10 Years On Testosterone - Life After Gender Transition Is Good!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 พ.ค. 2023
- I'm now 10 years on testosterone and life really does continue to get better after gender transition. In this video, I reflect on these last ten years and how life has changed for me, both internally and externally and on a physical and emotional level. I also address some of the misinformation about transgender people and gender-affirming health care and address some of the comments that have been directed at me, after my episode of Naked Education aired on Channel 4.
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Lovely video! I'm a trans girl and I see a lot of vis for my specific community, but I wanted to see more from trans men! Such a good perspective from someone who has more experience too! You're so wholesome
Ah what a lovely comment, hello!
I really love that you're so open about mental health and addiction. I'm cis, but discovered I had bipolar type 2, ADHD, and PTSD a little less than a decade ago and it was such a relief to finally have a _word_ for what I was feeling and realizing that I wasn't "crazy". I'm still recovering from alcoholism, but medications have been a real lifesaver for me. Too many people shy away from these topics because of the stigma surrounding them, and I'm glad you're in a place now that you can so freely and openly discuss how you were affected by these things and your journey to recovery.
Not sure if you’ll see this comment considering this video is a few months old, but I just wanted to let you know that how special it is that the trans community has someone like you who has recorded a decade of transitioning. I recently hit one year on T & a few months out from top surgery… I first found your videos when I was a teenager and your videos helped answer so many questions I had while I was discovering myself. Happy 10 years brother, I hope you are kind to yourself today.
Your comment means the absolute world to me, thank you so very very much! How wonderful that you found my content, and now here we are ten years later. It's always odd looking back at my old stuff, but comments like yours are exactly the reason why I leave up all my content, even the cringe worthy stuff! Knowing how much it's valued makes my day, thank you so much for commenting and letting me know
Congrats on 10 years!!! Im two weeks away from top surgery, never thought I'd get there, i was convinced that it was the sort of thing that happened to other people, not me. Been a rollercoaster but i cant wait!
Thank you! And congrats to you too! How amazing! The wait is so very very painful, but then suddenly, its over, and the day is almost here! I hope you have everything ready and prepared for recovery? I have some info blogs over on my website if its helpful? Wishing you all the best of luck! finlaygames.com/?s=top+surgery
I just found your channel and you seem like a really sweet person. As a baby trans I'm happy I found your channel, because I really like see trans people who are older and further on their transition than me. I like imagine I can be 10+ years on t and be happy even though things get hard
Thank you for your really sweet comments. Hi and welcome to the FinnFam! Im so glad to give you a view to the future. Life is by its nature tough at times, but, when you get to be who you truly are, tough times are actually OK! Sending love
Finn! My gosh man. I just adore you. There is so much valuable information in this video. You are such an incredible human being.
I do think for me and my BFF, the amount of surgical trauma (infections/complications/amount of anesthesia) has effected my physical health. I can't lie. I feel, as does Amy, that Phallo aged me 10 yrs. My body has been broken down.
However, your life and the trauma definitely lead to your battle with this horrid illness.
It gives me so much happiness to see you living your life so fully (as you can ) with a man you couldn't dream up any better and he is real, this blessing of a puppy to make you a dad and so much more.
I love you so much my dear friend. I am so happy to call you friend.
Thank you for all these videos. I'm 34 and just now starting HRT with testosterone and was nervous that I was too chronologically late to experience any changes at this point. Your videos have helped give me more hope for the future. im thankful you share your experiences and thoughts with the public so those of us beginning transition can feel more at peace as well.
I’m so happy for you! Glad you get to be yourself and happy in your body :)
Thank you so very much for your kind words!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It helps me so much and comforts me just hearing you talk in general but also about your experience as a trans man, because I am a trans man as well and it just gives me so much hope to hear that it can and probably will get better! Thank you!! ❤
It definitely does get better my friend. Its a tough journey, coming out, finding our way, managing the waiting times, dealing with an often transphobic world, but the more confident we become in ourselves, the easier it get and the more we settle into the authentic being of who we are the more wonderful it gets! Hang in there! Much love
Congratulations 🎉 ❤ just found your first video, then this one. What’s. Cool change to see! You’re wonderful. Bless your heart. ❤ thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing such information with us.
