I Was Sexually Abused By My Uncle | Surviving Generational Trauma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- Today on Unfiltered Stories, our guest is Katey Weaver. Katey was sexually abused by her uncle between the ages of 5 to 11. She states that her uncle who abused her was somebody that was also abused by their sister - her aunt- so her family history and generational trauma plays a huge role in her story. Her story of getting over the abuse, expressing it and sharing her experience even though her family denying sets an inspirational example of courage for a lot survivors.
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THEY ARE NOT INSPIRING inspiring means ''giving some one positive or creative thoughts''.
My uncle did to me as well .. my family blamed me.. a 8 yrs old😔 My life is basically ruined from all the trauma. I just live day by day..😞
I highly recommend a documentary called
"The Reality of Truth"
May you find your way to healing ❤❤❤
Aho🌿🌵🌱❤
Same here. I was SA by my cousin at 8. This occurred three times up until I was 10. Once I reported it, my family blamed me; called me a liar and sided with him. I am now 22 coping with everything from my childhood. I’m sorry you went through this. No one deserves to experience what we’ve gone through.
@Audrey Renee` I'm sorry hon for what you have been through. We are strong and we will get through this. I hope they rot in hell!
@@audreyrenee I hope you live far away from that monster and your family 😭💕
I suggest you cut all ties with your family and move somewhere far away. Basically dissappear and make it clear to them not to contact you ever. Start a new life. Maybe even change your name
I was born to be sexually abused. Generational. My Mum was killed as she was not compliant. Gloria Masters podcast Handing the shame back is similar to my story. Thank you for sharing your truths. Well done to protect your daughter from these generational peadophiles and their supporters. So sorry for all the damage these monsters inflicted on you.
Thank you for sharing yours!
May you find peace in your heart and mind! ❤❤❤
Sending love from the universe through my heart to yours!
You should share your story and help spread the awareness
@@1234GIRROX Gloria Masters has a podcast Handing the shame back, her story is very close to mine. We are both from New Zealand. I am still doing councilling as so much more is still to come out. Like getting pieces over years of a jig saw puzzle but not having all of them. Want so much to have the full picture. Like Mary Knight needing to get more memories and proof. Thank you Alyssa for your message.
Thank you so much for sharing that, so important for everyone to know how severe and organized familial abuse can get. To the points of things like; trafficking and criminal operations, murder and sacrifice, forced childbearing, mind control, satanic ritual abuse..
You’re an amazing woman and mother for protecting your daughter and ending the cycle. All the best to you
Very true, she broke the cycle.
My mom's oldest brother did this to me when I was 5 yrs old til I was 14... Am 57 and at my cousin's son funeral i told my aunt his wife. I had promised my mom I would not say anything till she died, Feb. 2021 was when she died. I now have disassociated myself from both sides of the family... I feel disrespected by them for not believing me or just keeping quiet... Am done with all of them. PTSD is all me
What is the sense of waiting for someone to die before you tell your story. That makes no sense. But everyone waits!!!
Your mom failed you.
Sweet home Alabama
But did he get you pregnant?
9 years damn
@@MariaHernandez-jd2biyea ur right
Hahaha! It's all your fault for flirting.
Mom's family is "Maternal". Its so good to hear about mom's who take action. Its especially good to hear your mom chose to break generational traumas. Now you're a better mom and your daughter hopefully follows suit.
She said that. And that’s why she emphasized “paternal” when talking about her dad’s side of the family
Grandma enabled EVERYTHING! It is unbelievable!! And then to let the minor girl live in the basement! The dysfunction is UNREAL.
I would "Date" the Grandma just to get access to Katey.
It’s sad that most of this stuff happens in families most strangers are safer than our own families.
And that's why the uncle could be a predator.
@@Kirstenmarshall predators don't ask for permission. you're describing an attack dog.
What are you talking about? @@eotikurac
I know I could never ever forgive the people who sexually abused me what they did to me has destroyed me in many ways
Who was it
@@Star3marie304 I was sexually abused by a family friend of my mothers and by a doctor when I was 4 to 5 years old
My uncle did this to me he was sent. To prison for it I was 6 years old now I’m 12 I still remember it! 😢it was horrible he did this to me and to my cousin! He is gonna stay in prison forever! He was 31!!!
