I had my ex tell me, after the breakup, "I take responsibility for my actions", as if saying those words had any meaning at all. Just a straight farce. Her words mean nothing, and her actions speak volumes
@@ConversationswCourtney they arw jeslous for no reason from me!! They are barsistic and narsistic! They try to twist it and turn it around on you!!! They hate it when i put a heart sign anywhere!!! TheyDONT KNOW ME BUT THEY SAY THEY DO! SOME OF THESE SAME PEOPLE CLAIM THEY KNOW GOD. I AM. TOO ! REALLY ? I KNOW YOU DONT AND NEITHER DO I!!! ?!!!!!!!!!.
Lord knows why he would let Rick James into my life to assault my couch, and then have Charlie launch a reprisal on Rick's legs (which I was dismayed to see escalating an already untenable circumstance) but I realized
My ex is that way he use to accuse me of trying to poison him and I was the one always the one to blame for everything. He even was physical towards not only me but my things that I owned I am glad he is out of my life 👍
They dole out the criticism in the hope they get some back, then flip the tables to paint themselves as the victim. The breathless hypocrisy is quite stunning 😳
As much as a narcissist seems to be looked at as weak minded and emotionally disregalulated, some are literally black belts of psychological mayhem, especially those who are anti social and involves sociopathy and psychopathy.
I like the way you worded this, perfect. I have purposely isolated myself just to get my thoughts straight and my life. Sometimes we have to. Thank you for sharing 🤗
What she doesn't mention is narcissism is at an all time high, narcissists are everywhere grandiose covert and malignant their all very dangerous disgusting people, smearing your name is one of their favoured traits
That's true my kids cousin Claire McKenna is so intelligent on taking in manipulation tactics that she's viewed as the devil herself, she's already played a part in killing her own dad, killed her friend in a road smash and stole her best friends inheritance money,got her boyfriend to lie for her up at Court,then destroyed his life and reputation as an accountant,she then targeted my lawyers clarity simplicity in Glasgow and had an affair with the trainee solicitor that I was appointed,I told their owners Billy smith and Emma king what Claire was up to and they turned against me and took as much money of me as they could,then dumped my case,I found out the owners Billy smith and Emma king were malignant narcissists and have done the same thing to other clients,they knew what they were going to have to deal with because they're the same type of people as Claire and jumped ship
Their rage and abuse leaves behind utter chaos in their wake. If you’re one of the people being forced to deal with the chaos, it can squander your life.
So true they want to be everyone but themselves they hate themselves if you’ve ever empowered one and it’s a man oh boy they will forget how in the dumps they were so fast then say your the loser and they never needed help with their life and they will act like they were like that all along !!!?? It’s a sight to see I have text messages where you can actually see the narcissist I’ll never get rid of them it’s all proof !!
Yes they do steal from you. My sister copies everything I wear, how I speak. What scares me is she is obsessed with a movie where a woman tries to steal another woman's identity and at the end tries to kill her to become her. I have had to distance from her, block her. She is very competitive only with me. I've tried so hard to be a good sister to her, but it's getting very weird, and scary. The very strange thing is iam 65 and she is 69. Why would a person have this type of behavior at her age? She behaves more like a young girl, and yes she is very sensitive to criticism, and yes doles it out but can't take it. So exhausting. It will be difficult to cut her out permanently, but feel I need to put some distance between us to send a strong message.
My ex husband hits every single one on this list, plus never apologized. It was hell all these years! Praise the Lord who gave me the strength to get out!
Totally agree with you maam. Describes so well the few narcissists I know. They all have a deep complex problems. They thirst for attention and are very jealous, cold and vengeful people. They go into a rage over trivial matters and never admit their faults. Never apologises either. They throw very hurt insults even curses. It's the way they were brought up since childhood. Nothing can be done to change them. The only way is to keep a distance and avoid arguments with them cos they are always right. Narcissists are mentally unstable people and do not see how they are. One has to spend the whole life pleasing them. It is very tiring to be with a narcissist as a life partner. Thank you maam.
silent treatment for weeks or months at a time, no acknowledgement of any issue, no apology, disingenuous & fake, interrupting every conversation you try to have….so many more.
@@dominiquefatevirginia1354 no you’re not. You’re trauma bonded. Watch Dr. Ramani’s videos and start doing some real reflection on this “relationship” of yours. Is it even that good? Are they even that good? Or do you just pity them? Or are the bad days sooo bad/emotionally exhausting that when your emotionally abusive narc SO let’s up for one day you consider that day a “good” one? If you believe yourself to be “in love” with someone who engages in this narc behavior - then your perception of the relationship (and of yourself and what you deserve) is off. WAY OFF. You’ll see with more knowledge, self-knowledge, self-love, distance, and time.
They Thrive on making hurting humiliating comments in the presence of others . Knowing you won't fight back because it will make you look and sound crazy in front of others.
Truth! And they love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. And this why they’re so exhausting to be around. They literally suck the life out of us. Until we’re nothing more than empty shell of our form selves. With no self respect or will of own. I just Thank GOD that I finally reached my breaking point and realized what I was married to for seven years. And dated for three years. Ten years of pure hell. But not anymore Thank GOD. And she will never, ever be able to deceive me again. Because I am well educated on the games that these CRAZY MAKERS play with their family members and friends. Thank’s to you and people like you who are exposing them to the world. GOD IS GOOD! And Jesus Is Lord! Thank You GOD. I needed to hear this TH-cam Video message. To help me in my wellness journey back to being myself again. Happy. And no longer confused. 🙏✝️❤️👍
You could have not said any better as I am on same boat as you! In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽… gods been warning me & at first I thought it was the devil trying to tear my marriage.
