@@musikmakerfan but I never said it was a problem! 🤣 If anything, understanding cognitive functions makes me understand people more. So when intjs say stuff like that I'm like omg yeah it makes sense! (Fe Blindspot 🤣)
I’ve noticed INTJs seem similar to the autism spectrum. The difference is autistic people don’t typically understand humor and neurotypical INTJs are typically quite humorous. Additionally, I’ve seen a poll of autistic people by autistic and a high number were INTJ.
@@Greenwitch_Garden in what way is it similar? I can agree that some stuff could sound similar but it's the same as saying that ADHD is similar to dyslexia, just because they share some characteristics, doesn't really qualify to measure them as similar, they're very different. Like an ant being similar to a elephant because both can walk.
@leorzeb I think its because we are circumstantially dismissive, abrasive, critical in situations where other people are more reserved to protect emotions.
Yeah, it seems like a lot of the "down-sides" are just the ways that some people can miss interpret the INTJ's behavior. Not necessarily a problem for the INTJ ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@dewofthesea3021 Even as a kid, I recognized that we’re not all supposed to be the same. I didn’t know the word “archetype,” nor the term “ecosystem,” but innately understood those concepts, so I could always meet people where they were-it was easy to recognize that they couldn’t change their essential manner of thinking, feeling, sensing, and operating. Moreover, being self-aware, I understood that there’d be things I either couldn’t do, or didn’t enjoy doing, but maybe it was someone else’s favorite thing, EVER! That means I could offload my drudgery to someone else, and vice versa! 😁 I think the problem with INTJs being maligned is due to the rampancy of narcissism-with people thinking that they’re the center of the universe, and that everyone is supposed to be like them, that’s the antithesis of an ecosystem, and the world they envision as a utopia would be horribly imbalanced & dysfunctional. We may not be the solution to EVERY situation, but some situations do call for honest, fair, impartial, objective, and direct people, and we effortlessly & unapologetically bring these characteristics to any dynamic, whether they like it or not! 😂 This video was obviously a love letter to us, and it was titled that way as clickbait, but done with a wink. 😉
I've had to chip away at my INTJness over the years. It takes SO MUCH energy to give people the ceremony and "socially acceptable" behavior. So, it takes me forever to respond because I have to self-censor and translate myself before speaking to mitigate misunderstandings and hurt feelings. I'm always the "can we get to the point" kind of person.
I am an Intj female. Some people have told me that I might be autistic. And I believe so myself. I have very specific interests and don’t have friends because I can’t relate to what many people consider engaging conversations. I also need a lot of me time. So much that I don’t have the energy or motivation to gain and keep friends. Sometimes I get lonely and try to connect with others but it is extremely exhausting and frustrating since I usually don’t achieve a deeper connection like others do. It’s like an act I have to perform and still it is not enough and I stand out from the group. I’ve always scored Intj for many years although I felt like I improved my social skills. But maybe not enough.
I think it's harder for females to be INTJs. My best analysts were female INTJs (what few I had). Male non-INTJs analysts only see one pathway to one assessment. Female INTJs provided multiple pathways with multiple assessments allowing me to develop metrics to evaulate potentional outcomes. In regards to building/having relationships I have to agree. I called the "act" being a "social chameleon" to fit in. It is exhausting and I feel like a phony for doing it but it seems to make interaction easier for other people. I wish I could offer advice, but it would be like one alcholoic telling another alcholic how to be sober.
Self identified INTJ female, possibly with high-functioning autism here. Making my peace with not being able to connect with most females unless they are also very driven and have technical interests, not necessarily in the same field of work. Either more analytical in nature or very grounded with high emotional intelligence. Would say strong filters for finding friends is important, being friends with more sensory, emotion-driven women generally ends badly from a different way of problem solving conflicts. Don't give up though! Be patient, the right people are worth waiting for.
A lot of people have told me that I might be autistic 😁I was bullied by my supervisors and coworkers more than once. But when I see their patheric and miserable lives (one of my ex supervisors was married to a drug addict) I feel like I'm luckey to be me (INTJ).
@@elizabethtd1006 I can be polite and tactful,, but if anyone doesn't want MY opinion, they shouldn't don't give me theirs. I am not required to agree with, or respect any opinion "just because". They should learn to behave. "Don't ask if you don't want the answer".
Small talk/superficial/repetitive conversations = boring. INTJ-T. Even some family members bore me. I don't want to be a dick but at at the same time i want to rip my hair out. Conundrum.
@apushman Unfortunately that would bore me too, I hate when someone is telling a story and they keep going off on tangents 😂 I enjoy deep and meaningful conversations with people.....outside the box kind of stuff 🤣
Wow, I realise looking back at that comment how far I've come since then! I still don't like superficial conversations and won't enter in to them, but I have changed my mindset so much that I always now make time for conversations with family and friends and try always to be present and mindful and try to appreciate what they have to say 🥰
As an INTJ, I hate small talks but because I learn how to charm people, I don't like being asked so I will throwback questions and let them talk. I'm introvert but learn how to charm people but deep inside, I don't give a sht what they talking about but I'll be glad if I have chance to learn something just by listening. Far from narcissist because I don't even like attention at all, as confident introvert, I learned how to charm because my father is so extrovert confident guy so I reinvented myself to be confident and can easily charm anyone just by following the example of my father. I still like to be alone but the only reason I'm socializing is because I need social networks and social experiences that will help me grow for the future that I'm trying to achieve. I tend to be quiet mysterious and I like to annoy narcissist when I spot them. I don't care if people doesn't like me, I'm just experimenting and so far, I'm good at it lol. The way I tell this story, you may judge me as arrogant but I'm just telling you I'm just oozing with confidence. If you see me in real life, you'll see me as an extroverted guy, I don't like to be friends with males because I hate low IQ guys but I like conversing with women so I can improve and train my rizz so no wonder why (male) they tend to dislike me lol. All this extrovert stuffs are just a facet and just a side quest, I'm still introverted af but with oozing confidence. I'd like to hear if there is some INTJ like me that trying to experiment and make things spicy
That is a great skill you've developed, and should serve you well in life. I think it's more beneficial to shore up your weaknesses than wasting energy leveraging your strengths. Your strengths aren't going anywhere, so use your time and efforts to improve in areas that will help you socially. Sounds like you've done this. As a middle aged guy, I learned over the years to fake small talk whenever I can. It seems to help in communication with others, but I can only do it for short periods. Meanwhile, my brain is screaming "get me the f out of here!"
