Why? Why should anyone have to follow some guideline youve come up with, productive. Your idea of productive could be completely different than someone else.
@@zephyr2792 stop blaming every problem on feminism. Blame men for once. Men have created this entire world. All systems. Patriarchy also negatively affects men but rather you like to blame feminism.
@@asamii8602 why don't you take a long walk off a short pier? We have statistical evidence that the constitution of family and successful marriages declined severely since modern feminism came into existence. In the name of women empowerment, you'd find plethora of single women out there all tatted and living with 9 cats. Men are the pillars of human society and that's why we fared so far. Never in the history of mankind was there a period of prosperity when the gender roles were reversed. Even Bible says that a woman should submit to a man and be a nurturer. But these days it's all opposite and women are disgruntled anyways lol.
WE LOVE YOU, HAFEEZ! I am 47 years old and would have benefitted immeasurably from these resources 30 years ago. Love your passion, your perspective, and the uncanny wisdom you share. Keep fighting the good fight. Praying for you as I raise my own precious son and daughter. Grace and Peace.
Same. I have a family but they are the "I just want to come home, crack open a beer and eat a burger" type. No ambition to write a book, learn a language, start something big to challenge themselves. I go to bed unable to sleep being mediocre which i kinda like because i want to be somebody
Same but I will try to make some friends though. I had the smiliar story of no support. I pride myself of being stronger than everyone. But eventually I had a mental breakdown. So I would say to use some of the grinding energy on friends/mentors, it will help with the journey
Im 32. Got my fitness and finances on lock. But Im 100% the guy whos angry and bitter and lonely. Harder and harder to get motivated to pursue women when they're only looking for a quick hit of attention and then will drop you. Thank you for making these videos.
The lemons are not only dry, they are horrible for the picking, good lemons don't exist no more they come with no juice thick ugly skin just a shiny lemon dud good fa 💩 I give you todays vvomen.
I'm just turned 47, divorced 6 months ago, was asked for a divorce a year ago. I was completely heartbroken. But I kissed my stepdaughter and my cat (RIP), told my ex wife that I truly loved her. Hopped my black azz in a one way Uhaul. Cried 4 hours of the drive. Not knowing what I was going to do. I miss her cooking. But when I tell you, I love the person that im becoming! It's a tough road, im nowhere near where I want to be. But I'm more confident in my ability to accomplish a position in life now. Than I ever was married. Loneliness is cold, but necessary in order to develop and relearn your true self. Love.🤲🏾💯✌🏾
Sorry you didn't heed the many warnings that the Mrs had been sending. I'm sure that divorce was her only alternative. A good woman will never leave her good man. Crying after the fact is a humble way of saying I knew I wasn't listening and now it's too late. Of course I could be wrong.
I'm a single mother of two boys and I went out and spoke with men to have some type of male figure or mentor for my boys. I can teach them some things but I can't teach them how to become men in this society.
@John Dunn for your information I am in a relationship. And no I'm not one of those liberal type of women. And with some of these smart mouthed comments some wonder why it's such a divide with black men and women.
It's very sad and inadequate for the negative comments when none of you know me and my background. But it's all good. I'm happy, my children are happy and my relationship with my man has been beautiful. But you all have a blessed evening because I know I am.
I think what makes us the most angry too about that is that its the reality of it. Like accepting the fact that we will have to live like that for the rest of are life. No if ands or buts. Some may respect us but the future is looking not so good its hard not to be pessimistic about us. So much rage
4:51 “men are raised in single-mother homes and taught to figure it out” that’s exactly why what you’re doing is so beyond important. Too many guys aren’t taught how to be a man by a man anymore, you’re saving lives by doing this man. Much respect and thank you
@@KevinSmith-xt8xr I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s not easy. I’m a single parent and I’m scared. I don’t know how to navigate the world since I’ve been so dependent on my father since my mom walked out
I am a woman and I believe I need the roommates for me. I know there are so many women giving advice for women but this is so direct and it would be great to have such succinct content like this. Powerful stuff here. I pray that many men grow as a result of what you do.
I think one of the biggest problems many men face, including myself, is loneliness. I don’t even know how to make any new friends anymore cuz I can’t relate to people...it’s a lonely, boring, miserable existence for me.
Yo I needed to hear this. I've been in a slump since being heartbroken. then life has just thrown alot at me and I've been just going with the flow. I need more accountable men in my life to build each other up.
I will pray for you!! Life is difficult and it’s God Who can and will give us purpose, focus, direction and wisdom if we are humble enough to ask Him (James 1:5 & James 5:16-17.)
@@FirstLast-gk6lg most of my friends are in a similar position. But the good ones, the close friends are the ones that will hold you down and keep it real.
Matter of fact. I published 2 books and people don’t support me at ALL. It makes me want to give up but you just gotta keep going. Cause the people who are around you don’t support your vision but they’ll be there once it takes off.
Grats. I wrote my first book a year ago, cant even get my friends or family to proof read it for me :( It's crazy how rarely people actually are supportive
I am in the weird stage where I got away from my previous friend group who weren't really going anywhere in life, but I haven't found a new circle who is trying to level up like myself. But I will admit, their is a lot less stress and drama when your dog is your best freind!
I’m kinda in the same space. I don’t really talk to my friends from years ago because they are content on being average or barely getting by. I’ve been working on improving myself & going higher in life since 2016 & sadly I haven’t really met anyone who has the same mindset, or at least never had a conversation with. I feel much of that has to do with physical appearance which I can admit I dress like a hood off the street or whatever because I don’t want to purchase expensive clothes. Much of my extra money goes into the stock market which over the past year I have had a 50% profit.
Hafeez.... my friend. You and steph is cold molded me. You made me go from working for someone, to having my own business. You made me go from being treated however by women to having my own woman and have the life I wanted with her while she is on my journey. Your from Houston and so am I G. tbh if I was colder I would be going to gym more but running yo own business ( mines exterior cleaning ) is tiring. Thanks for every thing✌🏽
Wow bro I'm 39 yrs old male who is married but separated listening to this and saying to myself "I wish I could've found you guys when I was in my 20s" because I could be in a better place right now. In hindsight, I can't dwell on the past.
My father always told me "Work will never hurt you". I'm 53 yrs old now and I've been working my whole life. And honestly i am most happy and content when i'm working. You will be surprised how hard the human body can work. You are built strong. And the key to work is never to work too hard, figure out how to work smart. Good work and finding what you like is the key to longevity in living a good long life.
The best part of life for a man is doing the work! Once you get momentum, your confidence will skyrocket! You will be inspired to do more. Stay strong!
What really sold me on your knowledge brotha is that you're aware of Jordan Peterson. As an afro American male who has been studying Jordan Peterson, I've said many times men in the hood need to hear what he's teaching but was hesitant to share because he's an old canadian dude. But you sharing his teachings and just his name is showing proof it's needed and a must ✊🏽
People tend to put JBP down for simply speaking "common sense". Well man, if common sense is in short supply, then the sensible man is the smartest one in the room. Keep up the good work!
While I agree with a lot of what JBP says, he did say racism does not exist and that I disagree with. Yes if you are an exceptionally talented non white person you can prosper. If you are not exceptional then you will experience racism both openly and tacitly.