There will always be haters and people who don't understand the universe is bigger than their minds. For everything that exists, there is something that opposes it. The world is full of people who don't understand life experience is just not the same for everyone and they don't get to decide for others. They hate when other people are enjoying life, that we really are who we are, that we're winners in this experience, living our authentic lives the way we want it. So they will try and try to destroy what they don't understand. They just can't do any better because they don't know any better and they don't have it in their hearts to at least mind their own business. It's a matter of evolution, not everyone has the wisdom to see a bigger perspective. The best thing is to ignore these minds who can't get out of their own limits. Continue to enjoy who you are and your life! Having a new life is the best thing! Enjoy it and celebrate! The truth is more powerful than lies. This new life is better and that's that.
Ignore the haters. They do not listen because they are trying to convince themselves that they are right to hate everyone.
Bless you. This is very true
This is amazing to see. Glad I came across your channel. I've been having issues finding older trans men content creators. Mind you I've only been looking for like a week now. so many years of depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. Just coming out to a few people I've never been so happy. I cannot wait to start T.
I don't even care what haters think. They are just wasting their time and energy being mad at people who have 0 effect on their actual lives. What a sad way to live lol.
Man, you seem as sad as a kid on Christmas day! :D
I really did tear up at the story with the camping chairs. I'm AMAB, transfeminine non-binary who recently started caring after themselves more after being more and more open about it. I'm expecting to get start with a smaller dosage of estrogen in the foreseeable future (it's a bit hard where I live, but it's doable), not crazy first and we'll see, but I'm already starting to feel like a new person. I wasted so much time not expressing who I was, and I can't wait for what's to come.
Thank you for sharing your journey to give others hope and the confidence to decide for themselves. Congratulations! You’re a lovely man. And very articulate…❤
What a lovely comment to find this morning, thank you so very much!
Congrats on 10 years, Finn! I found your channel just before you got top surgery and I was only beginning to realise I was trans, and I celebrated 5 years on T on the 1st of the month. I don’t really ever comment on TH-cam videos but just wanted to say thanks for sharing with us for the past decade, as it really helped me in my own journey!
Iam on t replacement therapy for about 3or 3.5 yrs and it saved me...when I was diagnosed I had dangerously low t....low t was effecting other harmones for example....my ths (thyroid)was 10 bc of that and too many other problems but now other harmones are balanced , I do blood work evey 3rd month and yea everything quite normal...
Though I am CIS male, I have been on Testosterone (Replacement) Therapy as I went through Andropause at the age of 45. i can speak first hand on the profound impact on my psyche and physical happiness. Symptoms while not therapy... depression gains a solid grip, complete lack of engergy, libido, ache and pains simply melt away on hormone therapy. What bothers me is my primary care physician did not even believe this was a thing, "you're just getting old" WHAT? I was 45, now 55. They were more than happy to prescribe anti depressents and other drugs that did not address the simple core issue of hormones which let us feel as ourselves. I can only imagine what it has meant to you.
I have been following for quite some time, I cannot even quite which stop I got onboard the Finn train at this point. But share in your happiness that you found yourself and are making the most of life!!!
Big Hugs!! Happy Spring from Boston, MA, USA.
Woohooooo!!!! Congrats Finn! May I ask how old you were when you started testosterone? I’m 39 and I just started 4 weeks ago. I’m scared that I won’t have changes because I’m too old. Even though I have noticed things already. It’s probably in my head.
Ah thank you! I was 39 when I started testosterone, so the same age as you! And whilst I understand the fear, its absolutely not needed. You will indeed change, you are not too old at all. Testosterone will put you through a male puberty, no matter if you are 18 or 68! And I have seen people transition at 68!
Now you might change slowly, or quickly, so please, do not compare yourself to others. That is where the danger comes in. Like with cis males, we trans males go through puberty at different rates too. Some of us find our voices change super quick, some of us find it takes time. Some of us get a beard in a year, some of us take time, and some of us can never grow more than a whisp, and that's more down to family genetics, also like with cis men.
The key thing to remember, is that testosterone will change you, in its own time, and that you will grown into your own version of male. Let that happen, don't rush it, enjoy every second because you have waited long enough for this! One day soon you'll be looking back and wondering where the time has gone, then you'll be glad you dint wish it away fast! Savour every moment of this glorious ride!
