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- What is toxic leadership? Have you ever dealt with a toxic boss, toxic manager or perhaps a toxic leader? For example, the lead in a group project? The captain or head of your sports team? A supervisor or team Leader at work?
Toxic leadership creates a toxic work culture of distrust, conflict, anxiety, and fear. If you’ve ever encountered a toxic leader, then it will be easy to understand why it’s so crucial that you try to protect yourself, your mental health and sanity. Sometimes, a toxic work environment might make it harder for us to identify the toxic boss signs.
The Alliance Against Workplace Violence (AAWPV) has commemorated the month of April as Workplace Violence Awareness Month. Wondering if you're dealing with toxic leadership or a manipulative boss? Psych2Go presents to you the 7 Signs of Toxic Bosses and Leadership.
#toxicleadership #toxicboss #psych2go
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References:
Klann, G. (2007). Building character: Strengthening the heart of good leadership. John Wiley & Sons.
Pedler, M., Burgoyne, J., & Boydell, T. (2004). A manager’s guide to leadership(p. 69). Maidenhead: McGraw-Hill.
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If going outside counts as work, then yes
I'm gonna work at my house
I don’t have a job, (I’m a younger viewer) but I do have something to say. I love your upload schedule! It’s good for a nocturnal human like me! I can be awake and watch one of my favorite channels! Thank you Psych2Go!♡
Nope 🙃
I wish she can reach 5M subs... I only have 16 subscribers.. 😛
Another one to include could be "They gossip about team members to other team members"
YES!
Yes! I'm surprised that one wasn't included in this video.
That's my boss
Right you are! I’ve had this happen to me several times!
Yes, spreading misinformation is one of the main weapons of these types, as well as belittling people to try to discredit them.
I've noticed that some people start in a lower position and are great people, but then they're promoted to managers/supervisors and become insufferable. It's like the job changes them
I've worked for a toxic boss. Get something lined up ASAP or quit on them immediately. I understand we have to pay bills, but toxic bosses are terrible for your mental health and they look for ways to fire you anyway.
The market has gotten really bad and some of us just cannot quit. Many bought houses and had babies in the last 3 years and are suffering. The worst part is the inner child and the flame inside us slowly dims and fades away. I really hope things get better for all of us❤
My ex boss like that too, I just quit the job before getting me fired by their sloppy reason. Funny thing is after I tell them that I want to quit the job, they held me back and try hard to persuad me to not quit, as a young adult who just want experience job life I don't give any duck
*sorry for my bad english
Little Summary for Anyone 😌
Characteristic 1: They don't (or won't) listen.
Characteristic 2: They're never wrong.
Characteristic 3: It's ALL about them, and only them.
Characteristic 4: They need to control everything.
Characteristic 5: TMI [Too Emotional]
Characteristic 6: They abuse their power.
Characteristic 7: They do nothing.
Hope this helps 😉
Just about all McDonalds managers are rocking all 7 of these traits. I wonder why that is?
Sounds like me when in past friendships 😒
This makes me want to report one of my previous jobs if there was a way I could do it. Because about two years ago I was stuck in an office with a bitch who possessed all SEVEN of these characteristics. No one called her out on her shit until I came. She would call me into meetings almost everyday to discuss what she thought i was doing wrong and i would secretly record the meeting on my phone. We would walk out with her having to apologize to me each time. She was the director of the department and the two supervisors would kiss her ass and bitch at us but when she was away they would talk so much trash about her and be grateful she was gone. It got to the point that this bitch would be calling al of us into meetings everyday to shame us and some people started speaking their minds. They all got to keep their jobs for a few more months till they quit but for some reason I was the one who got fired. Its been two years and I wish what had been done to me happened to her. She started having major health problems while I was there and I think its her Karma in some kind of way. If she died, I honestly wouldnt feel sad. I would be happy people no longer have to put up with her big mouth and abusive behavior. I would never write that ab anyone unless they push me there and believe me she took me there. She insulted me daily to the core. Then the next day she would bring breakfast food in the break room and I knew that was her manipulative way of trying to apologize but also make me/other women stay. I was a fool for trying to hang on to my job that long. She fired me a few weeks before Thanksgiving. She would even try to limit our bathroom breaks. She loudly talked ab how quiet I am. “WHY DONT YOU TALK. I NEED TO HEAR YOU TALK.” I would say good morning to her and she would roll her eyes and walk away. She would shame me loudly for asking for help then when i felt embarrassed and didnt want to ask her anymore she would say “WHY DONT YOU ASK ME QUESTIONS.” Shed call me into her office and yell at me so loudly , the IT and accounting departments could hear it. The people in these departments would come over to me later to console me and even the RECEPTIONIST would ask me “what is wrong with y’alls boss?” My anxiety there was so high I developed stomach pains and indigestion. That part of my life makes me so upset. I know i should forgive and move on but she hurt me so badly and I know I always put in a solid effort at work. She messed with my money and my confidence. It was hard telling my family i got fired a few weeks before thanksgiving. I cried so hard i became hysterical. FUCKING BITCH. FUCKING. BITCH. I hope the worst in life comes to her and she loses everything she has just like i did
That's my dad.
