GIRLS tried to SHOOT THEIR shot with HER MAN and FAT shamed HER
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ส.ค. 2023
- Treated like trash for being overweight!
Today we’re dealing with a heavy topic. Pun intended. My guest, Vanessa is sharing it all from her struggles with self-image, how she deals with disrespectful girls who try to date her boyfriend, job recruiters who cut interviews short after she shows up on a Zoom call and even how she navigates airport/airplane drama.
This is an in-depth conversation about Vanessa’s weight loss journey, the stereotypes she has encountered over the years and the advice she has for dealing with online bullies. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss. Enjoy!
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Yes, how could someone prefer a nice person over a rude b who insults strangers
the woman in the video telling men not to date bigger women so that they lose weight has nothing to do with the women losing weight. she doesn't give anything about whether other women are big or not, what she does care about is that big women are getting men over her. the tone of her voice and video was not that of caring, it was frustration and condescension. she was hurt. for whatever reason. my guess, like i said, is that she took runner up to a bigger woman and she was not happy about it. people need to stop thinking that when someone has something that they want, that it would be theirs if it was but for that person.
This is so infuriating!!!! My bf met me at 200lbs (19yrs, 5'8). He made me feel loved, he supported me before and during my weightloss journey. He didn't make me feel bad for falling back. He'd give me a gentle push. I struggle because of my PCOS and he understands that. PCOS girls will know how f**king hard it is to lose weight. I'm still overweight and fighting and he's still loving and supporting me. I want to marry him so much aha
I felt her with the plastic chairs. Literally the mood in Trinidad. Would just double up the chairs. I'd wear long sleeve clothes to cover my arms and upper thighs. I don't hate myself all the time but I also want to feel fit and feel more healthy. I also won't shit on anyone else for staying their size and being content. It's their business, not mine.
My feet are bloody big and I struggle to find shoes without searching a lot.
You sound a lot like Vanessa. She has PCOS, too. She exposed me to sooooo much during our convo because I never thought about the issue some people would have finding shoes. I am glad you have a good man in your life!
@@ThisBahamianGyal Yeah it's quite the challenge since the hormones seem to be on their own agenda. Online shopping is such a blessing because you can just find stuff in your size and style so quickly! A lot of cute shoes only go up to size 9 in physical stores and I'm a 10.5W to 11W. Had to just buy men's shoes for a while haha
I hope he proposes, you both are lucky to have each other 🤗 ❤
God bless you
As soon as I understood it had to be lifestyle, not a diet, things fell in place. Other people don't have to eat a certain regiment or work out, but i do. Not for short term changes, but as a lifestyle of my best health.
⭐ Eat whole unprocessed food.
⭐ Reduce Alcohol, Sugar, Carbs, Breads, Rice, Pasta.
⭐ Boost vegg/fruit intake.
⭐ 30min Sunlight Daily.
⭐ 30min Exercise Daily.
⭐ Drop all sugared drinks except water, tea, natural veg/fruit juice.
⭐ Sleep at least 8hrs.
⭐ Utilize fasting. Both intermittent and multi day.
⭐ Avoid the middle isles of grocery stores. Shop the walls only.
⭐ Natural state foods. Forresr, Farm, Fire, Flood. If you can't find it on a *Farm* or *Forrest*, don't eat it. If you can't cook it with *Fire* (oven), or *Flood* (boiling) don't eat it.
Excellent advice. I'm using your tips!
I've struggled with my weight my entire life and managed to get down to 170+lbs and even at my heaviest (249lbs) I've never been met with such disrespect from random strangers about my weight, much less when out with my partner.
Maybe it's because of where I live or something, but it makes my skin crawl knowing that there are people who would have the nerve to not only insult someone for their weight in public for no reason but also do so in front of their significant other while flirting with them. Absolutely disgusting.
Hi my dear, I often stumble on your post, and I am always so happy with your balanced take on issues. However, this particular video struck home because I am overweight and it is a problem I have had for years. Losing weight has been a struggle. I recently found out that my issue was hormonal, and I am now better able to handle my weight loss, which continues to be an adventure at best...lol. You treated your guest with such respect. I am so proud of her. I can see that she loves herself and that's what's important. Continue to do the good job that you are doing, Bahamian Gyal.
