You’re Not a Bad Parent - You Just Look Poor

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  • @Edvasian
    @Edvasian  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2283

    "Edvasian looks imbecilic in new video!" - Pop Crave 2024
    So I accidentally used music that got copyrighted and had to sub in a different song.
    Some of the audio got cut out so here's captions for what I said:
    4:28 "...beautiful curated lobotomy core content like this?"
    4:58 "...realistically, no"

    • @docryujivt
      @docryujivt 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      i was wondering why youtube refused to let me like and comment while i was watching 😭😭

    • @tangentreverent4821
      @tangentreverent4821 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How did someone misspell handsome so badly? Imbecilic looks nothing like handsome.

    • @DarkEbullition
      @DarkEbullition 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sorry, but you sadly have no idea what you are talking about. Sucks that the American influence has damaged you this badly.
      There is a huge difference between feeding your toddler only junk food and giving your kids a few sweets every once in a while. And really? Who cares if those weird "aetheics Moms" are fancy? At least their kids won't be rolling around, trying to catch diabetes.
      It's not about judgment, it's about stopping uneducated folks, like the Donut Mom, who seems to think that it's okay to give literal garbage to their kids.

    • @ClakyNotReversed
      @ClakyNotReversed 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      "beautiful curated lobotomy core content" , gosh, I love your brain, never change, Ed!

    • @0beany0
      @0beany0 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      just about to start watching the video but i love those quotes without context loool

  • @RM-um9xx
    @RM-um9xx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25439

    When a rich parent has their kid's bed on the floor, it's "Montessori" and it's fashionable. When a poor parent does the same thing, it's "neglect" and CPS is on the way. The list of double standards is infinite.

    • @shaniceb.5129
      @shaniceb.5129 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1444

      That’s why people like Ruby Franke got away with neglecting her kids for so long.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +232

      No, it's cheap looking either way.

    • @SirHorned19
      @SirHorned19 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +621

      'Montessori' doesnt even have anything to do with sleep or decoration. If "rich parents" have their children sleep on the floor they are going to make sure that the floor is cleaned and heated. If "poor parents" do it, its out of necessity and in most cases very unsanitary.

    • @ridita5221
      @ridita5221 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +359

      There isn't any problem if the bed is clean and there arent insects and mice or rats around.

    • @nephone
      @nephone 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

      I agree, all those poor people having moose around children piss me off.

  • @zans3415
    @zans3415 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10547

    i love watching content about tiktok while completely avoiding tiktok

    • @hhaannnnaahh222
      @hhaannnnaahh222 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

      same

    • @K_idk
      @K_idk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

      Luckily me I not the only me

    • @Thanks4AllTheFunTimes1221
      @Thanks4AllTheFunTimes1221 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +122

      Same here, sit back with popcorn and watch the fireworks

    • @ItsBAndBees
      @ItsBAndBees 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Saaame

    • @zarinaromanets7290
      @zarinaromanets7290 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Advasian taking one for the team 🙏🙏🙏 😂 I'm guilty as hell

  • @Rosalie_Hayes
    @Rosalie_Hayes 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11157

    I work in education and in the last few years the child abuse workshop that all EDU professionals are supposed to take has an extra section added just to emphasize that poverty does not equal abuse, and that one is not supposed to report people for child abuse because their family is poor and makes the same lunch each day / has an old-looking backpack / has worn-looking clothes, etc. The hate on poor people is so strong that they had to put it into childcare providers' mandated training.

    • @AuthorThings
      @AuthorThings 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +745

      People don't understand that even hygiene stuff can be expensive

    • @darkydoom
      @darkydoom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +176

      That is wild, wtf

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

      @@AuthorThings Dollar Tree exists.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +330

      I'm sorry, but if your child is constantly showing up to school dirty and disheveled, that's neglect and gets kids bullied.

    • @Iphideen
      @Iphideen 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +407

      People so quick to talk about child abuse when they're not paying for anything. As if most of us today aren't struggling to just feed ourselves.

  • @pierce_the_chemicals
    @pierce_the_chemicals 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +783

    one time, my mom got super depressed and just wanted to see me and my brother happy so one day, she fed us ice cream on eggos. me and my brother were so excited because we were little kids. i aspire to be like my mom

    • @mmmmmmmm1942
      @mmmmmmmm1942 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      Once in a while is fine. Sundays are waffle days. But other days we eat eggs, tomatoes, things like that.

    • @alexparraparra4484
      @alexparraparra4484 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      awww ❤

    • @fd6944
      @fd6944 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      And you still remember it! Shows how special she made the day for you and your brother.

    • @Levi_is_Smol
      @Levi_is_Smol หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I know I'm late, but this reminds me of the mum of my two little cousins. One morning, they were asking for ice cream for breakfast and because their mum had to say no to so many different things in the last couple weeks before that, she thought f it and gave them ice cream before they headed to kindergarten.

    • @rscull210
      @rscull210 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Whenever my mom was too tired to make dinner she let my brother and I make scrambled eggs and pancakes on the stove while she made bacon. When we plated it up she surprised us with whipped cream for the pancakes. We still talk about how awesome it was and how much we loved “upside down dinner”.

  • @spoonfulsofsugar
    @spoonfulsofsugar 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6648

    Imagine your mum asking what you want for breakfast, and when you answer cereal she says "sure" and makes you wait 2 hours while she films a tiktok of making the "cereal" from scratch.

    • @nicoleraheem1195
      @nicoleraheem1195 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      😢

    • @vainetuxx
      @vainetuxx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +178

      If you are talking about Nara, she prepares them first hand, of course she gives her 2 kids something to eat while she Is cooking. And she got bashed because she gave her toddler powdered donuts on his birthday? She's literally always cooking everything healthy

    • @DesireeGarcia-eb9rd
      @DesireeGarcia-eb9rd 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      😂🤣😂

    • @sombrego2260
      @sombrego2260 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +307

      The issue is more that the content is very disingenuous. She's pretending she's doing it on the spot which is just objectively impossible you can't have bread ready instantly like that for breakfast. Not even mentioning the fact that she seems to miraculously have all the ingredients her kids wants for their breakfast. I mean come on. This is even more BS than infomercials at this point.

    • @cfbg
      @cfbg 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      You believe everything you read online, huh?

  • @Aerials135
    @Aerials135 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9133

    i'm pretty sure at least half of these are just ragebaiting, but can we talk about how 42 months old is just 3 and a half?

    • @deadpurplestar6302
      @deadpurplestar6302 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +350

      it's not impossible she's doing it on purpose

    • @Iva744
      @Iva744 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +452

      I think/hope that one was satire

    • @WeirdSnakeGal
      @WeirdSnakeGal 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +754

      Pretty sure she was making fun of parents that keep counting their child's age in month after 24 month and also taking a jab at the trad wife ridiculousness.

    • @noellefritz5678
      @noellefritz5678 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

      that's the one obvious rage bating one

    • @Aimz360
      @Aimz360 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

      I had to google it. 12 months is easy, 24 months is easy, but anything in between and above my autistic brain thinks the 1.5/2.5 yr old are in their in their 30's.

  • @molli_gothitelle
    @molli_gothitelle 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8044

    There was another mother of 4 who would specifically use the term "cooking for my 4 kids in a trailer park" she also has a similar expression on her face when making her videos. That creator would constantly be harrassed in the comments. Calling her a horrible mother, she didn't want her kids. Until recently, that creator was able to move out of the trailer park into a suburban home. All the hate comments ceased to exist anymore. Clearly we still live in a classiest society. It's sad

    • @pandarox9697
      @pandarox9697 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +614

      I've seen her videos. I believe she's also in her early 20s which got her even more hate for having so many kids at such a young age

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +440

      Idk why people think they look upset or anything, they just look focused to me. I get super focused and lost in thought when doing something like that.
      Granted I also had people say I look “mad” for focusing or staring off to space lul.

    • @kphoria1009
      @kphoria1009 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +329

      yeah they were complaining about her cooking SPAGHETTI… like who doesn’t cook spaghetti?

    • @evarandell9372
      @evarandell9372 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

      @@kphoria1009NO CUZ SPAGHETTI IS SO QUICK AND SIMPLE TO MAKE

    • @frofrofrofro900
      @frofrofrofro900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      If you can not afford for children you should not make them

  • @singingsamodiva
    @singingsamodiva 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1932

    The Nutella ad is insane. It’s a treat. Don’t gaslight people by saying it’s “nutritious” and a good option as breakfast. 🙄 Don’t even get me started on cereals.

    • @MP-kw5ud
      @MP-kw5ud 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

      Not sure how it is in other countries, but here in Germany Nutella was advertised for a long time as a sort of "athlete breakfast" with TV ads in which the german national soccer team is stealing each others Nutella breads because it's sooooo nutricious and performance-enhancing. Complete madness.

    • @elalogar7340
      @elalogar7340 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

      @@MP-kw5udNutella is sugar-drained in oil. I haven't touched it since I saw an image of a glass filled with Nutella raw ingredients, but that's not something in Nutella ads.

    • @nai1729
      @nai1729 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

      it’s literally the equivalent of putting chocolate frosting on your toast for breakfast, oh no wait, its actually worse. nutella literally has more sugar than chocolate frosting in a serving.

    • @KCHIJuarez
      @KCHIJuarez 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MP-kw5ud remember america ruins everything

    • @LuluTheCorgi
      @LuluTheCorgi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@elalogar7340it's also the worst possible oil you could use - palm oil

  • @zombiebullshark3834
    @zombiebullshark3834 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14053

    Her daughter waited over 2 hours for some pb and js lmfao

    • @Blu3Purple
      @Blu3Purple 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah give donuts 🍩 for breakfast and let your child be OBESE lmao
      Liberals in the comments 🤭

    • @nyastalgiakitten
      @nyastalgiakitten 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1213

      The kid probably wouldn't know the difference between that, an uncrustable or a jiff and welches on sunbeam white bread

    • @sidneyvictor7887
      @sidneyvictor7887 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +639

      To make and bake bread more like four but yea, that kids going to starve.

    • @justwonder1404
      @justwonder1404 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +672

      That's why I call bs on that. No way any child would have the patience to wait that long for a snak.

    • @Sirensscales
      @Sirensscales 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +211

      I dont think they actually even made the bread lmao maybe the bread was just store bought and they were doing it for the camera

  • @WeAreASecret
    @WeAreASecret 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3595

    "my child aske for pb&j, so I made her wait 5 hours while I made all of it from scratch" ??? Lady, why do you not have bread already made that you make sure you have ready and in stock?

    • @burmessafox3939
      @burmessafox3939 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +311

      Because she loved "fresh bread" as a kid.

    • @IHopeSoM
      @IHopeSoM 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +298

      Her child must have mastered the art of waiting. lol I don't know a child under the age of 10 who is good at waiting for food. Adults don't even like to wait long for food. Fresh bread IS nice to have though.

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +161

      She does have it all prepped, she just capitalises on viewers not thinking too deeply about it.

    • @MissyMuthaTruckiN
      @MissyMuthaTruckiN 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      i had wonder bread and smuckers strawberry 😂 i turned out fine 😂😂😂

    • @dry_strawberries
      @dry_strawberries 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      She made jam and pb from scratch, she could've done a bigger batch and put those in glass jar before and use them. Its all for show( comung from someone whose family does jams and eats those all year round)

  • @mightymeatymech
    @mightymeatymech 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9230

    it's funny to me how having time, energy, and ability to elegantly do domestic labor and film it aesthetically has become a signifier of wealth

    • @nicolegoose567
      @nicolegoose567 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

      Right like it’s not hard

    • @NovemberRain007
      @NovemberRain007 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The truly wealthy are certainly not wasting their time on TikTok, IMO 🫶🏻

    • @cutienerdgirl
      @cutienerdgirl 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +590

      It's always been a signifier of wealth, minus the filming lol.

    • @casperlovely7301
      @casperlovely7301 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +530

      Because having kids cost money. To get money I work. Working takes both time and energy. Dropping kids off at daycare also takes time. Now I have 4-5 hours to play, teach, cook and bathe these kids, And now I need make it aesthetic?!? Y'ALL AREN'T TIRED?!? Is it me?? Do your kids not have energy? No way they sit on the couch quietly without you doing a group activity watching over them...is your family made of robots?? I even have a helpful husband so I can't IMAGINE single parents. I would just have to throw them away at that point.

