. Because I felt she wasn't a friend to me
One story I never forgot hearing about from my mother was when I was in elementary school and I got left out from our class and when I told my parents, they asked me if I wanted to change my class and I’d always refuse and say “if they don’t want to be friends with me then I don’t care and I won’t let it hinder my academic progress in school or my happiness in life” and I used to get 90-100% in every exam which would make me happy enough at school as well as at home. I still have that type of mindset, if a person I know is obviously uninterested or toxic, then they aren’t worth my time.
👍You are so going places. . I'm learning to not bother myself with toxic people anymore - I either don't tolerate their schemes straight out on their face or just avoid & ignore them completely - it's sooo freeing 🎉😆
Some folks learn this late in life. . but it's never too late 🙏
I needed this 4 years ago. Better late than never I guess.
I can relate to this. Finally, I've found a key to freedom
I be trying to ignore people but not be rude
@@yahirib1534 I swear same here!! I'm 35 What the hell?
Oh I searched this up
that's right
I used to do something I called, pulling a disappearing act. When I had collected too many toxic people, I would just move and not tell anyone where I went. Fortunately, I am much better in choosing my friends now so I haven't had to do that in decades, but when I was young I was a magnet for all six of these types of people!
MyBrainEatsEverything One of the best comments I’ve read If I could like this again I would I got rid of toxic people went as far as deleting all social media account all I have now Is Sc and I rarely post
So I guess most social media lol but the ones that people can keep tabs on you like Fb Ig got deleted It was hard getting rid of them but once you do you feel so free
Same here!
I've done it myself and cut off my toxic family 3 years ago! I'm like Waldo.... and now if someone sees me, it's a "Kari Short" sighting..
@@karishort7561 how is it not having close family?
Alone time is such a blessing 🙏🏻💕
Cut the bond with anyone who threatens your peace of mind and all is well, you deserve it 👍🏻
Deliq elaborate?
@Deliq my thoughts exactly
Deliq I think it depends on the kind of person you are and what you value in life, I’m the first choice :)
So true!
@Deliq I just want to share my thoughts about this. When it comes to these things. I cannot confirm whether if god is true or not. Things will remain a mystery for me.
Ignoring people is very important - it's one of those subtle things that dont really make sense because it seems so simple. Until it just works itself out.
WHY KEEP WORRYING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE SANITY WHEN YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR DAMN OWN.
That's very thoughtful 😍😍😍
There is only one of you. Be who you are, you are unique. Every one is different in some or many ways.they are unique too. Above else be who you are.
Amen ❤️
omg yas.❤️
🎯
I am completely lonely now. I had many friends in High school like 15-20 close friends. Half of them were completely negative and others wanted attention. I am starting my own business and I don't need any negativity. I have started networking with people I want to be around with and be friends with them. Life is so easy when pricks are not around.
It's even easier when no one is around
@Deliq shut
I honestly, am finding more rapport with people who comment on videos on topics I like than people nearby.
@Deliq , no it is not.
Jay--- Most friends are the "fair weather" type, no matter where you go, or what you do. Society has taught the past couple generations to be completely isolating, even more so now in 2020. There is good news, though. The hyper individualism that creates all that loneliness in the 3d realm can be cured by delving into the 4d realm of consciousness and oneness. I suggest picking up a couple books by the Dalai lama, to get started.
Had an ex like ALL of these types. Left her years ago and now I’m finishing my Master’s. Amazing how that works.
Beautiful job
Much respect, love, and congratulations to your accomplishments.
Positive Vibes 🧘♀️💯
Tanny Glover how can someone be ALL these types? That’s insane.
I'm currently trying to get away from someone who is all of these. I'm sick of being put down and walking on eggshells.
I did this as a kid and I actually got bullied even harder. They would repeat it over and over again in my ear and I would tell the teacher and the teacher would say to simply ignore despite me explaining to them what I did. I also got hit a few times trying this as well and I was in trouble as well due to the “middle ground”. I did nothing to them and the few times I insulted them, it was an insult back.
Yeah, most bullies don't get phased by you ignoring them, worst case situation they get more angry. You actually have to beat the living crap out of them. If they can touch you, you can touch them. I don't understand why a more hands-on approach is being scrutinised by the society and the law. Your best bet is avoiding these people... which I have no fucking clue how is one supposed to do. Society sucks.
The best thing you can do is not self defence. It is only going to bring attention and get both the victim and the bully the same punishment. What you can do is bully them back, don't even wait for them to hit or disturb you. Hit them for no reason if you feel like they deserve it.
I'm so sorry to hear that :(( I hope it gets better soon
@@Cosmophage1 no that’s absolutely not okay. Yes physically fight back, but only when it’s necessary like when they threaten to hurt you or something. Bullying is wrong all the way. It doesn’t matter if you’re bullied back it’s still wrong. Also I’m not saying not to fight back, but it’s extremely unnecessary to start a fight. /lh
yeah unlucky. the only solution back then was to clock the bullies in the face, sadly, we only know now :/
I instinctively knew this as a child. As I aged, parents, teachers, and other adults told me I needed to engage with others. I had to concern myself with other’s problems and feelings. Now I’m retired and studying Stoicism. I lost 40 years of my needs.
u ok?
