I recently divorced my wife of 8 years. I'm 31 and this was a tough experience. I still have adolescent children so its made it hard on me. It is always great to get experienced men share their knowledge and experiences to help us all get through this. Thank you for the videos Mark Waite
It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
10 seconds into the video and it was like someone is describing my life It's been two years for me, rest is almost the same as most people have mentioned
This video has sage advice! I appreciate that you really break it down into something conrete and actionable. This is do-able! I'm inspired. I took some notes during the video to help myself: 1. Change your habits. Break the inertia of the downhill slide with small wins. For example, exercising when you feel stressed, instead of eating poorly. Small wins help rebuild your confidence! 2. Write down what you DO want. If you're going through a hard time, don't stop! Consider what you want in the key areas of your life. For example, write down what you want in these 5 things: faith, family, finances, fitness, and fun. Understanding what you really want will change your thoughts, which will change your feelings, then we act on our feelings, and our actions will create our new reality. Vision/thoughts > feelings > actions > new reality! 3. Write your dreams/goals in 5 key areas of life. Develop a specific and written framework of your dreams/goals. See his template. Think where you want to be in 5 years, and work backwards. For example, you can then break it down into 1 year goals, then monthly, then weekly and daily action plans. We now have a plan of action!! 4. Plan your work and work your plan! Back it up with massive action.
I understand this man's feelings. I'm going through a divorce I didn't want. We were together forty years. I stayed home and raised our two boys and my niece after my sister passed away unexpectedly. My husband just walked away and told me he had been cheating for many years. He burned through our savings and has left me with no income. I'm 64, have very little family and no friends. I had to move away from the town we lived in and into a small home in a town I never wanted to live in, but at least I have a roof over my head for now. I have no resume, poor health and I'm afraid. I hope and pray that everyone else going through this will be able to recreate a good, purposeful life. God bless you all.
@@violet9486 well that's being naïve as perhaps you weren't listening in school about the kids in the holocaust and the horrors of war? it's your life and therefore can only be your fault. nothing was "unexpected" the red flags were there for years and you chose to ignore them.
Facing a divorce with my wife after a 30 year relationship. It was a "it's over, no contact" text. Been alone for 4 months now. Not drinking but having a hard time getting out. Work is still good, church is still good but don't have any make friends that have been through divorce let alone gray divorce. Worried about losing the farm litterly, and ending up homeless. Trying to figure out life again. Wish I never got married to begin with...
My wife and I are separated. I'm living a sober living house. Life feels like it has no point. Trying to cope with depression and anxiety. Emotionally I'm a wreck.
@@hannahrubinow well I'm a general manager have my own place and my vehicle is paid off. Me and my wife are working on our relationship. We're looking for a house so we can live together and be a family again.
I am going through this now. She had me arrested three times and the Police slapped me with a current AVO which does not allow me to visit my house nor live at my Mothers house nearby. My limited exposure to my kids is now affecting them and I feel like an Uncle, not a Father. She also managed to recruit my 21 year old daughter against me, of which she assisted Police arrest me. I now live in a studio, still run my little business and plan for the future. I suggest exercise daily to keep your head straight. I would rather be in the gym not thinking about my kids than a prison cell. The system has it all against us. The woman you married, is no longer her. You have to let her go. For me, 29 years of marriage.
Well said Financial loss is devastating But just try to sort her out and move on. I am 58 and going through this right now but to be honest pleased to be away from her. Hopefully things will improve soon…. Good luck to all of you guys going through this super difficult time…. Stay strong…💪
3 days ago I was living in my very nice house in a very nice area in the Southwest. Tonight after 3 days of driving, I’m laying on a blow up mattress in a sh*t apartment in a sh*t neighborhood in the midwest. I don’t drink and I exercise so I need to keep that up. I have a job that I start next week so I’ll get by but holy crap, this is going to take a lot of f’n work! I have no furniture.......almost nothing. I am literally starting my life over again as it was 20 years ago. I’m getting too old for this crap. I am deep, deep in the valley like you said. I will try to focus on the good and not dwell on the bad. I know this will change.....I can do this! My ex-wife is texting asking how everything is. I really want to tell her to f-off.
She's looking for you to be her emotional crutch! I'm in the same boat, I had a big house, a nice car, a great neighborhood...now I'm a loser crashing on my dad's couch while he berates me about going back to my family...it's tough, there will be good days and bad days believe me...
Same here. I cannot stand to be without them. It literally kills inside. Talk to them on the phone. Plan vacations etc. They miss you just as much. Stay strong bro.
A Son needs you to care about his mother. You can regain your life again and your son will help you do this. What do you want? Be blessed to maintain your help and relationship with others too.
@@PeteyC_AZ yeh you’ve got to keep in contact with your kids. Even if it’s just once or twice a week, keep in contact phone them, take them out and be the best dad you can be..
