It takes physical and mental effort to climb a mountain. It’s worth it so don’t give up friends. Stay connected to channels like this. Andrew is a gift.💙
The hardest thing for me to learn was, with a narcissist, there is no hope. Hope is so ingrained in me that hearing that a relationship with the narc is unattainable is unfathomable. Before I gained wisdom, I believed that ending a relationship with them was "quitting"... something I was told I should never do. It's mind boggling that you have to reconcile with this unfortunate truth...and you are right Andrew, it is bizzarro world. I watch these videos to etch a permanent truth in my mind, and to reinforce what I've learned so far.
I SO understand this statement. Spent 25 years trying to overcome the unattainable. Very sad but it was never gonna be what I wanted it to be. It was a dream that turned into a nightmare. Now . . . I am starting to dream again❣️
It will be 1 year in May! He still texts, Calls, drives bye, but I am never home for him! Thank you for your help it means the world to me, I thought I was crazy for the longest time. I'm free......Have a Great Week!
When you plan to get out of a relationship that is not positive and not healthy you are actually already suffering..... so, plan to get out as soon as possible to live the only life you have.
Today I did a hike on top of a 🗻 mountain. I saw your notification I'm like wow ironic timing. My journey and I'm healing. I still have more healing to do. Hugs prayers to everyone that's reading this. I feel your pain
It's been 7 months. My therapist suggested last week that I let go now and focus on other parts of my life. She admitted all my "online therapy"- as she calls it - helped me tremendously, but surely I must be done with said topic now. I am not. I am realising that I am changing as a person. So much is shifting. Now that I have learned so much about my husband, I have learnt equally as much about myself, and I don't WANT to stop! This isn't the summit. And like you put it, Andrew: I'm on my healing journey, and that's a great thing. I don't have to rush through it, put a check mark there, and move on. I love who I am becoming, and I am so grateful for this channel and the daily support! All my love to you,Andrew & the community! ♥
I think you and I are probably at a similar stage on our mountain. The relationship finally ended around the same time. It came to me that at some point soon, I would need to let go of these 'online therapy' sessions, as you do have to just let go. What I mean by that is I think we will reach a stage, relatively quickly actually, where we should have learned all we need to know, have accepted the facts of the situation (they didnt love you and never will) and realise we need to not waste any more TIME and ENERGY on these people, that there is a whole lot of life out there just waiting for us to enjoy. By hanging on to the past, reflecting on it for years afterwards is being stuck in the narcissistic relationship still, in my mind, as if you were still in the relationship, which is super unhealthy.
theSeekeroftruth1 I don't think we are at a similar stage. Some time ago, that's how I felt about it all - the focus was still, like you describe, the narcissist (!) and letting go of those emotions related to the relationship. Ruminating. Mourning what should have been. Trying to move on. By now, I've realised that was just the beginning. That's the point I was making initially. Many people don't get that this journey is not only one of trying to come to terms with what the narcissist did, one of sadness and grieving, and then it ends. But it's a journey of self-love and self-discovery. It's about, as @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone puts it, "becoming the third version of yourself". Learning, growing, evolving - focusing on ourselves, and the life we want to lead. The relationship with the narcissist was arguably the hardest thing a person could ever go through, but also a great gift. That's how I see it now. And I love to read so many lovely comments of people who feel the same. xxx
"Galvanized" - I really like that metaphor Andrew. Into week 7 now and it is still slow going, but if this will inevitably save me from going through it again, then it is time well spent. Why the nicest, empathetic people have to go through this is beyond me... Thanks as always. God Bless
ANDREW!!! PLEASE READ!!! This is alarming. Someone joined youtube TODAY and is asking me to speak to them and has used your avatar showing a WhatsApp Number. Concerning....
I've been climbing since I ended another Narcissistic relationship in 2017. It's so hard to find good authentic people. I was made to believe that I wasnt good enough for anyone good. I've been alone since 2017. Although I enjoy living alone, it gets so very lonely. And it's even more difficult to trust people. I have good and bad days like everyone else. But it would be nice to have someone to hug me from time to time. Especially during the hard days. I will be 59 years old in March. And I feel like I am too old for an unconditional loving relationship. It's easy for me to love and help people. I just dont want to be used and hurt again. I've learned so much from your videos. I am Forever grateful and I appreciate the information you passed on to us. I guess I'm just lonely today. I know I must keep pushing forward. And maybe tomorrow I wont cry. Maybe they will be happy tears instead. Thank you Andrew. BLESSINGS🙌 LOVE❤ LIGHT🌟 PEACE🌈 PROSPERITY🍀 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀 HOLLY💞HUGS To You and Your Family and To Everyone and Their Family in This Beautiful Community
Good topic Andrew. Well after being discarded and feeling helpless and alone, I did make the decision to start over. I mean I quit my job, I moved I left everything, I had to the clothes on my back and that's all. I moved far from the narcissist, I blocked almost everything and I took the time to see why I was discarded and hurt so badly. Since I've gotten a new job, I'm healthier than I've ever been, I have money saved and I'm healing my heart and soul and learning how and why I was in the narcissistic relationship. I'm much better now, still think about him sometimes but not as often some days not at all. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew for the help and kind words.
Yes I now feel a huge relief from not communicating with the narc. The hardest part was to stop communicating with him. The last thing I said to him was: “I have moved on. I'm done with the hurt, disappointment and lies.” He posted something he was doing that day and ignored my message but I then later blocked him. He knew I was done with it. I realize more and more each day how I was an easy target and other people in my life that could be narc types also that I have known for years. I am getting stronger and stronger each day and watching more and more videos it brings me more aware of the signs of the narc type. Great videos Andrew! 😊🙏🏻❤️🙌🏻
Not stopping … but I won’t lie … my feet lost grip in the loose gravel I came upon and slid down some. I’ve had to refocus … regain my posture … and I am taking baby steps back up that mountain again ! Hey y’all … no one ever said it wouldn’t be rocky at times … we have each other along with our strong leader Andrew … and our Strong Rock, God the Father, Jesus, and The Holy Spirit . Love you all !!! Let’s be in prayer for each other.🙏🙏🙏
YES WE KNOW OUR WORTH NOW. AND THE WORK WE DO TO CLIMB THE MOUNTAIN IS WORTH ALL THE EFFORT WE HAVE TO MAKE. WE ARE LEARNING THE LESSON OF STRONG BOUNDARIES AND SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-LOVE. AND WE CHOOSE OUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY NOW.
It is incredible how after 40 years the truth was revealed in my case and in the case of my immediate family. Everything makes sense to me now and the dice have fallen into place. I'm not sure what the purpose of all this is to understand. This was in my immediate family's past. I exposed 3 narcissists from the extended family who are not my blood. I realized all this thanks to this channel. I had a few light bulb moments. Andrew, you are doing an amazing job. Thank you, thank you so much 🙏!
Hi Andrew Thank You So Very Much For Sharing After Emotional Abuse I Was Recently Discarded I Struggled For Years Blocking The Narcissist Yesterday Was My First Day Of Taking My Power Back .I Finally Decided To Block Delete My Abuser. I Know That I Need Years And Years Of Therapy..I’m Feeling Some Sadness But I Know I Will Heal One day At A Time🙏
I’m officially 2 months in after the discard via text messages right before Christmas. I find there are small moments of forgetfulness where I suddenly realize that I didn’t think about him for an x number of hours. Then I find relief in that. I sit back and think about how he loved me wasn’t actually love. He just took and took but gave me practically nothing, sometimes throwing breadcrumbs at me. Yet, he expected so much from me. He triangulated me every single day. I was catching on to him and he didn’t like it. I tried to put up boundaries but he wouldn’t heed them. He would just trample on my boundaries. His boundaries were air-tight. I felt like I had to “pay to play”. He always inferred that I was replaceable without saying those exact words. That’s not love!! That’s manipulation and using someone. Even worse, we both have adopted adult sons that have disabilities and that was the original connection. Knowing my circumstances, he still hurt me, and took advantage of me. I told him as the discard was underway that he was the lowest common denominator of a man. What kind of man takes and takes from a woman alone with an adult disabled son, uses her and hurts her?