Now stay away from adults because you are still young
Say yes to get therapy, it will help you in the long run. You need to process, talk about it.
I know how to stay away from adults bc I don’t know why people sexualising me now I’m 12 and I know how to stay away from them
So sad to see so many people in the comments also sharing their abuse. My heart brakes for all you ladies.
Im terrify to have a daughter, you can’t trust your kid with no one.
Be careful. If your heart brakes, it may stop. If it just breaks, that is much less serious.
Is your bday sept 9 93? Mine is lol just wondering because of your numbers in your name lol
When she said heal as loud as u were hurt. That was amazing . Tears .. actual tears
Omg❤
Absolutely 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 What a profound statement!!
I'm so sorry this happened to you, Katey. Betrayed by the only people in the world who were supposed to be protecting you unconditionally and trying to make sense of it as a child. As adults, we say "get out and make yourself a new family of people you can trust" but a 5 year old just asks "Why me? What did I do?" while others just think this is normal. I'm glad the actual molestation is behind you but eternal years of healing will always be in front of you. When I woke up and realised what was going on, I said "Everything that happened can't be changed from from today on, I'm going to make sure it never happens again."
Families can be such trash. My mom kept me from family, and I learned about the levels of incest that happened in my family when I became an adult. Please continue to heal 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Katey. Yes , you are absolutely correct. Freeing yourself both emotionally and physically from those who have "hurt " you sexually, emotionally and psychologically is the best thing that you can do to HEAL YOURSELF! You should not feel bad for taking ownership of YOUR FEELINGS , HEALTH, and WELFARE. Good for you and good for those of us who have overcome.
Oh my gosh...thank you for this. I went through a VERY similar situation and still struggle. Thank you for being brave and sharing. I get triggered from some of these stories but I NEED to hear them.
I'm so sorry to hear about this cause this sucks so bad I to have been abused by a paternal side of my family. I'm still learning to let the world know what happened cause it's not easy.
Paternal = Father's side
Maternal = Mother's side.
Hope you find healing and peace.
I was full of anxiety. I know the difference, how embarrassing of me 😂 thank you for supporting me.
@@Madein0hio Beautiful lady... blessings! 🌸
@@Madein0hio ❤
@Madein0hio I was so confused when she got it wrong lol
"Put Yourself First" Very wise woman.💗
Me too. My step-dads brother molested me several times that I remember. I was 5 he was 26. When I finally told someone at 10 years old, nothing was done. I was told the statute of limitations was over. I was expected to eat dinner with him included on Sundays. I went to my room & slammed the door. If this is you too, drop the shame. It was NEVER yours to carry.
scary stuff and the trauma stay with you it a scar of a lifetime i am praying for you i know how that is ii was sexually abuse by a neighbor and the scar doesnt go away you could educate others but just remember it can happen to boys too sexual abuse can happen to both boys and girls
Yes both boys and girls can be abused
Good on you for breaking that generational curse. Always protect your daughter and make sure you have a living will so none of them can have her in case of an accident.
My Granddaddy molested ALL OF US. Im the only one that got angry. The family kept him around. The family...my Mom and aunts and pretty sure my uncle. Tore us apart. 😢😢
God Bless you Miss Katey ❤
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I have been sexually abused at age six and again at age 13 by two men in my family. I am 63 yrs old today, and I still live the pain today 😢💔
So sorry that happened to you.
Wow sorry about this 😢
WHY? its over. get on with your life
My uncle and my brother changed my life forever. I was only a child and had my whole life ahead... Now I'm consumed every day by what happened to me.
Is your brother a victim of CSA?
I love how you say how you left your family when you realized your family would never respect your boundaries. Words to live by.
All My Love to you!! You are amazing and so Brave. ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing your story. Helps me to become more brave as well.
This is soooo common in OH and PA. I ran away from PA because they will make you crazy with all their BS. The longer I've been out of that hellscape the more memories come back but at least I have someone protecting me now, for the first time in my life.
it's sort of common everywhere. you just think it's common where you're from because that's where you have lived.
