Its so true because I stayed stuck because of my age, but even older people deserve happiness!!! Not sure I stated that correctly but everyone deserves to be at peace!
I married the narcissist at the age of 26 and divorced when I was 63. I’m totally a different person and like the new me the best. If you spent years losing yourself in someone else, be gentle and patient with yourself as you heal and grow. ❤💙 Aww, a sweet puppy ☺️
I need assistance getting a divorce as well. Married 23 years, separated 2.5 years and whenever I hear from the other person I'm only known as " my wife." Never knew my name until I left that mess.😂
Your advices are like a breath of fresh air for me. I recently understood that my entire life, since childhood, has been a series of narcissistic abuses, which effectively pulverized me into a thousand pieces. I'm trying to pull myself together, to reset myself mentally, spiritually and emotionally, but that means doing everything alone, it's a path of loneliness and isolation, I see only walls and no bridge around me. It's very, very difficult for me, that's why I'm glad that there are men like you, who help unknown people with such kindness and love. God bless you, Andrew!
I can’t wait until I can become myself again. It’s going to be an adventure of rediscovery. Figuring out what I like, instead of being told what I like. Figuring out how I feel, instead of being told how I feel. Figuring out how to live, instead of being told how I should live. A small step forward was yesterday. I was actually able to go through the pantry and deep freeze to get rid of old food without being questioned as to why I’m throwing something away or why “I” let it go bad. Thank you so much for continuing these videos as you embark on the newest phase of your journey and allowing us to share it with you.
You are an amazing individual. What a joy it is to being free to toss whatever hi Abby and keep things important to you. Personally, when I left my former girlfriend, I knew I would suffer loss of property, she constantly tossed stuff that I loved. I had to go and this time there's no turning back. Much love❤
You may never be the person you used to be. After these creatures, it is hard to even remember who you were. The best thing? You will become a greater human being than you ever were.
I went on an online prayer group where a priest was praying to get evil people out of your life, I mentioned the narcissist name in the prayer and he called me the next morning and said he had terrible dreams and couldn’t sleep all night! Wow Karma!
It's really amazing how 1 person could change your entire life. They turn it upside down, then just walk away with a new supply. Here you are, left like humpty dumpy putting yourself back together again. Becoming yourself again consists OF TIME, keeping busy, meeting new people, and LOVING YOURSELF! It takes TIME! Each day is baby steps, but you'll get there. I personally have been thru this, just like all of you, but in time. TIME is a great healer! Stick with the videos, go out with friends, and learn. It's been 11.5 years for me. YOU CAN DO IT!! ❤️💙
Thanks for the reminder of TIME. It is sometimes hard to be patient and alow the feelings whatever they my be , happen. One day I am okay and the other is not so great. Doing it one day at a time is the way I have overcome some other problems. It is a lifelong challenge.
Andrew, I started to see how I was losing myself and didn't like how I was turning out. I left that situation, not because I found someone else, but because it was toxic for me. Her last words as I walked out the door was a sarcastic "hope you find what you're looking for." Little did she know I did the minute I left. That heaviness in my chest was gone. What I found was "me" again.
Once we can find ourselves and develop a healthy relationship with ourselves, we will begin to attract what is healthy for us since we will have high self values that we want in others. Having a healthy relationship with ourselves will have a rippling effect on our relationship. Embrace the healing process🙏🏻
Someone, not the narcissist but I think is also a narcissist, tried to gaslight me yesterday I said no told them to stop doing it and they scuttled off. I would not have known what this person was doing had I not got the knowledge and been involved with the narcissist. Thank you Andrew for being there and educating us.
That happened to me too recently. I stood my ground...Finally learning. It was kinda hard and nerve wracking and flashback inducing, but I did it. It will get easier. It was a blast from the past who never really knew me. He just wanted to use me for a place to go from a psychiatric involuntary hold for manic psychosis. Stuff like that happens to me a lot...not anymore. He tried again. I wasn't having it. I wish him well; it's very very hard to have that illness. But it makes him a total creep, even criminal, and would've destroyed me had I said yes.
I love your name Lisbeth, my twin got the good name and I got stuck with Maude. I might watch too many crime shows but he sounds dangerous. It might be best to block him. Remember, you come first second and third and you don’t need that in your life. Please stay safe.
@@mickamoo1 thank you Maude. Yours is a classy name. Like Cat Lady, I used to be so naive, but not anymore. The crazy thing is, I almost agreed, but then had an extreme ptsd reaction, which ultimately kept me safe. As much as they are truly awful, CPTSD symptoms do serve a purpose.
To those who are trying to find out details about Andrew's location, remember that narcissists {i.e. Satan's daughter} are very devious and can be like private investigators when they focus in on a target, or when trying to hoover. He needs to remain vague. He's somewhere in the Carolinas and that's all we need to know for now. He needs to protect his peace at all costs. I'm just happy he's safe and looking great, while helping us everyday.
Honestly, I haven’t seen anyone ask that question in days, then a day or two ago he said somewhere in the Carolinas. People have been very respectful of his privacy from what I’ve seen.
married my ex-narc at 21 and divorced at 59. I don’t even know who I am so not sure I would know that I’ve ‘become’ myself again. what version of myself would I have been without nearly 4 decades with the narc?
When I was discarded overnight after 15 years, I was in a world of disillusionment, a place i knew well. Why would he do this? So many years passed before I found my Self again. My internal child was beaten down to a pulp, however adult Clare built her up, strengthened her, fed her with positivity, encouragement, love and tenderness. As Andrew has pointed out, the days aren't linear but your work on your healing path will be rewarding. There's a light at the end of the tunnel and it's not a run away train, it's Freedom. Kia Ora (Thankyou) Andrew ☺️🙏 Hello doggy 🙋🏼♀️💖🐕
Since I lost my mom at an early age, I’ve noticed people telling me to go their way because I lost my parents. Never knew they were all narcissists. Thanks again Andrew
Its taken me two solid years of everyday finding new information, taking notes, and reading through them everyday to finally begin to unravel and understand the dilemma and even be aware of narcissistic traits within myself. The healing hinges on really understanding at the core, and I believe the feelings come later and the heart can start to heal after that.
These people are Machiavellian. Unfortunately empaths get drawn in easily and it is really difficult to get out and away. Loved ones are the mouse, narcs are the cat.
I understand that Andrew, my dad died when I was 18. 3 days before I graduated from high school. I ended up in a hospital where I had to go through my childhood and dealing with the loss of my dad. That and he was disabled. It's been along journey trust me. I'm 67 now.
It's actually a rebirth ! You will have wasted so much time , maybe even YEARS , investing all your time , energy and thoughts around this finally realised road to nowhere , so it can be hard to recall who you actually were ! There is no point fretting over this , it is now the past , and you have learned something ! You are now much wiser , better equipped and a much STRONGER version of YOU 💪💪❤️😎
Good video Andrew. Well since I was discarded, I've gone no contact. It has been a long road to becoming more educated and stronger person. Some days are good some not so good. Being alone is taking some time to get used to. Doing things for myself and not worrying about getting yelled at or some other abuse. I'm definitely moving forward and becoming strong. I do feel lonely but I must stay strong and focused. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
Carlos...in two months it will be 3 years since I was discarded and found out that all possible was taking from me, all money, no promised bussines together, no reparation of house which was also payed by me, lies about child he got with another and so on. Now I see him as poor creature and he has no luck with another and has problems with institutions. And I'm doing just fine what I wish you too.