@@susanwilcox5763 Narc's can! Sorry that he ruin Your Christmas BUT You should be glad that he discarded You. Cause now You can go further on Your path without a narcissist in Your life who only wanted You to benefit him - he didn't want to benefit You at all.
Hi Andrew and family 💕 I must was on the biggest mountain in this world, because my healing was the biggest battling experience of my life!! But I finally made it to the top with a lot of hard work and now it paid off!! And I'm at the top now!!! It's a wonderful feeling!! Namaste 🙏🏼 Take your everyone 😊
The pinnacle is where I want to be...I am working on climbing higher each day. Your description is like what my journey has been like...some days are easier than others. Today has been a good day, even when my coffee pot died before it brewed 1 full cup this morning. I focused my energy on the positive, calmly adjusted my morning plan, and went with the flow ...found a solution to the problem. Just as this healing journey is teaching me solutions to overcome DECADES of toxic and narcissistic abuse. Thank God for you Andrew and for this community, and other sources of information 🙏 great video Andrew...love the paint color. Café creme...✌❤🤓😎
My Narc Storm of Delusion came long before the internet was invented. I can't believe I survived post years of self-destructive behavior ( confusion and self-blame ). Just learning this month about the behavioral traits to identify the Narc and the Narc tendencies in others , along with servicing red flag detectors, etc. is like walking into a ray of healing sunshine. A metaphorical Mountain still ahead? I'm game. Thanks, Andrew!
Hi Andrew and other survivors! What a beautiful reminder of the journey we must travel to be free of the Narc cycle of abuse. A beautiful reminder that we WILL reach the summit! I too had to move away to a different state, away from my X, (the narc), his flying monkeys, and all the people who didn't believe this "great guy" was as un-faithful and manipulative as I was claiming. I am now slowly rebuilding my life in my home state, with my family, and God has been so faithful to me in this process. Ironically, I recently started attending a church called Hope Summit Christian Church! Thank you Andrew for all you do.
Hi tribe! This was just a fantastic session! I loved it! Yes, I have been on top of my mountain for 6 years. I am so grateful. Everything that Andrew says is so true, it is worth the climb, you are worth the climb. The pinnacle of indifference is the most freeing feeling in the world. Remember, you can also call it Lookout mountain because once you are there you can see those evil narcs from a mile away 😁
I might have good suggestions, I am sorry to hear of your new challenge. Would you want unconventional help from a stranger online? If we were in private I would ask is this localized or systemic, is it visible. There are alternative treatments. Sending a good vibe ~~~ sometimes it can be held off or beaten for a very long time. ASK me if you want some private advice or alternative reading but I should reply to somewhere else if you do. Disposable mail or chatroom. peace, love and hope
Excellent analogy Andrew. Only the Real God moves Mountains in us. The Pinnacle of indifference is understanding without pain. It is a releasing of venom from the snake bite. Loving your enemies is not possible without this step. Andrew you are taking great strides in loving on higher ground. Wishing you a top of the Mountain!
I'm in east Tennessee... GreenEville . That was the first thing I noticed when I moved here. There is so much beautiful scenery all the time of the year here. Florida girl by blood and there aren't real seasons there. It still amazes me. Mother earth and her wonders .
Thankyou Andrew. I detected the mask slipping earlier today. Worn by sister-Grimm. Thanks for encouragement regarding staying on the path... moving onwards and upwards. Due diligence is key. All you say inspires and resonates. Mountain-wise, am still at basecamp. Fine with that for the moment. Collective hugs to all in this community 🤗 🙏💚💛🧡
Just want to encourage everyone to continue listening to these videos. Knowledge is POWER! I will also encourage that we make a concerted effort to apply the wisdom that we are gleaning from these teachings. We are listening to someone who have literally experienced the pain of Narcissism! Let us continue to APPLY these invaluable lessons so that we can…not only begin to heal and live again, but also be able to help others to heal and live again. Thank you very much Andrew for your dedication and caring posture. It is greatly felt and genuinely appreciate!!🙏💕
You’re incredible Andrew. I loved the message. Want to say story, but it’s so much greater - everyone’s journey with this mountain 🏔️ and the climb 🧗♀️ is NOT an easy path, but how grateful am I for all the beautiful flowers and encouragement sent along the way. The beauty and depth of this message tonight is unmatched and may you be blessed exponentially for all you do for so many people. ❤️❤️❤️ The air is so much cleaner the higher we go 😌
I'm well on my way up the mountain. I've put a hell of alot of work into myself and consumed and digested lots of information on the subject of narcissism I do not care about the narcissist anymore and I don't think about them anymore. I live for myself now and I come before anybody. I am also a strong person the strongest I have ever been. Thank-you Andrew for all your knowledge without it I wouldn't be writing this. I love you SO MUCH ❤️
I finally recovered, today. :-) (age 62) so if I'm lucky, i have 20 great years left. I have a great wife now. Covid lock-down trained dog. LOL! Love life.
Hi all. I'm usually doing o.k. in Version 3. 14 years out. Today, I awakened from a nightmare that I had to divorce him again! 🙁 So ugly and weird. Another reason why we must stay as strong as we can. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
Good grief. I was in a marriage to a narcissist for 20 years. I have been in recovery from that relationship for 30 years. But in my recovery, I realized my immediate family, parents, siblings, past friends were all part of the narcissistic abuse pre marriage. What a revelation. I’m so careful who I befriend now. I had to disassociate with family to heal. I’m 70 now. I live a better life now. Sad it took so long. ❤️🙏🏻
I'm over 70. When I dived into the info 2 months ago ( went OCD on daily info for hours). It caused my to head explode in the revelation and understanding of myself and my whole past of numerous narc encounters. My major Narc trauma was 30 years ago and am recently going no contact with a a Narc and flying monkeys. I could die next week and feel immensely satisfied, puzzles and frustrating mysteries were laid in the open. I felt as you did-" Why so long to figure it out?" All good. Way better late than never. May your life get better beyond your wildest!
Thank you so much Andrew, I am on the healing path, to the pinnacle of indifference. I have clarity, I have wisdom, I am know my worth. One step at the time. I love myself and what I have done so far is a miracle. One step at the time.
I can definitely tell you are not reading a script. It is one of the reasons I continue to listen to you. You are a smart, intuitive, sensitive man who is sharing your gift of understanding how people are.
After 3 years it's been a little over 2 months no contact in the beginning I believed everything she said little by little her mask was slipping away more and more until it was completely off after exposing her and calling her out on what she was doing texting other dudes in front of me with her 3 cellphone and keeping me in the 3rd party the whole relationship but every day I get stronger and stronger. I do have day's were my mind starts to think why what did I do but I realize I did nothing wrong it wasn't love it was a illusion it sucks but I'm better off and I'm healing everyday and getting better thanks for the videos Andrew I've learned so much
It is a mountain to climb no one helps you climb the mountain,the only ones that do help is the ones who have been there in this type of relationship, people on these TH-cam channels who have been through this and sharing,top man Andrew everything you said is true 👍🙏
Very powerful video Andrew, thank you. This is the hardest Mountain that we empaths will ever have to climb in our lives but it is the one that makes us grow the most. Step by step but we all are so worth it! Have a lovely evening. I love you and I love this community too so much. ❤😘🙌🙏
@@emilywilson7308 Love you too friend Emily. I read your comments too you know. I write a little less these days because I took some vacations. But I am still educating myself and I will share with all of the people and Andrew soon. Have a wonderful evening and night. 🤗🙌💖🙏
Thank you Andrew! I am moving along and I understand you are telling your story from your heart. I believe I made it to the Mountain Top! Just in time to help my son go through all the agony I went through. He's journaling verses and it's his way of healing. Finding beats of music to work on his projects with a friend who has went through a tragedy, too. He's found so much deceit on social media and it was something he had to do. Back ground checking and such helped answer many of his questions. We empaths are a trusting bunch till it's not making sense anymore. Thank you for your programs, it's a blessing and I share them with my son and any friends and clients going forward with their healing path.
