How to Help Someone with Bipolar Disorder
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- Learning how to help someone with bipolar disorder is just as hard as learning how to ask for help as someone diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
When you live with bipolar disorder and are going through a depressive or hypomanic episode, your primary objective is to make progress towards happiness and balance. Venting our pain in conversation with our friends is not a bad thing, but is it helpful? Is a friend just "being there" really helpful?
Look at it in a different context and see if it makes sense. If you help a friend move, you may pack boxes for them, which reduces their stress and makes the move a lot easier for them. If you think the best way to help a friend move is to sit by their side while they pack boxes and tell them what a great job they are doing, are you helping? You may be relieving their stress for a moment, but overall it is a nice gesture, not a helpful one.
Our friends don't know how to help us, and we don't know the right way to ask for help. You have to understand that other people don’t have lived experience with bipolar disorder and it may be difficult for them to truly get what is happening with our bipolar minds. If our friends and family members do not understand what it takes to help us, then our relationships will slowly dwindle.
In this video, I share the difficulty in asking for help when you live with bipolar disorder and how our family and friends may be able to assist us more efficiently.
Finding ways to explain our lives with bipolar disorder to our loved ones begins with an open and honest conversation. Share this with those around you, including your friends, to open the doors to this type of discussion.
Do your friends and family members really know how to help you? Comment below or do a response video and share what you believe would be most helpful to someone diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Send response videos into info@ healthyplace.com.
See you next week! Thanks!
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Someone I really care about is going through bi-polar depression and all I want to do is support her. I often let her know that I'm here for her and that she can ask me for anything.
I often wonder if I'm doing too much by doing this or sending her gentle reminders that I care. This video is helping me understand her when she goes silent, because I often thought it was something I was doing wrong.
My mom is bipolar and from where I'm standing she has destroyed every single relationship except with me and she has no personal friends and I'm never sure how to help her.
My boss has bipolar disorder and she has a hard time knowing how to talk to her employees. She wants to get there though.
My mom has it too and I am her only friend 🥺
I can relate
My wife does too. What can I do for her?
Yup. My mom as well...
I just talked to my mom today. I’ve been so scared to tell her that I needed help and wanted to go to a therapist because I knew my behavior and my depression wasn’t something to ignore. Before she wasn’t too well with the idea. But after a year, she’s more understanding. Today, my mom agreed to talk to me later and agreed to take me to a therapist. I’m kinda scared what I’ll be told, or if I do have bipolar. I’m really scared, but I’m glad I’m gonna get help
If you have no one to talk to just get a table start righting just write what you feeling
How's going now? Did you go to therapist?
I'm proud of you for having the courage to ask your mom to help you see a therapist. I'm sure it's hard for your mom to acknowledge because as a parent we never want there to be anything "wrong " with our kids but there's nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong with the stigma behind mental health care and something that we have to fight for change and education so young people like yourself and adults can feel more comfortable asking for help. There's so many resources to help us understand bipolar, depression, anxiety, etc and learn how to help those we love struggling with these things. My best friend and I are 41 and her mom hasn't ever understood or even been offered resources to help her learn how to help her daughter until I came along. My friend is very grateful for me to talk to her mom during the times she is struggling and all the resources I research and provide her mom. I'm happy to post any suggestions if you or your mom are interested
Oh, you should be so proud,you are so strong to address this need, and not to try to live up to anybody’s ideas of what you should do. My husband has bipolar as far as I know, but he will not seek help, ever, under any circumstances. So I need to deal with this on my own.
I like your gut and insight. Knowledge is power. 🎉
I finally told a friend that I have Bipolar Disorder a month ago, and it was only because I had liquid courage, and even then I was ashamed. I was so afraid that she was going to see me as a different person, but she was so open and nice about it and didn't judge me. Sure she was surprised because there's that stigma that people with bipolar are "crazy", I even used to think that myself before I knew what Bipolar truly was when I was diagnosed.
But we all need to talk about this, it is healthy for us so that the guilt doesn't overpower us. Also, you are helping others by being honest about your disorder. That friend could have a mental illness and you are showing them that IT IS okay to speak about it and that you too can get help, and it doesn't make you weak but instead strong.
Hi lovinliverpool. Sometimes a little liquid courage goes a long way. I'm glad that you had a good experience sharing your diagnosis. It doesn't always work out like that. For me, I don't feel bad anymore if someone rejects me because I have bipolar disorder. That tells me a lot about who that person is. And it's a piece of information I like to know sooner rather than later.
Regarding the guilt and shame associated with having a mental illness like bipolar disorder, I think most of us have been through that. Hopefully, when you get to the point where you fully accept your diagnosis and all it means, the shame and the guilt begin to fade. Thanks for sharing part of your journey. I hope you'll subscribe and join us. Hannah
i just wanna help my friend,i wish we could talk more openly about it but i know she doesn’t feel comfortable admitting the pain she’s going through. she’s being really strong i hope she can make it through times like these
It tasks a lot of courage to say these things.