Been dealing with one since 2019. 2022 we separated then reconciled last year (2023). Now she is all up again and is even worse than she was ....got.into so many debts to make her happy and comfortable, little did I know. Am sensing another break up, and when it happens I'll run.... Run like mad away from this Jezebel.
It’s scary to realize how many of these people are around on the loose looking for their next victim. My son is dealing with one right now. Wishing all of you well. ✨⭐️⚡️🌟💫
My dad died when I was 8 year's old in 1972. Right after that my mother turned into a complete stranger and a psycho path she was allright until then. As I got older she got worse and one day I got in her face and CUSSED HER OUT! She would beat me and then i would give it right back to her. And then I finally realized that the anger towards her was eating me alive. I went to her grave and made an amends to her and then JESUS TOOK all that anger away and that's been almost three years ago. I'm at peace now.
@@tomthackston1442 And the peace of God, which passeth (transcends) all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
They want you to listen to all their problems and gossip for 3 hours but when you call them they are busy & never call back like they said they would.😡
I had a narcissist as therapist for years and just discovered it recently. She went completely crazy when I criticised some of the hurtful things she said, then made everything about herself, told me really awful things, put me down, told me I am just too sensitive and so on. The gaslighing was a real nightmare.
I had one and her version of EMDR directly led to the breakdown I had several months later-- was inpatient for over 1/3 of the year as a result, she missed a major diagnosis due to her own self absorption, and was overall one of the worst professionals I have ever met in my life. Wouldn't it be nuts if we were all talking about the same person lmao
It's all about them the dominator the cruel man who may have suffered during his childhood . This was not my fault but they take it out on their partners
You just described my Evil Ex ... and everyone around him. They were a GANG of Narcissists, with a Psychopathic Component ... working together against a single victim: Unsuspecting ME.
May I add, their Outward Facade and treatment of others is always so sweet and kind, hidden in pseudo Spirituality even, yet for spouse and immediate family they are unkind and unloving.
If it was not for the wisdom Yahweh Elohim put in to Dr.Ramni and her generosity with this wisdom I would not have survived my decades long war waged by the Malignant sadistic Narcissist psychopath that really tried to unalive me,This was one of my best friends.Thank you Dr.Ramni Halleluyah.
The ones that will do and say anything to you, expect to be treated like they are special and the same ones that say, "How could you do this to me?, Who do you think you're talking to?, and Who do you think you are?"
Be very careful for some of these traits you will carry within you after being subjected to this type of abuse super sensitivity is one, when you break free, it takes time to heal, but the gift you will see, underneath lies the key, what and why did you not see? Blessing always for your days ❤
You see, but don't understand. I know I didn't. This is when you know you're different. Get therapy to help you. Getting away is not enough! You need healing to therapy. If one therapist doesn't work, don't say it doesn't work, because it does. Get another therapist who was trained in trauma and especially NPD.
Oh but I do we use words to describe an underneath, what is at the core of any living thing , we say it’s child hood trauma that got us this way, I say it’s the trauma of the Collective that gets it’s way, of course I’m leaning to the esoteric ways and the games that do get played when you see the energy that runs, you get to inner stand, the frequency on this land ❤
I THINK I WAS DEALING WITH A NARC I NEVER KNEW ABOUT LOVEBOMBING OR GHOSTING BUT HE TAUGHT ME 💯 BUT THE RED FLAGS CAME EARLY ON WHEN HE SAID HE LOVED ME HE HID HIS PERSONAL ISSUES I FELT LIKE HE WAS DRAINING MY ENERGY HE'S OUT NOW AND SO AM I❤
I Think That Dr. R. Has Covered A Very Valuable Overview of Narcissists In Many Previous Videos That I Have Watched. I Really Like How Personable She Is & Her Descriptions Seem To Have More Substance To Them.
They are everywhere!! I was surrounded by them at one point with family & friends Now I deal with them outside of my house. But they are still everywhere like the walking d e a d😢
Amen To That Doctor Ramani!!! I've Dealt With Narcissistic People On And Off For Most Of My Life!!! They're Truly Exhausting To Be Around Indeed!!! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
My ex! He was cute. Body builder very obsessed on his looks. Anyway. I’m the opposite. A lot of people have given me very beautiful compliments but the real compliment is given about my soul, personality and not my appearance. Wow. This really opens up a lot for me.
Hallelujah! An accurate definition of a narcissist appears online. Seems that everyone is called a narcissist these days just for displaying any kind of questionable behaviour. Nice to see this.
P.S. My wife who I divorced would say to me… I’m A Strong Willed Woman! I Always Get My Way! And it’s because of those words that I chose to divorce her and to shut her out of my life forever. And I’m so glad that I did. Because she was so manipulative and deceitful. And she was a Crazy Maker.
