I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
@@kamran2035 I have to differ. I made my living as an actor/director/writer, professionally, for well over 20 years. The first thing I saw in watching this was the telltale glances followed by an extemporization from what were obviously notes he'd written beforehand. Like it or not, want to believe it or not, actors are the most highly skilled liars on the planet. We literally train for years to become that. I don't mean that in a harsh negative sense. It's just the reality. I cant say that I felt M.M. was being particularly genuine now do I feel the host was offering anything of all that much substance. I'd have liked to see this same interview with some harsher realities discussed openly. M.M. is good at using a lot of words and measured tone to say very little.
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome". A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character? Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations. If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious 2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity 3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all. I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk. “ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize. There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups. People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real. Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories. Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war. If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences. With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering. BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books. www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/ The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies. Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks. The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians. rense.com/general81/d3ss.htm This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today. And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time) Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too." All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?" Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness. You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect. The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem. You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
I love how beautifully they model a deep, vulnerable, open-hearted dialogue. No defensiveness, no excuses. Just curiosity and understanding. It makes my heart swell ♥️
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it" That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves. And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone. When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity. When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
I love that Matt says "heard". That acknowledgement is powerful. If you don't have a good response or need time, say this. It says more than platitudes when you truly don't understand
Hatten: He's been one of my favorite actors for a while now, so it's cool to see him having a discussion with this brother in which is clearly trying to learn something, and that's cool. Sounds like he definitely came prepared and did his homework, too. I like that, lol. I enjoyed this whole discussion, too.
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: th-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/w-d-xo.html
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
These conversations are so awesome. I love the way Emmanuel is answering the questions. I've witnessed a lot of white people not wanting to ask questions about other races (especially Black race) because we (Blacks) get offended when they ask questions that we think they should already know about us. Still, most whites honestly don't know or understand the culture of others (especially blacks). Despite the hurt, we have to give them (whites) a safe environment to ask questions regarding our past and where we come from, and not be so fast to angrily lash out criticism when an issue is addressed to us about our culture. Keep up the excellent work, Emmanuel.
@@ksam5673 I see your point and where your coming from. In my experience as a white person it is more about fear. Fear of being labeled as a racist for asking questions that are perceived as hateful, even when coming from a place of honest ignorance.
James, most of my white friends have expressed the same feelings. That fear of being labeled racist for asking an honest question about another race. That's why it's important that I created a safe atmosphere for any of them to feel comfortable when asking me about my perspective as a black man.
Humans are tribal, no matter the race if you stya in your own tribe assumptions about others will come up. The only way to remedy this is with uncomfortable conversations .
@@strange4107 These conversations keep you in the mindset of black and white seperate. There is no progress going on having a celebrity ask how to be a better racial man.....
We've had these type of dialogs in the military across the board. When I was a young Airman, we looked for ways to find common ground, find our differences, and learn how to respect different cultures. I was blessed to be raised with a heritage of military service. I always stressed to my Airman to expand your horizon and learn as much as you can from eachother. Keep your heart full of love and understanding. ✌💕
Thank you for keeping these “clean” in that we can watch with the kids. So powerful and put into words they will hear more fully than from our mouths, giving us the opportunity to then discuss and reinforce the message.
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
I too am learning a lot from listening to these conversations and am grateful that so many people of all colours are engaging. I did chuckle at one point in this conversation though, when Emmanuel spoke about backhanded compliments. My dentist recently said that my gums were in good health - for my age! Ouch!! Helped me realise the impact of backhanded compliments. None of us have to add that “for” if we are truly complimenting someone! Love n light to all humans.
I love to see everyone engaging in safe, open and honest communication. Yes it can be uncomfortable but you cannot stay comfortable being comfortable. Lets learn from one another. More importantly be anti racist. Check the person next to you being racist or giving those backhanded compliments. I have a co worker who is white (which only matters due to the context of this conversation) and i talk to her everyday, she asks questions and i ask questions. We are building a really great friendship. Ive never had a chance to do that before.
I am so incredibly inspired by these, Emmanuel. As an HR professional, I am passionate about making tangible changes in diversity, equity, and inclusion, particularly in workplaces. At the core of change, we begin with education. You have an incredible gift, the way in which you approach these traditionally uncomfortable topics and conversations is so empowering to me as a listener, I walk away from each one feeling inspired and motivated to take action not only in my daily work but also your sparking the thought process of where else can I spread this message, how else can I make changes beyond workplaces. I do them in my home and in the way I parent my children, but what more can I do personally to inhibit oppression and move toward a future where diversity is celebrated in all things. Thank you for this!
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
Mr.Acho, May God bless you, protect you and continue to enlighten you in this journey you're taking. Hopefully many Americans and many people around the planet take it with you. It's much much needed, and I also believe it might just help greatly to change the world. Thank you. Peace and love from México, Angie.
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
Omg! Just coming across your videos and I am so thankful for them and they touch on every emotions, every topics and just such an eye opener for all. I found myself gathering my family together and just listening to them. Sharing them with all my friends of different races. Thank you for the dialogue.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
I'm a black South African and this episode brought tears to my eyes . This was beautiful. If this could be part of a school subject in all schools in the world . Healing would start from the foundations of our next generation.
Mr. Acho, I would love to see an uncomfortable conversation with a black conservative. Larry Elder, Thomas Sowell, Coleman Hughes, Walter Williams, Shelby Steele, Jason Riley, and Bob Woodson are just a few you might consider. You seem like a thoughtful and respectful man. I'm hoping your love for diversity extends to the realm of ideas as well.
To what end? For what purpose? What is the value in that conversation? Mind you I'm not saying it has no value. I'm wondering what you are hoping comes from it? At this point these conversations are very specific and purposeful. Would the conversation you are asking for serve that same purpose? Or does it belong on a different forum?
@@suzettebennett2564 I worry that Candace Owen's is much more active than conservative. A few of the other suggestions (I would also add Tim Scott and Colin Powell) would be much better to represent conservative views.
@Richard Lionheart this is awfully presumptive of you to assume what conversations hes interested in having. It also sounds like you aren't listening very much to what he's saying. Sad because it doesnt work if you dont listen.
That's where I'm at... My mom is 100% on board with listening and understanding pain, but my dad - he's not willing to do better, he's not willing to work for the betterment of people who don't look like him, sound like him. So he doesn't even take the FIRST step down that road, of listening.
The way I am approaching things, and I'm not saying that my way is right, best, or anything else for that matter, is that I'm using the energy I have to converse with those who are open to conversation, but who don't have the same mindset and viewpoint as myself. I figure that there are those who, at least for the time being, have chosen to be closed minded, so I shall begin with those who at least have the potential to change. And perhaps in those conversations I can better learn what sort of thoughts those who have closed minds might be thinking. So as I get better and learning, listening, conversing and ideally changing the tide, I might also be better equipped to converse with those who weren't previously ready to have conversations.