People who are obese have hormone levels that encourage the accumulation of body fat. we can always control what we put in our mouths, no excuses
You know, it's the small small percentage of people that tend to ruin things. People can have whatever personal beliefs they want. But there is no excuse for putting someone down based on a superficial characteristic. One of my best friends is plus sized and I would never consider her less than because of it.
As a man, I've been with a few plus-sized women. When it comes to the bedroom, my experience has been that there are less...umm...position options if you know what I mean (based on my experience but not generalizing to all plus-size women). For me, I find the physical aspects of a relationship very important...so I didn't like that 'limiting' factor. But I would never think to suggest weight loss or to shame a woman because of it.
People on planes need to get over themselves. Flights may be long, but it's only temporary. If they don't have the grace to keep their thoughts to themselves, they are the ones that look bad.
As far as job opportunities...one idea to explore is that maybe employers think there is more likelihood that a plus-size employee will have to take more time off due to health issues, or that it might be more expensive when it comes to providing health care to employees (especially if an employer is self-insured).
She's pretty and those chicks were very disrespectful. They were out of line especially when she was being polite.
There are some body positivity activists who give the movement a bad name by making claims of fatphobia when MDs mention medical risks that come from obesity, or when some people aren't sexually attracted to obese people. Otherwise, there are real examples of fatphobia, and harassment that really do occur. I know that a 30+ BMI doesn't always lead to health risks. Btw I try to make a distinction between the two.
Lizzo fault.
A +30% BMI isn't a death sentence.... However, they find it quite common among the sick. Therefore doing what puts the odds in our favor is probably the best move. ❤
@@drehardin Yes, it's about statistics. We all get sick, but being obese just makes it more likely. I do feel bad about fat shaming though. You are right about the odds.
Since the youtube had recommended your channel. I have really enjoying watching your contents. And shared it with the missus and family.
To the gyal, one mans trash and another mans treasure.
My all time quote is, "Life is like a Dark Tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you keep moving, you will come to a better place."
I’m only 115 lbs and I fly a lot. Do I love having someone spilling into my seat? No. Do I think that it’s horrible and hate them for it? Also No. We are in it together, and there’s no point in being rude to someone over something that they can’t fix in that moment. In fact, if it’s my husband and me, I’ll switch with him if someone is heavier so that they have a little more room with me than with my hubby. I don’t mind sharing the seat that I’m not using with someone who needs it even tho there isn’t much room to start. It’s cramped for everyone but especially for people who are heavy. They deserve more compassion in that situation, and maybe I’m too nice but I don’t think so. I’ve never been heavy, but I wouldn’t want someone treating me like crap over it, so I don’t get people who treat heavy people like they are horrible for being heavy.
This is going to be unpopular but I do have to say though that while I hate that they have to do it, sometimes it’s necessary for a heavier person to buy 2 seats. If they genuinely need the extra room. And the reason is that it’s unfair to the person next to them who is healthy to be punished for someone else’s issue. Like I will sit next to them to help avoid it, but sometimes there just isn’t another choice. Personally I’d rather deal with someone spilling into my seat than to have all plane tix be outrageously expensive. I have a lot of compassion, but I do think there are times when compassion doesn’t fix things.
I agree with you. My friend and I have very honest conversations. I am sensitive to her plight, but I ALWAYS give her the truth. I do think larger folks should buy an extra seat for their comfort and for ours. Thanks so much for weighing in.
It's not just being overweight but being underweight is also another problem because people sometimes starve themselves just to 'fit in'. These are some reasons to gain weight: Genetics, Stage of life, Lifestyle factors, Environmental factors, Medical conditions, Medications, Eating too many highly processed foods, Eating too much sugar.
These are just some reasons but can also be some major issues that would/might cause weight gain. I used to be between 115-125 and I was scared to death because my doctor was very concerned that something was wrong with me. But it didn't hit me that this might have been a possibility: the food that I ate, I did a lot of walking when I was younger and burned off a lot of the sugar I ate. Now, today, I am between 220-230. I would like to be under 200 but not anywhere near to what I once was. My shoes size hits upon a size 14. But I would definitely like to rid myself of at least 30 lbs.
Thanks for sharing your story and you are so right!
