This is one of the best videos on dating I've ever seen. I can't believe all the salty comments on this. Women need to learn how to stop being masculine: taking the lead, ball busting etc. Ladies, please do some research on Feminine Energy.
I agree. This was very insightful. It kind of should be labelled "how to love your man", but then it wouldn't get as many views. Our hearts and minds need to be more open as women
@@tracygallegos7505 Not necessarily. If you check again, Jack and Clayton are offering three tips to make your man miss you, that are selfish and subjective. To be Aman's sanctuary where he gets to heal his soul, and according to them "not adding another problem to solve" it's unrealistic and selfish. Every man has problems. Every woman has problems. And in the same way that they would like to rest their heads on our lap and forget about the rest of the world, we would like to count on them the same way. So we cannot have a bad day and to want to comment it with him? We cannot look for his arms to be pampered and listened about an issue? That's not real. "Cooking a nice dinner, perhaps making love....." Everything is around being the fulfiller of his needs. That has nothing v to do with being feminine. Sorry! 😐
Marcela Zerda Thinking about what you’re not getting sounds selfish to me! I prefer making dinner and making love over talking about problems, that’s just me lol I can be my man’s sanctuary and be pampered all at the same time! A true masculine mature man will want to take care of his sanctuary and be there for his women as well! For me, a feminine energy is being able to give and receive love!
@@tracygallegos7505 That's the point. Hope you get it. Still when you're down and having an issue. Hopefully your man will want to cook for you and pour himself into you as you are willing to do for him. Good luck! 😉
Be yourself! Be unique! Be independent! Be little stubborn! Love being alone! Be happy! Don’t just try to or eager to get a man! When you beautiful as flowers, bee and butterfly will fly to you!
Black Chinadoll i do have selfworth, can't understand why i am being stalked by men some are even married,😠some don't even want to understand no and i love another men..i even had to get an order of protection to keep them away from me, i dress conservative don't like tight clothing or showing cleavage, just saying simply me
Totally agree with you. My granny always had it right. She used to say to me: "Give yourself the value that you deserve, so men see that you respect yourself and will understand that you're valuable. Hence, stay still. Don't chase them. Show yourself indiferente and with the dignity of a real lady. Don't call, don't look for him, don't make a movement. If he values you, hell go for you".
Queen of Thorns I agree. This guy approached me four months ago, we have known each other for many, many years, I am friends with his sister. He approached me, we started talking and connected! He then said to me that he is in a point in his life where he is looking for someone to settle down with, and he sees that in me. “You’re the woman that’s has been missing from my life.” Verbatim. Then he suddenly stopped giving me less attention, no more spontaneous texts, no more good morning, what-have-you. He said it’s because he is stressed with work and he’s also opening a new business. I tried to “end” it twice, because I had to CHASE after him for attention, he was always too busy or too tired. He told me he would have a day off on a Sunday, I decided to ask him if we could have a chat. We hadn’t chatted in a while. He said he was taking his mother out, but didn’t answer my question. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I told him I’m tired of him stringing me along and he should never contact me again. He said that he told me he was taking his mother out, that I’m too demanding and told him to stop contacting me because he is spending time with his family. That’s not the reason at all! I was tired of me allowing him to string me along for three months. He’s not worth it and I value myself much more. Three months is long enough.
Because we have nothing else to do but to wait whole day at home to give men massages and cook dinner. Women work too man. Who will create sanctuary for us then?
If you are able to be at home, his sanctuary for you is to protect and provide for you, and give you a strong shoulder to lean on. Besides, at home, you can do things you are passionate about. I would practice my music. I would then have the energy. I would give anything to be protected and provided for by a man. I would feel so safe. Women who are lucky enough to be in this position take that for granted I think. He would be working hard for you.
I was thinking this the whole time watching this. we often get advise that if we are a good woman THEN he will be a good man. people point out that his work life is his main priority as if women don’t work just as much. Women are expected to work AND take care of house, but men are not expected to be much more than a provider, financially. I don’t have too much time for softness because while he’s laying his head down I’m getting off work too but expected to cook and clean and put things together for the family. Also men don’t always think about how women are basically expected to live their lives in accordance with theirs. If you have more than a few relationships that is literally changing your life again and again to be in sync with theirs(Generally speaking). We do need commitment. Say a man gets a good job somewhere... if we are with them, then WE are expected to go with them. A woman would do pretty much anything and everything for her man. But not if he’s not committed to her.
@@bethanywaters6486 Women should not be expected to work outside the home and do more than half of the domestic stuff. When I see women working outside the home and doing more than half the domestic stuff I literally seethe inside with anger. There is no way in hell I would get caught up in that. I would also never live with or have sex without his commitment to me either. And you don't have to pressure a guy for commitment. Just withhold those things, especially the sex, until he makes up his mind, not as a way of manipulating him, but because it wouldn't be good for *you* to give yourself away at that deep level before there is the stability of commitment. You'll find out where he stands relatively quickly too. More quickly than if you give him your body/soul so he doesn't have to make up his mind. It's easy really. No fights. No pressure. The ball is in his court at that point. You can still see each other, get to know each other. You really loose nothing, because if you feel you have to have sex with him before his commitment, you will never really know. And things like division of labor need to be discussed ahead of time too. As you are getting to know each other and before the commitment and sex stage, let him know what kind of division of labor you are looking for in a relationship if you live together and/or marry. You have a lot more power than you think you do really.
Petya Anguelova totally agree. So, we have to “create a sanctuary for our strong driven man so he can relax”, perhaps by “giving them a shoulder massage and preparing a nice dinner when they come home from work”, “not forcing them to commit and not pushing them” and “pretending we don’t have a past”... WOW, using these guys own words - That’s exhausting for a woman!!! Probably we have to do all that while being beautiful and taking care of the house and of the kids and having a full time job. Really, man up guys!
girl... check out sheraseven1. i felt the same way watching all these complicated dating videos. The man should do the work to chase you. it is the natural way of things. once you chase and scheme, you lose. you gotta detach a bit . sheraseven1 helped a lot of women
Ines ... stop over-thinking it!!! That's the problem with us women we just damn-well over think things .. it's okay to be vulnerable, however, it's also important to be strong and independent and when you find the right man your energies will blend harmoniously together ..the woman won't be "needy" and the guy can be a source of "strength" on every level..
I think what these guys are trying to say is...what will we do as a woman if we are really crazy for a man...as for me cooking dinner n creating a relaxing evening comes naturally with the man u really crazy about....i mean why so many women settle for man they dont love...its absurd..keep on searching...
I agree with you, but why you are here then? Some people don't have the life and emotional tools to know how to love good and better. You just have to be you, but It's good too to be informed about how the men thinks and trying to do in the best way possible and love healthy.
I think he is referring to someone who maybe making a couple of mishaps in the relationship and giving them advice to stay on a better path if they want to have a successful relationship with their partner !!
