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The only thing unethical about this video is how you unethically used unethical to make people click on this video because it was nothing unethical about any of these things that you mentioned😂😂😂
NO Psychological communication is how every human being operates. There IS NOTHING unethical about it. 80% of how we communicate and interact is due to this. It is our first language. The ONLY people who label as 'unethical' are BORING, tedious and WEAK feminists and others, who will do the same towards ANYONE, who have used hard work, learning and personal evolution to become what they want in life. It's YET ANOTHER excuse to play the victim and demonise what they could use themselves. 21ST CENTURY FEMINISM IS FOR LOSERS. The entire liberal and Woke spectrum is about being a victim and portraying success by others as wrong. They can't beat them so they have to SMEAR them. Have a little cry because you couldn't and someone else COULD. Have a little cry because someone had the SPINE to look at themselves and admit their faults. Then, used learning and knowledge to not ONLY correct those faults but reinvent their entire selves. And guess what? If it isn't 'unethical' tricks it will be something or someone else they try to blame as the reason for the fact they CAN'T COMPETE with others. Now, I'm going to reinvent myself as the winner I DESERVE to be while you others talk fucking shit - like successful losers. David
I’m sure the author knows this book isn’t free but is using the fake FREE ploy. It’s used everywhere. Watch out for this one peeps and the sale signs. They’re so dishonest. Once you realize you have been manipulated or the good moral word - lied to - spread the word. The good part is you won’t do business with these scammers again. They are going to make money anyway. It’s unnecessary and sneakkky
I once got the address a girl while buying flowers: She was the salesgirl. I told her how I bought the flowers for a lovely girl I knew etcetera etcetera....and then after I paid, I gave the flowers to her. She was lovely and probably still is. Long Distance killed it
Pre-Suasion: things you can do before your message/conversation that improve chance of success. A. Background Image B. Unity (especially family) C. planting a seed. Your message is the seed, be sure to prepare the ground before trying to plant 1. Free giveaway for client, give to client family instead 2. ask for ADVICE vs opinion or ideas for improvement 3. asking for raise? do it right after good feedback from boss or customer 4. asking for donations? build unity between you and them or the recipient and them 5. Environment should reflect goals. ex motivational phrases on office walls 6. Get them in the right mindset before delivering the message (i.e. prepare the ground before planting)
Interesting how there are no link to any of these "studies" to back up the claims or to come up with these results. They are called FACTS - where are they?
Because it is not forbidden, and is a waste of time. Read the negative Amazon reviews first and save your money. Generalities and common sense, the positive reviews make no sense unless they're from friends or family.
I studied marketing but decided against going into the field solely based on how morally corrupt many widely used marketing practices are. You'd be amazed the lengths major companies have gone to studying human psychology and they DO NOT CARE of it hurts their target. Bottom line is all that matters.
So they're rolling in cash now and you're patting yourself on the back, great move, I'm sure your children will congratulate you for your moral fortitude. Nice job!
I had a doctor do this to me. I was seeking advice on an elective procedure, and he said, "If you were my brother I would tell you to do this." It evoked powerful emotions (and I ended up doing what he said, and it was successful), and I have also not forgotten it, and have used it myself.
I have lost alot of trust in the medical establishment during covid when 99.9% parroted the party line. "If you were my brother, I'd recommend the safe and effective clot shot." I wouldn't buy it!
I had a a doctor say this to me about a procedure. If you were my sister, I would advise you to do so and so. I remember it feeling like a powerful persuasion but I actually ended up not doing it.
I've done this to doctors. I was really being earnest. That someone says/does this does not necessarily mean that they are being manipulative. They honestly just want a legitimate opinion.
One of these psychological tricks discussed in Robert Cialdini's book "PRE-suasion" is the use of context and anticipation to prepare people for a specific message or action. When used ethically, this trick can help people be more open and prepared for important information or proposals. For instance, a therapist uses this technique to prepare a patient for a difficult discussion about their mental health. By approaching the topic gently and priming it, the patient feels more comfortable and open to treatment and improving their mental health.
yeah, it's only ethical if done for the wellbeing of the other. but im very sensitive toward any kind of manipulation and because im so guarded against it even if it's not something inherently nefarious i will respond negatively to the act itself if not the message
In the car business, giving the customer a larger number than what you want is called "bench marking." When the car sales person says, "That car is listed at $35,000, BUT WAS on sale for a less during a special pricing sale." This bench marks the price high. The sales person only wants $25,000 for that car so they then say, "The sales manager might keep that special price, let me talk to him/her about keeping that lower price?" Now the sales person is ON YOUR SIDE and "fighting for you for a lower price." It is all in the game.
In the customer business, arming oneself with the real market value information collected off the internet, giving a lower number than what they want is called "low balling". After the car salesman's pitch for a friendly $25k (which they bought for $18k from the last sucker that traded in), and you realising market value is really $23k, you then pitch "I only have $20k on me, but I can pay for this right now, otherwise I'm stuck with the other model across the road". This puts the salesman in FEAST OR FAMINE mode, and if they want that commission they will take it or barter for the real market value, or eat rice instead of steaks for another week.
Very impresive presentation. I have 35 years of corporate sales experience and have been trained in over 17 professional selling strategies. Anyone not watching this is going to be left behind! Awesome. I look forward to looking at more of your videos,
@@LightAgeEfootball The Don't-Wait,Act-Now method works around me. I noticed it in sales, like @316cooper said, sales people have been trained to close the deal. Wait time or Think Time kills deals. It's the same for friends/family/coworkers. Genuine personal relationships respect my wait time. People who just want me to say "Yes" won't respect my Think Time. "Act Now! I can't wait for you to think! Do this favor for me!" It happened to me just yesterday.
Hey random stranger on the internet. I used to be a doormat who was aware off these things. I grew a spine and it solved the problem. Take it for what you will. I know it changed my life for the better. Hearing online that you lack a spine probably sucks but better someone tells you strait. Besides, you probably argue + dont believe me anyway. Take care bro.
@@SkreltNL Being an invertebrate allows you to squeeze out of situations a lot of people cant and sometimes you don't have any other option than to take what people dish out. Standing up for myself and others nearly got me killed several times and only made things worse. Having a backbone is fine but sometimes its better to let people think you don't
Well it's a good bs detector to know a persons ulterior motives. Specifically when a person is bad at doing this and feels like a memorized script, like when talking to a sales person or an agent when there is something valuable on the line.
Good work, but please stop using thumbnails not related to the content. It seems clickbait-y and frustrating. There was not a single line about eye contact in this one.
I was denied several sales positions because I failed the desired personality inventory. They want image-conscious, trendy, superficial, impulsive, and 'morally flexible'. In other words, honest, forthright, knowledgeable sales people are the antithesis of marketing.
depends on the company and what it sells but you are right over 90%+ companies are like the ones that denied you the position. What is more, they do hurt their customers but not as much as one may think - many people forget they were manipulated or even lied to, they even rationalize it and idolize the person that did that to them and they return for another purchase. It's true. That is why being an ethical salesman is so unheard off - it's just an uphill battle with your own morality without much pay off in terms of money. Sometimes it's worth it for the genuine human connections created along the way. Have you considered salesman position in an established small family business? They are a dying breed but they usually do care for their customers more than the big companies.
i gave a shot at a car lot once. One day the boss called me into his office. He introduced a man who wanted to buy a car. He added, " try not to tell him all the things wrong with the car." He was a nice guy & got a kick outta my doing homework on the cars with the garage. Good experience. i went on to work on a horse ranch. 😅❤
So the moral of the story is to have principles that are strong enough to overcome mental manipulations. Not surprising that principles, virtues, and morals are not taught today as prominently as they should be.
Hi everyone, this is one of those scam comments that, ironically, manipulate you into googling (and then buying) the thing mentioned in the comment. I see it all the time these days on TH-cam comments. Don't fall for it.
Except for #5, which is aimed towards yourself, all of these only work if your goals or desires match with the other person’s. If there is no connection, it’s very easy to say no to other people’s requests. Anytime a stranger asks me something, with the intent to sell/give/buy/borrow/etc, I automatically assume they are trying to take advantage of me and this assumption decreases their chances of success with me. Even among people I know, I have to see my benefit in their offer before I can agree to anything, and it’s the extent of that personal value that will determine my response. I’m not saying I’m immune to these tactics, but it does make it harder to fall for them when you automatically assume there is a ploy against you.
So all I would have to do to ta advantage of you would be to tell you about how people always take advantage of me, and then let you educate me in how to avoid being taken advantage of, and bingo, we got unity and I secretly buttered up to you by listening carefully to your advice. On top of that, you would now see me as a bit gullible and perfectly harmless. So now your guard is down and you see me as harmless. Meaning, now, I can manipulate you as I see fit.
@@JohnConnorTM why would you assume I would have sympathy for you or your problems? What value is there in it for me to be concerned or involve myself in your problems? This is where your idea falls apart. You think I would care and take pity on you for being gullible, or somehow befriend you for it. As I said before in other terms, if there is no value in it for me, I’m not interested.
@@Linusgump because you have been taken advantage of many times, everyone has sympathy with a fellow victim, also you would have felt appreciated by my asking you for advice. If I where like those who took advantage of you before, with what I know, I could do whatever I want with and to you. Especilly since you think it cannot be done. Please understand, I would never do such a thing, to anyone, well to anyone but those who specifically ask for it by treating others like that. Manipulating people is evil and the only reason I have learned this is to expose those who do, to those being manipulated.
