I don't delete any comments. If it has something stupid in it then it probably gets auto blocked. You know I don't delete comments bc if you look at my other videos, I pin the idiotic comments you're talking about to the top.
It’s not right to erase comments (that are not rude), get caught, and instead of copping to it, pretend that it’s a mystery how they were erased within minutes when a yt moderator would not (as it contains nothing rude), PIN the question…. And then DELETE the responses so as to appear that the person has no valid argument. I’m familiar with this pattern. This exact thing happens on red pill channels. Elliot is spouting red pill pornography philosophy that uses junk science (dismissive of attribution errors) to legitimize double standards regarding age for women.
This is exactly how I feel too. Fk this. I'd rather put the effort into building my own life up than making myself look better to try keep some dudes attention and competing to be the best he can get. I never will be that. So shallow.
What I had to come to grips with is the fact that a guy just doesn’t wake up one day, has some sort of grand epiphany, realizes you’re the one and comes back. I wasted so many years pouring myself into relationships thinking one day the guy will just wake up and think I’m his soulmate. Almost every guy I dated always came back around - some dozens of times. But it wasn’t for me and that’s a tough pill to swallow. Luckily I’m learning
Sorry to be insensitive, but they usually come back because of lack of attention/validation/assets in other parts of their life, not because they realized you were the one 🥺🙌
04:46 the man I've been dating for a month 😆 Today he made a fool of himself, even though he's in the 80s, according to this video. Long story short, I dropped him like a hot potato, and as I was coming home from the date, I remembered what you say, Elliot: if he really likes you, he won't put himself in a position to lose you. Just remembering this is so grounding and puts a smile on my face. Thank you, Elliot
Some of your advice actually inspired me to call out a guy on his bullshit a while ago that Id normally just develop some wishful thinking around and it felt so much better to actually take some agency in these things.
It takes time to know your long-term goals...so you strike out with the wrong mates...when you know what you want from life then you have more clarity on how a long-term partner can be mutually beneficial. Self-awareness, timing, healing...sometimes it's just figuring yourself out:) Mistakes can be the best teacher
I honestly really appreciate your channel, I don’t have a problem getting a guy but I can be too nice and your videos have helped me a lot to understand how to set boundaries. I’m recently single after 4 years and I learned a lot about relationships but you still have great advice!!
He's right about the momentum; high school example. Neighbor's son, soccer player, goes to prom with long-term girfriend. You'd think they'd be all set. Nope. He goes to college; meets a who knows who from who knows where???? Then what I would consider fast, he drops the high school girl and is ALL IN with this girl he barely knows. How this happened? I don't know, but it did. They've graduated college and are planning their wedding.
I feel like we're 65, but he also calls me a "friend" to his friends. Like I have a "friend" over. Not even a girl I'm seeing. So idk if I should give up lol
Men are going to need to grow beyond their evolutionary brains, women are capable of being alone=all one and providing for themselves and feeling safe and happy without men and living meaningful lives. 🦋🙂💅💄
This “I don’t need no man” third wave feminism hasn’t gotten women very far. Instead of progressing we have regressed. At the end of the day men need women and women need men. If that wasn’t the case then none of us would even be here
I blew one guy's mind one day when he tried to tell me women are slowly becoming obsolete via sexdolls. My response was basically "That's fine. That'll just lead to women breeding on our own via sperm donors & DNA selection. Thereby raising an entire new generation of young males to replace you & your sex dolls." He looked real worried for a minute there 😂
That's all true and fine...when you're younger. I felt that way until around my late 40s. Life gets harder to do alone after that. At some point, moving, carrying heavy shit, groceries, whatever, hiring handyman services for household jobs that take two people, even getting that table home you found at a local store that has no delivery service that you cannot possibly lift/maneuver yourself, no one living with you in your home to help you when you brake a bone (maybe your dominant hand or wrist which I did) and cannot bathe yourself, or cook or write or anything. Or...scratch your cornea which my sister did - she lives alone and couldn't drive, read, could barely see for a month and had to beg people for rides to the eye doctor which she had to go to every 2nd day for that month. There are a million reasons you can find to be "independent" or single and proclaim you don't need a partner, but there are a million reasons having a partner is preferable. Most people think of the big things like money or having children, but those two things won't help you in the scenarios I gave as examples. Kids before 16 cannot drive you anywhere. And after 18, God-willing, they are off living their lives. And money??? You have your own...sure...but I'd bet you don't have enough to pay a nurse to move in with you and help you after an injury or surgery, or God-forbid a more serious issue. Just things to think about and realize as facts.
