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I am 27 and can easily say that there’s SO many older women who I’ve looked up to over the years. Where I look at them and say “I want to be like her!!”. Also, I find that it’s never the ones who desperately try to cling to youth, but the ones who age gracefully. The self-assuredness, wisdom, feistiness, charming grays, skill, and authority. So many of you are still role models to those of us who are trying to figure it all out!
That’s very nice. Maybe you all get this-keep your physical health, your flexibility, strength, skin, teeth & weight as good as possible (without going overboard). It’s hard - Having children, working, caring for others, dealing with many other challenges, can feel overwhelming. Sometimes, you have to surrender - having privacy in the bathroom with a toddler in the house. But work that physicality, intelligence, & have a bit of time for yourself. Choose your partner, jobs, where you live with thought. Don’t obsess about Botox when you’re 30. 45 maybe. Think about healthcare (dental& vision, too) when you choose a career, job, & mate. Use your recreational time not to eat donuts. Anyway. This is advice from a 72 y.o. and i still make things happen & turn heads. The things i make happen are also good for the world. There are limits tho, look at the election. Things are going to get harder to do all this. But, we can’t give up, t the world is counting on us. Anyway, thank you for all the wisdom here.
very well said,and I could not agree more. I want to also say this is an ongoing process, I am 62 and find role models in their 80's that I admire and find myself saying " I want to be like her in my 80's" it's wonderful.
I am 60. I went to Starbucks a few days ago and I knew I looked hot. Outfit was Poppin! Hair was Poppin! Shoe was Poppin! So, I stomped into Starbucks like a supermodel and every head in the room turned. The barista just kept staring and stammering about how amazing I looked 😊. Sometimes, just knowing how good you look is enough to change the tone of the room! Confidence is the hottest accessory 😁😌
These days, anyone strolling into a coffee shop or any retail environment NOT wearing pajamas, fuzzy slippers, or baggy sweat pants with bed-head hair & mile-long lashes--will turn heads. Long gone are the days when everyone, regardless of income, was well dressed in public. And elegance need not stomp into a room.
Same with me at 67 years old next month, turning heads , petite, 102 lbs. at 4’10 , eating healthy and going to the gym 3x a week, and enjoying my retirement 🙏.
I look and feel like a rock star! I rock in my Pit Viper shades! All eyes are on me when j step into a room! I strut in with my Doc Martin boots. My wrists were covered with colored beads of bracelets. I wear wide and pooling jeans topped with off the shoulder over sized sweater I feel fabulous with my big natural blonde silver hair. I'm a happy independent 80 year young classy lady! SOOO happy!!! AND ABUNDANTLY BLESSED WITH GOD'S LOVE.
You sound absolutely fabulous and full of life! 🌟✨ Rocking those Pit Viper shades, strutting with confidence, and embracing your unique style-it's pure magic! Your joyful spirit and gratitude radiate everywhere you go. Keep shining and spreading that abundant energy! 💖🙌
@HilarySilver 😍🥰❤️😍🥰 YOU are AMAZING!! WE MUST SPREAD POSIYIVE ENERGY AND ABOVE ALL GRATEFULNESS FOR THE BEAUTY IN THE WORLD! I always smile and compliment strangers and receive a smile right back. We should be aware of our pebbles and the ripples we create in the world! God bless you abundantly 🙏
I've been hiding most of my life. Now 64 and finally free to be me. We don't get enough of this kind of talk when we're children. Praise, encouragement, empowerment. Then, we scrutinize and judge each other which is all human nature. Eventually we come around, if we're lucky. My 60's is my best decade!
That's so empowering! It's amazing to hear how you're embracing your 60s as your best decade yet. It's true that society doesn't always provide the encouragement we need when we're younger, but it's never too late to find your true self and live with confidence. Here's to the freedom and joy that come with embracing who we are! 🙌✨
Thank you for this! I'm approaching 60 in just a few years and I'm honestly surprised at how much self-assuredness invokes attraction. Clearly taking great care of oneself and being healthy is a major factor, but combined with confidence, style and elegance, heads turn. An extra benefit of being older is that it helps to filter out more of the creeps if that makes sense. I privately giggle to myself, as this is a pleasant surprise to what I had expected this age to be. 🦋
So many women just stop trying and let themselves go. I work out 3 days a week with trainer, I get my hair colored regularly and watch what I eat. I don’t do it for attention, I do it for myself.
Hard to afford regular hair appointments when you get foils for me 😂 but good for you !! I do the same when I can. But workout like a psycho which I shouldn't. Lol.
I agree I am 65 and I still got it,and I am loving my life more than ever,I am more confident and love myself more .My 38 yr marriage is better than when we were younger and yes we are still active in all ways !Thank you for your your confirmation about how I live and I am a positive person,I dress age appropriate, classy and not frumpy even when at home,I also love beautiful things so you are spot on ,Thank you for your empowering video !
When I was 17, I was at my peak. Young, fit, and desired by men all around. For a quick bang. Not for me, my personality, my mind, my personality. And I was depressed, very sad, naive, easily targeted. I’m only stating the facts. I knew I was “sexy” in a particular way, a physical way. I fully understand the attractiveness of youth. It’s fertile. But how many men are the ones I wanted to be my mate? How many men were worthy of me carrying their child? That’s the value of fertility, isn’t it? But if you ask the question, who do I want to BE with, who do I want to be my friend, companion, lover? And what about me will attract that? That’s an entirely different question, one that develops over time. With the richness of experience and perspective. I still attract men, but differently now that I’m older. My daughter says I am more attractive than I’ve ever been, because what I project is magnetic and magical and unique. She is young and physically far more beautiful, but she sees me as beautiful and that’s such value to me. And knowing I’m setting a good example to her is important too.
What a beautiful reflection on the growth and evolution of true beauty over time! Your words remind us that physical appearance fades, but inner strength, wisdom, and self-awareness only deepen as we age. The fact that your daughter sees you as more beautiful now speaks to the power of inner confidence and self-assurance. It’s not just about attracting others, but about embracing who you truly are, which is what radiates outwards and creates lasting, meaningful connections. 🙌💖
I am 52 - I will be damned if my most attractive years are behind me! I can honestly say whenever I have been drawn to the energy of a woman throughout my life, her age has had very little to do with it! Having said that - you do look stunning for your age! I am a new subscriber - taking plenty of notes! Thank you for your content.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for subscribing! 💖✨ It’s incredible to hear that you're embracing every stage of life with such confidence. Age truly doesn’t define attractiveness-it's all about the energy, the confidence, and the love you put out into the world. Keep rocking your fabulous self, and I’m so glad my content resonates with you! Stay tuned for more inspiration. 🙌😊
Thank you so much for this. I’m 27 and the current generation is even more obsessed with youth and a narrow idea of beauty than ever. I love seeing women with years more experience than me saying that it’s worth it, that you don’t have to look 22 to be beautiful, and that wisdom, acceptance and self care is what’s truly attractive. I know that I will enjoy age in many ways, it’s the messages from the world that make me doubtful.
@@maddyG7414 Well as the election just showed us-the world, the US is f’d up. It’s interesting to look thru some celebs(like Kim) history of facelifts, Boob jobs, etc. There’s nothing wrong with keeping oneself up, but natural skin, a healthy, intelligent woman who has her own boundaries & passions are very attractive. Plus there’s some procedures that just can go wrong.
I turned 50 in March & I do feel invisible, I want to feel attractive . I’ve gained so much weight and the fupa is more noticeable. My skin is dry . I don’t even like seeing myself in the mirror. I started taking control of my health eating better trying to stay active. I’m going to see my family after 3 years. I’m so stressed out and feel embarrassed about the gain weight. Thank you for this video this was eye opening for me.
