Andrew is absolutely correct. I've been away from my ex-narc for almost 2 years now and each day I am more healed. I have my identity back, I am so happy and grateful for my new life without the narc. How do you know you are healed? You will stop watching videos about narcissism. You will stop ruminating. You will stop thinking and caring about the narcissist & their new supply. I promise you the sooner you get away and free yourself from this abuse the sooner you will begin to heal. It's not easy. Nothing worth while ever is but you CAN do it. When I look back at all that I went through to be free I am proud of myself for it. If I had known ahead of time how miserable he was going to make the whole divorce/custody process I may have backed out. I'm am so glad that I didn't know. Just focus on the end result. Focus on your happiness and freedom. Focus on how good it's going to feel waking up everyday to new possibilities. The peace you will feel is worth it 1000 times over. Take your life and your health back before they destroy you and they absolutely will.
I totally agree 100% ….couldn’t have put it in words as well as you 👍🥰 with my ex narc since 1981…married 30 plus years 😳 divorced 2 years over 40 years! Never felt so free 🥳lesson I learned….they don’t change and get worse with age ! He is getting married again 👍🤣🤣🤣 I wish her luck 🍀🎉🎉🎉
Your comments and Andrews video's are so very helpful. 10 miserable years in and 2 weeks out and going strong. NEVER returning (this time:)) Older, wiser and finally free!
Thanks for your comment. I have been divorced for over 2 years and am still struggling to heal. But I am sure part of that is due to the fact that my ex husband says he wants me back but he is also triangulating me and new supply. I think that she is his 3rd or 4th new supply in 2 years.
Leaving that environment is the best you can do, to start the healing path. I must warn you though, you can not ever trust the narcissist again. Not in the spirit of love or forgiveness. No matter where you are in your healing, they have a way about them, trickery, if you will, to suck you back and undo it all, every single time. Trust me on that. I’ve been on that roller coaster ride for decades. Once I figured out the pattern, distance is key. I can’t be who they are. I can show love briefly and from afar but I can not be in their presence, no matter how healed I believe I am. That’s because of the post traumatic stress disorder this type of relationship put me trough. I can not control the flashbacks, I can not take any more abuse. I am worked ng on mindfulness and vagus exorcises . It is helping . Stay healed and stay away. ❤️🩹
I think for all you guys out there struggling with rumination and reflection you should know that just in the last three days I have finally had a breakthrough in my healing and recovery ! It's taken over a year , a year of a lot of soul searching and rebuilding , but without me even doing anything the trauma bond has broken ! For the first time all of the emotional and mental connections that tied us together have fallen away , like the ropes slipping from a leaving boat , and I can't even begin to tell you how wonderful it feels ! So if anyone out there is finding it tough , don't worry , you will get there ,...eventually 🙏🙏😎⛵
I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit. You say you didn’t “do anything”, but you also worked on yourself and rebuilding. You were actively doing work towards healing! Congratulations. I’m doing the same and finally feeling free after two years. Namaste!
Great 👍🏽 work - and thanks for sharing 🙏 I don’t think SOME women understand how - disgusting 🤢 awful 😢 - heart Breaking 💔 they can be !! It’s just not men out there who do this.
When I first met my ex narcissist, he told me his ex was crazy and that’s why he had to leave her. lol. I bet he told his new supply the same thing about me, right? Lol 😆
That seems to be a very common theme with narcissists....the crazy ex. And i realized that the ex was probably very much like me...and actually a nice person. But a narc will blame shift and project. Love and light to you, Kristine J.!
@@randomsasquatchwithwifi4090 I really appreciate your reply. 💯 These narcs choose good people to use and abuse and then call them crazy when they are the true crazy ones, right? Lol Thank you. Love and light to you too…🙏
Wow he did this to her and me too and I caught on and told him about himself but it was like war. He don't back down. I'm finally being firm with myself to let him go. My health was in danger
I am on day 4 of him leaving. He came to me to apologize for his past behavior he said he was a changed man and to please give him another change. I was already 1 month without him and feeling AMAZING. He came to disturb my peace. I gave him no money (it’s all he wanted) so He left in such a manner threatening my entire family all because he didn’t have his way and I am putting my foot down for the first time. He is now trying to turn his friend against me so that they help him out he has no money no car no home. He’s angry because I stopped supporting him and his family overseas. I am educating myself and I will never EVER allow him back into my life. 9 years and no kids. I knew he’d be a horrible father so I protected myself there at least. some morning are bad for me some are better. I have a long road to healing but I’m glad I’m out and will never go back to that disaster of a human. Your videos have helped me very much. I’m in Mexico hiding out trying to build my life again he’s in the US with nothing he blocked me after saving very disgusting things to. Yesterday, his friend calls me asking me to help him financially he says I HAVE TO out of humanity because he has nothing and because I am his wife. I answered with “Tough! Not my problem anymore divorce papers are on their way to him” That’s what he gets for using me and psychologically abusing me all these years. Before he left he said “you can be in my life only for sex and money I don’t want feelings or love if you can’t be that I don’t want you.” That’s after I didn’t give him anymore money. Then his mom calls me from middle East telling me “you’re not my daughter anymore” just cause I didn’t send her money. 😂😂😂 crazy ass family so glad I don’t have to deal with them anymore. He lost an amazing wife his loss. Thanks for your videos they are helping me get through this. I’m a little depressed rn i don’t have friends I am alone but i will be ok. I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse. God bless you all we can do this 💪
You are brilliant and you set the example for all of us. I was nearly 6 years in a narcissist relationship, the first year was awesome and then the narcissist went for the kill. He ALSO came back to apologize and ask forgiveness and he ALSO said terrible things to me accused me of having other men in my life WHEN I said NO and blocked him, the very next day(overnight)his profile picture was him and the new supplier. IN FACT thst evening he begged me in a e mail to take him back...his last words "Help me" In all the years we were in the relationship he never had a profile picture of us😅
Ye, I struggle with this. I am gifted and yet I was fooled by a Narcissist. Forgiving myself and reclaiming my personhood is where the real work is. Empaths often give more than they have to give. Recently I have been practicing and working on mastering "filling my own cup.". It takes time to undo a lifetime of cultural conditioning. I have realized that the World Wide Culture of Patriarchy is really a culture of the Narcissist. We Empaths and Gifted Humans are the Change, the New Earth Paradigm Pioneers. It is not a path for the fainthearted. It is a path forged by Human Angels, the Empaths and Gifted.
You are right. The process is not linear. Some days are better than others. But the good days are getting better and better and becoming more frequent. I dreamed last night that I went back around my narcissist family members......and things were different. By my leaving them behind for years, they finally started to respect me more.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this so badly. I've been trying for over 4 yrs. to heal from my narcissist. He took my soul. I have good days & bad days. Today after hearing this is a good day. God bless you.
You mentioned four years I'm still working on it after 6:00. I'm proud of Andrew only being one year out and having the understanding that he does. We all heal at our own pace. I had never even heard of the word narcissist. 26 years married to one and now I have a neighbor who is one. I'm just grateful that I am totally aware of it now I feel more powerful with my situation
So glad to know that I am not alone with these feelings. It is not easy to let go of this stuff. I feel your pain in your words. What an experience to have to go through! Thank you for sharing, it helps me to keep going!
I didn't THINK about the Narcissist for months. Then I began coffee dates. Became SO traumatized by two of these wrong guys, I'm in need of more support.
I can't think of anything much worse than having gone through this...healing is such a relief...sort of like facing death from a disease and you find out you are going to make it....and BOY DO WE COME OUT SO MUCH DIFFERENT AND STRONG FROM THIS EXPERIENCE
I know I'm healed cause I don't think about what happened anymore and I'm happier now. You have to forgive your self that is not your fault.keep working to love your self first. Take time and determination and courage. GOD BLESS EVERYONE 🙌 🙏 ❤
About a week ago I was traveling through northern PA. When the highway crested a pass I could see nothing but green rolling mountains as far as the eye could. I smile came across my face. The first time I had a genuine smile and moment of pure peace in a very long time. I felt happy to be alive.
l figure out through your videos, that my father was a narcissist all along my life I am now 64 and he is 92 years old. l found that my life became much easier for me when l have realize that. He can not manipulate me and l feel like l lost a burden fall down. Now l feel much calmer inside me. Thank you, Andrew, be blessed.
Thank you for reminding me Andrew! One day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time. Remember, be gentle with yourself. We all deserve to give ourselves the time it takes to heal!!🙏🦋🌷❤❤❤
If It Be Your Will, poetry/song by Leonard Cohen. I used to listen to that prayer every day, now I say it if the day hasn’t gone well. Helped me, very little pain left. Celebrating other wonderful people in my life….🥹🥹👂👂👂👂😘
I am so happy for you Andrew that you are healed and thankful that you created this channel to help others. I am 3 years out of a narc relationship and still watch videos from time to time. I love your videos, so relatable, they really are cookie cutter people. It truly is amazing how they all operate in the same way. Keep doing what you do Andrew, you are a valuable resource to us empaths. Knowledge is key! Thank you for what you do!!