I fully support your message, in the sense that, no matter how painful, press on. It’ll be totally worth it. My comparison is, for example, the narcissist in my life threw me out of a moving car, and as I was falling onto the road, I put my hand out to cushion my fall. I had a badly dislocated shoulder, and ER struggled to get the ball into the socket again. If I didn’t press on with physio and daily exercises, I would have lost the use of that arm/hand, as my friend did, developing a frozen shoulder, but even though the tears would stream down my face from the intense pain, I pressed on, never giving up. Months later, the physio and orthopaedic surgeon said they’d never imagined that I’d gain the full use of that arm again, especially at my age, and declared me completely whole, against all odds. Does my arm ache sometimes, even after almost five years? Yes, sometimes, but because of perseverance, that shoulder is strong and can do everything I need it to do. Never, never, never give up, because giving up is much worse.
The commitment I make every single day, each moment, to invest in my inner healing, self- reflection. It is a lot of hard work, only way to thrive in my potential. Life is a Journey not a destination 🌈. I am a veteran of narc abuse and Andrew work is part of my continue healing and share his work all the time to help others. No one 'understands this subject like we do!! 🙏 🐾 ❤️. 💯 ⭐ 🌞
Thank you as always. Sometimes I get so tired of trying to figure out why people act like they do. I see past people behaviors and it's such a joy kill because you think so deep. It makes you look weird to others sometimes because you've lost your ability to laugh at their tactics. When you see it you can't unsee it.
Brilliant Andrew just brilliant....I am narc free and I can assure you I will stay that way.....I can identify them very quickly because they are always around somewhere...Listening to you everyday reminds me to stay very aware of them for I used to be such a magnet to them....not anymore!!! Thank You so much Andrew 😊☀️🙌
I commented before about how I grew up with a narcissist older sister. Her rage fits, bullying, name calling were horrible all through my childhood. I never understood what narcissism was and I once asked my mother what is wrong with her. My mother said she was jealous of me, as we were born so close in age. I'm learning now, thanks to your channel, what was really wrong with her. I think she wanted to destroy me and that she was jealous. To this day I'm still trying to heal. I have trust issues too. I am right where I want to be, but I find it difficult to trust people. I'm working on that. One thing I am grateful for is when I had my own daughter I would never, ever treat her like I was treated, and we are very close. We have a great relationship, while no other members of my family want anything to do with the narcissist.
I was younger brother, the scapegoat. She was the older sister the golden child. gaslit my whole life as the identified patient. Ended up in a psych ward in my late 20s. A family from hell. That was 35 years ago, still healing.
No one belives you when I say my mom jealous of me trying destroy my life. Abuse along with 8 narc siblings. It’s getting hella dark I don’t think I can heal from this ptsd I’m mother to but this pain depression ptsd trauma is affecting my family.
Thankyou Andrew for the motivation you give to those that have had traumatic experiences ,I'd be nieve to think that I could heal a 45 yr narcissistic relationship in a few yrs ,so I'll just keep travelling up my mountain until I reach the top thankyou again Andrew for helping me on my healing path ,God Bless ,Love and Light .😌
I am divorcing, and it was hard to take that decision. After all, 31 years of my life, two beautiful adult sons who has to lose having their parents together so their kids could enjoy their grandparents together. And of course: there were good times. But what I did when I meditate is to think of rooms where I place my things. So the good memories are closed in the room, and the keys were thrown away! They were never real!
@@Lailat854 My heart goes out to you Laila was in a long term narcissistic relationship myself , ☺️ God Bless ,may he bring you inner strength and peace to cope , wishing you all the best for your future ,from Australia ,Love And Light 😊🙏💞
Pinnacle of indifference 🏞🌞🎱🎩⛏🏴☠🗝🍀😇 This was almost a guided meditation bro. Almost enough to put into my night time meditation stack. Add an induction and some restorative suggestions with a wake up feeling refreshed vibe and you would have guided hypno meditation . Your a natural . Peace n Love all:')
Thank you, Andrew, for this video. My inner healing journey is a work in process. It is a wonderful investment of time and energy into myseIf and so worth it. I wish everyone all the best on their healing journeys too. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏
I really needed to hear this today, thank you very much! Left my narcissistic wife Christmas morning. Jan 16 was a day of full-blown withdrawal symptoms, had ups & downs since then, started feeling better after burning all her cards & letters, but the last week it felt like I'd gone backwards after she wrote me a particularly vulgar email. Now that I know it's just me slipping a little on the way up the mountain, I feel a bit better about the ordeal. The real tests will come when I have to do face to face mediation or handovers with our baby girl. It's definitely not easy, but it's all worth doing, even if just for that beautiful little girl to have a good life ahead of her.
Climbing is the very appropriate metaphor. Last night I dreamt I was climbing one those narrow stepladders that are used in a manhole. In front of me was a man and his three children. We were battling to get space on the ladder to get out the hole. Eventually he got behind me and the children got out in front of me. I managed to get half my body through the hole but I was struggling due to my weight. When I looked out I was horrified because the children were gone. I awoke from this nightmare. I am in a hole at the moment. It feels like I am getting a karmic slap. The world has gone silent around me, I have no support structure left. I'm in a cave trying to get my strength back half way up the mountain.
What a BEAUTIFUL description of the healing journey! Thank you SO MUCH for this, Andrew! I love you and I’m VERY glad to see that YOU have reached the summit here WITH me!!! ❤💋♥️💋♥️💋♥️ You deserve nothing but THE BEST in life!!! Have a WONDERFUL evening!!!
When you realize that you spent decades around someone, that only wanted to degrade you, in any way that they possibly could... It's eye opening. Namaste
Yes I’ve healed from a narcissist and learnt what.exactly is a narcissist from you and others on TH-cam, thankyou so much. I blocked full of fear and confusion. It’s been a long 3 years of anxiety, depression, dark night of the soul journey and an experience I will never repeat ever! 🤗 In all my tarot readings they are coming back to Hoover me in once again, I have the strength to put an end to it without anxiety taking over my whole being. I’m empowered once again and determined to totally end this toxic energy, holding onto mine. Thankyou so much for your knowledge and teachings as it’s vital for us empathic souls to learn and understand these demonic creatures are out there. Love and blessings 🙏🤗💝🌞
The mountain is incredible, the journey is huge in healing. Only 8 months NC I am climbing every day. I have gone from insulation to deep grief and now freedom and happiness is beginning
I've learned that the mountain I am climbing will be peaks and valleys, rivers and streams. I enjoy the journey climbing. I know how it feels to fall but that doesnt stop me from being the best version of me. I will reach the top of the mountain, but thats not the end nor where I want to stay. For me, I am going to keep climbing and seeing all sorts of peaks and keep my eyes on the prize, heaven awaits for the willing🙏❤️God bless Andrew and thank you for keeping me climbing.
I saw this handsome face come up in my feed and I had to look 👀 and watch. I love this analogy of the pinnacle. I am happy to say I have reached the top! It’s been 1 yr and 8 months no contact. Now I have to really find a mountain 😊 since it’s all flat land here in Florida. Thanks Andrew your a 💎 gem. Blessings
Hi Andrew. I agree with you. I still feel a few lows but I snap out of those thoughts fast. I notice I am cautious & skeptical sensitive...I'm still working on trust issues. I am blessed & thank God everyday. I love myself better, I have more happier days, things are calm. Thank you Andrew! Best Advice...