I don’t know how much weight you gain but if you start to cultivate self love and a positive mindset + you try to each half of your plate in veggies + move your body (walk / danse / workout), you will get results. In the meantime don’t cover yourself : look at the videos of Melissa Murrel. Each body type can find what fits. When you look at the before and after and the little details that makes the difference, you could have a lot of inspiration. You can have a small body size and look frumpy or you can have a big body size and look classy.
@virginiemazy7054 thank you so much for the encouragement. My height is 4’11 & weight is 170. At one point in my life at 40 years old I was 140 pounds but still not happy with myself image . I need to really work on myself because I do have childhood trauma growing up in abusive household.
Thank you for sharing, @OrlenaGEstrada. I'm so glad the video resonated with you! ❤️ It's amazing that you're taking control of your health and making positive changes. You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more support and motivation! 🙌
So glad I came across this! I made a video called "5 Surprising Benefits of Exercise" and #5 is becoming more visible. I talk about Invisible Woman Syndrome for midlife woman, and how fitness makes us feel and become more visible! Just subscribed to your channel. 🙌
I am 59. One day, I walked on the street of my town. A man walked to the opposite direction and said to me when he passed by: "Thanks for your smile!" I did not know, but I had been smiling on the way! In anyway, it was wonderful thanks! The other day, too, I walked on the street and smiled. I am usually smilin when I am walming. I just wondered, how some young men smiled me back! "Do I know them?" I wondered by myself. These are interesting experiences.
I feel like the older you get the more confidence you have as you care less and less about other people and their opinions. I’m now 40 and although I have zero friends now, I feel more confident going out for dinner with my husbands people, than I did when I was younger with friends and physically more attractive back then.
Absolutely! As we get older, we learn to embrace who we truly are, and that confidence becomes so much more powerful than anything external. It's amazing how letting go of others' opinions can lead to so much personal freedom. It sounds like you've reached a place where you're comfortable in your own skin, and that's what truly matters! 🌟
Empty Nest, Mid Life Goals, I got back on the saddle & won a prestigious MRS global pageant title 2 years ago at age 48. Now at 50 yrs, I’m loving this new me, the life lessons, wisdom only empowers me to keep on challenging myself each day⭐️
Thanks for sharing that, @boldxbeautifulbxb! ⭐️ Your journey is so inspiring-congratulations on all your achievements! You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html - it’s perfect for embracing challenges and growth. Don’t forget to subscribe for more empowering content! 🙌
Who wants to turn heads anymore? That’s so needy. (It IS about what other people think). One of the benefits of aging is becoming invisible and being able to just go about my life finally without constant harassment by men. It got so old and exhausting. Invisibility is freedom.
I totally understand your perspective! For many, aging brings a sense of freedom and peace, and it's great that you’ve found that sense of liberation. It’s all about what makes you feel empowered and content-whether that’s being noticed or embracing invisibility. 😊
Something must be wrong with me because all of this never crossed my mind. I’m 64; and no affended but the 50s is just a primer for the 60s. You won’t care or even think about this. I stopped coloring my hair and love just being the real me. Yes, I wear makeup and am thin and fit, but that’s my natural way.Just love life and live your best way.
I love that perspective! 🌟 Embracing your true self without worrying about societal expectations is such a powerful mindset. The 60s can absolutely be a time of freedom, where you really stop caring about what others think and focus on just living your best, authentic life. It sounds like you’ve found your peace, and that’s inspiring. Keep shining in your natural beauty and living life to the fullest! 🌿💖
Hi there! This video REALLY resonated with me! YES to all of this!!! Turning 50 this month and I also feel more confident than ever before! Thank you for sharing this!💖
That's awesome! Turning 50 can feel like a major milestone, and it’s amazing how many people find that confidence grows with age. It's great that the video resonated with you, and congratulations on embracing this new chapter of confidence! 🎉💖
OMG I LOVE this! I am a new channel, and did a video about Invisible Woman Syndrome (didn't know that was an actual term), mostly for practice and got hit pretty hard by male comments. Many were kind, but some quite hostile. All saying, they have felt invisible for their entire lives, or in their 20's and 30's. I think there are definitely some societal and cultural leanings, but how we see ourselves and engage in the world and overcome so many stereotypes. I feel freaking blessed to see this video! I am 52, and I am here! Thank you!!
Truth is that we ARE less noticed when we get older but at 52 you are still a young one. Even though I am happier, more confident, wiser at 69 (and dress nicely, exercise) I am noticed less BUT I am OK with that. Age says it doesn't matter how much I am noticed. Only younger people need to have the attention.
Same here it's not particularly important to me. I appreciate it. Turn heads for what ? I've turned many a head in my day. That's all it was. I didn't go home with me.
I’m 41 and since I was 39 this has been my mindset. A random unicorn shift aging but Amazing! Freaking love everything you mentioned you put it all into words what I couldn’t explain 💜💯🙌🏾
That's amazing to hear! 🌟 The shift you’re describing is so empowering, and it’s awesome that you’re embracing it with such confidence and clarity. There’s something truly magical about that phase of life when you start fully owning who you are and appreciating every stage of it. I’m so glad my words resonated with you, and I’m here for all of it-keep thriving and enjoying every moment! 💜🙌🏾💯
Biologically, i believe theres a reason to call attention. Thank God, that season is over. Now, it truly all about me. No pressure, no image or appearance to maintain. I excercize for health and longevity not esstetics, i dont dye my hair because i like my platinum hair (& it looks good!) i never smoked, drank so at my age, i still have good skin. My confidence comes from knowing i invested well in my health with common sense at an early age. Honestly, i dont fee the need to call attention...im already aware of myself.
That’s a wonderful perspective! It’s empowering to reach a place where you feel confident in yourself without needing external validation. Focusing on health and self-awareness, rather than appearance or attention, truly brings peace and fulfillment. You’ve earned your confidence, and it's beautiful to see! 🌟💪
I completely understand where you're coming from. Opting out of the male gaze and embracing invisibility can feel incredibly freeing, especially when it’s been a source of anxiety. It’s about reclaiming your peace and focusing on what truly matters to you, not feeling pressured to meet external expectations. Embracing your own space and comfort is a beautiful way to live life on your own terms. 🌿💫
Glad someone is speaking about this "invisible woman syndrome" that is not a requirement by any means. Yes, to avoid it one must have interests and passions, positive energy, be curious about others, and care for the one body they've been given...but why wouldn't you want to do these things? Why wouldn't you prioritize yourself in these ways?
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment, @neoncoyote2008! I'm glad this resonated with you. 😊 You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html -it’s perfect for embracing your passions and priorities. Don’t forget to subscribe for more inspiring content! 🙌
This is so true!! I am more confident now than ever over 50 even though I am not as fit as I’d like or not as fill in the blank. I don’t care anymore! I accept myself the way I am it’s so nice just not trying anymore. It’s very empowering 😊
Thank you for sharing, @marisol6560! I love that confidence you're embracing. 😊 It’s so empowering to just accept ourselves as we are! You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more! 🙌
🙌🙌🙌 i love this and being in my 50s loving the confidence i been bestowed with. I just love this feeling ..turning heads is a bonus which is the least of my priorities.
Yes! 🙌💖 The confidence you’ve earned and the peace that comes with embracing who you are is everything. Turning heads is just a fun side effect of your inner radiance! Keep owning it, and keep shining in your 50s and beyond-you're a true inspiration! ✨🌟
Absolutely! Empowering women to embrace every stage of life with confidence, self-love, and authenticity is so important. Together, we can break old stereotypes and redefine what it means to thrive at any age! 💪✨
I always thought I would dye my hair when it started turning gray but I actually am finding it interesting. I want to see what it looks like, also I don't want all the upkeep of coloring my hair and worrying about roots.
