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It’s because you created a chase, and unrequited affection or love is one of the most painful things somebody could feel; so if they didn’t feel that from you they probably worked even harder to try to win you over.
I think it’s a mix of the comments made, plus you’re 100% yourself and not trying to “be” anyone for that person. You’re not trying to impress them or waiting around for them or seeking validation or any of that toxic shit society taught us. You’re just you.
Hopefully he’s just being funny. He should be smart enough to know that’s bullshit will not work with us. He’s getting as much out of his channel as we are. I can tell he loves what he does. He’s not the only one on TH-cam making relationship videos.
@@xan8185time allows them to build respect for you and drop some of their fantasy thinking which means they can see you as a person rather than a pump and dump trophy.
Not at all! Thats how my husband and I started we were Bestfriends for 4 months then we fell in love! Happily married now over a decade! @@sagalfarhan3999
I was heartbroken over someone who didn't want same with me or me in his life. I couldn't find peace in anywhere, from anyone, no matter who I was talking to or which videos on it I listened to. You helped me more than anyone with your knowledge and authenticity. Fuck this man. Thank you!
Thank you for warning me about men like you who play with women's emotions. If a man ignores me for a day or two and then surprises me with a gift, and is doing so in order to elicit emotions from me... Why would I want to fuck around with a dude like that? I'm not a little girl. I have shit going on. And I don't have time for stupid little boy games. I mean, I totally get it.. The art of building tension. And I totally get it, don't be smothering and anxious and needy... But if you're a healthy individual, or you aiming to be healthy in your interactions and are practicing self-awareness.... games or not necessary. Playing with people's emotions in order to elicit the emotion that you want from them, is only going to work for so long. Especially if you are dating a woman who is really self aware and mature... Some of us have secure attachment styles. And some of us are doing amazing things on the planet that require a partner who is going to step up to the plate instead of playing little boy games. So thank you for warning me about little boys who think that they can play with women's emotions... because that kind of game won't last for long. Unless you're just looking to play the field for the rest of your life
I love that you said you're happy right now so you don't need to chase a woman... that's where I really want to be! (That I don't need a man's attention because I'm happy on my own 🙂)
Men fall in love when I create distant mystery, confusion,and a chase= seduction , once I discard them they always try to come back or hard to get rid of them.. the fall in love within 90 days of attachment ..this don’t don’t apply to everyone
@@coffeedates3857 Thanks no books but iam on Quora giving out advice to ppl all over the world.. in different subjects and topics iam under Gemini moon I have over 1 million views
I don’t think too highly of u. I think very highly of my toxic dating coach! U help me so much ❤️ - the nice girl who used to get taken advantage of a whole lot more !
It also sounds like the reason people cheat. Instead of confiding and talking with your partner they would rather be vulnerable with someone else because it’s easier.
Damn tht ego shit is incredibly real If you are a fetish to them they can project the feelings of their fetish onto you. It's crazy I've been on both ends of tht Good shit Alex the psychology is on point
When talking to people who have long term healthy relationships which are few and far between, they've all said the falling in love part was instantaneous. Go figure 🤔
I think that falling in love part is lust and those excited butterfly feelings. Real love is actually the boring kind where you are deeply comfortable and have to work hard to commit and sacrifice and keep the fire burning with mutual respect and loads of communication
Not all the time sometimes all the people that you see that looks like your ex is because that ex is trying to send a telepathic message because s/he is the one that misses you when you're really trying to avoid them.
This mentality will have you hoping for something that isn’t real. People are with people when they want to be with them. If someone is not with you it’s because they’re not into you
I like how you say look at their ex see if they look like you.... But maybe you don't look like them but your personality reminds them of their ex. I know because i liked a guy who reminded me of my ex personality. He did not look like my ex at all.
Then there's also the off chance that one runs into their twin flame and the souls recognise each other and a man falls in love because his soul isn't leaving it up to choice.