@@rob_does_stuff I'm still mid twenties but I totally got you on "get me the f out of here!" Lol If I just have millionaire parents, I'll stay on cave for sure but as a middle class, survival skills must be learned haha
All these reasons why allot of people don't like INTJs are all the reasons why we INFJs love INTJs. Also, they can't hide their feelings and emotions from us INFJs, so we don't think they they have no feelings because we know that they do. Also, I know a few INTJs and each and every one of them sees me, an INFJ, as an intellectual equal to them. We INFJs get you INTJs and I feel that we each need at least one of each other within our lives if we have the ability to gain one. Plus, there is no other type that understands the problems of having dominant introverted intuitions in this world other than our 2 types.
There needs to be a personality based dating website. Trying to find a good woman is difficult enough on its own, trying to find a good one with a compatible personality feels like a Sisyphean task.
My husband was an INFJ, and we were great together. We understood each other even if no one else did. We didn't understand them either. 😃 It's like we were on a deserted island together. ❤
As an INTJ, I found that just presenting the information and waiting for others to come around worked best for me. I felt that I was only responsible to present information as clear as I could and let others do as they pleased. I took what I called the China approach, while conquered several times the Chinese culture usually converted the conquerors.
I love Intjs I think they're really sweet. they're basically really big tough softies. they're affectionate when you're the right person or certain person. I am not sure I am not one. I am infj. but I love how stable they are, and I think they're nice and cool and smart. I mean the only way I think someone may not like them because they seem intimidating or standoffish. but that's because their introverts. Once you get to know them. they're really sweet.
I think you have described me! I pretend to be tough and I have learned to be tough but on the inside I am not so tough, but not putting up with anyone's crap. So, I can be hard to get along with unless you really know me.
Reading all of you alls replies makes me feel like I found the o my community in the world that gets me!!😭😭😭 yall really do understand.. I’ve always felt so alone. With all the research my personality type does, why did it take me so long to get here!!
Not unchangeable just explain logic, If I find your opinion logical I will change my way. I think its hard for us to change cause, we think things through before deciding something and we decide something logical in the first place.
INTJ-A If what I say hurts your feelings the problem is you. I'm not rude, but I am straight forward. My path is the most logical and effective path, I will not get people killed and waste money because of feelings and ego ( I work in a field where it matters). I'm an adult and been for a while, so my feelings are already understood. I let them out because I've recognized the flaws in not. It is more efficient to experience them and move on. My lack of social interaction is due to not wanting to, not due to being inept at it. Also, if people proved their skills I can trust them but they often show they are unskilled and more talk than not. You're excuses are just excuses. If you want to succeed you put in the work. It not magic. Its a basic equation.
I am also an INTJ-A. I agree. I am not rude. I don't often start the conversation with the blunt statement, but if you are dumb enough to push my boundaries or instigate, you will matter of fact-ly get it both barrels to the face.
I've learned people really don't want an honest opinion, so I seldom have one when asked. When required to work in a group, I let others make the plan and follow it even though I see all the shortcomings of it.
It’s really important for us to distinguish between people who genuinely seek advice for reaching their goals, and people who simply want to be praised and feel good. Also I admit that different people have different approaches to the same issue, so although difficult, I must attempt to appeal to their needs if their cooperation is necessary.
I value expressing my emotions, but when I do, people dont take it seriously, nor do they see me as sharing my emotions when, in fact, I am. So when I hear "they dont express emotions," thats an outsider's pov
One of my closest friends is an INTJ. Im an INFP. I value their honesty, but have learned to wait sometimes before bringing things up until Im ready for the brutal truth. Sometimes things need to “sit with me” before Im ready to discuss them in such a direct manner.
INTJ woman here-emotions are just insane to me. Be productive and get shit done and cry later. Who has time for that nonsense. I just don’t understand this reaction to things. And yea, I’m critical and yea, I’ve brought a few people to their knees with it. I see no problems here. Stop being so damn emotional and wilfully obtuse. Or, go cry over there whilst I get it done.
Haha, i love INTJ’s… you sound just like my INTJ wife… she typically lasts 2 years in a job and is completely blindsided when she is manoeuvred out the door in the nicest possible way by the feelers. Not that she cares too much, she is usually ready for a new challenge anyway.
Good Point. I am too INTJ. Get shit done, then go cry. But life is a conundrum of uncertainties, you may sound confident but the add on point is sometimes you need to cry first, sometimes life's shit surely stops you, makes you sit on your knees, make you cry hard, i empathize with those people who stop there, not necessarily agreeing or supporting them. Make sure, you understand and Empathize but still choose not to.
I had to learn to pick my battles when I married an ESFJ. I’m a woman and he’s a man… so people get confused with our dynamic a lot. It took 12 years of knowing him to finally figure our dynamic out, but we both love each other 🤢 so we work it out. Apparently me saying “you used the wrong hand towel to clean the counter” and “I don’t understand, why are you coming to me with your feelings if you don’t want me to solve them?” Is considered rude. So I keep my mouth shut and use the right hand towels when he’s not home and put my side of the call on mute and put him on speaker when he just wants to vent so that way he gets it out and I can say what I think without hurting his feelings. It’s a fine balance. We’re also the most incompatible personality types there are not sharing a single cognitive functions and their orders being completely reversed. I see it as a rewarding challenge.
Idk about being brutally honest but most of the time I don't care enough to give my opinions...I just say it's fine..I don't like getting bogged down in details... especially if it's something or someone I don't care about.... because when you do they'd just ask your opinions and I'd get annoyed.
You don’t appreciate an INTJ until you realize they were right from the very beginning and you regret not implementing their plans… like Cassandra never being believed until the prophecy happens
Yep the amount of times i get into fights, only to have them reluctantly text me months later saying I was right haha. But it's fine bc since i lack pride i will forgive them instantly and that usually helps us become friends again. I realize admitting you're wrong is really difficult for other types so if they can do that then I have massive respect for them.
@@QMS9224 For me, it's not pride, but HHHAAATING seeing them hurt themselves over and over again. That part...that part makes me want to not be around them.
Every “challenge” revolves around relationships and connections with others. The positives revolve around attaining success and achieving goals… The real challenge is having a binary train of thought; in other words….BELIEVING that we can connect with others easily AND Achieve our goals too!