@@JohnConnorTM what makes you think I have been taken advantage of, or at least as much as anyone else? Just because I distrust people does not mean I have learned the hard way to distrust them. I distrust because I watch people and see how dishonest they really are.
I went to a management school called Quiver once. What I learned there about manipulating the workforce made me quit my job. Your managers and executives use all manner of tricks on the workforce, i.e YOU. The bigger the business, the more likely you are being manipulated to be more productive. Psychology is used on the workforce DAILY.
When I hear salespeople say "The next product I'm going to talk about I'd even tell my mother to invest in." I run. Just like when someone says Honestly, or truthfully, or my father was looking for a contractor and a lot of them said "I hate when people take advantage of old people" or "I was in the military too." I told my father to just let them go. Those are big red lights to me.
I’ve used the asking for advice as opposed to an opinion many times in many forms. To me it’s a matter of asking someone’s opinion, is asking for their thoughts, where asking for advice is asking for their knowledge. Any time you need something from someone you have to make them feel that you believe they are smart and competent first. I’ve also always used unity language, especially when trying to convince someone to do something. It’s a matter of using words like like “we need to change this for this to happen for us” instead of saying “you” and saying “our goal is” instead of “my goal is”. Those two changes in my approach to people has had a very positive effect on how people perceive me and any message I’m trying to convey.
@@Exxeron-ob3tv The words the author of these thread used, that beforehand "you have to make people feel smart..." to obtain something for them; sounds like manipulation. It feels like manipulation the way the author of this thread said that beforehand "you have to make people feel that they are smart..." since it is better to believe that all people can surprise us and are able to give us a type of lesson, or knowledge. After watching this video these questions popped in my mind: To choose a word, rather than another because someone told us is more effective, is it manipulation? So if I use the word advice, instead of opinion, should I now start using opinion, so I don't 'influence' others? However if I choose the word opinion instead of advice, am I not still affecting them by my choice of word? I still believe that it is important to choose the words wisely. Imagine this scenario between a husband and a wife. So the husband washed the dishes and the wife puts the plates back in the cupboard. While doing so, she noticed a plate dirty and tell him: Look here, you left this one dirty. You should pay more attention when washing the plates. Imagine if I hadn't noticed your mistake and put it back in the cupboard dirty!" There is a chance that the husband gets triggered, feel offended and a disagreement is created between a husband and wife. However if she told him: Dear, I appreciate it greatly that you are washing the dishes. I noticed that this plate needs a little bit more cleaning. I will be grateful if you do it again." I think the latter example would trigger him less and makes him feel appreciated. If you say it SINCERELY, I don't think this is manipulation. I think a lot of lifelong suffering and disagreements would be avoided if we choose our words wisely.
I think the better lesson is to avoid accidentally dissuading people from doing something they would have otherwise done. And that is because the effect of priming is shortlived. Sooner or later, the pre-suading influence will be forgotten and the person will experience some degree of negative emotion.
Idk , I once read a biography from Charles Manson, he didn't write it, but the words and history are his. Manipulation is quite easy if done in a way that takes a but of extra time, a study of the individual, and first finding what tgey seek in life and give that to then, be it love, loyalty, attention etc, then when ypu do , they become addicted to you in a way, a sort of love, tge slowly twist and use empathy and bold actions that deeply dive into the person.
I just realised something, a few days ago I was sat on a bench eating my lunch when a young lady asked if she could sit by me to which I said certainly, we got into conversation and she seemed overly nice towards me, after a while I said, I have to go now but it was lovely to meet you, she replied, would you like my number, I got her number, picked up my guitar and left.
This presents aspects of neurolinguistic programming as adopted in marketing and sales. It used to be considered magic, but psychologists have now identified the science behind it. It is unethical but ubiquitous. Some sites overdo it, too. You go into some ads and they tell you everything but how much it costs. I hate that, but then I am a bit older.
Having a small but nice looking happy dog was a magnet not only to females but just a wide range of personality’s or sexes . The more that connect people to the same love or a strong familiarity that the wider the population are familiar with pets . That even store mangers and sales teams draws welcoming that seemed to be much higher with meaning than just a polite welcome .
Yes, that's why L L Bean always has dogs throughout the catalog and usually on the cover. It causes an oxytocin release just to see a photo of a puppy or very cute dog and then people associate their products with love. Brilliant chemical ploy - it's literally DRUGGING people with their own brains to buy more stuff.
I had a highly ethical orthopedic surgeon use the family thing on me - I was 18 at the time (I'm 51 now and remember it due to the emotional impact it had) and he said, "If you were my daughter I'd not do the surgery." I didn't (nor did I get a second opinion) and I'm glad.
My situation was the opposite. Had serious heart trouble.The surgeon wanted to perform heart surgery on me (for training I suppose). I was 22 at that time. He tried everything. I laughed in his face. I'm 54 now and I know for a fact that I wouldn't be alive today if I was accepting that surgery. All I had to do is to start drinking coffee every day and everything went away.
@@Zach.3246 Well, why do you ask? You were told that the coffee is not beneficial to my heart? Anyway, the moment I started to drink coffee, my pains absolutely stopped. There's a bit more than 30 years since I started to drink real coffee and my chest pains stopped the next day I started.
The thumbnail to this video is a psychological "trick," used in marketing. The way some TH-cam creators come up with a video titles(at times)is through psychological "trickery." I'm just trying to market my product, says Microsoft or Apple. Yes through psychological "trickery," some for bettering you and some for bettering just them. Good,well made video, that should never be illegal. Your video is an equal benefit, to you and viewer. In my humble opinion. 🤙
I studied psychology at degree level. Spotting the hidden message in advertising can be a bunch of fun, same as EPI tests when the 'real' questions stand out above the meaningless ones. The problem with listening to music, particularly for students, is conditional learning. Your not going to be allowed to listen to music while taking tests so the conditions are different and your more likely to forget something important
This is a great example of how psychology says more about the observer than the subject. It is impossible to prove any of the claims made here in the first example no matter how interesting and cool they are. One could argue that women who shop for flowers are more likely to be single or a certain age or personality type or more shy or more passive/polite (saying yes to spare his feelings)etc… and maybe that is why the guy got more yes answers. It consciously makes sense to link flowers with romance and then say oh that’s why the results were more positive but still it shows more about the perception of the observer than the actual true subconscious power the flowers may have had.
People are like this though. Not all of course, like high pressure sales exist for a reason, because they work. People get all worked up and excited over it and want to buy whatever garbage they're hawking. Meanwhile I sit through those things and I feel autistic with the lack of matching their energy I do, I'm bored and can't wait to get out of this hokey wannabe psychological high pressure sales nonsense.
These actions are not unethical and should not be illegal. Though that title did draw my attention enough to watch the video. How this knowledge is used is what makes a difference, putting the ethics on the person using them and how they're being used. Thanks Robert:)
@@justmeeagainn If the video had been by anyone other than Cialdini, I would not have watched it. The title was interesting but not enough to watch if it were from anyone else.
@@randallcotner1258the internet is full of grifters.. get rich quick scammers , misleading people … marketing products unsuitable for the target market .. im not talking about this channel.. absolutely it’s illegal here in Australia.. in breach of consumer protection laws.. i don’t know why we haven’t seen people convicted.. maybe there isn’t much consumer protection in the USA ?
Ethics and legality are unity based tactics. This entire video is basically "how to perform clickbait irl" Useful social engineering tactics, but indeed annoying when receiving them and noticing it. Especially annoying when one acknowledges it's what it is before clicking, and despite acknowledging clicks nonetheless
I ran an auto shop where we offered a free visual inspection of a car with a paid oil change. People kept demanding we do diagnostic work for free, such as engine diagnostics for a problem. After awhile I put up a sign saying diagnostics were not covered as visual inspection. People before would argue and even call me a thief if I did not provide expensive services for free. Afterwards all I had to do was point to the sign and never got an argument. The sign actually is false authority. I had to use illogic to fight illogic.
Good stuff here. I hope when I share it with my son that he can use these techniques to help him with his every day relationships with the people around him so he can be more successful in communicating with everyone.
I use the family thing all the time when I am lecturing my music students. The wonderful thing with family is that it's a great way to use of you have to convey something historical. It makes people count backwards in time bring able to envision themselves and their relatives easier. (I am clearly not an English teacher 😅) Thank you for this lovely explainer video and greetings from the Netherlands 🇱🇺
The way tp avoid these persuasion traps is to gave a set or principles or even a plan before you enter a known encounter or shopping experience. Know how you want to shop or what you're goal is and constantly remind yourself on these rules (or plan) as youre encounter occurs.
I really like how you getting wrapped up in her personal examples demonstrates what a great job she did displaying the viability the unity manipulation.
There is some value in each of these strategies and tactics, but at best they are very minimal. Most will have no impact on your intended audience at all, subconsciously or otherwise. I found it very interesting that the single most important, compelling and powerful element that can be used to influence anyone wasn't even mentioned once in this entire video: emotion. If you really want to influence or persuade someone to come around to your way of thinking on something, then you need to find a way to make an emotional connection with them. Nothing motivates people more effectively than appealing to them at an emotional level. Far more than any of us ever realize, we are emotional creatures. If you can find a way to form some type of connection with them at an emotional level, you will have FAR more success influencing those around you than you will by using all of the other methods and tactics mentioned in this video combined.
