There is NO WAY we can need a narcissist because they teach us NOT to count on them...ever. They train you to learn how to be without them, before they discard you. So your only hope is to actually LEARN this lesson and get stronger, and be very successful and happy once you separate from them. Not easy, but it can be done.
Indeed! He forgot I am a loving person and have a good job and friends. In one weekend I moved out all my things and as a strong person I make money and I am very happy on my own. I sleep in the middle of a big bed.
@@subhamjha6562--Yes. Nor will they ever recognise this dysfunction, so it's also stressful to spend energy accusing them. Awareness is the first step, so not to believe or 'buy into' the 'gaslighting'.
@@freshmanjeansI talk back and talk shit. I really try to give him a taste of his own medicine. In doing this I wondered if I’m a narcissist by giving it back.
8 months where the bliss increases daily in miniscule increments. Total no contact. Don't want to hear about him,see him or be contacted by him ever again.
Remember that they are pathological envious, and they hate what you have, in this case empathy, a smile, happiness. Those are feelings they don't have. They are kids in adult's body and what you have they want it. And because they cannot have it, what they do when they see you happy is to say something nasty and out of context for you to feel bad and sad. There is when you don't have to react and just smile. Don't take it personal, Remember that you are not the problem
Yup. As shallow as watching really funny videos on TH-cam because that's when I'm happy now, once I share it with him, no reaction, nothing & that just really killing my moment of happiness. Waste of my precious time 🥴
My life destroyed. Broke and homeless. No way to get back up and too old at 62 to care anymore. I had a few minutes of better life. That's over now. Just waiting around to die out here on the streets
@@nancyperkins2277 ok, 62 is half your life. Please don't let them win. You are out of their life now. Go somewhere and start over. No contact. You matter!! Start living. You can do it!!!
It's dangerous to confront a narcissist. The best thing that anyone can do is don't say anything, turn, and run. Run for your life. And don't ever go back.
*sighs* 🥀 They're not going to stop until they can get whatever they want. Yep, confronting them is pointless. Just nod and be quiet. Otherwise, it can go on forever with torture. And continue to torture after that. Just forget about confronting them and stay quiet. It's not gonna settle until they gain control with their manipulative tactics...so run
It depends on whose turf you are on when one does the confronting. That's what I think a lot of the "you must confront them" crowd fail to explain. You have to be careful with whom and where you pick certain battles and how.
No chance of running. I'm living by their side. But that's not close relationships, none of those "relations" is close one, luckily And I'm standing my ground. They need to know the borders.
My ex actually told me this. He said “I need you to need me.” But I was so naïve in the machinations of a narcissist person, I completely missed this red flag. But now that I’m educated, I will never let this happen to me ever again.
@@DrummerJay74 to hell with relationships. He's talking about ANY narcist. And really? You want to be needed by other people? U might be narc too. 75% people are
I thank you for the work you've done in healing yourself. It's hard to find the words to thank you for the invaluable teachings you provide daily. My situation has made me take a hard look at myself. As a result of going through this & with God guiding me, I will be the best version of myself. It's hard work, but it's worth the work. Bless you for helping so many.
Problem is….once they lose their mind, look out…their wrath knows no bounds. They will use any tactics to teach you a lesson for daring to undermine their control.
We definitely want to do ALL we can to keep ourselves safe emotionally, mentally, physically AND spiritually. But we can NEVER fear man more than the Most High, Jehovah (Psalm 83:18) God's Word describes man as being mere dust (Ecclesiastes 3:19,20).
Ya mine took the big screen tv down and put it away whenvt turned it down.. tskes doors off if i slam them hes an absolute greak of nature! But then when HE wants... he has to put them back OR NO!! LOL
Got a half-sister that's a narcissist and she cannot stand it that my life is great and I'm happy! It's literally killing her inside that she can't abuse me anymore. I moved away, made a life for myself and got married. I cut her out of my life a year ago. She focuses on what I don't have and tells our mother about it and our mother comes to me and parrot back what the narcissist says like it was her own idea to say it. I stopped talking to her too. Stay away from abusers folks.
It seems like your mom is also a narcissistic Caz no one is born evil or bad Supporting her for this, means shes also a naracisisst Probably she is the golden child and you are the scarpe goat Maybe she obeyed your mother a lot thats why your mom believes her?
Might be time to back away from your Mother.”Mom, I’m really busy and don’t have time to talk right now.” Stop calling or reaching out and make yourself too busy for her. Mother is poking and stoking the fire.
I had a similar experience with my half-sister and father. It's a relief to be free from their chaos. I wish you well! Cutting off family ties is always a difficult decision and sometimes needs to be done for our own mental wellness.
In my family narcissist is the most spiritual or should I say religious person constantly praying and attending all religious events claims to b dear to god always quoting scriptures to everyone.. i became so godless.. if they can abuse u so much and call themselves godly I don't want to b one... I trust in God inside me but not in a fanatic way.. and I don't show off my spirituality to control anyone nor to say am holier than thou.
Agreed if a person won't change you unfortunately have to leave them and that demon alone. Which is sad if you been in a relationship for years. But you can't let anyone destroy your happiness and go to the most high in Jesus name on it and they will guide you on how to exit the situation if the demon can't be cast out
They'll flip the 3 if they can ... 1. If you're happy living your own life they'll say you're an entitled, arrogant, attention seeking, materialistic hystrionic, narcissist and/or psychopath. 2. If you don't take what they say personally they'll say you lack empathy, are cold-hearted and a psychopath lacking in a conscience. 3. If they can't control you anymore they'll say you're a control freak then gossip negatively and project all their own flaws into conversations about you to control how others see you in a never ending smear campaign to silence you, isolate you and destroy your relationships and reputation. 🙃🤷♀️ Get out, stay out, close all gaps, cut your losses, cut their fuel supply by ignoring them 💯 and never look back. 😈⛽🙅♀️
Here's where it gets them. Again. Let them think what they want. Tell them they can say whatever they want it doesn't change who you are. It's their kryptonite.
I like isolation. My friends don't live nearby and I DGAF about my neighbors. I live in the country and we're all spaced out miles from each other!!. So he can smear all he wants to. LOL 😂🕺
@@brianadams6628 Have the police on speed dial and as soon as they're in an uncontrollable rage (record that part) and you hear police pull up, act cool, calm and collected when they knock and say "See what I have to put up with?"and get an event number ... that's what narcs do to us though when we eventually react to their abuse. 🤦♀️
I'm a huge victim of smear campaigning! From amongst everything they've done,this has hit me the hardest! The isolation is extremely difficult to deal with.
This reminds me when you getting ready to charge on the demons out of your house. You take a stand by being happy, take control, and cast them out! Narcissist are evil being.
Wow I was thinking the exact same thing. This applies to gang stalking for sure. It really hit me hard a while ago that Christ's ministry had everything to do with this. Yet this goes so much deeper than just people with out of control egos. This applies to the powers in high places.
