I am 70 and for over 3 years have been in a relationship with a man who lives 1000 miles away. We get to spend a week together every now and then, and have fun. He knows that I am fine on my own. Once he behaved badly, and understands that if this ever happens again, he's out. I am not playing games, but I am independent and love him but don't need him
Hi Marie, I am 74 and I have met someone in another state in Oz. We have been talking on the phone for about 6 months and texting. We are trying to work out a place about half way to meet. He is 19 years my junior and he doesn't care. I don't want to marry again, love my independence and have told him that I want to always have my own home. He said he would relocate but would have to have his own home. I hope things are going well for you. Love from Paris in Oz
@@user370Z hello yourself,we did videocalls for 6 months before meeting. He broke all sorts of rules to drive his Fiat Panda to where I live... and when we hugged, it felt like I was coming home. He looks after his 92-year-old widowed mum - having come back from Thailand to do so. Our relationship has blossomed and hope yours will, too. Love from Siracusa in Sicily. Go girl!
You just made Brian’s very point: BE YOURSELF, show you have standards rather than complaining or showing off, and just chill while feeling comfortable in your own skin. There is no mind game or manipulation; quite the opposite actually.
Being yourself is best of course, but some of us have behavioral habits that are not healthy so do not encourage healthy relationships. So the saying- we attract what we are.
Better yet! Learn to not need anyone and just be with a partner if is a real match or when he behaves like one! Is simple you put same effort they put!
I’ve never argued with a man that wanted to walk, never cried in front of them, never got angry in front of them, and never looked back I’m glad I never did If a man wants to leave, let him Don’t ever take him back either
Just because someone didn’t do those things don’t make them less likely to not walk away with their power. I cried because I’m a genuine lover. No I never got angry, but I did find the courage to walk away! Also we need to stop this pattern of don’t take him back, the only reason u shouldn’t take him back under no circumstances, is if he was abusive or a cheater anything in that nature. Men are humans too. If he does come back as a woman that’s your decision to make, especially if it wasn’t toxic, and the falling out was petty.
@@athena6693Nope if you take a man back it shows them that you will put up with their crappy treatment They take it as a sign of weakness and it will just get worse Nope put your best foot forward because I will never take a man back that doesn’t treat me the way he should You might settle for seconds, not me
@@judyperri9496 it really depends on the individual situation but, I said never take a man back under no obligation if he doesn’t treat u right, cheat, is toxic, or abusive. Believing so hardly into pushing a man away if he haven’t done those things can really f up a relationship that had potential, so this technique doesn’t always work or does anyone justice, Is the point I’m making. Understand that space is needed. But Pushing a good guy away would be very unfortunate.
Nobody ever left.. or wanted to ‘walk’ it was always me who ended my relationships, returned the rings and asked for divorce but still maintain friendships with them all including my first husband ….and my second husband accepts that is who I am…I love love ❤
I just got into a relationship with a very kind man who messaged me after reading my hiking blog :) It's felt so good thus far - he's said multiple times how attractive it is that i have my own life, that I dont have to be in a relationship to be fulfilled, that I am genuine and kind. And I feel the same about him. He's so weird but so wonderful. We nerd out over hikes together. He is so clear about wanting to be with me. We're on the same page with faith being important to us both, and we haven't shied away from harder conversations. Honestly it feels like im dreaming. Trying to keep my feet on the ground because it's still new, but dang, this one feels different 🥰
Basically move on ladies and no sense to complain. I don’t put any person on a pedestal! Do you have a life and be unbothered for real and ALWAYS be able to walk away no matter how much you love them!!!
Ironically, i got out of a relationship where i made many of those mistakes. After that, it’s not that i didn’t want to find love. I just saw all the nonsense clearly. And i promised myself that my sanity and not crying my eyes out was the most important thing to me. I was still kind and spoke calmly, but i no longer lived as if it was my entire job to make a relationship work. It will work because he pours into it. Because he accepts my standards. Because he’s happy to have us. Not be because i stressed over how to be what he wants or because i talked till i’m blue in the face and tried till i was exhausted. It was actually the most peace i’ve ever known. I didn’t care who called back. I didn’t worry about what i could do to be more attractive or that he would be scared off, if i said the wrong thing. I just kindly said no thanks to the guys who seemed just semi interested. And i was honest about my opinions and what i wanted in a man. And long came the right man. And i’ve never been so at peace and happy. Do not be scared to lose a man. Be afraid of trying so hard to keep the wrong man, that what you end up with is so much less than you deserve
I left a man like that. Don’t like making demands because he might sabotage me. I love being alone It’s great. My husband died four years ago after 34 years of marriage and a textbook midlife crisis and I think that enough for me.
