I feel that people intuitively know that if they keeping taking it to the next level that they may end up alone, so they just avoid the deeper truths and remain unconscious. We live in a world that condones staying ignorant, so it takes quite a bit of grit to forge ahead against the flow of unconsciousness.
I can't help but see capitalism as a manifestation of our collective intergenerational traumas gone unacknowledged/unhealed. If society were viewed as a single individual it wouldn't be too difficult to see how traumatized they are.
@@DEEPMOODYPURPLEBLUES It's worth differentiating between capitalism and what we actually live under which is crony capitalism- we do not have free enterprise, free market. The narcissists and sociopaths do not allow that kind of financial freedom. Still, crony capitalism is better than communism- abolishment of private property seems to be where institutions like the World Economic Forum wish to take us.
I'm REALLY grieving my childhood. I have cried so much over the betrayals from my parents, and also the harm I did to others. I believe that a deeply traumatic experience in my childhood (sexual abuse) resulted in me going down the path of healing.
That’s how I restarted my emotional growth. I journaled to ensure that I kept crying every day - on purpose. It took about a week for me until nothing I could write, no matter the depth, could make me cry. Then I was done. Never a depressive episode in 20 years. What you’re experiencing are your own powerful natural healing forces desperately trying to do its job. The root of your present pain and numbness is not directly attributable to your past trauma. It really comes from the exhaustion of you trying to stop the healing from happening! Therefore the more pain and desperation you are experiencing, the better. It means the bullet has pushed its way out to the skin’s surface against all your efforts. The more pain you’re in the better the news. It means your permanent healing is so close it’s just around the corner. The truth is in many ways backwards to what we have been assuming. Keep letting it happen but now be completely deliberate about it. 7-10 days. Go for it.
@@MarcSmith23 Marc, I love your comment. That's how I feel. It has been very cathartic, healing. I never want to stop feeling no matter what the emotion is. That's what makes us human.
@@MarcSmith23 Thank you Marc, what you wrote resonated with me. It feels empowering that your healing has resulted in such a strong positive for your life.
@@thefalsecritic9520 neither of my teenage boys have the slightest clue what depression is. Never experienced it. They hate it when I ask them and say, “Dad why are you being so weird?”
It has always felt dismissive to me when someone characterizes a person with novel ideas as ahead of their time. You are alive now, thus *it's your time*. And your brilliant ideas are *of this time*. We need more visionaries, idealists, inventors, early adopters, and folks who get the ball rolling! People like you. I know it's a figure of speech, but it feels like it's an attempt to alienate the forward thinkers from the majority. It also sounds like an excuse for people to avoid trying something new. I adore your ideas, Daniel Mackler. I'm more than ready for them.
Dear Daniel, you and your ideas are most definitely ahead of your time. You are a rare and precious soul. As you say, let's hope and pray that humanity will start to wake up to the deep healing work that needs to be done! This for the benefit of us all and for the sake of future generations. Thank you for being you!!!
Hi Daniel, I discovered you recently and everything you say really made something click in me and gave the words to what I have been feeling. I think it is so important for people to love themselves, to grieve for what they never had but deserved, which is the only way they can see the injustices around them and realize that others do not deserve that either. Thank you for the work you do. I have finally been able to glimpse the self-love for myself that I haven't felt since I was a young child more than a decade ago. It gives me so much hope for the future.
I think your channel is kind of an Institute itself cause your videos are educational on many levels. Considering that, you have over 40 thousand students enrolled.:)
Daniel, I believe there are many people out there just like me searching for answers and information that they can not find. I've personally spent over 20 years of my life actively searching and it has not been until I found you that I found the answers I was looking for so long. I went to therapy, I read books, listening to endless podcasts and youtube channels searching for knowledge suffering and confused. While I've learned many valuable things your insight was the missing piece I needed. While I'm not perfect my life is so much better and getting better every day, my life has changed, I have changed, I am a new person and I feel hope for the future again.
I would love to hear your proposal for The Rare Soul Institute in a future video, if you ever want to do so. I'd be all ears. Sounds like it came from a good place.
I finally created enough space and finical leeway to grieve and process my past traumas. I’m 27 and own my home and land and have some savings. I think very few people ever get to that point in their lives before their bodies and mind deteriorate. And when they do they feel like they missed their opportunity in their youth
@@carl8568 thank you Carl, your response opened up a new outlook on my choices. It took a lot of sacrifice. I feel like I missed out on some aspects socially And relationship wise but now I have time to make up for it. I guess that’s why it’s called a sacrifice I can’t have both at the same time. All the best
It’s because our society is structured in a way to not only stifle grief processing - but to cause it in the first place, and ongoing throughout the life cycle. A society frozen in trauma is easily manipulated by fear and thus controlled.
@@debbY100 I agree it feels like most people including my self is and was being forced downs. Conveyor belt of society and family. Almost like forced participation so you don’t take time to think and form yourself and grieve. It’s like they want us all so confused we turn to authority figures like doctors and psychologists to hand us pills to cope with life instead of truly grieving or healing from our trauma or negative life situations
I restarted my own emotional growth. It took about a week of concentrated effort and I’ve never had a single depressive episode since. No matter how tired or run down or disappointed I may get from trying something that’s hard I’m immune even from black thoughts. Neither of my two teen boys have ever experienced depression. They haven’t a clue what that even is.
