I used to fall into the trap set by toxic positivity during my healing journey. So many people pressure me to "get over it", "don't think about it", "shake it off", "don't let things affect you". But honestly that seems denying your humanity and Daniel's insight of mass disassociation I think is right on the nose. I like feeling my feelings and I'll never go back to being in the dark about myself. I still deal with existential anxiety because I can't change my trauma but I just deal with it a lot better now and have gained a lot of insight into myself.
I also hate it when people tell you to "Count your blessings" instead of your problems as if it's an "either or" thing! You're not allowed to acknowledge both situations in your life because they are not compatible and have to choose which one you want to focus on and are expected to forget and never mention the other. I refuse to accept that philosophy. I feel I am capable of acknowledging my "blessings" while at the same time, trying to deal with my problems.
Lee, may I ask if this existential anxiety might be caused not only by past trauma but also by current economic relations that most other people share, though some seem not not fear it as much? What I mean: most people are existentially dependent on finding and maintaining a job. This is for sure harsher for people with trauma because we are susceptible to fall out, being not able to work.
Everyone will shun you. You’ll be able to hear all the double talk and subtext from those who don’t. Eventually the energy that’s been suppressed and tied up with rage will come back, and you’ll be so glad to have the old people out of your life. A few will circle back, but you’ll no longer be interested to renew the contact.
I would rather be anxious from growing and healing, and expanding my view of the world... than anxious from being disrespected and blocked. I feel like a big part of the anxiety from growing is also, you're beginning to acknowledge and finally feel the feelings from when you were mistreated.
There is a huge difference between healing and coping. A lot of spiritual folks like to believe that by being one with nature, meditating every day, and having 'good vibes only' that all of their traumas will be negated. All these strategies are coping mechanisms. Copes have their uses and help in a pinch, but often times people believe that by using all of these techniques they'll be healed by some spiritual process. The way that these tools are used is often very dissociative, in my experience. I tried using them years ago, but it felt emotionally invalidating to do so.
i'm beginning to realize that spirituality is something in addition to healing and being human and not instead of. For example, improving the skill of concentration meditation can help with being more focused on the root causes of the traumatic pain (though personally i'm not even decent at concentration). Or playing around with things like yoga or qigong to be better connected to you body's signaling and arising problems. You're right that most of the "spiritual community" is almost as dissociated as the rest of the world but there are useful things there. Same as being connected with nature or doing exercise helps in general in your day to day life.
@@RKTGX95 yeah, I agree with you both. This toxic positivity under the lure of “spirituality”, only encourages a person to ignore their genuine emotions. - And avoid their negative feelings. Instead of better understanding the reason for them. It’s counter intuitive. And btw- Thanks for the reminder- I really need to exercise more. ☺️
You're right, Daniel, anxiety is the price one pays to grow, in all areas of life. A lot of people shy away from paying this toll because, in the short term, anxiety seems intimidating and terrible (I was and still am one of these people). But being in stasis is far worse, more insidious, and because it is more comfortable and less acutely painful than anxiety, people assume that it is preferable to anxiety, and that this behavior has better (or at least tolerable) outcomes. But it ain't so.
I consider you my friend from the other side of the internet, Daniel Mackler. Thanks for being you and making TH-cam videos. I am in a psychiatric hospital, cause I got a bit of a problem with myself...which I am learning to be insightful about ... 'what a sentence'.
Hi Mo, how you doing these days? We all can get mixed up in this crazy world.. I have to journal and organize my thoughts every week just to unmix myself
Thank you for this, I have been going through a lot of anxiety for the last 4 months. I thought something was wrong with me and instantly said to my parents I wanted anxiety meds. But luckily my parents are very loving and gently explained to me that they thought I am going through a transformation, growth, that it's a part of life and that the only thing I need to do is be honest about who I am and not try to run away from who I am. . I didn't fully understand it until I watched your video. I guess i'm really growing right now it's just hard to see it when you're caught up the the whirlwhind and think that something is wrong with you because you aren't happy and content for a bit. Thank you
There's the term 'spiritual bypass' which is using spirituality as way to escape your problems without experiencing real growth (although I believe it is also possible for people to have transformations through spirituality in some cases).