It’s exhausting- I’m 7 months of no contact after 13 years… I trust you , that it will get better, I just can’t wait. You hit it…. I have no energy and can sit on the couch forever. I can’t wait to have a minute when I don’t think about the mess I was in . Thank you so much for your input ❤ and hope
Please start brain washing yourself through video's like Abraham Hicks, tapping with Brad Yates (excellent), Stephanie Lyn couching and many others. It is SO important to get out of that mindset. Love and light to you 🤗
“As you grow into who you are, people will slowly fall out of your life. Let them wash away with the tides. They were never meant to be forever. They were only there to benefit from the version of who you were. Let them fade away with all the past versions of you.” ~ Jenna Lynn So beautiful and such profound words of wisdom!! Just as your beautiful wise words and teachings are Andrew! God Bless Us Everyone! Thank you kindly dear man! ❤🙏🏻❤️
You’re videos have definitely helped me with my healing process. Thank you, Andrew. Your beautiful empathetic personality wasn’t appreciated by the former narcissist in your life, but it’s definitely appreciated by us the survivors. We love and appreciate you, Andrew.
True 🙏 I m still healing after almost 3 years 🙏And I look at your channel and another channel and it is necessary for me to be reminded of the truth. Thanks 🙏❤️🙏
There are those who may think I am dwelling. After so many years of gaslighting and manipulation, it might take longer than the time I have left. I am glad to be on the path to healing as I breathe a sigh of relief.
I’m almost glad that I broke three ribs in my last cross race, so I don’t have to see him again at the final race this weekend. He keeps hoovering me at the races. Since I can’t race this last one, I won’t see him. Very thankful. I guess everything happens for a reason.
Over the years I have learned NOT to engage ( NO Contact) with these Halfling Reptillians. They cannot, will not change. DONT WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS PRECIOUS TIME OR LOVE ON THEM. YOU WILL DIE ON EVERY LEVEL. Beautiful Empath🕊🙏🕊🌻❣️
Day 49 for me and for the first time yesterday I realised that for a period of time (might have been only a couple of hours) he hadn't crossed my mind once. So proud of myself and all of you guys out there persevering with this battle 🥰 I thank the Advaita philosophy that I have been studying for years and all of the beautiful people around me for helping me get through this speedily. I don't talk about it with most people, but just their loving presence is enough. So grateful for everything, including the challenge that this past relationship brought me. I've found that adversity is a fantastic teacher and promoter of growth towards being the person you are meant to be on this planet. Namaste and love and huge hugs to all going through this 🙏
I found myself Ruminating. I felt if Rumminsting was an Olympic marathon I was the winner. In life however when we ruminate over our Narcissist abuse we are losing. We lose valuable time and we lose ourselves. We fall into a whirlpool of emotions just spinning around and around until we are sucked down. Then I investigated Self Forgiveness. Wow. It took a lot of weight off my shoulders. I stopped Comfort eating. I lost weight. I don't buy so many things to bolster my moods. I had not realised my brother was a Narcissist. Then as I read about it and realised how it affected me I relapsed now and then as I processed it all. I even felt sorry for him at one time when I read he is as he is because he suffered trauma as a child. I suffered two incidents that were not something that should happen to a six year old but I didn't let it destroy me. My depression is all him. Only in 2018 I told a health worker my brother had been mentally abusing me for most of my life. Then I thought it nothing more than sibling bullying brought on by his inferiority complex something that may have been down to hiscwetting the bed up to the age of five. That bed wetting may be a result of what traumatized him. So I went through the stage of wanting to heal him. I've been angry because of things I could of should if done. I then return to self forgiveness. I forgive myself for being weak too weak to stand up to him although I did have my moments. I remember a story about Churchill. He was at a function. A woman saw he was drinking a lit. She goes to him to say. 'You are Drunk.' To which he replied. 'You are ugly, but at least I will be sober in the morning.' The point Being, we can heal. They will remain as Ugly Narcissists for as long as they live.
I am making progress. I am very thankful to your channel and other channels that promote healing from narcissism. I happen to be thinking less of the narcissist today compared with 2 months ago. I am not jealous of the new supply. I know eventually she will learn the truth about the fake relationship she is in. I wish her well. With each passing day, I am getting more understanding of events which at the time didn’t make sense. Now it does. For example, the covert narc complained to me during our friendship that her family hardly ever communicates with her. I felt sorry for her at the time. I understand now. They know she is needy and toxic. They choose to avoid her. Knowledge is power. With each passing day I’m getting more empowered.
A year later. I have been processing this slowly but surely. I am laughing for the first time with pure joy & pure peace. Thank God. Thank you Love 💕 I am not healed but I am on the healing path. Thank you. God bless you. ❤🎉😂 I am enjoying life . I am so Thankful to be alive ❤🎉 I AM A SURVIVOR ! 😅😂😢😊
Andrew thank you. I know I've been eating up these videos. I'm so grateful. I'm taking this a day at a time. I ask that anybody who reads this keeps me in those prayers. Thank y'all from South Texas.
I had to abandon the child, because I realize I cannot help him. So feel freer. He took about 3 months to complete his plan, and I have taken three months of pain, now two weeks of recovery, but I have to manage the situation as he is in my social path. (Sociopath???) but I refuse to alter my sweet life, and he see the great life I have. No more him, or taking care of the child. Frankly, Frilli, Farfalilli, Fagazzilli, Silly Chilly Willie. Having fun with words. Lovecwords. What a relief!!!🥹🥹👂👂👂👂👂😘
I finally broke it off. Been a few weeks. Then unexpectedly my 6mth grandson passed away at same time. Am so broken. It's been so hard. Yes I have mental issues, n have been struggling. Am so lost. N other day it's been 1st anniversary of my mum passing away after an illness. I feel like I can't take anymore heartache. I'm 62, feel like I'm being tested to see how much pain n sorrow I can take. Have had severe depression n anxiety for over 20yrs. N now all this. Am grateful I wake up each day. Only I can heal myself. Have a long road ahead of me.
I’m a dark empath and playing with the narcissist’s head is the best form of healing for me. Every time he comes in for a Hoover, I give him a dose of his own medicine by inflicting a narcissistic injury. There’s no blocking, no avoiding. Just ignoring and showing him, he can’t touch me. Showing him I don’t care - that I care more about me, I mean more to me than he ever will! Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I’m not going to spend my life in avoidance mode. I’m going to show him exactly what he’s missing out on. Treating me so poorly will be his greatest regret in life.
This is by far the worst I have felt in my adult life every day I wake up wishing I was healed I want to forget about this I didn’t think I was this strong didn’t think I can survive this heartache and betrayal . I go from feeling ashamed to feeling anger it’s exhausting. Thank you Andrew for your videos because they are helping me get through this tumultuous time in my life. Sending everyone love and healing vibrations 💜
Thank you Love ❤for your words of encouragement. I pray one day soon I will experience what you are experiencing . Yes please send pics of your pool. Thank you for helping us live life & making Sense of our crazy lives. Once I was living the vida loca with those narcs. The real crazy ones . But no longer are they being allowed to make me think I was the crazy one . No more ! Hallelujah! Every day I am experiencing a bit more freedom . Little by little a bit more energy & great wisdom. 🎉❤ Thank you 🙏
It is hard work. Oh how right you are. We eventually do see progress. Oh my totally true. Getting educated is everything & moving forward. Yes ! Oh yes 🙌 yes yes ! Totally defined everything to the T ! Yes 👍 light bulb 💡 moments. Thank God for them . ABC lol I’m going through the alphabet lol in a different form for healing ❤️🩹 enlightenment & greater wisdom 😂Yes very prevalent. These are ancient demons . Reading the Bible I am seeing kings that were great narcs in the Bible . Thank you Love 💝 yes 👍 I’m am like the Phoenix bird rising from the ashes. My brother & I have always loved that pic since the 70’s . Now I really totally love ❤it & can totally relate . All things are possible through Christ . Now I have to try that running goal lol . I am out of my wheel chair. I use a walker & a cane & a scooter 🛵 but I am going to run & one day starting at 64 to be 64 soon I will seek to attain that 4 minute Mile ! Wow! Amazing. I will let you know if I attain no when I attain it. Lol
Yes I’m working through the pain no matter how bad I suffer with arthritis scoliosis I’m pushing through the pain. I’m working on starting my garden 🪴 I painted my patio , all by my lonesome self . Yay ! It took me a bit but I did it hallelujah! Now I am setting my goals to paint my storage shed. Yes. I know that I know that I know. I am on the healing path . We all love you Andrew ❤you’re the best
Andrew, thank you for your life affirming videos filled with hope and love! I am 22 years out...and I have healed from the narc. Although I will always carry the scars. I watch your channel as a reminder of how far I have come (and how close I came to total destruction). , I have seen a lot of people on a quest to heal, but you, my friend, are the most dedicated person I have the pleasure of watching. I love your way of digging deep, sharing truth and wisdom and spreading beauty!! Your videos feed my soul. I wish you peace for the journey, healing for the wounds and love and companionship with healthy, like-minded souls. 🌼🌷🌸🌹♥️🦋💝💜✨💫
Hi Andrew I have just started watching you. I was in my time for 15 years plus 5 grooming. I am 3 years free and still have therapy after a breakdown. I am off medication and coming out off the second fog. I never knew what the hell was happening to me. I am starting to cope and get back to my family. You have opened my eyes , I am not alone. Thank you
I’m on day 23 right now since I broke the chains and left them. But I was ruminating badly in the fog for 3 months everyday before I left them too. On the one hand, I feel incredibly grateful to be free from the situation with so many possibilities ahead in life. But on the other hand, it’s difficult to fathom that I may have months of ruminating left ahead of me. I hope I can soon leave the ruminating behind but still process things.