I love your channel so much! 💜 Really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you for spreading empathy and understanding 🥰
Thank you so much for saying that! It means a lot. ❤️❤️❤️
Another great topic, Rogan. Your guest, Vanessa is a classy, beautiful lady and should NEVER allow anyone's hate and disrespect to diminish who she is as a person. Who cares what other people think? Ms. Vanessa, you continue to do you and those who have an issue about your weight or the weight of others can go to hell ❤
I was really hoping that the story with the 2 girls hitting on her man ended with her beating thier asses 🤣🤣
But seriously though, her man handled it well. Those hoes will get thier karma.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 They were hella rude, right???!!! Just stank!
Thank you for this conversation. It opened my eyes to the struggles that people may encounter because of their size.
Your channel/personality is so chill even on serious topics. Its always a good time when i pull up. 📺
Awww mannnnnn!!! You just made this lil thugette shed a gangsta tear. Haha. Thank you so much, hun!
She eats too many calories. It’s really easy to eat 2000+ calories. Even if she eats salad, the ranch she gets on it can be calorific. High fat foods are candies, cookies, oil, salad dressings, chips, butter, etc.
I think you're right. I had mentioned that to her. Dressing, almonds, peanuts...all of that can really add up. Thanks so much for watching!
Thank you for sharing!!!
You are a good interviewer, get a talk show!!
You're so kind. Thank you for that!
Everyone deserved respect as a human being PERIOD! My Bahamian Sisters and Brothers, we know that we tend to eat more than necessary, and exercise far less than we should. Chicken, peas and rice, macaroni and cheese, coleslaw, johnny cake, and a Goombay Punch daily will not ensure that you are weight appropriate, We eat way to much and we are having serious health issues because of it. Take the small steps to get your weight to a healthy level, whatever that is for you. Bahamian First
I don’t care what your weight is. If you’re a likable person, I’m going to like you. Which I believe to be true, since my current wife was close to 300 .lbs when I married her. Plus, both of you are beautiful from the inside out.
Awww...thank you so much!
I really appreciated her doing this interview. I think she does need to take a look at her eating habits truthfully though. You don't gain that much weight if hou are only eating healthy foods. If you like where you're at, thats fine. But don't say you don't know why you're so big. You know why. I'm glad she is able to take things in stride when people are rude. That's hard sometimes.
I found this interview really interesting. This woman has such a great personality. I enjoyed watching this. 👍🏾❤
Great video Rogan, your guest is so humble about talking about herself, like she say life is a journey yes my dear I just want you to be more comfortable with yourself, your are a beautiful and educated woman,my advice is that you know sometimes being overweight can be genetic but please do the things you like stop thinking about what people think or say continue to seek help and do the things that make you happy, because as long as you not feeling out of breath ,it means that this is part of your journey, just love yourself and do what makes you happy, God made each of us in his image and there's nothing anyone can do to shame you keep your head up God bless
Yes, she is very humble and extremely self-aware. She is right...life is a journey.
This is such a great video! Your questions are of quality and very naunced. I absolutely love everything about this. Keep up the good work. As someone that was 17 stone, lost it to 10 stones then gained again to 15 and losing it. I had a phase where I dated plus size and her experience about the man who liked her but was telling her she made him uncomfortable, I can relate so much because I value intelligence and cuteness (lol) so I would date whoever, issue I have encountered with plus size is geniunely them not loving themselves. And I can honestly say, many thought I shouldnt even be with them. Its weird but its life.
Found your channel today. As a person who is about the same size as the interviewee, I am glad this conversation is being had but I really do have an issue with them not buying two coach seats. Coach is too small for us so we need two seats so that we are comfortable as are others. This is reality. I have flown first class, business and coach - overweight people need to book proper seats in each type. People who are rude on the other hand are just showing us all who they are inside.
I have been over 250 pounds and have been able to lose 30 but cannot seem to lose more. I know the feeling of trying to lose weight and cannot. I am a disabled vet, so it is hard for me to work out as much as I want to. There are times when I am in so much pain I don't want to move. But I still have to eat to live. Now I also try to eat more healthy, smaller meals and on those days that I can move good I will do a lot of walking. I do not want to get into the habit of taking pain pills every time I want to move, and some people will say do whatever it takes. well, whatever it takes will get me hooked on pain pills and all kinds of health problems cause of it. Some people can be so cruel, and it is people like that girl is when God ask us to forgive because she does not know what she is doing. Or maybe she does and does not care. Sorry I am all over the place with this comment I am like her where I understand both sides, but people can be so rude and cruel.
