sorry to go on about this but when you incorporate your sponsors into your lists it feels like it violates your subsrcibers’ trust esp since you’re doing these videos under the auspices of providing advice.
Nobody is perfect. Relationships are hard, But I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I honestly want to be happy too. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't imagine my life without her; my love for her is strong. I really want her to come back, and I'm fully dedicated to making that happen. We've tried different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
1. 0:30 Other guys do not like you. 2. 01:30 Your friends. 3. 02:47 Thinking self care is for women. 4. 07:37 Speaking poorly about myself. 5. 5:57 Constantly overreacting. 6. 09:38 Being bad with money. 7. 11:04 Following or Interacting with IG models.
“Speaking poorly about yourself” has been a BIG one for me I’ve turned many women away with that before but I didn’t see it as a lack of confidence, but more as self reflection & accountability, unfortunately I didn’t realize how women viewed that and it had an effect on some relationships. Good tip Courtney for those who may have done something similar
Red flag for women: Falling into the hive mind/group think. I've been rejected by committee more times than I would care to count combined with being outright told that she was worried what her friends would think , despite having obvious interest
@@nathanmorgan3647 I see what you’re saying, and agree to an extent, but it is also nuanced. Like @isaura-22 stated, their friends and family are able to detect subtle toxic traits in a person that the woman may not notice since she is blinded by the whole honeymoon phase. At the same time, there are those friends of hers who don’t have her best interests at heart, like you are saying, OR they genuinely do care but have terrible judge of character due to various reasons. The most common I’ve seen in recent years is they have had so many horrible dating and relationship experiences and are so jaded that they have serious trust issues in men.
I got rid of my "friends" because the only thing they wanted to do is drinking and eat BBQs. I choose to quit those behaviors and now, I am alone but it doesn't mean I'm a red flag. I'm just fit now, with no hangovers.
Nothing wrong with moving on and growing as a person. For me, it wasn't just the drinking, it was the constant search for women, and the competition among us. I was always the weakest link in that department, and couldn't stand the backstabbing and BS anymore. Ideally, we could have helped each other, but instead, my friends wanted to be bigshots. Inspiring insecurity and jealousy in other men has been a pattern since I was a kid - my dad being the first such case.
Women don't know what men's social life is like on the inside. Also don't realise that half the time their boyfriends are closet gays. So that's at least two off this list
This one is annoyingly very true, women almost never seem to read it as just humble when attached to you. It will be punished. At least it’s actually pretty easy not to do.
You can talk yourself down, you just have to do it in a comedic way. As it shows a confidence in your self-awareness. You have to make her laugh while you do it, and then you have to move on from it. Making a joke about yourself is funny. Making non-stop jokes about yourself turns into a red flag. You can't intensely be self-deprecating because then it turns into, "this guy has some serious issues".
True story, Kevin. I’m self deprecating and my worst critic. Also graduated with honors with a PharmD, while doing Ironmans/ultramarathons during school, and continuing in my craft of solo alpinism, at a level maybe several hundred of us in the world can do. I think the self deprecation is a big part of why all that happened, and I’ll take it any day over the whims of modern women, or men.
Important things: 0:26 First Thing ÷ Other Guys Don't Like You; 1:26 Second Thing ÷ Your Friends; 2:36 Third Thing ÷ Thinking That Self-Care Is For Women; 5:57 Fourth Thing ÷ Constantly Overreacting; 7:34 Fifth Thing ÷ Speaking Poorly About Yourself; 9:34 Sixth Thing ÷ Being Bad With Money; 11:01 Seventh Thing ÷ Following / Interacting With Instagram Models; 12:29 Bonus Thing ÷ Purchasing Haw Tua Merch and 13:38 to summarize all the told here. What you have told Courtney for men (the red flags I mean), some of these red flags men judge for women as well. And this can be for either male or female friends. Sometimes men, and women do overreact, and they have to work on that not to react on it constantly, like you said Courtney. There are some occasions that even women are being bad with money (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way). The third thing that self-care is only for women, this can be only seen in younger ages. And when I say that, I mean that some boys have unintentional ways of thinking (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way). Cause in younger ages some of them they want to be hotshot (proving in the society that they can do this, that, etc.). In some younger ages it is good that, but as you get older, and you develop yourself, you realize that's the bad things you have done. The only thing you should done is to be good to yourself. Not in a selfish way, but in a self-care, to do not hang out with toxic people, to see the you are taking care of your health (physically and psychologically). As for second thing, In Balkan peninsula we say this thing: "With whom you are, that who you will be." Reading between the lines means that with people who you hangout they can encourage you how to behave (either in good, or bad way). Sometimes we just have to see who are right and who are wrong people that we hangout, and to see who will stay in our life, and who will leave in our life. Sometimes there is one conclusion that is generally here in the real life. And that is: "Two things that can turn into notorious rudeness are jealousy and primitivism." Sad, but true. Unfortunately some people are behaving like that (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way). But let's say some positive thing as well. I always carry hand sanitizer wet wipes, wherever I go out from home. And I use them as needed. Keep up the work Courtney ❤💙🤍.
Man, I know you are trying to be helpful, but your formatting is so hard to read if you are in a hurry, with extra unnecessary text. Kinda defeats the purpose. Something like this would be so much better: 0:26 Other Guys Don't Like You 1:26 Your Friends 2:36 Thinking That Self-Care Is For Women etc.
@@gabbu297 Thank you also for your help. I'm not trying to hurry anything. I'm just trying to tell the essence in all of these things. Sometimes they are short, sometimes they are long. Since I'm trying sometimes to think how should I type things, and words, as well.
@@Harikejn I'm only talking about the fixed unchanged parts, like you writing "first thing", "second thing"; and the lack of line breaks. Not the actual wording of the points
Please for yourself stop watching dating podcasts. It’s not true majority of the time. You are most likely watching only fan models who are like 18-24 years old. You’re fine! All the stuff you hear is a lot more nuanced than influencers paint it for reactionary content.
Im 6 3 and it definitely didnt give me a "get into womens pants for free" card. Theyll see how negatively focused you are on your height and thats a turn off for many of them.
A lot of this goes both ways. Taking a joke is a big one for me. I dish it and can take it but I dated a girl who dished it but couldn't take it. I teased her about ketchup on fish and she lost it and told me i can't joke about her. Well, that's me. So needless to say it didn't last long
Yea..it was OK if my ex farted on my leg while we were lying in bed but if I did it to her, she would freak out like I dropped a Cleveland Steamer on her chest! The hypocrisy!! 😅
Red flag of women (and men): Inserting that they don't "settle" early in a conversation about dating. Sounds like you don't compromise. Actually think the idea of compromise vs settling would make a nice video. Another insightful video =)
Nah, I know grown men who buy expensive toys every month while their partners count every € they spend even if they both work and share the same bank account. If you're good with money you are good and if not you aren't, it's absolutely not a woman thing. And it's a red flag in any case if you're older than 25.
@@SkywalkerGhost and some men are looking for sex and others are looking for a longterm relationship. I’m looking for LTR and I want a girl to judge and evaluate me to see if we match.
Uncommon red flag in a woman: she doesn’t cook and refuses to learn or even takes pride in that fact. Every girl I’ve dated in the last 2 years including my ex wife refused to cook anything that didn’t require a microwave.
As a guy who follows 0 instagram “models” I can tell you that the women offput by you following women who are often better looking then them are insecure, and them being turned off by it is rooted in their insecurity about them not being able to live up to what they perceive you will expect (by following these models). But it’s merely a perception. Women are competitive and hate when you think someone better looking then she thinks she is, is attractive because it makes them feel not enough. Understand though this is an unhealthy issue she has with being insecure with herself, being competitive with other women and reacting to external locus of control stimuli, and allowing her worth of herself to be affected by it. And then drawing assumptions and acting on them as fact. This all has nothing to do with you- the man. Just her issues. And I still don’t follow any of these “models”. They are predators who prey on the weak for cash. There is nothing special about them. Looks fade. And it looks even worse when it’s plastic surgery looks that fade
@@DDD11239 I was the same way but in Miami it makes it hard to date if you don’t have one. I literally have one just to adapt. I rarely use it and never post
I’d still argue it’s a problem if it seems like that’s all they are following on ig and or is building an obsession over one or two of these models. The algorithms of ig and other social media sites favor these models for men in 18-35 demographic anyway so dating if they are on socials comes with the territory. The occasional girl that shows up on the feed and catches his eye is nothing to be worried about. If she flips out over noticing one “like” then yeh that’s on her. However, no man who’s actually ready to make a commitment to a relationship is going to spend time following and or obsessing over ig models! They are the low hanging fruit on social media for a reason. As men we shouldn’t apologize for liking what we like but we all need to keep our expectations in check.
#1 and #2. At this point, I don't really care about friendships anymore. I've always been friendless. I don't really know if it's me or if they never truly wanted to be around me in the first place. I'm also fed-up with being the only one who initiates conversation. I don't really think anyone hates me at all (least that's what I think), but I feel like people just tolerate me and just hang with me out of pity. #3. There's really nothing feminine about self-care. I'm getting real tired of what's masculine or feminine. #4. I can't help if I overreact, okay? I'm just that sensitive and serious of a person. #5. I hate having self-doubt, but I am working on it. #6. Don't worry, I'm being responsible with my money by saving it. #7. Never use instagram, but I am embarassed to admit that I can be thirsty and desperate.
You can help to not overreact. If you don't master stoicism, you won't benefit. Logic over emotion, always. Also, being full of emotion doesn't correlate with seriousness. Crying over sudden danger won't protect you.
The friends thing is tough because as you get older your social circle shrinks as people get married, move away or you just grow apart over time. Plus I prefer a very small groups of loyal friends who have my back and so many people are fake and superficial these days and I don't want that just to make it appear that I have more "friends" than I actually do so a woman will be impressed.
Courtney, I’ve been watching your videos for a while and they’ve been really helping me. The advice is unmatched to any other channels doing this for men, And your tone is very reassuring. with that being said, the points you make are great, however, as a male species we would do better to be told specifically what to do. thank you for what you do!