You have helped me. I was down on luck in California. I found a family to become part of. Benefited them greatly. Took me 20 months to figure out they were a narcissistic cult family with a sociopath dad proud of raising a narcissist because he firmly believed it was a higher evolution. I would have never figured it out if not for resources like you Now I am back with family, I’m not the Carolina also Thank you. 😊
I’m in a narc cult family lmaoo, but the kids never wanted to be. They just fell into the trap made by my parents. We all kind of became mini narcissists that was all we knew. My dad encouraged us to harm each other and give him reasons to harm us. Not all of us became narcs or still hold onto narc traits but I’d say at least 4/6 kids might be in the end unfortunately. My youngest brother laughed when his older brother got bullied by my dad and it made me so sad. They’re 13 and 9. They’re having trouble finding compassion which makes sense bc we never caught a break as kids. They’re in an echo chamber of narcissism. Everyone abusing each other, but no one wanting to besides the parents. We all just want to love each other. My dad caused us to trauma bond to each other. Started fights between us. He’d tell my siblings that I have it out for them and vice versa
I'm at 26 years. I stayed, because I am a Christian. He divorced me. Blessing in disguise. Don't be hard on yourself, Sweetheart. I'm not! Just learn more & love yourself more.❤💚❤💚❤
You walked your beliefs. You trusted. Time to let go and love yourself. You have a big heart. Forgiveness sets one free and boundaries are our new fences with gates. Open the gate to freedom. Forgive yourself for trusting, if need be, to be free and see how beautiful each new day is. We are lifting u up. U got this! ❤️
Mine lasted many many years and still going on breaking into some videos or talking lies from hiding or just reabusing me and others I love electronically. I never fell in love with any of them. Praise my Lord for that. I do love the innocent ones I will always love and still see them as those same people at that time in my life.
Thankyou ever so much Andrew. Your words went right to my heart. Never did I think I would get to the point where I could do without my family. I am a well-educated social worker, working with the socially disadvantaged, incl. in closed prisons. I loved my job, which ended when I was 65. I have no TV or radio, prefer nature along the Beach, fitness center, yoga and karate. I have lots of energy but have always kept it to myself in order to be accepted and to fit into a narcissistic family, full of hate and envy. This video was an eye opener. It hit me that I don't need my family to judge me, I am a free person and can build my own identity after decades of not knowing who I was . I will love the third version of myself. I can I will I am. Thankyou and blessings to everyone on this channel. Much love. Anny from Denmark
I also lost my mother at the age of sixteen. I understand that the void that was left created a need in me to be wanted, loved and to belong. That sent me out in pursuit of needing to fill that void in my heart and soul. When the narcissist appeared I had a "target" on my back. I was the perfect person to victimize and control. I was felt wanted and loved and there it all began. Now three years away and free, and after digging myself out of the debris at the discard I can assure you that YES WE CAN BECOME OURSELVES AGAIN ! BUT BETTER! ♥ Namaste!
You look amazing. The surroundings are beautiful. Since it’s a time to reflect for many on being grateful, today I was thinking how grateful I was that I got lost driving. It ended up being an amazing path to a new place for me to go play I think tomorrow I’ll take some hours there. Why do I share that? I got lost with the narcissists for years, but I’m grateful now. I was always here, I’m found. As my best friend has been saying for 20 years, “don’t let anyone put you in a box” - I did, now I listen to her every word like it’s the truth it is. Same as you Andrew. What you share with the world is golden truth. Thank you 🙏 The dogs were the mysterious lurking creatures we saw yesterday 😊❤️🙏
“carve new neural pathways in your brain” Yes! I recently ended the relationship, and the biggest mountain I’m climbing right now is. Owning the fact that our relationship was smoke and mirrors, a fantasy. Having to remind myself she “gave” me what I needed for a time. I realize now that she mirrored my needs. She would mine information out of me, and replicate it. Slowly it faded away, ALL of it was handcuffed to gaslighting, passive aggressive comments, straight out lying… the list goes on… The fog does dissipate… You do start to find yourself again… Here’s to becoming the third version, for us all! Thanks Andrew, for your wisdom… sorry you too had to experience it.
All true...I have finally decided that, if and when I become involved with ANYONE, I am taking it slow, give respect and hopefully receive respect...slowly establishing and developing friendships and if I find myself in a situation where I am being devalued, I WILL walk away, and shut that door...my priorities have changed from what they were...I have been doing everything that you have described to learn and heal...it's been painful, but I am committed to the work. Self protection is vital. I have been doing more blocking, but the stalking activity continues in my private space. I will figure out how to end it. I am determined... Congrats...public speaking...wow! Looking forward to seeing those.
How gorgeous are those woods, and to have some animal peeps come visit. I get great comfort out of my animals. Thanks for this video Andrew. Hope everyone is travelling ok on the healing path, a path that is not straight but has twists and turns and the occasion fork in the road. Keep on going forward and don't look back. Blessings to our tribe. Lots of love and hugs. 💜
I hope to become a better version of myself eventually. I am feeling better, slowly but it is consistent. Don't get me wrong, I have bad moments where I just let myself cry it out, but nurturing and being patient with myself helps so much. Andrew and his channel has been a true gift. I also feel comradery through the comments as well. We are allowed to be caring to ourselves as long as we have our minds set on healing and being decent to other humans. Love to all
Yes… getting back to the authentic colorful brilliant SELF… NO PLAYING SMALL TO MAKE THEM FERL POWERFUL… freedom is a wonderful thing… joy… happiness creativity health . Playfulness. Real joy… true peace… thank you for helping me to heal 💌🖼👍🤩🌈🥰
A few years past this anomaly I have made a promise to myself to never forget the lessons of naivete. I could care less about a person, who I realized the more time that has gone by, was a toxin to all the senses a human has. In a good way you realize you were just one of many. That actual helps the analysis of the experience. Who would want to even be seen with this type. But a calm enhanced awareness has been activated. It actually feels empowering in a modest way. The typical societal must haves rethought of as volunteering for compliant manipulations. Everything and I do mean everything is pleasure reaching the I am enough as is plateau. Don't forget to bring a dog biscuit ! Tames the mostly ferocious of beasts.
I've had multiple narcs in my life from partner, to parents, to coworkers... I literally reached a point this year I had to cry every other day for almost 2 months or so...just too much pain to try and keep it together. Grieving is so important, that pain is real and will hurt us if we keep it in.
You know Andrew, I didn’t realize that I had lost my identity until I exited the toxic one way relationship. Now I have more time for myself. II am also glad to say that I’m teaching at a High School. I actually teach Advance Spanish II. I enjoy this so much! Im glad that you are in the beautiful Carolinas. I always look forward to viewing your teachings. Take care good friend. Take care!
Yes, the real me is coming back...my boundaries are strong...and I do not care what the narcissist is doing...I have moved on..and feel so good about myself and that I don't have to share, my beautiful light with the narc anymore!! Andrew, you have helped me along the way! Thank you!!!!!!!
Love you Andrew!! Keep doing God's work!!!! You've got a supporter for life!! You changed my life with these videos and gave me the courage to walk away ... God Bless!!!
Thank you again Andrew! The darkness we go through, comes to light. I'm still working it all out and you have been a big help, pointing me in the right direction of recovery. This community is a great resource of encouragement. Keeping in mind that we are not all at the same place or pace, thanks to you we are all on the same path of healing properly. Much love❤
Thank you... As hard as I've worked on my mental health...I couldn't imagine or understand anyone risking relapse. I thought I knew my neighbors (some I diluted myself thinking they were "Friends") He's built a network in my neighborhood & the townspeople as well. You make so much sense, experience is the best teacher. I thought I'd learned from the 2nd & last husband. I was a vibrant 65 year old woman, 4 years ago. I can't imagine anyone being mean to you. I believe these lily pad jumpers need a special Law in our penal & correctional institutions created just for these monsters. (3 phone, 3 phone numbers & 1 new carrier) Inspiring you are!!
I am the third version of myself now after I have blocked the narcissist from my Facebook account and remove my FB from the device. I got back my confidence, courage, freedom, wisdom and becoming stronger than my first version of me. I have moved forward with a new chapter of my life. Thank you Andrew your videos are great.
Blocked, relocating but the disappointment & despair?? Thank you for your guidance. I’m counting on it getting better, the days are too long & hard right now❤
Time is precious! Becoming myself again after being broken,but yes it takes work and time! Discernment is valuable,now I know about boundaries around myself,and the obsession with the narc is broken and now I see many more in my circle! I used to be an open book but now I know to guard my heart! Trust is earned and thank you for the gems of wisdom,coming from an authentic survivor!