We need to do so much better with raising our kids to have strong boundaries. I am also delving into Stoicism. Its a relief to not be focussed on others all the time.
Sgt Grinch I feel you on a spiritual level.
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Same, when it's your own parents and close ones who tell you to do this & this, you can't really do anything about it, you can't simply say "no I am gonna do it my way, let them say whatever they want". You follow it while barely questioning it. It really takes some loses to realise you have been obeying the wrong people.
I don't know why I'm here, I've mastered the art of ignoring people ever since I've had to sit and listen to my mom go on tangents everyday about how crappy of a person I am.
teach me
Plz teach me
@@Dude-cf8hb It's easy? If you are being screamed at you could daydream. Don't take it heart too, and respond back however you want in your mind if you aren't in the wrong. If it is just someone annoying you, focus your attention on something else and their voice will fade to background noise. (Read a book, do homework, draw, watch something, etc.)
Your the positive example my friend learning and moving past that trauma. Good for you! Keep sharing 😊
@@funmitalabi9607 I'm not sure if you're implying your mom is abusive, but mine was so I'm leaving this in the comments for anyone else who has to put up with it:
The only thing you can do in that situation is get out. Being around her fucked my social life up so bad, but when I got away all my problems basically disappeared with enough time.
Silence is the best medicine...get a pet...start eating well...enjoy sleeping more...😉
Madhra AL If your pet (cat) lets you sleep, lol.
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My pet is my hubby ! 😆
Pearls!! (of wisdom) @Madhra AL
Madhra AL 🙋
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I always felt social insecurities because I don't like having to deal with people complaining when I don't agree with something. But this video does help me remember that "If they actually cared, they would see why I disagree" and I don't need people to always like me lol
'If you lend someone £20 and you never see them again, it was probably worth it.'
That helped me make peace about a c*unt I lent 100 pounds once and the n disappeared. Cheers for that. Still want my money though
Ha ha ha yes
Its worth that amount to get rid if them You save in the long run ; )
sadly most of the times it's a lot more than 20 pounds
It is worth more. If you put your foot, they can't beat you for more. Learned this the hard way!
*jealousy is the highest form of flattery and the lowest form of creativity.*
nope
This video is about avoiding you Jimmy.
@@MsPhuque Bahaha, loser
@@jimmyj4044 why so miserable? Did your priest force his hands on you long ago and now you hate everything and everyone? Rhetorical question, I predict it'll go over your head kiddo.
@@MsPhuque Nah buddy, I'm not religious. I just find your sensitivity to anything and everything hilarious.
sitting alone and enjoying your own company is better than being surrounded by fake people 🤗
Needed to see this today. If a person in your life isn’t enhancing it get rid totally draining
"forgiving yourself is much harder than forgiving someone else" such a painfull truth.
pain can be a good teacher coz your sure to remember it!
Man removing toxic people from my life is one of the best choices
i ever made, even if that person was me being toxic to my friends.
I hope those those toxic people were not Taliban because.... Your name says it all
@@golgapa3570 your comment reflects the toxic person you are.
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@@golgapa3570 seriously🤦🏻♀️
It's a reason why I stay away from most people and have no problem of going somewhere else when things go bad.
I should definitely do the same thing
I like the company of myself, a lot of people don't even know them selves and that's where it all starts
Thanks. I'm an introvert that used to be a big extrovert, and when people notice how much I changed, they think it's strange and that I should go back to how I used to be. I've been pressuring myself to make friends, and because of that I tend to please people. I was certain that I was a strong person, and that I wasn't a people pleaser, but it turns out that I am one. I did ridiculous things people asked me to do, and in the end when I did what they asked they laughed at me, and embarrassed me. Tbh I thought they were laughing because they thought I was a funny friend. I never thought people could be so mean. I didn't believe it when people said they were evil. Turns out people can be really, really mean, I don't even know if these people have consciousness or guilt anymore.
I was constantly told that i was good for nothing after marriage at 19, as I was not a competent housewife. One afternoon, i looked up the daily newspaper after finishing housework, applied for a suitable job, got selected for govt job, got promoted on merit, now retired after a satisfying career. Also, now am a good housewife, by the way! 🙂
why would they tell you you werent a good housewife?
I personally really needed this vid. I’m both an empath and a HSP (highly sensitive person) so I often feel guilty even when I know I’m being taken advantage of/ or shame at being “selfish” when I want to be alone to figure myself out
I’m always wishing the best for those who have the same trouble ignoring these sorts of ppl in our lives. We CAN focus on the positive and squeeze it on life❣️
I know everybody has their own struggles, but I think I have the same "Empath" thing. I can highly relate when people say they feel guilty when they can't help or even when they know somebody is being mean/taking advantage of them when they want to help. I hope you feel better about this stuff along with the others struggling with us ❤️
I have the same 'problem' I even feel bad for the people that did me wrong. I just can't help it even if it annoys me.
SinginBlackbird same here. I’m extremely sensitive so when somebody says something about me or my body online, I somehow take offence to it even though I know that they are the ones in the wrong. Even in real life I always feel bad
People should stop putting their nose in other people's lifes, because . . .
it's none of their business.