I have a blog post containing my entire gender transition road map which might be helpful for you to know what to expect. All the very best of luck!
finlaygames.com/gender-transition-journey-roadmap/
Thanks so much for the reply, you’re so right! I do not want to rush it, I’m so grateful and happy to finally be here,and every week I feel more and more changing, it’s tough sometimes to remember that this takes time and patience and I’m only 6 weeks in. I have noticed quite a bit of hair growth within the last couple weeks which is helping a lot and giving me more hope that I will get all that eventually. I got the most wonderful phone call on Friday for my top surgery consultation. This has all happened so quickly so far and I think I’m just getting ahead of myself with wanting changes to happen more quickly. Thanks for the feedback, I really appreciate it. 😊
Hey Finn. I wanted to say thanks for all you do and for being so open about your journey. Mine has been a long one - I started T almost 16 years ago in 2007, but I'm currently lying in the hospital recovering from stage one phallo. My surgeon here in the US is the only one here who does a full thickness graft from the buttocks, as he trained with the UK team. I bought your book and have been reading it while in recovery, and it's been such a source of comfort and information. Thank you again ❤
Will you post your story to r/phallo? This is a novel technique so not lots on it there.
Very true. I'd be happy to post there and answer any questions. When I get home next week I'll write something up about my experience so far.
@@wonderboyjohnny thank you. That's very generous of you. Education & info is desperately needed on this. Including patient experience and doctor reviews. Too many predatory doctors doing sloppy work for quick $$$
This was so beautiful. Listening to you talk gives me so much hope for my life, recovery and transition. Your so real and honest, thank you!
What is your trt dose? Thanks for the informative video!
What are the long term risks of life long testosterone and how does it balance out with all of the estrogen ??? And what about menopause? Do you take estrogen blockers or does the testosterone cancel out the estrogen? Confused
The testosterone cancels out the estrogen, and basically puts you through menopause. Long terms risks to watch out for are "sticky bloody" where the blood can clot too easily. We have blood tests regularly to check our levels and check everything is ok. Long terms benefits speak for themselves!
You have great personality!! I wish you only good things in your life!
oh I have just realized that I also missed mine. It was the 17th of July.. and I also would not have survived withoutvit.. because I was so extremely depressed that I would have taken my life.
I love you, Finn. You have given me so much hope and I have learned so much from your videos over the years. Today's video was a little painful to watch - I want to support you by saying that, as far as I'm concerned, you really do not need to justify yourself to the trolls. In my experience, it's just a waste of energy to try to respond to them. Their whole purpose is to try to suck the life out of everything. Don't take the bait! Or, put another way, don't cast your pearls before swine. We need those pearls ourselves! Lol Anyway, just keep being your awesome self. Don't read the comments! ❤
Bless your heart, thank you 💕. Most of the time I don't, but the trouble is, many people a falling for these lies and it's doing a ton of damage to not just me, but to every trans person.
I got my first shot on May 1st! I know it's "just psychological" so far, or placebo effect or whatever, but all day Monday, before and after the shot every day so far, life feels simpler, everything makes sense, and I am happier than I think I have ever been! Thank you for being such a big part of my support system. I've been watching your videos for years, "to be a better ally" to my trans friends! 😂 I just realized in February of this year that I was actually a transmasculine gay man!!! LOL I'm 66 years old. Life is full of surprises! 😂😂😂
Hello Fabulous Fin and Pip the poodle puppy! 😁🥰
I quit twitter too, I got sick of the bullpoop. There wasn't anything I was keeping track of, and forgetting I even had it anyways. I like TH-cam and I'll have to look you up on the other platforms... I just found out a few weeks ago that Instagram has videos... lol 🤪 ( I'm in my mid 40's and still learning technology)
OH good laugh! I read the date you put up as October 4th 😅 Happy "Revenge of the Fifth"!
Happy 10 years Finn 🥳🎉
Sounds like that person didn't know how to read body language very well. I'm sorry there's so many people out there like that. I'm glad you're still here and can share your story, your videos always brighten my day! 💖
For those people out there who thing ME/CFS is from transition, I send them an eye roll of shame! I don't know why some people have to connect dots that aren't even theirs to connect, let alone not even realize what's really going on. I admit I'm guilty of that too, but at least when I get set right, I apologize!
Good point, transition isn't to blame for ailments for sure. I have my doctors jumping right away to T being the reason for my issues, and it's not. Some things were going on way before I did anything trans related, they just didn't have anything to point fingers at besides drinking and smoking. Now if I tell doctors about it they get in a huff and don't want to listen to me. It's maddening!