I’m so down all the time. I just sit in my room all day, barely have any friends and haven’t had much luck with relationships. I really can’t see my life getting better. I’m also 24 and I strongly feel like the best years of my life are behind me.
@TH-cam fanxx Smith belittles men how? I'm pretty sure he only goes after the guys that complain and don't do the work to change. He's not talking to guys who are good in life
@@danj8038 Millions of good paying jobs have quite literally left the US. The ones that remain, we compete with women for now. It's a fallacy to say we can all improve ourselves and just walk out and get a high paying job. You have to work twice as hard for half the pay now.
@@danj8038 TMF, The Roomates, Tim Pool, MKBHD, Mr Whosetheboss. Every single one of those dudes got their start 10-ish years ago. The whole "start an online business" thing on these platforms is honestly not even worth the effort anymore.
@@Striker50_ Yep. And due to diversity hiring preferences, they'll take a female minority over a man, even if they don't have the same qualifications or experience. And then there's the whole 'walking on egg shells' men have to deal with in the corporate world that anything they say could be considered offensive, when in reality, they're speaking the truth. Women hate accountability and want privileges without the responsibility.
My wife & I started our family vegetable farm and on top of working my career in communications. It's alot of work but worth it, I want to fight the food pandemic that is toxic and making people sick. Currently I'm working on stretching my fence. Striving to leave a legacy farm for my little ones.
Man you are speaking straight up facts and truth. Thank you Hafeez for your insight. Blessed to have found your channel. I've struggled with finding men who are motivated to succeed.
I'm a black man and I think i've been fortunate even in the absence of my biological father. My mother was mum and dad until she met my stepdad who proved to be a real dad....... I've had an excellent example to show my children :-)
Personally what I got sick of was constant demands while being offered nothing. I had to learn the hard way to look for reciprocity in my relationships be they intimate or otherwise. I found none so I became a hikikomori. I live in more or less total isolation and this is the happiest I've ever been. Think about that for a moment. That's actually massively fucked up.
Same ... I got divorced right before covid and then moved into an apartment alone and my job went remote. I still am remote currently after 13 months ... It’s a lonely world but it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. Strange times for sure
I absolutely love your channel! Thank you so much for raising awareness when it comes to accountability men and women. I listen to your channel EVERYDAY!
Hard thing about purpose... I'm a 42 year old man, been working supporting my family and raising my kids my whole adult life just about. My oldest son is now a military lifer and my daughter is now 19 and manages a store and off on her own finally. Heres the problem... my entire purpose was raising my kids and supporting my family, but now its just me and the wife and I feel like I've lost my purpose. I have no kids to raise now and I feel lost in life a lot now. My wife tries with me but its difficult. I get why people hold on to their kids so hard, but fortunately I didnt make that mistake. But man, its rough getting out of bed sometimes.
That's why it's important to marry your best friend, who yiu can travel with, run a marathon, hike the Appalachian, boat, etc. Whatever common interests you have. ...
Real talk. Father's and religion. I appreciate this brother. I lacked both of these in my childhood and I'm currently "figuring it out". Keep these up sir. Thank you!
Hafeez, can you interview someone on your podcast who had a single mom who raised him right? Or maybe you have tips you can share with us single mother’s on how to raise our boys? I can’t replace my son’s father, but I want to give him everything I can. Thank you for shedding light on this!!
Get suitable mentors - sports and read books watch these types of programs most importantly don't introduce men you re seeing casually to your child(ren).- this applies to both sexes.
The best you can do is try to acept you can't make things perfect already, but you still can make the second best thing, which would be to develop your femininity and to find and attract a masculine, quality man, a responsible one, with traditional values, a good provider who can help you raise him and will be a good example of a man's presence and will sustitute to some point the missing father figure. He'll never be the father, but he can still be an amazing, great example in your child's life. The other option would be to work all the time just to keep ends meet and besides missing father, deprive your son from a mother too, which is definitely not a good path to go. At least this is what I did and although he is not her father and will never love her as a real one, he is still the best example, provider and example as a person, father and husband she could ever have in her life.
Just like petulant children, half the comments already are from women blaming men and men blaming women for the modern state of men, completely ignoring what Hafeez said in this vid and others. Hafeez is so inspiring, don't miss the boat for the water.
I'm speechless.. every point you made encompasses my life. I used to game competitively and had a huge dream in it, I worked very hard everyday to become the best player I possibly could be. But it didn't work out the way I wanted it to, I'm 22 and I'm stuck. I'm graduating with a degree I don't truly enjoy anymore, cybersecurity. I play games everyday as it's still a love of mine. But it's the epitome of my day, reaching that next rank IS my high. Getting better in the game IS my fun. Meanwhile as a SENIOR in COLLEGE, I work at a convenience store with minimum wage. I have no internships or motivation to continue my degree. My passion of becoming an esports player has faded due to practicality. My purpose without my game has become lost. I have only one true friend. I don't go outside and experience/see other high performers and the reason im here is because of a recent heartbreak. You literally hit the nail on the head with every point you uttered and I just don't know what to say. I didn't know how bad I needed this. I just discovered you yesterday from the fresh and fit podcast, thinking this guy is smart, he's confident, I wanna hear more about what he has to say and boy was I more than right. I connect with this particular video very deeply. So thank you. Thank you for having a conversation about this. Thank you for giving out this value for free. Thank you for giving me a starting point Hafeez. Much love ❤
I think we have enough videos preaching on what to do , where are the actual facilities, actual groups , sacred spaces for a man to walk into physically , that's what's missing
You guys have really changed my outlook on life, women, myself as a man and alot of lore things. I truly appreciate and are grateful that I found this channel a few days ago, it has already touched my life alot, I look at things in a totally different light. Thank you so much.
The problem reach general modern society. However it's nice to make a special call to men. It's so important rn. I was in a relationship with a man from this culture (I'm not American) and it developed terrible. Even ruined our friendship mostly because of these. And part of my fault too. I was in a super vulnerable part in my life than make me push hard to grow but he left me alone in that state. I was there for him when he was vulnerable without friends, and I'm sure he had a hard time with no much real friendship. I wanted to support him, but, instead I just hurt myself expecting for him to show up a little bit. He didnt. Instead, getting away and getting lost in videogames was his desition. I hope he can level up someday. His current path is so lonely. And society needs men participation to improve our future. It's cool to have a source of distraction like videogames but it must not be a pillar in your life to disconnect, disassociate, and avoid your conflicts.
Bruh :'( I haven't had a friend for the last 8 years. And the friend I had was a deadbeat and that went on for 5 years. So in roughtly 13 years I have had no friend with energy, to compare to, toplift and be lifted by. I am one of those men Hafeez speaks about. Heartbroken, hermit, angry and bitter. I grew up with mom and dad, but I've learned 0 about being a man and that cost me a huge lot. I'm in therapy for like 5 years now and will stay for years to come. Man I'm broken.
