I could forgive the hit as an accident since he didn't hurt her, but he doubled down and made it clear it was intentional. The moment you intentionally hit your spouse, that's abuse and they need to leave you. Him getting so defensive makes me want her to report it directly to his supervisor and divorce him.
You are right, girl. This IS abuse. Throw a fit cursing you (especially because of something you didn't do) is abuse. Shove you in the room is abuse. Talking rudely to you is abuse. Hitting you is more than definitely abuse. Call it a "warning tap" is abuse and gaslighting. Dismissing your feelings is abuse. Insinuating none of this is necessary and then screaming at you again is abuse too... Any of these, isolated or combined, are forms of abuse and he knows it, that's why he's scared of people taking wind of this... Go with your gut feeling! Hope you'll be okay...
Never go back to him op. Your husband isn't even ashamed of his actions and sees nothing wrong with his behavior. His calling it a warning tap implies that he's willing to full on assault you in the future.
The fact that he called it a “warning tap” is already a big ass red flag, because what happens after it’s no longer a warning tap? It’s just going to escalate. And the fact that he is more concerned about the word “abuse” being tied to him because it would ruin his career is another red flag. OP needs to keep those texts that he is sending her because it’s going to help her in the long run.
Oh gurl, GET OUT. What, so you get a "warning tap" for being fed up with his tantrum but for him it's completely fine to disrespect his wife, yell at her and threaten her? Not to mention it really doesn't matter if it hurt or not. He's shown he has no problem getting physical if something doesn't go his way. Take him up on his kind offer to divorce him. Kick his useless a$$ out. You deserve better.
Maaaaaaaan, if I found out that my son in law had struck my daughter during an argument, I would make it my personal mission in life to put the fear of God into him. Not the A-hole. Regardless of what OP decides relationship-wise, she needs to stay safe.
It's not physical abuse, but the fact that he lost his sh!t when he couldn't find his phone and the fact that he called it a warning may lead to actual physical abuse. He is scared of that word because most people react to that word like it's the plague, even though nowdays it has been overused a lot (like right here). If this behavior of him is his usual state, then yeah, someday you may be in danger. At least from what I can get from this post.
First…the age thing already was a red flag for me. But…it doesn’t matter if it hurt or not!!! It is fucking abuse!!! Leave his ass, file for divorce, and ruin his career now!!! Before it is too late!!
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NTA. LEAVE!!! Next time it won’t be a “warning”.
Nta. Blaming op for his mistake was strike 1. Shoving her is strike 2. Hitting her was strike 3. He's defo not safe to be around.
I could forgive the hit as an accident since he didn't hurt her, but he doubled down and made it clear it was intentional. The moment you intentionally hit your spouse, that's abuse and they need to leave you. Him getting so defensive makes me want her to report it directly to his supervisor and divorce him.
You are right, girl. This IS abuse. Throw a fit cursing you (especially because of something you didn't do) is abuse. Shove you in the room is abuse. Talking rudely to you is abuse. Hitting you is more than definitely abuse. Call it a "warning tap" is abuse and gaslighting. Dismissing your feelings is abuse. Insinuating none of this is necessary and then screaming at you again is abuse too... Any of these, isolated or combined, are forms of abuse and he knows it, that's why he's scared of people taking wind of this... Go with your gut feeling! Hope you'll be okay...
Never go back to him op. Your husband isn't even ashamed of his actions and sees nothing wrong with his behavior. His calling it a warning tap implies that he's willing to full on assault you in the future.
The fact that he called it a “warning tap” is already a big ass red flag, because what happens after it’s no longer a warning tap? It’s just going to escalate. And the fact that he is more concerned about the word “abuse” being tied to him because it would ruin his career is another red flag. OP needs to keep those texts that he is sending her because it’s going to help her in the long run.
NTA it's the start of abuse hes being a big baby
Oh gurl, GET OUT. What, so you get a "warning tap" for being fed up with his tantrum but for him it's completely fine to disrespect his wife, yell at her and threaten her? Not to mention it really doesn't matter if it hurt or not. He's shown he has no problem getting physical if something doesn't go his way. Take him up on his kind offer to divorce him. Kick his useless a$$ out. You deserve better.
Maaaaaaaan, if I found out that my son in law had struck my daughter during an argument, I would make it my personal mission in life to put the fear of God into him.
Not the A-hole. Regardless of what OP decides relationship-wise, she needs to stay safe.
It's not physical abuse, but the fact that he lost his sh!t when he couldn't find his phone and the fact that he called it a warning may lead to actual physical abuse.
He is scared of that word because most people react to that word like it's the plague, even though nowdays it has been overused a lot (like right here).
If this behavior of him is his usual state, then yeah, someday you may be in danger. At least from what I can get from this post.
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NTA. the way he responds to it says it enough. He is abusive. Leave and divorce him.
First…the age thing already was a red flag for me. But…it doesn’t matter if it hurt or not!!! It is fucking abuse!!! Leave his ass, file for divorce, and ruin his career now!!! Before it is too late!!
Definitely nta, but sometimes i think women do things on purpose to intimidate men but this is a woman pov so can't tell much