Saaame here girlfriend. 10 years too long and five beautiful babies. Every nail hit right on the head. And then I try to make myself believe he'll change. He always claims im poisoning him. If we go in public he never walks NEXT to me. He starts fights and arguments over the tiniest things. Like Friday... I didn't feel like going to check the mailbox... He slammed on the brakes so hard, turned around n went home. It was a horrible fight.. over mail. And then it was MY fault. Have to beg for love or attention, and then when I do.. I'm annoying. Or a tv show or his phone is way more important. I can't wait for God to help me. I know he's going to help me get out and run so far away. I'm a stay at home mom. So I have no income .. I feel this was his plan all along so I couldn't leave. 😢❤
Thank you so much for the video. I'm a quiet person. I married again n I'm so glad you understand what's I did. I lost a lot since I married this narcissist. My sister has a similar husband. She learned to work all the time. Away from the house. We don't have a few friends n my husband has lots of friends...
Thanks for this video. I've been with my girl for 2 years and I identified all of these pillars in her long before I discovered your video. I was recently researching if it was bipolar disorder or PMS but now it all makes sense. I was only asking her about her empathy last week and she's extremely hypersensitive to any form of constructive criticism but yes she easily doles it out
Dr Ramani, you just described my sister, a person that for years I never understood until I started watching your videos. TY, and a hug to you, for I no longer have to live under her tyranny,
This sounds like my sister who was actually diagnosed with narcissism! She then asked me if she is narcissistic, my response was i dont really know what that means! She was paying the bills and rent to help me get my feet on the ground after my divorce! I agreed with diagnosis, but also needed the place to live! Lol
This describes the narcissist in my life perfectly. And her explanations illuminate his behavior, and make me feel more sure in my decision to have limited contact.
Diabetes can cause someone to feel depressed, anxious, zapped of energy, and cranky. That is no reflection on others but others can misinterpret as such.
They’re 110% exhausting, married to two, still married to second one. Thank you Dr. Ramani for letting me know I’m fine and he isn’t. They hate holidays. Since I call my husband out when he acts out, he now calls me a demon. I love it and now laugh at him.
Ourselves too, if we let ourselves use others. Person: "Feel free to ask me for help anytime!" Us: "Oh, cool I will definitely do that all the time we need the smallest thing! Then after they help us one or two times, we can get comfortable and help them to understand that they are hypocrites if they refuse to help for any reason later!" Or Us: "Cool, sounds great! I consider that this individual also has their own routine and life, thus I will only ask for help if I really need it. Even if I think I really need it, I will make sure to push that boundary and try to do it myself to the best of my ability, and then ask for help if I really really need it."
They freak out on you when you call them out, even when its done in a civil manner. This triggers your fight response and you walk right into the trap. Now YOU are the bad guy and the spotlight is off of them.
I’m a narcissist due to being raised by a toxic one (C-ptsd) and it’s true lol. We can recover! I’m currently in trauma therapy with an amazing therapist❤
If you're a narcissist, you will never recover because your ego is too fragile for the truth necessary for therapeutic growth. However, if you've picked up what some call "narcissistic fleas" because you were raised by a narcissist; I wish you all the best ❤❤❤❤❤
They're usually just skin deep and a pretty package with a ton of emptiness and unused space when you open the package. The product inside is a small little bottle inside a giant beautifully aesthetic box on the outside.
sometimes they are damaged children who have never been able to grow and mature past that point. endlessly reincorporating the negative emotions into their adult lives. they are trapped at that stage of emotional development and not able to recognize it. some narcissists are terrifying, some will live their unhappy lives alone and others struggle every day to understand why people don't appreciate them and why life is so unfair. my sister falls into the last category. she has taught me how to really love another person.
Having BPD and being called a narcissist by someone who was dating an ACTUAL narcissist was one of the most confusing things I’ve ever experienced. I could not fathom how my (used to be) friend thought I was a narcissist because I had fear of abandonment issues yet his partner could verbally/emotionally/financially and even sometimes physically abuse him and it was okay because he USED to be nice and kind (aka the love bombing stage). I had to recently cut this friend off for my own sanity because I couldn’t take the push and pull cycle anymore and being labeled crazy when I caught feelings after he lead me into believing we could be more than friends at some point. The lengths an enabler will go to to avoid accountability is the real craziness!
ADHD is a milder form of BPD which is in Cluster B disorders along with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and they often share symptoms and can exist with each other in people.
My narc 65 yr old mom still thinks she's superior w absolutely no evidence to support it. She's homeless living in a drug den, unemployed (her whole life!) currently married to 3 different men but runnin round Oakland, Ca tryna be a minister and tell me how to run my life. But is she crazy?? Oh heck no, I'm the crazy one. Poor poor poor sick woman who will never get it. Disgustingly sad
Being an actual, real narcissist and having a narcissistic trait are two completely different things. Real narcissists, once their mask has fallen, act like crazy psycho maniacs - there are many people who think they're better than others but will not try to destroy anyone - but people with narcissistic personal disorder do.
@@martinledermann1862 exactly that’s what I meant if you think your better than somebody doesn’t make you a narcissist it just means your competitive and you know how good you are or were I’m like that I know what I do well and I say it I say I can do that better I’m better narcissistic people destroy they are intimidated by realness and people that they feel are better that them when we are just being ourselves minding our own business and if your chosen they really hate and want to smear you !
What I meant is the actors narcissist not the actual evil narcissist I’m lucky some people stay in relationships with narcissists years after three months I was out I didn’t even want him as a friend he was pure evil to his core FOUL and real demon narcissist I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy
Phonies with no substance who wish they were as important & special as they believe themselves to be. I’ve known lots of these folks. Once I understood who I was dealing with I began to distance myself and have limited to no contact.
