If you are 'not ready', be an honest person with integrity, and do not lead another person on nor to believe they have a chance to strengthen the bond.
That’s true, but it doesn’t happen bcuz there’s a such thing as unscrupulousness. So we can’t depend on other’s integrity to protect us and must do that for ourselves.
I’ve also noticed that men will pursue a woman just for sex. I always make it very clear that I don’t do hookups, and that I’m looking for a relationship. That one sentence weeds out all of the guys who are just looking for sex. I’m all about leveling up in what I’m looking for in a man. I’m beyond done with bottom feeders. Intentionality in both words and in action is necessary from both. Reciprocity is another one as well.
I agree, and on the dating site, god forbid I’m done with that crap!! As soon as the guy says something like “hey sexy” blah blah blah.... I’m so done with that, I tell them straight up, get lost I’m not looking to get laid, if they say stuff like that right away, you know that’s all they’re looking for, sex. and then you got the ones that say hello dear, I’m like that sounds like something an 80-year-old man would say to his wife he’s been married to for 50 years... ugh
True, but I find that even if you Manet it clear that you are a lady and not looking for hook ups, they will pursue you in the guise of a relationship only just to want a hook up!
@@lisawentworth6831 I agree, but no man that is only interested in a hookup will bother with 8 dates and no sex, lol... making it clear that you’ll only have sex when you are ready will weed out most men who are just looking for a quickie 😉
Could also be because you’re dating a dismissive avoidant. They think they want a relationship till they start to like someone. Then their core wounds are triggered. Usually they think they won’t be enough in a relationship for someone. They fear losing their independence. Then all the sudden they’re taking space and think they’re not ready. This is usually all unconscious. That’s why it’s important to start stating needs and knowing what you want very early on in the dating stage.
I think I may have dated one of these: platonic relationship, but didn’t want to just be friends. Three months in and the relationship wasn’t progressing past one date a week. Finally told him I didn’t feel like a priority and he bailed. Said he didn’t have room in his life for a romantic relationship, there was nothing he was willing to give up to make room for ut
Yessss! My recent ex pushed me away when things were the most amazing they'd ever been. I know his feelings were getting deep. So he created space and ultimately ruined everything. He had trauma in his childhood. Good healthy Ppl like us get screwed in these situations! :(
I'm sorry but sometimes, when you want to work on a relationship, and start asking questions to better understand the other person, they see it as being clingy and needy and run away. If i dont ask questions about you, how can i get to know you?
I feel like men are more likely to be emotionally unavailable. So when they do develop feelings, they get distant or leave. Gone from we would be great together and asking me if I ever want to live outside London to 13 days later I need headspace. I said take all the time you need. Because that to me is sign..girl move on. He ain't ready, doesn't know what he wants. Just an FYI we had great chemistry and deep conversations. We had one date in person 2 years ago. Reconnect recently just to be told he wants to date but feels like distance and job situation in a way. To me... looks like still not grown up... 🤷
I agree whole-heartedly, but they r not dumb and they shouldn't be on dating sitee and making promises if they know this, they r smart enough to play the game n act like they wanr commitmenr, its just bad behavior
Exactly! They pursue a relationship, then decide they are not ready for a relationship. Do you go to a job interview, have a child, make some other life-altering decision, only to decide shortly thereafter you 'weren't ready'? No, because we are supposed to be adults...things can not work out, but commitments are the milestones of life. I had the same thing happen to me; someone meets and wants you to be their world, only to pull away. If you only spent a short time with this guy, then cut your losses. I think what these sites don't say, is that men 'think' they want love and commitment, because the species would die out if they didn't, only to not have the fundamental skills to make love and commitment happen. There should be a warning sign on men, like on their t-shirt...warning, may seem normal and ready for commitment, but faulty content; discretion advised!
We are all a certain number of men away from meeting Mr. Right. We just don't know how many men, which is why you shouldn't be afraid to dump a guy or be upset when you get dumped. He was Mr. Wrong but you are one man closer to meeting Mr. Right!
I have said something similar to the guy I’ve dated off and on for 3 yrs. I think it’s time for me to leave since he can’t seem to believe in or see a relationship with me after all.
@@JonathonAslay well with age comes experience,if we awaken gain self love,we definitely need to see more than"love" or perhaps all the acts of kindness, caring, having similar interests, support eachother and understanding eachothers needs and wants is captured under"love" 🤷🙂
I’m SO glad you mentioned intentionality. I recently ended a “situationship” with someone who I realized wasn’t being intentional about moving things along in an organic upward trajectory. This guy was the total package every other way, but I could not see myself wasting my time with us being on two different pages. I am proud of myself for recognizing this early on and knowing my worth to end things, instead of remaining in the situation with a delusional optimistic fantasy.
I think its okay to give each other time to get to know each other better but the problem is men want intercourse with women and that way they betray when they break up. Thats why, dont get intimate if he wants no marriage.
I would say even be careful with marriage, because some males are not afraid to say "I do" just to get what he wants and treat the woman like a bag of trash.
I love this video, Jonathan! You seem to be super relaxed and your voice is soft. It must be that gorgeous weather and a view where you are at, right? 😝 Yesterday, I went to a party and spoke with one guy that I know for a while as a friend. We always joke and flirt on the parties and I haven't seen him for a year. (Yesterday was my first night out since March 2020). He said, "You know that I find you super attractive and there is this chemistry between us". I told him that it is not enough for me". He was really surprised to hear that. You think, why? He said that he likes a casual relations (aka based on sex only) because they are easy to handle. I said: "These are absolutely not my type of relations". Too bad that some operate on this superficial level, but oh well. He is not my guy, like you said. 😚🤗
Jonathan I like your directness and your delivery of the information you are teaching us (yelling & all). I am 75 and still learning at least getting answers as to why I made some pretty bone head mistakes in the past marrying three Narcissist's! I'm ok now knowing what happened. Your content is stellar! Keep yelling!!
I appreciate the coaching but absolutely abhor it when he chooses to describe having sex with the clinical names of our body parts. To me it feels cringey to me, like he's just going for shock value of saying the words. I'd much rather him just day "before you have sex".
Wayne Dyer is fantastic. He wrote many, many books about loving yourself and personal development. I am so sick of people focusing on chemistry! You have to be friends first. Dating is a cluster*&k nowadays. Especially fo people at mid-life, who aren't intentional, emotionally mature. No, I have never just sat back and expected a man to guide the process. When you do that, it's a total disaster.