@@michaelthompson5252 That's right Michael Thomas. They act like the advocate the devil. You wanna cast the devil out you, stay prayed up, be happy and praise the most high and thank him for all he has done. Stay on the promises of yes and amen. These narcissists have a lot of characteristics of the devil. I left mine 6 months ago. He terrorized all of us. Everything that he has done to us was destructions. The most high deliver me from him. He can't harass me anymore because every day I pray no weapon form against me shall prosper. It's very sad but the truth is there's no hope for them because it's in their DNA to be this way and only a few comes out and tell us about the narcissists. Stay safe and take care.
Yes! You deal with narcissist like dealing with demons 😈, yours show no feelings, have no fear, and always control the narrative 100 percent of the time
@@user-jr3rk8mn4k right! It still hurts to know how many lies he told and I actually believed many of them because I trusted him in the beginning. Lots of cheating
When I stopped letting my Narcissistic sister bother me with her words, it drove her soooo crazy that she couldn’t piss me off anymore. She would do things to purposefully try to get a reaction from me and when I didn’t react she would try to get on my good side by offering to do things for me. Our sibling relationship will never be the same, no matter how much she wants the closeness it will never happen again
Same here. I went no contact for 8 months and now only occasionally converse via text. She always got her way via expert manipulation. I was tired of the devaluation and scape-goating.
Telling my mom no or any word or phrase that seems to imply that I am not agreeing to go along with the wicked and nonsensical thing she is suggesting unleashes wrath like you cannot believe. It's literally a volcanic eruption. Not because I did anything wrong, I just failed to go along with something ridiculous.
@@StarCodedYes it's called projection. If they call you a waste of space it's because they feel they are a waste of space even though they want people to bow down to them.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
Why is she your ex?it takes two to tango,why are you not facing reality,was it her? Was it you? Get therapy,if you were in the wrong,admit it,first dose of reality,then ask for forgiveness if you can,forgive yourself and your actions .Get therapy so you don't repeat the same mistakes.
Been listening to you about a month. A couple weeks ago I started doing everything you suggested. I can see that me laughing at his cruel comments and just trying to be happy it's killing him. I say...I don't have time for your narcissistic bullshit anymore and I go about my day and walk away. He doesn't know how to respond. I just start singing to myself and dancing around. I told him I don't care what comes out of your mouth anymore, I know it's not true and God is watching you. 😂❤
I'm neighbors with my ex narcissist. And he's friends with my neighbor that lives up the street from me. He uses that as his excuse to go out of his way to drive by my house. But anytime I see him I don't acknowledge him. I refuse to waste any more energy in his direction either negative or positive. He's already ran the smear campaign against me to the neighborhood. I stand in my core power he can't touch me. I'm unfuckwithable! The universe has my back!
Not really, you only beat them when you ignore them for real and break contact. Obviously you don't know this evil people for real, or you still in negation.
General rule of living/dealing with Narcissist or Selfish people. 1. Don't take any criticism from them personally; remember, it's their problem, not yours. Nothing you do will ever make them happy. 2. Don't give them a reaction when they are trying to hurt you, this is what they want. 3. As this man said..just live your life and do things that make you happy, this crushes them and weakens their ego. 4. Give them love, because they do need it... But give and take it when you want. Everything in moderation. 5. Never, ever show them you need them. 6. (which should have been the 1st) remember to love yourself, be content with yourself and avoid the negativity from them as much as you can.
People who have not experienced narcissm just can’t figure it out 😢 you can’t explain this monster experience to someone and they understand it’s brain draining
It is still better to build real self confidence. Pretense is fragile and can only endanger you more. But you may also find out, how much of a cowards they are and no longer be afraid of them.
The worst thing to do is stand up to a narcissist. From personal experience...you get abuse (including physical) and they blame you for making them lose their temper!!!
Thats their tactic. Open the door let them leave. Watch them curse u out as they leave. Now keepbthem out of your life. They will try anything what u want to hear to get u back. When they curse u out that is how they really feel about u. Im finally free of a fam member ❤ im free
First things first... get out/away... THEN you can stand up to them by living well without them. You are right... its dangerous when in close proximity.
@@mindysmith3683 hun...those are battle scars you got from being brave and you won the battle the moment you left his sorry arse. Never be ashamed of scars....you survived and that makes you a warrior in my book!
That is exactly what I did when my sister said she intended to torture me for the rest of my life. I told her she couldn't if I didn't let her, then I went no contact for the last 15 years. I do hope she lost her mind!
Doesn't work. They simply will want to show you your place. And let you know that you can not control them. They may think how dare you even try so now it's punishment time for you. If you still aggravate them you will likely receive their rage. That can get so ugly and physical. Be careful!
Before I knew HE was a c. narc he would say or do something to wipe the smile right off my face. Now I know why. I usually stay neutral faced around him now. I know the angles he conjures up now.
Thank you. I nailed it on all 3 points. This is why I ended the relationship with the narc. Not the other way around. Something told me to end it, make a decision to end it and carry through. Do not look back.
I've stood up to them so many times it just gets easier every time and I cut them off!!! A lifetime of narcissist abuse makes it easy to walk away now! I don't put up with their crap anymore.
Yeah my narcissist is desperate since I moved out of the state to get away from him. He's lost all control, he sees me happy and thriving and healing and he can't stand it. And now when he runs his mouth I can simply hang up the phone. He hates it.
“BEST ADVICE YET!!!”… And Don’t REACT!! RESPOND WITH KINDNESS!! (They don’t like that either)!! Don’t let them “Suck that virtue out of You!!”.. 😍👍👍🙏🙏💓💓🌟🌟🌟
I've responded with kindness and they turned up the evil!! It's like you hugging someone and then they slap you. Very disarming and hurtful. And this was just dealing with a neighbor. I finally told him to kick rocks, that he's too much of a pain in the tukus to deal with. When he tried making up 5 months later I stood my ground.
However.. I do believe the response you get from them is from a “root of fear.. insecurity & shame” from the way they were emotionally (psychologically & Maybe physically) neglected In their Childhood!! Not making excuses for them.. but It helps me understand their Responses & reactions!! Praying for them!!🆘🙏🙏💔❤️🩹🥺😭🚫👿
You are right. The narcissist loses their mind when you display these 3 behaviours and come after you with their worst (way worse than anything you would have experienced from them before). Be ready for a war!
Putting a narcissist in their place when you can’t go ‘no contact’ is key. Don’t answer their calls - ring them back when it suits you and get off the phone by saying you have a call coming through and that you will call them back - but don’t. Don’t answer their texts for a least 7-8 hours. Laugh at them whenever you can and leave their company as soon as you can.
The x narc called me one time. He had a call coming through and went three way with me. It was a girls voice. He thought I was going to get jealous but I did not care as I knew what he was trying to do. So immature.
Did exactly that He ran and cried to his ex who took him back in… When I go in his area I make sure I got a smile on my face and look good, just in case 😂
@@lavettastevenson she’s very sick. Cancer. But guess what ! She was getting better while away from him but jealousy is evil and she couldn’t stand it so she lured him back in. He is oversexed and that’s how… I have a job full time and clean the house… and him sucking the life out of me with his negativity… pfftttt..
