*Take my free Daily Practice course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice *Join my Membership and access my private online community: bit.ly/CCF-Membership *Visit my website at crappychildhoodfairy.com *Order my new book RE-REGULATED here: bit.ly/3XiLsj2 *Have a question for me to answer on TH-cam? Write me here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters
I honestly think that these longer vids of yours are some of the most generous gifts you provide to the world. I'm not kidding. We get more than 1 hour to sit and listen to you cover all kinds of crazy situations that we all face. It's so helpful cuz sometimes I think "Oh I've done that also" and wasn't even thinking of working on it. But now not only am I thinking about it but you're also providing help with that situation.
Thank you for the video. I struggle with CPTSD and I am early days in my career. I got fired from my graduate job and was told that I was too much trouble (which is a joke to tell a graduate who is just trying to learn).They were like my toxic family. I am glad that I did get fired because the next job I found my tribe. People treat me kindly, and I found my dream mentor. My career is brighter than I could have ever imagined it to be. So hang in there friends, things do get better but you also have to be better.
You’re my self appointed mentor. Thank you. You’ve become part of my routine for resumed healing and to ultimately optimize my potential for success in relationship and creatively. I’d love to collaborate with you, meaning I send you writing for my book, concept of healing by use of sensory elements (nature, yoga, water, air, olfactory, lighting”…. And you mentor the process and become co-writer. Think about it. Compelling title. It’s about trauma and how to heal creatively through “relationship” with creativity. I weave the hard hitting impact of the trauma with the softening effect of elements. For the record, most nurse aids in nursing homes (or many) are triggered and hostile all the time, and leading with anger. I work with the rehab teams in these facilities and whoa! If people only knew. Back to point. I’m going to write and meditate with intention being “book.” What an amazing gift you have brought. These videos are the key that for many of us are unlocking our true selves and capabilities to thrive! I’m Feeling pretty good right about now! If only I can DO this!!!!
I’m so poorly with CPTSD now I’m in my 50’s my family no longer speak to me I have zero friends luckily I work from home due to not being able to leave home anymore my long term relationship has ended as he can’t stand being either me anymore just found your channel so hopefully can learn some ways to cope xx
In my 40's and same. You are so lucky to have a remote position. My work is forcing RTO and I'm a disregulated mess about it. It's not natural to us, but we have to work on building community.
This was right on time. Careers and relationships are where I struggle most. I remember coming across a video from this channel a couple of years ago and it mentioned parentifying managers. I was mortified when I realized that that's exactly what I was doing. I've gotten better since then thankfully. This year I have asked for a promotion and am looking into certifications to increase my chances of getting better raises. I'm excited (and nervous) to see how things go.
Parentifying managers is a familiar behavior for me too I never realized. Any idea which video that was talked about? Good for you putting yourself out there!
@@mindtag14 Sorry I didn't see the notification for this comment. No, I don't remember the video now unfortunately 😕 It might have been in a compilation? I'm not entirely sure now.
Oh gosh, heavy on that, it's so easy to get triggered at work where things are always out of control, I began the Daily Practice with meditation, fingers crossed 🤞🏼
You know CCFairy, what I love the most about your videos? It's when you laugh, and you laugh at yourself and you crack yourself up. I can totally believe you used to do comedy! It's just a real welcome break from the often heaviness of this topic, and it appears so authentic and spontaneous that you get a thought and crack yourself up and then realize you need to keep going. It makes you seem very relatable and human and decent - like genuinely good. Thank you for all these videos you put out. They've helped me (and I'm sure countless others who grew up in CC crcumstances sans Fairy) enormously. 🙏
I love how you talk about everything I struggle with but then again I get sad because I relate to every single thing. I'm not defeated, I'm always fighting for myself but damn... I'm exhausted. Thank you for your work, fairy❤ ily.
