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What do your parents think of this lifestyle? What about marriage or female companionship? I dont think I could live with the solitude. Maybe its a female thing
”I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
@@kevc3148 yup, fake superficial dont give a fuck about your feelings, the only reason why they SEEM to care is because they wanna look good to the public eye
@Esmour Mayne You don't have to think that, it's actually really normal for people like us to be silent and most feel like "awkward" but it's not. I can speak from experience, most nonsense it's useless and boring like you say, but when you talk to someone or someone talk with you about a "interesting" topic, it's actually like you're a professional speaker and even if you don't know much about the topic you feel really good to listen about others opinions. Don't worry, you aren't awkward, just selective of who and what to talk and i assure you: It feels awesome when you get the opportunity to really speak your mind ^-^
I agree. For the most part I don't like people. I don't like them because they have so much potential but they throw it all away, they are not really honest especially with themselves so therefore they feel diseased to an empath like me which is a huge repellant, they love to either be controlled or to control which I just don't vibe with, most have never heard of Maslow's pyramid much less even tasted self actualization so they think someone like me is strange because I want more from my life than they do, they ask for help but don't have the courage to change their life, they tear others down because they never reached their potential, they love drama because they are bored, they are afraid of EVERYTHING (this year and last are definitely an indicator of that) they are shallow because they are scared of going beneath the surface, they only acknowledge the material realm most of the time, they tend to focus on trivial issues and ignore the significant, many engage in peer pressure like a cult especially with the us vs them mentality, and most think with their hearts nevermind the fact that they were given a brain for this purpose. Feelings are for matters of the heart like compassion and bonding experiences. Yeah I like to steer clear of most people so I can create and live a more peaceful life with my husband. That way no drama gets in the way of our happiness. After all, at the end of the day my husband and our future is my world.
@@taramartinez3193 if you don’t like lots and lots of people and think that you are better than them and judge everyone you see whether a complete stranger or a family member by pointing out whatever is wrong with them and you are stronger cause you had the guts to make a decision comes from the fact that you are insecure about you and are reassuring yourself that you still are fine. Hope this will helps and I’m just speaking from my personal experience of judging others.
When I am not at work, I am alone 99% of the time. My mind requires so much time alone that I've given up the thought of actually being in a serious relationship, especially living together. I don't think I could do it. Solitude is what keeps me sane, that and music.
I’m pretty much the same as you. I spend so much time alone with music, dancing, exercising, writing, and playing instruments when I’m done with my responsibilities for the day and i like it that way. I do miss going out with my friends sometimes but i’ve discovered that solitude along with creative freedom has been healthy for my mind rather than going out with a bunch of people, eating fast food, and feeling like i have to know the latest world trend because that’s all they talk about. I feel better about myself since i started taking care of my body and doing the things that i enjoy instead of posting stuff on facebook or instagram for people’s approval (it’s been actual YEARS since my last post and my friends think i’m a cavewoman). I seek for my own approval now and try to improve myself day by day. It feels great. What i got from solitude is a far greater high than loving somebody else. Loving myself and enjoying my own company. I do want to find love and be in a relationship, but i don’t think of it as my salvation anymore and that’s a relief.
i feel you all in this thread. i've been in this space for a long time now. 2010 when solitude was loneliness, the scariest of all. all i heard in silence was how utterly worthless and disposable and orphaned i was, perhaps to never belong anywhere. 2019 and now silence tells me of exciting journeys we're to take, that i am okay where i am today, as i am today; and on days when it seems nothing is happening and it is chaotic is the days much rearrangement is happening in layers deep within my unconscious. i want to be in a serious relationship now, with someone who is committed to growing and evolving together. the universe is telling me it is there for me, i first need to learn how to be unconditionally loving to myself first, coz unless i can love myself through good days and bad, it is foolishness to expect the same in a relationship.
True. Its like 1) why do i keep seeing these vids? I really dont think i ever out of the blue looked up solitude. Or if i did, or anything even similiar to it, i just commented i respect & admire amish ppl. Any other self sufficient ppl. Maybe ppl living in little homesteads they created for themselves. 2) i mean, wtf do they need to know? Why do i need to watch this for? So they can claim something thats not even there? Lol, i didnt ask. But if youd like to know 3) im pretty sure ive already said things on repeat tho
Solitude is not always a burden. When done voluntarily it can have great benefits for the individual and allow him to truly learn more about himself rather than just being a copy of everyone else.
Alexey Goodman spending too much time with oneself can make your social skill bad, I m a living proof.. My mentality and living style now differs from everyone I know..and lived with as family, friends. Now I don't talk to my parents or any living person. I just use this virtual texts now.
I feel like I'm a little too comfortable with solitude. I find it harder to connect with other people, because often times the things I seek out are easily found when i contemplate and investigate those things alone. There are of course cases when a companion will rescue me from something in a way that proves community is more a benefit than a vice. And I do believe that it is a benefit ultimately. But man...being alone--having total freedom to my thoughts, my art, my writing, my prayers to God. No other time makes me feel more alive.
I relate hard. About 7 years ago I dropped out of college to become a musician and writer (it was a deep calling). I had to retreat into solitude for a number of reasons 1. To study the works of the greats, 2. To escape the putdowns of those whom I knew up until that point, 3. To discover/gain confidence in my true self. It's been a hard road and many times I've felt bordering a psychotic break but ultimately I'm glad I chose my most honest path. Sometimes I wish I could take it back and remain part of the crowd but the emptiness of that is what pushed me into this path anyway.
"I wish I could take it back." Well said. The wish to control time, to go back and make another decision, another choice. I think a lot of people struggle with this. The fact that a lot of us cling to their decisions, that once we made a choice, we signed a contract with time and we can never come back on it. The feeling that you have to make one choice makes me choose nothing at all at the end. Its like choice defines time, and their is only one time (the present).
I've been there .. and still am . Although after all those years I still think that being lonely had gave me a very genuine and creative way of thinking .. But the problem is that I can socialize with anyone and make them love me .. but deep inside I know that I'm faking smiles and still feeling as lonely as before . Anyone else ?
Self-imposed solitude without forced isolation is healthy. Overcoming the fear of being alone is a profound facet of self-mastery. For me, it is a blissful achievement.
When you seclude yourself and let go of attachments it helps you realize the lies and deceit created within society. I consider my physical disability a curse, yet it is a blessing. Since I have had to quit working I have learned much about myself that I wouldn't have had time to figure out.
absolutely. I find more people telling me its not healthy since my husband died but we were both loners which is also not a bad term. We found each other living in bliss for thirty one years. It is extremely painful without him. He made it difficult for me to be alone again.
@@wood_stone_iron Why ? Being alone and not attached to someone else and their schedule and demands for attention is bliss ! Exploring the world on your own terms and time, is a joy ! Being able to have time for your own interests to evolve is a gift. 🌺
i don’t trust people who can’t be alone, who can’t sit still with themselves. i know i shouldn’t judge but they scare me. it’s like they’re not fully human
My ex-girlfriend was one of those people who couldn't stand being alone. She ended up being so crazy that she was threatening to murder me and torture me and shit. So, props to you.
I have come to think that parts of the planet Mars houses humans with brain disorders, like The Ram, and The Scorpion zodiac signs since I have been looking into humans with mars in there birth chart.
The more I realized that people are nothing more than 'smart apes', the more I know that solitude allows me to embrace my own humanity and to be content with being my own best friend.
I'd been struggling in solitude for 5 years. Nobody I could trust, nobody I could count on. Being alone really scared me so much. I fought my fear of solitude and the dangers it brought me. I still couldn't believe that I survived. I couldn't believe I forgot the pain it caused me. It was all just memories now. Memories of pain that makes me smile now. Up to now, im still in solitude most of the time. I found in solitude what I couldn't get from others - peace, freedom, independence etc.. I found not just a wall I can lean on but also a charging station. It provides me a source of strength and energy in dealing with everyday life. Do you know what is the best thing I found in solitude? I found myself.
As an only child who also studied at a private school - in a cubicle for 10yrs, I became incredibly confident in my own being. I still am. Although there are times where I feel slow in some social settings, I don't regret or grieve my personality. Solitude is such a piece of heaven when you become comfortable being alone in your own mind.
I actually have a lot to say about this. A couple of years ago, I was alone for some time. And I don't mean alone as caved in and completely isolated from everyone. But, I did go through a phase, where I wouldn't talk to all the people I used to talk to. I wouldn't talk to them about anything, I wouldn't go snooping around and I wouldn't go looking for them. I was in my own planet or whatever you would like to call it. But, I learned a lot as I went through that phase. I discovered more about myself. I discovered what kind of person I was, I learned something's I liked, that hadn't even crossed my mind at all before. I found what really made me happy, and I found what it was that I was missing. So, actually...being away from everything else, has its benefits. Sometimes, people just want to be alone. And sometimes, that's the best thing that can happen to them.