Oh that's so true. Looking back , acknowledging, healing past trauma is vital to moving forward and anxiety is for sure an inherent part of growth. As is repentance and so much else . I know I wouldn't be who I am today otherwise. Something I've also found with people who haven't done any work on their past traumas or themselves and would avoid feeling anxiety at any cost, is they like to say , "I don't dwell in the past.i. Live in the now" and wear that like some badge of honour yet they'll be the first to throw up in your face or punish you for something they feel you've done to them in the past rightly or wrongly. Lol mind boggling .
2:02 - And unfortunately, this is what people want to believe. I encountered this a lot in the mindfulness/yoga community (I could go into a whole other conversation about all of that) where there's a common idea about the seeking of growth, liberation, and "enlightenment," yet people seem to want to believe it's all blissful and fun. People have come to me asking what they are doing "wrong" when they try to meditate and are hit with all sorts of unpleasant things and mind chatter; I tell them nothing is wrong and that they have seen their mind as it is and it's about learning how to be with it and that paradoxically the peace comes when learning how to be in that space with it. It's usually doesn't seem like that's the answer they want to hear. Albeit with a different outer veneer, I have found therapy to work pretty similarly.
I think a big part of learning how to be in that space with it is emotional self-validation.. instead of beating oneself up for feeling a certain way “why am I feeling this way? I shouldn’t feel this way” … say “of course I should feel this way. Look at what I’ve been through“ or “it’s only natural to feel this way after everything”… and suddenly the negative feelings lessen
Your decision to publicly share your healing journey has brought so much difference to the thoughts and the way of being of so many individuals, you might not even know! I have been watching your videos for quite some time now and I experienced epiphanies that are actively leading to growth in my life. Not to mention, I find my own penchant for growth, reflection and healing reflected back in this channel. So grateful. Thank you Daniel!
Your video gives me the courage to cut off toxic relationships in my life especially with my parents. Now I feel relieve after being traumatized for so many years. Thanks Danial for sharing your story and inspiring people.
Dude Daniel your amazing brother i love that you confirmed my reality. Every time I’ve been under extreme anxiety or pressure it lead to monumental growth. Imagine the pain we must of felt trying to walk for the first time or the struggle we overcame to understand and speak our first words. When you grow through adversity it’s like you break the mold, the one that formed you.
Daniel I woke up in tears thinking about the duck with the broken beak that you spoke of in another vid. It's our fault. Us humans. We brought about the fall of paradise. The animal's reality also fell when we fell. We brought death and suffering here in this world. I will use that horrific image of that poor dear little duck to be a better person. It is our sin. We can renew this world and bring all creation with us. I was rejected by my whole family too.
I'm in a growth crisis. It is so so difficult. You and your message rings clear and true always, and really resonates with my core. It brings peace amidst the storm. I am so grateful! The hardship of growth, especially from childhood trauma, can be crushing and it seems to be the hardest thing in life.
So true. I had silent, yet visible to others, anxiety for years. At 26 years of age I was in the category of cardiac arrest, and didn't know it, until a biometrics screening at my job. And this embarrassing experience helped me greatly. Still it took years of growth later before I noticed a molecular change, I observed, when my anxiety diminished a great deal. It was the gift of many. I felt your whole message to my bones.
Thank you for your authenticity. You are an inspiration! “To grow is very difficult, very very difficult.” Why? For me, I see how it grows compassion. Anxiety is human, and feeling human helps me understand humans. And understanding leads to love. So anxiety can lead to love if it is embraced, accepted and treated with tenderness.
Im in a complex situation currently and i searched "daniel mackler anxiety" expecting to be directed to a video from years ago (which do also cover this topic) but upon checking, this was uploaded 20 hours ago! Your videos almost always resonate with me and shed light on a dark & mysterious path. Thank you for choosing to speak so openly and honestly at the cost of your comfort. Wishing you genuine peace of mind and tranquility despite the anxiety that comes with being so public with your message🙏🌻
I have been on the path to awakening for several years but I found your channel and it is so different from what I have worked on; It's uncomfortable, it's painful, and it's intellectual. I am making the effort to truly let go of emotions and behaviors that do not belong to me. To understand myself and where I come from, be aware of my thoughts and actions every day. It is incredible what I have been able to discover. I have noticed that when I suppress the urge to cry and scream, all those emotions accumulate in my chest and I feel the anxiety return and the pain in my chest. Man, this path is difficult but it's worth it. Hugs from Dominican Republic!