I expressed my needs.....remained patient.... then I said, "I'm sad that maybe this is just bad timing for us, I need (.....)" And today my needs are met. 😊 Love is in the air ❤
I married shortly after college in '75. OMG what a trainwreck. We both had so much potential but i didn't follow one rule you've listed in this video and another i just watched. I didn't have a clue and accepted such shabby treatment it makes me sad for that sweet young woman with so much love to give. For everyone but herself. Young people need guidance as they approach relationships and marriage. Geez what a difference it would have made.
Just honor his love for you but love yourself even more. No one is perfect and the day will come that he isn't able to show love or support, love yourself then! And take care of yourself, just like you've always done. When he was not around.
This is exactly why I follow you and not any of those other dating coaches. You are the only one that says “Be yourself”. All the others teach games and nonsense. Dankjewel Geert.
Just came out of a volatile 14 yr marriage. Met a man but am afraid of messing it up bc I am messed up. I am seriously affected by rejection and become insecure. I want to learn how to interact with people in healthy ways with healthy mindset and boundaries. I also want to learn how to heal before dating. Thank God in heaven there are people like you!!! ❤ Hod Bless you & yours my friend.
Hi Geert. Your teachings have been "a wake up call", for me. I can really see some of the poor judgement and negative traits I displayed in my previous relationships. You absolutely right on setting boundaries and being your authentic self. I often compromise, my standards to appease my other half and thus gave them the impetus to take advantage of my heart. I wish I had found your channel years ago!!
One thought that comes to mind is: Should we tell them what we are looking for/needing in a relationship? Cause they can try to be what we want and hook us in. Then later go back to their old selves.
Thanks for your candor and sense of humor. You're so right about not putting him on a pedestal, etc. And, yes, I always watch the video until the end! LOL This may sound funny, but as I've matured, I've shifted my approach in evaluating if a man is "relationship worthy" the way that I approach a job interview. In a job interview, I'm not just answering their questions, I have my own set of questions to ensure that it's a good fit for me. So, my perspective is shifting to: do I actually like him, and why? Rather than "oh i hope he likes me...hope he likes me...etc. Merry Christmas, and hope you have a joyful holiday season!
There was a quote on Facebook: Boy says to a bunny: "It's interesting after the storm the grass is the only one that remains standing." The bunny says "Sometimes being soft means strong". It seems, that nature sometimes shows that a natural and soft approach is the strongest. It's about energy. Maybe therefore after the rain comes the sun and the flowers start to bloom, the animals start to thrive in peaceful energy, the immunity of the human body increases thanks to the sun, etc.
You are great! I just lost a great guy I dated for 4 months, because in the last month I was crying when I din't have his attention, and more of his time, so he just ran away. I just tryed to please him and be nice tot him all the time, I wasn't authentic all the time, I never said I was bothered by him not calling me or replying nu messages earlier etc
I love your content almost as much as I love your accent, Geert. I don't know if you're married since you're not wearing a wedding ring but I would love if you could give tips to married women to keep their man happy. I believe marriage is a constant choice and I make that choice every day, but I would love to know how to keep our relationship healthy and happy so he can also keep making "us" his choice.
