Some people who are bullied don't stand up to their own bullies, but they instead bully other people. When your bully is the system itself, and every cog in it, I can imagine picking on an individual that might not be a part of that system but fits the description would be the obvious choice.
@@JACK-rp5eb if revenge is your answer, then you're not any better. Not all bullied people become bullies themselves, you're responsible for your own actions, can't hide behind discrimination
You can't just equate an entire race of people to a singular bully. It makes no sense to be racist to a white person just because some other white person they aren't even related with who has totally different view on the world said something racist about you. It's hypocritical to be against racism and then blame an entire race of people for the actions of a specific group of them.
Hey can you please define racism, then explain why this so called racism only exists in white childrens homes, white childrens countries and white childrens schools??
@@joshc3466 You request implies that I believe those things. I don't. You should go do some research on what racism is and engage with the people of color close to you.
@@bluchippa I have and I havent found a good definition of racism. You seem to know all about it, please define it for me. I guess you cant because it doesn't exist, its a made up word to demoralize europeans. The truth is coming out, dont be on the wrong side of history..
AS A BLACK PERSON, the fact that people actually have these questions, which to me seem like "no-brainers" is really enlightening! I assume that white people know better and that they just chose to ignore the problematic nature of their actions, but in reality... they don't! As Americans (and more important as humans) we need to come together and have open communications with each other about how little misunderstandings can lead to major prejudices and instinctive racist behaviors.
This is true for me. I am 60 years old, living in a small town in the mountains of Colorado and thought that it was getting better and that it was just pockets of people doing this. It took an election of a madman to the PRESIDENCY and quaratining with nothing to do but watch check social media to realize how bad it is. I don’t have any friends who are black-I have acquaintences but they are mostly younger couples and have better things to do than sit around and answer my questions. I have been reading the new books out and looking up all sorts of things on the internet so I can be of service and support others. I have realized that unconcious bias and white privilege is something I have to work on daily, like housework. I can’t just close the door on the closet and say that my house is clean. I need to do the very thing I tell my students to do-look, listen, and ask clarifying questions. So, to echo your statement, yep I really didn’t know. Everytime I heard of a shooting that made our papers, I would put the family on my prayer list (starting with Treyvon-that smile just broke my heart, can’t imagine what his mom has gone through). But that only made me feel better- it did nothing to change the system. Sorry again. Bless you all.
Thank you. Some of us thought we were not racist and that was good enough but it’s not. This stuff is so ingrained in me it’s scary. I am relearning how to become a better person, woman, human. It’s never too late.
Truer words. I'm a white 33 year old who grew up in a subversively racist household. Openly racist behind closed doors, very image friendly outside of those doors. Behind those same closed doors, my parents abused, humiliated and berated me - daily. And, really, the only moments of peace I got was when I could push my abuse into other directions to take my father's eye off of me. So, in essence, when I was saying racist, abhorrent things, I wasn't being abused. And, I honestly wish I had stood up against him sooner than it took me. It took me until I was 25 to full drop those behaviors and change who I was as a person and to fight through the PTSD and fear of standing up to the man who'd beat me half to death if I forgot to take the trash out. And, at the age of 25, I did it and cut him from my life entirely and never looked back, so that I could continue to grow and change as a person in peace.
@HollaHolla DollaDolla there is no source for that. Also countries in europe have a more generous welfare system and yet there single motherhood rating isn't as high. Single motherhood rating also went up for the white community and I doubt you would attribute that to welfare.
My Mom always told me to “ Brighten the corner where I am” “Change starts with the daily steps you take to make the world a better place” and these are quotes I live by.
This is what I see to be the biggest factor. Thinking about a "broken black family" I don't see a father figure dedicated to make his children a better version of his own, by showing them what they did wrong. If you think history is being projected on to you and making it the cause of everything you do or don't, then you are truely cursed to redo history on its own. Me coming from a family of 4, dad, mom and my older brother, I started out, like many others in the middle class, mother has a bit more than the necessary education to get a job, while my father has an engineering degree. As I grew older, I talked with my parents about, how close we are to "actual be struggeling financially" and they told me, it's not very close, but some fear is still there every month. But both kept sacrificing time, money, and nerves to make me and my brother attend the university. Even though, my aunt carelessly laughted at my parents, as we would never have the guts to complete an academic degree, because you can only complete university if your parents did. While school (before attending Uni), I had to work in my summer vacations, as money didn't grow and still doesn't grow on trees, sadly. Even while university me and my brother had to work to earn enough money to live because our parents were not able to finacally support us fully. We accepted it and it became a necessary and standard thing to do. What I want to say is, change doesn't come by its own and will never come. If you don't provide enough mental strenght to the game we are all playing, to get money to get a higher education, get past financal struggles, or anything else. YOU DIDN'T WORK ENOUGH FOR IT. This is the way I was taught and I still stand by that point, everybody can achieve anything if you only work hard for it or find any possibilities to overcome your struggles. Blaming or sobbing about others and how easy their life is, won't get you anywere and you will repeat history on its own.
Almost everything here was insightful, but the "reverse bully" analogy was off. It is true: standing up to a bully does not make you a reverse bully. However, if you were to run from that bully and instead, take out your anger on the water boy, you would be a bully. In a similar way, confronting systemic racism and racist power-holders is not reverse racism. That does not mean reverse racism is not a problem. When minorities stereotype all white people (including children!) in negative ways and adopt an "us" vs "them" mentality, that re-enforces the racial divide.
Nicole, yes the analogy was off, but in reality, there is no such thing as reverse racism. There's simply racism. If a black person stereotypes white people, that's stereotyping, not racism. At the same time, if the mayor of Atlanta (a black woman) fires someone because they are white and she wants to replace that person with a black person or another person of color simply because they're not white, that would be racism. Racism is discrimination based on race. Stereotyping only becomes racism when you commit an act based on that stereotype. That makes your action racially motivated. I can believe a stereotype all day, but only when I take action (discriminate) does it become racism. Now, of course, inaction can actually be active (or action), in many instances. For example: If I'm an employer I can choose to not hire a person because I don't like their race. My inaction (not hiring the person because I don't like their race) is in reality, action, and is racism. Also, saying reverse racism is real actually is a condemnation of white people. You're basically saying that racism is something only white people can do, or that racism is inherently a white trait. So when someone who's not white does it, it has to be "reverse racism." Is that what you believe?
@@1PatMetheny " Also, saying reverse racism is real actually is a condemnation of white people. You're basically saying that racism is something only white people can do, or that racism is inherently a white trait. So when someone who's not white does it, it has to be "reverse racism." Is that what you believe? " No, "reverse racism" is just the word I have heard for racism held by blacks against whites, and I didn't think to be offended. It made sense just because racism is usually used to describe a privileged majority discriminating against a disadvantaged minority. When blacks are racist against whites, we have something of the reverse happening: the minority is self-isolating and lashing out at accessible members of the majority. The word reverse racism also makes sense because the racism that whites dished out for centuries is being dished back. When it is dished back, it almost always hits the wrong individuals. White people who rarely-to-never hire blacks and exclude them from their social circles do not take a hit if those blacks become racist. It is the people who want to work together and be friends that will be hurt, and also the people who are most vulnerable. "Stereotyping only becomes racism when you commit an act based on that stereotype. That makes your action racially motivated. I can believe a stereotype all day, but only when I take action (discriminate) does it become racism. Now, of course, inaction can actually be active (or action), in many instances. For example: If I'm an employer I can choose to not hire a person because I don't like their race. My inaction (not hiring the person because I don't like their race) is in reality, action, and is racism." It takes less than a second out of a racist's day to throw out a resume, but guess what? He's a racist 24/7. Racism, as I think of it, doesn't come and go with the opportunities to act on it. If someone has an "us" vs."them" mentality where their race is "us" and minorities are "them" ; and they attribute to "them" all bad traits, that in-group bias is going to influence their "gut feelings", perceptions, and judgments. No matter how "color blind" they think they are being, they will always be stepping on the black people.
@@1PatMetheny I agree with what your saying but would you call it when let’s say a white person says the n word or says they hate a race. Or vice versa I’m genuinely interested in what that would be called since it’s not racism
I dont like the term "reverse racism" because being racist to white people isn't reverse racism its just racism. Reverse racism implies its only a black and white thing
@@nonameneeded7431 Im not reading that whole para because icba. but can you not say "blacks" since I am not juts a colour. instead say "black people" because it is less offensive.
THANK YOU SIR! I'm an old White man, born in the South. I was split between a good, loving family and an Extremely racist family. I have no idea who my father is. My mother's first husband (adoptive father), KKK. I never fit in except when living with the loving family. I feel real change in the air. I will continue using my White privilege to be an Anti-Racist. It's projects like yours that will touch folks that we weren't sure woukd ever change. I fear I won't live to see true racial equality in this country. Like Mr. Baldwin said, how long do Black folks have to wait for this progress that White folks talk about.
@Willco No no no no, please don't just point fingers at a whole race. That makes you look stupid. Instead, provide some information as of why. I don't agree with you, but I want to hear why you immediately point at white people for misfortune in the world.
Yea but it makes sense. 5 attempts at families, with each failed family causing issues that could lead to more failed families. I don’t think it’s the only factor but it makes sense.
Lmao... He does gloss over certain changes in the black community made between Jim Crowe era and today. He's also pretty good at shifting negative perspectives away from, and relocating accountability of black people to other peoples. I respect what he's doing, but I think he avoids the real uncomfortable conversations.
I would also submit that financial struggles are a key component in marriages ending in divorce which contributes to single parent households. With the financial inequity from systemic racism present in our country, I would suggest contributes to the cascading downfall of black families. Thanks for blazing this trail Emmanuel, you are a true pioneer!
Even the fact of what we are fighting now. Unnessicary incarserations. Slave prison systems. An unjust law system that does serious damage to families.
@@Nork490 I believe language barrier has a big part to do with it. Immigrating to a new country, learning a new language, learning a new culture, navigating and working toward security and prosperity can be difficult alone. Asian also operate out of shame culture. This is a whole other can of worms, but in Asian culture divorce is viewed as failure, and the social impact is far different than western culture. Lots of other reasons but these few things come to mind
I’m black and my dad abandoned my family when I was only 3 yrs old. I haven’t seen him since but I’m more determined to be successful and have enough to provide for my future family. I’m not there yet, but I won’t give up 🙏🏽 Don’t give up either on your goals!
My husband of 20 years and after four kids is still here and is nothing like his broken family. We love them, but want to do things differently for our children. You can do it and leave a lasting legacy for your children
@@babythebabyslings Good job! It is definately doable but most if the time the dysfunctional family members who dont get intervention never seem to figure out what you did... and as a result family relationships do not endure. You can lead a horse to water...
I'm black and my father was there as I am for my son. I do things slightly different than him. It goes to show you that its life isn't definite. You dont know if your father was going to be an actual father just because he is present and that goes for the mom as well. I try to learn and pull from everyone learn from your and their mistakes and you WILL be successful. Good luck in life to you.
I cannot relate personally but my father's dad was not in his life however my dad was an amazing father to my brother and I (his bio kids) and my older (2) siblings , who father was not in their lives. You're dad missed out of seeing a good child, turn into a great adult, who will become an amazing parent. Keep your head up, you're on the right track!
I’m sorry but, Emmanuel, giving that question about “white history month” air time was generous. As a white person, as soon as I heard “white history month” I was like, wait...seriously? Do you know anything about how history is portrayed in most schools? The reason the is Black History Month is because Black People have notoriously been excised from most of American history! It was very compassionate of you to spend time answering that question. It just shows how far we still have to go together. As an educator, I promise you, I will do my best! Thank you for what you are doing with this series!
It has to get addressed. There are still lots of people who genuinely don't understand how it is different. That's why these videos exist. I think of them as racism 101.
It comes down to narcissism, imho. The sense that if a group I'm not in gets that attention for a month, why shouldn't I? There's a complete ignorance behind the sentiment. The people who feel that way have a lot to learn and a lot of maturing to do.
Your going to blame slavery on the high amount of dead beat dads in america? Get real. I am 60 yrs old and was the first class of bussing and integration. I got bused 45 min to the west side of Pasadena . Then is was the ghetto. Most of my black friends didnt have fathers at home. I always felt so bad for them. But it had nothing to do with slavery, it was a baby daddy mentality and lack of respect for women.
I'm gad someone like you is speaking up. These days, not many people respect ideas of those who are your age. As someone who is on the younger side, I've heard people insult those who are older, and often call them "boomers" or tell them that they don't know jack. Besides that, thank you.
Absolutely. Lack of God has caused families to splinter. I was listening to a lady play Cardi B on her phone in a lobby and it was degradation all the way around. And then I work in the medical field where as a white person I am in the minority, as we have black doctors and black nurses and they have stable families. Its a choice of what path you want to follow...stay in the past or work on the future. BTW my I have many relatives that live barely above poverty and they get tired of hearing that they have "white privilege".
Well, we can trace it. Go look at what welfare did to the family unit. Not just black folk. The people on welfare, it was not good for a family unit. The worst part, it was very good for fertility. Meaning, they were having more kids, with less guidance, foundation and structure.
@@madisong8213 well im not suprised. their way of thinking back then was terribe. Most of them stay in that mindset till they grow old. ofc not all of them, but alot of them
The concept of the deadbeat dad is a byproduct of European culture, which has a categorization of legitimate and illegitimate children. In a lot of African cultures, there are heavy community aspects, which is hard to have in the United States since all the successful ones are either bombed by the government or terrorized. So the more that enslaved Africans bought into the concept of western society, the more normal "deadbeat fathers" became a thing.
Thank you for these conversations. I'm a Dad who is listening and hearing so I can raise my 5 year old daughter better than I was raised. Wish I could come on an episode and talk with you. Please keep up the great work.
Chris Miller talk to the black people in your immediate surroundings. Reach out to black educators at your local universities. Many non-black people in his threads want to sit with him because he is famous. If you are serious about changing, converse with people you are more likely to encounter.
WTF!!!! THIS DUDE IS CULTURE APPROPRIATING ADOS(AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY) CULTURE...HE NOT ONE OF US...HE COMES FROM A NIGERIAN SLAVE TRADING FAMILY AND DIDN'T GREW UP WITH OR HAVE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AS ADOS....HE DON'T NOT HAVE THE SLAVERY JIM CROW AND MASS INCARCERATION IN HIS LINEAGE...HE AND NO OTHER IMMIGRANT COULD NEVER SPEAK FOR ME OR MY PEOPLE.....HIM AND THE PEOPLE BACKING HIM ARE SICK DISRESPECTFUL INDIVIDUALS TO MY ANCESTORS...AND THE FACT THAT THEY'RE USING THE DEATHS OF GEORGE FLOYD & BREANNA TAYLOR TO GRIFT THEY WAY IN TO A 💰BAG💰 MAKES IT EVEN MORE EGREGIOUS 🤬🤬🤬😡😡...THIS IS WHITE SUPREMACY USING THESE AFRICAN AND CARIBBEAN BODY SNATCHERS TO TO AVOID AN ACTUAL REAL CONVERSATION WITH A BLACK MAN LIKE ME AND THE BLACK MEN THAT HELP RAISE ME THAT IM RELATED TOO GREW UP WITH AND HELP RAISE...THEY DON'T WANT ANY CONVERSATIONS WITH THE N**** (ADOS) THEY CREATED....THEY WANT CONVERSATION WITH "AFRICAN AMERICAN"😒....THEY KNOW TO AVOID THE AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF CHATTEL SLAVERY
Comparing fatherless homes and slavery has no correlation or whatsoever. Slavery has ended and it is your responsibility to take care of your kids, making sure that your kids are not driven by criminal acts and making sure that he can go to school. There are a lot of African immigrants coming to America and succeed even though they have much less favorable circumstance than average African Americans. Self Accountability is the key for you all to have a better life.
Not only did slavery end, but the black family was more intact in the immediate following decades than it is now. It's actually gotten worse SINCE the Civil Rights movement. So his excuse (which is what it is, regardless of what he calls it) doesn't hold water.
What I find interesting is that he felt taking the time to “explain” it was more important than addressing the problem. The cycle just keeps on giving.
It’s so difficult as a 59 year old white woman, who was raised with unnamed racism in my family - not out of purpose, but of ignorance - to know how to relate, understand and support our black community. It’s helpful to hear you, to yearn to understand, to change what we were unknowingly taught, and to teach my children and grandchildren to love and respect all humanity. To right the wrongs done to an entire people not of their choosing. Thank you for helping me struggle through to understand and to help in any way I can. With honesty and sincerity. I hear you and appreciate you.
At the start when hes talking about slavery and how that has to do with the amount of single black mums raising kids, I don't see how the past has a direct influence on a black man now who decides to leave his kids.
Your history is who you are, your history shapes you and your character both on an individual and group level. Just like someone who experienced trauma as a child will grow up disturbed and probably have violent tendencies, and may treat his kids the same way he was treated, thus passing on the trauma
I really don't know just where to begin so, I will just say God be praised for a young man like you. I thank you, and I am praying for you. I am passing on your video to everyone I know. Thank you for speaking a pure and unapologetic truth about us.
@@joshlee5711 I'm glad you brought that up. Luke 10:25-37! Perfect information, my dear Lee. Luke 10:25-37 New International Version (NIV) The Parable of the Good Samaritan 25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?” 26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?” 27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]” 28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.” 29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” 30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’ 36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?” 37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.” Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”
@Tj Mayfield Luke 10:25-37 is one of my favorite verses in the and I hope he (J and Lee) refers to it since he can only listen to a word from the Bible. However, it is safe to assume that not everyone that listens to Mr. Acho is a Christian; this is not limited to a particular religion and judging him for trying to inform us the best way he knows is unfair.
@@joshlee5711 you know this is just episode 4, right? Just because he hasn't talked about what you want yet, doesn't mean he won't. And I think it is a great time to have meaningful conversations about race and gender! What would you like to talk about?
I want to take a moment to say thank you for these videos. I am a white man who works for a nonprofit in a predominately black neighborhood. There are issues that I don't understand, but I'm doing everything I can to become educated. Some of the best people I've ever known and closest friends I've ever had came as a part of this job. There is racism in my family history. I've never denied that. But, I never want that to be said of me, not even a little bit. You are helping me learn so much through these uncomfortable conversations. Please keep doing what you're doing. It is impacting my life in a very positive way. God bless.
One of my favorite quotes is "Be the change you wish to see". So, I am trying to change, to let go of the bias I didn't even know I had. I am not only listening, but I am truly hearing. Thank you for being willing to have the uncomfortable conversations. There are those of us out here who are wanting to continue to be and bring the change. ❤❤
I came from one of the most broken family that I ever heard of now I can continue to use that as a reason for my failures or I can use that to fuel my successes. Anything or any way to blame the white man amazing
As a Gen X person, the concept of being “colorblind” was constantly reinforced and upheld as the ideal. I wonder, though, if that might be why so many people my age are now just waking up to these issues. If you profess to be “colorblind” then there is no incentive to research and think critically about racial issues, much easier to pretend they do not exist, and ignore any role we as individuals may play in perpetuating our own racial biases.
As a fellow Gen Xer, this is right on the money. I remember the word "colorblind" well. I've become awake to how my education was so exactly that - "colorblind". No longer will I use that term (except in the medical sense) and will continue to further my education of all "colors" and cultures.
Another Gen Xer here, I think our generation was taught implicitly to be colorblind, not see color, and that color shouldn't matter. To many of us, color didn't matter to us. But I've been learning over the last 4-5 years that we *need* to see color. By not seeing color, we are ignoring the pain of and injustices against the Black community. We need to celebrate our diversity and differences. And we need to step up and be anti-racist. No longer can we simply be not racist.
@@lynnhettrick7588 The sentiment of 'colorblind-ness' was good for most professing it. It came from a good place. The problem is, when you don't "see color" you don't see injustices influenced by color.
@@LabGoats Yep, that's what I've learned. Being colorblind ignores the generations of pain felt by the Black community. We cannot heal until we see color and how that has built a system of racism in the US.
The problem from what I see is a two pronged issue. 1. White people cant relate. In fact I think the only ones who can relate to an extent are combat vets who have been overseas. I have always said until you have been to a place where you have to be in a constant state of guard you just cant know. 2. There are alot of African Americans who just simply dont want to have an OPEN discussion. To them it is all about you owe me and that's it. And that does rub people the wrong way.
@@mikemarek6243 Also the "I don't want equality. I want you and your children to suffer like we have." minority within a minority. That won't move us forward. That will put us at each other's throats. Emmanuel's approach is super effective because it is non-threatening and lays a heavy burden of responsibility on us without the guilt that bogs down action.
What conversation? it was a guy spouting surface level easy to debunk nonsense in a camera for 7 minutes. which is better than 10 minutes with celebrities validating his opinions with scripts but not by much.
Thank you Emmanuel! You are such a bright light and a beautiful soul! I’m so glad we have you helping us navigate this time- praying white people, myself included, will do the work and learn to be better! 🙏
Happy I found this by accident on Father's Day. I shared it along with my Father's Day wishes to so many people and will continue to do so. As a teacher you have inspired me and the new lessons I will teach when speaking to my diverse group of students from now on. Thank you Sir.
His first point means nothing because black single parent rate jumped from 25 percent (in the 1960s) to 75 percent present day. 25 percent 100 years after slavery was abolished and now its 75 percent I don’t see how something that only started a long time after slavery was abolished could be caused by slavery
@@-i6313 it doesnt matter if the jump isnt as dramatic, it demonstrated that some societal force is increasing single motherhood. Besides blacks people do have unique challenges like being shot by police, poverty and lack of access to a decent education. The fact that it went up faster for blacks is more evidence blacks are more vulnerable and that is because of systemic racism and historical oppression.
@@aomorzon everyone has challenges that others don’t, I’ve been harassed by police many times but so have a lot of my white friends, if you really think cops shoot black people because they are black your just ignorant, if you don’t try and fight the police you won’t get tazed/shot, the best thing to do is comply with their orders and you won’t have an issue.
@@5673hfueb Is the system racist? No. But can the system be weaponized? Yes. There are more white Americans than there are black Americans. So by default, there are more white Americans that fill positions within the system. Do racist live among us today? Yes. Are all of those racist open about their hate/prejudice? No. But they do use the system against those they...um...well...dislike. The system wants to be fair across the board, but the bad apples within the system spoil everything. Is anyone safe? No. But certain groups are picked on more than others. The group really feeling the brunt of this systematic bullying are probably the ones you've been hearing being very vocal lately.
prejudice and racism are two different things. prejudice and hate can be found in all colors. racism can only come from power held by majority culture - in the US, that's white Euro-centric culture. So it always needs to be looked at with a system.