Thank you daniel, it is encouraging to hear this from you. The past 2 years up till now as i'm writing this comment were the most stressful and anxious times i've had and i wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Personally to me the anxiety and pain manifest themselves quite physically, from back problems to heart problems to digestion, so much has come up just by going through the pain and neglect. And not only i'm i grateful as i still feel lost in this newly discovered thickly fogged valley, in a way it gives me the strength to believe i can survive so much.
Good to know I am not the only one who experiences physical pain... I can confirm the digestive and back issues. Occasionally I get stomach pains but I actually think overall it's a good thing because I can finally hear my body again talking to me. I never had stomach pains because I was so cut off from my gut feeling.
Thanks for the video Daniel. I've just realized that I again let myself be crippled by fear, guilt and shame, that my mother used to put on my shoulders alot. And I love to travel and seeing new places. I am not working for a while. I used to be a driver. But I have many environmental concerns at the same time, CO2, global warming, and driving seems to contribute to this. Mind***k to solve.
I’m grieving right now and am feeling so much anxiety. I left my pharmacy because one of my medications wasn’t filled after the dr had just told me that he would fulfill it. One of the problems is that my ex is an addict and manipulates me by taking it it’s give and take. So I’m done with him and done with my mental health facility who can’t even get their shit together. I just left them a message. I know eventually I’ll get off these meds but man did I chew out my ex. And exactly he doesn’t want to move forward. Exactly and I told him that. And you’re right I am doing something right I’m growing. I to am trying to stay sober and glad I’m single because men don’t want to get their shit together so I’m done
YES! You can't say this enough...if you want to grow and it doesn't feel weird, awkward, stressful...you're doing it wrong! I think I fell into the trap as a child to try rejecting or fixing my feelings, or any situation that caused feelings that I didn't like. This really kept me stuck--the more I tried, the more I got frustrated and twisted up in my head. Somehow I figured out that if I acknowledge my feelings I could start to work through them and heal. When you're talking about "these fake people" I am wondering if you have anything specific in mind--specific incidents, or something someone said? In my experience I see that a lot of religious people (but by no means all) are looking for a solution to their problems. A couple of my siblings are in this camp.
Incredibly useful, helpful, encouraging and healing the next generation that have a huge pile of problems with no solutions until they come across your videos :) all the best! I can’t thank you enough. Daniel the true healing value of your work is worth millions!!!! If you had to place a dollar denomination on your wisdom and problem solving abilities!
Thank you so much for this video!!!! It is encouraging and helpful!! Thanks so much also for sharing about yourself and your journey. It must take courage! 👍👍👍👍
Who said going through the valley of shadow of death is gonna be a walk in the park? Right, nobody! But it is an essential journey to life if you really want to know yourself and know life. Life isn't about happiness. It's about meaning and purpose - at least that's how I see it. Letting go means letting it be. And that kind of deep acceptance means feeling a lot of pain. And as with any change... we're habit creatures. Any change means anxiety. But whenever I feel anxiety now, I try to embrace it. Because it means I'm tapping into new territory. Being real is not easy and you can't please everybody but it sure is rewarding...
The saddest thing in the painful healing journey is not the toxic people who caused it or reenacted it (as it is unlikely they will ever see reality), but the ones who want to help and advise you to come out of it. And they may be good meaning people, but like the psychotherapists that cannot help you beyond their level of healing, these people try desperately to stop you from feeling all this pain and anxiety, thinking that this is killing you. Well, sometimes this risk is real, but not feeling the painful feeling is not the solution. It is never the solution, the same way painkillers for physical pain never treat the underlying cause. Modern medicine essentially encourages "dissociation from the body" the same way psychiatry does it for our psyche.
Ive been sober one month and my body is on fire, today I make an exception and will take a large dose of CBD. I won’t be high but my body might rest a bit.
Thank you for another amazing video. Would you mind talking about how I can figure out how shut down I still am? I have no idea how far I've come in the journey of healing my trauma. I've spent many years depressed in my teens. But I haven't cried for a while now. I'm not even sure what it means or if it is a good thing. Anyhow thanks for listening!