I hope you don’t mind what i’ve learned. Men love to hear that they are doing things right. I’ve seen so many other women get so defensive- like “i shouldn’t have to say anything! He’s a grown up! He should be doing those things!” It’s as if they think appreciating is the same as coercing. One says you know you have a good husband and you want him to know that you see him and all his wonderful qualities. The other is that you’re saying nice things in the hope that he’ll start being a good husband. “Honey, you’re so sweet to take care of the laundry.” “You’re so thoughtful to bring me coffee.” Don’t over do it and make sure it’s sincere. And men love touch. Sometimes, i act as if i’m going to walk by and i hook him it a surprise hug. Sometimes, i walk up from behind and put my arms around him and kiss his neck. Sometimes, i make his favorite meal or grab his favorite snack. I just smile and start cooking. Lol
brilliant - brian, you're so practical, funny and articulate. it is so helpful to hear from men what men think. your videos are so easy to listen to and learn from. thank you ;-)
Not always a person feels less just people want to be honest as some people don’t date people with their life a mess. Thats authetic not trying to sell themselves . Perspective is everything
😄 I watched till the end of the video. I am just going to be myself and not hope I get the man I really like. I don't care what he thinks of me anymore. 😊
Agreed. Like attracts like. Kind of same goes how some people attract toxic relationships while not being aware of their own toxic traits. This is why we should always strive to become a better version of ourselves. Our relationships goes better from there! 😊
I love your videos. Alas I don't seem to meet anyone to be able to try any of these! I don't feel very confident either :( But I still enjoy listening to you talk.
When my man started ignoring me like a school boy I just walked away.... I felt highly offended because I really liked him. But at the same time I didn't want to pressure him. Maybe he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. That's ok... Maybe he was with someone.
Some things about a woman are sacred that a man is not supposed to see as some things about the sanctity of being a man is not meant for a woman to see. I don't expect my man to reveal his entire soul. But I do expect honesty. I don't have any spiritual or physical sickness , illness or diseases. Love, intimacy and sexual desire is important to me. Sincerely, Nicole R. Andrews.
What you are describing is the anxious attachment of women very likely being directed to an avoidant type. That never works out anyway. As much as I love these relationship - and dating advices: most people are deeply screwed (including myself) that all the 5 million rules I have to consider in order to have a so called healthy relationship...I decide to rather not have that but to take care of myself and myself only. That is enough work already. By the way, you cannnot make someone else feel something in particular and no, most men do not want to see the real woman. That would mean, they know themselves...tz...that is so not the case.
Exactly! If I like a guy, I'm going to show him, if I don't like a guy, I'll just ignore him. Besides, I have too many hobbies to worry about chasing guys. I used to try to show interest in guys who I liked when I was in my twenties, but the guys were jerks. Now, I'm in my thirties, happily single, focusing on my cat and my art. I guess you could call me WGTOW. Women going their own way feminist.
That means that person is awful. If you have to go backwards, be inconsiderate so that you'll get princess treatment, he'll like you, etc.. dip already. That man is emotionally unstable. TF bro. Really. I am glad I left. Best decision of my 2023.
Ur so funny 😂😂😂 in like such a simple and ur clearly being urself way and are naturally funny, thanks for being ur funny self throughout ur videos, makes the information much more enjoyable and makes the information stick a little bit more. Thank you for reminding me what I believe in, that Learning While Having Fun is sometimes crucial, and well a lot more helpful especially to be more engaged and to continue learning lol so thank you 🙏🏼
well, who knew!😂 When my husband and I first started dating, he and his buddy were talking about enjoying strip clubs. I told him that he was welcome to do whatever he wanted, but I would not date a man who went to strip clubs. THAT would not be a part of my life. He said he preferred me to the clubs.
After 45 years of marriage, my husband told me this morning that he still love me as much as when we got married, his love for me is so deep and honest. I'm a lucky woman to have met him, he's a keeper.
Valuable information, delivered cheekily with just the perfect amount of humor, and confidence, to reinforce the information presented. 😉 Totally have enjoyed your presence, and presentations, since discovering them. Thank-you.
you're a funny guy and thanks for the levity side of things,was wondering where funny and fun went....yeah bring it back....love this lil short n sweet truth
Can you please do something about Betrayal. Why would a man betray and how can a woman who was very honest and invested in the relationship can fully and truly heal? Women need this. Please :D I am certainly a woman, who puts men in their place. I don't yell, but I do say, I can replace you quicker than a worn out toothbrush. I can't tolerate any lies, any dishonesty.
Maybe during calm soft days, you can tell honestly what you expect or what healthy people expect from the relationship. But say it calmly, put a smile on your face. , not in a stressful way. A calm voice is engaging. You have to say it during calm happy evenings because when human brain is happy and calm, the brain is much more able to receive information and use the information in calm useful ways. because emotions are in a different part of the brain than the cognitive part of brain.