I actually feel masculine when I'm grooming myself. Particularly when I'm shaving, and even more so when I'm shaving my head. Also, I saw you promoting a tongue scraper in your Instagram story during the Amazon Prime Days sale, and I went and ordered that one during the sale.
I found the 'taking care of yourself is...feminine...' interesting. I actually hear that quite a lot, but as you said, nothing is farther from the truth. I spent 10 years+ in the military, which for better and for worse is still a man's world, and guess what? you learn to take care of yourself. You learn to cook. To iron your shirts. It's not gay or feminine, it's showing that if you can take of yourself, there just might be a chance that you can take care of someone else too.
Courtney, you nailed it! Not having friends is a big red flag, I've been thinking about it for a long time and maybe that's why I'll never have a girlfriend. I really try but unfortunately I can't. At this time of year there are parties every weekend in every village around here and I force myself to go (it's hard being an introvert with social phobia), just yesterday I went with my parents and cousins to one. I saw groups of friends and tried to socialize and ended up with a panic attack and anxiety, for no reason. Even on the internet I feel the same, that's why I started forcing myself to write comments on videos I like on youtube to try to overcome this phobia. Maybe one day I will succeed but it will probably be too late. I've improved a lot in recent years, thanks to a psychologist, at least I don't talk badly about myself anymore and I have a self-care routine. Thanks for another excellent video full of wisdom. Have a great week!
That’s bull. I only married my guy because he was friendless. It a family man. Some girls like me only want a guy who will devote all his free time to her lol. Just go with what you want. And you will find it. This channel is just in general.
I disagree. This isn't a rule of thumb, but as you get older, your circle gets smaller. Heck, even some people don't have friends anymore. I mean, when I was 18-26, I thought I had people who I thought were friends and family. But slowly, people either changed or showed their true colors, and people became more involved in family life, carer, etc. I feel like many people in my age group/class year had a child or children a few years after we graduated. from my interactions with many high school folks, Most of them don't or have lost connection with former friends. We, because I’m putting myself as well, don't have many friends or choose to associate with a few people. I have a good number of friends and co-workers who mostly focus on their job and family. It's crazy because some of them Dont even spend a lot of time with their families or friends because they’e working a lot.
@@isaura-22 What I've written is my experience of life and what i feel. I'm in my 30s and all the women I've met online, when I tell them I don't have any friends, simply disappear. Like everything in life, there are always exceptions and I'm genuinely very happy that you've found your husband and I hope you two are very happy. May I ask how you met your husband?
@@letsgetit90 I agree with what you said, we “lose” friends with age. It's normal because we change as the years go by and it's normal for our interests to change too. Life is a journey and for a while you're in someone's company and then they go their own way. Having a few friends or even just one friend is much better than many or none at all. All those experiences and people who have passed through your life have made you grow up and realize what kind of people you want around you. But that's not the case for me, I'm in my 30s and I've never had friends and probably never will because I have social phobia. I try to overcome it, but it's very difficult. I go somewhere and suddenly I feel like my neck is being squeezed, I can't breathe and the earth is spinning too fast. About 5 years ago, I couldn't even write this message, but I managed to overcome this problem. I'm very happy with myself, but I still have a long way to go. I've tried online dating and when I tell a girl I don't have any friends, they disappear. This is my experience, like everything else, it doesn't apply to everyone. Obviously someone will say they don't have any friends and that's not a red flag. We're not all the same.
@@letsgetit90 I could tell you that I have a sense of loyalty when it comes to friends, old, current, or new. I know people say that it's often awkward when coming across people from your past, but it hasn't happened in my experience. In fact, I find some kind of common ground with some people. Then again, I am not hard to get along with. Some of the time, seeing an old friend can be a blessing. It would be as if you hadn't been away from that person for a long time.
@@natthaphonnoble2407 Says a lot about society I guess! it sounded original hence taking off..Its what in england would have been called 'Ladette' behaviour in the 90s! (obviously crass and makes people blush). Every generation thinks they invented sex! lol
I laughed out loud when Courtney said women don't like men without a sense of humor and those who are bad with money.... that so describes women, perfectly. I knew the commercial was coming with the "personal care" one. Knew it. 🤣
I really don't care what women secretly judge me for, especially when they don't even know me for my true self. Just proves that they're superficial and don't really matter.
If what's external is turning people off consistently, as she mentioned the common denominator is you. Everyone is judgemental, it's a biological response in regards to self-preservation. It's a fine line, don't live your life just to please everyone by compromising your ethics or values. However, we don't exist in a vacuum and allowing yourself to operate fully within the society you live in is *not* a bad thing. Don't play the victim. The solution is in your hands!
Its less about "I could have done better with this" and more "I'm such a loser" that tends to be a turn-off. Most people respect others who hold themselves accountable, but put-downs are a sign of deeper issues.
“I’m deeply concerned for our society.” Yes, I agree Courtney…I swear that wasn’t my car or my sticker 🤣🤣🤣For real though, excellent video and I love the green shirt!
Correct, but as noted in the video, you should be spending the wealth on *her* and not on yourself. Spending your money on your frivolities is a red flag.
I feel that women tend to prefer a man who over reacts over a man who underreacts. They might see it as a red flag, but its still entertaining. I see them get into relationships with such guys and stay in there for years. The guys who under or never react get ignored for being too boring or not caring enough to react.
My take from this is. Social status. Women like men that other women like. Looks. Ego and confidence in thinking highly of yourself. Money. She claims men over react to insult jokes. Do women ever over react ? So it's social status. Looks and money. No speak of inner virtue or morals. She spoke like it's more about the cover of the book. What you look like socially what you look like physically and what you look like financially. If you chose a book solely by the cover you might be surprised once you start looking more deeply into the contents of the book. That's how you can tell weather it's a good book or not. You can have a really nice fancy well put together cover. But when you start reading it's poorly written no intellect. Women say if it has a nice cover it must be a really good book.
Yes they care about status and appearance. Narcissistic traits mainly. First is looks, then status and finally money, but you can look like a dog and reach above 6:3 if you stand on your wallet.
If I may expand on your Hawk Tuah comments. Not so much about her but your bumper sticker story. The best dating advice any woman ever gave me was, "Take care of your car. A woman knows a man's car is important to him, so how he takes care of it show how he takes care of everything else that's important to him, including his woman." Words to live by.
@@Bombadil-ez9ns "Hawk Tuah"... she is a 21-year old who was interviewed in a remotely known channel over what a woman should do in bed to satisfy her man, and she said that. It went viral. You can just look it up for yourself and enjoy it without spoilers.
I completely agree with you as to the last/bonus red flag, Courtney. Thanks for all of your hard work to bring us good advice in a reasonable, polite, and engaging manner.
I'd say a definite red flag is not having any goals. The first one - I don't know, there are 2 sides to every story, just saying. I'd like to see a video on red flags on women. Social media has ruined a lot of people's perception in what it means to be human.
Here is the thing. I don't want to pat myself on the back, but I can honestly say I have done these things and succeeded in my life by instinctually doing these things. Now I haven't gone the route of the total package of skin care, but I do put a sun screen on my skin when in the sun and I purchased what my dentist considers the best electric rechargeable toothbrush by Braun that uses Oral - B brush heads. It's considered the #1 oral care brush for preventing gingivitus and cavities.
Spot on with first point! When I met my wife I really only had one good female friend and 3 male friends. After meeting them my wife told me she was surprised how good hearted all my friends are. My response is that's why I guess I only have 4 friends, as the people I chose to spend time or keep in touch with are really good nature, unassuming people. The worst girlfriend I had in college, I found out later that she didn't have a single friend from high school. I found out the reason she wasn't a good girlfriend, nor friend and that was a big part of why people didn't keep in touch with her. (not the other way around) Thanks for the video. I found it funny that quite a few times female acquaintances would comment on how 'clean' I was. I always thought this was a weird comment, and didn't understand what they meant, even after being told this several times over the years. I still really don't understand it. So does it mean most guys they dated or known before had bad hygiene? Is it that they had tattoos? Into drugs? Drank alcohol? Still seems weird to me that they would mention it. Did any of the women reading comments ever tell a guy he is clean?
I've always laughed at the lack of self-care thing. My girlfriend at 22 was hugely into skin care, and she taught me a lot. People are shocked when I tell them about exfoliating, moisturizing, getting manicures and....even the occasional pedicure. Most men's feet are particularly gross and disgusting. If you don't think women notice....you're wrong
@@JACQUEZ23 That's amazing insight. And how many women will you turn off by not doing it? There isn't "one woman" ---there are millions out there. "I gone do all that" to actually feel good about myself and not feel like a dirty skank
@@michaeljjt1976 all am saying u can be the best version of yourself go to gym and everything but if the woman don't find u physically attractive it's over my point still stands
Thanks to Courtney I started to level up my grooming 3 years ago, moisturizer/age serum, balm ballpen for the area beneath my eyes etc. My ex even told me she loved that I had a grooming ritual
Confidence only matters if you're already physically attractive or at the very least average looking. Confidence on an ugly short guy like me will do more bad than good
@@UserRobot215 in my experience and observation a woman is either attracted to you or not. You can be confident and averagely attraction but if she’s not attracted to you it’s best to move on.
OK gotta comment here. Most men I meet like me but most women do not want to date me; I don’t care about female friends because I really have nothing in common with 99.9% of them and I always used to get stuck in the friendzone. Would women like my friends? Of course not because, as I’ve said, women have nothing in common with me but my friends do! I take care of myself but always dress casually; if the choice is comfort or looking good, I choose comfort! And the flag about talking badly about yourself is tricky. As I’ve had mostly bad luck with women my whole life, I really do have self-image issues. I’ve learned how to avoid revealing most of my self-doubts but I believe my body language and mannerisms give me away. I think that’s why most women reject me before I open my mouth. It’s funny because I’ve read that it’s good to be in touch with yourself. Really? I believe that if you know all your weaknesses and flaws then it’s extremely difficult to maintain a positive self-image.