Danish, you are saving me right now. Vicious, bully narc sister who humiliates, insults, gaslights me. Finally standing up to her. She's so pathological it scares me. Not even human.
You would fall off your chair if I told you what happened a few days ago. I still am having trouble believing it myself.I will have nightmares about it for the rest of my life. I will Never Recover from the Harm they have done to me...
Easier said than done but every time I gain independence or joy it just gets violent. Last time I had a job he would hide my shoes or the car keys it even when went as far as him laying on the car so I couldn't leave, just for work I wasn't trying to kick it or go to the club but just to work but I still try I accept this for so long and thought I was just being a good wife but they still hate you in the end so for all those who have a choice be smarter than me
It's hard when you're married to the narcissist. But if you are married to a narcissist get away as fast as you can. I was married to one for 18 years. And I've been away from him for 16 years and I'm still healing. My mother was a narcissist and she just died a year ago and I'm still trying to get my bearings from being away from her. They do so much emotional damage if you let them in.
Yup I’m married to one and am older. No social support. No kids or relatives or friends to help. Can’t afford to move it’s a nightmare. I dream of a chance to escape daily. I’m always planning. I hope I can break free of this life ruining demon who everyone thinks is so great.
Thank you. This is helpful. My father was a narcissist and we figured it out years ago. BUT somehow I married a narcissist and never realized he was also a covert narcissist until now (3 years). It is so hard because I don’t know how to tell him I can’t live my life like this without him getting very upset, vengeful or whatever. I have heard scary things about divorcing narcissists and I saw the drama that my father put my mom through… took my mom like 5 years to go through the divorce process and meanwhile my dad did the smear campaign with his family. Some actually wrote letters to my mom basically condemning her to hell for divorcing him 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️. If they only knew the hell that she was living in… So I’m afraid… but I literally can’t live like this, I can’t focus, my health is suffering, my emotions are suffering… and I have a daughter from a past relationship so I need to be at my best for her…
These are all true, before I have seen this video I already started doing these and focus on myself and mental health. And I stood up for myself when ever he is attacking me or our children. One day he just left the house. Now we are quiet, peaceful, happy and got our freedom back. So do these if you want to break free from narcissistic people. Thank you for this video I am sure it will help a lot of people that is still going through tough times. Self love and self respect. If they cannot give it to you. Well we can give it ourselves. ❤
Ohh I feel soo so awesome. All these years figuring out things, blaming myself, feeling guilty and finally got to realise and know that I'm not the problem. I figured out all of the 3 things *exactly* you mentioned. And I have been watching almost all of your videos and having a narcissist parent I can say all are Truth. Thank you for helping people out, the ones who really need to realise what's going on if they have narcissists in their lives. ❤
Absolutely agree. This worked with my EX husband. The only thing is that, because they are vindictive & often sadistic, you need to be in a safe place to when doing this.
The best thing to do is to ignore the narcissist completely. If you react in any way to their words or behaviour then they will see that as a win for them. They need to have attention and their ego pumped up continually, but that can never satisfy them because their self esteem is so low. Beware, because they will project their faults onto you. They will try to destroy you in the eyes of others. Keep away from them.
Very powerful knowledge, thank you! So true. Some play victim, that our behavior has hurt them (so much) when in reality they are manipulating us with a strongwill to get their way.
Yeah, covert narcs always pull the victim card. always. If I don't agree to what they want, they say I'm "injuring" them. It's their ego that's hurting!
Ill never forget the night i was home alone, playing music, having a rare glass of wine while making year end photos for our daughter's class. He couldn't stand to see me having a quiet, peaceful night. He came in to complain that it was my fault he was unhappy, (I had fired him from mowing the lawn since he mowed over my landscape lights). Then he stated I was only in the relationship for his money. I'll never forget his expression when I literally laughed out loud., and said , "please God, don't tell me I got into this for money and chose you". 😅 At that point, I think he finally realized I had relinquished any concept of our relationship. It didn't make the situation easier but at least I had drawn a boundary he could understand
They are the most Evil beings I have ever met. I had to move out of State. .Best thing I ever did for myself. 💯💖And if he finds me.I have two friends. SMITH AND WESSON 💀💀
Smith and Wesson 👍💪🙏🏼🩵💕 I love it .. this government took away our constitutional rights to have a gun in New York so these losers run free without consequences! Stay safe 🗽🪬🧿🔫💪
What he doesn't tell you is the narcissist will never forgive you. If he is your boss you are doomed. The narcissist will attempt to derail your career even if it takes 10 years. Beware.
Getting a new job works well. Never show fear. Interviewers can tell these bosses treat their employees. They see u are an honest person over what this kind of boss says. Have no fear. ❤
Once, I had a narc boss. I took care of her mom. Being a narc lawyer, she likes to throw her weight around. After grossly disrespecting me, I quit! She begged, I still quit. Later, her mom wanted me back. She called me to insist that I give her references, claiming that she didn't do that in the past and I quit on them so we wants to be careful this time. I told her I could not trust her with my references, I was not willing to take that chance, and I would pass. Yes narcs are relentless! They never get over the narc injury you caused them when you ended their control of you. That's just pathetic.
My husband made me quit every job , wouldnt watch kids he wanted , gave me something to do he said . Then kids grew up he caused drama . So they wont come around . Lol who blames them . He never does anything wrong . His life is so gross. He pisses all over never flushes a toliet . Sits by his pee hole outside . Im like washing it as it stinks
!!!!so true!!!! It seems like my power comes and goes. Some days I have it, some days I don't. He knows how to break through my barrier. And my emotions seem to take over some days. 😕
I stood my ground in telling my friend that I won't take their bull.
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Exactly. When I looked at my narc ex in the eyes and said I was done and that he was draining and that I can’t be treated so horribly anymore, he looked at me with a deadly stare. Yet tried to kiss me later and reel me back in 😂 hell no
I did that last night, I told him he wasn't in a position to be demanding, he wasn't going to continue his gaslighting and I didn't let him get a word in while I told him, and I left, he turned on the silent treatment, I ignored it, which in turn I turned on my head set and started dancing to the music while cleaning. He screwed his tighty whities into a knot🤣
For an overly codependent person.. It is such a Joy to find out what happens with a narcissist... when you Calmly and slowly say No, I am not doing that. The sense that he/she is controlling You.. dissolves. And, when they insult you, and you calmly smile and thank them... Without the usual payoff, they become speechless.
and they will stalk the hell out of you. No matter where you go they will ALWAYS find you. They will put trackers on your car, break into your house, put cameras up in your house, break into your car put recorders in your car to listen to every conversation etc
Thank you for putting that out there. That is the shit I'm dealing with now. I could not figure out how he was always one step ahead of me... Because he's listening and watching my every move. I can not tell you how many door knobs and dead bolts I have gone thru in the past couple years. I live alone and come home to everything from shampoo to my paints tampered with. All MY cameras "somehow" stop working. It is so creepy and sick. I don't know the extent to which he's messed with my truck, but I can't drive it because God only knows . Sick MF needs to move on.
@debidebb7028 same here. Been dealing with the shit 5 years now. Feel constantly under surveillance-, no privacy, just been trying to figure out the perfect plan to bust his azz but like you said. He's always a step ahead but O one day!!!