Thanks, Chad. I appreciate that and welcome to our community. Hannah
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Iv had a 4 year relationship with a good man. He's left my daughter and I several times, run off for a week or two, I never understood what was going on. So he's left again. He mentioned manic depression, I looked it all up, called 24/7 helplines to get a more understanding of of this. Researching. The odd thing is, he's a 34 year old man that dont know he's bipolar, but his mom does. So he's out there, on his own, not knowing what it is. He was just told manic depression, not knowing what it really is. It's been a very hard four years, I'm not sure when he will be himself again or if or when he will come back. I wish I knew this before. I've never dealt with bipolar, this whole time I thought it was me. I'm so confused and my daughter. And worried about him, but I love him enough to continue my research and do whatever I can at this point to make sure I'm here, and we love him very much! Thank you for your videos. Will watch more, we need as much help we can get❤️
Love is the answer not matter what the question is
Blessings to yall
I’m also dealing with a man like that. He has proposed and broke up our engagement a bunch of times and I never understood why or how until recently. Whether we make it to the end or not, I truly cherish him and I don’t know how to help him because he’s refusing help
Have dealt with this. It is so difficult to understand and manage not only for yourself but for adult family members.
Study all you can about the symptoms.
Also I strongly advise researching nutritional resources. It takes love courage intelligence and finances. Get a good diagnosis.
No one deserves this kind of mental torture.
There is definitely a lot a family can do to help the adult. Pray that they will cooperate first! Lol
My advice is to get out of the relationship. A good man wouldn’t leave you and your daughter for weeks. He may be bi polar but there’s something else going on. Could be drugs, could be another woman, could be another man, could be anything but you can bank on the fact that something else is going on. There’s all kinds of good men out there with sound minds that I’m sure would love to be with you. You need a man to take care of you and your daughter. You don’t need to be taking care of a man. I’m just being as honest as I possibly can. I wish you and your daughter all the best.
I'm 70 yrs old and have been living with bi polar type 2 since my teens. I am so happy with my meds but even still they are not enough sometimes. I try to avoid too much drama in relationships and too much alcohol. Eating right helps too.
i'm 26 and i've been like this since 16. i dont know if i can make it to 70.
Hey @@cesslacatango1559
You can absolutely get better.. but you must be willing to
Please don't lose hope. The world needs you.. you are a beautiful person 🫂❤
This so deserves recognition. Blessings to all !
How do you help them when they won’t listen? I’m at the end of my rope. He won’t get help. I’m about to end a 20 year marriage. I just can’t anymore.
Thank you, Hanna, for your astute, heartfelt analysis. I’ve been dissatisfied with pretty much every other Bipolar advice channel I’ve run into. You are so energetic and personable. You are now my go-to source.
Now in a LDR with a man with rapid cycling Bipolar disorder. Just started talking almost a year ago online and my feelings towards him intensified after he shared something that he experienced about depression and music. After a discussion about making things more serious, he told me about having bipolar disorder and his second divorce had only been final since this February. We are just taking things slowly, but I think he told me about his condition as a test. He's very open to talk about it when I ask questions. I have grown to love him very much. Currently, he's visiting family for a couple of days. Been silent, but he could be catching up with them and sleep. He did say he hasn't given up on marriage, and despite 800 miles between us, have grown so close emotionally. I do need to visit him in person to hang out and talk. He thanks me profusely all the time for checking on him. Still trying to figure out when I can sense a few days of depression hitting. Thanks for your helpful videos.
How is the relationship now?
My mother did have this, and other illnesses that were mental health and she passed away in 1999, mental illness won but I'm still here and an orphan and my advice is, ask all questions now write down everything you can to learn about the people who you love , because I was too young 11 years old and tried my best to take care of her as a child and my middle name is hope and I think it's because she knew she was going to know I would need hope to help others. Even though it's extremely hard, please don't give up on yourselves or others, mental illness affects alot in some ways, sending everyone peace, love and light your way all ✌️ 💛 🕯️
Not everyone has friends like you do but it must be nice to have friends like that...Personally I have nobody that cares for me but GOD
i personally hated been alone at first but now i love it its peaceful people might think we are not normal or we have misarble life but genuinely its not our choice to have those disorders so have no pressure do what ever u feel enjoyable even tho ik its hard but yeah stay strong and hold to your values❤
Thank you for being open
You are not sick. It's just a part of you. We just have to understand each other.
Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts. This will help me learn more about Bipolar disorder.
my boyfriend is bipolar and i just wanna know how to help him without bringing the topic up because he is sensitive
Hi brooklynne Badeaux. It's kind of you to want to be supportive of your boyfriend. However, it's really difficult to help someone with anything who doesn't want to communicate with you. How can you help if you don't know what kind of help is needed. On the other hand, maybe at this time, he isn't looking for help. Maybe your company is enough. Thank you. Hannah
What a wonderful video. Love without judgement is the main key. Its hard knowing what to do. You and another loved one can view these videos, look up what it is from all different sources. One thing we've discovered is Dr. Amen. Linus Pauling etc. There is a link of a lack of nutritional elements. Amino Acids. Oh there is a Nutritional psychiatrist that is going on lots of interviews. I'll try to find her name.
How's going your relationship with bipolar person. I wanna know that because my boyfriend is also bipolar and i want to help him
I wish my GF thought about me like this
I know these replies are mostly 4 years old, but I like to know how if you guys see a pattern of stress related triggers that can lead to this type of behavior. In my situation my wife will feel that she can't count on me even though I'm always here for her. And it's hard to see her like this and choosing isolation over are relationships of 13 years. What can I do better what can y say or do when I'm already beyond supportive. This cycle hits her every 2 to 4 years and lasts 4 to six months. Every one sees the pattern and sees this coming but her. I would love to speak to someone else that's passed this type of situation.
Really great video thank you so much xx
Thanks Lucy! Hannah
What a beautiful person and mind
I love you Hannah thanks for the encouragement I get really insecure about asking for help so I say thanks
Hello. Ms. Bulm.
I am very appreciative of sharing your experience in terms of bipolar disorder.
Thank you so much
Progress towards happiness and balance comes from within. People around you will influence your mood or episode. Venting does help to, vent out loud, and have someone hear it. From a bipolar perspective this may be helpful, from a non bipolar perspective this will be misunderstood. This gap is full of stigma and misunderstanding. To make people understand is the reward to work towards. This is the message I see in all your videos. It's the only way to deal with a sensitive issue, leave your dignity at the door and speak up. You can't be ashamed of who you are, make a choice to explain who you are with pride. There is nothing to be ashamed about, only fear of the misunderstanding. If other people can't understand, that's their choice, and you have done your best. This topic is from one extreme to the other, and with my situation, I 'm smack in the middle.
Thanks for that, Kelly. Have you been successful in getting a family member or friend to understand what you're going through or what kind of help you need? And, if so, did that come from one talk or a series of discussions over a period of time? Hannah
Thank you Hannah
This has been always talked about with immediate family. Not so much with friends, until a few years ago after my son's diagnosis. What I'm going through is a change to the awareness brought on by my son's diagnosis. Within all that, it has caused me to be somewhat 'burnt out'. So I talked to my doctor, and with his advice, I now take medication. After the diagnosis, came a profound sense of awareness. I myself have rekindled the suicides of both my father and brother to show this does not have to happen anymore. I wrote a blog post today that may explain further if anyone is interested.
thedaleyoutlook.blogspot.ca/2017/09/a-call-for-awareness.html
My sister and brothers support my decision to reveal the mental health aspect of our lives. My son also supports this desire I have. The discussions happened with no answers, now the answers come from my son. I am very proud to see him take independence upon himself, and start his own life. It was you Hannah, who got the ball rolling for me, and for that, I am very thankful.
Great points Hannah. I seem to wait to ever bring it up until it's about time to have a break down. My friends don't talk about it . I'm going to try to let the. Know it's ok to ask. Thank you special lady
Let me know how that works out, J Pierre. I mentioned to Henry that when you make it part of a conversation when you're well, it's been my experience that it comes across better. Thanks, Hannah
It is good for everyone, by opening up. I am also waiting (🤞/ I hope) for my own very special loved one to break down a barrier and communicate more.
I hope for yourself that more communication will work better.
Thanks
I have bipolar disorder and I work five days a week. My neighbor harasses me, making multiple death threats and engaging in criminal harassment. I also enjoy mountain biking, eating lettuce and eggs, and consuming other natural foods that can help lower my bipolar levels naturally. I also fix retro video game consoles on my other channel, Mountain Bike Life 25. I draw muscle cars, play the guitar, read, collect hockey cards, sing karaoke, and attend concerts and car shows. Unfortunately, the Peterborough, Ontario, Canada car show will not allow me to attend because one of the car owners does not understand bipolar disorder and why I panicked during COVID.
