And not 'stopping and/or blocking, hindering each other b/c he is insecure, immature or having a one track mind- thinking hes the only one that can achieve and make good things happen
Mistake: I felt I needed to make life easier for him, so when he would offer to fix things for me, I would say, “oh no, don’t worry about it. It’s on the list”. I realize now it would be great for him to do things for me. My happiness and his accomplishment would be a win-win. I tend to try to make things too easy. Doesn’t work.
I am only 24 but my advice to women is to be a little selfish, pursue yourself and a man will pursue you, develop and emerge yourself in your own interests and hobbies and he will look for your attention, that's what i do
It's good that you're wise at a yojng age. Yes, when you are young, focus on yourself. Grow a career, build up a bank account. Dont look for a guy. Let him look for you and prove himself to you. With the tips here, you should be good
@@SLB_888 a man has been looking for my attention for the past 10 months because I don't give it to him, I don't chase him and guess what I'm low key in love with him 😂
This applies to friendships, as well. I've recently ended several uneven female friendships and the relief was nearly euphoric. NEVER give more than you're gettin'.
I'm staying single until a man is ready to step up and take his part in a relationship. I had a true man. I refuse to settle for less anymore. I'm blessed that he left me with this lesson before he left this earth. ❤️
Good for you for not compromising. I am sorry for your loss but it seems like you had a one in a million man and I so understand your position. Stay single and enjoy your life my friend.
I was dating a man, and I saw some red flags, and we talked about two issues; his over the top vulgarity and temper. He says he rarely cusses and doesn’t yell in anger. Fast forward 3 months and I broke it off when I witnessed his anger and hate (and always the vulgarity). And yes, he was yelling when I said I see no future with him. He said (yelled) I was too picky, being unreasonable and that I was looking for a Saint!
I was a "project" for so many men that I am DONE with dating forever! Not one of them wanted me as I am, they all wanted me to change and to fit their ideal woman or ideal fetish in some cases. And I am not better, I dated a man I liked but who wouldn't commit, and he told me he wouldn't but I refused to accept it and kept relationship going while he was like "ok, but I will never marry you or live with you or even go somewhere for weekend with you". And I was stupid believing that will change! If a man tells you something about him that you don't like, f***ing believe him! Don't waste years and years of your previous life believing her will get to love you so much he will change. He won't.
I just listened to another TH-camr short the other day that said, “When a guy tells you something about hisself early on in a relationship, BELIEVE HIM”. Heed this advice! Guys love to jokingly or bragging etc tell on their self when getting to know a girl. It’s our job to listen to him, believe it about him while realizing just because he’s with us, we’ll never have to worry about that. This one piece of advice can save a lot of disappointment and heartache in the long run!
I'm happy married now and it was a long journey. First, be yourself. Don't ever try to be the perfect woman because of fear to lose somebody. Second, if a guy says or shows who he is, believe him. And third, a man won't change for you, only for himselves if he wants to. And finally attention doesn't mean intention. Only if a guys shows interest it doesn't mean it will last or go further. Only if you make baby steps towards each other and build something together it will work. All the best to you ladies ❤
Sorry you had to go through that. You only held on because you were in a vulnerable place. Happens to the best of us. Don’t be hard on yourself You deserve better and you’ll get better
To be happily married in life - both partners should be attracted to each other, both should have good temperament, both should be practical, both should take responsibility for raising kids, household chores, healthy living and finances.
another good one. I always thought unconditional love was the perfect thing to give a man. My husband of 25 years responded well to it I suppose, but, being single again, with your help, I finally understand that that principle should only apply to your children. Thank you for all your videos. I think I have listened to every one of them now. You have taught me how to treat myself well in all cases and, in the process, require a certain level of respect and care from a partner. I am happier every day than in my previous year of being newly single.
He literally asked for my help, and I did become his coach. It didn’t end well, as he started to take me for granted, and make excuses for his low effort behavior. I had to end the relationship, but learned a valuable lesson.
I lost weight, got into gaming, begged, bought him everything he wanted and he still treated me like I was nothing. As soon as I moved on and met someone else he came back begging for me.
@@EdelweisSusie He will be reminded he must settle for less lol! But honestly I’ve got too much going on in my life to worry about that. My mom always taught me even before I was married, to never leave the house without your make up done.