That is true in these times. As a rainbow is no longer a representation of the covenant of God, but a representation of a person's sexuality. Gay is no longer means "happy". Aids no longer means to help or a misspelled way for a chewable diet candy. The point is that our words change and sometimes we change with them and not in a good way. Race should have always meant species, not a certain ethnic group or skin color of a human. "We", are only one race...the human race. Racism is something totally misunderstood and misdirected so that this system of "racism" can continue and not be challenged. The true definition of "racism", points to one dominate and suppressive ethnic group over another by the majority. No minority ethnic group in America can be "racist" against white people in America. They can be other defining words that equate hate in a similar way, but not racist. Black people in American can not practice racism, but they can hate just as equally. Black people in a black country can be racist (socially, economically) and other oppressive ways against lessor black ethnic groups because they are the majority vs the minority. The same can happen in other ethnically dominated countries. It is projected that around 2024 whites will be a minority in America. This still does not mean black people can be racist to white people. Black people will still be outnumbered by whites in America. I don't know who will be the majority at that point but it may be Hispanics (even though "Hispanic" is not a race or ethnic group within itself) or it may be a non-majority minority country by then and I think that will be a good thing for America. Maybe we can get past this thing of insisting that someone has to be racist. Maybe we can get past that particular hate. Hate will always be with us, but maybe we can challenge the next form. I am quite tired of this one!
Thank you, Emmanuel, for another episode. I wish you could do one everyday, to tell you the truth. There is so much to talk about and learn. I thank you especially for creating a SAFE space of love, kindness, and learning.
"So wearing braids as a white person or borrowing black culture, that's not the issue, Just make sure you know the history." You might want to follow your own advice. Hairstyles like dreadlocks, ponytails, and styles similar to french braids, have been used in Europe, Africa, Asia, and the Americas, for thousands of years. A white person braiding their hair is not borrowing from black culture. It's simply borrowing from human culture. Thousands of years ago, everyone in the world was a lot more similar. Most people were in tribes, and those who didn't braid their hair ended up with natural dreadlocks, because that's what happens when you don't comb your hair for years and decades. I also disagree with your bully metaphor used to assert that there is no such thing as reverse racism. Just because some white people in the past were racist against black people and that was wrong, doesn't mean that it isn't still also wrong for a black person to be racist against white people today. A black person perpetrating aggression or abuse against a white person simply for having the same skin as his old highschool bully isn't standing up against their bully, they're just bullying someone who had nothing to do with it because they're not strong enough to confront their bully or their own pain. I was a white boy who went to an all-black school and got my head slammed into concrete and was attacked many times. I never let myself be physically defeated, and I always got threatened for defending myself. Teachers would watch the whole thing happen as people would gang up on me for their own amusement, and threaten me with suspension if I started hitting back after watching me take a beating. I would take blow after blow to the head and got concussions on multiple occasions, and I would look around at the teachers watching it happen, and see them glaring back at me, daring me to lay a hand on the people who were attacking me. My mother was attacked by rioters for being white and had her earings pulled through her ears, ripping her earlobes. My grandmother had her hair ripped out and nose broken because she was German and was accused of being a Nazi, even though she resisted them. My great grandmother fought for feminism without making a single statement by graduating from Berlin University as a woman in a time where it was still not accepted, and was killed for it (she had a sudden complication that seems to me like the result of poison, and died waiting hours for an ambulance from a hospital that was down the street when they were not busy, because Berlin was not happy with a woman graduate). My father was literally pissed on by black people when he went to their school to watch and support their football game decades ago. My mom was literally accused of being a witch by everyone in the area because she was the only white woman in the whole area. Both sides of my family have a history of being against prejudice and against oppression, and yet we've all been treated like garbage just because we're white. Almost everyone in my family is dead, now. There are only 3 of us left and we still haven't switched sides. But reverse racism doesn't exist, right? It's just what I deserve for being white and having white ancestors, even though my grandmother was the only person to survive the escape from one of the worst concentration camps in Germany after she resisted the Nazis. I'm not saying that makes me a hero by descendance, I played no part in her accomplishments, but it certainly means I don't have a debt of ancestral guilt. You also mention black families having a drastically higher rate of single-parent homes. You cite slavery as the reason, but unfortunately the cause is much more recent than that. In the 60's, only about 20% of black homes were single-parent. But after the civil rights movement's success (or at least after it accomplished some things), some people who didn't want to see Americans united as one made efforts to infiltrate the African American culture. They made black people who rapped about guns, drugs, and ho's famous by giving them the funding, advertising, news, and opportunities to put themselves out there, while they kept ones who wrote great books and gave great speeches under the radar. They manufactured a culture where having family values is seen as gross and undesirable, while having no moral limitations whatsoever is seen as tough and cool. It's pushed through culture, the idea that a man is "square" and "uncool" if he actually has a wife and children takes good care of them. It's great that you're inviting white people who might not have understood your side of things to come forward and see your perspective. But are you just going to talk and not listen? By claiming that there's no such thing as racism against white people, you've left the impression that you haven't put yourself in our shoes like you expect from us. Respect and understanding is a two-way street. I have tried to respect and understand you, but now I cannot because you have not met me halfway to respect and understand me in return. If your whole persona isn't just an act, and your words not a script, then I hope you read my words and wake up to the realization that we're all people, all deserving of the right to be treated with decency, and none deserving to be treated with racism. If speakers like you continue down this path, then decades from now we may find ourselves in the same boat we were in 60 years ago, but sailing the other way. Boats are destined to sink. Let us stay on land, and only leave it with a good destination.
Racism is racism regardless of the context. Tis a pity, they can just gonna throw ad hominems at you rendering your experience/arguements infeasible. Though Thank You you gave me another viewpoint.
I don't know if you are able to see all these comments, but I hope you know how brightly the light of our Abba God is shining through you. Your grace, compassion and patience are truly a display of the fruit of the Spirit and my sweet brother, you are bringing reformation to a broken world. This is the revival and awakening that so many people have been crying out for. John 13:35
@@ethansteen8880 reverse racism, my friend, is not a thing. Its what white people cry when they feel attacked. However, white people, in no scenario, lose their privilege. Not in this society.
@Tom Swain We are in a real bad place. Leaders no where to be found and Trump knowshis margin for error is so thin that he can't crush the riots or he will get no black votes and a lot less white women votes meaning a loss. Had this happened in Dec, oh what a different response.
Correct there is no reverse racism, and only racism, which speaks from a position of power, which POCs dont have. So a POC having ill will towards a white person isnt racism, as they have no power systemically, and no matter how many insecure white tears are shed by victim complexed delusional white people, it is not racism. Cope.
@@D3ST72 prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a dominant or privileged racial or ethnic group. I look up definitions. I don’t have my subjective version of what it is. Don’t argue that it doesn’t exist. Argue that its just as wrong as racism.
@@dominicklpz "membership in a dominant or privileged racial or ethnic group",.. so, this means white people right? do these people think, only white people can be privileged and/or dominant? anyway,.. thats how they can make the argument, that racism against these groups of people are "reversed," because "normal" racism, is when a white person is prejudice against a brown person, this only makes any sense, if you believe that racism and slavery was "invented" by white people.
Sometimes action is interpreted as anger, though. Especially if that action is 'against you'. Saying Black Lives Matter is an action, yet how many people interpret that as anger? While borne out of anger, frustration, and desperation, the action of declaring that is not itself angry, yet it is perceived and vilified as if it is a command to murder people. So while action, meaningful action, may be more productive, it is often borne of anger, and should not be perceived as less powerful simply because of its origin.
@@craigbowie8925 Should be required reading in high school right alongside "Slavery By Another Name: The Re-Enslavement of Black Americans from the Civil War to World War II" by Douglas A. Blackmon. I'm white. Those books were absolute game-changers for me.
Thank you guys for piping in on this one. It's hard to ignore the Jim Crow vagrancy laws that sent black men back into slavery when after being set "free", and then the prison industrial complex in the new Jim Crow which essentially serves the same purpose.
You ever wonder why in a court room the judge and jury need to see a defendant at all? Unless they chose to testify, why can't they stay unseen and anonymous so that no prejudices can take place? Or, at least give defendants the choice? Just a thought that popped into my head.
Being a white man, @Emanuel Acho educating me with valuable words for me to pass on to all my white brothers and sisters, but if they would just come and watch these "Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man" videos they could be educated thru my Black Brother's words and with a way that I can't see anyone tuning into this and leaving in the middle of valuable lesson. Someone has gotta be deaf, dumb, and blind to not be able to understand these words. It's a damn shame that it's took numerous murders by the hands of cops to open people's eyes. I can listen to Emmanuel until the phone dies. The first 3 episodes were so touching that this time I'm sitting here waiting on Episode 4 to start live. I'm a new damn of Mr. Acho ! 💯👍
The defendant should be present to know what is said on their behalf, to be able to defend themselves, and to know that they got a fair trial. I understand your idea, the intent behind it, but I think that the downside of removing yourself from the process is too great and opens the door to much worse abuses than judgement
TheRealBamaChris 1 good stuff man! Text the link to the video to all of your friends with IMPORTANT PLEASE WATCH!! at the top. I’ve done it and my white friends were amazed.
@@rae.azrael One way camera and microphone? And being able to shout into the ear of only the defending attorney, and he/her to you? I'd even add a way to testify without being identified by race. But, this will likely never happen...just a thought.
Just thank you for opening my eyes to things that were there that I have never seen. Your “ Conversations” series has been so good for me. Hopefully I am a much better human as I watch and listen to your wisdom and practice what you teach. Again, thank you...
1. Black fathers being absent is the number one reason for issues within the black community. I don’t think slavery has to do much with it either since a child was more likely to have both parents during slavery than they are today. Plus I just don’t see how it would affect today. 2 people have a kid and because of slavery they don’t stay together? Maybe someone can explain it to me. I think it comes down to culture and society in general. White single parent rates have went up as well so I think it has more today with modern culture in general and how marriage and sex is viewed. 2. I can respect what you’re saying here. Understand the history. Sure. But Vikings wore braids as well so what if a white person is paying homage to their history in that situation? It’s a lot more complex than just if someone wears braids they’re stealing black culture. 3. Someone else in the comments put it best, I don’t remember his name but it was perfect. Reverse racism isn’t like standing up to a bully. It’s like becoming a bully and bullying those that looked like your bully.
2 people have a kid and because of slavery they don’t stay together? Maybe someone can explain it to me It's only excuses to get rid of the responsability of his own misery
@Chlem Elisha I never said father are irresponsible at all. In the contrary, as women get pregnant, it's their responsability to make a baby with a man that she knows would stay with her. The first thing a single mother did is not to think for the baby but for herself. She wanted a baby, she had a baby, no matter what future she can offer to him. She didn't think about the neighborough she will make him live, she didn't think about the money he would cost, she doesn't think if the father is a good man, she only wanted a child and she made a child. We are in 2021, I don't give the right to a mistake, she had all the contraceptive she neeed to avoid that. If she is grown enought to have a sexual life, she is grown enought to know the consequences that can resurt of it. Single mother is the fault of single mother, that's all, no matter the color of the person. As long as women will think that love is enought to have a child, the more feminism grows, the more single women there will be. Being single mother use to be a shame and it was right because all the dammages and consequences are supported by the child who will born with less chances than a child with 2 parents at home.
@Chlem Elisha french people use to say men propose, women dispose. It means it's on the woman to choose the father of their children, not the opposite. Men don't get pregnant, women do. In all times, in the contrary of what feminism say, women are the one who choose their husband. The only one who did not in the western world are the ancestors of the most powerfull, influent, wealthy and mighty families and the conclusion is simple: When a woman have no words to say about the man she would marry, the whole familly prospers because every kind of reason have been took in consideration except for love because love would never give you something to eat, something to sleep under, something to warm you, it can only lead to disapointment or whatever and by so, the misery of the child.
@Chlem Elisha Give me a point where the woman isn't responsible to get pregnant ? She have been raped, kept prisonner until she delivered, ok, the responsability is not on her but as far as I can see, it's the only case. Otherwise, she have all at her disposal to get out this situation before it happens. In France, we have a wellcare for single mothers. I knew at least 2 girls getting pregnant on purpose to get this wellcare to help them get out from her parents. So much for the independance of women by the way and the worst of it, the 2 young men (18yo) have to be responsible while they didn't ask for it and only wanted too have fun like all young men their age want. I never knew a young man wanting a child at 18yo but I knew several girls who had a baby at this age because they wanted it. Are 18yo young women are grown-up enought to be mother ?
As Christopher Reeve said: hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles. You are truly my hero!
@@directorforplastic7929 With nothing substantive to add, it sounds like your reply was the brain dead comment but I suppose that is the ailment of the left after all.
On the subject of reverse racism, I find your analogy poetic but off-target. Personally, I don't like the term "reverse racism" - I prefer to simply view _anyone_ judging another person - especially pejoratively - based on the color of their skin rather than the content of their character (God bless and rest well, Dr. King) as an example of "racism." I am not equating the racist behavior of a white person in America towards a black person with the opposite - they carry different weights based on history, context, and, on average, power. However, if a black person negatively judges a white person for no other reason than the color of their skin, then they are being racist. Being black (or Jewish, Latinx, Asian, etc.) does not inoculate you against being racist. The recent fashion of narrowing the definition of racism to include some kind of power dynamic is sophistry at best, and dodging responsibility for one's beliefs and actions at worst. It is part of the human condition to be able to hold generalized assumptions about categories of people, and ridiculous to assume that black people, say, are any less human in this regard. Racism is racism, no matter who it is practiced by. Again, it's weight and impact varies greatly by degree, source, target, context, power differential, etc., but it is still racism.
Racism isn't just judging a person for their colour of their skin. It's deeming that they're the more superior race and that is why they're targetting that person because of their skin colour. Throughout history, White people have been the oppressor and have deemed to be more superior. United States? they had a literal genocide of the Indigenous peoples. they Brought Black people over to be slaves. And that's just to name a few. There are no racial slurs for white people. There has never been oppression of white people throughout history. So to be RACIST towards white people is impossible. There are stereotypes sure. But that's not racism.
@@timothyng5297 Tell that to my 5 yo child who was accused of being racist solely on the fact that he was white. After that incident was then bullied and tormented to the point that he is currently in therapy at the age of 13 due to the abuse. So no racism is not okay in any form.
@@eirik.9384 Not in the USA. There's racism all around the world. But we're talking about reverse racism as it regards to America. White people have always been the dominating force since time. White people benefitted from the system and still do. Right now, we're just saying put yourself in our shoes. It's not about being Anti-White. We want white people to feel what we've felt for hundreds of years. It's not that hard. White people are not oppressed in the U.S.
I'm a 77-year-old white man who has an answer as to why I don't use the "n-word" regardless of what others say or do: I'm uncomfortable using that word. So I don't.
I find it to me more descriptive of the person saying it, than the person it is directed at. I don't care if people use it. I understand why black folk care and it is certainly valid, but we need to put it into perspective and not destroy those that want to use it in proper context. Which people wrongly say that there is no context. Well yeah, there is. Intent is being destroyed, which is dangerous. Using it to describe someone, yeah, there is no context for it. Using it to tell people the word that was used, sure. Because if you say, "n-word" take a wild guess what 99% of people say in their head? They will even quibble about whether or not it ended in -a or -er. So by their own quibble, they admit that there really is context?
@@sandyracky9265 wait. so basically what ur saying is if people want to use it in the original way it was used in (to degrade and dehumanize black people) we shouldnt care because if we do they will feel left out..?
Why is this so short? I just found this channel/series today and have watched all the episodes. I listen to them like a podcast. Thanks for making them. :)
I am truly inspired by having a man like Emmanuel Acho being on the forefront on a platform like youtube to hold conversations that need to be seen and heard from all walks of life. As an Asian American who grew up in the South and at one point lived in a predominantly Black and Hispanic neighborhood, I want to take those valuable friendships and experiences that I was able to create and share it with my peers and family members who have not been exposed to certain neighborhoods or unfamiliar communities. I also remember a moment from an interview in which a white man was asking Morgan Freeman his thoughts on black history month. Morgan replied, "ridiculous, you're gonna relegate my history to a month." In other words, it's not a good thing that the black community needs a month for their overcomings because they shouldn't have had to go through hundreds of years of pain, suffering, and discrimination. Unfortunately, having a month dedicated to the black community has become passive for many including non-whites as well and proactive steps need to be taken to cause a change of hearts and perspectives around the world.
Prior to the 1960s, almost 70% of Black kids were reared in two-parent homes, and when Blacks earned much less income... all of this at the HEIGHT of racial discrimination, KKK violence, and segregation. Racist backlash to 1950s/1960s social movements promoted a gov. effort to destroy Black families and Black unity.
@Damien Krow Regardless of the cause, the 70% rate before the 1960s is factual and debunks the claim made in this video that single-parent household(ism?) was caused by slavery. Also, more importantly, wouldn't effort focused on addressing the disparity in single parenting be more fruitful than the same effort spent on racial issues?
I say it's both. I feel blacks tear themselves down with the help of outside forces. The question is who is actually black? Who consider themselves black (not what someone else think)? Also and most importantly what is black and what is synonymous to the word?
@@jerensteffen Not sure that it totally debunks the claim. Even in 1960, single parent households were substantially more likely in black families than white families. "According to the Census Bureau from 1960 and 2013, African -American children who lived in single-parent homes more than doubled from 22% to 55%. The same research showed that white children from single-parent homes tripled from 7% to 22%. " theblackwallsttimes.com/2017/07/20/black-family-structure-in-decline-since-the-1960s-the-home-effect/
@@vaughnfrancis9298 Fair point and thank you for pointing that out. There would still need to be some kind of evidence that the disparity you pointed out is derived from slavery, which could be any number of other causes. Even if this is provable, I'm not sure this knowledge would get us any closer to helping people overcome this adversity. In my opinion, the current approach makes people feel like hopeless victims since it doesn't provide any actionable solutions other than anger and rage and only furthers the racial/political divide, making everyone worse off.
@Gabrielle Harper '24 Do you mean that every racist should be equally "racistic" to all the races except his own? And If you hate/act in another way with people of one exact race - that is not a racism? I don't think so. If you hate only [any race] and perfectly nice to other races you are still a racist, yes.
@Gabrielle Harper '24 really? majority in every country, city and street? what a nonsense. and definition says "typically one that is a minority or marginalized". Do you know what does typically mean? Usually, not always.
@Gabrielle Harper '24 I'm confused how you got that interpretation from your own definition and from what the definition is. The key word in your own definition is "typically". Typically doesn't mean always. It means most likely, most frequently, or most often. Racism is simply what you said prior to that caveat. White people can absolutely be and are targets of racists. HOWEVER, had you said they are "typically" going to be the least affected by it, that would make more sense. Someone can call me a cracker, but at the end of the day, how is that really going to affect me? I would probably be confused at best why they felt the need to approach me to tell me that. They could call me white trash, honkey, etc, but those labels probably wouldn't fit my current internal assumptions and beliefs, so I can easily brush them off. However, again, your "typically" can take effect for some where a white person lives in an area where they're not the majority and maybe they're harassed and attacked on a regular basis for simply being white. They would be an exception, not the rule. To apply the majority rule to the country as a whole isn't realistic and doesn't make sense, though it can vary at levels based on regions of who the majority actually is. I live in Hawaii. I am the minority here, but I also don't personally experience racism here, so this argument doesn't even apply to me as an individual. We should be able to accept anyone can be racist and also accept we should all strive to recognize we're different and so long as we're not actively trying to hurt or bring down people as a whole or as groups; just be more accepting. Then maybe we can learn to live together more peacefully.
Racism by definition is a perceived superiority over another person/persons because their race is inferior in contrast to their own and the attributes perceived to a group of people having because they are a certain race and those attributes being inferior to their own. Discriminating a group of people for their race is racist, your targeting of white people saying "Reverse racism or racism towards white people cannot be racism" is a racist comment.
Thank you Emmanuel. As a white man in Australia, you have opened my eyes and encouraged me to question my own thoughts and actions. My understanding for the journey of a black man has increased thanks to your videos. Please keep them coming.
He's helping Canadians too. We have similar multicultural immigration policies. Also similar painfully ugly histories with our indigenous peoples. Perhaps their struggles will help us see the best path ahead more clearly.
I completely understand esteeming your culture. I do not feel that your example holds up as the reverse racism perpetrated on 'whites'. And of course, there is no such thing as reverse racism. The definition of racism says nothing about any particular race or color. It is simply the idea that race factors into judgements and expectations about an individual. As an Anglo woman who's been living in the city of Detroit for almost 30 years, I am feeling racism more than ever now. I feel seen as an oppressor simply because of my skin. No one knows my history except that I am the same color as oppressors. So I accept any aggression or lack of treatment, within reason, just to better understand what it feels like to be marginalized. But esteeming ones culture and treating someone from another culture differently than people of your same culture are very different things. Racism is racism and it truly happens in many directions. I believe in all cases it is wrong.
Well said Maureen! As a white woman who grew up in Baltimore I know exactly how it feels to be hated just for the color of my skin. The majority of my childhood was spent being taunted, harassed and even attacked at times just for being white in a predominately black school and neighborhood. I can't control the actions of others but can only try to be the best and kindest human being I can be. I pray that someday this world will find a way past all the hurts and hating and just learn to be kind to one other. God bless!!
@@anns1921 I want to believe you, but I've heard self-lamenting from white people before and I've observed their subtle actions of clutching their purses, bringing up the cops unnecessarily, assuming (and speaking that assumption) black people are unemployed, saying "I never owned a slave" or "I don't see color" etc to be drum up resentment. Assault of course is not acceptable, and I honestly hate it for you if you've experienced that. Still, I honestly dare you to ask the people of color around you if you've ever offended them (at least thrice if they say no at first) and to stay tight-lipped while they answer you. Don't try to defend it and just listen. It would be a great opportunity to collect awarenesses and grow.
@@idwtbam have you heard white people who dont treat you as less than? Sure, there are racist whites. But in the same way that not all blacks are criminals, not all whites are racist. I think Ann is pointing out that when you've felt it yourself you tend not to propagate it.
I’m white, I have recently come to realize that even though my ancestors did not own slaves and I personally certainly have never actively tried to oppress BIPOC by living as a white person and not taking action I am complicit in the system of oppression. I directly benefit from this system of oppression. So inadvertently, yes, you and me, we are the oppressors. Now you may have been acted upon based on your race (although certainly not to the extent that black people face daily) but they were basing that presumption on consistent lived experience, not unfounded biases, and possibly your own behavior. I don’t know the situation, but based on your statement here it seems like you are generally pretty defensive and still denying the extent of the racism that Black people have historically and currently face. Also if some who is oppressed says something to an oppressor that’s all they are doing, saying something, the incident pretty much ends with the individuals. But when an oppressor says something racist to the oppressed they have the power to create and perpetuate racists systems that effect many more people then just those involved. (I recommend rooting around other comments. There are people who explained this much better than I can). I don’t mean to diminish what you experienced but it is not ‘reverse racism,’ it inherently can’t be
I really feel like we need classes in school to teach people about how racism effects black people and to answer the lingering questions some people might have. I mean required classes. Proper education is the first step to making things better. We need to have the necessary knowledge before we can know how best to act against racism.