I've strived to correct some of the challenges of being one, mainly the empathic side, but man it never feels natural. It's like, I've learned to not hold others to my own standards but man they still fall short most of the time. So giving tips is always a hustle because people just look at me like I'm crazy but... it's what works for me! Lmao
INTJ here. About the "my way or the highway" reason: I'm always open to a reasoned counter argument. I can be persuaded if you make a compelling case. However, I've had people react to my ideas with defensive posturing, gaslighting, straw man arguments, guilt tripping, etc. This leads me to believe that they know I'm right but don't want to admit it.
INTJ here, and I can say that I agree with the points made in this video. People can't stand me just because of these exact reasons. And too be honest, I really couldn't care less. If you don't like me just because I'm trying to be to myself then that's your problem. Not mine. Just leave me be.
Sadly when emotions were explored and opened up, sharing them to others might be sometimes difficult for them to understand nor understand me. Maybe as an INTJ, it was best that I didn't explore the emotions as it didn't bode well for me and maybe it got things worst. But perhaps it's because family dynamics and upbringing
Yes, I've taken many personalty tests and it seems I switch between intj and intp often so these types must be very closely related and can likely understand each other
Some people can’t separate emotions from truths. When harsh truth is spoken by INTJs, those who can’t separate them see it as their insecurities showing and feel butt-hurt. While in fact, truth is just truth on topics and at surface level. Sometimes it’s not even a character flaw of a person involved. But because they can’t separate emotions and topic at hand, they feel it’s a character attack on them. I think people who are not strong themselves at core can’t go along with INTJs.
All other points are spot on but i’m not brutally honest with people, in most situations i keep my brutally honest opinions to myself or share with ppl i’m very close to, but i don’t like upsetting just anyone by spilling out those opinions
That's a more INFJ like behavior from my understanding. I do this at times, mostly with people I don't know well enough yet and I'm still analyzing. Once I determine if they can handle raw, honest feedback, that's when I activate the INTJ sleeper agent. I have an ENFJ friend, and we are like shadow twins. We make a very balanced relationship because he is accepting of my raw logical input, and we are usually on the same page with succinct conversation. He balances me by showing me how to live more in the moment, and challenges me to get in the public eye more while understanding my lack of desire for surface level social interaction - he usually buffers for me.
As an INTJ who is trying to actually works on his Fe, It's extremely efficient to do so, this is what you guys need, it is difficult,you will never be the best in it, but managing to have normal level Fe opens so many paths for INTJs
I guess I'm an INTJ. As a teacher, my eye is trained to spot mistakes. It makes watching something, even at a professional level, difficult, as I get pulled out of the moment really easily if I spot an error.
As an INTJ female teen, I have felt a lot of pressure to be like others, and to show emotions like everybody else. People tend to think if you don’t cry at the right times, or even if u do cry at the wrong times that it’s something bad. I have never made any deep connections with people, I have one friend who is the worlds best friend for putting up with me. We don’t have much in common except we don’t have many friends. I used to think that there was something wrong with me. That I was just weird and not like everyone around me. As time has passed and I have gained a better understanding of myself, I take all the comments about me being weird as compliment, because if I was like everybody else I wouldn’t be me.
We think our honest opinions but do not necessarily share them. We are logical and intelligent enough to realize people can react negatively to direct facts. What is mystifying is that people will determinedly ask us what we think then take issue when we answer them.
I have learned to stay quiet unless asked (hopefully because they see the value in what I say) or when it is really important (as opposed to just a different and maybe not the best way)
Only thing that saves me from being the absolute poster child INTJ is the fact that im a nurse. I have to be very verbally caring to strangers. Apparently people appreciate affection from a total stranger lol.
As an intj, I am confused as to why i live. It's like everyone have something to protect. Like some people want to climb social ladder, while others need stability etc. But i don't care about any of these. I mostly want good friends which i cannot make because i don't make a move towards it. I wish i knew myself better for me to set priorities straight and strive for something.
"Uninterested," not "disinterested." Uninterested means not concerned about something. Disinterested means free from selfish motives. (Proving my INTJ credentials.)
Hey, INTJ, do you have a bunch of experience of people coming over to you or calling months after you pointed out sth with brutal honesty? And just saying: you were so right. I wish I would have listened to you sooner ... It happens to me on a regular basis. From my friends to my coworkers, employees, bosses, even people I just casually meet ...
I am an INFJ and I love INTJ they are honest. PPL are hypocrites they want transparency, honesty and truth. But shame when someone actually does. I love the way INTJ think. Their ideas are amazing.
Reading the comments below and with many commenters in their feels, I think a lot of people may have mis-labeled themselves as INTJ. Since the owner of this channel did not give away the reasons in the description, here is what most viewers came for: 1. Unfiltered, no-nonsense communication 2. My way or the highway 3. Feelings? What Feelings? 4. Master Critics 5. Social Interaction Conundrum - shy away from small talk, prefer depth 6. High Standards 7. Plan of Attack - Strategically prepared for anything
I think that the second point of immovability is a bit more flexible. only, however, in the sense that if there is a better way, prove it to me with evidence and reason otherwise it’s not worth my time
Some INTJs believe people don't like them because of their intellectualism that many can't relate to. But as an INFJ, I tend not to get along with them due to their arrogance. They pride themselves on their intellectual capacity, but in order for what you are saying to be received well by people, you have to come across as likeable, and not a condescending a-hole. The problem is, INTJs like to think of themselves as unique, so people disliking them is not a problem for them and can confirm to them that they are right and superior. However, if you really want to connect with others and persuade them, you have to be humble and somewhat considerate. If you only care about your ego and self-aggrandisement, then dismissing others' will be necessary for you, and there is nothing genuine about that. Of course, this is a gross generalisation, and I'm sure many INTJs do not meet the above description.
The work of our brain is very logical. We formulate using patterns. Past patterns predict future patterns. If they don’t like us, it’s highly probable that we can’t get along in most cases, no matter how much politeness, small talks and sugar coatings. It’s a clash of personalities, which means plenty of frictions, time wasted, inefficiency, etc. We are saving plenty of heartache and misunderstandings in the long run. The goal is not to be likeable but able to work together to achieve a common goal. We are not nice, but kind. That’s the difference. Can’t expect us to be more like them, when we never expect them to be more like us Respect and acceptance of unique personalities go both ways. Being liked has never being INTJs goal, but improving things around us and adding values are. Getting too much attention or socialising suffocates us too. We save our time and attention to select few who truly like us and can stand us. That’s the real connection we are aiming for. If that seems arrogant, then be it. Because we only have so much time and energy, and most of our time is spent on making improvements on ourselves and others. It’s not meant to be arrogant, it‘s just the way it is. If people understand all of these, they wouldn’t want the other way. People can’t see this as they attach everything and all actions and inactions to emotions so they expect us to do the same. To INFJs, we can separate logic and emotion pretty well.