Um no your wrong. It's the guys that sit back and do nothing. I'm the initiator and make the effort and engage in deep conversations. Most men are lame, selfish, only care about their hobbies, their schedules. They will start to say all these things to reel you in.... how good they are to women, that they are pleasers, their affectionate, they will be this way or that way, etc. They get the woman to trust their genuine in their words. But their attention slowly dissipates, no actions, less attentiveness and bam, they changed for no reason and go off for the next thrill. So I think you are wrong. Men like attention and like to chase and pursue. Once they have you, it's not a challenge. I think it's funny you think in this day and age that women sit back and do nothing. Couldn't be farther for the truth.
This I find the most accurate. So often we as women can take a man not being ready to commit personally, thinking it’s because of us when it’s not. Often times, a man can think he’s ready, get with a woman and not be healed enough for a committed relationship. It’s not always about the person on the receiving end. It’s a lot of internal dialogue ppl deal with that we sometimes know nothing about. No matter how transparent we think our partners are being. We have to stop internalizing other ppl’s behavior and trust ourselves enough to move on regardless to the “why” a person isn’t ready for a committed relationship.
will there ever come s day when we have omg, EDUCATION for Real life in our school systems, conflict resolution, yea, everything or almost on U Tube???!!
I agree that women should date with intentionality-very good point; but I also think that men pursue their physical attraction ! They knew very quickly if they have long term plans for a particular woman but they will take the physical aspect as far as it will go before saying I’m not ready.. It’s really a deception. Women get physically involved way to early! Stop it, ladies!
Right on the mark Jonathan. It scares most however. I can’t count on one hand how manly men Ive dated or known that were emotionally mature enough to get on that deep level. They usually will move on and seek a woman that doesn’t complicate their lives or makes them feel deep emotions.
On patio videos sound is sooooo low can't hear what your saying my volume all way up and it's terrible please fix I like your videos and want to hear what your saying. Thanks
Since 2012 I have had a guy stare at me, cut me off on my horse, stretch his legs in front of me, walk over where I can see he is there and a few others things. I now pretty much just ignore him. I was close enough for him to say something dozens of times but he did nothing. If you can't say hi i am sorry but I'm not going to. I chased a guy and ended up with a one sided marriage. I will not do that again. I'm the friendliest person on this planet once someone starts to talk to me. I'm funny and kind and understanding. But I will not make the first move again. I know there is someone out there that will see me and know I'm the one. He will be warm and kind and funny and break the ice. If not then I will enjoy my life my horses and my money by myself. And believe me I do. Lol
I guess men pursue women because they are drawn to their physical attractions. The sex drives motivate them to pursue the women. Nevertheless, physical attractions do not last long when reality sets in. As Jonathan has mentioned about shared values, blendable styles and so forth, these are elements of reality. Before going into these deeper issues, the personalities of both men and women will be exposed when they get together in 6 months or a year. Strong temper and weaknesses in personality of both sides can weaken a relationship and eventually just good sex cannot guarantee a sincere and long lasting relationship. I use my logic to make this assumption. My logic could be wrong.
I feel a little 😳 embarrassed that my intentionality question skills are lacking. Although the last guy I dated was very good at asking me questions, which in turn taught me to speak up. He was also into self development and it showed, but it was as if it was a little hollow and as time went on, the things he posed as questions and said he was ready for he took back. I don't think he actually believed he'd find someone who would challenge him, I poked holes and called him out and the cracks started to show. It was so sad because he had one side of him that I thought was a magnificent man and he did change my life forever. I'm alot more confident now because I finally met a man whom cared for me because of my mind. And then I saw it within myself. I'm still heart broken but he wasn't ready. He said he was confused. I think it was for a number of reasons. I don't know what he actually thought about me and that really hurt, although he claimed to feel the way I felt. Maybe he didn't think I was good enough, but also he had some serious dark issues under the surface. I'd take him back if it was years from now, because that's how long working on stuff like that takes. Ofcouse I can't hold on for that. So I'm going on my own journey of self love as you call it. I just sometimes have a hard time letting go of a man whom had such a profound effect on my life. He was the man I always wanted. I was strongly brought up that woman were good for one thing and I emerged an adult with that as a core believe. For years I thought the more I gave of my body the more I was worth. I'm so so so glad I don't think that anymore. But I still have my shadows that need working on.
I totally agree. I am currently vetting a very nice man but my intuition tells me that he may in fact be gay 😔 This has happened to me more than once 😔
Son mo, if you think he’s gay even the thought makes this dead in the water, i mean how can he be hot to you now if you think he likes men. Rhetorical question
@@coastaldiva I still like him as a person. If I found out he was gay he would still be my friend. I have a long history of close friendships with gay men. I hope and pray that he is not gay and that it is just my paranoia talking…..
I found a man. We had Great chemistry and great compatibility! Everything was good, we were exclusive and planning a future together! Until the day he dropped me out of the blue. I recognized the Problem - he was an emotionally immature Avoidant. Boom. I need to ask better questions in the beginning.
I had a situation blow my mind this week. A guy who’s friends with my sister decided to randomly reach out to me two months ago. I meet this guy once or twice visiting her so we were acquaintances already. We started chatting on a very regular basis, formed a connection, we liked many of the same things. We wanted to make plans to meet up with each other. We’re three hours away. My thinking was I’ll make plans or ask him if a particular weekend was good once we were both freed from our job commitments. We were throwing dates around then in the middle of the discussion he says ‘I can’t do this. I know myself and the distance would be too hard for me to handle’. I knew this guy wasn’t ‘the one’ but what if he was? He cut me off at the knees before we spent one second together. I know there’s no one else in his life. No kids, not divorced but my sister said that she should’ve warned me because he’s a one date and bye guy. She thought he was changing. I can’t help but feel rejected and dejected from a person I barely know. Ugh.
You need to see the blessings in this. This is not your boyfriend, you haven't slept together, and he did you a huge favor by doing this now and not later on. He is not emotionally invested yet and neither should you be, so he has every right to say, long distance relationships isn't for him. He knows what he wants and he let you know exactly what the problem was without leave you confused and wondering. This is what dating is about. You get out there and sometimes you realize early a person just isn't for you, no harm no foul. You should try working on your self esteem and being less emotionally attached.
I think it's ok for guys to reach out to "just be friends". I feel a natural comfort in being friends first but uncomfortable when it moves beyond that so I usually avoid dating and just have good friends.
He just wasted my time for 1.2 years already. He never wanted a relationship and commitment and wanted only fun , sex etc...but he was not honest with me...he gave me fake love, promises etc...now when I wanted commitment he told he didn't even want a relationship. We are more than friend...he never loved me..I asked why did u be with me then,, what about thoses promises,, he told he didn't know anything, he realized later , he just enjoyed to be with me 😂😂😂
A guy from my past who just professed his love to me, had screwed up chasing a women who rejected him out of ego at the age of 48 !!!. She got pregnant and now he has screwed up his life and reappears in my life at the age of 52...now he wants marriage...I told him its too late. Ciao.