Yes, and you do need people too. Solitude is necessary, so are close relationships. People often forget that. You my friend had a great experience, I'm going through something similar. I have lost almost all friends, as in, I stopped going out and slowly stopped talking to them altogether. Glad we were and partially are on the same path. Also, lots of self discovery and realization is taking place. Cheers man
loved this. I have Asperger's syndrome which makes me need solitude allot of the time. Not very healthy but it has brought very interesting states of mind I love contemplating
Phanes Same here. I have gained a lot of 'inspiration' and ideas from solitude lately for my art and other projects. I've always used to fight it most of my life like it was something to be frowned upon .. but I see it very differently now and have sort of surrendered to it -One of the best things that's ever happened to me. I value it so greatly more than before. I'm sort of an introvert but occasionally need some company but the right company. I need to be around like minded and open minded individuals who respect my solitude and not take it personally as rejection - I just need my "artistic space", to be in my zone and channel my creative energy efficiently. When I occasionally spend my time with the right people, then we get to exchange ideas or just enjoy one others company, gain inspiration from moments, memories, life stories from one another. I think balance is important but I'm leaning more towards solitude for so many things. So far, I have gained more wisdom and self knowledge this way. I got to spend more time reading books etc. I sometimes have such a busy solitude that I forget that I am alone at all. Some of my best work was from working alone. As one quote said about silence and it seems to relate to solitude for me in some way: "Silence is not empty, it's full of answers".
I don't know about you but I love my solitude, people and their noise, their hypes and drama bothers me and annoy me a lot these days as I grow older. I've always preferred one or two friends instead of groups too. Solitude, Thinking, Silence and Stillness // Bliss.
I’ve always loved being alone but noticed that I often used cleaning, entertainment etc to distract my mind. Solitude can become much more beneficial when you allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with it. I am an introvert (not shy) to the most extreme extent, and really needed this video to connect back with and understand myself again. Thank you.
k ocean , I am a passenger in my own life but when I get down, fantasizing about being the bus driver of my journey in life brings a smile to my life or maybe the kid on a bicycle with my feet out to the side and my hands on the ape hangers.
But but but, both maturation through solitude and maturation through interaction with others are essential and necessary. More to humanity as a whole than to individuals. It is clear that some enjoy and grow more in solitude, while others enjoy and grow more in company. However, not as individuals, but as a large group of humans, we need both kinds of maturation, for what might work better for some, such as artists and thinkers that can spend hours lost in their own thoughts; can be fruitless and boring to others. Similarly, what might be refreshing and interesting for those who enjoy their time socializing, can be exhausting and terrifying for those of us who prefer loneliness. Both are key to allow diverse individuals to be happy.
Destructopato I agree. We have multiple needs and sometimes we need solitude and sometimes we need relationships. There's a healthy balance I believe. Although that doesn't necessarily mean going out and partying or sitting in your room by yourself. It could mean just having people that check in on you once in a while and are interested in your journey/progress through life and your interest in theirs. Solitude can also mean being alone from people but close with the beauty and simplicity of nature. I do beleive it is important to have something to love and care for that you can nourish including yourself but also other than yourself. You can do this even with nature by not killing things(plants, animals, insects) if you don't need to unnecessarily (everything including us has a right to life and the persuit of life/well being) and helping a stranger is another way. This one you may have to use your best judgement as not all people are out for your good. Doing these things adds purpose and a responsibility which everyone needs. God bless.
Destructopato shut the fuck up! You fkn idiot! your happiness isn't important! it's a byproduct of what is really fucking important! All social hierarchies exist for one purpose: SURVIVAL! that's it! that's all that fucking matters. have a nice day you fkn nimrod!
Destructopato I'm sorry, but I think that you misunderstood the concept. Your comment suggests that you don't understand the point of solitude and it's connection to self awareness. You can't look deep within and discover your strengths and weaknesses around people. You will not get the chance to dig deep, if you're surrounded by people. In order to get to know yourself, you must be by yourself. People who go through the process of self awareness and becoming who they are, are fully capable of social interactions. They simply choose not to waste their time on nothingness and randomness. And they don't sit in the company of those who waste their time. They value their time too much to waste it. And that's because they realise the actual value of time, what time can do and how much can be achieved, planned and learnt in time, to waste time on people that follow the herd mentality. The greatest people out there are great because they separated themselves and went through the process of self awareness. The journey is yours alone. And it cannot be undergone surrounded by people. You can't fake the process. You cannot live off of someone else's self awareness because that will create dependency. A person with self awareness can only resonate with another person who has gone through the process, especially in a romantic relationship. You have to be equally yoked. You cannot fool a person who has gone through the process. You cannot fake experience. People who follow herd mentality and bully those who have reached self awareness, only prove how low their self worth is and how much they want to reduce you to their own level. Instead of going through the process and becoming strong, such people want to bring you down with them. That's herd mentality. Human interaction is not merely empty conversations with friends who follow the herd mentality. That is the lowest form of interaction and possibly one that will reduce you to nothingness. Business dealings, work related conversations, creating, critical thinking, etc are also part of human interaction. When you look deep within, face yourself and face your demons, you will recognise your strengths and weaknesses. You will accept yourself for who you are. At that point, you've realised your true potential and power. The blame and shame of society cannot touch you now. You are above the herd. In order to be above the herd, you must be away from herd and not immerse in its mediocrity and you must distinguish yourself from the herd. It's a decision. It's a process. You cannot fake it.
@Destructopato There is really no right and wrong answer but I agree with your comment. There are definitely things to learn through relationships and that is where real challenge comes in. Yes. there are infinite to learn through self awareness but there are also infinite to learn from other people and surroundings. I am a deep thinker and what I learned till now is that how you act infront of other people is also you. One teacher told me "persona" came from a word "mask" and that mask influences and is your identity. You can't see them as separate two. For instance, if you wear a mask of unconfidency when you socialize with other people, you become unconfident when you are alone. On the other hand, if you wear mask of being stubborn, you become stubborn. Everything starts from your mask. I am not perfectly sure but I want to question is there really you in yourself? When you were first born from your parents you see and learned from your parents and that became your identity as well. I don't think identity isn't something that is fixed. Rather it is like a cloud with full of so many colors. For example, things that you found about yourself through self awareness when you wear "unconfident" mask infront of there people, will be different from when you wear "I am the best" mask or "depressed" mask. There is no you if you are the only one living in earth. I see this theory positively because it means that you have a choice and decision to become who you want to be, and that is not being fake it is real you.
while being alone can help with self-cultivation, it's important to remember that other people can benefit us, and keep us in check. if the only person you spend time around is yourself, you may develop assumptions about the world that are false, that may only be visible to outside observers, thus it's important to keep others in our lives, to make such observations.
I used to ride my snowmobile down the river in Livengood Alaska, where no other tracks had been made all winter. To stop, and listen, and no sound came to my ears, was amazing. To feel the -50 degree temperatures, and know that life was dependent on this machine running, was amazing.
Do you go on nature walks? Where? I'm hungry and I like to hunt solitary people ... kill them. fuck them ... eat them. :) ... do you deodorize using tasty seasonings?
I find solitude particularly refreshing most of the time. Although I've come to realize that I mostly just find small talk not only excruciating but a waste of time so I try to avoid it completely.
I really enjoy being alone and I have definitely found myself more thru my own crafts than the likes of others. However, the next stage in my life that I must conquer is being social and still holding onto the special self within me
Being ostracized from my friends back in elementary made me the person I am right now. I've never been able to trust just anyone. I've been more careful and I've isolated myself from everyone but family and very very close friends. It helps me think clearly without and pressure to act like or BE somone I am not. I highly reccomend it. You will realize just how little you need of strangers and "friends".
I'm pretty much an antisocial misanthropic guy. I find being around people to be exhausting and irritating. Not being around people soothes me and allows my natural self to be.
I wouldn't count that as a victory. That can easily be achieved by having social anxiety. It takes no self reflection to achieve what you do. It's only a victory when you can be yourself when alone and when with others.
I’m a loner just like u and an anti social misanthropist and I love being a loner it’s makes me feel the power of “freedom” and “peace” something idiots will never understand
Society makes me paranoid,gives me tensions, keeping me enslaved... I am scared and sucidal.... Wish i could free myself from this misery need nothing just let me go i will leave alone but family responsibility and society enslaved me....
Solitude is a necessity for some and a curse for others. The reasons are dispositional and when it is a need, solitary people are born into it. I suffer greatly if I do not have enough alone time and I have been this way since I was a young child. I feel estranged from myself in those instances when deprived of time alone and become annoyed with people who get between me and me. Someone who experiences loneliness when not with others would not understand a creature like me. Know thyself and be and become what you know. Most of my friends are solitary creatures as well and we each understand the others need to be alone and respect it.
Katherine Kelly The Mind (Spirit) Needs SILENCE especially when one has been through so much Pain in Life, both Psychologically and Psychically!! the THOUGHT PROCESS (Noise) Can Destroy Completely a human being. lol and it Never Stops by using Force ( A Mechanism of Control) on the Contrary Increases! So Imagine Living Without almost no FILTERS? So Harmony is Funda-mental to Me.. I Have Established A Beautiful Relationship with NATURE!! LOL Am Still Working with Other Creatures!! GOOD VIBES!!
