This Makes Him See You As The Most Important Woman in The Universe!
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FOR THE WOMEN:
PUT YOURSELF FIRST,LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND DONT BEG FOR LOVE.
DONT WAIT FOR SOMEONE TO FIX YOU BUT TRY TO BE INDEPENDENT.
SOMETIMES IT IS HARD,BUT IF YOU CAN DREAM BIG,YOU CAN DO IT TOO.
RESPECT YOURSELF AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.TRY TO CONTROL YOUR MIND AND WORK HARD TO BE AN INDEPENDED STRONG WOMAN.
THANK YOU BRIAN.
Thank you for this message i am going to work on myself and improving my life. Few weeks ago i had i wake up call about my relationship with my partner. As a woman having responsibilities of the house and work i was letting myself go no more taking the criticism of the husband time to put myself first.
Thank you 😊
Thank you guys
Yes!!!!
A narcissist can never.feel respected. Make sure the man is normal first before.respecting him
Crystal Climenhage true dat
Amen, they are some fucked up individuals. Invasion of the body snatchers!!
Aleliuja!
Hahahaa. ....totally agree
yeah this guy sounds like a douche demanding respect so much, everyone respects everyone on a normal level, and he needs to open doors to feel like a man? i think he needs a few classes himself
thats not a man to me, a man knows what makes him manly, opening doors is not part of that, thats just basic human decency
My father always told me , " a man respects a woman who respects herself." My pop is always right.
Exactly
I love & respect myself, I just haven’t found someone who respects me.
Nancy V I love owls
So true
Not all the time... just because you respect yourself doesn’t mean others will also.
Its not true ... When I respect a Man he treats me like nothing...when I am a bitch he starts to treat me good...and chase me...they are crazy🤭
You're attracting men who had unstable mothers. That's got tocix written all over it
Jarzębina 77 omg you’re so right, I was a sweetheart I did everything to please him to but he became a bitch toward me so I had to learn not to give a fvk now he chasing me and treating me batter
This is fact
Same with me. I treat them like they don't matter and they submit to me and I like this.
Jarzębina 77 they are terrified by a woman who actually wants them. They love a woman who treats them like crap cause that woman is “safe” cause he figures she won’t try to trap him in a relationship. Seriously, you’re right, they are crazy!
1. He feels respected by her to be significant to her
2. Thank him
3. Set boundaries to value you
Find the one that can be respected first...do not respect just because
Thank you for taking notes within the comments you are appreciated! 😊 be blessed
How to use this in a professional situation cause there were mistakes on my part yet great learning potential here (not romantic) although it vould be, but we're not there.)
For men and women.. vice-versa
We all want respect. But a lot of these men do irritating stupid things, that don’t warrant respect. Know this>> the woman has to have what she desires, before he can truly get what he wants!
What I have learnt in life is to build very strong self esteem and don’t even think about entering a relationship until your have clear values and strong boundaries about what you want and never compromise those things. There are some very abusive people in this world and abuse can be so subtle. If you don’t have self esteem right now - you can build it. But never enter a relationship without feeling strong.
Interestingly, when I feel super strong, I really don't need a guy anymore, then he comes.
This is so true!! Well said!😊
Amelia Totally agree!! You will learn this the hard way if you don’t.
This is so true... 🖤🖤🖤
So true!
Keep him guessing by marrying someone else. You will be the most important woman to him suddenly. Works everytime.
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Facts!
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My experience says otherwise, if you are nice and treat them well, they dump you. But they run to chase the mean girl who treats them badly.
Swan Queen. Hundred percent agree with you. They ghost you when you are nice, gentle, respective and sympathetic to them.
Goes both ways. Ladies dont want a "good" man. The bad boy will always win. Oh well that's fine. I gave up on relationships/love years ago.
Swan Queen I do same experience this same
Swan Queen I was a angel to him then he is big devil cheat me morethan I can imagine
Ratna Priya sometime we act bad so they can’t use us respect to man is depend how they treat us
Unfortunately most men are egotistical, the stuff you are referring to only works to the very few good men out there. For the most part if you want him to respect you make sure he knows he can be replaced
this doesn't sound like good advice at all. there are more than a few good men out there. and some men just need to grow up. never have a relationship which is build on fear of being replaced.
Women want to be respected too. I cannot give a man respect who does not respect me first.
Respect is earned
A women feels respected through having her feelings cherished. A man feels cherished by having his mind and thoughts respected. Normally even in same sex relationships, someone cares more about one or the other. Masculine energy people use logic and thinking more than feminine energy people who are more feeling oriented.
Jeanie K do you people even listen? Ugh 😫
actually he said it in the video countless times that it should be mutual..so both of you will be happy
Good grief woman, he even took the time to explain why it is important for a man to feel respected in a way women don't. It's a different kind of respect. Just pay attention!.