I love how you relate the sponsor to the video and take the time to mention it differently in each one instead of using a default video that interrupts the vibe of the main topic👏
You have a grunge with the Hawk Tuah girl, and I understand it. You are a woman. But what we men love and make us consider her "wife material" is _NOT_ what she does, but her attitude. We love it.
Wooo. The constantly overreacting one hit me. Just a few months ago a coworker said that being around me feels like “walking on eggshells” (granted she has admitted she is not a people person) but as a man who is under 5’5” - it has left a big chip on my shoulder that to this day still takes a lot of self control to not let everything get to me. And I wish I wasn’t this way.
Who says self-care is strictly for women? You wash your butt right? You trim your beard right? You workout right? That's self-care! All seriousness here...if you're spending all this time looking for red flags, you're gonna find em. But most of yall are out here trying to play capture the flag
A disturbingly large group of men do not wash their butt… i was listening to a life coach and he said he had to start asking his clients if they do, because enough of them didn’t…
@@Pikawarpslol yo that's insane! And I was in the military. They literally instilled and emphasized being clean and not touching sensitive areas like your face. That's to prevent infections like cellulitis
Can confirm some guys don't wash their butt, they think it's gay, it was an eye opener for me. Men be so concerned about being gay, it's ridiculous. Tbh, any guy that says anything is gay is a no for me, they should have left that back in the playground. Insecurity about their sexuality is a HUGE red flag.
Courtney, I appreciate your concern about the bonus tip. I'm particularly concerned about public displays of mature subjects, and the effect it could have on children to see things like the bumper sticker you mentioned. Some things are best consumed by interested adults in private. I've seen a number of your videos. I'm in my 60's, and I appreciate seeing a young person with the solid values you promote in your videos. You also seem amazingly wise for someone so young. Keep up the good work.
No, women just JUDGE MEN, and aren’t interested unless you’re Chad. To women, intelligence, thoughtfulness and being a good person (NOT a ‘nice guy’) are signs of weakness. I have no friends, partly because I’m what people might call a ‘Sigma’, and partly because most people are interested in unintelligent boring crap.
I am an ok looking guy but pretty fit. Financially secure, but not rich. What has made me very successful in the dating world is being intelligent, thoughtful and being nice. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places?
Being "sigma" is not masculine at all, even though many people who find it appealing think it is. It is not a virtue by mimicking stoicism (which in itself is not a virtue but a vice of pride) or anything of the sort. Rather, it is a resignation signal. Deciding to go "sigma" means that you gave up on ambition and responsibility, which is not masculine. The fact is that becoming happy and successful, which radiates power and confidence, is achieved by living completely the opposite from how a "sigma" wolf is supposed to live. You need to interact with others in various transactions of life, and learn to give and receive credits and gratifications to/from others. Being stubborn with DIY attitude makes you inefficient and does not produce results as it consumes a lot you time and effort. Sigma wolf is also not a leader of the pack. He does not have a pack. And that is not good nor attractive. He is just a lonely wolf, irrelevant.
I feel that this needed that meme of Fry from Futurama saying he's shocked, but in reality he's not that shocked at all. Still it was useful to find out the "shocking" red flags women secretly judge men for.
Eh, I keep it very simple, and my ease in interacting with women is kinda effortless. My personal trick is to ALWAYS stay physically fit. Yep, that’s right! My number one priority is always to stay physically fit. The irony is that so many people find it difficult to get fit, then struggle with so many other issues (depression, health issues, negativity, and so much more). In contrast, I don’t struggle with any of that stuff because it simply does not find its way to me. So maybe… just maybe… do yourself a favor and do your best to stay physically fit. Staying fit inspires others around you. People get inspired and start jogging the next day after they see my abs, razor-sharp nipples, and how the sunlight and shadows magically make me look like an abstract work of art. Very comical but true.
@@alwaysemployed656 I definitely, DEFINITELY agree that people need to embrace a healthier lifestyle and take the necessary steps to make it an everyday staple of their life and that it does help with the depression and mental health issues. That being said, depression and mental health issues are not strictly tied to bad eating and a sedentary lifestyle. You can still have visible abs and be depressed.
I knew one woman who always had a red flag test. If her dog (golden retriever) didn't like you right away, that was a HUGE red flag for her. The dog liked nearly everyone, but every once in a while it came across someone who for whatever reason, the dog just didn't like. She trusted the dog's judgement...sometimes as much as her own. To the point about negative talk....I do this a lot. Simply put, I don't feel I've accomplished a lot. I'd rather be extremely humble and don't like talking about our accomplishments. A good example, when my Mom was sick in the hospital, she was forever telling the nurses that I had run the Boston Marathon twice, and had run 20 marathons. I would always tell them "She's overstating my credentials....I'm really not that spectacular." One of the nurses put me in my place one day when she said "It's a mother's right to brag on her kids. You shouldn't try to take that right away from her by downplaying what you did." I've also turned down promotions at work before, because even though the bosses believed I was the best person for the promotion, I felt I had not done enough to warrant that promotion. Simply put, some of us believe we need to be spectacular in order to not talk negative. Good enough isn't good enough. And if that's a red flag, so be it.
Being truly humble (which means down to earth) is a virtue. Yet, in modern dating scene you will not find many people who value it. In fact, vices get picked out again and again over virtues in general. Even worse, a lot of people is so indulged in pursuing pleasure for themselves that they can't even recognize virtues at themselves and others. Btw. has this woman who trusted her dog's intuition remained single or got divorced? I wouldn't be surprised at all with either of these.
@@cbassett7274 It's rooted in protected observation, evolved over millions of years. This is just the modern form. We're stating the obvious because you seem to be angry over the obvious.
@@DDD11239 I don’t waste my time judging women if I’m not attracted to them because I have bigger concerns to address. I’ve seen women judge men based on height, weight, financial status, the car they drive or if they don’t have a car, level of education or whatever like they have to fish for valid reason justify why they don’t find them attractive and get indignant and disrespectful when these men approach them for dates. We’re supposed to get better with evolution I would think. I’m not angry. I’m done.
Hi Courtney, I think men who can never go anywhere without desperately needing an alcoholic drink, in order to enjoy the occasion should be a red flag.
If a special person is able to get into my inner circle of friends, and later get into my family circle, then you are someone who is genuine and worth it. Have to get through the Pitbull before getting to the Chihuahua.
I agree with you 100%, ESPECIALLY with the point about the necessity for every man to take care of himself. Guys, whenever you go out, ALWAYS look crisp clean!
Subscribed!! You are refreshing Courtney. Also its nice to have a women on the male side of things we have been under valued and attacked for too long, And im sure that im saying this on behalf of all of us! Thank You Girl ...
As a guy, I have often found that other guys who bed down a lot of chicks do not make great friends. They are hyper-focused on scoring, so they are glued to their phones and seem distant. It's not like I don't get along with them, but they tend to be fair weather friends.
Some uncommon red flags I'd put out there: #1: Doesn't follow your advice in something that you have very clear expertise in. This isn't about how women should be submissive or just "shut up and listen", but instead it's about how she doesn't lean on your expertise when you have a heavy background in something like advanced computer technical knowledge or mechanical expertise. Instead she decides to listen to a random friend or only goes to a father figure who doesn't have the same level of knowledge you might have. Again, as always, context and nuance applies. #2: Her "feelings" are always right, regardless of the facts. When anyone bases their decision-making skills on intuition and feelings and don't take time to understand the facts or do research, this is a large sign that they may likely have Borderline Personality Disorder or some other cognitive issue that pushes them to ignore fact-based outcomes. Again, as always, context and nuance applies. #3: Declares themselves a "people-pleaser". From my experience, this tends to be someone who doesn't understand how to be in a mutually respectful relationship. Depending on their other personality traits, this could be someone who has a lot of unresolved past trauma that they are playing out in ways where they feel like just constantly giving to someone else will be the answer to their problems. Again, as always, context and nuance applies.
I hope things are going good with your man, Courtney. You are one of the few people who like to talk about relationships on the internet who are actually MARRIED!
@@familyengineering5591 Not true, the basic of hygiene, cutting nails, well taken care of hands are very important. Clean clothes, deodorant, perfume has nothing to do with the skin care in sponsorship or women on the pill. It’s gross not to keep yourself in shape.
Whew, none of these red flags for me! Not sure I'd buy any 'hawk tuah' merch. But, It's super weird that some people are freaking out over how popular that saying/she is. It was something said seemingly in jest and it was funny. And, said by what seems to be a genuinely good natured and funny person. I'm more concerned that people are beefing over it instead of having a good chuckle. Is the beef rooted in jealousy? Its hard to tell so far.
I underatand the friends part. As we usually are friends with people they do have same values, similar characteristic, boundaries, hobbies etc. So If I met a man and his friends were rude, disrecpectful and he had no problem with that. That shows me he is similar/same as his friends. So I would say the friends part is fair point
Thanks for the video, I don't think I'm doing any of these red flags, except the first one. I don't have any friends, this is because I enjoy being a loner and I have uncommon hobbies so it's hard for me to meet like minded male friends. The friendships I did have deteriorated. I honestly don't feel it was my fault, I was tired of their put downs and domineering behaviour so I created distance. I don't want male friends, I just want a girl friend.
It's funny, my ex-girlfriend, when we first started dating, came out of my bathroom with a smirk on her face and said, "You use conditioner?" I was a little confused and said, "Yeah...don't you???" she was like, "Of course I do, but I'm a girl. I didn't think guys used it." I laughed and was like, "What kind of neanderthals did you date before me???" I didn't think that many guys didn't use conditioner. If I don't, my hair would frizz up like Cosmo Kramer! 🤣🤣
I want to note that "Speaking poorly of yourself" is not the same as "speaking honestly about yourself." There is a complete difference in the energy even though you might be talking about the same growth area (or perceived weakness/limitation). A good example for myself -- I don't think I'm a good looking guy (though many women have expressed otherwise). But by speaking honestly about my self-perceptions and how it's a growth area, I've noticed that women find me MORE attractive because I can be transparent/honest and I'm more emotionally connected (to myself). And of course, it also relates to feminine struggles on perception/beauty/etc as well, further making a circle of empathy/connection.
