Who should pay for the first date? | Jared Freid | TEDxReno
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- Jared Freid is a standup comedian and the cohost of The U Up? Podcast, a show about modern dating. The one question Jared gets the most is “Who should pay for the first date?” The answer is messy for some and straight forward for others. The question represents what Jared thinks is the biggest problem for how people date in the modern age.
Jared Freid is a stand-up comedian based out of New York City, with a strong focus on dating and relationships. His comedy is current and reflects the ordinary daily thoughts of everyone you know, especially if you know a lot of millennials that are obsessing over dating apps, trying to be real adults, and worrying about their bodies. (For the record, Jared’s mom thinks his body is “just fine.”) Jared has a remarkable insight into how millennial relationships (or even situationships) begin and end. Many of Jared's fans say that his advice has helped them in their personal lives. Jared’s fans also seek out his voice in the online publishing world. He’s written for TotalFratMove, BroBible, Betches, and HeTexted. His columns delve into everything from sports to The Bachelor to the pitfalls of dating in the information age. His writing has both sides of the aisle nodding their head while thinking, “I’ve been on the toilet way too long.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“It’s way easier to tell people who should pay than to tell people how you felt when the payment got made” okay Plato 👏🏼 great job Jared!!!!
What a great message! Everything in dating gets so much easier when you look introspectively and forget about the "rules"
very wise, as always!
“it’s way easier to have rules than to have feelings” had me 🤯🤯
I appreciate Jared. I’ve become more confident in owning my own feelings, and it has really set me free. Thank you Jared!
I love Jared Fried and listen to all his podcasts. Huge fan! Great job Jared.
This always makes me laugh. The first date that my now husband asked me on I paid. He had asked me, forgetting that he only had a couple of dollars on him before payday - 2 days hence. Once he asked, he couldn't take it back so he asked to "borrow" it. I laughed and said OK, but he didn't have to pay me back. In he 70's a date could be had in a dive bar for about $5.00 so I paid. True to his word, as soon as he was paid he paid me back along with a nice bouquet of flowers. We've been together since that day - 48 years ago. So, as far as I'm concerned who pays is neither here nor there, it's whether you have a good time or not.
I dont know why but your story made me smile, such a light hearted one
@@jacobgrace3744 Pretty uncanny, eh? I watched it after I commented.
@@ybrynecho2368 I could tell you watched it! You proved the point! Thank you for sharing
While I don’t disagree, dating has drastically changed since 48 years ago. Especially from a financial aspect.
Love everything Jared does! Always silly, witty, some tough love and lots of laughs. Great job papa JT 🤩
Congratulations!! What an accomplishment!! You’re such a unique and interesting mix of unmatched comic timing and material, introspection, vulnerability and compassion. You have helped me through so so much, and I can’t thank you enough. Cheers! 🍸
This guy has just the right amount of relatability that makes me proud to be a fan.
Jared doesn’t miss! Always some good laughs and real talk 🙌🏾
I discovered Jared when I recently began listening to Podcasts. He is one of the best content creators, is pragmatic and gives solid advice.
Who should pay for the first date ? The government, of course.
That's actually a good answered if they want to start tackling reduced marriage and birth rates !
Huge Jared stan. Funny, thoughtful, and authentic - as always. Good stuff!
I loved this TED Talk. One important thing wasn’t mentioned - when a woman goes on a date, in a vast majority of the cases she doesn’t go on a date TO GET A FREE MEAL, we can afford our own food. Gone are the days when only men earned money. I hate to say it but nowadays women DO NOT NEED men! So when we go on a date it’s because we WANT to be with one, and that’s a massive difference! Lots of love to everyone ❤️
That's exactly what men are saying also. In an era where vvomen can afford her own food, there should no longer be any expectation for men to pay for dates. You should go and lecture the broke chicks scamming men for free food.
Apparently wanting to be with that person isn't enough to pay for your own food.
The answer always is, “whomever did the inviting.” Let’s be real. 95% of the time, it’s the men.
This is so great - Jared has an impressive stage presence
Patreon member here. Been waiting with baited breath for the video after hearing about the talk for weeks! Love it!!
Congrats! Always happy to see you do big things after years of following your stand-up and podcasts
LOVE IT! So impressed. I am such a fan! I listen to you (and Jordana) nearly everyday. Hoping to make it to one of your shows or a U Up live eventually! Thanks for all you do!
Awesome job, Jared! It’s so great to see all of your hard work and preparation come to fruition!!
Well done Jared! Entertaining and insightful. Owning your feelings is ultimately the best way to ensure you’ll keep making decisions you feel happy living with.
As always - funny, smart, insightful and delivered in a way that makes it easy to hear!!! You crushed it Jared!!!
Jared never disappoints! Hilarious! Iconic live screamer, love this man 😁😁😁
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Love Jared and listen to all his podcasts! So proud of him and loved the message here!!
Loving this talk! Great job Jared!
Love you Jared! I listen to your podcasts everyday ( Jtrain, U Up, and Dating Makeover). You make my day a little brighter and make me feel a little wiser
Awesome job, Jared! Hilarious and insightful, per usual.
What an amazing talk that was! Perfect mix of being funny and food for thought!
Definitely worth the wait, and even better after watching the bts videos on Jared’s channel! Congrats jtrain!
Jared you’re crushing it! Loved your San Diego comedy store show. Proud fan
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Papa JT… killed it once again! Great TED talk on a modern day issue that is more nuanced than people think!
Obsessed w/ everything Jared does
Jared is always spot on, incredible job!