You are an amazing awesome and giving human being Andrew.. I am so grateful for discovering your channel and would like to thank you from my heart for sharing your personal story, providing help & guidance for us to heal and most of all, for being you. 🙏💜 Thank you also for everyone's comments which are a great support 💗 Now at month 10 from narcissist ex - all the education, work on self I've done, I feel I'm now accepting it all and letting go.. have let go of a lot and no longer ruminating every hour of every day... in fact only pops into my head once maybe twice per day and then I just say 'let go'.. get out of my head..he no longer controls me😊 Love & light, Namaste Karen Xx
Once we reached the point of "indifference" the real healing begins. More and more minutes go without us thinking about the relationship, then hours, then days and soon is months and years.. All of the hard work and self examination and radical acceptance of the truth of the experience finally pays off. We go on to create that beautiful life that we deserve. Stay strong, continue to do the daily work until one day without even noticing it, you realize that you are truly free. Blessings to all! ❤
Thank you, Andrew. Coming from you, that is gospel. Experience is the best teacher. No matter what book degree an expert has, it is just book knowledge. I have watched your videos enough this past 4 months when you caution your viewers and get a counselor who has experience in narcissistic abuse. That is not a fine print. You are shouting it from the rooftop."The healing path is not linear."
You said it Andrew, healing is not a linear healing bc so much of it is traumatic memory that takes time to clear. The picture takes time to form about what really happened. The more honest we get with ourselves about how we were dismantled and manipulated, the clearer the picture gets which gives us a stronger instinct. I'm out 7 yrs. I am progressing each day to a better me. One whose decisions I trust.
Hi Andrew, your videos are brilliant. ‘Read that again’. I knew I’d started healing when I started smiling again, I hadn’t smiled in a longtime I just hadn’t realised it. Then I started laughing, I hadn’t laughed in a longtime. Then I started singing, I hadn’t sung in a longtime. Then my sense of humour returned, hadn’t seen that in a while. Almost two years since I left the narc. I’m a beautiful empath, you’re a beautiful empath. My best wishes to all you beautiful empaths.
I could not have said that better…… it’s not just a fog. It’s a dissociation, a surreal dreamlike state where your sense of self barely exists. It can be the brink of a mental breakdown. I call it an “Avalanche of emotions”. I have actually written a play about. Only at the time I wrote it, I didn’t know what a narcissist was. I know now, thanks to research and videos like this. It’s about a nervous breakdown. And how to get through it. I need to put in the part a narcissist plays. That is what is missing. In the spirit of healing, I applaud you sir. ❤️🩹
i feel sorry Andrew that u went tru the torments of being in a narcissistic relationship but know that you were used to save thousands of souls today that's going through or went through the same... you are speaking from the deepest recesses of ur heart, u understand every bit and u make ur viewers understand... u absolutely know what u are saying... no one could do that but by someone hus gone tru the same... u are an angel...
Who's ever on here watching with us and Andrew let me tell you something you need to continue listening to us because you on the road to redemption baby all good roads start here.
True. Been 4 years of trying to put the puzzle pieces together from a narcissistic boss and what happened in the office for 10 years to everyone. This thinking is unwanted. The part in the vid about 'to your satisfaction' I love which puts me in control now. Thanks.
Thank you for showing us how it’s done! 💪🏼“Thank you God for keeping Andrew here!!!!” ❤️🙏 He had and has plans to continue to prosper you and not to harm you. I love you too! ❤️💙 ✝️
For all you girls that are out there, I am two years out and I am healed. I took that time, and didn't listen to everyone else who thought if I just dated someone else I would forget the experience. I knew myself enough to just heal and be at peace and I got there. It does take time, I spoiled myself everyday. Thank you Andrew I am finally free. I had 2 narcs back to back one for a short period of time, one for 5 years. I am not dating anymore, too old for this stuff.
Thanks Andrew. ❤I have been on the healing path a long time, and I expunged him from my head some time ago. Recently, due to family circumstances I had to have interactions with him again, after many years of no contact. It was actually amazing. I feel complete indifference to him now, he no longer pushes my buttons and when he tries to wind me up, I don't react emotionally and, using the grey rock technique, I can diffuse potential blow ups and control the situation. I now see him as the pathetic, childish, stupid and empty being he is.
I'll tell you what got me on this channel...I left my Narc June 5. I talked to him July 7. He already has mental health issues. He revealed his psychiatrist had diagnosed him with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after I quit coming around. So, I started on the domestic violence hotline website and realized he had abused me everyway he could. Then I had a friend who has also went through this. She has helped me so much and came into my life at the perfect time. I'm so tired of rumenating. I'm so tired of feeling this lost and confused. I can't stop it, or control it and I just keep watching your videos because they give me hope. I am going to sit down and make a bucket list of things I've wanted to do but couldn't because of the narc always having access to the bank account, or always demanding me with requests that I did to a fault, but still wasn't good enough. I'm so tired of being alone as well. Most people gave up on me when I was isolated. They must've thought it was what I wanted because I was so busy making my narc happy I physically and mentally didn't have time for them. I was married to my narc, still am legally. I'm not spending another penny to benefit him. If he can live his life not fulfilling his vows, then who cares. It's just a piece of paper on file at a local courthouse
Really great video Andrew! It's really hard to put feelings and emotions into words sometimes and you have done it brilliantly here! Everything your talking about is on point, I know because I have been on this journey for a year now since the breakup and 7 months legally divorced so I can attest to everything your saying!!! I look back and never imagined a year ago I would be in such a better place today, it just didnt seem possible. But it happened, slowly but surely by the grace of God!!!
There is a narcissist channel that has a narcissist that explains how to heal. “Mental Healness.” But this is so on point. The Narc just moves on and looks for more supply.
Right! I'm catching myself focusing too much on the stuff I need to leave BEHIND. Being overly negative from simply considering these monster people. Where's my balance?
Andrew it has been 3 weeks approx. I feel great. Perhaps because I have a psychology degree and also the many videos that I have seen. I now know why I do the things I do. I am putting a negative into a positive. I will never do this again. I feel more energized and full of life. I realize the smear campaign is going on and I don't care.. People who are your friends will stay with you. If your friends leave that is on them. Get new ones. Andrew thank you for your videos. I am a strong person now thanks to you and all the information I have obtained.
I’m healing after 2 years I’m so much better than I was sometimes I think of the nice vacations they went on behind my back but him being gone forever is priceless! Thank you Andrew!😀
"You come to grips that you were with a narcissist " True. Everyone saw it but me. The person I knew was not the same person other people knew. He didn't want me to know who he really was. What is worse is that he found people that were impressed with who he was. It wasn't me that did something wrong for not catching it. They call it Covert for a reason.
My husband narc., kept me in a constant dread of fear! that going to doctors & getting all the test possible & then I realized my constant sickness was the mental abuse. I couldn't share with anyone. Andrew, little by little am getting my breathing back & my energy back! Thank you Andrew...you are helping me so much, the more I hear your videos I become more free... God give you full happiness. G/B
Every day is different. Sometimes I think I am healing, often I don't. I'm starting the day with a walk in the woods, but I don't feel particularly strong today. I feel shaky and sensitive. I will need to write a lot
I have been binge watching these videos extra tonight and this is amazing. After years of confusion, anger, depression 🫥 anxiety and so on, since i have found your channel i have gained so much. I am so much stronger, clear minded and so on. I cant thank you enough sweet Andrew for educating us and sharing daily (that helps so much) thank you for your honesty and strength. Best therapist ever 💯 something good came out of your battle, you are helping so many of us. Sorry you had to go through the experiences 😢😢 but proud and inspired how you came out fighting and helping us do the same 😊 God bless you and everyone here 🫂 🤗 🙏
Things do get better. My friend told me they would. I thought they wouldn't. After 37 years of abuse.It takes a little time.Three years now.No matter what memories you have, the wounds, at least you are free from further immediate abuse. My abuser uses remote abuse.Im actively making that more difficult for him daily.These people are evil to the core.They do not change.