''If you're too independent, his masculinity will be threatened''....... LOL oh well, so be it. I'm not responsible for his fragile toxic masculinity. If I don't need him but instead CHOOSE him, he becomes irreplaceable.
This isssss sooooo me right now, we broke up because I wasn’t needy enough basically and it made him feel like the loser
I am actually in a beautifully blossoming, healthy relationship and in watching, realizing that we both do all these things for and with each other! I recognize each point and how we have successfully managed to provide a special give and take, loving, and intimate bond already, the way you have suggested. I know God sent me this beautiful man to me and I have actually been waiting to call him MY Hero the very next time he makes me feel as important as only he can! He is my personal hero and forever will be! Of that I have no doubt. Thank you for sharing such accurate advice and confirming our actions towards each other so far. Blessings to you and yours.
Wanna be respected? Have principles and morals and treat others with respect and compassion. Wanna be treated like a king/queen? Behave as such. Respect has to be earned unfortunately
Yet..if you treat him like a king, that kind of makes you his commoner. Isn't it?
@black white exactly!
@@marielamuller4657 have you seen black white reply? You may consider yourself as a commoner, not a queen.
This is how my 21 year relationship w/my lovesponge was. 4th of July will be his 4th year in Heaven. It was a bed of roses, thorns & all!! My personal blessing from God...
This guy is completely adorable. I'm so glad I saw this. It's super rare to see a real man who understands how to be in a functional relationship.
Yes girl. We need more men like this but it goes for a women to. Cause I don't side on females cause I am one But . a lot of men need to here this. And females to goes both ways. This is my 1st time hearing and seeing the videos.
And some men will still treat you like shit even when you do all these things and it’s not your fault.
As a trained Behavioral Therapist, I must say, you are positively spot on. Games within any relationship is Toxic and Unhealthy. Thank you for sharing and sprinkling your fun levity into this valuable message.
This is probably the best video I've ever seen on this topic. Women want to be adored and men want to be respected . Amen ☺.
Angelica Angel my mom told me. Men want to be admired. Women want to be desired...
Even the Bible says so. Women are to respect their men and men are to love their women.
@@sherryc90 I'm so glad someone caught that! Yup, god commands men to love their wives, like Christ loves the church and women are to respect their husbands.
Sharon Kwenda I was about to say that. YHWH created us, and he knows that for men respect is most important, and for women love is most important.
Recently, I mentioned an exhibition I wanted to go to. He bought advance tickets for us. Whilst we were waiting to go in at our allotted time-slot he said ''I think this is probably going to be good''. I said ''it's going to be awesome and I have an awesome man who got tickets for us!'' He wrapped his arms around me and nearly hugged me to death! :-D
sadie p Awww, that's super sweet!! I'm happy for U!! Sounds really lovely~ 💞
You got it!
Wow your so lucky to have him 😍
sadie p Aww! How cute, that was so sweet of him💗😊
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1. Respect him.
2. Support him.
3. Challenge him.
Same goes for women. If a guy doesn't respect me and starts to neg me, or criticize me, I don't give them the time of day
Thanks. The wrong one will still disrespect u and cheat if u do those things and they are bad.
@@BlueBerryTdot I agree
I lose track and it’s all gibberish lol
Good advice
No women can respect a guy who disrespects her ...and then expect her to respect him
First ,make sure this man worthy of your Love.If this men dont respect you first by testing his honesty.There are some good points.Stay away from guys who have addictions ,because their love is not constant.Some addiction is not just drugs and alcohol. Stick to your important boundaries.Take your time to get to know the person first.Honeymoon stage of a relationship can be deceptive. Good luck and Good Bless.
Ever since I started doing this, with way less nagging and more words of affirmation, my boyfriends confidence seems to be getting better slowly but surely. Thankyou so much
A man needs 3 things in relationship - to be needed, to be free and to be respected. As I see it. Thanks for video 👌
So they want dependent women who need them? Sad
Channel Tools what is wrong in needing the one you love? What is it when you tell each other I don't need you?
@@ДарьяКроткова-ч5о Isn't it great when a woman WANTS you instead of just needing you because she doesn't have job, or needs you to fix her problems?
@Cindy Lou word 🙌
To be free?
The relationship free from manipulations will always work.
Exactly
it wont always work, but at least the people in the relationship can end it on good terms if they realize it's not right for them. some people simply fall out of love. but yeah. healthy relationships will always prosper.
Yeah that's the order of the game. I mean treat me like a Queen & I'll surely treat you like a King.
Exactly
One of my aunts once told me the key to a successful relationship is to find someone who likes you more than you like them
This reminds me of another piece of “advice” was the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.
My grandfather told me the samething
My friend's Mum (summed up what I have learnt from 35 yrs+ of dating): "if u love them more than they love u, they treat u like dirt. If they love u more than u love them, they treat u like a princess".