Same😂 Actually the only times they even showed some interest (which doesn’t equate with love, can’t know what they actually felt) was by few whom i’d never like because of some serious dealbreaker. It’s like some funny joke of life. But otherwise men don’t love me, even ‘low quality’ guys and losers. I’m not even ugly. But they’d tell me about perfect girls whom it hurts to lose 10 years ago while leading me on, using me for attention and expecting to wait on them for 10 years when they may like me or not. Wish i felt appreciated for my own self, like i was special and perfect for someone too. Fed up with unrequited feelings and being an old maid.
Can you make a video about how to drive away creepy men in the work place or school? I somehow keep being in situations where a teacher or boss/manager is acting selectively super inappropriate and strange toward me and it makes me feel nauseous even when I’m at home away from these places. I don’t want jeopardize my good grades or a job that could go on my resume by lashing out but I want to make it very clear that I’m disgusted and uncomfortable by their behavior
I’m over 3 years in and my man has still not told me he loves me. I’d say he shows it a lot. But if I would have heard after 3 months that’s all He has to offer…….I would have saved myself a lot of pain.
@@ashajeremiahqw8775 Shortly after this I left. What I didn’t state was his constant physical and emotional abuse. it took over three years to get out and took extremes to make it happen. Noticed the red flags early don’t expect people change or grow. I’m not saying they don’t. I’m just saying this mindset will keep you in bad situations.
I think he means that’s one way a connection could potentially develop, definitely don’t have sex unless you want to and not because you want to keep anyone interested!💕
You have to pick a guy who only wants 1 person forever, don't waste your energy only someone who constantly changes s e x partners because why waste energy on someone who will waste your energy because he is not qualified for faithful forever comitment. Person who sleeps with a whole town is a waste of energy in a first place.
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It seems like the men who fell for me the hardest was due to me not liking them at all ..strangest thing
It’s because you created a chase, and unrequited affection or love is one of the most painful things somebody could feel; so if they didn’t feel that from you they probably worked even harder to try to win you over.
Because men fall in love through the stress hormones I forget it's name
I think it’s a mix of the comments made, plus you’re 100% yourself and not trying to “be” anyone for that person. You’re not trying to impress them or waiting around for them or seeking validation or any of that toxic shit society taught us. You’re just you.
Trueee
increased scarcity equals increased value
I’ve noticed when men fall in love with me it’s always when I set clear boundaries, expectations and when I need them to do help me 🤷🏻♀️
🥴🥴it’s usually when act crazy
I'm backwards lmao when I act like a b**** they fall in love lmfao 🤣
True😊
This just goes to show that falling in love comes in so many different forms, something we cannot control so just embrace it and follow it
I love when he threatens us to close the channel 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂
Hopefully he’s just being funny. He should be smart enough to know that’s bullshit will not work with us. He’s getting as much out of his channel as we are. I can tell he loves what he does. He’s not the only one on TH-cam making relationship videos.
@@LonjeMarie7he’s clearly joking. chill tf out
😂strategic
I don’t lol
TIME!!! Men fall in love with time. Be friends with a guy and see what happens over time.
How much time lol
@@xan8185 nah don’t do that that’s stupid lol
@@xan8185time allows them to build respect for you and drop some of their fantasy thinking which means they can see you as a person rather than a pump and dump trophy.
@@steph6109Bingo!
Not at all! Thats how my husband and I started we were Bestfriends for 4 months then we fell in love! Happily married now over a decade! @@sagalfarhan3999
If people fall in love through games it’s ego love not real and won’t last trust me. Real love is steady and healthy. Save up for that steady and sure
Amen
I honestly believe it could be both but I could be wrong
You may not be as pure as the driven snow, but you tell us what we need to know about men that men will never tell us! Thank you!
I was heartbroken over someone who didn't want same with me or me in his life. I couldn't find peace in anywhere, from anyone, no matter who I was talking to or which videos on it I listened to. You helped me more than anyone with your knowledge and authenticity. Fuck this man. Thank you!