The noise is a compulsion created by the mind either trying to understand a paradox where there is no answer or trying to understand an experience where the persons perspective never allows them to know the truth (answers) to the questions that feed the compulsion. The other form of noise is an aspect of PTSD leaving the person in perpetual anxiety (hyperawareness) and "triggered" by events that the mind interprets as dangerous. The need for silence could be a coping mechanism to avoid being triggered. The person escapes into silence. My grandfather had been in war and years later my grandmother told me when he would dream of the experience he would grab her and throw her on the floor and cover her with his body to protect her from enemy fire. He kept reliving the trauma but that was because he did not know how to expunge this trauma from his mind so it stayed with him. The relationship we have with pain decides the life we will live including the pain that lives only in our mind as memory. The memories are etched into the physical mind and the person does nor know how to rewrite their past to take away the power of the etching. Diamonds are a hard substance that will etch glass. Trauma is a hard substance that will etch the mind. It takes an equally hard substance to over write the etching of trauma. True spirituality (not religion necessarily) is the only thing hard enough to remove trauma because it stops the person being preoccupied with their own pain and trauma. The pain creates a preoccupation with self "as pain" but stopping this preoccupation takes the mind off the pain. Make your life about "all that is". Find something that is greater than the self to dedicate your life to. Immerse yourself into it and share it with others. Be of service.
what a surprise, the comments section is full of people saying they love to be alone, ignoring the irony in the fact you felt the need to say it publicly.
Yes, but at the same time it helps other people so u know you are not "alone" and there are a lot more people who are introverts like you, and you realize is not that strange. Its not like "im gonna share with everyone that i love being alone so i feel important".
Extravertsl and introvert are very flawed terms, they do not accurately describe a person, especially when you don't understand a persons Individuality, past, mind set, environment, jobs, schools, hobbies , etc. ...
Bruh...I almost cried...been going through it with the family, especially my son...also been yearning, since youth, to be alone, this explains everything...why I am so terrible in relationships.. I need more time alone...
Same here. And like in this vid, I lose myself in some others easily, esp battling Codependency. So, I prefer to be alone tho not lonely, & achieve my independence.
@@fenixtodayable not so much divinity as the large amount of energy required to conform to what others consider "normal", especially when each of those present has their own idea of said "normal" and are not willing to consider that all others may not be in total agreement. it leaves me drained, expended, repulsed (for want of a better word) sometimes.
I actually missed being alone. The feeling when its raining and you walk alone... And no one stops the music on your phone with a call. And the feeling that you are alone in this huge world, can be inspiring and enjoyable. I think I am slowly returning to being self sufficient and happy with my self.
I think the healthy individual has the benefit of both . Solitude and the ideal of self realization for a more whole individual is augmented by interactions with others. Like a blanket that brings warmth and comfort in the night brings relief to the mind and body. A well rested or calm individual is much more productive and effective individual. But if you don't have the benefit of interpersonal relationships a substitute can be creativity by which those emotions can be expressed.A catharsis.
I LOVE ❤️ MY SOLITUDE!!!!! As a Creative Soul I AM always in tune with how precious my valuable time alone is. When I spend time in solitude then I AM better prepared to be of maximum service to others especially my amazing job!!!! No matter what gets taken away from me, I know I AM my best company. Namaste 🙏
I believe in the 70, 30 % rule. 70% of your time should be isolated enough for self growth and development. 30% social life for healthy relations with others, but to an extent it’s never overwhelming to be around people. I’ve noticed I have a 4-5 hr expiration time frame before I get annoyed socially around someone. Before then I’m happy to meet others company in small pockets of time
Im a hermit, 35, never had a 'real' friend in my entire life. Live alone most of my life in the boonies, and run a farm. I think im perfectly fine, dont commit crimes or do anything crazy. The only thing is that im quite socially awkward and tend to be very cringey in social situations, or in other words my social skills are not up to par. When you realize that God is ultimately all alone, you become at peace with yourself. Your loneliness is only a reflection of Gods loneliness.
One thought i always liked about "God" that is that "he" created everything so he wouldn't be lonely and in so doing, shattered himself into an infinite number of pieces programmed to coalesce back into conscious wholeness over the eons.
God is not alone. We have Him and He has us. However its important to learn to be alone. I think its very powerful as you are not dependent on others for happiness.
There should not be either extreme. The desire for solitude is born because of a feeling of disconnectedness that has already been present. It is a just a quest to end the solitude within us. None of us want to be alone, a baby is not born wanting it. It is just a commonly misunderstood way to find connection. A true one.
Man is neither a lone wolf nor is he a social animal. But he is a contractual animal. So he will communicate with other humanbeings to the extent of contractual obligations.
I have no fear of isolation. I can honestly say I look forward to more of it. It is so endulging. I have such a strong connection with silence. I have the ability to observe myself as a seperate person and i find it to be so very intriguing. Solace in solitude is a must in my life.
I'm a loner, but I think I have more social skills than people who don't tolerate to be alone. I wouldn't like to live with anyone. I'm very independent. When I end my labor I use to say to my coworkers: Now I'm going to stay the rest of the day with the person whose company I enjoy more: MYSELF. The quality of your videos is amazing. Thanks a lot
At aged 72, living alone, I have learned to be my own best friend. Also, Wyoming never lets me down: Mother Nature, Pets, Horses, and the Great Outdoors are always steadfast gifts from God to lift my spirit and help me soar. 🙋🏼♀️🏔🌟💞
I often chose to be alone juste to get the full flavor out of things . People tend to need to talk all the time and i often rather choose to stay in silence or in music or in wind or in thoughts or in creation in solitude. And i'm never bored when alone because i'm free to enjoy all i want : ))
I like solitude. A moment to organize the ideas. Being alone is like taking care of your house, rearranging the furniture, decorating. You can't do it while throwing a party.
Yeah but you can't fuck yourself ... ohhh wait :p Yesss you can! So do it! Go fk yourself you solitary son of a bitch! :p ... A big party and rearranging furniture will go a lot easier if you have a few people to help you fyi!
Jesse Bowman What in gods name are going on about? Just based on your reply to his response tells me you wouldn’t be able to last an entire day by yourself.
I find the key to a social life as an introvert is figuring out what you Really want from people, and to find a small group that exhibit those traits, that way you can have solitude as usual, but you'll never feel alone because you know you have people you genuinely like the be around whenever you're feeling social. I'm not saying to surround yourself with clones, looking for specific ideologies and opinions will lead you almost nowhere, and more than one friend that's like your clone will get tedious, variety is what makes humans so interesting. My best way to explain it is an example For me, all I ask for in a friend is a genuinely open mind, so that if we enjoy each other's company I feel peaceful knowing if we disagree on something we have an honest talk about it and hopefully come out with newly formed perspectives, it also lets me know even if we do have conflicting ideologies, we'll be smart enough to realize that doesn't make us enemies, or incompatible as friends. On that note, if you disagree: I implore you to explain why and/or share a method that worked for you.
I love the way you phrased your last paragraph. Today it seems, most people want to fight, win the argument, not listen to any counter evidence, no matter how factual, to their claim(s). The obvious loss of critical thinking skills among many is a diminution of our society. You sound like someone I would love to have as an intellectual companion.
@@brianpan6453 Sorry to send you the equivalent to a small book, but I don't think I can justify this without one. Honestly I don't think our society has gotten much worse in that regard, but rather due to the internet we're constantly exposed to humanity's flaws, and naturally with social media and the like opinions are gonna be thrown around like snowballs...sometimes with a rock in them... luckily I think people are realizing how miserable this can make them when they got caught up in it too much. Our brains are wired to remember negatives, it dates back to when that kind of mindset was useful (I mean god forbid you forget where that lion den was on your hunts), but in this day and age it makes things look really shitty, especially because the Only exposure to the olden days we have is from newspapers, advertisements, and word of mouth, which means we can only know as much about previous generations as we're told, no social media to document daily life, and so the old days look peaceful and simple to anyone that doesn't dig deeper, in reality even straight white males had it worse because showing tears was more or less a taboo to most, a problem only recently being called out for being absurd. It feels like humanity's progression is extremely sluggish, but if you look at all that's happened in just 100 years (sometimes the length of just a single human lifespan) it's pretty blatant we're in a transitional period, a whole lot is happening for only a couple generations, and, well we've seen how poorly some people handle change, so it's caused Plenty of drama. I'm only 18 and I've watched as each new generation is more open minded than the last due to them being born in a vastly expanded world: the average joe having the technology to make meaningful connections with anyone, the ability to always be informed on what's happening in the world outside his little world, and gays, transsexuals, different cultures interacting on the daily as equals weren't even considered a possibility by most just a hundred+ years ago, even depression was considered a joke label to many, somebody being pathetically sad and trying to blame it on something. The knowledge available to us has made a lot of people more pessimistic, and it makes our brain do that thing where it makes all our problems into one giant problem that seems absolutely insurmountable, but it's also fueled a near constant train of change, people looking past that thing our brain does and fixing each problem one by one, and I like to think that's better than living in ignorance of the problems we could be fixing, many of which are problems that, in the long run, would someday force us to live on a different planet, not because we want to explore, but because we were parasitic to our home.
@Spencer Genovese, America’s social dysfunction has continued to intensify as the nation has ignored a key underlying pathology: anti-intellectualism. America is killing itself through its embrace and exaltation of ignorance, and the evidence is all around us. “A culture of ignorance” is one that has given up the concept of truth. Opinion and persuasion rule. Traditional sources and certifiers of knowledge such as universities, the sciences, and established journalism, are undermined and discredited. As a society, we are now spending too much time, energy, and capital battling willful ignorance-about climate control, about the genuine effects of social policies, about the extent and impact of governmental programs, about immigrants, about those who are different. Many public figures, many voters, wear their ignorance like a badge of honour. When challenged and cornered, they retreat to the hollow claim that “I have a right to believe whatever I want.” What is especially shameful is that we have this culture of ignorance at the same moment in history when our ability to secure, preserve, access, and share knowledge has exploded. There was never a better time to be a scholar; never better resources for an informed citizenry. “Ever wonder about those people who spend $2 apiece on those little bottles of Evian water? Try spelling Evian backward. ”
i used to wonder why i liked books with dark themes most. it finally occurred to me that i was simply embracing my dark side. i think of it as a vicious dog: it has a big yard to roam in, plenty of food and water, i play with it often. i can't let it take any walks unless it's on a strong chain. if needed, i can let it do its worst.