Thanks for sharing your story. I completely understand your dilemma.
Hey Rogan!! I absolutely loved watching Vanessa's interview!! She is a very pretty lady, regardless of her size and has such a sweet and beautiful spirit!! She is SO special and brave to be so transparent in sharing her social as well as personal life experiences, so others can be aware and more mindful of the things they say or the way in which they say them. You offered such a safe and inviting platform for her to share her stories and she seemed so comfortable!! I, too, am plus size and understand everything she explained. Listening to her, in those few minutes, made me feel so much better about myself-and I would like to thank her for that. I wasn't having the greatest day, kind of down, but her stories and your humor turned it into a better day; so I would again like to thank you both!! Great interview and I hope she made it safely to and from Vancouver! Praise God for the free upgrade!! What the devil meant for evil, God turned it around for good!!! Please have her on again, and soon!! Have a blessed and beautiful evening!!
Awwwwww thank you so much, sweetie for this love note. What a lovely comment! I will share rhis with Vanessa. You are so welcome. Thank you for watching. This won't be one of those videos that blow up, but I know that it will be helpful for so many people. You are so right...what the Devil meant for evil, God turned around for good. Same thing I said. #WontHeDoIt
The reason some people who eat healthy and excercise are overweight is because we are all different people with different bodies. We all process food differently. Our brains process food thoughts differently. Our bodies deal with stress differently. My son youngest son eats more than anyone but is tall and thin. He was born like this. It drives me crazy when people put others down. Why can't people just be kind to each other. All our problems could be solved if society celebrated kindness more than snarkiness.
Nahh, if you’re still overweight eating ‘healthy’ and exercising you’re still eating too much(too many calories) and probably not moving nearly enough. I agree with everything else tho
@@justt1984 This is just one normal body process that can trigger weight gain.
"Whenever you're stressed, your body kicks into fight or flight mode, causing it to release the hormone adrenaline to help you fight off the perceived threat you're feeling anxious about. To build up energy to deal with this threat, your body also releases glucose, or sugar, into your bloodstream. When your adrenaline wears off and your blood sugar levels drop, the hormone cortisol jumps in to provide you with more energy to continue addressing the threat.
Since cortisol stimulates the release of insulin in order to maintain your blood sugar levels, it can also trigger sugar cravings and your appetite in general. Giving into those cravings could lead to weight gain. In fact, research shows that people with higher weights tend to have an increased cortisol response to stress, says Vidhya Illuri, MD, an adult endocrinologist in Texas.
Not only can cortisol make you hungry, but it can also slow down your metabolism at the same time (another mechanism to help you conserve energy so you can deal with whatever is going on). After having their metabolic rates measured, women who reported one or more stressors the day before burned fewer calories than those who didn't, found a study in the journal Biological Psychiatry"
@@karenkendrick I agree with this sentiment as well, I know all about the role cortisol and blood sugar play in weight management, I was just talking about the very basics. !
@@justt1984 There is no very basics. There is a multitude of reasons a person can be overweight, many medical, psychological and a combination of the two. Unless you walk in their shoes you can not know what they are. It is just lazy blaming it on food and exercise.
It’s Resting Metabolic Rate- RMR. I have known some overweight people whose rate is 1,000 calories or less so that even when they don’t eat much it still goes over their calories burned therefore they will not lose weight. I have been obese for a few decades so I know the drill but I make zero excuses for ‘why’ I am obese as I personally know the why and am finally fixing it now. At any rate, most people need to get their RMR done so they then know what cals they can or cannot eat.
It’s crazy that someone would complain about her!! She’s really not very big, not like a 600lbs person or anything! What a crazy man… glad she got upgraded 😊
Beautiful Queen and to all the beautiful queens out there, please do not "small yourself up". The ignorance of people will always find a reason to make themselves even more "small minded". Two things: 1) you can accept me as I am or 2) you can keep it pushing as you are.
I personally blame society (as in media) for making anybody feel less than.
What is pushed to be perceived as beautiful and or accepted.
You're from our homeland so remember
(B)elieving in "U"
(A)nd
(H)umbleness
(A)lways
(M)akes
(A)nybody
(S)exy
What di wybe iz my people 🇧🇸🇧🇸🇧🇸
Great video Gyal!!!
I am gonna share this with Vanessa! She needs to hear all of the positivity you are sharing! Thanks, Mike!!!!!