I can’t find peace anywhere either. Why he consciously fucked over someone like me, who is ill and isolated
@@amnbvcxz8650Because you're ill and isolated, you're an easy target. Too easy.
Kanye going out with Kim look -alikes. Projection at its finest
Right!!!
thats very true!!
Omg!!! My mind went straight there
Breezyyyy
My goal in life is to enjoy it as much as possible with someone who wants to have kids and treats me with respect and love and kindness.
Thank you for warning me about men like you who play with women's emotions.
If a man ignores me for a day or two and then surprises me with a gift, and is doing so in order to elicit emotions from me...
Why would I want to fuck around with a dude like that?
I'm not a little girl. I have shit going on. And I don't have time for stupid little boy games.
I mean, I totally get it..
The art of building tension.
And I totally get it, don't be smothering and anxious and needy...
But if you're a healthy individual, or you aiming to be healthy in your interactions and are practicing self-awareness.... games or not necessary.
Playing with people's emotions in order to elicit the emotion that you want from them, is only going to work for so long. Especially if you are dating a woman who is really self aware and mature...
Some of us have secure attachment styles. And some of us are doing amazing things on the planet that require a partner who is going to step up to the plate instead of playing little boy games.
So thank you for warning me about little boys who think that they can play with women's emotions... because that kind of game won't last for long.
Unless you're just looking to play the field for the rest of your life
I love that you said you're happy right now so you don't need to chase a woman... that's where I really want to be! (That I don't need a man's attention because I'm happy on my own 🙂)
Men fall in love when I create distant mystery, confusion,and a chase= seduction , once I discard them they always try to come back or hard to get rid of them.. the fall in love within 90 days of attachment ..this don’t don’t apply to everyone
You sound like u could write a book 📖
@@coffeedates3857Your username gave me a rash
It didn't work for me. He don't give a shit😢
@@coffeedates3857 Thanks no books but iam on Quora giving out advice to ppl all over the world.. in different subjects and topics iam under Gemini moon I have over 1 million views
@@3arhodes sorry just move on to the next
A resounding "yes", Alex. The man with whom I feel deeply, deeply in love with reminds me of my best friend of my entire life. He died when I was 17.
It’s a choice. That’s it, most people the minute they see you have already made up their minds
What do you mean by that?
Love is a choice but Alex is talking about trauma bonding and hormonal Regulation dependency. That is completely subconscious.
@@steph6109It is still a choice how you REACT to it.
Amen very true
I don’t want no men to love me like this 😩 is insane
“Calm down, let’s lower the expectations for me” 😆 ❤️
Be willing to walk away no matter wtf is going on.....
Couldnt two people fall in love just through chemistry and connection? If you both enhance each others lives ❤
Doesn’t happen when men are so flickery, have attention spans of a goldfish, and so many false options nowadays with garnering attention.
Yes! That's how it's supposed to be..wish this innocence would return to earth!
@@jenaya_laila2442Haha! Innocence return to earth? It never was innocent.
Nope
Yes!
I don’t think too highly of u. I think very highly of my toxic dating coach! U help me so much ❤️ - the nice girl who used to get taken advantage of a whole lot more !
"I'm the toxic dating coach, lower your expectations!"😂😂😂
I think it’s okay to help someone and not expect anything, I think expecting someone thing is the first mistake for any option
"I'm the Toxic Dating Coach. Let's lower the expectations." Lololol
If there is no mental connection ain't no love PERIOD...I can't fall in love with death mute...🤦♀️🤦
The channel should be called toxic dating coach 🤣 this video is so funny
Binge watching ! I like the no bs approached. May God bless you with 10,000 more subscribers
“Babies are needy AF” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why don’t they just fall in love normal way 😂
Hahaha, true :))
Same question I asked myself 😂
You may not fall in love in a normal way too. We all like the thrill, the excitement
What's the "normal" way?
Falling isn't normal. It never was, it never will be.
It's why I always adopt the same breed of dog.
It also sounds like the reason people cheat. Instead of confiding and talking with your partner they would rather be vulnerable with someone else because it’s easier.