I cannot tell you how many men I've met between 50-60 who got entrapped by a woman they didn't really care about while chasing the younger woman fantasy. Now, chasing toddlers or teens in their later life. I run like the wind when I meet them.
@@Linda-eo1tc I know what you mean. It hurt me a lot because he had known me years ago and we got on well... he had to get married to her due to social norms, and now divorced from a so called narcissist woman he chased himself , just because of his ego... she wasn’t that much younger than me and treated him like crap... and rejected him... the rejection got him to chase her...
“I’ll see it when I believe it” my favourite quote from Wayne...oops it’s actually the book “ You’ll see it when you believe it” is a great one to read
I have a good friend who is in his 60s and gives women seemingly wonderful if distant relationships……… until they start to get serious. I would say they last a couple of years or so. Then it has to fall apart because their desires actually are not aligned. I don’t know what to think.
The guy I was seeing went to a 5 week yoga retreat and while there realised he wasn’t actually ready (despite thinking he was/telling me that he was before he left). He not long ago ended a relationship and also went through cancer which trauma he says he pushed to the side until the retreat, so I can only believe what he says. I told him if he found himself thinking differently in future he could still reach out and see where I am, and he said that sounded good to him. Maybe I’m delusional but I believe it’s very much a timing thing for us unfortunately.
You are spot on! This happened to me and I agree with you this guy is not for me. Self-love is extremely important. Thanks to you I have come to recognize this.
I think there is confusion about what feminine energy is. Worth looking into. We all have both masculine and feminine energy. It's how we use it that counts.
@@JonathonAslay Yes and we all have both. It takes practice to intentionally be in your feminine, as a woman. We tend to be over givers and give over of ourselves and that's what leaning back means. Practice receiving, in our soft feminine energy, instead of doing things for him and trying so hard to please him. Men need to give to a woman to be in their masculine energy and women need to lean back and let them. Right? Men can be too much in their feminine energy and that's not balanced either. Finding that yin yang with a man is the trick that takes practice. 😊
I can't wait to hear this one! This brings up another question Why do men say and act like they want to commit, yet debating on giving a blast from their past another chance?
My ex 38 turning 39 broke up with me, 26 yo woman. He said he felt like he couldn’t commit to the relationship right now. He chased me from the start for months. We dated for 2 months and we broke up last week. The age difference has never been a problem, but I feel like it went wrong because we rushed into something without really getting to know each other. We were great together. Never fought. Saw each other a few times a week. I think if we started over, we would be able to make it work, knowing what we know now. I accepted the breakup because I knew he wasn’t feeling it anymore. I could just tell. I still have hope we can make it work after some time apart and figuring out what we need to do differently. It wasn’t about sex with us at all. We had an intimacy outside of that. I don’t know why he lost feeing but he did.
He doesn´t say that I´m his girlfriend, but he said that he wont date someone else, and he is planning things with me several years ahead. Travelling together and so. How is my english anyway ? I never been to the states.
LOL! He pursues when he’s not ready bcuz he wants to smash. Either that, or he’s after somebody who is rich. Women gotta learn the Reject Me Sign, how men demand to be rejected, should be rejected, and don’t know it.
Yeah just had a friend who I got vibes from finally make a move only to on date two say oh I am not looking for a relationship. Been feeling like why did you go there then?
Thank you. I am reading "She Comes first" By Brian Knox. In primal ( I am part of a prepper and homesteader Group on Facebook ) instincts I find your videos hit 🎯 on where those who are intimidated in conversation in asking for deeper questions. I use questions and scenarios now to interview prospects. It's good practice as I am not available right now. I am loving myself, writing my business plan, and losing the last 60 lbs and enjoying my freedom and life now. Finally feeling not guilty for wanting to do for me.
A man told me his not ready for commitment and relationships after being in a relationship for 3 years.... confusing.... till this day he still tried to pursue me although I have blocked him and removed my energy from him he still tries.
@@JonathonAslay oh I see, thought its probably the climate in SOUTH Africa that causes the men to be like this😅just kidding. So he wanted the benefits of a relationship but not the whole relationship?
Respectful I disagree... only to the extent, I believe both men and women are quite picky and reject good people all the time. Where I think women differ, is that will accept bad behavior much more than men... but, if a man is having regular sex, he will put up with all kinds of crazy 🤪 😁🙃
Because they think with wrong head? Sorry, couldn’t help it. 😄 Did you try to rehab a condo yourself as a woman? I collected so many applications for a side chick, it was traumatic. Didn’t realized my work clothes were screaming: “she has no man, but a place to do it” Well, I am a kind and funny person, easy to approach I guess. But pick up is such sport for many man nova days, it upsetting. Turned all of them in my friends anyway. Buddies! Lol. “So many people you can sleep with, so little people you want to wake up with” by Eduard Asadov.
@@JonathonAslay your videos helped me to progress my fillings and to my you like my brother’s advice. But for those “buddies”, I heard when man offer help and success, his testosterone levels rise. I guess they fucked their wives very good that night. 😄
Now I'm having to listen super close to hear you....lol. Sit back in feminine, whatever, and do nothing. You've got to be kidding!!!!! That's why my relationships never work out. I refuse to be miss Suzie housekeeper with not one piece of dust anywhere and I'm not into cooking. Feminine appeal is very hard!!!! The feminine look and act will get you to girlfriend stage, not wife stage. Since you read all these books anyway, would you please read Fascinating Womanhood? It's not easy being the perfect housekeeper and cook. In fact, it's really hard, for me.
I love this. "Intentionality". I didn't ask hard questions in the beginning. We agreed to pursue a monogamous relationship before the d went in the p. 4 months in, he started pulling away. It was devastating. So much in common, strong attraction and similar values. I moved on but then he came after me fully intentional and things did change for awhile. However, it returned to him pulling away again. I just don't get it. He would get so upset questioning who im seeing because I refused to engage in an exclusive relationship yet he would make plans, break plans every time we started getting close...ehhh...thank you Jonathon. I will never move fwd with anyone again without asking a lot of questions and being intentional.
Great video! From my lady/friend connections the excuse they have heardfrom guy's , not financially stable a- not sure when I can marry says the man. Sounds like a big excuse to leave the RELATIONSHIP. Right?
Thank you, Jon, You recommended your FB group for me, but I canceled FB years ago. I needed this video. I gave you my maiden name that starts with "T" and you were kind enough to get back to me. So, thank you!