Very useful info! We women really are doing too much and regardless if it's out of love (and/or a desire to be loved) he's so right; LET HIM do the work, let him struggle, let him fail and learn, let him grow by not trying to jump in and help him. They get so much more self esteem when they are left to sink or float - let him swim! Let him pay, let him work hard, let him plan, let him wonder, let him deal with you investing in yourself more and him less, let him invest in you! Let him grow
A man who is rude to his partner in social situations is either trying to isolate her from a potential support system (Abuser 101) or paving the way for a breakup where he can tell everyone what a terrible person she is and they will be inclined to believe it.
During my 17 yrs marriage, there was no Google no TH-cam and as far as he was concerned I just needed to Obey him in everything and things would work out! The more I submitted the more he took me for granted and was unfaithful. Tough lesson to learn after 17 yrs n 3 children. Better alone. 26 yrs single.
in my twenties, I did exactly what you said. I wanted him in my life so I decided to take a liking to sports what a waste of time looking back, to date still dislike sports. Now, I see it this way, is this guy is going to enhance my life if not he has to go. What he brings to the table, are we compatible, if not he has to go. If it is not working before, I emotionally invest on the guy or get attached to the idea and not the person sitting across front of me. I do not try to fix anything that does not require fixing. It has worked for me, less stress, less drama and everything in between. I love to listen and let the guy speak and it never fails, they will tell you who they truly are. With that information I make my decision basis on the information he has shared with me
Brian, you are wonderful and so full of knowledge in your videos. I hope and pray the people listening to you will actually take your advice, especially the young people out here. Most people do have to make their own mistakes to learn; however, I’m 58 and have learned a lot of these lessons the hard way and if you’ll do what Brian is suggesting, you won’t compromise yourself. Watching people that appear to be selfless, always looking out for their loved ones and friends may look admirable but in the end, it will cost them their very self. I’m not saying to be self-serving and only look out for number 1. Life is give and take but if you tell your guy what you like or your deal-breakers (boundaries) and you treat him they way you’d like to be treated such as attention, respect, consideration etc, and you are not met with the exact same thing, you need to take a step back and clarify. NEVER think that it’s all new and time with you will have him meeting your expectations. Time DOES NOT change who he is. If anything, the behaviors will get worse. Don’t shortchange yourself. Think of dating like an interview and don’t give him a call back. You will eventually meet someone that will love you for you - not a cliche - this is the truth. Trust me - just keep looking, they are out there ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Always listen until the end 😊 you are an oracle and honestly if it wasnt for you i dont know that i would have been able to call time on a 25 year relationship as i KNEW i deserved better....partly thanks to you xxxx
My last relationship got clarity around the division of mental and emotional labor-once I introduced him to using chat gpt to go to for his own personal growth. It helped him understand he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that helped me see that I was doing too much (and he acknowledged he leaned too hard on me). Now we are rebuilding a friendship based on who we REALLY are, not what we thought we were supposed to be. We are both late diagnosed, so unlearning the past and learning accommodations for our current selves has been so helpful in keeping healthy peace during the growth.
Thank you so much for all your good advice. Listening to you has made me realise that I need to stop trying so hard to please someone else and just be myself. After all, I want someone who loves me and not the person I'm pretending to be just to please him 😊
You know Brian, I ve read many books, but your book about high quality women, changed me, I still read the summary I made, and I use it when I want to know what to do and how to act. Very very very useful book
Good video. “Believe what you see and make adjustments accordingly.” Dr Les Carter. And, “We must not confuse the good command to love, with the bad realities of enabling behaviour we should never tolerate.” Lysa Terkeurst
We started as friends, and he wanted all of the knowledge I had from the work I'd done. We got close and into a situationship. Big mistake on my part. I didn't expect to fall, but I did. We are roommates, and now he's distant and avoidant. He hid it well for a while. He doesn't want to do the work these days. I'm radically accepting him where he is as his friend, but his way of life is no longer in alignment with mine. I love him, but I can't do this anymore and am waiting for the day for my exit plan! He's going to have a very lonely life...
@Brian Nox - We stay to the end of your videos, because we enjoy your content and love watching you! You are so fluent in sarcasm it is wonderful haha! Much Love, Anita xxx 🏴🌹 🇬🇧😘 🤗.
I love it when you say 'seriously' as if you can see me laughing out loud, you crack me up you are so funny.No other motivational speaker has ever made me laugh the way you have.love your awesome content I am always excited when I get a notification because I know it's going to be good.