@@86fifty First, kudos to you and your mom for your willingness to be open to understanding other perspectives. Second, be encouraged. Change NEVER happens over night. Think about puberty. A person may go to sleep one night with clear skin and wake up the next day with a big pimple on their face. On the surface, it seemed like something that happened instantaneously, but below the surface a lot of changes over time had to occur for that to happen. If you and your mom keep being open, willing to have conversations, and willing to practically live out the things you've learned, there is no way your dad will be unaffected -- because he loves you two. Even if he never responds the way you'd ultimately like him to, there are still changes occurring below the surface.
“Oh let America be America again-- The land that never has been, yet, and yet must be The land where every man is free.” Langston Hughes America, we’ve never been what we aspire to be!!!
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history. History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid. Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
I’m glad that Emmanuel is having these conversations. There is a lot of ignorance in the world, Racism has been going on for decades. We must have these conversations. Im sickened by the police violence and causing death on black people. This has to stop!
I am a 64 year old black woman. Growing up I got from my childhood black peers: You don't sound black You're an Oreo. You think you're white (cause I didn't "sound black"). You're not black enough. They told my lighter skinned classmate that she would never be as black as them. I rode horses and listened to Joni Mitchell as I loved Kool & The Gang, James Taylor and Ray Charles all at the same time. Imagine that. To be honest white people were nicer to me than my black peers. There were no expectations to prove who I was. I was just a kid. P.S. I was told that the white man was the devil and that I was a trader to my race. When I was 12 I was visiting a white classmate. Info about Dr. King's assassin was on the t.v. Her mother said, it was a good thing he was killed because he was a trouble maker. I remember suddenly feeling uncomfortable in the presence of my friends mother. I remember the discomfort in my stomach. I remember a lot of those moments during that time and honestly I feel so little has changed or has been rearranged to make it look like things are better. Jim Crow is not sleeping. Yeah, so I married "the devil" and 3 kids and 30 years later he still cuts my natural 4c hair. Best barber in town!!
Yes, absolutely. I am a white man, raised in the south. I have many friends who really don't get it. They live in fear and try to justify their behavior.
I think THAT is the key. I wish Obama had kept the conversation in the Whitehouse back yard going. I think that was an important opportunity that fell by the wayside.
“Don’t feel guilty, just acknowledge it.” In conversation people are so quick to feel attacked when the topic of slavery is brought up. They take it as fingers are being pointed at them, but in reality all that is needed is acknowledgment. Acknowledgement of the reality of the repercussions slavery has caused.
@@jjcore7081 You can partake in activism just by being aware of racism and teaching your family and friends and children not to be racist. No one is asking you to go fight cops lol.
Black people are not calling white people to feel guilty and cry .we are calling u to acknowledge like we have to and we won't let it go until we both fully look at it for what it is.
@@glslezak thats why there a holiday called June teenth since u thing it ended 150 years ago .lol u should look into it a bit more and take a sociology course
@@acceptancereality6815 exactly brain washing, why would someone need to change the way they think as long as they are acting on reality, thats the problem with black people they want theory addressed and not actual actions and like has been shown with the 1619 project black people will interject theory into reality and want the theory addressed when reality does not support what they say
Do you notice how all of these ideals are sweeping generalizations with nothing concrete? "A house divided against itself-which house? -can not and will not stand"-define "stand?" -Uhh, lot's of "houses" stand very healthy with divisions in beliefs and skepticism. People argue, they have differences, this is irrelevant. It's easy to create these poetic statements and then interpret their meaning later but these can be interpreted any number of ways. "and when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace" -define love, define power, define peace. What is peace exactly? We seem to live in pretty peaceful times when compared to other times. How much more peaceful? Should there never be any conflict? Should life just be non stop pleasures? Well we've seen what happens to societies that run out of things to argue about. The divide actually unifies us and prevents the devolution into depravity. By having differences of opinions, by having struggles, racists, haters, it gives us something to call "enemy" so that we don't end up like the Romans or Egyptians. There is no utopia and there never will be, not in this flesh. Define love? Everyone has a different idea of what love is. Some don't think love is real, it's just a chemical reaction in the body. Define power? What is power? Force? Money? Influence? God? Is power even real? Just because a musician said something, doesn't make it true or even valuable.
I just wanted to mention that my mother brought this video up to me now 2 years after you posted it. I love what you're doing and appreciate the healthy conversation. And by bringing positive awareness to such an important topic. Much love!
apart from the fact that covid-19 is an international/ national health issue when racial injustice is really not backed up by statistical evidence or facts making it not as big of an issue. There are racists but just because a cop is power-tripping doesn't make him a racist. Just because a white person insults a black person doesn't always mean they are a racist. Some people are just jerks to everyone the difference is most white people shrug it off as that person being a jerk black people label them racists. Welcome to equality lol everyone is treated like trash in their lifetime. I have had white friends stopped by police when they went on a walk and asked for ID and the cops gave them a very hard time. If they were black "racist white cops" would have been stamped all over it. I have had white friends stopped for no reason justified as "we pulled you over because you were laughing. Do you have drugs? we will search the car. get out!" again cops power tripping and again if they were black "Racist white cops" would have been stamped on it. The less we think about color and the more we think of us all as individuals who WILL be treated like trash across the board the better life will be. When 30 white guys and 2 black guys apply for a job and a white guy gets hired don't label it racist or racial injustice when even if they flipped a coin or pulled a name out of a hat blindly a white person would have higher odds of being picked simply due to there being more of them. If you treat them all as individuals and have Billy and John and Chad and Marcus and 30 more names all applying for a job they all get an interview just select any two names and after you select any two names make one of them black now when the final applicant gets hired odds are neither the white guy nor the black guy will get hired. There is no evidence supporting white people getting chosen over a black person based on the color of their skin. And the whole name bias thing is stupid. That isn't a race thing that's a name thing if someone has a name that is difficult to spell or pronounce giving a call back may be awkward and they may avoid that even if they knew the guy was white with a "black" sounding name. There is nothing that says that if everyone had the same name and same resume and all in the same room that they would go out of their way to pick a white person. When more black people kill other black people no one cares until a white cop kills a black man then everyone loses their chill and goes emotional. But saying "Stop black people from killing their own!" doesn't clearly define an antagonist and victim in a visually clean way. Even though that is a way bigger issue than any racial issue is in America. It's more narratively clean to say "fight racism. Acknowledge white privilege. White cops hunting black people. We need Justice! " then it is to say the truth "Black people are killing themselves! " NO racism is keeping any black person from success in this country.
I disagree with this. America isn't broken. It's exactly the way it was made to be. Thats the problem. Oppression is written into the constitution. Woven into the fabric of america.