I think that the unity maneuver touches emotions in a lot of people. Certain people do get emotional and clingy about social groups, making them gravitate toward anything resembling that. As a devout practicing introvert and isolationist, that one stood out to me because that makes me want to run away instead of jumping in. As I'm far from the only introvert in the world, anyone using these ideas as control points needs to take into account that they will push some people away.
I am in sales. This is like kindergarten level sales one oh1 we know that all sales are made on emotion and then justified with logic. This really is Sales 101.
I appreciate your example of listening to your favorite TH-camr before writing the script. Fantastic video that I want to utilize to increase learning/investment in my science classes
This was by far one of the most useful videos I have watched! I am a natural healing practitioner, have been 24 years. This explains why I can easily get some people to try new ways to be healthier and other I haven't been. I am already thinking of ways I can implement this in the office. Thanks!!
Then you're both tricked by the op and the inefficient tests that are described. The variables are to be accounted for in any scientific processes, which 100% aren't here in this trash.
This was one of, if not, the best clip on how to influence people. As a leader i have had my shortfalls. Mostly with communication. I never put enough effort in the prep work and creating a more conducive atmosphere. Closing a sale or getting a coworker's cooperation is not easy if they are in a negative mindset
This explains all the corporate BS stuff they have at work. It annoys me because I feel like I am being treated like a child with the goofy visuals and lame slogans. It must work on majority of people and since it doesn't appeal to someone like me I am just scratching my head and getting annoyed instead of being manipulated. I belong to the 20% of people who are highly skeptical and hard to convince.
Yeah same here. Then again - I think almost anyone would say they were. I don't think many would be like: Yeah I'm very easy to manipulate, even though it is clear to outsiders they are.
"The Hidden Persuaders" and "Subliminal Seduction" were both books that discussed marketing manipulation. The former was written (Circa) early 60s and the latter was in the 80s.
Think it was Robert Greene who had a completely different take on the last point. He would say to think of what the other person wants instead of bringing up past favors. They don't want to feel required or indebted, but that they want to do it of their own free will.
I'm way too frugal. Even with the clouds page, you better believe I'd be comparing prices, or even going elsewhere if i thought I could find a better deal through a different site. I'm way too prone to price comparing. But a lot of that is something I've learned to do over periods of financial struggle where I had to be choosy. Even though I could afford more expensive things now, that habit tends to cling fiercely when I'm making any kind of financial decision. I've *learned* to weigh cost vs value as a deliberate action, and tend to scrutinize expensive perchases before settling on them to make sure they live up to their pricing. If the materials are good, the stitching doesn't show signs of being shoddy and the object seems like it will last a long time and I'll get good value out of it, than I can justify actually paying more for it. This is something I'm slowly teaching my current roommate to look out for, not merely buying the first thing that looks good or promising. XD If that banker pulled that same line on me, that would make me wake up and listen for a different reason. To me, that would sound like a giant red flag. I hate people who throw skeezy sales pitches in an attempt to get me to buy something. I'd be less likely to want it because saying what amounts to 'shoo, i'm letting you in on a deal' to me automatically has me wondering what strings are attached. Lines like that make me cringe and shy away from business people. I prefer you don't throw me a honey'd sales pitch, rather talk to me honestly and give me the information I need to make an informed decision.
Excellent and practical video! Thank you for summarizing the book. I have an audible video but haven't started listening to it yet. I have unconsciously applied the unity technique and a few others before without being aware of these terms. Deep in my heart, I would recommend or guide my family member the exact same thing that I would suggest to a client. I would call it empathy. That is, by putting the best interest of a team before self-interest. It's just a good long term thinking. It is only bad if you use to manipulate others. The unity technique is good if you want to serve someone, not selling.
"Protect others, protect your family, protect your grandma." *No studies done to support any evidence transmission is reduced* "You become a dead-end to the virus". I do enjoy observing these techniques. And just in case obviously anyone at serious risk should consult their doctor & take what ever precautions they deem necessary even if it's a new experimental type which is still listed as "For Emergency Use Authorization" only.
Good thing I took that free course called, "Financial literacy" available in a government run career center. Our teacher there said making an appointment to get financial advice from a bank manager is not helpful to achieve both financial and personal success. That made experiences I had in the presence of more than one bank manager during life transitions easier for me to understand.
Interestingly, several years ago I had a home reno business. When I would visit the job site to see what the client needed, they would ask for a ballpark price. I always joked "Less than a million dollars." I didn't realize till now that I was employing that strategy.
Im gonna be honest, these tricks DONT work on everyone, they work on people who are not analyzing the current situation. They completely turn off the people who are analyzing the situation. Because of this they work less well on the hyper intelligent (who are more likely to be analyzing the current situation), and actually substantially reduce your chance of success. For the hyper intelligent you have to play on their current sense of self/situation, and sell them on their desired self/situation. For instance: Hyper intelligent people are often socially awkward, if you want to sell to them at a high rate, you want to sell them the idea that the thing either makes up for that, or counters it completely. This is why hyper intelligent people but dumb expensive stuff that they think will make them look cool... So if you want to really get ahead you have to know your customer, and work to find out what make them gush.
It’s the laughter it lets the pressure out of the situation…it bonds people to you. They have to buy you before they buy what you are selling. If someone won’t laugh with me then they won’t qualify as a customer
Once you learn about a lot of these tactics it's a lot easier to avoid falling far them. The "Unity" trap sets of red flags for me these days, when I hear someone say "I'd sell this to my mother." or other such like I think scam artist pitch incoming. Basically anytime any makes a comment trying to appeal to emotions it's a red flag. This was before I learned about Psychological studies and tricks. I learned it more just from paying attention. Besides seeing scam artist in TV and Movies using a lot of those tricks. News stories about scam artist tricking elderly and others. Friends and family experiences of their own.
@Jen Reid How long have you been a woman? Men need to ask these questions in modern times. If you are an authentic woman, you sound like a decent one who respects yourself. You are the catch I'm looking for .
I studied psychology in college in the 90s, things haven't changed much in the Marketing discipline and practice..get in their head and in essence, tell the viewer what to do! Thanks 🇨🇦
It should be illegal for any place of work to say "We're like family here." They all do it and they all treat you like you are the one family member with a working truck and it is moving day.
Based on my lifetime experience as a musician & guitar teacher, I'm totally shocked about the dude having more success with a guitar case in his hand/over his shoulder hahaha so far that's the biggest myth I've heard about playing guitar, "it gets you all the girls." Maybe in the 80's haha, nowadays you'll be pretty hard pressed to find many women at shows. It's not like 100% dudes, but it's definitely 75%-80%. And every girl I've talked to about it is like "you guys are crazy for trying to be so good at music, no girls care." As if that's why we're doing it haha, just for girls. If you're in music for any reason other than absolutely loving it, you're going to have some hard realizations coming up soon lol
I used to knock doors for internets, the marketing company will teach you all of the consumer psychology and building inpulses which is what this video is implying. Good job
The example of the investor, you and your mothers: what if you really didn't like your mother, would he have still gotten your attention or repelled you even more?🤔
I guess you can easily avoid this by saying parents or family, but I think the more specific the image you can conjure in their subconscious the more impact it will have.
I wish I found this channel on the first day I opened a TH-cam account. This is so powerful and incredible, I really loved every example and the book is so nice, Thank you
It’s fascinating to know how deep the manipulation goes. Some of these, like a guitar case, wouldn’t be relevant if it weren’t for a much darker form of manipulation.
Could it also be that women at a florist, buying themselves flowers, are more likely to be single? There could be myriad of factors, including the location of the florist and the surrounding neighborhood. Correlation is not causation.
You might as well just tell us what you did cause we know anyway. Lol then I guess there’s no reason to talk. You know why people talk to police. It’s ego. People love to argue to prove how right they are. People 100% know they don’t have to talk because the police tells them they don’t !!!!!! But they still do. 🤦♂️
When a police officer asks to search you, the answer is always "no." If they have to ask, they don't have probable cause. If you aren't obviously wealthy enough to pay a good lawyer, you will be asked repeatedly. If you have been in trouble and you pleaded "first offense," when a cop asks "have you ever been in trouble?" Say "no." They will use a first offense as probable cause and search you. There are some wonderful people in law enforcement who risk their lives to protect and serve as they swore. They are under no legal obligation. If you are mistaken for someone who poses an immediate threat, any officer who executed you with their firearm will only be punished by their own consciousness. Executing citizens whom they feel are an immediate threat is a part of their job. There are good cops but they all operate under evil rules.
I love the drawings, they are very pleasing to the eye and make you enjoy the video even more. I used to work woth toddlers for many years. Yet I must say I was amazed at the backgroudn image- experiment. It would be interesting to find out more about it (and of course validate the source if information, as one should always do, just on principle). I will look into it, thx :)
Thank you so much for teaching me to understand psychological tricks that should be illegal- not so I can recognize them and prevent myself from being manipulated, but so I may use them to manipulate others. It makes me feel so “ethical”!!
4:50 If the sales person wuld have used the fishy "mother" argument I would have been extremely suspicious. Maybe this is my age talking or that I am male, I don't know. Also the title is clickbait, now I am suspicious that the book's title has a similar purpouse and won't be tempted to buy it.