Nice show! Great guest
This was insightful. I come from a place that doesn't necessarily hate on plus size adults at least (however, you know with kids and teens it's different). Where I live the curvier the better and for sure no one is thinking about your health first when you're overweight, hence why I've never thought about it from the perspective of the other person. I'm skinny and I've been shamed alot. I guess it just depends on where you live sometimes.
Thank you for this video
My pleasure!
I would much rather sit next to a heavy person than someone with BO! I would Never be rude! Unfortunately, I have a very sensitive nose and am not always able to control my gag reflex. Over weight people don’t bother me. Most overweight people are considerate of others. Thanks Vanessa for this interview!
You and I are the same. I cannot tolerate body odors or bad breath. That would ABSOLUTELY ruin my flight....my anything, really. I have a ridiculously sensitive nose and I can't control the expressions on my face. LOL. Thanks for watching.
I understand people are born into bad circumstances that foster obesity. At the same time, there has to be serious effort on behalf of black women AND men in order to be in much better physical shape. Just accepting it and allowing it CANNOT be acceptable.
Agree
When you always look at the outside attributes you loose! Unfortunately when we don’t know the purpose of a thing you abuse it you miss use it or you just plain neglect it. This video is informative but yet hurtful and we as humans need to learn about how we have more in common than if you have the right body shape body size
Etc.
Being Thin Can Come With Health Complications also! 🤔🤔🤔
Very well said. I have a friend who is young and skinny. Two friends, actually. Looking at them, they look amazing. Guess what? They both got reallllly bad health reports recently. You can't just assume that because someone is skinny, they are healthy.
I've struggled with weight most of my life. I choose to be a healthy weight now. It's been a challenge, but once I found the "secret" (eat less, move more) my life improved. Unless you have an underlying health condition, it's simple math. The world isn't built to accommodate obese people. They are the outliers. THEY need to make the necessary changes to live healthier lives. I have compassion, because that was me at one time. But ultimately, WE are in control of our bodies.
TBG , another fab vid and loveing Vanessa . Beautiful lady with a beautiful heart
If you ever decide to have a panel discussion on this subject...I would love to be a part of it. I have been plush size most of my adult life ranging from sizes US 8 - 26. Ya girl def got stories from personal experiences.
Hey! Thanks for watching and commenting. Please send me a message on IG so that I have your contact for when that time comes. Thanks so much for the offer.
@@ThisBahamianGyal Done!
I think some people hang onto emotional wounding and they can struggle with their weight/self concept and that can even be enough to keep it on and to identify w it. Regardless of what you eat/exercise. I've seen it a lot in my work. Then you have some insecure thing going "under stress I get soooo thin I can't believe thats true" Thats them inserting themselves to invalidate you/feel superior. instead of trying to hear your struggle. Ignore it.
We should not disrespect each other. But also, we should not be delusional and take accountability for the way we are weather looks or personality and start growing, be better, and be healthy.
People shouldn't judge.... Like they say: Never judge a book by it's cover. There can be multiple reasons to why one can be overweight. Those type of people piss me off. I was anorexic and honestly got the same... "Walking dead reject" "Eat a burger" "How are you not dead yet".... yeah I heard it all. Like that helps, dipshits.
People need to mind their own bees wax and stop inserting themselves. Vanessa is a wonderful woman! She seems very nice and just plain fun! Screw people, seriously..
I would totally want to sit beside Vanessa! Our row would be the party row and everyone will just be jealous because we'll be having a great time!!!
It could be on hormone problems
As a plus sized woman myself, I would love to know where she buys her clothes. She dresses very nicely. I find it very hard to find clothes for myself that aren’t crazy revealing or so old lady looking or looking like I’m wearing a tent.
Great interview. Love this lady.