Hannah you always need to keep working on your peer group and getting new peers I am 59 and did not do this. a lot of my peer either died or moved the rest will not have anything to do with me due to my decease. I have two family member that will still talk to me but do not trust me. I could go walk off the edge of the earth and the only thing they would say about it is did he leave a will. so keep working on it you do not wont to wined up in my shoes . good luck
U matter and have value despite any challenge u might face... 59 is too young for that outlook. Wish I could help, hey what if u were to look /get new friends? People that will understand u? Try
Be around people who are deep aswell. Those who are more aware and who do feel more. If you dont think you can express the depths of yourself to those around you then they are not friends for you. When you are deep and can share the depths of your soul with another suddenly you realise wow I was never sick. We simply hide too much.
Love this
My son has bipolar disorder and it is hard for him and he smokes weed , he tells me it keeps him Clam, but when he does not have weed all hell breaks loss here at home and he swears me and rude towards me as while how can I help him thank you from a worried mom
weed cab be very helpful...so if ir works...do it
Thanks alot .. It'll help me to help my friend
Sometimes I don't even know how to how to myself. I think that because I have a mental disorder , that I know how to at least sympathize and talk someone out of a situation , but it always turns on me . Like I'll be in the comment section on Pinterest on something like depression , and someone will mention feeling completely hopeless or something to that effect and I'm just like 😁 because what can I say when I feel the exact same at times ? I hope one day I can actually help someone . I'm feeling better at the moment and I'd like to help someone get to the same point
Your words bring me hope
My bipolar friend keeps hurting me with they words and actions and over the years it's just hurting more and more . I'm trying to work hard so I can buy land and we can escape the world! But she doesn't understand I need to have good mental health so I can stay strong and keep doing the practical things that need to be done in order the.manifest the safe space we need . I'm HSP myself and the have trust issues and my own crazy trauma and I don't need her bringing my spirit down while I'm trying to find a way out ! At this point I don't have anything to help until I can get this space. Things won't change until she does and her environment does
I was thinking about the video "It's Not About The Nail." The video points out that people need someone to listen to the other person rather than try to solve the person's problems.
Hi Samuel. I think it's true that sometimes we just want someone to listen to us and not solve our problems. Other times, we need specific things. Not that we need someone to solve our problems but rather to help us deal with what we're going through. What about you? Do you just want someone to listen or do you need more? Thanks, Hannah
my ex told me at the beginning of our relationship that his family, including himself, believed that he had bipolar disorder, the conversation came up after i brought up my anxiety, i make that known to anyone i meet in case i get anxious in front of them and i don’t want them to think differently of me, he was understanding and told me that if anything like that happened in front of him then he wouldn’t think any less of me, i felt good and understood after being told that but i wanted to understand him too, i didn’t see many signs at the beginning but i noticed them later on and it hurt me because i didn’t know how to help him, it caused a lot of conflicts in our relationship and in which- ended things.. i still love him deeply and i wish i could tell him that i’m still here if he ever needs to talk, we both struggled with communication and there were times, rarely did they happen and if they did it was normally at night but there were times were he would like- completely shut down.. he would act differently, the total opposite of the guy i know and would just show absolutely no emotion and i would ask if he was okay and ask how he was feeling and he would just tell me that he didn’t feel anything- it would keep him up at night and it broke my heart because i had no idea how to help, which i’m sure is how he felt whenever i was anxious, even after we ended things- i wanted to learn more about bipolar disorder just to be aware of the mental illness and get a better understanding in case the next person i meet or my ex himself need to talk, i’ll be there. During the relationship, i didn’t think about how badly things could get, especially when he was dealing with BD, i didn’t care about how many situations we got ourselves into, as long as we were dealing with them together, but he gave up on me twice and i won’t chase after him, i appreciate the memories and smiles that he left and hope that life treats him easy and well. I still love him with all that i have and i know it wouldn’t have worked out, its a difficult relationship when there is one who is bipolar and one that has anxiety and overthinks everything.
Hi there, I am in a similar situation, but my ex doesn't know he has bipolar. Only in speaking with my grief therapist after our second break up (he broke up with me both times - once after 3-4 years, and a second time after 3-4 years) did I realize this was likely what he was dealing with. He is hyper-sexual, having sex with LOTS of girls and paying for it, bragging to his friends about it, missing work to do it, etc.. He is doing things he would never do, and we have only been broken up for 4 weeks today. I am concerned that he is destroying his life, and I haven't spoken with him since he broke up with me because he asked for space, and I felt like this was the healthy thing to do for both of us. Now, I am not so sure. I am not sure if these behaviors mean he is in mania or the stage before that (I have only just started researching). When we first met he was going through a program for people with schizophrenia and they thought he was pre-schizophrenic. He was have hallucinations of dark figures. Once we got him on a regular sleep pattern, they went away. I felt like he was so sleep deprived at the time that was what was causing these hallucinations. However, that is something that can play into bipolar disorder as well I am now finding out. He often feels "numb" or expresses no emotion about things. For instance, when he broke up with me, he was blank faced, no tears and almost smirking. But he loved me, that I know. We were together almost 8 years. He is wonderful. This is something that is happening to him, but it doesn't make it him. I want to help, but have not yet reached out. What should I do? How can I help him?