Thank you Brian, not only can I not pronounce your real name, I can't spell it either 😂👏🙌 First comment but I've been watching for about a year now & always love your great advice & humour. Still no luck for me, but I have laid boundaries now & watched 3 walk away #Bonus!
YES!! We women need to wise up! I once was eating with a group and. young woman was vegan started telling a young man in the group with a smile how she used to love certain meat dishes and she remembers getting fresh eggs (after he talked about how delicious they are)!! And this pretending you only want hook ups instead of marriage- NO BUENO!! 😃
Activity dates are cheating, that is how my partner cheated me all the time by changing female workrs in his shop, now he lives with new girl he hired, behind my back 3 months lived with her and seeing me parallel
Little boys learn that being soft means being strong, happy, and creative, and adaptable to life's rhythm. Maybe adult men need to learn it as well. 🙂 Being masculine, strong, and passionate and being adaptable to life rhythm with a soft, stoic approach, are two different things.
Always be ready to walk away if things don't work out. Ladies do not loose respect, do not beg a man or demand attention
Self awareness and emotional intelligence is key. Period.
Your period? What about it?
I am 70 and for over 3 years have been in a relationship with a man who lives 1000 miles away. We get to spend a week together every now and then, and have fun. He knows that I am fine on my own. Once he behaved badly, and understands that if this ever happens again, he's out. I am not playing games, but I am independent and love him but don't need him
Hi Marie, I am 74 and I have met someone in another state in Oz. We have been talking on the phone for about 6 months and texting. We are trying to work out a place about half way to meet. He is 19 years my junior and he doesn't care. I don't want to marry again, love my independence and have told him that I want to always have my own home. He said he would relocate but would have to have his own home. I hope things are going well for you. Love from Paris in Oz
@@user370Z hello yourself,we did videocalls for 6 months before meeting. He broke all sorts of rules to drive his Fiat Panda to where I live... and when we hugged, it felt like I was coming home. He looks after his 92-year-old widowed mum - having come back from Thailand to do so. Our relationship has blossomed and hope yours will, too. Love from Siracusa in Sicily. Go girl!
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You two ladies are sp lovely and inspiring! Thank you ❤😊
Thank you Negin!
Who on earth can be bothered with all this manipulation and mind games. Just be yourself. If others dont like you, who cares, move on!
You just made Brian’s very point: BE YOURSELF, show you have standards rather than complaining or showing off, and just chill while feeling comfortable in your own skin. There is no mind game or manipulation; quite the opposite actually.
Being yourself is best of course, but some of us have behavioral habits that are not healthy so do not encourage healthy relationships. So the saying- we attract what we are.
LMAO you clearly doesn't watch till the end and just judge, huh? That's exactly his point LMAOOOO
@@teresanevins7167So true, being yourself means a constant struggle to understand oneself and the impact of their interaction with others.
Exhausting!!
Don't try to be someone you're not. You'll end up attracting someone who doesn't want you
Better yet! Learn to not need anyone and just be with a partner if is a real match or when he behaves like one! Is simple you put same effort they put!
This advice is soooo true. The consequence of your thought is: first love yourselve then you can love your neighbor. Otherwise around it’s BS
I’ve never argued with a man that wanted to walk, never cried in front of them, never got angry in front of them, and never looked back I’m glad I never did If a man wants to leave, let him Don’t ever take him back either
Same
Just because someone didn’t do those things don’t make them less likely to not walk away with their power. I cried because I’m a genuine lover. No I never got angry, but I did find the courage to walk away! Also we need to stop this pattern of don’t take him back, the only reason u shouldn’t take him back under no circumstances, is if he was abusive or a cheater anything in that nature. Men are humans too. If he does come back as a woman that’s your decision to make, especially if it wasn’t toxic, and the falling out was petty.
@@athena6693Nope if you take a man back it shows them that you will put up with their crappy treatment They take it as a sign of weakness and it will just get worse Nope put your best foot forward because I will never take a man back that doesn’t treat me the way he should You might settle for seconds, not me
@@judyperri9496 it really depends on the individual situation but, I said never take a man back under no obligation if he doesn’t treat u right, cheat, is toxic, or abusive. Believing so hardly into pushing a man away if he haven’t done those things can really f up a relationship that had potential, so this technique doesn’t always work or does anyone justice, Is the point I’m making. Understand that space is needed. But Pushing a good guy away would be very unfortunate.