And now days, when you are nice they call you needy. Or they string along for months How about just making a potion to get guys to tell the truth and act with integrity
The easiest way to not let that happen is to not have sex with them until you are satisfied of their commitment and love for you. This is not manipulation. This is simply doing what is best for you. You don't have to argue or push for commitment. Withhold your body/soul until you are sure about him. That's all. Just calmly tell him that you don't get sexually involved until there is love and commitment between the two people. You too can let him know you want to make up your mind about him. If he's not serious you will know. He will leave, give you a really hard time, or threaten to break up with you if you don't have sex. Then you know. It's much easier to let go if you haven"t given your body/soul. If he does any of those three things then leave immediately. If he really wants *you* he will wait. You have a lot more control than you think. Believe me, one way or the other, it works.
Queen I truly thought I was the only one who felt this way !!!! I would do things differently fall back a little and stop being so nice, and we have to learn how to say that one word" NO " it seems that's what some men prefer these days instead of just saying yes baby this and that to everything or doing everything for them .I say you can be someone's sanctuary , but with limits or to a certain extent without pushing the man away yet still allowing him or to be comfortable in that space with you . I've learn this from self experience.
@@lindiwedlamini2883 That is because this video is about how to make things work from the male perspective. It's funny. I was watching a video about how men can please a woman sexually and emotionally and some of the guys watching the video couldn't understand why the video was only from that point of view. Women and men are not the same. They are different from each other. So it makes more sense most times for each video to have a particular perspective depending on whether it's about the man or the woman. That's all.
I do absolutely everything for my husband and the more I do to make him comfortable in his life the more he takes me for granted and actually makes me LESS of a priority. All I ever hear is how he has no time or energy to make me a priority.
This is valuable information IF the man you’re interested in is mature and emotionally intelligent. I think it’s important to preface this as it makes a huge difference about whether he takes your vulnerability for granted or opens up as well.
You can't force someone to want you n spend time with you. He will do it for who he wants too effortlessly. You need to value yourself more than him n move on to find what you what. These guys are right tho. You need to be a place of peace n tranquility to him.
I absolutely love this message. It goes straight to my favourites so I can watch it every day to help me stay on the right track. And "Focus on The Connection Rather Than the Commitment" - great advice. I had "Eureka" moment hearing this. Thanks so much!
I was ‘the sanctuary ‘ for someone and it seems to my thing and it’s taken for granted and then they come back when it’s too late and after they hurt me.just can’t fix stupid and childish
Yes. You put this so well. Here is one of the many words I wrote to my wonderful man... When night sheds its blanket on the day To blot out the light It’s my minds vision of you That puts the sun back in my heart When I ponder on all we share catches my breath, Knowing you are there makes it easier to breath. You make my strength so much stronger You make my beliefs so much fuller I am what I am, I do what I do, it is what it is but with you there It all seems so much better, so much stronger and so much fuller. Thank you for the you who you are.
So wished I knew these things before I got married and divorced. Your videos are so informative. I grew up in such a disfuntional family. It has not been until my own children started to make life choices that I finally seen the pattern within my family. I started on a journey two and a half years ago to heal myself, to heal the relationship between myself and my ex-husband and to provide wisdom to my girls in their relationships. Re-training of one's mind takes a lot of time and patience but thank you for the insightful videos. Do you ever make any videos regarding successful reconciliations after many years of divorce?
WOW very powerful! especially the trusting and not letting my past determine my future. I needed to hear this before i send that email that discusses my fears moving forward with my bf, b/c of being hurt in the past by men not worthy of me, which i didn't know at the time b/c i didn't deem myself 100% worthy. he is trustworthy and has proved that in his ACTIONS and his open and honest communication ... establishing intimacy. i really needed to hear that he NEEDS me to trust him so it doesn't build resentment and so that he keeps leading and moving forward with confidence. THANK YOU so so much!
What I love about you guys is you speak the TRUTH. I think the best "tool" I had going into relationships with me was my relationship with my father, what he told me about me, but more important, what he showed me of himself and how he thought and felt and what he respected in a woman. I think you guys are a great father substitute for women who did not have him in their lives. :) I am LOVING listening to you because you are reminding me of some very important things about relationships. I listen to you two, and I ask myself, "Are women REALLY THIS calculating when it comes to men?" and I remember YES, they really are...most of them. lol I'm happy you are giving them the answers and the guidance we need! The world of men can be very scary for many women, I think. Thank you for being a guiding light.
Playing hard to get! Mystery, independent personal, sweet and charming smile all the time! Let man chase you! Of course the most important thing is strong self confidence
It really depends on the man you have in your life. My boyfriend is a true man, he doesn't play games and he is not childish. We are perfect together! I stumbled on this video by accident and I believe it's very correct.
This channel is primarily for women. If the problem is on the men's side then essentially the woman is powerless in this circumstance, which is not true. Yes there is a responsibility on the man's part, but this video is to communicate what the woman can do on her side of the fence.
For #3.....There are far too many men out there who haven't moved on from past relationships. This is something that usually doesn't surface till later. He generally won't admit it.
girl... check out sheraseven1. i felt the same way watching all these complicated dating videos. The man should do the work to chase you. it is the natural way of things. once you chase and scheme, you lose. you gotta detach a bit . sheraseven1 helped a lot of women
Forest Flower , I do this for my man and I receive so much in return. I cook dinner, greet him with a hug and kiss every evening. After dinner I hold and message his head, shoulders and chest as we watch TV. I say come take your place, in my arms that is. I don't ask for anything he just do it. On Valentine's day I was awakened by money raining down on me, not 1s, 5s, nor 10 dollar bills but 20s. When I told him that I took some of the money and paid on my cruise he said I will give that back to you! They money is for you to spend on you. When he got home he gave the money back to me and made it rain down on me again. I love the way it works out. He trusts me with everything he has. It just takes balance!
This is also true of the way men treat their woman too, without a mans trust towards his woman, it's very difficult for a woman to feel relaxed and want to commit and in essence the jealousy will make your woman want to get out of the relationship. Also women need a sanctuary in their man, they need to feel respected and appreciated. I do believe that the most important focus on the relationship is the connection rather than the commitment because who wants to stay committed without a connection? My advice is to just chill out and let things happen naturally. I definitely agree that us women withhold to manipualate the outcome and it definitely backfires best thing to do if you find the man isn't wanting to naturally commit and you're wanting a deeper commitment with someone is to move on! Let a man find you not the other way round otherwise you'll waste precious time and even years of your life.
I believe the men need to look out more for the womenthan the women for the men. They have a responsibility to be faithful, HONEST, and trustworthy to ONE WOMAN and respectful and honorable and LOVING TOWARDS HER!!! NO EXCUSE!!! Don't demand so much from women when you are not willing to do half of what you are pressuring women to do. Men have an innate desire to be free and go from go to girl, and that is not the woman's fault. A man needs to learn how to hold down his horses and be faithful to ONE WOMAN and commit so that then the woman can feel, comfortable, safe and so on. Without his honesty, trust and commitment as well as love, there is no Honor and No relationship!