My dad said the same to me 🥴
Yes never let them know you care. Find one who likes you the MOST
I'm pretty sure Mae West was the original source.
I tried to show respect and appreciation to a bad guy, and he just wouldn't accept it, because of his deep insecurities. I know better now. Thanks, Brian! You're awesome
@@lonewolf-oc9vr I found a wonderful man now. I wish the other one the best, whatever he chooses for his life.
Too*
@@sarahtara5546 how’s that going now? Update?
@@TheSevonne thank you for asking! We actually got married and moved into a camper to travel the country. We are doing great still :)
How was your experience? I have just met a guy and he is not able to take compliments....so strange. Was it similar in your case?
Relevant Hint -
Respectful men ask women how they like to be treated instead of insisting that the traditional “gentlemen” rules make him respectable. Gentlemen rules were created by men. Treat a woman like an individual not a gender and she will respect you more.
Wendi J this is pure gold thank you for sharing!
Wendi J I see your point but I think that intent matters. If a man is holding a door in an attempt to show respect, that isn’t a bad thing, if she says hey I don’t need you to hold doors, instead do (whatever) I think most men with the intent of giving true respect would gladly switch to a different means of showing that respect. The assumption that he’s treating her like a gender and not a person is pretty cynical, they aren’t mind readers.
Wendi J that is right but I enjoy the old chivalry and the old traditional roles. But I understand what you are saying. My man believes in traditional roles as well so it works great for us. I guess it depends on what your partner believed.
Im also into genderless roles yet call myself a gentlewoman that will equally open doors for men and women. Equally pay for them. Equally get them gifts inc flowers if they enjoy them. I will spoon into them etc... I'll enjoy them doing gentlemen things as long as i can equally be a gentlewoman and do them for them as well inc romancing them. Im a fan of it goes both ways equal effort. Doesnt have to be exact same things done for each other. Be yourself. But that things are equally done for each other. Equal energy exchange. Equal partners.
Gentleman rules were created by women. The man steps up like that bc it is the girl who expects to be treated like that. No guy will be asking you how to treat you, they will see how you treat yourself and what you expect and they will either meet it or flake. If they flake, they weren’t that interested in the first place.
He was my hero for YEARS. It doesn't work if the man isn't in love. You can make him feel important, that he is special, respected, valued, important.... if he doesn't love you it won't matter.
Exactly.. It's a waste of time and effort
You deserve someone who's crazy about you. I hope you've moved on from this 🙏🏻
Respect is a two way street..I respect a Man who respects me.. It's one of the most important things.. and I know what it is, because I have experienced it.. 💯💯
Facts 💯
We made him feel respected, loved for what he is, expressed how much he means, and what not. every time we respect them, they take us for granted and comes to a mindset that she will always be there. in that case why should you take effort is what he thinks. the moment u make them feel like they are losing that's when they take a move
You can give a man everything he asked for as his needs. And it still won't work out. He can't meet your needs when he knows he doesn't deserve you. Because he doesn't really want you. If you try love a man who doesn't love himself and when he knows he doesn't deserve you, it also won't work out. See people for who they are, not what you want them to be. If he is a people pleaser, drinks heavily, has money, entertains, claims to love people so so much. Run. They usually have a handful of women on dial. You usually see the cracks early on. Stringy, they self loathe so you try to build them up. He isn't worthy of the building up because he needs to do that himself
I agree with all of this... I think the problem is that most guys and gals have a different definition of the word Respect. I want a man to love and protect me, open doors, and punch out bad guys!
huh i just wanted him not to lie and cheat..i can open my own doors
I agree, Susan ☺ I want that too! 💖 I do like a man, though, that will treat me like a lady 😍
Carrie Smith girl, me too!!!
@@cccopycat583 this is the truth!!!!!
Respect is not the main component in a relationship (it's on of the men's needs but not the main one). Many women respect their men but get used and abused by men. Brian, you should look much deeper into this... its all about natural reflexes and hormones. Men have predominantly testosterone. They have needs to fight, chase, and have uncertainty. When woman acts as an open-book, showing constant interest, trying to please a man, it's turns men off. Why do you think men fell in love with women who are hard to get ?
I bet youve been following Greta me too love her teachings
It's because he's not smart enough to realize he's giving in to his caveman instincts instead of using his brain and common sense
Horrible, horrible advice. Grounded, emotionally mature men don't want a woman they have to chase.
Thank you for acknowledging that respectful behaviour towards a guy should only be given to good guys that do the same! You are my no.1 male dating coach to watch x
@Simon S nah I have seen dating coaches that feed you a fairytale and I am not here for it. Brian is talking about people giving each other mutal respect. Girls could say the same thing how guys don't like good girls and just take advantage of them. At the end of the day if the person is actually physically and emotionally attracted to you and you are behaving respectfully, but not a pushover that is normally seen as a turn on.