This is why most people get to the point in their life where they never want to deal with another human while they are in the process of purchasing something. Yes, it is possible to manipulate people and their purchasing decisions, if they are shopping online, however, I feel I am in far more control of the situation when there isn’t a human interaction I have to carefully monitor for manipulation. Human sales people also try to place you under time pressure. I have a adopted a policy of never doing business with someone who uses exploding price deadline to rush a decision. When I am working on purchasing something online, And the price of the item will go up in the near future, I can take your breath and remind myself “This is not the first time they’ve lowered the price and it won’t be the last time they’ve lowered the price“. One does have to be careful about websites that track you in the hopes of Preventing this behavior.
Everything covered here are included in a top level sales training program. They are not "Tricks" but techniques. All transactions are emotional. Using these techniques gets the bottom line, do you need what I offer. Then do you trust me and what is the cost/price. I won't get into the four personality types and how to honestly influence them.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🧠 *Introduction to Persuasion* - Introduction to the concept of persuasion and its impact on human behavior. 02:28 🌺 *The Influence of Visual Objects* - How visual objects like flowers, guitars, and background images can subconsciously influence decision-making. 05:05 🤝 *Unity and Shared Identity* - The power of unity and shared identity in influencing behavior, with examples like Warren Buffett's communication strategy. 08:33 👶 *Subconscious Influence in Children* - Demonstrating how even infants can be influenced subconsciously through visual cues. 09:58 🌱 *Preparing the Soil for Persuasion* - The importance of preparing the "soil" before delivering a persuasive message and its analogy to planting seeds. 10:12 🏡 *Practical Tips for Persuasion* - Six practical tips for applying persuasion techniques ethically, including using the concept of unity and framing requests positively. Made with HARPA AI
This is taken literally from 60 minutes when they interviewed the author, years ago, Pre-suasion to me is a book already read. easy to put in practice.
You can use the consistency principle. At the beginning of the interview say something along the lines of "thank you for inviting me here, I am of course happy to answer any questions you have, but could I please first ask what it was about my resume and background that led you to offer me an interview." If you can get your interviewer/s to publicly state why you are a good candidate they are more likely to want to remain consistent with their publicly stated views when it comes time to select a successful candidate.
Your voice was very persuasive (and engaging) right from the get-go, so I listened more! Well done. Great points on how we are all subtly "lead" to decisions! Subscribed. All. _Loved all the real-time drawing imaginary describing your dialogue... great touch!_ Well put together "advice". Thank you. High Quality... and it was a useful video.
😂😂😂 The video was interrupted by an ad where the guy was like “You want to leave your 40-hour-a-week, 9-5 and go live a fulfilling life.” He was saying all this to persuade the viewer into buying whatever he’s selling 😂😂😂
Politicians do this kind of manipulation. Network news programs do it, too. Even human resource experts on TV advise the unemployed to consciously misrepresent themselves to get an advantage. We have created a society of manipulators and liars - which is why we're now in the mess that we're in. Selling and manipulation have replaced integrity, truth, and hard work.
@@timward3116The title of the book can be misleading or off-putting. It is a handbook on teaching assertiveness skills - which is the antidote for emotional manipulation.
Good video, although I will agree to pretty much anything in person to get people to stop talking. You should do a video on how to say no, because getting people to say "yes" is easy when it's ultimately good for them, but getting them to understand "no" seems impossible. The worse thing in this world to me is help you did not ask for. How do you "pre-message" people to not offer you help? How do you say "no" before saying it?
I simply tell people to "save your time, this won't go anywhere". Blunt and to the point. Followed by shrugging at any thing they try to say after if they are particularly persistent. Works.
It really works !!!! I tried that with my neighbor : - I am not gonna ask you to give me 1,000,000$ - oh ok - can I have 75,000$ - sure here you go And he wrote me a check 🤯
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The only thing unethical about this video is how you unethically used unethical to make people click on this video because it was nothing unethical about any of these things that you mentioned😂😂😂
NO Psychological communication is how every human being operates.
There IS NOTHING unethical about it. 80% of how we communicate and interact is due to this. It is our first language.
The ONLY people who label as 'unethical' are BORING, tedious and WEAK feminists and others, who will do the same towards ANYONE, who have used hard work, learning and personal evolution to become what they want in life.
It's YET ANOTHER excuse to play the victim and demonise what they could use themselves.
21ST CENTURY FEMINISM IS FOR LOSERS. The entire liberal and Woke spectrum is about being a victim and portraying success by others as wrong. They can't beat them so they have to SMEAR them.
Have a little cry because you couldn't and someone else COULD.
Have a little cry because someone had the SPINE to look at themselves and admit their faults.
Then, used learning and knowledge to not ONLY correct those faults but reinvent their entire selves.
And guess what? If it isn't 'unethical' tricks it will be something or someone else they try to blame as the reason for the fact they CAN'T COMPETE with others.
Now, I'm going to reinvent myself as the winner I DESERVE to be while you others talk fucking shit -
like successful losers.
David
CLICK BAIT I'm Unsubscribing
@@jimbennett2795 this is a giant trash bucket full of BS.
I’m sure the author knows this book isn’t free but is using the fake FREE ploy. It’s used everywhere. Watch out for this one peeps and the sale signs. They’re so dishonest. Once you realize you have been manipulated or the good moral word - lied to - spread the word. The good part is you won’t do business with these scammers again. They are going to make money anyway. It’s unnecessary and sneakkky
The words "tricks that should be illegal" is a trick to get people to watch the video to the end. Clever.
Yet here you are.....@@CustardSpace
Doesn't mean it's true.@@gretholondeporey8527
I js clicked as soon as I saw an animation video
i clicked beacuse of unethicial
and look for ?Keyworks as mention in video suh as family or illigal auh etc
Stand outside of a flower shop with a guitar case.... got it! 😂
also maybe a new username lol
@@momacods5958 good advice 😂
@@Mr.Suicidal truest statement ever .
And a couple of cooperative toddlers
I once got the address a girl while buying flowers: She was the salesgirl. I told her how I bought the flowers for a lovely girl I knew etcetera etcetera....and then after I paid, I gave the flowers to her. She was lovely and probably still is. Long Distance killed it
Pre-Suasion: things you can do before your message/conversation that improve chance of success.
A. Background Image
B. Unity (especially family)
C. planting a seed. Your message is the seed, be sure to prepare the ground before trying to plant
1. Free giveaway for client, give to client family instead
2. ask for ADVICE vs opinion or ideas for improvement
3. asking for raise? do it right after good feedback from boss or customer
4. asking for donations? build unity between you and them or the recipient and them
5. Environment should reflect goals. ex motivational phrases on office walls
6. Get them in the right mindset before delivering the message (i.e. prepare the ground before planting)
Hmmm I wonder how many normies reading this still got the jab anyway
@@Commentator-dz3kv so you'd call me "abnormie" for abstaining?
🤣
Interesting how there are no link to any of these "studies" to back up the claims or to come up with these results. They are called FACTS - where are they?
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner
Because it is not forbidden, and is a waste of time. Read the negative Amazon reviews first and save your money. Generalities and common sense, the positive reviews make no sense unless they're from friends or family.
Bots on this is crazy 💀💀💀
Nobody is buying your ai book lil bro 💀
I studied marketing but decided against going into the field solely based on how morally corrupt many widely used marketing practices are. You'd be amazed the lengths major companies have gone to studying human psychology and they DO NOT CARE of it hurts their target. Bottom line is all that matters.
So they're rolling in cash now and you're patting yourself on the back, great move, I'm sure your children will congratulate you for your moral fortitude. Nice job!
😂
@@JupiterSaturn69 Let me guess....you got injected and thought it was really your idea right?
@@JupiterSaturn69 attack on family and status! Real classy!
Question: do you need to pay your wife for her love? ;)
Thank you for your service
I had a doctor do this to me. I was seeking advice on an elective procedure, and he said, "If you were my brother I would tell you to do this." It evoked powerful emotions (and I ended up doing what he said, and it was successful), and I have also not forgotten it, and have used it myself.
I have lost alot of trust in the medical establishment during covid when 99.9% parroted the party line. "If you were my brother, I'd recommend the safe and effective clot shot." I wouldn't buy it!
I had a a doctor say this to me about a procedure. If you were my sister, I would advise you to do so and so. I remember it feeling like a powerful persuasion but I actually ended up not doing it.
@@eaglewings8206the question is whether they truly would have advised their sister the same thing, or if it's simply a lie.
I have used this type of persuasion in the past unknowingly. I never knew I was a manipulator!!
I've done this to doctors. I was really being earnest. That someone says/does this does not necessarily mean that they are being manipulative. They honestly just want a legitimate opinion.
One of these psychological tricks discussed in Robert Cialdini's book "PRE-suasion" is the use of context and anticipation to prepare people for a specific message or action. When used ethically, this trick can help people be more open and prepared for important information or proposals. For instance, a therapist uses this technique to prepare a patient for a difficult discussion about their mental health. By approaching the topic gently and priming it, the patient feels more comfortable and open to treatment and improving their mental health.
yeah, it's only ethical if done for the wellbeing of the other. but im very sensitive toward any kind of manipulation and because im so guarded against it even if it's not something inherently nefarious i will respond negatively to the act itself if not the message
In the car business, giving the customer a larger number than what you want is called "bench marking." When the car sales person says, "That car is listed at $35,000, BUT WAS on sale for a less during a special pricing sale." This bench marks the price high. The sales person only wants $25,000 for that car so they then say, "The sales manager might keep that special price, let me talk to him/her about keeping that lower price?" Now the sales person is ON YOUR SIDE and "fighting for you for a lower price." It is all in the game.