I overheard a lady talk about when she finally decided to stop dying her hair, she found it freeing. I finally decided to stop dying my hair a year ago. I have found it freeing too. Plus surprisingly, so many people have told me my streaky white and grey hair suits me. This was a surprise. Allowing my hair to be what it is has been liberating. But in another sense, I've found if I don't have time to really make sure the rest of me is well turned out, I can feel frumpy and I am invisible. A lot of it is to do with energy and how we feel within ourselves. We can't always be up (I can't anyway). But making sure I do things that lift my spirit, or give myself a pep talk or compassion when I'm down helps. I think a sad part of growing older (in part due to the effects of lockdown) is the reduced social life. We don't necessarily need to turn heads but feeling connected and having genuine conversations, makes for a rich life. That's the challenge - to find ways to keep that going.
That’s such a beautiful perspective! Embracing your natural color is a journey of self-acceptance and curiosity. It can be incredibly freeing and empowering to let go of the upkeep and see where this new chapter takes you. Enjoy every shade of your unique journey! ✨🌿💫
@@mvp5514 My head always turns at the handsome men with nice hair and eyes. I’m always checking out the guys. Being 64 doesn’t mean your dead. Just a older lady seeing the sights.
That's so true! Eye contact can be a powerful way to connect with others and express confidence. It’s amazing how much non-verbal communication can affect how people perceive us and interact with us. 👀✨
I know a female who got "invisible woman syndrome" when she was only twenty-three years old and physically perfect. She told me about this and we figured out that this was occurring because she doesn't dress like a street walker.We both know a female who at the time was closer to her mid thirties but she would walk around dressed like a street Walker.THIS female had no problem getting guys to pay attention to her. I'm all for taking care of my appearance but who wants to get attention from nothing but creepy guys? Also,I want a guy that gets MY attention in a good way
You make such a great point! Taking care of your appearance is about feeling good for yourself, not to attract unwanted attention. It's all about confidence, authenticity, and setting boundaries that make you feel comfortable and respected. The right kind of attention comes from those who truly value you for who you are-both inside and out. Focusing on your own self-worth and being selective about who you give your attention to ensures you attract the kind of people who appreciate you in a meaningful way. 💖🌟
It's not an insult my dear- it's a matter of perspective. Don't we always look back on our younger years and say 'if only I knew then what I know now?'
I always turn heads and I am so tired of it that I cannot wait to be invisible. I want peace. So, not everyone is in the same place. Everyone is chasing a rainbow that fits themselves.
Absolutely! The focus should be on shifting those outdated and unfair expectations. Women should be able to exist at any age without being judged for their appearance or worth. It's time to challenge those stereotypes and celebrate individuality! 👏✨
That's amazing! It's great to see women embracing their confidence and owning their beauty at every stage of life. Your energy and presence are clearly shining through! 🌟❤
Happy 50th! 🎉❤️ What an amazing milestone! I’m sure you're embracing this new chapter with so much strength and wisdom. Here’s to even more confidence, joy, and all the greatness ahead! 🎉💖
It's always interesting to see how people reflect their own self-perception. Confidence can definitely be contagious, whether it’s from men or women! 😎
Its a cultural thing. In my part of the world women actually get noticed over 40. And divorced women remarry faster than those who have never been married.
Thanks for sharing, @kabsatdajaj! That’s really interesting! 😊 You might enjoy my video "How I Stopped Getting Rejected 🚫💥" th-cam.com/video/-y9hpwFn5r0/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more content like this! 🙌
Absolutely! 🔥 Love that confidence and self-validation-you're living proof that 40s are just the beginning of our prime! Keep embracing that energy! 💃✨
Thank you for your comment, @kabsatdajaj! ❤ I'm so glad the positivity is shining through. You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more! 🙌
I agree as a 51 yo woman. However: I recently started a full time acting course. There are eight others. Mostly 18-23. One 30 yo woman and a 28 yo guy. The 30 yo is brash, abusive, vile. I had to pull her up in the first week because she was so rude. She is deeply manipulative and revels in social exclusion and game playing. She’s a bully. I don’t understand why she manages to dominate. I won’t compete. The year above are small. Two of the three women warm to her. I don’t want to abandon my dream. It’s just interesting to hear all of your valid thoughts. Yet here I am amidst people and in a place where none of that holds water. It’s somewhere between a zoo, a circus and a high school. Any thoughts gratefully received.
@JayCee-m4m I don’t think being on the receiving end of bullying and harassment - at any age - is about “getting all dramatic.” That’s not what I’m doing. I’m sharing a painful experience. I’m an adult. I wouldn’t have lasted recent months if I wasn’t trying to do that. Not easy to enjoy anything in a toxic environment, at any age.Targeted hate - some of it racially fuelled - cannot be dismissed as “other people’s journeys..” I’ll figure it out. Your video gave me the wrong impression.
I don't have any advice to make it stop - I've had people get really mean to me and I eventually just bale. So the advice of minimising engagement is the best course forward if you must stay. And that is easier said than done usually. Look after your own mental health ( & bail if absolutely necessary). In my experience, fighting back just made me look bad - because these highly manipulative people seem to suck in or bulldoze over people, so you won't have allies, especially if they are perceived as a more powerful person, or if people are jealous because you are smarter, better than the bully, they will side with the bully because you outshine them all. If you stay, all you can do is focus on your own learning, keep quiet about your own lovely life & only spend absolutely necessary time with them. That's just notes from my experience. It's all a power struggle and in classes most people are competitive and insecure, not collegiate. What I say in terms of power dynamics or struggle and how i handle it may not apply to you - depending on your own strengths and personal power and all those dynamics and race, culture social attitudes etc. I was in a full-time photography course once where an insecure less talented vicious dishonest classmate dealt with her own lack of talent by sabotaging my equipment, stealing my negatives, pinching my ideas & flirting and sucking up to all staff. After I left, she latched on to the next most creative person in class, stealing her creative ideas & presenting them to class first ... I was friends with the 2nd creative and she suffered through it, putting up with it till the end, because she needed and was determined to get the qualification. More recently, I was bullied by a classmate in many subtle ways - I'm sure the teacher saw some of it, but she thought I would endlessly put up with it. The teacher did some minimal managing od the situation, but eventually when i got a little strident about my equipment being taken in middle of work requiring careful timing, the result was others in class thought I was being unpleasant. I thought of getting very direct and confronting the sly nasty one, but I couldn't expect support from anyone, so it was time to leave.
@ thank you so much for your incredibly helpful and thoughtful response. You completely understand the dynamics and the hopelessness of it all. My choice is exactly that: persevere as your classmate did or bale. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this. You’re right, confronting the behaviour with these dynamics at play is redundant for the reasons you state. I’ve been encouraged to stay till term end to see if things “calm down.” These places never address issues like this. I think it’s the disrespect that’s more painful. But. Thank you for taking the time to share your insights and to understand. I really appreciate it. Wishing you the best. 🙏🏽
please women you are powerful but now you need to work like a man has to feel powerful and its possible to feel sexy but feeling sexy and looking sexy is two different things
Thanks so much for sharing that, CCrockergirl! 🎉 That’s amazing-keep shining! You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html for even more inspiration. And don’t forget to subscribe if you haven’t already! 🙌
I don’t care if nobody turn their head when I’m walking in. It’s just fine. Other women accept me better if I’m normal and plain and at 58 I need friends (female) not men.
