REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER A PAINFUL DIVORCE - Motivational Over 60 Life
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- REBUILDING YOUR LIFE AFTER A PAINFUL DIVORCE - I was 60 when my world blew up! A frank intimate talk about how I survived the worst crisis of my life. The death of my mother, divorce, and car accident. Practical important things I learned that got me back on my feet, happy and thriving. I share with you how I did it. I take you through step by step the goals I set for myself to become a functioning woman again. I also show you pictures throughout the video of how I looked 10 years ago and it's sort of shocking to me...! I took my camera and visited an apartment on a lake that has become available for me and Desi. I have not made up my mind whether I should take the leap but I have to admit, Desi would love living on the lake and so would I! IT's $ 250 more a month so I better get cracking with my eBay store! Let me know if you think it looks pretty...I tried to include a lot of footage of it as the video begins and ends.
I hope this video helps those of you who are going through some of the same situations I did.
My heart goes out to you and I made this video for every woman who looks in the mirror and insults herself and wishes she could be the strong woman she once was.......for every woman who has a weak moment of fear and anxiety and feels stuck.......for every woman who fears her best days are behind her....for every woman who feels insecure and "not good enough" as she goes through her day wondering what other people see in her.....for every woman who sets goals for herself...and although she is scared out of her mind to improve her life...she digs deep and finds the courage she didn't even know she had.....and does it all anyway and succeeds!
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
Let us know the things you put in motion that helped you through crisis!
I love you to the moon and back and I always will,
Love Always, Susan & Desi
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when the morning comes
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The reason you are at peace, is for the first time you are not looking out for happiness or validation. You are looking in. That is the most powerful thing a woman can learn. Its all within you .
I think you just might be on to something here Liane :) xo
You are amazing and I always feel encouraged when we visit. Thank you for being so honest with your struggles. You give us hope for a brighter future. Thank you!
liane abet That is Really Good!
liane abeyta : wow!!!
You are so right!!!
Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom.
God bless xx
Hi Susie from Annie thank you for your words of faith. It has been a long track and hard life over the years but not sure I can smile as much about things as you seem to do? Presently I feel overwhelmed my next door neighbor again threw chicken bones laced with something over my fence and I keep an watch out and never let my pooch out unless I am outside in garden, she must have eaten something he dropped over fence I did not see those chicken bones last Friday. But by last Friday evening she started vomiting lots and kept like it on next day and the day after so I couldn't get her to vet till Monday who took blood test then next day phoned said he has antibiotics and pain killers for her to take so started her on that right away as got my friend who lives here (not a romantic friend) he is not very caring type either but picked up the medicine after taking pooch to vet day before, as I can't drive and can't afford a car am on a pension. The tablets get dissolved in water given by syringe and she still won't open her mouth same goes with food I made a chicken breast and rice puree put it in to a cake decorating icing gadget to try force her to eat it most gets spat out and she is so weak and stomach is hard and bloated vet thinks it something she may have eaten and thinks her pancreas is inflamed says tablets should help, then when she is better wants to pull her tooth at the back of mouth. Was told last year her teeth are ok?
I feel beside myself can't live without my pets have two cats as well but I am more or a doggy person thou but love both cats and dogs equally can't live without them. I felt a bit suicidal today as trying so hard to cure my pooch I play special dog healing music and massage her all the time and do some healing magic rituals over her and pray to GOD all the time hope he hears my prayers I get at times a bit sceptic it is hard to feel fully confident when one prays I do think GOD hears and cares well I hope so he has before over they years most times heard my prayers. Pets give more love than people ever can.
Thank you for sharing this!!! I thought, when I was 41 and I lost the little girl that I was carrying (my last chance of ever being a mom) nothing else could matter more. When I was 68, my long time boyfriend told me I'd have to leave the day we found out I had breast cancer as he couldn't handle me dying in his house. Because of my loss & recovery at age 41, I not only handled it, I thrived. I'm cancer free now (no chemo, etc. just natural supplements, healthy eating, etc.) I love my job, apartment, & my cat who's helped me through it all. I'm 74 now & happy knowing that I'm my own hero.
Oh you have been through so much...I am so happy you are cancer-free and thriving Pj!!!
You have gone through a lot...I also have had many traumas ..I am 65 and have to find a job to leave a toxic envirornment.......may I ask what job you were able to get?
Love this
Sending love
That was a very unhappy time for you.
I also had a very bad time. Went through a divorce, tried to commit suicide. Had no place to go with my 3 children. But I woke up and realized that I almost left my children without a mother. I found a job working nights and gave myself 1 year to change my life for the better. I went to school for medical assistant and found a job working for a Urologist, got off welfare. Learned to enjoy life be happy and mostly taught my children that I am a strong women who survived life. Have Faith and always believe that God is wit you at all times. You are such an inspiration to so many woman. Love ❤️ you.
I am glad you made it Maria. You are strong and brave. God is with us all the time.
God bless you and your children. That’s great you set a goal and met it.
Congratulations journey wonderful example to your children sending love ❤
God bless you and the family...you are teaching your children to never give up or give in.
Im glad you came through and made it. Always be kind to yourself no matter how hard things get ( and they will from time to time ) Times passes quickly and our children grow up almost over night. Cherish them while you can. My 3 kids are ( age 52 -50 -43 ..... seems only yesterday they were babies, one is a 23 year teacher, ones a retired military Ranger officer, and one is my problem child. Much love.
Recently lost my wife. She died after 53 happy years together. Your video is the first one I have come across that is totally genuine - and most helpful to me. Thank you so much for sharing.
My hard times drove me to read the Bible cover to cover; and that got me through. God never left me...He was with me through it all
Thank you for sharing this journey. My life fell apart after the death by suicide of my son, then my husband of 33 years died with pancreatic cancer and after taking part time care of my Mama with Alzheimer’s, watching her die. The grief encompassed me, I just could not go on with my “normal” life. My faith has been instrumental in my life. It has taken years, but I am better. I have more good days than bad days. With God, I am never alone!
God bless you Jo Ann.. thinking of you
God bless you, He sure does love you!🙏❤️... I’m so very sorry for the losses in your life.
My condolences on your losses.
U r still standing. I'm proud. Of you for sharing. It gives others hope. God Bless
My son at 16 committed suicide right before Xmas this year how did you manage to be ok im struggling
Diagnoses of cancer, marriage of 32 years ending at the age of 61, and now here I am, almost 70, helping cancer patients learn about the power of meditation and teaching exercise to seniors so they can keep their independance. So what have I learned? When your dreams shatter into a million pieces, pick up one of those pieces and start again. That's it. No magic potion, no easy way out. Grit, determination and a will to survive. Oh, and of course.........love. Onward!!!!