I have two questions for you. I just met a man online and he lives in another state his wife died two years ago and he thinks he's ready to start dating again he wants to take the time for us to get to know each other. Two questions one do I say something to him when he brings up his late wife every conversation question mark in the second question is do long-distance relationships really work
Omg you're so extra , i love your "leaaannnn back in your feminine energy " thing that you do it just brighten my day , and I used to think that ways I BLAAAAMMEE some Yt channels for that , I never had that lean back mentality b4 , but decided to read about some flirting tips , I read some books and watched videos and it was repeated 100% , so I decided to give it a try bc it was the easiest thing , and when I started watching your videos I felt so relieved that someone woke me up from that madness, you are if not the only one being truthful and saying things as it is , I tend to be approached by all type of mans thanks to my appearance, so I am already used to not do any efforts to seduce or attract someone , but then I started to think differently after the LOVE YOURSELF project , I read so many books and videos and I was helped alot bc I never knew we could just attach to some abusive people just bc of our childhood trauma , now I know and I worked on it , I'm happy in my life rn and now I learn about TWO WAYS thing, i used to think only about myself am i ready ? Am I making a mistake?! , it was only about myself and how I felt during all dating process, but now I know both man and woman goes through the same thing , now I ask and try to talk about some subject that I used to think were reserved to women only , now I take everything as a learning experience there is no failure in life only apprenticeships and learning experiences , tysm for your videos and for your sincerity I am doing a marathon of your past videos bc I feel like I missed so much , The thing that I find difficulty with en is "announcing a bad news or a bad event" it may seem easy to people but I just keep ignoring this for almost a year , when there is a death to announce , or a bad news to announce to the person you love I can't find the courage to say it I hate that sad face I know it's not my fault but wish it wasn't me that had to say it , I asked other people and most told me they say it as it Is and didn't think too much ,but for me it's almost a torture especially during this pandemic I had to tell many peole that their close ones pass away and each time it's almost as of It was me the one hurting them .
I think if the intentions of both men and women are not quite right, the chance of a successful and lasting relationship is not high. There may be exceptions.
Super good video Jonathon! I personally think Joe Dispenza needs to reach all people around the globe to teach them how to reprogram their brains! Love Wayne too because he had a gentle soul so we lost a good one when he passed onto the other side. I am guilty and bought into the man should lead program and this was after trying to lead myself and failing (I had 5 brothers as my mentors and witnessed a few of them dodging women all the time LOL). I dated a guy who was 13yrs older a couple years ago for 5yrs looking for guidance in a relationship and found that a man can’t lead if he hasn’t taken the time to deal with his past shit or doesn’t get it! Maybe I should say that unless you have been successful in a relationship that you wouldn’t be the lead and that goes both ways! So…I have concluded that whoever has the healthiest mindset should be the lead because someone has to do it. 😀 I am a natural leader so I try but I am attracted to alpha males now who lead because I am tired of doing it…love that you say it like it is, would date you but it would be long distance and I have been there done that and it sounds like you have too. My youngest brother never dated EVER but I had encouraged him to do the internet when he got to a lonely stage (40). He is super shy and lacks confidence but he shocked the family by announcing he was flying to the Philippines to meet up with a woman he had been Skyping with for 3yrs! He ended up bringing her back on a fiancé visa and they got married and have 2 beautiful children 6yrs later! They just visited me from L.A. (I am in Tucson, AZ) and they are a perfect match, both introverts and seem to work well together as a team and parents and both love love love each other! What I realized was that my brother’s intention was to find a wife, he had no interest in “dating” and LA is difficult to date anyways because people are lost in LaLa land and caught up in the ego aspects of life. He got swallowed up by women there but it is interesting how one person can meet their match right off the bat if you know what you want and then you have someone like me who has dated more than most and never met my match? Maybe because I kept dodging the marriage thing when I was younger because I felt objectified and couldn’t “vet” who was true and who was not so I never trusted my own decisions. ☹️ Learning a lot from you later in life and lucky that I still feel 25 LOL so feeling like I am getting closer to meeting the one. Thank you! Enjoy this beautiful day!!!
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If you are 'not ready', be an honest person with integrity, and do not lead another person on nor to believe they have a chance to strengthen the bond.
That’s true, but it doesn’t happen bcuz there’s a such thing as unscrupulousness. So we can’t depend on other’s integrity to protect us and must do that for ourselves.
@cindy, Seriously! Hitting the nail on the head, my friend.
That’s right...what happened to people in this society....no more honesty and integrity....
I’ve also noticed that men will pursue a woman just for sex. I always make it very clear that I don’t do hookups, and that I’m looking for a relationship. That one sentence weeds out all of the guys who are just looking for sex. I’m all about leveling up in what I’m looking for in a man. I’m beyond done with bottom feeders. Intentionality in both words and in action is necessary from both. Reciprocity is another one as well.
Why it's good to not have sex too soon so.you can see if they stick around when they dont get sex right away
I agree, and on the dating site, god forbid I’m done with that crap!! As soon as the guy says something like “hey sexy” blah blah blah.... I’m so done with that, I tell them straight up, get lost I’m not looking to get laid, if they say stuff like that right away, you know that’s all they’re looking for, sex. and then you got the ones that say hello dear, I’m like that sounds like something an 80-year-old man would say to his wife he’s been married to for 50 years... ugh
@@lisaottomann2396 It's "yes dear,"no dear"😅
True, but I find that even if you Manet it clear that you are a lady and not looking for hook ups, they will pursue you in the guise of a relationship only just to want a hook up!
@@lisawentworth6831 I agree, but no man that is only interested in a hookup will bother with 8 dates and no sex, lol... making it clear that you’ll only have sex when you are ready will weed out most men who are just looking for a quickie 😉
Could also be because you’re dating a dismissive avoidant. They think they want a relationship till they start to like someone. Then their core wounds are triggered. Usually they think they won’t be enough in a relationship for someone. They fear losing their independence. Then all the sudden they’re taking space and think they’re not ready. This is usually all unconscious. That’s why it’s important to start stating needs and knowing what you want very early on in the dating stage.
I think I may have dated one of these: platonic relationship, but didn’t want to just be friends. Three months in and the relationship wasn’t progressing past one date a week. Finally told him I didn’t feel like a priority and he bailed. Said he didn’t have room in his life for a romantic relationship, there was nothing he was willing to give up to make room for ut
Yessss! My recent ex pushed me away when things were the most amazing they'd ever been. I know his feelings were getting deep. So he created space and ultimately ruined everything. He had trauma in his childhood. Good healthy Ppl like us get screwed in these situations! :(
@@cheriewieger3754 yup. Me too!!!!!
This has been so frustrating to me until I learned not ready doesn’t mean maybe later or soon it just means no 🙅🏻♀️
I think most people need to work on themselves....then they are ready to be in a relationship. Timing is everything.