That is very true. I thought I had finally been found by my actual soulmate. There was and still is but I feel unsure due to his recent actions if obvious pulling away. When I try talking to him about my feelings, and to the best of my ability, I try to do this as neutral as possible. He is feeling I'm complaining and saying I'm not happy. True to an extent, but I understand when things go wrong at home with lives obligations, so I accept the response given while remaining patient, uplifting, understanding, and luving. But at what point do I step back and withdraw myself. I'm so very confused to say the very least. I feel lied to, cheated, given up on, disrespected, and a few more...but still feel I should give this man an opportunity to regain himself and either reconnect with me or move onto something else for myself. Now, there does pose a huge problem that I do not want anyone other than this guy. I feel like there is no doubt n my heart n mind that the crossing if our paths was deliberate n sent from above. If that wasn't enough, there is the unmistakably connection and familiarity between us from the first time we spoke over the phone even before we actually met face to face that was sooo strong and felt so right. I have never experienced anything like this or close to this in all my 44 years. I need advice and guidance how to pull away and allow him the space and time to do what needs to be done to gather himself so we can regain out outta this world unexplained connection and continue onward together. Plz help me. I've experienced abuse of one type or another mixed with settling for whatever was available instead of knowing my self worth and accepting nothing less that what I want and deserve. (He taught me about that and patiently help me to discover my worth)
Thank you for this awesome video. This helped to confirm that my very near future husband and I have the best relationship .I trust him and I put my life into his hands to lead me especially in a spiritual way and really, in every way.
Ashlee Villaluz 😂 sounds like me unfortunately. I’m always into a type A guy being myself a type A woman. I expect the guy to do all these things for me! My problem is that I fall in love too quickly and of course ruin everything. Clayton’s other video on how to make the guy chase you is a bit more helpful.
These are great tips. I have read through the comments and what most women are missing is the fact that we just need to show up... 1. Show up beautiful 2. Show up open 3. Show up happy 4. Show up being your best self....why is this called work???
This is all true, you just put words to what I’ve been slowly discovering. And these things really apply to all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. I’ve also been on the other side of not being seen for who I am because of the other person’s past hurts.
I thought i've done these 3 ways. But i just found out that the man im close with, who called me and texted me everyday, who cuddled me, already get a girlfriend...... my world is going down
Thank you for these excellent and wise points. A lot of women push men away by forcing them to commit. They overlook the fact that they should become his sanctuary first. A lot of videos encourage women to break up with guys who don't want any commitment. I agree with your points of view. Thank you again!
Hard to do 3, when you have had c-PTSD your whole life and are expecting the next guy to hit you again. Yes, focus on healing and I am...but I've had this for almost 30 years and I'm not putting off relationships for another 20 (not jumping in either) till I'm whole which will never completely happen. I deserve romance too. Trust is iffy. I like this video a lot and enjoy pleasuring and comforting a guy that takes care of me, listening and making him laugh. Also not being available 24/7 (I'm an introvert anyway). Right now I have made it clear I can't commit, but I do enjoy making connections. I think that helps. Really like this video. A man needs to be a fortress for his woman too.
Very useful information, thank you. I read some of the comments below and I disagree. At the age of 42 and with many relationships behind, I understand that we are totally different. And don't worry girls, if you give ahead, you will get back plenty. It's just the way it is. In my present relationship I've been doing what is suggested here, and it really works. The guy is falling in love. ;)) And I'm doing it because I draw the conclusions from previous failed relationships. So thank you guys, I actually agree with what you're saying. :))
I did everything for him, always there, loving him, going to his place cleaning for him with all my heart without being forced surely, loving and caring about his parents, supporting him in everything and every time he traded me for his friends and never gave me back from what I have to him
And by ' ...becoming his sanctuary. ', what if the woman herself is struggling between life and death, struggling with internal battles to stay alive. Relationship is about 'give and take' , it's about cooperation. I agree with *becoming a sanctuary to each other* .
Midori Pai Val Thanks! Yes, trust is hard work for nearly all of us. Slowing down to yourself and trusting yourself are good ways of supporting trusting others.
Some people here missed the point of the ideas in this video. These guys are talking about the initial stages of a relationship and they are only talking about what women need to do because this video is for women. This is about doing all the good feminine things that we can do to establish a good relationship with a man. Men would need to do their part too. Also these are things you would do for someone who you find to be a good man. So asking when do we get cared for just shows maybe you have been with the wrong guy! Great video!! Thanks for sharing this!!
Such valuable information, thank you Clayton, you're amazing, how you cover every area, even the deep ones, one would have not thought of. I'm starting in a new relationship and I'm learning so much from you! Not every relationship is the same, I do believe in Good Men out there, but Women also have to set themselves up with the right "mind set", and these tips you are giving are just "Invaluable" to me. Thanks
There is only one Secret to be the Apple of a man eye, simple don't go after the guy that you like go after the guy that like you in that way ladies you'll always be in control, trust me on that! I remember always hearing growing up love the one who loves you, I wish I had followed that advice life would have been so much more profitable,
Unforunately all my friends pressured me against my good judgement to I ask where this is going! That conversation went badly, especially given i know actions speak louder than words ie no need o ask
There is so much to experience for both parties in a relationship that requires no commitment. You are both there simply because you both want to be there. You both enjoy each other's company and are freely affectionate without judgement. Sex, as they mentioned, does not need to be present in order to be affectionate.
Clayton Always i think if i say to him : when i trust you completely....etc ,will make him work hard to win my full trust. Nice info right on the point
Wow! Yes, i agreed !! Now I know, he never forget because the 3 power secret that i was applied with him. Thats why he always still on me. Nice one and I loved your video. God bless and more power both of you...
That feelings when you are in a long distance relationship with er doctor that are super busy all the time.the feels when you are his gf but yet,,you feel less important,feel out of his world...until you are near the edge of giving up but can't let go easyly ....😑😑😑
My boyfriend loves laying his head on my belly and me playing with his hair and scratching his head. It’s so relaxing and stress relieving for us both. We have our issues but that stuff is what keeps him wanting me.
This is an awesome video! Patience, trust and openness... all require some degree of vulnerability. Be open to your man and allow him to see you, love you and connect with you
Is Exhausting for a Woman too....that Men bring Their Past Women to Me!! Please!!! MEN, Leave Your Ghosts in the PAST. i HAVE to Deal with Men that Keep Bringing Their Exs to Me in Ghost form and Making Me Pay for whatever these women did to them. MEN Do that a Lot!!
i never comment anytime anywhere. Thank you for this. What differentuates you two is "the my side of the fence" with a man who is career driven. There's lots of advice out there for the average guy... I don't need that.
Some of guys already caught that being infidelity and lying . Doesn't want to accept their faults of being a cheater and a liar . Yes accusing and assuming them because you have a proof the fact that they doesn't want to accept they were so wrong bec. Of the EGO.