Wow dude I went through an intense period of isolation. I got hooked on drugs and was nearly at the point of death. I quit about 4 years ago but now I haven't been with a woman in 8 years. I used to sleep with so many girls. I was with 20 women by the time I was 22. But now I'm 32 after going through that depression period it stripped me fo may confidence. But now I've been push myself the past 4 years. I'm hitting the gym 4 days a week and going to work right after. I've noticed that women are taking an interest in me. But the sad thing is I have issues with trusting if there good women. I dont have a problem asking them out but I'm also in the process of rebooting my brain from a porn addiction. I've decided to talk to no girl until I'm done l. Does anyone think this us a wise decision?
I let a woman run my life and I starved for equal respect. It’s impossible to make that happen in a relationship where this woman expects respect from me but barley gives me respect. This video seems like it talks about a lot of my life. After this horrible experience with this woman, I’m on a mission to be the greatest man. Sometimes I don’t see it but I have to ignore that doubts because I’ll only end up failing, there’s a war within myself trying to keep me the same against trying to make me great.
I am in wholehearted agreement. For many years, I was without purpose (undergraduate, graduate school, giving up on being a fighter pilot after 9/11, gave up on serving in the military after the Bush administration) but I finally found one. I’m in my second year of law school and interning with a judge. I was betrayed multiple times (accused of sexual harassment by a fellow student, lying to superiors, was almost fired for my ability to do mental math) just in the professional realm alone. I even dealt with a devouring mother until she passed away from brain cancer, never seeing me succeed in her eyes. Additionally, I had to kiss many frogs before I found my “princess” who I made my queen and I have 3 great boys to love, laugh and grow with. All this I did with almost no support. I have been struggling to find a mentor and deal with my accumulated trauma, but it is one of my life goals. Hafeez, you’re absolutely right and I’m living proof of your theory
Lately, I've been putting in work in my personal live to be the best version of myself. I still have a long way to go, but like you say constantly, "Life is a marathon, not a sprint." My only problem right now is I'm trying to find motivation to keep going Deep down, I feel like I'm mostly doing this to get women instead of doing it for me. I'm glad I caught this early because I want to change this mentality that way I don't end of slacking once I do get a good quality woman or to end up being depressed if I don't get one. I want to do this for me. How do I change my mentality?
My friend you are very right! When the feminist movement got a hold of the woman's movement back in the day. It was not to empower women, it was ultimately to destroy manhood, to destroy the family unit. Thank you my brother much , respect, and Gods blessings
Thanks to videos like this one, I’ve actually wanted to live & felt motivated to build the kind of life I always wanted for myself. You guys have taught me that life is a marathon that takes daily discipline & hard work that most won’t do but it’ll pay off if one does it. Keep up the work on this channel ! It’s changing lives & it’s literally made me want to live & grow another day. Thank you for that. 🙏🏿
Absolutely right bro. I figured out my passion and purpose is writing. I wrote two novels and I can tell you I feel complete and when I'm just at work I can't wait to get off just to put the pen to paper again
No wonder i have been so unhappy at work. Ever since this new person started at my job, I have been getting less responsibilities and less work. I used to be so happy doing a lot of work and being busy all the time.
For me personally, the only thing I lack is the finances. Physically and emotionally I'm good but the career i chose hasn't produced the income i need. The prices of everything is rising but my paycheck isn't.
You are really speaking the truth. How do you know how to conduct yourself with no example? When you mentioned about men being hurt and self-isolating, harboring anger...... On guidance older men used to teach the younger men things like..... "There are women you marry and women you play with, know the difference." This is different than the pandering and tolerance of disrespect. I've witnessed men choose women so they can feel "important." Women that don't match their achievement level, not even in the realm of what he has accomplished, classless, rude, unruly and undisciplined in conduct. These same women make scenes in public, disrespect them and they beg these women to allow them to provide for them. This is part of the problem that leads to heartbreak. If you don't know your purpose and value as a man you'll allow this nonsense in your life. Part of feeling whole, man or woman, is feeling ok with where you are in life and the person in the mirror.
I'm tapping out on American women. I am planning to build my wealth, set up my portfolio to retire at 60 living off interest, and maybe get me a wife from the Philipines. My career is going great, truly blessed. I will work out, enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, play call of duty and Madden, but I literally see no reason to pursue women here in the states anymore.
The best thing about a woman from the philippines is that a good majority of them hold onto the traditional strong values of family , religion and hard work and never stray away from the old school principles. They are not complicated like the new generation of American women.
Excellent video brotha! as an older man I see it all the time. I grew up with nothing but sisters and arguing with them all the time, them trying to be a boss. It was good training for dealin with women later in life. You must stand your ground and never take down! Be mannish like you are meant to be.
Why is it society’s responsibility to give a man purpose? Everyone is responsible for their own healing and understanding themselves. If they want different, they’ll go get it.
You're reading too much into the word man- he's referring to young teen age 'men' who are lost after puberty because there are no good male role models in the house. Who then grow into these types of adults. It takes a village but if the village is a coven well that male child is going to pick up off that coven energy and become overly feminine.
You put a lot of my pain into words. It's hard not to be angry and bitter about how the world has treated me. "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." -Krishnamurti
@@zephyr2792 Who told the young women to behave this way? They didn't all one day, collectively, wake up and become this way. So who told them how to behave? Hollywood ( Beyonce and Kardashians) and the main stream media who "shame women" who want to be mothers and wives because those women are frequently conservatives. Hollywood and the main stream media and the music industry have manipulated our young women to look and act look hookers and entitled spoiled brats who think men "owe them something". I don't see anyone standing up and speaking out against Hollywood, main stream media and the music industry for telling our young girls as early as 10 yrs. old to look, act and dress like hookers, while simultaneously shaming the women who want to be feminine, ( often conservatives) and now days, they recruit other women via the media and Hollywood to even cancelled any woman who wants or believes there are differences between men and women. In todays media, if someone wants to be feminine they are trashed, publicly and made fun of and laughed at. In fact, when men love Beyonce and all the other "role models" that are thrown in our young women's faces and then they want to be like her so they look and act like a sleezy woman because thats what they have been taught. the entertainment industry and main stream media TOLD these young women for years that this is what being a "real woman" looks like and that being a wife and mother is a horrible thing. This is a tragedy, but until men stand up to Hollywood, main stream media and start HELPING these manipulated young women, encouraging them to take back their femininity it will only get worse. Good men will have no good women to choose from. Write to people like Beyonce and and Christine Aguilera. Those who have sold this lie to society and tell them how much they have contributed to corrupting our young woman's minds and taught them to behave this way. Until you stand up against them, things wont change. If you like and admire these king of women yourselves, don't expect young women to act any different than them. They will conform as society has programmed to them conform.
@@alleytee118 I agree with you wholeheartedly and never really payed attention to mainstream Hollywood propaganda. Wish there were more woke women like you out there.