2:05-2:11 real stood out to me. I broke up with my ex after he sexually assaulted me. I told him he was a creep and a predator. He was like, “I know I did SA you but I’m not those names!” Like sunny boy, that’s not how it works 😂
Such a great advice and always explained easily. I wish more women would follow it so that most men will have to improve. I feel men got way worse than before the digital age came in right because the allegedly women equality meant women now give everything to a man without having to work for it and yes I mean also intimacy because regardless of how feminists want to see it, there is a difference btw men and women when it comes to sex. Complaining a man just want sex and keeping seeing him is in itself the reason why he does that. Don’t do it and apply Bryan advice and either he has to live up to your standards or you know his true cards.
I made all these mistakes too! My first husband died when I was 55. We had been happily married for 31 years. I made all these mistakes with my new second husband. Now I’m his caretaker. Learning to be better at 70. Wish I heard all this sooner. Thanks, Brian!
OMG. The first topic was a question I had about friendship. How on earth did the algorithm know I had this question. Thanks, Now I can give up on a false friendship.
Thank You 💕 Brian… You Can’t make Someone Love ❤️ You… Once I was with a man that did an Engine change… Yes he ended up with a few Nuts & Bolts left over 🤦🏾♀️😂🤦🏾♀️😂 Have A Blessed Week Ahead 🥰
Thank you for teaching us and in a funny manner too. It takes effort to make the videos. I have bought your books a good long time ago but didn't put them into practice until I looked into myself and am just starting to realise some of the truths you share with us in the videos! 😮😮😮😂😂
"Never accept emotional unavailability." Absolutely right. I had a boyfriend like that and then the next boyfriend was the opposite. I married the second boyfriend and when I think of how barren and lonely life would have been had I married the first, I feel so grateful for the husband I have now. If I had continued with the unavailable guy, I never even would have met my husband.
I just chose the guy who is the best in character! Loves me too much! And we are together for 21 years already. And he takes care of me, bakes for me! And works hard for our future!
Personally i do think giving people an other chance is okay BUT !!!! I go by these rules, if it was a small mistake i will give a couple of chances but once i notice it is a pattern and the person isnt trying to fix it i am out When it comes to a big mistake i give the person one chance and after that absolutely none If it something REALLY BIG like emotional and physical abuse i am out immediately I believe every person can change and should even get the opportunity to learn from their mistakes and make ammends but for thah to happen the person needs to take ownership of their mistake and should actually try to make it better so that the behavior will not happen again
Agree, with a man shows you who he really is. But I disagree with assisting a man to overcome problems, because psychologist cost a fortune and quite often you won't learn enough to get out of a bad situation because the psychologist usually hasn't experienced the situation themselves.
Does an obstetrician have to have experienced childbirth to know what can go wrong, why, and what to do about it? No. Please re-think your incorrect assumption about psychologists and their value to people going through "stuff". The tools they use can be applied to many situations, are are not dependent on having experienced exactly whatever your issues are.
I have been supporting him financially since day one of our marriage! He never worked hard since we got married☹️. He did not even help house chores, he only chauffeured us around. He called that big accomplishment for us! Oh, he also has bad temper ☹️
GET RID OF HIM NOW. RIGHT NOW. Not tomorrow, not next week, not by the end of the month, not until AFTER fill-in-the-blank. NOW. He is never going to change, because why should he??? As long as you accept what he is or is not doing, having to listen to you scold him every once in a while is JUST A COST OF DOING BUSINESS.
Wow this dude sounds exactly like my husband (my husband "works" but stays out and won't come home, he says his jobs MAKE him........for 20 years at 10++ jobs), especially the bad temper part.
Very good points but these should be common sense. I never tolerated anything I didnt like and would speak up about it. The only one take away for me was the lingerie story. Thats a really good point. Instead of trying to get his attention with what he likes be happy with what you like... thats what made him like you.
‘If someone shows you bad behaviour, expect more of it’ so true 😔
"A relationship should be about supporting each other not fixing each other" ✨️
And not 'stopping and/or blocking, hindering each other b/c he is insecure, immature or having a one track mind- thinking hes the only one that can achieve and make good things happen
Mistake: I felt I needed to make life easier for him, so when he would offer to fix things for me, I would say, “oh no, don’t worry about it. It’s on the list”. I realize now it would be great for him to do things for me. My happiness and his accomplishment would be a win-win. I tend to try to make things too easy. Doesn’t work.