All you women being so negative need to get in some counseling for your issues. Please don’t even try to start a relationship with your negative and ‘pity me’ attitudes. This is actually great advice. It has helped me with my man. And guess what, I take care of him and he takes care of me. When you take care of your man, he will pamper and cater to You
You can be strong and soft at the same time. Be feminine but don't be a doormat. A man respects a woman who sets boundaries and limitations, a woman that respects her own life, priorities and schedule. Don't be submissive but be willing to compromise a little.
Well I added more stress now we broke up and we just text a bit now how do I get him back...he has A LOT going on personally and he was screaming at me Friday on how I wasn't there for him on new years....he said he needs to get him together he as well was crying over us....we had feelings for 3 years and I added more stress
We live over an hour apart. I am his telephone buddy. He calls two & three times a day! I think he sees me as company for his loneliness, without the pressure of someone in his home. We have history- we were lovers over 20 years ago, he still drools over then. I show my vulnerability to an extent. We ARE Both learning to trust. HE cheated on me in the past. He’s wounded too, his ex wife cheated on him.
He told me I was his safe haven and I thought he was great and he was making so much effort. But then I found out he is still living with a wife that he claimed to be separated from. I thought he was getting a divorce, but he has no plans to. My energy shifted, I became distrustful and emotional and I told him to stay out of my life and out of my face. He seemed so honorable, and emotionally open, like no one I had ever met and I feel gutted and deceived.
I have done all of these things. We always focused on the connection. He did not have time after his 31 year marriage to be who he is and I actually encouraged hi for 1 year to take care of himself and take his time. He insisted on a "relationship" - When I finally gave in about 6 months later -- coming on to 2 year together he decided he wanted to be "alone" We had a beautiful friendship and and spiritual relationship. He immediately went out with another woman the same he broke up with me. We have no contact at all with no ability to touch base other than an email. The break up was dragged out over 2 months which is where he got "ugly" and at that point - I completely went into "radio silence". I think we should be together. We are in our 50's. He is seeing a therapist for his own personal reasons - I do not know if I am being considered due to the things he said to me.
Listened to the very end of ur talk re 3 powerful secreta on how to make a guy miss me.... I learned so much from this talk and at the same time while listening i was crying because i k ow deep inside my fiances heart i broke his trust on me because i lied to him.
I watch a lot of relationship videos and point number 2 and 3 just hit it out of the park for me!! Gave me major clarity on my current situation. Thank you guys 😊
love your work, listening to your recordings has shown me how far i have come from past relationships, rather then showing what im doing wrong I know what im doing right and when i hit a bump in the road i listen to you both and process what im feeling and im back on track thank you for sharing your gift blessings Rachelle xo
True most of my relationships in the past, I always be a good friend to my partner and the trust was build faster than commitments. My friends used to asked me what I do different from them i thought because of my personality.
I think these are very good points (especially the 1#), but only if the man is worthy of my time and attention, and he has earned my trust and respect with time though his actions. I can give what he needs but will walk away if he cannot meet mine. The relationship needs effort from both man and woman.
My ex was platonic friends with his exGF during our relationship. And I felt like SHE was his sanctuary. He went to her for advice and for help with a stresssul situation with his dog, when I couldn't be there for him. They also did weekly yoga. Such a strain on our relationship. I feel like he was emotionally cheating on me, even though he said I could come to yoga anytime I wanted to spend time with him. Very hurtful to me. Not sure if I needed to get over it or if I was insecure and made it an issue when it really wasn't. He swore they no longer had feelings for each other and I had nothing to worry about.
This is one of the best videos on dating I've ever seen. I can't believe all the salty comments on this. Women need to learn how to stop being masculine: taking the lead, ball busting etc. Ladies, please do some research on Feminine Energy.
I agree. This was very insightful. It kind of should be labelled "how to love your man", but then it wouldn't get as many views. Our hearts and minds need to be more open as women
Dee D totally agree with you! women who have something negative to say about this are mostly speaking from their masculine energy..
@@tracygallegos7505 Not necessarily. If you check again, Jack and Clayton are offering three tips to make your man miss you, that are selfish and subjective. To be Aman's sanctuary where he gets to heal his soul, and according to them "not adding another problem to solve" it's unrealistic and selfish. Every man has problems. Every woman has problems. And in the same way that they would like to rest their heads on our lap and forget about the rest of the world, we would like to count on them the same way. So we cannot have a bad day and to want to comment it with him? We cannot look for his arms to be pampered and listened about an issue? That's not real. "Cooking a nice dinner, perhaps making love....." Everything is around being the fulfiller of his needs. That has nothing v to do with being feminine. Sorry! 😐
Marcela Zerda Thinking about what you’re not getting sounds selfish to me! I prefer making dinner and making love over talking about problems, that’s just me lol I can be my man’s sanctuary and be pampered all at the same time! A true masculine mature man will want to take care of his sanctuary and be there for his women as well! For me, a feminine energy is being able to give and receive love!
@@tracygallegos7505 That's the point. Hope you get it. Still when you're down and having an issue. Hopefully your man will want to cook for you and pour himself into you as you are willing to do for him. Good luck! 😉
My advice is to just chill out and let things happen naturally.
Best advice! 🥰🥰🥰
Be yourself! Be unique! Be independent! Be little stubborn! Love being alone! Be happy! Don’t just try to or eager to get a man! When you beautiful as flowers, bee and butterfly will fly to you!
"Focus on the "CONNECTION" not the "COMMITMENT!"
Great stuff!! 😍😍
When someone shows who they are believe them. Period.
Jean Richard. AMEN!
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Amen to that. So trueeeee.
My new mantra is " work on the connection not a commitment ". Great advice guys.
Romiegirl 2020,Yeah
Why beg for love and attention???? Is either they do or don't. Women pls value urselves and don't chase and beg!!!!!!
Black Chinadoll i do have selfworth, can't understand why i am being stalked by men some are even married,😠some don't even want to understand no and i love another men..i even had to get an order of protection to keep them away from me, i dress conservative don't like tight clothing or showing cleavage, just saying simply me
Totally agree with you. My granny always had it right. She used to say to me: "Give yourself the value that you deserve, so men see that you respect yourself and will understand that you're valuable. Hence, stay still. Don't chase them. Show yourself indiferente and with the dignity of a real lady. Don't call, don't look for him, don't make a movement. If he values you, hell go for you".
Queen of Thorns I agree. This guy approached me four months ago, we have known each other for many, many years, I am friends with his sister. He approached me, we started talking and connected! He then said to me that he is in a point in his life where he is looking for someone to settle down with, and he sees that in me. “You’re the woman that’s has been missing from my life.” Verbatim. Then he suddenly stopped giving me less attention, no more spontaneous texts, no more good morning, what-have-you. He said it’s because he is stressed with work and he’s also opening a new business. I tried to “end” it twice, because I had to CHASE after him for attention, he was always too busy or too tired. He told me he would have a day off on a Sunday, I decided to ask him if we could have a chat. We hadn’t chatted in a while. He said he was taking his mother out, but didn’t answer my question. That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I told him I’m tired of him stringing me along and he should never contact me again. He said that he told me he was taking his mother out, that I’m too demanding and told him to stop contacting me because he is spending time with his family. That’s not the reason at all! I was tired of me allowing him to string me along for three months. He’s not worth it and I value myself much more. Three months is long enough.