GOD!!
Love these wise words. ❤
My channel is Old Vine Zen. Created for my cancer survivors and anyone else who entertains deep thoughts and questions about life.
I love the quote you shared, That once you experience hell there’s only one hell.
“You’ve always had the power my dear. You had it all along.”
~ Glinda , The Good Witch of
the North.
I love this Julie!!!!! There is a lot of wisdom in that amazing movie!!! I also admit I have wondered who might have a house droppe don them!!! LOL...Happy Sunday!
Truly loved this video. It was much needed. Been divorced for 15 years already. I’m so happy that I’m on my own with my little dog 🐩 Harley. It was extremely hard at first leaving a 32 yr. marriage but I couldn’t take the toxicity anymore. Much love to you and Desi! ♥️🙏🏻🐾
I, too, am walking away from a 32 year old toxic marriage. This video is profound for me and I am going to watch it again actually for some weird reason I may be scared but I’m also excited I don’t know why maybe I am just naïve but the Loveless miserable person I’m living with has sucked the life out of me and I’ve been working on putting that life back in me even if I’m still living here with him, I’m working on getting out now. Reading that you made it and you’re happy that’s so encouraging. Congratulations. I’m very happy for you.
Susan, I loved everything that you had to say. I went through losing my mom, losing my face (cancer), losing my sister (she had a massive nervous breakdown, and I had to move. During the move I was hit and my car was totalled. You know, you have to say "I'm turning this over. It's too much for me." I really loved that you said "I'm safe". I used to say that every morning when I woke up, staring at the celing - MY CEILING - and I was so grateful. Growth is a beautiful thing, getting there is messy, heartbreaking, lonely and scary. I used to keep you in my prayers every night because you were so sad and so alone. I worried that the grief would overwhelm you. Then I rejoiced when you got Desi, because I knew you had unconditional love. Now, you're going from strength to strength and you're still in my prayers. Not because you're sad. Because I thank you for keeping me going and caring about everyone who watches your channel. And for being a little nightlight for people who are all alone. Love and hugs to you and Desi. xx
🌹🌹👍🙏 so beautifully said!
Hi Sweet Susan. 🌹 Thank you for sharing and encouraging us. Bless you Be Safe
A nightlight for lonely souls...so well said. Congratulations on surviving, stay strong.
Beautifully said. And inspirational. Praying for others is healing❤🇨🇦
@@susanl698 I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm feeling sorry for myself. I'm not! I got a new nose and lip and just have a scar and I married my ex-fiancée from 9 years earlier. Life isn't the same at all. But I'm grateful to have learned new things. I realized after typing it that sounded all boo hoo for me. I apologize! :D Thanks so much for being so kind. You're all such dolls.
I am 57 years old going through a divorce of 27 years. I enjoy listening to your stories. I want that peace and joy too.
When I was 35 my husband left me on Valentine's day 2 weeks before our 6th anniversary. He was my one and only and I was his third wife. My doctor recommended a therapist which helped immensely but not after 3 suicide attempts. Pat left with only $32 in the bank. God watched over me. I found a great job in my profession which was my salvation, that, my mom and my faith. I moved far away for another advance in my career, finally enrolled in an eating disorders group at a local hospital, slowly gained sobriety. That was 38 years ago. I'm still alone but now with two precious little dogs that give me a reason to get up every day. I have no family, no children, struggle with depression and extreme loneliness. I cared for my mom and her husband for almost 20 years. All are gone now. At 72 I'm still trying to find a purpose.
Too often in the middle of the night I awaken with extreme terror. I just want to run away again.
Keep reaching out to others and situations where you can make a difference like volunteering and hellping animals or people who need help; Even though you feel alone and afraid, remember that you can be a source of strength and comfort to others
I’m so sorry for all the difficulties you’ve had to face…Praying for you🙏
May God bless you and your precious doggies😊❤️
God bless you! How streng you've been. Praying for you!
There are beautiful 3-part-films on TH-cam:
"The Phenomen of Bruno Gröning"
"The Phenomen of Healing"
- both from the Circle of Friends from Bruno Gröning. ❤ ❤❤❤❤
I also feel like you … butsomehow here and there good days happen .
Hugs.
Right on time, need this. My life has been falling apart slowly for too many years now. Lack of finances, one sided friendships, over worked, under paid, no intimate relationships, house falling apart, debts piling up...lost my precious grandmother who was basically my mother. I am just so tired, and i feel like giving up. My head hurts, my body is sore and my heart hurts. I find myself worrying constantly, surviving on 3-4 hours sleep, a single mother of 2. I dont understand how i got here. I just need some luck
I’m sorry you’ve been dealing with these challenges. This too shall pass.. and I do understand most of what you’re going through. Prayers for you. 🙏❤️💯
Have FAITH in YOU , IF JUST ONE PERSON COULD IT SO YOU CAN TOO🤲🙏💜🕊
Miss Kylie... : Spirit led me to write you . Encourage you. I've been there. I was in my 30's at the time. I had two young children, one daughter was only 4 months of age. My damn husband was a lying cheating whatever Creep. ( Covert Narcissist, come to find out.)
I had only been married to him for going on two and a half years, when I find all this out. I had no job, I had two young children, but I knew God was going to help me. God would make a way when there was no way. And He did. In a few weeks time, I had a job , I could take care of my children. It was challenging, even back then. It was 1987. But I held on. I had a new purpose, I had to take care of MYSELF, AND those precious lives entrusted to me. I would be single until 1992, when I got remarried. I changed jobs several times, but thst was ok. ... it was at one of my jobs I met my second husband, and had another daughter . Life Lessons and asking God and the Universe and your Angels for specific help , will bring you to a place of peace, even when things are " unknown ".
I hope this makes sense to you.i will absolutely put you in Prayers tonight , and this Affirmation may help you.
Actually, there's 2.
* God will make a way where there is " no way " .