Thank you for sharing, @minnie66! I love your perspective and embrace of who you are. 💖 You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html -it’s all about finding your true self and building meaningful connections. Don’t forget to subscribe for more! 🙌
If you skipped or did air kicks entering a room a person would get attention 🤣 I'm in my 60s and considering it, then I might get put in a home and not worry about rent (Canada)
Haha, I love that idea! 💥 Air kicks and skipping into a room would definitely turn heads! 😄 Embracing that fun and carefree energy is what keeps life exciting at any age. And hey, if it leads to less rent worries, why not? 😉 You’ve got the right mindset-stay fabulous and keep having fun! 🌟💃
Thank you for your comment, Sunshinefee. Remember, everyone has their own unique light to shine. 🌟 You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html -it’s all about embracing your true self. Don’t forget to subscribe for more uplifting content! 🙌
Sorry I disagree. We are in our prime 20 to 25. We dont have it all together yet. We have a lot to learn and make many mistakes. But biologically we are at our peak. But bravo for the message you are getting out about self confidence. Which is what many women need at all ages. A woman at any age can feel invisible. It's starting to seem dumb that older women feel invisble. Personally, I dont want a lot of men drooling over me. I just need to meet one special man, so I am not phased if noone looks at me evey time. Edit: I don't have the same opinion as her. I have my own ideas, own opinions.
I don't know what age you are, but here's my experience. I agree that I don't want men overly bothering me, staring & following me - which is still happening at age 66, because I don't look my age & have some attractive features. On the other hand, when I had some drab days a few months ago, I seemed to be suddenly so invisible i was being physically barged into as if I wasn't there at all - neither did anyone notice me even then - no one said sorry. That's the kind of invisible no one wants to be. My peak was 40-42, but I agree for most females under 25 is the peak desired age. Though quite a number look lovely beyond that.
@elipotter369 Very nicely said. Yes I agree there's an invisibility noone wants. I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I still think that invisibility can happen at any age. And we take things personally because we're social creatures and need attention and affection to survive. My point again is that many older women link being invisible with their age, reinforcing ageism, when many times it's got nothing to do with their age. Though I have to admit that ageism does exist and can be hurtful. I think many women of all ages need more self confidence just due to the fact that we are women and have magnetism and a natural attractiveness just being who we are.
Sorry if this is your experience - just devolving from very incomplete and imbalanced, unexperienced youth. Instead of evolving. Please know evolving is a choice for you, too 😇👍
@regina6838 Thank you. I think there's two problems with becoming invisible with age for women could be for some the lack of attention when they lose attractiveness and for some it's being bumped into. I don't think women are creating the ageism, but I think when they stop being given attention, they resent it and grieve it. They didn't realise how much the attention they had gotten was so heavily looks based. I don't think there is an easy solution to that- many could make more effort to look appealing and confident, but it's also more important to refocus on having a positive outlook and satisfying life with less attention from outside. I told one elderly friend to get a large red hat - cone shaped if necessary - as she was getting walked into and no apologies as if she wasn't there at all. She was a highly intelligent, confident person with a lot to give and a unique look, but overall grey tones. She did start wearing a bright orange coat!
It just depends how well you take care of yourself. Theres some hot women that age out there im sure. Look at christy brinkly ... even though shes rich with time but just making a point.
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I dont think the goal of a 50+ yr old should be to be sexy. Why? Just be healthy and move theough the stages of life and stop teying to hang onto your 20s. The reason women become unattractive is excess weight and attitude
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Everyone's journey through aging is unique, and it's all about what feels right for each individual. For some, focusing on health, authenticity, and growth feels most meaningful. For others, embracing their sensuality at any age is empowering. The key is to find what aligns with your values and brings you joy-there’s beauty in owning every stage with confidence and grace. 🌟
What if all you do is work eat sleep and even at work you have to wear a uniform and when you get home we’re just too tired and exhausted even on the weekends to go anywhere or do anything that is my worry every day just pure exhaustion and I’m 53 myself 😟 the next thing would be depression. It’s a vicious cycle, especially when you are in perimenopause. 😥😓
Thanks for sharing, @slelpssinal. I hear you, and that cycle can feel so overwhelming. 😟 You might find my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html helpful-it’s all about small steps to break out of that pattern. Sending you positive energy, and don’t forget to subscribe for more uplifting content! 🙌
It’s true that aging is a natural part of life, and everyone experiences it differently. The goal isn’t necessarily to fight it, but to embrace it with self-love and confidence. Feeling happy and comfortable with yourself at any age is what truly matters. The power comes from within, and that’s something no one can take away. 💖
Haha, thank you! It's always nice to hear those compliments! But really, it’s all about embracing who you are at any age and letting that confidence shine through! 😊
The title really reflects the content of the video. 😄 It’s all about embracing confidence and owning your presence at any age. I’m glad it caught your attention! Let me know what you think of the message once you watch the video!
It sounds like there’s a bit of a misunderstanding! The message is about embracing confidence and being comfortable in your own skin at any age. It’s not just about looks-it's the energy and self-assuredness that truly draw attention.
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I am 27 and can easily say that there’s SO many older women who I’ve looked up to over the years. Where I look at them and say “I want to be like her!!”. Also, I find that it’s never the ones who desperately try to cling to youth, but the ones who age gracefully. The self-assuredness, wisdom, feistiness, charming grays, skill, and authority. So many of you are still role models to those of us who are trying to figure it all out!
@@fluffysox6072 I love this and am here for you!!!❤️
So touched by this! Thank you from a 62-year old.
That’s very nice. Maybe you all get this-keep your physical health, your flexibility, strength, skin, teeth & weight as good as possible (without going overboard). It’s hard - Having children, working, caring for others, dealing with many other challenges, can feel overwhelming. Sometimes, you have to surrender - having privacy in the bathroom with a toddler in the house. But work that physicality, intelligence, & have a bit of time for yourself. Choose your partner, jobs, where you live with thought. Don’t obsess about Botox when you’re 30. 45 maybe. Think about healthcare (dental& vision, too) when you choose a career, job, & mate. Use your recreational time not to eat donuts. Anyway. This is advice from a 72 y.o. and i still make things happen & turn heads. The things i make happen are also good for the world. There are limits tho, look at the election. Things are going to get harder to do all this. But, we can’t give up, t the world is counting on us. Anyway, thank you for all the wisdom here.
very well said,and I could not agree more. I want to also say this is an ongoing process, I am 62 and find role models in their 80's that I admire and find myself saying " I want to be like her in my 80's" it's wonderful.
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I am 60. I went to Starbucks a few days ago and I knew I looked hot. Outfit was Poppin! Hair was Poppin! Shoe was Poppin! So, I stomped into Starbucks like a supermodel and every head in the room turned. The barista just kept staring and stammering about how amazing I looked 😊. Sometimes, just knowing how good you look is enough to change the tone of the room! Confidence is the hottest accessory 😁😌
These days, anyone strolling into a coffee shop or any retail environment NOT wearing pajamas, fuzzy slippers, or baggy sweat pants with bed-head hair & mile-long lashes--will turn heads. Long gone are the days when everyone, regardless of income, was well dressed in public. And elegance need not stomp into a room.
Self-trust is your superpower! Not confidence!
@@PatriciaMuirMaestroQ Confidence is a corollary of self-trust.
@@writerforlifeify the truth ♥️
You go girl 💕
I'm 57, just went back to school with 20 year olds and and I am here for it!!
Amazing, proud of you !!
I feel more attractive than ever at 57! I am enjoying myself! I think it is because I don’t need the validation.
Same with me at 67 years old next month, turning heads , petite, 102 lbs. at 4’10 , eating healthy and going to the gym 3x a week, and enjoying my retirement 🙏.
I look and feel like a rock star! I rock in my Pit Viper shades! All eyes are on me when j step into a room! I strut in with my Doc Martin boots. My wrists were covered with colored beads of bracelets. I wear wide and pooling jeans topped with off the shoulder over sized sweater I feel fabulous with my big natural blonde silver hair. I'm a happy independent 80 year young classy lady! SOOO happy!!! AND ABUNDANTLY BLESSED WITH GOD'S LOVE.