@Scott Swift
Creepy
Try telling that to the 99.9% of people with nothing better to do in their lives. Effing nosey
@@reikaratnam LOL! ikr... 😄
I am an introvert, and trust me. I don't open up, what's mine is mine. It is a big "fuck you" to those who want to gossip. And even if, they still gossip of me. It is whatever to me. In order for me to take it seriously. I'll have to care first. Apparently, their efforts are lower than their personalities. I for one laugh at them. I could care less, if they want to know me or not. I'm not a People Person. I don't work Retail, Food Service, nor own a Business for that matter. I work around morons, yes. And can talk if needed if job related. But no personal shit.
Your Daddy Onceler My new goal in life is to become strong like you. :)
This actually helps me deal with how toxic my grandma can be. When people say just ignore her or something I didn't know the best way to do it. Now I have a better understanding.
When I give up on caring . Everything allways worked out perfectly .My luck changed from bad to not so bad .
Richard Jeffery from terrible to ordinarily unhappy
In a nutshell: AVOID NARCISSISTS
That's every woman and a fair share of men.
In a nutshell: AVOID PEOPLE*
Sadly it's a term used so broadly by people who have little insight to the real situation in many cases. Women often use that as a defining reason to break up with men. While most women live so far in their own world that they rarely see the need of and the actual man in their lives for who he is. It's a term that can describe many other things such as a person who is on the autistic spectrum or someone with ADHD that talks to stimulate their own mind, etc. It is like a joker card / blanket term and is used irresponsibly WAY too often. Instead people can be more supportive and understand in some cases. Too many run to friends and social media strangers and actually take the advice or diagnosis without even seeing half of the complete picture.
Zombie Machinery stop with that misogyny please. Really. If a whole gender is a problem in your eyes that says more about you than the gender. I didn’t ask to be born a woman but trust me not all women are narcissists. That’s just as bad as me saying all men are narcissistic; it’s not true and really doesn’t solve the problem you seem to be having.
@Wesley Scherr nailed it!!
Better alone than in bad company. FTW
Can't be alone if you have schizophrenia
J what is ftw?
J Definitely.
@@quincysimpson2958 Fuck that way
Say that again!!! @J
this just made me realize I'm such a toxic person I'm really glad that one person cut me off, now that I have learned my wrong doings I will now apply it to my self and change that. I will try as well not to be with the toxic people, I will go and ignore them as much as I can.
Does anybody else feel like every person in their life fits in at least one of these categories?
humans are all the same, basically
@@Jackgritty28 ......You must be Young.....lol!?
Or at least the authors category (selfish).
The creepiest thing is identifying some of the behaviors in yourself
the person who is never pleased is def very common on my life lmao
These traits generally come as a bundle on people with narcissistic personality disorder. They are people with deep inferiority-complex, mostly originates from childhood traumas. Whenever they feel that someone is superior, they use these methods to bring them down, so that they feel better for a short amount of time. They are impulsive, emotion-driven, self-focused, immature and cunning people with lack of symphathy and self-awareness.
Don't try to heal them. Don't try to symphatize with them. They have practiced this for a life time, and mastered the methods. They will take you down without you even notice.
They are masters of spotting people who are caring, loving, selfless with high empathy and generally low self-esteem (sorry guys, you need to work on that!).
Ignore, keep your distance or remove them from your life as fast as you can.
Yep, spot on
. SO TRUE!!!! THANKYOU FOR
SHARING...
ITS TAKEN ME 6 & A HALF YEARS TO REALISE THAT MY NARCISSIST PARTNER WAS LYING AND CHEATING ON ME FROM THE GET GO...
GAS LIGHTING TRAUMA BONDING, LOVE BOMBING AND DISGARDING ME FOR YEARS !!!!
THESE VILE DRAMAS OF HIS HAD ME NEARLY LOOSE ALL BELIEF IN SELF AND IN THE INTEGRITY I USED TO HOLD SO FIRMLY TO...
ITS TAKEN ME YEARS TO REALISE WHAT ID BEEN PART OF AND HURTS SO BAD ...BCOS EVEN KNOWING ALL THIS..IM THE ONE STILL MISSING THE MAN I 1ST FELL IN LOVE WITH..
THIS MAN EVEN OWNED IT CLAIMING " HES SUCH A GOOD LIAR.."..
TO THE POINT THAT I HAD NO IDEA HE HAD BEEN MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING THIS WHOLE SITUATION/ ORDEAL ALL ALONG!!!
I FEEL IV LOST MY SOUL...& DONT EVEN KNOW MY FORMER SELF ANY MORE...IM SO BROKEN BY THE TRUE REVELATION OF IT ALL!!
ID FOUND OUT THE TRUTH FROM HIS MANY LIES AND WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM HE REFUSED TO ALLOW ME ANY CLOSURE BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE FACTS..
WHEN I HAD THEM ALL IN FRONT OF ME...IN BLACK & WHITE etc..
SO I WAS LEFT TO JUST WALK AWAY FROM HIM.. WITHOUT ANY CLOSURE FROM HIM..