@@jodiejackson9319 well we have powerful healing forces always working but the cause of depression is really the massive amounts of energy redirected to stopping the healing. This is where the fatigue comes from which are precipitated depressions and even nervous breakdowns. So the direct root of the link pain is not from past trauma - it’s really from us stopping the healing so much on automatic pilot where we’re not aware of what’s going on. Despite this, journaling temporarily overrides these defences in the very moment you’re writing. This allows you to process your childish perspective and feelings in a deliberate way. Here’s what’s backwards - the more pain we’re in, the closer is our chance for success. The more painful the depressions and numbness it means your healing wants to burst through. We think the more pain the more profound the damage and less likely to heal. Not true! That means it’s bursting through causing your automated defences to spin up into overdrive.
If you’re truly in a lot of unbearable pain then I give you maybe a week of concentrated effort to be done with depressions forever. Not welcome news to the majority of the therapist/psyche drugs industry.
I often think of suicidal people who are at their wits end; they’re despondent from the seemingly unstoppable agony when the entire irony of their situation is that it’s a sign their profound healing is so very close at hand where all their lost psychic energy will be returned to them in spades.
I've been searching for a method to do this kind of deep healing pretty much all of my life. Consciously I'm not afraid of talking about things that bother me or sharing just about anything, but it's like once I am in a situation where I'm being listened to some part of me makes me forget everything. Journaling and other forms of self expression just end up making me angry and the therapists I've sought out have been very reluctant to help me with my emotions, instead just trying to scare or shame me into action. I know I haven't lived a good life, or done very much with the 28 years that I've been given, and that I don't really deserve to find healing or peace but I've been trying harder than I ever have. I just have a really hard time dealing with how much effort it takes to feel normal or to feel anything at all and how much normal emotional expression triggers me. I've been in a dark place for most of my life, and it's all my fault really so I can't say its not fair. I'm the one who's wasted his life on nothing so who's to say some of us aren't just meant to die pointlessly and miserably for the sake of our own agonizing unmovable egos or even just bad luck. Life is just pain, and finding ways of dealing it that don't destroy everything. Is it really possible to find joy again?
Taking time out to be on your own and do some serious healing work is like gaining a superpower. It's hard, but you will never fear life and death again.
I currently started doing therapy and I don’t feel quite satisfied I feel like my therapist isn’t diving into things that I feel need more digging. Your videos alone are making me think and feel heard for some reason. Thank you
TY for being on You Tube. Somedays you are my only connection to the reality of real heart connected humans still existing out there somewhere. I am isolated by my Whisteblower status & big mouth while unraveling what Exhubby being a dead CIA Minster means for my sons & grandsons in this Wealthy town I met him in. As ex 33yr Psych Nurse in Sarasota who was always swimming against the stream in my career in Psych Hospital Systems...I'm still going through the healing process of forgiving myself for how I helped Psychiatry & Big Pharna make the human confusion more complicated these past decades. I cherish your gift to us all. I would like to meet a human like you someday.🙏
He might look nearly identical now if he shot videos with golden sunlight hitting his face at a flattering angle, like that photo from back in the day.
I've also been wondering if getting real is a possibility for everybody. I still don't know, but it seems to me that some people are more compelled to see clearly. This may be valuable: "You can read about cultures that have professional grievers whose job it is to show up at the appointed ceremonial hour and get the river of grief rolling for everybody else. We might find that contrived or inauthentic, but every culture with such a profession knows that _grieving in a moment made for grief, pleading for grief, is not inevitable._ There is much inside us that moves away from grieving when the time comes, that doesn’t want to do it. Professional grievers are those who seem to have been born naturally and inevitably sensitive to the tones and the events around them, obedient to the nap of life. When the time for grief is upon them, they grieve, because they know how. They are prone to the world, and their very valuable service to the rest of us is to detonate the sorrow that is set aside or buried under the burden of trying to make it through our days. We have those people in our midst today, but they are not usually employed in such an honoring way. Often they are medicated, or in special education, or living in a cardboard shelter under a bridge." *Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul, Stephen Jenkinson*
"Professional griever" - I can see the need for, and benefit of that - like a guide helping to charter that terra-incognita of the soul. The lack of acknowledgement and respect for those with that and similar intuitive/healing capacities is painfully obvious, as well. Nowhere in western culture are we taught how to simply be in the world, and grieving being such an essential aspect to that, it's little wonder why suffering is so prevalent. I'm most grateful to folks like Daniel who've helped me to understand the grieving process better. I'm often amazed to discover the amount of grief I've been holding onto all my life, and to realize how profoundly holding it back has negatively affected my relationships and growth. Thank you for sharing, nbharakey!
Hi Daniel. I bought your book on breaking from your parents. It’s been enormously helpful and validating for me. I feel like you have experienced so much of what I have, and it’s so humbling to not feel so alone in my feelings. Thank you
Hey Daniel, I came across your channel just yesterday (via someone who's on God's way) and I really appreciate your content. I also consider myself a rare soul/as someone who's greatest commitment is healing from my own childhood and I too dream of a world where everybody is healing from their traumas and we all can be our lovely childlike selves. I think it's also kind of funny that I happened to name my TH-cam channel the humble of soul :) I can imagine that your institute didn't got the attention (not the right word) it deserved but I just wanted to let you know, I totally would have supported it! Thank you for creating all those deep insightful videos, they kind of make me feel less alone on this planet, although that's an emotion I need to feel as well.. Love, Charlotte
I tried to withdraw from meds, hoping to reach the grieving stage, but I only started to "go crazy" and my "illness" returned. I wonder if healing is possible while on psych drugs. Cheers, Maciej
Often psychiatric drug withdrawal is absolute hell. The doctors and other mental health professionals often say that it is just a return of the illness, but I think that in most cases it’s much more accurate to say that it is psychiatric drug withdrawal. Also, often people come off their psychiatric drugs way way way too fast. I would recommend looking at the website inner compass initiative and the withdrawal project. Perhaps you’ve already found these sites, but I know they help a lot of people in the process of coming off psychiatric drugs. I’m wishing you only the best! Daniel
'Society' is made to be disfunctional. It needs people broken. Distracted. That's it's true purpose. And I mean that litteraly. That is why it exists and why it never gets better. Design. Intelligent design if you ask me. On a spiritual level. But that makes me one of 'those people.' I do so love being one of those people.