Nobody ever left.. or wanted to ‘walk’ it was always me who ended my relationships, returned the rings and asked for divorce but still maintain friendships with them all including my first husband ….and my second husband accepts that is who I am…I love love ❤
I just got into a relationship with a very kind man who messaged me after reading my hiking blog :) It's felt so good thus far - he's said multiple times how attractive it is that i have my own life, that I dont have to be in a relationship to be fulfilled, that I am genuine and kind. And I feel the same about him. He's so weird but so wonderful. We nerd out over hikes together. He is so clear about wanting to be with me. We're on the same page with faith being important to us both, and we haven't shied away from harder conversations. Honestly it feels like im dreaming. Trying to keep my feet on the ground because it's still new, but dang, this one feels different 🥰
"He wishes he was more like you." This is such a thin line with envy and jealousy. Eeeeeeee!
Basically move on ladies and no sense to complain. I don’t put any person on a pedestal! Do you have a life and be unbothered for real and ALWAYS be able to walk away no matter how much you love them!!!
Nope! We are crazy for each other ❤
Ok
@@princessofgenovia1407 better than getting dumped by them !
Damaged children who remain unhealed make very tricky adult partners. Just sayin.😢
@@EdelweisSusie
How does that work ? 🤔 who wants that 🤨
Ironically, i got out of a relationship where i made many of those mistakes. After that, it’s not that i didn’t want to find love. I just saw all the nonsense clearly. And i promised myself that my sanity and not crying my eyes out was the most important thing to me. I was still kind and spoke calmly, but i no longer lived as if it was my entire job to make a relationship work. It will work because he pours into it. Because he accepts my standards. Because he’s happy to have us. Not be because i stressed over how to be what he wants or because i talked till i’m blue in the face and tried till i was exhausted. It was actually the most peace i’ve ever known. I didn’t care who called back. I didn’t worry about what i could do to be more attractive or that he would be scared off, if i said the wrong thing. I just kindly said no thanks to the guys who seemed just semi interested. And i was honest about my opinions and what i wanted in a man. And long came the right man. And i’ve never been so at peace and happy. Do not be scared to lose a man. Be afraid of trying so hard to keep the wrong man, that what you end up with is so much less than you deserve
Exactly. Trying too hard and watching too many videos just takes you away from your Self and where the True Love is: inside.
Thank you for this. Wonderfully expressed and definitely something that I need to work on to find that inner peace.
Well said!
Ur were words are perfect! ❤
This is great advice ❤
I left a man like that. Don’t like making demands because he might sabotage me. I love being alone It’s great. My husband died four years ago after 34 years of marriage and a textbook midlife crisis and I think that enough for me.
EVERY MAN is different. Just like We Are ALL individuals. Men either Love You or they don't .
Yes ,with that say ,the man take bull😂
I expressed my needs.....remained patient.... then I said, "I'm sad that maybe this is just bad timing for us, I need (.....)"
And today my needs are met. 😊
Love is in the air ❤
Love that. But do you mean the same person or a different one
@MissTalkToMyHand Interesting way to read that. I have to ask first, would it matter? I am not sure? Huh?
Being a worthy woman is an art.
I married shortly after college in '75. OMG what a trainwreck. We both had so much potential but i didn't follow one rule you've listed in this video and another i just watched. I didn't have a clue and accepted such shabby treatment it makes me sad for that sweet young woman with so much love to give. For everyone but herself.
Young people need guidance as they approach relationships and marriage.
Geez what a difference it would have made.
Be yourself , the best and worse and if he did not see those moments. How can a long term relationship last as life will always present those moments.
The best advice on the internet ; simple, clean, umderstanding, helpful, Eye opened insight. Thank YOU , sir!
Just honor his love for you but love yourself even more. No one is perfect and the day will come that he isn't able to show love or support, love yourself then! And take care of yourself, just like you've always done. When he was not around.
Wow this has opened my eyes really needed to hear this from someone 😭 I'm grateful I found your comment. Thankyou eleonore.