You are exactly right! I actually did these 3 things with my brother and he started being nice to me and left me alone. Then when I did something he didn’t like and confronted me I gave it right back and shut him down.
Yes👏👏👏When they know they can’t run their game on you, they move on! Doesn’t mean they might not try to slander but they know you’re too much work & they can’t take the rejection so they move on🤩 You WIN the MOST when they move on of their own volition with the least amount of energy on your part🤘🙏💕💫
Yep. Got cursed out by fam member. Used all 3 tips now and im free.. so happy now.. I cant tell I how much stronger i feel and no more guilt. ❤ thank you 😅😅😅😅
I attacked him by telling him he must stop abusing me and the grandkids. I wrote him a scathing email. And then I went no contact. I hope he falls apart. Those kids deserve a healthy parent.
This explains a lot of why things exploded when they did. We had stood up to the bullying a few days beforehand and they plotted and turned on us and turned it physical. Then we had to flee. Thank God for DV centers.
Yes such good advice that I wish I was armed with when I was in the battlefied with my narc. Especially #2 I look back and think he projected a lot of his insecurities onto me that had nothing to do with me at all.😢
It's not that they don't think, they don't think logical or consciencely. All they care about is their self gratification, and what they need to do and who they can use to get it.
True, especially when they have their “friends” and you are alone. The narcissist is my next door neighbour, she has a social worker and the manager of the flats sticking up for her. She can do no wrong, rules are changed for her. It's a nightmare. 😟
There is NO WAY we can need a narcissist because they teach us NOT to count on them...ever. They train you to learn how to be without them, before they discard you. So your only hope is to actually LEARN this lesson and get stronger, and be very successful and happy once you separate from them. Not easy, but it can be done.
Exactly this!
Yesss!! THIS💯💯💯
So true
Indeed! He forgot I am a loving person and have a good job and friends. In one weekend I moved out all my things and as a strong person I make money and I am very happy on my own. I sleep in the middle of a big bed.
@@jesterstears7578 Good job. Oh my gosh...I did the same thing -sleep in the middle of the bed! That helped me heal. Take care.
They use fear to control. They use love and care to manipulate. Have a good heart. Have those feelings, just not around or for the narcissists.
Fear to control and love and care to manipulate! This struck a chord with me. You've just described my mother in law!
They also control you by playing the 'victim'.
@@StarCoded playing victim + saying lies , like whatever you accused them, they will return the same accusations to you with greater degree
@@subhamjha6562--Yes. Nor will they ever recognise this dysfunction, so it's also stressful to spend energy accusing them. Awareness is the first step, so not to believe or 'buy into' the 'gaslighting'.
I’ve been there 😢
They try to bully you, and devalue you. Stand your ground.
100000 plus times have experienced it
I did
Yup they hate when you talk back and call them out
@@freshmanjeansI talk back and talk shit. I really try to give him a taste of his own medicine. In doing this I wondered if I’m a narcissist by giving it back.
@@Raec123don’t waste your breath. Just LEAVE
almost 6 months NO CONTACT, best decision ever!!!!
Me too I agree with you 💯 percent
so happy for u 😄🎉 wish u all the best n happiness in life. so happy to see someone left a narcissist
Wow that's awesome I'm still with one 😢
Get out of it ASAP. Try reading the Holy Bible or the srimad Bhagavad Gita @@angelaanderson5530
8 months where the bliss increases daily in miniscule increments. Total no contact. Don't want to hear about him,see him or be contacted by him ever again.
This why each time he saw me happy he would start a fight out of nowhere?
Yup! They r miserable demons
Remember that they are pathological envious, and they hate what you have, in this case empathy, a smile, happiness. Those are feelings they don't have. They are kids in adult's body and what you have they want it. And because they cannot have it, what they do when they see you happy is to say something nasty and out of context for you to feel bad and sad. There is when you don't have to react and just smile. Don't take it personal, Remember that you are not the problem
He sounds sadistic
Yup.
As shallow as watching really funny videos on TH-cam because that's when I'm happy now, once I share it with him, no reaction, nothing & that just really killing my moment of happiness.
Waste of my precious time 🥴
I'd be in the kitchen singing and dancing and my narc husband would look and start laughing
Telling them can be dangerous. If you get out, stay out and be safe.
very true
Yup or it could get extremely painful and ugly for you!
My life destroyed. Broke and homeless. No way to get back up and too old at 62 to care anymore. I had a few minutes of better life. That's over now. Just waiting around to die out here on the streets
@@nancyperkins2277 ok, 62 is half your life. Please don't let them win. You are out of their life now. Go somewhere and start over. No contact. You matter!! Start living. You can do it!!!
Yes I agree its not a good idea to provoke these evil demons. Say nothing and ghost them after per...
This literally describes them as soulless demons praying on the light and kindness of good people.
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Because they are doing the work of demons # God is greater #do not fear
The fact that something takes over all of them and they do the same actions is scary…it has to be something spiritually demonic
Exactly, my father is this.
They aren't demons, but they actually are being used by REAL demons. Maybe even possessed.
It's dangerous to confront a narcissist. The best thing that anyone can do is don't say anything, turn, and run. Run for your life. And don't ever go back.
Yeah very trie married to one for 14 years and took this advice it’s life changing.
*sighs* 🥀 They're not going to stop until they can get whatever they want. Yep, confronting them is pointless. Just nod and be quiet. Otherwise, it can go on forever with torture. And continue to torture after that. Just forget about confronting them and stay quiet. It's not gonna settle until they gain control with their manipulative tactics...so run
My father is one & I am living with him for last 8 yrs
It depends on whose turf you are on when one does the confronting. That's what I think a lot of the "you must confront them" crowd fail to explain. You have to be careful with whom and where you pick certain battles and how.
No chance of running. I'm living by their side. But that's not close relationships, none of those "relations" is close one, luckily
And I'm standing my ground. They need to know the borders.
"They need you to need them!" This is deep!!
this is true 😢
Anyone in a relationship wants to be needed. Why would you be with someone that didn't need you in some way?
not needed but wanted
My ex actually told me this. He said “I need you to need me.” But I was so naïve in the machinations of a narcissist person, I completely missed this red flag. But now that I’m educated, I will never let this happen to me ever again.
@@DrummerJay74 to hell with relationships. He's talking about ANY narcist. And really? You want to be needed by other people? U might be narc too. 75% people are
"The things that they say about you are confessions..."
This man is preaching!
❤❤❤
I thank you for the work you've done in healing yourself. It's hard to find the words to thank you for the invaluable teachings you provide daily. My situation has made me take a hard look at myself. As a result of going through this & with God
guiding me, I will be the best version of myself. It's hard work, but it's worth the work. Bless you for helping so many.
Yup. Gotta listen and let them just talk. They reveal everything about themselves
My dad would tell me that I would end up alone because I push ppl away. Seems that I was only pushing back on him so it was a projection.
Indeed!
Remember, "Your Happiness is their Crappiness!" 🤣🤣 Truth!!