I have to completely agree with being taught the correct history. I love your videos because as a white woman who views herself as accepting I am finding so many things I never knew and have taken for granted. Knowledge is power and so I hope you will continue to educate all of us. The videos have given my daughter and I many in-depth conversations about the current situation on racism. I struggle because I see myself as loving and accepting of others and other then trying to further educate myself about black history I am unsure what to do. I can honestly say I am ashamed at the white race and how I thought things have changed. I always thought somehow the black community needs to move forward and stop hanging onto the past, so I too am ashamed for my ignorance. I do believe there are many whites who just want to move on and forget the past because of the unjustified actions their white ancestors took.
Education is important yes. But shouldn’t be the first step. These are grown up problems. Grownups should solve them. Relying on educating kids to solve it is a form of escapism. Not saying it shouldn’t be done. It should. But it’s not the solution. Especially when nothing changes outside school. And kids are like people, you can expose them to ideas, you can have a dialogue, you can cause an interruption in their thinking or doing even, but you can’t force them to learn.
Anne P Well said. This issues were started with grown ups in the government or just rich white people. People need to see the governments implementing big steps in correcting issues in different areas, from housing, health, education, financial etc. Educating the kids is not enough because they can still be taught otherwise in their homes.
I had those lessons, lesson's on implicit Vs explicit racism, lessons on police brutality and lessons to look at and understand often misunderstood statistics such as incarceration rates etc
These conversations are not only insightful but they are "power tools" for living in this society which is so conflicted! Thank you so very much, Emmanuel Acho!
Thank you!! You've opened my eyes and now I know how to better teach my 7 kids and so many others who are under my direct influence. I have never subscribed to a TH-cam video or channel before, although my kids do all the time. Your channel is the first one for me and I was surprised how easy it was to do that! I don't want to miss an episode and, even more importantly, I don't want my kids to miss one. I have so appreciated watching various black people speak up recently and explain their perspectives. Without that, we as white people couldn't really have this necessary paradigm shift. Calling someone racist has historically been an offensive attack. I don't believe I'm racist and it's hurtful to be labeled with that word, simply because I'm white, when I don't feel I've done anything consciously to deserve it. It is the wrong way to create the change that is needed. However, after listening to your 4th episode and then going back and listening to all of the others, I realize that I have unconsciously had racist experiences or beliefs. My sweet grandma who is the most loving woman I have ever known used to sing songs from her childhood to us and I remember her singing one that had racist content in it. I remember saying, "Grandma! That's not a good song, it's racist!" She looked at me wide-eyed and innocent and said, "What do you mean? There's nothing wrong with that song. My daddy used to sing that to us as kids." I explained that using the N word was offensive. Then she explained that nothing unkind was meant by it, it was just what they called the black people. What an eye opener it was for me and an example of what you're explaining in your episodes. We need to teach others what it means to be anti-racist and we need to do it with kindness and recognize that we don't know what we don't know. Education precedes empathy. Please keep teaching us so that we can know. Keep promoting interracial unity. It is the cure for these trying times. Your friend and sister, Jen Ashcraft
Everyone is biased. It comes from the cards life dealt us. His point of view is just that, his. Your life was not his life, so it would be hard for you to say "nah man, life isn't like this at all" If you've never lived that life. Just like if you struggled with some things it would be wrong for me to say "that's just your opinion, that's not life." But if you tell me your life was hard and this is why, I can gloss over it because my life was different. I need to understand your perspective and understand you. hopefully that makes sense, I tend to ramble sometimes and miss my point.
@@seekerowl3260 Just because everyone has a different life doesn't mean everyone is clueless about what it's like in everyone else's shoes. In the decades spent in this world, everyone has had the opportunity to see what life is like for other people. If they're still unaware of the hardships others face and know only of their own, it's because they only care about themselves or their people and don't care the same way about the rest.
So I'm Hispanic and racisms exist for everyone that's how I view the world and so I never let that bring me down nor do I ever accept it as an excuse to my level success in life but I have to say your approach to it is like no other. You actually sit down and discuss the topic rather than just saying this person is racist for A and B reasons. You go into the history of it and I love it. "Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it" George Santayana. I watched 2 episodes back to back and man got yourself a new subscriber.
My parents moved our family from the big city in the early 70's when I was 3 because too many blacks were moving into our neighborhood. I was raised in a small, rural, all-white community. Racism, conscience or not, was just part of life. Anyone play the game, Eenie, meanie, miney, mo? Lets just say it wasn't a tiger I caught by the toe and quite honestly never gave it a second thought. In the wake of George Floyd's murder, I didn't understand the rioting. I didn't understand why my silence is violence. I didn't understand white privilege and denied that I have it. I didn't understand the I have been unconsciously racist my whole life. I'm awake to it now. These videos opened my eyes. I can't say how glad I am to have stumbled across them and look for new ones every day. Thank you. I'm trying to become a better person. Can't wait for Episode 5.
Please don't tell me you, as a child, was saying the N Word when playing this game. I know you were a kid and I appreciate you educating yourself now. But things like this is the reason why I'm always skeptical with allowing my kids to play with our white neighbors. In fact, I haven't allowed it for the past year.
@@t.b.4577 Please don't allow that to influence who (and what race) you allow your kids to play with. You have a perfect opportunity in front of you! You have the opportunity to change the deep set viewpoints, or biases, that you or I might have due to our upbringing, and being different!!! Isn't that exactly what this is all about?!?! Bridging the gap is more important now more than ever, because more white people are giving notice to the BLM movement, and what they truly mean by it. George Floyd didn't die in vain, unfortunately he paid the ultimate price for: 1) getting communities to understand that there IS such a thing as systematic racism, and 2) creating civil unrest until change is actually accomplished. 4 cops were fired and one is charged for murder, when has that EVER happened when a black man or woman has been wrongfully handled, or consequently, murdered?!?! I did my best to be friends with everyone. I grew up in a very racist school. We didn't have many black people in my school, but we (at one point) had a big fight break out in our school between races (black girls vs the white "popular" girls). It was broken up very quickly, but I remember that day very vividly, and what I saw. I also remember feeling happy for the black girls, because I knew one of the "popular" girls had to have said something horrible to them. And when they were broken up, I heard one of them use the n word, so I'm pretty sure I'm not wrong. To this day, I can't confirm that theory, and it has been over 20 years since I graduated. When talking about reverse racism, I know I have it, because I find myself remembering that day, and I find myself thinking the same thing. To think that we're finally evolving, even if it's just a little, gives me optimism. My hope is that future generations look back on this history, and wonder WTH was wrong with us! And that we as adults continue to recognize that, yes our colors are different, and yes we have biases, or preconceived notions about one another (some that we never even realized about ourselves); but we're working on it. So please, let your kids play with the white kids, it really could influence their perceptions of one another. Try touching base with the white kid's parents, they could be worthwhile people to get to know. Don't give up on white people, bias is born from misguidance, most of us aren't too far gone to learn otherwise. ✌❤
@@t.b.4577 When I was a child, we learned Tiger. I never, ever knew it used to be the n-word until decades later. I did grow up in a pretty white suburb, but my parents never said that word. We were supposedly liberal and not racist: my parents sent us to YMCA summer camp which was super-diverse and I learned a lot and basically everyone was equal because kids don't know any worse anyhow. Popularity there had Nothing to do with race. As a young teen there in the late '60's, I was shocked to learn that having a black maid was racist: oh well. But anyhow: it was "catch a tiger by the toe". We were sheltered and innocent. Don't judge from one story.
@@t.b.4577 its ok when you do it but its not ok if white people dont let their kids play with non whites got it. glad im opening my mind to this whole white priveledge thing
You are a leader, an educator, an inspiration and most of all a beautiful soul. I am European, so while I cannot relate to everything that is going on in the US system and society, I am deeply touched by the loving, respectful and genuine way you lead these conversations. To me you are a role model on how to resolve conflict and bring people together. I truly believe that all problems of humanity can only be solved with love, empathy and courage to reflect on our own ignorance and lack of knowledge. We can only learn by connecting and also having uncomfortable conversations when they are necessary. Thank you Emmanuel. You make me hopeful and more courageous to ask questions even if they may be uncomfortable, listen 👂 and learn. ❤️ from Austria 🇦🇹 izzy
WTF!!!! THIS DUDE IS CULTURE APPROPRIATING ADOS(AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY) CULTURE...HE NOT ONE OF US...HE COMES FROM A NIGERIAN SLAVE TRADING FAMILY AND DIDN'T GREW UP WITH OR HAVE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AS ADOS....HE DOESN'T HAVE THE SLAVERY JIM CROW AND MASS INCARCERATION IN HIS LINEAGE...HE AND NO OTHER IMMIGRANT COULD NEVER SPEAK FOR ME OR MY PEOPLE.....HIM AND THE PEOPLE BACKING HIM ARE SICK DISRESPECTFUL INDIVIDUALS TO MY ANCESTORS...AND THE FACT THAT THEY'RE USING THE DEATHS OF GEORGE FLOYD & BREANNA TAYLOR TO GRIFT THEY WAY IN TO A 💰BAG💰 MAKES IT EVEN MORE EGREGIOUS 🤬🤬🤬😡😡...THIS IS WHITE SUPREMACY USING THESE AFRICAN AND CARIBBEAN BODY SNATCHERS TO AVOID AN ACTUAL REAL CONVERSATION WITH A BLACK AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY MEN LIKE ME, THE BLACK MEN THAT HELP RAISE ME, THE BLACK MEN THAT IM RELATED TOO GREW UP WITH AND HELP RAISE...THEY DON'T WANT ANY CONVERSATIONS WITH THE N**** (ADOS) THEY CREATED....THEY WANT CONVERSATION WITH "AFRICAN AMERICAN"😒....THEY KNOW TO AVOID THE AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF CHATTEL SLAVERY
These Videos and the conversations within these videos are so vital in the growth of not only our country but all of us as a community of people. Love what you are doing my brother, keep it up!
Emmanuel, thank you for having these uncomfortable conversations. I am a 62 year old white woman who was raised in ignorance but who has always wanted the same equality for my black friends but struggled with not always knowing how to ask, to act, or to be a better friend to them. I appreciate your willingness to open my/our eyes to the truth of racism and to give me/us a chance to grow my heart to embrace my black brothers and sisters with strength and commitment to genuine love and respect. I am humbled by your actions to make a difference in our world. Sending love to you my black brother.
@@Sbock86 Mr Obama was first and foremost a corporatist obsessed with "being accepted" by the big players/powerful of this world. There are plenty of big "momma" boys like him in this world, so nothing new. In order to achieve this end, he had to essentially "renounce" his identity (as a black man). This is, once again, nothing new since the Beyonce, the Oprah, the Naomi Campbell, the Michael Jackson etc, they have all been instructed to "sell their image" one way or another to the Main Stream White Corporate Media. In the case of Obama, that's precisely how/why he was picked/groomed to become the President...and subsequently the reason why he failed massively to make a real impact in the world. So you see, one of the saddest things about being a black person is that you can never really "succeed" as a black person, unless you get "whitewashed" into public acceptance. When you do succeed, people who initially "accepted you" often won't allow you to talk/discuss about black matters in the open, because it makes them "uncomfortable". And that's how a seemingly "non-racist" society strips people of their identity and confines them to living an unfulfilled life.
Absolutely beautiful soul. 😇❤❤❤😇 Thank you so much for being a voice of reason, compassion and giving us all - black, white, brown, red and yellow - a safe space to reflect and, more importantly, feel. May your positive vibes reach out and touch the minds and souls of millions. I am an ally! ❤
Bruh, Slavery ended over a century ago. Black fathers weren’t abandoning their children as frequently in the 1960’s: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_family_structure . Cultural appropriation is moronic. That suit that you’re wearing is based off of suits made in Europe. Is that a reason to tell you that you can’t wear it? Of course it isn’t. You can wear and like whatever you want
I did not see or hear a Black Man. I saw & heard a deeply wise and thoughtful human being. A Man that is aware of his heart and willing to lead when we need the leadership the most. I love your heart and grace. Your Nobility is an example for us all.
I know this comment was well intentioned but...you can be a black man and a deeply wise and thoughtful human being lol. he talks about these kind of “compliments” in episode 2
I'm going to have my own process embracing cultural differences in regards to color. Just to sit with your replies for the past 7 months has asked me to see more clearly. Emmanuel is asking us (me) to directly see color, not as a wall between us. But as a way to more completely embrace Black and Brown people (or anyone) and their cultural heritage. Coming from an incredibly abusive household and still living around abuse, I look to connect with anyone that is living on a playing field where there is space for everyone to thrive. Out of a desire to keep myself safe, it will take me a moment or longer to embrace cultural differences, because even today I am still not as safe as I need to be. So part of my not seeing a black man, is because I first see an ally. Another human being that wants us all to be safe and free. And right or wrong, right now that is even more important to me, than not being color blind. I just hope over time I can grow to be more curious about other peoples cultures. To see people more completely. I like in the movie Avatar when their greeting is, "I see you". This to me sounds like what your are talking about. "I see you" seems like a deeply spiritual hug between two beings as a way to remind each other that yes we are connected. That I see all of you.
Thank you for your earnest dialog- these episodes should be used in schools to teach our children how to love, understand and accept each other better. As a white woman married to a brown immigrant with mixed race children, I welcome every “uncomfortable conversation “ that can help me help my children understand their place and value in our society and in American culture
this dudes full of shit. he said his grandparents couldn't get married 5 generations ago or something to thus effect. Frédéric Douglass a black x slave married a white woman in 1884. this was in DC. black people have been getting married way back. if he wants to speak on such an important topic wouldn't it make sense if he knew what he was talking about? also 90% of black children were born into 2 parent homes in late 1800s- 75% in 1960s and today its approx 25%.
Emanual thanks -- and please remind people that "Black Lives Matter" is more than a statement. It is a reminder! It is not meant to disrespect any other group.
I feel there would be the obvious response. All officers and all black people aren't bad or prejudice, which is a true statement but do the word match the actions. I feel like that's a topic that people just don't want to accept what is.
Brian this is a great suggestiin. I admit to being shocked or scared when i read your comment (still processing which). That tells me this is a conversation needed for all of us. We’re scared of each other lol
Yes!!!!. I've had conversations with the Chief of Police in our tiny rural southern town about the importance of anti-racist work. I've sent him info & given him book suggestions. I sent him a link to this series as soon as I found it. I hope he watches.
@Brandon Fortino i strongly agree and feel the same, but you would be amazed (or not )how overwhelmed people are with stupidity. I can't call it ignorance because I believe they know better or they willfully choose not to know at all. It's at a point where I'm starting to believe that prejudice is apart of them genetic make up. People would say all blacks are bad and those are the same ones who would say it's only bad apples in the police department. Every group has been discriminated against but yet they always see themselves as the exceptions.
[Long post] I really have enjoyed this series so far and want to add onto the topics brought up in this video. I am no expert so I am going to get things wrong. I am simply stating my thoughts and opinions on these topics. In no way am I claiming anything as the ultimate truth. Feel free to let me know where I did make a mistake. In fact, I welcome it because there is never a point in my life where I will know everything. I appreciate anyone taking their time to educate me. I welcome open discussion, willingness to learn and grow from other people. Thank for taking the time to read this. Why no "White History" month? What does it mean to be black? Before slavery, there were no “Black people”. People keep forgetting that Africa is a continent and a huge one at that. There are numerous languages, dialects, ethnic groups, spiritual beliefs, etc. Within each country, there are numerous languages being spoken and ethnic groups yet the world latches on to a very simplified understanding of Africa and what it looked like before colonization and the Atlantic Slave Trade. The “Black Identity” was something that happened after indigenous Africans were brought over to the Americas. Enslaved Africans have everything stripped from them, not just their humanity. Their languages, arts, cultures, and everything that made them who they were as people. Black identity comes from the descendants of slaves forming their own music, art, clothing, etc. Much of it is inspired by traditional African cultures, spiritual beliefs and more. Some are also influenced by different European cultures as well. Black history month is a time to educate people about the realities of slavery, the Reconstruction Era, Jim Crow era, leading up to the present day. It’s a celebration of the contributions that were made by African slaves, their descendants, African diaspora, etc. White identity was born in a different manner. Prior to immigration, I highly doubt Europeans were all calling themselves White. Rather they were calling themselves Italian, French, Hungarian, Polish, etc. Immigrating over to America took a lot of courage and many were evading very dangerous situations within their own countries. Everyone knows, or at least is aware, that America is described as a “melting pot”. This is used to say that America is a diverse country, but as a melting pot, there is always something that dominates the rest. Not every European nation was considered “White” and many were attacked by other European nations because of believed inferiority. The pressure to assimilate in America caused many European immigrants to change their names and throw away their cultures for fear that they would not be accepted in this new world. Like I previously mentioned not all Europeans were considered “White” at one point. Irish and Italian people weren’t considered “White” but later acquired “Whiteness”. Many acquired this at the expense of Black people. “Whiteness” in America was mainly formed around the subjugation of the Other. By the Other, I mean Black people and Indigenous peoples. It is not a legitimate cultural identity but an identity based around the need to feel superior over other groups of people. There are several heritage months throughout the year. Each month is marked by them and yet no one brings this up. There is Irish Heritage Month, Italian Heritage Month German Heritage Month and a slew of others. This selective outrage often overshadows the effects of people who have already found ways to celebrate their culture. I have seen similar outrage over National Women’s Day. People conveniently forget there was a National Men’s Day as well. When people were screaming why there wasn’t one, they were quickly overloaded with responses that there already was one. This only shows that this question often does not come from a place of curiosity, but general anger that another group dares to celebrate their own culture. On the nature of Braids I would hope that it goes without saying that braids are not exclusive to the African continent. Indigenous cultures throughout the Americas have rich and diverse examples of braids. In the African continent, however, I would argue that you will find the most diversity in, not only the style of braids but what they symbolize as well. They were a status symbol for many. If you were to look at the images of indigenous Africans today, you will find that these styles are very much still alive and well. Braids existed in Europe too for centuries. It’s not cultural appropriation for European people to wear braids because braids are universal. It’s the type of braids that are worn that make or break the argument. I have seen other black people being very reactionary concerning this issue. They completely ignore the fact that braids exist in other cultures as well. The same thing concerns dreadlocks. Dreadlocks have existed in India for thousands of years. There are ancient depictions of deities with them. Shiva, for example, can be seen with them. Saddhu can be seen up to the present having long dreadlocks. In fact, when Indian indentured servants were brought over to Jamaica, there was a great cultural exchange that took place and that has greatly affected Jamaica’s cultural history. I don’t see any issue with non-Black people wear braids. Especially is those braids are from their culture. I would like to reiterate that braids in Africa are highly specific to different ethnic groups and so forth. So, should we try to say Black people are appropriating different cultures in Africa that are not their own? The whole issue of braids steered off the path of where it originated-the discrimination of Black people when they have natural hair, wear protective styles, in addition to traditional African styles of braids to celebrate their cultures. The punitive nature in which schools, places of work and the general populous towards Black people for celebrating their culture while celebrating White people for taking from Black people, is inherently racist. Black culture stemmed from a struggle towards freedom, self-love, family and community. Black people fought hard to be able to have these things only for them to be treated flippantly by White people is why Black people have been so enraged over this. This extends to things such as slang, music, clothing, etc. Even more, erasure comes when we ignore all of the Black LGBTQ+ people, disabled people, sex workers, etc. who have contributed greatly to overall Black culture and are either not recognized or have their identities and experiences erased when they are being discussed.
Respect to your essay post on the inferiority and indigene of black people, but all the past occurrences surrounding people with brown/ black skin was bound to occur. Slavery existed long before the 17th century. “White” people were slaves too, it wasn’t prominent as it was on black people, but it still occurred. As a black guy myself, I have a burning hatred for inequality, segregation, injustices, and racism. The seven deadly sins and origins of the world have changed my mentality in such an inspiring way I never thought possible. Such sinful actions transpired throughout the world that some or most got away with it while others had to suffer. What ruined the lives of black people is their appearance and at times their actions. A few years back, Kanye West said slavery was like a choice. The entire media not only misinterpret his words, but scolded him. Slavery was like a choice slaves had to either continue their lives as nothing more than subordinates or have freedom while being adventurous. Be free or die trying. That’s why people like Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks Martin Luther King Jr. and many others wanted to change the ways black people live their lives. Those people who fought against the injustices are to this very day are being commemorated annually. When it comes to the style of hair, that’s debatable. I don’t have much to say on that other than being part of religion, philosophy and tradition etc.
Your post is extraordinary. One rarely sees something so coherent, substantial, well-written, logical, even-tempered, sincere and open on TH-cam. Beautiful! I would have nothing to add or subtract. Also it was not that long, or didn't seem so, because it actually Says things.
I greatly appreciate your very eloquent essay. Who knew such deep historical convo took place in the comments on youtube. All I would add, if I may, is when Black ppl get mad at White women wearing braids, it is always an African style that they are wearing ie. Bo Derek and Kim K etc. And it's also the fact that they get lauded as trend setting and beautiful, but you don't find Black women on the cover of any high end fashion mag rocking naturals and braids and being told how beautiful they are. Side bar: how can Black/African Americans culturally appropriate African culture? We are African. And due to the nature of slavery, our blood is mixed with the dna of many tribes. In my humble opinion, when we as Black Americans reach back to Africa and lean on her culture, it is to esteem ourself and honor her. Not to take or appropriate. Braids, specifically, are something that both, our African Ancestors brought with them through The Middle Passage, and that our African sisters who immigrated here taught us. There's no way to appropriate your own culture. Just my pov.
Great read, thank you. I'd like to submit that Black history in the Americas didn't start with chattel slavery in the late 18th century. But Blacks navigated ships and lived in the Americas before Columbus came. He landed here and then took slaves. He didn't bring them. The Aztec and Olmec sculptures that venerate people with broad noses and full lips in the Americas can be searched today. The pyramids and connection to astrology is technology brought from Africa: and built more than 1000-2000 years before Columbus sailed. Some of the items Columbus brought back from Central America were made of precious metals found in Africa. Some Central and South American religions and music are from Africa and still practiced today because they did so freely before 1492 they could maintain it. It was much later that more Black people were kidnapped from Africa and turned into slaves in the Americas. North American slaves don't have African religion and music because it was stripped when they were brought. History from an Anglo perspective teaches that great navigators came from Europe, and Europeans discovered a place where Black and Brown people lived for very long time.