You sound absolutely fabulous and full of life! 🌟✨ Rocking those Pit Viper shades, strutting with confidence, and embracing your unique style-it's pure magic! Your joyful spirit and gratitude radiate everywhere you go. Keep shining and spreading that abundant energy! 💖🙌
@HilarySilver 😍🥰❤️😍🥰
YOU are AMAZING!!
WE MUST SPREAD POSIYIVE ENERGY AND ABOVE ALL GRATEFULNESS FOR THE BEAUTY IN THE WORLD!
I always smile and compliment strangers and receive a smile right back.
We should be aware of our pebbles and the ripples we create in the world!
God bless you abundantly 🙏
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I've been hiding most of my life. Now 64 and finally free to be me. We don't get enough of this kind of talk when we're children. Praise, encouragement, empowerment. Then, we scrutinize and judge each other which is all human nature. Eventually we come around, if we're lucky. My 60's is my best decade!
That's so empowering! It's amazing to hear how you're embracing your 60s as your best decade yet. It's true that society doesn't always provide the encouragement we need when we're younger, but it's never too late to find your true self and live with confidence. Here's to the freedom and joy that come with embracing who we are! 🙌✨
Thank you for this! I'm approaching 60 in just a few years and I'm honestly surprised at how much self-assuredness invokes attraction. Clearly taking great care of oneself and being healthy is a major factor, but combined with confidence, style and elegance, heads turn. An extra benefit of being older is that it helps to filter out more of the creeps if that makes sense.
I privately giggle to myself, as this is a pleasant surprise to what I had expected this age to be. 🦋
So many women just stop trying and let themselves go. I work out 3 days a week with trainer, I get my hair colored regularly and watch what I eat. I don’t do it for attention, I do it for myself.
@@newyorke172 exactly !!!
Amen to that!
Hard to afford regular hair appointments when you get foils for me 😂 but good for you !! I do the same when I can. But workout like a psycho which I shouldn't. Lol.
I agree I am 65 and I still got it,and I am loving my life more than ever,I am more confident and love myself more .My 38 yr marriage is better than when we were younger and yes we are still active in all ways !Thank you for your your confirmation about how I live and I am a positive person,I dress age appropriate, classy and not frumpy even when at home,I also love beautiful things so you are spot on ,Thank you for your empowering video !
When I was 17, I was at my peak. Young, fit, and desired by men all around. For a quick bang. Not for me, my personality, my mind, my personality. And I was depressed, very sad, naive, easily targeted. I’m only stating the facts. I knew I was “sexy” in a particular way, a physical way. I fully understand the attractiveness of youth. It’s fertile. But how many men are the ones I wanted to be my mate? How many men were worthy of me carrying their child? That’s the value of fertility, isn’t it? But if you ask the question, who do I want to BE with, who do I want to be my friend, companion, lover? And what about me will attract that? That’s an entirely different question, one that develops over time. With the richness of experience and perspective. I still attract men, but differently now that I’m older. My daughter says I am more attractive than I’ve ever been, because what I project is magnetic and magical and unique. She is young and physically far more beautiful, but she sees me as beautiful and that’s such value to me. And knowing I’m setting a good example to her is important too.
What a beautiful reflection on the growth and evolution of true beauty over time! Your words remind us that physical appearance fades, but inner strength, wisdom, and self-awareness only deepen as we age. The fact that your daughter sees you as more beautiful now speaks to the power of inner confidence and self-assurance. It’s not just about attracting others, but about embracing who you truly are, which is what radiates outwards and creates lasting, meaningful connections. 🙌💖
I am 52 - I will be damned if my most attractive years are behind me! I can honestly say whenever I have been drawn to the energy of a woman throughout my life, her age has had very little to do with it! Having said that - you do look stunning for your age! I am a new subscriber - taking plenty of notes! Thank you for your content.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for subscribing! 💖✨ It’s incredible to hear that you're embracing every stage of life with such confidence. Age truly doesn’t define attractiveness-it's all about the energy, the confidence, and the love you put out into the world. Keep rocking your fabulous self, and I’m so glad my content resonates with you! Stay tuned for more inspiration. 🙌😊
Thank you so much for this. I’m 27 and the current generation is even more obsessed with youth and a narrow idea of beauty than ever. I love seeing women with years more experience than me saying that it’s worth it, that you don’t have to look 22 to be beautiful, and that wisdom, acceptance and self care is what’s truly attractive. I know that I will enjoy age in many ways, it’s the messages from the world that make me doubtful.
@@maddyG7414 Well as the election just showed us-the world, the US is f’d up. It’s interesting to look thru some celebs(like Kim) history of facelifts, Boob jobs, etc. There’s nothing wrong with keeping oneself up, but natural skin, a healthy, intelligent woman who has her own boundaries & passions are very attractive. Plus there’s some procedures that just can go wrong.
Great video 🎉 thank you, I'm 43 and have been feeling a bit invisible for a while but I completely agree with everything you said, love it
Getting a fresh haircut always makes me feel better.
Yes! I completely agree with you. As I get older, the more comfortable I am with myself.
I turned 50 in March & I do feel invisible, I want to feel attractive . I’ve gained so much weight and the fupa is more noticeable. My skin is dry . I don’t even like seeing myself in the mirror. I started taking control of my health eating better trying to stay active. I’m going to see my family after 3 years. I’m so stressed out and feel embarrassed about the gain weight. Thank you for this video this was eye opening for me.
I don’t know how much weight you gain but if you start to cultivate self love and a positive mindset + you try to each half of your plate in veggies + move your body (walk / danse / workout), you will get results.
In the meantime don’t cover yourself : look at the videos of Melissa Murrel. Each body type can find what fits. When you look at the before and after and the little details that makes the difference, you could have a lot of inspiration. You can have a small body size and look frumpy or you can have a big body size and look classy.
@virginiemazy7054 thank you so much for the encouragement. My height is 4’11 & weight is 170. At one point in my life at 40 years old I was 140 pounds but still not happy with myself image . I need to really work on myself because I do have childhood trauma growing up in abusive household.
Thank you for sharing, @OrlenaGEstrada. I'm so glad the video resonated with you! ❤️ It's amazing that you're taking control of your health and making positive changes. You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more support and motivation! 🙌
Great video. I have been needing a pep talk like this lately. Great advice.
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So glad I came across this! I made a video called "5 Surprising Benefits of Exercise" and #5 is becoming more visible. I talk about Invisible Woman Syndrome for midlife woman, and how fitness makes us feel and become more visible! Just subscribed to your channel. 🙌
I am 59. One day, I walked on the street of my town. A man walked to the opposite direction and said to me when he passed by: "Thanks for your smile!" I did not know, but I had been smiling on the way! In anyway, it was wonderful thanks!
The other day, too, I walked on the street and smiled. I am usually smilin when I am walming. I just wondered, how some young men smiled me back! "Do I know them?" I wondered by myself. These are interesting experiences.
What is "walming"?
@@writerforlifeify typo of walking
@@debraperry2006 Edit before (or even after) you post, I always do.
Eeww I hate when men tell me to smile or thank me for it, like I am doing it for them.
@@writerforlifeify that's wonderful. And you're welcome! 😃
Whatever age you are be confident in who you are.
Absolutely! Confidence is timeless and shines brighter than any number. Embrace who you are at every stage-you are always worth celebrating! 💫🙌✨
I feel like the older you get the more confidence you have as you care less and less about other people and their opinions.
I’m now 40 and although I have zero friends now, I feel more confident going out for dinner with my husbands people, than I did when I was younger with friends and physically more attractive back then.