Oh men love to be useful and needed, I let the men in my life do the things I don't wanna do
100%
Thank you. Really helpful❤
@@Assia131 So true!
Men like to take care of a woman!ILet him take care of you!To me it’s the best aphrodisiac!
I am only 24 but my advice to women is to be a little selfish, pursue yourself and a man will pursue you, develop and emerge yourself in your own interests and hobbies and he will look for your attention, that's what i do
You are truly blessed to know this at your age!!
It's good that you're wise at a yojng age. Yes, when you are young, focus on yourself. Grow a career, build up a bank account. Dont look for a guy. Let him look for you and prove himself to you. With the tips here, you should be good
@@SLB_888 a man has been looking for my attention for the past 10 months because I don't give it to him, I don't chase him and guess what I'm low key in love with him 😂
I wish I had your wisdom at 24!
I’m 34, and I can confirm this. Excellent advice!
This applies to friendships, as well. I've recently ended several uneven female friendships and the relief was nearly euphoric. NEVER give more than you're gettin'.
I'm staying single until a man is ready to step up and take his part in a relationship. I had a true man. I refuse to settle for less anymore. I'm blessed that he left me with this lesson before he left this earth. ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
Good for you for not compromising. I am sorry for your loss but it seems like you had a one in a million man and I so understand your position. Stay single and enjoy your life my friend.
❤
I was dating a man, and I saw some red flags, and we talked about two issues; his over the top vulgarity and temper. He says he rarely cusses and doesn’t yell in anger. Fast forward 3 months and I broke it off when I witnessed his anger and hate (and always the vulgarity). And yes, he was yelling when I said I see no future with him. He said (yelled) I was too picky, being unreasonable and that I was looking for a Saint!
Of course it's an old hag like you who has a problem with "vulgarity"
So according to him, the the opposite of vulgarity and yelling is sainthood? Lol, what a clown!
Good for you for putting your foot down and saying no to such rottenness.
Does he even know that even you’re looking for a saint there’s literally nothing wrong with it?
Narcissist
I was a "project" for so many men that I am DONE with dating forever! Not one of them wanted me as I am, they all wanted me to change and to fit their ideal woman or ideal fetish in some cases. And I am not better, I dated a man I liked but who wouldn't commit, and he told me he wouldn't but I refused to accept it and kept relationship going while he was like "ok, but I will never marry you or live with you or even go somewhere for weekend with you". And I was stupid believing that will change! If a man tells you something about him that you don't like, f***ing believe him! Don't waste years and years of your previous life believing her will get to love you so much he will change. He won't.
Same here. 😊❤
I just listened to another TH-camr short the other day that said, “When a guy tells you something about hisself early on in a relationship, BELIEVE HIM”. Heed this advice! Guys love to jokingly or bragging etc tell on their self when getting to know a girl. It’s our job to listen to him, believe it about him while realizing just because he’s with us, we’ll never have to worry about that. This one piece of advice can save a lot of disappointment and heartache in the long run!
I'm happy married now and it was a long journey. First, be yourself. Don't ever try to be the perfect woman because of fear to lose somebody. Second, if a guy says or shows who he is, believe him. And third, a man won't change for you, only for himselves if he wants to. And finally attention doesn't mean intention. Only if a guys shows interest it doesn't mean it will last or go further. Only if you make baby steps towards each other and build something together it will work. All the best to you ladies ❤
Sorry you had to go through that. You only held on because you were in a vulnerable place.
Happens to the best of us.
Don’t be hard on yourself
You deserve better and you’ll get better
I wish I could have shared this video with a younger version of myself! Not a second of this video is fluff - straight facts the whole video!
A man who is always rude to you in social situations does not love you. Leave the relationship ASAP.
To be happily married in life - both partners should be attracted to each other, both should have good temperament, both should be practical, both should take responsibility for raising kids, household chores, healthy living and finances.
another good one. I always thought unconditional love was the perfect thing to give a man. My husband of 25 years responded well to it I suppose, but, being single again, with your help, I finally understand that that principle should only apply to your children.
Thank you for all your videos. I think I have listened to every one of them now. You have taught me how to treat myself well in all cases and, in the process, require a certain level of respect and care from a partner. I am happier every day than in my previous year of being newly single.
He literally asked for my help, and I did become his coach. It didn’t end well, as he started to take me for granted, and make excuses for his low effort behavior. I had to end the relationship, but learned a valuable lesson.