I only survive now because of your videos and the info in them... 2 mths now for me . ...... still thinking about Narcissist......and can't process what happened God bless and thank you ♥️
Hi Andrew I am healing slowly with the best help and around people that have lived and are living through it now which are getting all the support from the The Freedom Programme from each other. You Andrew also are helping tick off the alarm bells inside of myself that has confirmed alot. I said today in are class about what you said Andrew. RESPOND DONT REACT. The teachers says that's excellent and going to use this on our Red Flag march . Thank you Andrew God bless 🙌 🙏 😊 ❤️
Healing must be conscious n deliberate.. there are times wen u relapse to old dark mental state.. knocked down.. keep getting up back again.. don't give up. Have faith have compassion for yourself.. have patience.. 🕊️🕊️🙏🏻
My problem is that I only recently figured out my long history with exnarc; but have been battling with acceptance that a sibling is one as well and I had no idea I was drowning in gaslighting, blame, minimizing, game playing by people I trusted and loved. Finally learned boundaries trying to save relationship, crying for the loss of who I thought she was...it feels so lonely. I know it will pass, but it's salt on wounds.
I love that I am healing this time. I have had a 22 yr relationship, 6 year and the last one was 8 yr (Narcassist) all of them. And I just kept jumping right into a relationship when those ended to avoid feelings, except this last one...I wanted no one else...not yet anyway...this time I am going thru the process. 10 weeks, last 2 days I have woken up with more energy & positivity.
Amigo. This is 💯 where iam at. I so work so seriously aware and awake to recognize progressive behavior. I have to do this, I even embrace the painful moments ND its ok. Purge is a God giving touch it hurts. Iam on my way . See this place call serenity. I can really touch it at time. I believe you mi Amigo. Its happening. God bless you and everyone peace be unto you.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone when I say iam not alone is fact.it has been all the sufferings and I do say I have suffered, that their was a small light that kept me from giving up ND loosing my mind, I must tell you the Holy Spirit has given light to the path, no doubts. And now you Amigo teaching with such a universal love that breaks every thing that I can say iam not alone. God is one you do not play with and He says vengeance is for God not me. I have found my girlfriend and her name is 🗽. Amigo thank you. Also to the beauties that speaks the language of We want what is best for you. That is priceless Amigo. Iam not highly educated, but can say I can help others. And that is beautiful mi Amigo. This heart of mine iam going to let it shine. God always keep you Amigo. And peace be added unto you. Love you everyone.
Thank you Andrew. Purging old stuff. Still have times of thinking what on earth would ever cause someone to act in that way? Separating old memories which were valid in childhood when i met him and things were good from the more recent trash of a relationship and realizing years in between caused changes to make him into someone I wish I would have never met again and got fooled into thinking he was someone he isn't. Anyway I am out and have survived, growing, healing. Thank you again Andrew. Healing!!
Thank you so much Andrew! Yes! I am doing it! I am becoming in control of my self and loving it..My healing is happening! I will continue learning, educating myself and continue to grow and heal. Thank you for everything you do to help our Tribe💕💕🌹
I found that writing letters to my narc family members (three siblings), prior to going no contact, actually helped to release all my pent up emotions and may have possibly helped me to heal quicker when I actually went 'no contact' with them. Writing a letter (even if you don't send it to your narc), expressing all your hurt feelings, could possibly help you with your healing process?? It did for me! Stay strong everybody and God bless!
Thank you for your video Andrew. Everyday is different Andrew on our healing journey and you are indeed an inspiration. It can sometimes be a slow process but when I look back now to where I was 6 months ago, life is definitely getting better for me. Lisa
ABSOLUTELY! 💜💜💜 YOU CAN DO THIS! Thank you Andrew!💜💜💜 It does get better. Once you can get them away from you physically, you maintain your energy. You can breathe. You no longer feel the represiveness of their anxiety. This helps a lot in healing. Because even if you are over it, done all the work, but still have to live with them for awhile, gray rocking, not feeding them, their low vibrational energy will still try and draw energy from you. Keep that in mind. You are fine...it is their energy you are feeling. Always stay in the attitude of gratitude. No matter what! Healing is simple, but not at all easy! One second at a time, becomes one minute at a time, then one hour, one day, one month, one year, then the past eventually stays where it is and you move on, happy and healthy, thriving in the LOVE that you are! LOVE to all of you warriors! YOU ARE AWESOME!
@@beverlytaylor1745 I am so very happy that I could make you feel better! Know that it truly does get better every day that you are away from them. Sending you much love!💞
WOW! The day, December 6, 2019. Everyone remembers "the day" that your world fell into a million different pieces. I literally took myself out of this thing called life. I stayed with my parents, spent alot of time alone. It was brutal. I removed myself from all forms of communication. I called it hibernation. When u don't know who u can trust & u don't to "be" around others. The pain & rumination, the "whys", the processes of how u got here, etc. I didn't think about how long this healing would take. I was numb, empty, and didnt look up for a while. I didn't look for another to fix it. I looked for how did I get here? what is lacking n me to accept this person? why didn't I see r acknowledge the red flags, because they were there. I did a deep dive into all of this. I didn't know what an empath was. I freely gave to all. I would give all I had, empty my cup to help r fix others. I realized I was not taking the time to replenish my soul. I didn't know what it was to just "be" r be present n the moment. I was busy helping. Empathy must take this time! Time to walk by the ocean, feel the breeze, sun on face, smells. Walk n nature, listen to the sounds, Put a life vest on and float n the lake, walk, plant some flowers, roll the top back, turn up the radio to a good song and sing not caring who's watching, rent a hotel room, turn the ac down, curl up with lots of pillows and down comforter and veg on movies for the day, sleep n, take a trip, the list goes on. The list goes on...then u will understand who u r, ur value, uniqueness and so much more so that one day, u will live ur authentic, true self. Today, I am living proof that healing done correctly, over time does make u a better person. If u don't take this time u may set yourself up to engaging with another narc. You owe yourself to do this work. Today, I do "me" I'm not looking at what others r doing r what they think of me r what I have to say. Nor do I reflect back as often as I did because I've closed that chapter. I look forward to whatever God brings to my future. While I'm excited to see I'm busy doing me. I don't want to WASTE another minute of my life thinking about, analyzing, understanding, etc. I just want to "be". I don't want to give any of my future to my past and to do this u have to take the time to heal. I promise you, u will get there. God bless.
Andrew is absolutely correct. I've been away from my ex-narc for almost 2 years now and each day I am more healed. I have my identity back, I am so happy and grateful for my new life without the narc. How do you know you are healed? You will stop watching videos about narcissism. You will stop ruminating. You will stop thinking and caring about the narcissist & their new supply. I promise you the sooner you get away and free yourself from this abuse the sooner you will begin to heal. It's not easy. Nothing worth while ever is but you CAN do it. When I look back at all that I went through to be free I am proud of myself for it. If I had known ahead of time how miserable he was going to make the whole divorce/custody process I may have backed out. I'm am so glad that I didn't know. Just focus on the end result. Focus on your happiness and freedom. Focus on how good it's going to feel waking up everyday to new possibilities. The peace you will feel is worth it 1000 times over. Take your life and your health back before they destroy you and they absolutely will.
Beautiful comment.. insightful and supportive.. thank you 🙏
I totally agree 100% ….couldn’t have put it in words as well as you 👍🥰 with my ex narc since 1981…married 30 plus years 😳 divorced 2 years over 40 years! Never felt so free 🥳lesson I learned….they don’t change and get worse with age ! He is getting married again 👍🤣🤣🤣 I wish her luck 🍀🎉🎉🎉
Your comments and Andrews video's are so very helpful. 10 miserable years in and 2 weeks out and going strong. NEVER returning (this time:)) Older, wiser and finally free!
Thanks for your comment. I have been divorced for over 2 years and am still struggling to heal. But I am sure part of that is due to the fact that my ex husband says he wants me back but he is also triangulating me and new supply. I think that she is his 3rd or 4th new supply in 2 years.
Leaving that environment is the best you can do, to start the healing path. I must warn you though, you can not ever trust the narcissist again. Not in the spirit of love or forgiveness. No matter where you are in your healing, they have a way about them, trickery, if you will, to suck you back and undo it all, every single time. Trust me on that. I’ve been on that roller coaster ride for decades. Once I figured out the pattern, distance is key. I can’t be who they are. I can show love briefly and from afar but I can not be in their presence, no matter how healed I believe I am. That’s because of the post traumatic stress disorder this type of relationship put me trough. I can not control the flashbacks, I can not take any more abuse. I am worked ng on mindfulness and vagus exorcises . It is helping . Stay healed and stay away. ❤️🩹
I think for all you guys out there struggling with rumination and reflection you should know that just in the last three days I have finally had a breakthrough in my healing and recovery ! It's taken over a year , a year of a lot of soul searching and rebuilding , but without me even doing anything the trauma bond has broken ! For the first time all of the emotional and mental connections that tied us together have fallen away , like the ropes slipping from a leaving boat , and I can't even begin to tell you how wonderful it feels ! So if anyone out there is finding it tough , don't worry , you will get there ,...eventually 🙏🙏😎⛵
This message is inspirational and beautiful.. thank you 🙏 🙌🙌🙌☀️☀️
I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit. You say you didn’t “do anything”, but you also worked on yourself and rebuilding. You were actively doing work towards healing! Congratulations. I’m doing the same and finally feeling free after two years. Namaste!