My wife cheated on me and left me as I was facing back surgery with a possibility of being a cripple and was unable to work for a bit. Cheated on me with a "friend" and left me for him. Destroyed, I started to abuse my pain meds. Got them taken away by the doctor, and turned to heroin. Christ found me, reached down into the void I was in, and took a hold of me. Clean now for 4 years, and currently training at a seminary to be a minister. Still looking for that woman to marry, but stopped feeling sorry for myself. I met a pastor that God used who was a retired marine. Housed me when I was fixing to go homeless after a stint at a hospital-run rehab, bent over backward to help me but didn't take any of my bullshit, and expected me to act like a grown-ass man and stop feeling sorry for myself. He expected me to pick myself up, to put that damn needle down. He taught me self-respect and self-control, things I never learned from my father, who is a good man but absent in all the places that mattered. God used that pastor, sent that brother to help me, proved the godly and manly model I always wanted but never knew I needed, and beat my ass when I needed it (proverbially). He also told me similar to what you said... If you treat a man as a boy and expect nothing of him, he will act like a boy. If you treat him as a man and expect him to be a man, he will step up. A man will be whatever expectations that have been set in front of him. Demand virtue of yourself and seek and embrace responsibility. Find God. Learn to carry your cross.
Speak on it Hafeez. It’s our destiny as men to level up. S/o the roomates, Jordan B. Peterson, and Tony Evan’s. If you haven’t heard of Tony check out his book Kingdom Man. These guys message are aligned right along with his book.
Dead on about the leadership. In fact, I see a huge lack of leadership overall in our society. I don't consider myself a super intelligent guy, but I find myself taking the reigns and speaking out on lots of subjects because nobody else is. Even at my job, I try to advise my boss because I think I might care about the business more than him. Also, don't idolize sports stars, singers, or politicians. These people are not grounded in reality.
You're so dead on about sports stars, recording artists, and politicians not being grounded in reality. It's foolish how as a society we hold them in such high regard.
What is cheating again? Is it when one of the other doesn't give up or submit and when they are vulnerable are easily attainable. Right that's somewhat correct
Thank you so much for what you are doing! I have my 15 year old listen to your show and I really feel she is learning IMPORTANT life lessons. These are things that aren't taught in school and honestly, this is much more useful than trigonometry. Your advice applies to all races, genders and ages. Thank you thank you thank you!!!
It amazes me how the single mom is blamed for not teaching the young man to be a man. As opposed to the abandoning father. Even if the father had stayed the mom is in no position to teach a man to be a man. So why not highlight the fathers failure as opposed to pretending like it’s a woman’s failure? Weird.
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How do you feel about a woman being a mechanic?
5 things to quit right now:
1. Overthinking
2. Trying to make everyone happy
3. Living in the past
4. Worrying what others think
5. Doubting yourself
This right here is the 1☝
By reading this you just made my day 🏅👍🏽
Important tips tho
Nice.
Overthinking will keep you safe in many ways especially if you are intelligent
Sometimes it's better to be alone rather than have bad/toxic friendships
Indeed
It's always actually not sometimes..
Also it is better to be alone than date a single mom and be responsible for problems you didn't create
Just make sure that time spent alone is productive. Productive people attract other productive people.
Why? Why should anyone have to follow some guideline youve come up with, productive. Your idea of productive could be completely different than someone else.
A broken Heart kills a Man. It just take years,until he is buried.
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Deep
Sad and sometimes true. Give it to God.
@@DeNekx it's so bitter they call it evil, they don't even know it was referenced in the matrix
What don't kill you makes you stronger. First you need to be💔 to become a value man and know the game. Stay up!
it is not only men, i think us as humans have lost our purpose and numbing ourselves
It all started with unchecked feminism and self entitled women lacking credibility/accountability for their actions.
@@zephyr2792 Exactly...
@@zephyr2792 stop blaming every problem on feminism. Blame men for once. Men have created this entire world. All systems. Patriarchy also negatively affects men but rather you like to blame feminism.
@@asamii8602 why don't you take a long walk off a short pier? We have statistical evidence that the constitution of family and successful marriages declined severely since modern feminism came into existence. In the name of women empowerment, you'd find plethora of single women out there all tatted and living with 9 cats. Men are the pillars of human society and that's why we fared so far. Never in the history of mankind was there a period of prosperity when the gender roles were reversed. Even Bible says that a woman should submit to a man and be a nurturer. But these days it's all opposite and women are disgruntled anyways lol.
Yes it’s men
Predominantly only
WE LOVE YOU, HAFEEZ! I am 47 years old and would have benefitted immeasurably from these resources 30 years ago. Love your passion, your perspective, and the uncanny wisdom you share. Keep fighting the good fight. Praying for you as I raise my own precious son and daughter. Grace and Peace.
THIS.
Facts, I have 0 friends and nobody is there to push me or keep me on my grind. I have to do all that by myself and its hard but we keep pushing
You're not alone in that
Same. I have a family but they are the "I just want to come home, crack open a beer and eat a burger" type. No ambition to write a book, learn a language, start something big to challenge themselves. I go to bed unable to sleep being mediocre which i kinda like because i want to be somebody
Bro same
Same but I will try to make some friends though. I had the smiliar story of no support. I pride myself of being stronger than everyone. But eventually I had a mental breakdown. So I would say to use some of the grinding energy on friends/mentors, it will help with the journey
Same bro
Im 32. Got my fitness and finances on lock. But Im 100% the guy whos angry and bitter and lonely. Harder and harder to get motivated to pursue women when they're only looking for a quick hit of attention and then will drop you. Thank you for making these videos.
I'm 31 in December.
I feel you Bro, just gotta keep looking to Jesus and following His plan 👊🏼👊👊🏿
Do therapy. Especially check out Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy.
I am a woman and had no clue MEN felt lonely. I an sorry to hear that, I hope the situation gets better and you find love again and again and again.😊
The lemons are not only dry, they are horrible for the picking, good lemons don't exist no more they come with no juice thick ugly skin just a shiny lemon dud good fa 💩 I give you todays vvomen.
Thats how I feel as a female toward men. I see so many on tinder and deep in their phones.. how can I take anyone serious!
I'm just turned 47, divorced 6 months ago, was asked for a divorce a year ago.
I was completely heartbroken. But I kissed my stepdaughter and my cat (RIP), told my ex wife that I truly loved her. Hopped my black azz in a one way Uhaul.
Cried 4 hours of the drive.
Not knowing what I was going to do. I miss her cooking. But when I tell you, I love the person that im becoming! It's a tough road, im nowhere near where I want to be. But I'm more confident in my ability to accomplish a position in life now. Than I ever was married. Loneliness is cold, but necessary in order to develop and relearn your true self. Love.🤲🏾💯✌🏾
Many blessings brother, be safe, and forge onward
Stay strong man, you are worth it.
Sorry you didn't heed the many warnings that the Mrs had been sending. I'm sure that divorce was her only alternative. A good woman will never leave her good man. Crying after the fact is a humble way of saying I knew I wasn't listening and now it's too late. Of course I could be wrong.
Want masculine essence?, STOP MASTER Bating. It's why you have lost your spark.
I can not lie. This video speaks to me.
I can’t lie. This video is me!
I'm here through heartbreak
Same bruh
I said this in my head right before I read this comment. Tryin hard to level up... dealing with crazy social anxiety
Same
I'm a single mother of two boys and I went out and spoke with men to have some type of male figure or mentor for my boys. I can teach them some things but I can't teach them how to become men in this society.