In the customer business, arming oneself with the real market value information collected off the internet, giving a lower number than what they want is called "low balling". After the car salesman's pitch for a friendly $25k (which they bought for $18k from the last sucker that traded in), and you realising market value is really $23k, you then pitch "I only have $20k on me, but I can pay for this right now, otherwise I'm stuck with the other model across the road". This puts the salesman in FEAST OR FAMINE mode, and if they want that commission they will take it or barter for the real market value, or eat rice instead of steaks for another week.
Always prepare before you go out to buy something.
I have seen car salesmen and kitchen salesmen at work. If you're not prepared, you are the fool.
Very impresive presentation. I have 35 years of corporate sales experience and have been trained in over 17 professional selling strategies. Anyone not watching this is going to be left behind! Awesome. I look forward to looking at more of your videos,
You are correct. Ethical people will be "left behind". And someday, SO WILL YOU.
@@LightAgeEfootball The Don't-Wait,Act-Now method works around me. I noticed it in sales, like @316cooper said, sales people have been trained to close the deal. Wait time or Think Time kills deals. It's the same for friends/family/coworkers. Genuine personal relationships respect my wait time. People who just want me to say "Yes" won't respect my Think Time. "Act Now! I can't wait for you to think! Do this favor for me!" It happened to me just yesterday.
My problem is I’m super aware of them when people try to do these things to me, and it pisses me off (quietly).
me too.. 😁☮️🌏
Hey random stranger on the internet. I used to be a doormat who was aware off these things. I grew a spine and it solved the problem.
Take it for what you will. I know it changed my life for the better. Hearing online that you lack a spine probably sucks but better someone tells you strait.
Besides, you probably argue + dont believe me anyway.
Take care bro.
@@SkreltNL Being an invertebrate allows you to squeeze out of situations a lot of people cant and sometimes you don't have any other option than to take what people dish out. Standing up for myself and others nearly got me killed several times and only made things worse. Having a backbone is fine but sometimes its better to let people think you don't
Well it's a good bs detector to know a persons ulterior motives. Specifically when a person is bad at doing this and feels like a memorized script, like when talking to a sales person or an agent when there is something valuable on the line.
I'm hearing you. Be like water.
Good work, but please stop using thumbnails not related to the content. It seems clickbait-y and frustrating. There was not a single line about eye contact in this one.
Clickbait thumbnails are technically an unethical psychology tricks
Usually they outsource the video editing ...she clearly didn't edit it herself
Did you click on it?
Pre-Suasion at its best.
Just another Cookie cutter whiteboard video.
Wonder what 3rd party company made this one
I was denied several sales positions because I failed the desired personality inventory. They want image-conscious, trendy, superficial, impulsive, and 'morally flexible'. In other words, honest, forthright, knowledgeable sales people are the antithesis of marketing.
They're doing the same thing to good customer service people
You gotta play a role amigo, if you can’t then the position is not for you
depends on the company and what it sells but you are right over 90%+ companies are like the ones that denied you the position.
What is more, they do hurt their customers but not as much as one may think - many people forget they were manipulated or even lied to, they even rationalize it and idolize the person that did that to them and they return for another purchase. It's true. That is why being an ethical salesman is so unheard off - it's just an uphill battle with your own morality without much pay off in terms of money.
Sometimes it's worth it for the genuine human connections created along the way. Have you considered salesman position in an established small family business? They are a dying breed but they usually do care for their customers more than the big companies.
Shows You have a spine and have character, an honourable rare person
i gave a shot at a car lot once. One day the boss called me into his office. He introduced a man who wanted to buy a car. He added, " try not to tell him all the things wrong with the car." He was a nice guy & got a kick outta my doing homework on the cars with the garage. Good experience. i went on to work on a horse ranch. 😅❤
Robert Cialdini is a great writer and psychologist. His book "Influence" is one of my favourites in this area.
100% agree! "Influence" taught me a lot of principles about human behavior, authority, reciprocity, and more.
So the moral of the story is to have principles that are strong enough to overcome mental manipulations. Not surprising that principles, virtues, and morals are not taught today as prominently as they should be.
teaching thinking and awareness would greatly hinder all kind of manipulations, be it through business, famiy, personal life, "virtues" or religion
@@Eleni_Be It's the open mind that is most easily manipulated, not the disciplined one.
You missed the moral of the story.
@@austin3789 Not really.
As my daddy consistently taught his book-smart daughters, "*Use common sense*." (Has saved me a lot of grief)
I had a co-worker that would compliment my work before asking for a favor. I always said no.
Yep, just like the "you're so beautiful, do you want to"- No I don't 😁☮️🌏
Damn, so saying” you’re so beautiful, now take off your pants” isn’t going to work?
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called the manipulation enigma
What is tha
@@xxomicronxx dark psychology
@@myguy-123 is it called manipulation enigma or what is the exact name?
@@xxomicronxx its the manipulation enigma
Hi everyone, this is one of those scam comments that, ironically, manipulate you into googling (and then buying) the thing mentioned in the comment. I see it all the time these days on TH-cam comments. Don't fall for it.
Except for #5, which is aimed towards yourself, all of these only work if your goals or desires match with the other person’s. If there is no connection, it’s very easy to say no to other people’s requests.
Anytime a stranger asks me something, with the intent to sell/give/buy/borrow/etc, I automatically assume they are trying to take advantage of me and this assumption decreases their chances of success with me.
Even among people I know, I have to see my benefit in their offer before I can agree to anything, and it’s the extent of that personal value that will determine my response.
I’m not saying I’m immune to these tactics, but it does make it harder to fall for them when you automatically assume there is a ploy against you.
So all I would have to do to ta advantage of you would be to tell you about how people always take advantage of me, and then let you educate me in how to avoid being taken advantage of, and bingo, we got unity and I secretly buttered up to you by listening carefully to your advice. On top of that, you would now see me as a bit gullible and perfectly harmless. So now your guard is down and you see me as harmless. Meaning, now, I can manipulate you as I see fit.
@@JohnConnorTM why would you assume I would have sympathy for you or your problems? What value is there in it for me to be concerned or involve myself in your problems?
This is where your idea falls apart. You think I would care and take pity on you for being gullible, or somehow befriend you for it. As I said before in other terms, if there is no value in it for me, I’m not interested.
@@Linusgump because you have been taken advantage of many times, everyone has sympathy with a fellow victim, also you would have felt appreciated by my asking you for advice. If I where like those who took advantage of you before, with what I know, I could do whatever I want with and to you. Especilly since you think it cannot be done.
Please understand, I would never do such a thing, to anyone, well to anyone but those who specifically ask for it by treating others like that. Manipulating people is evil and the only reason I have learned this is to expose those who do, to those being manipulated.
@@JohnConnorTM what makes you think I have been taken advantage of, or at least as much as anyone else?
Just because I distrust people does not mean I have learned the hard way to distrust them. I distrust because I watch people and see how dishonest they really are.
@@Linusgump If you say so.
This renews my suspicions about social influencers.
I went to a management school called Quiver once. What I learned there about manipulating the workforce made me quit my job. Your managers and executives use all manner of tricks on the workforce, i.e YOU. The bigger the business, the more likely you are being manipulated to be more productive. Psychology is used on the workforce DAILY.
It's a fine line between "influencing" and "manipulating". Be careful
When I hear salespeople say "The next product I'm going to talk about I'd even tell my mother to invest in." I run. Just like when someone says Honestly, or truthfully, or my father was looking for a contractor and a lot of them said "I hate when people take advantage of old people" or "I was in the military too." I told my father to just let them go. Those are big red lights to me.
I avoid businesses that have "Affordable" in their name. I've found they are the least affordable.
I’ve used the asking for advice as opposed to an opinion many times in many forms. To me it’s a matter of asking someone’s opinion, is asking for their thoughts, where asking for advice is asking for their knowledge. Any time you need something from someone you have to make them feel that you believe they are smart and competent first. I’ve also always used unity language, especially when trying to convince someone to do something. It’s a matter of using words like like “we need to change this for this to happen for us” instead of saying “you” and saying “our goal is” instead of “my goal is”. Those two changes in my approach to people has had a very positive effect on how people perceive me and any message I’m trying to convey.
Ain't manipulating people just the best-est?
I think that asking for advice is like putting someone above you, like "Hey, you probably know better than I do about this, what should I do?"
I use Aristotle's line when asked for my advice, "All I know is that I know nothing".
@@1red_nextview740 if you put your ego into that, than sure
@@Exxeron-ob3tv The words the author of these thread used, that beforehand "you have to make people feel smart..." to obtain something for them; sounds like manipulation. It feels like manipulation the way the author of this thread said that beforehand "you have to make people feel that they are smart..." since it is better to believe that all people can surprise us and are able to give us a type of lesson, or knowledge.
After watching this video these questions popped in my mind: To choose a word, rather than another because someone told us is more effective, is it manipulation? So if I use the word advice, instead of opinion, should I now start using opinion, so I don't 'influence' others? However if I choose the word opinion instead of advice, am I not still affecting them by my choice of word?