Hi! I was recently diagnosed with CPTSD and have been in therapy for almost three years now. It’s going well so far, with a lot of resistance and struggles, but I know that’s part of the process. In my story, I’ve probably faced every major and moderate trauma. I practically have a checklist full of marks. I'm finally starting to accept that I went through hell and survived. As I mentioned, I’ve only recently learned I’m dealing with CPTSD, and my brother discovered this channel and sent it to me. So far, I’ve watched a couple of videos, and I just want to say thank you. You have an amazing channel, and most importantly, I feel heard and seen. I know I’m not alone.
Thanks to your encouragement and advice I am taking steps to take on more leadership roles at my work. I didn't think I was capable, but you and those in my life trust and believe in me so I decided to trust and believe in myself.
Hi Anna, I hope you're well. I am 19 years old and the youngest of 7 children, I have struggled with CPTSD as well as my siblings for years without being aware. I would love to schedule a zoom call with you to talk one on one and share our challenges and techniques, I am just starting my healing journey and have no idea where to start!
Yeah I'm 50. I had a really bad episode at work on Sept 23rd with alot if swearing and inappropriate talk.its why I was looking online and found this channel, to feel less alone. honestly been so bummed and down on myself.i I always thought it would soften with age but it's almost worsening.
Been there, and know that you are not alone. Thankfully my episode resulted in getting better professional support and an internal reflection of the office culture. It developed into growth between myself and the management team to build integrity.
If I encounter conflict (or even fear there may be conflict) in the workplace, I often just quit. Any conflict is just so distressing to me; I start having panic attacks.
@@wakingthewitch457 wow!!!! That’s my exact reaction!! And then i pray to God to help me acclimate, or help to lead me to the right place or right person, to work in an environment that’s not hostile, and something I at least LIKE to do. People can be awful, especially in groups. And this is coming from someone who tries to think about others, show respect, and try to get along. The “mean girl” era is back in a major way. It’s so sad. We’ll find our way!!!
Awesome to hear Kanbam and Pomodoro techniques. You might enjoy the Kaizen concept of continuous improvement. Those tools you use are product of agile and lean methodology.
Thank you so so much for this video. You have no idea how this is really helping me right now, i have CPTSD and am currently studying to be a counsellor, right!! Yesterday, i walked out of my class because I felt that my lecturer has been treating me slightly differently from the rest of the class. He hadly respond's to my comments. I got so disregulated at one point and went home so upset, i couldn't stop thinking about the lecturer all week and every time i went into class my stomach would hurt so bad. I completely messed up my counselling practice because he came and sat in the session, my mind went blank. I thought being Counsellor as career would be good for me, to gain experience and learn how to manage my emotions. But the course has it's ups and downs were by i love the knowledge aspect of it but person centred counselling has really triggered me in such a way, i don't know if it's healthy for me to be doing .❤❤❤❤
Absolutely about telling people my pain. Its embarrassing. I enter and people are amazed. Theeennn they get to know me and i start talking. And then im viewed as the hot mess who starts high then slowly tank until the last 2 years anywhere i went, i mentally crack. Now im broken after a divorce from a narcissist and have no $. I dont know how im going to survive mentally.
We absolutely understand. Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD. Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD Nika@TeamFairy
I am an overachiever who adapted by being a "perfect child." But sometimes I alienate people, but I am not ever sure exactly how or why. Sometimes I know: I tend to talk too much in seminar/group settings because that is kind of how I think. But other times, I am really baffled as to why I don't fit in and people dislike me.