    • @kated3165
      @kated3165 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +435

      @@nicolegoose567 Well it ISN'T hard when you are wealthy and have access to a maid, nanny and cook 24/7.

  • @yumosayck14
    @yumosayck14 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +349

    That feathery long sleeve the pb&j lady is wearing is an absolute NIGHTMARE. No one in their right minds would wear that while (supposedly) kneading a dough 7:24

    • @moodycowcrafts4862
      @moodycowcrafts4862 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I’m surprised she didn’t lose a nail just separating the dough in the clip
      Will be hell to clean if anything gets under them

  • @mirage-cat
    @mirage-cat 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3439

    By the time the pb and j was finished it was already dinner .__.

    • @silverghostcat1924
      @silverghostcat1924 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @ZoraCrafts
      @ZoraCrafts 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

      Ikr!!! That kid probably was done and over it by then LOL

    • @justabooberv4298
      @justabooberv4298 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Where's the character from your pfp from? I remember seeing it somewhere but i can't remember the name

    • @mirage-cat
      @mirage-cat 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@justabooberv4298 manga named "lightning degree," or sometimes "master of lightning knives"

    • @伏見猿比古-k8c
      @伏見猿比古-k8c 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Kid: Mom...I said I wanted pb&j for breakfast not lunch.

  • @katelynsmith7467
    @katelynsmith7467 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3220

    i mean, just look at 8 passengers vs the daddy of five situations. ruby franke abused her kids in public for years but they had nice things, lived in a pretty house and drove new cars. she is only just now going to jail after years of abuse. whereas the daddy of five family came off as trashy so when they got caught being abusive it got shut down so fast. the double standard is insane and has very real consequences.

    • @pixam345
      @pixam345 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +141

      This is not a case of a double standard. The first mum looks extremely annoyed and uncaring about her child’s breakfast (she is basically throwing the food around) and is giving the child 3 donuts for *breakfast*, while the other mum seems much more engaged and is using the donuts as an opportunity to take her kids out on a fun outing, to get a *snack*. Donuts are fine as a fun snack, not as a meal. The difference in aesthetics is not the key difference here, it is the situations.

    • @mynameisreallycool1
      @mynameisreallycool1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +103

      Basically, rich/upper middle class people get away with everything, including child abuse and neglect.

    • @aaronmontgomeryward2447
      @aaronmontgomeryward2447 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

      DaddyofFives whole channel was them openly showing the abuse of their kids for content that’s why they were caught so fast. At least from my understanding Ruby Franke tried to portray that her family was fine

    • @kichikitsu
      @kichikitsu 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

      @@aaronmontgomeryward2447 no, both of them openly abused their kids on camera for content and views. the only difference is that it took one of her kids escaping to the police, starved and traumatized after being locked up, for ruby to be shut down and tried for child abuse.
      daddyofFive got views and it took years of public opinion hating him, and the two kids' bio mother fighting tooth and nail for custody, to get his channel taken down & custody handed over to the mom. to my knowledge, he hasn't been legally prosecuted for his abuse, nor even tried for it, and he STILL has custody of his eldest (possibly step?) boys. he's also back on youtube through his son's channel.
      so i mean... honestly this case is more misogyny than anything lmao ruby flew under the radar because she was a woman, and obviously, mothers cant be abusive (sarcasm). despite the fact she made content that often shamed her kids & promoted starving, and other abuse, as punishment. but when she did get exposed? it was by the legal system and there is no chance of her slithering her way back into being a family vlogger. meanwhile, daddyofFive was exposed way before any action was actually taken (and the only legal action was his ex taking custody of his two kids) and he still manages to make a "come-back."

    • @MaryArts
      @MaryArts 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      This this this! My brothers and I always were called ungrateful cause we would cry about our parents being abusive. The argument: "See what your dad gifts to you."
      The less abusive christmas was when I refused all gifts. I was so relieved, cause the gifts felt like blackmail. Now I have no contact anymore, so every christmas is nice and cozy.
      But just wanted to say. No one ever helped us cause our dad was rich.

  • @sofetchxx
    @sofetchxx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2224

    Being a parent during the age of social media had made me so insecure when I was a new mother. As if being a new mom wasn’t hard enough. And this was before TikTok.

    • @Morepanthers
      @Morepanthers 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

      My kiddo is 18 months and it's hard to find a balance of getting useful advice and ideas and getting overwhelmed with trying to be a mommy blogger in your daily life all of a sudden

    • @amandapanda528
      @amandapanda528 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      I had to delete my tiktok right after having my first, I was already so hormonal and dealing with PPD, I didn't need all of that on top of it

    • @YourDadsWaifu
      @YourDadsWaifu 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      Hey there, it’s me, a mom with an older child. I promise it gets easier and easier to not care about as you get out of the baby and toddler zone. It’s a weird phenomenon that only occurs during those stages and then they’re old enough to be people with opinions and others stop caring so much about what you’re doing with them.

    • @willowleigh1786
      @willowleigh1786 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Take it with a grain of salt and only take advice from actual professionals not social media.

    • @Gr95dc
      @Gr95dc 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      no one makes you post your shitty parenting on the internet tho and no one is forcing you to use social media yk

  • @EaseeCheesee
    @EaseeCheesee 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2051

    I had people think I was being neglected as a kid because id take cheese mayo and mustard sandwiches to school like every single day. I was just autistic and liked the food.
    Also calling parents who work their asses off but remain in poverty "bad parents" is disgusting and classist. I grew up lower middle class and while no where near poor, we struggled with money quite a bit. But it was not neglect. Anyone can be a bad parent, you don't have to be poor.

    • @cmaven4762
      @cmaven4762 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      I remember we went an entire semester one year just eating baloney on white bread for lunch. . . No dressings sauces or veggies... It made sense to us at the time 😂 and our parents didn't hassle us.

    • @dt4654
      @dt4654 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I mean there are people who somehow manage to get with a partner who won't lift a finger and work despite being poor but that is rare since most people will dump them before any kids get in the picture.

    • @Aaaaaaa999-r3l
      @Aaaaaaa999-r3l 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      i remember in kindergarten being told by a lunch aid that my food was unhealthy and to ask my mom to pack me better food, it was all my family could afford because we were lower class and it made me feel like i was unhealthy and fat because of her

    • @rochellecraig1597
      @rochellecraig1597 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      When I was a teenager I took a Bun with a slice of meat in it for lunch everyday. My morning tea changed but refused to have anything else on my bun.

    • @hayleyhellbound9513
      @hayleyhellbound9513 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      My daughter has safe foods and has recently started opening up her food interests, but I hated the passive aggressive comments from her aides when her lunch was the same every day. Yes, I packed her a bag of goldfish with her main food everyday, because SHE’LL EAT IT.

  • @enbyoyo
    @enbyoyo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3045

    i think this really just comes down to classism. as a person who grew up in poverty i can tell u first hand how hard it is to eat healthy + spend a ton of time in the kitchen cooking AND take care of ur kids full time when you have no assistance, when you're a single mother, and people around u are shaming u 24/7 for something u cant help (being poor Especially as a single mother) just makes me sad that instead of maybe helping this woman out financially (or even by recommending cheap healthy recipes) in order to get fresher healthier ingredients, they resort to fat shaming and being classist. which really helps no one and probably just makes this mothers life harder

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +125

      Instant stuff or stuff that can be cooked easily (like spam) was our always to-go because were raised by a single Mom who was out of town (plus my older sisters raising us, one working while one was still in High school). Of course I can look back on it now and be like "well this cause my sugar addiction" or "wish I ate better", but the reality was there wasn't really anytime for anyone to cook or provide that healthier replacements. When our Mom did cook (which is mostly on her days off, if she isn't sleeping) it be something that can be saved and use as a leftover for a while. I wouldn't say she was the greatest Mom, but the last thing I'm going to complain about is "well she could had provided better food for us" ☠.

    • @enbyoyo
      @enbyoyo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

      @@TabbyWithMittens yea exactly how i view my childhood too she did the best she could with the tools she had. the food was never the healthiest by any means when i was young but shes definitely gotten better over the years and tries to commit to a healthier lifestyle (im 21 now) i love her more than anything :) i think ppl need to give poor single moms some credit bc they usually really are trying its just not the best circumstances they are given

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@enbyoyo We are in a better position now too plus being an adult now myself (24) I know I can make these choices myself too. I'm kind of a picky person, but luckily I am finding ways to make better choices.

    • @lynnboartsdye1943
      @lynnboartsdye1943 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Can relate! As a kid my mom barely had the energy to make a healthy supper for us and eating out was very often the next best thing. My sibling and I didn’t really have any education regarding our nutrition so what was healthy was the furthest thing on our minds which in part contributed to bullying from being overweight and later health problems as adults. Do I wish maybe we had a better nutritional starting point? Yeah but you can’t blame your parent if they were earnestly trying their best at the time and didn’t always have the best information. If fresh produce and other foods that aren’t heavily processed were affordable or even free and we all had access to nutritional education then I like to imagine this wouldn’t be a problem. Hope you’re having a good day!

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      @@lynnboartsdye1943 Yeah I'm sure manyyyyy parents would preferred to get healthy stuff for their kids, I bet some of them feel guilty over it too, but it's just how things work out. Doesn't help actual healthy stuff that isn't over processed tend to expire so easily. I have to learn that myself.
      A couple times I got something like carrots (I like baby carrots, but it's always in BIG bulks/bags, can't buy something smaller) or something like apples and I get shocked how fast it can go bad.

  • @purplelily7764
    @purplelily7764 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3505

    Love that dietician coming out and saying Y’ALL you realize your feeding your kids the same thing right

    • @LaNoir.
      @LaNoir. 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +227

      Nah man that's an american thing, I can guarantee you the rest of the world is shocked by both the influencer and the "I hate my life" mom
      Especially the comment abt how "poor people can't buy veg and make things look aesthetic" made me angry. Most cereals and pre-packaged food is way more expensive than bananas and apples. They just don't like the taste. That's it. Sugar and fat and sugar, they don't have any clue about a healthy diet or how to cook. And that's not a money issue. Information is out there in the internet and most veg is cheap. If you show emotions while interacting with your child that suggest you hope it drowns in it's cereal bowl, that's not a money issue. Veg is cheap, education is everywhere, love is free. Don't blame circumstances and others for those shortcomings.

    • @L83467
      @L83467 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

      @@LaNoir. i do think there are systemic issues at play here but i cant believe people are essentially denying that basic healthy food (not bougie stuff) is cheaper. im not from america but i just did a quick comparison (using the us prices on the target and walmart websites) between the breakfast of 3 donettes and a motts applesauce pouch vs 2 slices of whole wheat bread with peanut butter and a banana. the donettes meal came to $1.02 and the toast meal came to $0.54. the healthy food would actually save her money and is also just as easy to prepare

    • @TheHestya
      @TheHestya 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +167

      @@LaNoir. As a fellow non-American I think we also need to be aware of the food situation in America before having any comments on how people feed their children. America DOES have food deserts, which is areas where fresh produce is non-existent and all you have is tinned, pre-packaged, processed stuff, and not the biggest choice in what's there. America also has processed foods way cheaper than fresh produce in areas where it's available. I don't know if that's the case everywhere in America, but it is the case in many places. And buying pre-made, super processed chicken nuggets is for a lot of Americans way cheaper than making any meal from scratch. We can not judge their choices by what our prices and availability are. We have to look at theirs. The reality is that America is processed food central. If we just compare white bread, what I will find anywhere in Europe (and what you will likely find where you are if it's not Europe) will 100% be better and healthier than any bread an American could possibly find in USA. Their bread is sweet. They add corn syrup to everything, including basic bread. The only way to eat healthy in America would be to eat fresh veggies and fruits, because buying anything at all that doesn't look like it came from the ground or tree, or bush, will be processed, will have sugar and make you hungrier as a result. So you can consume more.

    • @TheHestya
      @TheHestya 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

      @@L83467 Their bread has sugar in it, their pb has sugar in it. So your wholemeal pb and banana sandwich becomes a sugary pile of sugar very easily.