Great job Andrew. Loved everything you said. It was so correct. Once you get to top of mountain, you know you have been on a worthwhile journey. It’s something you have conquered and it feels wonderful. Namaste. Love and light 🥰🎶🕊🙏🌞
Yes this takes time had so many narcissistic people in life 5 months ago was the last grown so much since then I feel amazing like floating on air dance in my step I actually hold my head up and look around now attracting so many beautiful people in my life & yes you can actually pick the narcissist a mile away now .
@@flowerpower4944 haven’t felt like this ever healthy extremely happy ready for the next chapter,hope everything is going well with you sending love 💕 your way 🙏🌺🌸
I live in the Rocky Mountains, I got this climb! If I may ask because it's bothering me, you don't have to answer, but are you Native American because you sure look it my new friend! Thanks again for your work...
I am still climbing, but I can see the pinnacle getting closer and closer. Coming from the deepest darkness, it feels like a golden view, full of freedom, peace and self-love. Nothing scares me anymore, after escaping from that Satanic beast, I can endure anything. I am, as you say, galvanized. Thank you Andrew for being with us on the journey, I couldn't have done it without listening to your words and your beautiful energy everyday.✨✨
I'm looking forward to reaching that mountain top. Being a part of this beautiful family you have created for us all helps me on a daily basis, as I'm sure it has for all of us. I've learnt a lot in a short time. I'm so grateful for all that you do. I no longer feel alone and isolated. Thank you, Andrew ❤️
Andrew, what really helped me to heal faster than I thought is knowing the fact that, they can never be happy with themselves or be happy with anyone , while we are getting education, working on our selfs , watching more of your videos, they are going round gaslighting people stonewalling, manipulation, triangulating, etc,you really did a great job to me, thank you my life changer, how i feel right now it's like that relationship never happen and he doesn't exit to me❤💪😀🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
WOW!!! it's quite a thing that these bits of support show up when you need them, law of attraction?? Thank you for your insight and encouragement, stay safe
Thank you for your help!! I’m praying for healing as I have had a major setback a few months ago. I’ve felt like giving up but I have reasons to move forward through all this. Praying for strength & faith to get me to the mountain top soon.
Andrew, thank you. Everyone's time to heal and levels of pain experienced are different. Don't listen to ppl that say " just get over it". Some ppl may never understand or maybe one day they will but healing is not for other person to understand. Stay strong and don't give up on healing. Pray for everyone to keep going, those who understand are watching these videos. Namaste 🙏
Amazing how all the work, tears, trauma, working and then hearing THIS put the end pieces together. You say this SO WELL, like we walked together. Brother, thanks for info. Few could understand what's really happened.
I’m over the top & three quarters of the way down the other side so the light is peaking through ! Spring is time for birth & renewal ! One Day at a time !! Thank you
So true! 🏔 🥾 🧗♂️ while you were speaking I could envision my climbing Everest with you slightly above giving me a hand further up that mountain! TY Andrew! 🙌🏻 Forever grateful! 🤗
My 'mountain' is incrementally becoming a 'speed-hump' and I owe you many thanx for that...and I send them with new 'mountains' of love and respect for your kindness and wisdom. Yer quite a guy...may all your coming days be...just brilliant, happy and fulfilling. Bless you dear man xo
Most incredible video yet!!! Thank you for this...very inspiring. I have to admit after the narcissist showed up here on Thursday to get his mail (we are in the middle of a divorce)it set me back a bit. It took me 24 hours to feel normal again. I unblocked him after that encounter but as of this morning he is on FULL BLOCK again. Now that he has his mail there is no reason for him to come to my house anymore so he can stay on the other side of town. I don't want to go back to the bottom of the mountain....I will continue to climb and reach that summit and bright sunlight.
It takes physical and mental effort to climb a mountain. It’s worth it so don’t give up friends. Stay connected to channels like this. Andrew is a gift.💙
The hardest thing for me to learn was, with a narcissist, there is no hope. Hope is so ingrained in me that hearing that a relationship with the narc is unattainable is unfathomable. Before I gained wisdom, I believed that ending a relationship with them was "quitting"... something I was told I should never do. It's mind boggling that you have to reconcile with this unfortunate truth...and you are right Andrew, it is bizzarro world. I watch these videos to etch a permanent truth in my mind, and to reinforce what I've learned so far.
I'm like you thinking that I could make a difference and committed to the love in the marriage.😢
Agreed. I had to learn this too.
Yes, exactly! There is no hope of a happy ever after with these people.
I SO understand this statement. Spent 25 years trying to overcome the unattainable. Very sad but it was never gonna be what I wanted it to be. It was a dream that turned into a nightmare. Now . . . I am starting to dream again❣️
Oh my gosh! EXACTLY!!
It will be 1 year in May! He still texts, Calls, drives bye, but I am never home for him! Thank you for your help it means the world to me, I thought I was crazy for the longest time. I'm free......Have a Great Week!
You are so welcome🙌💯🙏☀️
U could change your number. Maybe consider moving.
It would just make it worse. I just don't answer it. He is very unstable. Has guns. I really don't want trouble. Thanks.
Stay safe and free, ❤️❤️
Try 5 years! 😂❤🎉😊
When you plan to get out of a relationship that is not positive and not healthy you are actually already suffering..... so, plan to get out as soon as possible to live the only life you have.
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Amen!
Today I did a hike on top of a 🗻 mountain. I saw your notification I'm like wow ironic timing. My journey and I'm healing. I still have more healing to do. Hugs prayers to everyone that's reading this. I feel your pain
It's been 7 months. My therapist suggested last week that I let go now and focus on other parts of my life. She admitted all my "online therapy"- as she calls it - helped me tremendously, but surely I must be done with said topic now.
I am not. I am realising that I am changing as a person. So much is shifting. Now that I have learned so much about my husband, I have learnt equally as much about myself, and I don't WANT to stop! This isn't the summit. And like you put it, Andrew: I'm on my healing journey, and that's a great thing. I don't have to rush through it, put a check mark there, and move on. I love who I am becoming, and I am so grateful for this channel and the daily support! All my love to you,Andrew & the community! ♥
I think you and I are probably at a similar stage on our mountain. The relationship finally ended around the same time. It came to me that at some point soon, I would need to let go of these 'online therapy' sessions, as you do have to just let go. What I mean by that is I think we will reach a stage, relatively quickly actually, where we should have learned all we need to know, have accepted the facts of the situation (they didnt love you and never will) and realise we need to not waste any more TIME and ENERGY on these people, that there is a whole lot of life out there just waiting for us to enjoy. By hanging on to the past, reflecting on it for years afterwards is being stuck in the narcissistic relationship still, in my mind, as if you were still in the relationship, which is super unhealthy.
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I don't think we are at a similar stage.
Some time ago, that's how I felt about it all - the focus was still, like you describe, the narcissist (!) and letting go of those emotions related to the relationship. Ruminating. Mourning what should have been. Trying to move on.
By now, I've realised that was just the beginning.
That's the point I was making initially. Many people don't get that this journey is not only one of trying to come to terms with what the narcissist did, one of sadness and grieving, and then it ends. But it's a journey of self-love and self-discovery. It's about, as @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone puts it, "becoming the third version of yourself".