Queen of Thorns.....Exactly!!
@@Faustuosa85 ......Good for you. He does not deserve you. Keep your good spirit and Debbie time to yourself, no to selfish, insecure men.
Because we have nothing else to do but to wait whole day at home to give men massages and cook dinner. Women work too man. Who will create sanctuary for us then?
fanta123 clearly, to both be sanctuary for each other after the long day!
If you are able to be at home, his sanctuary for you is to protect and provide for you, and give you a strong shoulder to lean on. Besides, at home, you can do things you are passionate about. I would practice my music. I would then have the energy. I would give anything to be protected and provided for by a man. I would feel so safe. Women who are lucky enough to be in this position take that for granted I think. He would be working hard for you.
I was thinking this the whole time watching this. we often get advise that if we are a good woman THEN he will be a good man. people point out that his work life is his main priority as if women don’t work just as much. Women are expected to work AND take care of house, but men are not expected to be much more than a provider, financially. I don’t have too much time for softness because while he’s laying his head down I’m getting off work too but expected to cook and clean and put things together for the family.
Also men don’t always think about how women are basically expected to live their lives in accordance with theirs. If you have more than a few relationships that is literally changing your life again and again to be in sync with theirs(Generally speaking). We do need commitment. Say a man gets a good job somewhere... if we are with them, then WE are expected to go with them. A woman would do pretty much anything and everything for her man. But not if he’s not committed to her.
@@bethanywaters6486 Women should not be expected to work outside the home and do more than half of the domestic stuff. When I see women working outside the home and doing more than half the domestic stuff I literally seethe inside with anger. There is no way in hell I would get caught up in that. I would also never live with or have sex without his commitment to me either. And you don't have to pressure a guy for commitment. Just withhold those things, especially the sex, until he makes up his mind, not as a way of manipulating him, but because it wouldn't be good for *you* to give yourself away at that deep level before there is the stability of commitment. You'll find out where he stands relatively quickly too. More quickly than if you give him your body/soul so he doesn't have to make up his mind. It's easy really. No fights. No pressure. The ball is in his court at that point. You can still see each other, get to know each other. You really loose nothing, because if you feel you have to have sex with him before his commitment, you will never really know. And things like division of labor need to be discussed ahead of time too. As you are getting to know each other and before the commitment and sex stage, let him know what kind of division of labor you are looking for in a relationship if you live together and/or marry. You have a lot more power than you think you do really.
fanta123 missing the point my dear
So, when are we going to be supported, cared for or pampered? When are we going to be weak and have our strong man to protect us?
Petya Anguelova totally agree. So, we have to “create a sanctuary for our strong driven man so he can relax”, perhaps by “giving them a shoulder massage and preparing a nice dinner when they come home from work”, “not forcing them to commit and not pushing them” and “pretending we don’t have a past”...
WOW, using these guys own words - That’s exhausting for a woman!!!
Probably we have to do all that while being beautiful and taking care of the house and of the kids and having a full time job. Really, man up guys!
girl... check out sheraseven1. i felt the same way watching all these complicated dating videos. The man should do the work to chase you. it is the natural way of things. once you chase and scheme, you lose. you gotta detach a bit . sheraseven1 helped a lot of women
Ines ... stop over-thinking it!!! That's the problem with us women we just damn-well over think things .. it's okay to be vulnerable, however, it's also important to be strong and independent and when you find the right man your energies will blend harmoniously together ..the woman won't be "needy" and the guy can be a source of "strength" on every level..
I think what these guys are trying to say is...what will we do as a woman if we are really crazy for a man...as for me cooking dinner n creating a relaxing evening comes naturally with the man u really crazy about....i mean why so many women settle for man they dont love...its absurd..keep on searching...
Inês Rodrigues yeah. This annoyed me too. Seems like we're making more chances for me to use us
When a real man love you. there is no need to see or look if he love you or miss you. I don't believe in this . send it to someone else
I agree with you, but why you are here then? Some people don't have the life and emotional tools to know how to love good and better. You just have to be you, but It's good too to be informed about how the men thinks and trying to do in the best way possible and love healthy.
I think he is referring to someone who maybe making a couple of mishaps in the relationship and giving them advice to stay on a better path if they want to have a successful relationship with their partner !!
Francisca Nunez maybe this does not fit in your past or situation..
Francisca Nunez exactly.
Of course!! Would not we..as women feel attracted to such a connection, were a man to believe he should provide it?
And now days, when you are nice they call you needy. Or they string along for months
How about just making a potion to get guys to tell the truth and act with integrity
The easiest way to not let that happen is to not have sex with them until you are satisfied of their commitment and love for you. This is not manipulation. This is simply doing what is best for you. You don't have to argue or push for commitment. Withhold your body/soul until you are sure about him. That's all. Just calmly tell him that you don't get sexually involved until there is love and commitment between the two people. You too can let him know you want to make up your mind about him. If he's not serious you will know. He will leave, give you a really hard time, or threaten to break up with you if you don't have sex. Then you know. It's much easier to let go if you haven"t given your body/soul. If he does any of those three things then leave immediately. If he really wants *you* he will wait. You have a lot more control than you think. Believe me, one way or the other, it works.
Queen I truly thought I was the only one who felt this way !!!! I would do things differently fall back a little and stop being so nice, and we have to learn how to say that one word" NO " it seems that's what some men prefer these days instead of just saying yes baby this and that to everything or doing everything for them .I say you can be someone's sanctuary , but with limits or to a certain extent without pushing the man away yet still allowing him or to be comfortable in that space with you . I've learn this from self experience.
It takes two to make it work this sound like its all about him this him that. Where and when will he compromise for me I also need a sanctuary,
@@lindiwedlamini2883 That is because this video is about how to make things work from the male perspective.
It's funny. I was watching a video about how men can please a woman sexually and emotionally and some of the guys watching the video couldn't understand why the video was only from that point of view. Women and men are not the same. They are different from each other. So it makes more sense most times for each video to have a particular perspective depending on whether it's about the man or the woman. That's all.
Cici..... You got it right!
I do absolutely everything for my husband and the more I do to make him comfortable in his life the more he takes me for granted and actually makes me LESS of a priority. All I ever hear is how he has no time or energy to make me a priority.
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This is valuable information IF the man you’re interested in is mature and emotionally intelligent. I think it’s important to preface this as it makes a huge difference about whether he takes your vulnerability for granted or opens up as well.
You can't force someone to want you n spend time with you. He will do it for who he wants too effortlessly. You need to value yourself more than him n move on to find what you what. These guys are right tho. You need to be a place of peace n tranquility to him.