I'm sorry but sometimes, when you want to work on a relationship, and start asking questions to better understand the other person, they see it as being clingy and needy and run away. If i dont ask questions about you, how can i get to know you?
exactly!!!
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I feel like men are more likely to be emotionally unavailable. So when they do develop feelings, they get distant or leave. Gone from we would be great together and asking me if I ever want to live outside London to 13 days later I need headspace. I said take all the time you need. Because that to me is sign..girl move on. He ain't ready, doesn't know what he wants. Just an FYI we had great chemistry and deep conversations. We had one date in person 2 years ago. Reconnect recently just to be told he wants to date but feels like distance and job situation in a way. To me... looks like still not grown up... 🤷
I agree whole-heartedly, but they r not dumb and they shouldn't be on dating sitee and making promises if they know this, they r smart enough to play the game n act like they wanr commitmenr, its just bad behavior
Do men lol ever really grow up 😂
Exactly! They pursue a relationship, then decide they are not ready for a relationship. Do you go to a job interview, have a child, make some other life-altering decision, only to decide shortly thereafter you 'weren't ready'? No, because we are supposed to be adults...things can not work out, but commitments are the milestones of life. I had the same thing happen to me; someone meets and wants you to be their world, only to pull away. If you only spent a short time with this guy, then cut your losses. I think what these sites don't say, is that men 'think' they want love and commitment, because the species would die out if they didn't, only to not have the fundamental skills to make love and commitment happen. There should be a warning sign on men, like on their t-shirt...warning, may seem normal and ready for commitment, but faulty content; discretion advised!
In my experience guy's have lied to me that they wanted a relationship just to get sex from me and it's been happening most of my life
Dating should be changed to a new word
It should be ‘Deciding’
Because we’re deciding if this person is long term material
Exactly 💯
Interesting point! This would help put everything in perspective 💯
The biggest issue is men lie to get what they want and show a person of potential when they really have none.
Yes, men and women do that frequently... humans are complicated.
@@JonathonAslay true women do that too sometimes to be fair. It’s not that complicated if you know what to look for😉
We are all a certain number of men away from meeting Mr. Right. We just don't know how many men, which is why you shouldn't be afraid to dump a guy or be upset when you get dumped. He was Mr. Wrong but you are one man closer to meeting Mr. Right!
I have said something similar to the guy I’ve dated off and on for 3 yrs. I think it’s time for me to leave since he can’t seem to believe in or see a relationship with me after all.
Girl… you’re wasting your “hot years”… run!
I would guess that anyone thats been married and then divorced knows that love is not enough
I don't believe that most women over 40 think they way you suggested
@@JonathonAslay no, we don’t. Thanks!
@@JonathonAslay well with age comes experience,if we awaken gain self love,we definitely need to see more than"love" or perhaps all the acts of kindness, caring, having similar interests, support eachother and understanding eachothers needs and wants is captured under"love" 🤷🙂
@@JonathonAslay I agree with you
Amen sister ❣️❣️❣️
Can't they just tell the truth.
I’m SO glad you mentioned intentionality. I recently ended a “situationship” with someone who I realized wasn’t being intentional about moving things along in an organic upward trajectory. This guy was the total package every other way, but I could not see myself wasting my time with us being on two different pages. I am proud of myself for recognizing this early on and knowing my worth to end things, instead of remaining in the situation with a delusional optimistic fantasy.
Hate it when people play with other people's hearts💔 grow the f... up. Take responsibility for ur actions.
I think its okay to give each other time to get to know each other better but the problem is men want intercourse with women and that way they betray when they break up. Thats why, dont get intimate if he wants no marriage.
I would say even be careful with marriage, because some males are not afraid to say "I do" just to get what he wants and treat the woman like a bag of trash.
@@latoriarichardson6754 well, thats why take your time, time will tell
Not interested in just a physical relationship.. Many clearly don't give a damn.
I’m currently watching Billions and immediately recognized the shirt!
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This is something my girlfriends and I talk about often.
Great to hear...
I love this video, Jonathan! You seem to be super relaxed and your voice is soft. It must be that gorgeous weather and a view where you are at, right? 😝
Yesterday, I went to a party and spoke with one guy that I know for a while as a friend. We always joke and flirt on the parties and I haven't seen him for a year. (Yesterday was my first night out since March 2020).
He said, "You know that I find you super attractive and there is this chemistry between us". I told him that it is not enough for me". He was really surprised to hear that. You think, why? He said that he likes a casual relations (aka based on sex only) because they are easy to handle. I said: "These are absolutely not my type of relations". Too bad that some operate on this superficial level, but oh well. He is not my guy, like you said. 😚🤗
Jonathan I like your directness and your delivery of the information you are teaching us (yelling & all). I am 75 and still learning at least getting answers as to why I made some pretty bone head mistakes in the past marrying three Narcissist's! I'm ok now knowing what happened. Your content is stellar! Keep yelling!!
I appreciate the coaching but absolutely abhor it when he chooses to describe having sex with the clinical names of our body parts. To me it feels cringey to me, like he's just going for shock value of saying the words. I'd much rather him just day "before you have sex".
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Wayne Dyer is fantastic. He wrote many, many books about loving yourself and personal development. I am so sick of people focusing on chemistry! You have to be friends first. Dating is a cluster*&k nowadays. Especially fo people at mid-life, who aren't intentional, emotionally mature. No, I have never just sat back and expected a man to guide the process. When you do that, it's a total disaster.
Um no your wrong. It's the guys that sit back and do nothing. I'm the initiator and make the effort and engage in deep conversations. Most men are lame, selfish, only care about their hobbies, their schedules. They will start to say all these things to reel you in.... how good they are to women, that they are pleasers, their affectionate, they will be this way or that way, etc. They get the woman to trust their genuine in their words. But their attention slowly dissipates, no actions, less attentiveness and bam, they changed for no reason and go off for the next thrill. So I think you are wrong. Men like attention and like to chase and pursue. Once they have you, it's not a challenge. I think it's funny you think in this day and age that women sit back and do nothing. Couldn't be farther for the truth.
Not ready is also I don't feel that I'm good enough, or healed enough for you.
This I find the most accurate. So often we as women can take a man not being ready to commit personally, thinking it’s because of us when it’s not. Often times, a man can think he’s ready, get with a woman and not be healed enough for a committed relationship. It’s not always about the person on the receiving end. It’s a lot of internal dialogue ppl deal with that we sometimes know nothing about. No matter how transparent we think our partners are being. We have to stop internalizing other ppl’s behavior and trust ourselves enough to move on regardless to the “why” a person isn’t ready for a committed relationship.
will there ever come s day when we have omg, EDUCATION for Real life in our school systems, conflict resolution, yea, everything or almost on U Tube???!!