Good work. That’s a start
Where is the biological father? How about your father or grandfather.
Dang yall she trying, nobody is prefect
@John Dunn for your information I am in a relationship. And no I'm not one of those liberal type of women. And with some of these smart mouthed comments some wonder why it's such a divide with black men and women.
It's very sad and inadequate for the negative comments when none of you know me and my background. But it's all good. I'm happy, my children are happy and my relationship with my man has been beautiful. But you all have a blessed evening because I know I am.
0 respect for men. I can relate to so much of this. 1) purpose 2) heart break 3) lack of respect for men.
I think what makes us the most angry too about that is that its the reality of it. Like accepting the fact that we will have to live like that for the rest of are life. No if ands or buts. Some may respect us but the future is looking not so good its hard not to be pessimistic about us. So much rage
4:51 “men are raised in single-mother homes and taught to figure it out” that’s exactly why what you’re doing is so beyond important. Too many guys aren’t taught how to be a man by a man anymore, you’re saving lives by doing this man. Much respect and thank you
but same as a female without a mom. My dad raised me! It's hard to be a mom when I didn't have one...or a wife when I didn't see what a wife was
The lack of two parent homes is a problem for everyone in society as a whole. Idk what I would do without both my parents.
My mother is a widow so i had to figure it out on my own sadly
@@KevinSmith-xt8xr I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s not easy. I’m a single parent and I’m scared. I don’t know how to navigate the world since I’ve been so dependent on my father since my mom walked out
I am a woman and I believe I need the roommates for me. I know there are so many women giving advice for women but this is so direct and it would be great to have such succinct content like this. Powerful stuff here. I pray that many men grow as a result of what you do.
TH-cam, worlds most satisfied wife. God bless
As a woman too, I agree! I started following. He speaks truth!
Agreed! 🙏🙏
I agree too!
Me too. I think this advice is good for me too
I think one of the biggest problems many men face, including myself, is loneliness. I don’t even know how to make any new friends anymore cuz I can’t relate to people...it’s a lonely, boring, miserable existence for me.
Damn son word for word
I feel you. Especially during the worst time periods we could possibly be in with so much confrontation about everything, across the board.
Don't worry. You are probably just Smart. Smart people can't relate to most other human beings 🤷🏻♂️
Start working out/eating healthy and guaranteed your mindset will change also the only friend's you need are your family
Loneliness is a self imposed matter. You can survive and enjoy life doing your own thing. Get healthier, wealthier, lower daily stress speaks volumes.
"These guys are wasting away, spending all their day on the internet."
Don't forget to subscribe and hit that like button 😂😂🤣🤣
Man stop 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
:))) lol
There is nothing wrong with being on the internet just don't be on it all day watching useless stuff is what he means
My thoughts exactly 😂
💯👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾💯
Yo I needed to hear this. I've been in a slump since being heartbroken. then life has just thrown alot at me and I've been just going with the flow. I need more accountable men in my life to build each other up.
I will pray for you!! Life is difficult and it’s God Who can and will give us purpose, focus, direction and wisdom if we are humble enough to ask Him (James 1:5 & James 5:16-17.)
@@MelissaSusan1997 amen!
Facts bro. I regret spending time with my friends and family because nobody is accountable and it makes me feel weak
@@FirstLast-gk6lg most of my friends are in a similar position. But the good ones, the close friends are the ones that will hold you down and keep it real.
@@travisace i seem to have run out of "real ones" unfortunately. Unless it's to get high or play video games, I'm flying solo
Matter of fact. I published 2 books and people don’t support me at ALL. It makes me want to give up but you just gotta keep going. Cause the people who are around you don’t support your vision but they’ll be there once it takes off.
Keep grinding man, try and make some fantasy content
Be encouraged! That's cause for celebration so we gonna do it now.🥳💯👊🏋️♂️🥳
Grats. I wrote my first book a year ago, cant even get my friends or family to proof read it for me :(
It's crazy how rarely people actually are supportive
@@FirstLast-gk6lg You know your value and what you are capable of, do not let anyone discourage you, keep going and never give up on yourself
@Rodent's Revenge [MGTOW] thanks for the feedback! :)
I am in the weird stage where I got away from my previous friend group who weren't really going anywhere in life, but I haven't found a new circle who is trying to level up like myself. But I will admit, their is a lot less stress and drama when your dog is your best freind!
You will find out that being alone is truly addictive. I went through the same situation just recently. Find yourself again and level up. ✊🏾
@@BIGH3AD777 facts being alone is scared at first but truly eye opening when at the end
@@BIGH3AD777 it become addictive
Ur in the best place possible to level
Up. It always seems like u have to shed dead weight when ur ready for more and better.
I’m kinda in the same space. I don’t really talk to my friends from years ago because they are content on being average or barely getting by. I’ve been working on improving myself & going higher in life since 2016 & sadly I haven’t really met anyone who has the same mindset, or at least never had a conversation with. I feel much of that has to do with physical appearance which I can admit I dress like a hood off the street or whatever because I don’t want to purchase expensive clothes. Much of my extra money goes into the stock market which over the past year I have had a 50% profit.
Hafeez.... my friend. You and steph is cold molded me. You made me go from working for someone, to having my own business. You made me go from being treated however by women to having my own woman and have the life I wanted with her while she is on my journey. Your from Houston and so am I G. tbh if I was colder I would be going to gym more but running yo own business ( mines exterior cleaning ) is tiring. Thanks for every thing✌🏽
I’m 35 and been alone since 16... family ain’t close or nothing, no friends, nothing
I'm sorry man. I'm rooting for you
Wow bro I'm 39 yrs old male who is married but separated listening to this and saying to myself "I wish I could've found you guys when I was in my 20s" because I could be in a better place right now. In hindsight, I can't dwell on the past.
My father always told me "Work will never hurt you". I'm 53 yrs old now and I've been working my whole life. And honestly i am most happy and content when i'm working. You will be surprised how hard the human body can work. You are built strong. And the key to work is never to work too hard, figure out how to work smart. Good work and finding what you like is the key to longevity in living a good long life.
The best part of life for a man is doing the work! Once you get momentum, your confidence will skyrocket! You will be inspired to do more. Stay strong!
As a women I deeply respect this man. He’s real.
Yes wish there were more real/credible women out there. But all they do is wait at the end of the finish line to pick winners to leech on.
woman*
As a women? wow
What really sold me on your knowledge brotha is that you're aware of Jordan Peterson. As an afro American male who has been studying Jordan Peterson, I've said many times men in the hood need to hear what he's teaching but was hesitant to share because he's an old canadian dude. But you sharing his teachings and just his name is showing proof it's needed and a must ✊🏽
People tend to put JBP down for simply speaking "common sense". Well man, if common sense is in short supply, then the sensible man is the smartest one in the room. Keep up the good work!
While I agree with a lot of what JBP says, he did say racism does not exist and that I disagree with. Yes if you are an exceptionally talented non white person you can prosper. If you are not exceptional then you will experience racism both openly and tacitly.
@@bigduke2140 Same can be said for asians. Or Hispanics. Or native Americans. Or white people.
The system hates anyone who isnt connected to it.