As opposed to the opposite where you see guys talk about themselves or try to brag and talk themselves up and to me anyway, the vast majority of those men come across as a-holes. Then again those are some of the men that women fall for then soon after, complain about as if allem are like that.
Self deprecation becomes a problem when one uses it to validate the stuff they hate about themselves rather than fixing them. "I know i suck but hey I'm at least cool about it"
11:18 Following and interacting with IG models is simply pathetic. Have some respect for yourselves, brothers. Not only do these women not acknowledge your existence, but are mostly not even real. And even if they do reply to your comments, know it's all automatic on their part and means nothing. So it's pathetic on so many levels. Just stop it, not only so as to avoid being judged by normal ladies (and normal men, for that matter), but primarily for your own well-being. And you might as well delete IG app at least for a while to reset yourself. Good video as always!
You the perfect person to give a woman's perspective to men. You seem down to earth and are very classy. I started watching your channel for advice on style for older men and have enjoyed the other commentary you have. On a side note, it's a shame that you have to tell a grown man to take a shower. I often wonder if some men even look in the mirror before leaving the house.
I do think self care is important. I go to a weekly dance where many guys dress poorly. Jeans with sneakers, flannel shirts untucked, badly trimmed beards, fat bellies hanging out. They look sloppy. Many times ladies have pointed out how poorly they look. Dress well, stay trim, keep head and facial hair trimmed, wear a nice cologne. Believe me, it makes a difference.
They can judge me if they want to for not having a lot of friends if they want to but i don't care. Its a personal choice of mine to not have many friends. Because i'm not a people person and i don't trust people easily.
I always downplay things that some people might consider as success! I always try to be “humble” and not talk about it or just downplay it. I really did know this is considered a red flag generally for women! I reckon someone has to find the right balance between being humble and downplaying own self.
4:43 My suspicion is that women have a very different definition of "clothes that fit you" beyond the normal plain meaning of the words as we would understand them. To a man, "clothes that fit you" are simply clothes that you physically fit inside comfortably. As in not so tight that they're uncomfortable or restrict your movement, and not so loose that they interfere with your movement (sleeves over your hands, pants that scrape the ground, baggy items that snag on obstacles, etc). If you mean anything in addition to that you'll need to say it plainly.
Every girl has a fashion style tho. My advice is every man should just eventually let his woman dress him lol iv preferred some to be in baggy clothes others in super preppy outfits. The men just look best in certain styles too. Lol. It’s not one for all that’s the problem.
As a fellow Clevelander, I’m not surprised that someone is out there rocking some Hawk Tuah merch when there’s crazier ones I’ve seen. But as an observation also, when I start paying attention to locals, I definitely can tell just a very small amount of effort sets you apart from others. I observe people a lot more now and am shocked by what these videos say and that it’s totally true.
The ‘Hawk Tuah’ part got me 😂 Some people have merchandise, which I just think is funny and borderline goofy, but personally I’d never get any of that merchandise. Think I’ll stick with a Metallica or Slipknot shirt 😂
1. Other guys don't like you. -not just a few guys, but a large group is a sign you may be difficult to get along with 2. Base you on your friends -the type of people THEY are -they may influence you in ways she's not agreeable to -if she's not compatible with your friends, this can sometimes be a big issue 3. Thinking that self-care is only for women -it is not feminine to take care of your hygiene and looks -show effort with your appearance -women think lack of self-care may be a sign of mental difficulties -cue Advertisement 4. Overreacting to teasing/Inability to take a joke -be able to laugh at yourself! -may be a sign of deeper issues, to her -humor is intelligence! 5. Speaking poorly about yourself -no negative self-talk -have confidence and self-esteem! -women don't want to constantly validate a low ego -some self-deprecation is fine, don't overdo it. -don't downplay your achievements, criticize yourself, highlight your flaws -no obsessive apologizing--especially for difference of opinion 6. Being bad with money -be financially responsible -don't live above your means, it shows you can't take care of her -good women don't appreciate flashy materials you can't afford -stability and security is better 7. Following/interacting with instagram models -very bad look for men -shows you may have a wandering eye, thirsty, desperate -it's embarrassing Bonus: Don't buy "Hawk Tua" merchandise. -Rather low-brow humor
I’ve been on dates that feel more like a series of tests. More than once, my date has purposely walked on the sidewalk really close to the street just to see if I switch sides with them.
A few points: 1. If she's still looking at whether you're one of the "cool kids" as an adult, she's not mature enough to date. 2. Self grooming is fine, but when you dress up, unless you're at an upscale club/restaurant, you WILL get beat up, happened to me my whole life. 3. Trust is earned and that is true with disparaging humor as well. 4. Hmmmm, I thought women wanted honesty, guess not. 5. Women don't want men, they want an ATM machine with a car. 6. No argument here. 7. Never heard of this person.
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sorry to go on about this but when you incorporate your sponsors into your lists it feels like it violates your subsrcibers’ trust esp since you’re doing these videos under the auspices of providing advice.
Nah
@@grandslamman438 maybe you should try it before having a winge
I'm confused if you are Married Courtney why even do single Female or Male videos are you a married counselor or something.
Do women care If I’m Autistic If If It’s high functioning
Never date a matador. Lots of red flags there.
They probably just reuse a couple.
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hahah love this
ha, nice.
They weren't even stylish cars.
Nobody is perfect. Relationships are hard, But I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I honestly want to be happy too. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't imagine my life without her; my love for her is strong. I really want her to come back, and I'm fully dedicated to making that happen. We've tried different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
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1. 0:30 Other guys do not like you.
2. 01:30 Your friends.
3. 02:47 Thinking self care is for women.
4. 07:37 Speaking poorly about myself.
5. 5:57 Constantly overreacting.
6. 09:38 Being bad with money.
7. 11:04 Following or Interacting with IG models.
None of this applies if she doesn't like you to begin with.
@@arealious25True. Rubbing on some lotion and deleting your IG account won’t be a game changer.
You missed one.
That modern dating today is bad. I give up looking for a girlfriend
Thanks for the time stamps. Wish the poster would do us the courtesy of including these.
“Speaking poorly about yourself” has been a BIG one for me I’ve turned many women away with that before but I didn’t see it as a lack of confidence, but more as self reflection & accountability, unfortunately I didn’t realize how women viewed that and it had an effect on some relationships.
Good tip Courtney for those who may have done something similar
Red flag for women:
Falling into the hive mind/group think.
I've been rejected by committee more times than I would care to count combined with being outright told that she was worried what her friends would think , despite having obvious interest
Friends, family can detect things the girl in love glasses can’t see
The tribe has found you wanting.
@@isaura-22 They can also be highly abusive, petty, catty, and the proverbial crabs in a barrel.
All women fall into the hive mind, it’s about what group she decides to follow
@@nathanmorgan3647 I see what you’re saying, and agree to an extent, but it is also nuanced. Like @isaura-22 stated, their friends and family are able to detect subtle toxic traits in a person that the woman may not notice since she is blinded by the whole honeymoon phase. At the same time, there are those friends of hers who don’t have her best interests at heart, like you are saying, OR they genuinely do care but have terrible judge of character due to various reasons. The most common I’ve seen in recent years is they have had so many horrible dating and relationship experiences and are so jaded that they have serious trust issues in men.
I got rid of my "friends" because the only thing they wanted to do is drinking and eat BBQs. I choose to quit those behaviors and now, I am alone but it doesn't mean I'm a red flag. I'm just fit now, with no hangovers.
Nothing wrong with moving on and growing as a person. For me, it wasn't just the drinking, it was the constant search for women, and the competition among us. I was always the weakest link in that department, and couldn't stand the backstabbing and BS anymore. Ideally, we could have helped each other, but instead, my friends wanted to be bigshots.
Inspiring insecurity and jealousy in other men has been a pattern since I was a kid - my dad being the first such case.
Women don't know what men's social life is like on the inside. Also don't realise that half the time their boyfriends are closet gays. So that's at least two off this list
A GPS tracker on their ankle is red flag #8......
😂
*green flag & the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Amazingly it's not a red flag for many women. In fact it's a turn on. "He's the bad boy that only I can change."
😂😂
@@alexh8613 Ted Bundy's courtroom footage supports your statement. A woman agreed to marry him.
Self deprecating : I had friends in college who were prolific womanisers and they never, ever talked themselves down , there's a moral to that story
This one is annoyingly very true, women almost never seem to read it as just humble when attached to you. It will be punished.
At least it’s actually pretty easy not to do.
There certainly is. Women hate insecurity in guys.
You can talk yourself down, you just have to do it in a comedic way. As it shows a confidence in your self-awareness. You have to make her laugh while you do it, and then you have to move on from it. Making a joke about yourself is funny. Making non-stop jokes about yourself turns into a red flag. You can't intensely be self-deprecating because then it turns into, "this guy has some serious issues".
@@VladislavBabbitt This is true.. the height of not being insecure, is narcissism... and women love them.
True story, Kevin.
I’m self deprecating and my worst critic. Also graduated with honors with a PharmD, while doing Ironmans/ultramarathons during school, and continuing in my craft of solo alpinism, at a level maybe several hundred of us in the world can do. I think the self deprecation is a big part of why all that happened, and I’ll take it any day over the whims of modern women, or men.
Important things: 0:26 First Thing ÷ Other Guys Don't Like You; 1:26 Second Thing ÷ Your Friends; 2:36 Third Thing ÷ Thinking That Self-Care Is For Women; 5:57 Fourth Thing ÷ Constantly Overreacting; 7:34 Fifth Thing ÷ Speaking Poorly About Yourself; 9:34 Sixth Thing ÷ Being Bad With Money; 11:01 Seventh Thing ÷ Following / Interacting With Instagram Models; 12:29 Bonus Thing ÷ Purchasing Haw Tua Merch and 13:38 to summarize all the told here.