I lost weight, got into gaming, begged, bought him everything he wanted and he still treated me like I was nothing. As soon as I moved on and met someone else he came back begging for me.
I hope you laughed in his face and walked away.
@ I didn’t laugh because I’m better than that. I just moved on. 💖
@@EdelweisSusie He will be reminded he must settle for less lol! But honestly I’ve got too much going on in my life to worry about that. My mom always taught me even before I was married, to never leave the house without your make up done.
I hope you said NO.
@ oh no. He lost all chances because even though he wanted to come back, he did not change at all.
Very useful info! We women really are doing too much and regardless if it's out of love (and/or a desire to be loved) he's so right; LET HIM do the work, let him struggle, let him fail and learn, let him grow by not trying to jump in and help him. They get so much more self esteem when they are left to sink or float - let him swim! Let him pay, let him work hard, let him plan, let him wonder, let him deal with you investing in yourself more and him less, let him invest in you! Let him grow
A man who is rude to his partner in social situations is either trying to isolate her from a potential support system (Abuser 101) or paving the way for a breakup where he can tell everyone what a terrible person she is and they will be inclined to believe it.
That was my first marriage. Marriage number two, got it right.
Truth!
I absolutely love the way you use humor to emphasize your points.
And they are always spot on and resonate ! 😊
Every single video you make is so enriching and comforting. Your advices are pure gold, thank you so much !
This is perfect! I needed to hear this 17 years ago 😢.. but SO glad I'm hearing it now. Thank you !
During my 17 yrs marriage, there was no Google no TH-cam and as far as he was concerned I just needed to Obey him in everything and things would work out! The more I submitted the more he took me for granted and was unfaithful. Tough lesson to learn after 17 yrs n 3 children. Better alone. 26 yrs single.
Igual que yo
A relationship must be supporting each other not fixing each other, very true
Oh my gosh! I absolutely love your down-to-Earth, practical advice! What a treasure you are to us all! Blessings, Wave
in my twenties, I did exactly what you said. I wanted him in my life so I decided to take a liking to sports what a waste of time looking back, to date still dislike sports. Now, I see it this way, is this guy is going to enhance my life if not he has to go. What he brings to the table, are we compatible, if not he has to go. If it is not working before, I emotionally invest on the guy or get attached to the idea and not the person sitting across front of me. I do not try to fix anything that does not require fixing. It has worked for me, less stress, less drama and everything in between. I love to listen and let the guy speak and it never fails, they will tell you who they truly are. With that information I make my decision basis on the information he has shared with me
Partner not project! Awesome.
Brian, you are wonderful and so full of knowledge in your videos. I hope and pray the people listening to you will actually take your advice, especially the young people out here. Most people do have to make their own mistakes to learn; however, I’m 58 and have learned a lot of these lessons the hard way and if you’ll do what Brian is suggesting, you won’t compromise yourself. Watching people that appear to be selfless, always looking out for their loved ones and friends may look admirable but in the end, it will cost them their very self. I’m not saying to be self-serving and only look out for number 1. Life is give and take but if you tell your guy what you like or your deal-breakers (boundaries) and you treat him they way you’d like to be treated such as attention, respect, consideration etc, and you are not met with the exact same thing, you need to take a step back and clarify. NEVER think that it’s all new and time with you will have him meeting your expectations. Time DOES NOT change who he is. If anything, the behaviors will get worse. Don’t shortchange yourself. Think of dating like an interview and don’t give him a call back. You will eventually meet someone that will love you for you - not a cliche - this is the truth. Trust me - just keep looking, they are out there ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you - this was a really good reminder. I've done most of these things at one time or another, and it's good to recognize that they won't work
Always listen until the end 😊 you are an oracle and honestly if it wasnt for you i dont know that i would have been able to call time on a 25 year relationship as i KNEW i deserved better....partly thanks to you xxxx
You are very kind to Women, thank you.
Thank you for your service to humanity with these videos, we should all know this and someone has to say this! Again, thank you!
Wish I had known these things a bit earlier than at 35
My last relationship got clarity around the division of mental and emotional labor-once I introduced him to using chat gpt to go to for his own personal growth. It helped him understand he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that helped me see that I was doing too much (and he acknowledged he leaned too hard on me). Now we are rebuilding a friendship based on who we REALLY are, not what we thought we were supposed to be. We are both late diagnosed, so unlearning the past and learning accommodations for our current selves has been so helpful in keeping healthy peace during the growth.