It’s fucking funny nothing like one of the fake families victims smiling and doing well to bring out the lying rage trolls lpl😂
I adore this quote....I going to steal it and make it mine.
❤ it
This is going to be my new mantra!!
@@user-bt6qd8it1dbruh you done spoke the truth!
That's why every birthday, holiday, and vacation was terrible and miserable...I couldn't show any happiness or it'd be ruined
Facts
True!
True!
Yes. They ruin all holydays and celebrations. Christmas is coming, and now I dread it.
Thats true.in almost 10yrs of our marriage we dont have any happy celebration together even when we had a baby girl.
Problem is….once they lose their mind, look out…their wrath knows no bounds. They will use any tactics to teach you a lesson for daring to undermine their control.
We definitely want to do ALL we can to keep ourselves safe emotionally, mentally, physically AND spiritually. But we can NEVER fear man more than the Most High, Jehovah (Psalm 83:18) God's Word describes man as being mere dust (Ecclesiastes 3:19,20).
Very vindictive.
@@Narcjus vapid and vacuous.
Can't Wait...
Ya mine took the big screen tv down and put it away whenvt turned it down.. tskes doors off if i slam them hes an absolute greak of nature! But then when HE wants... he has to put them back OR NO!! LOL
Got a half-sister that's a narcissist and she cannot stand it that my life is great and I'm happy! It's literally killing her inside that she can't abuse me anymore. I moved away, made a life for myself and got married. I cut her out of my life a year ago. She focuses on what I don't have and tells our mother about it and our mother comes to me and parrot back what the narcissist says like it was her own idea to say it. I stopped talking to her too. Stay away from abusers folks.
👍The mother sounds like a flying monkey that’s good that you removed her out of your life too!!!🎯💯👍
Oh that's exactly how my sister was
It seems like your mom is also a narcissistic
Caz no one is born evil or bad
Supporting her for this, means shes also a naracisisst
Probably she is the golden child and you are the scarpe goat
Maybe she obeyed your mother a lot thats why your mom believes her?
Might be time to back away from your Mother.”Mom, I’m really busy and don’t have time to talk right now.” Stop calling or reaching out and make yourself too busy for her.
Mother is poking and stoking the fire.
I had a similar experience with my half-sister and father. It's a relief to be free from their chaos. I wish you well! Cutting off family ties is always a difficult decision and sometimes needs to be done for our own mental wellness.
A wise man once said - “ If they don’t know you personally, don’t take what they say personally.”
A narcissist is a demon that has been assigned to you to test your faith 🤔😔
That’s deep !!!
@@terryoncooke7612Nah, just mildly stupid.
In my family narcissist is the most spiritual or should I say religious person constantly praying and attending all religious events claims to b dear to god always quoting scriptures to everyone.. i became so godless.. if they can abuse u so much and call themselves godly I don't want to b one... I trust in God inside me but not in a fanatic way.. and I don't show off my spirituality to control anyone nor to say am holier than thou.
Agreed if a person won't change you unfortunately have to leave them and that demon alone. Which is sad if you been in a relationship for years. But you can't let anyone destroy your happiness and go to the most high in Jesus name on it and they will guide you on how to exit the situation if the demon can't be cast out
@@MM-ql5ji this is my ex, my kid's dad. Plays the church card like its his life, but who he is/was behind closed doors was psychologically abusive
They'll flip the 3 if they can ...
1. If you're happy living your own life they'll say you're an entitled, arrogant, attention seeking, materialistic hystrionic, narcissist and/or psychopath.
2. If you don't take what they say personally they'll say you lack empathy, are cold-hearted and a psychopath lacking in a conscience.
3. If they can't control you anymore they'll say you're a control freak then gossip negatively and project all their own flaws into conversations about you to control how others see you in a never ending smear campaign to silence you, isolate you and destroy your relationships and reputation. 🙃🤷♀️
Get out, stay out, close all gaps, cut your losses, cut their fuel supply by ignoring them 💯 and never look back. 😈⛽🙅♀️
Here's where it gets them. Again. Let them think what they want. Tell them they can say whatever they want it doesn't change who you are. It's their kryptonite.
I like isolation. My friends don't live nearby and I DGAF about my neighbors. I live in the country and we're all spaced out miles from each other!!. So he can smear all he wants to. LOL 😂🕺
@@brianadams6628 Have the police on speed dial and as soon as they're in an uncontrollable rage (record that part) and you hear police pull up, act cool, calm and collected when they knock and say "See what I have to put up with?"and get an event number ... that's what narcs do to us though when we eventually react to their abuse. 🤦♀️
That about sums it up 🫶🥂
I'm a huge victim of smear campaigning! From amongst everything they've done,this has hit me the hardest! The isolation is extremely difficult to deal with.
This reminds me when you getting ready to charge on the demons out of your house. You take a stand by being happy, take control, and cast them out! Narcissist are evil being.
Wow I was thinking the exact same thing. This applies to gang stalking for sure. It really hit me hard a while ago that Christ's ministry had everything to do with this. Yet this goes so much deeper than just people with out of control egos. This applies to the powers in high places.
@@michaelthompson5252
That's right Michael Thomas. They act like the advocate the devil. You wanna cast the devil out you, stay prayed up, be happy and praise the most high and thank him for all he has done. Stay on the promises of yes and amen. These narcissists have a lot of characteristics of the devil. I left mine 6 months ago. He terrorized all of us. Everything that he has done to us was destructions. The most high deliver me from him. He can't harass me anymore because every day I pray no weapon form against me shall prosper. It's very sad but the truth is there's no hope for them because it's in their DNA to be this way and only a few comes out and tell us about the narcissists. Stay safe and take care.
Yes! You deal with narcissist like dealing with demons 😈, yours show no feelings, have no fear, and always control the narrative 100 percent of the time
Yes!! Stalking/gang Stalking..spiritual warfare & attack! And literally trying to I'm-alive my bum!
Stay safe!
My husband is a demon, he is abusing me , please give me advise what to do to leave him .
The hardest part for me is knowing that all the accusations were confessions 💔😭😭
Man up or woman up. Women are stronger in this case. 🍀💪🍀
@matikramer9648 thank you! Happy to say that I left him. He's begging me to get back with him but I'm sick of it all. I'm a woman 👩 😌
Yes - it's amazing when you learn to decode what they're saying. I looked back at some recent conversations and realized everything was a confession.
@@user-jr3rk8mn4k right! It still hurts to know how many lies he told and I actually believed many of them because I trusted him in the beginning. Lots of cheating
When I stopped letting my Narcissistic sister bother me with her words, it drove her soooo crazy that she couldn’t piss me off anymore. She would do things to purposefully try to get a reaction from me and when I didn’t react she would try to get on my good side by offering to do things for me. Our sibling relationship will never be the same, no matter how much she wants the closeness it will never happen again
My younger sister is alot like that. They will never change our relationship is dead.
The narcissist only wants the closeness so she can harm you again.
Same here. I went no contact for 8 months and now only occasionally converse via text. She always got her way via expert manipulation. I was tired of the devaluation and scape-goating.