Deffo me. Ty!
A good leader is the one who stands behind and leads his employees
Yes, standing behind is a good example.
@@Psych2go hello you have been helpful :D
@@Psych2go Thanks. Love your videos. They are very informative.
@@bakatoaster6000-yt Absolutely. Love their work.
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I actually got fired from my job by my toxic boss 3 weeks ago. I'm definitely not the kind of person who says yes blindly...
I got fired because °too many hands👋🏼° are in my register at a grocery. Other employees cashing💸 out customers instead of card only. For the last couple nights my draw been over 💲5 and under 💲2 Make a long story short, I alerted my boss of this and yesterday my boss did the same thing. I politely asked her can her and the team use Card only. She snapped at me because she felt I challenged her authority. She really stirred up the lion in me, because I give respect to all until you step🦶🏼 on my toes ⚠️
It seems like being a complete jerk is one of the requirements for being a manager (or any person higher up) at work.
You have to be a diagnosable narcissist for it from what I've seen
This is scary how spot on this is to my previous job environment and the management. I literally had to quit because of the astounding way I was being treated. I will never be a “yes” woman and I am so proud of that.
I am due to start a new job in the new year, and I have quietly quit my previous job in a toxic environment
unfortunately i'm still facing all this toxicity on my work place
Every job I ever had, every "training" type situation I've ever been in, I've encountered these toxic "leaders" and bosses. I ended up having to start my own business and be self-employed to get away from them.
Every job I have had has been the same experience getting fired for not kissing a** or being let go due to my race. Being nice and a decent person wasn't enough for them.
I’m in that situation now. As soon as I was hired, my boss quit and then they fired the third person because the boss who quit didn’t like him and while she was there kept giving him a bad rep. I’ve been there two months and still have not been trained properly. The boss that quit was there one month when I first started and wouldn’t train me. Then even though the third coworker tried to talk to HR and tell them how toxic it is, they still got rid of him. So in the meantime I’m dealing with one pissed off lady who has to cover the other bosses work, doesn’t want to train me so she mean as heck to me. They have absolutely to procedures in place. And others are scared to talk cause they don’t want to get in trouble. It’s a state job and a toxic place cause you have two other managers. One who doesn’t care at alll cause he’s retiring. The other is a narcissist and the deputy director. She’s young, bright, but the one who’s not only pissed off and doesn’t want to train me, but she has plenty of time to screw off and go outside 15 times a day to smoke. A real “I’m the only one who matters” attitude. She should not be management. Behavior is toxic. So, now I’m trying to put applications in while trying to put up with all the abuse. Sucks cause I was really hoping when I started that this job would be good. 😢
It took me 2 years to realize I have a toxic manager. Just like an abusive relationship, you may feel like you everything’s okay and normal but once you stepped away and got a better picture, you can see it was exhausting and toxic.
I work in housekeeping in a hospital and literally we had a meeting due to this Pandemic and the question of hazard pay came up and my boss flat out said we technically signed up for that job, we knew what we were getting into or what risks come with working there. Like I'm sorry...SIR we didn't sign up for a pandemic but thank you for your professional response. Legit an a-hole.
Hope you gave him the middle finger or at least leave or stage a Protest or some sort of Opposition, and not simply take it and like it.
Jen M. This happened at my hospital too. We were opening a special ward for the pandemic and a meeting was held and the housekeepers told me this happened to them!! Awful.
What would happen if you ALL walked away?
Housekeeping was one of my favorite jobs to be honest lol. The cleaning is therapeutic and i didnt have to deal with a lot of people. Plus I worked in the nice hotels. It was fun and sweaty and felt like a race to finish lol
Thanks for the replies. Definitely taking extra precautions and staying safe. Thankfully me and my Housekeeping crew have managed so far staying safe during the pandemic. But as far as this manager I have filed a complaint for not only this response he gave us, but another reason/argument me and him had. He definitely hates being challenged or questioned, which has resulted in retaliation in my case. (He reduced my full time status to part time.) And am currently in the middle of a grievance against him. I'm definitely not quitting without a fight or at least if I get fired I will call him out on his sht.
