Jesus loves you dearly. Any goodness in that man or anyone for that matter was a gift from God, whether we are aware of it or not. I also hate my sinful, selfish nature, but what I love about myself is that I love the God of love who helps me, loves me, and heals me.
Everyone makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on yourself. We learn more from our failures than from our successes too. Putting in the work so we can change our behavior is very important. For myself, I've repeated the same mistakes because I wasn't consciously working to do something different. It's easier than you think to do this and figuratively fall asleep at the wheel. Best of luck in the next relationship.
I think for people who have been grossly mistreated and abused it is very hard to know what a good relationship looks like. What is the blueprint to look for?! Not only that, but we doubt our own eyes and ears because we lost trust in our ability to chose a good person....we chose the abusers before after all. :(
Thanks Susan. I’ve been self-blaming for a while now & it’s been a long journey. I sabotaged a lot of “would be good”relationships in the past. This resonates.
Locked and loaded, I like that. Felt like I was ready and she wasn't. It's kind of interesting because I initiated the discussion about where we're going, but since she's the one that actually broke it off I felt hurt afterwards. I was close to breaking up myself but was willing to keep putting in the work (despite how painful it was starting to become). My dignity and confidence didn't really kick in until after the break up. Maybe next time around, I won't put up with a situation like that again for as long as I did. And now I'm even better than before, and ready when the next bus comes by!
I’m so sad. I’ve made so many mistakes and they left because of me. I was terribly injured and they took care of me. Then I still messed up and she left me.
I was the guy in this scenario. Like Susan said, your dignity and self esteem take a hit then you come to a point when the only thing left to do, is walk away. I'm concerned now that because of this, I'll be more guarded. One thing I know I won't do is over give!
If you fear being guarded, you will definitely end up guarded. Don’t be so concerned over how you might act towards a future partner. Dynamics change and compatibility assists greatly with the ability to stay open! Much love coming your way!
Wow…I was the one who did the breaking up with whom I WISHED & WANTED her to be my future…and even though I broke it off in a way that truly honored her and the beautiful gift of this transformative relationship, I still have am left with heartache and burden because I was ready for her…
I've done this numerous times. The guy breaks it off and marries the next woman he meets. Over and over. I'm ending that old pattern that no longer serves me, but it's really difficult to do the inner work.
This is 100% my situation. I’m five months after the ending and still can’t get over it because I knew it was my fault. I didn’t know. I wasn’t aware…I see it now. But the pain of losing an amazing woman is so difficult 😢
I was with my ex nearly a year and it was 80% fantastic. But my mental health problems (bipolar and ADHD) and my childhood attachment trauma caused my ex to leave me when I was triggered during an argument. I self-harmed badly enough to freak him out and he finished it there and then and threw me out of the house.
I grew up with a narcisstic mother. So I exactly feels her pain. Im 35 and still dont know what a healthy relationship looks like. Well I know ive seen it in movies or friends and environment But cant immagine it for myself. I consider myself lucky tho that I found out about my moms narcisstic disorder. I try to do affrimations on self love from Loius Hay and love watching your Videos Susan 🌄🌿
I made a similar mistake. I had two good dates with a woman who is my age. Our first two dates were more than three hours long. She suggested things to do on both dates. I then waited almost a month to contact her because I was afraid. She then told me that she met someone else. I am devastated.
I haven’t heard any stories about people who’ve been through this and how their next relationship is. It’s always the other partner that’s been hurt and the next partner is the perfect match for them. It kinda is discouraging
My god this exactly what’s going on with me. I’m the one who’s ready, showing and Locked and Loaded but my patience is running very thin. This was a giant eye opener. Thank you Susan Winter and Carolina
So how long will you wait? And if you decide upon one month and on the day after your deadline they sense they’re losing you and they throw they’re arms around your neck to draw you back in, will you give in and start the cycle all over again? They have set the precedence for the relationship by dictating when they will open up, if ever. They remain in control of you and every aspect of the ‘relationship’.
Dear Susan, this was beautifully explained! Thank You. Have a great trip in Europe! You deserve some rest. I am so grateful to have found your channel!
Why do some women not see when they are in the wrong why they never say sorry but if a guy dose some think wrong one time is the bad person they never see what they say or do please
She was kind of hot and cold. Told me how she was talking to the ex still but wanted to date me. I should've called it off earlier. We felt the connection then she got into the avoidant behavior and said there was no chemistry. Mixed messages, i felt i did something wrong but was also being consistent for both of us. Idk, dating seems harder than it should.