I agree that women should date with intentionality-very good point; but I also think that men pursue their physical attraction ! They knew very quickly if they have long term plans for a particular woman but they will take the physical aspect as far as it will go before saying I’m not ready.. It’s really a deception. Women get physically involved way to early! Stop it, ladies!
Right on the mark Jonathan. It scares most however. I can’t count on one hand how manly men Ive dated or known that were emotionally mature enough to get on that deep level. They usually will move on and seek a woman that doesn’t complicate their lives or makes them feel deep emotions.
I'll believe his advice works when this guy Johnathan gets married 🤷🏿♀️
On patio videos sound is sooooo low can't hear what your saying my volume all way up and it's terrible please fix I like your videos and want to hear what your saying. Thanks
Sorry about that
We can be very intentional AND in our empowered feminine energy.
Since 2012 I have had a guy stare at me, cut me off on my horse, stretch his legs in front of me, walk over where I can see he is there and a few others things. I now pretty much just ignore him. I was close enough for him to say something dozens of times but he did nothing. If you can't say hi i am sorry but I'm not going to. I chased a guy and ended up with a one sided marriage. I will not do that again. I'm the friendliest person on this planet once someone starts to talk to me. I'm funny and kind and understanding. But I will not make the first move again. I know there is someone out there that will see me and know I'm the one. He will be warm and kind and funny and break the ice. If not then I will enjoy my life my horses and my money by myself. And believe me I do. Lol
I guess men pursue women because they are drawn to their physical attractions. The sex drives motivate them to pursue the women. Nevertheless, physical attractions do not last long when reality sets in. As Jonathan has mentioned about shared values, blendable styles and so forth, these are elements of reality. Before going into these deeper issues, the personalities of both men and women will be exposed when they get together in 6 months or a year. Strong temper and weaknesses in personality of both sides can weaken a relationship and eventually just good sex cannot guarantee a sincere and long lasting relationship. I use my logic to make this assumption. My logic could be wrong.
I feel a little 😳 embarrassed that my intentionality question skills are lacking. Although the last guy I dated was very good at asking me questions, which in turn taught me to speak up. He was also into self development and it showed, but it was as if it was a little hollow and as time went on, the things he posed as questions and said he was ready for he took back. I don't think he actually believed he'd find someone who would challenge him, I poked holes and called him out and the cracks started to show. It was so sad because he had one side of him that I thought was a magnificent man and he did change my life forever. I'm alot more confident now because I finally met a man whom cared for me because of my mind. And then I saw it within myself. I'm still heart broken but he wasn't ready. He said he was confused. I think it was for a number of reasons. I don't know what he actually thought about me and that really hurt, although he claimed to feel the way I felt. Maybe he didn't think I was good enough, but also he had some serious dark issues under the surface. I'd take him back if it was years from now, because that's how long working on stuff like that takes. Ofcouse I can't hold on for that. So I'm going on my own journey of self love as you call it. I just sometimes have a hard time letting go of a man whom had such a profound effect on my life. He was the man I always wanted. I was strongly brought up that woman were good for one thing and I emerged an adult with that as a core believe. For years I thought the more I gave of my body the more I was worth. I'm so so so glad I don't think that anymore. But I still have my shadows that need working on.
They are gay and want to appear as though they are straight. That was my experience anyway.
I believe this is more common than people think.
I totally agree. I am currently vetting a very nice man but my intuition tells me that he may in fact be gay 😔 This has happened to me more than once 😔
Son mo, if you think he’s gay even the thought makes this dead in the water, i mean how can he be hot to you now if you think he likes men. Rhetorical question
That's rare in my opinion...
@@coastaldiva I still like him as a person. If I found out he was gay he would still be my friend. I have a long history of close friendships with gay men. I hope and pray that he is not gay and that it is just my paranoia talking…..
I found a man. We had Great chemistry and great compatibility! Everything was good, we were exclusive and planning a future together! Until the day he dropped me out of the blue. I recognized the Problem - he was an emotionally immature Avoidant. Boom.
I need to ask better questions in the beginning.
I had a situation blow my mind this week. A guy who’s friends with my sister decided to randomly reach out to me two months ago. I meet this guy once or twice visiting her so we were acquaintances already. We started chatting on a very regular basis, formed a connection, we liked many of the same things. We wanted to make plans to meet up with each other. We’re three hours away. My thinking was I’ll make plans or ask him if a particular weekend was good once we were both freed from our job commitments. We were throwing dates around then in the middle of the discussion he says ‘I can’t do this. I know myself and the distance would be too hard for me to handle’. I knew this guy wasn’t ‘the one’ but what if he was? He cut me off at the knees before we spent one second together. I know there’s no one else in his life. No kids, not divorced but my sister said that she should’ve warned me because he’s a one date and bye guy. She thought he was changing. I can’t help but feel rejected and dejected from a person I barely know. Ugh.
You need to see the blessings in this. This is not your boyfriend, you haven't slept together, and he did you a huge favor by doing this now and not later on. He is not emotionally invested yet and neither should you be, so he has every right to say, long distance relationships isn't for him. He knows what he wants and he let you know exactly what the problem was without leave you confused and wondering. This is what dating is about. You get out there and sometimes you realize early a person just isn't for you, no harm no foul.
You should try working on your self esteem and being less emotionally attached.
I think it's ok for guys to reach out to "just be friends". I feel a natural comfort in being friends first but uncomfortable when it moves beyond that so I usually avoid dating and just have good friends.
I hear ya sister.
you fast forwarded yourself wasting time on the phone and chatting and texting take the loss and move on
Sounds like he has serious psychological issues.
I can tell it hurts you. However, it could have been much worse.
He just wasted my time for 1.2 years already. He never wanted a relationship and commitment and wanted only fun , sex etc...but he was not honest with me...he gave me fake love, promises etc...now when I wanted commitment he told he didn't even want a relationship. We are more than friend...he never loved me..I asked why did u be with me then,, what about thoses promises,, he told he didn't know anything, he realized later , he just enjoyed to be with me 😂😂😂
If you gave him the cake , he gets hungry , and the other feeling come and go, that is why you get mixed words or signals
Harsh truth I know
A guy from my past who just professed his love to me, had screwed up chasing a women who rejected him out of ego at the age of 48 !!!. She got pregnant and now he has screwed up his life and reappears in my life at the age of 52...now he wants marriage...I told him its too late. Ciao.
thanks for sharing...
I cannot tell you how many men I've met between 50-60 who got entrapped by a woman they didn't really care about while chasing the younger woman fantasy. Now, chasing toddlers or teens in their later life.
I run like the wind when I meet them.