Unfortunately my old boss's narcissistic traits were the reason she was chosen to become manager. No matter how much we complained about her HR didn't seem to care. The ends justified the means apparently.
Mine was like that too. She was with the company for 16, well now 18 years and although everyone hates her attitude shes STILL there. She also cant keep a steady team for ONE year
HR is always the partner in this. My organization runs by both 2 biatches. One is the highest Management and the other top HR Manager. Together they suck out our benefits, force leaves, cut salary during d pandemic. There is no empathy, no charitable act for community and employees. I asked HR what has HR done for employees during d lockdown, she said 'e-learning'. Which is not even from her but a program from corporate for employees on a monthly basis. She felt proud by saying its empowerment to me. Well, I will want to show her the empowerment of labor law when we report her and that biatch.
Faryn wanna see an update on this.
Self-inflicted wounds of management.
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Important:
Thats why we need (worker)unions.
HR is NOT there to help the abused employee. They work for the guy who hired the toxic boss..
They want to keep legal troubles away and keep the business running.
Getting rid of a worker is usually cheaper for the Company if you let Human Resources handle this
Having a bad boss isn't your fault. Staying with one is
Very good point
Not everyone can afford to leave so easily
Thought provoking statement, thanks for sharing
While I agree but there are people that are super tight on money and aren't In a position to escape easily.
@@mollusckscramp4124 but they only themselves to blame when they fall prey to bad influences. It's always everyone's fault for being trusting.
Yes my director , cuts me down , everything I do is wrong it’s disheartening
if you get a chance the next time something is "wrong", try asking them to show you what they are looking for or to possibly refresh you on your expertise.
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I know it may not sound great or it will put you in a weird and uncomfortable situation, but I found it useful in the Navy.
I have to decide to defend yourself. What would your best friend do in this situation? She would defend you! So be your own best friend! Dont u dare let anyone talk shit to you or make u feel small. PERIOD. Let them know you are serious and dont appreciate the way they are talking to u. Say it even when u are afraid. I had to do it too!
*you have to defend yourself
I had a toxic boss in my first official job. This video just further confirmed that it wasn’t due to me being over sensitive.
I feel this I had like 7 toxic coaches who don’t listen to what I have to say and if I do say anything I’ll be benched! Or they betray my trust and bring me down because they only wants what’s best for them or they friends/ children
ALSO THEY DONT EVEN DO ANYTHING!
Could you make a video on toxic positivity? I worked at a company that preached 100% positivity at all times and it affected my mental health poorly because I did not know that positivity could be toxic. It could be helpful to others to identify this and learn about realistic and healthy positive thinking.
There's a really great book you can read about that titled F*ck Feelings. I'm not kidding; that seriously is the title.
@@timothyernst8812 interesting...
thoughts are like any other thing. too much of a good thing is bad.
YES PLEASE.
This topic is a first for me! Anyone care to expand?
Had a highly toxic boss + his wife. Other leads confronted them on a monthly basis about their behaviour but as such people are, they say that everything they do is the right thing.
I did the only sane thing and left the company after 4 years.
oh wow this is my boss and his wife ahahhaa gotta hang in there for a little while longer...
If you're having doubts about your boss being toxic, you should probably leave
I have one week left.
Got sick of my boss never communicating, always changing the rules, and straight up not protecting my friend who was being stalked by a customer.
Unfortunately, I don't have many options for employment right now. I'm stuck at a dead end job with a toxic supervisor. It sucks.
The toxic boss should leave not us
@@homeidea2884 Mine also happens to be the owner. :(
Dude I work for major university and my bosses are all of these but I can't leave though cause I want to transfer to lead trades position. They pretty much threw so much slander on my evalues that I couldn't but I started to talk to all of this bosses from department that I like and gain so much good rapport with them and getting every high level person around the university to have better sense of who I am. And now I getting new position from a department that I like and hopefully I develop way more for the future to come.
My manager (department head) likes to try to show her "superiority" by trying to tear down everyone around her emotionally and will blame others if she gets in trouble with her managers (the store managers)
The problem is you can't even complain about these bosses. The HR department tends to be a damage control for a company, Meaning they are there for the company not the people of the company. Therefore you have no one to complain to.
That's a painful truth I've learned.