Thank you very much Susan for answering this question. I think you are truly gifted to have that much of situation understanding, empathy and insight on future steps, having to your disposition only few sentences describing the situation. It was really helpful. I learned with this video something new❤️
In my case, I initiated the breakup. I found out my former girlfriend was committing fraud and other crimes and wouldn't dump the loser she was with. Being the one who initiated it, me. Emotional fallout was minimal.
I would suggest tuning into yourself and try to figure out why you were EA with your ex. You’ll grow and begin to slowly open up once you truly know why you were closed off in the first place. 🤗
Do not take that as an insult to you. Some people have to constantly be with a partner regardless of their emotional state. Stay positive and open and the right person and situations will fall into place
Jesus is ready for a relationship (locked and loaded) for you. We are either afraid of Him or our love for Him is greater than our fear of Him. Susan's advise to say: 'I really like you and it really scares me, you look so good and everything looks so right and it kind of scares me, but I'm going to continue to walk forward anyway', is perfect.
I was in a relationship for 13 years with a girl. She was always very loyal and made constant efforts to love me. Never let me down...I too loved her a lot but with time I started to take her for granted. Didnt value her love and I did and made her do things, the way I wanted..she did everything for me as she loved me that much. I was doing all these being unaware that I am wrong..I thought everything is ok...but I was hurting her is some or other way...She just craved my love and attention and I was busy in my own world. Although I always treated her like a gentleman and cared for her. She has been continuously telling me to talk to my parents for marriage, and make it a halal rishta. I wanted to marry her too but I kept stalling things . She fought for me with everyone in the family. I had a casual nature and failed to understand the gravity of the situation. She warned me many times it's high time now otherwise she will get engaged. I did talked to my family but due to some issue I gave up too soon but thought we will work it out again..She was fed up of me by this moment and decided to get engaged with a stranger. But she found a good family and the guy is nice to him too .She is happy and can't take a step back..now i am left alone as she has moved on and I am in depression as I lost a true gem..Didn't value her when there was time..didnt value the relationship. Although it was never intentional. Now I am in pain and missing her..learnt the biggest lesson of my life. just wish to go back in time and fix everything. Nobody will love me the way she did..a selfless love. I feel such a loser. Is it my fault or is it destiny.?
It´s both, our destiny is to meet people on our way who will teach us valuable lessons, or would learn from us (or both). She was surely important for you, but you stopped respecting her at some point in time. Glad, that you had time to reconsider this and understand your mistake, it shows how truly you regret it. She had understood a lot about herself through the experience she had with you surely too. It´s ironic, when you see, that actually once someone has left you, it makes you realize what you have not been seeing this whole time, how much lack of this person learns you, motivates you to look into yourself from their perspective. It´s painful to understand, she needed to leave you, in order for you to get the lesson and "awakening". It is the beginning of new chapter for you, you are becoming another person, just try to not do those mistakes again. Even though, speaking from my experience, if you realise you had tone of mistakes, you just correct consciously some of them and unconsciously you might also do the same mistakes in new relationship, that you realised in previous relationship and hated about yourself...Theory is easier than practice, but it´s ok to make mistakes. Just try to be the best version of yourself you can be and learn future lessons by being more aware. Learn good communication with your future partner, since it is not possible we prepare the best version of ourselves and then start dating and meet someone from our dreams without making any mistakes at all anymore. We learn about ourselves through other people and through interactions with other people - I mean also friends. New partner can trigger new issues, that you weren´t aware about yourself, you never know. I wish you all the best :) Of course, take your time to grieve... 13 years that hurts for sure, I cannot even imagine.
@@karolinap8313 thank you for kind words...I am still trying to move on..but I am still stuck there about how it it all went wrong, mistakes I did. Every morning I wake up with regret and those memories play in loop, what could I have done better at that time. All I have left now is loneliness, regret, guilt and shame.
@@amaanahmed9370 It´s understandable, it´s natural process. As Matthew said in the last video I recommended to you, right now literally part of you died and you will be scattered and you might die many many times it this lifetime. You will get stronger, and at least love of this girl for you didn´t go in vain, because she created an impulse for you to open your eyes and change and become a better, more empathetic and compassionate part of you. But it is process, you won´t change overnight. Take your time, analyse it through, this phase is really important. This girl was literally with you for more than decade, so you might feel like you lost your identity and reconsider who you are today.