Learning, growing, evolving - focusing on ourselves, and the life we want to lead. The relationship with the narcissist was arguably the hardest thing a person could ever go through, but also a great gift. That's how I see it now. And I love to read so many lovely comments of people who feel the same.
xxx
Going on almost 5 years since my divorce! I’m at that Pinnacle of indifference and it feels Awesome! Thanks Andrew for all the encouragement ❤
Go, Paula🎉
"Galvanized" - I really like that metaphor Andrew. Into week 7 now and it is still slow going, but if this will inevitably save me from going through it again, then it is time well spent. Why the nicest, empathetic people have to go through this is beyond me... Thanks as always. God Bless
@user-gc5kh5nw6p Thanks for the offer, but not seen you here!! Can I confirm the motivation... thank you
ANDREW!!! PLEASE READ!!! This is alarming. Someone joined youtube TODAY and is asking me to speak to them and has used your avatar showing a WhatsApp Number. Concerning....
Scammer..report asap
Welcome 🙏🙌💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Have just reported user.... of all the things!!! Like we need an idiot like this.....
I've been climbing since I ended another Narcissistic relationship in 2017. It's so hard to find good authentic people. I was made to believe that I wasnt good enough for anyone good. I've been alone since 2017. Although I enjoy living alone, it gets so very lonely. And it's even more difficult to trust people. I have good and bad days like everyone else. But it would be nice to have someone to hug me from time to time. Especially during the hard days. I will be 59 years old in March. And I feel like I am too old for an unconditional loving relationship. It's easy for me to love and help people. I just dont want to be used and hurt again. I've learned so much from your videos. I am Forever grateful and I appreciate the information you passed on to us. I guess I'm just lonely today. I know I must keep pushing forward. And maybe tomorrow I wont cry. Maybe they will be happy tears instead. Thank you Andrew.
BLESSINGS🙌
LOVE❤
LIGHT🌟
PEACE🌈
PROSPERITY🍀
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HOLLY💞HUGS
To You and Your Family and To Everyone and Their Family in This Beautiful Community
Sending you loads of hugs .
Good topic Andrew. Well after being discarded and feeling helpless and alone, I did make the decision to start over. I mean I quit my job, I moved I left everything, I had to the clothes on my back and that's all. I moved far from the narcissist, I blocked almost everything and I took the time to see why I was discarded and hurt so badly. Since I've gotten a new job, I'm healthier than I've ever been, I have money saved and I'm healing my heart and soul and learning how and why I was in the narcissistic relationship. I'm much better now, still think about him sometimes but not as often some days not at all. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew for the help and kind words.
Carlos well Done 👍👍❤️❤️🌸🌸
You got this! ❤🙏💪
You are so strong! Not many people would have the courage to start over like you did!🎉
I am planning the same thing. Scary, but you made and you are encouraging me . Blessings to you
@@mapleleaf902 it's not easy, but it's a necessary step to survive. You can do it !
Yes I now feel a huge relief from not communicating with the narc. The hardest part was to stop communicating with him. The last thing I said to him was: “I have moved on. I'm done with the hurt, disappointment and lies.” He posted something he was doing that day and ignored my message but I then later blocked him. He knew I was done with it. I realize more and more each day how I was an easy target and other people in my life that could be narc types also that I have known for years. I am getting stronger and stronger each day and watching more and more videos it brings me more aware of the signs of the narc type. Great videos Andrew! 😊🙏🏻❤️🙌🏻
Not stopping … but I won’t lie … my feet lost grip in the loose gravel I came upon and slid down some. I’ve had to refocus … regain my posture … and I am taking baby steps back up that mountain again ! Hey y’all … no one ever said it wouldn’t be rocky at times … we have each other along with our strong leader Andrew … and our Strong Rock, God the Father, Jesus, and The Holy Spirit . Love you all !!! Let’s be in prayer for each other.🙏🙏🙏
Yes we're all here for each other, it's a fellowship Here ❤️🌸🌹🙏🙏
Nice 😊
YES WE KNOW OUR WORTH NOW. AND THE WORK WE DO TO CLIMB THE MOUNTAIN IS WORTH ALL THE EFFORT WE HAVE TO MAKE. WE ARE LEARNING THE LESSON OF STRONG BOUNDARIES AND SELF-RESPECT AND SELF-LOVE. AND WE CHOOSE OUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY NOW.
God Bless you - I know exactly where you are with these occasional slides....
Sue, that's beautiful! Thank you🌹
Very nice video. I enjoyed it very much. Evening blessed.
It is incredible how after 40 years the truth was revealed in my case and in the case of my immediate family. Everything makes sense to me now and the dice have fallen into place. I'm not sure what the purpose of all this is to understand. This was in my immediate family's past. I exposed 3 narcissists from the extended family who are not my blood. I realized all this thanks to this channel. I had a few light bulb moments. Andrew, you are doing an amazing job. Thank you, thank you so much 🙏!
Welcome 🙏🙌💯😌
Yea the fear exposure 👍💪💪❤️🌸
@@flowerpower4944 Flower, I don't understand what you are talking about.
You are a ray of light in dark,dark days.
My heart is with all who have suffered.
Avante!
Hi Andrew Thank You So Very Much For
Sharing After Emotional Abuse I Was Recently
Discarded I Struggled For Years Blocking The Narcissist Yesterday Was My First Day
Of Taking My Power Back .I Finally Decided To Block Delete My Abuser.
I Know That I Need Years And Years Of Therapy..I’m Feeling Some Sadness But I Know I Will Heal
One day At A Time🙏
Welcome 🙌💯💪🙏💯
That's great you did that! You can do it! We are healing together💕
I’m officially 2 months in after the discard via text messages right before Christmas. I find there are small moments of forgetfulness where I suddenly realize that I didn’t think about him for an x number of hours. Then I find relief in that. I sit back and think about how he loved me wasn’t actually love. He just took and took but gave me practically nothing, sometimes throwing breadcrumbs at me. Yet, he expected so much from me. He triangulated me every single day. I was catching on to him and he didn’t like it. I tried to put up boundaries but he wouldn’t heed them. He would just trample on my boundaries. His boundaries were air-tight. I felt like I had to “pay to play”. He always inferred that I was replaceable without saying those exact words. That’s not love!! That’s manipulation and using someone. Even worse, we both have adopted adult sons that have disabilities and that was the original connection. Knowing my circumstances, he still hurt me, and took advantage of me. I told him as the discard was underway that he was the lowest common denominator of a man. What kind of man takes and takes from a woman alone with an adult disabled son, uses her and hurts her?
@@susanwilcox5763 Narc's can! Sorry that he ruin Your Christmas BUT You should be glad that he discarded You. Cause now You can go further on Your path without a narcissist in Your life who only wanted You to benefit him - he didn't want to benefit You at all.
@@detjaggillar8081 thank you
I'm at 75% or more and nothing will stop me from reaching the top Andrew 🙏🙏✨️
Hi Andrew and family 💕
I must was on the biggest mountain in this world, because my healing was the biggest battling experience of my life!! But I finally made it to the top with a lot of hard work and now it paid off!! And I'm at the top now!!! It's a wonderful feeling!! Namaste 🙏🏼
Take your everyone 😊
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Go, Meka!!!🎉
Congratulations 🎉
Wonderful Meka❤️🦋💥
The pinnacle is where I want to be...I am working on climbing higher each day. Your description is like what my journey has been like...some days are easier than others. Today has been a good day, even when my coffee pot died before it brewed 1 full cup this morning. I focused my energy on the positive, calmly adjusted my morning plan, and went with the flow ...found a solution to the problem. Just as this healing journey is teaching me solutions to overcome DECADES of toxic and narcissistic abuse. Thank God for you Andrew and for this community, and other sources of information 🙏 great video Andrew...love the paint color. Café creme...✌❤🤓😎
One time I was driving to work and dumped my morning coffee on the floor! It was too late to go back or get more.😮
Thank you for sharing 🙌💯😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone always, and welcome 😊🙏✌❤🤓😎
My Narc Storm of Delusion came long before the internet was invented. I can't believe I survived post years of self-destructive behavior ( confusion and self-blame ). Just learning this month about the behavioral traits to identify the Narc and the Narc tendencies in others , along with servicing red flag detectors, etc. is like walking into a ray of healing sunshine. A metaphorical Mountain still ahead? I'm game. Thanks, Andrew!