Metaneeds. Truth, beauty, and goodness. Truth is the hardest. Find true self, realize true purpose, true faces, true meaning of life.. a life is a millisecond in existence.. a gift. Beauty is complicated. Beauty in landscapes is easy. In ppl is there. In emotions is hard. Goodness is simple. Help others for no other motive than to help others. Goodness brings gains even if there’s a sacrifice. Solitude is everything. This channel is all that’s good. Thank you.
Voluntarily seeking solitude is the way to truly combat and come to terms with the darkness we have within. Only alone can you see yourself for who you truly are and not a mere copy of someone else or living up to others standards. If you truly want seek out your individuality, join us and take a step into the abyss ;)
These are without a doubt some of the best videos I've seen on youtube. They also make me feel smart for identifying a lot with the information given despite how society often tells me to do otherwise, subscribed.
@Timehacker It was mentioned in the video, something about losing themselves in others...and here you are telling someone else what THEY mean, as opposed to the person SAID what they meant. I suppose when you lose yourself in others, it becomes relatively easy to put words in someone else's mouth.
You think that in solitude, you don't take into consideration your own wants and moods? People can be pretty easy to figure out, they'll tell you what they want if you pay close enough attention, but trying to figure out yourself? You'll be chasing yourself round and round trying to please yourself. At the end of the day, people want love and attention. But when it comes to one's self, we can be hesitant and self conscious about how much of that we receive.
tamsinthai I crave the stimulation of conversation with others. Being alone is very uncomfortable for me if I don't at least have the mindset that I will get to spend time with somebody daily or every few days.
The truthful quality of content on this channel is rare and profound in almost every sentence, I have to repeatedly listen to many segments just to let it sink in, that it often takes me near 12 minutes to listen to a 9 minute program. Academy of Ideas, you never get old.... thank you.
Nah i grew up in a time w/ out wifi. Lol, i went a long time w/ out even when it was wrong. Ehhhhhh, think again. Honestly, id prob just draw & read more. You know? "Bc im so sophisticated 🙄..."
"The farther I am from the human race, the better I feel". "Two inches is good, two miles is great, two thousand miles is beautiful ". Charles Bukowski.
I've always deeply related to the Robin Williams quote, "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." So often, I'm more confortable in solitude.
I grew up lonely af but still had friends. When I was forced into solitude I had no choice but to confront myself! Now I love being alone n turned Ambivert. 🤷♀️you learn so much bout yourself🌻
The reader’s Voice is as crisp as chips. This is Such deep philosophical information and to assimilate it is not easy. The reader did a fabulous job at it.
Love it.... Thank you. After shifting perceptions with challenging circumstances within relationships as experiential lessons one must heed, the guidance was clear that the ultimate destination was Solitude / Aloneness. And yes, the first reaction was fear (ego), but ultimately has unfolded into a JOY and a deeper relationship with SELF as egoist attachments, fixations, and agendas have been disengaged/transcended.
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Why him an not me😍
He probably prefers his solitude . . . .
Well then, i guess it's time to ask THE question: Do you, Mr. Academy of Ideas, accept the hand of this Vatsla in marriage as your lawfully wedded obsessed fan?
What do your parents think of this lifestyle? What about marriage or female companionship? I dont think I could live with the solitude. Maybe its a female thing
Ellie Moo nope, you are a regular person molded by your culture... not yet aware of that.
Self imposed solitude is pure bliss. Solitude imposed by others is pure hell.
danzigvssartre go to jail go directly to jail do not pass go do not collect serenity of solitude.
danzigvssartre Well said.
Have your girlfriend pack her bags and leave town. Left like a dog on the side of the road.
… or the sign that you must begin the journey !!!
Not true. You can find solace and bliss in solitude imposed by others. I did. It was hell in the beginning only.
"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean-Paul Sartre
Parmenides that's a nice quote
Parmenides that is awesome
I dont feel lonely when I'm alone, ratherbeing in a group I become alone and lonely
just try to stay calm Lila. DO.NOT.PANIC.
LazyMe420 Hhaha, see whay u did there
”I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams
profound.
Dude really needed to get out of Hollywood lol, nothing but vapid narcissism there
Wow
@@kevc3148 yup, fake superficial dont give a fuck about your feelings, the only reason why they SEEM to care is because they wanna look good to the public eye
Thanks ROBIN... miss you
I love being alone, being around lots of people for more than a few hours drains me.
Me too
Same here
I love being alone too.
@Esmour Mayne You don't have to think that, it's actually really normal for people like us to be silent and most feel like "awkward" but it's not. I can speak from experience, most nonsense it's useless and boring like you say, but when you talk to someone or someone talk with you about a "interesting" topic, it's actually like you're a professional speaker and even if you don't know much about the topic you feel really good to listen about others opinions.
Don't worry, you aren't awkward, just selective of who and what to talk and i assure you: It feels awesome when you get the opportunity to really speak your mind ^-^
For sure,.!!! I Love being alone, away from people,
being lonely is dangerous, once you realize how peaceful it is you don't want to deal with people anymore
ui jh, so true. That is what I have found.
When you find good company they wont even count as people anymore. So I agree its both addicting and balance must be found.
People are evil.
It's Raining Men nah.. They are just misinformed
So true. It really is addicting.
Solitude is food for the soul. It's not dangerous, it's the key to freedom.
Tas pesao vato!
I agree. For the most part I don't like people. I don't like them because they have so much potential but they throw it all away, they are not really honest especially with themselves so therefore they feel diseased to an empath like me which is a huge repellant, they love to either be controlled or to control which I just don't vibe with, most have never heard of Maslow's pyramid much less even tasted self actualization so they think someone like me is strange because I want more from my life than they do, they ask for help but don't have the courage to change their life, they tear others down because they never reached their potential, they love drama because they are bored, they are afraid of EVERYTHING (this year and last are definitely an indicator of that) they are shallow because they are scared of going beneath the surface, they only acknowledge the material realm most of the time, they tend to focus on trivial issues and ignore the significant, many engage in peer pressure like a cult especially with the us vs them mentality, and most think with their hearts nevermind the fact that they were given a brain for this purpose. Feelings are for matters of the heart like compassion and bonding experiences. Yeah I like to steer clear of most people so I can create and live a more peaceful life with my husband. That way no drama gets in the way of our happiness. After all, at the end of the day my husband and our future is my world.
@@taramartinez3193 if you don’t like lots and lots of people and think that you are better than them and judge everyone you see whether a complete stranger or a family member by pointing out whatever is wrong with them and you are stronger cause you had the guts to make a decision comes from the fact that you are insecure about you and are reassuring yourself that you still are fine.
Hope this will helps and I’m just speaking from my personal experience of judging others.
@@Avarcole guess someone got triggered. Nowhere did I say better than anyone that is an emotional response. I believe you are the insecure one.
Too much solitude is bad
When I am not at work, I am alone 99% of the time. My mind requires so much time alone that I've given up the thought of actually being in a serious relationship, especially living together. I don't think I could do it. Solitude is what keeps me sane, that and music.
And u are probably happier than a whole lot of people in relationships. Good on you.
inick2005i wow me too. I felt guilty and broken for feeling this way, glad to hear there are others, nice.
I’m pretty much the same as you. I spend so much time alone with music, dancing, exercising, writing, and playing instruments when I’m done with my responsibilities for the day and i like it that way. I do miss going out with my friends sometimes but i’ve discovered that solitude along with creative freedom has been healthy for my mind rather than going out with a bunch of people, eating fast food, and feeling like i have to know the latest world trend because that’s all they talk about. I feel better about myself since i started taking care of my body and doing the things that i enjoy instead of posting stuff on facebook or instagram for people’s approval (it’s been actual YEARS since my last post and my friends think i’m a cavewoman). I seek for my own approval now and try to improve myself day by day. It feels great. What i got from solitude is a far greater high than loving somebody else. Loving myself and enjoying my own company. I do want to find love and be in a relationship, but i don’t think of it as my salvation anymore and that’s a relief.
i feel you all in this thread. i've been in this space for a long time now. 2010 when solitude was loneliness, the scariest of all. all i heard in silence was how utterly worthless and disposable and orphaned i was, perhaps to never belong anywhere. 2019 and now silence tells me of exciting journeys we're to take, that i am okay where i am today, as i am today; and on days when it seems nothing is happening and it is chaotic is the days much rearrangement is happening in layers deep within my unconscious.
i want to be in a serious relationship now, with someone who is committed to growing and evolving together. the universe is telling me it is there for me, i first need to learn how to be unconditionally loving to myself first, coz unless i can love myself through good days and bad, it is foolishness to expect the same in a relationship.
wow well said
Being alone is one of the greatest blessing you can ever experience.. dont believe the masses or psychology.. trust yourself..
True. Its like
1) why do i keep seeing these vids? I really dont think i ever out of the blue looked up solitude. Or if i did, or anything even similiar to it, i just commented i respect & admire amish ppl. Any other self sufficient ppl. Maybe ppl living in little homesteads they created for themselves.