Thank you so much for all your good advice. Listening to you has made me realise that I need to stop trying so hard to please someone else and just be myself. After all, I want someone who loves me and not the person I'm pretending to be just to please him 😊
Thank you so much for your time, this has really helped me as I navigate dating after being with my late husband for over 50 years!
❤ me too!
Me too! It hasn't been easy. Be careful of the predators. They're out there, and they can be oh, so charming!
@@melaniedeare5427preach!!
You know Brian, I ve read many books, but your book about high quality women, changed me, I still read the summary I made, and I use it when I want to know what to do and how to act. Very very very useful book
Thank you for being here for us!
Good video. “Believe what you see and make adjustments accordingly.” Dr Les Carter. And, “We must not confuse the good command to love, with the bad realities of enabling behaviour we should never tolerate.” Lysa Terkeurst
We started as friends, and he wanted all of the knowledge I had from the work I'd done. We got close and into a situationship. Big mistake on my part. I didn't expect to fall, but I did. We are roommates, and now he's distant and avoidant. He hid it well for a while. He doesn't want to do the work these days. I'm radically accepting him where he is as his friend, but his way of life is no longer in alignment with mine. I love him, but I can't do this anymore and am waiting for the day for my exit plan! He's going to have a very lonely life...
What, exactly, are you waiting for? DO IT NOW.
@sballantine8127 it's not that simple. Finances. Or I'd be gone.
Thankyou Brian ❤ You saved me & helped me gain a lot of clarity even when I knew what was happening..but now I'm putting a fullstop to it
@Brian Nox - We stay to the end of your videos, because we enjoy your content and love watching you! You are so fluent in sarcasm it is wonderful haha! Much Love, Anita xxx 🏴🌹 🇬🇧😘 🤗.
I love it when you say 'seriously' as if you can see me laughing out loud, you crack me up you are so funny.No other motivational speaker has ever made me laugh the way you have.love your awesome content I am always excited when I get a notification because I know it's going to be good.
Excellent video!! One of your best!
I've never regretted being single. 😂
2:05-2:11 real stood out to me. I broke up with my ex after he sexually assaulted me. I told him he was a creep and a predator. He was like, “I know I did SA you but I’m not those names!” Like sunny boy, that’s not how it works 😂
I really admire your talking and how you explain everything clearly
Quite the same things when it comes to friendship:)
You have just earned yourself a follower❤
Such a great advice and always explained easily. I wish more women would follow it so that most men will have to improve. I feel men got way worse than before the digital age came in right because the allegedly women equality meant women now give everything to a man without having to work for it and yes I mean also intimacy because regardless of how feminists want to see it, there is a difference btw men and women when it comes to sex. Complaining a man just want sex and keeping seeing him is in itself the reason why he does that. Don’t do it and apply Bryan advice and either he has to live up to your standards or you know his true cards.
I did these mistakes... is there any way for us to work? I learned my lesson and i'll respect myself
I made all these mistakes too! My first husband died when I was 55. We had been happily married for 31 years. I made all these mistakes with my new second husband. Now I’m his caretaker. Learning to be better at 70. Wish I heard all this sooner. Thanks, Brian!
Very helpful and insightful. Every woman should listen to this!
Good timing
Great video Brian!!!! ❤
OMG. The first topic was a question I had about friendship. How on earth did the algorithm know I had this question. Thanks, Now I can give up on a false friendship.
A lot of wisdom in this video. Kudos to Nox!
Hey Brian, I still love your video’s every time I watch them….keep on with them!!!!❤
Thank-you for your timely advice always ❤❤❤
You are a very wise man! Thank you so much!!!❤
Yes....I was viewed as 'too capable'
Excellent advice here!
I love you Hiirt!! I really love how Ur on OUR side! And really, your advice is right on the money. Thanks for the reality check. ❤🎉😊
Thank You 💕
Brian…
You Can’t make
Someone Love ❤️ You…
Once I was with a man that did an
Engine change…
Yes he ended up
with a few Nuts & Bolts left over
🤦🏾♀️😂🤦🏾♀️😂
Have A Blessed
Week Ahead 🥰
The whole bitter truth wrapped in a bundle
Beautifully great video. The advice are on point.