Great 👍🏽 work - and thanks for sharing 🙏 I don’t think SOME women understand how - disgusting 🤢 awful 😢 - heart Breaking 💔 they can be !!
It’s just not men out there who do this.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank you so much 😊
That's amazing what you have accomplished!
Curious to know how long were you in the relationship with the narcissist?
I told and tell myself every day, "It is already better. It's done". 5 days out and my energy already rising.
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No more: You! You! You! Life is Grand without the energy vampire 🙏❤❤❤
When I first met my ex narcissist, he told me his ex was crazy and that’s why he had to leave her. lol. I bet he told his new supply the same thing about me, right? Lol 😆
Absolutely correct
That seems to be a very common theme with narcissists....the crazy ex. And i realized that the ex was probably very much like me...and actually a nice person. But a narc will blame shift and project.
Love and light to you, Kristine J.!
@@randomsasquatchwithwifi4090 I really appreciate your reply. 💯
These narcs choose good people to use and abuse and then call them crazy when they are the true crazy ones, right? Lol
Thank you. Love and light to you too…🙏
Wow he did this to her and me too and I caught on and told him about himself but it was like war. He don't back down. I'm finally being firm with myself to let him go. My health was in danger
Right
I am on day 4 of him leaving. He came to me to apologize for his past behavior he said he was a changed man and to please give him another change. I was already 1 month without him and feeling AMAZING. He came to disturb my peace. I gave him no money (it’s all he wanted) so He left in such a manner threatening my entire family all because he didn’t have his way and I am putting my foot down for the first time. He is now trying to turn his friend against me so that they help him out he has no money no car no home. He’s angry because I stopped supporting him and his family overseas. I am educating myself and I will never EVER allow him back into my life. 9 years and no kids. I knew he’d be a horrible father so I protected myself there at least. some morning are bad for me some are better. I have a long road to healing but I’m glad I’m out and will never go back to that disaster of a human. Your videos have helped me very much. I’m in Mexico hiding out trying to build my life again he’s in the US with nothing he blocked me after saving very disgusting things to. Yesterday, his friend calls me asking me to help him financially he says I HAVE TO out of humanity because he has nothing and because I am his wife. I answered with “Tough! Not my problem anymore divorce papers are on their way to him” That’s what he gets for using me and psychologically abusing me all these years. Before he left he said “you can be in my life only for sex and money I don’t want feelings or love if you can’t be that I don’t want you.” That’s after I didn’t give him anymore money. Then his mom calls me from middle East telling me “you’re not my daughter anymore” just cause I didn’t send her money. 😂😂😂 crazy ass family so glad I don’t have to deal with them anymore. He lost an amazing wife his loss. Thanks for your videos they are helping me get through this. I’m a little depressed rn i don’t have friends I am alone but i will be ok. I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse. God bless you all we can do this 💪
How are you doing now, dear? I pray you are well.
God bless. Thank you for your strength. You'll come through this. You can feel happiness. 🙏💙🍏🍀🍀🍀🍀👍❤️
You are brilliant and you set the example for all of us. I was nearly 6 years in a narcissist relationship, the first year was awesome and then the narcissist went for the kill. He ALSO came back to apologize and ask forgiveness and he ALSO said terrible things to me accused me of having other men in my life WHEN I said NO and blocked him, the very next day(overnight)his profile picture was him and the new supplier. IN FACT thst evening he begged me in a e mail to take him back...his last words "Help me"
In all the years we were in the relationship he never had a profile picture of us😅
Forgiving myself has been the hardest part.
I understand.. this is the path though..💯💯💯
Ye, I struggle with this. I am gifted and yet I was fooled by a Narcissist. Forgiving myself and reclaiming my personhood is where the real work is. Empaths often give more than they have to give. Recently I have been practicing and working on mastering "filling my own cup.". It takes time to undo a lifetime of cultural conditioning. I have realized that the World Wide Culture of Patriarchy is really a culture of the Narcissist. We Empaths and Gifted Humans are the Change, the New Earth Paradigm Pioneers. It is not a path for the fainthearted. It is a path forged by Human Angels, the Empaths and Gifted.
You are right. The process is not linear. Some days are better than others. But the good days are getting better and better and becoming more frequent.
I dreamed last night that I went back around my narcissist family members......and things were different. By my leaving them behind for years, they finally started to respect me more.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this so badly. I've been trying for over 4 yrs. to heal from my narcissist. He took my soul. I have good days & bad days. Today after hearing this is a good day. God bless you.
Stay strong and maintain your boundaries ☀️🙌
You mentioned four years I'm still working on it after 6:00. I'm proud of Andrew only being one year out and having the understanding that he does. We all heal at our own pace. I had never even heard of the word narcissist. 26 years married to one and now I have a neighbor who is one. I'm just grateful that I am totally aware of it now I feel more powerful with my situation
So glad to know that I am not alone with these feelings. It is not easy to let go of this stuff. I feel your pain in your words. What an experience to have to go through! Thank you for sharing, it helps me to keep going!
He did NOT take your soul. You are strong👌🏽🙏❤️👊🏼
I didn't THINK about the Narcissist for months.
Then I began coffee dates.
Became SO traumatized by two of these wrong guys, I'm in need of more support.
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I can't think of anything much worse than having gone through this...healing is such a relief...sort of like facing death from a disease and you find out you are going to make it....and BOY DO WE COME OUT SO MUCH DIFFERENT AND STRONG FROM THIS EXPERIENCE
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So true Amen.
Yes!
I know I'm healed cause I don't think about what happened anymore and I'm happier now. You have to forgive your self that is not your fault.keep working to love your self first. Take time and determination and courage. GOD BLESS EVERYONE 🙌 🙏 ❤
Completely correct thank you 🙌💪
Thank you .
@@KoolT your welcome.
Thank You 🙏
God bless You as well.
Thank you Andrew, I love you, God bless you 🌈✝️🌈💛🌈🕊🌈🌎
Energy. Yes but another is peace. I know that I’m healing as I feel peace
Beautiful comment.. ☀️🙌thank you
Yes peace peace peace ✌ 🙏
About a week ago I was traveling through northern PA. When the highway crested a pass I could see nothing but green rolling mountains as far as the eye could. I smile came across my face. The first time I had a genuine smile and moment of pure peace in a very long time. I felt happy to be alive.
l figure out through your videos, that my father was a narcissist all along my life I am now 64 and he is 92 years old. l found that my life became much easier for me when l have realize that. He can not manipulate me and l feel like l lost a burden fall down. Now l feel much calmer inside me. Thank you, Andrew, be blessed.
Welcome 🙏🙌😌
Thank you for reminding me Andrew! One day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time. Remember, be gentle with yourself. We all deserve to give ourselves the time it takes to heal!!🙏🦋🌷❤❤❤
Yes Linda.. 🙏☀️
Can a narsissist be your son?
If It Be Your Will, poetry/song by Leonard Cohen. I used to listen to that prayer every day, now I say it if the day hasn’t gone well. Helped me, very little pain left. Celebrating other wonderful people in my life….🥹🥹👂👂👂👂😘
Thankyou Andrew.
God bless you 🙏
Namaste 🌹
I am so happy for you Andrew that you are healed and thankful that you created this channel to help others. I am 3 years out of a narc relationship and still watch videos from time to time. I love your videos, so relatable, they really are cookie cutter people. It truly is amazing how they all operate in the same way. Keep doing what you do Andrew, you are a valuable resource to us empaths. Knowledge is key! Thank you for what you do!!
Welcome Dawn.. I am grateful to be able to share my experiences and insight with you 💯🙌🙏☀️😊
It’s exhausting- I’m 7 months of no contact after 13 years… I trust you
, that it will get better, I just can’t wait. You hit it…. I have no energy and can sit on the couch forever. I can’t wait to have a minute when I don’t think about the mess I was in . Thank you so much for your input ❤ and hope
Welcome 🙏
Please start brain washing yourself through video's like Abraham Hicks, tapping with Brad Yates (excellent), Stephanie Lyn couching and many others. It is SO important to get out of that mindset. Love and light to you 🤗
“As you grow into who you are, people will slowly fall out of your life. Let them wash away with the tides. They were never meant to be forever. They were only there to benefit from the version of who you were. Let them fade away with all the past versions of you.” ~ Jenna Lynn
So beautiful and such profound words of wisdom!!
Just as your beautiful wise words and teachings are Andrew!
God Bless Us Everyone!
Thank you kindly dear man! ❤🙏🏻❤️
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I’m on the healing path and I thank god I’ve blocked the narcissist and no longer focus on him. Thank you for your videos Andrew.
You’re videos have definitely helped me with my healing process. Thank you, Andrew.
Your beautiful empathetic personality wasn’t appreciated by the former narcissist in your life, but it’s definitely appreciated by us the survivors. We love and appreciate you, Andrew.