* God works at unexpected times in unexpected places, through unexpected people His wonders to perform. "
Please don't give up. It takes Courage and Fortitude, every day , but it's Worth it. IT WILL BE ALLRIGHT. The Universe and God have your back. Prayers and Blessings ~ 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💜
P.S. : at the time that I wrote you this comment you had 33 likes on your comment and 3 replies. Now, those numbers altogether are "333" , Which are Spiritual, an Angel Number. There's a reason it turned up that way. Look for signs and synchronisities every day. Trust in the Wisdom and help that the Universe has for you. ...have Gratefulness for every day. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I know this all seems hard to you right now but trust me this is temporary! Things will change and u won't feel like this forever! Look forward to THAT day! Sometimes bc of the bends in the road u can't seem to see the straight path but it's there! Everything You described I have been thru and here I am 79, and living the dream making goals still and keeping them ! One foot in front keep moving forward ! Sending u hugs, Barb ❤️
Oh Kylie, I wish you could see (you) in the future. Listen sweetheart, take it from this old-doll...YOU WILL get passed this time, I promise you, I promise you! Please please please don't give up. Visualize how you want your life to be & look...And don't ever let go of (that) vision. Praying for you sweetheart. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
When my mother died, I remember looking out the window and wondering how the world was still continuing on when mine had obviously stopped. I am 67 and my life does not even come close to what I thought it would look like at my age. I have learned that be best way to enjoy life is to give to others. The more you give to others, the more you receive. I know that sounds crazy, but it is true. If you give to others you are too busy to be lonely, you make friends, you feel better about yourself and that makes you happier.
Oh yes...you bring tears to my eyes...I remember staring out that window too and praying ...if only I could go back in time and relive it....
Good to see you again, and Desi.....my world crashed 45 years ago when I lost our son at birth..our first son was 5 and it was his birthday. That night I went into premature labor and the next day our second son was born, he lived about 6 hours. we stopped at my MIL house on the way home from hospital and I started to tell what the baby looked like when she said “dont talk about it!” 6 months later I was talking to a Psychiatrist I was suicidal and so depressed I could not continue my job as an office manager over 3 offices...if I quit we could not afford the house we had built ourselves..I believed the whole world depended on me to keep running..I turned against God and held everything in! One day I told my husband I was leaving the big house and taking our son and my Mom with me, he was welcome to come but I was done with the corporate ladder. We bought a 2 family house in a neighborhood with kids our son’s age and it was the best move...it took years for me to accept what happened and ask God to come back into my life _. The joke was on me, he never left, I was the one who left...today was our son’s 50th birthday and tomorrow I will not cry for our Shaun’s birthday because I know we will meet again..
Years ago my mental breakdown was so massive that I felt like I fell off a mountain.During this time, my mother committed suicide. She was my best friend, my hero. What I learned is to be very "selfish" and set my boundaries firmly. This way I was able to rebuild my lif so that I could have the harmonious life I am now living. It is joyful and I am so grateful.
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💜💜💜. What a touching story. I had tears , but I'm glad you found the Strength and Courage to leave . ...that is often the most difficult part... the first step after the decision. God bless you and your Family. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You will see him again. Happy birthday in heaven to your sweet boy. Thinking of you Maggie. Hugs.
@@madeleinemaxwell3920 💕
What a story. Mine is very recent and very similar. I’ve only been divorced for 2 months. It seems it has been longer than that. I also had a few events in my life. My husband filed for divorce without telling me. I was 70 yrs young, very naive woman who worked all her life with her husband. I also had an accident that totaled my car. I also lost my 18 yrs old rat terrier dog. She was the love of my life. I also had, and still living is my chihuahua who is now 14 yrs old. My daughters were no help cause they were hurting. So I decided I was a survivor and would have to survive this ordeal by myself. I decided that I was going to survive and go on with my life. I am now very happy to be free of my ex-husband, an abuser, manipulative, and controlling. I just started to start going out by myself. You are such an inspiration! I also turned to you tube and started watching ladies talk about anti-aging and makeup. Keep up the good work you do and continuing to do. Love your channel very much. Until next time, Ondy
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Good for u!!!! You deserve the best 🥰
Susan, just had to tell you, I don’t think you realized when making this video how it would effect so many of your subscribers. Reading the comments just tugs at my heartstrings.
I was thinking all your misfortune brought you here to us… you have come such a long way, and you look so happy and at peace. Your JOY shines like a diamond… xo
You are so dear and so wonderful Christine...thank you...thank you for being here!!!
Oh Susan, boy oh boy, do you know what a true blessing (this/your) channel is to me & so so many of us older-dolls??? Sometimes when I say my prayers (especially after you post a video) I thank God for our Little Poet community.🙏❤
At first, I wasn't gonna comment tonight (I was just gonna watch & thumbs up of course) ...But you said something that gave me a shiver...and I can so relate.
You said, "I wasn't afraid to die...but I was afraid to live." Wow Susan, I felt the same way in the Fall of 1985.
I'd left my abusive husband (of 10 years, & moved about 100 miles away. Two kids, under 11 y/o, no job, no real support, & an old put-put of a car. But what I did have was "fake courage"...Lol!
I worked 3 part-time jobs. Two of the jobs were Mon-Fri...And the 3rd job (was on the weekends)...The weekend job paid the most, but had no benefits, (and) it was-not consistent. (FYI: On the weekends & holidays I was a perfume sample "spritzer girl" at the mall...I know, right???😆...But it paid up to $20 per hour for 6 hours both Saturday & Sunday...And Susan, in 1985, that was unheard of money!😄)
At any rate, my rent was $393. each month for a 2 bedroom apartment...I managed to have my utilities all on budget plans. My main job was close enough to my apartment, where if my car broke down, I could walk to work in about 40 minutes. (During that time I lost a ton of weight...silver-lining, ya know😄)
I was always a saver, so before I left my husband, I started saving ever penny I could get my hands on. (He) rarely gave me money, and never let me pay any household bills. So everytime I could squirrel-away a dollar here, five dollars there...I would wrap it in foil paper & put it in a fake tree planter or light fixtures in our home...(Somewhere I knew he'd never find it)...When I saved a hundred dollars, I opened up a savings account. Yippee!
Susan, almost every other day, I would go to the bank drive-through window with my $5 or $8 or $10 deposit! (Wow, that sounds so long ago to me...Almost like a whole other girl...SMH) This one older-doll teller would always give me "a knowing look"...As if she knew I was in trouble. She would always smile at my babies, and always always give them candy.😊❤
But I digress...
After, I saved $300...I got all my important papers ie. Kids/my birth certificates etc...I was ready to leave him. I won't bore you with any more details...
Months later, the day (I knew in my gut) I was gonna be ok???...Was when I bought myself some fresh flowers. You know why I chose to buy those fresh flowers??? Because I love love love pink carnations!...And my (now) deceased husband (knew that!) And do you know, (he) never bought me (any) flowers, ev-ver...in all the years we were married...not 1 flower! Yuck!
Anyway Susan, don't be mad at me, but in 1990, he talked me into coming back to him...and I did. Yuck, right? And yep, you guessed it...the abuse started back-up almost immediately. I stayed (that time) for 10 more years. When I finally left in 2001! Yay! Yippee!...I never looked back at him! He died of a massive heart attack in 2019.