I appreciate these videos and her perspective. Especially the analogy she had in another video about the rubber band. I exhibited a lot of these traits in my 20s and took a long time to realize what a problem I was. I still struggle with it (fighting urges). Mercifully I made it out of that phase of my life still with friends and family in my life.
I watch her all the time. I love her knowledge and how she explains in such wonderful detail. I just saw this clip and it hit hard. This was on point !! She didn't say too much but hit all the main facts about these sort of individuals.
Wow! Describes my sister. I stay away from her. Charming, then quickly turns on a person in a flash, if she perceives the slightest criticism, becomes hateful, hurtful, ruthless, extreme revenge.
Everything you've been teaching has taught me so much about the relationship i am in. And why and how I'm choosing to put up with this treatment and way of living.
Zero accountability is a major one too
YUP
cough younger sibling cough..
Yes
yup
True . They just only have the fake image
I had my ex tell me, after the breakup, "I take responsibility for my actions", as if saying those words had any meaning at all. Just a straight farce. Her words mean nothing, and her actions speak volumes
They never apologize. Ever. Particularly for matters of substantial meaning.
Oh never….
They're over it! You should get over it too
I know a few 😰
🎯
When they do, you can BEST BELIEVE, they have an agenda.
They can apologize, but they will repeat the same toxic act over and over again.
They are hell to be with.
Confirmation. Wow.
I had described a few relationships in my Life as Hell…..
Trying living with two of them one is way worse then the other.
But the other is the supply,enabler, and she is codependent on him
Indeed
😊
I live with 1 😂emotional damage
Spot on, they get jealous when light starts to come in your direction😂🥴🤯
Yes!!!
@@ConversationswCourtney they arw jeslous for no reason from me!! They are barsistic and narsistic! They try to twist it and turn it around on you!!! They hate it when i put a heart sign anywhere!!! TheyDONT KNOW ME BUT THEY SAY THEY DO! SOME OF THESE SAME PEOPLE CLAIM THEY KNOW GOD. I AM. TOO ! REALLY ? I KNOW YOU DONT AND NEITHER DO I!!! ?!!!!!!!!!.
@@ConversationswCourtney Yes are right!!!!!!! Amen!!!
Soooooooooo trueeee!
That moment when a couch is a more active listener than your partner ever was 💀
😆
I wondered who the invisible person was!
And that’s a sign from God that we need to make changes
The couch is always there but never judges 📿
Lord knows why he would let Rick James into my life to assault my couch, and then have Charlie launch a reprisal on Rick's legs (which I was dismayed to see escalating an already untenable circumstance) but I realized
They demand respect but don't give it.
Facts!!!💯💯💯💯
Lack of empathy and projecting pain are main factors
Criticism can dish it out but can't take it lol spot on
Narcissistic people are very good at putting on a Act .If they don't get their way in life , they can become very dangerous with their temper
True. The my ex would hit me, hit everything around in the house, always said his failed life is my fault 😂
My ex is that way he use to accuse me of trying to poison him and I was the one always the one to blame for everything.
He even was physical towards not only me but my things that I owned
I am glad he is out of my life 👍
@@Melissa-bw6ok They Never. Apologize. Even when they are to. Blame
That's true
So true
They dole out the criticism in the hope they get some back, then flip the tables to paint themselves as the victim.
The breathless hypocrisy is quite stunning 😳
My situation…so agonizing😢
Very well said!
@@bravelyHomoSapien they are the ones parinoid not us them cause we are MEEK AND A MYSTRY TO THEM FOR WE ARE OF GOD. I AM!!!!!!
Covert narcissists are trickier to detect.
Very much so.
Nasty people
Thanks, Captain Obvious 🤡
I am schooled now... Trust your gut feelings!
Because they are playing victims
Certainly can dish it out but can’t take it. “It’s everyone else’s fault” “I deserve more” type of attitude, it’s absolutely unbearable to be around
@@moonstrobes1 ahhh! But what was all involved and how many was there? Fair is one thing and money another!! Lol!
Unbearable and dangerous
As much as a narcissist seems to be looked at as weak minded and emotionally disregalulated, some are literally black belts of psychological mayhem, especially those who are anti social and involves sociopathy and psychopathy.
I like the way you worded this, perfect. I have purposely isolated myself just to get my thoughts straight and my life. Sometimes we have to. Thank you for sharing 🤗
What she doesn't mention is narcissism is at an all time high, narcissists are everywhere grandiose covert and malignant their all very dangerous disgusting people, smearing your name is one of their favoured traits
True
That's true my kids cousin Claire McKenna is so intelligent on taking in manipulation tactics that she's viewed as the devil herself, she's already played a part in killing her own dad, killed her friend in a road smash and stole her best friends inheritance money,got her boyfriend to lie for her up at Court,then destroyed his life and reputation as an accountant,she then targeted my lawyers clarity simplicity in Glasgow and had an affair with the trainee solicitor that I was appointed,I told their owners Billy smith and Emma king what Claire was up to and they turned against me and took as much money of me as they could,then dumped my case,I found out the owners Billy smith and Emma king were malignant narcissists and have done the same thing to other clients,they knew what they were going to have to deal with because they're the same type of people as Claire and jumped ship
This. Its so scary
Their rage and abuse leaves behind utter chaos in their wake. If you’re one of the people being forced to deal with the chaos, it can squander your life.