That's a classical case of Extroverted Feeling (Fe) vs Extroverted Thinking (Te) functions....and the irony is that both functions are blindspots for INTJ and INFJ respectively 😊
No you are right, I had to learn the skill of being likeable in order for people to accept my ideas. On the inside I am still arrogant lol, but learning to appear at least socially humble is a massive skill for networking
@@QMS9224 Exactly. It works in your favour to be aware and understand how others perceive you. Arrogance is so hard to be around, it's uncomfortable. But I always view humility as a sign of strength. People with humility do not have to 'flex' , yet their confidence is still visible. Being arrogant is so easy for us all, and it can be instantly gratifying to prove your intelligence and exert superiority over someone. But humble people have inner confidence that they don't always have to display. There is self-control involved and taking yourself less seriously can be so freeing! Humility is a win win situation for everyone!
As an INTJ I think what we see as priceless is really priceless . Why ?? Because it is . Look deeply at random meaningless conversation. Why do you do that ??
I'm INTJ. Dose anyone else notice people become unhinged when you say something you think? I get negative responses to my most innocuous comments. No wonder we don't bother with other people too much.
lol I just started having a crush on this girl I found out is a INTJ. It's going great but as an ENFP I'm so worried for when she finds out I'm the type to say the most nonsensical dreamy nonsense imaginable.
I feel like she'll find that side of yours cute as long as you also don't judge her logical thinking process. Just let her explain her thoughts. Hopefully you find her thoughts amusing. If you do, tell her so she knows she's appreciated. Don't know of this helps but I'm a female INTJ too.
@@alphasnotes5548 thanks for the advice! And you are totally right she ended up thinking it was cute. Thankfully I'm also a very logical person, you know when I'm not being scatological.
I got autistic friends, we get along great because INTJ and autistic people have a huge amount of overlap. If you are INTJ, I recommend that you find some autistic people, they are forward, honest and forthright.
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As an INTJ I really don't care if others don't like me, small talk bores me, I love my own company so I don't have to deal with others.
100%. What bothers me more is if someone needs me to like them, I'm like why does it matter it's not a big deal don't you like yourself? Lol
That is me as well. I had a conversation one day at work with a co-worker. He could not understand that I did not care what others thought about me.
REAL
As another INTJ, I approve this message.
Yea, you're definitely an INTJ for sure!
INTJs especially dont mix well with narcissists 😆
Narc basher 😂
Very true
Lol so true since my dad is one and we are like ice and fire
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Yep! I'm an INTJ, and narcissists are annoying assholes.
I'm always amazed at how people describe being honest as brutal. That sounds like a you problem to me.
Exactly
There's a way of saying things without hurting the other party. But I feel like a lot of INTJs dont understand the concept of that lmao (Fe Blindspot)
@@Anikaisalibra sounds like a you problem to me
@@musikmakerfan but I never said it was a problem! 🤣 If anything, understanding cognitive functions makes me understand people more. So when intjs say stuff like that I'm like omg yeah it makes sense! (Fe Blindspot 🤣)
I mean technically yes it can be seen as a problem and it would make sense as to why as well haha
Small talk and social situations is draining. I end up sleeping for 13 hours after a social event… it is exhausting holding it all in.
That makes me feel calm that I am not alone who struggle with this
As an INTJ now I understand why people think that I’m autistic
Maybe you are, no one has ever said that to me.
Sure on the Aspergers end of it. Very similar
I’ve noticed INTJs seem similar to the autism spectrum. The difference is autistic people don’t typically understand humor and neurotypical INTJs are typically quite humorous.
Additionally, I’ve seen a poll of autistic people by autistic and a high number were INTJ.
@@Greenwitch_Garden in what way is it similar? I can agree that some stuff could sound similar but it's the same as saying that ADHD is similar to dyslexia, just because they share some characteristics, doesn't really qualify to measure them as similar, they're very different. Like an ant being similar to a elephant because both can walk.
@leorzeb I think its because we are circumstantially dismissive, abrasive, critical in situations where other people are more reserved to protect emotions.
The comment section is so comforting.
I took every single one of these points as a compliment! 😂
Me too! 😂
Yes!!
Yeah, it seems like a lot of the "down-sides" are just the ways that some people can miss interpret the INTJ's behavior.
Not necessarily a problem for the INTJ ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@dewofthesea3021 Even as a kid, I recognized that we’re not all supposed to be the same. I didn’t know the word “archetype,” nor the term “ecosystem,” but innately understood those concepts, so I could always meet people where they were-it was easy to recognize that they couldn’t change their essential manner of thinking, feeling, sensing, and operating.
Moreover, being self-aware, I understood that there’d be things I either couldn’t do, or didn’t enjoy doing, but maybe it was someone else’s favorite thing, EVER! That means I could offload my drudgery to someone else, and vice versa! 😁
I think the problem with INTJs being maligned is due to the rampancy of narcissism-with people thinking that they’re the center of the universe, and that everyone is supposed to be like them, that’s the antithesis of an ecosystem, and the world they envision as a utopia would be horribly imbalanced & dysfunctional.
We may not be the solution to EVERY situation, but some situations do call for honest, fair, impartial, objective, and direct people, and we effortlessly & unapologetically bring these characteristics to any dynamic, whether they like it or not! 😂
This video was obviously a love letter to us, and it was titled that way as clickbait, but done with a wink. 😉
Yup lol
Someone: "I don't really like you."
Me, an INTJ-T: "Good 🗿"
YEAH!!!!
So true
Someone: I don’t like you
Me: You lost me at “I”
INTJ-A : So????
True
The world: Just be yourself
**INTJ being their authentic selves**
Them: What's wrong with you?!
I've had to chip away at my INTJness over the years. It takes SO MUCH energy to give people the ceremony and "socially acceptable" behavior. So, it takes me forever to respond because I have to self-censor and translate myself before speaking to mitigate misunderstandings and hurt feelings. I'm always the "can we get to the point" kind of person.