@@bluecollarlit exactly
@@user-jr3rk8mn4k good on you for picking up on the manipulation. It hurts way more when its family. Hard lessons we learn in this world
No! Is the most powerful word against the narcissist.
Telling my mom no or any word or phrase that seems to imply that I am not agreeing to go along with the wicked and nonsensical thing she is suggesting unleashes wrath like you cannot believe. It's literally a volcanic eruption. Not because I did anything wrong, I just failed to go along with something ridiculous.
Very true.
Damn true
Ain't that the truth.
They hate for u to say no.They will get so angry. I will never let a man control me.
Everything they say,is REALLY WHO THEY ARE!!!. I GET IT!
A deflection of their own reflection
Projection!
You mean, 'Everything they complain about is what they are".
@@StarCodedYes it's called projection. If they call you a waste of space it's because they feel they are a waste of space even though they want people to bow down to them.
its their own reflection
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Why is she your ex?it takes two to tango,why are you not facing reality,was it her? Was it you? Get therapy,if you were in the wrong,admit it,first dose of reality,then ask for forgiveness if you can,forgive yourself and your actions .Get therapy so you don't repeat the same mistakes.
Been listening to you about a month. A couple weeks ago I started doing everything you suggested. I can see that me laughing at his cruel comments and just trying to be happy it's killing him. I say...I don't have time for your narcissistic bullshit anymore and I go about my day and walk away. He doesn't know how to respond. I just start singing to myself and dancing around. I told him I don't care what comes out of your mouth anymore, I know it's not true and God is watching you. 😂❤
Yes! I do the same thing. It kills him! You got this. Just keep doing you. ❤
I'm neighbors with my ex narcissist. And he's friends with my neighbor that lives up the street from me. He uses that as his excuse to go out of his way to drive by my house. But anytime I see him I don't acknowledge him. I refuse to waste any more energy in his direction either negative or positive. He's already ran the smear campaign against me to the neighborhood. I stand in my core power he can't touch me. I'm unfuckwithable! The universe has my back!
I am stealing that unfuckwithable! term lol
Definitely true.
It sounds like you wrote the book " I don't give a Fuck" 👍🏽
And that's a fact❤️
@@sherylo994 me too!!! Thank YOU ❤
You can only beat them with truth because they live a lie
Not really, you only beat them when you ignore them for real and break contact. Obviously you don't know this evil people for real, or you still in negation.
I needed this 35 years ago with my mom! I am just now learning how to do this as an adult and in therapy!
It’s About Time I Set The Standards Straight! Very Tired & Draining 😢❤😮
General rule of living/dealing with Narcissist or Selfish people.
1. Don't take any criticism from them personally; remember, it's their problem, not yours. Nothing you do will ever make them happy.
2. Don't give them a reaction when they are trying to hurt you, this is what they want.
3. As this man said..just live your life and do things that make you happy, this crushes them and weakens their ego.
4. Give them love, because they do need it... But give and take it when you want. Everything in moderation.
5. Never, ever show them you need them.
6. (which should have been the 1st) remember to love yourself, be content with yourself and avoid the negativity from them as much as you can.
I showed him how powerful I was the day I walked away and left everything behind something he thought I would never do
That's what I did with ex hubby.
I did the same they basically can’t figure out the fact that you can leave their assets behind
People who have not experienced narcissm just can’t figure it out 😢 you can’t explain this monster experience to someone and they understand it’s brain draining
Kudos to you girl .
yes! I REFUSE to allow them to steal my peace
#4 ... make a plan to LEAVE! They won't change but you can!
Remember: it's not about how self confident you are. It's about how self confident you seem. Amen Amen Amen !!!
It is still better to build real self confidence. Pretense is fragile and can only endanger you more.
But you may also find out, how much of a cowards they are and no longer be afraid of them.
The worst thing to do is stand up to a narcissist. From personal experience...you get abuse (including physical) and they blame you for making them lose their temper!!!
Thats their tactic. Open the door let them leave. Watch them curse u out as they leave. Now keepbthem out of your life. They will try anything what u want to hear to get u back. When they curse u out that is how they really feel about u. Im finally free of a fam member ❤ im free
First things first... get out/away... THEN you can stand up to them by living well without them.
You are right... its dangerous when in close proximity.
25 yrs here and scars from hospital visits , that help me know i dont want him . Imagine looking in mirrior daily and seing his love
@@mindysmith3683 hun...those are battle scars you got from being brave and you won the battle the moment you left his sorry arse. Never be ashamed of scars....you survived and that makes you a warrior in my book!
@@annetteunsworthqhht I'm still with him 25 plus yrs . Lol it sucks . He uses money against me , animals too . He's nasty
That is exactly what I did when my sister said she intended to torture me for the rest of my life. I told her she couldn't if I didn't let her, then I went no contact for the last 15 years. I do hope she lost her mind!
"The things they say about you are confessions." Powerful!
Disappoint them SO hard that they will never want to be with you
Doesn't work. They simply will want to show you your place. And let you know that you can not control them. They may think how dare you even try so now it's punishment time for you. If you still aggravate them you will likely receive their rage. That can get so ugly and physical. Be careful!
One day I sent a text saying goodbye, I went no contact and that was the end of it, I heard he looked pretty bad for awhile.
Nope just ghost them no contact.
@@RapturereadyforJesus lol
@@labazoops yeah it’s true
Smile , it really gets under their skin .
Yes! I have joy in my heart from thinking about not being with them and that destroys them. Just wow!
Before I knew HE was a c. narc he would say or do something to wipe the smile right off my face. Now I know why. I usually stay neutral faced around him now. I know the angles he conjures up now.
Exactly whenever i am happy, they get angry and starts shouting.
Thank you. I nailed it on all 3 points. This is why I ended the relationship with the narc. Not the other way around. Something told me to end it, make a decision to end it and carry through. Do not look back.
Thank you for teaching this. No one can say it better!!!
I've stood up to them so many times it just gets easier every time and I cut them off!!! A lifetime of narcissist abuse makes it easy to walk away now! I don't put up with their crap anymore.
PREACH!
Took me 60 years. July 11 2023 im now free. When fam member cursed me out after i fed them dinner now its all over. Yayyy for you and me❤
Amen. It gets easier everytime. Very true
They hate it when you move on , and they become invisible to you.
I did all of those things towards my exhusband and my narcissistic mother. I finally have found my own self♥️🙌🏻
Yeah my narcissist is desperate since I moved out of the state to get away from him. He's lost all control, he sees me happy and thriving and healing and he can't stand it. And now when he runs his mouth I can simply hang up the phone. He hates it.
Of, course. Even while you were with the narcissist still felt like you was “alone”. In reality you were.🥰😘🖤
So true.
“BEST ADVICE YET!!!”… And Don’t REACT!! RESPOND WITH KINDNESS!! (They don’t like that either)!! Don’t let them “Suck that virtue out of You!!”.. 😍👍👍🙏🙏💓💓🌟🌟🌟
I've responded with kindness and they turned up the evil!! It's like you hugging someone and then they slap you. Very disarming and hurtful. And this was just dealing with a neighbor. I finally told him to kick rocks, that he's too much of a pain in the tukus to deal with. When he tried making up 5 months later I stood my ground.