Another great video! The mountain towards finding yourself is high. The journey is long. But, the destination is worth it! The view is beautiful. Looking back to the narcissist is not allowed!! Stay blessed!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
Andrew, thank you so much for this really excellent video filled with encouragement and so much information about how to heal. It was so helpful to hear about your own healing journey and how you healed the significant wound from your past by going back to fully process the mourning for your dear mother who passed away when you were only sixteen. So sorry for your loss at such a young age. Your dog is a nice gentle companion. Wishing everyone a safe and blessed night or day depending on where you are. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️ 🐕 🦋 ☀️
Lovely location and adorable dog. Adrenal fatigue from emotional stress slow and stopped wish I could fly away. Hope I get mojo back again. I need a miracle. Keep smiling.🙏😍❤️
For me, I learned about narcissist behavior while still with him and when I finally broke free from him I had to stay away from this content. I needed time to rest, relax, feel free, feel safe, strong and more. After a little over a year of separation and no contact despite having a son together, I can now listen to this and it doesn't trigger me. That in itself is huge. The hardest part is him using our son as bait. I hope my son sees it sooner than later but I realize it is his journey and he knows I will be right here for him and that he is loved. So healing from trauma bonding, shame (why did I allow this), empty nest (oldest joined army and youngest is bait), and learning about how my energy was used/how to protect it and this list could go on, is a lot to endure. My journey to self may be long but ever so slowly I am loving the freedom to be me!
Yeah! Public speaking globally....this is your destiny. Please let us know where and when you will start doing it. I sure will make the trip to see you in person and support you. Have great afternoon and evening. Sending a big hug your way. ❤🙌🙏
Yes, I am one of the one's who had to address my childhood and empty all the anger and sadness out that I had been holding in for all my life. I've personally learned that holding on to trauma is like leaving a door wide open for more abuse and that's how I fell into the hands of Narcissist relationships. I like how you phrased ... I COME FIRST, SECOND & THIRD. I'm going to use that because that's exactly how I feel about my life today but still healing.
I'm 60 years being discarded,working on my healing. Could I heal,or am I to old.That put me in fear. Andrew,the dog is beautiful. I love mine so much.Namaste,be blessed for all the work you do for us,each and every day.
You are never too old to do the healing work. It may be a slower process, yet it is often very, very thorough. I will never be my former self. There are gaps especially during this neverending pandemic that limits socializing. You can do this. Freedom still rocks despite this damned tripledemic especially for we oldies w/ pre-existing conditions. Still....better late than never!❣️. Godspeed tribe!
I don’t have to ask myself WHY I was with narcs my entire life; starting with the sadistic one in HS, as I now know! It was the next step after learning who narcs were! I am coming to terms on my childhood after losing my mom at early age and having no identity or self worth around a evil narcissist coach at school and Narc father! I am in full knowledge of the WHO? And the WHY? …. Now it’s the ME stage getting strong boundaries and feeling blessed in retirement. Staving the narcs off is on the mind. Not being codependent anymore and finding myself again is at present. It’s peaceful ☮️
I have so much time now for the things that are important to me Yes no more long endless babel about HIM and how he is being taken advantage of and how smart he is and how he should have that managers job and no one knows what to do at work but him (But why are you not the boss then?) while my time was being eaten away ( and never being heard) I have put energy into my work (too tired before) and into my gardening,my fur babies and have begun outlining a new book Getting back to my meditation and my yoga (he said was weird and stupid) and connecting to nature because for me that is me I can not believe how much less drained I am and I am doing more Its wonderful to get up in the morning and know I wont hear the phone ring so he can talk some more about himself He took so much But slowly I am taking it all back It can be sad at times but each day I am becoming my true self again - Why did I allow this to happen? I was raised my Narcs I thought it was :normal: An empath raised by Narcs Life was not easy ! Thank you again Andrew and I love love the beautiful dog!!
I'm so sorry about your mom, Andrew 💙 My sister passed when I was 16. A friend's mom, when she was nine. I'd never met her mom. Ten years ago, I was talking to this friend when suddenly her mom's spirit whooshed through the top of my head & out through my chest. So shocking. Her mom had such pleasant energy, and I have no idea how I knew it was her or that she wanted me to tell her daughter that she was still with her & loves her, but I told her (after gasping in shock). I'm sure all of our loved ones would give the same message to us. 🙏💙
❤❤❤ continuing every day, you help more than you know. I listen to you everything you say, each day. So many different derivatives to this, so much. I love that doggie, sending you both big hugs. Namaste, love you too❤❤❤🕯🙌💪🐾🐾
I needed that support…6 months no contact, and I was hoping to be further along. Just hearing you say that I’ll get there was very comforting- I was/am scared that I wouldn’t. Thank you so much!
Such a beautiful speech, Andrew! So experienced, humane & heartfelt. Amazing ambient, above all your beautiful puppy 🐶 😊Animals are wondrous, helping us so much on our healing paths. ❤️🩹
Thank you! I’m exactly there. Wondering if I will ever be my self. Happy some days and so tired some days. So happy I found you Andrew and you all wonderful people in this web sight. Love you ❤️🙏🔆
"Create or/ and reinforce neurological pathways" You are good, Andrew! I DO hope you are speaking publicly - not just on TH-cam - although you are reaching a lot of wounded people! Thank you for your supportive and motivational presentations!
I’m blown away by the synchronistic timing of this video. When I saw the title I knew it was exactly what I needed. You are a beautiful and very wise man. Thank you
Finding yourself takes time, but the path to freedom is worth it . The stronger you become 💪🏼 the more you invest in yourself and be around people who are kind and real. Always having my boundaries in place no time wasted on a narcissistic person, it's so freeing to finally look back and see how much I have overcome I'm happy now lighter because I no longer entertain the narc I am clearly in control of my life and the best thing is the narc knows it and also knows there is no way back into my life. God bless you Andrew 🙏🏽 for all your time and effort you pour into the community everyday 🙏🏽 your helping us to be free, and we then can help others. As we can spot a narcissistic person even just from someone describing them. They are everywhere, but we also are everywhere, and good will always overcome evil.
Thank you so much Andrew I Have a worse Day today on my healing path ...... I do not understand it..... It was better yesterday.. Surviving because of your channel 🦋🦋🦋
Hi Andrew . Yes tough path but we can make it with strength. I did it after fighting Cancer and am a survivor and still alive . If I can get over that I can sure get over the Narc ! He wanted my house because he wanted too move I with me . I said sign a disclaimer and he backed off . Proof he wanted my money . Seeing friends yesterday said I look different. I said what do you mean , they said stress has gone from my face 😊 So I'm getting there . And many thanks too you Andrew .
I will never be the same Andrew . I will either be worse or better than I was but never the same . It’s like being burned at the steak you come out of the fire burned & badly scared but I want to see myself so fried so burned to ashes so out of the ashes I am like the Phoenix bird 🦅 flying out of the ashes. Thank God ❤
Yea it has been a journey,.be steadfast.,patient with yourself,.put your energy into what you hold dear to your heart..never loose Hope and faith,. I went through COVID and I'm here Thank God. . This made me more and more determined to get better and Heal and move on ,back working again in the Community,.Thank you ANDREW,God Bless you 🤗😊💞💞🙏🙏🙏
ide like to think I'm that 3rd person now and I like her better age has taught me much thru the yrs. Energy is wasted on the youth lol no matter the yrs. the spirit grows❤🔥 younger💛💜
I think a small piece was I wanted to be the “ hero “. I need to learn how to hero my own self… if that makes any sense. Peace to you all. I have to keep coming back to your videos Andrew to remind myself of the work I need to do for myself to be whole again. Thank you
I am definitely trying to find myself again by making changes in my boundaries, trying not to be codependent, and healing from childhood wounds! I was really ok until I met the narcissist husband in 1992. And met another very evil narcissist 2 yrs ago who destroyed me to make me google those behaviors and finding narcissism in my entire life!