This is exactly why I follow you and not any of those other dating coaches. You are the only one that says “Be yourself”. All the others teach games and nonsense. Dankjewel Geert.
You get right to the point and with the best humor as well.
Love your voice and what you say! Your humor allows me to look at myself kindly... I make mistakes but I can adjust. Thank you for being YOU!
This was hard to hear as a wife but I pray God will help me through the pain
I'm here for Brian's humor. 😂
He'd make a great stand-up comedian on dating humor or male psychology humor. ❤
Guilty on a few of these….without realizing it ofc, and wondered why I was ghosted. Yikes. Thanks for the video.
Are you married now? You are really giving women a lot of lessons to learn coming from a real man like you. Thank you!
I wanna know if he's single too 😂 lol. Kidding not kidding
He probably is. He seems to have a good understanding of healthy relationships.
You're so appreciated. Stay Blessed & keep being adorable in your delivery, making things light & funny. All the best sir
Just came out of a volatile 14 yr marriage. Met a man but am afraid of messing it up bc I am messed up. I am seriously affected by rejection and become insecure.
I want to learn how to interact with people in healthy ways with healthy mindset and boundaries. I also want to learn how to heal before dating.
Thank God in heaven there are people like you!!! ❤ Hod Bless you & yours my friend.
I love your speaking style👏
Hi Geert. Your teachings have been "a wake up call", for me. I can really see some of the poor judgement and negative traits I displayed in my previous relationships. You absolutely right on setting boundaries and being your authentic self. I often compromise, my standards to appease my other half and thus gave them the impetus to take advantage of my heart. I wish I had found your channel years ago!!
One thought that comes to mind is: Should we tell them what we are looking for/needing in a relationship? Cause they can try to be what we want and hook us in. Then later go back to their old selves.
Gheert I am so happy to see you continuing to help people
My car looks like it cane out of a hurricane but bless her- she goes and no upgrade on the horizon for the most practical of reasons!
Thanks for your candor and sense of humor. You're so right about not putting him on a pedestal, etc. And, yes, I always watch the video until the end! LOL
This may sound funny, but as I've matured, I've shifted my approach in evaluating if a man is "relationship worthy" the way that I approach a job interview. In a job interview, I'm not just answering their questions, I have my own set of questions to ensure that it's a good fit for me. So, my perspective is shifting to: do I actually like him, and why? Rather than "oh i hope he likes me...hope he likes me...etc. Merry Christmas, and hope you have a joyful holiday season!
There was a quote on Facebook:
Boy says to a bunny: "It's interesting after the storm the grass is the only one that remains standing."
The bunny says "Sometimes being soft means strong".
It seems, that nature sometimes shows that a natural and soft approach is the strongest. It's about energy.
Maybe therefore after the rain comes the sun and the flowers start to bloom, the animals start to thrive in peaceful energy, the immunity of the human body increases thanks to the sun, etc.
You are great! I just lost a great guy I dated for 4 months, because in the last month I was crying when I din't have his attention, and more of his time, so he just ran away. I just tryed to please him and be nice tot him all the time, I wasn't authentic all the time, I never said I was bothered by him not calling me or replying nu messages earlier etc
I love your content almost as much as I love your accent, Geert. I don't know if you're married since you're not wearing a wedding ring but I would love if you could give tips to married women to keep their man happy.
I believe marriage is a constant choice and I make that choice every day, but I would love to know how to keep our relationship healthy and happy so he can also keep making "us" his choice.
I hope you don’t mind what i’ve learned. Men love to hear that they are doing things right. I’ve seen so many other women get so defensive- like “i shouldn’t have to say anything! He’s a grown up! He should be doing those things!” It’s as if they think appreciating is the same as coercing. One says you know you have a good husband and you want him to know that you see him and all his wonderful qualities. The other is that you’re saying nice things in the hope that he’ll start being a good husband. “Honey, you’re so sweet to take care of the laundry.” “You’re so thoughtful to bring me coffee.” Don’t over do it and make sure it’s sincere. And men love touch. Sometimes, i act as if i’m going to walk by and i hook him it a surprise hug. Sometimes, i walk up from behind and put my arms around him and kiss his neck. Sometimes, i make his favorite meal or grab his favorite snack. I just smile and start cooking. Lol
Quite interesting to watch, as a man. It's like a reminder of what we're looking for.
brilliant - brian, you're so practical, funny and articulate. it is so helpful to hear from men what men think. your videos are so easy to listen to and learn from. thank you ;-)
Lol brian has a sense of humor. I always stick till the end and hit like button! Thanks brian
Communication is the key
Biggest chick BS ever.