This is why there are no conversations. One person has to take accountability for all people who have his skin color and all people who don't. The other person takes no accountability for himself and forces accountability on people of another skin tone. At this point where is the respect for the individual? Or does he just want to be seen for his skin color?
Jarrod Flint I disagree. People definitely care considering it’s Mathew McConaughey speaking about racial injustice. Including the music in the intro makes sense but it gets elongated too much and becomes annoying
The Vulture I always wondered about Americans. They’re always saying u shouldn’t judge someone based on their skin colour but they still bring up skin colour in any way they can
@@thevulture5750 how would it help dismantle racism to not acknowledge race? Race has very real consequences for people (people are being killed, sent to prison, etc). THAT is the problem, pretending that these issues aren't tied to race
That was great. I grew up in an extremely racist household. And it took me a while to get away from that way of thinking. And I still struggle sometimes. Glad to have this convo talked out.
Thanks for being open minded. My mother who is white also came from an extremely racist household. I think a lot of white people refuse to acknowledge the facts due to the fears of being disconnected from their loved ones. It takes a brave person to search for truth and understand we are all human beings and in fact children of God. She was laughed at, called names and pretty much abandoned by her family for having black children. It’s sad what hate can cause people to do. So it’s really refreshing reading your comment. 🙏🏽
Beg to differ: Abolition of Slavery; Civil Rights Acts; WWI; WWII; Olympics; tremendous volunteerism; establishment of hospitals and universities; inventions that revolutionized the world; cures; tremendous generosity towards immigrants. We are mortals, we committed great evils AND great acts of righteousness.
@@zachyoutube213 - There are many Freedoms ( our Free Speech is superior to Canada or England, for example ) here, but completely free to disagree in Leftist-run classrooms? You're right, not free. Free to go on tv talk shows and push back on BLM or PC Groupthink? Free to go on ESPN and strongly disagree with the "company line"? If you're fleeing a war-torn nation, or slavery, or religious persecution, or persecution for one's sexuality, or economic hell, ask tens of millions why they want to come here. The "Dream" and for "Freedom".
Thank you for these conversations! As a Latina, I have also received similar back handed compliments. And it hurts me to recognize my culture's biases towards Blacks and darker colored people in general as well. In shows/movies/etc. light colored actors usually receive better roles than darker skinned actors, which also happens in the USA. It is terrible how certain skin colors are favored over others. I wish we could recognize beauty in all the diversity of skin and physical appearances.
I wish I could have someone like you sit down with my parents about these things. Any time I try, my father just tries to turn it into a joke and talk over me. My mother will silently listen, try to speak her side and understanding and then it ultimately seems like she might understand, but then I see her Facebook feed from my wife and it hurts. I left social media platforms because my family are just so ignorant, hateful and unwilling to see themselves or change. Now if you'll all excuse me, I'm going to go watch another one of these and see how much more I can cry at work before someone has to come have an uncomfortable conversation with me about it!
Backhanded compliments such as "you dont even talk like a black guy" obviously happen. However, I've heard many time someone say "you talk like you white." Its not cool to talk properly in many neighborhoods. Its not cool or 'acting white' if you'd rather go to the library than go play ball. So while prejudices need to be called out, so does the idea that bettering oneself is 'selling out.'
This. This is one of the biggest problems that a lot of black people don't want to talk about. So many black kids don't aspire to better themselves because they will be rejected by their own brothers and sisters. When I was in high school and I studied, read, and used correct English, my nickname was "Wannabe." As in, wanna be white. He is right that we are not that far removed from slavery because as a race, too many black people have internalized the stereotype that education is for the white man.
Yes. Backhanded compliments come from all different types of people, not just white. And, I think Acho just used white people as an example. Because we live in this western world that has been conquered, and therefore ruled, by Europeans and their descendants, all of us who are non-white, or non-white passing, have bought into the system created by the dominant culture. So, we all believe, at least to some degree, that "their" way of being/behaving is the "best" way of being/behaving. It's been ingrained into us. To some degree, that's true. If we want to get ahead in this world/culture, then most of us have learned how to assimilate. Fundamentally, of course, that is not the only way to be. We all have inherent value within our own right, language, culture, appearance, style, beliefs, race, ethnicity, etc. because we are divinely created. All people need to remember that, especially POC, since the realization of that value is more difficult to believe or manifest.
In Germany there's a child's play called "who's afraid of the black man?". One child yells that sentence, the others answer "nobody!". The first child yells "but if he comes?" and the kids reply "then we run away!" and take off while the first child tries to catch them. As a child I didn't connect that to skin colour but more to a dark clothed creep, but the roots are obvious.
It's anecdotes like this that black people need to hear. It's important for black people to understand the specific ways white people consciously and unconsciously learn and practice racism.
Yes we've played that as children in Finland too. I never understood the implication of that as a child and it was never explained or discussed either. But nowadays it has luckily been changed tho (several years ago), to maybe "Who's afraid of the wolf" or something, I don't even remember..
Interesting. I live in Canada, was born and raised in Ontario. Reading your anecdote reminded me of a childhood memory I'd long since forgotten. When I was in kindergarten, we used to play the same game, except for us it was "Who's afraid of the black wolf?". We had many children of colour in my class (black, brown, Asian) and I never once thought about what this game might have implied for them. We used to have one kid from the class wear a black wolf mask and they had to scare the rest of the class at the end, but we never once considered that perhaps that game had racist roots and that the name might have been changed from black man to black wolf. Imagine being a teacher and inadvertently teaching young children of colour to subconsciously fear other people who look like them. I'm not sure if any of my teachers knew that's what they were doing though. They probably thought it was just a fun game to play with the kids during gym class.
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I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
That is absolutely amazing. Love it!
Nice! So much more rewarding than affirmative action.
Which college is this?
I love this, congrats to you!
That is awesome and how it should be. Congradulations.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
please
this music made me feel like I am watching a 12 weeks body transformation video
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
And the forced subtitles as well. I can hear and understand them, I can turn sub's on if I want them.
Yes, the music is way too sad and tearful. This should be a positive thing. Just don't use anything
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
I noted that too, he's taking it seriously and so he should.
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
@@ampollard7041 they werent notes they were questions. the whole point of an interview.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
I love how Matthew made notes showing he was thoughtful about the meeting and wanting to genuinely learn
As far as any of us know, anyway.
Matthew is a big thinker and he taught himself to always write
he didn't listen to a word Acho said. Just posturing like he did.
The only reason McDude is on here is because Acho is a former Longhorn.
@@kamran2035 I have to differ. I made my living as an actor/director/writer, professionally, for well over 20 years. The first thing I saw in watching this was the telltale glances followed by an extemporization from what were obviously notes he'd written beforehand. Like it or not, want to believe it or not, actors are the most highly skilled liars on the planet. We literally train for years to become that. I don't mean that in a harsh negative sense. It's just the reality. I cant say that I felt M.M. was being particularly genuine now do I feel the host was offering anything of all that much substance. I'd have liked to see this same interview with some harsher realities discussed openly. M.M. is good at using a lot of words and measured tone to say very little.