@@karolinap8313 yes, I am like literally dying every moment and the pain is unbearable..I am just trying to forgive myself as I didn't knew I was doing wrong to her at that time..she loved me so deeply, I will never ever get that kind of love again and I will always be incomplete. Dint knw what the future lies ahead of me, but as I can see now I lost the love of my life due to my stupidity and I wish I had knwn earlier what consequences my actions would bring
@@amaanahmed9370 You can be still thankful to the universe and above all to the girl, you had a chance to get to know her and see and feel how real and unconditional love looks like. But to be honest, you don´t know how your life together would be in the future, because some people even if they love each other after some time they grow apart and do not need each other anymore. I am saying it, by looking at my life, but mostly about friendships - not romantic relationships. There were some friends I had or grew up with together, that I wouldn´t at that time never want to imagine live without. I thought those friendships will be forever. They were outmost important to me, taking into consideration like boyfriend might leave you, but a girlfriend would never do that, because you can have friendships throughout your whole life, they do not have so much requirements and complications as romantic relationships, so they were outmost important to me… And guess what…? I would never even possible could imagine, that it would be ME who literally do not miss some friends and do not need them anymore! Really strange, if I think about the mindset of my old me and those close people at that time. Yeah, they were important, I needed them at that time like air. We were close friends next door for more than decade. But, they changed and I changed. We do not have that much in common anymore. Some of the people I still write some birthday wishes, we talk how our life changed in years, but that´s all. I do not need their closure, I do not need them regularly or at all in my life. I do not think even of them anymore, even though before even thought of loosing them would hurt me immensely. And when I watched some interviews about divorces, growing apart is often the reason, even if those people still love each other and want the best for the other person. I suppose your girl also wants you to be happy in your life. For sure, she is wishing you well. But, I and also you understand her, we are hurt the most by people we love the most. She couldn’t take it anymore to fill like an option for you. I understand her point of view too.
I was locked and loaded a month ago and my girlfriend who was so guarded and closed broke up with me. With zero explanation. Broke up with me by text and then ghosted. This is really hard to get through. I am really suffering.
Take stock in that you did nothing wrong and she took the initiative to leave You could not have received a more clear scenario that it was meant to be for her to leave. You now have closure; find yourself someone who will reciprocate your love.
Zero explanation yet she broke up with you by text. What did the text indicate? Ghosting is vanishing without a trace. She actually didn’t ghost you if she communicated with you via text that she was breaking up with you; it wasn’t what you wanted to hear but she did communicate.
Susan, I’m confused as in the beginning of the video you implied that Caroleena couldn’t love because either she never saw a template for a healthy relationship, or she was in an abusive relationship, but at 03:46 you indicated that her timing was wrong. Was she in a relationship with someone while dating locked and loaded and planning to monkey-branch to locked and loaded but he left too soon?
You need to visit her website that you see at the beginning of the video (TH-cam deletes comments with links) and then you need to select "contact". You can see there a button for Q&A Video Request, once you have clicked there, you can type your question.
i feel like i will never find anyone like him he was the best i hate myself
Jesus loves you dearly.
Any goodness in that man or anyone for that matter was a gift from God, whether we are aware of it or not.
I also hate my sinful, selfish nature, but what I love about myself is that I love the God of love who helps me, loves me, and heals me.
Everyone makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on yourself. We learn more from our failures than from our successes too. Putting in the work so we can change our behavior is very important. For myself, I've repeated the same mistakes because I wasn't consciously working to do something different. It's easier than you think to do this and figuratively fall asleep at the wheel. Best of luck in the next relationship.
Thank you for this comment!
But sometimes it’s not even our fault…they were just horrible partners
You should be hard on yourself because you traumatized another person.
It’s hard when you think you lost the love of your life only because you were to scared.
Your words help. Thank you
I think for people who have been grossly mistreated and abused it is very hard to know what a good relationship looks like. What is the blueprint to look for?! Not only that, but we doubt our own eyes and ears because we lost trust in our ability to chose a good person....we chose the abusers before after all. :(
great insight, Natalia
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Thanks Susan. I’ve been self-blaming for a while now & it’s been a long journey. I sabotaged a lot of “would be good”relationships in the past. This resonates.
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If you had a crappy childhood you give the bad guys 100 chances and the good ones get burned.
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A 100 guys a 100 chances
This video came in at the right time. I was self sabotaging
I’m so happy to hear that this video has helped you! You’re stronger than you think!!!
Locked and loaded, I like that. Felt like I was ready and she wasn't. It's kind of interesting because I initiated the discussion about where we're going, but since she's the one that actually broke it off I felt hurt afterwards. I was close to breaking up myself but was willing to keep putting in the work (despite how painful it was starting to become). My dignity and confidence didn't really kick in until after the break up. Maybe next time around, I won't put up with a situation like that again for as long as I did.