Thank you 🙌😊💯🙏
True 🙏 I m still healing after almost 3 years 🙏And I look at your channel and another channel and it is necessary for me to be reminded of the truth. Thanks 🙏❤️🙏
Stay focused and in the path 🙏🙌☀️
There are those who may think I am dwelling. After so many years of gaslighting and manipulation, it might take longer than the time I have left. I am glad to be on the path to healing as I breathe a sigh of relief.
I’m almost glad that I broke three ribs in my last cross race, so I don’t have to see him again at the final race this weekend. He keeps hoovering me at the races. Since I can’t race this last one, I won’t see him. Very thankful. I guess everything happens for a reason.
Over the years I have learned NOT to engage ( NO Contact) with these Halfling Reptillians.
They cannot, will not change.
DONT WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS PRECIOUS TIME OR LOVE ON THEM.
YOU WILL DIE ON EVERY LEVEL.
Beautiful Empath🕊🙏🕊🌻❣️
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I am on the healing path.
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I can feel joy again. Little but I do feel joy in my heart.
Narcissistic abuse is like war. Healing is a life long process.
Cheers from Portugal, Andrew.
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I always say to myself.... I'm so proud of me.
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Day 49 for me and for the first time yesterday I realised that for a period of time (might have been only a couple of hours) he hadn't crossed my mind once. So proud of myself and all of you guys out there persevering with this battle 🥰 I thank the Advaita philosophy that I have been studying for years and all of the beautiful people around me for helping me get through this speedily. I don't talk about it with most people, but just their loving presence is enough. So grateful for everything, including the challenge that this past relationship brought me. I've found that adversity is a fantastic teacher and promoter of growth towards being the person you are meant to be on this planet. Namaste and love and huge hugs to all going through this 🙏
I found myself Ruminating. I felt if Rumminsting was an Olympic marathon I was the winner. In life however when we ruminate over our Narcissist abuse we are losing. We lose valuable time and we lose ourselves. We fall into a whirlpool of emotions just spinning around and around until we are sucked down. Then I investigated Self Forgiveness. Wow. It took a lot of weight off my shoulders. I stopped Comfort eating. I lost weight. I don't buy so many things to bolster my moods. I had not realised my brother was a Narcissist. Then as I read about it and realised how it affected me I relapsed now and then as I processed it all. I even felt sorry for him at one time when I read he is as he is because he suffered trauma as a child. I suffered two incidents that were not something that should happen to a six year old but I didn't let it destroy me. My depression is all him. Only in 2018 I told a health worker my brother had been mentally abusing me for most of my life. Then I thought it nothing more than sibling bullying brought on by his inferiority complex something that may have been down to hiscwetting the bed up to the age of five. That bed wetting may be a result of what traumatized him. So I went through the stage of wanting to heal him. I've been angry because of things I could of should if done. I then return to self forgiveness. I forgive myself for being weak too weak to stand up to him although I did have my moments. I remember a story about Churchill. He was at a function. A woman saw he was drinking a lit. She goes to him to say.
'You are Drunk.' To which he replied.
'You are ugly, but at least I will be sober in the morning.'
The point Being, we can heal. They will remain as Ugly Narcissists for as long as they live.
Thank you for sharing this insight ☀️🙌💯
I always say this to my narc "life is not a acompetition"... "life is simple and it's beautiful"
Beautiful Tazy..💯🙏🙌
I am making progress. I am very thankful to your channel and other channels that promote healing from narcissism.
I happen to be thinking less of the narcissist today compared with 2 months ago.
I am not jealous of the new supply. I know eventually she will learn the truth about the fake relationship she is in. I wish her well.
With each passing day, I am getting more understanding of events which at the time didn’t make sense. Now it does. For example, the covert narc complained to me during our friendship that her family hardly ever communicates with her. I felt sorry for her at the time. I understand now. They know she is needy and toxic. They choose to avoid her.
Knowledge is power. With each passing day I’m getting more empowered.
Beautiful message 🙏🙌😊
A year later. I have been processing this slowly but surely. I am laughing for the first time with pure joy & pure peace. Thank God. Thank you Love 💕 I am not healed but I am on the healing path. Thank you. God bless you. ❤🎉😂 I am enjoying life . I am so Thankful to be alive ❤🎉 I AM A SURVIVOR ! 😅😂😢😊
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This is buy far the best platform on TH-cam thank you Andrew an everyone who contrurbuties
Thank you for sharing this 🙌🙏💯☀️😊
Andrew thank you. I know I've been eating up these videos. I'm so grateful. I'm taking this a day at a time. I ask that anybody who reads this keeps me in those prayers. Thank y'all from South Texas.
Prayers are sent.. 🙏🙏🙏
I had to abandon the child, because I realize I cannot help him. So feel
freer. He took about 3 months to complete his plan, and I have taken three months of pain, now two weeks of recovery, but I have to manage the situation as he is in my social path. (Sociopath???) but I refuse to alter my sweet life, and he see the great life I have. No more him, or taking care of the child. Frankly, Frilli, Farfalilli, Fagazzilli, Silly Chilly Willie. Having fun with words. Lovecwords. What a relief!!!🥹🥹👂👂👂👂👂😘
I finally broke it off. Been a few weeks. Then unexpectedly my 6mth grandson passed away at same time. Am so broken. It's been so hard. Yes I have mental issues, n have been struggling. Am so lost. N other day it's been 1st anniversary of my mum passing away after an illness. I feel like I can't take anymore heartache. I'm 62, feel like I'm being tested to see how much pain n sorrow I can take. Have had severe depression n anxiety for over 20yrs. N now all this. Am grateful I wake up each day. Only I can heal myself. Have a long road ahead of me.
It doesn't hurt anymore to talk or think about Him. He has the sickness and the demons. God rescued me.
Amen 🙏
I’m a dark empath and playing with the narcissist’s head is the best form of healing for me. Every time he comes in for a Hoover, I give him a dose of his own medicine by inflicting a narcissistic injury. There’s no blocking, no avoiding. Just ignoring and showing him, he can’t touch me. Showing him I don’t care - that I care more about me, I mean more to me than he ever will! Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I’m not going to spend my life in avoidance mode. I’m going to show him exactly what he’s missing out on. Treating me so poorly will be his greatest regret in life.
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Thank you for sharing your Experience, Strength and Hope! ✌️
Welcome 🙏
This is by far the worst I have felt in my adult life every day I wake up wishing I was healed I want to forget about this I didn’t think I was this strong didn’t think I can survive this heartache and betrayal . I go from feeling ashamed to feeling anger it’s exhausting. Thank you Andrew for your videos because they are helping me get through this tumultuous time in my life. Sending everyone love and healing vibrations 💜
Welcome 🙌😌🙏💯
I'm waiting for that day when I forget to think about him...thank you for this message Andrew.
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Thank you Love ❤for your words of encouragement. I pray one day soon I will experience what you are experiencing . Yes please send pics of your pool. Thank you for helping us live life & making Sense of our crazy lives. Once I was living the vida loca with those narcs. The real crazy ones . But no longer are they being allowed to make me think I was the crazy one . No more ! Hallelujah! Every day I am experiencing a bit more freedom . Little by little a bit more energy & great wisdom. 🎉❤ Thank you 🙏
Welcome 🙌🙏😊
It is hard work. Oh how right you are. We eventually do see progress. Oh my totally true. Getting educated is everything & moving forward. Yes ! Oh yes 🙌 yes yes ! Totally defined everything to the T ! Yes 👍 light bulb 💡 moments. Thank God for them . ABC lol I’m going through the alphabet lol in a different form for healing ❤️🩹 enlightenment & greater wisdom 😂Yes very prevalent. These are ancient demons . Reading the Bible I am seeing kings that were great narcs in the Bible . Thank you Love 💝 yes 👍 I’m am like the Phoenix bird rising from the ashes. My brother & I have always loved that pic since the 70’s . Now I really totally love ❤it & can totally relate . All things are possible through Christ . Now I have to try that running goal lol . I am out of my wheel chair. I use a walker & a cane & a scooter 🛵 but I am going to run & one day starting at 64 to be 64 soon I will seek to attain that 4 minute Mile ! Wow! Amazing. I will let you know if I attain no when I attain it. Lol
Theirs narcs are all on their 2 nd supply after discarding of me . I’m glad it’s no longer me .
Sending you hugs & kisses 😘 😊
Yes I’m working through the pain no matter how bad I suffer with arthritis scoliosis I’m pushing through the pain. I’m working on starting my garden 🪴 I painted my patio , all by my lonesome self . Yay ! It took me a bit but I did it hallelujah! Now I am setting my goals to paint my storage shed. Yes. I know that I know that I know. I am on the healing path . We all love you Andrew ❤you’re the best
Andrew, thank you for your life affirming videos filled with hope and love!
I am 22 years out...and I have healed from the narc. Although I will always carry the scars.
I watch your channel as a reminder of how far I have come (and how close I came to total destruction).
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I have seen a lot of people on a quest to heal, but you, my friend, are the most dedicated person I have the pleasure of watching. I love your way of digging deep, sharing truth and wisdom and spreading beauty!! Your videos feed my soul.