This was all so well said that I got teary eyed. You're extraordinary, you've touched the lives of so many people and helped me/us in ways I can't even explain. Just knowing there's someone else who went through transition later in life like I did makes me not feel so alone. ❤🩹
I was watching the news here and wondering about the coronation over there, honestly thought about you both! No bank holiday weekend here in the states, but it's starting to thaw out in the north where I am and fishing season is starting in Wisconsin (one state east of me). The other news from here is the writers guild is on strike so no new TV/late night shows until they finally pay people a livable wage instead of ripping them off and only paying them per story. I hope they all get a good outcome for their strike, they deserve better than what they've been getting!
Now you've had a mini-novel from me in your comments again, once you're finished with this chapter you can take a nap lol!
Love you Finn! Thank you so much for sticking around and enriching my life. You're appreciated and always love to see you on my screen!
Ah hello lovely man! Now you have got me teary eyed! What a bloody lovely comment, to know I enrich your life, what a gift that is. Thank you as always for your lovely lovely and very kind comments
As you can see I am a little behind with comments! Its all be a bit full on since Naked Education aired. Im trying to come to terms with the fact that this s my life now, that I will be out of action for a week at a time on occassion, and I need to be OK with that and to stop trying to play catch up and apologise for it! Working with that is not easy though...Im still figuring out a way!
I feel so much better for leaving Twiter and I do not miss it one bit! There is nastiness elsewhere....as I mentioned in this video, but its easier to manage and block than on Twitter. People will always bend what folks say, and I could drive myself silly defnding myself , and I wont, but on this topic, I had to say something because it comes up all too often in the comments of my videos and Im tired of it!
Even if my transition did directly cause my ME, i wouldnt change a thing as my quality of life now is still a million times beer than t was pre transition, even with ME! To be frank, if I hadnt ransitioed, Id be dead....so Id say Im a lot beyyer off even with ME!
Life with a chronic illness and a disability s tough, but anything could have caused it, it can happen to anyone, and you just have to get on with it as best as you can dont you? I have a bloody amazing life, a wonderful partner, a fluffy child, a life full of adventure and possibility, so you know, Its actually all good!
As for our corination, our campsite we stayed in had flags up. They gave us a crown each and we watched it on the laptop, that was as much as we celebrated!!
Love you buddy!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Hello! That's OK about being behind on comments, I know how that goes! I didn't even remember to check comments on my other channel before it got deleted 🤔🤦
I agree about if anything was caused by transition, I feel much better in my skin now that it's more like it should be! 👍
I hate having chronic health issues, but I've also learned that it humbles me and I also have to learn to slow down, and not beat myself up when I crash and can't get anything done! It's a hard thing to learn.
I'm so happy things worked out for all of us, including Pip, both of them 😁 for you! Now if only I could find a cool guy like you did, I'd be all set! *Hi Chris! 😄
Congratulations on your 10th anniversary and May the 4th be with you.
Thank you! And with you!
Hi Finn, congratulations on your 10 years ! I really appreciate your honesty and authenticity , your humour and your openess in general. I have literally been able to go back through all your videos and watch your journey. Having watched them all and made my own judgements I can definately see how annoying it is to be misrepresented in that way.
At the risk of sounding too cliched it is true to say that no issue is either black or white. I came to your videos because I watch this person’s channel and some of what they say I agree with ( please don’t ban me before I carry on ) I always like to research further when I watch or read something and that is why I was thankful that I could sort of get to know you because of the extensive number of videos.
Don’t assume that everyone that watches a certain channel or another is “part of a hate band “ that they don’t watch other channels with different viewpoints also , or that everyone who watches anyone one channel has exactly the same views on exactly the same things. I do support some of what this presenter says ( Can go into that in more detail if you want) Why I wanted to watch your channel ( which then led me to watch many others) was reading the comments made by some people about you “looking like you were crying “ on the show.. I don’t like to take others word for it on no evidence ; and so your wealth of content really helped me shape my viewpoint in this particular case. And that is, that you are a great guy and you and your partner are just so lovely to watch as well.
The trans issue is so wide ranging with so many strands. There is not one “type” of trans person. Trans isn’t like it was when Stephen
Whittle started up his Press for Change organisation forty years or so. I was listening to a talk he gave a few months ago on You tube .He’s a jolly chap who has really had to fight hard to get any sorts of rights for trans people. I admire him immensely and also his wife who is cis female not caring about any slights on her own character or misrepresentation of her own sexuality has stuck by him through thick and thin and they have had four children together by artificial insemination.