Everyone who clicked on this video have probably experienced some degree of toxic leadership at some point in their lives.. don't be afraid to leave a place/situation if it's doing harm to your mental health!
this channel is making me realize a lot of things, I'm really glad I came across this channel
Glad you're learning alot!
yup. when crossed with other psychology channels you learn even more.
This channel has educated me so much... I love it ♥️
There's a fun book called "30 Days to Stop Being a Shitty Boss" by Corin Devaso.
Currently going through this....sometimes you have no choice but to bear it, especially with this employment market, it’s either a job or unemployment. What’s alarming is how more and more common this is becoming. Having to leave a job for another isn’t so easy anymore.
Hang in there, your opportunity will come if you don't give up looking. Took my daughter one year to find a new job but she kept at it until she was finally successful. The boss often behaved more like a deranged lunatic than a leader. She's now in a more professionally run workplace. Keep the light of hope burning. All the best to you.
I had a very toxic co-workers and a manager. It made my job so miserable that I had to leave. The best decision I ever made.
I’ve had two employers back to back that did the same thing, I’ve learned to place boundaries in place and keep them their no mater what.
Good advice. When I first started my current job I had good strong boundaries, even though I knew it was risky and even though I was afraid. Having boundaries at work doesn't come easily because the hierarchical structure isn't set up that way. It's all about obeying and being submissive to survive. Well, anyway. After being at this dysfunctional company for a few years now, my self-esteem has gone down ALOT and I feel I've been beaten into submission. And it all started when I STOPPED standing my ground and holding up my boundaries. Fear set in. Fear of losing the job, fear that I was angering management, fear of coworkers sabatoging me..So I started letting things go, letting things slide. And that is a big mistake. I'm very disappointed in myself that I didn't hold strong because now my job is just a disaster. And if I would have always held my ground, yes, maybe I wouldn't be there anymore. But that would probably be a good thing!
I once worked in retail management. We were the top performing store in the country for my division. My toxic line manager attempted to micro-manage all of us. I refused to bow down to her toxic ways in her attempts to control me. One Xmas Sales night we had a national TV broadcast from 0400 & late night shopping until 10pm. I worked alone hearing her preach "as a manager we all do extra hours". I was exhausted but refused to give in to her ways. I resigned 4 months later after I was poached by another retail group. After my promotion I realised the freedom that I had gained by leaving that environment.
Companies should do a psychological test before putting a person in a management position. In the place where I work, my boss is so toxic that it is creating a rift within the company. It is so sad to see a healthy working environment become so toxic because of one person.
Please make a video on WORKPLACE BULLYING.
Please. I experienced way too much workplace bullying. Yet I got the blame for everything. That's why I left.
MarioSonic24601 currently going through the same thing. It’s probably because they are inflicting their flaws onto u by twisting their words through gossip and making victims the bad person (also a form of gaslighting)
MarioSonic24601 I have been heavily bullied and I quit my job. I’m unemployed now.
I watched the other recent vid about narcissists and it’s really sad to know that what happens in our young lives will effect us and the world around us for many years to come.
and usually the damage carries over through parents, teacher and general culture.
Do narcissists really run the world then? I mean, the amount of wars and catastrophes we've been in in the past 2 decades alone, tell you; narcissism is helluva drug.
I know what good leadership is, and I know how hard it is to be a good leader.
Good leaders make sacrifices for the good of the group.
I know I'm not strong enough to be a good leader, and I don't wish to contribute to becoming a toxic leader.
Some people are naturally good at leading others are good at following.
Some people are their own leaders and don't require a following.
Gee, this all sounds like my supervisor. It's painful to go to work every day because of her.
Literally every boss/admin/assistant manager at my job were given the role and didn't go through any training and they just yell at people thinking it'll make them work harder but in reality it just makes people not work at all.
Wish i had seen this 5 years ago, would have saved me lots of trouble, anyway the only way to deal with them is 2 fold, either leave the company or endure until you can't anymore and leave the company, that's it.
And then they shame millineals for being “job hoppers.” No, they should learn how to treat people better. This generation isnt taking it anymore. You dont have to suffer in silence at some dead end job with an abusive boss
If only I can post this on our work group chat for everyone to see😂
TECHNICALLY...
I would do it right before I quit
Get a poster board, make it all pretty and put all seven signs then put a check mark by each one. Then let them know youre quitting and give them the middle finger and walkout
And also write a review on google reviews lol
Agreed
I saw almost all of these traits between 3 different managers at my last job. The plant barely lasted a year before it shut down.
The only one I didnt see was the erratic emotional trait, but I was so mentally exhausted from all the abuse and gaslighting that I'm not entirely sure if I could have recognized it.