I can relate! I would say I spent most of my life depressed. Shutting down (not being able to cry or be in touch with my feelings) has been a big part of it. Personally, I found that I had to allow my feelings to enter my awareness. It has been pretty difficult because they are such a tangled mess! I've been kind of processing like this for about a year and a half and I feel like I've come to some kind of understanding. Journaling and taking long walks have helped me out. It's hard to describe. Daniel talks about his own process in some of his other videos. Best of luck!
Dear Daniel Love your true and honest voice 🙏🏻thank you But I have a question How your personal growth and healing will affect the future if you won’t have kids? If you don’t have the opportunity to actively raise a new ‘healthier generation’, without passing your ancient family trauma on them How your personal healing effects the future world?
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"When you heal and grow you don't fit into your old life." So so true.
I used to fall into the trap set by toxic positivity during my healing journey. So many people pressure me to "get over it", "don't think about it", "shake it off", "don't let things affect you". But honestly that seems denying your humanity and Daniel's insight of mass disassociation I think is right on the nose. I like feeling my feelings and I'll never go back to being in the dark about myself. I still deal with existential anxiety because I can't change my trauma but I just deal with it a lot better now and have gained a lot of insight into myself.
I also hate it when people tell you to "Count your blessings" instead of your problems as if it's an "either or" thing! You're not allowed to acknowledge both situations in your life because they are not compatible and have to choose which one you want to focus on and are expected to forget and never mention the other. I refuse to accept that philosophy. I feel I am capable of acknowledging my "blessings" while at the same time, trying to deal with my problems.
Lee, may I ask if this existential anxiety might be caused not only by past trauma but also by current economic relations that most other people share, though some seem not not fear it as much? What I mean: most people are existentially dependent on finding and maintaining a job. This is for sure harsher for people with trauma because we are susceptible to fall out, being not able to work.
Everyone will shun you. You’ll be able to hear all the double talk and subtext from those who don’t. Eventually the energy that’s been suppressed and tied up with rage will come back, and you’ll be so glad to have the old people out of your life. A few will circle back, but you’ll no longer be interested to renew the contact.
I would rather be anxious from growing and healing, and expanding my view of the world... than anxious from being disrespected and blocked. I feel like a big part of the anxiety from growing is also, you're beginning to acknowledge and finally feel the feelings from when you were mistreated.
Thank you for speaking on this. I honestly believe that Anxiety is functional and not just reactive.
Just reading the comments alone lets me know how amazing this video and community are.
There is a huge difference between healing and coping. A lot of spiritual folks like to believe that by being one with nature, meditating every day, and having 'good vibes only' that all of their traumas will be negated. All these strategies are coping mechanisms. Copes have their uses and help in a pinch, but often times people believe that by using all of these techniques they'll be healed by some spiritual process.
The way that these tools are used is often very dissociative, in my experience. I tried using them years ago, but it felt emotionally invalidating to do so.
i'm beginning to realize that spirituality is something in addition to healing and being human and not instead of. For example, improving the skill of concentration meditation can help with being more focused on the root causes of the traumatic pain (though personally i'm not even decent at concentration). Or playing around with things like yoga or qigong to be better connected to you body's signaling and arising problems. You're right that most of the "spiritual community" is almost as dissociated as the rest of the world but there are useful things there. Same as being connected with nature or doing exercise helps in general in your day to day life.
@@RKTGX95 yeah, I agree with you both. This toxic positivity under the lure of “spirituality”, only encourages a person to ignore their genuine emotions. - And avoid their negative feelings. Instead of better understanding the reason for them. It’s counter intuitive.
And btw- Thanks for the reminder- I really need to exercise more. ☺️
You're right, Daniel, anxiety is the price one pays to grow, in all areas of life. A lot of people shy away from paying this toll because, in the short term, anxiety seems intimidating and terrible (I was and still am one of these people). But being in stasis is far worse, more insidious, and because it is more comfortable and less acutely painful than anxiety, people assume that it is preferable to anxiety, and that this behavior has better (or at least tolerable) outcomes. But it ain't so.
I consider you my friend from the other side of the internet, Daniel Mackler. Thanks for being you and making TH-cam videos. I am in a psychiatric hospital, cause I got a bit of a problem with myself...which I am learning to be insightful about ... 'what a sentence'.