So she has the nerve to tell your mom if she watched you...while her son, whom is in prison for something else, is molesting her granddaughter... THE AUDACITY!!
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope that you will find a way to heal from the trauma 🙏
good for you for protecting the only family in your life that matters your daughter's very lucky to have you as a mom
Wow what an amazing young mum so sorry for what you went through, good job you are now a strong young women who will will protect your own, and help so many victims of evil preditors and their evil protectors
You are incredibly brave to give voice to this. If the grandparents had put a stop to this and had honest conversations with everyone it might have prevented so much damage. Especially because the offender was a minor, his life might have been able to salvage. You are so wonderful to face this terrible stuff straight on.
I was abused by several people in my youth as well, please know that who you were then is NOT who you are now. Don’t let the past define you in a negative way. You are a beautiful person and deserve to have a beautiful life. Who ever reads this, this message is for you. You have control now. Peace and love to you. ❤
I've been watching these videos to know what to look out for since I have a daughter as well. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Can I babysit her?
I personally feel familiar, generational abuses, SA can be the worst to deal with. The Bond is broken between all the family members; there’s no one to trust. I want, the very best in your healing journey….
The same reason I don’t trust anyone with my 4yrs old daughter 😢sorry this happens to you.
I feel so trapped sometimes after what I've been through.
I’m sorry ❤
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Trauma can do that, unprocessed trauma keeps the pain we’ve been through alive in our bodies. Recovery is hard.
Me too. You're not alone
There are things I didn't even know I buried away. Thank you again for this video. I thought I fought everything but I guess I didn't. These videos are helping me be brave and stronger.
Wow, this could've been me talking as I have a similar story: teenaged uncle molested me at age 5, was a secret for years, when it finally came out nobody did anything, he was never made accountable in any way shape or form, even though everyone believed me.
This is because the generational passing down of SA was so prevalent in all my female relatives, my age and older, that nobody, not even the men, had any clue how to address it or acknowledge it, much less prevent it from happening again. It was just one of those bad things that happened to girls, and you just moved on.
I'm fairly certain that my uncle was SA'd by someone else as a young boy. I don't think that absolves him, a 15 yr old who should've known better, but it makes me sort of blase about the whole thing. Hurt people hurt people, so who is ultimately to blame, and what can you do about it now anyway?
I did what Katey did and vowed to break the cycle. Family, especially in-laws with no experience or frame of reference for family molestation, think I'm paranoid and over-vigilant with my child. But f*ck that, at least I do what I can to protect my kid. All that experience being SA'd, and watching other female relatives live with the trauma of family SA, I learned many lessons on how it might be avoided or detected.
Stay vigilant sisters. Much love and support to all who shared similar stories!
Taking your little girl away from those people(trust that I know from my own experience how hard that was) is the best thing for both of you. Hold your children close and make sure they always know that they can trust you.
Strength to you Katie 💜
SO happy to see you and your husband and lovely family. Despite all that, you say, “heal as loud as you hurt”
Woman, You WON! 💜
Yup also an uncle survivor…
You are AMAZING!!!!!INSPIRING BEYOND!! Thank you so so so much for sharing your story! I want you to know it has helped me in more ways than one!! You and so many others out there give me hope and strength I never knew I had. Thank you and take care my dear❤️💙💜
You’re very strong, and I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that. You are worthy and have a beautiful soul. God bless you!
This happened to me as well from my Uncle in a Lake while Swimming Years ago , I definitely said something about it and Nobody did anything about it Nor Believed me either 😮😮😢😢
To this very day I have trust issues 😮😢
Grandma allowed it? She had the chance to correct it and she is just as bad as her uncle..
You are so brave to tell your story. Thank you for sharing.
Why are we censoring “Wellbutrin” and “antidepressants”?
We hear you Katey!! Your story is heard here🙂
I can only imagine how difficult this must've been to get out your entire story in such a short period of time.
I am glad that you have broken the generational curse.
That circle of abuse is infectious to families.