2) i mean, wtf do they need to know? Why do i need to watch this for? So they can claim something thats not even there? Lol, i didnt ask. But if youd like to know
3) im pretty sure ive already said things on repeat tho
Boss You're so lonely from inside
Truth.
Dutch??
@obadiahscave - (very true)
Those who cannot stand their own company have no business expecting others to.
Christopher Ellis preach
SCORPION FIRE there’s nothing wrong with being a loner and I’m a loner and I love being a loner and loners are strong 💪🏻
SCORPION FIRE just saying next time u try to insult someone by calling them a “loner” think about all the people u had to depend on
I like the quote. Thumps up from me
@@abovethelaw4417 Indeed
Isolating however is different (& potentially dangerous.)
Solitude is not always a burden. When done voluntarily it can have great benefits for the individual and allow him to truly learn more about himself rather than just being a copy of everyone else.
Alexey Goodman agreed. The Information Age will require much solitude to find peace.
Alexey Goodman well said, I've been considering solitude holidays in the wilderness. Learn from nature and give something back etc.
Alexey Goodman "Solitude WILL make you go fucking insane." Guess you've never heard of Helen Keller....
Ra El You're a smart man.
Alexey Goodman spending too much time with oneself can make your social skill bad, I m a living proof.. My mentality and living style now differs from everyone I know..and lived with as family, friends. Now I don't talk to my parents or any living person. I just use this virtual texts now.
I feel like I'm a little too comfortable with solitude. I find it harder to connect with other people, because often times the things I seek out are easily found when i contemplate and investigate those things alone. There are of course cases when a companion will rescue me from something in a way that proves community is more a benefit than a vice. And I do believe that it is a benefit ultimately. But man...being alone--having total freedom to my thoughts, my art, my writing, my prayers to God. No other time makes me feel more alive.
This^
you are good, I have pretty much always been a loner and I feel just fine with it
this is beautiful
Tism baby maybe ?
Spot on every word you wrote. I drive a semi OTR. Let the people and their drama be of themselves.
I relate hard. About 7 years ago I dropped out of college to become a musician and writer (it was a deep calling). I had to retreat into solitude for a number of reasons 1. To study the works of the greats, 2. To escape the putdowns of those whom I knew up until that point, 3. To discover/gain confidence in my true self. It's been a hard road and many times I've felt bordering a psychotic break but ultimately I'm glad I chose my most honest path. Sometimes I wish I could take it back and remain part of the crowd but the emptiness of that is what pushed me into this path anyway.
Find your self. Good luck
Beautiful. I truly hope you find what you are looking for
me too i feel like i could get crazy but only because im close to a toxic person all alone i think it wouldn't happen
"I wish I could take it back." Well said. The wish to control time, to go back and make another decision, another choice. I think a lot of people struggle with this. The fact that a lot of us cling to their decisions, that once we made a choice, we signed a contract with time and we can never come back on it. The feeling that you have to make one choice makes me choose nothing at all at the end. Its like choice defines time, and their is only one time (the present).
So true
Fake friends, getting dumped, broken home and divorced parents made me a solitary person.
Same. I had to adapt or keep suffering.
Larrechard Juan Ignacio Gonzalez sorry to hear that
show must go on
so many people are in my position, that it feels ok.. thank you.
I've been there .. and still am .
Although after all those years I still think that being lonely had gave me a very genuine and creative way of thinking ..
But the problem is that I can socialize with anyone and make them love me .. but deep inside I know that I'm faking smiles and still feeling as lonely as before .
Anyone else ?
Self-imposed solitude without forced isolation is healthy. Overcoming the fear of being alone is a profound facet of self-mastery. For me, it is a blissful achievement.
same here
When you seclude yourself and let go of attachments it helps you realize the lies and deceit created within society. I consider my physical disability a curse, yet it is a blessing. Since I have had to quit working I have learned much about myself that I wouldn't have had time to figure out.
There's a difference between being lonely and alone.
I'm never lonely!
absolutely. I find more people telling me its not healthy since my husband died but we were both loners which is also not a bad term. We found each other living in bliss for thirty one years. It is extremely painful without him. He made it difficult for me to be alone again.
@@taroman7100 My condolences sweetie :( i hope you can learn to enjoy being alone again! ;D
Great point!
Same!
I'm so comfortable being alone that I'm annoyed while being around other people.
Great vid!
I like being alone because I have no one to impress. I can just be myself and be content
"You get so alone at times that it just makes sense." ~Charles Bukowski
Bearded Jagger Side bar...I like your look!!
I mean No disrespect.
@@kimrice6978 That is the actual Mick Jagger... bearded.
Beautifully said, I will show this to my grandma when she asks why I am not married. Thanks.
3 years later, but dang, that made me sad. I hope you've found someone great, and if not, hopefully soon.
@@wood_stone_iron
Why ? Being alone and not attached to someone else and their schedule and demands for attention is bliss ! Exploring the world on your own terms and time, is a joy !
Being able to have time for your own interests to evolve is a gift. 🌺
I love being alone.
I start going crazy after about 4 days though.
shawn moberg why?
shawn moberg not a true loner if you cave after 4 days lol
I dont mind it
+Epifani r/gatekeeping
i don’t trust people who can’t be alone, who can’t sit still with themselves. i know i shouldn’t judge but they scare me. it’s like they’re not fully human
frankencute you sound like a Scorpio
My ex-girlfriend was one of those people who couldn't stand being alone. She ended up being so crazy that she was threatening to murder me and torture me and shit. So, props to you.
ha ha I feel similar & am a scorpio. It's more that I find people who can't be alone tend to be a bit "shallow" for my liking.
a bit
I have come to think that parts of the planet Mars houses humans with brain disorders, like The Ram, and The Scorpion zodiac signs since I have been looking into humans with mars in there birth chart.
The more I realized that people are nothing more than 'smart apes',
the more I know that solitude allows me to embrace my
own humanity and to be content with being my own best friend.
there's really nothing like being your own best friend.
I'd been struggling in solitude for 5 years. Nobody I could trust, nobody I could count on. Being alone really scared me so much. I fought my fear of solitude and the dangers it brought me. I still couldn't believe that I survived. I couldn't believe I forgot the pain it caused me. It was all just memories now. Memories of pain that makes me smile now.
Up to now, im still in solitude most of the time.
I found in solitude what I couldn't get from others - peace, freedom, independence etc..
I found not just a wall I can lean on but also a charging station. It provides me a source of strength and energy in dealing with everyday life.
Do you know what is the best thing I found in solitude?
I found myself.
Well said and agree!
😊👍✌️
Thanks for this 🙂
Man this so beautiful. After my exams I'm considering going Ghost so I can work on myself
Solitude is not a difficult thing for introverts, because they must do it.
In fact it's a part of them.
Success is relative...the more success the more relatives...
Paul Cowell hahahaha!
do u mean procreation? multiplying?
Real relatives not fake ones💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
How delicately you acknowledge another advantage of solitude !
Relatives are not defined by blood alone..
This was one of the best 8 minutes video I ever watched. Man, I need to hit that replay button again.
Ditto antu, I did the same. This one is golden!
antu_neel Absolutely 👍
@@terencehennegan1439 same
@damperaura yeah his voice to really relaxing but when you focus on what he is saying the mind gets intensely focused
Someone wrote (or typed):
"I used to call it -loneliness, but now I call it -peace and quite" -(or words to that affect).
😆
Solitude is priceless.
FistInTheAir FingerToTheSky You can have it. I've had enough of being alone.
FistInTheAir FingerToTheSky Solitude is great for a while..I need to genuinely interact with people from time to time
u want to screw the princess peach?
Absolutely
Solitude is priceless.
😅
I just wanted to say that your use of classical paintings was so good. Perfection
As an only child who also studied at a private school - in a cubicle for 10yrs, I became incredibly confident in my own being. I still am. Although there are times where I feel slow in some social settings, I don't regret or grieve my personality. Solitude is such a piece of heaven when you become comfortable being alone in your own mind.
I actually have a lot to say about this. A couple of years ago, I was alone for some time. And I don't mean alone as caved in and completely isolated from everyone. But, I did go through a phase, where I wouldn't talk to all the people I used to talk to. I wouldn't talk to them about anything, I wouldn't go snooping around and I wouldn't go looking for them. I was in my own planet or whatever you would like to call it. But, I learned a lot as I went through that phase. I discovered more about myself. I discovered what kind of person I was, I learned something's I liked, that hadn't even crossed my mind at all before. I found what really made me happy, and I found what it was that I was missing. So, actually...being away from everything else, has its benefits. Sometimes, people just want to be alone. And sometimes, that's the best thing that can happen to them.
Yes, and you do need people too. Solitude is necessary, so are close relationships. People often forget that. You my friend had a great experience, I'm going through something similar. I have lost almost all friends, as in, I stopped going out and slowly stopped talking to them altogether. Glad we were and partially are on the same path. Also, lots of self discovery and realization is taking place. Cheers man
loved this. I have Asperger's syndrome which makes me need solitude allot of the time. Not very healthy but it has brought very interesting states of mind I love contemplating
I don't have asperger's but i share the sentiment. Sometimes i can feel myself losing my sanity but it also gave me a unique outlook.
lol, the sanity part reminded me when I stay in solitude for about 3 days I start shouting at the tv and realise its about time I visit my friends
Some things aired on tv would make even the most sane person shout at it.
wwwggxcom Haha, very true.