What you described is the only true path to complete healing. Our society is toxic and people have no idea the depth of trauma. For example, there are so many addiction treatment centres that only touch on trauma. I've only found a handful of centres that are trauma based and touch on addiction. Treating the symptoms won't resolve the problem.
How does a person heal trauma from being a premature baby starting life 8 months in an incubater,(I weighted 2 pounds) then going directly into foster care, for three years, then getting adopted by an abusive dysfuncial baby?? I asked my adopted dad why did they adopt me because they treated me so badly, and he said"because your sister (their biological daughter) she wanted a pet, he said..so the foster home was the same as the ASPCA?? ( Animal shelter)....people tell me I'm a hopeless case after I had nervous breakdowns..I had 5 other siblings that were also put into the foster care system..I wish I knew where they were, and what happened..
JEANNE Peters I doubt very very much the people that say "you are a hopeless case" have experienced a fraction of what you have been through and therefore have no authority to call you a "hopeless case" not to mention what an incredible insensitive disrespectful thing to say to you. The fact that you are still here shows your courage and strength AND you want to heal. I hope you find a good therapist. You deserve to be happy. xx
Thank You for reading and caring enough to reply to me here.I hope your healing from early child hood trauma too.I am trying it's a lonely uphill battle to me..these videos of Daniel help me so much..what a kind caring person is Daniel Mackler...I haven't found a therapist yet that isn't just caring about the insurance and payments..last therapist I had when I told her of serious self harm that I was doing..where I had voiced that told me to harm myself to see my own blood from self-afflicted sounds I cover up when I have clothes..the following week when I was her(weekly therapy) she didn't even mention this horrible dreadful thing I told her that I was inflicting on myself..she just asked me about how was my week on my volunteer job at the local zoo...I don't have the ability to "make friends for a supportive net-work"..I did get religious and converted to a religion so I am spiritual..only reason I haven't committed suicide..statistically I should been dead already..with drug addiction/ overdose of muredered.I quit alcohol and drug addiction 20 years ago..I am 56 now..it seems this American culture here in California only will assist me in becoming a drug addict and prostitute again.I am a survived many years as a human- trafficked victim in Latin america..I had serious cocaine addiction..last social worker I talked to in a homeless shelter I told her I survived many years of human - trafficing..she told me" survivors of human- trafficking don't survive very long" I told her I have survived and will continue to do so..with no support at all...what a horrible thing she said to me..well after all they were setting me up to relapse again..that's the sick culture in the United states..every one is greedy and selfish...only thinking about money..our culture in America is just getting worse as the culture /economy has been a down -ward spirel.
@@jeannepeters8181 Hi Jeanne I'm 52 and been seeing a trauma therapist for over 2 years. She's very skilled, experienced and encouraging. Please let me know if you would like her details. You could choose your therapist anywhere in the world. I've had most of mine over Skype because of Covid. (I'm from England). Xx
I'm in the exact situation he mentioned. I also have a one-year-old son, and the potential harm I could cause in the future terrifies me. Can anyone in a similar situation who is managing it, please reach out to me here?
People can be presented with the answer, the solution, and not recognize its value as discredit it. It’s sad, unfortunate, but it doesn’t make the gold less gold. The question is: how can I offer my product in a way that they can see the beauty of it? How can I make them see the treasure that this holds for them in their life?
As long as people continue on the ego path no diving deep will take place, only when they’re derailed in some way will they put their toe in the water.
You could try again and name it something consistent with the law of attraction like “deep healing goes viral.” Words are magic spells and so is your faith in what you want to see happen. I have seen my doubts turn to belief in the impossible using affirmations, written visualizations and vision boards. I’m a therapist on sabbatical doing the gnarly work of deep healing from trauma who thinks like you. I’m waking up, and I see a bright future for humanity because of people like you using their voice to describe their experience and model what healing looks like. There are many souls who want to wake up out of the despair of enslavement to false selves and limiting beliefs. You are helping to infect them with truth- the necessary ingredient for healing. Thank you for your good work. You have had a profound effect on me and my healing journey, as I believe you have for many, many other souls. Be well, bright one. 🌠🌅🌈✌🏽
Funny how so many people like to use examples of other people who live in their parents' basements as an example to compare themselves to to boost their self esteem or to think ''well, at least I'm not like that, so I must be alright''. It's really fascinating because it seems to be such a hung up for so many people for a mysterious reason. Yeah, you are in a better position than them from the point of being able to provide for yourself, but their relationship dynamic with their parents and family is different and they're caught in their own kind of disaster. Relationships with parents can be toxic in all kinds of different ways. Being fully separated from your parents means being both, physically and emotionally separated. Why do people assume that if someone thinks being physically separated from your parents is not enough when you're not emotionally separated/haven't processed your childhood traumas, then you must advocate for the opposite or something? And yeah, the opposite is not possible.