@@npkrn6764 I have friends for things like this. I’ve always wanted to be married, just never have met a good enough man that wants to marry. Only men I’m not attracted to want to marry. But I’m still on that search, well past mid life.
Liked it, but for some reason couldn't change it to big screen so I couldn't read it at all. But all your ways are great. Wish you would talk about more signs when you actually at the 65 plus stage. What to keep doing or what not to do the Fook it up as you say 🤔 thanks you have helped me tremendously. To be the kick arse women I am today. Xx
i think women often make a mistake of showing either as too easy or as a permanent high maintenance b*tches in the courting process. That's why many men drop off. Courting imho, should be more like a medieval tournament, where you are cheering him from the viewing seat, and your enthusiasm is the only thing you can offer him. He is the one who has to do the main work, he needs to prove he is worthy earning intimacy with you. And if he does, he needs to know there will be a big reward at the end.
They know that. They never said that those guys are good or are doing the right thing. Those people just point out clear flaws in the social, judicial, and political system.
I think I've accidentally become a guy because you've just summarised my approach to relationships... BTW When you talk about 'looks', I think it's more about how you present yourself. It's still visual but more subtle. Your attitude, the care you take of yourself, and to paraphrase Roald Dahl, a genuine smile can make everyone beautiful.
You don`t want the wrong guy to be attracted to you. Is he commit or not, is highly depends on his level of maturity. He could be super attracted to you, you are low drama, and all good, just if he is immature and not looking for a commitment, you can be a beauty queen, and he won`t commit. I wish Elliot emphasize emotional maturity more. All these cave-level-psychology is good, can be helpful to gain some understanding, but if you stop at this level of understanding, you are screwed.
Elliot i bought one of your guides last month but i can’t tell if it’s the same one in the link. the one i have is 275 pages and the front cover says commitment secrets, how to make him see you as long term. it’s divided by the 3 concepts (evolution, attraction, escalation) edit: it’s the same guide but updated, thanks! will re-read.
I know how you feel. Only arrogant, intolerant people block others. They can not handle the world and choose to be narrow-minded. The exception is if there is an aspect of actual danger. Seriously, he is not worth pursuing.
What I don’t get is that in all of these examples the girl is already hooking up and giving away the P in hopes he will commit eventually?? How about not hooking up until he does commit… any thoughts?
Bc that happens .01% of the time. There is no benefit in a guy hooking up with you after commitment. That is you making your value proposition the P. If that is the case, why not date someone who he is hooking up with and likes?
Amazing insights. What If he was on the 80s after a month, and then dropoed to 50s( and broke up with me) after I presented some insecuritis. I had him back again after a week(came back for the assets) , saw he'd call me once every day but wouldn't set a date, for 3 days in a row, and then I cut him off. He tried again with a text but I said I am not interested in his crumbs anymore. If He contacts me again, should I take him back, slowly this time?
I’ll be honest. Until I met the guy I’m dating right now, I thought everything was so complicated. Guys that really like you in that way, they won’t play games. They’ll be straight with you to make sure they’re not doing anything to mess things up with you. That looks like him telling you he doesn’t want to mess things up and taking a lot of action. Guys are all about action. It almost sounds like he’s not really worried about losing you- he broke up with you. And he’s still not doing much. The more he reads the situation as you wanting him bac eventually , he’ll act the same. Because after everything, you’re giving the impression that the door is open for him. Just live your life without wondering what he might do. The rest will take care of itself.
If not attractive enough or the lack of chemistry, then he should pull away very soon or not initiate anything at all in the first place. It's like he starts something and thinks "she will become more attractive with time or what?"🤣
Some of yall are combative with guys that are actually on your side , that is probably working against you in dating too . Nobody is going to say and do things exactly how you want them too. They aren't *you* and they aren't catering to you specifically on an individual level. Usually the comment section on the channel is pretty good but recently I've seen some stuff 😅😅😅😅😅
Friends with benefits is a terrible idea. Not only is it immoral behavior. It causes all sorts of problems and creates situations that people do not want to be in. Marriage is a respected, legal institution that exists in every single nation, regardless of culture, race, language, or location. Zero exceptions. Have you ever wondered why that is?
PS~ why are you deleting comments that push back on your theories that justify sexism???
I don't delete any comments. If it has something stupid in it then it probably gets auto blocked. You know I don't delete comments bc if you look at my other videos, I pin the idiotic comments you're talking about to the top.
And what's sexiest about evolution?
Elliot-people can see there are comments being deleted rather easily. Why post and pin the question and then delete the response?