@@amandawilson2821 heyy!! honestly- i know how difficult it can be and it almost seems impossible to get through to them, it’s even harder to offer help when they don’t want help, my ex did break up with me during a depressive episode he was having, after that- he said we could be friends but in a way, ignored me?? so he made it really hard for me to talk to him, even over the phone he would be super dry so i kinda just left it as it was, accepting that he didn’t want me around, he ended up talking to a lot of girls too and was sexually active with one girl too but it didn’t last long, he said in contact with all of my friends and stayed in the friend group, instead of trying to put in effort to talking to him i just ignored him and brushed things off, let him do his own thing, later on- he called me, just wanting to catch up on how i was doing or whatever and our friend group went to the mall and he was messing with me the whole time and it really threw me off, we ended up getting closer and talking everyday and then he began flirting, it really scattered my brain but i found out that even while he was talking to all of those girls, he still compared them to me, i was his standard?? and it never worked because he was still thinking of me, he mentioned how he never lost his feelings even tho he said he did, he was just trying to convince himself that he did so he would distance himself (which is what he does when he gets into those episodes) he slowly grows distant and then before he realizes it, he’s lost the people that used to be close to him, he was dealing with major depression throughout the span of time we had stopped talking and was a mess, i talked it through with him and he told me how he was really confused with himself and he screwed up what he had with me but he did want to change and learn how to do it right, obviously me stating as i did in my first comment, i was still madly in love with him throughout the three months we didn’t talk and i still care for him so i agreed and we tried again, we are now dating and i can tell you, he’s learning a lot and has changed for the better, he’s happier and he’s doing better, maturing, it was a rough thing to go through and i know it may not be the last time but i think what’s important is staying by them even if they do push away, and if they decide to stay too then you know everything will work out, if they ask for time and space, give it to them, but checking up on them every once in awhile just helps them and let them know you haven’t forgot, and you wanna be there to help through their tough times and mild episodes, my ex tells me how much he regrets the past decisions he’s made and wants to be more careful, i promised to help him when he needs it and let him know that i’ll always love him, no matter what, and he’s in control of his emotions, to never let them get the best of him and take over, he’s more patient now, he listens and thinks things through, he used to be extremely impulsive but things are working out, stay strong and open, whatever he decides to do is totally up to him, it’s up to you on whether or not you wanna stay beside him, you can try reaching out and keep it to nice chat, not exactly going in too deep and quickly on what you want to discuss but rebuild a bridge with him, make him feel comfortable and just listen to him when he talks about how he’s feeling, i promise it means a lot more :) keep me updated and i wish you the best!
@@amandawilson2821 my ex still sometimes goes into his episodes where he goes really quiet- which is very noticeable because he’s a very social and talkative person but i’ve been studying him and still researching and i know he likes music so i tell him to listen to some music and that always kinda helps him feel better, so maybe try something their interested in, to distract them
I HAVE Physo..bipolar..narrcicm..personality disorder..attachment anxiety..anger issues..ILLUSIONS..EMOTIONAL TRAUMA..Distorted sex phobies..tramatic gambling syndrom..afraid of people issues...ok guys help me out here let me know what else i have...oh but i just started singing THIS LITTLE LIGHT OF MINE IM GOMNA.LET IT SHINE .and OUTTA NO WHERE GOD TOOK ALL THAT PAIN AWAY...and he will for all u poor souls who struggle ...JUST GOTTA HAVE FAITH WITH
I dealt with someone who claimed he had bipolar disorder. At, 4am, in a park. Told me good morning. I told him same. Then he says insults to me. I walked away. He never followed me.
Get help. Don't make excuses. I know, maybe I have a mild case of this. Subject to mood swings. But then it just might be PTSD. I did time in the military. And on the rails.
I don't "act" up. Unless I feel threatened.
Just share with someone your early childhood experiences there pain just clogged up the heart you will a whole lot better
You are awesome, your personality in contagious!
I definitely cold relate to what you said I've been strugglingalot in the past 8 months with New Drs. I had to change 3 times & all the meds weren't working well. Everything made me doped up & I had to stop driving. I'm a very active person & have many great Girlfriends. Their worried about me as they've said & Miss me. They never come over, I always have to initiate a get together. To see them & we all kive in the same community. It dissapoints me. One friend came over today & another one coming tomorrow. Any suggestions or thoughts?