It's literally not hard to count calories. There's always an excuse for people being overweight other than the truth. You're eating too much calories. You're not moving enough. Your hormones are imbalanced. Pretty simple 👌🏾
Ayyyy Family its me again, Every now an then you touch on a subject that just suck me in, and this one hit home, I am fat, overweight, chunky, fluffy, what ever you wanna call me, I don't care ine shame about nothing. Ever since I was an adult I was fat, i'm not a big eater at all, (all the skinny people say, yeah right), I use to go to the gym, I tried Every Diet known to man, I even had gastric bypass surgery, I can tell you what works and what don't work I have lost 100lbs three times in my life, and as fast as I lost it, it turn around an come right back, I can barely eat a sandwich, and im full, two slice a pizza and I'm full, I'm a whopping 300lbs, but im a tall 300lbs, So why am I so fat, who the hell knows, I go to restaurants and watch lil skinny narrow hip people sit down and eat three times what I eat, and I gatta wonder, where the hell these people puttin all this dern food, I go to like the Olive Garden and red lobster, and by the time my food come I done stuffed with cheddar bay biscuits or the appetizer and garlic bread, my food gern home in a take out container, and even so I making at least two meals out of that! so This begs the question, why am I so fat, well I have obesity on both sides of my family so im predisposed to be fat, its in the jeans. plus the food you buy now a days is not the best quality, its full of chemicals and steroids, things that are unhealthy for the body, Its a struggle. I need all the lil narrow hip people to understand something, no one wants to be fat, no one wakes up in the morning and say, hey, I think I wanna be fat today, Obesity is a curse, and to people like me, food is also a curse, you know whats sad? I can go all day without eating, go outside in all this heat and sweat buckets, and wont lose Not one flippin ounce, its a curse, the food industry benefits off of our misery, the weight loss industry is making billions off of out misery, no one knows the real reason why People are fat, And if they did, they wouldn't tell you. If there was a cure they wouldn't give it to you, There is no money in cures, why should the cure you when they can make a ton of money on treatments, why should they cure obesity when they are making billions of dollars on weight loss products! I am Fat, I don't want to be fat, If I never put an ounce of food i'm my mouth ever again I would be happy food is not my friend!
In Jamaica, some man want a mampy. Fluffly dem call dem 😆. Thats what dem love.
I can vouch for this! Going to UWI from Trinidad was quite the culture shock with regards to how much the men love big girls
Get a pen and paper and keep track of the calories you eat. I started this two months ago and I am losing 10 pounds a month. My martial arts coach taught me that. Also avoiding butter and cheese helps a lot. I am doing it to prevent future health problems not for society. Each person has a right to control their own body.
The fact of the matter is most men do not care if a woman is "fat" or not. Literally every wedding I've personally been to in the past 10 years, the woman was plus sized. I think that makes WOMEN feel some type of way, regardless of whether it's about health or not. We've certainly seen men online being very vocal about not liking big girls, but out here in the real world, they are getting wifed up.
What men ? Only black men.
Both of you ladies are so beautiful 😍
Thank you so much! You're very kind.
Here for it and for ALL the gyals.
And ur guest so so confident and beautiful. And just love real natural hair.
When I tell you that some men literally want your fupa on their forehead. 🤷🏾♀️
2:28 lmaoo gurrlll please😂
Good Thursday Morning,
First off, as a new subscriber, I have not viewed every presentation. But, this one, 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Secondly, please extend my well wishes to your friend. Her willingness to be this vulnerable and open will be returned to her 10x. In the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Third, continued success with each and every future presentation. You are very thoughtful with your questions, and you do appear to be serious about the professionalism. That is absolutely missing in the bulk of these so called podcasts.
Lastly, I hope that this presentation brings your channel even greater exposure. Enjoy the rest of this week. Much Love. Much Respect.
✊🏿🖤💯#BlackLoveEveryday
Hellooooo! Thank you sooo much for your kind words. I will definitely share your warm sentiments with Vanessa and thank you for subscribing. Be sure to share the video with friends and family so they can hear Vanessa's story. 😊 ❤️
While I largely agree with fat-positivity critics, I think many of them discount many of the very real struggles of fat people.
The fat activist say so many stupid things that they are not taken seriously at all, even when their complaints are valid.
You are absolutely correct.
Sis, is lying to herself. She is over-eating.
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I’m happy she got that free first class flight 🥹💗
Me, too. Thanks for watching! 🖤
As a chubby chub chub myself, the first denial we need to get over is the denial of our calorie intake.