I wish you peace for the journey, healing for the wounds and love and companionship with healthy, like-minded souls.
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Welcome 🙏💯😌😊
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I feel like I’m walking through a long dark tunnel looking for the light which will fill my soul with joy.
You are doing great.. keep moving forward.. 🙌
You will...8yrs later..but still listen to coaches for focus!
Hi Andrew
I have just started watching you. I was in my time for 15 years plus 5 grooming. I am 3 years free and still have therapy after a breakdown. I am off medication and coming out off the second fog. I never knew what the hell was happening to me.
I am starting to cope and get back to my family. You have opened my eyes , I am not alone. Thank you
Welcome to the community 🙌🙏💯😊
Im super proud of you andrew. I know this was from a year ago. But you did it. U kept going.
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healing takes a long time but there are triggers of a soft place that will always be present
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Yes totally agree
I’m on day 23 right now since I broke the chains and left them. But I was ruminating badly in the fog for 3 months everyday before I left them too. On the one hand, I feel incredibly grateful to be free from the situation with so many possibilities ahead in life. But on the other hand, it’s difficult to fathom that I may have months of ruminating left ahead of me. I hope I can soon leave the ruminating behind but still process things.
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You are an amazing awesome and giving human being Andrew.. I am so grateful for discovering your channel and would like to thank you from my heart for sharing your personal story, providing help & guidance for us to heal and most of all, for being you. 🙏💜
Thank you also for everyone's comments which are a great support 💗
Now at month 10 from narcissist ex - all the education, work on self I've done, I feel I'm now accepting it all and letting go.. have let go of a lot and no longer ruminating every hour of every day... in fact only pops into my head once maybe twice per day and then I just say 'let go'.. get out of my head..he no longer controls me😊
Love & light, Namaste
Karen Xx
Welcome always ☀️🙌🙏😊
Yes! You would be in awe of where you and where you will be over time!
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I am finding more hope and energy every day. I joined a senior group today and I am healing most of the time. Only a few hours of pain a day.
Once we reached the point of "indifference" the real healing begins. More and more minutes go without us thinking about the relationship, then hours, then days and soon is months and years..
All of the hard work and self examination and radical acceptance of the truth of the experience finally pays off. We go on to create that beautiful life that we deserve. Stay strong, continue to do the daily work until one day without even noticing it, you realize that you are truly free. Blessings to all! ❤
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Thank you, Andrew. Coming from you, that is gospel. Experience is the best teacher. No matter what book degree an expert has, it is just book knowledge. I have watched your videos enough this past 4 months when you caution your viewers and get a counselor who has experience in narcissistic abuse. That is not a fine print. You are shouting it from the rooftop."The healing path is not linear."
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Have a great day you too Andrew, because you deserve it 👏 God bless you 😊
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You said it Andrew, healing is not a linear healing bc so much of it is traumatic memory that takes time to clear. The picture takes time to form about what really happened. The more honest we get with ourselves about how we were dismantled and manipulated, the clearer the picture gets which gives us a stronger instinct. I'm out 7 yrs. I am progressing each day to a better me. One whose decisions I trust.
Hi Andrew, your videos are brilliant. ‘Read that again’. I knew I’d started healing when I started smiling again, I hadn’t smiled in a longtime I just hadn’t realised it. Then I started laughing, I hadn’t laughed in a longtime. Then I started singing, I hadn’t sung in a longtime. Then my sense of humour returned, hadn’t seen that in a while. Almost two years since I left the narc. I’m a beautiful empath, you’re a beautiful empath. My best wishes to all you beautiful empaths.
Beautiful message..💯💯
Your comment gives me more hope
I could not have said that better…… it’s not just a fog. It’s a dissociation, a surreal dreamlike state where your sense of self barely exists. It can be the brink of a mental breakdown. I call it an “Avalanche of emotions”. I have actually written a play about. Only at the time I wrote it, I didn’t know what a narcissist was. I know now, thanks to research and videos like this. It’s about a nervous breakdown. And how to get through it. I need to put in the part a narcissist plays. That is what is missing. In the spirit of healing, I applaud you sir. ❤️🩹
i feel sorry Andrew that u went tru the torments of being in a narcissistic relationship but know that you were used to save thousands of souls today that's going through or went through the same... you are speaking from the deepest recesses of ur heart, u understand every bit and u make ur viewers understand... u absolutely know what u are saying... no one could do that but by someone hus gone tru the same... u are an angel...
Thank you ☀️😊💯🙌
Who's ever on here watching with us and Andrew let me tell you something you need to continue listening to us because you on the road to redemption baby all good roads start here.
Again ...Thank you Andrew....These videos are saving lives....I truly salute you bro.... 🌹
Welcome 🙏
Thank you again for getting me over this hump. Like speed bumps on a road...they popped up so many times in my life. I am much more careful now.
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True. Been 4 years of trying to put the puzzle pieces together from a narcissistic boss and what happened in the office for 10 years to everyone. This thinking is unwanted. The part in the vid about 'to your satisfaction' I love which puts me in control now. Thanks.
Thank you for showing us how it’s done! 💪🏼“Thank you God for keeping Andrew here!!!!” ❤️🙏
He had and has plans to continue to prosper you and not to harm you.
I love you too! ❤️💙 ✝️
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For all you girls that are out there, I am two years out and I am healed. I took that time, and didn't listen to everyone else who thought if I just dated someone else I would forget the experience. I knew myself enough to just heal and be at peace and I got there. It does take time, I spoiled myself everyday. Thank you Andrew I am finally free. I had 2 narcs back to back one for a short period of time, one for 5 years. I am not dating anymore, too old for this stuff.
Thank you for sharing 🙌💯🙏☀️
Thanks Andrew. ❤I have been on the healing path a long time, and I expunged him from my head some time ago. Recently, due to family circumstances I had to have interactions with him again, after many years of no contact. It was actually amazing. I feel complete indifference to him now, he no longer pushes my buttons and when he tries to wind me up, I don't react emotionally and, using the grey rock technique, I can diffuse potential blow ups and control the situation. I now see him as the pathetic, childish, stupid and empty being he is.
I'll tell you what got me on this channel...I left my Narc June 5. I talked to him July 7. He already has mental health issues. He revealed his psychiatrist had diagnosed him with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after I quit coming around. So, I started on the domestic violence hotline website and realized he had abused me everyway he could. Then I had a friend who has also went through this. She has helped me so much and came into my life at the perfect time. I'm so tired of rumenating. I'm so tired of feeling this lost and confused. I can't stop it, or control it and I just keep watching your videos because they give me hope. I am going to sit down and make a bucket list of things I've wanted to do but couldn't because of the narc always having access to the bank account, or always demanding me with requests that I did to a fault, but still wasn't good enough. I'm so tired of being alone as well. Most people gave up on me when I was isolated. They must've thought it was what I wanted because I was so busy making my narc happy I physically and mentally didn't have time for them. I was married to my narc, still am legally. I'm not spending another penny to benefit him. If he can live his life not fulfilling his vows, then who cares. It's just a piece of paper on file at a local courthouse
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️
Really great video Andrew! It's really hard to put feelings and emotions into words sometimes and you have done it brilliantly here! Everything your talking about is on point, I know because I have been on this journey for a year now since the breakup and 7 months legally divorced so I can attest to everything your saying!!! I look back and never imagined a year ago I would be in such a better place today, it just didnt seem possible. But it happened, slowly but surely by the grace of God!!!
Thank you for sharing this Joann.. I appreciate your kindness and insight.. beautiful progress 💯💯🙌
Me too. Im about the same 4 month legally divorce 1year 1/2 separated.
There is a narcissist channel that has a narcissist that explains how to heal. “Mental Healness.” But this is so on point. The Narc just moves on and looks for more supply.
Thank you for sharing this Jay..🙌💯💯
Right!
I'm catching myself focusing too much on the stuff I need to leave BEHIND.
Being overly negative from simply considering these monster people.
Where's my balance?
This channel is so helpful. Thank you so much! ❤
Andrew it has been 3 weeks approx. I feel great. Perhaps because I have a psychology degree and also the many videos that I have seen. I now know why I do the things I do. I am putting a negative into a positive. I will never do this again. I feel more energized and full of life. I realize the smear campaign is going on and I don't care.. People who are your friends will stay with you. If your friends leave that is on them. Get new ones. Andrew thank you for your videos. I am a strong person now thanks to you and all the information I have obtained.
Thank you for sharing this message 🙏💯💪🙌☀️
I no longer cry or miss him as much anymore. I sleep at night and don't worry so much what he's up to anymore!
Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏
I’m healing after 2 years I’m so much better than I was sometimes I think of the nice vacations they went on behind my back but him being gone forever is priceless! Thank you Andrew!😀
Welcome 🙏 Always
"You come to grips that you were with a narcissist " True. Everyone saw it but me. The person I knew was not the same person other people knew. He didn't want me to know who he really was. What is worse is that he found people that were impressed with who he was. It wasn't me that did something wrong for not catching it. They call it Covert for a reason.