WHICH IS WHAT NARCS DO..AS THEY WILL NEVER ACKNOWLEDGE ANY WRONGS THEY MAY DO TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR HAVING DONE THEM IN THE 1ST PLACE & AS LEAVERAGE TO HOAVER YOU BACK IN.. WHEN YOUR ON A LOW ..OR SELF DOUBTING! SO THEY CAN STILL ABUSE YOU AS NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY..NOTHING MORE..
THEY HAVE NO REAL LOVE OR AFFECTION FOR YOU..BUT IF UR A GOOD SOURCE OF NARC SUPPLY TO CAUSE INJURY TO, THEY GET OFF ON THE PAIN THEY CAN STILL CAUSE YOU..IF YOU ALLOW THEM..
THEY WILL ABUSE YOU..I KNOW..I FELL IN AND OUT OF THAT WEB/ TRAP FOR YEARS BELIEVING ONE DAY HE WILL LOVE AND SEE MY WORTH..JUST AS HE APPEARED TO AT THE BEGINNING!!!
PLEASE PEOPLE!!! DONT BE SCAMMED BY THEIR EMOTIONAL BULL SHIT. THEY CAN BE VERY CHARMING BUT THEIR LACK OF CONSISTANCY IS THEIR BIGGEST GIVE AWAY..AS TOO THEIR DIFFERENT PERSONNAS AROUND DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!!
REMEMBER THEY ARE F A K E..
THEY ARE SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO EVERY PERSON THEY TRY TO ENSNARE!!!
BUT ONCE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED..THERE REALLY IS NO TURNING BACK THE CLOCK..BCOS YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS A SERIAL CHEAT LIAR..ABUSER ,BULLY MANIPULATER CONTROLLER..
+ IN SHORT A' NARCISSIST' !!!!!
WHOSE PLEASURE IS BREAKING DOWN A PERSON WHO IS CAPABLE OF LOVE,CARING AND FORGIVING...
THESE ARE THE SORT OF PEOPLE THEY HOME ON IN..ie:- Empaths, vulnerable people..warm hearted & generous people etc etc ..........
NARCISSISTS ARE INCAPABLE OF FEELINGS of the HEART ..OR GIVING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OR REAL
EMPATHY TO ANYONE!!!!
THEY ARE 'ENERGY VAMPIRES' AND WILL DRAIN YOU DRY OF EVERY GOOD THING WITHIN YOU..
IF YOU BELIEVE IN THEIR LIES.. AS I DID..AND YOU ALLOW THEM TO..
THEY WILL SUCK YOU IN AND TGEN DEVALUE YOU UNTIL YOU BECOME A ZERO FORM OF YOUR FORMER SELF..WHILST THEY MOCK AND SCOFF AT THE SADNESS THEY THEMSELVES CRUELLY CREATED WITHIN YOU...TO PLAY THE ;...
" IM HERE YO HELP YOU CARD!!"
DONT BELIEVE THESE LIES!!!!..
THIS THEY WILL CONTINUE TO DO;
UNTIL UR NOTHING MORE THAN THEIR EMOTIONAL PUNCH BAG. ..
WHILST MEANWHILE THEY ARE HOOKING UP WITH OTHERS..
TO REPLACE YOU..+ THEY WILL HAVE MULTIPLE ...THEY WILL BE LOVE BOMBING & DECIEVING.. WHO HAVENT YET SEEN THRU THEIR MASK...TO KNOW WHAT SORT OF PERSON THEY REALLY
ARE....BEHIND IT!!!!
THEY WILL BE LAUGHING AT UR
BROKENESS BCOS OF THEIR
VIOLATIONS..& CONSTANT
GAS LIGHTING!!!
IF YOU ARE WIV A NARC!!!
GET OUT AND AWAY FROM THEM
AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!
'THEY DONT WANT 2B HELPED!!'
THEY WANT TO USE & ABUSE U!
IV WASTED 6 & A HALF YEARS OF
MY LIFE ON SOME ONE WHO
WASNT THE PERSON THEY
PORTAYED THEMSELVES 2B..
& ITS ME WHOSE BARELY
TREADING WATER NOW...
WHILST THEY ARE THRIVING &
FULL OF LIFE FOR HAVING
EMPTIED + DESTROYED ME +
THE OPTIMISM 4 LIFE..
I ONCE HAD!!!!!!
' NOW GONE! '
PLEASE KNOW...
YOU CANT HELP SUCH PEOPLE..
¥
U MUST CARE, LOVE + PROTECT
YOURSELF ...SO AS NOT TO
BE TAKEN IN BY THESE
TOXIC INDIVIDUALS!!
¥
Forgive Yourself ...
THEN.... MOVE ON!!! 🖤
¥
'Peace Love & Light'
( 3▪6▪2020 )
¥
I PRAY TO GOD THAT HE WILL
FORGIVE & HELP HEAL THE
WOUNDS CAUSED ME BY MY
BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP
WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS
NO CONCIENCE OR REMORSE
4 THE EVIL THEY DO UNTO
OTHERS...+ TO BREAK ALL
UNGODLY SOUL TIES FROM
THIS MAN IN THE NAME OF
' JESUS '
A m e n
¥
@@TheMandylane1 preach !!!! I'm trying to get away from my mom, Dad n sister.
helping people is definitely not bad but we indeed must be careful about how we do that and whether they can accept the help or not. we should know when to give up
Bingo!