Oh Susan, please forgive this long comment...But what you said about "being afraid to live" trigger something in me...I'm so sorry. All I really wanted to say, is thank you, thank you for being here on TH-cam...You've been a God-send.🙏🙋♀️❤
❤️ thanks for your message of hope
amazing story - v inspiring...thanks & gbless
Thank you for sharing this. Bless you!
I'm so pleased you made it out permanently! We women are pulling ourselves out of some poor conditioning. Hallelujah! Step by step, one by one, and you are one of them. Thank you for sharing❤❤
Susan, your 'small' apartment felt so big and fun. We had fashion shows, recipes, music, great stories, heartwarming dogs, shopping with Susan and of course Rose Hip oil! Loved all of it ❤
OH Carol....I loved that little place....it was my salvation!!! I just love you!
🎉Oh my gosh - I just found you! After 13 years of renting, I have finally, nearly bought my own home again and I was daydreaming about decorating. I watched a couple of your TH-cam tips and then found this one. I am jaw dropped and happy. I don't know anyone else like me - at 40 within a 3 month period my Dad died, I was diagnosed with breast Ca. and my marriage was over. I was left in financial ruin - with debts, no home, no car and a year's worth of cancer treatment. Then I worked, paid off debts, got a master's degree and now finally my own place in 4 weeks. I feel so happy to have found someone who can give real advice because you really have lived it. I love that you're lovely, kind, beautiful, smiling. I love Desi too and I have my own dog and cat. Oh thank you, thank you. I don't know if you read comments attached to videos a year old - I hope so 😊😊
My life fell apart in 2011. I lost everything. Think Job in the Bible. Satan was alive and well in my life then. I got down to 89 pounds and looked like a skeleton. But my Faith pulled me through. It took a good 5+ years before I could live again without the intense emotional pain. I now lack for nothing. But I still get feelings of sadness, anger, and depression. That is when I force myself to "move forward" and leave the past behind me. But life has certainly changed. I am so happy to have found this channel. Susan, I enjoy you and Desi so much. Thank you.
I'm so happy you are in a better place, thank you for sharing as that is very encouraging
Thank you so much for being here with us all!!!
You are such an inspiration. I turned 40 in January and my life hasn’t turned out as expected. Now I’m determined to make the rest of my life the best of my life but have been in a rut lately and trying to claw myself out this dark hole. Please keep shining your light, the world needs it.
I turned 56 in January.. we’ve got this!! All of us. ❤️
@@donnamccall6950 Amen sister, Amen!❤💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃
@Lori Harvey's Baby Hairs (great screenname, BTW) I know what you mean. I say I'm living "my Plan B life." I never got to live Plan A -- you know, husband, kids, house in the suburbs. But I look around and see so many bright, funny, talented, kind women in similar circumstances. It gives me strength and solace. We WILL persevere.
I gave my husband unconditional love for 41 years before he passed away. I can't say the same for him. Personally, I wasted alot of my life with him. If I had it to do again, I would not have.
@@daisy7141 You're preaching to the choir over here friend! 👏 ❤
I'm going through a very rough time right now, hardest in my 72 years, and you've helped me Susan. Thank you.
I’m sorry, but wish you better days ahead. 🌷
Your not alone. My sincerest love and prayers are with you 🙏
Keep the Faith! Life is a journey to our real peace. 🙌
Love to you always....and I'm saying a prayer we all find peace and joy...and I know we will!...xxoo
We realize we are never alone! 💖
I’ve just watched this Susan , be proud of yourself you’ve come a long way 🙌💕
I’ve known great sadness having an alcoholic father remnants of the war then watching my daughter going from drug addiction having a beautiful son then becoming an alcoholic and trying to keep my grandson safe, we have come through the other side and the only way that happened was I believe “ Prayer “ Faith in GOD trusting HIM 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I have a quote “ you can bend me but you can’t break me “ 🙏🏻
Bless you 💕🌹
Yes been there done that. Lost nephew in Iraq, husband had 2 life threatening surgerys,surgery, mother in law,6weeks later Lost father in law.mother diagnosed dementia, then husband decided he would rather greave himself in alcohol and wanted divorce. Taken me 10 years but I made it!. Got me a cute 1 bedroom apt in a great little town on the Texas coast. Life is better than any past marriage. My dreams are my own now and there good.
I’m so proud of you creating your own life! That’s wonderful!
I too am in Texas and I truly think when life depends only on oneself and not on another one can actually feel safe and fulfilled & feel joy even in the worst of circumstances because it is one's own creation and is dependent only on one's own self
I totally get it! Eight years ago I came home from work and six hours later my husband was dead. I became a widow at 53. Totally unexpected and it rocked my world. Married 24 years, no kids but lots of animals & a small farm. Over the next two months I had to put two of my dogs down, my kitty and my horse. I had my little Chihuahua left. Eight years later I’m doing really good. You see grief never goes away it just changes and at some point you choose to put your life ahead of the grief. The grief is as big as the love that you had. Any loss whether it be death, divorce, losing your house, losing your job they’re all a loss that you grieve in one way or another. I sold the farm and my little Chihuahua and I moved to town to be close to family. I truly didn’t think I would make it through and I was very angry at God for taking so much from me. But then I realized it was Jim’s time for whatever reason and I couldn’t have moved with all of my pets and horses. I think God was laying out my new season in life and a new future. Somehow I made it through it all and I’m very happy. I’m single and I’m very happy about that :-) life is good. It’s a journey, it’s a season and it’s something that you have to go through, you cannot go around it. But once you make it to the other side you will be OK. Sorry for the long post Susan ❤️
“The grief is as big as the love you had.”
That’s so very accurate! Thank you for sharing this - it made a tremendous impression on me. 🌸
Thank you!!! I was feeling lonely and sorry for myself and about to take my daily walk …. I thought, “I know what I’ll do. I’ll listen to The Little Poet. She’ll have something valuable to say to me.” I know God used you in my life today. My husband died almost 3 years ago (August 23, 2019). Back then I was surrounded by friends and family. But they have busy lives and not as much time as they had then. My daughter is now married and has her own life. I feel so alone. And when I do interact with others, I seem to screw it up. Like tonight when my daughter called me and pointed out a flaw in me. It made me feel like such a loser. Like no one probably really likes me any way. I want to change. I want to be calm and the kind of person people want to be around. I just don’t seem to be where I want to be in life. But I listen to you and know I can change for the better too. I was born in Flint, Michigan. My parents grew up there and then moved to SC when I was 9 months old. I love that you live there - reminds me of home because all my aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents still lived there while I was growing up. Thanks for your words today - you help a lot of people. ❤️
Ah Kris, you melt my heart! I know our kids have a way of hurting us but they don't even know they are doing it! They just think it, blurt it out and have no thought about how it might land on their Mother's ears. I think for me son, I had to tell him " that hurt my feelings son" ....and be began to realize that I am older now and I am more sensitive....I am a different " Mom".....he has changed so much and softened his words. ...but still...LOL...Getting older is such a challenge....and taking one day at a time helps....but we didn't some this far to not find happiness and peace....my love to you kris and thank you for sharing a bit of your life with me..it is my honor! xxoo Susan & Desi
Wow!!!! I just saw this video and found you yesterday. I think this is a God thing. My life has blown up and I'm just trying to keepmy head above water. I'm thankful for my faith and now you. . I'm70 and having to start over. Everything I ever worked for is gone. I know I will make it. It's just scary and I am so very tired.