@@matty6848 oh I will. They are my everything. I've seen enough divorces and been a child going through that to see how bad and detrimental it is to kids. Even if the adults don't get along, the kids are left out of the squabble.
Thanks I needed this. I’m recently divorced and started going down the route of drinking with my mates, and having no direction. Then I realised what I was doing, so pick myself up, joined a gym started eating healthier and making sure I had constant contact with my kids… no point dwelling on the past you’ve got to move forward and become a new you and just be the best dad you can be.
He’s takes a while to say it but he’s spot on. 10,10,10 plan In the beginning it’s 10 hours, 10 days, 10 weeks. As you start to execute and recover you can stretch that out to 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months. Also, a lot of people saw their relationships fall apart after the pandemic. You are not alone and you are not being punished. The sheep are being separated from the goats. Embrace it and grow and know that in its previous state your relationship was going to be a hindrance to your survival of longevity. The split was required for you to get back on track.
Divorced 3 times and now married again. I know exactly how your feeling. There is a way forward,Mark has good advice. Learn from looking back but look forward to life.it’s hard but it can be done.
@@scootypuffjr. you are 100% correct there is no need to get married it is a choice I made, 3 mistakes but I think number 4 is ok. The Reason, many but security for my wife so when I die she gets a pension for life, if we were not married when I die she would get nothing.then she would have to start working and have no income. This way she is assured a pension for life, my theory look after the one who looks after you. If I had doubts then I would not have got married. Thanks for your comment.
I was married for 20 years just got Divorce last Monday officially. I feel lost I feel that God doesn’t understand me I m 41 years old and I’m confused 🤷🏻♂️
Feel for you Hector. Hang in there brother because time is your friend. You may find help with piece that helped me get through what you're facing. Go to www.themarkwaite.com and download my 10 Bold steps. Stay strong man. MW.
Thank you.Especially for the F's a 6th one I have added is Future,because I have to look forward,looking back is of no consequence other than pain.Thanks again.
You're nice and young, learn to be very picky about who you let into your life. My ex begged me to treat her right and be there for her when we first met.
Jeremy you have to move on brother. Cherish the good memories you had but move on and create a new life for yourself. Don’t feel like your a victim, think your a strong man who can rebuild his life..
Half of the time, or more, it's pretend. Mean mind-games meant mostly to hurt you, and to assure herself she did the right thing. Just ignore and focus on yourself. You still may not be able to see this, but the ability to live with yourself, and focus on the here and now is bliss.
I was 60 when she left. She was younger (and NPD). Just about destroyed me but managed to plod through Hell. Great advice but It's difficult to pick up the pieces when retirement is just around the corner. I had to remortgage to pay her out and that together with maintenance payments has all but crushed me. My mortgage runs for eight years after retirement. I'd almost bought my house outright when I met her. What a bloody fool I was. I'm trying to keep it together for the kids. Keep up the good work. 👍🏻👍🏻
Thahks for this man, going through the same...been in the valley things are slowly turning...I can afford to go back to the gym, eat good, and pay my bills on time...but my income is not there yet. But it will slowly turn..we
With all respects be careful with the alcohol people, it really has a significant impact on your mental state and overall health condition. You need to be confident and in your best mental and physical and financial shape and in the ultimate reality alcohol is a setback and really does mess with your clarity. Trust me on this folks I've consumed a lot of booze over the years. Peace and health, people.
@@ESL-O.G. It is funny, for real. But in all seriousness, this is what got me to go off weed. It was effing my clarity and holding me back and down. I started to resent it a little. But after a week without it, I "got hooked" on clarity and sharpness. The difference in my performance was SO dramatic! That was about two years ago. I don't hate weed. I have nothing against anybody who enjoys it. But I have been enjoying my life so much more since I quit.
Looking at the channel for the first time. This video is encouraging and makes a lot of sense. Points back to hope and taking personal action. Good job!
She makes more than me, I lost my son, the house, a chunk of my 401k and got hit with all the martial debt. I thought that the nightmare was over after the divorce, only to be shook down monthly for daycare costs, which have now put me in poverty, while she is flush with cash. It sucks.
This was a wonderful calming on point video. I so appreciate a Male perspective and an understanding that they too have feelings. It helped me not to feel so alone. This video also inspired me to continue with my family faith fitness finance and fun goals that are all important to me as well. Thank you for the refreshing helpful video.
Great tips Mark - I'm in the middle of a divorce right now and have major concerns regarding life afterward. I am definitely going to implement some of your suggestions. Thank you
Thank you so much for your suggestions. I’m in a middle of divorce with three kids and no enough money after 15 years of marriage .. Your video made me feel positive and that there’s hope to stand up again and fight for my kids
Hey Terrance, sorry to hear you're going through this. It's a big question. On this channel I have a number of video's speaking to that question in parts. These videos are clearly labelled for the relevant topics. Feel free to reach out via the links in the description panel if I can help you further.