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Just be yourself...as long as "yourself" doesn't hurt my feelings, because that's all that matters.
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Story of my life🙃
This channel is not ready for "70 reasons why INTJs can't stand people".
only 70?
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Oh yes! 😂
U described my century old frustration🥴🤣🤣
I am an Intj female. Some people have told me that I might be autistic. And I believe so myself.
I have very specific interests and don’t have friends because I can’t relate to what many people consider engaging conversations. I also need a lot of me time. So much that I don’t have the energy or motivation to gain and keep friends. Sometimes I get lonely and try to connect with others but it is extremely exhausting and frustrating since I usually don’t achieve a deeper connection like others do. It’s like an act I have to perform and still it is not enough and I stand out from the group.
I’ve always scored Intj for many years although I felt like I improved my social skills. But maybe not enough.
Interesting insight.
I think it's harder for females to be INTJs. My best analysts were female INTJs (what few I had). Male non-INTJs analysts only see one pathway to one assessment. Female INTJs provided multiple pathways with multiple assessments allowing me to develop metrics to evaulate potentional outcomes. In regards to building/having relationships I have to agree. I called the "act" being a "social chameleon" to fit in. It is exhausting and I feel like a phony for doing it but it seems to make interaction easier for other people. I wish I could offer advice, but it would be like one alcholoic telling another alcholic how to be sober.
Hi, i am a female INTJ and i'm autistic, if you have doubts you can take a test, but not the ones online.
Self identified INTJ female, possibly with high-functioning autism here. Making my peace with not being able to connect with most females unless they are also very driven and have technical interests, not necessarily in the same field of work. Either more analytical in nature or very grounded with high emotional intelligence. Would say strong filters for finding friends is important, being friends with more sensory, emotion-driven women generally ends badly from a different way of problem solving conflicts. Don't give up though! Be patient, the right people are worth waiting for.
A lot of people have told me that I might be autistic 😁I was bullied by my supervisors and coworkers more than once. But when I see their patheric and miserable lives (one of my ex supervisors was married to a drug addict) I feel like I'm luckey to be me (INTJ).
Every one of these is true, and I know it. Thanks for pointing it out! -- INTJ-A
If an INTJ has a sense of humor, it can really break down the problems they might have in their relationships and friendships and workplaces
For sure.
@@elizabethtd1006 Absolutely not.
@@elizabethtd1006this approach only breeds hubris. Weak arguments are to be destroyed, otherwise there’s no point making them to begin with.
@@elizabethtd1006 how about you keep mouth shut with that nonsense
@@elizabethtd1006 I can be polite and tactful,, but if anyone doesn't want MY opinion, they shouldn't don't give me theirs. I am not required to agree with, or respect any opinion "just because". They should learn to behave. "Don't ask if you don't want the answer".
best part is, I dont care what people think or feel.
not narcissistic, just INTJistic.
Yup thats your Fe blindspot for you
@@Anikaisalibra I would consider that my dominant function, rather than a blindspot.
@@PlaidLaddy I'm so sorry I meant Fe 🤣🤣 Cuz you literally don't care about other people's opinions (Blindspot Fe*)
@@Anikaisalibra No worries at all. Fe, I can agree with 100% lol
@@PlaidLaddy why do you consider Se as your dominant function tho ? Since Ni is your dominant function
I'm not sure that INTJs need to adapt to people, people should adapt to INTJs.
I'm retired. I am so finished with adapting. They can adapt to me now. Or go away.
I agree
Na, that means they'll want to talk to me
Compromise on both sides is important. Their propensities and preferences are no less valid than ours.
@@elementzero3379 The compromise thing is flawed, that usually means that group wants the intj to bend to their will without any reciprocity.
As an intj, I don't really care about whether people like me or not. But I'm glad that I now know why people may not like me
Small talk/superficial/repetitive conversations = boring. INTJ-T. Even some family members bore me. I don't want to be a dick but at at the same time i want to rip my hair out. Conundrum.
I find small talk not only boring but draining as well. Its like hearing a long winded story where all i need are the cliff notes.
@apushman Unfortunately that would bore me too, I hate when someone is telling a story and they keep going off on tangents 😂 I enjoy deep and meaningful conversations with people.....outside the box kind of stuff 🤣
I have been known to just turn around and walk away.....
Wow, I realise looking back at that comment how far I've come since then! I still don't like superficial conversations and won't enter in to them, but I have changed my mindset so much that I always now make time for conversations with family and friends and try always to be present and mindful and try to appreciate what they have to say 🥰
@@missscarlingthat’s good to hear I’m glad to hear it. -fellow Intj
Whoa, this whole comment section encompasses things I think about but never say to anyone.
I am an INTJ but I do feel bad sometimes that im not "normal" especially living in hispanic culture which is hyper feelings and communicative.
yo esa
we are few percent of normal people live in mass of un-normal
As an INTJ, I hate small talks but because I learn how to charm people, I don't like being asked so I will throwback questions and let them talk. I'm introvert but learn how to charm people but deep inside, I don't give a sht what they talking about but I'll be glad if I have chance to learn something just by listening. Far from narcissist because I don't even like attention at all, as confident introvert, I learned how to charm because my father is so extrovert confident guy so I reinvented myself to be confident and can easily charm anyone just by following the example of my father. I still like to be alone but the only reason I'm socializing is because I need social networks and social experiences that will help me grow for the future that I'm trying to achieve. I tend to be quiet mysterious and I like to annoy narcissist when I spot them. I don't care if people doesn't like me, I'm just experimenting and so far, I'm good at it lol. The way I tell this story, you may judge me as arrogant but I'm just telling you I'm just oozing with confidence. If you see me in real life, you'll see me as an extroverted guy, I don't like to be friends with males because I hate low IQ guys but I like conversing with women so I can improve and train my rizz so no wonder why (male) they tend to dislike me lol. All this extrovert stuffs are just a facet and just a side quest, I'm still introverted af but with oozing confidence. I'd like to hear if there is some INTJ like me that trying to experiment and make things spicy
That is a great skill you've developed, and should serve you well in life. I think it's more beneficial to shore up your weaknesses than wasting energy leveraging your strengths. Your strengths aren't going anywhere, so use your time and efforts to improve in areas that will help you socially. Sounds like you've done this. As a middle aged guy, I learned over the years to fake small talk whenever I can. It seems to help in communication with others, but I can only do it for short periods. Meanwhile, my brain is screaming "get me the f out of here!"