And they steal everything they can of you
literally.
… while playing a big victim!
So true they want to be everyone but themselves they hate themselves if you’ve ever empowered one and it’s a man oh boy they will forget how in the dumps they were so fast then say your the loser and they never needed help with their life and they will act like they were like that all along !!!?? It’s a sight to see I have text messages where you can actually see the narcissist I’ll never get rid of them it’s all proof !!
Especially your time
Yes they do steal from you. My sister copies everything I wear, how I speak. What scares me is she is obsessed with a movie where a woman tries to steal another woman's identity and at the end tries to kill her to become her. I have had to distance from her, block her. She is very competitive only with me. I've tried so hard to be a good sister to her, but it's getting very weird, and scary. The very strange thing is iam 65 and she is 69. Why would a person have this type of behavior at her age? She behaves more like a young girl, and yes she is very sensitive to criticism, and yes doles it out but can't take it. So exhausting. It will be difficult to cut her out permanently, but feel I need to put some distance between us to send a strong message.
They think they are better than others. They want special treatment from others and expect that their suggestion will always be entertained.
Accurate description. the tantrums and the fights are real all of the above
Omg. After 38 years. He asked what is empathy? I fell out of my chair
Yeah! He doesn't get it. When they asked that, RUN!
So did the couch
@@mimi.garden empathy?! Memory loss goes along way!!! Did u catch urself?
Hey, thats a first step 😂
Run. Run now
They are plain EVIL.
My ex husband hits every single one on this list, plus never apologized. It was hell all these years! Praise the Lord who gave me the strength to get out!
Totally agree with you maam. Describes so well the few narcissists I know. They all have a deep complex problems. They thirst for attention and are very jealous, cold and vengeful people. They go into a rage over trivial matters and never admit their faults. Never apologises either. They throw very hurt insults even curses. It's the way they were brought up since childhood. Nothing can be done to change them. The only way is to keep a distance and avoid arguments with them cos they are always right. Narcissists are mentally unstable people and do not see how they are. One has to spend the whole life pleasing them. It is very tiring to be with a narcissist as a life partner. Thank you maam.
Amen, amen, amen. One THOUSAND percent true. 💯💯💯 Lacking Empathy, ENTITLED, Superficial 🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥
You said a mouthful of truths. Grandiose egos.
silent treatment for weeks or months at a time, no acknowledgement of any issue, no apology, disingenuous & fake, interrupting every conversation you try to have….so many more.
Ooof
So you know my mom??? 😂
Oh my goshhhh! SPOT ON!!!
Omg huhuhuh I'm in love with that person sucks hahahah
@@dominiquefatevirginia1354 no you’re not. You’re trauma bonded. Watch Dr. Ramani’s videos and start doing some real reflection on this “relationship” of yours. Is it even that good? Are they even that good? Or do you just pity them? Or are the bad days sooo bad/emotionally exhausting that when your emotionally abusive narc SO let’s up for one day you consider that day a “good” one?
If you believe yourself to be “in love” with someone who engages in this narc behavior - then your perception of the relationship (and of yourself and what you deserve) is off. WAY OFF. You’ll see with more knowledge, self-knowledge, self-love, distance, and time.
The couch gets it!
And yes this is spot on 🎉
The couch said "mmm" 😂
😂😂😂
Aw bless the couch!
Yeah, what’s with the empty seat?
Right? What's going on here?
They Thrive on making hurting humiliating comments in the presence of others . Knowing you won't fight back because it will make you look and sound crazy in front of others.
Truth! And they love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. And this why they’re so exhausting to be around. They literally suck the life out of us. Until we’re nothing more than empty shell of our form selves. With no self respect or will of own. I just Thank GOD that I finally reached my breaking point and realized what I was married to for seven years. And dated for three years. Ten years of pure hell. But not anymore Thank GOD. And she will never, ever be able to deceive me again. Because I am well educated on the games that these CRAZY MAKERS play with their family members and friends. Thank’s to you and people like you who are exposing them to the world. GOD IS GOOD! And Jesus Is Lord! Thank You GOD. I needed to hear this TH-cam Video message. To help me in my wellness journey back to being myself again. Happy. And no longer confused. 🙏✝️❤️👍
You could have not said any better as I am on same boat as you! In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽… gods been warning me & at first I thought it was the devil trying to tear my marriage.
Been dealing with one since 2019. 2022 we separated then reconciled last year (2023). Now she is all up again and is even worse than she was ....got.into so many debts to make her happy and comfortable, little did I know. Am sensing another break up, and when it happens I'll run.... Run like mad away from this Jezebel.
It’s scary to realize how many of these people are around on the loose looking for their next victim. My son is dealing with one right now. Wishing all of you well. ✨⭐️⚡️🌟💫
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Amen
Took 57 years to realize my mother was one. Once I realized it, so much made sense then.
I hear you, it's my dad who's the narcissistic in my life. I'm 66 yrs and he is 87. 😢
My dad died when I was 8 year's old in 1972. Right after that my mother turned into a complete stranger and a psycho path she was allright until then. As I got older she got worse and one day I got in her face and CUSSED HER OUT! She would beat me and then i would give it right back to her. And then I finally realized that the anger towards her was eating me alive. I went to her grave and made an amends to her and then JESUS TOOK all that anger away and that's been almost three years ago. I'm at peace now.