    • @L83467
      @L83467 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      @@TheHestya sure, but really not that much sugar. that peanut butter and banana sandwich only has 3.3 grams of added sugar, and 8.3 grams of fibre (i used the nutritional information from the walmart great value brand). how is less than a teaspoon of sugar a 'sugary pile of sugar'? for reference, 3 donettes have 14g of added sugar and 1g of fibre. as i said in my earlier comment, the sandwich is so much healthier and also cheaper

  • @mariahnicole9906
    @mariahnicole9906 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3200

    The think about that girl making her kids food completely from scratch is wild to me cause by the time she finishes making breakfast, it’s lunch time lmao those kids are starving 😂 there’s always something to critique ofc. Truly as long as the kids are full and loved who cares.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

      I see you don't cook. Scrambled eggs take 5 minutes tops and can cool down a little while fruits are washed and cut up, another five minutes, and you can have maybe some toast in the toaster while doing all that. So ten minutes total. You take for granted all our modern day conveniences. Even then, before that, food and laundry were still somehow done.

    • @Sunshineattacks3
      @Sunshineattacks3 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +450

      @@lainiwakura1776 I feel like you didn’t read the comment. She was referring to the woman in the video that made the bread and the peanut butter and jelly all from scratch, which would’ve taken hours

    • @letyv9071
      @letyv9071 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

      @@Sunshineattacks3they are a troll

    • @letyv9071
      @letyv9071 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      I think she makes a batch but even that time is a luxery😭

    • @SirHorned19
      @SirHorned19 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      @@Sunshineattacks3 And would all have been prepared in advance... Do you people not understand planning?

  • @bellemoore9534
    @bellemoore9534 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3852

    "What's classy if you're rich and trashy if you're poor?"
    EVERYTHING.

    • @vespernight4236
      @vespernight4236 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

      Man I'm genz, but I remember my mom always getting upset when I tore holes in my jeans at the knees bc 'if you re wear them you will look poor' (well ma, we WERE poor lol)
      But then by highschool ripped jeans with holes the size of someone's thighs are all fashionable and 1.5x the price of non ripped jeans. I never understood it. Never will, same as pre dirty sneakers and ppl buying working brand clothes like dickies and carhart just to look like they're working class.

    • @lonesavior
      @lonesavior 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      Even substance abuse, somehow.

    • @meIatonin
      @meIatonin 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lonesaviora model on coke is heroine chic, a normal person on drugs is a crackhead

    • @theinvisiblewoman5709
      @theinvisiblewoman5709 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lonesavior
      White: addiction is a sickness
      Black/brown: drug dealers and drug mules
      At least this is how the media portrays illicit drugs in the US

    • @melissamraidi-kechichian7759
      @melissamraidi-kechichian7759 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Speaking two languages, hard drugs, having 6 kids (…)

  • @AhsetofAtum
    @AhsetofAtum 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2380

    The second mom was in the kitchen making that PB&J for at least 3-4 hours? Where was her child during all of this? Obviously someone is watching her kids for her while she spends all day cooking in the kitchen, esp. since you don't even hear the daughter in the background during any of the clips so she's not nearby.

    • @dicksdrugsanddebutantes9305
      @dicksdrugsanddebutantes9305 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +347

      Also makes me wonder what the poor girl ended up eating for breakfast instead since it took 5 hours for the sandwich.

    • @silverghostcat1924
      @silverghostcat1924 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know it's petty but I find her voice incredibly annoying. And geez Louise her kid could pass out from hypoglycemia by the time she had any meal ready.

    • @ih2439
      @ih2439 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +249

      Apparently these people have perfect little robot children who never demand to be held or who won’t accidentally kill themselves if they’re unsupervised for more than a few minutes.

    • @purrari1477
      @purrari1477 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      theres probably another parent

    • @lovelymill
      @lovelymill 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ih2439 i bet they have a nanny

  • @asteriaaa16
    @asteriaaa16 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1249

    that fact tat social media has convinced us there are only two ways to parent is insane

    • @LyssieLysse
      @LyssieLysse 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

      The fact that social media is showing folks how to parent is mind blowing. As a society we are screwed 😬

    • @free_duh7066
      @free_duh7066 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Convinced who? I'm on social media for entertainment. Not life lessons lol

    • @cvyyjg
      @cvyyjg 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@free_duh7066 Exactly 😂🤝

  • @chubbyduumpling
    @chubbyduumpling 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +510

    what’s crazy to me is the snack drawer restocks. people praise it but it’s crazy. i grew up kinda lower class and everything my parents fed me was out of a package. but they did not let me eat some of that stuff in that drawer!

    • @Princessm1320
      @Princessm1320 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      Same!! When I was little I was not allowed to have sunny d or cosmic brownies since they were unhealthy and I was raised by a single mom.

    • @Nekoszowa
      @Nekoszowa 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Also I refuse to believe that family eats all of that... Imagine the amount of food wasted due to expiration date because there's no way you or your child eat that sht on daily basis considering her fingers were literal sticks.

  • @spookypotatolady9097
    @spookypotatolady9097 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +964

    Still can't wrap myself around the fact that recording yourself doing mundane daily tasks is a thing.

    • @cuteDRAGO
      @cuteDRAGO 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      It's great cuz U could potentially earn money by doing something U were gonna do anyways

    • @hoorayitsjackie6166
      @hoorayitsjackie6166 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      I agree. The cleaning, the eating, the shopping, all of it. like who cares. Just live your life. Sometimes when I see the super edited ones I think about how a 20 minute task was turned into a 2 hour task because they had to set up each shot and check it and record each one and then edit the video. Is this really how you want to spend your time? Will any of this matter a few years from now? When you look back on your videos will you have precious memories of basic stuff that isn’t memorable anyway?

    • @spookypotatolady9097
      @spookypotatolady9097 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      @@hoorayitsjackie6166 That's it exactly - "Is this really how you want to spend your time?" Setting up your kitchen so that it looks nice on camera while making a sandwich, making a sandwich while filming, editing footage of you making a sandwich, worrying about how you look while making a sandwich, and waiting for external feedback on how other people enjoyed watching you make a sandwich. Isn't life exhausting enough as it is?

    • @sydneyj7560
      @sydneyj7560 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Why'd I have to scroll so far to find this comment??? Like yeah, let's not be classiest, but also why do you think anyone wants to watch you silently open a bag of donuts and chop them with a spoon???????? 😭😭😭😭

    • @spookypotatolady9097
      @spookypotatolady9097 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@sydneyj7560 Is this not the content we crave? 🤣

  • @okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
    @okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3904

    She's not posting videos of her kids herself so shes already 1000% better than so many ~aesthetic~ mommy influencers. Also let people be "ugly" online, I'm dead serious about this.

    • @M0bZ0Mb13
      @M0bZ0Mb13 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +135

      I don't disagree about the posting kids online thing but I 100% disagree with everything else! It's not about her being "not atheistically pleasing." The fact is that according to the FDA a child CANNOT HAVE processed sugar until at THE VERY LEAST the age of two years old, and it is highly recommended to wait until they are THREE YEARS OLD before introducing ANY processed sugar or heavily processed foods into their diet. This should be no way shape or form be considered "more realistic" or "normal!" It's not about "food shaming" or "overcriticizeing parenting choices," people need to realize this isn't normal, or at the very least shouldn't be! This mother is just spoiling her kids rotten while neglecting their actual needs which seems to be a big trend in today's society with all these ipad babies and it's completely heartbreaking. And for all the people saying that it's "more realistic" because normal people don't have the money or time to make a pp&j from scratch, your point is not valid. Donuts aren't cheap and neither is buying an ENTIRE BAG of marshmallows for each child you have! This woman has money, she makes money from her videos and gets TONS of views! I grew up homeless and my mother never gave me or my 5 siblings donuts for breakfast because for one, she cared about our health, and for two that wasn't even in our price range! She would make us rice cereal or pancakes, that is called a cheap breakfast. And if time is the issue give your baby a banana and a gogurt! There are so so so many easy breakfast foods that are actually healthy! There is literally no excuse for this behavior unless literally all you have is donuts because they were donated to you and you need to fill your kids belly. I hate these people defending her because in reality you are either just trying to defend yourself because you're a mediocre parent at best, or you don't even have kids like this guy and didn't do any research whatsoever before trying to normalize blatant neglect. If it was really about ascetics than people wouldn't be trying for so many years to get mom influencers like Ruby Frankie behind bars. It doesn't matter if you're a ritch skinny white woman who lives in a beige manson and your entire house looks like an Instagram feed, if your kid is eating donuts for breakfast people are going to point out that that's horrible parenting.

    • @LockhartLore
      @LockhartLore 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@M0bZ0Mb13 This is misinformation - at the very least, it's vast overinflation and tunnel-vision of actually solid health advice. It's not that toddlers cannot have sugar point blank, it's that they shouldn't have it because 1. it has the possibility of setting them up to prefer sweet things to healthy things and 2. more sugar can sometimes mean less nutrients. However, it is classist to be totalitarian about this. Point blank. You cannot go to the store and find very many affordable breakfast options that do not contain sugar. If you can, congratulations for not living in a food desert. I've lived in a city that had nothing more than a dollar general, and you best believe the breakfast shelf was just pop tarts and donuts. If you wanted fresh produce, you had to go far. The fancy Wholefoods selections? Not happening. God forbid you have a job or no transportation, which is also a reality for many. The bottom line is, no, this isn't normal. But stop being a see you next tuesday to the people who have nothing to do with it. Start shouting at the companies who lobby to keep this cycle going. Rich or poor, we're all victims to the junk food epidemic.

    • @CassilovesMocha
      @CassilovesMocha 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

      @M0bZ0Mb13 are you okay? To rant in run-on sentences, in multiple different threads, alll bc your "mom was poor and didn't feed ME donuts." Wondering, if it's possible for you be any more self-absorbed. Good for you. Good for your mother.
      You are literally insane if you think feeding a child DONUTS for breakfast, is "blatant neglect."
      The fact that you claim people have been "trying for years to be like Ruby Franke" is super worrisome ON YOUR PART. Because EVERYONE I watch, have been calling Ruby on her bullshit, FOR YEARS.
      Just because someone can feed their child, homemade food, in comparison to someone who feeds their child processed food, does not change or affect how much they care and love their child.
      If you think the type of food, is more important than the parent supporting their child, you need to get off your high horse, & take a deep, hard look at yourself.

    • @M0bZ0Mb13
      @M0bZ0Mb13 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      @@CassilovesMocha did you not read the part about the FDA? We're not just talking about a child here, that's bad enough but we're talking about a baby

    • @clairisha
      @clairisha 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      she does post her kids tho...

  • @vertanishock7900
    @vertanishock7900 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1731

    6:52 as a former amish, ma'am your kids are hungry, you should have leftover jam from the last canning. FEED YOUR HUNGRY KIDS

    • @Narangarath
      @Narangarath 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +258

      And she wasn't even actually making jam, looked like she used a starch to thicken it, so I'd call it a "raspberry spread" instead. Not to knock it, it's just a different product which won't keep long in the fridge unlike actual jam, although you definitely can freeze it. Which brings me to the fact that anyone who makes all or most of their food from scratch never makes small batches of anything that can be prepared and then stored (freeze, dry, brine etc) for later, so I would bet good money that mom does not only feed her kids made from scratch food.

    • @dealwithit9772
      @dealwithit9772 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      Exactly what I was thinking and as someone who was excited to have home made bread you can't just cut it fresh from the oven. I mean you can, but it's not fun.

    • @bosmer3836
      @bosmer3836 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I thought it was powdered sugar

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      She has everything prepped and that kid eats what mom decides to feed her. It just doesn't sell as well as 'my kid wanted pbj so I spent 3 hours making everything from scratch to the tune of a toddler's unhappy stomach grumbles'.

    • @dokessezeaka5159
      @dokessezeaka5159 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She said they had snacks whilst they waited

  • @jamie1602
    @jamie1602 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1260

    People would have hated my mother when I was small. I didn't like breakfast foods because let's face it, even the "healthy" options are a little on the sweet side. I'd scream and pull at my face and head. So she'd often run to McDonalds to get me an Egg McMuffin. It was the only thing I could stomach for a very long time until we figured out I had actual diagnosed migraines. Not just "bad headaches". And strong tastes and artificial sugar (too much and I'm gone for the day) were a huge trigger.
    But the thing is, you have to feed a child. Going hungry isn't acceptable. She had to run this by the doctor because... I just was not eating. It was doctor approved!
    This helped me learn to love eggs and other more savory breakfast foods which are still my choice today. I can better tolerate sweeter foods now, but just barely.
    I can only imagine how many people would try to ridicule my mother for trying to help a child who was screaming in pain after eating certain foods and we could settle on one item that we knew wouldn't hurt me, all because it came out of McDonald's.