This is true. A high value woman is someone who respects herself to know that she deserves to be treated well, and vice versa.
People like people who make them FEEL good. Different strokes for different folks, so figure out what makes your person feel their best and that will make them happy. Most men like to feel important or significant, stroke his ego when they earn it.
I appreciate it when you... I admire this about you....
I love it when you do .... Authentic sincere conpliments.
Be a high value woman, ppl respect those who are respecting
The badder you treat them the more they love you
Only to a toxic person. Attract more respectable men. Look within first.
Yes. This is why I don't have one
I was hear me was too nice
Not any more.
I am married to a man who is almost smitten with me, and I can agree with this. Even when he thinks and complains that I have been "disrespectful" (which is really just me responding to his random inconsiderate behavior) he still can't get enough of me (wanting to kiss, cuddle, know my feelings for him, etc). So, sadly this is true 😏
A lot of men want to have control over their women and they easily feel “disrespected” if they feel they are losing it.
Hello
True
This is sooo true!!
How can you respect a man whose only intention is to sleep with you? BTW...that is all men. They may not say it, and act as if they just want to show you love. but in reality, their only reason for approaching a woman is for sexual sustainment.
Its a natural urge n women can enjoy it too but unless hes bonded with you before it will just be an act to fulfil his needs and not love.
@@charlottehowe2834 his bond is deceptive because it is only a means to an end. I'm done with that.
Respect is a give and take. Many people doesn't understand that. If a man/woman love you then he/she respect you!!!
1) To be respected, to be a hero in her eyes, feel needed & important, let him find a solution for you in your problem, let him feel special/significant, that he is better than other man ALWAYS ONLY IF HE TREATS YOU GOOD.
2) Because he feels she makes him a better version of him.
3) He CAN'T walk all over you !!! Always let him know your boundaries, your values, your power. If you don't like something He does to you you speak up and tell him !!!
Women do not cause men to be insecure. Sometimes you can give a man all your respect and admiration and he just doesn’t believe you because he doesn’t have confidence in himself. You are assuming that all men or normal and respond to this type of praise with love.
I agree, it doesn't matter what I say, even when it's coming from the heart, his lack of self confidence just diffuses it, a form of self sabotage I guess.
Wow wee truth.
Yeah that happend to me , i start to hate men and i don't believe in love anymore .
This is what it all comes down to.
so what do we do to this type of men then?
He used to make me feel like a princess and now even if i make him my top priority...even if i show him utmost respect...i am not his first priority and neither i get the love he used to give me before. The more i respect him the more he stops respecting me. He is taking me for granted.
Same as mine
I feel like every guy pursues you and loves and is in lust with you and as soon as you let your guard down a few months down the road he’s lost interest n doesn’t respect u or care about how he talks to you smh
@@mayziecammarata4870 ladies we have a problem
Was in the same situation, found out men treat you like that when he perceives you are no longer a challenge, he will take you for granted.
Then you are dating a boy, not a man
I have lots of respect until I smell bullshit... That's when my respect goes out through the window
I wish people fell in love....simply :(
ICELET YEP!!! 🙌🏻✨🙂
@@lilith_soph It's not like we have a choice these days :)
Ikr
Ikr! Just fall in love ! There is truly no love stories!! Everything is strategy😩 I have to strategize at work, who wants to strategize everyday and night to get loved! Just gimme a bullet n some wine! Im aight😃🤣😅😇
@@jorgaconnelly6037 You say the words i thought!
It is better to have a pet and concentrate on oneself than to have someone in life romantically. Relationship is so stressful and no matter how much you love someone there is no assurance he/she can love you back.
I can't feel loved without feeling respected first and I will always choose to be respected over being loved, because first I need to love and respect myself and I'm not doing that if I allow others to devalue me. I will give respect when I am receiving it, but I've stopped being a doormat who allows rude behavior. If they are not treating me respectfully then it's not and can never be loving. I'm over all these rules and mind fuckery! If it's love, if it's meant to be, then it will be natural and easy and people will just show up in the relationship for each other and will both want to be there. It should not be so hard and when one is acting like they no longer want to be there, then maybe it's time to just let them go. Relationships don't work on the power and desire of just one.
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Absolutely
100% agree
It’s interesting. You will see the same type of comments by guys in the comment section of videos that are geared toward men. Sorry, ladies. If you act uninterested, you’ll be passed over by guys who know their worth. You get what you put in. If you don’t put in a lot of effort, you won’t get much effort.
Just be you. Be human. Don’t let experiences in life change who you are deep down. Strong people are the ones who are steadfast and won’t let things change them.