I have had a few bosses that shift between each toxic type.
I'm so happy that I left with my dignity and checks intact.
In 10 years I worked at 5 different places and I had everytime a toxic boss on there. They all where a mixture of the points of this video, brutal narcissistic people who think the world is all about them, they never made mistakes and they dont need to listen because they are the boss.
People underrate what this makes with you as a employee...If u dont go, u can get really sick.
I recently had a leader (line manager) who was indisputably toxic - but only towards me. He decided before our first meeting when he joined the team that he didn't like me, didn't trust me and was going to do everything in his power to force me out. I was his sole target in a team of 8. He was friendly and gregarious with everybody else, but devoted a considerable amount of energy to undermining me, putting me on performance review, issuing formal warnings, generally focussing on a personal vendetta. I still don't know why he was doing this, I had never given him any reason to target me. I can't fill in anything more as litigation against the company is beginning. It's very sad that it has come to this, but he destroyed my self-confidence, micro-managed me, was literally never satisfied with my work output and did everything he could to put me down, while at the same time helping the other team members and lavishing praise on them.
My boss with the micromanaging and dismissal of my mental health
This reminds me of my manager at the McDonald's I worked at for nine months last year. She emitted a very dismissive aura and she didn't say please or thank you unless I asked her to. My fellow coworkers also expressed their complaints to me about how much she was an awful person, but an OK manager. She did make me cry a few times; I'm so glad I resigned.
If I have kind this leadership, I quit that group!
good luck dude.
@@usernotfound-jw7xs Hmmm.... I already tried, but my teacher say, "NO EXCUSES!"
@@kitdoesnothing oh, you already are in one... makes sense.
@@usernotfound-jw7xs yes •́ ‿ ,•̀
@@kitdoesnothing well then. survive, adapt, overcome, and repeat.
Straight out of high school, I started working at 2 separate places that were like that...
It's been 3 years and I've recovered physically...but, I'm still traumatized mentally.
I have worked for two incredibly toxic bosses. Another problem that is not discussed in this video is they make it impossible to leave the group. They put write ups, Pips, and Caps on your file so you can't go anywhere else in the orgnazation. If you try to go to a competitor they will bad mouth you to your future orgnaization. In both cases I had to quit and work a menial job in which I was respected in order to get my ego back to the point where I was functional again.
Was let go just recently from a company where anyone promoted to manager was a summary of this video.
My only regret is that I didn’t leave sooner.
This is so relevant to my life right now! I’ve been working for my new job for almost 2 months now and now I’m realizing how toxic the supervisors and managers are. The other day I lied and said I had cramps pain because one of my supervisors confronted me aggressively about helping in a different section and he was overbearing for the rest of the day and watching my every move and was very controlling and limiting. I felt suffocated, irritated, angry. I went to the restroom and started crying (I literally never cry) and then ended up going home for the day. From all my years of working, I have never left a job early. And the more I talk to my coworkers, they all feel the same way about leadership and want to tear up out of frustration
Take care dude
I currently work for this exact person, a very toxic, mean and rude person. They are extremely narcissistic and treat everyone around them like garbage. It has ruined my mental health and made me a very depressed person. Idk why I’m still working there.
I had a psychopath phd supervisor who would pass for all you mentioned here. Eventully i had to stop cummunicating with him and took him to HR. It took me almost 2 years to recover from all he did to me. There is still some unhealed wounds on my soul yet to recover from. But anyways it was an unbelieveably horrible experience.
I will use this on the future! (It’ll probably be in my recommended in a few years anyways lol)
I would but if my boss yells at me for no reason then ill quit my job. He would be a toxic person
My boss constantly tells me that if i dont know something i have to ask her. But when i do she answers in a way that i feel really stupid. She always has this certain tone when she speaks to me. Like she s angry with me. Even when she says my name. She makes me feel like Elizabeth from " keeping up appearances". I get so nervous when she s at my desk.
I teach at a university, and my toxic boss:
1) Defends workplace discrimination.
2) Defends workplace violence.
3) Punished me for complaining about 1 & 2.
4) Laughs at me during my annual evaluation.
5) Is dismissive of my concerns, ideas, etc. "Most people don't care about that." "It's not a problem for me."
6) Is passive aggressive, e.g. he doesn't reply to my emails.
My stress got so bad my blood pressure went up to 180/100. I stayed overnight in the ER. I took 4 BP pills each day. I left my job and my blood pressure went down to almost normal after a while. I take walks and I eat better and I work for myself now.
Yes! Yes! YESSSS! This is exactly what I’ve wanted to hear for a long time!