My 2 oldest have bipolar we are very open with our mental health my youngest child and I have anxiety and depression. I took my son to the hospital for I want to say a 32 hour hold it could be more. My question is how do you cope and not get depressed because your friends don't want to hang out do to your bipolar? I personally don't have friends I've been burned to many times but my son even with his anger days his anxiety days his depression days hes a good kid. With a big heart he deserves to have friends
In my opinion persons who have a disorder have an obligation to share their challenge with those they associate. Perhaps not all but at least those the feel comfortable with. Help people to understand and how they can be an active participant with better relating and negotiating the challenges. And people being open to, accepting and understanding to those who do. It’s incredibly difficult and creates a lot of issues that could otherwise be dealt with more effectively in the interest of everyone.
The issues are created by the people that don't understand this disease and there are many out there.
There is a big misconception around mental illness. What I condemn and reject is the behavior, not the illness. There are many people in my life with BPD, NPD, ADHD, Bipolar etc. I truly support people but until a certain limit. With some it's simple impossible, but it's not cause of the illness. It's cause of their personality traits. When someone is an a**hole, mean, manipulative, liar, I don't address the disorder: I address that specific behavior.
And of course, the breaking point the awareness and the choice to go into treatment. Untreated bipolar, BPD, NPD are simply selfish people that live in constant denial throwing everything on others. I can't simply deal with that, since I'm ADD, aware and in therapy.
Well said
What do you do if every time you try and talk to him about it, they end up biting your head off. Tell you to leave them alone.
my moms been on medication for her bipolar but recently got taken off and is getting put on a new medication but she’s been crying a lot and sleeping a lot and i have no idea how to help her. she’s been hallucinating but she never tell me about it and i feel so bad and i want to try and help her.
Me and my fiance are engaged to be married this month. But I only find out last month that he was bipolar. He tried to keep it from me for a while because he was too afriad of losing me when I find it out. But despite his manic attack last month, I stayed. I did not give up on him and showed him much love and support though it was so overwhelming for me. I neber had a bipolar person in my life until just now. Help me. How should I deal with him? We are engaged to be married this month and Im having dilemma. 😢
In my opinion, if you were willing to merry him, it means in sickness and in health. It's a life long commitment that can be really, REALLY hard. But I believe can be absolutely worth it. My advice is to educate yourself. Soak up as much info as you can. Put off the wedding if you question it. Then make an informed decision.
So sorry, thaught it said you sent that 2 days ago, not 2 years. I'm curious how it worked out!
@@roncollins6259 We're happily married now and my husbanf is getting even better. His medicines were corrected too and by that he recovered so fast. God is really good. It was a miracle. 🙏
I’m the opposite- I need hugs to stay connected to the world outside my mind. Advice I hate when on a downer - I’ll be too destroyed to do what ever someone is saying.
I have bipolar 1 and it has screwed up everything every relationship with everyone it cost me my health my freedom my jobs my family and all my possession find some people to support you its all I know how to do
You should know you have so much value and you deserve joy. I have faith you’ll find it some day ❤️🙏🏻
My boyfriend has mental illness and bipolar he has his high and lows moments out the blue you never know when something is going to trigger his brain to go back into depression
❤🙏 always.
How do I help my bipolar mother? She has been medicated for long years. A lot of medication, 20 pills or more every day. But in this pandemic time. She does not talk to her mental doctor psychoanalyst and she is closing herself up. She eats because medication keeps her hungry. She does not take baths. It is very hard to keep her hygiene up. She only brushes her teeth when it already hurts. And she is from a generation here in Portugal that sees mental issues as a bad thing. And people got away from her since she was diagnosed at her 30s. I want to help her. I want to encourage her to take baths and take care of herself and call her doctor once in a while. I don’t know how... please help me by any ideas. Moreover, my father battled a lymphoma now and cancer free thank God. But even that, she is sad and depressed. I want to help my mother. And I have always accepted her just as she is but sometimes I feel useless and hopeless looking at her just seating at the couch all day watching television and “waiting to die”. She was a brilliant doctor till 46 when she retired because of bipolar. And watching her coming from a brilliant mind and beautiful woman that she is to this current state. Brings me tears to my eyes and makes me sad. Sending love to all of you whom suffer from this terrible condition, you are warriors! I know that! The battle is every day, every hour and every minute. It is hopeful to see bipolars getting out the comfort zone and battling. It brings me hope. But me, as a daughter. How can I help her more?
My boyfriend of a few months is bi-polar and also suffers from PTSD due to his service in Vietnam. We were going along fine until he had an episode and just refused to call me or text with me. He said he just wants to be left alone, but that's difficult for me when all i want to do is help. After the episode he told me he went off his meds, and that is probably why had such severe episode. I love him, but I'm not sure what to do, or whether I can really handle this relationship. I would appreciate any advice you can give and I salute your courage in positing this video.
I’m going through the same exact thing with my boyfriend it’s so hard!