@Ivan Coria individuals make up the collective,starting there is a good start. History does play a large role but people use it as a crutch,excuse for their failings in life wayyyy too much. The irish,poles were treated just like slaves for hundreds of years and yet they dont blame all their failings on their history they have some responsibility and accountability. I could blame many of my personal burdens on my history but i dont,ive moved beyond it and it seems many black people of all backgrounds have as well and theyre doing well in life. Excuses dont fix problems, solutions do, cant find a job? Make yourself more employable or move to a place that needs workers before blaming it on your version of the boogeymam. And may i ask if youve even seen his police episode? Where he literally does point fingers. And culture does play a significant role as that shapes how people act towards one another, although your use of "black culture" seems to paint you already know this. But what is black culture? A large generalisation like european culture or white culture. Were talking specifically about working class,hip hop culture which incentivises always fighting against authority even if youre in the wrong and gang culture. Even though i like the music i can see how its moulded young minds to be much less than what they could be. People nowadays are idolising the wrong people, yesterdays mlk has been replaced by soundcloud rappers and questionable celebrities. Also its kinda funny how you immediately stereotyped what you thought my arguments would be and created a strawman. I could have agreed with him theoretically but not agree with his actions in regards to how he treats 'the enemy',that his solutions were not viable like many have in this comment section.
@Ivan Coria except after the civil rights movement things were starting to improve until gangster rap came along and increased racial, and black on cop tensions.
Another solid video Emmanuel! Although, i think you could have gone in much more depth with the "Broken Black Family" question. For those who want to educate themselves, please watch the Netflix documentary 13th and research more on root cause of the systematic social injustice that is present. But either way, if you were lead to this video in one way or another, just glad people are sticking around to hear him out.
The problem is if he told the truth about some of the real things the govt does to keep black families broken today some powerful white guy high up in the corporate world or govt would try to take his channel down, then he'd get media backlash, then he'd get death threats and someone could use violence against him and/or his family
@@BryceJohnson92 How long is it? Work has me time crunched lately but it's not the first I've seen it referenced. Maybe I can squeeze it in. Your answer is mostly to remind me to try.
It’s was a very touch letter . As a blk women my white bothers and sister please under these are from Emanuel’s perspectives. Note he is 1st generations America that grew up in white America and doesn’t have or doesn’t have a lot of emotional and mental tear down other blks have that grew up in poverty in underserved communities where sickness runs wild , little to no income, food is limited, health care treats you like experiments, family members were actually slaves, being assaulted by police physically , mentally and sexually. Being 1 generation college graduate or student. Blk people come from all walks of life , many of blk are still hurt from the historical trauma of rape , killings, hangings , being used as medical experiments, comming from broken homes and just trying to survive in a current system is not designed for blacks success. Some blacks still coping and working thought this trauma and may not be in a place to talk blk and white differences or accept their support.
“I navigate America as a visitor.” He is one of the most well-spoken people I’ve ever heard. The fact that these are the words he chose to describe this is painful. When fellow white Americans say “we’re ALL Americans. If you don’t like it get out” or anything like it, I find the lack of desire to understand other’s feelings appalling. I want to believe the vast majority of white Americans (police included) want everyone to feel included. That’s why I’m here. I want no American to feel like an outsider and that needs to start with inclusion and not telling others how they SHOULD feel. Don’t devalue anyone’s feelings. It’s the heart of racial inequity, bullying, Narcissism and elitism. Those are the exact qualities that make our fellow Americans feel like visitors. Let that be the start of the conversations.
@Tom Swain Its amazing you're making that comment, because you obviously care if they're for you to make such an ignorant comment. its ok for you white people to judge others because of their race, and expect them to deal with it? wow!
@Tom Swain This comes off just as problematic as "all lives matter" does. Because yes, in a perfect world, race and skin color would not matter. But we live in a world where race is ingrained the structure and systems that make up society. So just saying "who cares" and not being willing to listen or have these conversations sort of devalues the experiences of non white people who navigate American society through the status quo of white culture.
Please define racism, then explain why this so called racist only exists in white childrens homes, white childrens countries and white childrens schools???
You are a beautiful man with a beautiful goal and all should strive to do the same. Thank you so much for doing this cause it has brought together so many lost souls. Not only are these videos needed , but they became popular and sought after by doing the opposite as most other places that want to have the discussion. No hate. Just love and understanding. Never stop doing what you are doing for it is kind souls like yourself that will change the world.
There’s only 3 episodes (as of before this) and its already gained many viewers, people who want to learn and some who want to see the good the vids are doing. The topics and conversations happening are very much relevant and needed, I hope this channel goes places and can make a real impact through conversation, not violent outbursts 😊
As a senior citizen (White) how do I not feel like I am the enemy? These last 4 years have made me feel guilty for all the racism going on even though I am not perpetuating it. Are my Black brothers and sisters seeing me as the problem? Love your series. Thank you!
Another reason why black women get pissed/annoyed when non black people wear hairstyles common in black culture is because there were national laws that forbid them from wearing their hair a certain way. Even today some establishments have rules like that in place. When white women do it they're praised.
I agree with the need to give credit to the origin of a style if it is coming from a specific culture but we also must acknowledge that some are common, historically, in various forms from many cultures. The saying about the highest form of flattery is true as these styles would not be embraced if not viewed in a positive light but without the acknowledgement it no longer is flattery but appropriation.
@@jackio46 yes but unfortunately non black people are not willing to give credit nor acknowledge the racial biased they have the luxary of avoiding unlike black women.
National Crown Day is tommorow. It makes you unemployable, labeled negatively, etc. then when it's Bo Derek or some other notable white person it's profitable/chic and rebranded. It's a systemic problem that also keeps black businesses out of the hair care industry/distribution.
Joseph Agreed. Natural hairstyles (braids, locks, etc.) are still frowned upon in corporate America. It’s still an unspoken (and sometimes spoken) rule that opportunities for advancement would be limited if you choose to wear natural hair.
Let’s do an episode with an everyday, middle age white man that thought he was far from racists. Me. I’m a fellow Austinite and UT grad. I think it’s cool to see these celebs but whom we’re trying to ultimately reach are the everyday individuals that are unknowingly closer to the core of the issue than they actually know... I’m down! People’s!! Help me get this going! My discussion list keeps growing and I know us everyday, middle age white men want and need to have our questions of confusion answered!! Get me on this!!
You know, I thought there might have been some valuable insight to be extracted from this video, but I couldn't disagree more with pretty much every single point being made. As neither a black nor a white man, maybe there is much for me to study and understand about this undoubtedly complicated topic. But if my outsider's perspective serves any purpose whatsoever, it's to see that there is a painful, overt normalization of racism within the black community, particularly towards whites. No, not reverse racism. Word for word, dictionary racism.
No reread your comment and ask yourself. How did this comment help in any way shape or form? Especially considering you aren’t white or black, this is clearly a negative comment with no intent of actually finding common ground and you as someone living outside of the USA could never understand what is happening here insists on fueling a fire. For what?
@@Findpype I dont think me saying I disagree with pretty much every point in the video is me fueling any fire. When I originally watched this video, I went into it with an open mind, and found that the perspective of the creator is vastly different from mine. I don’t have to be black or white to see the situation and form an opinion. I also think my conclusion back then is clear to see. There is a normalization of racism towards white individuals, and even if you disagree that such a thing exists, you can’t possibly say that discrimination due to a person’s race, whatever the race may be, is ever a good thing
@@Findpype it does help. His comments calls out the real issue that is causing racial divide and it doesn't get addressed. You can't ever tell a lack person they're being racist or prejudice. Have you grown up in the streets and othe rare as where whites (and others) are harassed jumped, insulted I front of friends and girlfriends.. how you can stay anything back or you'll get jumped. You can't say anything because some race claom will be made, yet they can clown and make racist and prejudice comments and physical attacks always.. did you grow up inner city?
You are spot on!! I tired of all these excuses! There are some wonderful black Americans that never let anyone bring them down and are people of character. It is your choices that count not your history or circumstances because there are those that put complainers and those with victim mentally to shame. This video is a disappointment.
One intersection at a time. Works for me. One individual at a time each with his/her own experiences and meanings taken from them. There are people that share experiences and the related meanings but at the same time there is massive diversity within groups. Lets interact with each other as individuals, move forward, and get the politics out of it to help us be free to do so.
Emmanuel would you be willing to do an episode with a mixed race/cultured family? If so, please reach out to me. It would be great to talk and help enlighten others.
Funny u say that. I think if every white person fostered a black kid or was married to a black person or their child was married to a black person, it would change their perspective. I don’t think people really want to know how prejudiced they are. I feel like they know, but don’t really want to look in mirror
I remember when News reported Kim kardashian was on a plane w kids, when an Australian woman yelled about them being black. And I thought I bet Kim has seen some things since having kids and being married to a black man. Oh it’s different to admire from afar off, but very different when you start to live the prejudice. That’s why I know a lot white people don’t get it. And most don’t have a close black person in their life or they wouldn’t say the things they do.
Here is a great video of Emmanuel we all may enjoy. In it, he said he is planning to have an interracial couple on soon. th-cam.com/video/ocdaTlTzJ5U/w-d-xo.html
This comment section is one of the few places online , where black and white people mix and van exchange without prejudice and I love that. Thank you Emmanuel
The first inkling of how naive I am was when my daughter's high school chum--who is now a pastor--posted a video saying since Mr. Floyd's murder he now has to have a conversation with his four sons on how to survive being pulled over by the police. I burst into tears. Such a beautiful man of God with an incredible family was in fear for their lives? In America? Just how out of touch was I? A few weeks later as protests, unrest, and riots sprang up around the nation, my husband and I stumbled upon the movie JUST MERCY. By the end, both my husband and I wept. We moved recently from Philadelphia to Georgia. Less than an hour from us is the Alabama border. We felt overwhelmed. How can a CDC-certified elderly couple do anything to help? Who would care what we say? Then a friend posted your episode 3 with the Gaines' family. Suddenly the missing pieces to the puzzle tumbled into our laps. What can we do? How can we help? Begin by being able to spot racism--intentional or otherwise. First in ourselves, then in those we love. Begin fitting those pieces together to see the full picture. Thank you. Like Queen Esther, perhaps your videos are for such a time as this. God bless you.
I think your testament speaks volumes of why our country needs to stop LITERALLY WHITEWASHING our curriculum. As one of my black classmates told me they're taught how to talk to officers, not to run, how to walk what to wear it made me cry. I still cannot accept it.
@James Bond stop trolling these comment sections when everyone is finally coming together. I've seen you on more than 7 other comments under this video spreading decisive stuff.
Emmanuel, This is so awesome!! This has changed my life. Never thought I was racist, but the insights and the knowledge and background that you share tell me I can be better and do better. For when we know better, we do better. A fan!! Keep it up!
suzie, ignore the troll. you're doing great. hopefully james bond and others like him will eventually realize that it's okay to acknowledge one's own blind spots and the possibility that one can cause harm with one's words and actions, even if unintentional. in the meantime, i don't generally recommend name-calling (as it's unproductive and tends to shut down conversations), but if you want to throw mean epithets towards james bond, he won't mind. he has thick skin, and if he's offended by anything you or anyone else might say, that's on him.
I thank you so much for doing this. I’m so tired of polarization, of people shouting at each other. We need good models for thoughtful conversation. We need to be able to address our fears and ask the difficult questions that we’re afraid to ask. You are amazing. Thank you.
People tend to yell when they feel like they're not being heard. Now that the 'powers that be' are ready to "listen," (thank God for the Trump era of rule, Covid and camera phones) it's easier to have that conversation.
I’m a black American, I’m also an expatriate - I left the US in the 80’s and after a few years, settled in Canada. I’ve now lived outside America longer than I lived there; after receiving a shared link of your 4th episode this morning. I was compelled to find the first 3. After viewing those, I have only one word, Remarkable! You shed a glorious light on the very reasons that discouraged me from returning to live in the states. I have shared your series with all of my contacts. God will continue you to bless and guide you as take your place as a change-maker. I know your mother is proud. Thanks be to God.
I think we need to get Asians, Latinos, and Non-Black POC's in this discussion as well. As an Asian, I feel that we always get left out on conversations on race on a national level and we can't have that in 2020. Great video though.
John Choi instead of co-op ing this create your own platform. I have seen and experienced racism from Asians and Latinos. Very few of either have spoken up on our behalf but quietly watched us suffer. Then reap the benefits of our fight, ie: civil rights. Asians tend to look down on us and are extremely abusive to the Black race. Latinos and Hispanics denounce their Black heritage. Maybe that's why other races are left out of our discussions.
John I concur with your inquiry. As an African American woman born and raised, I grew up amongst all races of people because SF was so diverse at that time. In my 48yrs of living I’ve only experienced racism that I can recall once so these open discussions and what we’re seeing uncovered on social media and the news is all new to me and needs to stop. Everyone celebrated everyone’s holidays and cultures (Asian, African American, Latinos,, Native American, etc.) in the SF Bay Area. I would love for Emanuel to release a video with different races of people and hear their input as well. I hope he responds to your inquiry.
@@shawndyer7860 We've BEEN HAVING these discussions within the Asian-American communities as well. TH-cam Channels like Genius Brain and Fun With Dumb have been talking about the relations between the Asians and Blacks in the U.S. along with Hassan Minhaj calking for Asians to not be silent about this issue. Also, Pero Like has put out a discussion of being Afro-LatinX and what it means to be that. Don't act like all of us have been blind to your plight when actually a LOT OF US are and HAVE BEEN showing support since the 60's. It's just that the National Media thinks there's only 2 races in America. I do agree that Asians need to get out there more but it's kinda hard when we feel there's a wall that's blocking us all the time that's preventing from us from telling OUR STORY. I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm just pointing things here and there.
@@shawndyer7860, culturally, I am Hispanic, but ethnically, I'm mixed (Spain, Native American, African [Senegal]). Please don't lump us all together. I'm sorry you've had that experience with Hispanics/latinos. Personally, I'm proud of all of my ancestry (minus the Spaniards, the Conquistadores were just as bad as other European colonizers), and trust Black people more than even my "own people" and that may be my own implicit bias based on my experiences in life. When I need help, or someone to talk to, I know what friends to count on, and only one of those is Hispanic, none are white, the rest just happen to be Black. So I learned in life that Black people are more trustworthu in my eyes. I have to face that prejudice in myself and I'm trying to learn to take people individually instead of by ethnicity.
These videos are deeply apreciated. I am in Europe, am white/hispanic and have been living in a country no my own, for 20 years. I have felt racism several times but nothing will ever compare to what people of color suffer here. There are people from all over the world here, for a so called evolved and rich country, I still see racism everyday and it breaks my heart. What you say is more directed to your reality but racism is also here, where no slaves walked and most countries are united.
"White people and white culture" is a thing only imagined. This is excruciatingly emphasized in America. The widespread use of "Enlightenment" values certainly lead to a handful of "Western" societies but they are certainly not a homogenous culture. It's rude to suggest otherwise. I'm white, but Arabic. My people were raped and murdered out of existence in world war 1. Jesus would have called us ancient and in our language, but today ISIS and Turkey both gleefully erase what is left of us. Nobody will hear this though (
It's interesting too that the racism narrative usually includes hispanics, Japanese, Chinese and Koreans. To these people if your skin is fair, you are 'white'. There's also a tendency to group Jamaicans and other West Indians along with other dark skinned Americans. African immigrants aren't included though. And on a side note, Americans tend to forget that other countries exist. Racism isn't just black vs white, it's Chinese vs Tibetan, Indian vs Pakistani, Chinese vs Malay. And the whole 'racism is power' bullshit. So a white person in China can't be racist because the Chinese have majority power?
Well presented. I love learning from you and hope that you will continue to open our eyes and hopefully show society that there is a better way. I loved your talk with the Gaines family, especially when Emmie asked if you were afraid of white people. Talk about “out of the mouths of babes”. To say that you handled that question with such grace and intelligence would be an understatement. This is what the world needs more of. People coming together and speaking honestly and openly about our thoughts and feelings in a safe place. May you stay safe and continue this important mission. I’ll be watching and learning. Peace.
@Tom Swain I think she's trying to convey this topic effects her personally. There's nothing wrong with that. Most people on this thread are just only learning about racism it seems.
@@jmk1962 she stated her roles in order of the things that belong to those roles 😂 She's a wife (to the husband) and a mother (to the kids) It just reads a little weird
My sister and I are "binge-watching" your series and find it inspiring, illuminating and important. It takes courage to do this and you're not only "going there" but you have so much skill in the process! You're a role model for all of us! :)
Standing up for yourself is completely different that putting someone down.
No shit. That was a horrendous example. And the fact that the definition of Racism is so misused is very concerning and sad.
Some people who are bullied don't stand up to their own bullies, but they instead bully other people. When your bully is the system itself, and every cog in it, I can imagine picking on an individual that might not be a part of that system but fits the description would be the obvious choice.
@@JACK-rp5eb Ya no, that's not how it works so calm down, you never have to put others down to bring yourself up
@@JACK-rp5eb if revenge is your answer, then you're not any better. Not all bullied people become bullies themselves, you're responsible for your own actions, can't hide behind discrimination
You can't just equate an entire race of people to a singular bully. It makes no sense to be racist to a white person just because some other white person they aren't even related with who has totally different view on the world said something racist about you.
It's hypocritical to be against racism and then blame an entire race of people for the actions of a specific group of them.
Only real issue here is with "reverse racism." It's not a thing. It's called "racism."
Hey can you please define racism, then explain why this so called racism only exists in white childrens homes, white childrens countries and white childrens schools??
Define racism, then explain why this so called racism only exists in white childrens countries, white childrens homes and white childrens schools
@@joshc3466 You request implies that I believe those things. I don't. You should go do some research on what racism is and engage with the people of color close to you.
@@bluchippa I have and I havent found a good definition of racism. You seem to know all about it, please define it for me. I guess you cant because it doesn't exist, its a made up word to demoralize europeans. The truth is coming out, dont be on the wrong side of history..
@@joshc3466 Lol. *Joined 1 hour ago* Shouts out to the troll named Vlad. 😂
AS A BLACK PERSON, the fact that people actually have these questions, which to me seem like "no-brainers" is really enlightening! I assume that white people know better and that they just chose to ignore the problematic nature of their actions, but in reality... they don't! As Americans (and more important as humans) we need to come together and have open communications with each other about how little misunderstandings can lead to major prejudices and instinctive racist behaviors.
This is true for me. I am 60 years old, living in a small town in the mountains of Colorado and thought that it was getting better and that it was just pockets of people doing this. It took an election of a madman to the PRESIDENCY and quaratining with nothing to do but watch check social media to realize how bad it is. I don’t have any friends who are black-I have acquaintences but they are mostly younger couples and have better things to do than sit around and answer my questions. I have been reading the new books out and looking up all sorts of things on the internet so I can be of service and support others. I have realized that unconcious bias and white privilege is something I have to work on daily, like housework. I can’t just close the door on the closet and say that my house is clean. I need to do the very thing I tell my students to do-look, listen, and ask clarifying questions. So, to echo your statement, yep I really didn’t know. Everytime I heard of a shooting that made our papers, I would put the family on my prayer list (starting with Treyvon-that smile just broke my heart, can’t imagine what his mom has gone through). But that only made me feel better- it did nothing to change the system. Sorry again. Bless you all.
Yes!! I’m realizing that forming narratives about what others “should already know” doesn’t work! We all need to communicate more indeed
Trinkie ! Thank you for your words of hope. 🤘😎🤘
Thank you. Some of us thought we were not racist and that was good enough but it’s not. This stuff is so ingrained in me it’s scary. I am relearning how to become a better person, woman, human. It’s never too late.
Truer words. I'm a white 33 year old who grew up in a subversively racist household. Openly racist behind closed doors, very image friendly outside of those doors. Behind those same closed doors, my parents abused, humiliated and berated me - daily. And, really, the only moments of peace I got was when I could push my abuse into other directions to take my father's eye off of me. So, in essence, when I was saying racist, abhorrent things, I wasn't being abused. And, I honestly wish I had stood up against him sooner than it took me. It took me until I was 25 to full drop those behaviors and change who I was as a person and to fight through the PTSD and fear of standing up to the man who'd beat me half to death if I forgot to take the trash out. And, at the age of 25, I did it and cut him from my life entirely and never looked back, so that I could continue to grow and change as a person in peace.
That’s simply not true. Blacks statistically had more successful marriages and lower stats of single parent homes up until the 60s and 70s
until the dems created the welfare system in 67
Hey now don’t destroy this broken mans agenda to be famous by being a race hustler
Don’t worry, this guy doesn’t read any studies or anything, don’t expect any truths. Only a pity show.
Source?
@HollaHolla DollaDolla there is no source for that. Also countries in europe have a more generous welfare system and yet there single motherhood rating isn't as high. Single motherhood rating also went up for the white community and I doubt you would attribute that to welfare.
My Mom always told me to “ Brighten the corner where I am” “Change starts with the daily steps you take to make the world a better place” and these are quotes I live by.
This is what I see to be the biggest factor. Thinking about a "broken black family" I don't see a father figure dedicated to make his children a better version of his own, by showing them what they did wrong. If you think history is being projected on to you and making it the cause of everything you do or don't, then you are truely cursed to redo history on its own. Me coming from a family of 4, dad, mom and my older brother, I started out, like many others in the middle class, mother has a bit more than the necessary education to get a job, while my father has an engineering degree. As I grew older, I talked with my parents about, how close we are to "actual be struggeling financially" and they told me, it's not very close, but some fear is still there every month. But both kept sacrificing time, money, and nerves to make me and my brother attend the university. Even though, my aunt carelessly laughted at my parents, as we would never have the guts to complete an academic degree, because you can only complete university if your parents did. While school (before attending Uni), I had to work in my summer vacations, as money didn't grow and still doesn't grow on trees, sadly. Even while university me and my brother had to work to earn enough money to live because our parents were not able to finacally support us fully. We accepted it and it became a necessary and standard thing to do. What I want to say is, change doesn't come by its own and will never come. If you don't provide enough mental strenght to the game we are all playing, to get money to get a higher education, get past financal struggles, or anything else. YOU DIDN'T WORK ENOUGH FOR IT. This is the way I was taught and I still stand by that point, everybody can achieve anything if you only work hard for it or find any possibilities to overcome your struggles. Blaming or sobbing about others and how easy their life is, won't get you anywere and you will repeat history on its own.