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

      Same here. Most times my brother and I were raised on processed stuff. Instantly cook stuff too. It wasn’t healthy, but with the limited money, raising four kids, and being a single mom who worked in the morning, it’s very limited. My sisters took over raising too when older so they just did fast stuff for us, spam being our go to lul.
      My brother and I only really ate poptarts before leaving for school (our breakfast).
      Now older I have to make healthier choices myself, it’s kind of hard to undo being attached to sweetness, but I’m just happy to be alive and know how hard it was for my Mom.

    • @stacki1040
      @stacki1040 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      I had a similar situation for a long time. Ate hot dogs almost every day when I was little b/c there was almost nothing else my parents could get me to eat. Unhealthy diet is better than watching your kid starve because you want them to eat healthy. Although to cut everyone a little slack, a 30-second tiktok might not be enough to have that sort of context/if it is or isn't that kind of situation.

    • @hennigadient4265
      @hennigadient4265 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      just a question: And why exactly could she make a egg sandwitch het self? its egg and bread ... no mc needed for that. Was ther something special about the mc that was needed?

    • @cutecats532
      @cutecats532 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      ​@@hennigadient4265dollar sandwich you know works vs making a small child wait longer for a messy egg on toast that might not work because "McDonald's bad." Really the bad things at McDonald's are the sugary drinks and the deep fried stuff. I guess also the fact the lettuce doesn't go bad....

    • @alzbetabaldovska360
      @alzbetabaldovska360 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Omg migraines as a child? I'm so sorry and I hope you're doing better now 😔

  • @liberty_mutual
    @liberty_mutual 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +631

    theres a difference between feeding your kids sugary, greasy, unhealthy foods for every meal and treating your kids to a yummy treat or snack occasionally

    • @EpicBeno
      @EpicBeno 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +139

      the donut mom is really setting her kids up to failure, they've developed a sugar addiction before they even developed consciousness, she can barely take care of herself and made an irresponsible decision to have three kids

    • @Autism_moment_of_all_time
      @Autism_moment_of_all_time 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

      Tue fact the comments don't understand that is crazy

    • @robokill387
      @robokill387 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I mean, yeah, but it isn't any worse than most American breakfast cereals, yet they're accepted.

    • @hugs3385
      @hugs3385 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      @@robokill387bro nobody who has even the slightest hint of sentience thinks american breakfast cereals are okay

    • @adalindenau5035
      @adalindenau5035 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@hugs3385 and yet kids keep eating them anyway, so somebody must

  • @msSweeTae
    @msSweeTae 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +717

    I'm so thankful for the dietitian saying what she said.
    My mom barely gave us something like cereals and such. She always said: "it's candy sold as breakfast"

    • @msSweeTae
      @msSweeTae 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      *I'm aware that there are sugarfree options, but who actually like them, especially as a child🙈

    • @junkerburn2341
      @junkerburn2341 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      man i feel you on the "healthy" cereal thing, cant stomach cornflakes without a couple sugar packets on top lol, they're so bland otherwise! (but with a little sugar on top the crunchy texture is pretty nice actually, cornflakes are good but not all that filling)

    • @nanananananananana00
      @nanananananananana00 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      my family has a thing for Grape Nuts and i HATEEEEE them so much omg, even the smell makes me sick because i never liked it but had to eat it as a kid 😂

    • @jocelynhunter2359
      @jocelynhunter2359 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My Mum was obsessed with cornflakes. So much that she let us try anything to eat them. We used to eat them with thickened cream and chocolate drops at one point.

    • @gwennorthcutt421
      @gwennorthcutt421 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      im reminded of a blog post i read many years ago, about the writer saying that she ate the crappy carrot sticks at her school dining hall with ranch. she would never skip the ranch even if it'd be ""healthier"" bc without it she just wouldn't eat carrot sticks. the nutrition doesnt cancel out so if shes eating the carrots who care how? and thats why i like my super thick oatmeal with brown sugar and cinnamon

  • @tacticalmisandrist
    @tacticalmisandrist 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2093

    “Who let me, a child, raise a child?”
    Scientologists. That’s who.

    • @-xxMelissaxx-
      @-xxMelissaxx- 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Incoming weird scientology cult belief - They don't "believe" in children as children. They think of them as adults in small bodies that contain thetans who are capable as the same responsibilities as adults.
      Super problematic in various ways.

    • @redstoner5614
      @redstoner5614 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

      Please i need to know the context of this,im so confused

    • @user-hr1hf4kb4i
      @user-hr1hf4kb4i 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too ​@@redstoner5614

    • @swored.
      @swored. 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@redstoner5614they are

    • @nickih1267
      @nickih1267 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@swored. wdym

  • @froggo130
    @froggo130 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +575

    I have been on both sides of the argument. My family grew up broke which meant emergency beans and almost losing our home. There were days when working two jobs just to put food on the table would push my parents to their breaking point. They were tired, they were grouchy, of course, they wouldn't be smiling while their three kids screeched and ran about throwing playdough into the carpet. As my parents continued to work their butts off we were blessed to finally live in a comfortable and spacious home with a huge yard. Now my parents do have the time to bake two-hour PB and j to their heart's content. We do not know everyone's story, which is why kindness is such a needed thing these days.

    • @tikusblue
      @tikusblue 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      Beans are much better than powdered donuts and apple sauce pouches! Also the thing I don't get is everyone's assuming the mother is extremely poor, but based on what? She can afford all those juice packets and things that aren't necessarily that cheap and juice is always kind of a splurge purchase? Its not an essential. Regardless I agree there's no need to hate and people can be so cruel. They could just give her some helpful feedback or tips instead on what to make that would be better

    • @EmL-kg5gn
      @EmL-kg5gn 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      To be fair, not everyone who gets a lovely visit from poverty has the skill of living frugally. Or the time, energy, community, and other resources to do so. And even if they do have all that learning new skills while you’re stressed out is super difficult!!

    • @mastershake3040
      @mastershake3040 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      The woman feeding her baby is a stay at home mom with 2 kids. She doesn't work. Also those damn hostess donuts can't seriously be considered a budget friendly meal. You can buy a box of cereal for BABIES that is the same price and is actually healthy. I mean we can't just ignore that she is teaching her kid extremely unhealthy habits and addictions so young. Yes the PBJ woman is annoying ASF, but it doesn't subtract from the nasty cooking the other mom does. Like poor ppl aren't bad cooks just bc they're poor. Bad cooks are bad cooks. And junk food eaters are junk food eaters. My friend from HS grew up pretty well off and he always had those gross snacks. He was fat from it and now has an obsession with losing weight and working out. His unhealthy habits transferred over to another unhealthy habit. Also you can buy an entire bag of apples for like 3.50, canned peas carrots or any vegetable really for like 2 dollars a can. This woman clearly doesn't want to spend the time to buy good food for her kid. She probably doesn't want to budget either bc it takes effort. I stopped buying junk food for MYSELF bc it was making my bill too expensive at the grocery store. Why are we enabling this behavior lmao

    • @LM.312
      @LM.312 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@tikusblueI think the problem is that with parenting videos, people are so quick to crucify a parent for not being perfect 24/7. So she gave her baby a powdered donut breakfast. You didn’t care to say anything until you saw something you could criticize. Who’s to say that that’s not a once in a blue moon type of thing? I think society is over dramatic. The baby will survive, and she has plenty of adequately healthy meals. Y’all get on your high horses bc she was fed a donut ONE morning, give me a break lmao

    • @shavonyawade1152
      @shavonyawade1152 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I completely get it. My financial situation has been up and down my whole life. It was good for several years and then covid. I've been struggling ever since but my wardrobe is still from my better times.
      All that being said, where I grew up there is a dented can store that also sells other products that are close to expiring like bread and oh my goodness!!! Hostess powdered donuts. There is also the Wonder bread day old bread store. So, for all anyone knows she didn't pay full price for that stuff. And please, why can't you give a kid a treat like you give yourself a treat. I know I have donuts for breakfast occasionally. I have since I was a kid.

  • @felucca
    @felucca 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    8:28 One year olds typically haven't gotten picky about food yet - this is actually the prime age to get them used to eating a lot of different (and good) things, BEFORE the pickiness kicks in! Which happens around age 2, and reeeeally kicks into gear around 3-4, after which it slowly, slowly gets better again (until they're an adult eating donuts for breakfast, of course)

    • @chewy9936
      @chewy9936 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Not really. My cousin was super picky when she was one. She would spit the food out that her mom would give her for lunch. She was super picky about rice and pulses

  • @magdalenehagey4079
    @magdalenehagey4079 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1135

    "Technically it's the same thing, they're feeding their kids donuts, in different fonts"
    💀💀💀

    • @momentsformoms9467
      @momentsformoms9467 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      Yeah but one seems like she feeds her kids trash everyday, and the other one was more of a treat. Idk I don’t watch either of them but that’s how it comes off.

    • @nyandoesthings
      @nyandoesthings 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      @@momentsformoms9467why does it come off that way? because one of them is poor?

    • @momentsformoms9467
      @momentsformoms9467 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@nyandoesthings because the first kid didn’t seem want it,grabbed the applesauce first. The other kids were excited which typically means it’s something they don’t get often.

    • @bitchandbark
      @bitchandbark 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      ​@@momentsformoms9467what exactly is trash. Banana bread? A serving size of mini donuts and applesauce? Those are both perfectly fine things for kids to eat. I would rather a kid be able to enjoy fruits, veggies and sweet things and have a good relationship with food than sugar become a novelty they see as a treat and scarf down when they see it.

    • @changjinius1499
      @changjinius1499 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      ​@@nyandoesthingsshe's literally not poor tho. She makes money and has entire Amazon wishlist that is packed with sugar high foods with nothing nutritional in sight. She simply does not care. She also has two other partners and her children's other parent that help her with the children.

  • @Aaarandom
    @Aaarandom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1046

    Are these parents seriously trying to tell me their kid asked for something and then had to wait hours to eat so it could be pretty??

    • @spinelessdevil
      @spinelessdevil 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Not even burger King would hire her

    • @espeon871
      @espeon871 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      @@spinelessdevilshes a runway model with generational wealth she doesnt need burger king money 😭

    • @Strawation
      @Strawation 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      some kids wake up and blank out for around 1 hour+. not doing anything but staring at you and maybe taking a second or third 5-minute nap. Her children could be like that but we'll never know because it's fun to keep us all guessing

    • @normalaboutpathologic
      @normalaboutpathologic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      "mommy needs the views, kaightlynn, so shut up about being hungry"

  • @MompreneurDiary
    @MompreneurDiary 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    Also don't forget that these same pancake Nutella cereal brands were telling you that eggs would give you high cholesterol and that bacon would give you heart attacks

    • @agatamazur9810
      @agatamazur9810 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      I won't stand for the egg slander. Eggs are godsend

  • @lanneko726
    @lanneko726 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Here I am grew up without my mom ever made breakfast for me, and people criticized poor moms who make sure to feed their child fully. My family wasn't poor anyways, but neglect is going to school with empty belly and without love

  • @F00tsie
    @F00tsie 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +344

    RIP kid waiting for that PB&J

    • @thecoolintroverttv8381
      @thecoolintroverttv8381 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stop being stupid 😊

    • @KatieDe_G
      @KatieDe_G 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Dude the kid isn't even hanging out w her mom while she's cooking. The mom cares about views, not her kid

    • @HopeGardner3amed
      @HopeGardner3amed 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Who wants to bet that she had already made everything a few days prior and just wanted to show how to make it? ✋️

  • @clarabp2613
    @clarabp2613 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +496

    It all boils down to the classic: if you are hot and pretty it's fine but if you are not it's the worst thing in the world

    • @namedrop721
      @namedrop721 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      You misspelled *rich* darlin. World ain’t got no problem hating on pretty poor folks ‘such a waste’ etc

    • @clarabp2613
      @clarabp2613 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      @@namedrop721 I disagree. Remember the hot criminal mugshot?
      Now, you also have a point because being rich and pretty are usually together because if you are rich you usually have more time to take care of yourself, access to the best food and procedures and less stress.