I hope you are doing great !!! 😃
Wow what a really sick family, that grandma should have been charged too
This, unfortunately, is extremely common. My uncle molested my sister, and I believe he was molested by my great grandfather. I never knew, because they always got along well as I grew up, and even know he’s closer to her than her other siblings. I think she forgave him, because again… I never knew. When I found out, I was stunned, and a little grossed out because he’d been my favorite uncle. Now I still love him, and I try to think about my mom forgiving him, but that thought is always in the back of my head.
if it's common, why is it wrong?
Your experience mirrors mine in so many ways. So many families protect the abuser rather than the victim
Your Grandmother gaslighted your mother!
I'm so sorry for what you went through.
You are a survivor of horrific abuse and such a strong woman a beautiful mother and wife. God bless youx
Special things will come your way.... You and your daughter's happiness are coming to your life
You are a strong young lady. Thank you for helping other women. Those Monsters need to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. And if you had been MY child, brother or not HE would've been a dead man and I'd probably be in jail. But I would know that you were safe. That "Grandmother and Mother should never have had children. Kudos to you girl, I'm glad you have been able to move forward after that and you protected your children.
I'm so sorry, sending a lot of love abd healing your way ❤
I grew up in Mansfield also and I was also SA'd by my 15-16 yr old uncle! I pray many blessings for you ❤
@justcallmeshuga sis idk they just messed up in the head horny teenagers that would rather prey on their nieces rather than get a girlfriend 😑
Fathers, Grandfathers, Uncles, Brothers and then there always seem to me the friend and or the neighbor man..Insane how many infant, toddler and children are sexually abuse ..We must tell teach all our children immediately about inappropriate touch and even about the threats someone may use for silencing. And we also need to talk to the boys immediately ( early as can ) how that behavior is violence
I'm afraid this happened to my daughter when she was very young, by her paternal grandfather or uncle. I left and moved 1500 miles away to raise her alone because I could feel something wasn't right. I've asked her if anyone ever did something like that to her and she says no but not knowing for sure kills me.
Thank you for sharing your story Katey. 💕
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
I live right nere Mansfield ohio, in Galion . I thank you for sharing. I am So sorry that you went through this in your life. I am so glad you keep your children away from your family. I am praying for you.
Am so sorry this happened to you. I believe you and respect u highly. ❤
Izzy was a gift to you from God above❤❤❤❤❤
If he is on your mother's side that is a maternal uncle
Almost 100% my story. HELL has open arms to welcome him. Some things only GOD can forgive.
THANK YOU ❤🙏❤
It happened to me at 4 or 5 and throughout Elementary school in Catholic Parish. What have you suffered and what tips do you have to share with others for survival? My wealthy sister, 13 years older, told me, "Get over it".
Cry out to Jesus pour all the hurt & pain to Him. He will open doors to your healing ❤
You are a beautiful woman, with a beautiful Family. I wish you all the best, health and happiness.
Some ppl are not Gods children and they do take advantage of others on any ways possible.
God bless you and your Family ♥️
Duuude this girl is a badass! Her strength is beyond words. ❤️❤️❤️
girls can't be badass. stop the nonsense
EVEN AFTER THE ABUSE YOUR MOM MADE YOU GO BACK THERE , EVEN THOUGH SHE BELIEVED YOU . ?? I CANNOT UNDERSTAND THIS STORY .
I'm so sorry you had to go through this 😢
I'm happy that you're good now never give up and never let a trauma like that to defeat you! You are better and this video and the fact that you shared this are the prove that you are strong to continue! Fight back! I believe in you!
Typical mayonnaise eater behavior. They all cover it up and point at other people and call us less than.
Don’t say that! This shit happens in black families too dummy! I have two cousins who were victims of this. It’s not funny!
@@Storm-iw7sm thanks for calling me out! I apologize for being insensitive. I hope your cousins find the healing they need.
Tf is wrong w you🤨
@@kevinruger8819 thank you for taking accountability. That was encouraging to see. Sadly this happens in all cultures and to all races. We are all human.
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I love your loudness!!! Thank you for being brave.