@@rob_does_stuff I'm still mid twenties but I totally got you on "get me the f out of here!" Lol
If I just have millionaire parents, I'll stay on cave for sure but as a middle class, survival skills must be learned haha
Im not currently, but after reading your comment, i certainly will try now, sounds fun.
@@PatOnThaBack good to hear! I hope you enjoy each new experiences
All these reasons why allot of people don't like INTJs are all the reasons why we INFJs love INTJs. Also, they can't hide their feelings and emotions from us INFJs, so we don't think they they have no feelings because we know that they do. Also, I know a few INTJs and each and every one of them sees me, an INFJ, as an intellectual equal to them. We INFJs get you INTJs and I feel that we each need at least one of each other within our lives if we have the ability to gain one. Plus, there is no other type that understands the problems of having dominant introverted intuitions in this world other than our 2 types.
There needs to be a personality based dating website. Trying to find a good woman is difficult enough on its own, trying to find a good one with a compatible personality feels like a Sisyphean task.
I'm glad there is at least someone who understands us
@@FC-BS Well, other than your own type, there is no other type that gets INTJs like an INFJ, and I respect that your auxiliary is my blindspot.
Spot on !
My husband was an INFJ, and we were great together. We understood each other even if no one else did. We didn't understand them either. 😃 It's like we were on a deserted island together. ❤
people always misunderstood intj ..they dont know i already give the best for their future
That's a really good f***ing point.
As an INTJ, I found that just presenting the information and waiting for others to come around worked best for me. I felt that I was only responsible to present information as clear as I could and let others do as they pleased. I took what I called the China approach, while conquered several times the Chinese culture usually converted the conquerors.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I love Intjs I think they're really sweet. they're basically really big tough softies. they're affectionate when you're the right person or certain person. I am not sure I am not one. I am infj. but I love how stable they are, and I think they're nice and cool and smart. I mean the only way I think someone may not like them because they seem intimidating or standoffish. but that's because their introverts. Once you get to know them. they're really sweet.
I think you have described me! I pretend to be tough and I have learned to be tough but on the inside I am not so tough, but not putting up with anyone's crap. So, I can be hard to get along with unless you really know me.
I'm polite, helpful and well-mannered but wouldn't call myself sweet. I generally lack empathy for other people, feeling indifferent and distant.
Reading all of you alls replies makes me feel like I found the o my community in the world that gets me!!😭😭😭 yall really do understand.. I’ve always felt so alone. With all the research my personality type does, why did it take me so long to get here!!
Not unchangeable just explain logic, If I find your opinion logical I will change my way. I think its hard for us to change cause, we think things through before deciding something and we decide something logical in the first place.
INTJ-A
If what I say hurts your feelings the problem is you. I'm not rude, but I am straight forward. My path is the most logical and effective path, I will not get people killed and waste money because of feelings and ego ( I work in a field where it matters). I'm an adult and been for a while, so my feelings are already understood. I let them out because I've recognized the flaws in not. It is more efficient to experience them and move on. My lack of social interaction is due to not wanting to, not due to being inept at it. Also, if people proved their skills I can trust them but they often show they are unskilled and more talk than not. You're excuses are just excuses. If you want to succeed you put in the work. It not magic. Its a basic equation.
I am also an INTJ-A. I agree. I am not rude. I don't often start the conversation with the blunt statement, but if you are dumb enough to push my boundaries or instigate, you will matter of fact-ly get it both barrels to the face.
I've learned people really don't want an honest opinion, so I seldom have one when asked. When required to work in a group, I let others make the plan and follow it even though I see all the shortcomings of it.
Thanks for sharing!
Same I just learned to shut up and let people do whatever. After you get punished for the truth so many times you don’t care anymore
It’s really important for us to distinguish between people who genuinely seek advice for reaching their goals, and people who simply want to be praised and feel good. Also I admit that different people have different approaches to the same issue, so although difficult, I must attempt to appeal to their needs if their cooperation is necessary.
Insightful and accurate
I value expressing my emotions, but when I do, people dont take it seriously, nor do they see me as sharing my emotions when, in fact, I am. So when I hear "they dont express emotions," thats an outsider's pov
"The high standards club" - excellent line for a business card 😀
One of my closest friends is an INTJ. Im an INFP. I value their honesty, but have learned to wait sometimes before bringing things up until Im ready for the brutal truth. Sometimes things need to “sit with me” before Im ready to discuss them in such a direct manner.
😅 If you don’t want to hear honesty, don’t ask INTJs, or an ISTJ…
INTJ woman here-emotions are just insane to me. Be productive and get shit done and cry later. Who has time for that nonsense. I just don’t understand this reaction to things.
And yea, I’m critical and yea, I’ve brought a few people to their knees with it.
I see no problems here. Stop being so damn emotional and wilfully obtuse. Or, go cry over there whilst I get it done.
Haha, i love INTJ’s… you sound just like my INTJ wife… she typically lasts 2 years in a job and is completely blindsided when she is manoeuvred out the door in the nicest possible way by the feelers. Not that she cares too much, she is usually ready for a new challenge anyway.
Good Point. I am too INTJ. Get shit done, then go cry. But life is a conundrum of uncertainties, you may sound confident but the add on point is sometimes you need to cry first, sometimes life's shit surely stops you, makes you sit on your knees, make you cry hard, i empathize with those people who stop there, not necessarily agreeing or supporting them. Make sure, you understand and Empathize but still choose not to.
more like why INTJs can't stand stupidity, there's so much of it in the world - no wonder we struggle with being "disliked".
I had to learn to pick my battles when I married an ESFJ. I’m a woman and he’s a man… so people get confused with our dynamic a lot. It took 12 years of knowing him to finally figure our dynamic out, but we both love each other 🤢 so we work it out. Apparently me saying “you used the wrong hand towel to clean the counter” and “I don’t understand, why are you coming to me with your feelings if you don’t want me to solve them?” Is considered rude. So I keep my mouth shut and use the right hand towels when he’s not home and put my side of the call on mute and put him on speaker when he just wants to vent so that way he gets it out and I can say what I think without hurting his feelings. It’s a fine balance. We’re also the most incompatible personality types there are not sharing a single cognitive functions and their orders being completely reversed. I see it as a rewarding challenge.
Idk about being brutally honest but most of the time I don't care enough to give my opinions...I just say it's fine..I don't like getting bogged down in details... especially if it's something or someone I don't care about.... because when you do they'd just ask your opinions and I'd get annoyed.