You can tell you happy Alex your skin glowing
I love you for talking about these thing so straightforward!!
When you said “when you kidnap a dog from their mama they will love you”😭
I recently found your channel and I had purchased one of your course in Spanish and omg your are so funny in Spanish 😂 love it 💕
"I'm not Mark Rosenfeld." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂 I love elephants sooooo much! But that's some sh*t I would totally say! 😂
Damn tht ego shit is incredibly real
If you are a fetish to them they can project the feelings of their fetish onto you. It's crazy I've been on both ends of tht
Good shit Alex the psychology is on point
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Your not toxic…your just an Aquarius 🤧🤧
Oh feck, dealing with an aquarian now 😭
hold on now, there’s nothing wrong with us! we’re just misunderstood 🤣🤣
We are cut from a different cloth
I need an Aquarius man to explain some things to me
I see no lies here! Dealing with one now.
"Why are you laughing at that little elephant"nlmaoo
😂
The Projection chapter is facts!!!!!💯
This Bronx Woman Has Your Back! 😂❤👍🏾💯
When talking to people who have long term healthy relationships which are few and far between, they've all said the falling in love part was instantaneous. Go figure 🤔
I think that falling in love part is lust and those excited butterfly feelings. Real love is actually the boring kind where you are deeply comfortable and have to work hard to commit and sacrifice and keep the fire burning with mutual respect and loads of communication
When both fall in love instantly, mind games are not necessary any more, they are safe to love and reciprocate
Yeah that's bs
Not all the time sometimes all the people that you see that looks like your ex is because that ex is trying to send a telepathic message because s/he is the one that misses you when you're really trying to avoid them.
This mentality will have you hoping for something that isn’t real. People are with people when they want to be with them. If someone is not with you it’s because they’re not into you
He’s so handsome 😍
When I ignore them
No Tyrone,thanks for honest man's perspective with the jokes,it is good.
Projection , bonding, ego, bad moments
Your sense of humor is fucking hilarious 😆 😂😂
I like how you say look at their ex see if they look like you.... But maybe you don't look like them but your personality reminds them of their ex.
I know because i liked a guy who reminded me of my ex personality. He did not look like my ex at all.
Then there's also the off chance that one runs into their twin flame and the souls recognise each other and a man falls in love because his soul isn't leaving it up to choice.
Wow this is some difficult info to listen to but I can see some of this happening
Love from South Africa🥰🥰😍😍😍
♥️
Alex back in his Future era😂
Great vid! But who’s on his hoodie? XD
OmG you are so funny 😂👉🏻”I’m not Mark Rosenfeld..”😅
Was he ever in love if he was just with her for help ? Thank for sharing
4 dates, 3-4 months
Women definetly fall in love with good dk
😂
😂😂😂
Hi, can you tell us where looks fit into this? Guys are always ogling at unrealistic fake / unnaturally enhanced / over made up girls
Thanks!
Can you talk about how to get a guy friend back who pulls away and gets a different best friend?
Stop it, get some help.
i dont think too highly of u; in my mind u are my family.
Love ur hair.
Where is the last video about casual sex?
Baby's are needy that part of your talking was funny actually my son was so needy I end up with my breast bitten. 😅😄
Love is so scary bro its not all dandy lion an roses just werid 😮
I think Alex is in love with himself.
Just saying...
Everyone should be..
Make love with ourselves
As we all should be
Great!! Many need a healthy dose of self-love.
So what maybe you can learn from it
i must be one of a kind bc none falls for me
Same😂 Actually the only times they even showed some interest (which doesn’t equate with love, can’t know what they actually felt) was by few whom i’d never like because of some serious dealbreaker. It’s like some funny joke of life. But otherwise men don’t love me, even ‘low quality’ guys and losers. I’m not even ugly. But they’d tell me about perfect girls whom it hurts to lose 10 years ago while leading me on, using me for attention and expecting to wait on them for 10 years when they may like me or not. Wish i felt appreciated for my own self, like i was special and perfect for someone too. Fed up with unrequited feelings and being an old maid.