Hi Andrew and other survivors! What a beautiful reminder of the journey we must travel to be free of the Narc cycle of abuse. A beautiful reminder that we WILL reach the summit! I too had to move away to a different state, away from my X, (the narc), his flying monkeys, and all the people who didn't believe this "great guy" was as un-faithful and manipulative as I was claiming. I am now slowly rebuilding my life in my home state, with my family, and God has been so faithful to me in this process. Ironically, I recently started attending a church called Hope Summit Christian Church! Thank you Andrew for all you do.
Stoic, Calm, Centered👍👍👍👍👍
Hi tribe! This was just a fantastic session! I loved it! Yes, I have been on top of my mountain for 6 years. I am so grateful. Everything that Andrew says is so true, it is worth the climb, you are worth the climb. The pinnacle of indifference is the most freeing feeling in the world. Remember, you can also call it Lookout mountain because once you are there you can see those evil narcs from a mile away 😁
Thanks Anne! I am climbing the mountain and learning as I go.
@@AAXS-op1vo Yaay! If I can do it then so can you! Stay strong 💪
@@annewilliams5715 thank you ! I am trying to stay faithful to my journey!
I made it to the pinnacle of indifference after 1.5 years of climbing. A few weeks ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I will beat it, too.
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Sending blessings...
Healing prayers for you, Annette!💗
I might have good suggestions, I am sorry to hear of your new challenge. Would you want unconventional help from a stranger online?
If we were in private I would ask is this localized or systemic, is it visible. There are alternative treatments. Sending a good vibe ~~~ sometimes it can be held off or beaten for a very long time. ASK me if you want some private advice or alternative reading but I should reply to somewhere else if you do. Disposable mail or chatroom.
peace, love and hope
@@emilywilson7308 Thank you, Emily. I will be fine it's just another challenge. many hugs to you
Excellent analogy Andrew. Only the Real God moves Mountains in us. The Pinnacle of indifference is understanding without pain. It is a releasing of venom from the snake bite. Loving your enemies is not possible without this step. Andrew you are taking great strides in loving on higher ground. Wishing you a top of the Mountain!
You are also using your compassionate heart ❤️
Thank you Andrew!
Climbing I am and looking up and letting go. 🙏 ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 slow but sure.
I am 7 years no contact. I feel so good!
I'm in east Tennessee... GreenEville . That was the first thing I noticed when I moved here. There is so much beautiful scenery all the time of the year here. Florida girl by blood and there aren't real seasons there. It still amazes me. Mother earth and her wonders .
Keep up that no contact it's freedom,we are Transcending WARRIORS 👍👍💞💞
Hello Andrew 💞 thanks for sharing this video 📸📷
Welcome 🙌😊🙏
Thankyou Andrew. I detected the mask slipping earlier today. Worn by sister-Grimm. Thanks for encouragement regarding staying on the path... moving onwards and upwards. Due diligence is key. All you say inspires and resonates. Mountain-wise, am still at basecamp. Fine with that for the moment. Collective hugs to all in this community 🤗 🙏💚💛🧡
Just want to encourage everyone to continue listening to these videos. Knowledge is POWER! I will also encourage that we make a concerted effort to apply the wisdom that we are gleaning from these teachings. We are listening to someone who have literally experienced the pain of Narcissism! Let us continue to APPLY these invaluable lessons so that we can…not only begin to heal and live again, but also be able to help others to heal and live again. Thank you very much Andrew for your dedication and caring posture. It is greatly felt and genuinely appreciate!!🙏💕
Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! NAMASTE ❤
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Healing everyday closer to the top om almost there I give it to Jesus he still loves me. I will hang on. Guilt shame blame is of the enemy
My shoes are decimated. I adore your metaphor.
Love you, Andrew! Keep preaching!
You’re incredible Andrew. I loved the message. Want to say story, but it’s so much greater - everyone’s journey with this mountain 🏔️ and the climb 🧗♀️ is NOT an easy path, but how grateful am I for all the beautiful flowers and encouragement sent along the way. The beauty and depth of this message tonight is unmatched and may you be blessed exponentially for all you do for so many people. ❤️❤️❤️
The air is so much cleaner the higher we go 😌
🌍☔❤sending a virtual hug to anyone who might need it today!!
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Thanks, Susan!
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I'm well on my way up the mountain. I've put a hell of alot of work into myself and consumed and digested lots of information on the subject of narcissism I do not care about the narcissist anymore and I don't think about them anymore. I live for myself now and I come before anybody. I am also a strong person the strongest I have ever been. Thank-you Andrew for all your knowledge without it I wouldn't be writing this. I love you SO MUCH ❤️
I finally recovered, today. :-) (age 62) so if I'm lucky, i have 20 great years left. I have a great wife now. Covid lock-down trained dog. LOL!
Love life.
Hi all. I'm usually doing o.k. in Version 3. 14 years out. Today, I awakened from a nightmare that I had to divorce him again! 🙁 So ugly and weird. Another reason why we must stay as strong as we can. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
Oh my God, 14 years out?! I am divorcing and this scares me😢😢
And as you ascend the mountain you are growing wings, and when you get to the top- you don’t have to descend it, you take those wings and fly away.
Good grief. I was in a marriage to a narcissist for 20 years. I have been in recovery from that relationship for 30 years. But in my recovery, I realized my immediate family, parents, siblings, past friends were all part of the narcissistic abuse pre marriage. What a revelation. I’m so careful who I befriend now. I had to disassociate with family to heal. I’m 70 now. I live a better life now. Sad it took so long. ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏💯
I'm over 70. When I dived into the info 2 months ago ( went OCD on daily info for hours). It caused my to head explode in the revelation and understanding of myself and my whole past of numerous narc encounters. My major Narc trauma was 30 years ago and am recently going no contact with a a Narc and flying monkeys. I could die next week and feel immensely satisfied, puzzles and frustrating mysteries were laid in the open. I felt as you did-" Why so long to figure it out?" All good.
Way better late than never. May your life get better beyond your wildest!
@@jhavajoe3792 …. Once we finally see… we look around and a powerful revelation hits us… this narcissism is an epidemic.
Thanks Andrew. That was positive and so good to hear. As refreshing as a bottle of Eau Perrier straight from the fridge on a hot Summer's day.
Thank you so much Andrew, I am on the healing path, to the pinnacle of indifference. I have clarity, I have wisdom, I am know my worth. One step at the time. I love myself and what I have done so far is a miracle. One step at the time.
I can definitely tell you are not reading a script. It is one of the reasons I continue to listen to you. You are a smart, intuitive, sensitive man who is sharing your gift of understanding how people are.
After 3 years it's been a little over 2 months no contact in the beginning I believed everything she said little by little her mask was slipping away more and more until it was completely off after exposing her and calling her out on what she was doing texting other dudes in front of me with her 3 cellphone and keeping me in the 3rd party the whole relationship but every day I get stronger and stronger. I do have day's were my mind starts to think why what did I do but I realize I did nothing wrong it wasn't love it was a illusion it sucks but I'm better off and I'm healing everyday and getting better thanks for the videos Andrew I've learned so much
You are a mountain of wisdom. That is too beautiful for words.