Your story hit home . I lost my mom, my husband and a brother in law all in a 9 month period.
I had never been by myself ever in my entire life but suddenly I was alone.
It was so hard to go forward, but my adult children and my work was what forces me to get up every morning.
I chose to live instead of drying up.
I’ve had the huge houses and the fancy cars and that no longer is me.
I now live in a 550 ft cottage and I dearly love it.
I’m not the person I use to be, but I like the person I am now.
Thank you Susan for sharing your story. 🤗💋
Until next week !
God bless you, sorry for your losses
🐸 Happy Saturday ♥️🥧♥️ a true beautiful woman
I can relate so much, over 2 years ago, I had everything hit. It was so rough, I sort of fell apart too. I am doing well now, but it was a long slow process. I thank you for sharing your story, it reminds all of us, that we can make it through.
I palate hun.
CT Designs, I reminds us that we are not alone. We have a safe harbor to land in & strong, wonderful, supportive women to help us unload our cargo, be it a mess after traveling rough seas, or blessings that come even after having survived the heaviest seas & haven't we all traveled both and grown from this community of women.
Your journey is such a powerful inspiration Susan and I can literally relate...After 21 years of marriage, my ex and I divorced. That was in 2010. And I was here, raising my three kids on my own afterward, literally rebuilding a new life. But God was faithful, and provided. In 2013, I tried marriage again. Great guy, but he had
challenges (addictions) he still needed to walk and work through and would not seek the help he needed. I stayed as long as I could, but by 2017, we divorced. Went through job grant ending, and job ending, etc.
During those years. But my faith sustained my kids and I, and we persevered...It was not easy, but God thankfully made a way:).
After dealing with COVID, Early this year,
It put perspective on my faith, family, and health always being first. My kids are all grown and work full time, and they, have allowed for me to retire, because as they told me, "Mom, we can look out for you now"....
All I can say is, I'm thankful for the grace despite the challenges I have walked through in my life journey. I keep my joy. I give kindness. I live in the present..
. Peace has been the best outcome:)...so I understand why you have so much joy now Susan:). I can relate:)...
Wishing you joy and kindness:)🙏🎀🙏
God bless you. So happy that you have amazing children who want to give you a chance to relax and enjoy life.
@@tammi67able 🙏🎀🙏
Oh Susan, you are truly an Inspiration!
A lot of that video sounds / sounded like my life .
Divorce, finding new love only to have him die. Loss of job, moving , finding new job only to lose that along w' a dozen others....covid.
So I retired a yr. early.
Here I am, trying to figure out what to do w' the rest of my life.
I will say that for me the power of God is the only thing that helped me survive. My faith, my trust in God. I was locked in the bdrm & held at gunpoint by the ex. I survived by the power of God.
We don't really know how strong we are until we are faced w' a life altering situation. Reacting calmly & talking & having this all knowing feeling ...... not today. I'm not going to die today.
Yes, I cried too for a long time after my fiancé died. I cried hard. He always said you put one foot in front of the other. That's what I try to remember. I will miss him forever. Love him forever. For this I remember the good times & smile. He gave me an eternity in the time we had, & for that I'm grateful. ❤
Susan, this full circle for me. You appeared in my YT feed 2+ years ago and you were near tears in that one talking about divorce. You've helped me week after week; however, I currently find myself isolating (again) and wallowing. Thank you for another pep talk.❤🌻🎁💖
Thank you for being here Kim! I think our healing never travels in a straight line....you will be out and about once again!!! You got this!
@@LittlePoet 🤗💝
Thank you for sharing your story. 💜 After my divorce the ex husband took my kids and didn't bring them back. My dad also passed of cancer. I withdrew and was homeless for a year and a half. My faith in God brought me thru.... He surround me by strong women and gave me peace. I am so grateful he kept me. I learned that what seems like the end of something is actually the beginning of something beautiful. ⚓ Stay Anchored and never give up.
What a beautiful comment. I’m at rock bottom right now, priced out of the home & city I lived in for 18 years. I’ve been staying with family for 2 months now. I know I’m technically not homeless but I’m very close. I think God is keeping me here, because everyday I want to die, but I stay. I pray for a new beginning 🙏🏽
@@gal1885 A new beginning has begun....just look forward and keep the faith. Here's somethings I've learned along the way. When your feeling overwhelmed and doubtful always remember everybody is on the outside looking in. You feel it because your in the situation. Faith is like a seed when you release it and trust God if you decide to check the progress and dig the seed back up to see if it's grown you delay the process of it's growth. Let go and let God because he knows what's on the other side of this. Trying to do it on our own leads you down a path of depression and hopelessness. Pray for wisdom in the direction you should go and if things don't make sense pray.... God bring things to light. ..for understanding. We all come to some crossroads in our life. If God can bring us to it he can bring us through it. How can we ever know how to have faith and persistence if we're never in a situation that helps us develop it? This is what God knows when he allows us to go through things...... when we see it as a negative. Last but not least in trusting God and moving forward always pay attention to what you pray for and how God moves in your life. What situations he puts you in for growth and people he surrounds you with to help you along the way. When I look back on my life I realize how the hand of God moved in my life to get me to where I'm at now. Everything is not perfect but I have a home I have peace and I have a great job and people God has strategically placed in my life to help me along the way. I don't know what your beliefs are but I believe the enemy would love to take us all out of this world before we reach our potential and purpose.. But God has a greater purpose and plan for our lives. This is only a bend in the road. Stay Anchored⚓ This too shall pass😊 And be grateful always. 🙏.
Thank you Susan . I’m going through a rough patch that started with both parents passing . A son with cancer . I have had severe anxiety, panic attacks and developed agoraphobia. I keep trying my best to push myself through this but , it’s very hard . Catching up with you , Desi and all the lovely ladies I hear from in the comments sections is a blessing. Much appreciated ! ❤️
I’m sorry you are having such a difficult time. I hope that your son believes in prayer, I will pray for him.