Phanes
Same here. I have gained a lot of 'inspiration' and ideas from solitude lately for my art and other projects. I've always used to fight it most of my life like it was something to be frowned upon .. but I see it very differently now and have sort of surrendered to it -One of the best things that's ever happened to me. I value it so greatly more than before.
I'm sort of an introvert but occasionally need some company but the right company. I need to be around like minded and open minded individuals who respect my solitude and not take it personally as rejection - I just need my "artistic space", to be in my zone and channel my creative energy efficiently.
When I occasionally spend my time with the right people, then we get to exchange ideas or just enjoy one others company, gain inspiration from moments, memories, life stories from one another. I think balance is important but I'm leaning more towards solitude for so many things. So far, I have gained more wisdom and self knowledge this way. I got to spend more time reading books etc. I sometimes have such a busy solitude that I forget that I am alone at all. Some of my best work was from working alone.
As one quote said about silence and it seems to relate to solitude for me in some way: "Silence is not empty, it's full of answers".
I don't know about you but I love my solitude, people and their noise, their hypes and drama bothers me and annoy me a lot these days as I grow older. I've always preferred one or two friends instead of groups too.
Solitude, Thinking, Silence and Stillness // Bliss.
I’ve always loved being alone but noticed that I often used cleaning, entertainment etc to distract my mind. Solitude can become much more beneficial when you allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with it.
I am an introvert (not shy) to the most extreme extent, and really needed this video to connect back with and understand myself again. Thank you.
Although there are times I seek the company of others, I have mostly enjoyed my solo lifestyle.
I have never felt that I truly belonged among people.
"Anti-social behavior is a trait of intelligence in a world full of conformists." ~Nikola Tesla
The Jesuit Hierarchy & Zionism rule us all *Asocial
k ocean , Yes I am a lazy leaf stuck in the mud :p I go wherever the Mud takes me.
k ocean , I am a passenger in my own life but when I get down, fantasizing about being the bus driver of my journey in life brings a smile to my life or maybe the kid on a bicycle with my feet out to the side and my hands on the ape hangers.
The Jesuit Hierarchy & Zionism rule us all aiethiest r we?
47 shift
But but but, both maturation through solitude and maturation through interaction with others are essential and necessary. More to humanity as a whole than to individuals. It is clear that some enjoy and grow more in solitude, while others enjoy and grow more in company. However, not as individuals, but as a large group of humans, we need both kinds of maturation, for what might work better for some, such as artists and thinkers that can spend hours lost in their own thoughts; can be fruitless and boring to others. Similarly, what might be refreshing and interesting for those who enjoy their time socializing, can be exhausting and terrifying for those of us who prefer loneliness.
Both are key to allow diverse individuals to be happy.
Destructopato I agree. We have multiple needs and sometimes we need solitude and sometimes we need relationships. There's a healthy balance I believe. Although that doesn't necessarily mean going out and partying or sitting in your room by yourself. It could mean just having people that check in on you once in a while and are interested in your journey/progress through life and your interest in theirs. Solitude can also mean being alone from people but close with the beauty and simplicity of nature. I do beleive it is important to have something to love and care for that you can nourish including yourself but also other than yourself. You can do this even with nature by not killing things(plants, animals, insects) if you don't need to unnecessarily (everything including us has a right to life and the persuit of life/well being) and helping a stranger is another way. This one you may have to use your best judgement as not all people are out for your good. Doing these things adds purpose and a responsibility which everyone needs. God bless.
Destructopato experiencing loneliness and being alone are not the same thing... in fact polar opposites
Destructopato shut the fuck up! You fkn idiot! your happiness isn't important! it's a byproduct of what is really fucking important! All social hierarchies exist for one purpose: SURVIVAL! that's it! that's all that fucking matters. have a nice day you fkn nimrod!
Destructopato I'm sorry, but I think that you misunderstood the concept. Your comment suggests that you don't understand the point of solitude and it's connection to self awareness. You can't look deep within and discover your strengths and weaknesses around people. You will not get the chance to dig deep, if you're surrounded by people. In order to get to know yourself, you must be by yourself.
People who go through the process of self awareness and becoming who they are, are fully capable of social interactions. They simply choose not to waste their time on nothingness and randomness. And they don't sit in the company of those who waste their time. They value their time too much to waste it. And that's because they realise the actual value of time, what time can do and how much can be achieved, planned and learnt in time, to waste time on people that follow the herd mentality. The greatest people out there are great because they separated themselves and went through the process of self awareness.
The journey is yours alone. And it cannot be undergone surrounded by people. You can't fake the process. You cannot live off of someone else's self awareness because that will create dependency. A person with self awareness can only resonate with another person who has gone through the process, especially in a romantic relationship. You have to be equally yoked. You cannot fool a person who has gone through the process. You cannot fake experience. People who follow herd mentality and bully those who have reached self awareness, only prove how low their self worth is and how much they want to reduce you to their own level. Instead of going through the process and becoming strong, such people want to bring you down with them. That's herd mentality.
Human interaction is not merely empty conversations with friends who follow the herd mentality. That is the lowest form of interaction and possibly one that will reduce you to nothingness. Business dealings, work related conversations, creating, critical thinking, etc are also part of human interaction. When you look deep within, face yourself and face your demons, you will recognise your strengths and weaknesses. You will accept yourself for who you are. At that point, you've realised your true potential and power. The blame and shame of society cannot touch you now. You are above the herd. In order to be above the herd, you must be away from herd and not immerse in its mediocrity and you must distinguish yourself from the herd. It's a decision. It's a process. You cannot fake it.
@Destructopato There is really no right and wrong answer but I agree with your comment. There are definitely things to learn through relationships and that is where real challenge comes in. Yes. there are infinite to learn through self awareness but there are also infinite to learn from other people and surroundings. I am a deep thinker and what I learned till now is that how you act infront of other people is also you. One teacher told me "persona" came from a word "mask" and that mask influences and is your identity. You can't see them as separate two. For instance, if you wear a mask of unconfidency when you socialize with other people, you become unconfident when you are alone. On the other hand, if you wear mask of being stubborn, you become stubborn. Everything starts from your mask. I am not perfectly sure but I want to question is there really you in yourself? When you were first born from your parents you see and learned from your parents and that became your identity as well. I don't think identity isn't something that is fixed. Rather it is like a cloud with full of so many colors. For example, things that you found about yourself through self awareness when you wear "unconfident" mask infront of there people, will be different from when you wear "I am the best" mask or "depressed" mask. There is no you if you are the only one living in earth. I see this theory positively because it means that you have a choice and decision to become who you want to be, and that is not being fake it is real you.
while being alone can help with self-cultivation, it's important to remember that other people can benefit us, and keep us in check. if the only person you spend time around is yourself, you may develop assumptions about the world that are false, that may only be visible to outside observers, thus it's important to keep others in our lives, to make such observations.
I second you,
Experiencing life through your own eyes alone isn't enough.
But that’s a good thing in inventing art and writing…and going mad.
I used to ride my snowmobile down the river in Livengood Alaska, where no other tracks had been made all winter. To stop, and listen, and no sound came to my ears, was amazing. To feel the -50 degree temperatures, and know that life was dependent on this machine running, was amazing.
I love being alone, never been bored either. Different strokes and all that.
Do you go on nature walks? Where? I'm hungry and I like to hunt solitary people ... kill them. fuck them ... eat them. :) ... do you deodorize using tasty seasonings?
Solitude and I are friends not foes.
Gammareign one often missed friend.
Solitude is the only loyal friend Ive known. Even my own shadow leaves and returns throughout the day.
I find solitude particularly refreshing most of the time. Although I've come to realize that I mostly just find small talk not only excruciating but a waste of time so I try to avoid it completely.
Solitude and I are in a toxic relationship.
Solitude and I are friends not foes.😅
I really enjoy being alone and I have definitely found myself more thru my own crafts than the likes of others. However, the next stage in my life that I must conquer is being social and still holding onto the special self within me
Being ostracized from my friends back in elementary made me the person I am right now. I've never been able to trust just anyone. I've been more careful and I've isolated myself from everyone but family and very very close friends. It helps me think clearly without and pressure to act like or BE somone I am not. I highly reccomend it. You will realize just how little you need of strangers and "friends".
I'm pretty much an antisocial misanthropic guy. I find being around people to be exhausting and irritating. Not being around people soothes me and allows my natural self to be.
Greybeard Yo this is me
who are you? i mean where are you?
because id be interested to meet you. what state?
Greybeard Without the internet, you would not be saying this.
I wouldn't count that as a victory. That can easily be achieved by having social anxiety. It takes no self reflection to achieve what you do. It's only a victory when you can be yourself when alone and when with others.
I’m a loner just like u and an anti social misanthropist and I love being a loner it’s makes me feel the power of “freedom” and “peace” something idiots will never understand
I find solitude very comforting. It is extensive social interaction that i find difficult.
I've never feared to be alone. Guess I'm strange - I love being alone.
Society makes me paranoid,gives me tensions, keeping me enslaved... I am scared and sucidal.... Wish i could free myself from this misery need nothing just let me go i will leave alone but family responsibility and society enslaved me....
Ditto. Best situation ever for me.
You’re not strange, I love being alone too
Yeah you're strange and special, unique just like everyone else who says the same thing as you.