I still believe that it is important to choose the words wisely. Imagine this scenario between a husband and a wife. So the husband washed the dishes and the wife puts the plates back in the cupboard. While doing so, she noticed a plate dirty and tell him: Look here, you left this one dirty. You should pay more attention when washing the plates. Imagine if I hadn't noticed your mistake and put it back in the cupboard dirty!" There is a chance that the husband gets triggered, feel offended and a disagreement is created between a husband and wife. However if she told him: Dear, I appreciate it greatly that you are washing the dishes. I noticed that this plate needs a little bit more cleaning. I will be grateful if you do it again." I think the latter example would trigger him less and makes him feel appreciated. If you say it SINCERELY, I don't think this is manipulation. I think a lot of lifelong suffering and disagreements would be avoided if we choose our words wisely.
I think the better lesson is to avoid accidentally dissuading people from doing something they would have otherwise done. And that is because the effect of priming is shortlived. Sooner or later, the pre-suading influence will be forgotten and the person will experience some degree of negative emotion.
This is what almost everyone misses because it requires empathy and foresight.
Idk , I once read a biography from Charles Manson, he didn't write it, but the words and history are his.
Manipulation is quite easy if done in a way that takes a but of extra time, a study of the individual, and first finding what tgey seek in life and give that to then, be it love, loyalty, attention etc, then when ypu do , they become addicted to you in a way, a sort of love, tge slowly twist and use empathy and bold actions that deeply dive into the person.
You just described characteristics of covert narcissistic personality disorder.
@@beentheredonethat5908 name of the biography?
@@alisonmcguffey5896 Yes, and they call that addicted to you phase "love bombing" now.
Yes, best advice is “sleep on it” before making decisions.
I just realised something, a few days ago I was sat on a bench eating my lunch when a young lady asked if she could sit by me to which I said certainly, we got into conversation and she seemed overly nice towards me, after a while I said, I have to go now but it was lovely to meet you, she replied, would you like my number, I got her number, picked up my guitar and left.
All women want to be groupies...
Nah…
This presents aspects of neurolinguistic programming as adopted in marketing and sales. It used to be considered magic, but psychologists have now identified the science behind it. It is unethical but ubiquitous. Some sites overdo it, too. You go into some ads and they tell you everything but how much it costs. I hate that, but then I am a bit older.
- Are you adventurous?
- Yes.
- Would you like to try our new energy drink?
- No.
are you sure??
come on!
COME ON!!!!!
-are you adventurous?
-no.
-would you mind atleast trying the new energy drink?
- not at all, gimme it!
Because I’m a fat ass and like free food xD
I would drink it in front them, saying “this tastes so good” as I’m handing it to them “what does it tastes like to you?”
No thanks , I’m not a fat diabetic American and don’t drink sugar loaded fizzy drinks like someone stuck in perpetual adolescence.
@@CharlesNauckHe sounds based as hell. Refined sugar is poison, regardless of your age.
Having a small but nice looking happy dog was a magnet not only to females but just a wide range of personality’s or sexes . The more that connect people to the same love or a strong familiarity that the wider the population are familiar with pets . That even store mangers and sales teams draws welcoming that seemed to be much higher with meaning than just a polite welcome .
Yes, that's why L L Bean always has dogs throughout the catalog and usually on the cover. It causes an oxytocin release just to see a photo of a puppy or very cute dog and then people associate their products with love. Brilliant chemical ploy - it's literally DRUGGING people with their own brains to buy more stuff.
I had a highly ethical orthopedic surgeon use the family thing on me - I was 18 at the time (I'm 51 now and remember it due to the emotional impact it had) and he said, "If you were my daughter I'd not do the surgery." I didn't (nor did I get a second opinion) and I'm glad.
My situation was the opposite. Had serious heart trouble.The surgeon wanted to perform heart surgery on me (for training I suppose). I was 22 at that time. He tried everything. I laughed in his face. I'm 54 now and I know for a fact that I wouldn't be alive today if I was accepting that surgery. All I had to do is to start drinking coffee every day and everything went away.
@@Dandan-tg6tjDo you mean stop drinking coffee?
@@Zach.3246 "start drinking coffee every day" means to stop drinking coffee to you?
@@Dandan-tg6tj How could coffee possibly be beneficial to your heart?
@@Zach.3246 Well, why do you ask? You were told that the coffee is not beneficial to my heart?
Anyway, the moment I started to drink coffee, my pains absolutely stopped. There's a bit more than 30 years since I started to drink real coffee and my chest pains stopped the next day I started.
The thumbnail to this video is a psychological "trick," used in marketing. The way some TH-cam creators come up with a video titles(at times)is through psychological "trickery." I'm just trying to market my product, says Microsoft or Apple. Yes through psychological "trickery," some for bettering you and some for bettering just them. Good,well made video, that should never be illegal. Your video is an equal benefit, to you and viewer. In my humble opinion. 🤙
I studied psychology at degree level.
Spotting the hidden message in advertising can be a bunch of fun, same as EPI tests when the 'real' questions stand out above the meaningless ones.
The problem with listening to music, particularly for students, is conditional learning.
Your not going to be allowed to listen to music while taking tests so the conditions are different and your more likely to forget something important
I have to have silence when I read, learn, or concentrate on work. Not sure if ive gotten used to it this way...
Did you jump over grammar before psychology ?
@@stefanichim9342 ?
Same applies to state-dependent learning. You may not like it but you're going to need to study sober if you're going to be tested sober.
What is your degree again?
Thank you for helping me resist these kinds of manipulation.
Just because we're able to do something doesn't mean we should.
This is a great example of how psychology says more about the observer than the subject.
It is impossible to prove any of the claims made here in the first example no matter how interesting and cool they are. One could argue that women who shop for flowers are more likely to be single or a certain age or personality type or more shy or more passive/polite (saying yes to spare his feelings)etc… and maybe that is why the guy got more yes answers. It consciously makes sense to link flowers with romance and then say oh that’s why the results were more positive but still it shows more about the perception of the observer than the actual true subconscious power the flowers may have had.
Whatever... I'm gonna cruise for chicks in front of the flower shop.
Does anybody think that the narrator places the woman who said "yes" in front of the flower store- (the correct answer) by accident?
People are like this though. Not all of course, like high pressure sales exist for a reason, because they work. People get all worked up and excited over it and want to buy whatever garbage they're hawking. Meanwhile I sit through those things and I feel autistic with the lack of matching their energy I do, I'm bored and can't wait to get out of this hokey wannabe psychological high pressure sales nonsense.
@@williamhensley8698 while carrying a guitar case 🤣
These actions are not unethical and should not be illegal. Though that title did draw my attention enough to watch the video. How this knowledge is used is what makes a difference, putting the ethics on the person using them and how they're being used. Thanks Robert:)
Clickbait. And it worked on you. And probably me too.
@@justmeeagainn If the video had been by anyone other than Cialdini, I would not have watched it. The title was interesting but not enough to watch if it were from anyone else.
@@randallcotner1258the internet is full of grifters.. get rich quick scammers , misleading people … marketing products unsuitable for the target market .. im not talking about this channel.. absolutely it’s illegal here in Australia.. in breach of consumer protection laws.. i don’t know why we haven’t seen people convicted.. maybe there isn’t much consumer protection in the USA ?
Ethics and legality are unity based tactics.
This entire video is basically "how to perform clickbait irl"
Useful social engineering tactics, but indeed annoying when receiving them and noticing it. Especially annoying when one acknowledges it's what it is before clicking, and despite acknowledging clicks nonetheless
I ran an auto shop where we offered a free visual inspection of a car with a paid oil change. People kept demanding we do diagnostic work for free, such as engine diagnostics for a problem. After awhile I put up a sign saying diagnostics were not covered as visual inspection. People before would argue and even call me a thief if I did not provide expensive services for free. Afterwards all I had to do was point to the sign and never got an argument.
The sign actually is false authority. I had to use illogic to fight illogic.
The hell kind of rules is that anyway brraah. Just look at the thing how much are you charging for an oil change?
@@1PeasantDon’t ever open your own business lol
@@1Peasantuneducated, entitled, inconsiderate and selfish reply.
Good stuff here. I hope when I share it with my son that he can use these techniques to help him with his every day relationships with the people around him so he can be more successful in communicating with everyone.
What if your son is simply honest, genuine, open and curious about others in his everyday relationships with people around him?
So you want him to learn to be psychologically manipulative to survive? He probably already learned that at home.
I use the family thing all the time when I am lecturing my music students. The wonderful thing with family is that it's a great way to use of you have to convey something historical. It makes people count backwards in time bring able to envision themselves and their relatives easier. (I am clearly not an English teacher 😅)
Thank you for this lovely explainer video and greetings from the Netherlands 🇱🇺
You never met my family. I would walk out on you.
The way tp avoid these persuasion traps is to gave a set or principles or even a plan before you enter a known encounter or shopping experience. Know how you want to shop or what you're goal is and constantly remind yourself on these rules (or plan) as youre encounter occurs.
Gave?
@@brokentubing I’ll assume they meant HAVE as the H is next to G on the keyboard, and makes more sense. 😉
Exactly ❤
Loved the way this short video is designed and explained. Bravo
I really like how you wrapped personal examples into the summary. Great job on this video.