Thanks Mo!
Hi Mo, how you doing these days? We all can get mixed up in this crazy world.. I have to journal and organize my thoughts every week just to unmix myself
Thank you for this, I have been going through a lot of anxiety for the last 4 months. I thought something was wrong with me and instantly said to my parents I wanted anxiety meds. But luckily my parents are very loving and gently explained to me that they thought I am going through a transformation, growth, that it's a part of life and that the only thing I need to do is be honest about who I am and not try to run away from who I am. . I didn't fully understand it until I watched your video. I guess i'm really growing right now it's just hard to see it when you're caught up the the whirlwhind and think that something is wrong with you because you aren't happy and content for a bit. Thank you
I'm listening and cheering you on!!!!! Thanks for your powerful messages!!!!!
There's a time to feel all the feels and a time to let them go.
There's the term 'spiritual bypass' which is using spirituality as way to escape your problems without experiencing real growth (although I believe it is also possible for people to have transformations through spirituality in some cases).
Oh that's so true.
Looking back , acknowledging, healing past trauma is vital to moving forward and anxiety is for sure an inherent part of growth.
As is repentance and so much else .
I know I wouldn't be who I am today otherwise.
Something I've also found with people who haven't done any work on their past traumas or themselves and would avoid feeling anxiety at any cost, is they like to say , "I don't dwell in the past.i. Live in the now" and wear that like some badge of honour yet they'll be the first to throw up in your face or punish you for something they feel you've done to them in the past rightly or wrongly. Lol mind boggling .
2:02 - And unfortunately, this is what people want to believe. I encountered this a lot in the mindfulness/yoga community (I could go into a whole other conversation about all of that) where there's a common idea about the seeking of growth, liberation, and "enlightenment," yet people seem to want to believe it's all blissful and fun. People have come to me asking what they are doing "wrong" when they try to meditate and are hit with all sorts of unpleasant things and mind chatter; I tell them nothing is wrong and that they have seen their mind as it is and it's about learning how to be with it and that paradoxically the peace comes when learning how to be in that space with it. It's usually doesn't seem like that's the answer they want to hear. Albeit with a different outer veneer, I have found therapy to work pretty similarly.
I think a big part of learning how to be in that space with it is emotional self-validation.. instead of beating oneself up for feeling a certain way “why am I feeling this way? I shouldn’t feel this way” … say “of course I should feel this way. Look at what I’ve been through“ or “it’s only natural to feel this way after everything”… and suddenly the negative feelings lessen
Your decision to publicly share your healing journey has brought so much difference to the thoughts and the way of being of so many individuals, you might not even know! I have been watching your videos for quite some time now and I experienced epiphanies that are actively leading to growth in my life. Not to mention, I find my own penchant for growth, reflection and healing reflected back in this channel. So grateful. Thank you Daniel!
Your video gives me the courage to cut off toxic relationships in my life especially with my parents. Now I feel relieve after being traumatized for so many years. Thanks Danial for sharing your story and inspiring people.
Dude Daniel your amazing brother i love that you confirmed my reality. Every time I’ve been under extreme anxiety or pressure it lead to monumental growth.
Imagine the pain we must of felt trying to walk for the first time or the struggle we overcame to understand and speak our first words.
When you grow through adversity it’s like you break the mold, the one that formed you.
Thank you I needed to hear this. So encouraging. Nice to know I’m not alone I choose the hard road myself as well! There is no other way for me
Never ever give up on you! Daniel is an inspiration to many of us. God bless you. 😊❤️🙏
The hard road is the only road. A lot of people try shortcuts with substances etc.. but they just set themselves back farther.
Daniel I woke up in tears thinking about the duck with the broken beak that you spoke of in another vid.
It's our fault. Us humans. We brought about the fall of paradise. The animal's reality also fell when we fell. We brought death and suffering here in this world.
I will use that horrific image of that poor dear little duck to be a better person. It is our sin. We can renew this world and bring all creation with us.
I was rejected by my whole family too.
❤
You are an inspiration to me.
I missed these kinds of videos Daniel, thanks for sharing.
Thanks. And I have a bunch more coming, hopefully!