Thank you Brian you help us all so much to see where we go wrong and what to do if we do go wrong 💯👌
You crack me up. Thanks for the giggles.
Not always a person feels less just people want to be honest as some people don’t date people with their life a mess. Thats authetic not trying to sell themselves . Perspective is everything
I've been a big fan of your books for years, so pleased I came across your channel!
You have good insight on relationships and needed to hear this. Thank you!
Brian Nox, be blessed!
Thank you imaginary fatherrrrr❤❤❤❤❤❤
May you be blessed❤🥰
Since WHEN does a woman have to teach her man MANNERS?! Good grief...then She will have no respect for him.
Because the test women to check their value
😄 I watched till the end of the video. I am just going to be myself and not hope I get the man I really like. I don't care what he thinks of me anymore. 😊
lying attracts liars. be yourself
Agreed. Like attracts like. Kind of same goes how some people attract toxic relationships while not being aware of their own toxic traits.
This is why we should always strive to become a better version of ourselves. Our relationships goes better from there! 😊
I love your videos. Alas I don't seem to meet anyone to be able to try any of these! I don't feel very confident either :( But I still enjoy listening to you talk.
Brian you’re the man all the way til the end💪🙏👏❤️🔥
True to life ,love urself more than anyone els in this life❤ period
When my man started ignoring me like a school boy I just walked away.... I felt highly offended because I really liked him. But at the same time I didn't want to pressure him. Maybe he wasn't ready to be in a relationship. That's ok... Maybe he was with someone.
Some things about a woman are sacred that a man is not supposed to see as some things about the sanctity of being a man is not meant for a woman to see. I don't expect my man to reveal his entire soul. But I do expect honesty. I don't have any spiritual or physical sickness , illness or diseases. Love, intimacy and sexual desire is important to me. Sincerely, Nicole R. Andrews.
I want to thank you for doing this video because it made me realize how much my boyfriend loves and respects me. ❤
Your suggestions are bang on
What you are describing is the anxious attachment of women very likely being directed to an avoidant type. That never works out anyway. As much as I love these relationship - and dating advices: most people are deeply screwed (including myself) that all the 5 million rules I have to consider in order to have a so called healthy relationship...I decide to rather not have that but to take care of myself and myself only. That is enough work already. By the way, you cannnot make someone else feel something in particular and no, most men do not want to see the real woman. That would mean, they know themselves...tz...that is so not the case.
Exactly! If I like a guy, I'm going to show him, if I don't like a guy, I'll just ignore him. Besides, I have too many hobbies to worry about chasing guys. I used to try to show interest in guys who I liked when I was in my twenties, but the guys were jerks. Now, I'm in my thirties, happily single, focusing on my cat and my art. I guess you could call me WGTOW. Women going their own way feminist.
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This. When she shows up as herself, he always tried to change her for his ego. Most don't accept a woman as is then resent when we try to change them.
That means that person is awful. If you have to go backwards, be inconsiderate so that you'll get princess treatment, he'll like you, etc.. dip already. That man is emotionally unstable. TF bro. Really. I am glad I left. Best decision of my 2023.
I love your sense of humour 😊
Ur so funny 😂😂😂 in like such a simple and ur clearly being urself way and are naturally funny, thanks for being ur funny self throughout ur videos, makes the information much more enjoyable and makes the information stick a little bit more. Thank you for reminding me what I believe in, that Learning While Having Fun is sometimes crucial, and well a lot more helpful especially to be more engaged and to continue learning lol so thank you 🙏🏼
I've been searching and not able to find you for the past 4-5 years. Here you are! What happened to 'I love my panic attacks!?
well, who knew!😂 When my husband and I first started dating, he and his buddy were talking about enjoying strip clubs. I told him that he was welcome to do whatever he wanted, but I would not date a man who went to strip clubs. THAT would not be a part of my life. He said he preferred me to the clubs.