I’m so down all the time. I just sit in my room all day, barely have any friends and haven’t had much luck with relationships. I really can’t see my life getting better. I’m also 24 and I strongly feel like the best years of my life are behind me.
It's amazing how most of the financially viable TH-camrs all got started a decade ago.
wdym? who
@TH-cam fanxx Smith belittles men how? I'm pretty sure he only goes after the guys that complain and don't do the work to change. He's not talking to guys who are good in life
@@danj8038 Millions of good paying jobs have quite literally left the US. The ones that remain, we compete with women for now. It's a fallacy to say we can all improve ourselves and just walk out and get a high paying job. You have to work twice as hard for half the pay now.
@@danj8038 TMF, The Roomates, Tim Pool, MKBHD, Mr Whosetheboss. Every single one of those dudes got their start 10-ish years ago. The whole "start an online business" thing on these platforms is honestly not even worth the effort anymore.
@@Striker50_ Yep. And due to diversity hiring preferences, they'll take a female minority over a man, even if they don't have the same qualifications or experience. And then there's the whole 'walking on egg shells' men have to deal with in the corporate world that anything they say could be considered offensive, when in reality, they're speaking the truth. Women hate accountability and want privileges without the responsibility.
My wife & I started our family vegetable farm and on top of working my career in communications. It's alot of work but worth it, I want to fight the food pandemic that is toxic and making people sick. Currently I'm working on stretching my fence. Striving to leave a legacy farm for my little ones.
Awesome. I'm thinking about doing some small vegetables just to learn something new.
That is amazing ✨
Thanks for bringing this issue to light. It really helps when men acknowledge their problems, then reach out to each other for help.
Man you are speaking straight up facts and truth. Thank you Hafeez for your insight. Blessed to have found your channel. I've struggled with finding men who are motivated to succeed.
My brother, thank you for this. Your words immediately made me reflect on my life and I had to pause mid-way through the video to go and workout.
You’re a father figure to many on here, and you probably don’t even know it. Thank you for your content. Just subscribed.
I'm a black man and I think i've been fortunate even in the absence of my biological father. My mother was mum and dad until she met my stepdad who proved to be a real dad....... I've had an excellent example to show my children :-)
@BougieBella amen
Personally what I got sick of was constant demands while being offered nothing. I had to learn the hard way to look for reciprocity in my relationships be they intimate or otherwise. I found none so I became a hikikomori. I live in more or less total isolation and this is the happiest I've ever been.
Think about that for a moment. That's actually massively fucked up.
Same ... I got divorced right before covid and then moved into an apartment alone and my job went remote. I still am remote currently after 13 months ... It’s a lonely world but it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. Strange times for sure
Is it though? If you're the happiest you've ever been maybe it's because you have a monastic temperament and aren't designed for relationships.
I just turned 22 and man this hits hard
I absolutely love your channel! Thank you so much for raising awareness when it comes to accountability men and women. I listen to your channel EVERYDAY!
Hard thing about purpose... I'm a 42 year old man, been working supporting my family and raising my kids my whole adult life just about. My oldest son is now a military lifer and my daughter is now 19 and manages a store and off on her own finally. Heres the problem... my entire purpose was raising my kids and supporting my family, but now its just me and the wife and I feel like I've lost my purpose. I have no kids to raise now and I feel lost in life a lot now. My wife tries with me but its difficult. I get why people hold on to their kids so hard, but fortunately I didnt make that mistake. But man, its rough getting out of bed sometimes.
That's why it's important to marry your best friend, who yiu can travel with, run a marathon, hike the Appalachian, boat, etc. Whatever common interests you have. ...
Honestly sleep is the highest point of my day.
You have good sleep?
Big facts
I took gaba last night and thought I went to heaven 🙃
I didn't know I needed this channel, but wow I did. Hafeez, you are definitely a solid guy!
Real talk. Father's and religion.
I appreciate this brother. I lacked both of these in my childhood and I'm currently "figuring it out". Keep these up sir. Thank you!
Hafeez, can you interview someone on your podcast who had a single mom who raised him right? Or maybe you have tips you can share with us single mother’s on how to raise our boys? I can’t replace my son’s father, but I want to give him everything I can. Thank you for shedding light on this!!
Get suitable mentors - sports and read books watch these types of programs most importantly don't introduce men you re seeing casually to your child(ren).- this applies to both sexes.
The best you can do is try to acept you can't make things perfect already, but you still can make the second best thing, which would be to develop your femininity and to find and attract a masculine, quality man, a responsible one, with traditional values, a good provider who can help you raise him and will be a good example of a man's presence and will sustitute to some point the missing father figure. He'll never be the father, but he can still be an amazing, great example in your child's life. The other option would be to work all the time just to keep ends meet and besides missing father, deprive your son from a mother too, which is definitely not a good path to go. At least this is what I did and although he is not her father and will never love her as a real one, he is still the best example, provider and example as a person, father and husband she could ever have in her life.
Just like petulant children, half the comments already are from women blaming men and men blaming women for the modern state of men, completely ignoring what Hafeez said in this vid and others. Hafeez is so inspiring, don't miss the boat for the water.
Agreed 😄
Becoming a better version of yourself is very easy these days using some healing techniques. Super helpful
I'm speechless.. every point you made encompasses my life. I used to game competitively and had a huge dream in it, I worked very hard everyday to become the best player I possibly could be. But it didn't work out the way I wanted it to, I'm 22 and I'm stuck. I'm graduating with a degree I don't truly enjoy anymore, cybersecurity. I play games everyday as it's still a love of mine. But it's the epitome of my day, reaching that next rank IS my high. Getting better in the game IS my fun. Meanwhile as a SENIOR in COLLEGE, I work at a convenience store with minimum wage. I have no internships or motivation to continue my degree. My passion of becoming an esports player has faded due to practicality. My purpose without my game has become lost. I have only one true friend. I don't go outside and experience/see other high performers and the reason im here is because of a recent heartbreak. You literally hit the nail on the head with every point you uttered and I just don't know what to say. I didn't know how bad I needed this. I just discovered you yesterday from the fresh and fit podcast, thinking this guy is smart, he's confident, I wanna hear more about what he has to say and boy was I more than right. I connect with this particular video very deeply. So thank you. Thank you for having a conversation about this. Thank you for giving out this value for free. Thank you for giving me a starting point Hafeez. Much love ❤
I think we have enough videos preaching on what to do , where are the actual facilities, actual groups , sacred spaces for a man to walk into physically , that's what's missing
Be the man to create that space
@@TroyBlyden you are right, will do brother
@@Lewieo ✊🏾💯
I needed to see this. Thank you.
We just want to be happy, and that is a wish that no one can offer.
On God, this part right here🏆🏆🏆
You guys have really changed my outlook on life, women, myself as a man and alot of lore things. I truly appreciate and are grateful that I found this channel a few days ago, it has already touched my life alot, I look at things in a totally different light. Thank you so much.
Dude I’m no homo and I never met you but I love you man.
Can you just say you love someone without it being sexual??
@@aidan9656 yeah man you’re right.
You don’t gotta say no homo bro 😂
The problem reach general modern society. However it's nice to make a special call to men. It's so important rn.