I absolutely love this message. It goes straight to my favourites so I can watch it every day to help me stay on the right track. And "Focus on The Connection Rather Than the Commitment" - great advice. I had "Eureka" moment hearing this. Thanks so much!
Do this and be ready to b taken for granted... Cos he will have u exactly where he wants u but u get nothing....
I was ‘the sanctuary ‘ for someone and it seems to my thing and it’s taken for granted and then they come back when it’s too late and after they hurt me.just can’t fix stupid and childish
jen cheevers We need to be sanctuary for each other!!!! Both ways!!!!
Jen.....I see you, I understand you. That's exactly what they do. They use you to their own benefit until they leave you empty.
Don't give too much to unworthy men.
I know a married man who says he loves his calm home...but he cheats on his wife like crazy....
Yes. You put this so well. Here is one of the many words I wrote to my wonderful man...
When night sheds
its blanket on the day
To blot out the light
It’s my minds vision of you
That puts the sun back in my heart
When I ponder on all we share catches my breath,
Knowing you are there makes it easier to breath.
You make my strength so much stronger
You make my beliefs so much fuller
I am what I am, I do what I do, it is what it is but with you there
It all seems so much better, so much stronger and so much fuller.
Thank you for the you who you are.
Francesca Knittel Bowyer beautiful. Thank you for sharing this!
Francesca Knittel B,you look lovely 🌹🌹 🌷🌷 🌺🌹 🌹🌺🌹 🌹🥀
A pain swipes the heart away. Its tough for the brain to work when the pain takes over
So wished I knew these things before I got married and divorced. Your videos are so informative. I grew up in such a disfuntional family. It has not been until my own children started to make life choices that I finally seen the pattern within my family. I started on a journey two and a half years ago to heal myself, to heal the relationship between myself and my ex-husband and to provide wisdom to my girls in their relationships. Re-training of one's mind takes a lot of time and patience but thank you for the insightful videos. Do you ever make any videos regarding successful reconciliations after many years of divorce?
Relationship is a two-way process... It has to be give and take... That's only the key... And never ever have a competition to each other..
I did tip number one for long time but then I am just his doormat ,wow! But not anymore , I'm not an option.
WOW very powerful! especially the trusting and not letting my past determine my future. I needed to hear this before i send that email that discusses my fears moving forward with my bf, b/c of being hurt in the past by men not worthy of me, which i didn't know at the time b/c i didn't deem myself 100% worthy. he is trustworthy and has proved that in his ACTIONS and his open and honest communication ... establishing intimacy. i really needed to hear that he NEEDS me to trust him so it doesn't build resentment and so that he keeps leading and moving forward with confidence. THANK YOU so so much!
What I love about you guys is you speak the TRUTH. I think the best "tool" I had going into relationships with me was my relationship with my father, what he told me about me, but more important, what he showed me of himself and how he thought and felt and what he respected in a woman. I think you guys are a great father substitute for women who did not have him in their lives. :) I am LOVING listening to you because you are reminding me of some very important things about relationships. I listen to you two, and I ask myself, "Are women REALLY THIS calculating when it comes to men?" and I remember YES, they really are...most of them. lol I'm happy you are giving them the answers and the guidance we need! The world of men can be very scary for many women, I think. Thank you for being a guiding light.
Playing hard to get! Mystery, independent personal, sweet and charming smile all the time! Let man chase you! Of course the most important thing is strong self confidence
Trust is an ongoing process. Blind trust doesn't build relationships, but holding one another accountable and keeping each other honest does.
THANK YOU! YES!
It really depends on the man you have in your life. My boyfriend is a true man, he doesn't play games and he is not childish. We are perfect together! I stumbled on this video by accident and I believe it's very correct.
I always trust until I am given reason not to.
It's easier that way.
The problem is not the part of women but men who are responsible of their acts.
This channel is primarily for women. If the problem is on the men's side then essentially the woman is powerless in this circumstance, which is not true. Yes there is a responsibility on the man's part, but this video is to communicate what the woman can do on her side of the fence.
Im so happy that i found my long relatioships now we will meet soon here in pilipines i really trust him so much we will be together and im so lucky:
Point 1 become his babysitter.
Hahahahahahaahahahahah I won't bringing up him as my children.
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Janet Marquez, Really!,so sad😪
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You are right... but mostly women craving for commitment than focusing how to make men fully deeply inlove with them... Great video
For #3.....There are far too many men out there who haven't moved on from past relationships. This is something that usually doesn't surface till later. He generally won't admit it.
Why we women have to do so much this sounds like a lot of work 😥 I am already exhaust just to hearing this guys
girl... check out sheraseven1. i felt the same way watching all these complicated dating videos. The man should do the work to chase you. it is the natural way of things. once you chase and scheme, you lose. you gotta detach a bit . sheraseven1 helped a lot of women
Forest Flower me too
Forest Flower lolol hilarious
Forest Flower , I do this for my man and I receive so much in return. I cook dinner, greet him with a hug and kiss every evening. After dinner I hold and message his head, shoulders and chest as we watch TV. I say come take your place, in my arms that is. I don't ask for anything he just do it. On Valentine's day I was awakened by money raining down on me, not 1s, 5s, nor 10 dollar bills but 20s. When I told him that I took some of the money and paid on my cruise he said I will give that back to you! They money is for you to spend on you. When he got home he gave the money back to me and made it rain down on me again. I love the way it works out. He trusts me with everything he has. It just takes balance!
We don’t have to do all this. It’s just a wish list.
This is also true of the way men treat their woman too, without a mans trust towards his woman, it's very difficult for a woman to feel relaxed and want to commit and in essence the jealousy will make your woman want to get out of the relationship. Also women need a sanctuary in their man, they need to feel respected and appreciated. I do believe that the most important focus on the relationship is the connection rather than the commitment because who wants to stay committed without a connection? My advice is to just chill out and let things happen naturally. I definitely agree that us women withhold to manipualate the outcome and it definitely backfires best thing to do if you find the man isn't wanting to naturally commit and you're wanting a deeper commitment with someone is to move on! Let a man find you not the other way round otherwise you'll waste precious time and even years of your life.
after doing all the things you've listed yet the man still cheats repeatedly with different girls. then should the woman do again?
Doris Ohanyere leave, make some good friends with nice ladies.
I honestly feel this is too one sided
I believe the men need to look out more for the womenthan the women for the men. They have a responsibility to be faithful, HONEST, and trustworthy to ONE WOMAN and respectful and honorable and LOVING TOWARDS HER!!! NO EXCUSE!!! Don't demand so much from women when you are not willing to do half of what you are pressuring women to do. Men have an innate desire to be free and go from go to girl, and that is not the woman's fault. A man needs to learn how to hold down his horses and be faithful to ONE WOMAN and commit so that then the woman can feel, comfortable, safe and so on. Without his honesty, trust and commitment as well as love, there is no Honor and No relationship!