Yeah the hate if you pity them like if you’re sorry for them
However.. I do believe the response you get from them is from a “root of fear.. insecurity & shame” from the way they were emotionally (psychologically & Maybe physically) neglected
In their Childhood!! Not making excuses for them.. but It helps me understand their Responses & reactions!! Praying for them!!🆘🙏🙏💔❤️🩹🥺😭🚫👿
No kindness...no anger..no sympathy.....give them nothing....silence no matter what...
I could never be mean and that made me mad. Lol. Now I am glad because he was trying to bring me down to his level.
You are right. The narcissist loses their mind when you display these 3 behaviours and come after you with their worst (way worse than anything you would have experienced from them before).
Be ready for a war!
Thank you so much. I have to watch rhis over and over again so I can over come the snares and manipulation of narcissists
Putting a narcissist in their place when you can’t go ‘no contact’ is key. Don’t answer their calls - ring them back when it suits you and get off the phone by saying you have a call coming through and that you will call them back - but don’t. Don’t answer their texts for a least 7-8 hours. Laugh at them whenever you can and leave their company as soon as you can.
👍THISSS!!!🎯💯👍
Sounds like you got it figured out!😉👍 Self control and self management. Respond versus reacting. Makes them nuts! They can't handle normal.
The x narc called me one time. He had a call coming through and went three way with me. It was a girls voice. He thought I was going to get jealous but I did not care as I knew what he was trying to do. So immature.
Anyone I have to play games with is not allowed in my world.
Just don’t play games
Did exactly that
He ran and cried to his ex who took him back in…
When I go in his area I make sure I got a smile on my face and look good, just in case 😂
Now she crying, you better stay away boo for she try to send him back😂
Better her than you to have the narc in her life every single day. You know she is tired; unless she is still in the love bomb phase.
@@lavettastevenson she’s very sick. Cancer. But guess what ! She was getting better while away from him but jealousy is evil and she couldn’t stand it so she lured him back in. He is oversexed and that’s how…
I have a job full time and clean the house… and him sucking the life out of me with his negativity… pfftttt..
@@hershekissed LMFAO 🤣. HILARIOUS 😂👏 Don't look too good, they always circle back! 😉
Mines not a partner . mine is a supervisor at work 😩
Danish, you are saving me right now. Vicious, bully narc sister who humiliates, insults, gaslights me. Finally standing up to her. She's so pathological it scares me. Not even human.
I better hide this phone. If they saw what I write, it might be even more dangerous. I might have to delete my Comments.
You would fall off your chair if I told you what happened a few days ago. I still am having trouble believing it myself.I will have nightmares about it for the rest of my life. I will Never Recover from the Harm they have done to me...
Easier said than done but every time I gain independence or joy it just gets violent. Last time I had a job he would hide my shoes or the car keys it even when went as far as him laying on the car so I couldn't leave, just for work I wasn't trying to kick it or go to the club but just to work but I still try I accept this for so long and thought I was just being a good wife but they still hate you in the end so for all those who have a choice be smarter than me
No answer is a a great answer let them go nuts in their own head
True
True as they cant see how they are , sad life . Pretend
It's hard when you're married to the narcissist. But if you are married to a narcissist get away as fast as you can. I was married to one for 18 years. And I've been away from him for 16 years and I'm still healing. My mother was a narcissist and she just died a year ago and I'm still trying to get my bearings from being away from her. They do so much emotional damage if you let them in.
Yup I’m married to one and am older. No social support. No kids or relatives or friends to help. Can’t afford to move it’s a nightmare. I dream of a chance to escape daily. I’m always planning. I hope I can break free of this life ruining demon who everyone thinks is so great.
Thank you. This is helpful. My father was a narcissist and we figured it out years ago. BUT somehow I married a narcissist and never realized he was also a covert narcissist until now (3 years). It is so hard because I don’t know how to tell him I can’t live my life like this without him getting very upset, vengeful or whatever. I have heard scary things about divorcing narcissists and I saw the drama that my father put my mom through… took my mom like 5 years to go through the divorce process and meanwhile my dad did the smear campaign with his family. Some actually wrote letters to my mom basically condemning her to hell for divorcing him 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️. If they only knew the hell that she was living in…
So I’m afraid… but I literally can’t live like this, I can’t focus, my health is suffering, my emotions are suffering… and I have a daughter from a past relationship so I need to be at my best for her…
@@yvonnes7412PLEASE SEE MY REPLY TO YOUR POST JUST ABOVE. Thinking of you dear lady 🙏
Good for you for getting away. Do this , just breathe! That alone feels so good!
These are all true, before I have seen this video I already started doing these and focus on myself and mental health. And I stood up for myself when ever he is attacking me or our children. One day he just left the house. Now we are quiet, peaceful, happy and got our freedom back. So do these if you want to break free from narcissistic people. Thank you for this video I am sure it will help a lot of people that is still going through tough times. Self love and self respect. If they cannot give it to you. Well we can give it ourselves. ❤
Ohh I feel soo so awesome.
All these years figuring out things, blaming myself, feeling guilty and finally got to realise and know that I'm not the problem. I figured out all of the 3 things *exactly* you mentioned.
And I have been watching almost all of your videos and having a narcissist parent I can say all are Truth. Thank you for helping people out, the ones who really need to realise what's going on if they have narcissists in their lives. ❤
Absolutely agree. This worked with my EX husband. The only thing is that, because they are vindictive & often sadistic, you need to be in a safe place to when doing this.
Thousands of miles away,its a big earth
The best thing to do is to ignore the narcissist completely. If you react in any way to their words or behaviour then they will see that as a win for them. They need to have attention and their ego pumped up continually, but that can never satisfy them because their self esteem is so low.
Beware, because they will project their faults onto you. They will try to destroy you in the eyes of others. Keep away from them.
"...the things they say about you ARE CONFESSIONS." 🤣🤣Oh. My. Gosh!! Can't quit laughing😁😁🤣🤣 True. True.🤣🤣🤣
I’m so glad I found your channel ❤ God bless you my friend. You’re doing the Lord’s work! 🙏🏻✊🏻❤️🩹
I’m moving & not telling them. And also, not going to give them my new number. Goodbye. They don’t give a F about me.
Very powerful knowledge, thank you! So true. Some play victim, that our behavior has hurt them (so much) when in reality they are manipulating us with a strongwill to get their way.
Yeah, covert narcs always pull the victim card. always. If I don't agree to what they want, they say I'm "injuring" them. It's their ego that's hurting!
You have helped me through a really nasty break up ! Crying for months
You make so much sense
Thank you so much
Ill never forget the night i was home alone, playing music, having a rare glass of wine while making year end photos for our daughter's class.
He couldn't stand to see me having a quiet, peaceful night.
He came in to complain that it was my fault he was unhappy, (I had fired him from mowing the lawn since he mowed over my landscape lights). Then he stated I was only in the relationship for his money.