Absolutely! As we get older, we learn to embrace who we truly are, and that confidence becomes so much more powerful than anything external. It's amazing how letting go of others' opinions can lead to so much personal freedom. It sounds like you've reached a place where you're comfortable in your own skin, and that's what truly matters! 🌟
Empty Nest, Mid Life Goals, I got back on the saddle & won a prestigious MRS global pageant title 2 years ago at age 48. Now at 50 yrs, I’m loving this new me, the life lessons, wisdom only empowers me to keep on challenging myself each day⭐️
Thanks for sharing that, @boldxbeautifulbxb! ⭐️ Your journey is so inspiring-congratulations on all your achievements! You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html - it’s perfect for embracing challenges and growth. Don’t forget to subscribe for more empowering content! 🙌
Who wants to turn heads anymore? That’s so needy. (It IS about what other people think).
One of the benefits of aging is becoming invisible and being able to just go about my life finally without constant harassment by men. It got so old and exhausting. Invisibility is freedom.
Get away with alot too 😊.
I totally understand your perspective! For many, aging brings a sense of freedom and peace, and it's great that you’ve found that sense of liberation. It’s all about what makes you feel empowered and content-whether that’s being noticed or embracing invisibility. 😊
Something must be wrong with me because all of this never crossed my mind. I’m 64; and no affended but the 50s is just a primer for the 60s. You won’t care or even think about this. I stopped coloring my hair and love just being the real me. Yes, I wear makeup and am thin and fit, but that’s my natural way.Just love life and live your best way.
I love that perspective! 🌟 Embracing your true self without worrying about societal expectations is such a powerful mindset. The 60s can absolutely be a time of freedom, where you really stop caring about what others think and focus on just living your best, authentic life. It sounds like you’ve found your peace, and that’s inspiring. Keep shining in your natural beauty and living life to the fullest! 🌿💖
Hi there! This video REALLY resonated with me! YES to all of this!!! Turning 50 this month and I also feel more confident than ever before! Thank you for sharing this!💖
That's awesome! Turning 50 can feel like a major milestone, and it’s amazing how many people find that confidence grows with age. It's great that the video resonated with you, and congratulations on embracing this new chapter of confidence! 🎉💖
OMG I LOVE this! I am a new channel, and did a video about Invisible Woman Syndrome (didn't know that was an actual term), mostly for practice and got hit pretty hard by male comments. Many were kind, but some quite hostile. All saying, they have felt invisible for their entire lives, or in their 20's and 30's. I think there are definitely some societal and cultural leanings, but how we see ourselves and engage in the world and overcome so many stereotypes. I feel freaking blessed to see this video! I am 52, and I am here! Thank you!!
Truth is that we ARE less noticed when we get older but at 52 you are still a young one. Even though I am happier, more confident, wiser at 69 (and dress nicely, exercise) I am noticed less BUT I am OK with that.
Age says it doesn't matter how much I am noticed. Only younger people need to have the attention.
Same here it's not particularly important to me. I appreciate it. Turn heads for what ? I've turned many a head in my day. That's all it was. I didn't go home with me.
I’m 41 and since I was 39 this has been my mindset. A random unicorn shift aging but Amazing! Freaking love everything you mentioned you put it all into words what I couldn’t explain 💜💯🙌🏾
That's amazing to hear! 🌟 The shift you’re describing is so empowering, and it’s awesome that you’re embracing it with such confidence and clarity. There’s something truly magical about that phase of life when you start fully owning who you are and appreciating every stage of it. I’m so glad my words resonated with you, and I’m here for all of it-keep thriving and enjoying every moment! 💜🙌🏾💯
Biologically, i believe theres a reason to call attention. Thank God, that season is over. Now, it truly all about me. No pressure, no image or appearance to maintain. I excercize for health and longevity not esstetics, i dont dye my hair because i like my platinum hair (& it looks good!) i never smoked, drank so at my age, i still have good skin. My confidence comes from knowing i invested well in my health with common sense at an early age. Honestly, i dont fee the need to call attention...im already aware of myself.
That’s a wonderful perspective! It’s empowering to reach a place where you feel confident in yourself without needing external validation. Focusing on health and self-awareness, rather than appearance or attention, truly brings peace and fulfillment. You’ve earned your confidence, and it's beautiful to see! 🌟💪
Honestly I love becoming invisible over the years. The male gaze gave me anxiety and disgust
Is it about the male gaze or about connection with all people?
@ the answer is in my first comment ;)
I completely understand where you're coming from. Opting out of the male gaze and embracing invisibility can feel incredibly freeing, especially when it’s been a source of anxiety. It’s about reclaiming your peace and focusing on what truly matters to you, not feeling pressured to meet external expectations. Embracing your own space and comfort is a beautiful way to live life on your own terms. 🌿💫
Glad someone is speaking about this "invisible woman syndrome" that is not a requirement by any means. Yes, to avoid it one must have interests and passions, positive energy, be curious about others, and care for the one body they've been given...but why wouldn't you want to do these things? Why wouldn't you prioritize yourself in these ways?
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment, @neoncoyote2008! I'm glad this resonated with you. 😊 You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html -it’s perfect for embracing your passions and priorities. Don’t forget to subscribe for more inspiring content! 🙌
I’m 59 and I’m in great shape. I dress well and always smile. Abs tight shoulders back and own the room.
You're absolutely rocking it! 💪🌟 Confidence, a positive attitude, and self-care can truly make you shine at any age. Keep owning that room! 👏💖
This is so true!! I am more confident now than ever over 50 even though I am not as fit as I’d like or not as fill in the blank. I don’t care anymore! I accept myself the way I am it’s so nice just not trying anymore. It’s very empowering 😊
Thank you for sharing, @marisol6560! I love that confidence you're embracing. 😊 It’s so empowering to just accept ourselves as we are! You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more! 🙌
🙌🙌🙌 i love this and being in my 50s loving the confidence i been bestowed with. I just love this feeling ..turning heads is a bonus which is the least of my priorities.
Yes! 🙌💖 The confidence you’ve earned and the peace that comes with embracing who you are is everything. Turning heads is just a fun side effect of your inner radiance! Keep owning it, and keep shining in your 50s and beyond-you're a true inspiration! ✨🌟
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Totally true and so important to get this out to the women.
Absolutely! Empowering women to embrace every stage of life with confidence, self-love, and authenticity is so important. Together, we can break old stereotypes and redefine what it means to thrive at any age! 💪✨
I always thought I would dye my hair when it started turning gray but I actually am finding it interesting. I want to see what it looks like, also I don't want all the upkeep of coloring my hair and worrying about roots.
I overheard a lady talk about when she finally decided to stop dying her hair, she found it freeing. I finally decided to stop dying my hair a year ago. I have found it freeing too. Plus surprisingly, so many people have told me my streaky white and grey hair suits me. This was a surprise. Allowing my hair to be what it is has been liberating. But in another sense, I've found if I don't have time to really make sure the rest of me is well turned out, I can feel frumpy and I am invisible. A lot of it is to do with energy and how we feel within ourselves. We can't always be up (I can't anyway). But making sure I do things that lift my spirit, or give myself a pep talk or compassion when I'm down helps. I think a sad part of growing older (in part due to the effects of lockdown) is the reduced social life. We don't necessarily need to turn heads but feeling connected and having genuine conversations, makes for a rich life. That's the challenge - to find ways to keep that going.
That’s such a beautiful perspective! Embracing your natural color is a journey of self-acceptance and curiosity. It can be incredibly freeing and empowering to let go of the upkeep and see where this new chapter takes you. Enjoy every shade of your unique journey! ✨🌿💫
PS… my advice is learn to feel completely happy and comfortable in your beautiful skin cos it’s the only skin you’re gonna be in !!