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome".
A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
@@user-wn5eb7br9m There it is buddy!!! Thanks for sharing the mentality of the psychotic tribalism left
Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Unfortunately my kids school doesn't even celebrate black history month PERIOD!! THEY DON'T EVEN MENTION A NAME OR ACKNOWLEDGE IT!
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
Thanks. It sounded a bit patronizing, but now it makes a bit more sense.
Thank you for the explanation, I’m going to start using “heard”
Restaurant workers say it too, to acknowledge they heard the chef's orders.
Thanks because I was so confused on the first comment mentioning this term lol
Theater says "Thank You 5" before the show to actors.
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge." Best advice ever.
If I’m being honest the “you sound/act white” comments I got always came from other black people
I know black people who say this but never met a white person who has (not saying they exist as I'm sure they do)
@zzz it means something different in that situation and doesn’t effect me in anyway. When someone who looks like says this it’s a form of ostracism
That's honest. I hope I've never said that but hearing it made me frightened that I may have said something similar.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
@@tupa12 nobody is blaming white ppl for everything 😀
Can we have an Asian convo here I think that there are a lot of misunderstanding between blacks and Asians
My thoughts exactly!!!!
Model minority stereotype MUST be exposed for the myth it is.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
This means two different things in UK Vs USA
@@TheFaro2011 Elaborate please.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
judge a man not by the color of his skin, but by the character of the man
Yesssss
And respect the people wish if they want to segregate ,do not forced them to mix.
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character?
Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
" Don't feel guilty just acknowledge it". Powerful statement!
As a Nigerian I’m sending blessings to all my black and white brothers in America. We love you all. Long live the USA 🇺🇸 🇳🇬❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿
From America ❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿✊🏻✊🏿
Yes much love from america!
and long live nigeria...
@Moyin Adegbie - THANK YOU! Much Love to my brothers/sisters in Nigeria!
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
but it is all one sided...
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@brieb402 Your "whataboutism" is showing.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations.
If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
No background music was edited in, it just follows McConaughey
There was music the entire video Dude!
@@karenlindsey5988 It's a joke Karen
😂
lmfao this music took me straight to the Lincoln commercial XD
Heard
Love Matthew! He seems to be just genuinely living his life trying to grow and improve. He's never set in his ways and is always open.
Even two years later, idiots look at this as a sincere conversation rather than just a virtue signalling spew.
I NEED TO SEE THIS WITH A BLACK WOMAN HAVING AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION WITH A WHITE WOMAN. IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN. ITS NOT EASY FOR US AT ALL!!!
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
Girl we also need an uncomfortable conversation with black man and woman
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
Finally, as a black woman i can listen to a conversation that encourages excellent thought and not fear and hatred.
Thank you...
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: th-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/w-d-xo.html
It's christmas don't listen to this fake crybaby s***. They are lying to you white people could give a f*** about your problems.
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
@@jameylane9196 to tell the truth, i have not known any black person who cares either....
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
i was just about to comment on that! glad to see that the intention to learn was truly there
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
I have always love Mathew. This just made me love him more.
More or less.
Ew
@@outofmind9222 Is that what you garnered. OK.
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
Love the transparency
@@numinousnihil3804 Hopefully blacks will also learn to not vilify all whites. It works both ways.
I like when Acho says "Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge"... beautifully articulated
"Heard" - is that enough? Simple, direct, non-defensive...
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
@@tamarakennedy4976 That was for the OP
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious
2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity
3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally
Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey
Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all.
I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
You are easily impressed.....What McConaughey did in this video was old shtick that started 60 yrs ago. I never heard the word "reparations."
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
Pathetic nonsense….poor, poor victims, blah, blah. Pay attention to your own situations and improve your own situations.
Anyone else feel like this is actually a very comfortable conversation?
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk.
“ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize.
There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups.
People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real.
Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories.
Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war.
If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences.
With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering.
BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books.
www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/
The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies.
Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks.
The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians.
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This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today.
And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time)
Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo
I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining
Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too."
All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
@@KeyboardsJR I'm glad he helped you understand. I'm glad you are willing to learn and admit your change in thinking.
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: th-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/w-d-xo.html
But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
I wish we could have more of this everywhere.❣️👑❤️ God knows we need it.especially here in 🇿🇦🇿🇦 South Africa🌍
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?"
Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness.
You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect.
The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem.
You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
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I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
@@AudraT yep. Fully agree
I love it when Matthew says, "Heard" sweet, taken in... absorbed sweet!
He probably worked in a restaurant. My friends or family ask me to do something and I immediately say “heard”
Man I just love this channel. Much love to ALL my people/ humans in the world! This is truly inspiring!
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
Thank you for being willing to learn
Your taking big steps man in the right direction 🇺🇸🤙🏽
Man that's so much more than most people are willing to give, good on you, we must continue to learn and spread and promote equality! :)
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
Yes, we constantly have to unlearn what we were taught and relearn
I love how beautifully they model a deep, vulnerable, open-hearted dialogue. No defensiveness, no excuses. Just curiosity and understanding. It makes my heart swell ♥️
That's not what happened here
they did not say anything that is consistent with reality
What your talking about NEVER happens!
"The land that never has been yet", damn straight. Proud of you guys, especially you Acho! Keep talking and keep educating. Hook 'em Horns!
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Yea nothing we need more is a false education, to make people believe whites are racist,and blacks are not. This channel is a lie
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
POWERFUL
Are we free as a people ? That is of any color?
Langston Hughes
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it"
That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
exactly. white guilt is useless. we don't need nor want it.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves.
And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone.
When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity.
When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
@@memyself898 actually that's not all you can do. You can also be anti- racist.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
The Langston Hughes poem is so powerful and on point. Loved it.
I love that Matt says "heard". That acknowledgement is powerful. If you don't have a good response or need time, say this. It says more than platitudes when you truly don't understand
LOL! It’s so cringe.
Hatten:
He's been one of my favorite actors for a while now, so it's cool to see him having a discussion with this brother in which is clearly trying to learn something, and that's cool. Sounds like he definitely came prepared and did his homework, too. I like that, lol. I enjoyed this whole discussion, too.
Amen!
@@alondathomas293 i agree. It felt so genuine 😌 💛
@Ariel Hatten: I thought the same thing. A very thoughtful response.
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
Those were my comments as well.
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
th-cam.com/video/rdh8zPr_ZmI/w-d-xo.html if you want something a little deeper
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
Ive always loved Matthew as an actor, now I love him as a person.
Me too. I actually like him.
So much guidance so much wisdom you bring chills down my spine 🥶
The ending with the Langston Hughes poem excerpt was the most hopeful thing I've seen in a while.