My old boss did absolutely nothing and dumped all his responsibilities on his employees. My mental health was fucked for 3 years because of it. I should of quit sooner. No job is worth so much damage.
I did hade a toxic-narcissist manager (can't call him a leader since the two words have different meanings), our team done tasks and get the work don't as long as he's not around, but when he arrives the workflow stops, when he saw a problem instead of trying to fix it he start searching for one to blame, and when we showe him that we already had a solution he listens carefully, go to higher management, and explains our ideas as his, and how without him that work would never be done. our team tried to make it work with him for 7 months, then I resigned cuz that was not the only problem, he liked to treat us like his slaves, telling one of the team members once after asking him to fix the deadlines for tasks (things we hade signed the contract on) he told her -if you shot your mouth and worked you would've got the job done- as soon as most of the team resigned the company fell apart and closed after one year only, he destroyed a company on his own.
Never clicked on a notification so quick.
once you start you can't stop
This has nothing to do but.
Thank you Psych2Go for these videos they really help :)
My superior is very toxic, too the point that I started self harming whenever I feel stressed. I still have to work there for another 2 months...
Kura Sayo you can get through this it’s not long. I have 4 months until I quit my job. You will feel relieved and hoping for you to heal in time. It will be hard but u can do it
@@seolamin2347 thank you so much. I'm sure you can do it too
Stay strong, whatever you do. Don't give the dirtbags any more power by you turning against yourself too, and self-harming. You'll be doing the abusive dirty work for them. Love yourself, you're definitely worth it. Keep focused on the light at the end of the tunnel. Not long to go. Wishing you all the best.
I did experience all of the types of a toxic boss from one manager who fits all of the types to a t. He would yell at you for the dumbest things, I would ask him to get something fixed I would take him months to even think about it, he preached on high that he did everything and barely did anything in return, there was no positive feed back from him, and he expected us to do his work for him while he sat and played on his phone all day. Thank you for listening to rant
One of my friends are like this🤔 overconfident and narcissistic
It's sad, my manager ticks every single one of these seven boxes :( I resigned yesterday though :)
I used to manage a commercial hog farm, and I have many years of experience across many different aspects of the business. When I ran my farm I had a 0% turnover rate and never lost a single employee the entire time I was there. The crew I hired was the exact same crew that left when we were bought out and I was demoted. Skip ahead two years to today where I am now an average worker for a different company. It's hard not to notice the flaws and inexperience of our manager. He is a micromanager, but he is also very inexperienced. He's very headstrong, but lacks the necessary skills to complement that personality. It is frustrating having to keep my opinion to myself everytime he makes a rookie mistake and nobody is allowed to question him or he will smugly try to explain his logic by twisting facts and opinion to convince you that he's the smartest guy in the room. I've never disagreed with him or told him no, but his incompetence is causing a lot of extra work, long hours, and very minimal results. He knew my experience coming in and I believe he works me the hardest because he's not comfortable with someone more experienced than himself being on his crew. My coworkers are also starting to notice my experience on various jobs and I believe that is starting to make him uneasy. I don't want to be this guy's enemy, but to bring in someone with my experience only to disregard it makes me judge his true potential as a leader. I've been at this place for almost a week and he has taken every chance he's gotten to try and undercut me and try to discredit me in front of people for seemingly no reason. I've had many bosses try to discredit me to make themselves look like a more competent leader, but in those cases they were also competent leaders and dispite our professional rivalry, we always respected and collaborated with one another on a regular basis. I've never wanted to leave a job so fast in all my years in this industry, but I feel personally attacked by this new manager and I'm already not sure what the future holds for me in this company. To hire someone based on their experience just to turn around and disregard any helpful advice they give you as a new manager, is pure ignorance. At the end of they day he has the final say and is still in charge. If you refuse to listen to the experience around you just to flex on your employees or because you feel threatened about your own skills, I'm sorry but that's not what real leaders do. When I was in charge I always covenanted the advice from my past mentors and the experience I had available on the floor. You NEVER disregard a more experienced person. You can tell them you disagree, and you can flat out tell them no, but you NEVER disregard a more experienced person. Real leaders don't do that.
I had to quit my job because of a toxic manager. I was having panic attacks about having to go back into work because of it.
That’s exactly what happened to me this whole week. There is constant interruptions in my work and he always tries to tell me what to do and what not to do. And when things don’t work out he puts the blame on me, says it would be „laughable“ that I had the lack of „skills“
Dude this is just my teacher!