@@jrahauiser Yes, it is! Thank you for sharing that with me. It's espcially hard when you're trying to help but they just want you to stay away. But for the most part he is such a good man and perhaps I need to be less co-dependent. What do you find helps you dealing with this?
My girlfriend is bipolar and she closed me out for the past 2 months and what started all this she told me that she is starting to have feelings for another guy but she would talk to me every one in awhile and tell me how much she misses and loves me but she goes to church with this guy and goes to him instead of me so I have some mental problems myself but I know hers is way worse than mine I really am trying to understand what she is going through but I can't just let her shut me out and be with this other guy so I was about to walk away until she told me she can't let me go so I said ok but u have to let me be here for u and this other guy has to go and I have been trying to learn more about this illness and she has agreed to see me 2 times a week so please any ideas I can do to help her thanks
So how do you actually help someone going through depression episode? If hugs and kisses would do, is it reassurances? Compliments
What do i do if my partner pushed me away
I honestly don't know what to do for my daughter. She just got out of the hospital, everything was ok until she entered her apartment where she said she was raped. It was like a trigger.
Can you explain how to help when someone else is experiencing hypomania or depression
Hi Lauren. This is really challenging because many of us with bipolar disorder don't know how to ask for help or we isolate ourselves making it difficult for family and friends to help. I did a video on "How to Help Someone with Bipolar Disorder" that goes into that: th-cam.com/video/Ehg5BXZse2Y/w-d-xo.html
You can also find a lot of articles on the subject here: www.healthyplace.com/bipolar-disorder/bipolar-support/supporting-someone-with-bipolar-for-family-and-friends
I know that a lot of caring people want to offer support and become frustrated and angry when their attempts aren't accepted in the way they hoped. I think it's important to realize that you can't force support on someone. If they don't want it, there's no use beating your head against a wall. On the other hand, sometimes well-meaning people think that their support will make everything better. It won't. Bipolar disorder doesn't go away just because someone cares, but certainly having a caring, supportive person there can make a difference. Hannah
I HAVE BEEN BIPOLAR 1 FOR 30 YRS AND NEVER DEALT WITH IT. EVEN THOUGH I WAS SEEING A PHSYCIATRIST FOR YEARS HE NEVER DISCUSSED IT WITH ME AFTER A MENTAL BREAKDOWN . THERE WAS NO HIDING IT .BUT I STILL HAVE A HARD TIME WITH IT. NONE OF MY FRIENDS OR FAMILY UNDERSTAND IT THEY THINK I SHOULD JUST GET OVER IT. I WOULD LOVE TO JOIN A CHAT GROUP .I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET ON ONE
My partner has bipolar ii and he denies it, i tried so hard to give him hope and acceptance that i will love u unconditionally but he just doesn't open up. Recently(his depression mood) he brokeup with me eventhough when he was in his hypomanic phase we were perfect for each other. Im not sure how to react, i just said I'll be okay to be a normal friend but I'm not, i want him back, do u have any idea how to push him to open up so i can tell him I'll be there for him even if he needs to be distant for a while or he needs to spend time alone I'll be fine with it and I'll be there whenever he reaches me??
I am literally going through the exact same scenario with me GF/ex or whatever we really are anymore.😭
My sister has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I've tried everything but she just don't see me or my family as a support system. She is very violent and I really try to understand that's her sickness talking trough her, but sometimes it's just impossible and I feel that I'm getting sick too (I'm m not myself, I'm not working out or eating properly, or sleeping properly). Any advice on how not to take things personal and setting boundaries?
Btw, thank you for the video ♡
I'm Bipolar and my family is all I have, with the exception of a few child hood friends and a few close cousins. Manic episodes destroy trust, and in those moments we demonize people closest to us only to apologize like a a drunk a week later on the come down. You are a good person trying to make sense of all this.
One of my friend has this disorder,He opened up to me after a long time about his issues..How can i help him out ?any suggestions anyone
I really need some help I'm new to this my wife has manic bipolar depression. What can I do as it's her husband to help our situation
So i dont know what to do, my boyfriend has bipolar I think and he curses sooo much and blows up at me for no reason??? I dont u derstand and it feels like he doesnt understand my life either.
Can you make a video on how to avoid someone with bipolar causing you drama? I've been dealing with somebody around me episodically talking shit and all I want is to be unnoticed so I can live my life in peace. She doesn't just take issue with me but openly insults me When I could be an airshot, I know this because I've happened to pass her a couple of times while doing it, at least. I've noticed this pattern and a few people with the disorder, for instance, my mom's girlfriend does the exact same thing. She starts drama with me and she has made it apparent that it is a jealousy thing and there are other factors but I won't go into it. I don't wanna bring it up with her because Rather than being accountable for her mistakes She tries to make it my fault. Sort of like a narcissist would do do. I don't want to address this issue with this person , as you can tell it would go nowhere. I just want to avoid it.
