Having been a hospice aid as a profession as well as massage therapist, I found combining the two to be very rewarding. I’ve considered retuning to school to get my RN to work in Hospice but at 52, I’m not sure that is the best choice. Perhaps becoming a Death Dula would be a better fit. Caring for my mother and sister who both had cancer and passed, I experienced palliative care and hospice in a different way as family. What I experienced when my mother was passing was extremely profound. It was sacred, and Holy. I felt the presence of angles and the Holy Spirit. The air in the room was saturated with their presence. After she took her last breath, it felt like a vacuum had been turned on and wooosh, it was gone and the air was thin and colder. I’ve been considering seeing the movie After Life by Angel Studios. I’ve been curious about others peoples near death experiences and what they have seen and felt. I absolutely know that life continues on after death after all I have seen and experienced in Hospice work.
Beautiful, insightful conversation and so needed in our society today. Death and dying has been shoved in a dark cupboard for so long, I think people have convinced themselves that they won't die and neither will their loved ones. The amount of folks who fall out and stop talking (for years!) over trivial nonsense is astounding, the false belief that there will always be a tomorrow to sort out these issues. Having watched my mother peacefully die, surrounded by her family, I have come to believe in a 'good death'. I know she didn't want to die in hospital, but that was how it worked out. But it was as good as we could make it; pain-free, full of conversation, love and kindness. There isn't much in life I think I got right, but somehow I think we did okay there. And that becomes so important in the years after, to know you did the best for them at the end. That alone makes the awkward conversations worth it, broaching the subject when illness strikes might seem cruel, I get around that by talking about such things while I'm relatively young and healthy! If you have already opened the dialogue, then revisiting it when diagnoses or conditions come up is far easier. Thank you Tammy and Della, keep up the good work - and Della I think you would be a wonderful host for a podcast on Palliative Care, death and dying.
So beautiful to see that humans are and can be so loving and full of compassion. So helpful! My grandma was very open and lived to be almost 100. She was a nurse in her younger years and was so at peace and so wise. She was a gift to us. There is so much laughter and I think that having faith makes the transition for the passing one and the loved ones left behind so much more peaceful and leaves them with a gift of not being afraid.
I can't tell enough how important Mary is in our lives and the means by which we keep our relationship with Her is the ROSARY. This simple but powerful chain that binds us to Her and each other. Mother Teresa of Calcutta kept the rosary always in her hands, saying: "it's as if I am holding Mary's hand". How grateful I am to God for having spent 11 years of my life as a Missionary of Charity nun, I left them because God showed me that was not my vocation, but it has helped me immensely. Their formation and way of life makes you a better person, a better woman and wife. Thanks for what you do!
Thanks for the good talk. I have been caregiver for others in the past and will be again coming up. Your approaches to people with dementia is helpful.
"And it is this very power of choice, the universe insignia of freewill creaturehood, that constitutes man’s greatest opportunity and his supreme cosmic responsibility. Upon the integrity of the human volition depends the eternal destiny of the future finaliter; upon the sincerity of the mortal free will the divine Adjuster depends for eternal personality; upon the faithfulness of mortal choice the Universal Father depends for the realization of a new ascending son; upon the steadfastness and wisdom of decision-actions the Supreme Being depends for the actuality of experiential evolution." The Urantia Book, Paper 112, Section 5. Thank you, ladies, for an enlightening conversation. God bless you both.
I'm a hospice nurse. I've been caring for the dying in their homes for 19 years. God is good. Every patient He's given me has been easy to love. They've blessed me by letting me be there to care for them. They're doing me a favor. Not the other way around. It's an honor and a privilege to care for the dying.
I remember getting a call from the doctors nurse that was their right hand person and they called. Told me some news and then said ok is there anything else you need? if not then take care and have a good day. Not to mention the news was i am looking at maybe a few years left. i am 46. I was in shock as they were in such a hurry to get off the phone. I felt the compassion of someone ordering a pizza. Regardless. I just wait out the time left at this point. So i know what its like to have an unbelievable things are going so good on a Thursday to getting the phone call the next morning on friday that lasted about 2 minutes tops. then they had other things to do so they made it fast and to the point. LIFE CHANGED 120 SECONDS ....
Thank you for talking about this tabu - death. I want to be prepared for this process for my own death as much as I can. Meanwhile I am trying hard to keep willingness to live as fully as I can. Helping others keeps my spirits up for sure. Thank you for the suggestions of inside work - taking responsibility for staying well.
