#2 is so hard for me right now! I gotta know this is coming from the fact I'm just grieving what life *was* and everything I planned and worked toward. 😅 Especially right now with what my situation looks like.
I’ve mostly adapted to the new normal but every now and then, on the especially hard days, it hits me. I grieve how I used to be, and get upset that I took it for granted. But mostly, I think of how it effects my kids. I’m a single mom and push myself to do and be all the things for them everyday- but it never feels enough and I wonder how better it would be if I had the energy and ability to do more. Thanks for creating this great content!
Hi Aimee- I just found you a week or so ago, and I’m trying to binge watch you! I’m struggling with #2 right now. I have fibro, POTS, MCAS, and I’m a Covid longhauler with so much systemic damage. I’m trying to wrap my head around my “new normal”, and figure out a new plan for my empty nester life. Thank you!!!
It's so hard not to feel like you miss your old life. I feel the same way all the time. But we can't go back, so spending time thinking about that isn't as useful as our brains think it is. Keeping an eye on today and tomorrow is where we find the most power! You got this!!
This exact issue has been eating me up for so long! This came at exactly the same time. Just want to say I know putting out content when you’re chronically I’ll can be so challenging, but wanted to say that you have made a true difference in MY day ❤️❤️❤️
❤I feel like I understand and respect why you have to tell yourself illness doesn’t control your life for mental health reasons, but for people like myself whose hands are affected by crippling pain, mostly dependent on other people who maybe aren’t natural caregivers , I can’t relate. I’m trying to reclaim my life and myself and it is such a hard road I want to unalive myself a lot. #complexregionalpainsyndrome
I think it’s important for us to know that life would actually be easier if I wasn’t chronically ill.. obviously everyone has their issues, but having all the extra health ones on top, make it much harder. it’s an important part of the acceptance I think. I haven’t been chronically Ill my whole life, but the last 6 years have been so much harder and it would take a weight off my depression for sure haha
You are welcome to disagree! :) If it is helpful for you to believe that your live would be better without chronic illness, then do it! For me, it just causes stress, frustration, sadness, and anger. It makes me feel annoyed that I live this life and not another one. Instead I just believe that my life would be half amazing + half really hard with chronic illness, AND half amazing + half really hard without chronic illness. There's no way to know whether or not my life would be better or worse without chronic illness, so I don't see any reason to believe that it would be better. If it only makes me feel down, then why would I want to think that way? What if I just believed that my life could be great either way? If you can give me a good reason to believe that my life would be better without this, then I'm all ears! But I can't think of a single one.
Hi Aimee. I think you make a lot of good points especially about not comparing yourself to someone else. However I don't agree with when you say that life wouldn't be better if I didn't have my chronic illness. To me my life would be so much better. I do agree that I may still have problems thought I would still be a lot better off without the 15 conditions that debilitate me constantly. I hope your doing well. 🙂
You are welcome to disagree! :) If it is helpful for you to believe that your live would be better without chronic illness, then do it! For me, it just causes stress, frustration, sadness, and anger. It makes me feel annoyed that I live this life and not another one. Instead I just believe that my life would be half amazing + half really hard with chronic illness, AND half amazing + half really hard without chronic illness. There's no way to know whether or not my life would be better or worse without chronic illness, so I don't see any reason to believe that it would be better. If it only makes me feel down, then why would I want to think that way? What if I just believed that my life could be great either way? If you can give me a good reason to believe that my life would be better without this, then I'm all ears! But I can't think of a single one. :)
@@Aimee_Esther hi Aimee. I can definitely understand how thinking about how life could be different is damaging for our mental health. Especially comparing ourselves to others. I really love God myself so He really helps me get through really hard times. I also have found that listing everything I am grateful for and all the blessings I have makes me feel really positive. I am very fortunate to have a lot of help and support as well and the ability to do things that I want to and enjoy myself. My biggest achievement at the moment is being able to live independently in a rental unit with my cat. I am so proud of that. Congratulations on your new precious baby. I hope you and your family are doing well. 🙂🙏
You can take charge with doctors all you want and it still doesn’t matter, I’ve done all the research, all of the everything, and no doctors will listen, so even if they can’t understand it first hand; they really need to actually try to freaking help us. Which they never do
This was so interesting as I struggle with a couple of those things definitely!! You don’t realise that not doing these things would make a lot of difference but your totally right! Thankyou this has helped a lot !! ❤
I have gotten better at this, but it was a struggle for me to stop looking at my old way of life and accepting my new normal. ❤
Yup.
Many people have said this. I'll have to do a full episode address this soon!
#2 is so hard for me right now! I gotta know this is coming from the fact I'm just grieving what life *was* and everything I planned and worked toward. 😅 Especially right now with what my situation looks like.