Thank you ;)’
Such a great piece of advice! Being comfortable and confident in your own skin is truly the key to happiness at any age. 😊
I'm 60 and still have young heads turning everywhere I go lol 🤩
61 and unfortunately still get my large boobs looked at by all ages, ugh
@@mvp5514 My head always turns at the handsome men with nice hair and eyes. I’m always checking out the guys. Being 64 doesn’t mean your dead. Just a older lady seeing the sights.
@@Dreamer-by4nk Lol! 😂 Oh no darling I'm definitely not dead. 💓 It's the Fellas that ends up at the Chiropractor next day. 🤣 Haha!
@@mvp5514 nice😀
That's amazing! It's all about confidence and owning your uniqueness at any age! Keep shining and enjoying those moments! ✨
I also find that if you look at people in the eye when you walk by, they look at you back!!
That's so true! Eye contact can be a powerful way to connect with others and express confidence. It’s amazing how much non-verbal communication can affect how people perceive us and interact with us. 👀✨
I know a female who got "invisible woman syndrome" when she was only twenty-three years old and physically perfect. She told me about this and we figured out that this was occurring because she doesn't dress like a street walker.We both know a female who at the time was closer to her mid thirties but she would walk around dressed like a street Walker.THIS female had no problem getting guys to pay attention to her. I'm all for taking care of my appearance but who wants to get attention from nothing but creepy guys? Also,I want a guy that gets MY attention in a good way
You make such a great point! Taking care of your appearance is about feeling good for yourself, not to attract unwanted attention. It's all about confidence, authenticity, and setting boundaries that make you feel comfortable and respected. The right kind of attention comes from those who truly value you for who you are-both inside and out. Focusing on your own self-worth and being selective about who you give your attention to ensures you attract the kind of people who appreciate you in a meaningful way. 💖🌟
I’m 51 and even though I’ve put on some weight and my face is slowly giving in to gravity, I’ve never felt so sexy and confident in my life!
YAYYY!!!
Watching in my 30s and the look I made when she called me a baby 😅
It's not an insult my dear- it's a matter of perspective. Don't we always look back on our younger years and say 'if only I knew then what I know now?'
Where is your top from? I love it!
I always turn heads and I am so tired of it that I cannot wait to be invisible. I want peace. So, not everyone is in the same place. Everyone is chasing a rainbow that fits themselves.
Great video. Anyone know where Hilary got her shirt?
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The problem isn’t women or the way we look, it’s the sexist attitudes. Those have to change, not us.
Absolutely! The focus should be on shifting those outdated and unfair expectations. Women should be able to exist at any age without being judged for their appearance or worth. It's time to challenge those stereotypes and celebrate individuality! 👏✨
Im also 52 and turning heads. ❤
That's amazing! It's great to see women embracing their confidence and owning their beauty at every stage of life. Your energy and presence are clearly shining through! 🌟❤
That was very interesting n insightful ❤❤❤ much needed inspiration 👏 👏
I'm so glad it resonated with you! ❤️✨ Thank you for your kind words. Stay inspired and keep shining bright! 👏🌟
Thank you!! I turned 50 this year! ❤
Happy 50th! 🎉❤️ What an amazing milestone! I’m sure you're embracing this new chapter with so much strength and wisdom. Here’s to even more confidence, joy, and all the greatness ahead! 🎉💖
You look pretty young to be in your 50s. 😊 You also look kinda like Punky Brewster. 😄
Haha, that's a fun comparison! 😄 Thanks for the compliment, and I’m glad you think I look young! 😊
I still turn heads at 56 yrs of age yo… not boasting… just sayin ;)’
Love that confidence! It’s all about embracing who you are at every age. Keep rocking it! 🙌😊
3:00. I love it when guys say this same exact thing about himself..
It's always interesting to see how people reflect their own self-perception. Confidence can definitely be contagious, whether it’s from men or women! 😎
What a smart lady! Subbed
Thank you so much, Cheryl! 😊 I’m thrilled you enjoyed it and super grateful for your support! Welcome to the community!✨💖
Its a cultural thing.
In my part of the world women actually get noticed over 40.
And divorced women remarry faster than those who have never been married.
Thanks for sharing, @kabsatdajaj! That’s really interesting! 😊 You might enjoy my video "How I Stopped Getting Rejected 🚫💥" th-cam.com/video/-y9hpwFn5r0/w-d-xo.html Don’t forget to subscribe for more content like this! 🙌
I like your shirt
You look younger than 52
Thank you! Here's the link if you want to shop!!
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I have men my daughters ages hitting on me at 43- I validate myself today. 40s are the new 25s- no joke.
Absolutely! 🔥 Love that confidence and self-validation-you're living proof that 40s are just the beginning of our prime! Keep embracing that energy! 💃✨
Glad for the positivity in the comments!! ❤.
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I agree as a 51 yo woman. However: I recently started a full time acting course. There are eight others. Mostly 18-23. One 30 yo woman and a 28 yo guy. The 30 yo is brash, abusive, vile. I had to pull her up in the first week because she was so rude. She is deeply manipulative and revels in social exclusion and game playing. She’s a bully. I don’t understand why she manages to dominate. I won’t compete. The year above are small. Two of the three women warm to her. I don’t want to abandon my dream. It’s just interesting to hear all of your valid thoughts. Yet here I am amidst people and in a place where none of that holds water. It’s somewhere between a zoo, a circus and a high school. Any thoughts gratefully received.
@JayCee-m4m I don’t think being on the receiving end of bullying and harassment - at any age - is about “getting all dramatic.” That’s not what I’m doing. I’m sharing a painful experience. I’m an adult. I wouldn’t have lasted recent months if I wasn’t trying to do that. Not easy to enjoy anything in a toxic environment, at any age.Targeted hate - some of it racially fuelled - cannot be dismissed as “other people’s journeys..” I’ll figure it out. Your video gave me the wrong impression.
I don't have any advice to make it stop - I've had people get really mean to me and I eventually just bale. So the advice of minimising engagement is the best course forward if you must stay. And that is easier said than done usually.
Look after your own mental health ( & bail if absolutely necessary).
In my experience, fighting back just made me look bad - because these highly manipulative people seem to suck in or bulldoze over people, so you won't have allies, especially if they are perceived as a more powerful person, or if people are jealous because you are smarter, better than the bully, they will side with the bully because you outshine them all.
If you stay, all you can do is focus on your own learning, keep quiet about your own lovely life & only spend absolutely necessary time with them.
That's just notes from my experience. It's all a power struggle and in classes most people are competitive and insecure, not collegiate.
What I say in terms of power dynamics or struggle and how i handle it may not apply to you - depending on your own strengths and personal power and all those dynamics and race, culture social attitudes etc.
I was in a full-time photography course once where an insecure less talented vicious dishonest classmate dealt with her own lack of talent by sabotaging my equipment, stealing my negatives, pinching my ideas & flirting and sucking up to all staff. After I left, she latched on to the next most creative person in class, stealing her creative ideas & presenting them to class first ...
I was friends with the 2nd creative and she suffered through it, putting up with it till the end, because she needed and was determined to get the qualification.
More recently, I was bullied by a classmate in many subtle ways - I'm sure the teacher saw some of it, but she thought I would endlessly put up with it. The teacher did some minimal managing od the situation, but eventually when i got a little strident about my equipment being taken in middle of work requiring careful timing, the result was others in class thought I was being unpleasant. I thought of getting very direct and confronting the sly nasty one, but I couldn't expect support from anyone, so it was time to leave.