Yeah she made you a part of her unity.
@@andersnielsen6044 😆these things work
Flattery will get you everywhere. 😈
I really like how you getting wrapped up in her personal examples demonstrates what a great job she did displaying the viability the unity manipulation.
There is some value in each of these strategies and tactics, but at best they are very minimal. Most will have no impact on your intended audience at all, subconsciously or otherwise. I found it very interesting that the single most important, compelling and powerful element that can be used to influence anyone wasn't even mentioned once in this entire video: emotion. If you really want to influence or persuade someone to come around to your way of thinking on something, then you need to find a way to make an emotional connection with them. Nothing motivates people more effectively than appealing to them at an emotional level. Far more than any of us ever realize, we are emotional creatures. If you can find a way to form some type of connection with them at an emotional level, you will have FAR more success influencing those around you than you will by using all of the other methods and tactics mentioned in this video combined.
I think that the unity maneuver touches emotions in a lot of people. Certain people do get emotional and clingy about social groups, making them gravitate toward anything resembling that. As a devout practicing introvert and isolationist, that one stood out to me because that makes me want to run away instead of jumping in. As I'm far from the only introvert in the world, anyone using these ideas as control points needs to take into account that they will push some people away.
I am in sales. This is like kindergarten level sales one oh1 we know that all sales are made on emotion and then justified with logic. This really is Sales 101.
All the cool kids are doing it fine here
Like trump realizing what people WANT to hear, & that some would fall for it. 😮
What you say is not
what the RESEARCH
SAYS..,. Hum!
ill be back when someone lists the 6 unethical psychological tricks. thanks.
After the tricks
Get a copy of When I Say No I feel Guilty. It explains emotional manipulation and its antidote.
yeah, TLDR
Ethics are based on values.
I appreciate your example of listening to your favorite TH-camr before writing the script. Fantastic video that I want to utilize to increase learning/investment in my science classes
This was by far one of the most useful videos I have watched! I am a natural healing practitioner, have been 24 years. This explains why I can easily get some people to try new ways to be healthier and other I haven't been. I am already thinking of ways I can implement this in the office. Thanks!!
Completely agree!
Then you're both tricked by the op and the inefficient tests that are described. The variables are to be accounted for in any scientific processes, which 100% aren't here in this trash.
This was one of, if not, the best clip on how to influence people. As a leader i have had my shortfalls. Mostly with communication. I never put enough effort in the prep work and creating a more conducive atmosphere. Closing a sale or getting a coworker's cooperation is not easy if they are in a negative mindset
This explains all the corporate BS stuff they have at work. It annoys me because I feel like I am being treated like a child with the goofy visuals and lame slogans. It must work on majority of people and since it doesn't appeal to someone like me I am just scratching my head and getting annoyed instead of being manipulated. I belong to the 20% of people who are highly skeptical and hard to convince.
I always enjoyed the Demotivator posters, LOL!
Yeah same here. Then again - I think almost anyone would say they were. I don't think many would be like: Yeah I'm very easy to manipulate, even though it is clear to outsiders they are.
Get a copy of When I Say No I feel Guilty. It explains emotional manipulation and its antidote.
"The Hidden Persuaders" and "Subliminal Seduction" were both books that discussed marketing manipulation. The former was written (Circa) early 60s and the latter was in the 80s.
Thx!
Subliminal seduction was first published in 1973 and is still relevant today.
"Hidden Persuaders" Vance Packard, circa 60s. "I can sell you anything" Carl P Wrighter, circa 70s.
Get a copy of When I Say No I feel Guilty. It explains emotional manipulation and its antidote.
Think it was Robert Greene who had a completely different take on the last point. He would say to think of what the other person wants instead of bringing up past favors. They don't want to feel required or indebted, but that they want to do it of their own free will.
I'm way too frugal. Even with the clouds page, you better believe I'd be comparing prices, or even going elsewhere if i thought I could find a better deal through a different site. I'm way too prone to price comparing. But a lot of that is something I've learned to do over periods of financial struggle where I had to be choosy. Even though I could afford more expensive things now, that habit tends to cling fiercely when I'm making any kind of financial decision. I've *learned* to weigh cost vs value as a deliberate action, and tend to scrutinize expensive perchases before settling on them to make sure they live up to their pricing. If the materials are good, the stitching doesn't show signs of being shoddy and the object seems like it will last a long time and I'll get good value out of it, than I can justify actually paying more for it. This is something I'm slowly teaching my current roommate to look out for, not merely buying the first thing that looks good or promising. XD
If that banker pulled that same line on me, that would make me wake up and listen for a different reason. To me, that would sound like a giant red flag. I hate people who throw skeezy sales pitches in an attempt to get me to buy something. I'd be less likely to want it because saying what amounts to 'shoo, i'm letting you in on a deal' to me automatically has me wondering what strings are attached. Lines like that make me cringe and shy away from business people. I prefer you don't throw me a honey'd sales pitch, rather talk to me honestly and give me the information I need to make an informed decision.
Thank you Elvin. Keep up the great work.
Excellent and practical video! Thank you for summarizing the book. I have an audible video but haven't started listening to it yet. I have unconsciously applied the unity technique and a few others before without being aware of these terms. Deep in my heart, I would recommend or guide my family member the exact same thing that I would suggest to a client. I would call it empathy. That is, by putting the best interest of a team before self-interest. It's just a good long term thinking. It is only bad if you use to manipulate others. The unity technique is good if you want to serve someone, not selling.
"Protect others, protect your family, protect your grandma." *No studies done to support any evidence transmission is reduced* "You become a dead-end to the virus". I do enjoy observing these techniques.
And just in case obviously anyone at serious risk should consult their doctor & take what ever precautions they deem necessary even if it's a new experimental type which is still listed as "For Emergency Use Authorization" only.
I got what you did at 13:00 mins, you suggested the subconscious mind that your videos have the quality and simplicity.
& at 8:55, "let's see in real life how we can apply what we HAVE LEARNED..."
Salesman : " Would you buy good but expensive product OR cheap and low quality product?"
Me : " Yes "
My answer: Good enough quality at the lowest possible price.
Good thing I took that free course called, "Financial literacy" available in a government run career center. Our teacher there said making an appointment to get financial advice from a bank manager is not helpful to achieve both financial and personal success. That made experiences I had in the presence of more than one bank manager during life transitions easier for me to understand.
Interestingly, several years ago I had a home reno business. When I would visit the job site to see what the client needed, they would ask for a ballpark price. I always joked "Less than a million dollars." I didn't realize till now that I was employing that strategy.
Better than a lowball price...
Im gonna be honest, these tricks DONT work on everyone, they work on people who are not analyzing the current situation. They completely turn off the people who are analyzing the situation.
Because of this they work less well on the hyper intelligent (who are more likely to be analyzing the current situation), and actually substantially reduce your chance of success. For the hyper intelligent you have to play on their current sense of self/situation, and sell them on their desired self/situation. For instance: Hyper intelligent people are often socially awkward, if you want to sell to them at a high rate, you want to sell them the idea that the thing either makes up for that, or counters it completely. This is why hyper intelligent people but dumb expensive stuff that they think will make them look cool...
So if you want to really get ahead you have to know your customer, and work to find out what make them gush.
I was offered a job at city group at a very young age, I was a pretty gifted salesmen at one time but I gave a lot of stuff up due to my morality.
Some of us have morals. We are becoming obsolete. But at least we can live without prostituting ourselves.
It’s the laughter it lets the pressure out of the situation…it bonds people to you. They have to buy you before they buy what you are selling. If someone won’t laugh with me then they won’t qualify as a customer
Once you learn about a lot of these tactics it's a lot easier to avoid falling far them. The "Unity" trap sets of red flags for me these days, when I hear someone say "I'd sell this to my mother." or other such like I think scam artist pitch incoming. Basically anytime any makes a comment trying to appeal to emotions it's a red flag. This was before I learned about Psychological studies and tricks. I learned it more just from paying attention. Besides seeing scam artist in TV and Movies using a lot of those tricks. News stories about scam artist tricking elderly and others. Friends and family experiences of their own.
She said a guitar case is a chick magnet. All these years I thought it was a thick wallet and slick car.
Few things turn a woman off faster than a man who throws his money around and thinks his fast car will make him attractive.
@Jen Reid How long have you been a woman? Men need to ask these questions in modern times.
If you are an authentic woman, you sound like a decent one who respects yourself. You are the catch I'm looking for .
@@JaneNewAuthor Not true that though is it. Might be for you but you would be the exception, not the rule
@@Steve-kl3yl plenty of research to the contrary. Maybe you're looking in the wrong places?
@@Jay-hr3rh I've been a woman for most of my 70 years. (I was a girl before then.) Thank you for the compliment, but no thanks.
The visual illustrations are so well done that I prefer watching them instead of listening to what you are saying 😀
Excellent video....
Thank you for the time invested in this project and for share it with us....👍🏻
I studied psychology in college in the 90s, things haven't changed much in the Marketing discipline and practice..get in their head and in essence, tell the viewer what to do!
Thanks 🇨🇦
as a guitarist who carries a guitar around with me I can honestly say it makes no difference at all with women, this is a big myth.
You weren't holdin' yer mouth right.