"Who are you debating?" I'm from Brazil and on the last few days a famous actor brought this subject to light again: "who should pay for the first date?". Tremendous discussions were created about it, and the truth is that this topic should be much simpler... If you had fun and enjoyed the company of the other, the payment won't make any difference ✌🏻🇧🇷🙏🏻
If I like the guy, I think its more attractive when he pays. If I don’t like him, I’ll insist on splitting the bill 🤷🏻♀️
Jared Freid! From stand-up to podcasting to bachelor-screaming to TedX! Talk about a Renaissance Man.
surely, who pays doesn't really matter, its the outcome of the date that's the important thing. mind you if it was going badly, I'd be willing to pay the bill just to escape 😊
Amazing job! Jared is the true modern dating guru we all need
My rule in thumb in dating was always go out again until I’m 100% certain she ain’t for me. Made dating a lot easier for me.
Jared, this was amazing! You always deliver. 🙌
So glad I finally watched this! So good
* feather feather *
Love it!! Witty smart and fun! Congrats and hugs from Spain
I believe most dates don't have great outcomes if she pay..
I think it's worth it because at the end of the day what matters the most is finding a good woman even if it takes a thousand dates just to find one. 🙂
Wow. Great talk and insightful! Congrats
all the feathers for such a spot-on talk! Loved it! 🪶
FIRST! AND FINALLY THIS GETS TALKED ABOUT THAT I TOTALLY HAVE ALWAYS HAD A PROBLEM WITH
Jared is the best! Excellent Ted Talk!
It's interesting how a seemingly straight-forward question can raise a lot of discussions and provoke several thoughts regarding the equality of men and women.
Indeed, in many cultures, it is viewed as socially acceptable for the man to pay on the date. Nonetheless, after watching the video, I think that both sides should split the bill equally.
Or, in extreme cases, everyone should pay for what they ordered. While I do think that, I still consider offering to pay for the dinner a nice gesture, whether it comes from the man or the woman.
I think you missed the point of the ted talk unfortunately. Might want to give it another listen?
First date my husband and I paid for our own items. He refused to pay for my 3 glasses of wine. I still married him 😀
I usually don’t comment but this was too funny and also insightful! Good job!!
Great job Jared! I've been listening to uup and appreciate your perspective !
So funny! Love all of Jared’s stuff
Love it!! Killed it Jared, AS ALWAYS!!
Great job Jared!
Masterful work Jared
Great job, Jared!
JTRAIN killed it again . Nice job jared! We’re very proud of you 🎉💗
Neither party pays for a date. Dates are occasions already desired by both parties.
so if you both desire a meal do you just…dine and dash?
forage in dumpsters?
use ✨ magic ✨?
I love this idea. Anarchy. Chaos. Let's burn it down. Overthrow capitalism.
Love this!!👏🏻
Great talk JTrain!!
Ma boys all grown up! 🤣👍🏻💛 Love shacked and the Matthew Hussey reference 🤣
Loved it!! Way to go, Jared!
Love it! Jared is the best. Everyone go follow and listen to his million podcasts. Feather feather.
Love this and everything you do!!
This is the BEST thing I've watched in a long timeeeee😂🤣😂
The king of dating advice 👏🏼 great job Jared!
Interesting topic and very well done!!!
I would invite my dates to brunch. Excuse myself to the restroom, pay the bill on the way. Then at the end let my date know that I’ve already settled the bill, but if they want to leave a tip that would be nice. Perfect setting to get to know each other better without strings or hassle should personalities not mesh.
Perfectly articulated, great job Jared!
Yes!!! Great dude and great talk.
You know the saying going Dutch? I'm Dutch, we split the bill haha.
Great job Jared ! So funny !! Greetings from Munich, Germany :)
If I eat the food and drunk the drinks, I should pay for what I consumed.
Such a great Ted Talk Jared! You crushed it!
Crushed it! Congratulations Jared!
when a woman wants to split the check on the first date, take note. that woman is wife material. she wants to share the costs of having a good time. that is someone you want to share your life with.
Amazing as always Jared!
wow jared sounds diff on here than the podcast!
Fantastic job, Jared!
Loved it! Jared is the best.
Loved this! Great job Jared!
Smashed it again Jared!
Love everything he does! Fantastic!
Loved this Jared!!
Well done❤️
Remarkable person reading this.. It’s going to get better; all it is a season of opportunity to grow and be better than before. Challenging times are meant to strengthen us, not to break us. Success doesn’t define to what happened to us; it is how we choose to deal with our circumstances. The more you grow and develop as an incredible person as you are, the more things will change for the better. Forgive more (for you), be grateful for even the smallest things (we have it way better than someone else), choose love over ego, choose humility over ego (humility is strength), and finally, invest into new skills so that your future self will thank you. Our lives will change forever the more we grow. Be thankful for the challenges for we know something greater is coming. Love you always - Nathalie ✨❤️
Killed it Jared!!
Never pay any cent for a date. It’s a meeting not a business deals
Be who you are whatever happens during the date.. 15 minutes of diplomacy to stop it before boring or hours of discovery exchanges to start a relationship.
Genuinely curious who pays on man/man woman/woman dates?
Love this
Loved it!!!!!!
My answer would be whoever asks, but the other person should have money just in case.
congrats, jared!!!
😂😂 Bravo Jared!
Whoever isn’t completely broke should pay for the entire date
JTrain, what can’t you do?! Great Ted Talk on a subject that is debated at many a brunch table. Feelings > rules in 2022
Awesome job, Jared!
Jared always get it right!
I love it!!!
Great job!!!!! :)