Misery loves company, learn how to enjoy being alone.
We getting rid of union and other things like that so we can be assholes alone wow....that would be a first
@jel moram da imam ime a? we all do.
@@STMARTIN009 we all say we do
That's not what that means though.
you will be alone forever
Number 5, people who use to know you and label you as they know you (or not) is the one I lived under for way too long. It's amazing to feel free.
When you view this as a game, it becomes fun to interact with them because you already know their playbook of negativity because after all, negative individuals are extremely predictable and one dimensional.
Very good. Learning 'People Games" helps deflect an attack so it doesn't touch you, because you Know what they are trying to do...get an emotional reaction out of you, belittle you, make you doubt your self worth, build up their inferiority problem, etc. When you realize what it is, it won't touch you.
When you realize you don't need their 'approval' is when you can say "so, ok then" and walk away or just look at them and watch them back down. Once they pushed me to the point of 'l really don't care'... they have nothing to hold over me and their games didn't work anymore.
@@lthompson6750 well you can do that, but you can also turn the tides, turn their way of pissing people against them
When I finally cut off all involvement/contact (after too many years) with the most toxic drama king I've ever known, the quality of my life shot upwards like a NASA rocket - without me doing anything else. Its like waking up from a 20 year coma and discovering you're still alive. No question in my mind - just get rid of them. You will never regret it. (Still smiling and loving life 6 years later!)
Sounds like someone had their heart broken 🤣🤣
@@sophiechatterton4386 How do you gather that from this post? It sounds more than a heartbreak to me.
@SCYTHE what?
im happy for you!!
@@scythe1898 ?
bad friends give me depression, they wired my brain into a loser way of thinking :( now i realised im trying to get to back to my old self :)
Same here 😒 I need somebody to talk :(
Same 😕
Keep your head up guys. Get rid of toxic people in your lives. Easier said than done but always worth it.
Drama queen alert
@@iameatingursnack how? they are stressed due to bad friends
Thanks for the advice! Now I know that if someone tells me not to pursue my dreams I'll *eliminate* them!
I almost spat out my drink when I heard the raw delivery of "Eliminate them!"
2020 got me reflecting on so much of my life. here I am, realising how much time I've wasted being pulled back by negative people
UNFORGIVING , it s hard to forgive someone who repeats the same mistakes also keeps trying to take advantage of your kindness. Keep your distance from users.
Absolutely. Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation.
Drama queen = energy vampir
Katarina Tibai , now who sounds like a Drama Queen? hmmmmm.... how about an imagination and pretend it's just entertainment like when you binge on 24 hours of soaps :-)
Energy vampire has a clinical name, it's Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There are a ton of useful videos on the subject.
@@TheSkyhawk40 binging on TV soaps = drama queen ....of a different kind lol
Solidsilenceful Imao.Bizarre toxix projection. You should leave.
@@MediaEnslavedNation is it possible for a person with this disorder to change? Because the author in the video makes it look like they are hopeless
Thank you for this healing message. I was recently embarrassed and hurt by people I thought were my friends.
I just walk away from anyone who I feel isn't good for me. I'm not wasting time with these people.
You got any good people left? I hope so, would like to hear you are enjoying the relationships with beautiful individuals better now you have more time... Take care my friend...
@@askcsuki2239 My circle of friends is smaller now obviously but yes of course there are some left.
For me, I can't really walk away cause I see their faces everyday
@@nadineanne8106 There can be people you can't walk away from like work colleagues but with many people it's a choice whether or not you want to interact with them.
Same
Most people are walking excrement with an ego attached ; the less I interact with people, the better off I am
I disagree, the nicest people are those who don't intimidate, friendly without expecting rewards.
this struck hard
Hahah Good one!🤣
i have my standard gaping red assholes with legs to describe people but i like walking excrement as well thanks
saganist why are you so against the other gender? Not everyone has some hidden agenda. Maybe women see how you approach life and run the other way. We’re not terrible and you’d be mad if I was spouting feminism bs about how men suck. Lets not. I see so many men hating in the comments and I cannot literally control the fact I’m a woman but I strive to be a good person.
I use “ block caller” function on my phone. It helps a bit..
So do I, and Facebook, and messenger.........! No-one ever calls me!!!! Lol.
I lost my job 2 months before ,where I was drained in every way by a bunch of vampires at office ,I could not handle the drama and politics and also I am not a people pleaser ,but I had lot of frnds there and good memories too with them ,finally I gave up and thought need some time to find my way back ,do you think it's normal if I cut ties with frnds ,fb ,watsapp and just living with meditation and my plants because I am happy now with silence and solitude and with all what I have now 😊😊..now I use only TH-cam for some gardening tutorials .. is it perfectly normal ?
@@anu7982 where did you work
I just got a new phone, & phone number after I went NO CONTACT 3+ years ago.
I am utilizing that method now.
I am 18 year old and want to work more on myself and these series are helping me to achieve a new version of myself.