Its a good advice, if this advice is easier to implement in life. It will be great.. healing takes time.. but I wonder what is the missing part of it until I truly heal..
When i read your comment, i get again and again confused. After 17 years i got really in love. Love at first sight. Affection at first sight. We both are 48. No more years to waste on idiot behaviors..., you woud think. From day 1, i was smitten. I wanted to know him better. Wel..., to make the story short. From day 2 i payed him drinks, food, brought food to his house, beer. He had only 300$ a month. The rest was keeping his lawer. I am on invalidity with 1 son (22 years) old. For this 2 months, i bought him food, cigarettes, drinks, drinks for home, my own food supply ( wich i saved for hard times), cooking gear for his little sailingboat, more food & drinks/food for his sailingboat, fuel gas for cooking 100$, fuel 90$, water, more boatstuff, shampoo, towels, medicine cabbinet, fire stopper. In total i spent in that month 700$. Then a walki talki for going to work in another boat (birthday present/90$). Gloves, sjawl, hats to work!
A floor carpet for his boat (80$). Valentine present of a ticket online learning platform, so he could easyer learn the course, for having a diplom of boatsman (28$). He has a learn disability. But he is supper with boats and handy-guy with his hands. I bought him natural drugs to learn better (cod liver oil) 80$. Supported him! He can do it..., whatever time and effort it takes. Encouraging! I knew, water and boats are his LOVE! He was unemployed. Then he got a job-offer, to work on a boat. I said, great for you & an oportunity to climb and get out of your financial situation & you love boats! He did not wanted, but i told him the pro's & con's. I said, ' believe in you' and gave him kisses and sex and affection and i felt like a teenager in LOVE. I said..., the captain will hire you today..., i feld, that he has a great chance (because i am not blind😉). He was born for the water and boats and jumping like an ape. So cute and masculine to see. So easy for him. He got the job!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I gave money to buy food and drinks, cigarettes, beer, toiletpaper, for a week. He was a week away from home. This was a year his job. And i gave a lot of times money for what he needed and a little cash (i only have 1200$ invalidity, housing cost 550$, water, gas, electricity, internet, phone (350$). My mother gave me money to spend on me, and gave it away for my boyfriend, to overcome his life and feel better. Wel, i allways did, whenever he needed me, go with him...Even on the boat. Helping him restoring, his own boat. I was enjoying every minute with him and loving him more and more. I have chronic serious healthissues, for more then 35 years, from birth had allways something going on. Could not work. I know have the feeling, that there something else goin on with my body. When i did not see him, i was sleeping and a total mess and i was going downhill. He never wanted to know, what chronic issues i had, nor the reasons, why i go to a therapist for CPTSD, child abuse and abuse...I gave my soul, body, mind, heart and money to help him out. Support and motivating him... But he said nothing to ever show his concerns about what was going on with my life. After 2 months..., he said ' you do nothing for me'.
He said this 2 times.
Something broke in me.
I was like going dead inside.
1,5 year giving, giving my all.
No much effort on his side. Wanted more and more from me. Leave my son of 22 years old, who has aspergers syndrome, luving still home. He was enoyed about my dog too. He said i should put the stuff away of my house. I said, al the stuff in my house i keep, and that is the reason i can help you, if you need anything!
My dog is the love of my life.
My son, is the one i will never put aside for anyone, nor my beloved dog.
When i had a problem or needed a shoulder to cry on, he said 'get over it' or BE A MAN. If he needed one, i was giving affection and a beer and be just near him and listen to him. Then he said one day... 'you son is a stupid moron'.
My son is a sensitive, friendly, warm hearded young man, with asperger/ add/ ocd.
My son was dog sitting for 1,5 years, everytime i went with my boyfriend. And beeing happy for me. He never saw me so happy and in love.
But things changed, with the words of my boyfriend. He said, one day..it is gross to make love, when you bleed. He was horny like hell and did not mind at all. I was more shy!
If i was not with you..., i was still allone.
I want a virgin, because they are pure and i never had a virgin before.
A man said to me i should commit suicide with my son.
My boyfriend did not defended me at all.
His friend said to me in the beginning, if i had had a cock in my ass. My boyfriend, who sat next to him, said nothing.
After a while i realized, i do not matter, my life seems not worth to protect.
I realized, i can adore, love, take care, show affection, lovemaking, money, help, care, support, respecting, needing him,...
Giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, and on and on...
And it will never be enough, for a man to change and respecting you.
He said after a few months, why do you not look at me with you eyes full of love?
I thougt about all the loveless things and words. I thought, about in the past..., he dit not want me to buy a 1$ noodle dish!!! I thought about all i gave allready...
I thought, about the day, that in daylight, some one wanted to abduct me with a van (i was luckilly smarter and lucky). When i opened the door to his house, i trembled and was agitated. He did look at me with a face and i thought..., is a human in the house??? For him everything i needed from him was incomprehensive. I lost hope. And decided, not to tell anything anymore. My eyes died more and more.