My uncle raped me from age 2 till age 10.. my family knew he was suspected of molesting his own grandchildren, & I will say my mom had social services come in with the dolls & stuff asking if I was touched here or there, but I was groomed so well, I lied.. but when I was 10, my grandpa who basically raised me part time ( just like her I lived 2 house from my grandparents & just like her, they raised me half the time) was sick w/ cancer, & this disgusting jackass was trying to rape me while my granddad was in coughing spasms in the living room, I said my Pop needs me & ran out of the house to my moms house & broke down & told her everything.
I'm sorry that happened to you
@@bensmith8957 Thank you... I appreciate your kindness
This is so sad for sweet little girls to be taken advantage by unk step dogs so sad 🤲🤲🤲🤲😕😕💔💔💔💔 I'm so proud of you Kate kudos to you
these testimonials are so important, but you guys bleep so many words - "alcoholic", "sex", "antidepressants" - it materially erodes the intelligibility of the account. Not only that, it's a slight to your guests, who have in many cases struggled to overcome taboos to tell their stories.
I can relate to Katie where she’s coming from, I have cptsd and depression diagnosed with one. Long story short I sadly didn’t got my justice, I don’t trust anyone that much too especially men cause of what happen to me. It’s sad it’s your own blood take the monster’s side and associate with them too
She's so strong and brave I hope she truly heals and forgives . Forgiveness is powerful and brings healing. Hopefully she comes to know God
Just learned my husbands nephew who is 22 now, back when he was 16/17 SA’d his little 11 year old male cousin & his 12 year old younger sister. He rents a room in our house but I only found out about it a few weeks ago. He denied it until there was proof. Then he told partial truths, to make it seem not so bad - ITS BAD ANY WAY U CUT IT!! The sister said he would want to play “house” where’s she’s the mom and he’s the dad. These are SICK PEOPLE!
Now, to our knowledge, and according to him - his older cousin female cousin would pretend to be his gf (he was 14-15. She was 16/17 - although I feel they were closer in age, it still wasn’t ok and any sexual behavior within families isn’t ok either).
Not sure I believed him completely about her either, but it’s possible.
Then, my husband is a sex addict who tongued down his cousin on more than 1 occasion as a teen & as an adult, she’s 11 yrs younger than him. He was SA’d by a lot of different men as a young 6 year old boy through his adolescence. His father SA’d his own daughter. IT IS GENERATIONAL TRAUMA!!! Something has to give you guys. This is so damn prevalent anymore it’s the most helpless feeling ever!! 😢
No father figure
As a sexual abuse survivor myself, I have NOTHING but respect for Katey Weaver for her courage in exposing the evil that she experienced!
God bless you. Truly you have triumphed over evil circumstances.
thanks for sharing, you are amazing, I have put my foot down on family that is toxic and perverted. I appreciate your honesty and congrats on your children and family
You are perfect.. thanks for sharing and please know your voice is needed❤
She is so beautiful! I love her eye makeup! I want to be friends with her! I think we may have a lot it common. ❤
Did she say her Mother abuse her uncle within the generational trauma?
I was asking the same question??
I was there .... 😢😢may the Lord Jesus heal you as He did me.🙌🙌
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Hello how are you doing?
When my mom died I was raised by my aunt and her husband (uncle in law). He sexually assaulted my sister and I and our family disowned us so we got him charged and they lost their house to pay for legal fees. Now they are separated and my aunt says it's a bunch of bullshit and that she holds her head up high.
You are strong for sharing your story. I have a little one at home and I could not even imagine what you have gone threw or are still going threw. You are anxious and strong thank your sharing.
Babygirl it’s maternal if he’s your mothers brother…hope your healing journey is going good
Her instagram and tiktok couldn't be found.. Hope she's fine
Good for you for seeing the signs to run and running! Great job Mama!
I'm so sorry all this happened to you, God Bless you & bring you Peace ❤
That thing with the ring is wild. I'm glad you broke away from them, and hopefully that ring will be lost and never be seen again.
When i was kid my uncle was always grabbing me in not a nice way i was scared and didint say anything when i got older every time he came to visit i went out
You go girl! So brave and inspirational ❤️❤️
I’m sorry you went through this
You are so strong and have been a great mom
Good for you