    • @Aadhitiya
      @Aadhitiya 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@clarabp2613 and also that if you are pretty, it will improve your social standing and help you network yourself into more richer circles

    • @JustAGuySlayingDragons
      @JustAGuySlayingDragons 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There's nothing wrong with being pretty but to excuse crime because of their looks is just hell naw

    • @DeviantDespot
      @DeviantDespot 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No it is because it is obvious the slob woman feeds that to herself as well and doesn't see what is wrong with feeding kids that.

  • @LouisaWatt
    @LouisaWatt 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +453

    As someone dealing with insulin resistance, I HATE the breakfast industry. Cereal has ruined my life

    • @rosystrawberry
      @rosystrawberry 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      Same. It's just so sad that it's easier to afford unhealthy foods more than anything remotely healthy. And I'm a diabetic, so it's either, don't eat it and go hungry. Eat very little and be hungry. Or eat a until I'm full and take a lot of insulin.
      I just want a salad but I can't even get that. 100 a week for one single salad a day. All store brand, with coupons, three vegetables including the spinach, and a single bottle of dressing.
      It's so ridiculous, and even more ridiculous when people just act like it's so easy to just magically afford it. The system is rigged to make sure the poor stays poor because I have yet to touch how people can't afford to make any more money because then they will lose the little help they have to jump though a billion hoops to get.

    • @LouisaWatt
      @LouisaWatt 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      @@rosystrawberry food is crazy expensive now and our lifestyles are too exhausting to cook every meal. I do ok with breakfast now by having a cold meat, cheese and avocado wrap with hot sauce, but during the week it’s hard to find affordable and timely options for lunch 🥗

    • @fburnsDubstepEnderFox
      @fburnsDubstepEnderFox 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      When I found out I had PCOS, I yeeted cereal from my diet. 😅

    • @lcr1141
      @lcr1141 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Tbh I developed a gluten intolerance and SAME. When people want to go out for breakfast and they all get these huge stacks of syrupy pancakes or Nutella French toast etc. and I'm over here with my eggs and if I'm lucky - an out of season fruit plate. Like why am I even paying for this. But most breakfast food would make me really sick, and apparently has been for a long time before I figured out what was wrong.

    • @louyou6614
      @louyou6614 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      In my country the standard breakfast is bread olive oil and à cup of tea .
      I used to be so jealous of tv kids who ate cereal everyday

  • @morganrae2614
    @morganrae2614 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    It's not even just classist (which it is) but also the difference between how people react to two of basically the same "trailer park feeding kids" videos based on their weight is incredible

  • @Summontha
    @Summontha 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    I think it's funny the way we like to imagine a Victorian child being handed a mountain dew, but if we were given their products I think we would be the ones getting folded. They were regularly eating things like chalk and/or aluminum bread and weed, chloroform, alcohol, with morphine in their cough syrup.
    Thank you for your critical thinking and kindness when viewing other people's lifestyles in their little clips. Very refreshing.

  • @richardwilhorst4589
    @richardwilhorst4589 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +761

    Morning? Ihop? Sir, you are confused. One does not eat the cupcake pancake for breakfast; but rather at 3am in a drunken stupor as you hold your tshirt as tightly as you can over the open wound you got from fighting your booth neighbor with a bar stool while waiting for the police to arrive. Geeze.

    • @M.Campbell-Sherwood
      @M.Campbell-Sherwood 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      You’d be surprised how many do actually eat that 💩 for breakfast.

    • @2MelissaSue
      @2MelissaSue 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Well, I'm guessing that it's because our dearest Edvasion is looking at the menu from an idealistic Canadian point of view whilst I am guessing you are a fellow American. 😉

    • @Leila3i5
      @Leila3i5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      Exactly. 3am in a drunken stupor like respectable human being. Where do they get these people? 🤣

    • @nyastalgiakitten
      @nyastalgiakitten 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      I eat like shit when I'm high and then wonder why I wake up with acid reflux as if I didn't smash a box of cosmic brownies before falling asleep

    • @ophilianecr
      @ophilianecr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      ​@nyastalgiakitten Hey! You need to be more inclusive, binge eaters and stress eaters also go through that!😂

  • @weirdguy4948
    @weirdguy4948 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    I feel like the answer to all of this is just buying some eggs.

    • @kagrimreaper
      @kagrimreaper 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      LMAOO REAL

  • @otakulys
    @otakulys 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +953

    I feel like I'm losing my mind here--am I the only one who thinks the first mom is peak satire? She's making a parody of all of the perfect, polished moms with their organic food. She's going in the other direction, which is more relatable in a funny way. I'm not a mom myself, so maybe I'd feel more passionate about a stranger feeding her child if I were, but it seems to me like people are just getting off on outrage.

    • @Leila3i5
      @Leila3i5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +173

      I thought she might be half relatable, half milking it for rage content. So I don't know. Sometimes the reality and satire are indistinguishable from the outside. Now if those plastic frisbee looking plates she was flopping onto the counter fell on the floor and she just chimed "5 second rule" before retrieving them and proceeding to slap the breakfast on it and hand over the to kid, I would be more confident which one it was. I hope.

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      She's not, a lot of parents are like that.

    • @promisemochi
      @promisemochi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

      she's not. she's checked out and neglectful and my heart breaks for her kids

    • @evelynwright329
      @evelynwright329 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

      ​@@promisemochihow is she neglectful? genuinely have no idea who this woman is beyond this drama.

    • @promisemochi
      @promisemochi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

      @@evelynwright329 she doesn't interact with her kids at all on camera. which...why? if you interact with them why post videos where you don't? in every video, she looks zoned out, her eyes are glazed over, she slaps their plates down at them like they're barn yard animals she's feeding vs. her babies. there's no singing to them, laughing with them, talking to them, interacting with them. there's no regard to what foods they can eat developmentally. she acts like even just placing food on a plate and putting it in front of them is a chore. kids can pick up on that. kids can pick up on parents who treat their basic needs like an imposition and its heartbreaking. not to mention the nutition. i am 30 and 150 lbs and i'd feel so, so sick if i ate powdered donuts. she gives them to a one year old. i've known parents like this. my childhood best friend was so obese she had to shop in women's plus in elementary school. her parents would only buy sugary gorceries. they had access to healthy things. they wouldn't buy them. they'd spend thousands on junk food and get mad at her for being "wasteful" if she didn't eat like they did. it's neglect.

  • @x_x753
    @x_x753 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2316

    the misogyny is strong with the “youre not smiling” and “you look like you hate your life.”
    friendly reminder that women dont need to smile more!

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

      I thought the same thing too! The moment I heard the "you're not smiling" gave me the icks. I think it's just a family thing (my sister and I do this), but we tend to make similar faces when focusing or thinking to ourselves. When I saw the first Mom I was like "huh reminds me of my sister". She often gets repeatable asked if she's upset, but no she's just thinking or focused. I do the same thing and had other family members say I look "angry". I'm not I swear I'm just focused ):

    • @Gottaknow
      @Gottaknow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      She isn't smiling. Read the comments, she acts like she hates her life and her kid. She sux as a parent!

    • @coyotemars5130
      @coyotemars5130 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      i mean, she should smile when her kids are present, and she isn’t… kids pick up on that sort of thing, you know.

    • @TabbyWithMittens
      @TabbyWithMittens 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

      @@coyotemars5130 I get all kids are different but as a kid I could tell whenever my Mom was forcing a smile or pretending to be happy around me. I rather not feel like a burden by forcing my parents feel happy around me all the time. Beside, it’s just clips, maybe she does smile off camera. Could be just focused and doesn’t smile when focused.
      That’s just my thoughts though.

    • @80HDTV333
      @80HDTV333 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

      Meanwhile, the "aesthetic" mom looks like she overdosed just before she started hand-rolling cereal, and she's just waiting for her sweet release to kick in.

  • @aabcc
    @aabcc 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +165

    4:30 before anyone freaks out about this, know that this woman does this ironically lol. The eyes closed, months for ages gets her engagement. And tbh shes so smart for that

  • @keepscrolling3652
    @keepscrolling3652 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Eggs,toast and bacon or turkey bacon are my usual go to but I understand the just grab a muffin and go mentality because sometimes you honestly don't have time.

  • @SebastianSeanCrow
    @SebastianSeanCrow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +952

    4:05 it doesn’t look like the kid even ate the donuts but they at the fruit packet. It gives very much “my child refuses to eat all but 4 things and I won’t allow them to starve”. Been there tbh

    • @EliSoza23
      @EliSoza23 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

      Same. I have a very picky eater and as long as she's not eating in excess. She can have whatever as long as she eats.

    • @bitchandbark
      @bitchandbark 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

      I don't understand why people are upset about 3 mini donuts and apple sauce. Even if she eats more than a few things it's perfectly fine for a kid to have sugar. She gave her a serving size too which is 3.

    • @intensestare5027
      @intensestare5027 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Yea my brother is like that, hes autistic and has like 4 safe foods

    • @witchykittyy
      @witchykittyy 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

      @@bitchandbark no, it’s really not “perfectly fine” for a child to have that much processed sugar

    • @deno9607
      @deno9607 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      ​@witchykittyy Let's see your medical license then.

  • @pokeyoureyeman2288
    @pokeyoureyeman2288 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +578

    Both moms looked bad. Donuts for breakfast isn't terrible, but her cooking could probably use work; And as a parent it's your responsibility to give your kid a healthy diet. The second mom is pretentious. Homemade stuff is really nice but she should have that shit prepped beforehand if she was serious. Like you know you're kids' are going to want pb&j and cereal. You can cook that stuff ahead of time and put it in a container.

    • @artheaux666
      @artheaux666 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

      OK this needs to be said but most likely she already made that peanut butter in advance and didn’t make her daughter wait. It’s just a storytelling in the video makes it seem that way because making bread does take a long time and she knows that. It’s just for the content.

    • @pokeyoureyeman2288
      @pokeyoureyeman2288 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      @@artheaux666 you're probably right. At least I hope so. I don't want to imagine that kid waiting hours for a pb&j.

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      It's not nice. Sugary jam, overly salted peanut butter, sandwiched between bread. That's not a breakfast, that's a dessert.

    • @cheonsa444
      @cheonsa444 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      You said it she’s pretentious, so are we really gonna believe her daughter asked for it when she is like in the point of starving, maybe she is just using that context to show how she prepares meal, and of crs the size of what she made isnt just for 2 slices and definitely stored for other uses lmao. In the end nothing wont pleases people like you. homemade is still the best than store bought. It can have the same sugar, but store bought have more chemicals to preserve the food so choose your battle lmao.

    • @pokeyoureyeman2288
      @pokeyoureyeman2288 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @@cheonsa444 I said what I said knowing that she probably did it for the video. Which is why I said she's pretentious.

  • @kagumiharuna7511
    @kagumiharuna7511 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +311

    I grow up poor but my parents always provide good and healthy food to compare with rich in my class, i am so grateful my parents always put their kids health first,

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      It's likely it's all they had available. I grew up so poor we used a horse to till the soil in which we grew our food. However if you're living in a city, you can't have fields of vegetables and a hog pen to sustain you off the land. You have poorly stocked grocery stores. It's very difficult to raise a healthy child in a poorly planned city whose grocery stores prioritise convenience over health. I wish people left that mother alone. We don't know why she feeds her kid the way she does and until we do, I think we should mind our own business.

    • @promisemochi
      @promisemochi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      @@Killjoy_Melgrocery stores and bell even gas stations have canned fruit and veggies and oatmeal and eggs. there's no excuse. none.

    • @hhaannnnaahh222
      @hhaannnnaahh222 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      same. i'm very lucky my parents did their best with what they had. fruit and vegetables and grains aren't generally that expensive, at least in the uk. being vegetarian maybe helped

    • @randomlyashy
      @randomlyashy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      @@promisemochihave you ever considered that person may not live in the same country as you? different countries have different supplies.

    • @promisemochi
      @promisemochi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@randomlyashyshe doesn't.

  • @CyberBliitz
    @CyberBliitz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I’ve seen AlexBaby before and I honestly like that her content is very real. I grew up with mostly younger cousins so donuts and applesauce is a realistic breakfast.
    Even when I was babysitting said cousins, it was just scrambled eggs and donuts.