He was asked about the current climate regarding trans. I think he gave what to me is a partial answer. I agree with him that the “toilet issue” has been blown out of all proportion and that as he said if a man is set on attacking a women by creeping into her space all he has to do is to put on a workman’s uniform and carry some tools, and he could get in most anywhere. I also agree with him that there is a trend for young females worried about their developing bodies and how they are perceived and treated by males that can give rise to them trying to escape all of this and thinking if they were male it would maybe be better. “How can a man predate on you if you are one" is something that goes through their minds. This is even more likely to occur is they have actually been sexually abused. As in the idea that “It wouldn’t happen to me if I was male “. For me this is not a valid reason for allowing someone to transition and this is one reason why blindly allowing people to transition after a 15 minute interview is in my mind totally unacceptable. If we could be sure that all young people presenting had clinically valid reasons to transition then fine, but so many of them are stuck in all sort of mental health problems that don’t get better when they transition. They often feel totally ruined by the changes they have made to their bodies. There is also a very high prevalence of autistic teenagers doing this. Whilst for some it 100% is the right choice, for others it definately isn't and it is such an important issue that to merely "affirm" and rush it through like they are now doing in Canada and US is crazy in my opinion .
This is a much much much broader issue with so many different aspects to it. But for now I'll just send you hugs and well done you. It's lovely to see you a Happy guy and living your lifr from a Happy Place. You deserve it X
I genuinely don't know who this other youtuber is and I don't care. even if your silly theory is correct, it's not your presumption to make, because you don't live this life. mind your own business and we'll mind ours. you're telling a bunch of people that you are labeling as women that their feelings and experiences are invalid because you think you personally need to approve of it. hmm, tale as old as time. leave us alone. we don't care about cis people's opinions of us, especially cis men.
Lots of autistic people are transgender, and there is a lot of data to show that is the case. They aren't being misled, as you seem to think. In fact, there have been studies shown which suggest that autistic people are less susceptible to peer pressure than neurotypical people. They often have a better sense of who they are because they care less about societal expectations of who they 'should' be.
I was never on alcohol or on drugs. I must admit that I can cope very very well with my dysphoria. Yes I have gender dysphoria and I have height dysphoria. For the height dysphoria is no solution unfortunately. But for the gender dysphoria there is. I had my mastectomy years ago and despite the big scars, I am still very happy with my mastectomy. No regrets at all. But I am still in doubt if I want to go on testosterone yes or no. Concerning the testosterone I see pro's and con's. And although I can handle my dysphoria very well, I must admit that it has a big influence on my relationships with people. Socially it is a big difference if people see you as a man or as a woman. Especially because I came to the realisation that I am a gay man inside. If I was still living my life as a lesbian, like I did in the past, it was easier to cope socially with my dysphoria I think.
Finn, thanks for this. I truly appreciate you sharing your personal journey and your library going back to your early days - it is very valuable. I want to ask you a tough question: You started your journey at a very mature age, are you comfortable being the inspiration for younger adolescences that elect to seek a transgender path? I am talking about adolescents that decide they don't want to be a women before they actually understand what being a women is. You knew. I notice on some videos you provide a content warning upfront. Your story is compelling and inspiring, is it fair to ask that you emphasize that it is YOUR story and anyone thinking this might be for them should seek proper counselling and genuinely explore their motivation. Today I saw the story of Kayleigh Scott, a very prominent transgender voice, that took her own life. She joins Henry Berg-Brousseau, Yaeli Martinez and a long list of others that have done the same. A Swedish study suggests medical transitioners are 19X more likely to commit suicide relative to a control group. Fortunately there is a growing number of individuals that have chosen the alternative path and detransition. Is there more you can do to help reduce the errors.
Happy 10 years finn! You picked a great day to post this, tories have been absolutely decimated in the election 😂
Wooohoooo!
Where can I find the show? I live in Sweden
Hi my friend. Unfortunately channel 4 currently are only making it available here..but, there is a TH-cam channel which has it listed and that works in most countries. I have the link inside this blog
finlaygames.com/appearing-in-ch4s-naked-education-discussing-phalloplasty/
I love this for you. I'm glad you're happy. A simple but happy life is all we deserve. Well done!