I have a beloved and sweet daughter, that suffers from bipolar. 30 years ago her boy friend with whom she had a baby girl abandoned her and the baby as well. I have always been there for her. Now after thirty years this guy who is an alcoholic and has womens every where wants to come back to her life. And I don’t want to happen. Because I think of the worst mistake she is gonna make if she does that. She seems to be in denial. But she blocked him and now she is say she did I t for me! Help
I don’t know if someone has asked this before but how can I help someone with bipolar disorder and manic syntoms, who explodes like an atomic bomb when mentioned?
Thanks in advance.
I ask myself why I blow up and don't have the ability to stay calm all the time. Just as recently as a month ago. We lose everything in manic times, blessed are those that at least have family around like myself. It's a steep hill and hard work to manage this illness, and extremely lonely.
I have a boyfriend that has bipolar and he pushes walls ' do you have any advice ?
How can you pull yourself out and through mania without meds. I work out at gym but the plus of that isn’t enough. I still get so frustrated with my inability to not work. I don’t believe in pill
Just keep a journal processing out feeling out the heart that it
my hubby he have bibolar disorder and he using drug. I want to help but dont know how to start. please help me, I try to stop him using drug and it’s making me depressed and want to leave him but I figured it out when he got to rehab by law and the dotor told me he have bipolar disorder..
I want to help him, i dont know that I have to stop him using drugs first or do opposite way is helping him get bipolar disorder treatment first . If he still using drugs during treatment , it’s really affecting to him too?
cause he on probation now . If i try to stop him using drug, the only way is he will be in jail😢
now me and my mom so hurt
pla help.. thank u ❤
Hi Hannah is there anyway to contact you through email? I have a few questions about bipolar disorder too but would prefer to communicate in private instead of public comments being read.
YES...SO SAD😢😢😢
I love watching your channel. TBH I struggle with mine. But I've been drinking a lot and I know that doesn't help if you can call me, call me
Hi! Thank you! This community inspires me. Definitely reach out to the proper resources or communicate with local mental health services. You can do it. Thanks! -Hannah
BEST WAY IS TO STAY AWAY!
Open dialogue therapy. Finland. Thirty year study.
yeah take your meds..!
I live in a nightmare every day
Hide when your depressed and when manic enjoy:):):) suffer in silence don't tell anyone they won't understand! They will think I am crazy! This is the bp way!
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This woman is so pretty
What if you got nobody to talk to. Basically no body understands. If I try to talk I'm just told pull your socks up, or other completely useless nonsense.
I'm 57 years old and I dont want to see 60. Three more years is all I can put up with.
All the very best with your fight forward. Bless you.🙈🙉🙊🏴
If u wanna help others or yourself. If reccomend removing any *special* attributes with it.
I've got Bipolar One. A slice of cheese would be nice. Never mind , the urge has past. How about apple pie?
Hi ma'am, I am from India , which a developing country people are not so educated including educated people don't understand what mental illness is , I suffering from bipolar mental illness, siblings don't understand , people have no idea about it , I have attempted sucide. Ruminating repeatedly , despite my medication , I lost my parents, I go to park for walks which refresh my mind, but no one talks with me neither do I, my situation is terrible, thankyou for your suggestion.
Don't give up on your self.
Well my family is basically written me up because they don’t wanna deal with me I am just too much to handle and I’m not the only one with problems we all have problems and we have our own family to take care of OK heart attack 2019 dizzy spells knocked up my teeth Toradol and diagnosed it with Gerd or just wanted to talk but nobody wants to talk to my family they’re too busy dealing with their own family and crap thank goodness for my therapist
My mon has this and shes so intense
Lithium medication is for bi-polar to help talk to a good professional.
Bro idc how you hand it I wanna know how I can help my friends with this that y I clicked on the video not to hear you feelings
Come back
Im in a tunel no way out with my son dont want help !!
I have bipolar type 2 and my wife is no support, I’m ready for divorce!
Just get them to an ayahuaska seremoni, problem solved.
I did, No more meds.
No more depression.
And a scary amount of insight.
Ah yes, psychedelics and mental illness, awesome combination... (sarcasm)
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I wanna here how ur husband deals with u...cuz my wife needs help
Show down no we don't feel welcome
It, helps quite a bit, but, i have that feeling to just, go and kill people, it just seems fun. It is like all my emotions would would give me energy to just go and have some fun with an axe
I had a talk with Jesus and Ariel. God says I am the chosen one. I will be the president of the world in 2022. You will all pray to me and I will bless you
This video literally discussed zero ways to actually help those with bipolar disorder.
They are very stubborn