  • @annft7550
    @annft7550 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    If my asian mom saw that many snacks stocked for kids, she'd have a seizure. Even I started hearing sirens in my head after seeing that.

  • @asthenamesuggests9513
    @asthenamesuggests9513 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +359

    As a poor-ish Asian.. I can sympathize with her but also wish that she'd have time to learn easy recipes.
    My parents took turns to make delicious vegetable stir-fry with some kind of cheap protein for flavor (egg or chicken or corned beef or spam). These dishes usually takes less than 30 minutes to whip up and that was while she/he was being "helped" (read: disturbed) me and my siblings 😂

    • @TheMonarchofGold
      @TheMonarchofGold 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Sure, the kids are disturbing you, but if they're trying to help in the kitchen you at least know where they are and that they're safe (important for a single parent)

    • @cmaven4762
      @cmaven4762 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      The thing with the donuts is as much cultural as it is anything else. Poorer homes in my part of the world would alternate between minced meats with grits/hominy and tea with bread. The emphasis on carb heavy breakfast has stuck, even though they are now mostly simple processed prepackaged versions of such foods.

    • @deno9607
      @deno9607 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I make my kids healthy food all the time. You know what they do? Leave in on the table untouched and ask for cereal 30 minutes later. I can't afford to keep wasting food and I won't give my kid a issues with food by forcing them soooooo. 🤷‍♀️ I'm literally about to give up.

    • @Graine01
      @Graine01 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      There is a thing called food desert, basically in some areas in US there are places where freshest vegable that is not in an hr drive is the letuce on mcdonalds burger.

    • @mukai__
      @mukai__ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      ​@@deno9607 This is when you become the parent, and guide and LEAD your children to eating what they have, and teach them how to be grateful for that. Make it into a lesson, show them a documentary on food scarcity. Make them a meal and don't BEND. They will thank you later. They might be hungry for a day or so trying to throw a fit.... but they'll eat when they are ready.
      Do not bend, because that's only teaching them bad habits and sugar addictions they will have a horrendous time kicking in the future. On top of that it teaches values.

  • @gracie20
    @gracie20 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +95

    I just can’t get over the second mom making food with those fluffy sleeves on. Keep imagining the feathers that end up in the food and haven’t gotten over it still at the end of the video lol

  • @mitsuya6860
    @mitsuya6860 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    “Atleast Sal, Ella and E Coli won’t be attending the party”😂

  • @VirtualRealibri
    @VirtualRealibri 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +307

    The way the lady smiles while making a cake gives stepford wife vibes. Somebody save her.

    • @joannewang86
      @joannewang86 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      It's satire, and hilarious too

    • @pokelolmc6826
      @pokelolmc6826 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I thought she was acting like some real life old-fashioned cartoon character lol.

    • @sweetLemonist
      @sweetLemonist 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      The 42 months balloons weren't a hint that she's sarcastic?

  • @honeybee347
    @honeybee347 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +261

    That pb&j must be a parody. I was so grossed out with cooking with that fur cuff. You would be finding black fur and anything in those cuffs in all the stuff she 'cooked'.

    • @sparrowskeleton1831
      @sparrowskeleton1831 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

      I keep seeing her videos on Twitter and people are saying that her and her husband are really wealthy. Most likely she’s making these cooking videos just for the aesthetic while a nanny takes care of her children and/or a chef prepares their meals.

    • @Aerials135
      @Aerials135 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      yeah, there's no way her kid asked for a pb&j and she was actually like "ok just give me a few hours" lmao. i'm pretty sure even aesthetic moms aren't starving their children

    • @Justcetriyaart
      @Justcetriyaart 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@sparrowskeleton1831you can tell by her kitchen

    • @sadegodfrey4738
      @sadegodfrey4738 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

      @@sparrowskeleton1831They're not just any type of wealthy: they're both models, Mormon, and she's even being sponsored by Kitchen Aid. That girl has not had to clean up baby puke once in her life, and it shows by how she kneads dough wearing fur-trimmed gowns and stacks of rings.
      The whole thing is Mormon propaganda to convince teenagers and YAs that being married and having 3 kids at age 20 is actually a really solid, could-never-go-wrong, aesthetically-pleasing type of life choice for people who aren't abismally rich.

    • @sparrowskeleton1831
      @sparrowskeleton1831 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sadegodfrey4738 It’s so sad because it’s really easy for young women and teens to fall for this kind propaganda and aspire to be a young SAHM where they don’t have careers, money, property, education, support, or resources.
      There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a SAHM but, leisure and actually being able to stay at home with your children is becoming a commodity reserved for the wealthy. Most households need more than a dual income marriage in order to stay afloat and the cost of living is increasing every year. People who actually want traditional gender roles need to think long and hard about what’s doable for them.
      I saw a video yesterday about a Mormon woman in her 40s who regrets marrying at 19 because she eventually divorced her husband and was left with nothing. Her ex-husband found a loophole where he didn’t have to pay alimony (despite being a millionare) and he essentially stole her money and businesses because she was taught a man should handle all finances while she focuses on child rearing. She’s struggling to find work and a way to support herself.

  • @LimewirePirate
    @LimewirePirate 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    I cook most of my son's meals and try to limit processed and sugary food as much as possible. He gets proteins, grains, fruits, and veggies daily. He doesn't drink milk, but eats other dairy products. One of my mom friends disagrees with my feeding style, even though he eats everything I feed him. So you're right. Even if a parent feeds their child the "right" way, there's definitely a parent who will find something wrong.

    • @LaNoir.
      @LaNoir. 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      what exactly does she disagree with, this seems like selective information

    • @avelynn5976
      @avelynn5976 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      that's how the world is. people will always disagree with something no matter what it is that you're doing. but that doesn't change the fact that you have a responsibility to do what's right for your children.

  • @rainnanderson1167
    @rainnanderson1167 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

    “Sometimes dessert is the only thing you have in your fridge. It’s better than eating nothing!” This is everything thank you!!! Instantly subscribed when you said this

    • @leobe2104
      @leobe2104 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I don't know how much the mom feeds her kids the things she showed, if it's just sometimes and only bc she can't get anything else then it's fine, but if she does this regularly and even tho she could do better, then some of the criticism is deserved

    • @sillysumi
      @sillysumi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@leobe2104 i agree :D

  • @Bagelbusters
    @Bagelbusters 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +96

    I’m an Asian person and almost had a stroke looking at all the pancake options on screen. Although my breakfast wasn’t much better. When I was a kid I’d eat shit like Maruchan Instant ramen and call it a day. As a teenager I just wouldn’t eat breakfast nor lunch. Honestly while these kids could be eating much better, I appreciate making the effort.

    • @FFF-xz6wn
      @FFF-xz6wn 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Men. I had eat a cup of tea and one cookie for breakfast, sometimes it was just bread and butter. No one cooked for me.

    • @hypothalapotamus5293
      @hypothalapotamus5293 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      What is a scientifically motivated but near zero effort breakfast?
      Grabs toast, pours some beans on it.
      Commenters: That is disgusting.

  • @download351
    @download351 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +650

    I mean, every now and then? Sure. I have three kids. Parenting is exhausting. But every single meal she puts up comes from a packet. There is rarely any suitable amount of fresh fruit and vegetables in their diet.
    Donuts aren't breakfast no matter who's serving them. They're a snack and that's fine. My kids have snacks like that too. But SNACKS. Not whole entire meal consisting of powdered donuts.

    • @WeirdSnakeGal
      @WeirdSnakeGal 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

      Yeah that was my thought too. It looks like that is all she feeds her rather than every now and then, but again it's the Internet so we don't know what really happens.

    • @roccafille
      @roccafille 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      This!!

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +129

      Assuming that she lives anywhere near a place where you can get affordable fresh fruit. This is what poverty is like, chief. I don't know it, I come from an European country that was mostly agricultural just 33 years ago so the fresh veg culture still exists, and the country's so tiny that you can't swing a dead cat without slapping a store with fresh veg in it, but I moved to a different country, into a proper metropolis recently, and listen. For me to get fresh fruit, I have to walk for 1h or drive 15 minutes on congested roads to get to a place that sells fresh fruit and vegetables at a price that doesn't demand me to sell my firstborn and my kidney too.
      Powdered donuts however are a 5min walk away. Are you gonna drive this woman around and pay for the expensive fresh produce? No? Then sit down and think about the reality so many parents are in. And don't even dare to start about how poor people should think twice before they have kids.

    • @womankisserjermaluvr
      @womankisserjermaluvr 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +172

      @@Killjoy_Mel lmao man i get the sentiment but thats a fuckin one year old. even most gas stations have better options than powdered donuts for breakfast. no ones saying to drive to the store every morning and get fruits and veggies. when she goes to buy groceries, she can get frozen fruits and veggies, and certain fruits and veggies hold well over a week or so. get the kid some carrots/celery/pears, its not as expensive as you make it out to be. its one thing to give your one year old a sugary snack here and there and another to feed them like shit for 9/10 meals.

    • @marxllna
      @marxllna 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

      @@Killjoy_Melfrozen vegetables are as healthy

  • @darkydoom
    @darkydoom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +868

    Eggs guys, like just cook some eggs with a slice of bread and a cup of tea. Cooking a pan of scrambled eggs for 5x people in the morning is the easy go to

    • @lainiwakura1776
      @lainiwakura1776 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      I don't think a baby would appreciate the tea much though.

    • @darkydoom
      @darkydoom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

      @@lainiwakura1776 coffee is an acceptable alternative if tea isn't to your liking

    • @lme918
      @lme918 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

      @@darkydoom You have to be kidding me. It's not acceptable at all. Child shouldn't drink any coffee till 12 years old.

    • @darkydoom
      @darkydoom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      @@lme918 I mean, I never said give it to a baby, but a toddler sure, and I was joking about coffee but lmfao wow, and I bet you think juice is healthy. Caffeine isn't bad for you and it is not a drug the way people say it is. LMFAO

    • @Killjoy_Mel
      @Killjoy_Mel 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

      @@darkydoomYes. Make your toddler drink coffee. What an excellent and healthy suggestion.

  • @alexandradunaeva8849
    @alexandradunaeva8849 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I didn't see such comment here. Maybe someone already made this point but still. Let me clarify smth:
    You compare donuts for 1 y.o and donuts for older kids (the lady in the car) which is not quite fair as their dietary restrictions are very different. until 2 y.o. it is recommended to avoid sugar at all, limit or avoid certain foods and products like salt, cacao etc. so for me the age is the problem with first vid, the child this small needs healthy food not sweets. Doesn't need to be fancy, some fresh veggies and porridge and any type of protein would be good.
    So comparing poor/expensive is not accurate if children are different age.
    Speaking as mom of 1.5 y.o. who doesn't cook bread from scratch for my child so not taking side of "aesthetically pleasing" moms but simply clarifying why people might be outraged with first mom.

    • @Imbroooke
      @Imbroooke 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Fr this is not a healthy comparison sure there are privileges but nobody wants nothing just something more nutritious

  • @gab.bee123
    @gab.bee123 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +89

    i remember when i first saw the "aesthetically pleasing" snack organizing videos and thought that there was no way that was a fridge in a single family home, it had to be a break/lunch room in an office that actually meant it when the job description mentioned snacks always being available daily for employees 🤭

  • @wavamy
    @wavamy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    "We're used to seeing the best parts of everyone's lives...our standards are so messed up....some of the content we see might even be manufactured." PREACH!!!!! Also, curated lobotomy!? Fantastic phrase znd concept....great analysis of the classism and maybe even racism embedded in the trad wife trend.....well done. Once again, you hit the nail on the head. Sincerely a late boomer high school teacher fan just a bit south of the border from you. Keep up the great work.

  • @erikad0511
    @erikad0511 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    I really thought mom making cereal from scratch was gonna say she harvested almonds from her trees to hand press fresh almond milk

    • @Eloraurora
      @Eloraurora 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She's performing the long-wait-at-a-restaurant joke I used to make as a kid. "They're sowing the field with wheat to make the pizza. They're milking the cow to make the cheese. They're watering the tomato vines."