@@flossyflue4305 thank you ! You’re very kind .
Will pray .love
May god’s guidance give you confidence to move slowly forward to reach your goals. Just hold on things will begin to change.
Hi Susan, hello sweet Desi-
In 2009 my then 26 year old daughter got so sick. She was a dancer. She taught dance. Transverse Myelitis. Very rare. She is a paraplegic now, since ‘09. We had a chain of events starting there that turned my world upside down. I was diagnosed w/PTSD because of it all. It’s too much to go into here but one of the ‘events’ was I lost my home of 16 years but the worst was my daughter. I was shaken to my core, literally. I was afraid of everything- complete opposite of the woman I used to be.
Time. Time is what’s healing me. But they’re are still days I see my beautiful daughter sitting in that chair and I get a stabbing in my heart that is still so fierce that I don’t know if I’ll get my next breath. But I do. It’s one foot in front of the other. I know I’ll never be that woman again but in many ways I am a better person if that makes sense.
Sending a warm hug to you and love to Desi. Thanks for sharing your truth.
Thank you Katherine. I know that pain of a mother when you know your child is not well. God bless you and keep on giving us strength.
@@mabelh7305 May God Bless You also Mabel. Thank you. Xxoo
God bless you Katherine. We never know what life is going to give us. Here I am, upset because my only child, a daughter, doesn't really include her father and I, in her life. Only when she wants something. I'm lifting you up, right now, asking God to pour out blessings your way. For renewed strength, everyday. In Jesus name. I will pray for you instead of feeling sorry for myself. 🙏💞
@@trishpope601 Hi Trish- thank you for the prayers. They’re always welcomed and needed. ♥️
The situation you have going on with your daughter sounds very hurtful. I’m so very sorry. I hope she realizes very soon what a blessing her parents are! I will keep you, your husband, and your daughter in my prayers also. Our children sometimes don’t understand that we CHOSE to be parents, that we had a completely different life before they came along and that we put their wants/needs before our own; that it’s been like that since the day they were born. Thank you again Trish. Hang in there! Xxoo
@@TheKatherine1958 Yes, you are correct. Thank you
Thank you for sharing your story- you inspire me to keep going- in 2019 I separated. Relocated, facing my own health issues, single parent to 3 daughters, my oldest daughter is disabled, her disabilities led to isolation, financially devastated, unhealed childhood trauma- now on the other side next year I’ll be 50- I’m choosing therapy, journaling, healing, and to be healthy. Getting to know who I am- and building brick by brick. You are so encouraging and beautiful….thanks for sharing your crisis/ hell. BTW Your dog is lovely!
My world fell apart at 38 with five little boys 8 mo. to 10 years to raise. I did it ALL on my own. Five empathetic, kind decent hard working men. Then 3 years ago I had a stroke so now I am concentrating on my life long love of doing art and appreciating the outdoors. It keeps me happy and content. I remember your first videos and have always related to your feelings. They're so relevant in most women's lives. We all have these feelings and your reminder of how strong we really are inside is a huge help. Thank you❤
Oh Susan, a much-needed conversation. I lost my mom this week and am feeling quite lost. I lost a granddaughter 5 years ago, followed 5 months later my sister. My mom ended up having a stroke a year later and I transitioned into her primary caretaker. I know I'm entering a new chapter in my life and it's hard to picture what that means. But through my faith I will climb out of this hole I feel like I've gotten in. Your videos are inspirational and uplifting, I so enjoy listening to your story and how you have grown through the years. Thanks for sharing.
I understand. My heart breaks for you.
Sorry for your losses.
Violence, may God help you. Kind regards
Sorry predicted text gone wrong, I meant Virlene xx
Sending you a big hug...and lots of prayers tonight. 🙏 (Wishing we all here could do more my friend)😥❤
you are the best
I'm so happy I found your channel. I'm 49 years old and I'm going through a cataclysmic change in my marriage. Not a divorce, but it might as well be. I'm starting over in many ways, but I'm still in that in between state of staying or leaving. Besides that, three weeks ago I had a kidney transplant and I've been recovering with my family, so I know what you mean about a life-changing event. I love the light and positivity that shines in your face. And your messages in this video really resonated with me. I'm should not seek that girl I used to be because these events in my life have changed me irrevocably. Why look back when I can have everything in this new life before me?
Thank you for this. I need to remember it’s not just me whose life is very challenging right now. My husband is in the last stage of heart failure and my cat is almost 18 and has health issues. In the not to distant future I’ll lose my husband, cat and have to sell my home of 23 years. I’m 67 and so not up to this but what can one do.I hope I can survive. ❤️💕
Catmama54, maybe you can look into living at a Independent Living Community. I was looking into it last night bc I thought, "what if I have to look for an apartment to live in...how do I find a safe place?". You can maybe sell your house put that money in the bank and use that and your S.S. money to pay your rent? Idk.... just giving an idea. Maybe talking to someone at the S.S. office can give you guidance. These are the things I think about so that I can plan and be ready for when that time comes... I'm 60 years old ...my husband has heart failure and diabetes issues and I have an adult special needs son I also have to consider and plan for. I'm trying to figure out what my options are now so I don't end up in a state of panic and despair. We've got this! 😉
@@MaggieLoveMTC Thank you so much wishing you the very best. It’s terrifying 🙏
Thank you❣️You help me not to feel so alone❣️
I’m 65 and starting a new life. For those who think Life Time Movies are not real well they are. Here is a quote that keeps me strong “What God doesn’t protect you from, He will perfect you through. Hugs to all going through big life changes. ❤️
Amen!
Oh that is so meanignfull....and I do beleive it to be so very true!!! Thank you Marianne and I wish you so much luck and happiness with your brand new life!!! YEAH!!!!!!!!!!
That's a brilliant quote!
Amen .... you sound incredibly happy and content.
My hell occurred five years ago. A medical transport driver fell asleep driving me home from back surgery. I sustained a traumatic brain injury, broken neck, stroke, spinal cord injury and more. I have finally moved into my first home since, all 400 sq ft of it. I love it! Still looking forward to decorating it. One step at a time.
I am so sorry for you...I hope you are recovery well, and yes, decorate it and make it your own!!