Thank you, Andrew, for this wonderful video. You are so right, the path is high and low and up and down and curve balls get thrown at you that you never expect. I did great leaving the narcissist, but not so wonderful with the affect that it has had on my children. My children are still my children, though they are adults and it is so hard to see how the narcissistic family dynamic has hurt them. In my case, it has hit them hard. I was thrown a curveball today and having trouble wrapping my head around it, I see the fall coming and can't put out a rescue net. One day at a time, one moment at a time sometimes. I have to remember that this too shall pass. The passing may be a hard fall, but it will pass. I am glad to see that you made it to the Carolina's! It is a beautiful area and I know you will continue to thrive there. Much love to you!
🙏🌹they want us in a place where we don't know who we are, unable to think for ourselves, even in the most simplest ways. They want to slap us down and say they have to do all the thinking for us! This vibration makes us feel even worse. They litterally make us feel and become clumsey around them because of the pressure. You/ we are the drivers of our own vessal, not the driven!! We have to get through the hellish revaluation because it's better that then live in their sick cloud of denial. Then their cloud of denial becomes our cloud of denial that we have accepted because We think it will make the confusion go away. Living in that kind of denial is no good! There is no happy camp and no happy campers! I lost my dad when I was a child I loved him so much. Then in my youth I met narc one. Who had all the answers and I thought he was great! But 25 yes later I see the narc as a grotesque spectre. And what a poor substitute he is/was. Great video and great to see your excellent companion. I send you both love and hugs. He's a beautiful 🐕 dog.🙏🕷️🔥🦊🐾🐾🦋🌹🌱🌏🧡
Thanks for sharing personal info about yourself that wakes up our realization that WE caused our own Narc attraction! I lost my mom at age 6 and my dad abandoned us 4 kids to go off with another lady with kids he was cheating with! I guess that made me a codependent and the wrong attraction style! Thank you for moving to the healing phases and giving details on that! I have a therapist, reading a book “codependent Nomore”, working my boundaries, and changing my social style too! Wish I could meet you someday! I find you inspirational!
Myself is who I miss the most of all. About to be 36 but God has blessed me with peace an serenity, an most of all rest; so I can put the effort in every day to be me again. 🛐💟✝️
Absolutely! I Rise! Better than ever!! I am putting my energies to myself now and to my music. Wrote and released two songs based on my tower experience, happy and grateful to be woke & healing. 🙏🏻❤️ and thank you for being a part of my journey Andrew! Sending much ❤️🙏🏻✌🏻 to my tribe!!
Excellent point 👍🥇....... great video and very specific/sharp topic ☺️......Pen and paper is absolutely necessary these days 🙄👍✨........(and a Joyous smile at the end✨👍🙋).........
Another great video Andrew ❤️. 2 full days away from the narc and been so busy setting this new house up, that I forgot all about him. I went out tonight to a show to see a heartthrob of mine from the 60s. Not only was he fab on stage, but I went out at the interval meeting him, he signed my ticket, shook my hand and a very kind lady took photos of us which she will email to me tomorrow. Had I still been with the narc I know 100% none of that would have happened, he would have cancelled and probably upset me so that I wouldn’t go in the end. I will get back to doing all the things I did before him. I was out tonight, I bet he was on his own in the big house and on dating websites looking for the next victim. I chose the right path. I blocked him as soon as I left the house and any contact will now be made through the lawyer. 👍👍
God bless you for your teachings cant say enough how much youve helped me! Stay strong everyone youre not alone and its not your fault. Listen to “unpretty” by TLC. Love yourself people! ❤
I’m happy to say I’m healed though the help of this channel. I’ve followed every piece of advice Andrew has given on this channel and it all worked, in every way. The sooner you put the work into yourself and stay stoic, you really will heal and be the best version of you ever! Love to all here 🙏💙🙏
Andrew, love ❤the special guest 🐕. My third version is more cautious. The narcissist is still using fake profiles to try and get me to accept her friend request. I block those as well. I miss the life before the narcissist when I had public profiles and no one harassed me on my different social media outlet. Post narcissist life, you are correct, Andrew, I do set limits with people I didn’t do before. Some people have gotten upset that I don’t respond right away as I did when I people pleased. My light 💡 is coming back. I do feel better. I just wish the narcissist would leave me alone. She said she’d go after me like no other. That speaks volumes considering she’s been married and divorced twice.
Does dancing in the living room to Irene Cara’s FAME count as becoming myself again??? Answer: HELL YES!! 👯♂️💃(despite my knees!)👯♂️#remembermyname (RIP Irene, off to heaven today 😢🕊️🙏🏼Andrew, the timing of your video today is magical! 🐶💙
No matter your age finding yourself again is best conclusion
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The only possible win.
@@gracegrace9567 peace
Its so true because I stayed stuck because of my age, but even older people deserve happiness!!! Not sure I stated that correctly but everyone deserves to be at peace!
Light Energy doesn’t age, it just changes form, and in our case, for the better 🌟💫⚡️✨
I married the narcissist at the age of 26 and divorced when I was 63. I’m totally a different person and like the new me the best. If you spent years losing yourself in someone else, be gentle and patient with yourself as you heal and grow. ❤💙 Aww, a sweet puppy ☺️
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Thanks, Tracey!
Hi Tracey 🕊🕊🕊💫❤️
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I need assistance getting a divorce as well. Married 23 years, separated 2.5 years and whenever I hear from the other person I'm only known as " my wife." Never knew my name until I left that mess.😂
3 months no contact with my ex and everyday I get stronger and stronger ..I am slowly becoming myself again and it feels 👌
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Well done, I am 4 months no contact, the peace is wonderful.
Yes😊3 months 🎉🎉🎉🎉
It'll be three months for me in five days. Every day is HUGE!
Your advices are like a breath of fresh air for me. I recently understood that my entire life, since childhood, has been a series of narcissistic abuses, which effectively pulverized me into a thousand pieces. I'm trying to pull myself together, to reset myself mentally, spiritually and emotionally, but that means doing everything alone, it's a path of loneliness and isolation, I see only walls and no bridge around me. It's very, very difficult for me, that's why I'm glad that there are men like you, who help unknown people with such kindness and love. God bless you, Andrew!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌☀️
God bless you, Simona. You are not alone.
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Simona, for us, the Tribe, being alone is NOT being lonely! WhatEVER we CHOOSE to do on our own, builds us, and remember, the Tribe is with us!
Thank you!🙏
I am becoming my true self on the daily,
Feel free and happy 😊..
Almost 59,but feeling stronger and happier every day 🙏 🕊🥰🌟
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ME TOO. HONEY at 59, I see you GLOWING , we got get into a new pair of boots.
Right there with you sister at fifty five and a half. ❤️🙏🏼❤️
And I'm 57...it doesn't matter...better ever then never.
57 too and learning new tricks, they say it can't be done but hell, all of us are doing it!!! xxx
You are allowed to weep and cry 😭 and than pick up where you left off as the empath , the awesome person you are amen 🙏
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I can’t wait until I can become myself again. It’s going to be an adventure of rediscovery. Figuring out what I like, instead of being told what I like. Figuring out how I feel, instead of being told how I feel. Figuring out how to live, instead of being told how I should live. A small step forward was yesterday. I was actually able to go through the pantry and deep freeze to get rid of old food without being questioned as to why I’m throwing something away or why “I” let it go bad. Thank you so much for continuing these videos as you embark on the newest phase of your journey and allowing us to share it with you.
Welcome 🙏💯🙌😊
You are an amazing individual. What a joy it is to being free to toss whatever hi Abby and keep things important to you.
Personally, when I left my former girlfriend, I knew I would suffer loss of property, she constantly tossed stuff that I loved. I had to go and this time there's no turning back.
Much love❤
Yes very true a lot of them are hoarders too. Such a simple thing .
You may never be the person you used to be. After these creatures, it is hard to even remember who you were. The best thing? You will become a greater human being than you ever were.
I went on an online prayer group where a priest was praying to get evil people out of your life, I mentioned the narcissist name in the prayer and he called me the next morning and said he had terrible dreams and couldn’t sleep all night! Wow Karma!