I am not the classic go-getter type of guy, and certainly far from being a social animal, but the learning experience for me is that I can’t do it all and alone. I know now that I can look for and deserve sponsors, mentors, experts to take the burden where they’re best at, and teach me where I can’t do by myself. As if almost driven by instinct, I went online and looked for bucket list ideas. I was surprised by how many things I wish I wanted to do. I have found a financial advisor, to counsel me on how I can achieve these goals. I have a therapist, to counsel me on how I can reach the best growing version of myself. I joined the gym to get fit. None of this eliminates the pain of a divorce. The only way out of the pain is through. Yet i can rely on others shoulders for support. One foot step at a time.
Hi Pier, well done on getting financial, emotional and physical support. It sounds like you have a great network of quality people around you. Time and forgiveness are great healers. MW.
I got divorced lost my house my business and yes Dog + cat. Having been kicked out by the judge. He gave me a date to be out. No housing would accept me because no job. No job would take me because i ran my own businesses for 27 yrs. I took a warehouse job and severely injured my shoulder. Workers comp screwed me . My ambulance chasing lawyer did an even better job at destroying me. Went homless now inly job can get is under the table work. My work skills are crap because of the injury. My lawyer made it impossible to get any kind of funding. The $ ran out 6months ago. Still no housing because I don't have a "job" on the books. Staying at the shop i work at which has no privacy, shower, and no ac (which is bad because i live in desert in s. California ). No friends locally they all mived outta ca. All that i own is in a 10' x 12' storage and two vehicles. Which one is dying. Bank one bill or paycheck late sends me in that spiral of over drafts. Ideas Jason
If your a drinker, she can use that against you. I found that out when I sought treatment and got sober my soon to be ex wife was angry with me because she lost that leverage.
She just disappeared on the kids and I. Said she is going to see her family overseas and just cut communication to us. She left with a kiss and a hug and then the information started coming in. That she had been planning this for sometime at least 6 months previously..... she had pictures and a video of another man masturbating in her emails. She demanded divorce ... she refused to contact our children despite my pleas. She cut communication from whatsapp once I established it then only emails. I told her everyday I loved her ...tried to hug her everyday...I didn't abuse her...stayed strong for her and she did this to us. I am lonely and it hurts and I am a giving person and I can't motivate myself to start on myself. I just want her out of my thoughts.
Jesus was the only reason I made it! Prayers and lots of studying after starting school. Now I’m successful and have a good career as an instrument technician at a pharmaceutical company.
This is helpful to me, as my wife filed for divorce in January, 2020, and I have no idea what my financial picture is going to be a year from now. I have no debts, and I have a good paying job, but I have no idea how much I will have to pay to my wife. So I don’t know what my net income is going to be. As a Christian, I believe that God will provide for me, so that is all I really know at this point. I’m 59 years old next month, and I would like to retire at 62, but I’m not sure if I will have enough money at that age.
Hi Ethan. Once you know where you stand from a cashflow perspective you will know how your goal of retiring at 62 is looking. Stay focussed on that goal mate and exercise your faith by believing that He will provide all your needs according to His promise over your life. Stay strong. MW.
Thank you Mark, today marks 1 year of separation since my wife left me. She could divorce me shortly. This really helped me as I'm not looking after myself.
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Well I'm divorcing my narcissistic wife. Done being a victim! I do not regret this loss at all and in fact I feel better and relieved now that I'm going down this path. I know there is light at the end of the tunnel. It'll be tough having to start back with absolutely nothing but I will rebuild myself. I'm just fortunate that I didn't have any kids with this woman.
I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder one day and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he's been changed for the good ever since, he started believing God has a plan for his life and he isn't always out with his friends anymore. He's more respectful and open minded ever since.
The price of a marriage is expensive and the price of getting rid of it ( get a divorce ) is even much more expensive , that's why no one ever wanted to have some experiences of it ....
My ex common law spouse has my son in a homeless shelter with her when I can provide full time care and a Loving Peaceful home for my 2 year old boy. She's only in the shelter because she wants a free welfare apartment and dragging my son through for no reason. In fact I Separated from her and broke the relationship off and have zero feelings toward her, but to get me back in revenge knowing I love my deeply she won't let him live with me. I have one of the top lawyers in Toronto Canada helping me. Guys stop thinking about Ex only FOCUS on being the best father
Any updates? Also, Great life advice for sure, but any advice on the actual divorce process and the financials behind it? That's my only fear now since it's seems in the good ol' USA it's favored more towards the female side..
@@phabeondominguez5971 divorce courts will always favor the mother no matter what, but has a man you must protect yourself so she doesn't falsely accused you of anything. So by have audio recorder on your cellphone on and if she gets abusive have that on video. As for lawyers it get very expensive fast so don't fight over little things like furniture etc... Get your 50/50 custody and that's major Win. Thanks for asking about my update. My Ex got her subsidized housing apartment in October 2022. And I currently have a temporary custody in order until our next court date of 50/50
@@moemassy8624 glad to hear you got the 50/50 even if only temp, that's a start. Tho I no longer have any love for her, Me and her have no beef and won't be fighting over little things like furniture.. My issue is that I made us debt free and would have paid off mortgage in 2-3yrs too. However the cost was my retirement future, I have NOTHING to show for that, meanwhile she is sitting on 6 figures.. She can keep the house, I don't care, I'm just worried about my long term future.. any input or advise welcomed..