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I completely agree..
Growth mindset, the power I yet.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: th-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/w-d-xo.html
damn, the comparison to covid vs other diseases was pretty smart.
especially since it's the same people denying covid is a real problem that needs to be addressed, are arguing against the realities of racism
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
i thought it was too! Very insightful!!
I love this so much, the algorithm brought me here and I'm not leaving.
These conversations are so awesome. I love the way Emmanuel is answering the questions. I've witnessed a lot of white people not wanting to ask questions about other races (especially Black race) because we (Blacks) get offended when they ask questions that we think they should already know about us. Still, most whites honestly don't know or understand the culture of others (especially blacks). Despite the hurt, we have to give them (whites) a safe environment to ask questions regarding our past and where we come from, and not be so fast to angrily lash out criticism when an issue is addressed to us about our culture. Keep up the excellent work, Emmanuel.
Well I don't know about that one. Most white people don't ask these questions to black people for two reasons 1: They are scared & 2: They don't care.
@@ksam5673 I see your point and where your coming from. In my experience as a white person it is more about fear. Fear of being labeled as a racist for asking questions that are perceived as hateful, even when coming from a place of honest ignorance.
James, most of my white friends have expressed the same feelings. That fear of being labeled racist for asking an honest question about another race. That's why it's important that I created a safe atmosphere for any of them to feel comfortable when asking me about my perspective as a black man.
Humans are tribal, no matter the race if you stya in your own tribe assumptions about others will come up. The only way to remedy this is with uncomfortable conversations .
@@strange4107 These conversations keep you in the mindset of black and white seperate. There is no progress going on having a celebrity ask how to be a better racial man.....
Heard. Thank you for these uncomfortable conversations done with respect. A model for myself and all of us.
Keep the conversation going - loud and clear. Everyone needs to listen
We've had these type of dialogs in the military across the board. When I was a young Airman, we looked for ways to find common ground, find our differences, and learn how to respect different cultures. I was blessed to be raised with a heritage of military service. I always stressed to my Airman to expand your horizon and learn as much as you can from eachother. Keep your heart full of love and understanding. ✌💕
Thank you for keeping these “clean” in that we can watch with the kids. So powerful and put into words they will hear more fully than from our mouths, giving us the opportunity to then discuss and reinforce the message.
@@Mark-dd4px lol! Mark I was worried a troll would actually comment this way hahah! Glad you're kidding though 😅
"You're so intelligent for a woman"
"You're so pretty for a lesbian"
"You're so educated for a black guy"
Not complements at all!
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
"you're so fly for a white guy"
Did Joe Biden say that? It sounds like him.
"You dance well for a White guy."
"She's smart for a blonde."
"He sings like a Black guy."
Not compliments at all!!
As a white woman, this is well received. I will be following and listening. Please keep bringing them! Sending love!
Acho is very good on Speak for yourself on FS1 with Wiley
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: th-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/w-d-xo.html
I too am learning a lot from listening to these conversations and am grateful that so many people of all colours are engaging. I did chuckle at one point in this conversation though, when Emmanuel spoke about backhanded compliments. My dentist recently said that my gums were in good health - for my age! Ouch!!
Helped me realise the impact of backhanded compliments. None of us have to add that “for” if we are truly complimenting someone!
Love n light to all humans.
I love to see everyone engaging in safe, open and honest communication. Yes it can be uncomfortable but you cannot stay comfortable being comfortable. Lets learn from one another. More importantly be anti racist. Check the person next to you being racist or giving those backhanded compliments. I have a co worker who is white (which only matters due to the context of this conversation) and i talk to her everyday, she asks questions and i ask questions. We are building a really great friendship. Ive never had a chance to do that before.
I am so incredibly inspired by these, Emmanuel. As an HR professional, I am passionate about making tangible changes in diversity, equity, and inclusion, particularly in workplaces. At the core of change, we begin with education. You have an incredible gift, the way in which you approach these traditionally uncomfortable topics and conversations is so empowering to me as a listener, I walk away from each one feeling inspired and motivated to take action not only in my daily work but also your sparking the thought process of where else can I spread this message, how else can I make changes beyond workplaces. I do them in my home and in the way I parent my children, but what more can I do personally to inhibit oppression and move toward a future where diversity is celebrated in all things. Thank you for this!
Two Americans having an intelligent nuanced conversation about race? In America? I could get used to this.
It was a lecture. Only 1 person took blame and looked for ways to improve himself.
@@dlakerguy how could the other person improve themself and how are they at fault?
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
@@dlakerguy yeah... You're either a troll or REALLY ignorant. Have a nice day.
@@dlakerguy True about the lecture.
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
I’ve been a recipient of the backhanded compliments as well
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
Mr.Acho, May God bless you, protect you and continue to enlighten you in this journey you're taking. Hopefully many Americans and many people around the planet take it with you. It's much much needed, and I also believe it might just help greatly to change the world. Thank you. Peace and love from México, Angie.
Equating racism to Covid-19 is genius💯‼️ As a black woman and mother, thank you so much for this dialogue ‼️‼️‼️
I kept tearing up every time he said "heard"? Its about damn time my brothers and sisters were just....heard.
Giovanni Mancini you are part of the problem. And ignorant.
black men should be having uncomfortable conversations with white police officers not actors
Aww, honey,💞
@Giovanni Mancini dogwhistle much?
Amen, Taku. It's time for us to just fucking listen. That's not enough of course, but that's the best place to start.
Matthew McConaughey: Reading Langston Hughes
Me: Well alright, alright, alright...!
😂🤣😂🤣
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Love his poetry, even read his bio as a young girl and been a fan since.
All white dudes who read Langston Hughes are allies. Case in point: www.bitchute.com/video/O8Onuw5X96fp/
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
I like how he wrote down his questions to remember them.
Me too.
Better to remember & less chance of misspeaking. Good plan.
Let's you know he took it serious. I love him.
Last thing MM wants is to experience cancel culture, being smart
Ever go shopping without a shopping list? If so you probably forgot something?
Omg! Just coming across your videos and I am so thankful for them and they touch on every emotions, every topics and just such an eye opener for all. I found myself gathering my family together and just listening to them. Sharing them with all my friends of different races. Thank you for the dialogue.
I would love to hear a conversation between Emmanuel and Thomas Sowell.
Oh my Lord, YES!
Unfortunately, I doubt TS is in well enough health for that. National treasure, that man. Also, they would be talking right past one another.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
Thats rascist
@@sharkh20 I wouldn't call him a national treasure
Aye! Thank you for shouting us black Cubans out because some people don't even know we exist. Great conversation
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
White men say: your pretty for a black girl
Black men say: your pretty for a dark girl
These two phrases are actually connected......
White people say BOTH. Never heard a black man say that about black women
funny, Ive always said she fine regardless. Fake news.