I'm in a growth crisis. It is so so difficult. You and your message rings clear and true always, and really resonates with my core. It brings peace amidst the storm. I am so grateful! The hardship of growth, especially from childhood trauma, can be crushing and it seems to be the hardest thing in life.
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So true. I had silent, yet visible to others, anxiety for years. At 26 years of age I was in the category of cardiac arrest, and didn't know it, until a biometrics screening at my job. And this embarrassing experience helped me greatly. Still it took years of growth later before I noticed a molecular change, I observed, when my anxiety diminished a great deal. It was the gift of many. I felt your whole message to my bones.
Thank you Daniel. What a breath of clean air you are! Thank you.
Thank you too!
Your messages are enlightening Daniel.
Hard to swallow truth but needs to be talked about. Thanks Daniel
I just love listening to you, Daniel !
Your lecture gives me hope that it's for the better as I am in therapy at 40yo and I feel quite overwhelmed and confused...
Thank you for your authenticity. You are an inspiration!
“To grow is very difficult, very very difficult.” Why? For me, I see how it grows compassion. Anxiety is human, and feeling human helps me understand humans. And understanding leads to love. So anxiety can lead to love if it is embraced, accepted and treated with tenderness.
Im in a complex situation currently and i searched "daniel mackler anxiety" expecting to be directed to a video from years ago (which do also cover this topic) but upon checking, this was uploaded 20 hours ago! Your videos almost always resonate with me and shed light on a dark & mysterious path. Thank you for choosing to speak so openly and honestly at the cost of your comfort. Wishing you genuine peace of mind and tranquility despite the anxiety that comes with being so public with your message🙏🌻
I have been on the path to awakening for several years but I found your channel and it is so different from what I have worked on; It's uncomfortable, it's painful, and it's intellectual. I am making the effort to truly let go of emotions and behaviors that do not belong to me. To understand myself and where I come from, be aware of my thoughts and actions every day. It is incredible what I have been able to discover. I have noticed that when I suppress the urge to cry and scream, all those emotions accumulate in my chest and I feel the anxiety return and the pain in my chest. Man, this path is difficult but it's worth it. Hugs from Dominican Republic!
Daniel, thank you so much 😢 just thank you. You have no idea how much you‘ve touched my heart
Thanks Bianka. It was scary for me to make this video public.
Thank you daniel, it is encouraging to hear this from you. The past 2 years up till now as i'm writing this comment were the most stressful and anxious times i've had and i wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Personally to me the anxiety and pain manifest themselves quite physically, from back problems to heart problems to digestion, so much has come up just by going through the pain and neglect. And not only i'm i grateful as i still feel lost in this newly discovered thickly fogged valley, in a way it gives me the strength to believe i can survive so much.
Good to know I am not the only one who experiences physical pain... I can confirm the digestive and back issues. Occasionally I get stomach pains but I actually think overall it's a good thing because I can finally hear my body again talking to me. I never had stomach pains because I was so cut off from my gut feeling.
Love your channel! Growth IS stressful
Daniel Mackler you are truly a delight.
Right on.🙂
Thanks for the video Daniel.
I've just realized that I again let myself be crippled by fear, guilt and shame, that my mother used to put on my shoulders alot. And I love to travel and seeing new places. I am not working for a while. I used to be a driver. But I have many environmental concerns at the same time, CO2, global warming, and driving seems to contribute to this. Mind***k to solve.
I’m grieving right now and am feeling so much anxiety. I left my pharmacy because one of my medications wasn’t filled after the dr had just told me that he would fulfill it. One of the problems is that my ex is an addict and manipulates me by taking it it’s give and take. So I’m done with him and done with my mental health facility who can’t even get their shit together. I just left them a message. I know eventually I’ll get off these meds but man did I chew out my ex. And exactly he doesn’t want to move forward. Exactly and I told him that. And you’re right I am doing something right I’m growing. I to am trying to stay sober and glad I’m single because men don’t want to get their shit together so I’m done
You gave me strength. Brother. Thank you .💪
i needed this so bad. this hit the mail on the head for me thank you!
If so its a real SOB when its happening...I believe you... just going through a tough time with my illness.
Daniel, keep up the great work. We love you.
There are at least 75 items that can fit with the Grief lists. I can let you know the book if you would like
YES! You can't say this enough...if you want to grow and it doesn't feel weird, awkward, stressful...you're doing it wrong!