Almost everything here was insightful, but the "reverse bully" analogy was off.
It is true: standing up to a bully does not make you a reverse bully. However, if you were to run from that bully and instead, take out your anger on the water boy, you would be a bully. In a similar way, confronting systemic racism and racist power-holders is not reverse racism. That does not mean reverse racism is not a problem. When minorities stereotype all white people (including children!) in negative ways and adopt an "us" vs "them" mentality, that re-enforces the racial divide.
Nicole, yes the analogy was off, but in reality, there is no such thing as reverse racism. There's simply racism. If a black person stereotypes white people, that's stereotyping, not racism. At the same time, if the mayor of Atlanta (a black woman) fires someone because they are white and she wants to replace that person with a black person or another person of color simply because they're not white, that would be racism. Racism is discrimination based on race. Stereotyping only becomes racism when you commit an act based on that stereotype. That makes your action racially motivated. I can believe a stereotype all day, but only when I take action (discriminate) does it become racism. Now, of course, inaction can actually be active (or action), in many instances. For example: If I'm an employer I can choose to not hire a person because I don't like their race. My inaction (not hiring the person because I don't like their race) is in reality, action, and is racism.
Also, saying reverse racism is real actually is a condemnation of white people. You're basically saying that racism is something only white people can do, or that racism is inherently a white trait. So when someone who's not white does it, it has to be "reverse racism." Is that what you believe?
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" Also, saying reverse racism is real actually is a condemnation of white people. You're basically saying that racism is something only white people can do, or that racism is inherently a white trait. So when someone who's not white does it, it has to be "reverse racism." Is that what you believe?
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No, "reverse racism" is just the word I have heard for racism held by blacks against whites, and I didn't think to be offended. It made sense just because racism is usually used to describe a privileged majority discriminating against a disadvantaged minority. When blacks are racist against whites, we have something of the reverse happening: the minority is self-isolating and lashing out at accessible members of the majority. The word reverse racism also makes sense because the racism that whites dished out for centuries is being dished back.
When it is dished back, it almost always hits the wrong individuals. White people who rarely-to-never hire blacks and exclude them from their social circles do not take a hit if those blacks become racist. It is the people who want to work together and be friends that will be hurt, and also the people who are most vulnerable.
"Stereotyping only becomes racism when you commit an act based on that stereotype. That makes your action racially motivated. I can believe a stereotype all day, but only when I take action (discriminate) does it become racism. Now, of course, inaction can actually be active (or action), in many instances. For example: If I'm an employer I can choose to not hire a person because I don't like their race. My inaction (not hiring the person because I don't like their race) is in reality, action, and is racism."
It takes less than a second out of a racist's day to throw out a resume, but guess what? He's a racist 24/7. Racism, as I think of it, doesn't come and go with the opportunities to act on it. If someone has an "us" vs."them" mentality where their race is "us" and minorities are "them" ; and they attribute to "them" all bad traits, that in-group bias is going to influence their "gut feelings", perceptions, and judgments. No matter how "color blind" they think they are being, they will always be stepping on the black people.
@@1PatMetheny I agree with what your saying but would you call it when let’s say a white person says the n word or says they hate a race. Or vice versa I’m genuinely interested in what that would be called since it’s not racism
I dont like the term "reverse racism" because being racist to white people isn't reverse racism its just racism. Reverse racism implies its only a black and white thing
@@nonameneeded7431 Im not reading that whole para because icba. but can you not say "blacks" since I am not juts a colour. instead say "black people" because it is less offensive.
THANK YOU SIR! I'm an old White man, born in the South. I was split between a good, loving family and an Extremely racist family. I have no idea who my father is. My mother's first husband (adoptive father), KKK. I never fit in except when living with the loving family. I feel real change in the air. I will continue using my White privilege to be an Anti-Racist. It's projects like yours that will touch folks that we weren't sure woukd ever change. I fear I won't live to see true racial equality in this country. Like Mr. Baldwin said, how long do Black folks have to wait for this progress that White folks talk about.
How much did they pay you to write your B.S. statement. Easy to spot the shills wring fake comments.
Mr. Gordon, your upbringing sounds similar to mine. I doubt there will ever be a day without racism, but I keep hoping. 😁
@@WayneDome-dm8iu well then I guess you should feel a sense of accomplishment
James Bond Every human needs to be anti-racist until this shit ends.
@@brattingprincess Nah bro, that's for losers.
“My ancestors were slaves 400 years ago so that’s why my cousin abandoned his family”
Imagine Europeans being like this :D
"I left my kids cause Genghis Khan raided us 1000 years ago"
@Willco No no no no, please don't just point fingers at a whole race. That makes you look stupid. Instead, provide some information as of why. I don't agree with you, but I want to hear why you immediately point at white people for misfortune in the world.
Yea but it makes sense. 5 attempts at families, with each failed family causing issues that could lead to more failed families. I don’t think it’s the only factor but it makes sense.
@@madisong8213 I think you meant... "makes you look like a racist" which is more accurate than stupid... but equally ignorant
Lmao... He does gloss over certain changes in the black community made between Jim Crowe era and today. He's also pretty good at shifting negative perspectives away from, and relocating accountability of black people to other peoples. I respect what he's doing, but I think he avoids the real uncomfortable conversations.
I would also submit that financial struggles are a key component in marriages ending in divorce which contributes to single parent households. With the financial inequity from systemic racism present in our country, I would suggest contributes to the cascading downfall of black families. Thanks for blazing this trail Emmanuel, you are a true pioneer!
Even the fact of what we are fighting now. Unnessicary incarserations. Slave prison systems. An unjust law system that does serious damage to families.
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@@tinker651 You are so right. The prison system is a multibillion dollar business and they are using the education system as a pipeline. It is sad!
But then why do first and second generation Asian immigrants stay married despite experiencing similar levels of poverty?
@@Nork490 I believe language barrier has a big part to do with it. Immigrating to a new country, learning a new language, learning a new culture, navigating and working toward security and prosperity can be difficult alone. Asian also operate out of shame culture. This is a whole other can of worms, but in Asian culture divorce is viewed as failure, and the social impact is far different than western culture. Lots of other reasons but these few things come to mind
I’m black and my dad abandoned my family when I was only 3 yrs old. I haven’t seen him since but I’m more determined to be successful and have enough to provide for my future family. I’m not there yet, but I won’t give up 🙏🏽 Don’t give up either on your goals!
My husband of 20 years and after four kids is still here and is nothing like his broken family. We love them, but want to do things differently for our children.
You can do it and leave a lasting legacy for your children
@@babythebabyslings Good job! It is definately doable but most if the time the dysfunctional family members who dont get intervention never seem to figure out what you did... and as a result family relationships do not endure. You can lead a horse to water...
I'm black and my father was there as I am for my son. I do things slightly different than him. It goes to show you that its life isn't definite. You dont know if your father was going to be an actual father just because he is present and that goes for the mom as well. I try to learn and pull from everyone learn from your and their mistakes and you WILL be successful. Good luck in life to you.
I cannot relate personally but my father's dad was not in his life however my dad was an amazing father to my brother and I (his bio kids) and my older (2) siblings , who father was not in their lives. You're dad missed out of seeing a good child, turn into a great adult, who will become an amazing parent. Keep your head up, you're on the right track!
negligentgiant thank you 💜
I’m sorry but, Emmanuel, giving that question about “white history month” air time was generous. As a white person, as soon as I heard “white history month” I was like, wait...seriously? Do you know anything about how history is portrayed in most schools? The reason the is Black History Month is because Black People have notoriously been excised from most of American history! It was very compassionate of you to spend time answering that question. It just shows how far we still have to go together. As an educator, I promise you, I will do my best! Thank you for what you are doing with this series!
That question burns me lol Can’t understand where it stems from. White history month is every month. Lol
I submit that White History Month is every DAY
Vesperitis LoL think everybody should have a mandatory black American history class. Don’t think people really understand.
It has to get addressed. There are still lots of people who genuinely don't understand how it is different. That's why these videos exist. I think of them as racism 101.
It comes down to narcissism, imho. The sense that if a group I'm not in gets that attention for a month, why shouldn't I? There's a complete ignorance behind the sentiment. The people who feel that way have a lot to learn and a lot of maturing to do.
Your going to blame slavery on the high amount of dead beat dads in america? Get real. I am 60 yrs old and was the first class of bussing and integration. I got bused 45 min to the west side of Pasadena . Then is was the ghetto. Most of my black friends didnt have fathers at home. I always felt so bad for them. But it had nothing to do with slavery, it was a baby daddy mentality and lack of respect for women.
I'm gad someone like you is speaking up. These days, not many people respect ideas of those who are your age. As someone who is on the younger side, I've heard people insult those who are older, and often call them "boomers" or tell them that they don't know jack. Besides that, thank you.
Absolutely. Lack of God has caused families to splinter. I was listening to a lady play Cardi B on her phone in a lobby and it was degradation all the way around.
And then I work in the medical field where as a white person I am in the minority, as we have black doctors and black nurses and they have stable families. Its a choice of what path you want to follow...stay in the past or work on the future.
BTW my I have many relatives that live barely above poverty and they get tired of hearing that they have "white privilege".
Well, we can trace it. Go look at what welfare did to the family unit. Not just black folk. The people on welfare, it was not good for a family unit. The worst part, it was very good for fertility. Meaning, they were having more kids, with less guidance, foundation and structure.
@@madisong8213 well im not suprised. their way of thinking back then was terribe. Most of them stay in that mindset till they grow old. ofc not all of them, but alot of them
The concept of the deadbeat dad is a byproduct of European culture, which has a categorization of legitimate and illegitimate children. In a lot of African cultures, there are heavy community aspects, which is hard to have in the United States since all the successful ones are either bombed by the government or terrorized. So the more that enslaved Africans bought into the concept of western society, the more normal "deadbeat fathers" became a thing.
Thank you for these conversations. I'm a Dad who is listening and hearing so I can raise my 5 year old daughter better than I was raised. Wish I could come on an episode and talk with you.
Please keep up the great work.
That gives me hope
Yesss Chris! Thank you! Let's raise up a new generation of new thinking and accepting children!
Chris Miller, me, too. What a great teacher he is.
Chris Miller talk to the black people in your immediate surroundings. Reach out to black educators at your local universities. Many non-black people in his threads want to sit with him because he is famous. If you are serious about changing, converse with people you are more likely to encounter.
WTF!!!! THIS DUDE IS CULTURE APPROPRIATING ADOS(AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY) CULTURE...HE NOT ONE OF US...HE COMES FROM A NIGERIAN SLAVE TRADING FAMILY AND DIDN'T GREW UP WITH OR HAVE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AS ADOS....HE DON'T NOT HAVE THE SLAVERY JIM CROW AND MASS INCARCERATION IN HIS LINEAGE...HE AND NO OTHER IMMIGRANT COULD NEVER SPEAK FOR ME OR MY PEOPLE.....HIM AND THE PEOPLE BACKING HIM ARE SICK DISRESPECTFUL INDIVIDUALS TO MY ANCESTORS...AND THE FACT THAT THEY'RE USING THE DEATHS OF GEORGE FLOYD & BREANNA TAYLOR TO GRIFT THEY WAY IN TO A 💰BAG💰 MAKES IT EVEN MORE EGREGIOUS 🤬🤬🤬😡😡...THIS IS WHITE SUPREMACY USING THESE AFRICAN AND CARIBBEAN BODY SNATCHERS TO TO AVOID AN ACTUAL REAL CONVERSATION WITH A BLACK MAN LIKE ME AND THE BLACK MEN THAT HELP RAISE ME THAT IM RELATED TOO GREW UP WITH AND HELP RAISE...THEY DON'T WANT ANY CONVERSATIONS WITH THE N**** (ADOS) THEY CREATED....THEY WANT CONVERSATION WITH "AFRICAN AMERICAN"😒....THEY KNOW TO AVOID THE AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF CHATTEL SLAVERY
Comparing fatherless homes and slavery has no correlation or whatsoever. Slavery has ended and it is your responsibility to take care of your kids, making sure that your kids are not driven by criminal acts and making sure that he can go to school. There are a lot of African immigrants coming to America and succeed even though they have much less favorable circumstance than average African Americans. Self Accountability is the key for you all to have a better life.
Not only did slavery end, but the black family was more intact in the immediate following decades than it is now. It's actually gotten worse SINCE the Civil Rights movement. So his excuse (which is what it is, regardless of what he calls it) doesn't hold water.
@@alansands256 indeed this man needs to listen to Thomas Sowell
@@cadestekly6410 Yes. Who do you think I initially learned that from. Check out Thomas Sowell's biography documentary here on TH-cam
What I find interesting is that he felt taking the time to “explain” it was more important than addressing the problem. The cycle just keeps on giving.
@Ivan Coria Ivan, what do you think of Thomas Sowells thoughts on this issue?
It’s so difficult as a 59 year old white woman, who was raised with unnamed racism in my family - not out of purpose, but of ignorance - to know how to relate, understand and support our black community. It’s helpful to hear you, to yearn to understand, to change what we were unknowingly taught, and to teach my children and grandchildren to love and respect all humanity. To right the wrongs done to an entire people not of their choosing. Thank you for helping me struggle through to understand and to help in any way I can. With honesty and sincerity. I hear you and appreciate you.
At the start when hes talking about slavery and how that has to do with the amount of single black mums raising kids, I don't see how the past has a direct influence on a black man now who decides to leave his kids.
I agree. It’s something that has roots in slavery but it’s not the reason.
Yea. It doesnt explain much about the problem today. He didnt really answer it.
Rome wasn't built in a day ... and you can't build a culture in a generation.
I’ve always heard it was the welfare system that caused the change and that before there weren’t as many single parents
Your history is who you are, your history shapes you and your character both on an individual and group level. Just like someone who experienced trauma as a child will grow up disturbed and probably have violent tendencies, and may treat his kids the same way he was treated, thus passing on the trauma
I really don't know just where to begin so, I will just say God be praised for a young man like you. I thank you, and I am praying for you. I am passing on your video to everyone I know. Thank you for speaking a pure and unapologetic truth about us.
@@joshlee5711 I'm glad you brought that up. Luke 10:25-37! Perfect information, my dear Lee.
Luke 10:25-37 New International Version (NIV)
The Parable of the Good Samaritan
25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”
27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]”
28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”
29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”
30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’
36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”
37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”
Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”
@Tj Mayfield Luke 10:25-37 is one of my favorite verses in the and I hope he (J and Lee) refers to it since he can only listen to a word from the Bible. However, it is safe to assume that not everyone that listens to Mr. Acho is a Christian; this is not limited to a particular religion and judging him for trying to inform us the best way he knows is unfair.
God is Good stay blessed dear
@@joshlee5711 you know this is just episode 4, right? Just because he hasn't talked about what you want yet, doesn't mean he won't. And I think it is a great time to have meaningful conversations about race and gender! What would you like to talk about?
@@joshlee5711
I want to take a moment to say thank you for these videos. I am a white man who works for a nonprofit in a predominately black neighborhood. There are issues that I don't understand, but I'm doing everything I can to become educated. Some of the best people I've ever known and closest friends I've ever had came as a part of this job. There is racism in my family history. I've never denied that. But, I never want that to be said of me, not even a little bit. You are helping me learn so much through these uncomfortable conversations. Please keep doing what you're doing. It is impacting my life in a very positive way. God bless.
One of my favorite quotes is "Be the change you wish to see". So, I am trying to change, to let go of the bias I didn't even know I had. I am not only listening, but I am truly hearing. Thank you for being willing to have the uncomfortable conversations. There are those of us out here who are wanting to continue to be and bring the change. ❤❤
I love this saying I put it right by my bedroom door. Its is the first thing I read to start my day and the last thing I read at night.
@DoubleJ Yup.
I came from one of the most broken family that I ever heard of now I can continue to use that as a reason for my failures or I can use that to fuel my successes. Anything or any way to blame the white man amazing
As a Gen X person, the concept of being “colorblind” was constantly reinforced and upheld as the ideal. I wonder, though, if that might be why so many people my age are now just waking up to these issues. If you profess to be “colorblind” then there is no incentive to research and think critically about racial issues, much easier to pretend they do not exist, and ignore any role we as individuals may play in perpetuating our own racial biases.
As a fellow Gen Xer, this is right on the money. I remember the word "colorblind" well. I've become awake to how my education was so exactly that - "colorblind". No longer will I use that term (except in the medical sense) and will continue to further my education of all "colors" and cultures.
Another Gen Xer here, I think our generation was taught implicitly to be colorblind, not see color, and that color shouldn't matter. To many of us, color didn't matter to us. But I've been learning over the last 4-5 years that we *need* to see color. By not seeing color, we are ignoring the pain of and injustices against the Black community. We need to celebrate our diversity and differences. And we need to step up and be anti-racist. No longer can we simply be not racist.
I'm a Black genXer. I never had the privilege of being colorblind. Ppl who didn't look like me were sure to make sure of it.
@@lynnhettrick7588 The sentiment of 'colorblind-ness' was good for most professing it. It came from a good place. The problem is, when you don't "see color" you don't see injustices influenced by color.
@@LabGoats Yep, that's what I've learned. Being colorblind ignores the generations of pain felt by the Black community. We cannot heal until we see color and how that has built a system of racism in the US.
Glad this is happening now. These conversations are long overdue.
The problem from what I see is a two pronged issue.
1. White people cant relate. In fact I think the only ones who can relate to an extent are combat vets who have been overseas. I have always said until you have been to a place where you have to be in a constant state of guard you just cant know.
2. There are alot of African Americans who just simply dont want to have an OPEN discussion. To them it is all about you owe me and that's it. And that does rub people the wrong way.
@@mikemarek6243 Also the "I don't want equality. I want you and your children to suffer like we have." minority within a minority. That won't move us forward. That will put us at each other's throats. Emmanuel's approach is super effective because it is non-threatening and lays a heavy burden of responsibility on us without the guilt that bogs down action.
What conversation? it was a guy spouting surface level easy to debunk nonsense in a camera for 7 minutes. which is better than 10 minutes with celebrities validating his opinions with scripts but not by much.
Thank you Emmanuel! You are such a bright light and a beautiful soul! I’m so glad we have you helping us navigate this time- praying white people, myself included, will do the work and learn to be better! 🙏
@Tom Swain Have you ever been questioned by the police because you "fit the description"?
Happy I found this by accident on Father's Day. I shared it along with my Father's Day wishes to so many people and will continue to do so. As a teacher you have inspired me and the new lessons I will teach when speaking to my diverse group of students from now on. Thank you Sir.
His first point means nothing because black single parent rate jumped from 25 percent (in the 1960s) to 75 percent present day. 25 percent 100 years after slavery was abolished and now its 75 percent I don’t see how something that only started a long time after slavery was abolished could be caused by slavery
The single motherhood went up in the white community as well. It is very misleading to paint this as mostly a black issue.
@@aomorzon well the jump wasn’t nearly as dramatic, single white parent rate is only 38 percent currently.
@@aomorzon so it is a mostly black issue.
@@-i6313 it doesnt matter if the jump isnt as dramatic, it demonstrated that some societal force is increasing single motherhood. Besides blacks people do have unique challenges like being shot by police, poverty and lack of access to a decent education. The fact that it went up faster for blacks is more evidence blacks are more vulnerable and that is because of systemic racism and historical oppression.
@@aomorzon everyone has challenges that others don’t, I’ve been harassed by police many times but so have a lot of my white friends, if you really think cops shoot black people because they are black your just ignorant, if you don’t try and fight the police you won’t get tazed/shot, the best thing to do is comply with their orders and you won’t have an issue.
There is no such thing as "Reverse Racism". Racism is racism, no matter where it comes from.
Sarah Kottke What part of the system specifically? What injustice in the system is it you’re looking to remove? I will wait.
Cheyenne Casteel You know, it’s “the system”. The system that we don’t like, because it’s broke. The broke system
@@5673hfueb Is the system racist? No. But can the system be weaponized? Yes. There are more white Americans than there are black Americans. So by default, there are more white Americans that fill positions within the system. Do racist live among us today? Yes. Are all of those racist open about their hate/prejudice? No. But they do use the system against those they...um...well...dislike. The system wants to be fair across the board, but the bad apples within the system spoil everything. Is anyone safe? No. But certain groups are picked on more than others. The group really feeling the brunt of this systematic bullying are probably the ones you've been hearing being very vocal lately.
prejudice and racism are two different things. prejudice and hate can be found in all colors. racism can only come from power held by majority culture - in the US, that's white Euro-centric culture. So it always needs to be looked at with a system.
That is true in these times. As a rainbow is no longer a representation of the covenant of God, but a representation of a person's sexuality. Gay is no longer means "happy". Aids no longer means to help or a misspelled way for a chewable diet candy. The point is that our words change and sometimes we change with them and not in a good way. Race should have always meant species, not a certain ethnic group or skin color of a human. "We", are only one race...the human race. Racism is something totally misunderstood and misdirected so that this system of "racism" can continue and not be challenged. The true definition of "racism", points to one dominate and suppressive ethnic group over another by the majority. No minority ethnic group in America can be "racist" against white people in America. They can be other defining words that equate hate in a similar way, but not racist. Black people in American can not practice racism, but they can hate just as equally.
Black people in a black country can be racist (socially, economically) and other oppressive ways against lessor black ethnic groups because they are the majority vs the minority. The same can happen in other ethnically dominated countries.
It is projected that around 2024 whites will be a minority in America. This still does not mean black people can be racist to white people. Black people will still be outnumbered by whites in America. I don't know who will be the majority at that point but it may be Hispanics (even though "Hispanic" is not a race or ethnic group within itself) or it may be a non-majority minority country by then and I think that will be a good thing for America. Maybe we can get past this thing of insisting that someone has to be racist. Maybe we can get past that particular hate. Hate will always be with us, but maybe we can challenge the next form. I am quite tired of this one!
Thank you, Emmanuel, for another episode. I wish you could do one everyday, to tell you the truth. There is so much to talk about and learn. I thank you especially for creating a SAFE space of love, kindness, and learning.
I love these conversations. They are very thought provoking
"So wearing braids as a white person or borrowing black culture, that's not the issue, Just make sure you know the history."
You might want to follow your own advice. Hairstyles like dreadlocks, ponytails, and styles similar to french braids, have been used in Europe, Africa, Asia, and the Americas, for thousands of years. A white person braiding their hair is not borrowing from black culture. It's simply borrowing from human culture. Thousands of years ago, everyone in the world was a lot more similar. Most people were in tribes, and those who didn't braid their hair ended up with natural dreadlocks, because that's what happens when you don't comb your hair for years and decades.