Isnt it just! Thank you very much for this kind comment!
Great video. Congrats on 10 years on Testosterone! I'm only six months on T and like many others had to go down the private route for testosterone and top surgery, which i am having in August. How long did you have to wait to get bottom surgery? I'm sure you're all to aware of the waiting lists now. I haven't even had an appointment with the gender clinic. I'm 27, nearly 28 and worry that i'll never get to have bottom surgery.
My first shot was 10/21/22. Can't wait for my 10yr 🎉🎉🎉. Congrats and thx for being out here for ppl such as myself. Rewatch your videos all the time.
Ah thanks my friend! And don't wish the time away, enjoy every second because it really does go so fast I'm retrospect!
Is it 10 years straight each week and months?
What do you mean? I starting taking testosterone 10 years ago
@@FinnTheInfinncible like did u stop and then continue later or u just continue taking every month for 10 years
@@Adumah77 I've taken it continuously
You're a smart dude.
Thank you very much for that kind comment, and for watching!
Finn you are the living proof that transitioning is life saving , keep being super Finn and 🤬ck the haters ❤
Ah Deb you are such a star thank you 💕
And what about the many who are no longer living proof?
Hey finn, absolutely love love you and ur content. You are the most amazing man ❤❤
Hello lovely Em! I absolutely love you! Thank you for always being so kind 🙏
I am very sad, because I am a poor person, and the operations are very expensive, so I will not be able to treat myself, because money is really everything, as they say 💔
Wow Fin! You look so great! 10 years omg, amazing. Congratulation wonderful man!! Thanks for sharing, you really are an inspiration to me and I'm sure many others.
- To those that assume they know how Fin feels beyond what he says and think he's secretly unhappy... it's time to consider that you're projecting. Whatever unhappiness you think you observe is filtered through your own perception anyway and from where I'm standing, unhappy is definitely not a word I'd use to describe Fin. *The call is coming from inside the house.....
Big love to you Fin! ❤🌈
Love love love that saying! Thank you so.much my friend that's such a lovely comment! Made me smile!
I recommend your videos along with Jami Dodger to every newly out trans man I know. You documenting your journey helped me see what might be possible for me.
It helped me immensely. Be comfortable in my skin, feel more informed about what might happen, and feel less alone.
I’ve been on T since October 2022. So much about my body has changed. I feel so much more resilient mentally. I no longer feel like I’m fighting myself constantly, and that frees up mental space and time for others.
So thank you for documenting your journey. It has meant a lot to me and helped me educate my mother and help other young trans men who didn’t have anyone to talk to.
Huge congratulations for your 10th T-niversary, dear brother! I'm so, so happy for you and as always, amazed at your incredibly thoughtful and articulate words. You're a very wise soul, and many people never get to the realisation of what a 'good' life is. I'm really sorry idiots still try to poison your joy - they are sad little people and probably in a lot of pain themselves. Your grace when dealing with that nastiness is something that really amazes me - the GCs could learn so much from you if they'd only stop shrieking and *listen*. Love you as always xx
I am sincerely glad you are happy, Finn. I have followed your blog for years and find you sincere, honest, likeable and very humble. I am very happy to see how much you have overcome.
I follow several bloggers with different points of views and "detransitioners" are becoming a very serious concern. Not everyone expresses happiness and some stories of regret tug at your heart. They are not reversible. This is why some people who you refer to feel strongly against transitioning. It is not for everyone, so it is an area that should be crossed with caution.
There is a difference between feeling strongly concerned about transition and being malicious, which the person we are refering to is. To purposely misgender someone is cruel, to spread lies about someone is cruel, and this encourages others to do the same. This is not a discussion, thisbis bullying and harrassment.
@@FinnTheInfinncible I do not support anyone bullying a human being like you, always outpouring compassion and a willingness to help others.
I love this video :) you look so happy
When you say the facts are right here, I would please caution you as its obvious you are a very sweet and sincere person, but you have little to no understanding of the human endocrine system. it's an established fact that the use of androgen's alone has an incredible impact on mental health meaning what you are attributing to going through transitional surgery might have little to do with the better mental health. the outcome may have coequally been the same without surgery.