@@edbotikx and you're a little insecure jack with that non-existent profile pic
Being alone is one of the greatest blessing you can ever experience.. don t believe the masses or psychology.. trust yourself..! Thank you
Solitude is a necessity for some and a curse for others. The reasons are dispositional and when it is a need, solitary people are born into it. I suffer greatly if I do not have enough alone time and I have been this way since I was a young child. I feel estranged from myself in those instances when deprived of time alone and become annoyed with people who get between me and me. Someone who experiences loneliness when not with others would not understand a creature like me. Know thyself and be and become what you know. Most of my friends are solitary creatures as well and we each understand the others need to be alone and respect it.
Katherine Kelly The Mind (Spirit) Needs SILENCE especially when one has been through so much Pain in Life, both Psychologically and Psychically!! the THOUGHT PROCESS (Noise) Can Destroy Completely a human being. lol and it Never Stops by using Force ( A Mechanism of Control) on the Contrary Increases! So Imagine Living Without almost no FILTERS? So Harmony is Funda-mental to Me.. I Have Established A Beautiful Relationship with NATURE!! LOL Am Still Working with Other Creatures!! GOOD VIBES!!
The noise is a compulsion created by the mind either trying to understand a paradox where there is no answer or trying to understand an experience where the persons perspective never allows them to know the truth (answers) to the questions that feed the compulsion. The other form of noise is an aspect of PTSD leaving the person in perpetual anxiety (hyperawareness) and "triggered" by events that the mind interprets as dangerous. The need for silence could be a coping mechanism to avoid being triggered. The person escapes into silence. My grandfather had been in war and years later my grandmother told me when he would dream of the experience he would grab her and throw her on the floor and cover her with his body to protect her from enemy fire. He kept reliving the trauma but that was because he did not know how to expunge this trauma from his mind so it stayed with him. The relationship we have with pain decides the life we will live including the pain that lives only in our mind as memory. The memories are etched into the physical mind and the person does nor know how to rewrite their past to take away the power of the etching. Diamonds are a hard substance that will etch glass. Trauma is a hard substance that will etch the mind. It takes an equally hard substance to over write the etching of trauma. True spirituality (not religion necessarily) is the only thing hard enough to remove trauma because it stops the person being preoccupied with their own pain and trauma. The pain creates a preoccupation with self "as pain" but stopping this preoccupation takes the mind off the pain. Make your life about "all that is". Find something that is greater than the self to dedicate your life to. Immerse yourself into it and share it with others. Be of service.
Katherine Kelly love your thoughts. Brilliant!
@@katherinekelly6432 I would love to have an conversation with you one day
what a surprise, the comments section is full of people saying they love to be alone, ignoring the irony in the fact you felt the need to say it publicly.
Renzen Agreed
Yes, but at the same time it helps other people so u know you are not "alone" and there are a lot more people who are introverts like you, and you realize is not that strange. Its not like "im gonna share with everyone that i love being alone so i feel important".
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I thought I was "alone" in noticing that. get it?!?
Renzen ... great comment :) I LOVE IT!
The introverts are having a ball here in the comment section
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They hate us bc they aint us :/. You cant break my shell. Bitch, im mr crabs. Snap snap
You are an idiot.
True.. True.. lols However,, the Introverts are now Extroverting. (So we do come out of our shells... 🙃) lols
Extravertsl and introvert are very flawed terms, they do not accurately describe a person, especially when you don't understand a persons Individuality, past, mind set, environment, jobs, schools, hobbies , etc. ...
Excellent, simply excellent.
One of the only channels on youtube that tackles problems with reason instead of throwing shit in other people's faces.
Bruh...I almost cried...been going through it with the family, especially my son...also been yearning, since youth, to be alone, this explains everything...why I am so terrible in relationships.. I need more time alone...
...why I am so terrible in relationships.. I need more time alone...😅
I only feel truly alone in a room full of other people.
That’s so true.
Same!
Same here. And like in this vid, I lose myself in some others easily, esp battling Codependency. So, I prefer to be alone tho not lonely, & achieve my independence.
The divine self...
@@fenixtodayable not so much divinity as the large amount of energy required to conform to what others consider "normal", especially when each of those present has their own idea of said "normal" and are not willing to consider that all others may not be in total agreement. it leaves me drained, expended, repulsed (for want of a better word) sometimes.
I actually missed being alone. The feeling when its raining and you walk alone... And no one stops the music on your phone with a call. And the feeling that you are alone in this huge world, can be inspiring and enjoyable.
I think I am slowly returning to being self sufficient and happy with my self.
How about psychology of Whiterun,Windhelm or Riften next time
Obrad Drakulic THAT was great.
I'd put a lennie face here
skyrim?
Omg hahhahhaha haahahaha
No Lollygagin
I think the healthy individual has the benefit of both . Solitude and the ideal of self realization for a more whole individual is augmented by interactions with others. Like a blanket that brings warmth and comfort in the night brings relief to the mind and body. A well rested or calm individual is much more productive and effective individual. But if you don't have the benefit of interpersonal relationships a substitute can be creativity by which those emotions can be expressed.A catharsis.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." J. Krishnamurti
I LOVE ❤️ MY SOLITUDE!!!!! As a Creative Soul I AM always in tune with how precious my valuable time alone is. When I spend time in solitude then I AM better prepared to be of maximum service to others especially my amazing job!!!! No matter what gets taken away from me, I know I AM my best company. Namaste 🙏
I believe in the 70, 30 % rule. 70% of your time should be isolated enough for self growth and development. 30% social life for healthy relations with others, but to an extent it’s never overwhelming to be around people. I’ve noticed I have a 4-5 hr expiration time frame before I get annoyed socially around someone. Before then I’m happy to meet others company in small pockets of time
Im a hermit, 35, never had a 'real' friend in my entire life. Live alone most of my life in the boonies, and run a farm. I think im perfectly fine, dont commit crimes or do anything crazy. The only thing is that im quite socially awkward and tend to be very cringey in social situations, or in other words my social skills are not up to par.
When you realize that God is ultimately all alone, you become at peace with yourself. Your loneliness is only a reflection of Gods loneliness.
"Your lonliness is only a reflection of God's lonliness". I could reflect on that for years..very unique and profound statement. Thank you
One thought i always liked about "God" that is that "he" created everything so he wouldn't be lonely and in so doing, shattered himself into an infinite number of pieces programmed to coalesce back into conscious wholeness over the eons.
@@ashiahindigo9917WORDZ 😎 ....when you are alone
You find God..✌❤777
Don't you think you and God would have a better time hanging out, rather than just imagine what the other is doing?
God is not alone. We have Him and He has us. However its important to learn to be alone. I think its very powerful as you are not dependent on others for happiness.
“Hell is other people”
Jean paul Sartre
No hell is forced solitude while watching the rest of the population having a life
I like this discourse.
geoff r that is hell too I would imagine, But I suspect you ‘think’ they actually have a life, which most of the time is probably not true.
j Smith oh goochy goochy goo!!! someone needs me to spell things out for them, Want me to clean your pooey nappy aswell?!!
j Smith Stop asking ridiculous dumb ass questions. Wtf are you doing on a philosophy channel with such an imbecilic mind?
An excellent summary of one of life's most difficult balancing acts: Society vs. solitude.
😱excellent summary of one of life's most difficult balancing acts: Society vs. solitude.
There should not be either extreme. The desire for solitude is born because of a feeling of disconnectedness that has already been present. It is a just a quest to end the solitude within us. None of us want to be alone, a baby is not born wanting it. It is just a commonly misunderstood way to find connection. A true one.
TalTheBest true, every desire we have reflects upon the incompleteness we feel in ourselves.
Interesting perspective.
Man is neither a lone wolf nor is he a social animal. But he is a contractual animal. So he will communicate with other humanbeings to the extent of contractual obligations.
I have no words to describe how much I enjoyed this video. I watched it like 10 times. Amazing narration and quotes. Thank you so much
at least your assured of good company when your on your own
I have no fear of isolation. I can honestly say I look forward to more of it.
It is so endulging. I have such a strong connection with silence. I have the ability to observe myself as a seperate person and i find it to be so very intriguing. Solace in solitude is a must in my life.
It's like, these videos are so perfectly timed. I need these in my life at the moment. They help me to understand myself a little better. Thanks.
I'm a loner, but I think I have more social skills than people who don't tolerate to be alone.
I wouldn't like to live with anyone. I'm very independent.
When I end my labor I use to say to my coworkers: Now I'm going to stay the rest of the day with the person whose company I enjoy more:
MYSELF.
The quality of your videos is amazing.
Thanks a lot
At aged 72, living alone, I have learned to be my own best friend. Also, Wyoming never lets me down: Mother Nature, Pets, Horses, and the Great Outdoors are always steadfast gifts from God to lift my spirit and help me soar. 🙋🏼♀️🏔🌟💞
I often chose to be alone juste to get the full flavor out of things . People tend to need to talk all the time and i often rather choose to stay in silence or in music or in wind or in thoughts or in creation in solitude. And i'm never bored when alone because i'm free to enjoy all i want : ))
I like solitude. A moment to organize the ideas.
Being alone is like taking care of your house, rearranging the furniture, decorating. You can't do it while throwing a party.
Yeah but you can't fuck yourself ... ohhh wait :p Yesss you can! So do it! Go fk yourself you solitary son of a bitch! :p ... A big party and rearranging furniture will go a lot easier if you have a few people to help you fyi!