My husband narc., kept me in a constant dread of fear! that going to doctors & getting all the test possible & then I realized my constant sickness was the mental abuse. I couldn't share with anyone. Andrew, little by little am getting my breathing back & my energy back! Thank you Andrew...you are helping me so much, the more I hear your videos I become more free... God give you full happiness. G/B
Thank you for sharing 🙏🙌💯
Every day is different. Sometimes I think I am healing, often I don't. I'm starting the day with a walk in the woods, but I don't feel particularly strong today. I feel shaky and sensitive. I will need to write a lot
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Purging it is the key.
Dump that toxic garbage of lies and keep seeking the truth.
Yes 🙌
I have been binge watching these videos extra tonight and this is amazing. After years of confusion, anger, depression 🫥 anxiety and so on, since i have found your channel i have gained so much. I am so much stronger, clear minded and so on. I cant thank you enough sweet Andrew for educating us and sharing daily (that helps so much) thank you for your honesty and strength. Best therapist ever 💯 something good came out of your battle, you are helping so many of us. Sorry you had to go through the experiences 😢😢 but proud and inspired how you came out fighting and helping us do the same 😊 God bless you and everyone here 🫂 🤗 🙏
Things do get better. My friend told me they would. I thought they wouldn't. After 37 years of abuse.It takes a little time.Three years now.No matter what memories you have, the wounds, at least you are free from further immediate abuse. My abuser uses remote abuse.Im actively making that more difficult for him daily.These people are evil to the core.They do not change.
Thank you for this insight.. 🙌
I only survive now because of your videos and the info in them...
2 mths now for me . ...... still thinking about Narcissist......and can't process what happened
God bless and thank you ♥️
Hi Andrew I am healing slowly with the best help and around people that have lived and are living through it now which are getting all the support from the The Freedom Programme from each other. You Andrew also are helping tick off the alarm bells inside of myself that has confirmed alot. I said today in are class about what you said Andrew. RESPOND DONT REACT. The teachers says that's excellent and going to use this on our Red Flag march . Thank you Andrew God bless 🙌 🙏 😊 ❤️
Andrew, you becomes another healing angel in TH-cam 🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍🌺🌺🌺🌺
Thank you 🙏
Healing must be conscious n deliberate.. there are times wen u relapse to old dark mental state.. knocked down.. keep getting up back again.. don't give up. Have faith have compassion for yourself.. have patience.. 🕊️🕊️🙏🏻
Beautiful 💯🙏☀️
My problem is that I only recently figured out my long history with exnarc; but have been battling with acceptance that a sibling is one as well and I had no idea I was drowning in gaslighting, blame, minimizing, game playing by people I trusted and loved.
Finally learned boundaries trying to save relationship, crying for the loss of who I thought she was...it feels so lonely.
I know it will pass, but it's salt on wounds.
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I love that I am healing this time. I have had a 22 yr relationship, 6 year and the last one was 8 yr (Narcassist) all of them. And I just kept jumping right into a relationship when those ended to avoid feelings, except this last one...I wanted no one else...not yet anyway...this time I am going thru the process. 10 weeks, last 2 days I have woken up with more energy & positivity.
Amigo.
This is 💯 where iam at. I so work so seriously aware and awake to recognize progressive behavior. I have to do this, I even embrace the painful moments ND its ok.
Purge is a God giving touch it hurts. Iam on my way . See this place
call serenity. I can really touch it at time. I believe you mi Amigo. Its happening. God bless you and everyone peace be unto you.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone when I say iam not alone is fact.it has been all the sufferings and I do say I have suffered, that their was a small light that kept me from giving up ND loosing my mind, I must tell you the Holy Spirit has given light to the path, no doubts. And now you Amigo teaching with such a universal love that breaks every thing that I can say iam not alone. God is one you do not play with and He says vengeance is for God not me. I have found my girlfriend and her name is 🗽. Amigo thank you. Also to the beauties that speaks the language of We want what is best for you. That is priceless Amigo. Iam not highly educated, but can say I can help others. And that is beautiful mi Amigo. This heart of mine iam going to let it shine. God always keep you Amigo. And peace be added unto you.
Love you everyone.
I am Puerto Rican born and live in USA. Florida,
I am so encouraged by the comments and thank you Andrew
WOW SUPER 😍 and have a great day next to your Pool 🏊, healthy also 😊 GREETINGS
Thank you Daniela 🙌💯☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 😂 ja ja the Sun ☀️🌞
I love your messages so very much! Thank you many times over!
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Thank you Andrew. Purging old stuff. Still have times of thinking what on earth would ever cause someone to act in that way? Separating old memories which were valid in childhood when i met him and things were good from the more recent trash of a relationship and realizing years in between caused changes to make him into someone I wish I would have never met again and got fooled into thinking he was someone he isn't. Anyway I am out and have survived, growing, healing. Thank you again Andrew. Healing!!
Thank you so much Andrew! Yes! I am doing it! I am becoming in control of my self and loving it..My healing is happening! I will continue learning, educating myself and continue to grow and heal. Thank you for everything you do to help our Tribe💕💕🌹
I found that writing letters to my narc family members (three siblings), prior to going no contact, actually helped to release all my pent up emotions and may have possibly helped me to heal quicker when I actually went 'no contact' with them. Writing a letter (even if you don't send it to your narc), expressing all your hurt feelings, could possibly help you with your healing process?? It did for me! Stay strong everybody and God bless!
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Wow, congratulations, Andrew!
You are AMAZINGLY recovered after just a year off the relationship.
You LOOK strong and brilliant!
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Thank you for your video Andrew. Everyday is different Andrew on our healing journey and you are indeed an inspiration. It can sometimes be a slow process but when I look back now to where I was 6 months ago, life is definitely getting better for me. Lisa
Absolutely beautiful thank you ☀️🙌
ABSOLUTELY! 💜💜💜
YOU CAN DO THIS!
Thank you Andrew!💜💜💜
It does get better. Once you can get them away from you physically, you maintain your energy. You can breathe. You no longer feel the represiveness of their anxiety. This helps a lot in healing. Because even if you are over it, done all the work, but still have to live with them for awhile, gray rocking, not feeding them, their low vibrational energy will still try and draw energy from you. Keep that in mind. You are fine...it is their energy you are feeling.
Always stay in the attitude of gratitude. No matter what!
Healing is simple, but not at all easy! One second at a time, becomes one minute at a time, then one hour, one day, one month, one year, then the past eventually stays where it is and you move on, happy and healthy, thriving in the LOVE that you are!
LOVE to all of you warriors! YOU ARE AWESOME!
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Hello! Thank you for your insightful comment. Your wonderful a BIG difference for me today. 🌸🌷🌸🙏🌸
@@beverlytaylor1745 I am so very happy that I could make you feel better! Know that it truly does get better every day that you are away from them. Sending you much love!💞
You have helped me to be strong
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Thank you Andrew. I need you right now. I'm a mess 💔😭 no contact right now. I feel lost. This hurts so much 💔
Are you doing better now, sweetie? I pray so.
I really love your advice and thanks i know i will heal and so is the rest that have been hurt by a narc
WOW! The day, December 6, 2019. Everyone remembers "the day" that your world fell into a million different pieces. I literally took myself out of this thing called life. I stayed with my parents, spent alot of time alone. It was brutal. I removed myself from all forms of communication. I called it hibernation. When u don't know who u can trust & u don't to "be" around others. The pain & rumination, the "whys", the processes of how u got here, etc. I didn't think about how long this healing would take. I was numb, empty, and didnt look up for a while. I didn't look for another to fix it. I looked for how did I get here? what is lacking n me to accept this person? why didn't I see r acknowledge the red flags, because they were there. I did a deep dive into all of this. I didn't know what an empath was. I freely gave to all. I would give all I had, empty my cup to help r fix others. I realized I was not taking the time to replenish my soul. I didn't know what it was to just "be" r be present n the moment. I was busy helping. Empathy must take this time! Time to walk by the ocean, feel the breeze, sun on face, smells. Walk n nature, listen to the sounds, Put a life vest on and float n the lake, walk, plant some flowers, roll the top back, turn up the radio to a good song and sing not caring who's watching, rent a hotel room, turn the ac down, curl up with lots of pillows and down comforter and veg on movies for the day, sleep n, take a trip, the list goes on. The list goes on...then u will understand who u r, ur value, uniqueness and so much more so that one day, u will live ur authentic, true self. Today, I am living proof that healing done correctly, over time does make u a better person. If u don't take this time u may set yourself up to engaging with another narc. You owe yourself to do this work. Today, I do "me" I'm not looking at what others r doing r what they think of me r what I have to say. Nor do I reflect back as often as I did because I've closed that chapter. I look forward to whatever God brings to my future. While I'm excited to see I'm busy doing me. I don't want to WASTE another minute of my life thinking about, analyzing, understanding, etc. I just want to "be". I don't want to give any of my future to my past and to do this u have to take the time to heal. I promise you, u will get there. God bless.