@@Linda-eo1tc I know what you mean. It hurt me a lot because he had known me years ago and we got on well... he had to get married to her due to social norms, and now divorced from a so called narcissist woman he chased himself , just because of his ego... she wasn’t that much younger than me and treated him like crap... and rejected him... the rejection got him to chase her...
“I’ll see it when I believe it” my favourite quote from Wayne...oops it’s actually the book “ You’ll see it when you believe it” is a great one to read
Actually, it's: when I believe it, I will see it.
I think most men believe they want to be Charlie in 3 and a half men.....player.
55 or better 🤔
I have a good friend who is in his 60s and gives women seemingly wonderful if distant relationships……… until they start to get serious. I would say they last a couple of years or so. Then it has to fall apart because their desires actually are not aligned. I don’t know what to think.
The guy I was seeing went to a 5 week yoga retreat and while there realised he wasn’t actually ready (despite thinking he was/telling me that he was before he left). He not long ago ended a relationship and also went through cancer which trauma he says he pushed to the side until the retreat, so I can only believe what he says. I told him if he found himself thinking differently in future he could still reach out and see where I am, and he said that sounded good to him. Maybe I’m delusional but I believe it’s very much a timing thing for us unfortunately.
May I ask you if you ever had an experience with a woman you are seriously dating, and if she was jealous if your dating coach video?
No it should be mutual roles and team work! If a guy isn't make effort to invest in you then they aren't the one.
Another great short video! It does make sense and it's an important paradigm shift. Thank you, Jonathon!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Why life has become so complicated. That we have to watch such videos. Why we really grow up ? Kids r so much cool don't have to worry abt such sh**.
Right way too much extra it shouldn’t be that tough.
You are spot on! This happened to me and I agree with you this guy is not for me. Self-love is extremely important. Thanks to you I have come to recognize this.
I think there is confusion about what feminine energy is. Worth looking into. We all have both masculine and feminine energy. It's how we use it that counts.
Masculine is doing and feminine is receiving... healthy people do both.
@@JonathonAslay Yes and we all have both. It takes practice to intentionally be in your feminine, as a woman. We tend to be over givers and give over of ourselves and that's what leaning back means. Practice receiving, in our soft feminine energy, instead of doing things for him and trying so hard to please him. Men need to give to a woman to be in their masculine energy and women need to lean back and let them. Right? Men can be too much in their feminine energy and that's not balanced either. Finding that yin yang with a man is the trick that takes practice. 😊
I love you’re videos so much
I can't wait to hear this one! This brings up another question Why do men say and act like they want to commit, yet debating on giving a blast from their past another chance?
My ex 38 turning 39 broke up with me, 26 yo woman. He said he felt like he couldn’t commit to the relationship right now. He chased me from the start for months. We dated for 2 months and we broke up last week. The age difference has never been a problem, but I feel like it went wrong because we rushed into something without really getting to know each other. We were great together. Never fought. Saw each other a few times a week. I think if we started over, we would be able to make it work, knowing what we know now. I accepted the breakup because I knew he wasn’t feeling it anymore. I could just tell. I still have hope we can make it work after some time apart and figuring out what we need to do differently. It wasn’t about sex with us at all. We had an intimacy outside of that. I don’t know why he lost feeing but he did.
He doesn´t say that I´m his girlfriend, but he said that he wont date someone else, and he is planning things with me several years ahead. Travelling together and so.
How is my english anyway ? I never been to the states.
Sounds like men do not make a list of what kind of woman they are looking for.
Men are always ready, you don't qualify.
LOVE the shirt!!! Video rocks too! Can't wait till Billions come back 🙌🙌❤️❤️
Thanks
If they are not divorced "yet" and are still pursuing you hardcore - do not ever get emotionally/physically involved. They DEF are NOT ready...
Where do you go to find specific personal development courses? I love going to them but not sure how to find them!
LOL! He pursues when he’s not ready bcuz he wants to smash. Either that, or he’s after somebody who is rich. Women gotta learn the Reject Me Sign, how men demand to be rejected, should be rejected, and don’t know it.
Hi . Just smiled at your video title ... it’s all about sex of course and the thrill to chase ......
Billions is the show
Intentionality is PRIORITY
I love this video, Jonathan! I also love your gentle tone of voice. It was very calming 😍!
Wow. "When I believe it I will see it." Powerful. I'll remember that! Thank you!
Yeah just had a friend who I got vibes from finally make a move only to on date two say oh I am not looking for a relationship. Been feeling like why did you go there then?
The desire for connection often conflicts with ones readiness to be in a relationship.
Maybe one of the most important topics... can't spread this enough! Thank you for the excellent content!
Yes. Iove Wayne Dyers content. I'm glad I'm working on self.
Because i am ready!
Thank you. I am reading "She Comes first" By Brian Knox. In primal ( I am part of a prepper and homesteader Group on Facebook ) instincts I find your videos hit 🎯 on where those who are intimidated in conversation in asking for deeper questions. I use questions and scenarios now to interview prospects. It's good practice as I am not available right now. I am loving myself, writing my business plan, and losing the last 60 lbs and enjoying my freedom and life now. Finally feeling not guilty for wanting to do for me.
Thanks for sharing!
What are the questions to ask to set intentionality?!
First, you need clarity on the type of relationship you want.
Intentional. Asking better questions. My soon to be ex - relationship just happen to him🤷🏼♀️. Good video.
Billions :)
A man told me his not ready for commitment and relationships after being in a relationship for 3 years.... confusing.... till this day he still tried to pursue me although I have blocked him and removed my energy from him he still tries.
He meant... he wasn't ready to take care of you, emotionally or physically.
@@JonathonAslay oh I see, thought its probably the climate in SOUTH Africa that causes the men to be like this😅just kidding.
So he wanted the benefits of a relationship but not the whole relationship?
Billions!
I think women find compatibility easier than men. It seems men are more picky about this. 🧐
Respectful I disagree... only to the extent, I believe both men and women are quite picky and reject good people all the time. Where I think women differ, is that will accept bad behavior much more than men... but, if a man is having regular sex, he will put up with all kinds of crazy 🤪 😁🙃
@@JonathonAslay 😂
Because they think with wrong head?
Sorry, couldn’t help it. 😄
Did you try to rehab a condo yourself as a woman? I collected so many applications for a side chick, it was traumatic. Didn’t realized my work clothes were screaming: “she has no man, but a place to do it”
Well, I am a kind and funny person, easy to approach I guess. But pick up is such sport for many man nova days, it upsetting. Turned all of them in my friends anyway. Buddies! Lol.
“So many people you can sleep with, so little people you want to wake up with” by Eduard Asadov.
Interesting...
@@JonathonAslay your videos helped me to progress my fillings and to my you like my brother’s advice.