It's really amazing how 1 person could change your entire life. They turn it upside down, then just walk away with a new supply. Here you are, left like humpty dumpy putting yourself back together again. Becoming yourself again consists OF TIME, keeping busy, meeting new people, and LOVING YOURSELF! It takes TIME! Each day is baby steps, but you'll get there. I personally have been thru this, just like all of you, but in time. TIME is a great healer! Stick with the videos, go out with friends, and learn. It's been 11.5 years for me. YOU CAN DO IT!! ❤️💙
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Thanks for the reminder of TIME. It is sometimes hard to be patient and alow the feelings whatever they my be , happen. One day I am okay and the other is not so great. Doing it one day at a time is the way I have overcome some other problems. It is a lifelong challenge.
@@richardhowe3951 Richard, you CAN do it! ⚘️
@@k3wy5 Kathleen, you will be fine! ⚘️
Thank you for the encouragement, Jann!
Andrew, I started to see how I was losing myself and didn't like how I was turning out. I left that situation, not because I found someone else, but because it was toxic for me. Her last words as I walked out the door was a sarcastic "hope you find what you're looking for." Little did she know I did the minute I left. That heaviness in my chest was gone. What I found was "me" again.
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@@rubyjet8614 ty, it was best thing for my well being.
Good for you I love that! same 🤗👏❣️🌸🌅
Once we can find ourselves and develop a healthy relationship with ourselves, we will begin to attract what is healthy for us since we will have high self values that we want in others. Having a healthy relationship with ourselves will have a rippling effect on our relationship. Embrace the healing process🙏🏻
Beautiful message 💯🙌🙏
Well said.
Now is the time for YOU!!
Amazing and very true, thank you.
Forgive me.. are you Bobby from Oklahoma City?
Someone, not the narcissist but I think is also a narcissist, tried to gaslight me yesterday I said no told them to stop doing it and they scuttled off. I would not have known what this person was doing had I not got the knowledge and been involved with the narcissist. Thank you Andrew for being there and educating us.
Welcome always 🙏💯😉
That happened to me too recently. I stood my ground...Finally learning. It was kinda hard and nerve wracking and flashback inducing, but I did it. It will get easier. It was a blast from the past who never really knew me. He just wanted to use me for a place to go from a psychiatric involuntary hold for manic psychosis. Stuff like that happens to me a lot...not anymore. He tried again. I wasn't having it. I wish him well; it's very very hard to have that illness. But it makes him a total creep, even criminal, and would've destroyed me had I said yes.
I love your name Lisbeth, my twin got the good name and I got stuck with Maude. I might watch too many crime shows but he sounds dangerous. It might be best to block him. Remember, you come first second and third and you don’t need that in your life. Please stay safe.
@@mickamoo1 thank you Maude. Yours is a classy name. Like Cat Lady, I used to be so naive, but not anymore. The crazy thing is, I almost agreed, but then had an extreme ptsd reaction, which ultimately kept me safe. As much as they are truly awful, CPTSD symptoms do serve a purpose.
To those who are trying to find out details about Andrew's location, remember that narcissists {i.e. Satan's daughter} are very devious and can be like private investigators when they focus in on a target, or when trying to hoover. He needs to remain vague. He's somewhere in the Carolinas and that's all we need to know for now. He needs to protect his peace at all costs. I'm just happy he's safe and looking great, while helping us everyday.
Honestly, I haven’t seen anyone ask that question in days, then a day or two ago he said somewhere in the Carolinas. People have been very respectful of his privacy from what I’ve seen.
married my ex-narc at 21 and divorced at 59. I don’t even know who I am so not sure I would know that I’ve ‘become’ myself again. what version of myself would I have been without nearly 4 decades with the narc?
I grew up with no calculators. No computers. We met people face to face.
❤️🙏I am sorry for your loss. You are a healing spirit and Help so many. You are inspiration and hope for all !
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He certainly is ,brilliant wisdom ,God bless ❤ namaste
Thank you again ,Andrew ,I'm still staying strong ,great listening to it ,namaste
This needs a trigger warning. It's all so upsetting and so true.
Better to become self aware and find out who you really are late than never at all. Great upload Andrew,
Thank you 🙏💯🙌
When I was discarded overnight after 15 years, I was in a world of disillusionment, a place i knew well. Why would he do this? So many years passed before I found my Self again. My internal child was beaten down to a pulp, however adult Clare built her up, strengthened her, fed her with positivity, encouragement, love and tenderness. As Andrew has pointed out, the days aren't linear but your work on your healing path will be rewarding. There's a light at the end of the tunnel and it's not a run away train, it's Freedom.
Kia Ora (Thankyou) Andrew ☺️🙏 Hello doggy 🙋🏼♀️💖🐕
Beautiful message 🙏🙌💯☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneThankyou I hope you are well ☺️🦋
Since I lost my mom at an early age, I’ve noticed people telling me to go their way because I lost my parents. Never knew they were all narcissists. Thanks again Andrew
Its taken me two solid years of everyday finding new information, taking notes, and reading through them everyday to finally begin to unravel and understand the dilemma and even be aware of narcissistic traits within myself. The healing hinges on really understanding at the core, and I believe the feelings come later and the heart can start to heal after that.
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These people are Machiavellian. Unfortunately empaths get drawn in easily and it is really difficult to get out and away. Loved ones are the mouse, narcs are the cat.
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Dogs aren't like people , they don't have motives, they return love without any conditions. What a beautiful dog !
I agree. I read this and the neighbors dogs barked. They agree too.
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I understand that Andrew, my dad died when I was 18. 3 days before I graduated from high school. I ended up in a hospital where I had to go through my childhood and dealing with the loss of my dad. That and he was disabled. It's been along journey trust me. I'm 67 now.
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It's actually a rebirth ! You will have wasted so much time , maybe even YEARS , investing all your time , energy and thoughts around this finally realised road to nowhere , so it can be hard to recall who you actually were ! There is no point fretting over this , it is now the past , and you have learned something ! You are now much wiser , better equipped and a much STRONGER version of YOU 💪💪❤️😎
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Good video Andrew. Well since I was discarded, I've gone no contact. It has been a long road to becoming more educated and stronger person. Some days are good some not so good. Being alone is taking some time to get used to. Doing things for myself and not worrying about getting yelled at or some other abuse. I'm definitely moving forward and becoming strong. I do feel lonely but I must stay strong and focused. Thanks everyone for your kind words and thank you Andrew.
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Carlos...in two months it will be 3 years since I was discarded and found out that all possible was taking from me, all money, no promised bussines together, no reparation of house which was also payed by me, lies about child he got with another and so on. Now I see him as poor creature and he has no luck with another and has problems with institutions. And I'm doing just fine what I wish you too.
@@Tatjana.B it makes me sick that someone treated you that way!
Carlos, good things will happen! Focus on what you want for your future and it will be!
Thank you Andrew 5 months now closed the chapter its not over but I'm slowly learning all times I was taken for a ride.
Welcome 🙏💯🙌
You have helped me.
I was down on luck in California.
I found a family to become part of.
Benefited them greatly.
Took me 20 months to figure out they were a narcissistic cult family with a sociopath dad proud of raising a narcissist because he firmly believed it was a higher evolution.
I would have never figured it out if not for resources like you
Now I am back with family,
I’m not the Carolina also
Thank you. 😊
Beautiful message thank you 🙏🙌💯💪
I’m in a narc cult family lmaoo, but the kids never wanted to be. They just fell into the trap made by my parents. We all kind of became mini narcissists that was all we knew. My dad encouraged us to harm each other and give him reasons to harm us. Not all of us became narcs or still hold onto narc traits but I’d say at least 4/6 kids might be in the end unfortunately. My youngest brother laughed when his older brother got bullied by my dad and it made me so sad. They’re 13 and 9. They’re having trouble finding compassion which makes sense bc we never caught a break as kids. They’re in an echo chamber of narcissism. Everyone abusing each other, but no one wanting to besides the parents. We all just want to love each other. My dad caused us to trauma bond to each other. Started fights between us. He’d tell my siblings that I have it out for them and vice versa
I listen to you,and one other gentleman called Danish on the daily..