It’s not right to erase comments (that are not rude), get caught, and instead of copping to it, pretend that it’s a mystery how they were erased within minutes when a yt moderator would not (as it contains nothing rude), PIN the question…. And then DELETE the responses so as to appear that the person has no valid argument.
I’m familiar with this pattern. This exact thing happens on red pill channels. Elliot is spouting red pill pornography philosophy that uses junk science (dismissive of attribution errors) to legitimize double standards regarding age for women.
He’s even deleting my replies to you 🤣
Ladies, the gut never lies, listen to it! The gut is wise beyond its years! Women were gifted with instincts/gut feelings! LISTEN TO IT!
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I decided to give up dating. Im done. I just cant anymore. However, I really enjoy listening your videos while I'm working. You crack me up
Same.
Same ,done.
This is exactly how I feel too.
Fk this. I'd rather put the effort into building my own life up than making myself look better to try keep some dudes attention and competing to be the best he can get. I never will be that. So shallow.
@@KiKi-te9yd yeah this. Why do women put up with lower standards yet men only commit when you're the best they can get 😐
I haven't given up yet, but I like to listen to him while I work too 😂
Keep it simple. If the guy hasn’t got their shit together and tells you he isn’t looking for a relationship, vote with your feet.
Being single sounds better and better as time goes by
I'm so used to being single and just dating around that I don't think I would kno what to do if I ever got in a relationship anymore
Yup,I agree.
Hear hear!
What I had to come to grips with is the fact that a guy just doesn’t wake up one day, has some sort of grand epiphany, realizes you’re the one and comes back. I wasted so many years pouring myself into relationships thinking one day the guy will just wake up and think I’m his soulmate. Almost every guy I dated always came back around - some dozens of times. But it wasn’t for me and that’s a tough pill to swallow. Luckily I’m learning
Sorry to be insensitive, but they usually come back because of lack of attention/validation/assets in other parts of their life, not because they realized you were the one 🥺🙌
@@Nehaa18 Right. That’s what I said ☺️
04:46 the man I've been dating for a month 😆 Today he made a fool of himself, even though he's in the 80s, according to this video.
Long story short, I dropped him like a hot potato, and as I was coming home from the date, I remembered what you say, Elliot: if he really likes you, he won't put himself in a position to lose you. Just remembering this is so grounding and puts a smile on my face. Thank you, Elliot
Some of your advice actually inspired me to call out a guy on his bullshit a while ago that Id normally just develop some wishful thinking around and it felt so much better to actually take some agency in these things.
It takes time to know your long-term goals...so you strike out with the wrong mates...when you know what you want from life then you have more clarity on how a long-term partner can be mutually beneficial. Self-awareness, timing, healing...sometimes it's just figuring yourself out:) Mistakes can be the best teacher
You are so philosophical, well said it is either survival or creating a legacy. I love how bright you are.
Thank you that's very kind. I know I come off harsh in a lot of my videos and look like the bad guy. I just don't wanna sugarcoat anything
I honestly really appreciate your channel, I don’t have a problem getting a guy but I can be too nice and your videos have helped me a lot to understand how to set boundaries. I’m recently single after 4 years and I learned a lot about relationships but you still have great advice!!
I appreciate your honest perspective. All points of view are welcome, imo!
I'm in the 70s. I just bought the guide Elliot . I've never bought anything like this before so I'm hoping it helps..
Totally love this.. and experienced every stage of that .. exactly went down like you said
Yay! this format with you in the lil icon circle in the upper right is Great!👌 Keep on keeping it 💯 with us, we need the Real!
He's right about the momentum; high school example. Neighbor's son, soccer player, goes to prom with long-term girfriend. You'd think they'd be all set. Nope. He goes to college; meets a who knows who from who knows where???? Then what I would consider fast, he drops the high school girl and is ALL IN with this girl he barely knows. How this happened? I don't know, but it did. They've graduated college and are planning their wedding.
Wow!That went down pretty quick
Yeah in the workforce age discrimination is the biggest form of discrimination, and hardest to prove.
The best video! Can you do one about how to keep a guy you just want for the short-term around? Like how to set boundaries for that?
This is very eyeopening! Love the content!❤
I feel like we're 65, but he also calls me a "friend" to his friends. Like I have a "friend" over. Not even a girl I'm seeing. So idk if I should give up lol
Thank-you for all the great information. I like the new format.
You're a whistle blower 😙
Awesome video, Elliot! Great instruction, and learning A LOT. Blessings from Austin 🙏
An old subscriber you speak facts Elliott 👏
Where is the cat?