Thank you sir.
"you don't have control over what other people think about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalize their opinions"
"It is better to be alone than it is to be in bad company." George Washington
and
What you think of me is none of my business.
Cheers
I wish I had this information when I was a kid. I had to learn these things the hard way. But I wouldn't change my experiences for nothing. Thank you for creating this channel btw. Your a beacon of light. May you prosper and achieve all of your desires.
The greatest gift my father ever gave me was a lack of worry what others think, and an inclination toward the concept that if nearly everyone thinks one thing it is likely best to investigate the other way.
I lived life in denial of people being a burden or something negative, always looked out the best in people and looked through their negative sides but that was such a mistake, never think people who constantly shit on you will change, they won't
Jealousy is such a sad thing 😄
Don't knock it,until you've tried it🌝
Jealous people are miserable-Misery loves company. They’ll try to drag you down and make you feel bad about your self. My narcissistic ex friend unmasked herself by acting like a mean girl. Purposely not inviting me to party-I had talked to her the day of, and she never told me she was throwing a Halloween party. I found out and confronted her. I stared by telling her it hurt me. Then we got into it-she finally said something that woke me up-she said “you’re not that great” I realized she didn’t invite me because she wanted to be the center of male attention. I replied to her
“ I never said I was.” Followed by-“You’re no friend. Stay away from me.”
But people showoff and push their successes in every one's face. Then they openly complain that people are jealous of them.
@@stephaniesomer5934 Stephanie, give us some more juicy details; was there make-up sex the same night, did she beg and plead for you to come back, what happened. we need to know, and pronto
It's an awful thing...and we ALL have it! Don't pretend you don't have it. It's a perfectly normal human emotion. Like any other emotion it goes wrong if you have it in abnormal excess!
i disappeared on my family for almost 10 years when i was 18 years old because they were toxic
i saved up money for 3 months and hitched a ride to the greyhound 50 miles away from my small hometown
and got a ticket to
Venice Beach
Sometimes you have to do it!
Melón malone now you’re homeless like everyone else there 😀
nah i ended up working as a pipe fitter in texas
and i never had to touch drugs
I left at 18 for 6 months with no contact for the same reason. When I returned I refuse to let them treat me like shit or I leave. Made my life happy. I see them for short visits only. No Holidays.
Finally! When I learn how to protect my self esteem its over for you Fers
That is absolutely correct I've done it all years ago even though i remain the unforgiving type but it's better this way because some people take your kindness for weakness and I'm not really willing to waste time on finding the good people , therefore i keep it strictly business
U only forgive people who see their error, ask forgiveness , and are will ing to make it up to u.
@@susan4yahshua correct 👍💯
i think forgiving is healthy for everyone involved. ofc, dont let them make you their fool, but forgiveness doesnt mean that
Yes the hopelessly hostile queen.....always looking for your mistakes....only you have 'issues'not them....though EVERBODY has some 'issue'.
Like your point on how they don't have issues.
Oh, but he's the man I made him into. Never will be take a shred of responsibility for himself. It's my fault he procrastinates maintenance until a preventable problem is a crisis. Then he drama queens all over the place trying to get that narc supply. It's my fault he drinks and smokes the money and doesn't pay the bills. Its my fault he thinks overdraft protection is a way to pay rent. Its my fault or bad luck. Or always someone or something else. Never ever Mr. Perfect. Poor, put upon brave little baby.
Why you referring to a hostile woman as a queen?
@@Ghost-vi8qm I'm going to guess it is either a reference to being a drama queen or to having a regal sense of superiority, entitlement and control. Both are totally accurate descriptions of a narcissist. He could be describing my mother.
I know a few hostile drama Kings who fit this exact description. Funny how these types speak in the exact same way, male or female, older people or younger using the same entitled and condescending tone of voice and vocabulary.
The pleasers are always the prey! Its important to maintain a healthy balance with yourself and with the people in your life. Sometimes you do need conflict so you can flex standing up for yourself.
I literally did this in high school.
I ignored everyone and everything.
It kept me sane.
Socializing, simply for the sake of being deemed as "normal," just wasn't worth it to me.
The best part is when insecure people talk behind my back, shaming me as a serial killer or something like that.
People who lack strength, need others to make them feel "secure." I'm secure in myself.
And this troubles most people I deal with, because they can't feel secure in themselves. They need others to hold their hand.
They shame me, because I'm stronger.
They fear me, because I'm better.
Normies are babies that need to be coddled. lol
exactly
It is a good thing that you do what you do but the last one sounded a little arrogant. I am not saying this to bring you down or anything, it is just arrogance is a major cause of downfall
@@kimmson6356
You're right, arrogance can lead to negative outcomes. But I'm careful not to let myself become arrogant.
I think that everyone should have a healthy amount of Narcissism.
It's good to love yourself, regardless of what people think.
I'm not overweight. I'm average looking. I'm short for a dude. (Just for context)
There were times when I would give in to the pressures of social expectations, for the sake of trying to "fit in."
It would backfire every-time. Nowadays, I simply value doing things my way, regardless of how people perceive me.
It keeps me sane. Conforming to societal pressures for the sake of "being normal," always lead to me being easily manipulated by others.