Oh MI MI, I cannot believe that this happened to you. I wish I could do something to help you. You have a wonderful attitude despite everything. God bless you,Happy Decorating
Finding a “safe” place struck a chord with me as well as so many other revelations in your story. My son ended his life and at the same time I was escaping a psychopath. My daughter is estranged from me. But. I landed in a safe place to heal and grow. It’s been a long horrific journey. But. You’re stronger than than you think. Through counseling and a renewed Faith I’m doing much better. Like you my pictures at that time I don’t recognize myself. Literally. Grief and trauma take a toll. “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. Comes close but we get up. We have to. Thank you for sharing. ❤️💃
Cynthia, I'm giving you a hug because your story touched me and Im praying for your strength and that you'll get your daughter back but most of all that you get your happiness and peace back. You so deserve it honey. I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I've been through a lot myself but I'm always inspired by other women like you who are stronger than I'll ever be. 🤗🤗🤗❤️
Karen. Thank you so much. You’re stronger than you think when strength is all you have. ❤️
Cynthia,,hugs to you so hard.. Find peace at any cost,and always be kind to yourself..you so deserve it..💕
Thinking of you with love
Thank you for opening your heart and sharing your life with us. By the time we reach our 60s, many of us have experienced heartache, loss and disappointment. Walking in nature has been my salvation-something I do every day (sometimes the beach, sometimes rural roads) to give me a boost. I appreciate you.
It's so interesting hearing about your experiences, Susan, and those of other viewers in the comments. I'm 37 and never been married. At 15 I developed M.E. My life completely changed as I could no longer do any of the activities I loved - I played sports; went to my local stables with friends most days after school and at the weekends; and I went to a local drama group. I ended up missing a year of school and was self-taught in my final two years (with a very little bit of tutoring). I got just enough to get into University and made enough improvements to go there at 19. My health continued to improve gradually (though never completely) and I got two degrees. However, in my mid-twenties I massively overdid it and my health declined and I was even worse than at 15. My Dad then passed away when I was 27. My health continued to decline and I ended up bed-bound when I was 29. My brother then had a massive stroke and I got even worse. My Mum had a physical breakdown from exhaustion and stress from caring for me as I was so acutely ill (she cared for me so faithfully and sacrificially - such an amazing Mum). She had another breakdown 5 years later from exhaustion and had to go to hospital during lockdown for ECT treatment. Man alive, it was tough. I went through times of terrible fear and confusion. I was mad at God (You're omnipotent, get me out of this!), but it was the sense that He was with me in the midst of all the terror and confusion that got me through. I'm still very debilitated and mostly live life from my bed. But my bed has just had to become the little boat in which I travel across the unpredictable sea that is life.
While I can't relate to the pain and devastation of divorce, I can relate to many of the feelings you describe. At 15 I wondered who I was, now that all the things that made me "me" were gone - I couldn't pursue my hobbies, see my friends, and I was frightened about not completing my high school education and about what would become of me. Having rebuilt somewhat and found a new direction and goals, it all fell apart again in my 20s, and once again I was left wondering who I was and why life seemed so determined to not let me succeed at anything. But ironically, losing all the things that I had, and the things I did to give myself an identity and sense of self, made me discover that it doesn't matter what I'm doing or where I am. I am still me - the same me I always was. I would say now that I have a greater sense of who I am than I ever had before. I manage my condition much better now - pacing myself much better and learning to be more patient, and I'm gradually improving because of it and able to pursue many of my hobbies - writing, sewing, singing, playing instruments. I had times when I thought I was going to die, and a time when I wanted to die simply because I didn't know how to live. I thought I had broken my health beyond repair and that I was way beyond help. Sometimes you just have to sit there in the rubble and just give thanks that you're alive. And where there is life there is hope 😊.
Susan, your home is so lovely and cozy. And so are you! 💕 Lots of to love to you and anyone reading this, from Claire xxxx
Claire, Your words, insight and wisdom are pure gold. Bless you, dear!
@@Lifetalk849 Thank you so much Sara. That is so kind of you to say that 💗🥰
Wow! This is what I will always come to when I have troubles. I hope you feeling better now. I must say your wisdom is unmatched. May God bless you
@@mahlodisehlako8721 What a lovely thing to say! Thank you so much 🥰. I'm gradually doing better and improving, thank you 😊. I'm definitely feeling stronger, even though I have a way to go still. Thank you, again, for your lovely words! 💕
I’m hoping your video helps many. It was honest, heartbreaking, and empowering all at once! I don’t think anyone is happy all the time. Life has it’s ups and downs but always remembering the joy, like you said, is the key to get through. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing! ❤
What a wonderful, wonderful talk, Susan. Your willingness to be so honest and vulnerable helps so many others who are struggling. You offer some great coping strategies, and you offer the reassurance that life can be good again after it falls apart.
Good morning Susan, what an inspiration you are, l have been on my own for 26 years now and in my last year of my 50's, hitting rock bottom and re building my life with 2 young daughters at the time, l didn't think l would make it, no job no home no money.....but every day like you had a list and crossed them off as they were accomplished, some took longer than others. Fast forward my girls are grown up and happy, l have a beautiful little home that l have worked hard for with thrifted things through out. Life got better as the years went on. Thank you for your weekly you tube channel you beautiful human 😘
Hello Lisa ! Thank you so much for leaving me such a sweet comment...it means the world to me. I loved reading your words and you will help others here...so thank you so much. Have a great new week! Stay safe and happy.... xxo Susan and Desi
This was so helpful for me, years ago my mom died a few months later Daddy passed and at the the same time I was in the middle of a divorce from a very abusive man I was devastated! I did withdraw but realized was I going to lay down and die or was I going to get back up and fight I chose to get up and fight and I did it was my faith in GOD. I made it out, I MADE IT OUT! Just wanted to say Thank You Susan. Desi looked like he was saying the same thing he was rejected and alone but you dear sweet Susan God sent you to get him I rejoice in that we are all never alone. Love you my friend and all of us agree our sweetest little Desi! Again Thank You!
Bring more on healing ❤️🩹 and divorce please 🙏🏻
I have never commented on your page, but today I wanted to tell you this is the kind of stuff I like hearing from you. I first saw you talking about your life and break up and I was hooked. Showing your outfits and makeup is fun. But this is the best, because so many our age are going through so much, I'm 69 and it gets scary sometimes knowing our life is more than half over. Thank you
This is one of your best videos that help me and will help many others ! I too went through 3 months of hell , my husband left me , my mom die, a month later my dad die both were 78 years old , and my brothers kick me out of my home and I was forced to go live with my son in another state ….. it had been 15 years now and I will be 70 years old this November 28 1923 ! I wrote on my wall “ no one coming to save you. , you have to save yourself “ …….