Thank you for teaching us and in a funny manner too. It takes effort to make the videos. I have bought your books a good long time ago but didn't put them into practice until I looked into myself and am just starting to realise some of the truths you share with us in the videos! 😮😮😮😂😂
Best dating video ever
thank you.. i love your content and have been following you since 2022 ❤
Fantastic analysis
Thank you Sir!
Another great video…. Thank you.
Really like your work
Brian you are a wonderful teacher. Every lesson you give us is at point. Love it so much ❤
"Never accept emotional unavailability."
Absolutely right. I had a boyfriend like that and then the next boyfriend was the opposite. I married the second boyfriend and when I think of how barren and lonely life would have been had I married the first, I feel so grateful for the husband I have now. If I had continued with the unavailable guy, I never even would have met my husband.
Perfect timing. To the second.😂 👍thank you!
Geert, you are adorable. Thank you for continuing to put out wonderful content on dating advice. Your videos are comprehensive and insightful!
I just chose the guy who is the best in character! Loves me too much! And we are together for 21 years already. And he takes care of me, bakes for me! And works hard for our future!
I LOVE THIS and NEEDED this!!!!❤❤❤
pure gold ❤ thank you, Brian!
I needed this video today! 🙏🏼
Personally i do think giving people an other chance is okay BUT !!!!
I go by these rules, if it was a small mistake i will give a couple of chances but once i notice it is a pattern and the person isnt trying to fix it i am out
When it comes to a big mistake i give the person one chance and after that absolutely none
If it something REALLY BIG like emotional and physical abuse i am out immediately
I believe every person can change and should even get the opportunity to learn from their mistakes and make ammends but for thah to happen the person needs to take ownership of their mistake and should actually try to make it better so that the behavior will not happen again
Great advice, wish i knew all that 40 years ago.
Brilliant and spot on!
This is gold
I love your content, thank you só much!
Love this Brian thank you so much love Donna ( Sydney Aus) xx
I always loooooove your videos
Amazing!!! 👏👏 Thank you!!! 🤗😁💕🎉🎉
I luv the part of, "he is on probation!!" 😂😂 Genius!! 👍😁🎉🎉🎉
Agree, with a man shows you who he really is. But I disagree with assisting a man to overcome problems, because psychologist cost a fortune and quite often you won't learn enough to get out of a bad situation because the psychologist usually hasn't experienced the situation themselves.
Does an obstetrician have to have experienced childbirth to know what can go wrong, why, and what to do about it? No. Please re-think your incorrect assumption about psychologists and their value to people going through "stuff". The tools they use can be applied to many situations, are are not dependent on having experienced exactly whatever your issues are.
Just a third a the way through this video and it's *brilliant* and beautifully explained.
Thank you, Brian
I needed to here this thanks
Oh gosh, "unfollow hundred of women in bikinis in social media" got my attention...
So, needed this right now..
Thank you Brian 💕👼
Thank you. A very good video.
I have been supporting him financially since day one of our marriage! He never worked hard since we got married☹️. He did not even help house chores, he only chauffeured us around. He called that big accomplishment for us! Oh, he also has bad temper ☹️
What the heck girl, you got a leech not a husband... please take your power back for the sake of yourself!
GET RID OF HIM NOW. RIGHT NOW. Not tomorrow, not next week, not by the end of the month, not until AFTER fill-in-the-blank. NOW. He is never going to change, because why should he??? As long as you accept what he is or is not doing, having to listen to you scold him every once in a while is JUST A COST OF DOING BUSINESS.
Wow this dude sounds exactly like my husband (my husband "works" but stays out and won't come home, he says his jobs MAKE him........for 20 years at 10++ jobs), especially the bad temper part.
@@sballantine8127 it is not easy to leave him, as he would split half of all my money/possession ☹️
@@sballantine8127 life is tough for me!
Great advice!
Thank you for sharing!
Great message!
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Very good points but these should be common sense. I never tolerated anything I didnt like and would speak up about it. The only one take away for me was the lingerie story. Thats a really good point. Instead of trying to get his attention with what he likes be happy with what you like... thats what made him like you.
Thank you for the video.
😂 the end
4:17 absolutely. I did exactly that
No. 1 hits the nail hard! I forgive but I dont forget hah!
Excellent reminders of what not to do;-)!
God's blessings to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🍀🤗💜
The title to this video could just as easily be, "7 things smart women never do for their mothers."
YOU ARE THE BEST THANK YOU ANGELA