We both know that black men make the "dark girl comment" FAR more than white men make the "black girl" comment. 😉
S C I have heard black men say that consistently throughout my life.
They are! Both statements stem from the same disease of prejudice.
I'm a black South African and this episode brought tears to my eyes . This was beautiful. If this could be part of a school subject in all schools in the world . Healing would start from the foundations of our next generation.
We are actually watching this in school, I hope it makes you happy ☺️
@@hailee4682 you have a great teacher !
@@hailee4682 you have a great teacher !
Absolutely!!! Just a conversation.
Ugh stay out of this it aint shit
Mr. Acho, I would love to see an uncomfortable conversation with a black conservative. Larry Elder, Thomas Sowell, Coleman Hughes, Walter Williams, Shelby Steele, Jason Riley, and Bob Woodson are just a few you might consider. You seem like a thoughtful and respectful man. I'm hoping your love for diversity extends to the realm of ideas as well.
Candace Owens also.
To what end? For what purpose? What is the value in that conversation?
Mind you I'm not saying it has no value. I'm wondering what you are hoping comes from it?
At this point these conversations are very specific and purposeful. Would the conversation you are asking for serve that same purpose? Or does it belong on a different forum?
@@suzettebennett2564 I worry that Candace Owen's is much more active than conservative.
A few of the other suggestions (I would also add Tim Scott and Colin Powell) would be much better to represent conservative views.
@Richard Lionheart this is awfully presumptive of you to assume what conversations hes interested in having.
It also sounds like you aren't listening very much to what he's saying. Sad because it doesnt work if you dont listen.
Seems Ben Carson would be a very good choice as well.
Seemed like a normal conversation, the real issue is trying to talk to someone who is unwilling to have that convo, unwilling to listen.
True, and listening is a skill that many of us do not have.
That's where I'm at... My mom is 100% on board with listening and understanding pain, but my dad - he's not willing to do better, he's not willing to work for the betterment of people who don't look like him, sound like him. So he doesn't even take the FIRST step down that road, of listening.
Right? We need Larry "systemic racism doesn't exist" Kudlow on the show.
The way I am approaching things, and I'm not saying that my way is right, best, or anything else for that matter, is that I'm using the energy I have to converse with those who are open to conversation, but who don't have the same mindset and viewpoint as myself. I figure that there are those who, at least for the time being, have chosen to be closed minded, so I shall begin with those who at least have the potential to change. And perhaps in those conversations I can better learn what sort of thoughts those who have closed minds might be thinking. So as I get better and learning, listening, conversing and ideally changing the tide, I might also be better equipped to converse with those who weren't previously ready to have conversations.
@@86fifty First, kudos to you and your mom for your willingness to be open to understanding other perspectives. Second, be encouraged. Change NEVER happens over night. Think about puberty. A person may go to sleep one night with clear skin and wake up the next day with a big pimple on their face. On the surface, it seemed like something that happened instantaneously, but below the surface a lot of changes over time had to occur for that to happen. If you and your mom keep being open, willing to have conversations, and willing to practically live out the things you've learned, there is no way your dad will be unaffected -- because he loves you two. Even if he never responds the way you'd ultimately like him to, there are still changes occurring below the surface.
“Oh let America be America again--
The land that never has been, yet, and yet must be
The land where every man is free.” Langston Hughes
America, we’ve never been what we aspire to be!!!
And we never will be. But we still aspire and that is good.
Yes, let's work towards it. That's the only way we can be patriots - to always work to move towards that ideal.
I particularity liked the poem. I think it also point to inevitability of freedom. Let just hope we get there fast
Insanely powerful. I was really pleasantly surprised.
This comment constitutes sedition. It's not legal.
Thank you for all that you are doing. I am a white female who is almost 60. I live in the south and was raised as such.
Thank you!! I need this.
"...not just by being not racist, but by being anti-racist"
Solid 👌🏿
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
Tell that to black community 's
Anti-racism is more dangerous than racism.
@@marklvrd Then I'm sure you feel better, knowing that there's so much more racism than there is anti-racism.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history.
History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid.
Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
I sat my wife down to have an uncomfortable conversation. I said, “honey you have to acknowledge.” That was the end of the conversation.
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Women don't do accountability, my friend😂
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🤭😆 pray about it
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This was actually...useful.....imagine that when people talk with nuance instead of fight with absurd generalities.
Hamna
Please finish your statement, I've been hanging on to this cliff for over a week!
Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression: th-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/w-d-xo.html
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: th-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/w-d-xo.html
America is allergic to nuance ...this is apart of the vaccine
Greatest content I’ve seen. Great conversation. Great topics. And great respectable responses from both parties.
I appreciate the amount of research that McConaughey preemptively did. A gesture of the respect he held for the conversation
I’m glad that Emmanuel is having these conversations. There is a lot of ignorance in the world, Racism has been going on for decades. We must have these conversations. Im sickened by the police violence and causing death on black people. This has to stop!
Keep these kinds of conversations going. Let’s help those ones who come after us...
I am a 64 year old black woman. Growing up I got from my childhood black peers:
You don't sound black
You're an Oreo.
You think you're white (cause I didn't "sound black").
You're not black enough.
They told my lighter skinned classmate that she would never be as black as them.
I rode horses and listened to Joni Mitchell as I loved Kool & The Gang, James Taylor and Ray Charles all at the same time. Imagine that. To be honest white people were nicer to me than my black peers. There were no expectations to prove who I was. I was just a kid.
P.S. I was told that the white man was the devil and that I was a trader to my race. When I was 12 I was visiting a white classmate. Info about Dr. King's assassin was on the t.v. Her mother said, it was a good thing he was killed because he was a trouble maker. I remember suddenly feeling uncomfortable in the presence of my friends mother. I remember the discomfort in my stomach.
I remember a lot of those moments during that time and honestly I feel so little has changed or has been rearranged to make it look like things are better. Jim Crow is not sleeping.
Yeah, so I married "the devil" and 3 kids and 30 years later he still cuts my natural 4c hair. Best barber in town!!
Yes, absolutely. I am a white man, raised in the south. I have many friends who really don't get it. They live in fear and try to justify their behavior.
I’m not a white man ...I’m American
I think THAT is the key. I wish Obama had kept the conversation in the Whitehouse back yard going. I think that was an important opportunity that fell by the wayside.
Hilliard Davis II we don’t want to talk to you ,can not tell....we are tired of being around you people .. Hilliard ain’t your name by the way .
Love this. we as humans need to have those conversations with one another. We have to stop pointing fingers and work togethar to do better.
“Don’t feel guilty, just acknowledge it.” In conversation people are so quick to feel attacked when the topic of slavery is brought up. They take it as fingers are being pointed at them, but in reality all that is needed is acknowledgment. Acknowledgement of the reality of the repercussions slavery has caused.