How much does a woman need to give and show her love and care and whatever else, so a man feels save to give?
I said, at the end, i am tired of your bullshit (not friendly and respectfull of me now! I know!)
He said..., he bullshitted me all the time and he should of bullshitted me more😳
So, an invalid, sick mother if one. No family. From a different country. Allone since 17 years old. Abused. All her life, vigilant. A hell of a life. Read 1000...if books. Fights wirh doctors, men, women, insurances, hunger, cold, allways protecting herself and her son. No hope, no cure, no nothings, no friends...Could write a book!
And after 17 years ckising my legs..., i open my heart, my legs, my savings, my energy of a dead one, my time, my love, affection, to an idiot.
After u quit...He said, the sex was not good anyway.
And other stupid stuff...
I will never ever give a man, what he does not value. You can givegivegivegive to man, what you want and the respect what you want and your organs...
How much proof, does a man need from a woman until she is giving a chance to receive whatever friendly that is?
By the way...
He made me coffee every time.
I bought food and he cooked.
Sometimes he was so affectionate...
The little wonderfull good times...
He was for me hot.
He was my sexy water ape boat wolve mab.
I wanted to grow old with him.
Be there for him.
Could not bare the idea, to lose him.
Now, i am dead inside.
My son, my dog, me...
I needed HIM!
Now, i know, i will live and die on my own.
Bless you all.
Don't make a man your main focus in life
Have your own life with goals, friends and fun!
Be good to yourself
Buy the shoes, eat the cake and laugh with your friends!😊
This is very tru because my boyfriend tells me he’s better because of me even though I didn’t do anything but always Let him know how important he is and what a great guy he is and how proud I’m of him
I'm the first one to comment 😭💕 I never miss your videos.. love from India
I am a well respected person in my community. Hold down a good job, have a business as well and have had a very good life not to mention I am abundant. I met a man 5 years ago and loved and respected him. I realized after a while that he was not a respectful person when I saw behavours from him when he took off his mask. I realized he came from a toxic dysfunctional family who knew no boundries when it came to drinking, sex, and social behavour. It was a free for all, anything goes and in the way for sex anyone would do. My life, my career, my love for him, my understanding pertaining to where he came from and anything good I brought to this relationship did not matter. He preferred to skip a movie to go out drinking with toxic friends and sleep with someone he did not know. He preferred to be unemployed and live of assistance even though there was nothing wrong with him. He preferred to fake depression, anxiety, etc. to get more and more money of the govt. to give him his lifestyle of drinking, and the free bad behavour that he showed on a daily basis. He lived with me for free and had all the benefits of whatever he wanted but put nothing into this connection. He did not respect himself or anyone in his life. We are not together any more but I do feel that instead of spending 5 years trying to help someone like I did I should have looked at his background and run for the hills. They are manipulators and squeeze everything out of people that they want without asking. Just talking about it and passing hints knowing fully well that if that person can afford it they will get it. That is what my person did.
Thank-you Brian for your practical insights into the male mind and how guys think/work. Assuming of course the man is a healthy male and not narcissistic.
Vicious cycles aside... thank you for putting light into this BEAUTIFUL cycle of self-worth and boundaries:personal empowerment : respect from other party : mutual respect and empowerment
I agree this is not true. If anything the more you treat a man poorly the more he feels he has to have you. If you are kind, sweet and respect him- he cheats and gets bored. Everyone knows this.
In a relationship respect goes both ways. When I'm disrespected I lose all interest i no longer want any emotional or intimate connection with that person. I don't even see them as a friend let alone a partner in a relationship.
I'm at the beginning of a romantic relationship with a dear friend of many years. He wants to take things slow and I respect that. So he hasn't said, "I love you, Ariel." However, he has said to me and texted, "I appreciate you." So I have made a point to tell him *in writing* that I appreciate him, too. He also truly was my hero two years ago when he realized I was having a mental health crisis and because he is therapist in town, my case was taken seriously and he accompanied me to the ER. So was already going to commerotate his heroism!
I do all these things. He even tells me I am respectful and make him feel like a man. I ask his opinion, etc. I still feel disrespected. When this happens, I will tell him in the nicest way possible that I feel disrespected and it's not fair. When he downplays it, I'd tell him, that maybe I was wrong to feel that way but they are still my feelings and need to be acknowledged. So maybe it's the needy-doormat thing. I will start saying no and ignoring him when I feel disrespected. Maybe that is the last straw. Next, I am no longer going to initiate conversations. You can give some man all the respect in the world, and he will still chase the bitch who walks all over him and grind his head in the sand..then call them crazy.
Going through this as we speak !
What does "feel disrespected" mean? What does it look like? Is he doing something or not doing something?