That is very true. I thought I had finally been found by my actual soulmate. There was and still is but I feel unsure due to his recent actions if obvious pulling away. When I try talking to him about my feelings, and to the best of my ability, I try to do this as neutral as possible. He is feeling I'm complaining and saying I'm not happy. True to an extent, but I understand when things go wrong at home with lives obligations, so I accept the response given while remaining patient, uplifting, understanding, and luving. But at what point do I step back and withdraw myself. I'm so very confused to say the very least. I feel lied to, cheated, given up on, disrespected, and a few more...but still feel I should give this man an opportunity to regain himself and either reconnect with me or move onto something else for myself. Now, there does pose a huge problem that I do not want anyone other than this guy. I feel like there is no doubt n my heart n mind that the crossing if our paths was deliberate n sent from above. If that wasn't enough, there is the unmistakably connection and familiarity between us from the first time we spoke over the phone even before we actually met face to face that was sooo strong and felt so right. I have never experienced anything like this or close to this in all my 44 years. I need advice and guidance how to pull away and allow him the space and time to do what needs to be done to gather himself so we can regain out outta this world unexplained connection and continue onward together. Plz help me. I've experienced abuse of one type or another mixed with settling for whatever was available instead of knowing my self worth and accepting nothing less that what I want and deserve. (He taught me about that and patiently help me to discover my worth)
Thank you for this awesome video. This helped to confirm that my very near future husband and I have the best relationship .I trust him and I put my life into his hands to lead me especially in a spiritual way and really, in every way.
Lean back with your feminine energy, let the man lead the dance! Be loving, supportive to each other. ❤️❤️
How I miss you if he's not really in love with you..if he feel in love with you he gives you a value..
I’ll stay single forever
Ashlee Villaluz 😂 sounds like me unfortunately. I’m always into a type A guy being myself a type A woman. I expect the guy to do all these things for me! My problem is that I fall in love too quickly and of course ruin everything. Clayton’s other video on how to make the guy chase you is a bit more helpful.
Welcome to the club.
@@tanyatanu1 ME too !!!!!
Ashlee Villaluz 🤣
🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅Dating is a full time job, how hectic
#1 is simple.
Communication. Period
this
Tari Ferrie love ds
These are great tips. I have read through the comments and what most women are missing is the fact that we just need to show up...
1. Show up beautiful
2. Show up open
3. Show up happy
4. Show up being your best self....why is this called work???
I guess this advice works mainly for mature, unselfish, got-it-all-together men. Are there any out there?
Becomingwhole Healthy people make sanctuary their home.
No.
Nope
I was too but he still cheated.
This is all true, you just put words to what I’ve been slowly discovering. And these things really apply to all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. I’ve also been on the other side of not being seen for who I am because of the other person’s past hurts.
what if overtime the guy's actions makes it difficult for you to trust him.
bukola suleiman Dump him. Even if he is completely innocent you will never eliminate that suspicion in your mind.
It's so sad that women have to be like beating pillows (a prettier way to say it is "be his oasis") in order for the men to not forget them. So sad.
I thought i've done these 3 ways. But i just found out that the man im close with, who called me and texted me everyday, who cuddled me, already get a girlfriend...... my world is going down
Key point: if you’ve broken up then he isn’t going to miss you.
Kinda hard to he soft if he’s not around
I love how both of you deeply listening to each other..
Thank you for these excellent and wise points. A lot of women push men away by forcing them to commit. They overlook the fact that they should become his sanctuary first. A lot of videos encourage women to break up with guys who don't want any commitment. I agree with your points of view. Thank you again!
Hard to do 3, when you have had c-PTSD your whole life and are expecting the next guy to hit you again. Yes, focus on healing and I am...but I've had this for almost 30 years and I'm not putting off relationships for another 20 (not jumping in either) till I'm whole which will never completely happen. I deserve romance too. Trust is iffy.
I like this video a lot and enjoy pleasuring and comforting a guy that takes care of me, listening and making him laugh. Also not being available 24/7 (I'm an introvert anyway). Right now I have made it clear I can't commit, but I do enjoy making connections. I think that helps. Really like this video.
A man needs to be a fortress for his woman too.
Very useful information, thank you. I read some of the comments below and I disagree. At the age of 42 and with many relationships behind, I understand that we are totally different. And don't worry girls, if you give ahead, you will get back plenty. It's just the way it is. In my present relationship I've been doing what is suggested here, and it really works. The guy is falling in love. ;)) And I'm doing it because I draw the conclusions from previous failed relationships. So thank you guys, I actually agree with what you're saying. :))
This is so good -- connection vs. commitment.
Andrea Wisner,you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🌹 🌹🥀🥀 🥀🌷🌺🥀 🥀
I did everything for him, always there, loving him, going to his place cleaning for him with all my heart without being forced surely, loving and caring about his parents, supporting him in everything and every time he traded me for his friends and never gave me back from what I have to him
And by ' ...becoming his sanctuary. ', what if the woman herself is struggling between life and death, struggling with internal battles to stay alive.
Relationship is about 'give and take' , it's about cooperation. I agree with *becoming a sanctuary to each other* .
To maintain a healthy relationship both side do the same work . Wife or lover can’t play the mother’s role all the time .
I learn good from you guys. Thank you. Will keep it in my head when my true man comes.
Trusting someone is really hard but I'm trying to trust him now. Thanks for this wonderful and informative video 😊
Midori Pai Val Thanks! Yes, trust is hard work for nearly all of us. Slowing down to yourself and trusting yourself are good ways of supporting trusting others.
Some people here missed the point of the ideas in this video.
These guys are talking about the initial stages of a relationship and they are only talking about what women need to do because this video is for women. This is about doing all the good feminine things that we can do to establish a good relationship with a man. Men would need to do their part too. Also these are things you would do for someone who you find to be a good man. So asking when do we get cared for just shows maybe you have been with the wrong guy! Great video!! Thanks for sharing this!!
Claudia Elena Sanchez Quintero you got it. :)
Such valuable information, thank you Clayton, you're amazing, how you cover every area, even the deep ones, one would have not thought of. I'm starting in a new relationship and I'm learning so much from you! Not every relationship is the same, I do believe in Good Men out there, but Women also have to set themselves up with the right "mind set", and these tips you are giving are just "Invaluable" to me. Thanks
There are no doubts when its unconditional love.. You want to do everything for your partner and vice versa
There is only one Secret to be the Apple of a man eye, simple don't go after the guy that you like go after the guy that like you in that way ladies you'll always be in control, trust me on that! I remember always hearing growing up love the one who loves you, I wish I had followed that advice life would have been so much more profitable,
I have a guy exactly this... but whenever I'm in need, he's not there for me because he sees me as a stress. That's not fair
It's also exhausting if they dissect everything you do and not trusting you because of his misscommunication early on and mixed signals.
I can see CLEARLY now.
Wow.. I typed clearly just before he said clearly.
Gotta have trust and feel safe with each other.!!!
Really good.!
I was his soft place... i focused on the connection not the committment and....but it's been 7yrs! Still no commitment!