You both keep me strong and motivated, and I thank you so much ❤️
Welcome always 🙏🙌💪
It feels so great to become yourself again. Thank you Andrew.
Welcome 🙏
30 years later, I still struggle with forgiving myself for ENDURING what I did. And he lived with ME. MY home. NO kids. I had NO EXCUSES
Sending healing energy 🙌💯🙏
I'm at 26 years. I stayed, because I am a Christian. He divorced me. Blessing in disguise. Don't be hard on yourself, Sweetheart. I'm not! Just learn more & love yourself more.❤💚❤💚❤
You walked your beliefs. You trusted. Time to let go and love yourself. You have a big heart.
Forgiveness sets one free and boundaries are our new fences with gates.
Open the gate to freedom. Forgive yourself for trusting, if need be, to be free and see how beautiful each new day is.
We are lifting u up. U got this! ❤️
It's not a poor reflection of you. It's a poor reflection of the narcissist. You have a heart full of loving-kindness.
He interrupted my flow, but I never let him take who I am away from me. Thank goodness it was short lived . If you can get away, do it ASAP! TY Andrew
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Mine lasted many many years and still going on breaking into some videos or talking lies from hiding or just reabusing me and others I love electronically. I never fell in love with any of them. Praise my Lord for that. I do love the innocent ones I will always love and still see them as those same people at that time in my life.
Thankyou ever so much Andrew. Your words went right to my heart.
Never did I think I would get to the point where I could do without my family. I am a well-educated social worker, working with the socially disadvantaged, incl. in closed prisons. I loved my job, which ended when I was 65.
I have no TV or radio, prefer nature along the Beach, fitness center, yoga and karate. I have lots of energy but have always kept it to myself in order to be accepted and to fit into a narcissistic family, full of hate and envy.
This video was an eye opener.
It hit me that I don't need my family to judge me, I am a free person and can build my own identity after decades of not knowing who I was . I will love the third version of myself.
I can I will I am.
Thankyou and blessings to everyone on this channel. Much love. Anny from Denmark
Welcome always 🙌🙏💯🇩🇰
I also lost my mother at the age of sixteen. I understand that the void that was left created a need in me to be wanted, loved and to belong. That sent me out in pursuit of needing to fill that void in my heart and soul. When the narcissist appeared I had a "target" on my back. I was the perfect person to victimize and control. I was felt wanted and loved and there it all began. Now three years away and free, and after digging myself out of the debris at the discard I can assure you that YES WE CAN BECOME OURSELVES AGAIN ! BUT BETTER! ♥ Namaste!
Namaste 🙌😌💯❤️
You look amazing. The surroundings are beautiful. Since it’s a time to reflect for many on being grateful, today I was thinking how grateful I was that I got lost driving. It ended up being an amazing path to a new place for me to go play I think tomorrow I’ll take some hours there. Why do I share that? I got lost with the narcissists for years, but I’m grateful now. I was always here, I’m found. As my best friend has been saying for 20 years, “don’t let anyone put you in a box” - I did, now I listen to her every word like it’s the truth it is. Same as you Andrew. What you share with the world is golden truth. Thank you 🙏
The dogs were the mysterious lurking creatures we saw yesterday 😊❤️🙏
Thank you for sharing this insight ❤️💯🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you’re welcome 🙏
“carve new neural pathways in your brain” Yes!
I recently ended the relationship, and the biggest mountain I’m climbing right now is. Owning the fact that our relationship was smoke and mirrors, a fantasy. Having to remind myself she “gave” me what I needed for a time. I realize now that she mirrored my needs. She would mine information out of me, and replicate it. Slowly it faded away, ALL of it was handcuffed to gaslighting, passive aggressive comments, straight out lying… the list goes on… The fog does dissipate… You do start to find yourself again… Here’s to becoming the third version, for us all! Thanks Andrew, for your wisdom… sorry you too had to experience it.
Welcome always 🙌💯🙏
All true...I have finally decided that, if and when I become involved with ANYONE, I am taking it slow, give respect and hopefully receive respect...slowly establishing and developing friendships and if I find myself in a situation where I am being devalued, I WILL walk away, and shut that door...my priorities have changed from what they were...I have been doing everything that you have described to learn and heal...it's been painful, but I am committed to the work. Self protection is vital. I have been doing more blocking, but the stalking activity continues in my private space. I will figure out how to end it. I am determined...
Congrats...public speaking...wow! Looking forward to seeing those.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are welcome, always 🙏✌❤🤓😎
Thank You So Much 💖 I'm pouring love back into me, So Much Healing Work to Do. He tried to steal my Joy !!!
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How gorgeous are those woods, and to have some animal peeps come visit. I get great comfort out of my animals. Thanks for this video Andrew. Hope everyone is travelling ok on the healing path, a path that is not straight but has twists and turns and the occasion fork in the road. Keep on going forward and don't look back. Blessings to our tribe. Lots of love and hugs. 💜
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌☀️
I hope to become a better version of myself eventually. I am feeling better, slowly but it is consistent. Don't get me wrong, I have bad moments where I just let myself cry it out, but nurturing and being patient with myself helps so much. Andrew and his channel has been a true gift. I also feel comradery through the comments as well. We are allowed to be caring to ourselves as long as we have our minds set on healing and being decent to other humans. Love to all
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I appreciate you and your approach so very much. You're a hero in my eyes! Thank you
Yes… getting back to the authentic colorful brilliant SELF… NO PLAYING SMALL TO MAKE THEM FERL POWERFUL… freedom is a wonderful thing… joy… happiness creativity health . Playfulness. Real joy… true peace… thank you for helping me to heal 💌🖼👍🤩🌈🥰
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A few years past this anomaly I have made a promise to myself to never forget the lessons of naivete. I could care less about a person, who I realized the more time that has gone by, was a toxin to all the senses a human has. In a good way you realize you were just one of many. That actual helps the analysis of the experience. Who would want to even be seen with this type. But a calm enhanced awareness has been activated. It actually feels empowering in a modest way. The typical societal must haves rethought of as volunteering for compliant manipulations. Everything and I do mean everything is pleasure reaching the I am enough as is plateau. Don't forget to bring a dog biscuit ! Tames the mostly ferocious of beasts.
Beautiful message thank you Brad..🙏💯😊😉
Very happy for you that you reached the I am enough belief! That is a tremendous milestone in the healing process!
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I've had multiple narcs in my life from partner, to parents, to coworkers... I literally reached a point this year I had to cry every other day for almost 2 months or so...just too much pain to try and keep it together. Grieving is so important, that pain is real and will hurt us if we keep it in.
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Yes!
Trying to live with the narcassistic soul was horrific, though I have moved on, I have much healing and self finding to do
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You know Andrew, I didn’t realize that I had lost my identity until I exited the toxic one way relationship. Now I have more time for myself. II am also glad to say that I’m teaching at a High School. I actually teach Advance Spanish II. I enjoy this so much! Im glad that you are in the beautiful Carolinas. I always look forward to viewing your teachings. Take care good friend. Take care!
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Agree there is alot of high and low moments....time and your silence is key to protect yourself
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Yes, the real me is coming back...my boundaries are strong...and I do not care what the narcissist is doing...I have moved on..and feel so good about myself and that I don't have to share, my beautiful light with the narc anymore!! Andrew, you have helped me along the way! Thank you!!!!!!!
Welcome 🙏
Love you Andrew!! Keep doing God's work!!!! You've got a supporter for life!! You changed my life with these videos and gave me the courage to walk away ... God Bless!!!
Thank you 🙏🙌☀️
Thank you again Andrew! The darkness we go through, comes to light. I'm still working it all out and you have been a big help, pointing me in the right direction of recovery.
This community is a great resource of encouragement. Keeping in mind that we are not all at the same place or pace, thanks to you we are all on the same path of healing properly.
Much love❤
Welcome always 🙌🙏💯☀️
Thank you...