And now I'm even better than before, and ready when the next bus comes by!
I’m so happy to hear that you’re on a positive track! 🎉
I’m so sad. I’ve made so many mistakes and they left because of me. I was terribly injured and they took care of me. Then I still messed up and she left me.
Great video. All dumpers aren't bad. Sometimes the dumpee created so much discomfort that the dumper had no other choice but to leave.
A good dump is cathartic
I was the guy in this scenario. Like Susan said, your dignity and self esteem take a hit then you come to a point when the only thing left to do, is walk away.
I'm concerned now that because of this, I'll be more guarded. One thing I know I won't do is over give!
If you fear being guarded, you will definitely end up guarded. Don’t be so concerned over how you might act towards a future partner. Dynamics change and compatibility assists greatly with the ability to stay open! Much love coming your way!
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My girlfriend left me and its all my fault. Now, she has new boyfriend. I dont know how to move on because there are so many regrets in my mind
How’s it been
How are you now. I am the same situation
@@dowde2-ol5kl and you? Is everything okay? Because I'm currently in the same situation
Whoa, what a great topic! So important to do the work to learn from our mistakes. Thank you, Susan, for breaking this down for us! ❤️💐😁
Thank you, Lisa for such a nice note. 🥰
Wow…I was the one who did the breaking up with whom I WISHED & WANTED her to be my future…and even though I broke it off in a way that truly honored her and the beautiful gift of this transformative relationship, I still have am left with heartache and burden because I was ready for her…
I've done this numerous times. The guy breaks it off and marries the next woman he meets. Over and over. I'm ending that old pattern that no longer serves me, but it's really difficult to do the inner work.
Ur not alone, I swear It always seems like they find the one after me. It’s crazy
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This is 100% my situation. I’m five months after the ending and still can’t get over it because I knew it was my fault. I didn’t know. I wasn’t aware…I see it now. But the pain of losing an amazing woman is so difficult 😢
"This guy who was the perfect guy was the warmup round" haha loved it
I was with my ex nearly a year and it was 80% fantastic. But my mental health problems (bipolar and ADHD) and my childhood attachment trauma caused my ex to leave me when I was triggered during an argument. I self-harmed badly enough to freak him out and he finished it there and then and threw me out of the house.
I've just finished the video, thank you so much, I will be taking your advice to heart (as well as seeing a much-needed therapist!)
I grew up with a narcisstic mother. So I exactly feels her pain. Im 35 and still dont know what a healthy relationship looks like. Well I know ive seen it in movies or friends and environment But cant immagine it for myself. I consider myself lucky tho that I found out about my moms narcisstic disorder. I try to do affrimations on self love from Loius Hay and love watching your Videos Susan 🌄🌿
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I made a similar mistake. I had two good dates with a woman who is my age. Our first two dates were more than three hours long. She suggested things to do on both dates. I then waited almost a month to contact her because I was afraid. She then told me that she met someone else. I am devastated.
I haven’t heard any stories about people who’ve been through this and how their next relationship is. It’s always the other partner that’s been hurt and the next partner is the perfect match for them. It kinda is discouraging
I took her for granted amd she left i never forgave myself it was 10.yeats ago
Sorry about that. But you have to forgive yourself.
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Susan, you are my girl crush!
Wish I could have coffee with you 🐱
Thank you for another sound advice.
Aww Nina! What an honor! Thank you so much for your support!
I needed this❤ Thank you
You’re very welcome! Thanks for tuning in!
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My god this exactly what’s going on with me. I’m the one who’s ready, showing and Locked and Loaded but my patience is running very thin. This was a giant eye opener. Thank you Susan Winter and Carolina
So how long will you wait?
And if you decide upon one month and on the day after your deadline they sense they’re losing you and they throw they’re arms around your neck to draw you back in, will you give in and start the cycle all over again?
They have set the precedence for the relationship by dictating when they will open up, if ever.
They remain in control of you and every aspect of the ‘relationship’.
Any updates?
Love the over corrected remark! 🥰
Dear Susan, this was beautifully explained! Thank You. Have a great trip in Europe! You deserve some rest.
I am so grateful to have found your channel!
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Why do some women not see when they are in the wrong why they never say sorry but if a guy dose some think wrong one time is the bad person they never see what they say or do please
Excellent explanation Susan!