I'll never forget his expression when I literally laughed out loud., and said , "please God, don't tell me I got into this for money and chose you". 😅
At that point, I think he finally realized I had relinquished any concept of our relationship. It didn't make the situation easier but at least I had drawn a boundary he could understand
They are the most Evil beings I have ever met. I had to move out of State. .Best thing I ever did for myself. 💯💖And if he finds me.I have two friends. SMITH AND WESSON 💀💀
👍THISS!!! Lol 😆
I bought a gun and let him know Iwould not be afraid to shoot him if he came near me.
Your best friends..
Smith and Wesson 👍💪🙏🏼🩵💕
I love it .. this government took away our constitutional rights to have a gun in New York so these losers run free without consequences! Stay safe 🗽🪬🧿🔫💪
What he doesn't tell you is the narcissist will never forgive you. If he is your boss you are doomed. The narcissist will attempt to derail your career even if it takes 10 years. Beware.
My sibling is a narc. I sent a gift, not a thank you. His wife and daughter are the same.
Getting a new job works well. Never show fear. Interviewers can tell these bosses treat their employees. They see u are an honest person over what this kind of boss says. Have no fear. ❤
Once, I had a narc boss. I took care of her mom. Being a narc lawyer, she likes to throw her weight around.
After grossly disrespecting me, I quit! She begged, I still quit. Later, her mom wanted me back. She called me to insist that I give her references, claiming that she didn't do that in the past and I quit on them so we wants to be careful this time.
I told her I could not trust her with my references, I was not willing to take that chance, and I would pass.
Yes narcs are relentless! They never get over the narc injury you caused them when you ended their control of you. That's just pathetic.
My husband made me quit every job , wouldnt watch kids he wanted , gave me something to do he said . Then kids grew up he caused drama . So they wont come around . Lol who blames them . He never does anything wrong . His life is so gross. He pisses all over never flushes a toliet . Sits by his pee hole outside . Im like washing it as it stinks
Great advice, thank you! Love your channel it inspires me to stand up for myself. You give me courage.
!!!!so true!!!! It seems like my power comes and goes. Some days I have it, some days I don't. He knows how to break through my barrier. And my emotions seem to take over some days. 😕
Unplug. Ignore. Keep your happiness and success to yourself. The less they know the better. Walk away with your chin up and your standards higher.
I watched this happen almost overnight. They lost their mind and saud they had no control and no power anymore..... The exact words they said.
I stood my ground in telling my friend that I won't take their bull.
Exactly. When I looked at my narc ex in the eyes and said I was done and that he was draining and that I can’t be treated so horribly anymore, he looked at me with a deadly stare. Yet tried to kiss me later and reel me back in 😂 hell no
I set one boundary and that’s all it took. Dunzo!!
Karen Bear 🐻 What was the boundary you set ?
You are truely blessed
Very lucky I had to set many boundaries
I did that last night, I told him he wasn't in a position to be demanding, he wasn't going to continue his gaslighting and I didn't let him get a word in while I told him, and I left, he turned on the silent treatment, I ignored it, which in turn I turned on my head set and started dancing to the music while cleaning.
He screwed his tighty whities into a knot🤣
Just call the cops on them for stalking and harassment charges
For an overly codependent person..
It is such a Joy to find out what happens with a narcissist... when you Calmly and slowly say No, I am not doing that.
The sense that he/she is controlling You.. dissolves.
And, when they insult you, and you calmly smile and thank them...
Without the usual payoff, they become speechless.
Do just one thing, ignore them🙃
and they will stalk the hell out of you. No matter where you go they will ALWAYS find you. They will put trackers on your car, break into your house, put cameras up in your house, break into your car put recorders in your car to listen to every conversation etc
Thank you for putting that out there. That is the shit I'm dealing with now. I could not figure out how he was always one step ahead of me... Because he's listening and watching my every move. I can not tell you how many door knobs and dead bolts I have gone thru in the past couple years. I live alone and come home to everything from shampoo to my paints tampered with. All MY cameras "somehow" stop working. It is so creepy and sick. I don't know the extent to which he's messed with my truck, but I can't drive it because God only knows . Sick MF needs to move on.
@debidebb7028 same here. Been dealing with the shit 5 years now. Feel constantly under surveillance-, no privacy, just been trying to figure out the perfect plan to bust his azz but like you said. He's always a step ahead but O one day!!!
Narcissists belong in prison.
You are exactly right! I actually did these 3 things with my brother and he started being nice to me and left me alone. Then when I did something he didn’t like and confronted me I gave it right back and shut him down.
You cant control me any more; I'm happy (ego death) . A barrier of truth is around me. It is my true core power. 😊
Best ways to get RID of a narcissist - let it be THEIR idea to run from you owning your power!
THEY CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!
Yes👏👏👏When they know they can’t run their game on you, they move on!
Doesn’t mean they might not try to slander but they know you’re too much work & they can’t take the rejection so they move on🤩
You WIN the MOST when they move on of their own volition with the least amount of energy on your part🤘🙏💕💫
They sure don’t seem to move on from me
What they accuse YOU of is a confession - OH how I love that!
Yep. Got cursed out by fam member. Used all 3 tips now and im free.. so happy now.. I cant tell I how much stronger i feel and no more guilt. ❤ thank you 😅😅😅😅
I attacked him by telling him he must stop abusing me and the grandkids. I wrote him a scathing email. And then I went no contact. I hope he falls apart. Those kids deserve a healthy parent.
woooh I get this 3,😂I feel so great God give me a full of energy and a 100%of support to rise
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I did this literally ToDay…b4 ever seeing this , which is Very Helpful!! Thank you
'because the things that they say about you are CONFESSIONS!'...AMEN❣️
I just cant believe my sister becomes instantly sad and mad when I am just being my joyful self, smiling and lightly joking
This is true!
I' m not trying to make no one lose their mind. . they need to be delivered!!!
🙏🙏🙏
AMEN. Ask Jesus to bind the demons. That way the demons can not retaliate. Do it whenever it may be necessary. Always pray for their deliverance
This explains a lot of why things exploded when they did. We had stood up to the bullying a few days beforehand and they plotted and turned on us and turned it physical. Then we had to flee. Thank God for DV centers.
Yes such good advice that I wish I was armed with when I was in the battlefied with my narc. Especially #2 I look back and think he projected a lot of his insecurities onto me that had nothing to do with me at all.😢
Keep doing this ya’ll … never look back. Just do you for YOU. ❤ I promise you, it will be so worth it.
I use to always say thank you for telling the truth especially when a narcissist get mad
I thought I was the only one that said this.
simply superb! i actually applied these principles on my narcissist team mate who was trying to boss...got the good results..good job
You’re brilliant. Just brilliant. Everything I have experienced before escaping barely alive is everything you can put into words. Thank you
It's not that they don't think, they don't think logical or consciencely. All they care about is their self gratification, and what they need to do and who they can use to get it.
They already lost their minds
True!!!!
True, especially when they have their “friends” and you are alone. The narcissist is my next door neighbour, she has a social worker and the manager of the flats sticking up for her. She can do no wrong, rules are changed for her. It's a nightmare. 😟
Thank you for this🙏🙏🙏 The best I've seen so far.