You are better therapist than this 1:10:00 one. This friend has nothing to do with border line patient. Bipolar people are not mean. They suffer in silence and don’t want to hurt others in purpose. This friend is not that kind. She reminds me of girl who always wanted to be the center of attention, to be loved and adored by other friends and do harm to the only one who is convinced they are best friends. Craps. I’m so glad she’s over it now. Victory 💪💪
Haha, THIS. Give me strength when things are suddenly confused, especially when it feels purposeful. It has taken a long time to lean out in the immediate and work through the confusion and frustration before I attempt to communicate. I feel so sad because I love doing excellent work and what I've learned in this current position is to just let it go and accept it as it is. It felt like dying the slowest death at first, but now, it's like a super power to just not care in those moments. The older I get, the more I'll accept it just because I'm learning to really love peace more than bringing order from chaos. 59:00 - oh my! Does a Level I Trauma ICU count for trauma/drama work environment? ;)
A set of questions: About "dressing the part". I was a teen in the 1990s when making one's own clothes was considered "cool"...hello grunge era. My mom and I came up with really great looking pieces that I was able to pair with the store bought clothes. When I was 20 I scored a summer job in my field, but yikes when I told my supervisor that I was wearing a hand sewn outfit. Sure she was from a different generation, but sheesh we were in a company that supported ENTREPRENEURS! I dunno...maybe she was jealous because she will never be able to buy something similar? 😂 Regarding being late, what I've heard is the best thing to say is thank-you for your patience. It acknowledges the other person's time without making the whole of it "about you". As for being overwhelmed, I play that to an edge, similar to you list, by creating training material based on the frustrations I have that arise from questions on the procedures that I need to do. MANY thanks for saying "chronic diseases with no origin", as opposed to just chronic diseases. 🙏 That's so validating for those whose trauma came from an illness in the first place. One thing that COMPLETELY frustrates me is how dating apps "critique" you if you set too restrictive boundaries on "lifestyles" associated with substance use. Just mentioning it gets me deregulated. 😅 It can be tough with parentifying your boss...there's be a few times when supervisors have stated that I remind them of their child. Even if they were giving deserved feedback, I AM NOT their child. I am their teammate. Might be worth a note as to how to handle such situations?
The one thing I’ve learned, especially in toxic work environments, they alway proclaim. “We’re like a family.” I have a family, hearing this, I feel my brain cells shrink. It is so toxic to have to listen to these proclamations. Especially where I work. One day you’re a hero, and the next day, you’re a zero. I wish they wouldn’t say such things, unless they were true.
Anna Scottsdale Arizona is my new favorite place and get this for once im gonna stay awhile, living my best life endless possibilities. A bright New Day Begins. Thank you Anna for helping me refresh my outlook with delights at every details making to memorable. So infused with the Spirit of God. One Day i hope the Lord would bless me with a helpmate
“Blame”. This is where you can see how work culture is narcissistic. They have excuses lined up as to why they are not the problem. Luckily, I am one-deep in my job. I am the problem.
I got rejected from yet another job today I'm devastated. I spent the day trying to fight collapse. Over 200 applications since June. I've also been struggling to work my current job and am almost homeless. I feel like everything is wrong this year. I keep thinking about all the times I've failed myself and could be different if I was just different 😢
Sorry to hear that. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice (free course). Through processing fears and resentment we can change our lives. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
I really struggle with social anxiety and I wanted a little advice, I work and Do ju jitsu I get plenty of social interactions but that deep feeling of anxiety is still here, and i feel like im only showing people a little bit of me. What more can I do?
I hear you! I recommend The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, you can try it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
*Take my free Daily Practice course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
*Join my Membership and access my private online community: bit.ly/CCF-Membership
*Visit my website at crappychildhoodfairy.com
*Order my new book RE-REGULATED here: bit.ly/3XiLsj2
*Have a question for me to answer on TH-cam? Write me here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters
I honestly think that these longer vids of yours are some of the most generous gifts you provide to the world. I'm not kidding. We get more than 1 hour to sit and listen to you cover all kinds of crazy situations that we all face. It's so helpful cuz sometimes I think "Oh I've done that also" and wasn't even thinking of working on it. But now not only am I thinking about it but you're also providing help with that situation.
Thank you. I'm glad it's helpful!
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Thank you for the video. I struggle with CPTSD and I am early days in my career. I got fired from my graduate job and was told that I was too much trouble (which is a joke to tell a graduate who is just trying to learn).They were like my toxic family. I am glad that I did get fired because the next job I found my tribe. People treat me kindly, and I found my dream mentor. My career is brighter than I could have ever imagined it to be. So hang in there friends, things do get better but you also have to be better.
Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
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That’s so awesome! I love your positive attitude about your situation! I’m happy you found a good working environment! Congratulations 🤗🎉🙌🏽
Thank you, Anna. Great video and so, so accurate.
Very well put
You’re my self appointed mentor. Thank you. You’ve become part of my routine for resumed healing and to ultimately optimize my potential for success in relationship and creatively. I’d love to collaborate with you, meaning I send you writing for my book, concept of healing by use of sensory elements (nature, yoga, water, air, olfactory, lighting”….
And you mentor the process and become co-writer. Think about it. Compelling title. It’s about trauma and how to heal creatively through “relationship” with creativity. I weave the hard hitting impact of the trauma with the softening effect of elements.
For the record, most nurse aids in nursing homes (or many) are triggered and hostile all the time, and leading with anger.
I work with the rehab teams in these facilities and whoa! If people only knew.
Back to point. I’m going to write and meditate with intention being “book.”
What an amazing gift you have brought. These videos are the key that for many of us are unlocking our true selves and capabilities to thrive! I’m
Feeling pretty good right about now! If only I can DO this!!!!
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I’m so poorly with CPTSD now I’m in my 50’s my family no longer speak to me I have zero friends luckily I work from home due to not being able to leave home anymore my long term relationship has ended as he can’t stand being either me anymore just found your channel so hopefully can learn some ways to cope xx
In my 40's and same. You are so lucky to have a remote position. My work is forcing RTO and I'm a disregulated mess about it. It's not natural to us, but we have to work on building community.
Same. Remote work is needed here to add to the caregiving and home school ...I'm just so traumatized! Video was really needed!
This was right on time. Careers and relationships are where I struggle most. I remember coming across a video from this channel a couple of years ago and it mentioned parentifying managers. I was mortified when I realized that that's exactly what I was doing. I've gotten better since then thankfully.
This year I have asked for a promotion and am looking into certifications to increase my chances of getting better raises. I'm excited (and nervous) to see how things go.
Parentifying managers is a familiar behavior for me too I never realized. Any idea which video that was talked about? Good for you putting yourself out there!
Smiling when reading your comment. Really great job!
Nika@TeamFairy
@mindtag14 It could be this video: th-cam.com/video/vyTIxD9Lshk/w-d-xo.html
Nika@TeamFairy
@@mindtag14 Sorry I didn't see the notification for this comment. No, I don't remember the video now unfortunately 😕 It might have been in a compilation? I'm not entirely sure now.
Oh gosh, heavy on that, it's so easy to get triggered at work where things are always out of control, I began the Daily Practice with meditation, fingers crossed 🤞🏼
I hope you find it helpful! You can always come to a Daily Practice call if you have any questions :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You know CCFairy, what I love the most about your videos? It's when you laugh, and you laugh at yourself and you crack yourself up. I can totally believe you used to do comedy! It's just a real welcome break from the often heaviness of this topic, and it appears so authentic and spontaneous that you get a thought and crack yourself up and then realize you need to keep going. It makes you seem very relatable and human and decent - like genuinely good. Thank you for all these videos you put out. They've helped me (and I'm sure countless others who grew up in CC crcumstances sans Fairy) enormously. 🙏
I love how you talk about everything I struggle with but then again I get sad because I relate to every single thing. I'm not defeated, I'm always fighting for myself but damn... I'm exhausted. Thank you for your work, fairy❤ ily.
How I wish you'd been around when I was young, Anna. How I wish I'd heard these words then. ❤😢
I finally decided to leave a bad work situation. Enough abuse.
Good work!
Productivity is no problem for me, connecting with people, well that’s another story…
Hi! I was recently diagnosed with CPTSD and have been in therapy for almost three years now. It’s going well so far, with a lot of resistance and struggles, but I know that’s part of the process.