I also disagree with your bully metaphor used to assert that there is no such thing as reverse racism. Just because some white people in the past were racist against black people and that was wrong, doesn't mean that it isn't still also wrong for a black person to be racist against white people today. A black person perpetrating aggression or abuse against a white person simply for having the same skin as his old highschool bully isn't standing up against their bully, they're just bullying someone who had nothing to do with it because they're not strong enough to confront their bully or their own pain.
I was a white boy who went to an all-black school and got my head slammed into concrete and was attacked many times. I never let myself be physically defeated, and I always got threatened for defending myself. Teachers would watch the whole thing happen as people would gang up on me for their own amusement, and threaten me with suspension if I started hitting back after watching me take a beating. I would take blow after blow to the head and got concussions on multiple occasions, and I would look around at the teachers watching it happen, and see them glaring back at me, daring me to lay a hand on the people who were attacking me. My mother was attacked by rioters for being white and had her earings pulled through her ears, ripping her earlobes. My grandmother had her hair ripped out and nose broken because she was German and was accused of being a Nazi, even though she resisted them. My great grandmother fought for feminism without making a single statement by graduating from Berlin University as a woman in a time where it was still not accepted, and was killed for it (she had a sudden complication that seems to me like the result of poison, and died waiting hours for an ambulance from a hospital that was down the street when they were not busy, because Berlin was not happy with a woman graduate). My father was literally pissed on by black people when he went to their school to watch and support their football game decades ago. My mom was literally accused of being a witch by everyone in the area because she was the only white woman in the whole area. Both sides of my family have a history of being against prejudice and against oppression, and yet we've all been treated like garbage just because we're white. Almost everyone in my family is dead, now. There are only 3 of us left and we still haven't switched sides. But reverse racism doesn't exist, right? It's just what I deserve for being white and having white ancestors, even though my grandmother was the only person to survive the escape from one of the worst concentration camps in Germany after she resisted the Nazis. I'm not saying that makes me a hero by descendance, I played no part in her accomplishments, but it certainly means I don't have a debt of ancestral guilt.
You also mention black families having a drastically higher rate of single-parent homes. You cite slavery as the reason, but unfortunately the cause is much more recent than that. In the 60's, only about 20% of black homes were single-parent. But after the civil rights movement's success (or at least after it accomplished some things), some people who didn't want to see Americans united as one made efforts to infiltrate the African American culture. They made black people who rapped about guns, drugs, and ho's famous by giving them the funding, advertising, news, and opportunities to put themselves out there, while they kept ones who wrote great books and gave great speeches under the radar. They manufactured a culture where having family values is seen as gross and undesirable, while having no moral limitations whatsoever is seen as tough and cool. It's pushed through culture, the idea that a man is "square" and "uncool" if he actually has a wife and children takes good care of them.
It's great that you're inviting white people who might not have understood your side of things to come forward and see your perspective. But are you just going to talk and not listen? By claiming that there's no such thing as racism against white people, you've left the impression that you haven't put yourself in our shoes like you expect from us. Respect and understanding is a two-way street. I have tried to respect and understand you, but now I cannot because you have not met me halfway to respect and understand me in return. If your whole persona isn't just an act, and your words not a script, then I hope you read my words and wake up to the realization that we're all people, all deserving of the right to be treated with decency, and none deserving to be treated with racism. If speakers like you continue down this path, then decades from now we may find ourselves in the same boat we were in 60 years ago, but sailing the other way. Boats are destined to sink. Let us stay on land, and only leave it with a good destination.
Racism is racism regardless of the context.
Tis a pity, they can just gonna throw ad hominems at you rendering your experience/arguements infeasible.
Though Thank You you gave me another viewpoint.
Snap snap snap snap
@@eirik.9384 yall are white
@@vansoisson1222 and?
@@vansoisson1222 you know you are dismissing someone based on their color of skin and that's racist .
Thank you for being comfortable enough to have these uncomfortable conversations. Thank you for making me think. Keep up the awesome work!
I don't know if you are able to see all these comments, but I hope you know how brightly the light of our Abba God is shining through you. Your grace, compassion and patience are truly a display of the fruit of the Spirit and my sweet brother, you are bringing reformation to a broken world. This is the revival and awakening that so many people have been crying out for. John 13:35
Emmanuel the fact you handled the question about "reverse racism" so calmly really makes me respect you. I couldn't have that kind of restraint.
reverse racism is just racism
@@ethansteen8880 reverse racism, my friend, is not a thing. Its what white people cry when they feel attacked. However, white people, in no scenario, lose their privilege. Not in this society.
@Tom Swain We are in a real bad place. Leaders no where to be found and Trump knowshis margin for error is so thin that he can't crush the riots or he will get no black votes and a lot less white women votes meaning a loss.
Had this happened in Dec, oh what a different response.
Reverse racism doesn't exist, it's just racism. Bigotry is not exclusively white.
Theres no such concept as reversed racism, theres only racism.
Correct there is no reverse racism, and only racism, which speaks from a position of power, which POCs dont have. So a POC having ill will towards a white person isnt racism, as they have no power systemically, and no matter how many insecure white tears are shed by victim complexed delusional white people, it is not racism. Cope.
Yeah there is
@@dominicklpz So,.. how would you define it then, what exactly does the "reverse" part entail then,.. as in reversed to what exactly?
@@D3ST72 prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a dominant or privileged racial or ethnic group.
I look up definitions. I don’t have my subjective version of what it is. Don’t argue that it doesn’t exist. Argue that its just as wrong as racism.
@@dominicklpz "membership in a dominant or privileged racial or ethnic group",..
so, this means white people right?
do these people think, only white people can be privileged and/or dominant?
anyway,.. thats how they can make the argument, that racism against these groups of people are "reversed," because "normal" racism, is when a white person is prejudice against a brown person,
this only makes any sense, if you believe that racism and slavery was "invented" by white people.
“Power is not in anger, it’s in action.” - might need to get a poster with that quote.
Sometimes they collide.
Nick Wertzberger I agree!
Sometimes action is interpreted as anger, though. Especially if that action is 'against you'. Saying Black Lives Matter is an action, yet how many people interpret that as anger? While borne out of anger, frustration, and desperation, the action of declaring that is not itself angry, yet it is perceived and vilified as if it is a command to murder people. So while action, meaningful action, may be more productive, it is often borne of anger, and should not be perceived as less powerful simply because of its origin.
Sometimes it's the gift of anger that propels us into action.
true dat!
So much conversation needed... such an important channel.
Hmmm, your first point I’d also like to point to the school to prison pipeline, hard to be a good husband and father in prison.
"The New Jim Crow" by Michelle Alexander really opened my eyes to this simple truth.
@@craigbowie8925 Should be required reading in high school right alongside "Slavery By Another Name: The Re-Enslavement of Black Americans from the Civil War to World War II" by Douglas A. Blackmon. I'm white. Those books were absolute game-changers for me.
JesseArt Thank you! Going to look for that book tomorrow...
Craig Bowie thank you as well 😊
Thank you guys for piping in on this one. It's hard to ignore the Jim Crow vagrancy laws that sent black men back into slavery when after being set "free", and then the prison industrial complex in the new Jim Crow which essentially serves the same purpose.
Prior to 1964 74% of black families were two parent families.
Look at welfare to see where families were destroyed.
You ever wonder why in a court room the judge and jury need to see a defendant at all? Unless they chose to testify, why can't they stay unseen and anonymous so that no prejudices can take place? Or, at least give defendants the choice? Just a thought that popped into my head.
Being a white man, @Emanuel Acho educating me with valuable words for me to pass on to all my white brothers and sisters, but if they would just come and watch these "Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man" videos they could be educated thru my Black Brother's words and with a way that I can't see anyone tuning into this and leaving in the middle of valuable lesson. Someone has gotta be deaf, dumb, and blind to not be able to understand these words. It's a damn shame that it's took numerous murders by the hands of cops to open people's eyes. I can listen to Emmanuel until the phone dies. The first 3 episodes were so touching that this time I'm sitting here waiting on Episode 4 to start live. I'm a new damn of Mr. Acho ! 💯👍
The defendant should be present to know what is said on their behalf, to be able to defend themselves, and to know that they got a fair trial. I understand your idea, the intent behind it, but I think that the downside of removing yourself from the process is too great and opens the door to much worse abuses than judgement
TheRealBamaChris 1 good stuff man! Text the link to the video to all of your friends with IMPORTANT PLEASE WATCH!! at the top. I’ve done it and my white friends were amazed.
@@rae.azrael One way camera and microphone? And being able to shout into the ear of only the defending attorney, and he/her to you? I'd even add a way to testify without being identified by race. But, this will likely never happen...just a thought.
Hey, but! Imagine a woman who is accusing a man of rape being able to do so without people staring at her?
First TH-cam video I’ve set a reminder for
Reilee Meyer OMG! Me too!!
Just thank you for opening my eyes to things that were there that I have never seen. Your “ Conversations” series has been so good for me. Hopefully I am a much better human as I watch and listen to your wisdom and practice what you teach. Again, thank you...
1. Black fathers being absent is the number one reason for issues within the black community. I don’t think slavery has to do much with it either since a child was more likely to have both parents during slavery than they are today. Plus I just don’t see how it would affect today. 2 people have a kid and because of slavery they don’t stay together? Maybe someone can explain it to me. I think it comes down to culture and society in general. White single parent rates have went up as well so I think it has more today with modern culture in general and how marriage and sex is viewed.
2. I can respect what you’re saying here. Understand the history. Sure. But Vikings wore braids as well so what if a white person is paying homage to their history in that situation? It’s a lot more complex than just if someone wears braids they’re stealing black culture.
3. Someone else in the comments put it best, I don’t remember his name but it was perfect. Reverse racism isn’t like standing up to a bully. It’s like becoming a bully and bullying those that looked like your bully.
2 people have a kid and because of slavery they don’t stay together? Maybe someone can explain it to me
It's only excuses to get rid of the responsability of his own misery
@Chlem Elisha I never said father are irresponsible at all.
In the contrary, as women get pregnant, it's their responsability to make a baby with a man that she knows would stay with her.
The first thing a single mother did is not to think for the baby but for herself. She wanted a baby, she had a baby, no matter what future she can offer to him. She didn't think about the neighborough she will make him live, she didn't think about the money he would cost, she doesn't think if the father is a good man, she only wanted a child and she made a child. We are in 2021, I don't give the right to a mistake, she had all the contraceptive she neeed to avoid that.
If she is grown enought to have a sexual life, she is grown enought to know the consequences that can resurt of it.
Single mother is the fault of single mother, that's all, no matter the color of the person.
As long as women will think that love is enought to have a child, the more feminism grows, the more single women there will be.
Being single mother use to be a shame and it was right because all the dammages and consequences are supported by the child who will born with less chances than a child with 2 parents at home.
@Chlem Elisha french people use to say men propose, women dispose.
It means it's on the woman to choose the father of their children, not the opposite.
Men don't get pregnant, women do.
In all times, in the contrary of what feminism say, women are the one who choose their husband.
The only one who did not in the western world are the ancestors of the most powerfull, influent, wealthy and mighty families and the conclusion is simple:
When a woman have no words to say about the man she would marry, the whole familly prospers because every kind of reason have been took in consideration except for love because love would never give you something to eat, something to sleep under, something to warm you, it can only lead to disapointment or whatever and by so, the misery of the child.
@Chlem Elisha Give me a point where the woman isn't responsible to get pregnant ?
She have been raped, kept prisonner until she delivered, ok, the responsability is not on her but as far as I can see, it's the only case.
Otherwise, she have all at her disposal to get out this situation before it happens.
In France, we have a wellcare for single mothers. I knew at least 2 girls getting pregnant on purpose to get this wellcare to help them get out from her parents. So much for the independance of women by the way and the worst of it, the 2 young men (18yo) have to be responsible while they didn't ask for it and only wanted too have fun like all young men their age want.
I never knew a young man wanting a child at 18yo but I knew several girls who had a baby at this age because they wanted it.
Are 18yo young women are grown-up enought to be mother ?
White fathers are just as absent as Black fathers! That's a truth you all don't want nobody to know!
As Christopher Reeve said: hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles. You are truly my hero!
I keep thinking he should play Superman: he carries himself with the Man of Steel's dignity
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What "overwhelming" obstacle did this man overcome?
@@proudkafir926 To be sure, none. Another privileged crybaby with horrible logical fallacies.
@@nathanbates9561 Me reading your braindead comment: th-cam.com/video/1j58AlNUbEs/w-d-xo.html
@@directorforplastic7929 With nothing substantive to add, it sounds like your reply was the brain dead comment but I suppose that is the ailment of the left after all.
On the subject of reverse racism, I find your analogy poetic but off-target. Personally, I don't like the term "reverse racism" - I prefer to simply view _anyone_ judging another person - especially pejoratively - based on the color of their skin rather than the content of their character (God bless and rest well, Dr. King) as an example of "racism." I am not equating the racist behavior of a white person in America towards a black person with the opposite - they carry different weights based on history, context, and, on average, power. However, if a black person negatively judges a white person for no other reason than the color of their skin, then they are being racist.
Being black (or Jewish, Latinx, Asian, etc.) does not inoculate you against being racist. The recent fashion of narrowing the definition of racism to include some kind of power dynamic is sophistry at best, and dodging responsibility for one's beliefs and actions at worst. It is part of the human condition to be able to hold generalized assumptions about categories of people, and ridiculous to assume that black people, say, are any less human in this regard.
Racism is racism, no matter who it is practiced by. Again, it's weight and impact varies greatly by degree, source, target, context, power differential, etc., but it is still racism.
Racism isn't just judging a person for their colour of their skin. It's deeming that they're the more superior race and that is why they're targetting that person because of their skin colour. Throughout history, White people have been the oppressor and have deemed to be more superior. United States? they had a literal genocide of the Indigenous peoples. they Brought Black people over to be slaves. And that's just to name a few. There are no racial slurs for white people. There has never been oppression of white people throughout history. So to be RACIST towards white people is impossible. There are stereotypes sure. But that's not racism.
@@timothyng5297 man, I would hate to be as delusional as you
@@timothyng5297 Tell that to my 5 yo child who was accused of being racist solely on the fact that he was white. After that incident was then bullied and tormented to the point that he is currently in therapy at the age of 13 due to the abuse. So no racism is not okay in any form.
@@timothyng5297 there has never been oppression of white people throughout history?
@@eirik.9384 Not in the USA. There's racism all around the world. But we're talking about reverse racism as it regards to America. White people have always been the dominating force since time. White people benefitted from the system and still do. Right now, we're just saying put yourself in our shoes. It's not about being Anti-White. We want white people to feel what we've felt for hundreds of years. It's not that hard. White people are not oppressed in the U.S.
I'm a 77-year-old white man who has an answer as to why I don't use the "n-word" regardless of what others say or do: I'm uncomfortable using that word. So I don't.
its that simple
im 20 and feel the same way
I find it to me more descriptive of the person saying it, than the person it is directed at. I don't care if people use it. I understand why black folk care and it is certainly valid, but we need to put it into perspective and not destroy those that want to use it in proper context. Which people wrongly say that there is no context. Well yeah, there is. Intent is being destroyed, which is dangerous. Using it to describe someone, yeah, there is no context for it. Using it to tell people the word that was used, sure. Because if you say, "n-word" take a wild guess what 99% of people say in their head? They will even quibble about whether or not it ended in -a or -er. So by their own quibble, they admit that there really is context?
@@sandyracky9265 wait. so basically what ur saying is if people want to use it in the original way it was used in (to degrade and dehumanize black people) we shouldnt care because if we do they will feel left out..?
@@bittersweet6192 No. I am not saying that at all. Not even close to what I was saying. Try again.
"Statistically you may be right", but that would ruin the whole fake narrative.
Heaven forbid when stats prove u wrong
“Statistically you may be right but that hurts my feelings so imma just ignore it”
Why is this so short? I just found this channel/series today and have watched all the episodes. I listen to them like a podcast. Thanks for making them. :)
They didn't want to write a longer script.
I am truly inspired by having a man like Emmanuel Acho being on the forefront on a platform like youtube to hold conversations that need to be seen and heard from all walks of life. As an Asian American who grew up in the South and at one point lived in a predominantly Black and Hispanic neighborhood, I want to take those valuable friendships and experiences that I was able to create and share it with my peers and family members who have not been exposed to certain neighborhoods or unfamiliar communities. I also remember a moment from an interview in which a white man was asking Morgan Freeman his thoughts on black history month. Morgan replied, "ridiculous, you're gonna relegate my history to a month." In other words, it's not a good thing that the black community needs a month for their overcomings because they shouldn't have had to go through hundreds of years of pain, suffering, and discrimination. Unfortunately, having a month dedicated to the black community has become passive for many including non-whites as well and proactive steps need to be taken to cause a change of hearts and perspectives around the world.
Prior to the 1960s, almost 70% of Black kids were reared in two-parent homes, and when Blacks earned much less income... all of this at the HEIGHT of racial discrimination, KKK violence, and segregation. Racist backlash to 1950s/1960s social movements promoted a gov. effort to destroy Black families and Black unity.
@Damien Krow Regardless of the cause, the 70% rate before the 1960s is factual and debunks the claim made in this video that single-parent household(ism?) was caused by slavery. Also, more importantly, wouldn't effort focused on addressing the disparity in single parenting be more fruitful than the same effort spent on racial issues?
I say it's both. I feel blacks tear themselves down with the help of outside forces. The question is who is actually black? Who consider themselves black (not what someone else think)? Also and most importantly what is black and what is synonymous to the word?
The crack epidemic contributed greatly in that era also. Maybe more 70s 80s
@@jerensteffen Not sure that it totally debunks the claim. Even in 1960, single parent households were substantially more likely in black families than white families. "According to the Census Bureau from 1960 and 2013, African -American children who lived in single-parent homes more than doubled from 22% to 55%. The same research showed that white children from single-parent homes tripled from 7% to 22%. " theblackwallsttimes.com/2017/07/20/black-family-structure-in-decline-since-the-1960s-the-home-effect/
@@vaughnfrancis9298 Fair point and thank you for pointing that out. There would still need to be some kind of evidence that the disparity you pointed out is derived from slavery, which could be any number of other causes. Even if this is provable, I'm not sure this knowledge would get us any closer to helping people overcome this adversity. In my opinion, the current approach makes people feel like hopeless victims since it doesn't provide any actionable solutions other than anger and rage and only furthers the racial/political divide, making everyone worse off.
its not, reverse racism, its just racism, no matter whos on the receiving end, calling it anything other than racism is actually racist in itself
@Gabrielle Harper '24 If I got your point, you think that white should have different rights and that is not a racism, right?
@Gabrielle Harper '24 Do you mean that every racist should be equally "racistic" to all the races except his own? And If you hate/act in another way with people of one exact race - that is not a racism? I don't think so. If you hate only [any race] and perfectly nice to other races you are still a racist, yes.
@Gabrielle Harper '24 really? majority in every country, city and street? what a nonsense. and definition says "typically one that is a minority or marginalized". Do you know what does typically mean? Usually, not always.
@Gabrielle Harper '24 I'm confused how you got that interpretation from your own definition and from what the definition is. The key word in your own definition is "typically". Typically doesn't mean always. It means most likely, most frequently, or most often. Racism is simply what you said prior to that caveat. White people can absolutely be and are targets of racists. HOWEVER, had you said they are "typically" going to be the least affected by it, that would make more sense.
Someone can call me a cracker, but at the end of the day, how is that really going to affect me? I would probably be confused at best why they felt the need to approach me to tell me that. They could call me white trash, honkey, etc, but those labels probably wouldn't fit my current internal assumptions and beliefs, so I can easily brush them off.
However, again, your "typically" can take effect for some where a white person lives in an area where they're not the majority and maybe they're harassed and attacked on a regular basis for simply being white. They would be an exception, not the rule. To apply the majority rule to the country as a whole isn't realistic and doesn't make sense, though it can vary at levels based on regions of who the majority actually is.
I live in Hawaii. I am the minority here, but I also don't personally experience racism here, so this argument doesn't even apply to me as an individual.
We should be able to accept anyone can be racist and also accept we should all strive to recognize we're different and so long as we're not actively trying to hurt or bring down people as a whole or as groups; just be more accepting. Then maybe we can learn to live together more peacefully.
Racism by definition is a perceived superiority over another person/persons because their race is inferior in contrast to their own and the attributes perceived to a group of people having because they are a certain race and those attributes being inferior to their own.
Discriminating a group of people for their race is racist, your targeting of white people saying "Reverse racism or racism towards white people cannot be racism" is a racist comment.
Thank you Emmanuel. As a white man in Australia, you have opened my eyes and encouraged me to question my own thoughts and actions. My understanding for the journey of a black man has increased thanks to your videos. Please keep them coming.
He's helping Canadians too. We have similar multicultural immigration policies. Also similar painfully ugly histories with our indigenous peoples. Perhaps their struggles will help us see the best path ahead more clearly.
Agreed, mate.
I completely understand esteeming your culture. I do not feel that your example holds up as the reverse racism perpetrated on 'whites'. And of course, there is no such thing as reverse racism. The definition of racism says nothing about any particular race or color. It is simply the idea that race factors into judgements and expectations about an individual.
As an Anglo woman who's been living in the city of Detroit for almost 30 years, I am feeling racism more than ever now. I feel seen as an oppressor simply because of my skin. No one knows my history except that I am the same color as oppressors. So I accept any aggression or lack of treatment, within reason, just to better understand what it feels like to be marginalized.
But esteeming ones culture and treating someone from another culture differently than people of your same culture are very different things. Racism is racism and it truly happens in many directions. I believe in all cases it is wrong.
Well said Maureen! As a white woman who grew up in Baltimore I know exactly how it feels to be hated just for the color of my skin. The majority of my childhood was spent being taunted, harassed and even attacked at times just for being white in a predominately black school and neighborhood. I can't control the actions of others but can only try to be the best and kindest human being I can be. I pray that someday this world will find a way past all the hurts and hating and just learn to be kind to one other. God bless!!
@@anns1921 I want to believe you, but I've heard self-lamenting from white people before and I've observed their subtle actions of clutching their purses, bringing up the cops unnecessarily, assuming (and speaking that assumption) black people are unemployed, saying "I never owned a slave" or "I don't see color" etc to be drum up resentment. Assault of course is not acceptable, and I honestly hate it for you if you've experienced that. Still, I honestly dare you to ask the people of color around you if you've ever offended them (at least thrice if they say no at first) and to stay tight-lipped while they answer you. Don't try to defend it and just listen. It would be a great opportunity to collect awarenesses and grow.
@@idwtbam have you heard white people who dont treat you as less than? Sure, there are racist whites. But in the same way that not all blacks are criminals, not all whites are racist. I think Ann is pointing out that when you've felt it yourself you tend not to propagate it.