I feel like pond scum after divorce. My child acess is not smooth. I don't get dates and at work im at the bottom of the ladder. Sometimes I don't know why I'm alive
Pray for her salvation and spiritual maturity every day, pray in Jesus' name every day. Always love and respect the Father God and others, no using His name in vein. Always be a faithful Tither, make sure you're Tithing to the right ministry. One of my pastors tells us to preach about Tithing to Voice of the Martyrs ministry. He said it heals families and marriages, you can try that if you want to. CBN has great utube videos about marriage healing.
It's a devastating experience esp. if you did not want the divorce. This time last year I was a millionaire with a paid off modest townhouse. After 20 yrs of marriage she decided she'd had enough. Loneliest Christmas away from my kids. I retired at 62, no longer in the workforce. It's just day after day of "what next". Plus rejection and no words from her. I did try to reconcile, she completely shut me down. It has been Hell on Earth.
Well you don’t marry a man for what finances he can give you, you should marry him irrespective of what his finances are. If you love him that should be beyond money..
Gentlemen, on behalf of the fair sex (and let's be honest. Unless she's a genuine born-again believer, Very few women have any interest whatsoever in fairness on any level) I'd like to apologize to all of you going through divorce. I realize it's horrible for you. Perhaps I have a different perspective from most women because I have sons and brothers, but honestly, I'm sorry for your plight. I'm not making excuses for men who have legitimately done wrong and shot themselves in the foot, so to speak, but I am painfully aware that all too often, women are just hard-eyed, hard hearted, harpies just out to destroy, to practice a vicious game of parental alienation, and to take, take, take.
I am absolutely not born again, and have complete empathy and love for those going through divorce. I asked for the bare minimum in child support, since my ex makes about twice what I make. I asked for zero of his 401k, even though we had cashed in my IRA because we needed money. We put the kids first, and we both have cozy, safe and calm homes for our kids. And split custody 50/50. Don’t diss the “fairer sex”, please.
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I recently divorced my wife of 8 years. I'm 31 and this was a tough experience. I still have adolescent children so its made it hard on me. It is always great to get experienced men share their knowledge and experiences to help us all get through this. Thank you for the videos Mark Waite
At least you’re still young. Congratulations on making it out alive.
It can be tough as hell being a single dad... I talk about my own struggles/dealing with child support on my channel if you think it may help you...just to share stories. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
10 seconds into the video and it was like someone is describing my life
It's been two years for me, rest is almost the same as most people have mentioned
This video has sage advice! I appreciate that you really break it down into something conrete and actionable. This is do-able! I'm inspired.
I took some notes during the video to help myself:
1. Change your habits. Break the inertia of the downhill slide with small wins. For example, exercising when you feel stressed, instead of eating poorly. Small wins help rebuild your confidence!
2. Write down what you DO want. If you're going through a hard time, don't stop! Consider what you want in the key areas of your life. For example, write down what you want in these 5 things: faith, family, finances, fitness, and fun. Understanding what you really want will change your thoughts, which will change your feelings, then we act on our feelings, and our actions will create our new reality. Vision/thoughts > feelings > actions > new reality!
3. Write your dreams/goals in 5 key areas of life. Develop a specific and written framework of your dreams/goals. See his template. Think where you want to be in 5 years, and work backwards. For example, you can then break it down into 1 year goals, then monthly, then weekly and daily action plans. We now have a plan of action!!
4. Plan your work and work your plan! Back it up with massive action.
I understand this man's feelings. I'm going through a divorce I didn't want. We were together forty years. I stayed home and raised our two boys and my niece after my sister passed away unexpectedly. My husband just walked away and told me he had been cheating for many years. He burned through our savings and has left me with no income. I'm 64, have very little family and no friends. I had to move away from the town we lived in and into a small home in a town I never wanted to live in, but at least I have a roof over my head for now. I have no resume, poor health and I'm afraid. I hope and pray that everyone else going through this will be able to recreate a good, purposeful life. God bless you all.
Very similar story. I'm struggling to accept what God has allowed.
@@violet9486there is no loving god...just a cruel creator
God bless you
@@violet9486 well that's being naïve as perhaps you weren't listening in school about the kids in the holocaust and the horrors of war? it's your life and therefore can only be your fault. nothing was "unexpected" the red flags were there for years and you chose to ignore them.
Facing a divorce with my wife after a 30 year relationship. It was a "it's over, no contact" text. Been alone for 4 months now. Not drinking but having a hard time getting out. Work is still good, church is still good but don't have any make friends that have been through divorce let alone gray divorce. Worried about losing the farm litterly, and ending up homeless. Trying to figure out life again. Wish I never got married to begin with...