I was in a relationship with a man from this culture (I'm not American) and it developed terrible. Even ruined our friendship mostly because of these. And part of my fault too. I was in a super vulnerable part in my life than make me push hard to grow but he left me alone in that state. I was there for him when he was vulnerable without friends, and I'm sure he had a hard time with no much real friendship. I wanted to support him, but, instead I just hurt myself expecting for him to show up a little bit. He didnt. Instead, getting away and getting lost in videogames was his desition. I hope he can level up someday. His current path is so lonely. And society needs men participation to improve our future.
It's cool to have a source of distraction like videogames but it must not be a pillar in your life to disconnect, disassociate, and avoid your conflicts.
This is literal gold. All facts here.
Bruh :'(
I haven't had a friend for the last 8 years. And the friend I had was a deadbeat and that went on for 5 years. So in roughtly 13 years I have had no friend with energy, to compare to, toplift and be lifted by. I am one of those men Hafeez speaks about. Heartbroken, hermit, angry and bitter. I grew up with mom and dad, but I've learned 0 about being a man and that cost me a huge lot. I'm in therapy for like 5 years now and will stay for years to come. Man I'm broken.
Check out Richard Grannon. He covers Complex PTSD which is what we’ve all been going through
Wow dude I went through an intense period of isolation. I got hooked on drugs and was nearly at the point of death. I quit about 4 years ago but now I haven't been with a woman in 8 years. I used to sleep with so many girls. I was with 20 women by the time I was 22. But now I'm 32 after going through that depression period it stripped me fo may confidence. But now I've been push myself the past 4 years. I'm hitting the gym 4 days a week and going to work right after. I've noticed that women are taking an interest in me. But the sad thing is I have issues with trusting if there good women. I dont have a problem asking them out but I'm also in the process of rebooting my brain from a porn addiction. I've decided to talk to no girl until I'm done l. Does anyone think this us a wise decision?
I let a woman run my life and I starved for equal respect. It’s impossible to make that happen in a relationship where this woman expects respect from me but barley gives me respect. This video seems like it talks about a lot of my life. After this horrible experience with this woman, I’m on a mission to be the greatest man. Sometimes I don’t see it but I have to ignore that doubts because I’ll only end up failing, there’s a war within myself trying to keep me the same against trying to make me great.
I'm 14 and I'm glad I found this community!
I’m 13 but I’m also lucky I found this
Both of you finding this space early in life is important. Glad to see the youth tuning in!
16 for me
Congrats, y’all won the lottery at 13. Use the knowledge purposefully
@@renentouba982 yessir
I am in wholehearted agreement.
For many years, I was without purpose (undergraduate, graduate school, giving up on being a fighter pilot after 9/11, gave up on serving in the military after the Bush administration) but I finally found one. I’m in my second year of law school and interning with a judge.
I was betrayed multiple times (accused of sexual harassment by a fellow student, lying to superiors, was almost fired for my ability to do mental math) just in the professional realm alone. I even dealt with a devouring mother until she passed away from brain cancer, never seeing me succeed in her eyes. Additionally, I had to kiss many frogs before I found my “princess” who I made my queen and I have 3 great boys to love, laugh and grow with.
All this I did with almost no support. I have been struggling to find a mentor and deal with my accumulated trauma, but it is one of my life goals.
Hafeez, you’re absolutely right and I’m living proof of your theory
Heartbreak? That may be true but I see a lot of men blaming women for heartbreak when the woman left them for hurting her.
Hafeez is a global treasure!!!! Thanks
Lately, I've been putting in work in my personal live to be the best version of myself. I still have a long way to go, but like you say constantly, "Life is a marathon, not a sprint." My only problem right now is I'm trying to find motivation to keep going Deep down, I feel like I'm mostly doing this to get women instead of doing it for me. I'm glad I caught this early because I want to change this mentality that way I don't end of slacking once I do get a good quality woman or to end up being depressed if I don't get one. I want to do this for me. How do I change my mentality?
Got me all fired up to tackle my to do list today, thanks brother for the great words as always!
Thank you so much The Roommates, I needed it
I thought I was the only one alone like this. It drives you crazy
My friend you are very right! When the feminist movement got a hold of the woman's movement back in the day. It was not to empower women, it was ultimately to destroy manhood, to destroy the family unit. Thank you my brother much , respect, and Gods blessings
Preach
Thanks to videos like this one, I’ve actually wanted to live & felt motivated to build the kind of life I always wanted for myself.
You guys have taught me that life is a marathon that takes daily discipline & hard work that most won’t do but it’ll pay off if one does it.
Keep up the work on this channel ! It’s changing lives & it’s literally made me want to live & grow another day. Thank you for that. 🙏🏿
Absolutely right bro. I figured out my passion and purpose is writing. I wrote two novels and I can tell you I feel complete and when I'm just at work I can't wait to get off just to put the pen to paper again
Did you make it a habit to write every day? Or did you just write on certain days out the week
Each day if I'm not working on my book I'm either editing or reading to improve my craft.
@Wales Eakes nah that's not really the kinda writing I do unless it's through my characters
So much is put on men with no support, and no one thinks to teach women morals, loyalty, faithfulness, and respect.
Really appreciate your speech. Would like to see Darius M sharing thoughts with you on a podcast
I put a lot of the homies on to you and we def appreciate your voice💯
This is powerful content, It helps and is much appreciated
Love you guys. Even the most motivated of us need this. Was feeling down yesterday but today we back on that horse
Shoutout to you Adam💪🏽💪🏽
I hope God continue to Bless The Roommates Team. Continue to do the great work you'll are doing.
True, True, we need our Elders to step up. Great discussion. We need help now. Blessings
Your friends are a REFLECTION of where your life is HEADING!
No wonder i have been so unhappy at work. Ever since this new person started at my job, I have been getting less responsibilities and less work. I used to be so happy doing a lot of work and being busy all the time.
For me personally, the only thing I lack is the finances. Physically and emotionally I'm good but the career i chose hasn't produced the income i need. The prices of everything is rising but my paycheck isn't.
What is your career? What are you doing? 🥺❤️
Invest my guy.
For me, I just don’t know what to do in life. I have zero passion for anything
@@lifeismeaningless5512 same. and I had and still have so much potential. there’s just nothing I want to do anymore.
Finances is the easiest to fix bro. Being ugly is hard to fix. You will be fine my guy. Just grind more.
Have you thought of doing your course in the prisons? It would be amazing. The men in prisons need you.
Blessings
As a woman I really enjoyed this!!
I wish more women supported guys in their journey instead of just asking for stuff.
You are really speaking the truth. How do you know how to conduct yourself with no example?
When you mentioned about men being hurt and self-isolating, harboring anger......
On guidance older men used to teach the younger men things like.....
"There are women you marry and women you play with, know the difference."
This is different than the pandering and tolerance of disrespect. I've witnessed men choose women so they can feel "important." Women that don't match their achievement level, not even in the realm of what he has accomplished, classless, rude, unruly and undisciplined in conduct. These same women make scenes in public, disrespect them and they beg these women to allow them to provide for them. This is part of the problem that leads to heartbreak.