Women are narcissists 🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@tomthackston1442 And the peace of God, which passeth (transcends) all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
I have the same experience with my sisters. I wish I had understood this many years ago because it would have saved me a lot. of sadness and stress. 😢
They want everyone to see them through rose colored glasses. Image is key.
They want you to listen to all their problems and gossip for 3 hours but when you call them they are busy & never call back like they said they would.😡
Awe Dr Ramani is So Beautiful! She’s helped me through so many Heart Wrenching Break ups.
It's definitely troubling living with one.
I had a narcissist as therapist for years and just discovered it recently. She went completely crazy when I criticised some of the hurtful things she said, then made everything about herself, told me really awful things, put me down, told me I am just too sensitive and so on. The gaslighing was a real nightmare.
I had one too and she wrecked havoc on my entire life.
I had one and her version of EMDR directly led to the breakdown I had several months later-- was inpatient for over 1/3 of the year as a result, she missed a major diagnosis due to her own self absorption, and was overall one of the worst professionals I have ever met in my life. Wouldn't it be nuts if we were all talking about the same person lmao
I had a terrible therapist like that last year. I was so triggered the whole time I was seeing him!
80/20 rule is ubiquitous. 80% of therapists, doctors, police, teachers, etc are charlatans
It's all about them the dominator the cruel man who may have suffered during his childhood . This was not my fault but they take it out on their partners
You just described my Evil Ex ... and everyone around him.
They were a GANG of Narcissists, with a Psychopathic Component ... working together against a single victim: Unsuspecting ME.
May I add, their Outward Facade and treatment of others is always so sweet and kind, hidden in pseudo Spirituality even, yet for spouse and immediate family they are unkind and unloving.
No, they are like this with everyone iif they are a true narcissist. They can't hide it.
@@francesbeth2077oh bet me. Performative Art of the highest order.
My dad.
If it was not for the wisdom Yahweh Elohim put in to Dr.Ramni and her generosity with this wisdom I would not have survived my decades long war waged by the Malignant sadistic Narcissist psychopath that really tried to unalive me,This was one of my best friends.Thank you Dr.Ramni Halleluyah.
The ones that will do and say anything to you, expect to be treated like they are special and the same ones that say, "How could you do this to me?, Who do you think you're talking to?, and Who do you think you are?"
How a narcissist apologises ; “ I’m sorry you feel that way “
For every narcissist there's 20 enablers.
You are one of the best psychologists I have ever heard. I don’t know your exact degree but you are the best.
All the narcissists have the same frequency, don't they?
No
I'm not asking a question here and you sure can have your own opinion.@@dlizzy3835
Most of society ,TV, etc are narcs nowadays.
@kriskairn3715 spot on! And they now have easy access to manipulate society
They’re channeling dark entities so that’s the low vibe which can be observed in them.
Be very careful for some of these traits you will carry within you after being subjected to this type of abuse super sensitivity is one, when you break free, it takes time to heal, but the gift you will see, underneath lies the key, what and why did you not see? Blessing always for your days ❤
Amen 🙏🏻
You see, but don't understand. I know I didn't. This is when you know you're different. Get therapy to help you. Getting away is not enough! You need healing to therapy. If one therapist doesn't work, don't say it doesn't work, because it does. Get another therapist who was trained in trauma and especially NPD.
Oh but I do we use words to describe an underneath, what is at the core of any living thing , we say it’s child hood trauma that got us this way, I say it’s the trauma of the Collective that gets it’s way, of course I’m leaning to the esoteric ways and the games that do get played when you see the energy that runs, you get to inner stand, the frequency on this land ❤
Yes! Childhood PTSD can have very similar symptoms to narcissism. After being exposed to NPD, you can pick up some of the traits.
I THINK I WAS DEALING WITH A NARC I NEVER KNEW ABOUT LOVEBOMBING OR GHOSTING BUT HE TAUGHT ME 💯 BUT THE RED FLAGS CAME EARLY ON WHEN HE SAID HE LOVED ME HE HID HIS PERSONAL ISSUES I FELT LIKE HE WAS DRAINING MY ENERGY HE'S OUT NOW AND SO AM I❤
I Think That Dr. R. Has Covered A Very Valuable Overview of Narcissists In Many Previous Videos That I Have Watched. I Really Like How Personable She Is & Her Descriptions Seem To Have More Substance To Them.
The couch is a great interviewer
Why is there so many narcissist. Seems like I have nowhere to run, they are everywhere
They are everywhere!!
I was surrounded by them at one point with family & friends
Now I deal with them outside of my house. But they are still everywhere like the walking d e a d😢
The cross cutting to an empty couch is hilarious though.
The tantrums are spot on.
Literally balled up the fists and jumped up and down like a two year old whose parent told them no.
I was shocked .😲
The quiet ones are much more jealous and deceitful and fool you.
I wish I had this kind of wisdom when I was dating narcissists. That’s all I dated, unfortunately. I did not want to go out with nice guys.
You may have been conditioned by your family or other early caregivers to accept unacceptable behavior.
Ditto. Every relationship was with an entitled narcissist. Exhausting.
Amen To That Doctor Ramani!!! I've Dealt With Narcissistic People On And Off For Most Of My Life!!! They're Truly Exhausting To Be Around Indeed!!! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
I like this empty sofa series.😄
Nice one 😅
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Eek
Exactly, Pay "ATTENTION" people! 🥺😇🙏♥️♥️♥️
My ex! He was cute. Body builder very obsessed on his looks. Anyway. I’m the opposite. A lot of people have given me very beautiful compliments but the real compliment is given about my soul, personality and not my appearance. Wow. This really opens up a lot for me.