What you have told Courtney for men (the red flags I mean), some of these red flags men judge for women as well. And this can be for either male or female friends. Sometimes men, and women do overreact, and they have to work on that not to react on it constantly, like you said Courtney. There are some occasions that even women are being bad with money (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way). The third thing that self-care is only for women, this can be only seen in younger ages. And when I say that, I mean that some boys have unintentional ways of thinking (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way). Cause in younger ages some of them they want to be hotshot (proving in the society that they can do this, that, etc.). In some younger ages it is good that, but as you get older, and you develop yourself, you realize that's the bad things you have done. The only thing you should done is to be good to yourself. Not in a selfish way, but in a self-care, to do not hang out with toxic people, to see the you are taking care of your health (physically and psychologically).
As for second thing, In Balkan peninsula we say this thing: "With whom you are, that who you will be." Reading between the lines means that with people who you hangout they can encourage you how to behave (either in good, or bad way). Sometimes we just have to see who are right and who are wrong people that we hangout, and to see who will stay in our life, and who will leave in our life.
Sometimes there is one conclusion that is generally here in the real life. And that is: "Two things that can turn into notorious rudeness are jealousy and primitivism." Sad, but true. Unfortunately some people are behaving like that (honor exceptions to those who are not behaving that way).
But let's say some positive thing as well. I always carry hand sanitizer wet wipes, wherever I go out from home. And I use them as needed.
Keep up the work Courtney ❤💙🤍.
Courtney and most woman are full of it- mad men follow IG models, but they can follow OBTAINABLE Bachelorette contestants for “reasons”
Man, I know you are trying to be helpful, but your formatting is so hard to read if you are in a hurry, with extra unnecessary text. Kinda defeats the purpose. Something like this would be so much better:
0:26 Other Guys Don't Like You
1:26 Your Friends
2:36 Thinking That Self-Care Is For Women
etc.
@@gabbu297 Thank you also for your help. I'm not trying to hurry anything. I'm just trying to tell the essence in all of these things. Sometimes they are short, sometimes they are long. Since I'm trying sometimes to think how should I type things, and words, as well.
@@Harikejn I'm only talking about the fixed unchanged parts, like you writing "first thing", "second thing"; and the lack of line breaks. Not the actual wording of the points
@@gabbu297 Okay. I use for line breaks this thing such as this ; . I hope that you see them, and I also hope that I have understood you well.
Under 6' tall seems to be a huge red flag
Please for yourself stop watching dating podcasts. It’s not true majority of the time. You are most likely watching only fan models who are like 18-24 years old. You’re fine! All the stuff you hear is a lot more nuanced than influencers paint it for reactionary content.
6’ tall is major huge 🚩
Im 6 3 and it definitely didnt give me a "get into womens pants for free" card. Theyll see how negatively focused you are on your height and thats a turn off for many of them.
@@CathAquinticyou’re just wrong my friend. I’ve had 3 women in the last 3 years tell me my height was THE factor that made them uninterested
@@Pikawarpsthen obviously they weren't for you. What really is absurd is a girl who's 4 ft 11 wanting a dude that's 6 ft 5. Gtfo lol
"I know you thought you'd never hear those words from my mouth..." 😂😂😂
Hahahah
@@CourtneyRyan feel bad for your husband.
@@Alchemy_lifewhy?
@@BK-uu4ijbecause she’s constantly talking about other men and works with them personally
@@MrBooYa-yd5er No, it's because he never heard those words coming out of her mouth.
A lot of this goes both ways. Taking a joke is a big one for me. I dish it and can take it but I dated a girl who dished it but couldn't take it. I teased her about ketchup on fish and she lost it and told me i can't joke about her. Well, that's me. So needless to say it didn't last long
Yea..it was OK if my ex farted on my leg while we were lying in bed but if I did it to her, she would freak out like I dropped a Cleveland Steamer on her chest! The hypocrisy!! 😅
She should be happy you just joked, ketchup on fish sounds kinda disgusting.
@CS-ru4xd I said, "you put ketchup on your fish? So you ruined it?" And then she started cussing me out
Red flag of women (and men): Inserting that they don't "settle" early in a conversation about dating. Sounds like you don't compromise. Actually think the idea of compromise vs settling would make a nice video. Another insightful video =)
Frankly women judge men on everything. It doesn't matter even if we are doing things right.
"Being bad with money". Hilarious to hear women say that, they are horrible with money, both earning it and wasting it !
Thank you! I found most of this list to just be projection.
Nah, I know grown men who buy expensive toys every month while their partners count every € they spend even if they both work and share the same bank account. If you're good with money you are good and if not you aren't, it's absolutely not a woman thing. And it's a red flag in any case if you're older than 25.
"Lack of self care"
Watching this video while soaking my feet in epsom salt😂
Amazing 😂
Slay king lmao
While also on your laptop managing your $5,000,000 investment portfolio would help a lot too....🤣
Not sure if women being judgemental is shocking
You’re not wrong.
Why shouldn’t women judge men? They’re looking for men that can lead the family.
@@douglasgriffith660oh u of those huh
@@douglasgriffith660lol, I think some are looking for that. Some are looking for guys to finance their lives
@@SkywalkerGhost and some men are looking for sex and others are looking for a longterm relationship. I’m looking for LTR and I want a girl to judge and evaluate me to see if we match.
Uncommon red flag in a woman: she doesn’t cook and refuses to learn or even takes pride in that fact.
Every girl I’ve dated in the last 2 years including my ex wife refused to cook anything that didn’t require a microwave.
Totally agree that s a major turn off for us men,I’m all for both to do some cooking but when the woman is sitting around waiting to be fed ,no no
@@piee683 If a hot gal doesn't cook I can care less. Thee are more important things.
@@ArtSpencer-z1g for a few weeks anyway 😛
As a guy who follows 0 instagram “models” I can tell you that the women offput by you following women who are often better looking then them are insecure, and them being turned off by it is rooted in their insecurity about them not being able to live up to what they perceive you will expect (by following these models). But it’s merely a perception. Women are competitive and hate when you think someone better looking then she thinks she is, is attractive because it makes them feel not enough. Understand though this is an unhealthy issue she has with being insecure with herself, being competitive with other women and reacting to external locus of control stimuli, and allowing her worth of herself to be affected by it. And then drawing assumptions and acting on them as fact. This all has nothing to do with you- the man. Just her issues. And I still don’t follow any of these “models”. They are predators who prey on the weak for cash. There is nothing special about them. Looks fade. And it looks even worse when it’s plastic surgery looks that fade
I don't even use Instagram. Hopefully a woman is mature enough to accept such abnormality.
@@DDD11239 I was the same way but in Miami it makes it hard to date if you don’t have one. I literally have one just to adapt. I rarely use it and never post
@@DDD11239good it’s a cesspit of CP and PDF files
I’d still argue it’s a problem if it seems like that’s all they are following on ig and or is building an obsession over one or two of these models. The algorithms of ig and other social media sites favor these models for men in 18-35 demographic anyway so dating if they are on socials comes with the territory. The occasional girl that shows up on the feed and catches his eye is nothing to be worried about. If she flips out over noticing one “like” then yeh that’s on her. However, no man who’s actually ready to make a commitment to a relationship is going to spend time following and or obsessing over ig models! They are the low hanging fruit on social media for a reason. As men we shouldn’t apologize for liking what we like but we all need to keep our expectations in check.
@@AKen_Films well put
#1 and #2. At this point, I don't really care about friendships anymore. I've always been friendless. I don't really know if it's me or if they never truly wanted to be around me in the first place. I'm also fed-up with being the only one who initiates conversation. I don't really think anyone hates me at all (least that's what I think), but I feel like people just tolerate me and just hang with me out of pity.
#3. There's really nothing feminine about self-care. I'm getting real tired of what's masculine or feminine.
#4. I can't help if I overreact, okay? I'm just that sensitive and serious of a person.
#5. I hate having self-doubt, but I am working on it.
#6. Don't worry, I'm being responsible with my money by saving it.
#7. Never use instagram, but I am embarassed to admit that I can be thirsty and desperate.
Everyone can be thirsty or desperate. If you realize it focus on yourself
U sound kinda gay
You can help to not overreact. If you don't master stoicism, you won't benefit. Logic over emotion, always. Also, being full of emotion doesn't correlate with seriousness. Crying over sudden danger won't protect you.
@@DDD11239 yeah, you're probably right.
The friends thing is tough because as you get older your social circle shrinks as people get married, move away or you just grow apart over time. Plus I prefer a very small groups of loyal friends who have my back and so many people are fake and superficial these days and I don't want that just to make it appear that I have more "friends" than I actually do so a woman will be impressed.
Courtney, I’ve been watching your videos for a while and they’ve been really helping me. The advice is unmatched to any other channels doing this for men, And your tone is very reassuring. with that being said, the points you make are great, however, as a male species we would do better to be told specifically what to do. thank you for what you do!
I actually feel masculine when I'm grooming myself. Particularly when I'm shaving, and even more so when I'm shaving my head. Also, I saw you promoting a tongue scraper in your Instagram story during the Amazon Prime Days sale, and I went and ordered that one during the sale.
Wonderful! Let me know what you think about it 😂 I feel like people are always shocked when they use it for the first time lol
*Tongue Scraper* are great..! Such underrated tool in the locker (for Men) to have.
You dont need a tounge scraper, you need a clean digestive tract
Ironic to hear grooming criticism from whymen. They will be the first to call a man suspect if he is better groomed than her.
@@DontSpySpying 80% of your *Bad Breath* is on The Tongue. No amount of clean digestive can help with that.
I found the 'taking care of yourself is...feminine...' interesting. I actually hear that quite a lot, but as you said, nothing is farther from the truth. I spent 10 years+ in the military, which for better and for worse is still a man's world, and guess what? you learn to take care of yourself. You learn to cook. To iron your shirts. It's not gay or feminine, it's showing that if you can take of yourself, there just might be a chance that you can take care of someone else too.
Courtney, you nailed it! Not having friends is a big red flag, I've been thinking about it for a long time and maybe that's why I'll never have a girlfriend. I really try but unfortunately I can't. At this time of year there are parties every weekend in every village around here and I force myself to go (it's hard being an introvert with social phobia), just yesterday I went with my parents and cousins to one. I saw groups of friends and tried to socialize and ended up with a panic attack and anxiety, for no reason. Even on the internet I feel the same, that's why I started forcing myself to write comments on videos I like on youtube to try to overcome this phobia. Maybe one day I will succeed but it will probably be too late.