But for those “buddies”, I heard when man offer help and success, his testosterone levels rise. I guess they fucked their wives very good that night. 😄
I love your balcony video shoots with a beautiful background. Looks like ur living room with a nice glow lamp. ❤🤗
Now I'm having to listen super close to hear you....lol. Sit back in feminine, whatever, and do nothing. You've got to be kidding!!!!! That's why my relationships never work out. I refuse to be miss Suzie housekeeper with not one piece of dust anywhere and I'm not into cooking. Feminine appeal is very hard!!!!
The feminine look and act will get you to girlfriend stage, not wife stage. Since you read all these books anyway, would you please read Fascinating Womanhood? It's not easy being the perfect housekeeper and cook. In fact, it's really hard, for me.
Because they are players
I'm so glad you pursued this question.
He chases me, but says he's ready then not ready, like a cycle 🤦🏽♀️lol . ugh
I love this. "Intentionality". I didn't ask hard questions in the beginning. We agreed to pursue a monogamous relationship before the d went in the p.
4 months in, he started pulling away. It was devastating.
So much in common, strong attraction and similar values.
I moved on but then he came after me fully intentional and things did change for awhile. However, it returned to him pulling away again. I just don't get it.
He would get so upset questioning who im seeing because I refused to engage in an exclusive relationship yet he would make plans, break plans every time we started getting close...ehhh...thank you Jonathon. I will never move fwd with anyone again without asking a lot of questions and being intentional.
For sex!!! Duh...
Great video! From my lady/friend connections the excuse they have heardfrom guy's , not financially stable a- not sure when I can marry says the man. Sounds like a big excuse to leave the RELATIONSHIP. Right?
Thank you, Jon,
You recommended your FB group for me, but I canceled FB years ago. I needed this video. I gave you my maiden name that starts with "T" and you were kind enough to get back to me. So, thank you!
Thank you for your advice. That I as a woman must ask to a man what look like a relationship for him despite of connect as human being.
Why would a man who says he's into you and wants you as his girl then turn around and ghost you, no sex? Confusing and hurtful to say the least.
"When I believe it, I will see it'. I love this ❤. I've read some of Wayne Dyer's material. Also Louise Hay ❤❤. Thank you 🤗
I have two questions for you. I just met a man online and he lives in another state his wife died two years ago and he thinks he's ready to start dating again he wants to take the time for us to get to know each other. Two questions one do I say something to him when he brings up his late wife every conversation question mark in the second question is do long-distance relationships really work
Omg you're so extra , i love your "leaaannnn back in your feminine energy " thing that you do it just brighten my day , and I used to think that ways I BLAAAAMMEE some Yt channels for that , I never had that lean back mentality b4 , but decided to read about some flirting tips , I read some books and watched videos and it was repeated 100% , so I decided to give it a try bc it was the easiest thing , and when I started watching your videos I felt so relieved that someone woke me up from that madness, you are if not the only one being truthful and saying things as it is , I tend to be approached by all type of mans thanks to my appearance, so I am already used to not do any efforts to seduce or attract someone , but then I started to think differently after the LOVE YOURSELF project , I read so many books and videos and I was helped alot bc I never knew we could just attach to some abusive people just bc of our childhood trauma , now I know and I worked on it , I'm happy in my life rn and now I learn about TWO WAYS thing, i used to think only about myself am i ready ? Am I making a mistake?! , it was only about myself and how I felt during all dating process, but now I know both man and woman goes through the same thing , now I ask and try to talk about some subject that I used to think were reserved to women only , now I take everything as a learning experience there is no failure in life only apprenticeships and learning experiences , tysm for your videos and for your sincerity I am doing a marathon of your past videos bc I feel like I missed so much , The thing that I find difficulty with en is "announcing a bad news or a bad event" it may seem easy to people but I just keep ignoring this for almost a year , when there is a death to announce , or a bad news to announce to the person you love I can't find the courage to say it I hate that sad face I know it's not my fault but wish it wasn't me that had to say it , I asked other people and most told me they say it as it Is and didn't think too much ,but for me it's almost a torture especially during this pandemic I had to tell many peole that their close ones pass away and each time it's almost as of It was me the one hurting them .
Good topic. If you can speak louder would be nice. I turned my vol pretty high already... thanks
I think if the intentions of both men and women are not quite right, the chance of a successful and lasting relationship is not high. There may be exceptions.
Super good video Jonathon! I personally think Joe Dispenza needs to reach all people around the globe to teach them how to reprogram their brains! Love Wayne too because he had a gentle soul so we lost a good one when he passed onto the other side. I am guilty and bought into the man should lead program and this was after trying to lead myself and failing (I had 5 brothers as my mentors and witnessed a few of them dodging women all the time LOL). I dated a guy who was 13yrs older a couple years ago for 5yrs looking for guidance in a relationship and found that a man can’t lead if he hasn’t taken the time to deal with his past shit or doesn’t get it! Maybe I should say that unless you have been successful in a relationship that you wouldn’t be the lead and that goes both ways! So…I have concluded that whoever has the healthiest mindset should be the lead because someone has to do it. 😀 I am a natural leader so I try but I am attracted to alpha males now who lead because I am tired of doing it…love that you say it like it is, would date you but it would be long distance and I have been there done that and it sounds like you have too. My youngest brother never dated EVER but I had encouraged him to do the internet when he got to a lonely stage (40). He is super shy and lacks confidence but he shocked the family by announcing he was flying to the Philippines to meet up with a woman he had been Skyping with for 3yrs! He ended up bringing her back on a fiancé visa and they got married and have 2 beautiful children 6yrs later! They just visited me from L.A. (I am in Tucson, AZ) and they are a perfect match, both introverts and seem to work well together as a team and parents and both love love love each other! What I realized was that my brother’s intention was to find a wife, he had no interest in “dating” and LA is difficult to date anyways because people are lost in LaLa land and caught up in the ego aspects of life. He got swallowed up by women there but it is interesting how one person can meet their match right off the bat if you know what you want and then you have someone like me who has dated more than most and never met my match? Maybe because I kept dodging the marriage thing when I was younger because I felt objectified and couldn’t “vet” who was true and who was not so I never trusted my own decisions. ☹️ Learning a lot from you later in life and lucky that I still feel 25 LOL so feeling like I am getting closer to meeting the one. Thank you! Enjoy this beautiful day!!!
Jonathon you are always on point. Great video- thank you!
I appreciate that!
I GIVE UP
I’m listening 🥰
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you are really sweet and funny Jonathon
awe... thanks
Thank you so much again. I see your videos since a couple of days, you give me a lot a lot of inspiration.
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Thank you so much you just answered alot of my questions
I love your mug. 🥰