As hard as I've worked on my mental health...I couldn't imagine or understand anyone risking relapse. I thought I knew my neighbors (some I diluted myself thinking they were "Friends")
He's built a network in my neighborhood & the townspeople as well. You make so much sense, experience is the best teacher. I thought I'd learned from the 2nd & last husband. I was a vibrant 65 year old woman, 4 years ago. I can't imagine anyone being mean to you.
I believe these lily pad jumpers need a special Law in our penal & correctional institutions created just for these monsters. (3 phone, 3 phone numbers & 1 new carrier)
Inspiring you are!!
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Thank you, Andrew. Once again, you are on target. 💚
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These narcissists fully drain you 🤮🤮🤮
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I am the third version of myself now after I have blocked the narcissist from my Facebook account and remove my FB from the device. I got back my confidence, courage, freedom, wisdom and becoming stronger than my first version of me. I have moved forward with a new chapter of my life. Thank you Andrew your videos are great.
Welcome always 🙌☀️🙏
Thank you Andrew you're doing gods work!
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Blocked, relocating but the disappointment & despair?? Thank you for your guidance. I’m counting on it getting better, the days are too long & hard right now❤
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You can do it! Each day will be better.
Time is precious! Becoming myself again after being broken,but yes it takes work and time! Discernment is valuable,now I know about boundaries around myself,and the obsession with the narc is broken and now I see many more in my circle! I used to be an open book but now I know to guard my heart! Trust is earned and thank you for the gems of wisdom,coming from an authentic survivor!
Another great video! The mountain towards finding yourself is high. The journey is long. But, the destination is worth it! The view is beautiful. Looking back to the narcissist is not allowed!! Stay blessed!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
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So sorry Andrew you lost your Dear Mother at only 16. You are such a caring, assertive intelligent soul. Thank you and God Bless.
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Andrew, thank you so much for this really excellent video filled with encouragement and so much information about how to heal. It was so helpful to hear about your own healing journey and how you healed the significant wound from your past by going back to fully process the mourning for your dear mother who passed away when you were only sixteen. So sorry for your loss at such a young age. Your dog is a nice gentle companion. Wishing everyone a safe and blessed night or day depending on where you are. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️ 🐕 🦋 ☀️
Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️
Lovely location and adorable dog. Adrenal fatigue from emotional stress slow and stopped wish I could fly away. Hope I get mojo back again. I need a miracle. Keep smiling.🙏😍❤️
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You can do it, Margaret!
For me, I learned about narcissist behavior while still with him and when I finally broke free from him I had to stay away from this content. I needed time to rest, relax, feel free, feel safe, strong and more. After a little over a year of separation and no contact despite having a son together, I can now listen to this and it doesn't trigger me. That in itself is huge. The hardest part is him using our son as bait. I hope my son sees it sooner than later but I realize it is his journey and he knows I will be right here for him and that he is loved. So healing from trauma bonding, shame (why did I allow this), empty nest (oldest joined army and youngest is bait), and learning about how my energy was used/how to protect it and this list could go on, is a lot to endure. My journey to self may be long but ever so slowly I am loving the freedom to be me!
Yeah! Public speaking globally....this is your destiny. Please let us know where and when you will start doing it. I sure will make the trip to see you in person and support you. Have great afternoon and evening. Sending a big hug your way. ❤🙌🙏
Thank you 🙏🙌💯☀️
Yes, I am one of the one's who had to address my childhood and empty all the anger and sadness out that I had been holding in for all my life. I've personally learned that holding on to trauma is like leaving a door wide open for more abuse and that's how I fell into the hands of Narcissist relationships.
I like how you phrased ... I COME FIRST, SECOND & THIRD. I'm going to use that because that's exactly how I feel about my life today but still healing.
Beautiful message 💯💯💯
I'm 60 years being discarded,working on my healing. Could I heal,or am I to old.That put me in fear. Andrew,the dog is beautiful. I love mine so much.Namaste,be blessed for all the work you do for us,each and every day.
Namaste 🙏
You are not too old for sure.
You are never too old to do the healing work. It may be a slower process, yet it is often very, very thorough. I will never be my former self.
There are gaps especially during this neverending pandemic that limits socializing. You can do this. Freedom still rocks despite this damned tripledemic especially for we oldies w/ pre-existing conditions. Still....better late than never!❣️. Godspeed tribe!
I don’t have to ask myself WHY I was with narcs my entire life; starting with the sadistic one in HS, as I now know! It was the next step after learning who narcs were! I am coming to terms on my childhood after losing my mom at early age and having no identity or self worth around a evil narcissist coach at school and Narc father!
I am in full knowledge of the WHO? And the WHY? …. Now it’s the ME stage getting strong boundaries and feeling blessed in retirement. Staving the narcs off is on the mind. Not being codependent anymore and finding myself again is at present. It’s peaceful ☮️
Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏
I have so much time now for the things that are important to me Yes no more long endless babel about HIM and how he is being taken advantage of and how smart he is and how he should have that managers job and no one knows what to do at work but him (But why are you not the boss then?) while my time was being eaten away ( and never being heard) I have put energy into my work (too tired before) and into my gardening,my fur babies and have begun outlining a new book Getting back to my meditation and my yoga (he said was weird and stupid) and connecting to nature because for me that is me I can not believe how much less drained I am and I am doing more Its wonderful to get up in the morning and know I wont hear the phone ring so he can talk some more about himself He took so much But slowly I am taking it all back It can be sad at times but each day I am becoming my true self again - Why did I allow this to happen? I was raised my Narcs I thought it was :normal: An empath raised by Narcs Life was not easy ! Thank you again Andrew and I love love the beautiful dog!!
Welcome always ☀️🙌🙏
I'm so sorry about your mom, Andrew 💙 My sister passed when I was 16. A friend's mom, when she was nine. I'd never met her mom. Ten years ago, I was talking to this friend when suddenly her mom's spirit whooshed through the top of my head & out through my chest. So shocking. Her mom had such pleasant energy, and I have no idea how I knew it was her or that she wanted me to tell her daughter that she was still with her & loves her, but I told her (after gasping in shock). I'm sure all of our loved ones would give the same message to us. 🙏💙
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Love to you 💗🕊️ Thank You Andrew
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❤❤❤ continuing every day, you help more than you know. I listen to you everything you say, each day. So many different derivatives to this, so much. I love that doggie, sending you both big hugs. Namaste, love you too❤❤❤🕯🙌💪🐾🐾
Beautiful message thank you 💯🙌❤️🙏
I needed that support…6 months no contact, and I was hoping to be further along. Just hearing you say that I’ll get there was very comforting- I was/am scared that I wouldn’t. Thank you so much!
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Such a beautiful speech, Andrew! So experienced, humane & heartfelt. Amazing ambient, above all your beautiful puppy 🐶 😊Animals are wondrous, helping us so much on our healing paths. ❤️🩹
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Thank you! I’m exactly there. Wondering if I will ever be my self. Happy some days and so tired some days. So happy I found you Andrew and you all wonderful people in this web sight. Love you ❤️🙏🔆
I feel the same way.
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"Create or/ and reinforce neurological pathways"
You are good, Andrew! I DO hope you are speaking publicly - not just on TH-cam - although you are reaching a lot of wounded people!
Thank you for your supportive and motivational presentations!
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I’m blown away by the synchronistic timing of this video. When I saw the title I knew it was exactly what I needed. You are a beautiful and very wise man. Thank you
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Finding yourself takes time, but the path to freedom is worth it . The stronger you become 💪🏼 the more you invest in yourself and be around people who are kind and real. Always having my boundaries in place no time wasted on a narcissistic person, it's so freeing to finally look back and see how much I have overcome I'm happy now lighter because I no longer entertain the narc I am clearly in control of my life and the best thing is the narc knows it and also knows there is no way back into my life. God bless you Andrew 🙏🏽 for all your time and effort you pour into the community everyday 🙏🏽 your helping us to be free, and we then can help others.
As we can spot a narcissistic person even just from someone describing them. They are everywhere, but we also are everywhere, and good will always overcome evil.