*"I have to be right and I won't listen to you even if you are right and I don't trust you to do anything even if its the simplest thing like kahoot nicknames and if I hear you talking to your friend I will butt in and ask what your talking about and my favourite is that 1 person in the class that always gets in trouble but I defend him and he doesn't get punished but if (Insert my name) drops books of someelses on the floor because they are so heavy and I told her to do it because the person who own it was too lazy cause her to cry oh and I'm sexist against my own gender (female) " and all my students hate me except my favourite. So many people complain to me and my favourite to the princable that my favourite had to move class but nothing happened to me because I'm the teacher*
Sorry for the rant but I could go on for hours, but at least I don't have to deal with her anymore!
Good to hear you don't have to deal with that anymore
I had to quit my last job because my boss was like this... Made doing my job hell! Nothing I did was good enough for them even though I did everything and more than what was asked of me.
Also people talk about 2 weeks notice when you leave a job. By what you described they don’t DESERVE it!!! It’s good that you did quit!! Bravo. Well done.
had a school principal like this for idk, since elementary. man i'm just so glad i've already graduated high school
"They abuse they power"
Mom: Do this!
Me: But why-
Mom: *BECAUSE I SAID SO!*
I struggle with being too emotional. Naturally it has gotten me in trouble as it should. In a way it did feel like I was wearing a mask of some sort every day to hide how I was really feeling. Completely dead inside. I was over compensating for my own problems. During this pandemic i have managed to really work on myself and hopefully remove this really frustrating trait from my day to day life.
One of my friends used to be like this; she has matured and gone beyond her toxicity. Though, she only started changing for the better after my other friends and I called get out.
I am definitely not a good leader, I am so introverted. My friends depend on me sometimes and I do t know how to make things more interesting or help them well :/ oof
Hi Emily. Just want you to know, You are not alone. I think this is what makes this channel worthwhile.
Being an introvert doesn't mean you're a bad leader. They depend on you because they trusted you. Often listen to their problems and try your best to help. Please don't stress yourself tho! :)
leadership isn't always loud. as long as you improve the work, you're a good leader.
Introverts can be great leaders - a person's ability to lead is less about personality preferences / types than their being able to take initiative, collaborate and empathize with those they are supposed to lead.
In fact, introverts can arguably be better leaders than many extroverts as introverts often are very self reflective and therefore have spent a lot of time "weeding out" toxic behavioral patterns and figuring out how to navigate social structures.
I don't know what you mean, when you say your friends depend on you or what it means with you needing to make things interesting for them, but a simple strategy on improving your group relations with your friends could be to simply ask them and then collaborate on making a plan for achieving whatever goal you agree upon together.
Ex. if you have a friend and can tell they might be in some kind of trouble, ask them about it, ask how you can help them and then work together on solving the problem - or if you want to make your get-togethers more interesting within a friend group, ask around for inputs as to what people would like to do as a group and figure out a way of making that happen with their help.
Being a good leader can take many forms, so don't knock yourself if you aren't an extroverted peacock - leadership can be done in way where the people being led aren't even aware of the fact.
@@kristianjensen5877 you put it very well. and, to anyone doubting it, just remember psych2go said it in one of their "introvert strengths" videos.
the best part is that most of the time you're living paycheck to paycheck and dependant on your job, so you just have to deal with the anger and hatred for your boss internally, and just ignore it, because rebelling would get you punished.
The first four described my relationship with my manager. Been wanting to quit for awhile but this is really some food for thought
It's exhausting being behind your employees as a manager, but mine is awful to me. And I'm 110% give my all. I can honestly say. I WISH ALL MY BOSSES WERE LIKE ME. You do keep them, but they have no clue how bad it is for you and it feels so damn unfair but it's not their fault and HR is never your friend. They are there to protect the company at all cost
I've already dealt with two bosses that had these traits. Currently trying to resign because my boss refused to see my solutions that could help me grow but only wants me to do her solutions because she's the only one who is right. It's hard to say goodbye to your coworkers when you don't have a boss that fully supports you.
I appreciate all your efforts!!!!!
I tried to keep a positive mind with my current boss (who just got in the position in July) but the more I observe the way they treat my coworkers and I, the more I'm compelled to understand how toxic they actually are. Out of these 7 signs, 5 fit them, unfortunately. As of now, I am trying to find a new job, something I should have done at the first sign that they tried to humiliate me in front of everyone in the office on work matters.
I hope this help and shows my mom about her boss 😭 I also hope this will help me cause I do voice acting and the leader has been pretty toxic lately
What do you mean I said "You too"?