I do that too
😂😂yep
You don’t appreciate an INTJ until you realize they were right from the very beginning and you regret not implementing their plans… like Cassandra never being believed until the prophecy happens
Yep the amount of times i get into fights, only to have them reluctantly text me months later saying I was right haha. But it's fine bc since i lack pride i will forgive them instantly and that usually helps us become friends again. I realize admitting you're wrong is really difficult for other types so if they can do that then I have massive respect for them.
@@QMS9224Its quite rare to see an INTJ to be forgiving. Personally i don’t forgive ppl for being an idiot.
@@QMS9224
For me, it's not pride, but HHHAAATING seeing them hurt themselves over and over again.
That part...that part makes me want to not be around them.
Every “challenge” revolves around relationships and connections with others. The positives revolve around attaining success and achieving goals…
The real challenge is having a binary train of thought; in other words….BELIEVING that we can connect with others easily AND Achieve our goals too!
I've strived to correct some of the challenges of being one, mainly the empathic side, but man it never feels natural.
It's like, I've learned to not hold others to my own standards but man they still fall short most of the time. So giving tips is always a hustle because people just look at me like I'm crazy but... it's what works for me! Lmao
I think two INTJ friendship may be up and down but with a small maturity will be the best
INTJ here. About the "my way or the highway" reason: I'm always open to a reasoned counter argument. I can be persuaded if you make a compelling case. However, I've had people react to my ideas with defensive posturing, gaslighting, straw man arguments, guilt tripping, etc. This leads me to believe that they know I'm right but don't want to admit it.
What's wrong with "brutal" honesty? Do people prefer being lied to?
What do you think?
@PsychologyRefresh That anyone who prefers lies to truth should have a long honest talk with themselves ...
INTJ here, and I can say that I agree with the points made in this video. People can't stand me just because of these exact reasons. And too be honest, I really couldn't care less. If you don't like me just because I'm trying to be to myself then that's your problem. Not mine. Just leave me be.
Sadly when emotions were explored and opened up, sharing them to others might be sometimes difficult for them to understand nor understand me. Maybe as an INTJ, it was best that I didn't explore the emotions as it didn't bode well for me and maybe it got things worst. But perhaps it's because family dynamics and upbringing
What's not to be loved? All very accurate observations.
I would probably get along with an intj, I'm an intp 😅
I’m an intj and I agree.
Prove it. 1 v 1 me in Minecraft or I doubt your power.
Yes, I agree. my sister (INTP-A) and me (INTJ-T) are like twins 😊
Yes, I've taken many personalty tests and it seems I switch between intj and intp often so these types must be very closely related and can likely understand each other
This is soooooo spot on!!!
Some people can’t separate emotions from truths. When harsh truth is spoken by INTJs, those who can’t separate them see it as their insecurities showing and feel butt-hurt.
While in fact, truth is just truth on topics and at surface level. Sometimes it’s not even a character flaw of a person involved. But because they can’t separate emotions and topic at hand, they feel it’s a character attack on them. I think people who are not strong themselves at core can’t go along with INTJs.
All other points are spot on but i’m not brutally honest with people, in most situations i keep my brutally honest opinions to myself or share with ppl i’m very close to, but i don’t like upsetting just anyone by spilling out those opinions
That's a more INFJ like behavior from my understanding. I do this at times, mostly with people I don't know well enough yet and I'm still analyzing. Once I determine if they can handle raw, honest feedback, that's when I activate the INTJ sleeper agent.
I have an ENFJ friend, and we are like shadow twins. We make a very balanced relationship because he is accepting of my raw logical input, and we are usually on the same page with succinct conversation. He balances me by showing me how to live more in the moment, and challenges me to get in the public eye more while understanding my lack of desire for surface level social interaction - he usually buffers for me.
As an INTJ who is trying to actually works on his Fe,
It's extremely efficient to do so, this is what you guys need, it is difficult,you will never be the best in it, but managing to have normal level Fe opens so many paths for INTJs
Yess!! 👍
What "Fe"?
All of this is true. Sincerely, efficient, brutally-honest (and perfectionist) INTJ.
Aren't these compliments? 😅
i guess not
“All you ever have is opinions”
I guess I'm an INTJ. As a teacher, my eye is trained to spot mistakes. It makes watching something, even at a professional level, difficult, as I get pulled out of the moment really easily if I spot an error.
As an INTJ female teen, I have felt a lot of pressure to be like others, and to show emotions like everybody else. People tend to think if you don’t cry at the right times, or even if u do cry at the wrong times that it’s something bad. I have never made any deep connections with people, I have one friend who is the worlds best friend for putting up with me. We don’t have much in common except we don’t have many friends. I used to think that there was something wrong with me. That I was just weird and not like everyone around me. As time has passed and I have gained a better understanding of myself, I take all the comments about me being weird as compliment, because if I was like everybody else I wouldn’t be me.
Thanks for your perspective.
They can't see or feel others... sad for them. 😢
The feeling is mutual.
We think our honest opinions but do not necessarily share them. We are logical and intelligent enough to realize people can react negatively to direct facts. What is mystifying is that people will determinedly ask us what we think then take issue when we answer them.
I have learned to stay quiet unless asked (hopefully because they see the value in what I say) or when it is really important (as opposed to just a different and maybe not the best way)
I'm trying to imagine caring that someone can't stand me, but NOPE - got nuthin'!
I like the quality of this video, hehe. Approved!
Yay, thank you!
Only thing that saves me from being the absolute poster child INTJ is the fact that im a nurse. I have to be very verbally caring to strangers. Apparently people appreciate affection from a total stranger lol.
I can’t kiss ass or pretend to be something I’m not. I’m so surprised seeing all the people around me doing this.
As an intj, I am confused as to why i live. It's like everyone have something to protect. Like some people want to climb social ladder, while others need stability etc. But i don't care about any of these. I mostly want good friends which i cannot make because i don't make a move towards it. I wish i knew myself better for me to set priorities straight and strive for something.
"Uninterested," not "disinterested." Uninterested means not concerned about something. Disinterested means free from selfish motives. (Proving my INTJ credentials.)
Appreciated!
Hey, INTJ, do you have a bunch of experience of people coming over to you or calling months after you pointed out sth with brutal honesty? And just saying: you were so right. I wish I would have listened to you sooner ... It happens to me on a regular basis. From my friends to my coworkers, employees, bosses, even people I just casually meet ...