Well that is because a lot of people drive home that you should in fact feel guilty, and even more so if you do not partake in activism.
@@jjcore7081 You can partake in activism just by being aware of racism and teaching your family and friends and children not to be racist. No one is asking you to go fight cops lol.
Thats cause it was ended by a war 150 years ago. Ya'll just victims.
Black people are not calling white people to feel guilty and cry .we are calling u to acknowledge like we have to and we won't let it go until we both fully look at it for what it is.
@@glslezak thats why there a holiday called June teenth since u thing it ended 150 years ago .lol u should look into it a bit more and take a sociology course
People like you is why hope remains feasible, even in times where hopelessness seems to be knocking at the door.
he presents no ideas that can be acted on
matthew humphrey Changing the way you think and educating yourself both constitute action
@@acceptancereality6815 Hopelessness is definitely a word I would use.
stryfetc1 nobody who willingly walks off of a cliff does so with hope in their heart and mind.
@@acceptancereality6815 exactly brain washing, why would someone need to change the way they think as long as they are acting on reality, thats the problem with black people they want theory addressed and not actual actions and like has been shown with the 1619 project black people will interject theory into reality and want the theory addressed when reality does not support what they say
A house divided against itself, can not and will not stand!
We must judge people by the content of their character and not the color of their skin.
Martin Luther King.
Still true.
Golden Voice No, absolutely untrue. Absolutely untrue. You must be reading Russian propaganda.
And when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace! Jimi Hendrix
Do you notice how all of these ideals are sweeping generalizations with nothing concrete?
"A house divided against itself-which house? -can not and will not stand"-define "stand?" -Uhh, lot's of "houses" stand very healthy with divisions in beliefs and skepticism. People argue, they have differences, this is irrelevant.
It's easy to create these poetic statements and then interpret their meaning later but these can be interpreted any number of ways.
"and when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace"
-define love, define power, define peace. What is peace exactly? We seem to live in pretty peaceful times when compared to other times. How much more peaceful? Should there never be any conflict? Should life just be non stop pleasures? Well we've seen what happens to societies that run out of things to argue about. The divide actually unifies us and prevents the devolution into depravity. By having differences of opinions, by having struggles, racists, haters, it gives us something to call "enemy" so that we don't end up like the Romans or Egyptians. There is no utopia and there never will be, not in this flesh.
Define love? Everyone has a different idea of what love is. Some don't think love is real, it's just a chemical reaction in the body.
Define power? What is power? Force? Money? Influence? God? Is power even real?
Just because a musician said something, doesn't make it true or even valuable.
I just wanted to mention that my mother brought this video up to me now 2 years after you posted it. I love what you're doing and appreciate the healthy conversation. And by bringing positive awareness to such an important topic. Much love!
Referencing black lives matter to COVID-19 was so smart and well-said!
apart from the fact that covid-19 is an international/ national health issue when racial injustice is really not backed up by statistical evidence or facts making it not as big of an issue. There are racists but just because a cop is power-tripping doesn't make him a racist. Just because a white person insults a black person doesn't always mean they are a racist. Some people are just jerks to everyone the difference is most white people shrug it off as that person being a jerk black people label them racists. Welcome to equality lol everyone is treated like trash in their lifetime. I have had white friends stopped by police when they went on a walk and asked for ID and the cops gave them a very hard time. If they were black "racist white cops" would have been stamped all over it. I have had white friends stopped for no reason justified as "we pulled you over because you were laughing. Do you have drugs? we will search the car. get out!" again cops power tripping and again if they were black "Racist white cops" would have been stamped on it. The less we think about color and the more we think of us all as individuals who WILL be treated like trash across the board the better life will be. When 30 white guys and 2 black guys apply for a job and a white guy gets hired don't label it racist or racial injustice when even if they flipped a coin or pulled a name out of a hat blindly a white person would have higher odds of being picked simply due to there being more of them. If you treat them all as individuals and have Billy and John and Chad and Marcus and 30 more names all applying for a job they all get an interview just select any two names and after you select any two names make one of them black now when the final applicant gets hired odds are neither the white guy nor the black guy will get hired. There is no evidence supporting white people getting chosen over a black person based on the color of their skin. And the whole name bias thing is stupid. That isn't a race thing that's a name thing if someone has a name that is difficult to spell or pronounce giving a call back may be awkward and they may avoid that even if they knew the guy was white with a "black" sounding name. There is nothing that says that if everyone had the same name and same resume and all in the same room that they would go out of their way to pick a white person. When more black people kill other black people no one cares until a white cop kills a black man then everyone loses their chill and goes emotional. But saying "Stop black people from killing their own!" doesn't clearly define an antagonist and victim in a visually clean way. Even though that is a way bigger issue than any racial issue is in America. It's more narratively clean to say "fight racism. Acknowledge white privilege. White cops hunting black people. We need Justice! " then it is to say the truth "Black people are killing themselves! " NO racism is keeping any black person from success in this country.
I am afraid this analogy won't work for some people who still think COVID-19 is a flu and wearing mask is a big decision to make for them.
It was Absolutely GENIUS
"America has never been what it aspires to be." This is such as true statement.
I disagree with this. America isn't broken. It's exactly the way it was made to be. Thats the problem. Oppression is written into the constitution. Woven into the fabric of america.
Uh yea this ain’t it. So America should just continue to oppress minorities? Wrong.
@@satanicneptune6633 Right
“HEARD” 👍🏾
HEARD
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It’s like he works at a restaurant lol
HEARD
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This is why there are no conversations. One person has to take accountability for all people who have his skin color and all people who don't. The other person takes no accountability for himself and forces accountability on people of another skin tone. At this point where is the respect for the individual? Or does he just want to be seen for his skin color?
I wish you didn't have background music the whole time. I want to hear this convo raw.
Jarrod Flint I disagree. People definitely care considering it’s Mathew McConaughey speaking about racial injustice. Including the music in the intro makes sense but it gets elongated too much and becomes annoying
They say they didn't add it. It just follows Mathew around.
Merlyn Mac I see what you did there 😂
I like the music
This man Did A Time to Kill. Never had a doubt he was a ally of humanity.
Agreed. It was like he wasn't acting.
The movie makes me cry every single time I watch it.
One of my all time favourite movies.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He married to a Spanish woman and speaks better Spanish than me lol
Okay! That's the movie, I couldn't name that he was in as the lawyer and Sam Jackson was the defendant.
Would love to see you engage in these conversations with other minorities - especially Asians to help bridge our communities more
Suhan Li Thank you for wanting to learn more and support the Black Community. We are all brothers and sisters.
@@thevulture5750 Agreed.
@@thevulture5750 People like you are the problem, how mixed are your personal circles...clearly you see race.