Good luck my brother. You will be ok. One foot in front of the other.
Don't get married again!
My wife and I are separated. I'm living a sober living house. Life feels like it has no point. Trying to cope with depression and anxiety. Emotionally I'm a wreck.
How are you doing now?
@@hannahrubinow well I'm a general manager have my own place and my vehicle is paid off. Me and my wife are working on our relationship. We're looking for a house so we can live together and be a family again.
@@MattaLac1987 awesome to hear it!
I’m here right now 1 bedroom home after collapse of business and divorce.
@@thexceo8592 Samesies. Holly shit, the amount of debt! But I will emerge leading the pack. 😄
I am going through this now. She had me arrested three times and the Police slapped me with a current AVO which does not allow me to visit my house nor live at my Mothers house nearby.
My limited exposure to my kids is now affecting them and I feel like an Uncle, not a Father.
She also managed to recruit my 21 year old daughter against me, of which she assisted Police arrest me.
I now live in a studio, still run my little business and plan for the future.
I suggest exercise daily to keep your head straight. I would rather be in the gym not thinking about my kids than a prison cell.
The system has it all against us. The woman you married, is no longer her. You have to let her go. For me, 29 years of marriage.
Well said
Financial loss is devastating
But just try to sort her out and move on.
I am 58 and going through this right now but to be honest pleased to be away from her.
Hopefully things will improve soon….
Good luck to all of you guys going through this super difficult time….
Stay strong…💪
3 days ago I was living in my very nice house in a very nice area in the Southwest. Tonight after 3 days of driving, I’m laying on a blow up mattress in a sh*t apartment in a sh*t neighborhood in the midwest. I don’t drink and I exercise so I need to keep that up. I have a job that I start next week so I’ll get by but holy crap, this is going to take a lot of f’n work! I have no furniture.......almost nothing. I am literally starting my life over again as it was 20 years ago. I’m getting too old for this crap. I am deep, deep in the valley like you said. I will try to focus on the good and not dwell on the bad. I know this will change.....I can do this! My ex-wife is texting asking how everything is. I really want to tell her to f-off.
She's looking for you to be her emotional crutch! I'm in the same boat, I had a big house, a nice car, a great neighborhood...now I'm a loser crashing on my dad's couch while he berates me about going back to my family...it's tough, there will be good days and bad days believe me...
Just block her
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I feel I might be going into depression losing everything
I could care less about her or my money...my son, I miss him every second.
Same here. I cannot stand to be without them. It literally kills inside. Talk to them on the phone. Plan vacations etc. They miss you just as much. Stay strong bro.
A Son needs you to care about his mother. You can regain your life again and your son will help you do this. What do you want? Be blessed to maintain your help and relationship with others too.
@@PeteyC_AZ yeh you’ve got to keep in contact with your kids. Even if it’s just once or twice a week, keep in contact phone them, take them out and be the best dad you can be..
@@matty6848 oh I will. They are my everything. I've seen enough divorces and been a child going through that to see how bad and detrimental it is to kids. Even if the adults don't get along, the kids are left out of the squabble.
@@PeteyC_AZ good on you Pete🙂👍
A man helping a fellow man makes it still a beautiful world.
Thanks I needed this. I’m recently divorced and started going down the route of drinking with my mates, and having no direction. Then I realised what I was doing, so pick myself up, joined a gym started eating healthier and making sure I had constant contact with my kids… no point dwelling on the past you’ve got to move forward and become a new you and just be the best dad you can be.
Nailed it Matt
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He’s takes a while to say it but he’s spot on.
10,10,10 plan
In the beginning it’s 10 hours, 10 days, 10 weeks.
As you start to execute and recover you can stretch that out to 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months.
Also, a lot of people saw their relationships fall apart after the pandemic. You are not alone and you are not being punished.
The sheep are being separated from the goats.
Embrace it and grow and know that in its previous state your relationship was going to be a hindrance to your survival of longevity.
The split was required for you to get back on track.
100%
Divorced 3 times and now married again. I know exactly how your feeling. There is a way forward,Mark has good advice.
Learn from looking back but look forward to life.it’s hard but it can be done.
Mate, you're a champ! 4 marriages?
Why do you keep getting married? You know you are not required to be married ??!!
@@scootypuffjr. you are 100% correct there is no need to get married it is a choice I made, 3 mistakes but I think number 4 is ok.
The Reason, many but security for my wife so when I die she gets a pension for life, if we were not married when I die she would get nothing.then she would have to start working and have no income. This way she is assured a pension for life, my theory look after the one who looks after you.
If I had doubts then I would not have got married.
Thanks for your comment.