Whilst I am no expert on the human endocrine system, I am an expert on my own lived experience. I know how its felt for 40 years to live inside my body , to feel uncomfortable, distressed and unhappy, and this isn't just about an emotional state, its about physically interacting with the world too. Now I have a body that I feel at ease with, I can navigate relationships and the world with far more ease too. I know how it felt to be close physically to someone, to be hugged, before surgery, compare to how it feels now. My completely changed self esteem, confidence, sexuality, sensuality, knowledge of myself, embodied self, etc, all of these make up my improved mental health and whilst of course other things have helped with this, the vast majority of this comes from now having a body that reflects my true gender and helps me to be seen and treated as the man I have always known myself to be
I am only concerned with the use of exogenous testosterone or similar androgens and the perfectly beautiful effect they have on mental health I still maintain they had more of an effect than you give credit for when it comes to all the changes you have experienced but yes i agree having changes made that you have had to deal with for years would also bring a sense of self-esteem @@FinnTheInfinncible
Well said Finn!
Thanks lovely!
I find every day getting harder and harder. It’s so easy to ask why do I keep trying or fighting. I live in the IS and that all on its own should say enough. But it does get worse. I live in Texas. I also have very few friends left because when you tell your “friends” your deepest secret many decide they are too religious or too conservative or both and they then go around telling everyone they know what you told them in private with the promise to never tell anyone else. So I have had to close my circle off and make it smaller. My daughter is fearful I will do something to hurt myself but I can’t do that. I have a grandson that looks up to me. He tells everyone I’m the boss and they have to listen to me. He needs me so I’m not going anywhere. But the desire can be strong. I’m getting tired of fighting. It’s not like I will every be able to surgically transition. And unless things change in this country insurance won’t ever cover it. There’s just too many negative things in this world. Too many negative and bad.
Sending you much love. I really hope you can find IRL support or find friends and connections in the wider online community x
Don't give up on yourself! You are worth the struggle! Move to Washington State! Lots of support here! ❤❤❤
please please please leave texas. you will never be able to transition there.
Your intro alone i was there. Enough said own hand. I'm trans feminine and I'm here cos I came out. Sorry sounding dark. Love to my brothers and sisters xxxxxx
Not dark at all , I completely understand and I agree. I wouldnt be here today had I not transitioned, I am sure of that. Im glad you are here, I am glad we both are!
Hey, I'm sorry that you felt like you needed to leave Twitter, but I don't blame you at all. It's become incredibly toxic, and while I'm still on (blocking dozens of transphobes a day, no exaggeration), I'm not sure how long I'll be able to say that.
I saw your episode of Naked Education, and it was actually more moving than I expected it to be. It's so rare to see trans people represented in that kind of context at all, and I thought it was handled really sensitively within the episode, and I just give you so much credit for being willing to make yourself vulnerable in that way to help out other trans people. People giving you shit about it are just shitty, bigoted people, all of whom seem utterly miserable when I look at their social media profiles. You don't owe them a damn thing.
Anyway, as someone seriously considering phallo in the future, as someone who started T four days ago(!) at the ripe old age of 40, and as someone who just finished reading your book yesterday, you've done so much for the community and to educate cis people about the trans experience. So thank you again for that, and congrats on ten years! You've had more of a positive influence on other people than any of these miserable "GC" types ever will.
Congratulations 🎉
Thank you!
Hi Finn. Thank you for just being who you are. I’ve finally had my first T shot on may 12th. Excited to see the real me emerge. Hi to Chris too. ❤️🏳️⚧️❤️
Anyone who knows you or has followed your journey knows you're happier, you can tell just watching old vids to the newer ones can see the happiness in your eyes and smile as your transition has gone on. People will hate on trans people for any reason....
You are beautiful, Finn. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. xxx
Bless your heart, thank you
Thank you Finn! I saw someone on tiktok comment on a video of a trans man, and they said “I’ve never met a trans person with silver hair, I didn’t know we’d get to grow old,” and that hit me. There are young all comparing their transitions and stories together, but many of us do not have someone to look up to, someone to show us it can be okay… so again, thank you!
Oh buddy! That got me all emotional. Yes! This is exactly why representation matters. We all need to see that its possible to come out, transition, and just get on with life, including getting old, grey, balding etc!