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We All make Mistakes
She was kind of hot and cold. Told me how she was talking to the ex still but wanted to date me. I should've called it off earlier. We felt the connection then she got into the avoidant behavior and said there was no chemistry. Mixed messages, i felt i did something wrong but was also being consistent for both of us. Idk, dating seems harder than it should.
Thank you very much Susan for answering this question. I think you are truly gifted to have that much of situation understanding, empathy and insight on future steps, having to your disposition only few sentences describing the situation. It was really helpful. I learned with this video something new❤️
I relate to this 💯
Thank you so much for this video ❤️
Hang on to him as an example, your failure so you don’t ever have make the same mistakes again
thank God it wasn't all my fault
Trying to hard not to dwell on the fact that she was the practice round
Ughh I just wanna hug u
Yes...I'm fault....
Oppo, it's okay. There's most alsways regret and guilt when there's a breakup... even if we wanted to be free from our partner.
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In my case, I initiated the breakup. I found out my former girlfriend was committing fraud and other crimes and wouldn't dump the loser she was with. Being the one who initiated it, me. Emotional fallout was minimal.
Thank you for this
What if you were the one who was totally emotionally available and they weren’t…and they left, married someone else within months?
I would suggest tuning into yourself and try to figure out why you were EA with your ex. You’ll grow and begin to slowly open up once you truly know why you were closed off in the first place. 🤗
Get on your knees and thank God.
@@SusanWinterI'm trying to learn. Where did you get the idea that he was 'closed off in the first place'?
This is my situation , but he's still single and on dating sites..... :(
Do not take that as an insult to you. Some people have to constantly be with a partner regardless of their emotional state. Stay positive and open and the right person and situations will fall into place
@@SusanWinter Thank you Susan!!!
Can you speak more about over correcting? I've been doing that 😩
Let me see if I can address that in an upcoming video!
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Jesus is ready for a relationship (locked and loaded) for you.
We are either afraid of Him or our love for Him is greater than our fear of Him.
Susan's advise to say:
'I really like you and it really scares me, you look so good and everything looks so right and it kind of scares me, but I'm going to continue to walk forward anyway', is perfect.
I was in a relationship for 13 years with a girl. She was always very loyal and made constant efforts to love me. Never let me down...I too loved her a lot but with time I started to take her for granted. Didnt value her love and I did and made her do things, the way I wanted..she did everything for me as she loved me that much. I was doing all these being unaware that I am wrong..I thought everything is ok...but I was hurting her is some or other way...She just craved my love and attention and I was busy in my own world. Although I always treated her like a gentleman and cared for her. She has been continuously telling me to talk to my parents for marriage, and make it a halal rishta. I wanted to marry her too but I kept stalling things . She fought for me with everyone in the family. I had a casual nature and failed to understand the gravity of the situation. She warned me many times it's high time now otherwise she will get engaged. I did talked to my family but due to some issue I gave up too soon but thought we will work it out again..She was fed up of me by this moment and decided to get engaged with a stranger. But she found a good family and the guy is nice to him too .She is happy and can't take a step back..now i am left alone as she has moved on and I am in depression as I lost a true gem..Didn't value her when there was time..didnt value the relationship. Although it was never intentional. Now I am in pain and missing her..learnt the biggest lesson of my life. just wish to go back in time and fix everything. Nobody will love me the way she did..a selfless love. I feel such a loser. Is it my fault or is it destiny.?
It´s both, our destiny is to meet people on our way who will teach us valuable lessons, or would learn from us (or both). She was surely important for you, but you stopped respecting her at some point in time. Glad, that you had time to reconsider this and understand your mistake, it shows how truly you regret it. She had understood a lot about herself through the experience she had with you surely too.
It´s ironic, when you see, that actually once someone has left you, it makes you realize what you have not been seeing this whole time, how much lack of this person learns you, motivates you to look into yourself from their perspective. It´s painful to understand, she needed to leave you, in order for you to get the lesson and "awakening". It is the beginning of new chapter for you, you are becoming another person, just try to not do those mistakes again. Even though, speaking from my experience, if you realise you had tone of mistakes, you just correct consciously some of them and unconsciously you might also do the same mistakes in new relationship, that you realised in previous relationship and hated about yourself...Theory is easier than practice, but it´s ok to make mistakes. Just try to be the best version of yourself you can be and learn future lessons by being more aware. Learn good communication with your future partner, since it is not possible we prepare the best version of ourselves and then start dating and meet someone from our dreams without making any mistakes at all anymore. We learn about ourselves through other people and through interactions with other people - I mean also friends. New partner can trigger new issues, that you
weren´t aware about yourself, you never know.