Thank you so much Andrew
I Have a worse Day today on my healing path ......
I do not understand it.....
It was better yesterday..
Surviving because of your channel 🦋🦋🦋
Continue on the path moving forward everyday 🙌🙏💯☀️
You can do it! Some days really suck. Tomorrow can be better. Set your intention when you wake up, and gently hold your broken heart as it heals.
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Hi Andrew . Yes tough path but we can make it with strength.
I did it after fighting Cancer and am a survivor and still alive .
If I can get over that I can sure get over the Narc !
He wanted my house because he wanted too move I with me .
I said sign a disclaimer and he backed off . Proof he wanted my money .
Seeing friends yesterday said I look different. I said what do you mean , they said stress has gone from my face 😊
So I'm getting there .
And many thanks too you Andrew .
Beautiful growth and progress 🙏💯🙌
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Yes good feeling.
Another year coming and a better life ? I hope .
But hard when you have no family .
As you understand x
I will never be the same Andrew . I will either be worse or better than I was but never the same . It’s like being burned at the steak you come out of the fire burned & badly scared but I want to see myself so fried so burned to ashes so out of the ashes I am like the Phoenix bird 🦅 flying out of the ashes. Thank God ❤
Welcome back to the US! Life is an adventure
Thank you 🙏☀️😊
Yea it has been a journey,.be steadfast.,patient with yourself,.put your energy into what you hold dear to your heart..never loose Hope and faith,. I went through COVID and I'm here Thank God. . This made me more and more determined to get better and Heal and move on ,back working again in the Community,.Thank you ANDREW,God Bless you 🤗😊💞💞🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing this 🙌😊☀️🙏💯
Andrew, 'love you and 'love cute puppy dog! Thanks again for being there when we need you most. Peace and blessings to you both.
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ide like to think I'm that 3rd person now and I like her better age has taught me much thru the yrs. Energy is wasted on the youth lol no matter the yrs. the spirit grows❤🔥 younger💛💜
beautiful dog
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I think a small piece was I wanted to be the “ hero “. I need to learn how to hero my own self… if that makes any sense. Peace to you all. I have to keep coming back to your videos Andrew to remind myself of the work I need to do for myself to be whole again. Thank you
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I am definitely trying to find myself again by making changes in my boundaries, trying not to be codependent, and healing from childhood wounds! I was really ok until I met the narcissist husband in 1992. And met another very evil narcissist 2 yrs ago who destroyed me to make me google those behaviors and finding narcissism in my entire life!
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I love how you lit up playing with the pup!
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I cry a lot, I'm sad a lot. But each day I can tell I'm starting to get better. Thank you so much for these videos.
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Thank you, Andrew, for this wonderful video. You are so right, the path is high and low and up and down and curve balls get thrown at you that you never expect. I did great leaving the narcissist, but not so wonderful with the affect that it has had on my children. My children are still my children, though they are adults and it is so hard to see how the narcissistic family dynamic has hurt them. In my case, it has hit them hard. I was thrown a curveball today and having trouble wrapping my head around it, I see the fall coming and can't put out a rescue net. One day at a time, one moment at a time sometimes. I have to remember that this too shall pass. The passing may be a hard fall, but it will pass. I am glad to see that you made it to the Carolina's! It is a beautiful area and I know you will continue to thrive there. Much love to you!
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🙏🌹they want us in a place where we don't know who we are, unable to think for ourselves, even in the most simplest ways. They want to slap us down and say they have to do all the thinking for us! This vibration makes us feel even worse.
They litterally make us feel and become clumsey around them because of the pressure.
You/ we are the drivers of our own vessal, not the driven!!
We have to get through the hellish revaluation because it's better that then live in their sick cloud of denial.
Then their cloud of denial becomes our cloud of denial that we have accepted because
We think it will make the confusion go away. Living in that kind of denial is no good!
There is no happy camp and no happy campers!
I lost my dad when I was a child
I loved him so much. Then in my youth I met narc one.
Who had all the answers and I thought he was great!
But 25 yes later I see the narc as a grotesque spectre.
And what a poor substitute he is/was.
Great video and great to see your excellent companion.
I send you both love and hugs.
He's a beautiful 🐕 dog.🙏🕷️🔥🦊🐾🐾🦋🌹🌱🌏🧡
Beautiful message thank you for sharing 🙏🙌☀️💪❤️
Glad you introduced that beautiful dog ! Having a dog is a good pathway to healing. They don't have flying monkees etc etc.
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Thank you for sharing about the loss of your mom when you were so young. God bless you Andrew.
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Thanks for sharing personal info about yourself that wakes up our realization that WE caused our own Narc attraction! I lost my mom at age 6 and my dad abandoned us 4 kids to go off with another lady with kids he was cheating with! I guess that made me a codependent and the wrong attraction style!
Thank you for moving to the healing phases and giving details on that! I have a therapist, reading a book “codependent Nomore”, working my boundaries, and changing my social style too! Wish I could meet you someday! I find you inspirational!
Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏😊
What I noticed is, it always had to be what he wanted, liked, his way..he never saw it my way or the way I wanted.
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Myself is who I miss the most of all. About to be 36 but God has blessed me with peace an serenity, an most of all rest; so I can put the effort in every day to be me again. 🛐💟✝️
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Absolutely! I Rise! Better than ever!! I am putting my energies to myself now and to my music. Wrote and released two songs based on my tower experience, happy and grateful to be woke & healing. 🙏🏻❤️ and thank you for being a part of my journey Andrew! Sending much ❤️🙏🏻✌🏻 to my tribe!!
Beautiful empowerment 💪💯🙏
Excellent point 👍🥇....... great video and very specific/sharp topic ☺️......Pen and paper is absolutely necessary these days 🙄👍✨........(and a Joyous smile at the end✨👍🙋).........
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Another great video Andrew ❤️. 2 full days away from the narc and been so busy setting this new house up, that I forgot all about him. I went out tonight to a show to see a heartthrob of mine from the 60s. Not only was he fab on stage, but I went out at the interval meeting him, he signed my ticket, shook my hand and a very kind lady took photos of us which she will email to me tomorrow. Had I still been with the narc I know 100% none of that would have happened, he would have cancelled and probably upset me so that I wouldn’t go in the end.
I will get back to doing all the things I did before him. I was out tonight, I bet he was on his own in the big house and on dating websites looking for the next victim. I chose the right path. I blocked him as soon as I left the house and any contact will now be made through the lawyer. 👍👍
Thank you for sharing 🙌🙏💯
God bless you for your teachings cant say enough how much youve helped me! Stay strong everyone youre not alone and its not your fault. Listen to “unpretty” by TLC. Love yourself people! ❤
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I’m happy to say I’m healed though the help of this channel. I’ve followed every piece of advice Andrew has given on this channel and it all worked, in every way. The sooner you put the work into yourself and stay stoic, you really will heal and be the best version of you ever! Love to all here 🙏💙🙏
Beautiful empowerment 💪💯☀️🙌😊
Andrew, love ❤the special guest 🐕. My third version is more cautious. The narcissist is still using fake profiles to try and get me to accept her friend request. I block those as well. I miss the life before the narcissist when I had public profiles and no one harassed me on my different social media outlet. Post narcissist life, you are correct, Andrew, I do set limits with people I didn’t do before. Some people have gotten upset that I don’t respond right away as I did when I people pleased. My light 💡 is coming back. I do feel better. I just wish the narcissist would leave me alone. She said she’d go after me like no other. That speaks volumes considering she’s been married and divorced twice.
Thank you for sharing this 💪💯🙏🙌😊
Does dancing in the living room to Irene Cara’s FAME count as becoming myself again??? Answer: HELL YES!! 👯♂️💃(despite my knees!)👯♂️#remembermyname (RIP Irene, off to heaven today 😢🕊️🙏🏼Andrew, the timing of your video today is magical! 🐶💙
@LT love it!! 💃💃💫💫🎼🎼💗💗
Thank you 🙏🙌☀️😊