The Vulture I always wondered about Americans. They’re always saying u shouldn’t judge someone based on their skin colour but they still bring up skin colour in any way they can
@@thevulture5750 how would it help dismantle racism to not acknowledge race? Race has very real consequences for people (people are being killed, sent to prison, etc). THAT is the problem, pretending that these issues aren't tied to race
That was great. I grew up in an extremely racist household. And it took me a while to get away from that way of thinking. And I still struggle sometimes. Glad to have this convo talked out.
Thanks for being open minded. My mother who is white also came from an extremely racist household.
I think a lot of white people refuse to acknowledge the facts due to the fears of being disconnected from their loved ones. It takes a brave person to search for truth and understand we are all human beings and in fact children of God. She was laughed at, called names and pretty much abandoned by her family for having black children. It’s sad what hate can cause people to do. So it’s really refreshing reading your comment. 🙏🏽
American has never been what we aspire to be. So true, and so powerful.
This was amazing...so true.
Beg to differ: Abolition of Slavery; Civil Rights Acts; WWI; WWII; Olympics; tremendous volunteerism; establishment of hospitals and universities; inventions that revolutionized the world; cures; tremendous generosity towards immigrants. We are mortals, we committed great evils AND great acts of righteousness.
wrong you may be right in some way but, the United States in the best country on earth. The only governments that are considered better are European
@@machtnichtsseimann home of the brave...perhaps. land of the free...don't think so.
@@zachyoutube213 - There are many Freedoms ( our Free Speech is superior to Canada or England, for example ) here, but completely free to disagree in Leftist-run classrooms? You're right, not free. Free to go on tv talk shows and push back on BLM or PC Groupthink? Free to go on ESPN and strongly disagree with the "company line"? If you're fleeing a war-torn nation, or slavery, or religious persecution, or persecution for one's sexuality, or economic hell, ask tens of millions why they want to come here. The "Dream" and for "Freedom".
Thank you for these conversations! As a Latina, I have also received similar back handed compliments. And it hurts me to recognize my culture's biases towards Blacks and darker colored people in general as well. In shows/movies/etc. light colored actors usually receive better roles than darker skinned actors, which also happens in the USA. It is terrible how certain skin colors are favored over others. I wish we could recognize beauty in all the diversity of skin and physical appearances.
Let's hear an example of a backhanded compliment you received.
“Don’t feel guilty. Just acknowledge.”
@Michael Swift U mad white boy
@Michael Swift I think u mad
j a police brutality not enough for you?
@@brooksteer5629 White people think you are hilarious
@j a U mad cuz u failed even having white skin, what a waste of skin
I love this. We need more of this. Every day. Discussion like this is where change begins.
I wish I could have someone like you sit down with my parents about these things. Any time I try, my father just tries to turn it into a joke and talk over me. My mother will silently listen, try to speak her side and understanding and then it ultimately seems like she might understand, but then I see her Facebook feed from my wife and it hurts.
I left social media platforms because my family are just so ignorant, hateful and unwilling to see themselves or change.
Now if you'll all excuse me, I'm going to go watch another one of these and see how much more I can cry at work before someone has to come have an uncomfortable conversation with me about it!
Bless your heart for trying! It’s never easy trying to challenge one parent’s views.
@@Amy-wu1gf Yes, it seems children are the absolute last people parents want to learn from. They'll likely have to hear it from someone else.
Your comment is a mini-movie. Sadness AND laughter. I'm so sorry.
Keep doing what you're doing bro!
Good on you mate, your a good person, lots of love from Australia
Backhanded compliments such as "you dont even talk like a black guy" obviously happen. However, I've heard many time someone say "you talk like you white." Its not cool to talk properly in many neighborhoods. Its not cool or 'acting white' if you'd rather go to the library than go play ball. So while prejudices need to be called out, so does the idea that bettering oneself is 'selling out.'
This. This is one of the biggest problems that a lot of black people don't want to talk about. So many black kids don't aspire to better themselves because they will be rejected by their own brothers and sisters. When I was in high school and I studied, read, and used correct English, my nickname was "Wannabe." As in, wanna be white. He is right that we are not that far removed from slavery because as a race, too many black people have internalized the stereotype that education is for the white man.
Who created that? Who pushes that? Why is it that way? Root causes.
Yes. Backhanded compliments come from all different types of people, not just white. And, I think Acho just used white people as an example. Because we live in this western world that has been conquered, and therefore ruled, by Europeans and their descendants, all of us who are non-white, or non-white passing, have bought into the system created by the dominant culture. So, we all believe, at least to some degree, that "their" way of being/behaving is the "best" way of being/behaving. It's been ingrained into us. To some degree, that's true. If we want to get ahead in this world/culture, then most of us have learned how to assimilate. Fundamentally, of course, that is not the only way to be. We all have inherent value within our own right, language, culture, appearance, style, beliefs, race, ethnicity, etc. because we are divinely created. All people need to remember that, especially POC, since the realization of that value is more difficult to believe or manifest.
"Heard" is the new "facts" or "periodt"
This old.
It’s a southern thing.
I usually heard it in restaurant kitchens meaning a command was acknowledged.
@@michaeljordan1135 lmao heard been around, where y'all been???
That's an old ass "phrase" used in the kitchens for decades now, usually. And again, used forever in the south for "I strongly agree"
That saying is older than T-PAC's last record.
We need more of these conversations. Thank you.
In Germany there's a child's play called "who's afraid of the black man?". One child yells that sentence, the others answer "nobody!". The first child yells "but if he comes?" and the kids reply "then we run away!" and take off while the first child tries to catch them. As a child I didn't connect that to skin colour but more to a dark clothed creep, but the roots are obvious.
It's anecdotes like this that black people need to hear. It's important for black people to understand the specific ways white people consciously and unconsciously learn and practice racism.
Yes we've played that as children in Finland too. I never understood the implication of that as a child and it was never explained or discussed either. But nowadays it has luckily been changed tho (several years ago), to maybe "Who's afraid of the wolf" or something, I don't even remember..
Well, I don't like this game either BUT the game is really old and the origin has nothing to do with black people, it comes from the CHIMNEY SWEEP.
Interesting. I live in Canada, was born and raised in Ontario. Reading your anecdote reminded me of a childhood memory I'd long since forgotten. When I was in kindergarten, we used to play the same game, except for us it was "Who's afraid of the black wolf?". We had many children of colour in my class (black, brown, Asian) and I never once thought about what this game might have implied for them. We used to have one kid from the class wear a black wolf mask and they had to scare the rest of the class at the end, but we never once considered that perhaps that game had racist roots and that the name might have been changed from black man to black wolf. Imagine being a teacher and inadvertently teaching young children of colour to subconsciously fear other people who look like them. I'm not sure if any of my teachers knew that's what they were doing though. They probably thought it was just a fun game to play with the kids during gym class.
We played this at a German kindergarten in South Africa. Only when I got older did I realise how fucking weird that was :'(