It's cuz you don't have your face tattooed man just tattoo that guitar on your face and you have to beat them off with a stick
If you usually have it with you, how can you tell? Have you gone 6 months without carrying it to compare 6 months with it?
It should be illegal for any place of work to say "We're like family here." They all do it and they all treat you like you are the one family member with a working truck and it is moving day.
I was psychologically motivated to like this video. Nice work, and very informative.
great video for people that have no concept of what is real and what is fake.
Incredible graphics! If only some of those PowerPoint presentations I was forced to suffer were half as persuasive.
Extremely insightful yet concerning how subconsciously naive we all are to some degree.
Based on my lifetime experience as a musician & guitar teacher, I'm totally shocked about the dude having more success with a guitar case in his hand/over his shoulder hahaha so far that's the biggest myth I've heard about playing guitar, "it gets you all the girls." Maybe in the 80's haha, nowadays you'll be pretty hard pressed to find many women at shows. It's not like 100% dudes, but it's definitely 75%-80%. And every girl I've talked to about it is like "you guys are crazy for trying to be so good at music, no girls care." As if that's why we're doing it haha, just for girls. If you're in music for any reason other than absolutely loving it, you're going to have some hard realizations coming up soon lol
That's not been my experience. I can't count the times women have slipped their phone numbers in my pocket after a gig.
Better to ditch the guitar for a puppy on a leash. Works much better.
@@baldeagle5297 I can, twice in my life lol both in the last 3 years. I’m pretty sure its my area
@@xpicklepie Unlike a guitar, they'll arrest you for fingering a puppy. Unless you're on the Left Coast.
I used to knock doors for internets, the marketing company will teach you all of the consumer psychology and building inpulses which is what this video is implying. Good job
The example of the investor, you and your mothers: what if you really didn't like your mother, would he have still gotten your attention or repelled you even more?🤔
I guess you can easily avoid this by saying parents or family, but I think the more specific the image you can conjure in their subconscious the more impact it will have.
I wish I found this channel on the first day I opened a TH-cam account.
This is so powerful and incredible, I really loved every example and the book is so nice, Thank you
It’s fascinating to know how deep the manipulation goes. Some of these, like a guitar case, wouldn’t be relevant if it weren’t for a much darker form of manipulation.
What do you mean, the music industry?
@ShermanT.Potter I believe he's inferring to the Phalic shape of the guitar case suggesting some subliminal suggestion. 🤷🏻♂️
Could it also be that women at a florist, buying themselves flowers, are more likely to be single? There could be myriad of factors, including the location of the florist and the surrounding neighborhood. Correlation is not causation.
Reminds me of all the sleazy framing techniques used in police interrogation. Look at how they downplay Miranda Rights, every time.
Geez, how many times has it been for you? 😆
@@BrianBrayMedia none. I would never talk to the police.
You might as well just tell us what you did cause we know anyway. Lol then I guess there’s no reason to talk.
You know why people talk to police. It’s ego. People love to argue to prove how right they are. People 100% know they don’t have to talk because the police tells them they don’t !!!!!! But they still do. 🤦♂️
@@tsmith3286 exactly
When a police officer asks to search you, the answer is always "no." If they have to ask, they don't have probable cause. If you aren't obviously wealthy enough to pay a good lawyer, you will be asked repeatedly. If you have been in trouble and you pleaded "first offense," when a cop asks "have you ever been in trouble?" Say "no." They will use a first offense as probable cause and search you. There are some wonderful people in law enforcement who risk their lives to protect and serve as they swore. They are under no legal obligation. If you are mistaken for someone who poses an immediate threat, any officer who executed you with their firearm will only be punished by their own consciousness. Executing citizens whom they feel are an immediate threat is a part of their job. There are good cops but they all operate under evil rules.
I love the drawings, they are very pleasing to the eye and make you enjoy the video even more. I used to work woth toddlers for many years. Yet I must say I was amazed at the backgroudn image- experiment. It would be interesting to find out more about it (and of course validate the source if information, as one should always do, just on principle). I will look into it, thx :)
Thank you so much for teaching me to understand psychological tricks that should be illegal- not so I can recognize them and prevent myself from being manipulated, but so I may use them to manipulate others. It makes me feel so “ethical”!!
4:50 If the sales person wuld have used the fishy "mother" argument I would have been extremely suspicious. Maybe this is my age talking or that I am male, I don't know. Also the title is clickbait, now I am suspicious that the book's title has a similar purpouse and won't be tempted to buy it.
This is why most people get to the point in their life where they never want to deal with another human while they are in the process of purchasing something. Yes, it is possible to manipulate people and their purchasing decisions, if they are shopping online, however, I feel I am in far more control of the situation when there isn’t a human interaction I have to carefully monitor for manipulation. Human sales people also try to place you under time pressure. I have a adopted a policy of never doing business with someone who uses exploding price deadline to rush a decision. When I am working on purchasing something online, And the price of the item will go up in the near future, I can take your breath and remind myself “This is not the first time they’ve lowered the price and it won’t be the last time they’ve lowered the price“. One does have to be careful about websites that track you in the hopes of Preventing this behavior.
Everything covered here are included in a top level sales training program. They are not "Tricks" but techniques. All transactions are emotional. Using these techniques gets the bottom line, do you need what I offer. Then do you trust me and what is the cost/price. I won't get into the four personality types and how to honestly influence them.
Yep. Like I said above this is like Sales 101.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🧠 *Introduction to Persuasion*
- Introduction to the concept of persuasion and its impact on human behavior.
02:28 🌺 *The Influence of Visual Objects*
- How visual objects like flowers, guitars, and background images can subconsciously influence decision-making.
05:05 🤝 *Unity and Shared Identity*
- The power of unity and shared identity in influencing behavior, with examples like Warren Buffett's communication strategy.
08:33 👶 *Subconscious Influence in Children*
- Demonstrating how even infants can be influenced subconsciously through visual cues.
09:58 🌱 *Preparing the Soil for Persuasion*
- The importance of preparing the "soil" before delivering a persuasive message and its analogy to planting seeds.
10:12 🏡 *Practical Tips for Persuasion*
- Six practical tips for applying persuasion techniques ethically, including using the concept of unity and framing requests positively.
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What tool was used for these animations? Very effective! Was it difficult and/or time-consuming?
This is taken literally from 60 minutes when they interviewed the author, years ago, Pre-suasion to me is a book already read. easy to put in practice.
I would be interested in examples of how psychology could be utilized in ethical and beneficial ways to gain a competitive edge in jobs interviews.
You can use the consistency principle. At the beginning of the interview say something along the lines of "thank you for inviting me here, I am of course happy to answer any questions you have, but could I please first ask what it was about my resume and background that led you to offer me an interview." If you can get your interviewer/s to publicly state why you are a good candidate they are more likely to want to remain consistent with their publicly stated views when it comes time to select a successful candidate.
Wow! Thank you so much for your ethical, well thought advise!
God bless you and your family; and all of your future endeavors.
Your voice was very persuasive (and engaging) right from the get-go, so I listened more! Well done. Great points on how we are all subtly "lead" to decisions! Subscribed. All.
_Loved all the real-time drawing imaginary describing your dialogue... great touch!_ Well put together "advice". Thank you. High Quality... and it was a useful video.
😂😂😂 The video was interrupted by an ad where the guy was like “You want to leave your 40-hour-a-week, 9-5 and go live a fulfilling life.” He was saying all this to persuade the viewer into buying whatever he’s selling 😂😂😂
Politicians do this kind of manipulation. Network news programs do it, too. Even human resource experts on TV advise the unemployed to consciously misrepresent themselves to get an advantage. We have created a society of manipulators and liars - which is why we're now in the mess that we're in. Selling and manipulation have replaced integrity, truth, and hard work.
Get a copy of When I Say No I Feel Guilty. It's the antidote for manipulation.
@@ByeByeBS Thanks, but no thanks. I already know how to say no.without feeling guilty.
@@timward3116The title of the book can be misleading or off-putting. It is a handbook on teaching assertiveness skills - which is the antidote for emotional manipulation.
You are simply amazing, I hope this channel blows up and you make a great income from it.
I subscribed because the woman sounds like Meg Griffin. And the content is quality.
Shut up Meg !!!
Shut up Meg😅
This will probably help tremendously with my young children. Thanks for this!
Good video, although I will agree to pretty much anything in person to get people to stop talking. You should do a video on how to say no, because getting people to say "yes" is easy when it's ultimately good for them, but getting them to understand "no" seems impossible. The worse thing in this world to me is help you did not ask for. How do you "pre-message" people to not offer you help? How do you say "no" before saying it?
I simply tell people to "save your time, this won't go anywhere". Blunt and to the point. Followed by shrugging at any thing they try to say after if they are particularly persistent. Works.
💡 This happened to me, is a great way to manipulate. You used it a lot 😍
I loved it! 💞
It really works !!!!
I tried that with my neighbor :
- I am not gonna ask you to give me 1,000,000$
- oh ok
- can I have 75,000$
- sure here you go
And he wrote me a check 🤯
Very interesting. I used to be indecisive but now I am not sure.
The advertising world has always used these ploys. There's probably some hieroglyph somewhere depicting these actions.
advertising, sales, a lot of pitches to prime or prepare the subjects mind to be more open. usually works if you DON'T pay atention to what's going on
You ever made a million dollars in a day? Well this is how this video made me feel today ! Thank you for taking the time out to do this video ❤️