I've improved a lot in recent years, thanks to a psychologist, at least I don't talk badly about myself anymore and I have a self-care routine.
Thanks for another excellent video full of wisdom. Have a great week!
That’s bull. I only married my guy because he was friendless. It a family man. Some girls like me only want a guy who will devote all his free time to her lol. Just go with what you want. And you will find it. This channel is just in general.
I disagree. This isn't a rule of thumb, but as you get older, your circle gets smaller. Heck, even some people don't have friends anymore. I mean, when I was 18-26, I thought I had people who I thought were friends and family. But slowly, people either changed or showed their true colors, and people became more involved in family life, carer, etc.
I feel like many people in my age group/class year had a child or children a few years after we graduated. from my interactions with many high school folks, Most of them don't or have lost connection with former friends. We, because I’m putting myself as well, don't have many friends or choose to associate with a few people.
I have a good number of friends and co-workers who mostly focus on their job and family. It's crazy because some of them Dont even spend a lot of time with their families or friends because they’e working a lot.
@@isaura-22 What I've written is my experience of life and what i feel. I'm in my 30s and all the women I've met online, when I tell them I don't have any friends, simply disappear. Like everything in life, there are always exceptions and I'm genuinely very happy that you've found your husband and I hope you two are very happy. May I ask how you met your husband?
@@letsgetit90 I agree with what you said, we “lose” friends with age. It's normal because we change as the years go by and it's normal for our interests to change too. Life is a journey and for a while you're in someone's company and then they go their own way. Having a few friends or even just one friend is much better than many or none at all. All those experiences and people who have passed through your life have made you grow up and realize what kind of people you want around you.
But that's not the case for me, I'm in my 30s and I've never had friends and probably never will because I have social phobia. I try to overcome it, but it's very difficult. I go somewhere and suddenly I feel like my neck is being squeezed, I can't breathe and the earth is spinning too fast. About 5 years ago, I couldn't even write this message, but I managed to overcome this problem. I'm very happy with myself, but I still have a long way to go. I've tried online dating and when I tell a girl I don't have any friends, they disappear. This is my experience, like everything else, it doesn't apply to everyone. Obviously someone will say they don't have any friends and that's not a red flag. We're not all the same.
@@letsgetit90 I could tell you that I have a sense of loyalty when it comes to friends, old, current, or new. I know people say that it's often awkward when coming across people from your past, but it hasn't happened in my experience. In fact, I find some kind of common ground with some people. Then again, I am not hard to get along with. Some of the time, seeing an old friend can be a blessing. It would be as if you hadn't been away from that person for a long time.
I’m making a clip of Courtney saying “hawk tuah spit on that thang” 😂
Don’t you dare 😂😂
That’s so dumb, I DO NOT get the hype on that girl lmao!!???
@@natthaphonnoble2407 Says a lot about society I guess! it sounded original hence taking off..Its what in england would have been called 'Ladette' behaviour in the 90s! (obviously crass and makes people blush). Every generation thinks they invented sex! lol
Everyone up vote it! That video needs to hit 1 million views lmao
Courtney's acting like she doesn't do that, in private.
I laughed out loud when Courtney said women don't like men without a sense of humor and those who are bad with money.... that so describes women, perfectly. I knew the commercial was coming with the "personal care" one. Knew it. 🤣
I really don't care what women secretly judge me for, especially when they don't even know me for my true self. Just proves that they're superficial and don't really matter.
You have to pass the surface to deepen the connection in between.
If what's external is turning people off consistently, as she mentioned the common denominator is you.
Everyone is judgemental, it's a biological response in regards to self-preservation.
It's a fine line, don't live your life just to please everyone by compromising your ethics or values. However, we don't exist in a vacuum and allowing yourself to operate fully within the society you live in is *not* a bad thing.
Don't play the victim. The solution is in your hands!
I generally agree, except for the “self-criticism” part. If you don’t self-criticize you’ll never make yourself better - just don’t verbalize it.
I do not understand why self criticism is bad. It is sign that you evaluate yourself, you are humble, realistic, not narcisistic
Its less about "I could have done better with this" and more "I'm such a loser" that tends to be a turn-off. Most people respect others who hold themselves accountable, but put-downs are a sign of deeper issues.
Just dont tell women about it only tell them happy thoughts or they wont like you. @soichirohonda267
“I’m deeply concerned for our society.” Yes, I agree Courtney…I swear that wasn’t my car or my sticker 🤣🤣🤣For real though, excellent video and I love the green shirt!
😂❤️ thank you my friend
"I regret to inform you that you are mistaken" this was pretty funny
Be rich, tall and handsome, everything else is a red flag. There, I saved you some time.
😂😂😂 100% 💯
Correct, but as noted in the video, you should be spending the wealth on *her* and not on yourself. Spending your money on your frivolities is a red flag.
Okay, thanks. 😂
Yep... Totally agree...
😂😂😂
Negative self talk?? That's me!!! No self esteem or confidence. This absolutely fits me. 💪😎
I feel that women tend to prefer a man who over reacts over a man who underreacts. They might see it as a red flag, but its still entertaining. I see them get into relationships with such guys and stay in there for years. The guys who under or never react get ignored for being too boring or not caring enough to react.
Exactly women like drama. They won't say they like these over dramatic guys but they do.
Friends disappear as you get older. They go their own directions.
My take from this is. Social status. Women like men that other women like. Looks. Ego and confidence in thinking highly of yourself. Money. She claims men over react to insult jokes. Do women ever over react ? So it's social status. Looks and money. No speak of inner virtue or morals. She spoke like it's more about the cover of the book. What you look like socially what you look like physically and what you look like financially. If you chose a book solely by the cover you might be surprised once you start looking more deeply into the contents of the book. That's how you can tell weather it's a good book or not. You can have a really nice fancy well put together cover. But when you start reading it's poorly written no intellect. Women say if it has a nice cover it must be a really good book.
Yes they care about status and appearance. Narcissistic traits mainly. First is looks, then status and finally money, but you can look like a dog and reach above 6:3 if you stand on your wallet.
Looks matter, what a shocker… in other news the sky is blue…
If I may expand on your Hawk Tuah comments. Not so much about her but your bumper sticker story. The best dating advice any woman ever gave me was, "Take care of your car. A woman knows a man's car is important to him, so how he takes care of it show how he takes care of everything else that's important to him, including his woman."
Words to live by.
The hock tuah finale f*ckng killed me
Who/what is hock tuah?
@@Bombadil-ez9ns He meant: Hawk Tuah
Just google it and you'll know
@@Bombadil-ez9ns "Hawk Tuah"... she is a 21-year old who was interviewed in a remotely known channel over what a woman should do in bed to satisfy her man, and she said that. It went viral. You can just look it up for yourself and enjoy it without spoilers.
@@Bombadil-ez9ns That's what I'd like to know. What is that??
Found it. Think "pron". en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hawk_Tuah_Girl
I completely agree with you as to the last/bonus red flag, Courtney. Thanks for all of your hard work to bring us good advice in a reasonable, polite, and engaging manner.
I'd say a definite red flag is not having any goals. The first one - I don't know, there are 2 sides to every story, just saying.
I'd like to see a video on red flags on women. Social media has ruined a lot of people's perception in what it means to be human.
Search Rich Cooper Red flags
Here is the thing. I don't want to pat myself on the back, but I can honestly say I have done these things and succeeded in my life by instinctually doing these things. Now I haven't gone the route of the total package of skin care, but I do put a sun screen on my skin when in the sun and I purchased what my dentist considers the best electric rechargeable toothbrush by Braun that uses Oral - B brush heads. It's considered the #1 oral care brush for preventing gingivitus and cavities.
13:15 Courtney said "Hawk Tuah spit on that thang" 🔥
Aaand making a notification tone for that sound bite 🤣
She's pretending like she doesn't do that to her partner.
@@DDD11239her beta bucks? Doubt he gets much action…
@@DDD11239she has a husband, not a pArTnEr.
@@Apeiron242 Is he not her partner, in terms of life, pleasure, medical care, bills, television show critic?
Spot on with first point! When I met my wife I really only had one good female friend and 3 male friends. After meeting them my wife told me she was surprised how good hearted all my friends are. My response is that's why I guess I only have 4 friends, as the people I chose to spend time or keep in touch with are really good nature, unassuming people. The worst girlfriend I had in college, I found out later that she didn't have a single friend from high school. I found out the reason she wasn't a good girlfriend, nor friend and that was a big part of why people didn't keep in touch with her. (not the other way around) Thanks for the video. I found it funny that quite a few times female acquaintances would comment on how 'clean' I was. I always thought this was a weird comment, and didn't understand what they meant, even after being told this several times over the years. I still really don't understand it. So does it mean most guys they dated or known before had bad hygiene? Is it that they had tattoos? Into drugs? Drank alcohol? Still seems weird to me that they would mention it. Did any of the women reading comments ever tell a guy he is clean?
I didn’t really think about a couple of these. That’s some great insight. Thanks 🙏
I've always laughed at the lack of self-care thing. My girlfriend at 22 was hugely into skin care, and she taught me a lot. People are shocked when I tell them about exfoliating, moisturizing, getting manicures and....even the occasional pedicure. Most men's feet are particularly gross and disgusting. If you don't think women notice....you're wrong
Yea u gone do all that but if the woman don't find u physically attractive it's over
@@JACQUEZ23 That's amazing insight. And how many women will you turn off by not doing it? There isn't "one woman" ---there are millions out there. "I gone do all that" to actually feel good about myself and not feel like a dirty skank
@@michaeljjt1976 all am saying u can be the best version of yourself go to gym and everything but if the woman don't find u physically attractive it's over my point still stands
@@JACQUEZ23 Just make millions and she won't stop to evaluate your physical attractiveness.