Jesse Bowman What in gods name are going on about? Just based on your reply to his response tells me you wouldn’t be able to last an entire day by yourself.
I appreciate the time and effort you put into these. thank you
I find the key to a social life as an introvert is figuring out what you Really want from people, and to find a small group that exhibit those traits, that way you can have solitude as usual, but you'll never feel alone because you know you have people you genuinely like the be around whenever you're feeling social.
I'm not saying to surround yourself with clones, looking for specific ideologies and opinions will lead you almost nowhere, and more than one friend that's like your clone will get tedious, variety is what makes humans so interesting. My best way to explain it is an example
For me, all I ask for in a friend is a genuinely open mind, so that if we enjoy each other's company I feel peaceful knowing if we disagree on something we have an honest talk about it and hopefully come out with newly formed perspectives, it also lets me know even if we do have conflicting ideologies, we'll be smart enough to realize that doesn't make us enemies, or incompatible as friends.
On that note, if you disagree: I implore you to explain why and/or share a method that worked for you.
I love the way you phrased your last paragraph. Today it seems, most people want to fight, win the argument, not listen to any counter evidence, no matter how factual, to their claim(s). The obvious loss of critical thinking skills among many is a diminution of our society. You sound like someone I would love to have as an intellectual companion.
@@brianpan6453 Sorry to send you the equivalent to a small book, but I don't think I can justify this without one.
Honestly I don't think our society has gotten much worse in that regard, but rather due to the internet we're constantly exposed to humanity's flaws, and naturally with social media and the like opinions are gonna be thrown around like snowballs...sometimes with a rock in them... luckily I think people are realizing how miserable this can make them when they got caught up in it too much.
Our brains are wired to remember negatives, it dates back to when that kind of mindset was useful (I mean god forbid you forget where that lion den was on your hunts), but in this day and age it makes things look really shitty, especially because the Only exposure to the olden days we have is from newspapers, advertisements, and word of mouth, which means we can only know as much about previous generations as we're told, no social media to document daily life, and so the old days look peaceful and simple to anyone that doesn't dig deeper, in reality even straight white males had it worse because showing tears was more or less a taboo to most, a problem only recently being called out for being absurd.
It feels like humanity's progression is extremely sluggish, but if you look at all that's happened in just 100 years (sometimes the length of just a single human lifespan) it's pretty blatant we're in a transitional period, a whole lot is happening for only a couple generations, and, well we've seen how poorly some people handle change, so it's caused Plenty of drama.
I'm only 18 and I've watched as each new generation is more open minded than the last due to them being born in a vastly expanded world: the average joe having the technology to make meaningful connections with anyone, the ability to always be informed on what's happening in the world outside his little world,
and gays, transsexuals, different cultures interacting on the daily as equals weren't even considered a possibility by most just a hundred+ years ago, even depression was considered a joke label to many, somebody being pathetically sad and trying to blame it on something.
The knowledge available to us has made a lot of people more pessimistic, and it makes our brain do that thing where it makes all our problems into one giant problem that seems absolutely insurmountable, but it's also fueled a near constant train of change, people looking past that thing our brain does and fixing each problem one by one, and I like to think that's better than living in ignorance of the problems we could be fixing, many of which are problems that, in the long run, would someday force us to live on a different planet, not because we want to explore, but because we were parasitic to our home.
@Spencer Genovese, America’s social dysfunction has continued to intensify as the nation has ignored a key underlying pathology: anti-intellectualism. America is killing itself through its embrace and exaltation of ignorance, and the evidence is all around us. “A culture of ignorance” is one that has given up the concept of truth. Opinion and persuasion rule. Traditional sources and certifiers of knowledge such as universities, the sciences, and established journalism, are undermined and discredited.
As a society, we are now spending too much time, energy, and capital battling willful ignorance-about climate control, about the genuine effects of social policies, about the extent and impact of governmental programs, about immigrants, about those who are different. Many public figures, many voters, wear their ignorance like a badge of honour. When challenged and cornered, they retreat to the hollow claim that “I have a right to believe whatever I want.”
What is especially shameful is that we have this culture of ignorance at the same moment in history when our ability to secure, preserve, access, and share knowledge has exploded. There was never a better time to be a scholar; never better resources for an informed citizenry. “Ever wonder about those people who spend $2 apiece on those little bottles of Evian water? Try spelling Evian backward. ”
Stumbling on your channel is the biggest gift of wisdom ive gotten by my curiosity and inner wondrous child.
I'm not scared of isolation. I welcome it.
During this situation ,it matters the most.😷
i used to wonder why i liked books with dark themes most. it finally occurred to me that i was simply embracing my dark side. i think of it as a vicious dog: it has a big yard to roam in, plenty of food and water, i play with it often. i can't let it take any walks unless it's on a strong chain. if needed, i can let it do its worst.
I love the shit outta what u just said !
Content, wording, images make this channel one of my favorites.
Metaneeds. Truth, beauty, and goodness. Truth is the hardest. Find true self, realize true purpose, true faces, true meaning of life.. a life is a millisecond in existence.. a gift. Beauty is complicated. Beauty in landscapes is easy. In ppl is there. In emotions is hard. Goodness is simple. Help others for no other motive than to help others. Goodness brings gains even if there’s a sacrifice. Solitude is everything. This channel is all that’s good. Thank you.
Voluntarily seeking solitude is the way to truly combat and come to terms with the darkness we have within. Only alone can you see yourself for who you truly are and not a mere copy of someone else or living up to others standards. If you truly want seek out your individuality, join us and take a step into the abyss ;)
nly alone can you see yourself for who you truly are and not a mere copy of someone else or living up to others standards👍🏻
Solitude is important because one day we will taste death alone.
Solitude is important because one day we will taste death alone.😱
Better to be alone than to have so called friends making demands on you.
These are without a doubt some of the best videos I've seen on youtube. They also make me feel smart for identifying a lot with the information given despite how society often tells me to do otherwise, subscribed.
My dream is to be a grumpy old man who's lonely by choice. :')
Shit. That was my plan
you wouldn't be grumpy if you mastered solitude *by choice*
@Timehacker It was mentioned in the video, something about losing themselves in others...and here you are telling someone else what THEY mean, as opposed to the person SAID what they meant. I suppose when you lose yourself in others, it becomes relatively easy to put words in someone else's mouth.
Arthur Schopenhauer
nice catch D I.
Solitude isn't difficult, having to take into consideration the wants needs moods and persistent presence of another, is.
tamsinthai No kidding.
You think that in solitude, you don't take into consideration your own wants and moods? People can be pretty easy to figure out, they'll tell you what they want if you pay close enough attention, but trying to figure out yourself? You'll be chasing yourself round and round trying to please yourself.
At the end of the day, people want love and attention. But when it comes to one's self, we can be hesitant and self conscious about how much of that we receive.
tamsinthai I crave the stimulation of conversation with others. Being alone is very uncomfortable for me if I don't at least have the mindset that I will get to spend time with somebody daily or every few days.
Most people aren't responsible nor competent enough to realize their "presence, mood, & wants" are typically vein and potentially toxic.
BEST TH-cam COMMENT OF ALL TIME.
The truthful quality of content on this channel is rare and profound in almost every sentence, I have to repeatedly listen to many segments just to let it sink in, that it often takes me near 12 minutes to listen to a 9 minute program.
Academy of Ideas, you never get old.... thank you.
I've grown stronger in my introvert self.. Extroverts tend to lose themselves trying not to be alone
I never understood people like that. Everything is temporary, they should learn the art of detachment,Nothing is guaranteed.
.. Extroverts tend to lose themselves trying not to be alone😱
Everything is fine if you have WiFi.
True!
Amen
every introvert ever
Nah i grew up in a time w/ out wifi. Lol, i went a long time w/ out even when it was wrong. Ehhhhhh, think again. Honestly, id prob just draw & read more. You know? "Bc im so sophisticated 🙄..."
Boom!!
"The farther I am from the human race, the better I feel". "Two inches is good, two miles is great, two thousand miles is beautiful ". Charles Bukowski.
I've always deeply related to the Robin Williams quote, "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." So often, I'm more confortable in solitude.
Your channel is simply the best psichology and philosophy i ve come across on TH-cam. Keep it up
My situation is so severe that solitude is my cure. I have a capacity to be alone because human nature is callous and predictably stupid.
This is brilliant! I love hearing the theory that one can become self realized in solitude- makes sense!!
I grew up lonely af but still had friends. When I was forced into solitude I had no choice but to confront myself! Now I love being alone n turned Ambivert. 🤷♀️you learn so much bout yourself🌻
Another thing I love about this channel is the amount of book references I can check out.
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The idea of the 'False Self" at 4:05 reminds me of what Sartre calls "Being-for-Others".
Self determination theory: the need for autonomy, competency and relatedness.
Yes autonomy (solitude) is important, but in balance with the others.
The reader’s Voice is as crisp as chips. This is Such deep philosophical information and to assimilate it is not easy. The reader did a fabulous job at it.
Love it.... Thank you. After shifting perceptions with challenging circumstances within relationships as experiential lessons one must heed, the guidance was clear that the ultimate destination was Solitude / Aloneness. And yes, the first reaction was fear (ego), but ultimately has unfolded into a JOY and a deeper relationship with SELF as egoist attachments, fixations, and agendas have been disengaged/transcended.