It is a mountain to climb no one helps you climb the mountain,the only ones that do help is the ones who have been there in this type of relationship, people on these TH-cam channels who have been through this and sharing,top man Andrew everything you said is true 👍🙏
Very powerful video Andrew, thank you. This is the hardest Mountain that we empaths will ever have to climb in our lives but it is the one that makes us grow the most. Step by step but we all are so worth it! Have a lovely evening. I love you and I love this community too so much. ❤😘🙌🙏
Love you, Marie!🌸
I always enjoy your comments.
@@emilywilson7308 Love you too friend Emily. I read your comments too you know. I write a little less these days because I took some vacations. But I am still educating myself and I will share with all of the people and Andrew soon. Have a wonderful evening and night. 🤗🙌💖🙏
@@mariefrancebourget1749 thanks, Marie!
Hugs Marie and Emily!!! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗
@@jennifernewton4637 Good morning Jennifer. 🤗💖
Thank you Andrew! I am moving along and I understand you are telling your story from your heart. I believe I made it to the Mountain Top! Just in time to help my son go through all the agony I went through. He's journaling verses and it's his way of healing. Finding beats of music to work on his projects with a friend who has went through a tragedy, too. He's found so much deceit on social media and it was something he had to do. Back ground checking and such helped answer many of his questions. We empaths are a trusting bunch till it's not making sense anymore. Thank you for your programs, it's a blessing and I share them with my son and any friends and clients going forward with their healing path.
I fully support your message, in the sense that, no matter how painful, press on. It’ll be totally worth it. My comparison is, for example, the narcissist in my life threw me out of a moving car, and as I was falling onto the road, I put my hand out to cushion my fall. I had a badly dislocated shoulder, and ER struggled to get the ball into the socket again. If I didn’t press on with physio and daily exercises, I would have lost the use of that arm/hand, as my friend did, developing a frozen shoulder, but even though the tears would stream down my face from the intense pain, I pressed on, never giving up. Months later, the physio and orthopaedic surgeon said they’d never imagined that I’d gain the full use of that arm again, especially at my age, and declared me completely whole, against all odds. Does my arm ache sometimes, even after almost five years? Yes, sometimes, but because of perseverance, that shoulder is strong and can do everything I need it to do. Never, never, never give up, because giving up is much worse.
The commitment I make every single day, each moment, to invest in my inner healing, self- reflection. It is a lot of hard work, only way to thrive in my potential. Life is a Journey not a destination 🌈. I am a veteran of narc abuse and Andrew work is part of my continue healing and share his work all the time to help others. No one 'understands this subject like we do!! 🙏 🐾 ❤️. 💯 ⭐ 🌞
Thank you as always. Sometimes I get so tired of trying to figure out why people act like they do. I see past people behaviors and it's such a joy kill because you think so deep. It makes you look weird to others sometimes because you've lost your ability to laugh at their tactics. When you see it you can't unsee it.
Welcome 🙌💯😌
Brilliant Andrew just brilliant....I am narc free and I can assure you I will stay that way.....I can identify them very quickly because they are always around somewhere...Listening to you everyday reminds me to stay very aware of them for I used to be such a magnet to them....not anymore!!!
Thank You so much Andrew 😊☀️🙌
I commented before about how I grew up with a narcissist older sister. Her rage fits, bullying, name calling were horrible all through my childhood. I never understood what narcissism was and I once asked my mother what is wrong with her. My mother said she was jealous of me, as we were born so close in age. I'm learning now, thanks to your channel, what was really wrong with her. I think she wanted to destroy me and that she was jealous. To this day I'm still trying to heal. I have trust issues too. I am right where I want to be, but I find it difficult to trust people. I'm working on that. One thing I am grateful for is when I had my own daughter I would never, ever treat her like I was treated, and we are very close. We have a great relationship, while no other members of my family want anything to do with the narcissist.
Your daughter is lucky to have you.🌸
JodieMM that sounds just like my sister.
Same. They were trained to be jealous.
I was younger brother, the scapegoat. She was the older sister the golden child. gaslit my whole life as the identified patient. Ended up in a psych ward in my late 20s. A family from hell. That was 35 years ago, still healing.
No one belives you when I say my mom jealous of me trying destroy my life. Abuse along with 8 narc siblings. It’s getting hella dark I don’t think I can heal from this ptsd I’m mother to but this pain depression ptsd trauma is affecting my family.
Good Morning 🌞. Prayers, meditation and listen to Andrew ! 💯 🌺 🐾 🐾
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! Your SO on POINT!!!What a true great motivational speech!!!!!!! ONE of ur deepest and best!!!! EMPATH ON!!!!💪👊👊💪💯💯💯❤💥❤
Thankyou Andrew for the motivation you give to those that have had traumatic experiences ,I'd be nieve to think that I could heal a 45 yr narcissistic relationship in a few yrs ,so I'll just keep travelling up my mountain until I reach the top thankyou again Andrew for helping me on my healing path ,God Bless ,Love and Light .😌
I feel the same way.
With God all things are possible 🙏🙌🙃🙂😉
@@annerichard4042 thank you, Anne!
I am divorcing, and it was hard to take that decision. After all, 31 years of my life, two beautiful adult sons who has to lose having their parents together so their kids could enjoy their grandparents together.
And of course: there were good times.
But what I did when I meditate is to think of rooms where I place my things. So the good memories are closed in the room, and the keys were thrown away! They were never real!
@@Lailat854 My heart goes out to you Laila was in a long term narcissistic relationship myself , ☺️ God Bless ,may he bring you inner strength and peace to cope , wishing you all the best for your future ,from Australia ,Love And Light 😊🙏💞
Pinnacle of indifference 🏞🌞🎱🎩⛏🏴☠🗝🍀😇
This was almost a guided meditation bro. Almost enough to put into my night time meditation stack.
Add an induction and some restorative suggestions with a wake up feeling refreshed vibe and you would have guided hypno meditation . Your a natural .
Peace n Love all:')
Saltyyyyyy!!! 👋😁🤗♥️☀️🌺
Thank you, Andrew, for this video. My inner healing journey is a work in process. It is a wonderful investment of time and energy into myseIf and so worth it. I wish everyone all the best on their healing journeys too. Namaste. ❤️ 🙏
Thanks, Holly! Hope you get well soon.💗
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@@emilywilson7308 Thanks, Emily! ❤️
@@gratefultobehere 🙏 ❤️ 🙏
I really needed to hear this today, thank you very much!
Left my narcissistic wife Christmas morning. Jan 16 was a day of full-blown withdrawal symptoms, had ups & downs since then, started feeling better after burning all her cards & letters, but the last week it felt like I'd gone backwards after she wrote me a particularly vulgar email. Now that I know it's just me slipping a little on the way up the mountain, I feel a bit better about the ordeal.
The real tests will come when I have to do face to face mediation or handovers with our baby girl.
It's definitely not easy, but it's all worth doing, even if just for that beautiful little girl to have a good life ahead of her.
Climbing is the very appropriate metaphor. Last night I dreamt I was climbing one those narrow stepladders that are used in a manhole. In front of me was a man and his three children. We were battling to get space on the ladder to get out the hole. Eventually he got behind me and the children got out in front of me. I managed to get half my body through the hole but I was struggling due to my weight. When I looked out I was horrified because the children were gone. I awoke from this nightmare. I am in a hole at the moment. It feels like I am getting a karmic slap. The world has gone silent around me, I have no support structure left. I'm in a cave trying to get my strength back half way up the mountain.
That's me. It took me 10years, but I am on the mountain. I have indifference. Thank you God for your guidance.
What a BEAUTIFUL description of the healing journey! Thank you SO MUCH for this, Andrew! I love you and I’m VERY glad to see that YOU have reached the summit here WITH me!!! ❤💋♥️💋♥️💋♥️ You deserve nothing but THE BEST in life!!! Have a WONDERFUL evening!!!