@@smferreiro2610 all u doing is just proving my point lol
Thanks to Courtney I started to level up my grooming 3 years ago, moisturizer/age serum, balm ballpen for the area beneath my eyes etc.
My ex even told me she loved that I had a grooming ritual
Don't doubt yourself and lack confidence. Women love confidence.
Yes exhibit confidence even if they’re trying to snipe your masculinity.
Confidence only matters if you're already physically attractive or at the very least average looking.
Confidence on an ugly short guy like me will do more bad than good
@@UserRobot215 in my experience and observation a woman is either attracted to you or not. You can be confident and averagely attraction but if she’s not attracted to you it’s best to move on.
Confidence only matters to women if the man has got good looks to go with it.
As long as he's handsome. (Subjective, but stop with the generic statement).
OK gotta comment here. Most men I meet like me but most women do not want to date me; I don’t care about female friends because I really have nothing in common with 99.9% of them and I always used to get stuck in the friendzone. Would women like my friends? Of course not because, as I’ve said, women have nothing in common with me but my friends do! I take care of myself but always dress casually; if the choice is comfort or looking good, I choose comfort! And the flag about talking badly about yourself is tricky. As I’ve had mostly bad luck with women my whole life, I really do have self-image issues. I’ve learned how to avoid revealing most of my self-doubts but I believe my body language and mannerisms give me away. I think that’s why most women reject me before I open my mouth. It’s funny because I’ve read that it’s good to be in touch with yourself. Really? I believe that if you know all your weaknesses and flaws then it’s extremely difficult to maintain a positive self-image.
lmfao hawk tuah girl 🤣😂🤣😂i actually rewound that part to make sure i heard it right 🤣
I love how you relate the sponsor to the video and take the time to mention it differently in each one instead of using a default video that interrupts the vibe of the main topic👏
You have a grunge with the Hawk Tuah girl, and I understand it. You are a woman.
But what we men love and make us consider her "wife material" is _NOT_ what she does, but her attitude. We love it.
I actually don’t at all! I just think having the merch is something that would turn a lot of women off haha
I don’t love either of those.
She's a woman, but I guarantee she performs the same actions, in private.
Wooo. The constantly overreacting one hit me. Just a few months ago a coworker said that being around me feels like “walking on eggshells” (granted she has admitted she is not a people person) but as a man who is under 5’5” - it has left a big chip on my shoulder that to this day still takes a lot of self control to not let everything get to me. And I wish I wasn’t this way.
Who says self-care is strictly for women? You wash your butt right? You trim your beard right? You workout right? That's self-care!
All seriousness here...if you're spending all this time looking for red flags, you're gonna find em. But most of yall are out here trying to play capture the flag
A disturbingly large group of men do not wash their butt… i was listening to a life coach and he said he had to start asking his clients if they do, because enough of them didn’t…
@@Pikawarpslol yo that's insane! And I was in the military. They literally instilled and emphasized being clean and not touching sensitive areas like your face. That's to prevent infections like cellulitis
Can confirm some guys don't wash their butt, they think it's gay, it was an eye opener for me.
Men be so concerned about being gay, it's ridiculous. Tbh, any guy that says anything is gay is a no for me, they should have left that back in the playground. Insecurity about their sexuality is a HUGE red flag.
Courtney, I appreciate your concern about the bonus tip. I'm particularly concerned about public displays of mature subjects, and the effect it could have on children to see things like the bumper sticker you mentioned. Some things are best consumed by interested adults in private. I've seen a number of your videos. I'm in my 60's, and I appreciate seeing a young person with the solid values you promote in your videos. You also seem amazingly wise for someone so young. Keep up the good work.
No, women just JUDGE MEN, and aren’t interested unless you’re Chad. To women, intelligence, thoughtfulness and being a good person (NOT a ‘nice guy’) are signs of weakness.
I have no friends, partly because I’m what people might call a ‘Sigma’, and partly because most people are interested in unintelligent boring crap.
Women are interested in those kind of men but we don't find them
"I'm what people might call a 'Sigma'"
_tips fedora_
So am I, but having a few is still needed (even if you're) a Sigma. And especially if you're *Introvert*
I am an ok looking guy but pretty fit. Financially secure, but not rich. What has made me very successful in the dating world is being intelligent, thoughtful and being nice. Maybe you are just looking in the wrong places?
Being "sigma" is not masculine at all, even though many people who find it appealing think it is. It is not a virtue by mimicking stoicism (which in itself is not a virtue but a vice of pride) or anything of the sort. Rather, it is a resignation signal. Deciding to go "sigma" means that you gave up on ambition and responsibility, which is not masculine. The fact is that becoming happy and successful, which radiates power and confidence, is achieved by living completely the opposite from how a "sigma" wolf is supposed to live. You need to interact with others in various transactions of life, and learn to give and receive credits and gratifications to/from others. Being stubborn with DIY attitude makes you inefficient and does not produce results as it consumes a lot you time and effort. Sigma wolf is also not a leader of the pack. He does not have a pack. And that is not good nor attractive. He is just a lonely wolf, irrelevant.
I feel that this needed that meme of Fry from Futurama saying he's shocked, but in reality he's not that shocked at all. Still it was useful to find out the "shocking" red flags women secretly judge men for.
Women: "mEn ShOuLd StOp BeInG sO jUdGeMeNtAl!"
Also Women:
Judgmental people are weak, no matter what gender
people are judgemental in general man and woman. Red flags are two way street it can also affect woman too.
@@Leandrogg685 not everyone
@@jasonfanclub4267 at some degree, yeah buddy.
@@jasonfanclub4267 Yeah, the less than 27% of Women who don't have an Ick List.
Eh, I keep it very simple, and my ease in interacting with women is kinda effortless. My personal trick is to ALWAYS stay physically fit. Yep, that’s right! My number one priority is always to stay physically fit. The irony is that so many people find it difficult to get fit, then struggle with so many other issues (depression, health issues, negativity, and so much more). In contrast, I don’t struggle with any of that stuff because it simply does not find its way to me. So maybe… just maybe… do yourself a favor and do your best to stay physically fit. Staying fit inspires others around you. People get inspired and start jogging the next day after they see my abs, razor-sharp nipples, and how the sunlight and shadows magically make me look like an abstract work of art. Very comical but true.
@@alwaysemployed656 I definitely, DEFINITELY agree that people need to embrace a healthier lifestyle and take the necessary steps to make it an everyday staple of their life and that it does help with the depression and mental health issues. That being said, depression and mental health issues are not strictly tied to bad eating and a sedentary lifestyle. You can still have visible abs and be depressed.
I knew one woman who always had a red flag test. If her dog (golden retriever) didn't like you right away, that was a HUGE red flag for her. The dog liked nearly everyone, but every once in a while it came across someone who for whatever reason, the dog just didn't like. She trusted the dog's judgement...sometimes as much as her own.
To the point about negative talk....I do this a lot. Simply put, I don't feel I've accomplished a lot. I'd rather be extremely humble and don't like talking about our accomplishments. A good example, when my Mom was sick in the hospital, she was forever telling the nurses that I had run the Boston Marathon twice, and had run 20 marathons. I would always tell them "She's overstating my credentials....I'm really not that spectacular." One of the nurses put me in my place one day when she said "It's a mother's right to brag on her kids. You shouldn't try to take that right away from her by downplaying what you did." I've also turned down promotions at work before, because even though the bosses believed I was the best person for the promotion, I felt I had not done enough to warrant that promotion. Simply put, some of us believe we need to be spectacular in order to not talk negative. Good enough isn't good enough. And if that's a red flag, so be it.
Being truly humble (which means down to earth) is a virtue. Yet, in modern dating scene you will not find many people who value it. In fact, vices get picked out again and again over virtues in general. Even worse, a lot of people is so indulged in pursuing pleasure for themselves that they can't even recognize virtues at themselves and others.
Btw. has this woman who trusted her dog's intuition remained single or got divorced? I wouldn't be surprised at all with either of these.
Women judge men whether they’re interested or not.
Yes. People judge people. It’s not just one gender lol
@@isaura-22 yeah and it’s such a waste of effort. I mentioned women based on the context of the subject but thanks for stating the obvious.
@@cbassett7274 It's rooted in protected observation, evolved over millions of years. This is just the modern form. We're stating the obvious because you seem to be angry over the obvious.
@@isaura-22 Women generalize men. Why can't we do the same to women?
@@DDD11239 I don’t waste my time judging women if I’m not attracted to them because I have bigger concerns to address. I’ve seen women judge men based on height, weight, financial status, the car they drive or if they don’t have a car, level of education or whatever like they have to fish for valid reason justify why they don’t find them attractive and get indignant and disrespectful when these men approach them for dates. We’re supposed to get better with evolution I would think. I’m not angry. I’m done.
Hi Courtney, I think men who can never go anywhere without desperately needing an alcoholic drink, in order to enjoy the occasion should be a red flag.
Right, I think that one goes for women too.
Happy Sunday Courtney.😮
Here we go.😅
Summer is here and we are in middle of summer months now.😊
Red flags are important.🤷♀️
Hi my friend!!
If a special person is able to get into my inner circle of friends, and later get into my family circle, then you are someone who is genuine and worth it. Have to get through the Pitbull before getting to the Chihuahua.
I agree with you 100%, ESPECIALLY with the point about the necessity for every man to take care of himself. Guys, whenever you go out, ALWAYS look crisp clean!
Nah. Someone who is just clean enough. We don’t want a perfect dude. That’s just way too much.
@@isaura-22 As long as he pays, right?
@@DDD11239 Sure, shows he is devoted..just dont take a woman out right away, give it sometime to know her. so she isnt using you
@@isaura-22 Independence amongst women, I guess.
Hawk Tuuuahhhh...
lol that cracked me up
Subscribed!! You are refreshing Courtney. Also its nice to have a women on the male side of things we have been under valued and attacked for too long, And im sure that im saying this on behalf of all of us! Thank You Girl ...
Happy Sunday ❤
It's my birthday 👍
Happy Sunday birthday!