I would constantly worry about how others perceive me, and would constantly correct my behavior, or over-correct myself (which would be very awkward) due me trying to "fit in." For me, it simply wasn't worth it anymore.
I'm self-aware enough to pick up on social cues, but when I try to put it in practice, it never goes smoothly. Now, I no longer worry about what people think about me, and it's a breath of fresh air.
It may sound arrogant, but it works for me.
I have one life to live, and I'm not going to spend the rest of my days, trying to "be normal." It's too much of a hassle.
I'm not giving up, I'm setting myself free.
@@kirbydouglas1191 You sound like an average guy. There is nothing wrong with self love, self awareness, self respect, self confidence and all the other positive self's out there. Where I live it is normal to do so. If you aren't happy by the people that surround you then the world is a big place, move anywhere suitable. My religion Islam teaches us how to live a life of moderation and a happy life is to do little with people and not be materialistic. Humans are social creatures. I really hope you find someone who is similar to you and become your good friend.
You are kind of like me tho,I am free bird myself and I deny any social norm or trend that I see as baseless or a hassle.
r/iamverysmart
Like a playwright, you are in charge of casting the characters in your story. This train of thought has simplified my life. Thank you for this content... most people simply give too many f's
👍🏾
I'm suffering in my life greatly because of rejection and loneliness, almost all my life.
I wrote you a kind of lengthy response that I lost, so typical even though I copied it! :D
Alas: When people judge us, we can sometimes continue that judgement upon ourselves because some of us have a more sensitive and caring heart. Others have no right to do this but their ego and want of others praise drives them. I've been a moron, almost a loner and girlfriendless for all my life, and I'm starting to see why. It's because I'm afraid of being judged again, that I haven't dared to live and explore. Follow your talents and what makes you really happy, contact people and challenge yourself, then that tribe you [and I] seek will automatically attract itself to you. Some teachers I recommend [no need to agree with everything] are Bernard Albertson's short videos with "Advice from an old man", and Dr. Jordan Peterson. Lots of respect and luck to you!
PS: I'm open to gaming with you if you'd want [others too]. I don't game that much, but it would be fun to co-op now and then. I have very little experience in co-op but we all gotta start somewhere. I game the free, quite fun and challenging game Minion Masters and will finish Left 4 Dead and other games long overdue. Steam-account + Discord: Equalitor#5314.
@@LeporidaeanDream your words have stopped my great wound from Continuous bleeding, especially funny thing is, even social media makes me feel even more alone! So thanks for helping me!
@@blackfire1471 You're welcome friend! May the winds carry you to the most beautiful peak in the world, and I'll come meet you so we can send paper planes out in all directions and laugh of everything silly by the fire §
@@LeporidaeanDream Beautiful words!! You drew smile on my face!! Thanks!!!!!!!!!
I understand I am the same sending love light and hugs
I recently offloaded a toxic person, who I thought was my friend.
Congratulations!
Same here and I’m glad I did it!!
I did too and I am so much happier
Toxic could mean different things to different people,fool🏳️🌈💲
Felt like katabasis? I hope you're doing well my friend...
I loved these, you have no idea. The naysayer one really woke me up and made me laugh. It's great that you're not just listening and explaining problems, you're giving really helpful advice along with it, thank you.
This video has already helped me greatly with 3 different relationships in my life, the most important one being the relationship with myself.
Thanks for the pep talk refresher. Already relearned to say "no", focused on myself and either decreased the contact of toxic individuals or cut them away. Feeling great. But, there is a new round of eliminations coming. With new parasites showing their true selves and old parasites trying to get back in.
6:04 Mahatma Gandhi on naysayers:
“First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. And then you win.”
i admire Mahatma Gandhi!! great man!!
I don’t wanna fight nobody tho, cause if I win then they’re gonna want to kill me
@@enriquesantos8398 agree Enrique same here they have already try twice
my ex 'bestfriends' they ignored me because they didn't want to be my friend anymore, they laughed and talked about me, I wanted to beat them up. I haven't fought with them yet tho
Goes for many things in life
I really needed this, especially for the Manipulator and the Stubborn.
Confusing positive people with negative people is a fatal mistake. Announcing that the Titanic has a 300ft gash and it's taking on water doesn't make me a negative person. Ignoring the gash and announcing that everything is gonna be okay doesn't make you a positive person.
Sometimes when you give true advice, even though it sounds harsh but its the best advice someone could give theyll label you as a bad friend and wont accept it
The opposite is more often true, most ppl can recognize objective advice or criticism that is negative HOWEVER, a lot of us are manipulated by negative ppl into thinking that they're positive or good for us. This is why videos like these are incredibly important.
You will instinctively know though if you are dealing with a negative person. A friend who is giving negative remark doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is toxic and of course vice versa. You’ll know that the person your dealing with is toxic when interacting with them starts to affect you mentally..
@@dawngarcia9954 so everyone?
This is best therapy with everything covered in 13 mins. You have earned a new subscriber right away.
This is a Great list!! Only took me 40 yrs to learn all this, maybe more! Now, I'm angry, bitter and totally get why us older persons get this way!