@@usernotfound-jw7xs , well. Idk
@@PlayandTalkwithSean sorry if i have psychosis and kinda insulted you for it, and if you removed it, then the goal has been achieved.
@@usernotfound-jw7xs , what do you mean?
@@PlayandTalkwithSean what do i mean by?
9 out of 10 of my bosses have been toxic. HORRIBLY toxic. I've found that toxic people become more successful because of the abuse they've taken out on past coworkers.
It's really hard for me to work for companies now. I have horrible anxiety about working for someone else.
I'll make my own money now. I'm so sick of toxic leaders.
All these signs match my manager... This is an eye-opener and in line with my doubt about this person.
I love this channel and if has inspired me to start my own channel, addressing toxic relationship, self help and mental health.
They have more to gain by knowing what they have to lose. Do not tread with them.
Thanks for giving the fundamental concept of leadership😊
There was a work project that needed done. It was a difficult task. The narc had done it last time and wanted me to do it this time. Both of us didn't like it and had difficulty with it for the same reasons. But we were always successful. I oblige. I proceed to work on it making pretty good time albeit the difficulties. My difficulty stems from a specific physical condition. But I suffer through it with no complaining to them. When it started to take too long for her, because she needed help with her project...she spit vitriol at me. I was like, "REALLY??!!". I took on something you didn't want to do and all you can do is complain. Even though it took me just as long as you did last time. It's because she's inadequate to do the job compared to me. She wants me to do more so she feels comfortable to do less. To make herself look good with as little effort as possible. Good leaders recognize a situation and tackle the task with their own effort...not browbeat their underlings to push harder.
Yes!! Yes !! To the micro-managment I think my supervisor thought they were being helpful but honsetly it was every single freaking thing that I either didnt right or good enough for them I sometimes just threw my arms up and said you do it then 😅😅
I see a lot of these traits in Vince McMahon, the CEO of WWE. His toxicity affected Raw and Smackdown to the point where I've given up on watching wrestling altogether.
Very insightful. Although you may not be able to change a person with these traits, knowing how to deal with them is crucial, if only for your wellbeing until you can find another opportunity. So sad that these situations happen more often than most would care to admit.
:) You should do a video about anhedonia and the feeling of empiness, we experience.
Lool been talking to my management and my shift leads for long time now just quit yesterday after coming to the conclusion that nothing could ever change purely because the leaders running the place are noo goood. Unfortunate hopefully I find a better team next try. And i was there a year and a hlf before deciding to leave... funny this video comes out the day after leaving, it makes me feel better about it! Ty!
More unlisted videos, THATS the answer to why there is 2 week old comments.
One tough area is substance abuse and denial. I am currently in process of leaving a family where I care for their children. It has become quite distressing as I have seen one of the parents drunk a few times while I have been there. I grew up in a family where alcohol abuse was rampant so this breaks my heart. When my anxiety and depression begin, I know it is time for me to take care of myself and realize I am powerless over this situation. * A video about when an employer may have a drinking problem would be very helpful *. LOVE THIS CHANNEL!!! The knowledge - and the compassionate way subjects are discussed - is very appreciated!
Sadly, a lot of my current superiors fit these categories, if not a mixture of two or more. I'd share, but part of me is fearful of repercussions from sharing in the frame of, "what are you trying to say?! Huh?!"
All of these perfectly described my previous big boss. She was one of the most selfish and stubborn people I ever met. She never listened to us or help in any way when we were short staffed; she just said her catchphrase 'do what you can,' well it's easy for her to say, she wasn't out there breaking her back like we are every night. Now she got promoted, but the damage is already done however.
I used to work for someone that was a toxic leader.
My current boss, while no means perfect, is leagues better.
Geez I had A LOT of toxic “leaders” in my life 😩
Me to.
Same 😒
all these signs sounds like my best friend. I dont think that's good
I've been there. I did a lot for him over the years, hoping I could help him get his life together and be a better person. But he never wanted to put in any effort and blamed everyone else for his problems. Worst was when I realized our friendship was completely one sided, I mean literally he did nothing for me while I was doing everything for him. Cutting him off was one of the most heartbreaking experiences of my life. But I am incalculably so much better off without him.
They probably wouldn't be a good leader. I'm in marching band and my band director gave me a promotion to become section leader but I'm too afraid to accept it because I suck at leadership and I lack confidence and I don't want to upset my section.
Thanks psych2go bcoz of you I am learning a lot of things ......becoming more self aware about myself and others too.....
Keep going 😊😘
I had a boss who have all these signs, thanks for showing me: I not Wrong, because I hate a work environment which has these characteristics.