I wish you all the best :) Of course, take your time to grieve... 13 years that hurts for sure, I cannot even imagine.
@@karolinap8313 thank you for kind words...I am still trying to move on..but I am still stuck there about how it it all went wrong, mistakes I did. Every morning I wake up with regret and those memories play in loop, what could I have done better at that time. All I have left now is loneliness, regret, guilt and shame.
@@amaanahmed9370 It´s understandable, it´s natural process.
As Matthew said in the last video I recommended to you, right now literally part of you died and you will be scattered and you might die many many times it this lifetime. You will get stronger, and at least love of this girl for you didn´t go in vain, because she created an impulse for you to open your eyes and change and become a better, more empathetic and compassionate part of you. But it is process, you won´t change overnight. Take your time, analyse it through, this phase is really important. This girl was literally with you for more than decade, so you might feel like you lost your identity and reconsider who you are today.
@@karolinap8313 yes, I am like literally dying every moment and the pain is unbearable..I am just trying to forgive myself as I didn't knew I was doing wrong to her at that time..she loved me so deeply, I will never ever get that kind of love again and I will always be incomplete. Dint knw what the future lies ahead of me, but as I can see now I lost the love of my life due to my stupidity and I wish I had knwn earlier what consequences my actions would bring
@@amaanahmed9370 You can be still thankful to the universe and above all to the girl, you had a chance to get to know her and see and feel how real and unconditional love looks like.
But to be honest, you don´t know how your life together would be in the future, because some people even if they love each other after some time they grow apart and do not need each other anymore. I am saying it, by looking at my life, but mostly about friendships - not romantic relationships. There were some friends I had or grew up with together, that I wouldn´t at that time never want to imagine live without. I thought those friendships will be forever. They were outmost important to me, taking into consideration like boyfriend might leave you, but a girlfriend would never do that, because you can have friendships throughout your whole life, they do not have so much requirements and complications as romantic relationships, so they were outmost important to me… And guess what…? I would never even possible could imagine, that it would be ME who literally do not miss some friends and do not need them anymore! Really strange, if I think about the mindset of my old me and those close people at that time. Yeah, they were important, I needed them at that time like air. We were close friends next door for more than decade. But, they changed and I changed. We do not have that much in common anymore. Some of the people I still write some birthday wishes, we talk how our life changed in years, but that´s all. I do not need their closure, I do not need them regularly or at all in my life. I do not think even of them anymore, even though before even thought of loosing them would hurt me immensely.
And when I watched some interviews about divorces, growing apart is often the reason, even if those people still love each other and want the best for the other person.
I suppose your girl also wants you to be happy in your life. For sure, she is wishing you well. But, I and also you understand her, we are hurt the most by people we love the most. She couldn’t take it anymore to fill like an option for you. I understand her point of view too.
I was locked and loaded a month ago and my girlfriend who was so guarded and closed broke up with me.
With zero explanation.
Broke up with me by text and then ghosted.
This is really hard to get through.
I am really suffering.
Take stock in that you did nothing wrong and she took the initiative to leave
You could not have received a more clear scenario that it was meant to be for her to leave. You now have closure; find yourself someone who will reciprocate your love.
Your not alone
Zero explanation yet she broke up with you by text.
What did the text indicate?
Ghosting is vanishing without a trace.
She actually didn’t ghost you if she communicated with you via text that she was breaking up with you; it wasn’t what you wanted to hear but she did communicate.
But what if we hurted this "lock n loaded" person. How can we put the guilt away?
how can we fix it though? how can we work with our recent ex to fix things up
Is the breakup book available in a paperback version?
Susan, I’m confused as in the beginning of the video you implied that Caroleena couldn’t love because either she never saw a template for a healthy relationship, or she was in an abusive relationship, but at 03:46 you indicated that her timing was wrong. Was she in a relationship with someone while dating locked and loaded and planning to monkey-branch to locked and loaded but he left too soon?
I was in a great long distance relationship. I wanted an open relationship, he didn’t. I should’ve made that sacrifice for him.
So you wanted to be a wh0r3 and the didn't. Woaaa! Shocking!
If I have a question, can I ask it here or somewhere else?
You need to visit her website that you see at the beginning of the video (TH-cam deletes comments with links) and then you need to select "contact". You can see there a button for Q&A Video Request, once you have clicked there, you can type your question.
@@Gabriela-zy3uh thank you so much! Very sweet of you to respond ❤️
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