I’m white, I have recently come to realize that even though my ancestors did not own slaves and I personally certainly have never actively tried to oppress BIPOC by living as a white person and not taking action I am complicit in the system of oppression. I directly benefit from this system of oppression. So inadvertently, yes, you and me, we are the oppressors. Now you may have been acted upon based on your race (although certainly not to the extent that black people face daily) but they were basing that presumption on consistent lived experience, not unfounded biases, and possibly your own behavior. I don’t know the situation, but based on your statement here it seems like you are generally pretty defensive and still denying the extent of the racism that Black people have historically and currently face. Also if some who is oppressed says something to an oppressor that’s all they are doing, saying something, the incident pretty much ends with the individuals. But when an oppressor says something racist to the oppressed they have the power to create and perpetuate racists systems that effect many more people then just those involved. (I recommend rooting around other comments. There are people who explained this much better than I can). I don’t mean to diminish what you experienced but it is not ‘reverse racism,’ it inherently can’t be
@@brookreed9621 "it inherantly cant be" this statement is a leap I dont follow. Why cant it be?
I really feel like we need classes in school to teach people about how racism effects black people and to answer the lingering questions some people might have. I mean required classes. Proper education is the first step to making things better. We need to have the necessary knowledge before we can know how best to act against racism.
And we can start by teaching the REAL history of the USA - not the whitewashed version most of us get.
I have to completely agree with being taught the correct history. I love your videos because as a white woman who views herself as accepting I am finding so many things I never knew and have taken for granted. Knowledge is power and so I hope you will continue to educate all of us. The videos have given my daughter and I many in-depth conversations about the current situation on racism. I struggle because I see myself as loving and accepting of others and other then trying to further educate myself about black history I am unsure what to do. I can honestly say I am ashamed at the white race and how I thought things have changed. I always thought somehow the black community needs to move forward and stop hanging onto the past, so I too am ashamed for my ignorance. I do believe there are many whites who just want to move on and forget the past because of the unjustified actions their white ancestors took.
Education is important yes. But shouldn’t be the first step. These are grown up problems. Grownups should solve them. Relying on educating kids to solve it is a form of escapism. Not saying it shouldn’t be done. It should. But it’s not the solution. Especially when nothing changes outside school. And kids are like people, you can expose them to ideas, you can have a dialogue, you can cause an interruption in their thinking or doing even, but you can’t force them to learn.
Anne P Well said. This issues were started with grown ups in the government or just rich white people. People need to see the governments implementing big steps in correcting issues in different areas, from housing, health, education, financial etc. Educating the kids is not enough because they can still be taught otherwise in their homes.
I had those lessons, lesson's on implicit Vs explicit racism, lessons on police brutality and lessons to look at and understand often misunderstood statistics such as incarceration rates etc
These conversations are not only insightful but they are "power tools" for living in this society which is so conflicted!
Thank you so very much, Emmanuel Acho!
Thank you!! You've opened my eyes and now I know how to better teach my 7 kids and so many others who are under my direct influence. I have never subscribed to a TH-cam video or channel before, although my kids do all the time. Your channel is the first one for me and I was surprised how easy it was to do that! I don't want to miss an episode and, even more importantly, I don't want my kids to miss one. I have so appreciated watching various black people speak up recently and explain their perspectives. Without that, we as white people couldn't really have this necessary paradigm shift. Calling someone racist has historically been an offensive attack. I don't believe I'm racist and it's hurtful to be labeled with that word, simply because I'm white, when I don't feel I've done anything consciously to deserve it. It is the wrong way to create the change that is needed. However, after listening to your 4th episode and then going back and listening to all of the others, I realize that I have unconsciously had racist experiences or beliefs. My sweet grandma who is the most loving woman I have ever known used to sing songs from her childhood to us and I remember her singing one that had racist content in it. I remember saying, "Grandma! That's not a good song, it's racist!" She looked at me wide-eyed and innocent and said, "What do you mean? There's nothing wrong with that song. My daddy used to sing that to us as kids." I explained that using the N word was offensive. Then she explained that nothing unkind was meant by it, it was just what they called the black people. What an eye opener it was for me and an example of what you're explaining in your episodes. We need to teach others what it means to be anti-racist and we need to do it with kindness and recognize that we don't know what we don't know. Education precedes empathy. Please keep teaching us so that we can know. Keep promoting interracial unity. It is the cure for these trying times. Your friend and sister, Jen Ashcraft
I’m not gonna lie, and people might roast me for this. But he is a very bias person
Have you seen the video "What are white people good at?" It'll make you cringe of the hypocrisy if you thought of asking similar questions
He is.... Sometimes people can't see past their own pain..
Everyone is biased. It comes from the cards life dealt us. His point of view is just that, his. Your life was not his life, so it would be hard for you to say "nah man, life isn't like this at all" If you've never lived that life. Just like if you struggled with some things it would be wrong for me to say "that's just your opinion, that's not life." But if you tell me your life was hard and this is why, I can gloss over it because my life was different. I need to understand your perspective and understand you. hopefully that makes sense, I tend to ramble sometimes and miss my point.
@@seekerowl3260 Just because everyone has a different life doesn't mean everyone is clueless about what it's like in everyone else's shoes.
In the decades spent in this world, everyone has had the opportunity to see what life is like for other people. If they're still unaware of the hardships others face and know only of their own, it's because they only care about themselves or their people and don't care the same way about the rest.
His history seemed to start with slavery.
Whew!!! Much needed convo, per usual. These are amazing! Blessings Emmanuel ✨
So I'm Hispanic and racisms exist for everyone that's how I view the world and so I never let that bring me down nor do I ever accept it as an excuse to my level success in life but I have to say your approach to it is like no other. You actually sit down and discuss the topic rather than just saying this person is racist for A and B reasons. You go into the history of it and I love it. "Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it" George Santayana. I watched 2 episodes back to back and man got yourself a new subscriber.
My parents moved our family from the big city in the early 70's when I was 3 because too many blacks were moving into our neighborhood. I was raised in a small, rural, all-white community. Racism, conscience or not, was just part of life. Anyone play the game, Eenie, meanie, miney, mo? Lets just say it wasn't a tiger I caught by the toe and quite honestly never gave it a second thought. In the wake of George Floyd's murder, I didn't understand the rioting. I didn't understand why my silence is violence. I didn't understand white privilege and denied that I have it. I didn't understand the I have been unconsciously racist my whole life. I'm awake to it now. These videos opened my eyes. I can't say how glad I am to have stumbled across them and look for new ones every day. Thank you. I'm trying to become a better person. Can't wait for Episode 5.
Please don't tell me you, as a child, was saying the N Word when playing this game. I know you were a kid and I appreciate you educating yourself now. But things like this is the reason why I'm always skeptical with allowing my kids to play with our white neighbors. In fact, I haven't allowed it for the past year.
@@t.b.4577 Please don't allow that to influence who (and what race) you allow your kids to play with. You have a perfect opportunity in front of you! You have the opportunity to change the deep set viewpoints, or biases, that you or I might have due to our upbringing, and being different!!! Isn't that exactly what this is all about?!?! Bridging the gap is more important now more than ever, because more white people are giving notice to the BLM movement, and what they truly mean by it. George Floyd didn't die in vain, unfortunately he paid the ultimate price for: 1) getting communities to understand that there IS such a thing as systematic racism, and 2) creating civil unrest until change is actually accomplished. 4 cops were fired and one is charged for murder, when has that EVER happened when a black man or woman has been wrongfully handled, or consequently, murdered?!?!
I did my best to be friends with everyone. I grew up in a very racist school. We didn't have many black people in my school, but we (at one point) had a big fight break out in our school between races (black girls vs the white "popular" girls). It was broken up very quickly, but I remember that day very vividly, and what I saw. I also remember feeling happy for the black girls, because I knew one of the "popular" girls had to have said something horrible to them. And when they were broken up, I heard one of them use the n word, so I'm pretty sure I'm not wrong. To this day, I can't confirm that theory, and it has been over 20 years since I graduated. When talking about reverse racism, I know I have it, because I find myself remembering that day, and I find myself thinking the same thing.
To think that we're finally evolving, even if it's just a little, gives me optimism. My hope is that future generations look back on this history, and wonder WTH was wrong with us! And that we as adults continue to recognize that, yes our colors are different, and yes we have biases, or preconceived notions about one another (some that we never even realized about ourselves); but we're working on it. So please, let your kids play with the white kids, it really could influence their perceptions of one another. Try touching base with the white kid's parents, they could be worthwhile people to get to know. Don't give up on white people, bias is born from misguidance, most of us aren't too far gone to learn otherwise. ✌❤
@@t.b.4577 When I was a child, we learned Tiger. I never, ever knew it used to be the n-word until decades later. I did grow up in a pretty white suburb, but my parents never said that word. We were supposedly liberal and not racist: my parents sent us to YMCA summer camp which was super-diverse and I learned a lot and basically everyone was equal because kids don't know any worse anyhow. Popularity there had Nothing to do with race.
As a young teen there in the late '60's, I was shocked to learn that having a black maid was racist: oh well. But anyhow: it was "catch a tiger by the toe". We were sheltered and innocent. Don't judge from one story.
@@t.b.4577 I think Brandon said he was in an all-white town.
@@t.b.4577 its ok when you do it but its not ok if white people dont let their kids play with non whites got it. glad im opening my mind to this whole white priveledge thing
You are a leader, an educator, an inspiration and most of all a beautiful soul. I am European, so while I cannot relate to everything that is going on in the US system and society, I am deeply touched by the loving, respectful and genuine way you lead these conversations. To me you are a role model on how to resolve conflict and bring people together. I truly believe that all problems of humanity can only be solved with love, empathy and courage to reflect on our own ignorance and lack of knowledge. We can only learn by connecting and also having uncomfortable conversations when they are necessary. Thank you Emmanuel. You make me hopeful and more courageous to ask questions even if they may be uncomfortable, listen 👂 and learn. ❤️ from Austria 🇦🇹 izzy
Thank you once again, Mr. Acho. I'm slowly getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Please keep it coming.
Yes. Me too.
WTF!!!! THIS DUDE IS CULTURE APPROPRIATING ADOS(AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY) CULTURE...HE NOT ONE OF US...HE COMES FROM A NIGERIAN SLAVE TRADING FAMILY AND DIDN'T GREW UP WITH OR HAVE THE SAME EXPERIENCES AS ADOS....HE DOESN'T HAVE THE SLAVERY JIM CROW AND MASS INCARCERATION IN HIS LINEAGE...HE AND NO OTHER IMMIGRANT COULD NEVER SPEAK FOR ME OR MY PEOPLE.....HIM AND THE PEOPLE BACKING HIM ARE SICK DISRESPECTFUL INDIVIDUALS TO MY ANCESTORS...AND THE FACT THAT THEY'RE USING THE DEATHS OF GEORGE FLOYD & BREANNA TAYLOR TO GRIFT THEY WAY IN TO A 💰BAG💰 MAKES IT EVEN MORE EGREGIOUS 🤬🤬🤬😡😡...THIS IS WHITE SUPREMACY USING THESE AFRICAN AND CARIBBEAN BODY SNATCHERS TO AVOID AN ACTUAL REAL CONVERSATION WITH A BLACK AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF SLAVERY MEN LIKE ME, THE BLACK MEN THAT HELP RAISE ME, THE BLACK MEN THAT IM RELATED TOO GREW UP WITH AND HELP RAISE...THEY DON'T WANT ANY CONVERSATIONS WITH THE N**** (ADOS) THEY CREATED....THEY WANT CONVERSATION WITH "AFRICAN AMERICAN"😒....THEY KNOW TO AVOID THE AMERICAN DECENDENTS OF CHATTEL SLAVERY
These Videos and the conversations within these videos are so vital in the growth of not only our country but all of us as a community of people. Love what you are doing my brother, keep it up!
Emmanuel, thank you for having these uncomfortable conversations. I am a 62 year old white woman who was raised in ignorance but who has always wanted the same equality for my black friends but struggled with not always knowing how to ask, to act, or to be a better friend to them. I appreciate your willingness to open my/our eyes to the truth of racism and to give me/us a chance to grow my heart to embrace my black brothers and sisters with strength and commitment to genuine love and respect. I am humbled by your actions to make a difference in our world. Sending love to you my black brother.
Let’s put this man in the White House.
"Let's put this BLACK man in the White House."
Fixed for you. :)
Based on what credentials? You've already had a black, smooth talking president and he destroyed your country.
S Irwin already had a black really? Chill out
@@Sbock86 Mr Obama was first and foremost a corporatist obsessed with "being accepted" by the big players/powerful of this world. There are plenty of big "momma" boys like him in this world, so nothing new.
In order to achieve this end, he had to essentially "renounce" his identity (as a black man). This is, once again, nothing new since the Beyonce, the Oprah, the Naomi Campbell, the Michael Jackson etc, they have all been instructed to "sell their image" one way or another to the Main Stream White Corporate Media.
In the case of Obama, that's precisely how/why he was picked/groomed to become the President...and subsequently the reason why he failed massively to make a real impact in the world.
So you see, one of the saddest things about being a black person is that you can never really "succeed" as a black person, unless you get "whitewashed" into public acceptance. When you do succeed, people who initially "accepted you" often won't allow you to talk/discuss about black matters in the open, because it makes them "uncomfortable".
And that's how a seemingly "non-racist" society strips people of their identity and confines them to living an unfulfilled life.
@@nachannachle2706 Obama was a raging cultural marxist whose intent was to destroy American society. He did a pretty decent job at it.
Absolutely beautiful soul.
😇❤❤❤😇
Thank you so much for being a voice of reason, compassion and giving us all - black, white, brown, red and yellow - a safe space to reflect and, more importantly, feel.
May your positive vibes reach out and touch the minds and souls of millions.
I am an ally! ❤
This guy is so patronizing. I’m so deeply moved that he forgives all white peoples for our apparently inescapable racism.
Awesome channel love these vids and I hope you do more! You’re doing us all a favor by doing these Acho!
This man’s words carries ridiculous weight. Not because of the logic but because compassion and communication.
Bruh, Slavery ended over a century ago. Black fathers weren’t abandoning their children as frequently in the 1960’s: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_family_structure .
Cultural appropriation is moronic. That suit that you’re wearing is based off of suits made in Europe. Is that a reason to tell you that you can’t wear it? Of course it isn’t. You can wear and like whatever you want
I did not see or hear a Black Man. I saw & heard a deeply wise and thoughtful human being. A Man that is aware of his heart and willing to lead when we need the leadership the most. I love your heart and grace. Your Nobility is an example for us all.
I see a black man AND thoughtfulness. Check out his video on colorblindness: th-cam.com/video/xfo1XJDJKSU/w-d-xo.html
I know this comment was well intentioned but...you can be a black man and a deeply wise and thoughtful human being lol. he talks about these kind of “compliments” in episode 2
Scott, why didn’t you see or hear a black man? What does a black man look and sound like to you?
Well spoken but not wise. How could you take seriously a man that thinks hair braiding started with blacks a few hundred years ago.
I'm going to have my own process embracing cultural differences in regards to color. Just to sit with your replies for the past 7 months has asked me to see more clearly. Emmanuel is asking us (me) to directly see color, not as a wall between us. But as a way to more completely embrace Black and Brown people (or anyone) and their cultural heritage. Coming from an incredibly abusive household and still living around abuse, I look to connect with anyone that is living on a playing field where there is space for everyone to thrive. Out of a desire to keep myself safe, it will take me a moment or longer to embrace cultural differences, because even today I am still not as safe as I need to be. So part of my not seeing a black man, is because I first see an ally. Another human being that wants us all to be safe and free. And right or wrong, right now that is even more important to me, than not being color blind. I just hope over time I can grow to be more curious about other peoples cultures. To see people more completely. I like in the movie Avatar when their greeting is, "I see you". This to me sounds like what your are talking about. "I see you" seems like a deeply spiritual hug between two beings as a way to remind each other that yes we are connected. That I see all of you.
Thank you for your earnest dialog- these episodes should be used in schools to teach our children how to love, understand and accept each other better. As a white woman married to a brown immigrant with mixed race children, I welcome every “uncomfortable conversation “ that can help me help my children understand their place and value in our society and in American culture
this dudes full of shit. he said his grandparents couldn't get married 5 generations ago or something to thus effect.
Frédéric Douglass a black x slave married a white woman in 1884. this was in DC. black people have been getting married way back.
if he wants to speak on such an important topic wouldn't it make sense if he knew what he was talking about?
also 90% of black children were born into 2 parent homes in late 1800s- 75% in 1960s and today its approx 25%.
Emanual thanks -- and please remind people that "Black Lives Matter" is more than a statement. It is a reminder! It is not meant to disrespect any other group.
Señor Blondie no, it’s not.
There's BLM the statement and BLM the organization.
@@senorblondie LGBTQ agendas. Do you mean equal rights?
We would love to see Uncomfortable Conversations between a Black Man and a White Police Officer. Thank you for what you’re doing!
I feel there would be the obvious response. All officers and all black people aren't bad or prejudice, which is a true statement but do the word match the actions. I feel like that's a topic that people just don't want to accept what is.
Jubilee did a video between BLM and law enforcement
th-cam.com/video/S6rDvbQ-mz4/w-d-xo.html
Brian this is a great suggestiin. I admit to being shocked or scared when i read your comment (still processing which). That tells me this is a conversation needed for all of us. We’re scared of each other lol
Yes!!!!. I've had conversations with the Chief of Police in our tiny rural southern town about the importance of anti-racist work. I've sent him info & given him book suggestions. I sent him a link to this series as soon as I found it. I hope he watches.
@Brandon Fortino i strongly agree and feel the same, but you would be amazed (or not )how overwhelmed people are with stupidity. I can't call it ignorance because I believe they know better or they willfully choose not to know at all. It's at a point where I'm starting to believe that prejudice is apart of them genetic make up.
People would say all blacks are bad and those are the same ones who would say it's only bad apples in the police department. Every group has been discriminated against but yet they always see themselves as the exceptions.
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I really have enjoyed this series so far and want to add onto the topics brought up in this video. I am no expert so I am going to get things wrong. I am simply stating my thoughts and opinions on these topics. In no way am I claiming anything as the ultimate truth. Feel free to let me know where I did make a mistake. In fact, I welcome it because there is never a point in my life where I will know everything. I appreciate anyone taking their time to educate me. I welcome open discussion, willingness to learn and grow from other people. Thank for taking the time to read this.
Why no "White History" month?
What does it mean to be black? Before slavery, there were no “Black people”. People keep forgetting that Africa is a continent and a huge one at that. There are numerous languages, dialects, ethnic groups, spiritual beliefs, etc. Within each country, there are numerous languages being spoken and ethnic groups yet the world latches on to a very simplified understanding of Africa and what it looked like before colonization and the Atlantic Slave Trade. The “Black Identity” was something that happened after indigenous Africans were brought over to the Americas. Enslaved Africans have everything stripped from them, not just their humanity. Their languages, arts, cultures, and everything that made them who they were as people. Black identity comes from the descendants of slaves forming their own music, art, clothing, etc. Much of it is inspired by traditional African cultures, spiritual beliefs and more. Some are also influenced by different European cultures as well. Black history month is a time to educate people about the realities of slavery, the Reconstruction Era, Jim Crow era, leading up to the present day. It’s a celebration of the contributions that were made by African slaves, their descendants, African diaspora, etc.
White identity was born in a different manner. Prior to immigration, I highly doubt Europeans were all calling themselves White. Rather they were calling themselves Italian, French, Hungarian, Polish, etc. Immigrating over to America took a lot of courage and many were evading very dangerous situations within their own countries. Everyone knows, or at least is aware, that America is described as a “melting pot”. This is used to say that America is a diverse country, but as a melting pot, there is always something that dominates the rest. Not every European nation was considered “White” and many were attacked by other European nations because of believed inferiority. The pressure to assimilate in America caused many European immigrants to change their names and throw away their cultures for fear that they would not be accepted in this new world. Like I previously mentioned not all Europeans were considered “White” at one point. Irish and Italian people weren’t considered “White” but later acquired “Whiteness”. Many acquired this at the expense of Black people. “Whiteness” in America was mainly formed around the subjugation of the Other. By the Other, I mean Black people and Indigenous peoples. It is not a legitimate cultural identity but an identity based around the need to feel superior over other groups of people.
There are several heritage months throughout the year. Each month is marked by them and yet no one brings this up. There is Irish Heritage Month, Italian Heritage Month German Heritage Month and a slew of others. This selective outrage often overshadows the effects of people who have already found ways to celebrate their culture. I have seen similar outrage over National Women’s Day. People conveniently forget there was a National Men’s Day as well. When people were screaming why there wasn’t one, they were quickly overloaded with responses that there already was one. This only shows that this question often does not come from a place of curiosity, but general anger that another group dares to celebrate their own culture.
On the nature of Braids
I would hope that it goes without saying that braids are not exclusive to the African continent. Indigenous cultures throughout the Americas have rich and diverse examples of braids. In the African continent, however, I would argue that you will find the most diversity in, not only the style of braids but what they symbolize as well. They were a status symbol for many. If you were to look at the images of indigenous Africans today, you will find that these styles are very much still alive and well. Braids existed in Europe too for centuries. It’s not cultural appropriation for European people to wear braids because braids are universal. It’s the type of braids that are worn that make or break the argument.
I have seen other black people being very reactionary concerning this issue. They completely ignore the fact that braids exist in other cultures as well. The same thing concerns dreadlocks. Dreadlocks have existed in India for thousands of years. There are ancient depictions of deities with them. Shiva, for example, can be seen with them. Saddhu can be seen up to the present having long dreadlocks. In fact, when Indian indentured servants were brought over to Jamaica, there was a great cultural exchange that took place and that has greatly affected Jamaica’s cultural history. I don’t see any issue with non-Black people wear braids. Especially is those braids are from their culture. I would like to reiterate that braids in Africa are highly specific to different ethnic groups and so forth. So, should we try to say Black people are appropriating different cultures in Africa that are not their own?
The whole issue of braids steered off the path of where it originated-the discrimination of Black people when they have natural hair, wear protective styles, in addition to traditional African styles of braids to celebrate their cultures. The punitive nature in which schools, places of work and the general populous towards Black people for celebrating their culture while celebrating White people for taking from Black people, is inherently racist. Black culture stemmed from a struggle towards freedom, self-love, family and community. Black people fought hard to be able to have these things only for them to be treated flippantly by White people is why Black people have been so enraged over this. This extends to things such as slang, music, clothing, etc. Even more, erasure comes when we ignore all of the Black LGBTQ+ people, disabled people, sex workers, etc. who have contributed greatly to overall Black culture and are either not recognized or have their identities and experiences erased when they are being discussed.