  • @DohMkay
    @DohMkay 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +77

    I was poor growing up. Going to McDonalds was a luxury. You guys know you can eat healthy and cheap right? My mom would fry eggs in the morning, maybe make some pancakes, a sandwich would be 100 times better than those donuts. It seems she doesnt want to put any effort into anything. Why would you have children if making breakfast is such a huge chore?

    • @lourvecantspell19
      @lourvecantspell19 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      everything is a chore nowadays

    • @dollarstorevodka
      @dollarstorevodka 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Pancakes are shite food too. Get off your high horse lady

    • @mistbloodyfists
      @mistbloodyfists 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      eggs are hella expensive now wdym 😭

    • @DohMkay
      @DohMkay 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @mistbloodyfists all food is getting expensive unfortunately. But our health is priceless.

    • @mistbloodyfists
      @mistbloodyfists 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@DohMkay ah that wasn't rlly what i was saying sorry let me reword: Eggs were easier to have for breakfast back then because they were so much cheaper, but now that they are so expensive it's easier for the lower class to buy foods such as pop tarts and powdered donuts as a breakfast because 1. they're quicker 2. they're a lot cheaper than eggs, pancakes, and basically any healthier food sadly.

  • @roundsdm
    @roundsdm 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +321

    Caring for children with autism that struggle so much while being autistic & disabled myself is a special kind of draining 😢 & because hes autistic, all hell eat right now is cheetos, i know how many people would judge me for that, but starving him completely wouldnt help anything, we use nutrition drinks to make up for what it can

    • @alleycat616
      @alleycat616 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      Fellow mom of an autistic child and I feel you! Don’t worry about what others think. My older child who is not autistic and eats more things/what we eat. So it’s not like I’m just a lazy or bad parent like, as you know others will assume or judge. But it really is a case of (for my younger autistic child) he’s eating chicken nuggets and chips (at home) every day because he won’t eat much else. Thankfully he does eat fruit daily. But really he will starve himself. We try and try to give him new foods but most of the time he refuses or spits them out. I can’t force him to swallow something. He did just start liking steak and pork chops thank goodness so at least that’s something new. People really just don’t understand until they too have an autistic child. They can judge all they want they just don’t understand.

    • @pawsandnuggy1635
      @pawsandnuggy1635 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      I’m autistic and I have 1 autistic kid and 2 with adhd (hubs audhd). The 7 asked me why I always eat all of my bread crust first even though I say that I don’t like my bread crust. I explained that I don’t like wasting food, so I eat the things I don’t like first and the things I like best last so I can have a happy end to my meal. He’s been doing the same thing since, and the other two have followed suit. “Why you eating (food)? You don’t like (food).” “Because (food) has (nutrients, ie calcium), which helps my body (what those are for, ie building strong bones).” And bam the kid stops complaining they don’t like it like 85% of the time. It helps that they like a lot of healthy stuff. Still make Nutella sandwiches for breakfast, though, I feel like it’s offset by their lunch being heavy on fruit and veg plus they usually ask for a fruit or yogurt once they finish waking up.

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes😊😊😊😂🎉

    • @DarkVideogamer
      @DarkVideogamer 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@pawsandnuggy1635 this reminded me when I was a kid, I hated any bread that wasn't white bread (adhd here) and the thing that got me to actually enjoy whole wheat and whole grain breads was being told "It has scrubby brushes that help your stomach feel good." Like somehow giving a reason made it easier to get me to eat things?? any speculation as to why that worked?

    • @johncarter4411
      @johncarter4411 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I feel ya, my son will only eat pizza

  • @GeorgeGlass298
    @GeorgeGlass298 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +276

    I've never understood how things like Pop-Tarts and cereal got to be a popular breakfast food. They're worse than a candy bar. I never let my kids eat sweet stuff for breakfast because they were hungry 5 minutes later. Cereal doesn't fill anybody up.

    • @mccolk
      @mccolk 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      There's a Poptarts inventor movie coming out this year starring Jerry Seinfeld and Melissa McCarthy so we're about to find out.

    • @lilik6945
      @lilik6945 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      actual cereal does, like oats!

    • @sparrowskeleton1831
      @sparrowskeleton1831 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Marketing and subsidizing played a part in it I’m sure. There was a time when we were told to eat over 6-11 servings of grain everyday (including cereal) and that sweetened granola was a healthy snack.

    • @kated3165
      @kated3165 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      I wonder how many kids were labeled as being hyperactive or problematic in some way, and it turns out their only problem was being fed unholy amounts of sugar several times a day? My friend used to work in a daycare, and she said the rule for holidays was they wouldn't give the kids their small token bag of Halloween or Easter candy until right before it was time for them to leave, because ''we let the parents deal with the aftermath...".

    • @irisjoosten8669
      @irisjoosten8669 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      As a kid of 2 working parents who's now a working adult, something is better than nothing. And sometimes there's no time for breakfast, so you grab a pop tart from the convenience machine at school or work. Fed is best.

  • @SebastianSeanCrow
    @SebastianSeanCrow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    15:25 premade cereal is typically enriched with extra nutrients that aren’t gonna be in homemade cereal too

    • @HerWanderlust
      @HerWanderlust 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is just not true…synthetic minerals ash’s vitamins added to cereals actually deplete our bodies natural minerals bc they don’t come within the package our body recognizes…so no…that cereal is in no way healthy or healthier bc of the synthetic additives

  • @catmarie8429
    @catmarie8429 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I think the difference between the powder donut breakfast and the dozen strawberry donuts breakfast is the first made it seem like a standard everyday breakfast and the ladder seemed like a once-in-awhile treat

  • @ZiggaMau
    @ZiggaMau 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +314

    "They're feeding their kids donuts but in different fonts" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣you kill me❤

  • @i.shuuya3231
    @i.shuuya3231 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    This is your best video yet IMO. I can't explain why exactly, but all the elements are perfectly balanced, the comedy, seriousness, empathy, cynicism

  • @giulshere
    @giulshere 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +470

    What really surprises me is the outrage towards an all sweet breakfast, when *the* typical breakfast for kids in Italy (where I'm from) is a cup of milk, sometimes chocolate milk, and a bunch of cookies or cereals. It is just very not typical over here to have a savory breakfast

    • @ccc93584
      @ccc93584 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      Same in Argentina. It's usually just chocolate milk, sometimes yogurt, in some cases mate cocido or tea, with a sweet appetizer like cookies or bread with a sweet thing over it. At least it's like that in middle class. Idk about upper class tho, never been there😂

    • @bitchandbark
      @bitchandbark 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      Right. They act like some sugar is going to have their kids dropping dead. God forbid kids enjoy beings kids and have fun things to eat. (Adults can too but yk)

    • @giulshere
      @giulshere 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

      @@bitchandbark absolutely agree. Cookies for breakfast? Outrageous! PB&J sandwich for lunch? Absolutely normal! I don't see the issue if all your other meals are balanced and not also filled with sugars and carbs

    • @bbkyuu
      @bbkyuu 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      i think it's mostly because of the childs age, our bodies need anything but processed sugar until at least 2-3 years old

    • @nonir670
      @nonir670 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It's like that in the US too. Kids eat cereal and donuts and things like that. People comment what they think they should, not what actually happens.
      And contrary to popular belief, sugar doesn't cause hyperactivity.

  • @vizionara
    @vizionara 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    I’ll never understand how someone can buy so much junk food in one grocery shop. That pantry filled with snacks at the end is crazy.

    • @purplebluecrow5082
      @purplebluecrow5082 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Especially because junk food is so expensive. People go on and on about food deserts in America so much you’d think most people live in one but 95% of people don’t. Junk food is an addiction just like any other kind and that’s why people are willing to spend so much money on it

    • @lost.laurel
      @lost.laurel 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@@purplebluecrow5082people also misrepresent what a food desert is. So often on the Internet acts like food deserts don't have any healthy food and they're forced to buy junk. Not true.
      I've been to multiple food deserts and pretty sure I live in one (my town is just too small to officially label haha). There is still plenty of fresh produce. It's just limited in variety and quality. It can be annoying to be stuck with the same fruits and vegetables especially when for long stretches of time only apples and bananas are worth buying. That said, we can still eat healthy just fine.
      Every so often I'll travel to see family and stop in a grocery store for a drink for the road. Multiple times I've left with an absolute arm load of fruits and veg because surprise the grocery store was not in a food desert, haha.

  • @astronomicalmars
    @astronomicalmars 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    10:05 In my country, eating one or two slices of toast with nutella is a super common and popular breakfast option. Also, our commercials still look like that, portraying happy families sitting around the breakfast table eating their bread and nutella

    • @gwennorthcutt421
      @gwennorthcutt421 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      i first got introduced to nutella while visiting new zealanda nd i was like oh shit frosting for breakfast fuck yeah and then i got so stoked when it came to the US. i dont eat it anymore bc i fell out of habit but yeah its not that different from having pancakes w syrup really. i do think the commercial saying "hint of cocoa" is funny like. more than a hint lady!

    • @JulesDiAngelo
      @JulesDiAngelo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What country are you from?

    • @astronomicalmars
      @astronomicalmars 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@JulesDiAngelo I'm from Italy

  • @PeachMilkPopp
    @PeachMilkPopp 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    This man just compared children to neopets and I never felt so understood on why I don’t ever want kids.

  • @morganburt2565
    @morganburt2565 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    “maybe don’t ask a youtuber, ask someone smarter” this is why i love ur content lol

  • @zazzycatlady
    @zazzycatlady 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    mommy bullying and harassing others online is never helpful nor appropriate!
    at the same time, feeling a one year old a full meal of donuts - or chicken nuggets and cheetos without a fruit or veg is also not appropriate or helpful for any household regardless of income.
    as a teacher, caregiver and child of a loud child nutrition expert; i can tell you outright that an under 2 should be introduced to healthier, more natural (or at least balanced) meals.

    • @AstaGruwier-vi5ht
      @AstaGruwier-vi5ht 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Yea but that doesn’t mean all of your meals have to be fully balanced with plenty of veggies as that just isn’t realistic for a lot of people. It’s okay to eat donuts for breakfast if it just isn’t every day

    • @HudaefCares
      @HudaefCares 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      That's the ideal, but I'll take what I can get. My mom used to go around wet markets asking vendors for veggie scraps and pork bones to make soup. I never complained about that (tho I did do a 😦 face at her when she fed me pig brain lol) and grew up loving soupy dishes.
      What I _did_ complain about was eating rice, but ever since she forced me to eat just plain rice coz I ate all the side dishes already I stopped complaining about it. Nowadays I hate that I can't eat as much as rice I used to. (Entering my 30s means being on the lookout for diabetes unfortunately, runs in the family)

  • @whelkpeopleofdoom
    @whelkpeopleofdoom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +419

    You are right that the larger woman is being unfairly targeted, but those breakfasts are still AWFUL and not okay. You can absolutely be poor and eat healthy. I do it for myself, and a child, toddler or baby would need a fraction of the calories I (an adult) am consuming.
    I think one of the reasons some of the other people don't get called out is because they're making rheir content more about "aesthetic" than about parenting, which again, yes, is unfair, but we can say that without pretending the woman giving her one year old sugary processed crap for breakfast every day is okay and "relatable." Just because a lot of people do it doesnt mean it's okay - thats a fallacy called "appeal to popularity."
    The average american diet is awful, and most people need to be better about what they feed their kids, including the people in this video, regardless of how they present their content.

    • @bluehairedvixen
      @bluehairedvixen 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @juliacmendes
      @juliacmendes 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

      Totally agree! I wouldn't eat those things every day myself, let alone give it to a kid on a daily basis. It's a road to very dangerous health problems, plus the kid will never enjoy fruits or other natural food, since he is getting used to these addictive chemicals.

    • @duxghost3985
      @duxghost3985 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I definitely agree, however I can also say spending 5 hours to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich that your child wanted for breakfast is so weird
      Atp just give me the awful donuts for breakfast

    • @kezia8027
      @kezia8027 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

      yes, AND we can recognize that there ARE disadvantaged groups who do not have the education, time, access etc to always make the right choice. Instead of pointing out the flaws with individuals, how about we focus on the lack of support and education for new parents and children/teenagers in regards to health and anatomy. Whether that's about babies or about diet and exercise. Focusing on the individual is only shaming people. Focus on the systems and mechanisms that create these situations.