Hallelujah! An accurate definition of a narcissist appears online. Seems that everyone is called a narcissist these days just for displaying any kind of questionable behaviour.
Nice to see this.
P.S. My wife who I divorced would say to me… I’m A Strong Willed Woman! I Always Get My Way! And it’s because of those words that I chose to divorce her and to shut her out of my life forever. And I’m so glad that I did. Because she was so manipulative and deceitful. And she was a Crazy Maker.
They are some of the worst people you could ever deal with and it’s even worse when you share children…. My children’s father is the epitome of this!
Saaame here girlfriend. 10 years too long and five beautiful babies. Every nail hit right on the head. And then I try to make myself believe he'll change. He always claims im poisoning him. If we go in public he never walks NEXT to me. He starts fights and arguments over the tiniest things. Like Friday... I didn't feel like going to check the mailbox... He slammed on the brakes so hard, turned around n went home. It was a horrible fight.. over mail. And then it was MY fault. Have to beg for love or attention, and then when I do.. I'm annoying. Or a tv show or his phone is way more important. I can't wait for God to help me. I know he's going to help me get out and run so far away. I'm a stay at home mom. So I have no income .. I feel this was his plan all along so I couldn't leave. 😢❤
Certainly sounds like you are describing Satan and all his cuddle mates.
Satan is the first narcissist in history.
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Nope.
1 Satan is not a historic character
2 It's the other guy.
@@tabularasa0606 You're mistaken. Sooner or later you will find out. 🥺
So true. Spot on!
Yes, She's very knowledgeable.
Thank You!
Thank you so very kind
Right on the money they feel entitled self consumed 😊
Thank you so much for the video.
I'm a quiet person. I married again n I'm so glad you understand what's I did. I lost a lot since I married this narcissist.
My sister has a similar husband. She learned to work all the time. Away from the house. We don't have a few friends n my husband has lots of friends...
Thanks for this video. I've been with my girl for 2 years and I identified all of these pillars in her long before I discovered your video. I was recently researching if it was bipolar disorder or PMS but now it all makes sense. I was only asking her about her empathy last week and she's extremely hypersensitive to any form of constructive criticism but yes she easily doles it out
Dr Ramani, you just described my sister, a person that for years I never understood until I started watching your videos. TY, and a hug to you, for I no longer have to live under her tyranny,
This sounds like my sister who was actually diagnosed with narcissism! She then asked me if she is narcissistic, my response was i dont really know what that means! She was paying the bills and rent to help me get my feet on the ground after my divorce! I agreed with diagnosis, but also needed the place to live! Lol
This describes the narcissist in my life perfectly. And her explanations illuminate his behavior, and make me feel more sure in my decision to have limited contact.
I noticed my husband exhibits the narcissist behaviour much more when his blood sugar isn’t controlled. He’s diabetic
Diabetes can cause someone to feel depressed, anxious, zapped of energy, and cranky. That is no reflection on others but others can misinterpret as such.
These are spiritual problems, too.
I wonder how much metabolic dysfunction plays a role. Has anyone ever come across a healthy narcissist? Inflamed brains are a real thing.
Yeah its probably harder to regulate emotions when your blood sugar is off.
They’re 110% exhausting, married to two, still married to second one. Thank you Dr. Ramani for letting me know I’m fine and he isn’t. They hate holidays. Since I call my husband out when he acts out, he now calls me a demon. I love it and now laugh at him.
Mine ruins everything. All holidays.. my bday. Then expects his birthday to be perfect. I'm tired. Ten years too long. 😢
I bet we all have someone in mind😂
Haha you know it. 😅
Describes her to a "T"
Ourselves too, if we let ourselves use others.
Person: "Feel free to ask me for help anytime!"
Us: "Oh, cool I will definitely do that all the time we need the smallest thing! Then after they help us one or two times, we can get comfortable and help them to understand that they are hypocrites if they refuse to help for any reason later!"
Or
Us: "Cool, sounds great! I consider that this individual also has their own routine and life, thus I will only ask for help if I really need it. Even if I think I really need it, I will make sure to push that boundary and try to do it myself to the best of my ability, and then ask for help if I really really need it."
Ya bout five people coming to mind 😅
Sitting eight in front of me
They freak out on you when you call them out, even when its done in a civil manner. This triggers your fight response and you walk right into the trap. Now YOU are the bad guy and the spotlight is off of them.
I’m a narcissist due to being raised by a toxic one (C-ptsd) and it’s true lol. We can recover! I’m currently in trauma therapy with an amazing therapist❤
Congratulations! I'm rooting for you.
If you're a narcissist, you will never recover because your ego is too fragile for the truth necessary for therapeutic growth. However, if you've picked up what some call "narcissistic fleas" because you were raised by a narcissist; I wish you all the best ❤❤❤❤❤
If your a narcissist you won't recover. People with CPTSD are not toxic! You are!
@@CoachCreesh❤
LOL this is such a joek "truama therapy" for narcissism XDDDD what has the world come to lmfAO
They're usually just skin deep and a pretty package with a ton of emptiness and unused space when you open the package. The product inside is a small little bottle inside a giant beautifully aesthetic box on the outside.