Respect to your essay post on the inferiority and indigene of black people, but all the past occurrences surrounding people with brown/ black skin was bound to occur. Slavery existed long before the 17th century. “White” people were slaves too, it wasn’t prominent as it was on black people, but it still occurred. As a black guy myself, I have a burning hatred for inequality, segregation, injustices, and racism. The seven deadly sins and origins of the world have changed my mentality in such an inspiring way I never thought possible. Such sinful actions transpired throughout the world that some or most got away with it while others had to suffer. What ruined the lives of black people is their appearance and at times their actions. A few years back, Kanye West said slavery was like a choice. The entire media not only misinterpret his words, but scolded him. Slavery was like a choice slaves had to either continue their lives as nothing more than subordinates or have freedom while being adventurous. Be free or die trying. That’s why people like Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks Martin Luther King Jr. and many others wanted to change the ways black people live their lives. Those people who fought against the injustices are to this very day are being commemorated annually.
When it comes to the style of hair, that’s debatable. I don’t have much to say on that other than being part of religion, philosophy and tradition etc.
Not to mention Ghengis Khan had the greatest and widest empire ever in history. He's a Mongolian and not white.
Your post is extraordinary. One rarely sees something so coherent, substantial, well-written, logical, even-tempered, sincere and open on TH-cam. Beautiful! I would have nothing to add or subtract. Also it was not that long, or didn't seem so, because it actually Says things.
I greatly appreciate your very eloquent essay. Who knew such deep historical convo took place in the comments on youtube. All I would add, if I may, is when Black ppl get mad at White women wearing braids, it is always an African style that they are wearing ie. Bo Derek and Kim K etc. And it's also the fact that they get lauded as trend setting and beautiful, but you don't find Black women on the cover of any high end fashion mag rocking naturals and braids and being told how beautiful they are.
Side bar: how can Black/African Americans culturally appropriate African culture? We are African. And due to the nature of slavery, our blood is mixed with the dna of many tribes. In my humble opinion, when we as Black Americans reach back to Africa and lean on her culture, it is to esteem ourself and honor her. Not to take or appropriate. Braids, specifically, are something that both, our African Ancestors brought with them through The Middle Passage, and that our African sisters who immigrated here taught us. There's no way to appropriate your own culture. Just my pov.
Great read, thank you. I'd like to submit that Black history in the Americas didn't start with chattel slavery in the late 18th century. But Blacks navigated ships and lived in the Americas before Columbus came. He landed here and then took slaves. He didn't bring them. The Aztec and Olmec sculptures that venerate people with broad noses and full lips in the Americas can be searched today. The pyramids and connection to astrology is technology brought from Africa: and built more than 1000-2000 years before Columbus sailed. Some of the items Columbus brought back from Central America were made of precious metals found in Africa. Some Central and South American religions and music are from Africa and still practiced today because they did so freely before 1492 they could maintain it. It was much later that more Black people were kidnapped from Africa and turned into slaves in the Americas. North American slaves don't have African religion and music because it was stripped when they were brought. History from an Anglo perspective teaches that great navigators came from Europe, and Europeans discovered a place where Black and Brown people lived for very long time.
You should also read some of Thomas Sowell's work. He is a black man that you in particular should get to know.
hahaha, that's NOT going to happen. but yeah, it would do him some good.
@Ivan Coria and all this youtuber does is point fingers and not offer any workable advice.
Have you seen the police episode?
@Ivan Coria individuals make up the collective,starting there is a good start.
History does play a large role but people use it as a crutch,excuse for their failings in life wayyyy too much.
The irish,poles were treated just like slaves for hundreds of years and yet they dont blame all their failings on their history they have some responsibility and accountability.
I could blame many of my personal burdens on my history but i dont,ive moved beyond it and it seems many black people of all backgrounds have as well and theyre doing well in life.
Excuses dont fix problems, solutions do, cant find a job? Make yourself more employable or move to a place that needs workers before blaming it on your version of the boogeymam.
And may i ask if youve even seen his police episode? Where he literally does point fingers.
And culture does play a significant role as that shapes how people act towards one another, although your use of "black culture" seems to paint you already know this.
But what is black culture? A large generalisation like european culture or white culture.
Were talking specifically about working class,hip hop culture which incentivises always fighting against authority even if youre in the wrong and gang culture. Even though i like the music i can see how its moulded young minds to be much less than what they could be.
People nowadays are idolising the wrong people, yesterdays mlk has been replaced by soundcloud rappers and questionable celebrities.
Also its kinda funny how you immediately stereotyped what you thought my arguments would be and created a strawman.
I could have agreed with him theoretically but not agree with his actions in regards to how he treats 'the enemy',that his solutions were not viable like many have in this comment section.
@Ivan Coria If you read Dr Sowell you would know the answer to that, it has to do with culture.
@Ivan Coria except after the civil rights movement things were starting to improve until gangster rap came along and increased racial, and black on cop tensions.
Another solid video Emmanuel! Although, i think you could have gone in much more depth with the "Broken Black Family" question. For those who want to educate themselves, please watch the Netflix documentary 13th and research more on root cause of the systematic social injustice that is present. But either way, if you were lead to this video in one way or another, just glad people are sticking around to hear him out.
The problem is if he told the truth about some of the real things the govt does to keep black families broken today some powerful white guy high up in the corporate world or govt would try to take his channel down, then he'd get media backlash, then he'd get death threats and someone could use violence against him and/or his family
Let's like and promote this very comment to get the word out about the documentary 13th. I saw it only recently and it was very eye opening.
I tend to agree that a larger discussion of this issue would help. Great job working on these videos.
@@BryceJohnson92 How long is it? Work has me time crunched lately but it's not the first I've seen it referenced. Maybe I can squeeze it in. Your answer is mostly to remind me to try.
“I’m awake now.” Such a moving email from Lynn! That takes a lot of humility, especially in dedicating himself to wake others up too!
xpatzy Lynn is probably female. As we learn to see Black people, let’s not continue to make women invisible please
Yes I agree with you, it was indeed very moving, I wish Lynn could be the next guest. It will really be interesting to watch.
It’s was a very touch letter . As a blk women my white bothers and sister please under these are from Emanuel’s perspectives. Note he is 1st generations America that grew up in white America and doesn’t have or doesn’t have a lot of emotional and mental tear down other blks have that grew up in poverty in underserved communities where sickness runs wild , little to no income, food is limited, health care treats you like experiments, family members were actually slaves, being assaulted by police physically , mentally and sexually. Being 1 generation college graduate or student. Blk people come from all walks of life , many of blk are still hurt from the historical trauma of rape , killings, hangings , being used as medical experiments, comming from broken homes and just trying to survive in a current system is not designed for blacks success. Some blacks still coping and working thought this trauma and may not be in a place to talk blk and white differences or accept their support.
“I navigate America as a visitor.” He is one of the most well-spoken people I’ve ever heard. The fact that these are the words he chose to describe this is painful. When fellow white Americans say “we’re ALL Americans. If you don’t like it get out” or anything like it, I find the lack of desire to understand other’s feelings appalling. I want to believe the vast majority of white Americans (police included) want everyone to feel included. That’s why I’m here. I want no American to feel like an outsider and that needs to start with inclusion and not telling others how they SHOULD feel. Don’t devalue anyone’s feelings. It’s the heart of racial inequity, bullying, Narcissism and elitism. Those are the exact qualities that make our fellow Americans feel like visitors. Let that be the start of the conversations.
The worst part is many Black Americans are economic refugees in their own country. What country do you even go back to??!?!
He is a visitor, he just came from Nigeria in his own lifetime lol
@Tom Swain Its amazing you're making that comment, because you obviously care if they're for you to make such an ignorant comment. its ok for you white people to judge others because of their race, and expect them to deal with it? wow!
@Tom Swain What even was that comment supposed to mean? The lack of substance is real....
@Tom Swain This comes off just as problematic as "all lives matter" does. Because yes, in a perfect world, race and skin color would not matter. But we live in a world where race is ingrained the structure and systems that make up society. So just saying "who cares" and not being willing to listen or have these conversations sort of devalues the experiences of non white people who navigate American society through the status quo of white culture.
Reverse racism doesn't exist. Racism is racism no matter who is committing it. We're all human here. Let us not forget that simple fact.
Please define racism, then explain why this so called racist only exists in white childrens homes, white childrens countries and white childrens schools???
You are a beautiful man with a beautiful goal and all should strive to do the same. Thank you so much for doing this cause it has brought together so many lost souls. Not only are these videos needed , but they became popular and sought after by doing the opposite as most other places that want to have the discussion. No hate. Just love and understanding. Never stop doing what you are doing for it is kind souls like yourself that will change the world.
There’s only 3 episodes (as of before this) and its already gained many viewers, people who want to learn and some who want to see the good the vids are doing. The topics and conversations happening are very much relevant and needed, I hope this channel goes places and can make a real impact through conversation, not violent outbursts 😊
Emmanuel, you’ve given everyone such a tremendous gift with this series. Thank you so much.
Emmanuel is doing great work......he's fantastic on Speak for yourself on FS1 with Wiley
🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeah spreading racism is not a good thing.
@@AnonymousPersonAP yep....thank you captain obvious
As a senior citizen (White) how do I not feel like I am the enemy? These last 4 years have made me feel guilty for all the racism going on even though I am not perpetuating it. Are my Black brothers and sisters seeing me as the problem? Love your series. Thank you!
If they do they need to change their mindset, you’re not the problem as you had no control over the past
Another reason why black women get pissed/annoyed when non black people wear hairstyles common in black culture is because there were national laws that forbid them from wearing their hair a certain way. Even today some establishments have rules like that in place. When white women do it they're praised.
I agree with the need to give credit to the origin of a style if it is coming from a specific culture but we also must acknowledge that some are common, historically, in various forms from many cultures. The saying about the highest form of flattery is true as these styles would not be embraced if not viewed in a positive light but without the acknowledgement it no longer is flattery but appropriation.
@@jackio46 yes but unfortunately non black people are not willing to give credit nor acknowledge the racial biased they have the luxary of avoiding unlike black women.
Thank you for saying this point, it made me understand it so much better
National Crown Day is tommorow. It makes you unemployable, labeled negatively, etc. then when it's Bo Derek or some other notable white person it's profitable/chic and rebranded. It's a systemic problem that also keeps black businesses out of the hair care industry/distribution.
Joseph Agreed. Natural hairstyles (braids, locks, etc.) are still frowned upon in corporate America. It’s still an unspoken (and sometimes spoken) rule that opportunities for advancement would be limited if you choose to wear natural hair.
Why would someone be be afraid or uncomfortable to talk to this guy, he’s pretty chill
Would you be comfortable talking to George Floyd or Eric Garner?
@@thatslyte3992 yeah as long as their chill
And he is fiiiiine!!!
I think it’s more about the topics than him
Because he blames white people for everything...maybe idk
Let’s do an episode with an everyday, middle age white man that thought he was far from racists. Me. I’m a fellow Austinite and UT grad. I think it’s cool to see these celebs but whom we’re trying to ultimately reach are the everyday individuals that are unknowingly closer to the core of the issue than they actually know... I’m down!
People’s!! Help me get this going! My discussion list keeps growing and I know us everyday, middle age white men want and need to have our questions of confusion answered!! Get me on this!!
Totally agree
Change has to come, America can not stay the same. I pray for unity.
You know, I thought there might have been some valuable insight to be extracted from this video, but I couldn't disagree more with pretty much every single point being made. As neither a black nor a white man, maybe there is much for me to study and understand about this undoubtedly complicated topic. But if my outsider's perspective serves any purpose whatsoever, it's to see that there is a painful, overt normalization of racism within the black community, particularly towards whites. No, not reverse racism. Word for word, dictionary racism.
This is very true.
No reread your comment and ask yourself. How did this comment help in any way shape or form? Especially considering you aren’t white or black, this is clearly a negative comment with no intent of actually finding common ground and you as someone living outside of the USA could never understand what is happening here insists on fueling a fire. For what?
@@Findpype I dont think me saying I disagree with pretty much every point in the video is me fueling any fire. When I originally watched this video, I went into it with an open mind, and found that the perspective of the creator is vastly different from mine. I don’t have to be black or white to see the situation and form an opinion. I also think my conclusion back then is clear to see. There is a normalization of racism towards white individuals, and even if you disagree that such a thing exists, you can’t possibly say that discrimination due to a person’s race, whatever the race may be, is ever a good thing
@@Findpype it does help. His comments calls out the real issue that is causing racial divide and it doesn't get addressed. You can't ever tell a lack person they're being racist or prejudice.
Have you grown up in the streets and othe rare as where whites (and others) are harassed jumped, insulted I front of friends and girlfriends.. how you can stay anything back or you'll get jumped. You can't say anything because some race claom will be made, yet they can clown and make racist and prejudice comments and physical attacks always..
did you grow up inner city?
You are spot on!! I tired of all these excuses! There are some wonderful black Americans that never let anyone bring them down and are people of character. It is your choices that count not your history or circumstances because there are those that put complainers and those with victim mentally to shame. This video is a disappointment.
One person at a time. One interaction at a time. One intersection at a time. It only takes one to start it.
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Start what?
Beautifully said!
One intersection at a time. Works for me. One individual at a time each with his/her own experiences and meanings taken from them. There are people that share experiences and the related meanings but at the same time there is massive diversity within groups. Lets interact with each other as individuals, move forward, and get the politics out of it to help us be free to do so.
Emmanuel would you be willing to do an episode with a mixed race/cultured family? If so, please reach out to me. It would be great to talk and help enlighten others.
Great Idea Becca
I think you should reach out to him through email
Make sure you read and share this. www.theplayerstribune.com/en-us/articles/lauren-jrue-holiday-nba-racial-injustice
Funny u say that. I think if every white person fostered a black kid or was married to a black person or their child was married to a black person, it would change their perspective. I don’t think people really want to know how prejudiced they are. I feel like they know, but don’t really want to look in mirror
I remember when News reported Kim kardashian was on a plane w kids, when an Australian woman yelled about them being black. And I thought I bet Kim has seen some things since having kids and being married to a black man. Oh it’s different to admire from afar off, but very different when you start to live the prejudice. That’s why I know a lot white people don’t get it. And most don’t have a close black person in their life or they wouldn’t say the things they do.
Here is a great video of Emmanuel we all may enjoy. In it, he said he is planning to have an interracial couple on soon. th-cam.com/video/ocdaTlTzJ5U/w-d-xo.html
This comment section is one of the few places online , where black and white people mix and van exchange without prejudice and I love that. Thank you Emmanuel
@contang0 you're 100% correct. This channel and others like it should be the ones that TH-cam is putting in everyone's feed right now.
The first inkling of how naive I am was when my daughter's high school chum--who is now a pastor--posted a video saying since Mr. Floyd's murder he now has to have a conversation with his four sons on how to survive being pulled over by the police. I burst into tears. Such a beautiful man of God with an incredible family was in fear for their lives? In America? Just how out of touch was I?
A few weeks later as protests, unrest, and riots sprang up around the nation, my husband and I stumbled upon the movie JUST MERCY. By the end, both my husband and I wept. We moved recently from Philadelphia to Georgia. Less than an hour from us is the Alabama border. We felt overwhelmed. How can a CDC-certified elderly couple do anything to help? Who would care what we say?
Then a friend posted your episode 3 with the Gaines' family. Suddenly the missing pieces to the puzzle tumbled into our laps. What can we do? How can we help? Begin by being able to spot racism--intentional or otherwise. First in ourselves, then in those we love. Begin fitting those pieces together to see the full picture.
Thank you. Like Queen Esther, perhaps your videos are for such a time as this. God bless you.
@james bond you will never grown and learn if you are determined to keep your ears, eyes and heart closed.
James Bond White people are not likely to suffer oppression BECAUSE OF THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN.
I think your testament speaks volumes of why our country needs to stop LITERALLY WHITEWASHING our curriculum. As one of my black classmates told me they're taught how to talk to officers, not to run, how to walk what to wear it made me cry. I still cannot accept it.
@James Bond stop trolling these comment sections when everyone is finally coming together. I've seen you on more than 7 other comments under this video spreading decisive stuff.
Emmanuel, This is so awesome!! This has changed my life. Never thought I was racist, but the insights and the knowledge and background that you share tell me I can be better and do better. For when we know better, we do better. A fan!! Keep it up!
suzie, ignore the troll. you're doing great. hopefully james bond and others like him will eventually realize that it's okay to acknowledge one's own blind spots and the possibility that one can cause harm with one's words and actions, even if unintentional. in the meantime, i don't generally recommend name-calling (as it's unproductive and tends to shut down conversations), but if you want to throw mean epithets towards james bond, he won't mind. he has thick skin, and if he's offended by anything you or anyone else might say, that's on him.
Thankyou for eloquently and respectfully addressing this in a manner that is digestible for everyone. I'm hopeful it continues to help
I thank you so much for doing this. I’m so tired of polarization, of people shouting at each other. We need good models for thoughtful conversation. We need to be able to address our fears and ask the difficult questions that we’re afraid to ask. You are amazing. Thank you.
People tend to yell when they feel like they're not being heard. Now that the 'powers that be' are ready to "listen," (thank God for the Trump era of rule, Covid and camera phones) it's easier to have that conversation.
I’m a black American, I’m also an expatriate - I left the US in the 80’s and after a few years, settled in Canada. I’ve now lived outside America longer than I lived there; after receiving a shared link of your 4th episode this morning. I was compelled to find the first 3. After viewing those, I have only one word, Remarkable!
You shed a glorious light on the very reasons that discouraged me from returning to live in the states.
I have shared your series with all of my contacts. God will continue you to bless and guide you as take your place as a change-maker.
I know your mother is proud. Thanks be to God.
I think we need to get Asians, Latinos, and Non-Black POC's in this discussion as well. As an Asian, I feel that we always get left out on conversations on race on a national level and we can't have that in 2020. Great video though.
John Choi instead of co-op ing this create your own platform. I have seen and experienced racism from Asians and Latinos. Very few of either have spoken up on our behalf but quietly watched us suffer. Then reap the benefits of our fight, ie: civil rights. Asians tend to look down on us and are extremely abusive to the Black race. Latinos and Hispanics denounce their Black heritage. Maybe that's why other races are left out of our discussions.
John I concur with your inquiry. As an African American woman born and raised, I grew up amongst all races of people because SF was so diverse at that time. In my 48yrs of living I’ve only experienced racism that I can recall once so these open discussions and what we’re seeing uncovered on social media and the news is all new to me and needs to stop. Everyone celebrated everyone’s holidays and cultures (Asian, African American, Latinos,, Native American, etc.) in the SF Bay Area. I would love for Emanuel to release a video with different races of people and hear their input as well. I hope he responds to your inquiry.
@@shawndyer7860 We've BEEN HAVING these discussions within the Asian-American communities as well. TH-cam Channels like Genius Brain and Fun With Dumb have been talking about the relations between the Asians and Blacks in the U.S. along with Hassan Minhaj calking for Asians to not be silent about this issue. Also, Pero Like has put out a discussion of being Afro-LatinX and what it means to be that. Don't act like all of us have been blind to your plight when actually a LOT OF US are and HAVE BEEN showing support since the 60's. It's just that the National Media thinks there's only 2 races in America.
I do agree that Asians need to get out there more but it's kinda hard when we feel there's a wall that's blocking us all the time that's preventing from us from telling OUR STORY.
I'm not trying to pick a fight. I'm just pointing things here and there.
@@shawndyer7860, culturally, I am Hispanic, but ethnically, I'm mixed (Spain, Native American, African [Senegal]). Please don't lump us all together. I'm sorry you've had that experience with Hispanics/latinos. Personally, I'm proud of all of my ancestry (minus the Spaniards, the Conquistadores were just as bad as other European colonizers), and trust Black people more than even my "own people" and that may be my own implicit bias based on my experiences in life. When I need help, or someone to talk to, I know what friends to count on, and only one of those is Hispanic, none are white, the rest just happen to be Black. So I learned in life that Black people are more trustworthu in my eyes. I have to face that prejudice in myself and I'm trying to learn to take people individually instead of by ethnicity.
@@dokebi4502 I think you should email Emmanuel. He seems very open to having all conversations around this issue.
These videos are deeply apreciated. I am in Europe, am white/hispanic and have been living in a country no my own, for 20 years.
I have felt racism several times but nothing will ever compare to what people of color suffer here. There are people from all over the world here, for a so called evolved and rich country, I still see racism everyday and it breaks my heart.
What you say is more directed to your reality but racism is also here, where no slaves walked and most countries are united.
"White people and white culture" is a thing only imagined. This is excruciatingly emphasized in America. The widespread use of "Enlightenment" values certainly lead to a handful of "Western" societies but they are certainly not a homogenous culture. It's rude to suggest otherwise. I'm white, but Arabic. My people were raped and murdered out of existence in world war 1. Jesus would have called us ancient and in our language, but today ISIS and Turkey both gleefully erase what is left of us. Nobody will hear this though (
It's interesting too that the racism narrative usually includes hispanics, Japanese, Chinese and Koreans. To these people if your skin is fair, you are 'white'. There's also a tendency to group Jamaicans and other West Indians along with other dark skinned Americans. African immigrants aren't included though.
And on a side note, Americans tend to forget that other countries exist. Racism isn't just black vs white, it's Chinese vs Tibetan, Indian vs Pakistani, Chinese vs Malay. And the whole 'racism is power' bullshit. So a white person in China can't be racist because the Chinese have majority power?
Well presented. I love learning from you and hope that you will continue to open our eyes and hopefully show society that there is a better way. I loved your talk with the Gaines family, especially when Emmie asked if you were afraid of white people. Talk about “out of the mouths of babes”. To say that you handled that question with such grace and intelligence would be an understatement. This is what the world needs more of. People coming together and speaking honestly and openly about our thoughts and feelings in a safe place. May you stay safe and continue this important mission. I’ll be watching and learning. Peace.
I’m a white wife and mother to my black husband and 5 children. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This means so much to so many.
Why are you a mother to your husband? Typo, I hope.
Yeah, it took me a minute on that, too. 😂
@Tom Swain yea, that's kinda the essence of racism kept alive.
@Tom Swain I think she's trying to convey this topic effects her personally. There's nothing wrong with that. Most people on this thread are just only learning about racism it seems.
@@jmk1962 she stated her roles in order of the things that belong to those roles 😂
She's a wife (to the husband) and a mother (to the kids)
It just reads a little weird
My sister and I are "binge-watching" your series and find it inspiring, illuminating and important. It takes courage to do this and you're not only "going there" but you have so much skill in the process! You're a role model for all of us! :)