@@BlackCat-vf7th Mine was a serious question. I was thinking of a friend who lives in such a situation because he has schizophrenia and, at this time, unable to support himself. And things are unstable, I, too, may have to depend on an abusive, narcissist of a parent, or end up homeless and ill. Providing for oneself isn't always guaranteed or easy, especially if a sudden bad turn in health occurs. Also, I don't know who said that being physically separated from parents is sufficient, but it might be a minimal requirement.
well, one of the main reasons why healing is not cool is because "there's no money in the cure, the money's in the medicine", to quote Chris Rock in one of his stand-ups( he was talking about doctors and pharmaceutical companies )
Miserable breeders breed Miserable breeders; it's just, nature; there's no need to attempt to force Parental skills on those neglecting seals (I recommend everyone watch how non-human animals are terrible breeders); I'm grateful for Nihilism, in this case, as there's **nothing** I can possibly do to change that, except, take ownership of my own uterus and focus on what I can, in fact control.
Hi Daniel, how can I help my son healing his soul pain? He is 14. I was adopted from South Corea to Switzerland and was already then traumatised from loss and malnutrition. My adopted parents were nasty and abusive, my uncle sexually abused me and my mom hit me when I told her and told me it was my fault. When I became myself a mother, it helped me healing, but had still so many abusive patterns myself and my son suffered from this. That's what hurts me the most. I am still in pain because neither my parents nor my uncle ever tried to help me heal my wounds. Now my parents died. My mom just 4 months ago. I love my son so much, he didn't deserve all the pain he went through. I now he loves me and can forgive me. I don't want him to go through such pain as I did.
If i may say something... Same happend to me some time ago. But i discovered that "loss of motivation" is one of the many ego defences against the unresolved childhood traumas. So i know that something big is coming, waiting to be healed. It is intruding in my daily awareness and i will have to deal with it if i want it or not. Maybe this will happen to you too in the near future... But no matter what there is always present some kind of certainty that the healing of all of ours childhood traumas will eventualy happen to all of us...
@@Bojan_V Thanks for your comment. Yes, I had assumed that the lack of motivation was a defensive/protective mechanism. Like you, I've also got things coming up that I simply cannot ignore. All the best.
Hi daniel and viewers my question is not related to the video but i guess only you can help me in. I am 15 year old living in india, in feburary 2021 i discovered i had sexual obsessions ocd about homosexuality, transexualality, necrophilia and pedophilia my main compulsion was to search everything online. probably a month ago i was searching and came across antisocial personality disorder and read about it after that i had anxiety and had thoughts like am i a sociopath and i cried then had thoughts like did i ever loved anyone ,did i ever manipulated anyone, will i ever love my parents , what is this life if i cant love anyone or live without feelings. i want to tell you i dont really have a trauma but i did have/ and have now a unstable joint family which i guess mostly everyone has. i do acknowledge that i do fight with my brother and misbehave while i was crying i was thinking of that. i took online quizes to test my empathy and quizes like "am i a sociopath" i would just smile out of nowhere if i feel low to see if i am not faking my emotions please help me and tell me is it another form of ocd or do i have conduct disorder just tell me even if i have conduct disorder i will do anything i can to be normal, i posted this on quora but didnt got any answer you are my only hope 🙏
Greetings Nilay. I am really not in a position to give feedback here, but I’m just hoping that you can find someone safe and respectful to talk with, and I don’t mean a mental health professional necessarily. Even a friend, or perhaps especially a friend, someone who cares and has wisdom and who has respect. I am wishing you only the best. Daniel
If this institute is created, or something similar, it will have to preserve itself and its members from the dangerous « feeling of election », this powerful lever of manipulation and false ego healer.
The gift of desperation is the only motivation for the deep healing dive, which is an abyss, because no one will follow The pink elephant in the room gets bigger
@@upendasana7857 yes, and I was wondering what his opinion about it might be. I have his book in my library, as well as her most important work, "The drama of being a child", I suppose that all therapists should have this title in their library. Thank you Upenda :)
I have read "The trauma of the inner child" (or something like that, it was translated in my language) and its really a good introduction in the subject for someone who dont know or dont believe in this stuff. Its not perfect but pretty close to it
I want that, but I don't have emotional resources since basically I'm a 'biological garbage' that should be thrown away in the bins, that's how people see me
I feel that people intuitively know that if they keeping taking it to the next level that they may end up alone, so they just avoid the deeper truths and remain unconscious. We live in a world that condones staying ignorant, so it takes quite a bit of grit to forge ahead against the flow of unconsciousness.
Hell yes
Exactly
Omg. So true
@@colettespencer3357 Particularly the inclination towards unconsciousness within one's own self is my current struggle.
@@christinebadostain6887 I understand
I blame capitalism honestly keeps everyone distracted running after a carrot on a stick
I agree, but that's not the only reason. It comes both from societal structures but also from a personal place as well, from our collective psyches
I can't help but see capitalism as a manifestation of our collective intergenerational traumas gone unacknowledged/unhealed. If society were viewed as a single individual it wouldn't be too difficult to see how traumatized they are.
@@DEEPMOODYPURPLEBLUES We've all been lied to and brainwashed since birth.
@@DEEPMOODYPURPLEBLUES Everyone is at different levels in their journey. We will all get 'there' eventually. xx
@@DEEPMOODYPURPLEBLUES
It's worth differentiating between capitalism and what we actually live under which is crony capitalism- we do not have free enterprise, free market. The narcissists and sociopaths do not allow that kind of financial freedom. Still, crony capitalism is better than communism- abolishment of private property seems to be where institutions like the World Economic Forum wish to take us.
I'm REALLY grieving my childhood. I have cried so much over the betrayals from my parents, and also the harm I did to others. I believe that a deeply traumatic experience in my childhood (sexual abuse) resulted in me going down the path of healing.