@@amnbvcxz8650Wow ! I am really sorry that you feel this way. I hope you find someone who will fall head over heels in love with you very soon❤
Can you make a video about how to drive away creepy men in the work place or school? I somehow keep being in situations where a teacher or boss/manager is acting selectively super inappropriate and strange toward me and it makes me feel nauseous even when I’m at home away from these places. I don’t want jeopardize my good grades or a job that could go on my resume by lashing out but I want to make it very clear that I’m disgusted and uncomfortable by their behavior
I’ll keep these tips in mind. Now I’m in the mood to watch The Ugly Truth 🍿😉
OMG i love your vibe!!!!😂 « toxic dating coach » 😂😭😂😭😂 are you à Gemini? My best friend is telling me this too! 😂😂
Misssed the videos Alex!!
Your channel is gold! Ty
Omg let me take care of and love that bb elephant 😭
Great video Alex
Where is the last video you referred to?
Lol you caught me off guard lol great video honey
HELL YEA WE R ALL FUCKN WIRED TO BE ABLE TO ADAPTED TO ABUSE🚫THATS IT IMA BE A BUTTERFLY INSTEAD IM DONE BEING A HUMAN.🦋
I hope you're feeling somewhat better now ❤❤
You look so handsome.
Damn Alex that smile tho 😮💨
Alex, no está el link para acceder a tí para obtener coaching
I’m over 3 years in and my man has still not told me he loves me. I’d say he shows it a lot. But if I would have heard after 3 months that’s all
He has to offer…….I would have saved myself a lot of pain.
Take sex off the table to lower his testosterone and allow oxytocin to connect u while having fun doing different stuff.
Updates ?
@@ashajeremiahqw8775
Shortly after this I left. What I didn’t state was his constant physical and emotional abuse. it took over three years to get out and took extremes to make it happen.
Noticed the red flags early don’t expect people change or grow.
I’m not saying they don’t. I’m just saying this mindset will keep you in bad situations.
But wht to do if he later chooses head over heart because of fear?
It's not your job convincing anyone of your value, if they don't see your value someone else will. Just let them go...
You do nothing.
I don’t see a link for coaching
Whatttt? So u have to give away yourself?? What if you're the type of person who will not have sex with someone who's not your boyfriend?
I think he means that’s one way a connection could potentially develop, definitely don’t have sex unless you want to and not because you want to keep anyone interested!💕
The baby elephant 🐘 Nooooooo😭
that what happened with tom cruise in the last samurai (2003)
*that's
What about the saying... a man doesn't want a girl he can't get... a man wants a girl nobody can get... so hurting his ego... didn't sit well with me.
I agree
I love your videos ❤️
Thank you 🙏
What about if you date without sex like if your religious
Exactly what if you don’t like casual sex
Pray, your prayers will be answered especially if it’s Gods will for you to be together, you’ll be together no games needed
Its much better so that you wont be open to be used
You can still build attraction without sleeping with them.
Men will bond with you by spending quality time together, sharing same interests, having your own life/hobbies and knowing your worth
I learn better from realistic people. Stay flawwed baby
Alex
I know within 5mins if he's the one or not. They're the same.
Ove changed my mind a few times
Is trauma bonding the same as hurting their ego?
Right?!?
Trauma Bonding is exactly that: bonding thru shared trauma, like being strangled..both the aggressor and victim become bonded. It's utterly sick!
No trauma bonding is not healthy and is based on your past trauma.
Facts
Go mexicanas 🇲🇽 😽 💚🤍❤️🥰
The reason I say that is I am selfish in how I feel, so my feelings guide my experiences
You have to pick a guy who only wants 1 person forever, don't waste your energy only someone who constantly changes s e x partners because why waste energy on someone who will waste your energy because he is not qualified for faithful forever comitment. Person who sleeps with a whole town is a waste of energy in a first place.