@@RetiredandLivingthedream so you didn't have doubts the first THREE times? Smh
I was married for 20 years just got Divorce last Monday officially. I feel lost I feel that God doesn’t understand me I m 41 years old and I’m confused 🤷🏻♂️
Feel for you Hector. Hang in there brother because time is your friend. You may find help with piece that helped me get through what you're facing. Go to www.themarkwaite.com and download my 10 Bold steps. Stay strong man. MW.
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Thank you.Especially for the F's a 6th one I have added is Future,because I have to look forward,looking back is of no consequence other than pain.Thanks again.
Been divorced for six months and it's still painful. She's moved on and I feel stuck.
You're nice and young, learn to be very picky about who you let into your life. My ex begged me to treat her right and be there for her when we first met.
Jeremy you have to move on brother. Cherish the good memories you had but move on and create a new life for yourself. Don’t feel like your a victim, think your a strong man who can rebuild his life..
Half of the time, or more, it's pretend. Mean mind-games meant mostly to hurt you, and to assure herself she did the right thing. Just ignore and focus on yourself. You still may not be able to see this, but the ability to live with yourself, and focus on the here and now is bliss.
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I was 60 when she left. She was younger (and NPD). Just about destroyed me but managed to plod through Hell. Great advice but It's difficult to pick up the pieces when retirement is just around the corner. I had to remortgage to pay her out and that together with maintenance payments has all but crushed me. My mortgage runs for eight years after retirement. I'd almost bought my house outright when I met her. What a bloody fool I was. I'm trying to keep it together for the kids. Keep up the good work. 👍🏻👍🏻
Reach out anytime Hal. My details are in the description panel.
@@markwaite7805 Cheers. 👍🏻👍🏻
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems..
should have married someone your age. they are more wiser but i bet you wanted a young body to f*ck
Thahks for this man, going through the same...been in the valley things are slowly turning...I can afford to go back to the gym, eat good, and pay my bills on time...but my income is not there yet. But it will slowly turn..we
It will @Romaine T. Brown well done on your comeback! Reach out at support@themarkwaite.com anytime you need a perspective
With all respects be careful with the alcohol people, it really has a significant impact on your mental state and overall health condition. You need to be confident and in your best mental and physical and financial shape and in the ultimate reality alcohol is a setback and really does mess with your clarity. Trust me on this folks I've consumed a lot of booze over the years. Peace and health, people.
What he said.
I love alcohol, but you're right.
Smoke weed? 😀
@@ESL-O.G. It is funny, for real.
But in all seriousness, this is what got me to go off weed. It was effing my clarity and holding me back and down. I started to resent it a little. But after a week without it, I "got hooked" on clarity and sharpness. The difference in my performance was SO dramatic!
That was about two years ago. I don't hate weed. I have nothing against anybody who enjoys it. But I have been enjoying my life so much more since I quit.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver..
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems.
Thanks
Looking at the channel for the first time.
This video is encouraging and makes a lot of sense. Points back to hope and taking personal action. Good job!
Thanks Julia… hope it helps.
She makes more than me, I lost my son, the house, a chunk of my 401k and got hit with all the martial debt. I thought that the nightmare was over after the divorce, only to be shook down monthly for daycare costs, which have now put me in poverty, while she is flush with cash. It sucks.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver..
M e s s a g e h i m f o r h e l p o n w h a tsap.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems..
Checking in. How are you a year later?
This was a wonderful calming on point video. I so appreciate a Male perspective and an understanding that they too have feelings. It helped me not to feel so alone. This video also inspired me to continue with my family faith fitness finance and fun goals that are all important to me as well. Thank you for the refreshing helpful video.
Thanks for taking the time to comment Sherry and I’m really glad it helped you in a small way. Stay strong and let me know if I can help.
Thank you for this video.
Glad it was helpful!
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems.
Where is the link mark?
Thank you! This what you say will help me save my life.
God bless brother 🙏
Great stuff Mark
Never ever use drink ,
Great tips Mark - I'm in the middle of a divorce right now and have major concerns regarding life afterward. I am definitely going to implement some of your suggestions. Thank you
Thanks for the note Irving. Reach out if you think I could add some value.
Thank you so much for your suggestions. I’m in a middle of divorce with three kids and no enough money after 15 years of marriage .. Your video made me feel positive and that there’s hope to stand up again and fight for my kids
I can't imagine genuine combat grunts relating to anything or anyone.
it is very helpful to hear this other man sharing his story and his efforts to move life along.
Many like him who can turn things around.
Just started going through a divorce, how do I rebuild and better my life
Hey Terrance, sorry to hear you're going through this. It's a big question. On this channel I have a number of video's speaking to that question in parts. These videos are clearly labelled for the relevant topics. Feel free to reach out via the links in the description panel if I can help you further.
@@markwaite7805 please do, it's a rough tough road ahead and i need all the guidance I can , I'm just starting to realize that after this weekend.