That’s how I restarted my emotional growth. I journaled to ensure that I kept crying every day - on purpose. It took about a week for me until nothing I could write, no matter the depth, could make me cry. Then I was done. Never a depressive episode in 20 years. What you’re experiencing are your own powerful natural healing forces desperately trying to do its job. The root of your present pain and numbness is not directly attributable to your past trauma. It really comes from the exhaustion of you trying to stop the healing from happening! Therefore the more pain and desperation you are experiencing, the better. It means the bullet has pushed its way out to the skin’s surface against all your efforts. The more pain you’re in the better the news. It means your permanent healing is so close it’s just around the corner. The truth is in many ways backwards to what we have been assuming. Keep letting it happen but now be completely deliberate about it. 7-10 days. Go for it.
@@MarcSmith23 Marc, I love your comment. That's how I feel. It has been very cathartic, healing. I never want to stop feeling no matter what the emotion is. That's what makes us human.
@@MarcSmith23 Thank you Marc, what you wrote resonated with me. It feels empowering that your healing has resulted in such a strong positive for your life.
@@thefalsecritic9520 neither of my teenage boys have the slightest clue what depression is. Never experienced it. They hate it when I ask them and say, “Dad why are you being so weird?”
It has always felt dismissive to me when someone characterizes a person with novel ideas as ahead of their time. You are alive now, thus *it's your time*. And your brilliant ideas are *of this time*. We need more visionaries, idealists, inventors, early adopters, and folks who get the ball rolling! People like you.
I know it's a figure of speech, but it feels like it's an attempt to alienate the forward thinkers from the majority. It also sounds like an excuse for people to avoid trying something new.
I adore your ideas, Daniel Mackler. I'm more than ready for them.
Dear Daniel, you and your ideas are most definitely ahead of your time. You are a rare and precious soul. As you say, let's hope and pray that humanity will start to wake up to the deep healing work that needs to be done! This for the benefit of us all and for the sake of future generations. Thank you for being you!!!
If only emotionally healthy people had kids, children would be very rare indeed.
Hi Daniel, it's possible that the time for The Institute of the Rare Soul has now come.
thank you Daniel for being part of my healing 🙏✌
Hi Daniel, I discovered you recently and everything you say really made something click in me and gave the words to what I have been feeling. I think it is so important for people to love themselves, to grieve for what they never had but deserved, which is the only way they can see the injustices around them and realize that others do not deserve that either. Thank you for the work you do. I have finally been able to glimpse the self-love for myself that I haven't felt since I was a young child more than a decade ago. It gives me so much hope for the future.
I see Daniel, I click.
I think your channel is kind of an Institute itself cause your videos are educational on many levels. Considering that, you have over 40 thousand students enrolled.:)
Daniel, I believe there are many people out there just like me searching for answers and information that they can not find. I've personally spent over 20 years of my life actively searching and it has not been until I found you that I found the answers I was looking for so long. I went to therapy, I read books, listening to endless podcasts and youtube channels searching for knowledge suffering and confused. While I've learned many valuable things your insight was the missing piece I needed. While I'm not perfect my life is so much better and getting better every day, my life has changed, I have changed, I am a new person and I feel hope for the future again.
Your videos helped me so much, Daniel. Thank you (from Germany)!!!
Daniel, you are so inspiring!
I would love to hear your proposal for The Rare Soul Institute in a future video, if you ever want to do so.
I'd be all ears. Sounds like it came from a good place.
I finally created enough space and finical leeway to grieve and process my past traumas. I’m 27 and own my home and land and have some savings.
I think very few people ever get to that point in their lives before their bodies and mind deteriorate. And when they do they feel like they missed their opportunity in their youth
A good spot to be in at your age, and considering these unstable times.
@@carl8568 thank you Carl, your response opened up a new outlook on my choices.
It took a lot of sacrifice. I feel like I missed out on some aspects socially And relationship wise but now I have time to make up for it.
I guess that’s why it’s called a sacrifice I can’t have both at the same time.
All the best
It’s because our society is structured in a way to not only stifle grief processing - but to cause it in the first place, and ongoing throughout the life cycle. A society frozen in trauma is easily manipulated by fear and thus controlled.
@@debbY100 I agree it feels like most people including my self is and was being forced downs. Conveyor belt of society and family. Almost like forced participation so you don’t take time to think and form yourself and grieve. It’s like they want us all so confused we turn to authority figures like doctors and psychologists to hand us pills to cope with life instead of truly grieving or healing from our trauma or negative life situations
I restarted my own emotional growth. It took about a week of concentrated effort and I’ve never had a single depressive episode since. No matter how tired or run down or disappointed I may get from trying something that’s hard I’m immune even from black thoughts. Neither of my two teen boys have ever experienced depression. They haven’t a clue what that even is.
This is what a parent should be like, aware of its trumas and trying to heal them for the kids, that is real love and you sir are a real dad
I’d love to know more details about how you did this if you’re open to sharing 🙏
@@jodiejackson9319 well we have powerful healing forces always working but the cause of depression is really the massive amounts of energy redirected to stopping the healing. This is where the fatigue comes from which are precipitated depressions and even nervous breakdowns. So the direct root of the link pain is not from past trauma - it’s really from us stopping the healing so much on automatic pilot where we’re not aware of what’s going on. Despite this, journaling temporarily overrides these defences in the very moment you’re writing. This allows you to process your childish perspective and feelings in a deliberate way.
Here’s what’s backwards - the more pain we’re in, the closer is our chance for success. The more painful the depressions and numbness it means your healing wants to burst through. We think the more pain the more profound the damage and less likely to heal. Not true! That means it’s bursting through causing your automated defences to spin up into overdrive.
If you’re truly in a lot of unbearable pain then I give you maybe a week of concentrated effort to be done with depressions forever. Not welcome news to the majority of the therapist/psyche drugs industry.