Very timely for me - we are working currently to find some in home care for my parents - 88 and 91. My mom had some form of dementia and I wish my sister and I had insisted on knowing more about it. But my dad didn’t care and just followed the advice of his primary care physician. He is in charge of her daily care with our support and we defer to him for all decisions and I know that we aren’t making the same choices that my mom has her make if she was able - now it’s too late to ask her. But the point of the discussion is I’ll help us prepare to let her go.
Muslims do the same by reciting the Qu'Ran with their newborns but they start reciting it in the womb. So it is not surprising that they have the ability to COMPLETELY memorize the entire book. ALWAYS in Arabic from the original book. Amazing.
I had to tell my Mum to let go, I had promised to be with her at the end and as a nurse I knew she was dying,my dad had died 17 years to the day and I said to her he was waiting for her and she was then able to go.🙏❤️
Yes , death is a natural thing ... but God also heals today as He did before , look into John G Lake and AA.Allen for instance Look into the church fathers the first hundred years after the apostles, the central elements in their evangelism was healing the sick and casting out demons , why ? Because the church is called "the body of Christ" , why does Jesus need arms and legs on this earth? Well, to do what He did in the gospels- to heal the sick , to do miracles , to cast out demons Augustine - a early theologian, i believe it was he that said "i never wanted to become christian, but because of the miracles i could not deny" Through John G Lake Jesus did over a hundred thousand healings in the early 1900s , his ministry was in Spokane, the state of washington made him a licensed doctor , and spokane was statistically the worlds healthiest city Look into these thinfs John G Lake also spoke alot about love, and that is the main testament to one actually LIVING the christian life, not just talking about it ... Look into these things and see for yourself
Looking for a little more "Pizazz" in your 'preparing for death' conversations?? Are you familiar with the saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it"? I was by my mother's side for the last 2 months of her life. I personally found this conversation between Tammy and Della extremely thoughtful, important, informative, and lovingly conveyed.
www.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/letters/1999/documents/hf_jp-ii_let_01101999_elderly.html
Having been a hospice aid as a profession as well as massage therapist, I found combining the two to be very rewarding. I’ve considered retuning to school to get my RN to work in Hospice but at 52, I’m not sure that is the best choice. Perhaps becoming a Death Dula would be a better fit.
Caring for my mother and sister who both had cancer and passed, I experienced palliative care and hospice in a different way as family. What I experienced when my mother was passing was extremely profound. It was sacred, and Holy. I felt the presence of angles and the Holy Spirit. The air in the room was saturated with their presence. After she took her last breath, it felt like a vacuum had been turned on and wooosh, it was gone and the air was thin and colder.
I’ve been considering seeing the movie After Life by Angel Studios. I’ve been curious about others peoples near death experiences and what they have seen and felt. I absolutely know that life continues on after death after all I have seen and experienced in Hospice work.
Grandchildren are a beautiful gift and joy.
My great grandmother and grandmother were women of faith and wisdom
Beautiful, insightful conversation and so needed in our society today.
Death and dying has been shoved in a dark cupboard for so long, I think people have convinced themselves that they won't die and neither will their loved ones. The amount of folks who fall out and stop talking (for years!) over trivial nonsense is astounding, the false belief that there will always be a tomorrow to sort out these issues.
Having watched my mother peacefully die, surrounded by her family, I have come to believe in a 'good death'. I know she didn't want to die in hospital, but that was how it worked out. But it was as good as we could make it; pain-free, full of conversation, love and kindness. There isn't much in life I think I got right, but somehow I think we did okay there. And that becomes so important in the years after, to know you did the best for them at the end.
That alone makes the awkward conversations worth it, broaching the subject when illness strikes might seem cruel, I get around that by talking about such things while I'm relatively young and healthy! If you have already opened the dialogue, then revisiting it when diagnoses or conditions come up is far easier.
Thank you Tammy and Della, keep up the good work - and Della I think you would be a wonderful host for a podcast on Palliative Care, death and dying.
Both of these older women have really lovely beautiful clear eyes. Mirror to the soul
So beautiful to see that humans are and can be so loving and full of compassion. So helpful! My grandma was very open and lived to be almost 100. She was a nurse in her younger years and was so at peace and so wise. She was a gift to us. There is so much laughter and I think that having faith makes the transition for the passing one and the loved ones left behind so much more peaceful and leaves them with a gift of not being afraid.
Thank you for this very helpful and inspiring conversation.
Amazing episode as always Tammy - fantastic guest!
Thank you again for these open conversations through questioning our beings.
- Zak
I can't tell enough how important Mary is in our lives and the means by which we keep our relationship with Her is the ROSARY. This simple but powerful chain that binds us to Her and each other.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta kept the rosary always in her hands, saying: "it's as if I am holding Mary's hand".