I love how I click on this, and, without need of introduction, straight into what the title promised. Now THAT is content.
Great video. I gone through having a lot of "friends" that have turned out to be emotional vampires. Learning to ignore and say No was the best thing I ever done. I've significantly cut down on the people I call Friends (most of them have been bumped to Associate level). Having fewer people has a benefit in that I am having more fruitful interactions and better relationships with them.
I hear ya!!! thank you for sharing that.. @Motivate Passion
am doing from today , i wanna cut all bad and fake people from my life
Scary being around people like that..
As a young man, I had terrible judgement in selecting friends. Well, actually, I exercised no judgement at all. Consequently, I ended up being friends with some people whom I really shouldn't have been hanging out with. They weren't bad people....but they were all troubled in some way or another. Over time I learned that most of them had some kind of problem, either emotional, psychological or substance abuse....or in some cases a combination thereof. Over time, as I struggled to move forward with my life, I became cognizant that these people were acting as drag. They riducled my efforts to go to school and improve myself. They laughed at me because I had a steady, 9-5 job (which didn't pay much, but at least it was a job). I gradually cut back my interaction with the downers. In doing so, I also changed my own behavioral patterns (like bar-hopping on Fridays, drinking, etc.). I can't tell you how liberating it is to be free from all the abject negativism, drama and adolescent behavior. Sure, I only have 3 or 4 people at the very most whom I can really call my friends, but as the old saying goes, quality over quantity. In moving away from my previous sphere of friends and acquaintances, I started observing more closely those individuals who were really moving forward in life, graduating from college, getting good jobs, developing meaningful and substantive relationships, getting married, having kids, etc., and I realized that those people were much more selective in their associations. They only hung out with people who could elevate them, not bring them down with their emotional/psychological toxicity. I took a lesson from their playbook and am now very selective in whom I associate with and as a consequence have no regrets....even though it does get kinda quiet on Friday nights.
thank you for your sharing, CaesarInVa. 1 million percent agree !
I cut out the bad ppl and everyday I'm getting better .. your comments stood out
One way to ignore people is to never go outside ever again
Has anyone heard the phrase,ignorance is bliss🎍⭐
@@halcioncocaine2096 YeA a brainwashing phrase.
Glitchy M True. That’s what I do, lol.
That’s a sad way to look at it the world is are playground fuck people play all day
Listennnnn this is it!!
I want to thank you for making this video and opening my eyes, I realized how I am and what I need to change and be a better me just thank you I wish other people fell the same
My Mother is a DramaQueen and is Bipolar. Imagine growing up with this.
My dad is the same way. Just find the people in your life that benefit you, and make you feel better. The people that are good for you. Stick with those people, and even if you decide to keep your mother in your life, or if blocking her out just isn’t an option, don’t feed into the toxic moments. I hope that makes sense, but that’s how I handle my father. I hope you figure it out. I’m rooting for you.
Yikes. You have my sympathies.
Imagine both "parents" are sociopath and double teams you
@@NetiNeti-gm5bz yikes. Time to GTFO! Physical and emotional distance are essential with those two.
My sister is like that too. You're not alone bro.
Ignoring people is easy peasy for me. However, ignoring some people can prove dangerous, and even deadly. They tend to be mentally unstable, so though you should never allow yourself into being bullied into interacting with those monsters, stay mentally strong, stay one step ahead of them, never lose your cool, and above all, know your rights. If you gotta cap a loony in the skull cap, because they are too far gone to recognize others rights and boundaries, and threaten your safety, then so be it. If they are working in groups, these people tend to be easily sidetracked, distracted and are not very organized, so it's easy to poison the little culture within their ranks and have them turn on each other.
The monsters are out there, people, and they are not playing around. They are simply not wired like everyone else. In the end, it's either you or them.
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I think the cruelest thing I’ve done to myself (but never regretted about it) was to cut off people when our connections were shallow, or worse, artificial. Socialization takes energy and time, and I choose to nurture meaningful relationships with people who care about me as I do them. Business relationships would be a different story though.
“Forgive yourself” its so important
I used to work in a school district where there are many drama queens and they support each other in their pathology. I avoided them as much as possible and learned to have answers ready then walk away. You can never ever win an argument. The best you can do is defend your actions then walk away. Sometimes I would say ,”oh ok then” followed by an exit. I think I really irritated them but what else could I do.
Ong that's so true. "You *NEVER* win an argument with them!".... Yup I've learned this one alright. Walking away or evading is best
I have the same experience
My flatmate displays multiple qualities from this video! I have finally taken action to move out, find a new place and leave her toxicity behind 🥰
Flatmate conflicts. Ugh. It is painfully difficult to find a match sometimes.
12:20 distancing yourself from negative people doesn't mean you hate them, it's just looking out for your wellbeing. Yeah, that's true - love your neighbor as yourself and what's always overlooked is AS YOURSELF. You have to love yourself and treat yourself rightly before you can treat others the same so treat yourself well and move away from those who don't. Really nice, helpful video. Thanks
Thank you for this video. I have had random encounters with strangers on the internet who don’t know me and make false statements that aren’t true. This video taught me how to not care about it if I’m true to myself