I’ve mostly adapted to the new normal but every now and then, on the especially hard days, it hits me. I grieve how I used to be, and get upset that I took it for granted. But mostly, I think of how it effects my kids. I’m a single mom and push myself to do and be all the things for them everyday- but it never feels enough and I wonder how better it would be if I had the energy and ability to do more. Thanks for creating this great content!
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Hi Aimee- I just found you a week or so ago, and I’m trying to binge watch you! I’m struggling with #2 right now. I have fibro, POTS, MCAS, and I’m a Covid longhauler with so much systemic damage. I’m trying to wrap my head around my “new normal”, and figure out a new plan for my empty nester life. Thank you!!!
It's so hard not to feel like you miss your old life. I feel the same way all the time. But we can't go back, so spending time thinking about that isn't as useful as our brains think it is. Keeping an eye on today and tomorrow is where we find the most power! You got this!!
This exact issue has been eating me up for so long! This came at exactly the same time. Just want to say I know putting out content when you’re chronically I’ll can be so challenging, but wanted to say that you have made a true difference in MY day ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so glad my content is helpful! This makes it all worth it. ❤️❤️
❤I feel like I understand and respect why you have to tell yourself illness doesn’t control your life for mental health reasons, but for people like myself whose hands are affected by crippling pain, mostly dependent on other people who maybe aren’t natural caregivers , I can’t relate. I’m trying to reclaim my life and myself and it is such a hard road I want to unalive myself a lot. #complexregionalpainsyndrome
True,sometimes its easier said than done.
I think it’s important for us to know that life would actually be easier if I wasn’t chronically ill.. obviously everyone has their issues, but having all the extra health ones on top, make it much harder. it’s an important part of the acceptance I think. I haven’t been chronically Ill my whole life, but the last 6 years have been so much harder and it would take a weight off my depression for sure haha
You are welcome to disagree! :) If it is helpful for you to believe that your live would be better without chronic illness, then do it! For me, it just causes stress, frustration, sadness, and anger. It makes me feel annoyed that I live this life and not another one. Instead I just believe that my life would be half amazing + half really hard with chronic illness, AND half amazing + half really hard without chronic illness. There's no way to know whether or not my life would be better or worse without chronic illness, so I don't see any reason to believe that it would be better. If it only makes me feel down, then why would I want to think that way? What if I just believed that my life could be great either way?
If you can give me a good reason to believe that my life would be better without this, then I'm all ears! But I can't think of a single one.
Hi Aimee. I think you make a lot of good points especially about not comparing yourself to someone else. However I don't agree with when you say that life wouldn't be better if I didn't have my chronic illness. To me my life would be so much better. I do agree that I may still have problems thought I would still be a lot better off without the 15 conditions that debilitate me constantly. I hope your doing well. 🙂
You are welcome to disagree! :) If it is helpful for you to believe that your live would be better without chronic illness, then do it! For me, it just causes stress, frustration, sadness, and anger. It makes me feel annoyed that I live this life and not another one. Instead I just believe that my life would be half amazing + half really hard with chronic illness, AND half amazing + half really hard without chronic illness. There's no way to know whether or not my life would be better or worse without chronic illness, so I don't see any reason to believe that it would be better. If it only makes me feel down, then why would I want to think that way? What if I just believed that my life could be great either way?
If you can give me a good reason to believe that my life would be better without this, then I'm all ears! But I can't think of a single one. :)
@@Aimee_Esther hi Aimee. I can definitely understand how thinking about how life could be different is damaging for our mental health. Especially comparing ourselves to others. I really love God myself so He really helps me get through really hard times. I also have found that listing everything I am grateful for and all the blessings I have makes me feel really positive. I am very fortunate to have a lot of help and support as well and the ability to do things that I want to and enjoy myself. My biggest achievement at the moment is being able to live independently in a rental unit with my cat. I am so proud of that. Congratulations on your new precious baby. I hope you and your family are doing well. 🙂🙏
Mums are so hard on themselves this video has helped me realise so much I have pots and pregnant with number 3 and struggling mentally so thank you
Good discussion. It’s so hard not to even hold yourself up to the standards of your own self before worsening chronic ❤🙏 illness.
You can take charge with doctors all you want and it still doesn’t matter, I’ve done all the research, all of the everything, and no doctors will listen, so even if they can’t understand it first hand; they really need to actually try to freaking help us. Which they never do
This was so interesting as I struggle with a couple of those things definitely!! You don’t realise that not doing these things would make a lot of difference but your totally right! Thankyou this has helped a lot !! ❤
It's so true. There's so many things we think over and over again, not realizing there's another option.
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