Huge congratulations for ten years on T, sweetheart! That's a massively awesome milestone! You look fantastic! And I'm glad that you found this medical treatment to help heal and balance out gender dysphoria and enhance the quality of your place in the world and the fun and adventures you want to have. Anyone who loves you will always want the best for you 💜
The gender critical person who you refer to is really unbalanced. She's a detransitioner who's got issues. And her followers don't display independent thinking and they don't investigate or cross reference anything to help improve their own understanding. They seem to be happy to be lead by this unempowered person who sadly exploits transgender people in order to make money on her various platforms from it, and feed her own ego with all the misled praise she gets. She took everything out of context from the show Naked Education in order frame the wrong information she was talking about. What a circus she's got going on over there. It's good we know that they aren't our monkeys to have to deal with. I'm sorry that people feel the need to be this way.
Why on earth would the NHS approve gender confirmation treatment? It's because they see that gender dysphoria is a real medical condition that requires the necessary treatment.
I really love you, and I'm glad you are here, and that you get to explore all the good things in life. And thank you for making my life better just by being You. I'm really grateful for our gift of friendship 💝
Hello again Finn! I have to apologize - when I posted earlier I had only watched the very beginning of the video. Now, having watched the whole thing, I really love that you spoke up against the "gender critical" voices out there. Because after that, you were done with answering them, and admitted that you "really can't win" - unfortunately I have experienced that over and over again - there are people who will take anything you say and twist it around and use it against you. I want to wish you a very happy 10 years on T anniversary! ❤️ I am also in recovery and have been sober for many years, and I've just started T. As you know, a lot of people in recovery share about how they never felt like they fit in. Well, I felt that way too, but getting sober didn't fix that for me the way it seemed to for a lot of other people. Years of sobriety and I still felt like there was something wrong with me, I still felt different. I now believe it was unrecognized gender dysphoria. I have been, as I mentioned before, absolutely euphoric since I finally realized what was really going on and began to transition socially and then just starting T. I am so grateful to you and so many others who are my trans elders and trailblazers, for being yourselves and being out and visible so that I could eventually find you and come home to my real and authentic and joyful self. ❤️ Have a great weekend! I'm delighted you're just going to get out of town and enjoy your "happy and ordinary life"! ❤️❤️❤️
Happy 😁 nice 💓🤟
Thank you!
If you know of a young trans woman named Jazz Jennings, the US media distorted her story severely and tv hosts even wished death upon her mother, over lies. Her simply expressing that she wished there wasn’t some bizarre stigma against lgbtq people was turned into she hates her body, her transition, her parents, etc. I’m very sorry anyone has to deal with this. They ask for your story then decide how to tell it to suit their own narrative.
I believe it’s because she said she never felt like herself, ever, on an episode.
@@tita7308 she made a series on her socials and showed each talking point from various people and debunked it all, it was hard to watch… I wish people would let trans people just be happy. Healthy. 😔
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lts like when things happen to trans people, its more prominent in a negative way because we aren't people. l'd love to know what exactly the trans-critical people think we are??? LOL.... or maybe not....
Anyhow.... HUGE congrats for ten years on T my friend!!! May you have MANy MANy more years to come with your Furr Furr and Pip.
The twats on twitter can take a hike. lm not on Twitter and now lm glad. lol.
Stay safe, stay sane and stay in love 🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳⚧🏳🌈
Exactly this my friend. They are just looking for anything to point out. You cut your finger.......oh my goodness Transgender skin is so much more likely to get cut when preparing food items...avoid transition at all costs! It really is that ridiculous. It's fear, that's what it is, fear turned into moral.panic. we've seen it many times in many forms, with the civil rights movement, with the LGBTQ+. rights movey, and now with trans rights. It's when percieved norms change and people begin to fear what this might mean for society and thisnthen spreads and gets twisted out of control into moral panic. The world didn't implode when black people started sitting at the front of the bus, neither did it when same sex marriage began legal, and it won't when trans people are given the right to access timely gender affirming medical care and legally change their gender.
Ps.....thanks for the congrats my friend! Went on another mini rant there 🤣🤪
What do you want to be a man for ?!! I love femininity.
I don't want to be a man, I am a man. And men can be feminine anyway!
@FinnTheInfinncible if you're a man then why the surgery? If you're happy why the effexor?
@@deonnaann3 the surgery was to match my body with my gender identity. It's difficult to be a man when you have breasts! And years of gender dysphoria, coping with a world that doesn't accept trans people, is hard and doesn't go away over night. For this reason I still struggle with my mental health. I talk about this in lots of my videos if you want more information
It can be hard to educate people