I think I fell into the trap as a child to try rejecting or fixing my feelings, or any situation that caused feelings that I didn't like. This really kept me stuck--the more I tried, the more I got frustrated and twisted up in my head. Somehow I figured out that if I acknowledge my feelings I could start to work through them and heal.
When you're talking about "these fake people" I am wondering if you have anything specific in mind--specific incidents, or something someone said? In my experience I see that a lot of religious people (but by no means all) are looking for a solution to their problems. A couple of my siblings are in this camp.
Incredibly useful, helpful, encouraging and healing the next generation that have a huge pile of problems with no solutions until they come across your videos :) all the best!
I can’t thank you enough.
Daniel the true healing value of your work is worth millions!!!! If you had to place a dollar denomination on your wisdom and problem solving abilities!
you are a miracle
Thank you Daniel
Thank you so much for this video!!!! It is encouraging and helpful!! Thanks so much also for sharing about yourself and your journey. It must take courage! 👍👍👍👍
Right on man! Appreciate your message!
Excellent advice Danny Boy, thanks. 👍😃
Who said going through the valley of shadow of death is gonna be a walk in the park? Right, nobody! But it is an essential journey to life if you really want to know yourself and know life. Life isn't about happiness. It's about meaning and purpose - at least that's how I see it. Letting go means letting it be. And that kind of deep acceptance means feeling a lot of pain. And as with any change... we're habit creatures. Any change means anxiety. But whenever I feel anxiety now, I try to embrace it. Because it means I'm tapping into new territory. Being real is not easy and you can't please everybody but it sure is rewarding...
This one is quite brilliant. The so-called peaceful people are simply dis-associated.
I would love to see videos about navigating the individual phases of healing + success stories from therapy.
The saddest thing in the painful healing journey is not the toxic people who caused it or reenacted it (as it is unlikely they will ever see reality), but the ones who want to help and advise you to come out of it. And they may be good meaning people, but like the psychotherapists that cannot help you beyond their level of healing, these people try desperately to stop you from feeling all this pain and anxiety, thinking that this is killing you. Well, sometimes this risk is real, but not feeling the painful feeling is not the solution. It is never the solution, the same way painkillers for physical pain never treat the underlying cause. Modern medicine essentially encourages "dissociation from the body" the same way psychiatry does it for our psyche.
Ive been sober one month and my body is on fire, today I make an exception and will take a large dose of CBD. I won’t be high but my body might rest a bit.
Thank you for another amazing video. Would you mind talking about how I can figure out how shut down I still am? I have no idea how far I've come in the journey of healing my trauma. I've spent many years depressed in my teens. But I haven't cried for a while now. I'm not even sure what it means or if it is a good thing. Anyhow thanks for listening!
I can relate! I would say I spent most of my life depressed. Shutting down (not being able to cry or be in touch with my feelings) has been a big part of it.
Personally, I found that I had to allow my feelings to enter my awareness. It has been pretty difficult because they are such a tangled mess! I've been kind of processing like this for about a year and a half and I feel like I've come to some kind of understanding. Journaling and taking long walks have helped me out. It's hard to describe.
Daniel talks about his own process in some of his other videos. Best of luck!
Dear Daniel
Love your true and honest voice 🙏🏻thank you
But I have a question
How your personal growth and healing will affect the future if you won’t have kids? If you don’t have the opportunity to actively raise a new ‘healthier generation’, without passing your ancient family trauma on them
How your personal healing effects the future world?
Idk but finding out what kind of stress will make u grow and that who will destroy u
is tricky thing q
Do you have any books, Daniel?
Can you share your thoughts on emdr therapy?
Dear D-Mac, how do you deal with the inevitable gross bathroom you come across when living with strangers?!
Sometimes I clean it!
But sometimes the mold so built in that you just gotta accept it!
@@Baqsam Yes, true. And sometimes I just take my glasses off and I can't see it. that helps!
Spoken like a true pro!
Does the anxiety go away? Mine was really bad when I started, it’s a little better . But still so hard :(
Daniel you read rd Laing ?
I do videos like you now.
Cool -- wishing you the best Efehan!
@@dmackler58 I just understood -- cool, but I am the best.
Which you are, absolutely.
Blessed are the ones that uplift others .