I am not the classic go-getter type of guy, and certainly far from being a social animal, but the learning experience for me is that I can’t do it all and alone. I know now that I can look for and deserve sponsors, mentors, experts to take the burden where they’re best at, and teach me where I can’t do by myself.
As if almost driven by instinct, I went online and looked for bucket list ideas. I was surprised by how many things I wish I wanted to do.
I have found a financial advisor, to counsel me on how I can achieve these goals.
I have a therapist, to counsel me on how I can reach the best growing version of myself.
I joined the gym to get fit.
None of this eliminates the pain of a divorce. The only way out of the pain is through. Yet i can rely on others shoulders for support. One foot step at a time.
Hi Pier, well done on getting financial, emotional and physical support. It sounds like you have a great network of quality people around you. Time and forgiveness are great healers. MW.
🎈 on ur rebuild Life.
Very helpful video. Better than.talking to a therapist
Glad it was helpful! MW
I got divorced lost my house my business and yes Dog + cat. Having been kicked out by the judge. He gave me a date to be out. No housing would accept me because no job. No job would take me because i ran my own businesses for 27 yrs. I took a warehouse job and severely injured my shoulder. Workers comp screwed me . My ambulance chasing lawyer did an even better job at destroying me. Went homless now inly job can get is under the table work. My work skills are crap because of the injury. My lawyer made it impossible to get any kind of funding. The $ ran out 6months ago. Still no housing because I don't have a "job" on the books. Staying at the shop i work at which has no privacy, shower, and no ac (which is bad because i live in desert in s. California ). No friends locally they all mived outta ca. All that i own is in a 10' x 12' storage and two vehicles. Which one is dying. Bank one bill or paycheck late sends me in that spiral of over drafts.
Ideas Jason
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver..
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems.
Oh lawd Jesus
If your a drinker, she can use that against you. I found that out when I sought treatment and got sober my soon to be ex wife was angry with me because she lost that leverage.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems.
So helpful. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
I was married for 30 years I feel insecure and lost
God bless Carlos 🙏
32 years I’m lost and tortured daily
Did you initiate your divorce? I feel that since it wasn’t my choice, it feels much worse.
Laura Rodriguez I know of someone that can help you reply if you need his help
Womens mostly initiate divorce 90%
Mark, Great calming video. Thanks...AD
Thanks AD 🙏
@@markwaite7805 I have a few questions . What email should I use to contact you?
mark@themarkwaite.com
Nice info
Thank you
She just disappeared on the kids and I. Said she is going to see her family overseas and just cut communication to us. She left with a kiss and a hug and then the information started coming in. That she had been planning this for sometime at least 6 months previously..... she had pictures and a video of another man masturbating in her emails. She demanded divorce ... she refused to contact our children despite my pleas. She cut communication from whatsapp once I established it then only emails. I told her everyday I loved her ...tried to hug her everyday...I didn't abuse her...stayed strong for her and she did this to us. I am lonely and it hurts and I am a giving person and I can't motivate myself to start on myself. I just want her out of my thoughts.
Great video
Thanks Eric. I hope it adds some value to you mate.
@@markwaite7805 i has helped me with what I've been going through
It has helped me
Jesus was the only reason I made it! Prayers and lots of studying after starting school. Now I’m successful and have a good career as an instrument technician at a pharmaceutical company.
Great video Mark. Thank you for the wisdom.
Thank you Michael. Hope it helps.
watched some of your stuff. Your a decent person. you know what your doing. that's why it works for you.
This is helpful to me, as my wife filed for divorce in January, 2020, and I have no idea what my financial picture is going to be a year from now. I have no debts, and I have a good paying job, but I have no idea how much I will have to pay to my wife. So I don’t know what my net income is going to be. As a Christian, I believe that God will provide for me, so that is all I really know at this point. I’m 59 years old next month, and I would like to retire at 62, but I’m not sure if I will have enough money at that age.
Hi Ethan. Once you know where you stand from a cashflow perspective you will know how your goal of retiring at 62 is looking. Stay focussed on that goal mate and exercise your faith by believing that He will provide all your needs according to His promise over your life. Stay strong. MW.
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Thank you Mark, today marks 1 year of separation since my wife left me.
She could divorce me shortly.
This really helped me as I'm not looking after myself.
Sorry to hear man. All is not lost. I hope this content helps you in some way.
@@markwaite7805 wow thanks for the reply, really appreciate it.
It's like a roller coaster of emotions isn't it...
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There is a lot of healing before I can truly want to date again.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver.
M e s s a g e h i m f o r h e l p o n w h a tsap.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems..
The best thing to do is not get married. If you want to have kids, then just have one and pay the child support. It only last 18 years.
Well I'm divorcing my narcissistic wife.
Done being a victim!
I do not regret this loss at all and in fact I feel better and relieved now that I'm going down this path. I know there is light at the end of the tunnel.
It'll be tough having to start back with absolutely nothing but I will rebuild myself. I'm just fortunate that I didn't have any kids with this woman.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver..