Men are going to need to grow beyond their evolutionary brains, women are capable of being alone=all one and providing for themselves and feeling safe and happy without men and living meaningful lives.
🦋🙂💅💄
This “I don’t need no man” third wave feminism hasn’t gotten women very far. Instead of progressing we have regressed. At the end of the day men need women and women need men. If that wasn’t the case then none of us would even be here
@@TravelBug189 Like I said, the men need to grow past their evolutionary brains and use their frontal cortex. Nothing is easy, nothing is simple.
I blew one guy's mind one day when he tried to tell me women are slowly becoming obsolete via sexdolls. My response was basically "That's fine. That'll just lead to women breeding on our own via sperm donors & DNA selection. Thereby raising an entire new generation of young males to replace you & your sex dolls."
He looked real worried for a minute there 😂
That's all true and fine...when you're younger. I felt that way until around my late 40s. Life gets harder to do alone after that. At some point, moving, carrying heavy shit, groceries, whatever, hiring handyman services for household jobs that take two people, even getting that table home you found at a local store that has no delivery service that you cannot possibly lift/maneuver yourself, no one living with you in your home to help you when you brake a bone (maybe your dominant hand or wrist which I did) and cannot bathe yourself, or cook or write or anything. Or...scratch your cornea which my sister did - she lives alone and couldn't drive, read, could barely see for a month and had to beg people for rides to the eye doctor which she had to go to every 2nd day for that month.
There are a million reasons you can find to be "independent" or single and proclaim you don't need a partner, but there are a million reasons having a partner is preferable. Most people think of the big things like money or having children, but those two things won't help you in the scenarios I gave as examples. Kids before 16 cannot drive you anywhere. And after 18, God-willing, they are off living their lives. And money??? You have your own...sure...but I'd bet you don't have enough to pay a nurse to move in with you and help you after an injury or surgery, or God-forbid a more serious issue. Just things to think about and realize as facts.
@@npkrn6764 I have friends for things like this. I’ve always wanted to be married, just never have met a good enough man that wants to marry. Only men I’m not attracted to want to marry. But I’m still on that search, well past mid life.
You spinning around traveling to the alternate universe 🤣🤣🤣 you’re the best, I’m now pronounced deceased 😂 ☠️
"It doesn't matter what he says he's an idiot" 💯👏🤡
Liked it, but for some reason couldn't change it to big screen so I couldn't read it at all.
But all your ways are great. Wish you would talk about more signs when you actually at the 65 plus stage. What to keep doing or what not to do the Fook it up as you say 🤔 thanks you have helped me tremendously. To be the kick arse women I am today. Xx
I can probably do that or add it to my guide. Thank you.
I agree!! I've yet to see any real stuff about older dating and relationships.
i think women often make a mistake of showing either as too easy or as a permanent high maintenance b*tches in the courting process. That's why many men drop off. Courting imho, should be more like a medieval tournament, where you are cheering him from the viewing seat, and your enthusiasm is the only thing you can offer him. He is the one who has to do the main work, he needs to prove he is worthy earning intimacy with you. And if he does, he needs to know there will be a big reward at the end.
Elliot looking good lately 👀
I love this format.
this was very helpful Elliot and i like the format
So, to all the redpillers who say women are the only ones who monkey-branch: nope, men monkey-branch just as much.
Stats say men cheat more than women. Redpillers won’t admit that though.
They created monkey branching for crying out loud. Now they’re mad because women have taken notes.
They know that. They never said that those guys are good or are doing the right thing.
Those people just point out clear flaws in the social, judicial, and political system.
Thanks for the trip. I needed to get away. 🤪
I like this format a lot, overall. However, the bubble that showed you covered up some of the text on the slide.
I can't help i have a big head
@@ElliotScottDating You do kind of have a big head but not literally 🤣
Long video yessss we need more
I love the format but will miss seeing Poe Poe 👍🏽
I think I've accidentally become a guy because you've just summarised my approach to relationships...
BTW When you talk about 'looks', I think it's more about how you present yourself. It's still visual but more subtle. Your attitude, the care you take of yourself, and to paraphrase Roald Dahl, a genuine smile can make everyone beautiful.
Haha me too! So much easier this way.
I have a situtation now that is beyond repair. He's started to disrespect me but hasn't initiated a breakup. How do I make him feel worthless?
You don’t want to make anyone feel worthless… work on feeling worthy yourself. I recommend RC BLAKES & Salkis Re
@@juneelle370 RC Blakes is amazing
The looks thing is very subjective. I see unattractive women (society would agree) with husbands ALL the time.