    • @lawliet6910
      @lawliet6910 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      I feel like maybe you could benefit from watching the clip at 8:58 again

  • @ninas8210
    @ninas8210 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    what i dont understand about the ticktok where the peanut butter and jelly is being made from scratch, is if you literally took the time to bake fresh bread, why would you take off the crust....its the BEST part

    • @MuseSunflower
      @MuseSunflower 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I hateee crust. It’s definitely not the best part 😒 😅

    • @ninas8210
      @ninas8210 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@MuseSunflower I understand not liking it i guess, but the thing that doesnt make sense is going out of your way to make fresh bread (that will almost always have a crispy crust) just to cut off the crust

    • @forelsketis
      @forelsketis 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      probably because the child doesn't like that part?

  • @stilljocelyn_
    @stilljocelyn_ 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    8:00 where are the veggies? That’s my only issue there’s nothing fresh, vegetables and fruits are cheap. Plus she’s over feeding the tot. 😭

    • @Storyteller2078
      @Storyteller2078 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      I was hoping those were carrots 😭 I definitely agree though. I don’t think cereal or donuts for breakfast should ever be presented as normal or okay (especially donuts since at least cereal is paired with milk). I don’t understand why people are defending her when all of her videos are nearly the same…

    • @gabriellegunvik4377
      @gabriellegunvik4377 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Storyteller2078right it’s not satire, she is checked out and feeding her kids garbage exploiting them for views

  • @deb.d
    @deb.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +142

    in italy everything you have for breakfast is sweets. cookies, croissant, nutella sandwich or cereal, it’s all sweets and we’re doing just fine

    • @Mario-us7ds
      @Mario-us7ds 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      20% of italian kids are overweight. you're not "fine" by any definition

    • @DeathRisiing
      @DeathRisiing 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      That doesn’t make then healthy or good options every day. Especially for children. You should not be eating fkn _cookies_ for breakfast.

    • @deb.d
      @deb.d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @@DeathRisiing bro we’re all fine it’s been like this forever there, there’s no breakfast that isn’t sweet and everyone is literally fine. all lunches especially in school are extremely healthy tho, which is not the case in some other countries

    • @changjinius1499
      @changjinius1499 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I definitely hope you're not feeding a ONE YEAR OLD Nutella, cookies, croissants etc. because those children will grow up with food related issues.

    • @deb.d
      @deb.d 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      @@changjinius1499 a 1 year old is basically still a newborn not a kid, that’s just common sense

  • @AeraYoo
    @AeraYoo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +240

    The Korean mom in me is like yea no we aren’t doing buckets of sugar before noon. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @hobog12777
      @hobog12777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

      Yeah, it's only Americans doing this. "Food shaming?" I will gladly food shame anyone that regularly feeds their baby donuts for "breakfast" out of a package. Meanwhile people here are clowning on the other moms for putting time and care into their cooking. Tf? I used to live in the same apt building as Middle Eastern and African immigrants in a low-income hood in Denmark, and every time I came home around dinnertime, the entire building smelled like curry. Cooking for yourself is healthier and cheaper (both in terms of food and healthcare expenses) than eating pop tarts.

    • @tenneluna6948
      @tenneluna6948 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      It's not americans. It's a white thing including europeans. I'm spanish and never met anyone my race in my life that ate salty things for breakfast. Normally here kids eat milk and cereal for breakfast, then they may have something like a sandwich later in the morning during recess. It's not particularly unhealthy as long as the rest of your diet is balanced.
      It's just a cultural thing like how european sweets are way sweeter than asian sweets. Personally i can't stomach much breakfast at all and never could so drinking some cereal milk (or dipping some cookies in cofee now as an adult) is the best i can do

    • @hobog12777
      @hobog12777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      ​@@tenneluna6948 It's not a race thing, White Europeans consist of like a million different cultures (same way Africa consists of a million cultures etc.). Nobody eats sweet breakfasts in my (Central European) country.
      "American" is also not a race, it's a culture, hence why Americans will share similar breakfast habits despite ethnicity, especially if we're talking about 2nd-3rd+ generation Americans.

    • @hobog12777
      @hobog12777 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Also, a big influence of what we eat for breakfast is just marketing. What is sold as, and marketed as, "breakfast"? Pop tarts, sweet cereals and pancakes are marketed and advertised as "nutritious" breakfasts in many countries, the US especially (being the spiritual birthplace of "convenience breakfast", such as cereals). In my country, there is a type of cracker called "Good Morning Crackers" that are basically just sugar, yet they are advertised as nutritious because they have a couple pieces of oats sprinkled in. For years, I ate that thing thinking it was a breakfast substitute.
      No problem with eating whatever you want. In the US, you yourself will bear the health consequences, not public healthcare. But feeding your child donuts for breakfast, and putting that burden of compromised diet and thus health on them, day in day out, is wrong.

    • @tenneluna6948
      @tenneluna6948 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@hobog12777 There is no serious health consequences to eating a sweet breakfast vs eating a salty breakfast. It is cultural and it doesn't make people who eat one thing healthier over the other. Western europe does have sweet breakfasts, from adults to children consume them and we have some of the longest healthiest lifespan. While some people will get sick from sugar, others who are used to it like us need that rush in the morning to wake up and will feel heavy instead eating a greasy "proper meal" like eggs, bacon and baked beans.
      It's your diet as a whole that matters. The problem with most americans is that they eat many heavily processed, "junk" type of foods and not much fresh produce to balance the sweets they get in a day.

  • @hinatot
    @hinatot 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +400

    i don't really think all of the comparisons you're making are one to one. the donut videos for example- the first one, it's explicitly stated as a meal, the second one, it's never said that it's a meal and i took it as being like a snack or treat type thing. and for the first one, it's being given to a one year old, while the second, the children are still young but clearly several years older than a one year old. i'm sure aesthetics do play a part, but it's not like they were doing the exact same thing. giving a 3, 4, 5 year old a sugary treat and giving a 1 year old a meal mostly composed of sugar are pretty different things

    • @happoki
      @happoki 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If the woman feeding her baby donut wasn’t obese the video wouldn’t have gone viral. And her videos are still going viral

    • @NKC228
      @NKC228 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

      I thought this too. I just assumed I was missing out the "donuts for breakfast" comment somewhere on the pink donut mom 😅

    • @probablyjade
      @probablyjade 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      I was just thinking this too

    • @CrowMaiden
      @CrowMaiden 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      are we going to ignore the criticism of her 'breathing too loudly', then? and 'looking like she hates her life'?
      people wouldn't criticise a thin mother for 'breathing too loudly', that's all I'm gonna say.

    • @probablyjade
      @probablyjade 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      @@CrowMaiden I think the commenter gets that but is just pointing out it's not all the same comparisons, as they pointed out in the beginning- but I totally agree with you on that point where even if they saw a not as "aesthetic" video if the mom was pretty or even just skinny they probably would never comment such hate. I have misophonia so I actually can not stand the sound of mouth noises like chewing or loud breathing but I cannot imagine a world where I'd comment about it on a video and saying that the one mom hated her life like ???? She literally did a quick smile and thumbs up at the end of one of the videos people are so toxic sorry I just ranted- these sorts of videos get me so mad like people being so rude for no good reason

  • @Floss.1e
    @Floss.1e 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Imagine asking for some toast for breakfast and ur mum proceeds to spend 3 hours making the bread and filming it all while ur there hungry asf- like at that point she’s doing it for her

  • @LordOfElysium
    @LordOfElysium 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +136

    Alright, the first thing I thought was wether the donut was even soft enough for a one year old to eat.
    Giving a donut to a one year old is different from a 7 year old.. no?

    • @stacki1040
      @stacki1040 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I think it was. Also it looked like a hostess donut and those are like cotton candy once you bite down.

    • @PikachuSandw1ch
      @PikachuSandw1ch 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      My thought was that the pieces were too big.

    • @gabriellegunvik4377
      @gabriellegunvik4377 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It’s a choking hazard

    • @Imbroooke
      @Imbroooke 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes finally giving donuts to 1 year olds is different than giving it to toddlers

  • @SerenaC4
    @SerenaC4 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Someone who grew up being fed a plate of teddy grams, and cheezits as meals, I gotta say that I wish my mother took at least one second to cook me some sort of food. I have so many issues as an adult now with my intestinal tract as well as just my mentality towards food. I want to have a healthy relationship with food but I just can’t break those habits of eating nothing but crackers/candy. I love eating salad/fruit/meat/etc but I can’t bring myself to feel satiated by those things because all I’m used to is eating junk

  • @Cuber69-kh3us
    @Cuber69-kh3us 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    9:44 dude so relatable, the first time i had ihop i never want to eat there again. it was so sugary

  • @Unicorgo
    @Unicorgo 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

    7:00 baby died of hunger before she made her home bake bread and grow peanuts for peanut butter

    • @JAH-iu3yh
      @JAH-iu3yh 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Right😂 My toddler would push me out of the way and make her own pb&j while I stand there for 2 hours waiting for bread dough to rise.

  • @gunnasintern
    @gunnasintern 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    edvasian’s “Good Morning” is as iconic as annamarie forcino’s “hello sinners” and jarvis johnson’s “so if you’re watching this, you’re premium”

  • @erikad0511
    @erikad0511 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    "idk, d moral of the story, don't show anything you do online".... I mean that's the easiest answer lol....
    Good video

    • @weird-guy
      @weird-guy 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      People overshare nowadays and have irealistic expectation no wonder we all depress😂🤣, most social media videos are created to get views either by ragebaiting, creating aesthetic plesent videos ect, young people mock old people for believing in any facebook videos but they also believe in anyone on tiktok or in other social media platform.

  • @yungembarrassment619
    @yungembarrassment619 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Poverty is no excuse for feeding ur kids horribly. There is such thing as ebt and the dollar store. And common sense!

  • @V1sual3y3z
    @V1sual3y3z 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This is the nuance this conversation needed! thank you

  • @dyskelia
    @dyskelia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    Both extremes are cringe

  • @zerokiryuu3387
    @zerokiryuu3387 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    First of all, coming from a Hispanic family and being the middle child of four, I would NEVER, judge how someone's tools or food is served. Why? Because I'm not the one slaving away at the stove at the crack of dawn. I'm not the breadwinner or head of house dealing with carrying an entire family. Besides, for people who are only children, or live alone or without children, you may be unaware of this big secret...CHILDREN ARE PICKY EATERS! Sure it's not healthy. But you know another secret...kids 'healthy' labeled and portioned snacks are...EXPENSIVE! I remember just wishing to have donuts or snacks like this for food. But the fries? That's timeless. So you have to be mindful of culture, living conditions, and family dynamics. Her pots are beautiful to me. My family has pots that look the same. They're durable, cook well, and show the sign of USAGE! Doesn't mean my mom doesn't have newer pot sets. But we use what's reliable and easier. I feel like all the hate this strong parent is getting is from 'aesthetic trenders'. Like Beige/White Parent's criticizing how un-aesthetically pleasing her routine and kitchen is. Like, really? When did we get to this level? 😔🌎🍷

    • @LuluTheCorgi
      @LuluTheCorgi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The pots are a health hazard, ingesting teflon is incredibly bad for you
      If you want forever lasting pots just get cast iron ones, you will never have to replace them and you can leave them to your kids if you die

    • @ThienOng-k8z
      @ThienOng-k8z 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      THIS!!!! Why are people so judgey?? And so full of assumptions?

  • @mayaklast6334
    @mayaklast6334 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    There is a huge gap between "feeding your toddler a whole plate of donuts from the supermarket first thing in the morning" and "making your bread and jam (which... what? I do my jam once a year, it keeps...) and peanut butter from scratch every morning (with the toddler patiently waiting 3 hours for their breakfast... sure) with the most unpractical bathrobe possible on".
    You can give the kid oats or Weetabix. Or a banana. Or supermarket cereals avoiding the worst ones and a hot chocolate.
    It's not more labour or more expensive. It would require taking a few minute to do your research looking through informations readily available on the Internet, though.

  • @zebraskin
    @zebraskin 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    "Nuerodivergent hermit in the forest" I feel called out

  • @luckasalkova8524
    @luckasalkova8524 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Also, most parents hate on the first mom for giving her child unhealthy breakfast and then feed their own children cereal, as if it´s any healthier

    • @luckasalkova8524
      @luckasalkova8524 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Nevermind, wrote this before he mentioned the cereal in the video xd