How grateful I am to God for having spent 11 years of my life as a Missionary of Charity nun, I left them because God showed me that was not my vocation, but it has helped me immensely.
Their formation and way of life makes you a better person, a better woman and wife.
Thanks for what you do!
So lovely to hear you speak about this. You both have such wonderful voices. Thank you for a very informative podcast.
Thanks for the good talk. I have been caregiver for others in the past and will be again coming up. Your approaches to people with dementia is helpful.
This is the best podcast I’ve ever seen on life and the process of death. Such valuable information! Thank you so much Della and Tammy!
This is such a beautiful conversation. Thank you both so much.
"And it is this very power of choice, the universe insignia of freewill creaturehood, that constitutes man’s greatest opportunity and his supreme cosmic responsibility. Upon the integrity of the human volition depends the eternal destiny of the future finaliter; upon the sincerity of the mortal free will the divine Adjuster depends for eternal personality; upon the faithfulness of mortal choice the Universal Father depends for the realization of a new ascending son; upon the steadfastness and wisdom of decision-actions the Supreme Being depends for the actuality of experiential evolution." The Urantia Book, Paper 112, Section 5.
Thank you, ladies, for an enlightening conversation. God bless you both.
As a care giver I thank you Tammy ❤
I'm a hospice nurse. I've been caring for the dying in their homes for 19 years. God is good. Every patient He's given me has been easy to love. They've blessed me by letting me be there to care for them. They're doing me a favor. Not the other way around. It's an honor and a privilege to care for the dying.
Wow you two look like sisters😊❤
They are sisters :)
I had the same thought:-)
Eye opening thnxs
I remember getting a call from the doctors nurse that was their right hand person and they called. Told me some news and then said ok is there anything else you need? if not then take care and have a good day. Not to mention the news was i am looking at maybe a few years left. i am 46. I was in shock as they were in such a hurry to get off the phone. I felt the compassion of someone ordering a pizza. Regardless. I just wait out the time left at this point. So i know what its like to have an unbelievable things are going so good on a Thursday to getting the phone call the next morning on friday that lasted about 2 minutes tops. then they had other things to do so they made it fast and to the point. LIFE CHANGED 120 SECONDS ....
Thank you for talking about this tabu - death. I want to be prepared for this process for my own death as much as I can. Meanwhile I am trying hard to keep willingness to live as fully as I can. Helping others keeps my spirits up for sure. Thank you for the suggestions of inside work - taking responsibility for staying well.
Very timely for me - we are working currently to find some in home care for my parents - 88 and 91. My mom had some form of dementia and I wish my sister and I had insisted on knowing more about it. But my dad didn’t care and just followed the advice of his primary care physician. He is in charge of her daily care with our support and we defer to him for all decisions and I know that we aren’t making the same choices that my mom has her make if she was able - now it’s too late to ask her. But the point of the discussion is I’ll help us prepare to let her go.
Muslims do the same by reciting the Qu'Ran with their newborns but they start reciting it in the womb. So it is not surprising that they have the ability to COMPLETELY memorize the entire book. ALWAYS in Arabic from the original book. Amazing.
I had to tell my Mum to let go, I had promised to be with her at the end and as a nurse I knew she was dying,my dad had died 17 years to the day and I said to her he was waiting for her and she was then able to go.🙏❤️
Thanks for your comment. ❤
We still have our family die at home
My grandpa's name is Popo too :)
Chinese parents and grandparents take care to assure highly nutritional diet along with adequate sleep so education will be easier from infancy.
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Dying is on to the next
Yes , death is a natural thing ... but God also heals today as He did before , look into John G Lake and AA.Allen for instance
Look into the church fathers the first hundred years after the apostles, the central elements in their evangelism was healing the sick and casting out demons , why ? Because the church is called "the body of Christ" , why does Jesus need arms and legs on this earth? Well, to do what He did in the gospels- to heal the sick , to do miracles , to cast out demons
Augustine - a early theologian, i believe it was he that said "i never wanted to become christian, but because of the miracles i could not deny"
Through John G Lake Jesus did over a hundred thousand healings in the early 1900s , his ministry was in Spokane, the state of washington made him a licensed doctor , and spokane was statistically the worlds healthiest city
Look into these thinfs
John G Lake also spoke alot about love, and that is the main testament to one actually LIVING the christian life, not just talking about it ...
Look into these things and see for yourself
Can the guest be any more boring!?
Looking for a little more "Pizazz" in your 'preparing for death' conversations?? Are you familiar with the saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it"?
I was by my mother's side for the last 2 months of her life. I personally found this conversation between Tammy and Della extremely thoughtful, important, informative, and lovingly conveyed.