I often think of suicidal people who are at their wits end; they’re despondent from the seemingly unstoppable agony when the entire irony of their situation is that it’s a sign their profound healing is so very close at hand where all their lost psychic energy will be returned to them in spades.
People weren't ready back then they are now. My trauma therapist got very busy when Convid hit!
Please publish your proposals !
You are truly ahead of your time.
Maybe now is the time that your ideas are those whose 'time has come'.
I've been searching for a method to do this kind of deep healing pretty much all of my life. Consciously I'm not afraid of talking about things that bother me or sharing just about anything, but it's like once I am in a situation where I'm being listened to some part of me makes me forget everything. Journaling and other forms of self expression just end up making me angry and the therapists I've sought out have been very reluctant to help me with my emotions, instead just trying to scare or shame me into action. I know I haven't lived a good life, or done very much with the 28 years that I've been given, and that I don't really deserve to find healing or peace but I've been trying harder than I ever have. I just have a really hard time dealing with how much effort it takes to feel normal or to feel anything at all and how much normal emotional expression triggers me. I've been in a dark place for most of my life, and it's all my fault really so I can't say its not fair. I'm the one who's wasted his life on nothing so who's to say some of us aren't just meant to die pointlessly and miserably for the sake of our own agonizing unmovable egos or even just bad luck. Life is just pain, and finding ways of dealing it that don't destroy everything. Is it really possible to find joy again?
Taking time out to be on your own and do some serious healing work is like gaining a superpower. It's hard, but you will never fear life and death again.
You’re so awesome man. Thanks for seizing the day and turning this thing around.
I hope so too. Many thanks🙏🏻
I currently started doing therapy and I don’t feel quite satisfied I feel like my therapist isn’t diving into things that I feel need more digging. Your videos alone are making me think and feel heard for some reason. Thank you
Looking fresh in the thumbnail pic Daniel!
TY for being on You Tube. Somedays you are my only connection to the reality of real heart connected humans still existing out there somewhere. I am isolated by my Whisteblower status & big mouth while unraveling what Exhubby being a dead CIA Minster means for my sons & grandsons in this Wealthy town I met him in. As ex 33yr Psych Nurse in Sarasota who was always swimming against the stream in my career in Psych Hospital Systems...I'm still going through the healing process of forgiving myself for how I helped Psychiatry & Big Pharna make the human confusion more complicated these past decades. I cherish your gift to us all. I would like to meet a human like you someday.🙏
Young Daniel was gorgeous omg I am so glad you chose not to abuse your powers.
Old Daniel is gorgeous too, relax. It's just a different kind of vibe.
He might look nearly identical now if he shot videos with golden sunlight hitting his face at a flattering angle, like that photo from back in the day.
I've also been wondering if getting real is a possibility for everybody. I still don't know, but it seems to me that some people are more compelled to see clearly.
This may be valuable:
"You can read about cultures that have professional grievers whose job it is to show up at the appointed ceremonial hour and get the river of grief rolling for everybody else. We might find that contrived or inauthentic, but every culture with such a profession knows that _grieving in a moment made for grief, pleading for grief, is not inevitable._ There is much inside us that moves away from grieving when the time comes, that doesn’t want to do it. Professional grievers are those who seem to have been born naturally and inevitably sensitive to the tones and the events around them, obedient to the nap of life. When the time for grief is upon them, they grieve, because they know how. They are prone to the world, and their very valuable service to the rest of us is to detonate the sorrow that is set aside or buried under the burden of trying to make it through our days. We have those people in our midst today, but they are not usually employed in such an honoring way. Often they are medicated, or in special education, or living in a cardboard shelter under a bridge."
*Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul, Stephen Jenkinson*
"Professional griever" - I can see the need for, and benefit of that - like a guide helping to charter that terra-incognita of the soul. The lack of acknowledgement and respect for those with that and similar intuitive/healing capacities is painfully obvious, as well. Nowhere in western culture are we taught how to simply be in the world, and grieving being such an essential aspect to that, it's little wonder why suffering is so prevalent. I'm most grateful to folks like Daniel who've helped me to understand the grieving process better. I'm often amazed to discover the amount of grief I've been holding onto all my life, and to realize how profoundly holding it back has negatively affected my relationships and growth. Thank you for sharing, nbharakey!
Hi Daniel. I bought your book on breaking from your parents. It’s been enormously helpful and validating for me. I feel like you have experienced so much of what I have, and it’s so humbling to not feel so alone in my feelings. Thank you
You’re welcome!
Rare Soul 🙏🏼
For those who want to listen to a critical song about psychiatry: Alanis Morissette with "Rest"
Thanks
We love you Daniel
Hey Daniel, I came across your channel just yesterday (via someone who's on God's way) and I really appreciate your content. I also consider myself a rare soul/as someone who's greatest commitment is healing from my own childhood and I too dream of a world where everybody is healing from their traumas and we all can be our lovely childlike selves. I think it's also kind of funny that I happened to name my TH-cam channel the humble of soul :) I can imagine that your institute didn't got the attention (not the right word) it deserved but I just wanted to let you know, I totally would have supported it!
Thank you for creating all those deep insightful videos, they kind of make me feel less alone on this planet, although that's an emotion I need to feel as well..
Love,
Charlotte
I tried to withdraw from meds, hoping to reach the grieving stage, but I only started to "go crazy" and my "illness" returned. I wonder if healing is possible while on psych drugs. Cheers, Maciej
Often psychiatric drug withdrawal is absolute hell. The doctors and other mental health professionals often say that it is just a return of the illness, but I think that in most cases it’s much more accurate to say that it is psychiatric drug withdrawal. Also, often people come off their psychiatric drugs way way way too fast. I would recommend looking at the website inner compass initiative and the withdrawal project. Perhaps you’ve already found these sites, but I know they help a lot of people in the process of coming off psychiatric drugs. I’m wishing you only the best! Daniel
Love your work Daniel
it's still decades ahead of time, yet I\m grateful to find your unique channel.