The reason we have excess fat deposits is because we take in more calories than we consume. Such are the facts. We are overweight because we eat more than our metabolism can burn. Nobody that doesn't eat more than their metabolism can burn will gain fat. (disclaimer, I dont actually know if there are rare diseases where the body generates fat deposits from nothing, but it is not common)
Personally I spent many years telling myself that I didnt eat that much different from normal weight people. But it is a lie. Sure our metabolisms are all different, and some people burn calories faster and easier than others. But most to all normal weighted people do pay attention to their weight, and scale their calorie intake accordingly. Or else they too would gain weight. And sure we can say metabolism just isnt fair, but it is biology, and tons of other health factors are equally "unfair". Cancer is genetics, aging is genetics, rheumatism is genetics. Which just means if you have genetics that increase your risk, you can mitigate by living accordingly.
But there are some truth to "you cant get fat from only eating kale" regardless if anyone can actually withstand only eating kale. That is where mental factors (which can also be highly "unfair") comes into play. And yes, we are wired differently; some have highly addictive personalities and will get addicted to stimuli like sugar, fats and calories, and some people have less addictive personalities, and can smoke for 15 years and quit from one day to the other.
But to say that overweight is not rooted in calorie intake is to lie to oneself, and that is a disservice really. How ever comforting it might be.
Hey girlie. I can mostly relate to what your guest. I weigh 230lbs and the doctor told me to diet but....I lost 3 and gained about 10. Lol. Some people really cannot lose weight because it's genetics, some people have slow metabolism. As long as you and healthy and content, I say "love yasef."
"Can't lose weight it's genetic" That the same excuse so many use.
@@MyerShift7 for some ppl, it's the story of their life
If she or someone else chooses to be overweight, it's their biz cuz it's their body. No one has the right to shame anyone bcuz of their weight
just found ur channel ur friend is cute by the way
Awwww thanks for watching. I am gonna tell her what you said. Knowing Vanessa, she is gonna burst out crying. God bless you!
@@ThisBahamianGyal she's already taken so i'm sure i will be the one crying lol
This man here thinks you both are beautiful. I love black women 👨🦳
Awwwwwwww 😢 Thank you SO much! I am gonna share this message with Vanessa. Thank you, Tracy!🧡💛🧡
Im surprised this has little likes.
GOD BLESS ALL THE BEEG BOONGIES! 😃😈
Should someone stop living their lives as they should bcoz they are overweight 😢😢
He never released the emails and cooked her ass tho
First like then watch 😍
Maybe I'm in the minority of blk men in this country right now, but I personally love wmn who are naturally shaped like 🚘Cadillacs with headlights and a nice rear end 🤷🏾♂️
omg, I don't think they like being described like this though!!!
@@robkennedy5906 Why not, it's a way to compliment a woman without being lude & suggestive
@@robkennedy5906it’s intention and tone. This guy didn’t say Cadillac like this 🤭. He said it like this 😏.
I don't feel bad for abled bodied fat people. Being fat is not being oppressed. They will do everything but lose weight. I'm a 6 ft tall woman. Being in a coach seat on a plane is uncomfortable and being tall is out of my control, but tall people aren't moved to first class to be more comfortable.
I think you missed the point. She was moved to First Class because some jerk (who didn't even know if he was sitting next to her) acted a complete fool and was disrespectful. The flight attendant upgraded my guest to avoid drama in the air. That was a smart move.
This obesity epidemic is not our fault! There has been a major change in the food supply that we were not aware of. This has been done to us. Read the Plant Paradox by Dr. Stephen Gundry for insight and help.
No, a lot of men don't want to be with obese women. That's a small amount of men. Most men, especially men with more options will know that it's a bad idea.
First of all if you're sleeping with anybody you need to be married fornication is a sin
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Seriously? Don't be self righteous I'm sure you sin in other ways
@karenmiller2785 the Bible says for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God and I'm not self-righteous of course I have sinned. Does that mean the year I waited till I got married was wrong? If that's not the way you want to go them that's your choice. The way you worded that tells me your not a Christian and that being so I would expect you to attack me
This whole video spoke about so many things, yet that was your focus. Self-righteous indeed.
@@odeccagibson4716agreed
Your more English than American in your attitude and outlook and your Education and manner is light years from American. By the way I LOVE America the people were so kind and generous beyond what I ever expected. Their government not so much..but that true about all countries.
Just a hot take, I'd flirt like hell if I was next to her in that aerial cattle car
You can loose weight you just don't want too. All my American friends in New Zealand eat way too Much, food is like Drugs to them they talk about food , way beyond normal.
Ever think about not being fat?
Wowwww! Hope you never develop any type of condition that causes you to gain weight.