Whatsapp him
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems,
I don't have or intend to use WhatsApp.
Rebuilding without kids in between your marriage is very very easy count your blessings my friend
Quit the booze get a real fun life oh and do not be repeat do not chase any woman.
GOOD FUCKING VIDEO RIGHT HERE !
I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder one day and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he's been changed for the good ever since, he started believing God has a plan for his life and he isn't always out with his friends anymore. He's more respectful and open minded ever since.
To fix your broken relationship I can recommend you to a problem solver..
M e s s a g e h i m f o r h e l p o n w h a tsap.
He fixed my broken relationship with my husband who left me over two years ago .he have solutions to all problems..
The price of a marriage is expensive and the price of getting rid of it ( get a divorce ) is even much more expensive , that's why no one ever wanted to have some experiences of it ....
My ex common law spouse has my son in a homeless shelter with her when I can provide full time care and a Loving Peaceful home for my 2 year old boy.
She's only in the shelter because she wants a free welfare apartment and dragging my son through for no reason.
In fact I Separated from her and broke the relationship off and have zero feelings toward her, but to get me back in revenge knowing I love my deeply she won't let him live with me.
I have one of the top lawyers in Toronto Canada helping me.
Guys stop thinking about Ex only FOCUS on being the best father
Any updates? Also, Great life advice for sure, but any advice on the actual divorce process and the financials behind it? That's my only fear now since it's seems in the good ol' USA it's favored more towards the female side..
@@phabeondominguez5971 divorce courts will always favor the mother no matter what, but has a man you must protect yourself so she doesn't falsely accused you of anything. So by have audio recorder on your cellphone on and if she gets abusive have that on video.
As for lawyers it get very expensive fast so don't fight over little things like furniture etc...
Get your 50/50 custody and that's major Win.
Thanks for asking about my update. My Ex got her subsidized housing apartment in October 2022. And I currently have a temporary custody in order until our next court date of 50/50
@@moemassy8624 glad to hear you got the 50/50 even if only temp, that's a start. Tho I no longer have any love for her, Me and her have no beef and won't be fighting over little things like furniture.. My issue is that I made us debt free and would have paid off mortgage in 2-3yrs too. However the cost was my retirement future, I have NOTHING to show for that, meanwhile she is sitting on 6 figures.. She can keep the house, I don't care, I'm just worried about my long term future.. any input or advise welcomed..
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I feel like pond scum after divorce. My child acess is not smooth. I don't get dates and at work im at the bottom of the ladder. Sometimes I don't know why I'm alive
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Pray for her salvation and spiritual maturity every day, pray in Jesus' name every day. Always love and respect the Father God and others, no using His name in vein. Always be a faithful Tither, make sure you're Tithing to the right ministry. One of my pastors tells us to preach about Tithing to Voice of the Martyrs ministry. He said it heals families and marriages, you can try that if you want to. CBN has great utube videos about marriage healing.
Funny how in all these video's not one man says what happened.
It's a devastating experience esp. if you did not want the divorce. This time last year I was a millionaire with a paid off modest townhouse. After 20 yrs of marriage she decided she'd had enough. Loneliest Christmas away from my kids. I retired at 62, no longer in the workforce. It's just day after day of "what next". Plus rejection and no words from her. I did try to reconcile, she completely shut me down. It has been Hell on Earth.
How long were y'all together and what reason did she give?
that's why i don't want to marry a divorced man. all their resources go to their ex wife and children, there is nothing left for you.
Why would man even give u his money? Earn it yourself, you are grown up person.
And no man would want to marry you if your first concern is what he can provide, very selfish outlook
Perfect, say this to any divorced man and he will most certainly not want you either.
Well you don’t marry a man for what finances he can give you, you should marry him irrespective of what his finances are. If you love him that should be beyond money..
@@matty6848 Not many women desire poor, greedy and homeless men for sure. If man loves a woman then he will want to provide and care.
Gentlemen, on behalf of the fair sex (and let's be honest. Unless she's a genuine born-again believer, Very few women have any interest whatsoever in fairness on any level) I'd like to apologize to all of you going through divorce. I realize it's horrible for you. Perhaps I have a different perspective from most women because I have sons and brothers, but honestly, I'm sorry for your plight. I'm not making excuses for men who have legitimately done wrong and shot themselves in the foot, so to speak, but I am painfully aware that all too often, women are just hard-eyed, hard hearted, harpies just out to destroy, to practice a vicious game of parental alienation, and to take, take, take.
I am absolutely not born again, and have complete empathy and love for those going through divorce.
I asked for the bare minimum in child support, since my ex makes about twice what I make. I asked for zero of his 401k, even though we had cashed in my IRA because we needed money.
We put the kids first, and we both have cozy, safe and calm homes for our kids. And split custody 50/50.
Don’t diss the “fairer sex”, please.
Don't put us all in the same boat. Most of us just want love and happiness. If your partner is narcissistic then nothing works.