@@frenchfan3368Happy birthday!!! 🎂🎈
@frenchfan3368 Thanks so much
@@vita2687 Appreciate you❤️
As a guy, I have often found that other guys who bed down a lot of chicks do not make great friends. They are hyper-focused on scoring, so they are glued to their phones and seem distant. It's not like I don't get along with them, but they tend to be fair weather friends.
Is being a Lone Wolf unattractive?
Yes, from a Lone Wolf here that was rejected because of that.
No, it isn't
Yes, I made rhat mistake once and he was a narcissist. He couldn't maintain relationships with anyone even family.
@@tinap8227 Sounds like me! >D
Some uncommon red flags I'd put out there:
#1: Doesn't follow your advice in something that you have very clear expertise in. This isn't about how women should be submissive or just "shut up and listen", but instead it's about how she doesn't lean on your expertise when you have a heavy background in something like advanced computer technical knowledge or mechanical expertise. Instead she decides to listen to a random friend or only goes to a father figure who doesn't have the same level of knowledge you might have. Again, as always, context and nuance applies.
#2: Her "feelings" are always right, regardless of the facts. When anyone bases their decision-making skills on intuition and feelings and don't take time to understand the facts or do research, this is a large sign that they may likely have Borderline Personality Disorder or some other cognitive issue that pushes them to ignore fact-based outcomes. Again, as always, context and nuance applies.
#3: Declares themselves a "people-pleaser". From my experience, this tends to be someone who doesn't understand how to be in a mutually respectful relationship. Depending on their other personality traits, this could be someone who has a lot of unresolved past trauma that they are playing out in ways where they feel like just constantly giving to someone else will be the answer to their problems. Again, as always, context and nuance applies.
OMG that is exactly how I feel and why I broke up. Girl listened to randos over me when I have the decades of business experience.
I hope things are going good with your man, Courtney. You are one of the few people who like to talk about relationships on the internet who are actually MARRIED!
You shoehorn skincare into 90% of your videos. I know it's how you get paid but it's tiresome seeing it so often.
Yea i think that one is disingenuous. Most women not on birth control like rough and tumble guys.
@@familyengineering5591
Not true, the basic of hygiene, cutting nails, well taken care of hands are very important. Clean clothes, deodorant, perfume has nothing to do with the skin care in sponsorship or women on the pill.
It’s gross not to keep yourself in shape.
Says the guy who washes his face once a month!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Whew, none of these red flags for me!
Not sure I'd buy any 'hawk tuah' merch. But, It's super weird that some people are freaking out over how popular that saying/she is. It was something said seemingly in jest and it was funny. And, said by what seems to be a genuinely good natured and funny person. I'm more concerned that people are beefing over it instead of having a good chuckle. Is the beef rooted in jealousy? Its hard to tell so far.
I underatand the friends part. As we usually are friends with people they do have same values, similar characteristic, boundaries, hobbies etc. So If I met a man and his friends were rude, disrecpectful and he had no problem with that. That shows me he is similar/same as his friends. So I would say the friends part is fair point
The problem is not the necessarily the lack of friends, but more often the very act of judging by these women.
Thanks for the video, I don't think I'm doing any of these red flags, except the first one. I don't have any friends, this is because I enjoy being a loner and I have uncommon hobbies so it's hard for me to meet like minded male friends. The friendships I did have deteriorated. I honestly don't feel it was my fault, I was tired of their put downs and domineering behaviour so I created distance. I don't want male friends, I just want a girl friend.
It's funny, my ex-girlfriend, when we first started dating, came out of my bathroom with a smirk on her face and said, "You use conditioner?" I was a little confused and said, "Yeah...don't you???" she was like, "Of course I do, but I'm a girl. I didn't think guys used it." I laughed and was like, "What kind of neanderthals did you date before me???"
I didn't think that many guys didn't use conditioner. If I don't, my hair would frizz up like Cosmo Kramer! 🤣🤣
I like how down to earth you are: Easy to understand.
Courtney your awesome🙌🏾Let’s Goo!! I support you always🙏🏾
Are the proceeds from the sales of this “Hawk Tuah” merch going towards any charity?
I want to note that "Speaking poorly of yourself" is not the same as "speaking honestly about yourself." There is a complete difference in the energy even though you might be talking about the same growth area (or perceived weakness/limitation). A good example for myself -- I don't think I'm a good looking guy (though many women have expressed otherwise). But by speaking honestly about my self-perceptions and how it's a growth area, I've noticed that women find me MORE attractive because I can be transparent/honest and I'm more emotionally connected (to myself). And of course, it also relates to feminine struggles on perception/beauty/etc as well, further making a circle of empathy/connection.
As opposed to the opposite where you see guys talk about themselves or try to brag and talk themselves up and to me anyway, the vast majority of those men come across as a-holes. Then again those are some of the men that women fall for then soon after, complain about as if allem are like that.
Completely agree with Courtney's last point. People are easily swayed by the latest cheap trends.
Self deprecation becomes a problem when one uses it to validate the stuff they hate about themselves rather than fixing them. "I know i suck but hey I'm at least cool about it"
11:18 Following and interacting with IG models is simply pathetic. Have some respect for yourselves, brothers. Not only do these women not acknowledge your existence, but are mostly not even real. And even if they do reply to your comments, know it's all automatic on their part and means nothing. So it's pathetic on so many levels. Just stop it, not only so as to avoid being judged by normal ladies (and normal men, for that matter), but primarily for your own well-being. And you might as well delete IG app at least for a while to reset yourself.
Good video as always!
You the perfect person to give a woman's perspective to men. You seem down to earth and are very classy. I started watching your channel for advice on style for older men and have enjoyed the other commentary you have. On a side note, it's a shame that you have to tell a grown man to take a shower. I often wonder if some men even look in the mirror before leaving the house.
haha the fact you included the last one is hilarious
I do think self care is important. I go to a weekly dance where many guys dress poorly. Jeans with sneakers, flannel shirts untucked, badly trimmed beards, fat bellies hanging out. They look sloppy. Many times ladies have pointed out how poorly they look. Dress well, stay trim, keep head and facial hair trimmed, wear a nice cologne. Believe me, it makes a difference.
I love the insight you have on things Courtney. I really enjoy watching your videos. You rock
The bonus red flag KILLED me 💀
They can judge me if they want to for not having a lot of friends if they want to but i don't care. Its a personal choice of mine to not have many friends. Because i'm not a people person and i don't trust people easily.
I always downplay things that some people might consider as success! I always try to be “humble” and not talk about it or just downplay it. I really did know this is considered a red flag generally for women! I reckon someone has to find the right balance between being humble and downplaying own self.
4:43 My suspicion is that women have a very different definition of "clothes that fit you" beyond the normal plain meaning of the words as we would understand them.
To a man, "clothes that fit you" are simply clothes that you physically fit inside comfortably. As in not so tight that they're uncomfortable or restrict your movement, and not so loose that they interfere with your movement (sleeves over your hands, pants that scrape the ground, baggy items that snag on obstacles, etc).
If you mean anything in addition to that you'll need to say it plainly.
Every girl has a fashion style tho. My advice is every man should just eventually let his woman dress him lol iv preferred some to be in baggy clothes others in super preppy outfits. The men just look best in certain styles too. Lol. It’s not one for all that’s the problem.
@@isaura-22 So, with every girlfriend will come along a new wardrobe?
As a fellow Clevelander, I’m not surprised that someone is out there rocking some Hawk Tuah merch when there’s crazier ones I’ve seen. But as an observation also, when I start paying attention to locals, I definitely can tell just a very small amount of effort sets you apart from others. I observe people a lot more now and am shocked by what these videos say and that it’s totally true.
The ‘Hawk Tuah’ part got me 😂 Some people have merchandise, which I just think is funny and borderline goofy, but personally I’d never get any of that merchandise. Think I’ll stick with a Metallica or Slipknot shirt 😂
1. Other guys don't like you.
-not just a few guys, but a large group is a sign you may be difficult to get along with
2. Base you on your friends
-the type of people THEY are
-they may influence you in ways she's not agreeable to
-if she's not compatible with your friends, this can sometimes be a big issue
3. Thinking that self-care is only for women
-it is not feminine to take care of your hygiene and looks
-show effort with your appearance
-women think lack of self-care may be a sign of mental difficulties
-cue Advertisement
4. Overreacting to teasing/Inability to take a joke
-be able to laugh at yourself!
-may be a sign of deeper issues, to her
-humor is intelligence!
5. Speaking poorly about yourself
-no negative self-talk
-have confidence and self-esteem!
-women don't want to constantly validate a low ego
-some self-deprecation is fine, don't overdo it.
-don't downplay your achievements, criticize yourself, highlight your flaws
-no obsessive apologizing--especially for difference of opinion
6. Being bad with money
-be financially responsible
-don't live above your means, it shows you can't take care of her
-good women don't appreciate flashy materials you can't afford
-stability and security is better
7. Following/interacting with instagram models
-very bad look for men
-shows you may have a wandering eye, thirsty, desperate
-it's embarrassing
Bonus: Don't buy "Hawk Tua" merchandise.
-Rather low-brow humor
I’ve been on dates that feel more like a series of tests. More than once, my date has purposely walked on the sidewalk really close to the street just to see if I switch sides with them.
I feel when women tell me something is not going to work out because of distance, I take it as talking negative.
hahaha OMG the last one was unexpected and utterly hilarious! I totally agree. Great one!
A few points:
1. If she's still looking at whether you're one of the "cool kids" as an adult, she's not mature enough to date.
2. Self grooming is fine, but when you dress up, unless you're at an upscale club/restaurant, you WILL get beat up, happened to me my whole life.
3. Trust is earned and that is true with disparaging humor as well.
4. Hmmmm, I thought women wanted honesty, guess not.
5. Women don't want men, they want an ATM machine with a car.
6. No argument here.
7. Never heard of this person.
One of the "cool kids" as a adult is fucking silly. Lol!
@@KeeshMitchy that was the point I was making. If she cares THAT much about what her clique thinks, she's a lost cause.
As a 65 year old man I had to Google "Instagram Models" and "Hawk Tuah Girl"...I now wish I hadn't...