@ thank you so much for your incredibly helpful and thoughtful response. You completely understand the dynamics and the hopelessness of it all. My choice is exactly that: persevere as your classmate did or bale. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this. You’re right, confronting the behaviour with these dynamics at play is redundant for the reasons you state. I’ve been encouraged to stay till term end to see if things “calm down.” These places never address issues like this. I think it’s the disrespect that’s more painful. But. Thank you for taking the time to share your insights and to understand. I really appreciate it. Wishing you the best. 🙏🏽
You GO!!! Girl!, Never allow anyone's opinion squander or squelch your dreams! Ignore the bullshit, & keep keeping on!! ❤
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Great video and message!!
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Just wow!
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I’m 50 and my best friend always tells me whenever we go out and walk into a place all heads turn 🎉
please women
you are powerful but now you need to work
like a man has to
feel powerful
and its possible to feel sexy
but feeling sexy and looking sexy is two different things
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Love this!😘👍
Thank you so much! 😊💖 I'm glad you enjoyed it!
I don’t care if nobody turn their head when I’m walking in. It’s just fine. Other women accept me better if I’m normal and plain and at 58 I need friends (female) not men.
Thank you for sharing, @minnie66! I love your perspective and embrace of who you are. 💖 You might enjoy my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html -it’s all about finding your true self and building meaningful connections. Don’t forget to subscribe for more! 🙌
Preach 🙌
🙌🔥 You got it! Keep shining and embracing everything that makes you amazing!
If you skipped or did air kicks entering a room a person would get attention 🤣 I'm in my 60s and considering it, then I might get put in a home and not worry about rent (Canada)
Haha, I love that idea! 💥 Air kicks and skipping into a room would definitely turn heads! 😄 Embracing that fun and carefree energy is what keeps life exciting at any age. And hey, if it leads to less rent worries, why not? 😉 You’ve got the right mindset-stay fabulous and keep having fun! 🌟💃
I have always been invisible. I am plain
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@@HilarySilver thank you
Sorry I disagree. We are in our prime 20 to 25. We dont have it all together yet. We have a lot to learn and make many mistakes. But biologically we are at our peak. But bravo for the message you are getting out about self confidence. Which is what many women need at all ages. A woman at any age can feel invisible. It's starting to seem dumb that older women feel invisble. Personally, I dont want a lot of men drooling over me. I just need to meet one special man, so I am not phased if noone looks at me evey time. Edit: I don't have the same opinion as her. I have my own ideas, own opinions.
I don't know what age you are, but here's my experience.
I agree that I don't want men overly bothering me, staring & following me - which is still happening at age 66, because I don't look my age & have some attractive features.
On the other hand, when I had some drab days a few months ago, I seemed to be suddenly so invisible i was being physically barged into as if I wasn't there at all - neither did anyone notice me even then - no one said sorry. That's the kind of invisible no one wants to be.
My peak was 40-42, but I agree for most females under 25 is the peak desired age. Though quite a number look lovely beyond that.
@elipotter369 Very nicely said. Yes I agree there's an invisibility noone wants. I'm sorry you had to go through that. But I still think that invisibility can happen at any age. And we take things personally because we're social creatures and need attention and affection to survive. My point again is that many older women link being invisible with their age, reinforcing ageism, when many times it's got nothing to do with their age. Though I have to admit that ageism does exist and can be hurtful. I think many women of all ages need more self confidence just due to the fact that we are women and have magnetism and a natural attractiveness just being who we are.
😂 ...wait
Sorry if this is your experience - just devolving from very incomplete and imbalanced, unexperienced youth. Instead of evolving. Please know evolving is a choice for you, too 😇👍
@regina6838 Thank you. I think there's two problems with becoming invisible with age for women could be for some the lack of attention when they lose attractiveness and for some it's being bumped into.
I don't think women are creating the ageism, but I think when they stop being given attention, they resent it and grieve it. They didn't realise how much the attention they had gotten was so heavily looks based.
I don't think there is an easy solution to that- many could make more effort to look appealing and confident, but it's also more important to refocus on having a positive outlook and satisfying life with less attention from outside.
I told one elderly friend to get a large red hat - cone shaped if necessary - as she was getting walked into and no apologies as if she wasn't there at all. She was a highly intelligent, confident person with a lot to give and a unique look, but overall grey tones. She did start wearing a bright orange coat!
It just depends how well you take care of yourself. Theres some hot women that age out there im sure. Look at christy brinkly ... even though shes rich with time but just making a point.
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I dont think the goal of a 50+ yr old should be to be sexy. Why? Just be healthy and move theough the stages of life and stop teying to hang onto your 20s. The reason women become unattractive is excess weight and attitude
Thank you for sharing your perspective. Everyone's journey through aging is unique, and it's all about what feels right for each individual. For some, focusing on health, authenticity, and growth feels most meaningful. For others, embracing their sensuality at any age is empowering. The key is to find what aligns with your values and brings you joy-there’s beauty in owning every stage with confidence and grace. 🌟
What if all you do is work eat sleep and even at work you have to wear a uniform and when you get home we’re just too tired and exhausted even on the weekends to go anywhere or do anything that is my worry every day just pure exhaustion and I’m 53 myself 😟 the next thing would be depression. It’s a vicious cycle, especially when you are in perimenopause. 😥😓
Thanks for sharing, @slelpssinal. I hear you, and that cycle can feel so overwhelming. 😟 You might find my video "5 Shifts to Live Life on Your Terms 💪✨ Start Truly Living!" th-cam.com/video/H3KSeV6Lfic/w-d-xo.html helpful-it’s all about small steps to break out of that pattern. Sending you positive energy, and don’t forget to subscribe for more uplifting content! 🙌
Life’s goals 🤦🏻♀️
Life goals indeed! 😄 Embracing confidence and being your authentic self is truly a journey worth taking!
I in no way want to take away from her video. But I’m very concerned about the plant on the shelf behind her. 😢
it's fake !!! 🤗
@@HilarySilver Whew! lol. That saves me from being super sad. Love your videos! 💗
Why do you even want to do that???? Very soon and it comes to everyone, you will be old and invisible. Be happy in and with yourself .
It’s true that aging is a natural part of life, and everyone experiences it differently. The goal isn’t necessarily to fight it, but to embrace it with self-love and confidence. Feeling happy and comfortable with yourself at any age is what truly matters. The power comes from within, and that’s something no one can take away. 💖
You should get a stronger key light rather than 2 sidelights
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fabulous! thankyouthankyouthankyou 🙃🐄…
You're very welcome! 😊🐄 I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Keep shining! 🌟
Well, it helps that you look like you're in your 30's! XD
Haha, thank you! It's always nice to hear those compliments! But really, it’s all about embracing who you are at any age and letting that confidence shine through! 😊
I agree
Wake up Mrs Silver!
Haha, love the energy! Ready to take on the day with confidence and style! 💫
Wow. You don't look a day over 40!
@@beverleyreid563 thank you lovely
Im 43 and get with 20yr olds.
Thank you! 🙌 Sounds like you've got some serious magnetism and confidence going on! Keep shining! ✨💪
Your title gets views. 😂 clickbait.
The title really reflects the content of the video. 😄 It’s all about embracing confidence and owning your presence at any age. I’m glad it caught your attention! Let me know what you think of the message once you watch the video!
You are so beautiful, intelligent and you look so young... but please watter that poor plant on the shelf. ❤
@@Anna-mh9cs haha - thank you and it’s fake!!!
@HilarySilver That's funny 😂 I am sorry 😗
what did you look like before if you now turn heads looking how you currently do? It is not your looks getting you attention Hilary
Rewatch the video
It sounds like there’s a bit of a misunderstanding! The message is about embracing confidence and being comfortable in your own skin at any age. It’s not just about looks-it's the energy and self-assuredness that truly draw attention.