I love the videos! You have a great sense of humor. I like the weaving of good advice with the kidding around. Thanks!
You are the best Brian, thank you, and for replying to my email recently that was so nice, all the best to you,love Donna from Sydney Australia
You are spot on, always are. This is exactly the experience I've had currently. Can't thank you enough for helping me process x
After 45 years of marriage, my husband told me this morning that he still love me as much as when we got married, his love for me is so deep and honest. I'm a lucky woman to have met him, he's a keeper.
Thank you for this video 🙏🏻 I’ve had some realizations.
Your euphemisms, love them! (Not the car, dangerous waters indeed😂)
How very true...and SIMPLE...
Valuable information, delivered cheekily with just the perfect amount of humor, and confidence, to reinforce the information presented. 😉 Totally have enjoyed your presence, and presentations, since discovering them. Thank-you.
Great advice and always a pleasure to listen to. Thank you!
I loved this! Thank you!
Very wise Brian!!
You’re right! Men like when you have standards
Be yourself be happy be laughing if he dont like you its ok if he want to be Friend its ok 😅 life never stops
U have a great sense of humor.😅
That kind of connection isn't for him. And I felt like ewwwwww.. I want out already
Brian, you always make me laugh 😂
I enjoy all your content and the way you are, thank you so much 🫂🫂🫂🤩
I enjoyed the video very much! Thank you!
I just subscribed, just saw your channel accidentally, and loved listening to you. Great advice.
Really good reminders, thank-you so much!
You have a lot of great suggestions. Thanks for the video.
you're a funny guy and thanks for the levity side of things,was wondering where funny and fun went....yeah bring it back....love this lil short n sweet truth
Activity Dates are a great thing 👍 I can recommend this also.
I like the long talks as a man and find it attractive with a woman
Rule 101 Learn about Attachment Styles; Cluster B Personality Disorders; and Trauma Bonding.
Exactly.
You make me laugh. Good sense of humor.
No matter what you can't control your man to get your way or force things that is impossible .
Teenage love advice for relationships ❤
I liked what you said about Karma.😊
Can you please do something about Betrayal. Why would a man betray and how can a woman who was very honest and invested in the relationship can fully and truly heal? Women need this. Please :D
I am certainly a woman, who puts men in their place. I don't yell, but I do say, I can replace you quicker than a worn out toothbrush. I can't tolerate any lies, any dishonesty.
Maybe during calm soft days, you can tell honestly what you expect or what healthy people expect from the relationship. But say it calmly, put a smile on your face.
, not in a stressful way.
A calm voice is engaging.
You have to say it during calm happy evenings because when human brain is happy and calm, the brain is much more able to receive information and use the information in calm useful ways.
because emotions are in a different part of the brain than the cognitive part of brain.
Thank you Brian, not only can I not pronounce your real name, I can't spell it either 😂👏🙌 First comment but I've been watching for about a year now & always love your great advice & humour. Still no luck for me, but I have laid boundaries now & watched 3 walk away #Bonus!
His name is Brian, not Brain. He's got an awesome brain! Lol 😂
She wrote Brian@@corinaluanavlad2417
Your videos always help me in life thank u 🙏🏼
Thank you sooo much for your videos… The contents you share and the way you do it, litterally make my day every time🙏🏻 Your vibes are amazing
Great content very helpful. Straightforward and relatable. Thank you.
So helpful and love the accent
Brian Nox = Instant Extra Large Self Esteem Potion
YES!! We women need to wise up! I once was eating with a group and. young woman was vegan started telling a young man in the group with a smile how she used to love certain meat dishes and she remembers getting fresh eggs (after he talked about how delicious they are)!! And this pretending you only want hook ups instead of marriage- NO BUENO!! 😃
Wow
Well i definitely didn't go the cool calm route 😢
Activity dates are cheating, that is how my partner cheated me all the time by changing female workrs in his shop, now he lives with new girl he hired, behind my back 3 months lived with her and seeing me parallel
Little boys learn that being soft means being strong, happy, and creative, and adaptable to life's rhythm. Maybe adult men need to learn it as well. 🙂
Being masculine, strong, and passionate
and being adaptable to life rhythm with a soft, stoic approach, are two different things.
Love your videos.