'Society' is made to be disfunctional. It needs people broken. Distracted. That's it's true purpose.
And I mean that litteraly. That is why it exists and why it never gets better. Design. Intelligent design if you ask me. On a spiritual level.
But that makes me one of 'those people.' I do so love being one of those people.
What you described is the only true path to complete healing. Our society is toxic and people have no idea the depth of trauma.
For example, there are so many addiction treatment centres that only touch on trauma. I've only found a handful of centres that are trauma based and touch on addiction. Treating the symptoms won't resolve the problem.
How does a person heal trauma from being a premature baby starting life 8 months in an incubater,(I weighted 2 pounds) then going directly into foster care, for three years, then getting adopted by an abusive dysfuncial baby?? I asked my adopted dad why did they adopt me because they treated me so badly, and he said"because your sister (their biological daughter) she wanted a pet, he said..so the foster home was the same as the ASPCA?? ( Animal shelter)....people tell me I'm a hopeless case after I had nervous breakdowns..I had 5 other siblings that were also put into the foster care system..I wish I knew where they were, and what happened..
JEANNE Peters I doubt very very much the people that say "you are a hopeless case" have experienced a fraction of what you have been through and therefore have no authority to call you a "hopeless case" not to mention what an incredible insensitive disrespectful thing to say to you. The fact that you are still here shows your courage and strength AND you want to heal. I hope you find a good therapist. You deserve to be happy. xx
Thank You for reading and caring enough to reply to me here.I hope your healing from early child hood trauma too.I am trying it's a lonely uphill battle to me..these videos of Daniel help me so much..what a kind caring person is Daniel Mackler...I haven't found a therapist yet that isn't just caring about the insurance and payments..last therapist I had when I told her of serious self harm that I was doing..where I had voiced that told me to harm myself to see my own blood from self-afflicted sounds I cover up when I have clothes..the following week when I was her(weekly therapy) she didn't even mention this horrible dreadful thing I told her that I was inflicting on myself..she just asked me about how was my week on my volunteer job at the local zoo...I don't have the ability to "make friends for a supportive net-work"..I did get religious and converted to a religion so I am spiritual..only reason I haven't committed suicide..statistically I should been dead already..with drug addiction/ overdose of muredered.I quit alcohol and drug addiction 20 years ago..I am 56 now..it seems this American culture here in California only will assist me in becoming a drug addict and prostitute again.I am a survived many years as a human- trafficked victim in Latin america..I had serious cocaine addiction..last social worker I talked to in a homeless shelter I told her I survived many years of human - trafficing..she told me" survivors of human- trafficking don't survive very long" I told her I have survived and will continue to do so..with no support at all...what a horrible thing she said to me..well after all they were setting me up to relapse again..that's the sick culture in the United states..every one is greedy and selfish...only thinking about money..our culture in America is just getting worse as the culture /economy has been a down -ward spirel.
@@jeannepeters8181 Hi Jeanne I'm 52 and been seeing a trauma therapist for over 2 years. She's very skilled, experienced and encouraging. Please let me know if you would like her details. You could choose your therapist anywhere in the world. I've had most of mine over Skype because of Covid. (I'm from England). Xx
I'm in the exact situation he mentioned. I also have a one-year-old son, and the potential harm I could cause in the future terrifies me. Can anyone in a similar situation who is managing it, please reach out to me here?
Where do classes meet? How do I matriculate? Let’s do this!
People can be presented with the answer, the solution, and not recognize its value as discredit it. It’s sad, unfortunate, but it doesn’t make the gold less gold. The question is: how can I offer my product in a way that they can see the beauty of it? How can I make them see the treasure that this holds for them in their life?
As long as people continue on the ego path no diving deep will take place, only when they’re derailed in some way will they put their toe in the water.
It's rare because it's really hard! I think it's not for everyone, at least for now
You could try again and name it something consistent with the law of attraction like “deep healing goes viral.” Words are magic spells and so is your faith in what you want to see happen. I have seen my doubts turn to belief in the impossible using affirmations, written visualizations and vision boards. I’m a therapist on sabbatical doing the gnarly work of deep healing from trauma who thinks like you. I’m waking up, and I see a bright future for humanity because of people like you using their voice to describe their experience and model what healing looks like. There are many souls who want to wake up out of the despair of enslavement to false selves and limiting beliefs. You are helping to infect them with truth- the necessary ingredient for healing. Thank you for your good work. You have had a profound effect on me and my healing journey, as I believe you have for many, many other souls. Be well, bright one. 🌠🌅🌈✌🏽
I wonder if there are any 47-year-olds who healed from their parents' abuse and yet still live with their parents.
Something like this cannot happen.
Funny how so many people like to use examples of other people who live in their parents' basements as an example to compare themselves to to boost their self esteem or to think ''well, at least I'm not like that, so I must be alright''. It's really fascinating because it seems to be such a hung up for so many people for a mysterious reason. Yeah, you are in a better position than them from the point of being able to provide for yourself, but their relationship dynamic with their parents and family is different and they're caught in their own kind of disaster. Relationships with parents can be toxic in all kinds of different ways. Being fully separated from your parents means being both, physically and emotionally separated.
Why do people assume that if someone thinks being physically separated from your parents is not enough when you're not emotionally separated/haven't processed your childhood traumas, then you must advocate for the opposite or something? And yeah, the opposite is not possible.