Hi Jennifer 👍🙂💞 sending ❤️❤️🌸🤗🌹🙏
@@flowerpower4944 Hey Flower!!! ♥️♥️♥️🌺☀️😊🤗
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@@__Salty just eating dinner and relaxing 😁👍👍 You?
@Mary Olinger You too Mary!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
💯 I discarded the narcissists April 2022 and I still need time ....how long doesn't matter , I know it will take time
ANDREW this is Powerful message ❤️🙏🙏🤗👍👍
It really IS!!! Andrew’s really good at helping us relate to the points he makes ♥️♥️♥️♥️
@Mary Olinger Hey there Mary! 🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗
Still climbing the mountain.....
6 months of climbing it....
Thank you Andrew 🦋
When you realize that you spent decades around someone, that only wanted to degrade you, in any way that they possibly could... It's eye opening. Namaste
Namaste 🙏
Yes I’ve healed from a narcissist and learnt what.exactly is a narcissist from you and others on TH-cam, thankyou so much. I blocked full of fear and confusion. It’s been a long 3 years of anxiety, depression, dark night of the soul journey and an experience I will never repeat ever! 🤗 In all my tarot readings they are coming back to Hoover me in once again, I have the strength to put an end to it without anxiety taking over my whole being. I’m empowered once again and determined to totally end this toxic energy, holding onto mine. Thankyou so much for your knowledge and teachings as it’s vital for us empathic souls to learn and understand these demonic creatures are out there. Love and blessings 🙏🤗💝🌞
Thank you Andrew. ❤️
The mountain is incredible, the journey is huge in healing. Only 8 months NC I am climbing every day. I have gone from insulation to deep grief and now freedom and happiness is beginning
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I've learned that the mountain I am climbing will be peaks and valleys, rivers and streams. I enjoy the journey climbing. I know how it feels to fall but that doesnt stop me from being the best version of me. I will reach the top of the mountain, but thats not the end nor where I want to stay. For me, I am going to keep climbing and seeing all sorts of peaks and keep my eyes on the prize, heaven awaits for the willing🙏❤️God bless Andrew and thank you for keeping me climbing.
Great video as always, thanks Andrew. The fact you do this unscripted, in one take, straight from the heart is so amazing!
Thks Andrew removed all contact it is a battle but it’s a righteous battle for my survival. I’m leaning staying focused and disciplined.
I saw this handsome face come up in my feed and I had to look 👀 and watch. I love this analogy of the pinnacle. I am happy to say I have reached the top! It’s been 1 yr and 8 months no contact. Now I have to really find a mountain 😊 since it’s all flat land here in Florida. Thanks Andrew your a 💎 gem. Blessings
Thank you Andrew❣️. The encouragement is always appreciated.
Hi Andrew. I agree with you. I still feel a few lows but I snap out of those thoughts fast. I notice I am cautious & skeptical sensitive...I'm still working on trust issues.
I am blessed & thank God everyday.
I love myself better, I have more happier days, things are calm.
Thank you Andrew! Best Advice...
The summit is beautiful, ty Andrew!
Welcome 😌☀️🙏
Great job Andrew. Loved everything you said. It was so correct. Once you get to top of mountain, you know you have been on a worthwhile journey. It’s something you have conquered and it feels wonderful.
Namaste. Love and light 🥰🎶🕊🙏🌞
Yes this takes time had so many narcissistic people in life 5 months ago was the last grown so much since then I feel amazing like floating on air dance in my step I actually hold my head up and look around now attracting so many beautiful people in my life & yes you can actually pick the narcissist a mile away now .
Coral that's Great keep well and Happy 😊🌹🌸❤️😊🙏
@@flowerpower4944 haven’t felt like this ever healthy extremely happy ready for the next chapter,hope everything is going well with you sending love 💕 your way 🙏🌺🌸
Great news!!!
@Mary Olinger thank you my fav song comes to mind never gonna not dance
I live in the Rocky Mountains, I got this climb! If I may ask because it's bothering me, you don't have to answer, but are you Native American because you sure look it my new friend! Thanks again for your work...
Welcome 😌🙏🙌☀️
I am still climbing, but I can see the pinnacle getting closer and closer. Coming from the deepest darkness, it feels like a golden view, full of freedom, peace and self-love. Nothing scares me anymore, after escaping from that Satanic beast, I can endure anything. I am, as you say, galvanized. Thank you Andrew for being with us on the journey, I couldn't have done it without listening to your words and your beautiful energy everyday.✨✨
Continue to become educated and empowered 🙏💯☀️⛰️
I'm looking forward to reaching that mountain top. Being a part of this beautiful family you have created for us all helps me on a daily basis, as I'm sure it has for all of us. I've learnt a lot in a short time. I'm so grateful for all that you do. I no longer feel alone and isolated.
Thank you, Andrew ❤️
Andrew, what really helped me to heal faster than I thought is knowing the fact that, they can never be happy with themselves or be happy with anyone , while we are getting education, working on our selfs , watching more of your videos, they are going round gaslighting people stonewalling, manipulation, triangulating, etc,you really did a great job to me, thank you my life changer, how i feel right now it's like that relationship never happen and he doesn't exit to me❤💪😀🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
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WOW!!! it's quite a thing that these bits of support show up when you need them, law of attraction?? Thank you for your insight and encouragement, stay safe
Thank you for your help!! I’m praying for healing as I have had a major setback a few months ago. I’ve felt like giving up but I have reasons to move forward through all this. Praying for strength & faith to get me to the mountain top soon.
"The only winning move is not to play"
Yea that's from Bruce Lee love it🌸❤️😊👍👍🌸
This was so inspiring to me. I’m still climbing … 4 months no contact
me too 4 months!🙂
Andrew, thank you. Everyone's time to heal and levels of pain experienced are different. Don't listen to ppl that say " just get over it". Some ppl may never understand or maybe one day they will but healing is not for other person to understand. Stay strong and don't give up on healing. Pray for everyone to keep going, those who understand are watching these videos. Namaste 🙏
We’ll said! Love and blessings to y’all 😍💐
What an amazing and inspiring video 💖 It's all so true. Good night Andrew 🌟🇸🇪 Wish you all the best 🥰
Good night🙌😌🙏
It's wonderful to put the hard work into myself. There are rewards. I smile, once you're there no one can take it from you and you'll never go back.
Amazing how all the work, tears, trauma, working and then hearing THIS put the end pieces together. You say this SO WELL, like we walked together. Brother, thanks for info. Few could understand what's really happened.
I’m over the top & three quarters of the way down the other side so the light is peaking through ! Spring is time for birth & renewal ! One Day at a time !! Thank you
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Andrew. Hi 👋. I appreciate all your videos ❤. He’s been blocked AND OUT OF MY LIFE. ITS THE HEALING OF ME.
So true! 🏔 🥾 🧗♂️ while you were speaking I could envision my climbing Everest with you slightly above giving me a hand further up that mountain! TY Andrew! 🙌🏻 Forever grateful! 🤗
Love that!🙌💯🙏
NC since 12th November last year...this channel has been a great support...thank you. Take good care y'all. And take no 💩!!
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My 'mountain' is incrementally becoming a 'speed-hump' and I owe you many thanx for that...and I send them with new 'mountains' of love and respect for your kindness and wisdom. Yer quite a guy...may all your coming days be...just brilliant, happy and fulfilling. Bless you dear man xo
Most incredible video yet!!! Thank you for this...very inspiring. I have to admit after the narcissist showed up here on Thursday to get his mail (we are in the middle of a divorce)it set me back a bit. It took me 24 hours to feel normal again. I unblocked him after that encounter but as of this morning he is on FULL BLOCK again. Now that he has his mail there is no reason for him to come to my house anymore so he can stay on the other side of town. I don't want to go back to the bottom of the mountain....I will continue to climb and reach that summit and bright sunlight.
Good for you! Keep protecting yourself!