If you don't know your purpose and value as a man you'll allow this nonsense in your life. Part of feeling whole, man or woman, is feeling ok with where you are in life and the person in the mirror.
To counter your video game point, when I’m at work the most impactful event of the day is taking a dump on company time
😂😅🤣
One reason why most are lost is every other guy saying different things is good for you and end up scamming. Hard to trust anyone who preaches right.
I'm tapping out on American women. I am planning to build my wealth, set up my portfolio to retire at 60 living off interest, and maybe get me a wife from the Philipines. My career is going great, truly blessed. I will work out, enjoy a simple healthy lifestyle, play call of duty and Madden, but I literally see no reason to pursue women here in the states anymore.
The best thing about a woman from the philippines is that a good majority of them hold onto the traditional strong values of family , religion and hard work and never stray away from the old school principles. They are not complicated like the new generation of American women.
@@benjaminnixon5770 It's hard to compete with that!
There are American women with the values you want.....they just aren’t the ones you find physically attractive.
How old are you? I sure hope your not young and throwing in the towel already.
Excellent video brotha! as an older man I see it all the time. I grew up with nothing but sisters and arguing with them all the time, them trying to be a boss. It was good training for dealin with women later in life. You must stand your ground and never take down! Be mannish like you are meant to be.
Why is it society’s responsibility to give a man purpose? Everyone is responsible for their own healing and understanding themselves. If they want different, they’ll go get it.
You're reading too much into the word man- he's referring to young teen age 'men' who are lost after puberty because there are no good male role models in the house. Who then grow into these types of adults. It takes a village but if the village is a coven well that male child is going to pick up off that coven energy and become overly feminine.
@@T0MAND3RSON well said
Yeah women deal with heartbreaks and we go to therapy and grow from it. If you choose not to heal don’t expect to women to deal with that baggage
You put a lot of my pain into words. It's hard not to be angry and bitter about how the world has treated me.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." -Krishnamurti
You're so good and so right. Im so sorry this has happened to our young men. So sorry.
Decadence of human society happened with unchecked feminism and self entitled young women lacking credibility/accountability for their actions.
@@zephyr2792 Who told the young women to behave this way? They didn't all one day, collectively, wake up and become this way. So who told them how to behave? Hollywood ( Beyonce and Kardashians) and the main stream media who "shame women" who want to be mothers and wives because those women are frequently conservatives. Hollywood and the main stream media and the music industry have manipulated our young women to look and act look hookers and entitled spoiled brats who think men "owe them something". I don't see anyone standing up and speaking out against Hollywood, main stream media and the music industry for telling our young girls as early as 10 yrs. old to look, act and dress like hookers, while simultaneously shaming the women who want to be feminine, ( often conservatives) and now days, they recruit other women via the media and Hollywood to even cancelled any woman who wants or believes there are differences between men and women. In todays media, if someone wants to be feminine they are trashed, publicly and made fun of and laughed at. In fact, when men love Beyonce and all the other "role models" that are thrown in our young women's faces and then they want to be like her so they look and act like a sleezy woman because thats what they have been taught. the entertainment industry and main stream media TOLD these young women for years that this is what being a "real woman" looks like and that being a wife and mother is a horrible thing. This is a tragedy, but until men stand up to Hollywood, main stream media and start HELPING these manipulated young women, encouraging them to take back their femininity it will only get worse. Good men will have no good women to choose from. Write to people like Beyonce and and Christine Aguilera. Those who have sold this lie to society and tell them how much they have contributed to corrupting our young woman's minds and taught them to behave this way. Until you stand up against them, things wont change. If you like and admire these king of women yourselves, don't expect young women to act any different than them. They will conform as society has programmed to them conform.
@@alleytee118 I agree with you wholeheartedly and never really payed attention to mainstream Hollywood propaganda. Wish there were more woke women like you out there.
My wife cheated on me and left me as I was facing back surgery with a possibility of being a cripple and was unable to work for a bit. Cheated on me with a "friend" and left me for him. Destroyed, I started to abuse my pain meds. Got them taken away by the doctor, and turned to heroin. Christ found me, reached down into the void I was in, and took a hold of me. Clean now for 4 years, and currently training at a seminary to be a minister. Still looking for that woman to marry, but stopped feeling sorry for myself.
I met a pastor that God used who was a retired marine. Housed me when I was fixing to go homeless after a stint at a hospital-run rehab, bent over backward to help me but didn't take any of my bullshit, and expected me to act like a grown-ass man and stop feeling sorry for myself. He expected me to pick myself up, to put that damn needle down. He taught me self-respect and self-control, things I never learned from my father, who is a good man but absent in all the places that mattered. God used that pastor, sent that brother to help me, proved the godly and manly model I always wanted but never knew I needed, and beat my ass when I needed it (proverbially). He also told me similar to what you said... If you treat a man as a boy and expect nothing of him, he will act like a boy. If you treat him as a man and expect him to be a man, he will step up. A man will be whatever expectations that have been set in front of him.
Demand virtue of yourself and seek and embrace responsibility. Find God. Learn to carry your cross.
Speak on it Hafeez. It’s our destiny as men to level up. S/o the roomates, Jordan B. Peterson, and Tony Evan’s. If you haven’t heard of Tony check out his book Kingdom Man. These guys message are aligned right along with his book.
Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews is another good channel.
Good job Hafeez you put a lot into this. Great job 👏🏽
Dead on about the leadership. In fact, I see a huge lack of leadership overall in our society. I don't consider myself a super intelligent guy, but I find myself taking the reigns and speaking out on lots of subjects because nobody else is. Even at my job, I try to advise my boss because I think I might care about the business more than him. Also, don't idolize sports stars, singers, or politicians. These people are not grounded in reality.
You're so dead on about sports stars, recording artists, and politicians not being grounded in reality. It's foolish how as a society we hold them in such high regard.
You don’t need women to be happy. Just be happy yourself and create meaning for yourself.
Call of Duty is just getting "toxic" young men ready for the Gulag. 🚫🧢
'A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgement' proverbs 18:1
What is cheating again? Is it when one of the other doesn't give up or submit and when they are vulnerable are easily attainable. Right that's somewhat correct
This is awesome bro we need more nd more of this..your spot on
Thank you so much for what you are doing! I have my 15 year old listen to your show and I really feel she is learning IMPORTANT life lessons. These are things that aren't taught in school and honestly, this is much more useful than trigonometry. Your advice applies to all races, genders and ages. Thank you thank you thank you!!!
It amazes me how the single mom is blamed for not teaching the young man to be a man. As opposed to the abandoning father. Even if the father had stayed the mom is in no position to teach a man to be a man. So why not highlight the fathers failure as opposed to pretending like it’s a woman’s failure? Weird.
I love you Hafeez😍😍😍I’m a sapiosexual so listening to him speak just captures me!!!!
Wtf is a sapiosexual?
@@Painandgain943 money
@@Painandgain943 someone who's attracted to intelligence
Cringe🥴
Just finished ''Man In Search Of Meaning''. I recommend it to all who feel lost or lacking purpose.
I'm about to be 50 and have no clue what my purpose is