Elliot that intro he know damn well we ain't never listen lmao 🤣 🤣
You don`t want the wrong guy to be attracted to you. Is he commit or not, is highly depends on his level of maturity. He could be super attracted to you, you are low drama, and all good, just if he is immature and not looking for a commitment, you can be a beauty queen, and he won`t commit. I wish Elliot emphasize emotional maturity more. All these cave-level-psychology is good, can be helpful to gain some understanding, but if you stop at this level of understanding, you are screwed.
Hi. I paid for the e-book but still haven’t got it. How long does it usually take? Thank you 😊
It should be in your email. Did you receive it?
@@ElliotScottDating No. But still no email for the charge either. Should I buy it again tomorrow?
You are amazing! Keep doing what you’re doing
Loving this
Elliot i bought one of your guides last month but i can’t tell if it’s the same one in the link. the one i have is 275 pages and the front cover says commitment secrets, how to make him see you as long term. it’s divided by the 3 concepts (evolution, attraction, escalation)
edit: it’s the same guide but updated, thanks! will re-read.
It's the same guide so you can just go back to the email sent when you purchased and redownload for free
YOU ARE SO GOOOOD 😂
I’m done this is too much work SINGLE it is 🤷🏻♀️
Men just don't love at all
He blocked me, is it possible he's still interested lmao
I know how you feel. Only arrogant, intolerant people block others. They can not handle the world and choose to be narrow-minded. The exception is if there is an aspect of actual danger.
Seriously, he is not worth pursuing.
What I don’t get is that in all of these examples the girl is already hooking up and giving away the P in hopes he will commit eventually?? How about not hooking up until he does commit… any thoughts?
Bc that happens .01% of the time. There is no benefit in a guy hooking up with you after commitment. That is you making your value proposition the P. If that is the case, why not date someone who he is hooking up with and likes?
Amazing insights. What If he was on the 80s after a month, and then dropoed to 50s( and broke up with me) after I presented some insecuritis. I had him back again after a week(came back for the assets) , saw he'd call me once every day but wouldn't set a date, for 3 days in a row, and then I cut him off. He tried again with a text but I said I am not interested in his crumbs anymore. If He contacts me again, should I take him back, slowly this time?
Move on, girl. He’s low interest. Plenty of fish in the sea.
I’ll be honest. Until I met the guy I’m dating right now, I thought everything was so complicated. Guys that really like you in that way, they won’t play games. They’ll be straight with you to make sure they’re not doing anything to mess things up with you. That looks like him telling you he doesn’t want to mess things up and taking a lot of action. Guys are all about action. It almost sounds like he’s not really worried about losing you- he broke up with you. And he’s still not doing much. The more he reads the situation as you wanting him bac eventually , he’ll act the same. Because after everything, you’re giving the impression that the door is open for him. Just live your life without wondering what he might do. The rest will take care of itself.
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I am just bored of these scales. I just wanna be single...
Sometimes it looks like you have a chew in. 😁😜😘
Sometimes hes married or gay...not even joking
If not attractive enough or the lack of chemistry, then he should pull away very soon or not initiate anything at all in the first place. It's like he starts something and thinks "she will become more attractive with time or what?"🤣
Beauty fades for EVERYONE. ZERO exceptions.
It is, most definitely, not a good metric for who will be a good partner or not.
Some of yall are combative with guys that are actually on your side , that is probably working against you in dating too .
Nobody is going to say and do things exactly how you want them too. They aren't *you* and they aren't catering to you specifically on an individual level. Usually the comment section on the channel is pretty good but recently I've seen some stuff 😅😅😅😅😅
Girl welcome to my life lol. Amen
You just saying a bullish
i need Elliot's phone number!!!!
Buy a session 😂 then we talk about your problems
its very hard to get over 65 nowadays, if you are not amazingly beautiful and young. men always think they can get something better.
Not if you get my guide lol.
@@ElliotScottDating I've seen average women be in commitments and I mean horrible personalities and average looks. So how does that work
65!? I understand 25, 35, 45, and even 55. However, 65 years old is a, literal, legal senior citizen.
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So what if FWB fall off? Even marriages fall off. Lol
Friends with benefits is a terrible idea. Not only is it immoral behavior. It causes all sorts of problems and creates situations that people do not want to be in.
Marriage is a respected, legal institution that exists in every single nation, regardless of culture, race, language, or location. Zero exceptions. Have you ever wondered why that is?
♥♥♥👍👍👍
Ok