Ummm…this is likely a narcissist you are dealing with. I went through this for the last 18 months. All this advice is straight out the window with these people. Everything good, bad and in between gets the same disgusting behaviour and cycle from them no matter which way you communicate.
Then hopefully "all men" truly understand the concept of earning respect. I don't give anything that's not deserved, even with my husband. When he is not at his best, I show him accordingly and tell him exactly why. When he *IS* at his best, I show and tell accordingly as well.
He wants to be my hero. But he feels insecure that he won't be able to meet my expectations. All I want from such a loving man is his love ♥️
I recently heard a similar explanation of this concept. Yes the man is supposed to protect and love his wife significant other etc. and the woman is supposed to respect her man! However it is the man’s responsibility to love and protect first if he doesn’t love and protect The woman then she won’t respect him. And to my ladies it’s also believed that we are here to be POWERFUL!!💪💯
Yeah!! Indeed this is true! 😍😍😍 Men can "feel" if your self-confidence is fake or real. They respect your self-confidence. #facts
This may be correct for people that are living in a fairytale. But if you are with a grandiose malignant narcissist, it doesn’t matter what you…good, bad or otherwise…none of this works.
I punish bad behaviour from him by being less affectionate or leaving when the toxic abuse goes too far (not to antagonise him deliberately, but because that is my natural reaction to feeling disrespected). I’m no doormat, I challenge every lie, his every attempt to manipulate and gaslight me, every rage fit over the most trivial things (like offering him some raspberry muffin). If you call them out or tell them how their toxic behaviour makes you feel, they will start a war and will try to project all their toxic behaviour onto you. Sorry, but I tend to disagree with most of this vlog. I have also been ultra supportive of his dreams and have showed him love despite his shortfalls, and this didn’t work either…i got devalued and treated like shit just as much. I don’t believe that these points stand valid for most men these days…we are not princes and princesses…we are every day humans struggling, fighting to keep ourselves together, dealing with the easy cheating opportunities via social media messaging, and a litany of other obstacles such as spouses family, finances and mental health. I find this vlog quite unrealistic.
My soon to be ex is a narcissist too but all men aren't like that
@@mistiroberts1576 agreed. I specifically pointed out a narcissist in this context. Best of luck to you with your soon ex narc, hope you recover as well as possible 🙏
This Adviced is for mature intelligent men unfortunately most men are not..
Tagabicolini That is so true. I think their Parents didnt tell them how to behave towards women.
It also could be that the women most of these guys are around do not present themselves in a way that warrants respect, so guys are conditioned to treat them like play toys because a lot of women don’t really respect themselves.
It's in the Bible, respect and submit to your husband... 😘😘😘
It is also in the bible men should be holy and submit to God. It does not exist anymore. I will not submit to a man that is carnal.
You are the best one at explaining relationships and psychology of men and women. You have a veyr soft spoken voice and explain things so well I never get bother to listen to your lectures. I usually start your videos whilist cooking every evening
Great video. You also gave a lot of valuable information that should be natural for us women and men but for some odd reason it isn't. But it's never to late to start. Thank you. 💞
thats why i really love to watch your vedios many times,i learn so much about mens behavior.thanks brianknox😊😊
In short insult him sometimes,it works really
What an honest loving person you are!! I really appreciate your honest heart and beautiful energy! So thank you 🙏🏻
If they do what they say they're going to do and follow through with it... Or accurately estimate logistics and be honest with themselves and you about the both big amd small examples.
I think it's not about being difficult--it's about maintaining your boundaries and NOT being afraid of losing him. he'll value and appreciate you much more. And if after a few months he's not moving towards commitment there's one thing to say...."Next!!!" you deserve someone who's crazy about you and isn't afraid to show it ladies!!!! ❤❤❤
Respect is when you first respect yourself.... I love your videos Brian knox.God bless you!
In all honesty, I always thought quantum physics is complex but MEN?!?!? Wow super duper complicated! I prefer to just stay single instead of studying men....
I did everything right respected my BF I couldn’t do no wrong but he’s still fallen out of love with me at it hurts so much looks like I’m off to destination single again 💔💔🥺🥺🥺
Maybe you are trying too hard, men do not like that. Start focusing on yourself more, and see what happened.
Thing is i find it very hard to respect a man. I haven't actually met a man i have respected. I don't treat them bad but i just can't respect a man who can't look fter himself, who can't clean or make a bed or fix something and so many men are mummy's boys which is just eugh! Or they don't know how to show emotions or even talk about them. I just can't respect them 😮 i love it when a man opens a door, especially a car door, for me. One of my exs that could look after himself (he had to do narional service) always wanted me to carry my own cases and bags! I mean gime a break, we don't have the same muscle structure as men and i ended up with rotator cuff tear dragging my case over to his country every other weekend! Sod that!