Im a intj most of the time but get along with almost everyone or thts because i can easily change personalities
As an INTJ... It's difficult to find your kind of people.
As an INTJ-T, I loved this. Now when I'm rude to those people who call me "friend", I can just say I'm an INTJ.
As a INTJ 6'4 ft 265 lbs jacked also with years of martial arts not a lot of people want to discuss differences 😅😅
I am an INFJ and I love INTJ they are honest. PPL are hypocrites they want transparency, honesty and truth. But shame when someone actually does. I love the way INTJ think. Their ideas are amazing.
Reading the comments below and with many commenters in their feels, I think a lot of people may have mis-labeled themselves as INTJ. Since the owner of this channel did not give away the reasons in the description, here is what most viewers came for:
1. Unfiltered, no-nonsense communication
2. My way or the highway
3. Feelings? What Feelings?
4. Master Critics
5. Social Interaction Conundrum - shy away from small talk, prefer depth
6. High Standards
7. Plan of Attack - Strategically prepared for anything
I absolutely ADORE INTJs. But I'm an ENTP, so there's that.
I'm an INTJ too. Why is this comment section so comforting? Yes, sometimes I care too. 😂
Everyone thinks I'm boring!
Omg! I thought I was crazy and cold hearted then I took a test apparently I’m just INTJ.
INTJ: * breathes *
Rest of the world: "You are sick in the coconut!"
Truth + Facts +stark reality + honesty =✅
Lies + fantasies + stupidity + in denial of reality + delusions = 👎👎👎
As an INTJ-A, I'm sorry that my brain works the way that it should!!
"I want my partner to be honest with me" - nobody truly wants that.
Am ENTP.
Me like INTJ dorks.
Especially when they offend others with their awkward social skills and I get to watch.
I got the trifecta…INTJ-Sigma-Scorpio. I wouldn’t trade for anything!
I think that the second point of immovability is a bit more flexible. only, however, in the sense that if there is a better way, prove it to me with evidence and reason otherwise it’s not worth my time
yeah, that's me...
Some INTJs believe people don't like them because of their intellectualism that many can't relate to. But as an INFJ, I tend not to get along with them due to their arrogance. They pride themselves on their intellectual capacity, but in order for what you are saying to be received well by people, you have to come across as likeable, and not a condescending a-hole. The problem is, INTJs like to think of themselves as unique, so people disliking them is not a problem for them and can confirm to them that they are right and superior. However, if you really want to connect with others and persuade them, you have to be humble and somewhat considerate. If you only care about your ego and self-aggrandisement, then dismissing others' will be necessary for you, and there is nothing genuine about that.
Of course, this is a gross generalisation, and I'm sure many INTJs do not meet the above description.
We don't beg people to like us.
The work of our brain is very logical. We formulate using patterns. Past patterns predict future patterns. If they don’t like us, it’s highly probable that we can’t get along in most cases, no matter how much politeness, small talks and sugar coatings. It’s a clash of personalities, which means plenty of frictions, time wasted, inefficiency, etc. We are saving plenty of heartache and misunderstandings in the long run. The goal is not to be likeable but able to work together to achieve a common goal. We are not nice, but kind. That’s the difference. Can’t expect us to be more like them, when we never expect them to be more like us Respect and acceptance of unique personalities go both ways.
Being liked has never being INTJs goal, but improving things around us and adding values are. Getting too much attention or socialising suffocates us too.
We save our time and attention to select few who truly like us and can stand us. That’s the real connection we are aiming for. If that seems arrogant, then be it. Because we only have so much time and energy, and most of our time is spent on making improvements on ourselves and others. It’s not meant to be arrogant, it‘s just the way it is.
If people understand all of these, they wouldn’t want the other way.
People can’t see this as they attach everything and all actions and inactions to emotions so they expect us to do the same. To INFJs, we can separate logic and emotion pretty well.
That's a classical case of Extroverted Feeling (Fe) vs Extroverted Thinking (Te) functions....and the irony is that both functions are blindspots for INTJ and INFJ respectively 😊
No you are right, I had to learn the skill of being likeable in order for people to accept my ideas. On the inside I am still arrogant lol, but learning to appear at least socially humble is a massive skill for networking
@@QMS9224 Exactly. It works in your favour to be aware and understand how others perceive you. Arrogance is so hard to be around, it's uncomfortable. But I always view humility as a sign of strength. People with humility do not have to 'flex' , yet their confidence is still visible. Being arrogant is so easy for us all, and it can be instantly gratifying to prove your intelligence and exert superiority over someone. But humble people have inner confidence that they don't always have to display. There is self-control involved and taking yourself less seriously can be so freeing! Humility is a win win situation for everyone!
First thought when I saw this title was: good. Don't talk to me then
It's true. Growing up, I had no censor so everyone hated me. Now I just have very little to say and people like me. I hate life.
The reason is for me i see sharing my emotion as weak
As an INTJ I think what we see as priceless is really priceless . Why ?? Because it is . Look deeply at random meaningless conversation. Why do you do that ??
I'm not surprise
Everything in this video is not a me problem, but a you problem.
I'm INTJ. Dose anyone else notice people become unhinged when you say something you think? I get negative responses to my most innocuous comments. No wonder we don't bother with other people too much.
Now I know why people try to tone down my language. Can't stand the truth. 😂
People can be clueless wimps. That is their prerogative. - INTJ-A
lol I just started having a crush on this girl I found out is a INTJ. It's going great but as an ENFP I'm so worried for when she finds out I'm the type to say the most nonsensical dreamy nonsense imaginable.
You'll be a science project to her. She'll probably keep you around for that.
@@arcosiancosine1065 hmm that might just explain the dynamic. Sounds fun to me.
I feel like she'll find that side of yours cute as long as you also don't judge her logical thinking process. Just let her explain her thoughts. Hopefully you find her thoughts amusing. If you do, tell her so she knows she's appreciated.
Don't know of this helps but I'm a female INTJ too.
@@alphasnotes5548 thanks for the advice! And you are totally right she ended up thinking it was cute. Thankfully I'm also a very logical person, you know when I'm not being scatological.
Intj here.... Do relate😅😅😅😅😅
I got autistic friends, we get along great because INTJ and autistic people have a huge amount of overlap. If you are INTJ, I recommend that you find some autistic people, they are forward, honest and forthright.