Unforunately all my friends pressured me against my good judgement to I ask where this is going! That conversation went badly, especially given i know actions speak louder than words ie no need o ask
Jeanette Body, you got a pretty smile ☺️ lol 😁
There is so much to experience for both parties in a relationship that requires no commitment. You are both there simply because you both want to be there. You both enjoy each other's company and are freely affectionate without judgement. Sex, as they mentioned, does not need to be present in order to be affectionate.
Dont try too hard to please and impress him, but be yourself and be kind, you will find the right man for you.
Clayton Always i think if i say to him : when i trust you completely....etc ,will make him work hard to win my full trust.
Nice info right on the point
Wow! Yes, i agreed !! Now I know, he never forget because the 3 power secret that i was applied with him. Thats why he always still on me. Nice one and I loved your video. God bless and more power both of you...
opened up an old wound...wow lots of stuff to process yet. coulda shoulda woulda if I had known. I lost a good one. Feel like Adele! Thanks guys.
Kimberly Kremer,you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🥀🌷🌺🌹 🌹🌺 🌺
That feelings when you are in a long distance relationship with er doctor that are super busy all the time.the feels when you are his gf but yet,,you feel less important,feel out of his world...until you are near the edge of giving up but can't let go easyly ....😑😑😑
My boyfriend loves laying his head on my belly and me playing with his hair and scratching his head. It’s so relaxing and stress relieving for us both. We have our issues but that stuff is what keeps him wanting me.
I’ve done all of this and still didn’t get the love and consistency I craved. I exhausted myself. And still got dumped.
This is an awesome video! Patience, trust and openness... all require some degree of vulnerability. Be open to your man and allow him to see you, love you and connect with you
Is that an advice to become his maid?
I dont mind being the maid if i. Can work part time....i want to keep a nice home and cook and do laundry...i like being home.
show that you will hear him and be as understanding as you can.
Is Exhausting for a Woman too....that Men bring Their Past Women to Me!! Please!!! MEN, Leave Your Ghosts in the PAST. i HAVE to Deal with Men that Keep Bringing Their Exs to Me in Ghost form and Making Me Pay for whatever these women did to them. MEN Do that a Lot!!
Just Pray for your man if u love him ask God to change him cz no one is perfect prayers changis things
i never comment anytime anywhere. Thank you for this. What differentuates you two is "the my side of the fence" with a man who is career driven. There's lots of advice out there for the average guy... I don't need that.
Thank you for the comment and reflection. It's appreciated
Some of guys already caught that being infidelity and lying . Doesn't want to accept their faults of being a cheater and a liar . Yes accusing and assuming them because you have a proof the fact that they doesn't want to accept they were so wrong bec. Of the EGO.
All you women being so negative need to get in some counseling for your issues. Please don’t even try to start a relationship with your negative and ‘pity me’ attitudes. This is actually great advice. It has helped me with my man. And guess what, I take care of him and he takes care of me. When you take care of your man, he will pamper and cater to
You
Omg. I was thinking the same thing. I understood exactly what they were saying in this video
Angie Ang yes!
Angie Ang Exactly! The problem with women is that they give love to wrong men. Which is why they become Jaded.
You can be strong and soft at the same time. Be feminine but don't be a doormat. A man respects a woman who sets boundaries and limitations, a woman that respects her own life, priorities and schedule. Don't be submissive but be willing to compromise a little.
Well I added more stress now we broke up and we just text a bit now how do I get him back...he has A LOT going on personally and he was screaming at me Friday on how I wasn't there for him on new years....he said he needs to get him together he as well was crying over us....we had feelings for 3 years and I added more stress
Angel Baby,your story touched my heart 💓
Excellent video ....the advice was perfect
Stephanie White, you look gorgeous 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🥀 🥀🌹🌹 🌷🌷 🌺🥀 🥀
We live over an hour apart. I am his telephone buddy. He calls two & three times a day! I think he sees me as company for his loneliness, without the pressure of someone in his home. We have history- we were lovers over 20 years ago, he still drools over then. I show my vulnerability to an extent. We ARE Both learning to trust. HE cheated on me in the past. He’s wounded too, his ex wife cheated on him.
He told me I was his safe haven and I thought he was great and he was making so much effort. But then I found out he is still living with a wife that he claimed to be separated from. I thought he was getting a divorce, but he has no plans to. My energy shifted, I became distrustful and emotional and I told him to stay out of my life and out of my face. He seemed so honorable, and emotionally open, like no one I had ever met and I feel gutted and deceived.
Great points!
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U guys are doing a GREAT JOB !!
God bless u
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I have done all of these things. We always focused on the connection. He did not have time after his 31 year marriage to be who he is and I actually encouraged hi for 1 year to take care of himself and take his time. He insisted on a "relationship" - When I finally gave in about 6 months later -- coming on to 2 year together he decided he wanted to be "alone" We had a beautiful friendship and and spiritual relationship. He immediately went out with another woman the same he broke up with me. We have no contact at all with no ability to touch base other than an email. The break up was dragged out over 2 months which is where he got "ugly" and at that point - I completely went into "radio silence". I think we should be together. We are in our 50's. He is seeing a therapist for his own personal reasons - I do not know if I am being considered due to the things he said to me.
If he ignore so let them go and try to move on.dont push your self to be part of his life🙂
Listened to the very end of ur talk re 3 powerful secreta on how to make a guy miss me.... I learned so much from this talk and at the same time while listening i was crying because i k ow deep inside my fiances heart i broke his trust on me because i lied to him.
I watch a lot of relationship videos and point number 2 and 3 just hit it out of the park for me!! Gave me major clarity on my current situation. Thank you guys 😊
love your work, listening to your recordings has shown me how far i have come from past relationships, rather then showing what im doing wrong I know what im doing right and when i hit a bump in the road i listen to you both and process what im feeling and im back on track thank you for sharing your gift blessings Rachelle xo
Wow you guys are really great, a million thanks...
Thank you for this video, it is so insightful. I strive to be a better person daily. I may stumble frequently but I don’t want to give up.
One of the best vids of this nature I have watched so far
True most of my relationships in the past, I always be a good friend to my partner and the trust was build faster than commitments. My friends used to asked me what I do different from them i thought because of my personality.
I think these are very good points (especially the 1#), but only if the man is worthy of my time and attention, and he has earned my trust and respect with time though his actions. I can give what he needs but will walk away if he cannot meet mine. The relationship needs effort from both man and woman.
My ex was platonic friends with his exGF during our relationship. And I felt like SHE was his sanctuary. He went to her for advice and for help with a stresssul situation with his dog, when I couldn't be there for him. They also did weekly yoga. Such a strain on our relationship. I feel like he was emotionally cheating on me, even though he said I could come to yoga anytime I wanted to spend time with him. Very hurtful to me. Not sure if I needed to get over it or if I was insecure and made it an issue when it really wasn't. He swore they no longer had feelings for each other and I had nothing to worry about.