Hi Brian Nox I watched many of your videos because I am trying to socioligically describe the modern DATING CULTURE for an university essay...Aniway... some of your videos are intresting and usefull both moraly and psycologicaly, but this one!! I can not tell you how wrong in my opinion this content is : point1 you are contraddicting yourself when you say that a woman should say no and use boundaries , I explain myself: whi should I allow you to pay if is a boundary of mine you should not, expecialy on a first date? Whi should I allow you to be so "romantic"( opening dors, adjusting chairs and such) If is in my boundaries you should stay formal and equal to me? Point 2: how can you say that a woman should not let her in-loveself guide her action, then, all of a sudden, say the same woman should fall for the "Prince -charming I pay everithing let me be your hero" thing? I explain myself again: this tipe of fantasy is very common wen you fall in love! But: 1)we are not in the '50 anymore and that is a fact! Women do not legally and/or socially need a man in order to be accepted by society ! feminism is a very important reality because women , like me,( but I study philosophy so yeah...it's kind of normal) have been tought that they are equal to men and should behave accordingly. (I am not talking of toxic feminism here, just the Basics....) 2 ) Many men expect " something " in return if they pay or adjust chairs! so... you see...being protected by him is being vulnerable with a man! and no, you do not deserve to be my protector IF i don't know you well enaught so that I can trust you...JUST Because you have a wee-wee, and, last but not least....If you can not see me as equal to you, so much so that you can not tollerate that Maybe, the fact that I am not letting you pay is because I am attracted to you and want to know you better and not just pleese your EGO and use you for cash; that not letting you pay is a way to show my Real Self ( and my core beliefs system) to you! Are you realy a mature individual? Ready for a decent relationship?. I do not think so! The image of man you are depicting here is very deprecating for the male gender! Or so I hope! You are showing that men have HUGE,OLD FASHONED, AND FRAGILE EGOES! That we should learn to handle, and sort of manipulate, in order to get a man we not socialy or economicaly need; giving up on the dream of finding a life companion that deeply understands us and the need we have to be in control of our life! Sorry the rant and probably bad english ....but I am quarantined in Italy....so! 😉
No worries I expect you to open my door and pay for my date
Thanks a lot for sharing this video. I learn more about what a woman should do to earn an ever lasting & happy relationship with an opposite sex. God bless
I need an English translator 🤔😅 I only paid attention to the man who is beautiful 😍😅eu preciso de um tradutor em inglês 😁
What if you give him so much respect and he starts taking you forgranted?
QUALITY MEN says Respect is what they Value in a Relationship.
Excellently done, Brian. You always present the information impeccably! Bravo! And thank you!
P.S. Your real name might not be THAT difficult to pronounce - I bet I could do a pretty good job m, even without ever having spoken Dutch. Sadly, I don’t know how to spell it, though. Google has not provided that either so far. Otherwise, I would have addressed you accordingly. 😉
It's a Dutch name indeed. So funny how he pronounces it himself.... we have a much "harder" G 😁
I think in the captions it is Geert
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen in my life online, and I have watched hundreds and hundreds of videos
Brian, I enjoy your videos thoroughly. You help keep my mind in line and on track. Your content, poise, confidence, personality, voice. It’s the whole bundle. Wishing you continued success.
Love your direct explanations because they are direct and to the point. Thank you, Victoria
First make sure the guy is worthy of you.AND YOU are in a healthy relationship first.You are in a healthy relationship when you both can communicate with each other without fear.
Your explanations with examples are very helpful and realistic.
I've learned that respecting one another is a learning process and makes the love stronger
True and setting boundaries
I like the balance message you propose here. Thank you.
But he loves being disrespected, he only acts better when he is treated like the bottom of my shoe, if he is loved and adored he gets this weird itchy rash.
He clearly has an issue with self worth.
Thank you Brian. I really appreciate your straight forward logic. I look forward to the next video.
This is so sweet , it reminds me of someone I love. I'm bout to cry 😢
what arises in me
as I watch this video:
is my inability
to let go of, and forgive,
the past.
I am raped
by the past.
it tortures me
and fills me:
with grief and regret
and guilt and rage.
I wish great suffering
on those that I loathe.
I wish upon them horrific pain.
I don't know how I will ever heal.
I am tortured...
Both parties can work if they are one the same page.
I trust my boy before,and I proud him,he is my hero,because he respect me and he faithful to our God
By the way I love when a man holds the door open for me on a date. I also reach over and open his. I feel it is respect for each other. Thank you for sharing!
Sorry but what is wrong if we go out for dinner and we both pay our part? Sometimes he offered, sometimes we share
That's what Asian woman do since a long time and I have observed that their man are always so much in love with them and respect them so much that they don't even look at other women.
Tell that to Karruche😩
Exactly....