@@BlackCat-vf7th Mine was a serious question. I was thinking of a friend who lives in such a situation because he has schizophrenia and, at this time, unable to support himself. And things are unstable, I, too, may have to depend on an abusive, narcissist of a parent, or end up homeless and ill. Providing for oneself isn't always guaranteed or easy, especially if a sudden bad turn in health occurs. Also, I don't know who said that being physically separated from parents is sufficient, but it might be a minimal requirement.
@@toddboothbee1361 Oh I'm sorry, I misinterpreted it and I thought you were sarcastic.
@@BlackCat-vf7th That's OK. I should pay better attention to the possible tone of what I write.
Goodness in heaven knows I hope and pray 🤲 so too!
well, one of the main reasons why healing is not cool is because "there's no money in the cure, the money's in the medicine", to quote Chris Rock in one of his stand-ups( he was talking about doctors and pharmaceutical companies )
The God of the modern world is money. People's lives and society are organized around how to get it, keep it, and steal it if need be.
Tim fletscher builded something like that. A treatment center for childhood trauma. I highly recommend his TH-cam channel.
Miserable breeders breed Miserable breeders; it's just, nature; there's no need to attempt to force Parental skills on those neglecting seals (I recommend everyone watch how non-human animals are terrible breeders); I'm grateful for Nihilism, in this case, as there's **nothing** I can possibly do to change that, except, take ownership of my own uterus and focus on what I can, in fact control.
Hi Daniel, how can I help my son healing his soul pain? He is 14. I was adopted from South Corea to Switzerland and was already then traumatised from loss and malnutrition. My adopted parents were nasty and abusive, my uncle sexually abused me and my mom hit me when I told her and told me it was my fault. When I became myself a mother, it helped me healing, but had still so many abusive patterns myself and my son suffered from this. That's what hurts me the most. I am still in pain because neither my parents nor my uncle ever tried to help me heal my wounds. Now my parents died. My mom just 4 months ago. I love my son so much, he didn't deserve all the pain he went through. I now he loves me and can forgive me. I don't want him to go through such pain as I did.
I got in to the work a few years ago, but have really lost motivation to go deep again 😔
If i may say something...
Same happend to me some time ago. But i discovered that "loss of motivation" is one of the many ego defences against the unresolved childhood traumas. So i know that something big is coming, waiting to be healed. It is intruding in my daily awareness and i will have to deal with it if i want it or not.
Maybe this will happen to you too in the near future...
But no matter what there is always present some kind of certainty that the healing of all of ours childhood traumas will eventualy happen to all of us...
@@Bojan_V
Thanks for your comment. Yes, I had assumed that the lack of motivation was a defensive/protective mechanism. Like you, I've also got things coming up that I simply cannot ignore. All the best.
I thought so because I do fb lives talking about healing by being with it and I wonder if ppl are really interested. I just know I AM interested!
Daniel, you look really good with your hair cut close. As in that picture
Hi daniel and viewers my question is not related to the video but i guess only you can help me in. I am 15 year old living in india, in feburary 2021 i discovered i had sexual obsessions ocd about homosexuality, transexualality, necrophilia and pedophilia my main compulsion was to search everything online. probably a month ago i was searching and came across antisocial personality disorder and read about it after that i had anxiety and had thoughts like am i a sociopath and i cried then had thoughts like did i ever loved anyone ,did i ever manipulated anyone, will i ever love my parents , what is this life if i cant love anyone or live without feelings. i want to tell you i dont really have a trauma but i did have/ and have now a unstable joint family which i guess mostly everyone has. i do acknowledge that i do fight with my brother and misbehave while i was crying i was thinking of that. i took online quizes to test my empathy and quizes like "am i a sociopath" i would just smile out of nowhere if i feel low to see if i am not faking my emotions please help me and tell me is it another form of ocd or do i have conduct disorder just tell me even if i have conduct disorder i will do anything i can to be normal, i posted this on quora but didnt got any answer you are my only hope 🙏
Greetings Nilay. I am really not in a position to give feedback here, but I’m just hoping that you can find someone safe and respectful to talk with, and I don’t mean a mental health professional necessarily. Even a friend, or perhaps especially a friend, someone who cares and has wisdom and who has respect. I am wishing you only the best. Daniel
It's veryyyyyyyy rare!!!
If this institute is created, or something similar, it will have to preserve itself and its members from the dangerous « feeling of election », this powerful lever of manipulation and false ego healer.
The gift of desperation is the only motivation for the deep healing dive, which is an abyss, because no one will follow
The pink elephant in the room gets bigger
Pink elephants were a metaphor for hallucinations that accompany intoxication.
Hi, do you offer psychotherapy services? I'm 32 and still struggling. It's hard to find someone who knows how to heal childhood traumas
Hello.
Have you studied Jungian psychology? Been watching you for a few years it would be awesome to hear your input if possible.
Dear Daniel, do you know the work of Alice Miller? :)
yes he has done an interview with Alice Millers son who has written a book about his own experiences of her
@@upendasana7857 yes, and I was wondering what his opinion about it might be. I have his book in my library, as well as her most important work, "The drama of being a child", I suppose that all therapists should have this title in their library. Thank you Upenda :)
th-cam.com/video/qsLrmC0w8DQ/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/PUSdPby_52g/w-d-xo.html
@@mayseekify Thank you dear :)
I have read "The trauma of the inner child" (or something like that, it was translated in my language) and its really a good introduction in the subject for someone who dont know or dont believe in this stuff. Its not perfect but pretty close to it
☄️⚡️🎇
I want that, but I don't have emotional resources since basically I'm a 'biological garbage' that should be thrown away in the bins, that's how people see me