Soulless demons open vessels
sometimes they are damaged children who have never been able to grow and mature past that point. endlessly reincorporating the negative emotions into their adult lives. they are trapped at that stage of emotional development and not able to recognize it. some narcissists are terrifying, some will live their unhappy lives alone and others struggle every day to understand why people don't appreciate them and why life is so unfair. my sister falls into the last category. she has taught me how to really love another person.
In the chair? Trying to con the doctor . Eh ?
Having BPD and being called a narcissist by someone who was dating an ACTUAL narcissist was one of the most confusing things I’ve ever experienced. I could not fathom how my (used to be) friend thought I was a narcissist because I had fear of abandonment issues yet his partner could verbally/emotionally/financially and even sometimes physically abuse him and it was okay because he USED to be nice and kind (aka the love bombing stage). I had to recently cut this friend off for my own sanity because I couldn’t take the push and pull cycle anymore and being labeled crazy when I caught feelings after he lead me into believing we could be more than friends at some point. The lengths an enabler will go to to avoid accountability is the real craziness!
I have ADHD and struggle with some of those same things (emotional regulation, etc)…. It’s scary to share traits with a narcissist…
I agree
ADHD is a milder form of BPD which is in Cluster B disorders along with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and they often share symptoms and can exist with each other in people.
@@KingsguardRPthat's simply false lol
@@Isabel-lb9fg research for yourself, Isabel. If you have, then share it.
I agree.
Taking notes 📚✍️📊✨📈✨ MENTAL ✨HEALTH ✨ CLASS
Like attending masters level lecture.
Wow she has it nailed.
She just summarized my brother lol😂
😅 Do you have any family that atleast enable his narcissistic behaviours?
She's most definitely on point. Everything sounds familiar
Being interviewed by a Couch is tough
My ex use to tell me “even though I don’t show it, trust me, I’m a very jealous person”
Crazy eyes during conversation is a giant narcissist red flag
What 😂😂😂 yall say the most random stuff as fact.
All the key elements spot on
My narc 65 yr old mom still thinks she's superior w absolutely no evidence to support it. She's homeless living in a drug den, unemployed (her whole life!) currently married to 3 different men but runnin round Oakland, Ca tryna be a minister and tell me how to run my life. But is she crazy?? Oh heck no, I'm the crazy one. Poor poor poor sick woman who will never get it. Disgustingly sad
We all have narcissistic traits but some people have all understand that they are the highest more debilitated version .
Being an actual, real narcissist and having a narcissistic trait are two completely different things. Real narcissists, once their mask has fallen, act like crazy psycho maniacs - there are many people who think they're better than others but will not try to destroy anyone - but people with narcissistic personal disorder do.
As a mental health professional, I can tell you that we don’t all have these traits.
Yes, it's a spectrum.
@@martinledermann1862 exactly that’s what I meant if you think your better than somebody doesn’t make you a narcissist it just means your competitive and you know how good you are or were I’m like that I know what I do well and I say it I say I can do that better I’m better narcissistic people destroy they are intimidated by realness and people that they feel are better that them when we are just being ourselves minding our own business and if your chosen they really hate and want to smear you !
What I meant is the actors narcissist not the actual evil narcissist I’m lucky some people stay in relationships with narcissists years after three months I was out I didn’t even want him as a friend he was pure evil to his core FOUL and real demon narcissist I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy
dr. ramani’s content is super valid, and can we talk about how big and expressive her eyes are? 👀
Phonies with no substance who wish they were as important & special as they believe themselves to be. I’ve known lots of these folks. Once I understood who I was dealing with I began to distance myself and have limited to no contact.
@fifilafleur5555 it's best that way. I ghosted the guy I was seeing.
I appreciate these videos and her perspective. Especially the analogy she had in another video about the rubber band. I exhibited a lot of these traits in my 20s and took a long time to realize what a problem I was. I still struggle with it (fighting urges). Mercifully I made it out of that phase of my life still with friends and family in my life.
The perfect description of Blanche from the Golden Girls!!
And of course the Dump we all wont mention...
This doc creates exquisite descriptions of NPD
NOBODY is as "cool or interesting" as tRump, just ask him, he'll tell you! 😂
My narcissistic partner told me he was the most interesting person in my world. The most interesting person I'll ever meet.
I watch her all the time. I love her knowledge and how she explains in such wonderful detail. I just saw this clip and it hit hard. This was on point !!
She didn't say too much but hit all the main facts about these sort of individuals.
baby she out here doing Gods work ok!
Yes her calling !!
This is so true!! Hit the nail on the head!
Me…me…me… it’s all about me… Many of them have borderline personality disorders
I have borderline , but I have empathy no narcissistic traits, think lowly of myself and feel bad about everything.
It's definitely a personality disorder no question about that
Yes get all your harmful stereotypes on the table 🙄
I wasn't a person I'm my House but a thing to be bullied and exploited
I don't know if you can be both?
Wow! Describes my sister. I stay away from her. Charming, then quickly turns on a person in a flash, if she perceives the slightest criticism, becomes hateful, hurtful, ruthless, extreme revenge.
That's a perfect description for my mom.
Everything you've been teaching has taught me so much about the relationship i am in. And why and how I'm choosing to put up with this treatment and way of living.
True, entitled and damn crude.
Doctor's looking amazing! She's lost some weight and she's had quit the glow up...👏🥰
Interview with The Invisible Man 🤭
The cut to the empty couch is the narcissist lmao