In my story, I’ve probably faced every major and moderate trauma. I practically have a checklist full of marks. I'm finally starting to accept that I went through hell and survived. As I mentioned, I’ve only recently learned I’m dealing with CPTSD, and my brother discovered this channel and sent it to me. So far, I’ve watched a couple of videos, and I just want to say thank you. You have an amazing channel, and most importantly, I feel heard and seen. I know I’m not alone.
So glad you are here! Say hello to your brother!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thanks to your encouragement and advice I am taking steps to take on more leadership roles at my work. I didn't think I was capable, but you and those in my life trust and believe in me so I decided to trust and believe in myself.
Wonderful! Good luck! :)
Nika@TeamFairy
Hi Anna, I hope you're well. I am 19 years old and the youngest of 7 children, I have struggled with CPTSD as well as my siblings for years without being aware. I would love to schedule a zoom call with you to talk one on one and share our challenges and techniques, I am just starting my healing journey and have no idea where to start!
Yeah I'm 50. I had a really bad episode at work on Sept 23rd with alot if swearing and inappropriate talk.its why I was looking online and found this channel, to feel less alone. honestly been so bummed and down on myself.i I always thought it would soften with age but it's almost worsening.
Been there, and know that you are not alone. Thankfully my episode resulted in getting better professional support and an internal reflection of the office culture. It developed into growth between myself and the management team to build integrity.
If I encounter conflict (or even fear there may be conflict) in the workplace, I often just quit. Any conflict is just so distressing to me; I start having panic attacks.
@@wakingthewitch457 wow!!!! That’s my exact reaction!! And then i pray to God to help me acclimate, or help to lead me to the right place or right person, to work in an environment that’s not hostile, and something I at least LIKE to do. People can be awful, especially in groups. And this is coming from someone who tries to think about others, show respect, and try to get along. The “mean girl” era is back in a major way. It’s so sad. We’ll find our way!!!
It never occurred to me why i hate making appointments. So triggering.
Awesome to hear Kanbam and Pomodoro techniques. You might enjoy the Kaizen concept of continuous improvement. Those tools you use are product of agile and lean methodology.
Always what I need to hear. Drilling common sense into my subconscious.
Thank you so so much for this video. You have no idea how this is really helping me right now, i have CPTSD and am currently studying to be a counsellor, right!! Yesterday, i walked out of my class because I felt that my lecturer has been treating me slightly differently from the rest of the class. He hadly respond's to my comments. I got so disregulated at one point and went home so upset, i couldn't stop thinking about the lecturer all week and every time i went into class my stomach would hurt so bad. I completely messed up my counselling practice because he came and sat in the session, my mind went blank. I thought being Counsellor as career would be good for me, to gain experience and learn how to manage my emotions. But the course has it's ups and downs were by i love the knowledge aspect of it but person centred counselling has really triggered me in such a way, i don't know if it's healthy for me to be doing .❤❤❤❤
Absolutely about telling people my pain. Its embarrassing. I enter and people are amazed. Theeennn they get to know me and i start talking. And then im viewed as the hot mess who starts high then slowly tank until the last 2 years anywhere i went, i mentally crack. Now im broken after a divorce from a narcissist and have no $. I dont know how im going to survive mentally.
We absolutely understand. Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD.
Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
Nika@TeamFairy
I am an overachiever who adapted by being a "perfect child." But sometimes I alienate people, but I am not ever sure exactly how or why. Sometimes I know: I tend to talk too much in seminar/group settings because that is kind of how I think. But other times, I am really baffled as to why I don't fit in and people dislike me.
Thank you for explaining deregulation, I have never felt so understood lol.
Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You are better therapist than this 1:10:00 one. This friend has nothing to do with border line patient. Bipolar people are not mean. They suffer in silence and don’t want to hurt others in purpose. This friend is not that kind. She reminds me of girl who always wanted to be the center of attention, to be loved and adored by other friends and do harm to the only one who is convinced they are best friends. Craps. I’m so glad she’s over it now. Victory 💪💪
Haha, THIS. Give me strength when things are suddenly confused, especially when it feels purposeful. It has taken a long time to lean out in the immediate and work through the confusion and frustration before I attempt to communicate. I feel so sad because I love doing excellent work and what I've learned in this current position is to just let it go and accept it as it is. It felt like dying the slowest death at first, but now, it's like a super power to just not care in those moments. The older I get, the more I'll accept it just because I'm learning to really love peace more than bringing order from chaos. 59:00 - oh my! Does a Level I Trauma ICU count for trauma/drama work environment? ;)
A set of questions:
About "dressing the part". I was a teen in the 1990s when making one's own clothes was considered "cool"...hello grunge era. My mom and I came up with really great looking pieces that I was able to pair with the store bought clothes. When I was 20 I scored a summer job in my field, but yikes when I told my supervisor that I was wearing a hand sewn outfit. Sure she was from a different generation, but sheesh we were in a company that supported ENTREPRENEURS! I dunno...maybe she was jealous because she will never be able to buy something similar? 😂
Regarding being late, what I've heard is the best thing to say is thank-you for your patience. It acknowledges the other person's time without making the whole of it "about you".
As for being overwhelmed, I play that to an edge, similar to you list, by creating training material based on the frustrations I have that arise from questions on the procedures that I need to do.
MANY thanks for saying "chronic diseases with no origin", as opposed to just chronic diseases. 🙏 That's so validating for those whose trauma came from an illness in the first place.
One thing that COMPLETELY frustrates me is how dating apps "critique" you if you set too restrictive boundaries on "lifestyles" associated with substance use. Just mentioning it gets me deregulated. 😅
It can be tough with parentifying your boss...there's be a few times when supervisors have stated that I remind them of their child. Even if they were giving deserved feedback, I AM NOT their child. I am their teammate. Might be worth a note as to how to handle such situations?
If you'd like to submit a letter for Anna to respond to on TH-cam, you can submit it here: bit.ly/CCF_Letters
Nika@TeamFairy
can you even win no matter what u do, how hard u try, what approach u take, what stance you make, all seems to have bad affect
The one thing I’ve learned, especially in toxic work environments, they alway proclaim. “We’re like a family.” I have a family, hearing this, I feel my brain cells shrink. It is so toxic to have to listen to these proclamations. Especially where I work. One day you’re a hero, and the next day, you’re a zero. I wish they wouldn’t say such things, unless they were true.
Thanks love this.
This sounds so much like me I feel like we’re living the same life story
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Anna Scottsdale Arizona is my new favorite place and get this for once im gonna stay awhile, living my best life
endless possibilities. A bright New Day Begins.
Thank you Anna for helping me refresh my outlook with delights at every details making to memorable.
So infused with the Spirit of God. One Day i hope the Lord would bless me with a helpmate
Interesting that you say you don’t have ADD, because you can focus, when hyper focus is a symptom.
KABAN for the win
Add a toxic work place environment where all rules are enforced, no exceptions, not even tiny accommodations. and it's a real hell hole.
“Blame”. This is where you can see how work culture is narcissistic. They have excuses lined up as to why they are not the problem. Luckily, I am one-deep in my job. I am the problem.
Great video -thanks.
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
I got rejected from yet another job today I'm devastated. I spent the day trying to fight collapse. Over 200 applications since June. I've also been struggling to work my current job and am almost homeless. I feel like everything is wrong this year. I keep thinking about all the times I've failed myself and could be different if I was just different 😢
Sorry to hear that. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice (free course). Through processing fears and resentment we can change our lives. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I really struggle with social anxiety and I wanted a little advice, I work and Do ju jitsu I get plenty of social interactions but that deep feeling of anxiety is still here, and i feel like im only showing people a little bit of me. What more can I do?
I hear you! I recommend The Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, you can try it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
How do i stop being an open book beyond what you say here?
I have the same! Then after feeling anxiety why ? I need so much to learn!!
Same here too 😣
Thank you for all you do ❤
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
If you say “one thing at a time” you will not be hired. “Multitasking” is expected, nay demanded.
LOL!!!! They all start with F.
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