Thank you Susan, perfect timing today. I was still in my pjs (1pm NZ time) feeling rubbish but now I’m up ready to walk my dogs. I’ve been crying most days for the last three and half years, hoping to get my relationship and that girl“back”. Your right, I am stronger now, I can’t have that girl back and that’s ok. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Oh yay a larger apartment has become available? yay exciting ❤️🌷🙏
Hello 60 grey hair and sparkles! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here. Thank you for taking the time to say hello and also, for sharing your life with all of us. I think it makes us all stronger. Thank you for asking about the apartment....I went to look at it and the steps are pretty steep there!....I know I sound old don't I!!! With love always, Susan and Desi ( Gangsta)
@@LittlePoet hi Susan, thank you so much for taking the time to message me, it means so much 🙏 your empathetic words made me feel seen and as if I matter in this world, thank you ❤️ I have had a better week this week, only tears a couple of days, yay ha! Seriously though, letting go and embracing the woman I am now, with all my learnings and growth, actually feels in your words, “ pretty darn good”. Re apartment, a bit tricky re the steps, it could be good exercise?? Or Iong term a bit dangerous. I’m sure your heart will tell you if it is right for you both. Thanks again and big hugs to you snd Desi (gangster boy) see you tomorrow with a cuppa 🌷🙏💕
@@60greyhairandsparkles21 Great to hear from you! I think sometimes crying is a good thing....but alas, our lives are always in motion! After much thought, I would like to hold out for that little house for Desi and me...I want that little garden in the backyard...and I don't dare give up that dream! Happy 4th! See you soon!
@@LittlePoet yes always in motion....but YOU my friend inspire me to enjoy every moment of the ride🌷you will get that little cottage with the pretty back yard 100% 🙏💕 Happy 4th xx
You just told the story of my life, the finances, the grieving, weight gain, going to hell and back, not wanting to be a loser, bumming others out, losing your home, needing to get safe fast, choosing between peanut butter and jelly...and coming to terms with realizing it's time to stop babying yourself...and saying goodbye to the past, two steps forward, one step back, the dating thing, necessary endings, and the journey of becoming the woman you are and want to be--choosing life, finding joys, being happy, weathering rough days, but still having peace overall.❤ Thank you so much for being open and vulnerable. It's so helpful to hear!
Sending you lots of love...we got this! Happy Monday, Susan & Desi
Thank you for caring enough to share this. So many people can relate and benefit from it. It's helpful and you're precious. I'm not over 50 yet but struggling and this has helped lift me a little.
Without getting into incidentals, as you know my husband passed away in 2014 after an illness due to a massive stroke in 2006, as well as my mom dying in 2008. What got me through?? I ran to the Lord instead of running away and I am so thankful that I did. Did my burdens go away? No, but He eased my burdens and because of His divine sacrifice and grace I got through it and continue to do so…and as the years go by I lean on Him on a daily basis because He is the one constant..❌⭕️❌⭕️🐶Otis and me~ Massachusetts
Amen❤
I so relate to this Faithy❤️
@@kimturner9309 Amen Kim🙏🙏
Amen and amen!
@@patticakesintexas I couldn’t have said it better Patty amen to the amen, have a blessed day🙏
Hi Susan. You are so sweet to drop everything you were planning to do and address the pain one of our sisters was going through. Thank you for those moments you re-lived to help us think things through. Self-worth and prayer are the best way to avoid falling prey to opinionated people that waste precious time. We have to keep focused on living, loving & family. 🕊💖🙏🐶
Hello C. Venza ! Thank you so much for leaving me such a sweet comment...it means the world to me. I loved reading your words and you will help others here...so thank you so much. Have a great new week! Stay safe and happy.... xxo Susan and Desi
@@LittlePoet 💚💜🧡
Love your balcony and how you’ve made a home for yourself. Not to mention Dezi. OMG. He’s so precious.
Thank you, Susan. We are strangers yet I believe you truly care about us watching. Enjoy your beautiful new home. You deserve it.
What got me through my marriage broke up and my X cleaned out our bank accounts of $70000 was me. I was left broke, jobless and homeless . I had no support by anyone but my sister who offered me a bed until I won a job and stopped crying. It took 3 years to find my peace again. I had therapy, used medication and kept breathing. For 3 years I only had $50 left after paying rent and the debts my X left me with after he left the country.
What changed for me was when I realised that I was the only one I could truly count on, and it was up to me what my future looked like. I lost almost 100 pounds, started dancing and taking some risks. I dated men 20 years younger than me and started having the best sex of my life LOL.
10:years later I am happy, have an amazing career and deep friendships and wonderful relationships with my daughter and sister. I travel, garden, make art but best part is my 6 beautiful grandchildren! I have no interest in dating anymore but I have lots of my love in my life.
This brought me to tears!!! I cheered at the end when I read your happy ending!!!!
@@LittlePoet yep I am my happy ending, I am the one I have waited for my whole life. Love your channel, you have helped me face ageing with less fear and more verve than I thought possible. Thanks Susan.
Susan I know how it feels not to be able to get the peanut butter or jelly I know what it feels like to have your service cut off I know what it feels like not to have any water and have to go down to the station and get you some jugs to have some water I've been through hell and back but I'm still here I haven't had much in my life but at least I'm alive and I'm not bitter I have forgiven everyone I need to forgive for hurting me I believe now I can move on.ive become stronger 💪 through it all God has given me peace.
This is so beautiful Merita!!! It feels so powerful to look back on the orad we were on...and know, we survived!
I feel for you. I left my husband after 21 years. I was lucky to get a little money from our house. I bought my own house. But, I don't want a man in my life. Why because I don't want to cook or clean for a man. All a man want is a mother to be his cook and cleaning lady. I love my life alone. I can do what I want, when I want and no one to tell me what to do. I married at 19 and left at 40. I am almost 63 and love my life. Peace is what I have. Thanks
Thank you avelina so much for being here and leaving such a sweet comment. I hope your new week will be a great one! My love to you and yours always, Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet thank you. You are an inspiration.
Fortunately, I have always been a very reflective person. I can talk myself in or out of anything. I am my own judge and jury. I am my own best friend, and I can give myself the best advice and pep talks. So really, I've managed to pull myself through tough times, and always came out stronger.
"What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger"
I have joy all the time too…..cause it took me many years to learn that joy is an inside job
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I also lived my life in fear most of the time and never felt like I was enough. After my 21+ year marriage ended about 16 years ago, I hit rock bottom as far as depression. I started reading law of attraction books--Abraham Hicks, Joe Dispenza, Mike Dooley, and Martha Beck, to name a few. They were life saving. Everyone needs to find something or someone to give them hope and help them learn to love themselves. Over the past few years, I've been stalked, had breast cancer, and lost my mom. But I know that I will not only survive, but thrive. I'm still working on fear but I love myself and what other people think of me is none of my business. I am enough.
Thank you ( again) for sharing your story. Each time I hear or receive another way you have survived. You have a wonderful way of speaking
Thank you as usual for such loving, inspiring of wisdom. It's always so comforting to talk with someone who has shared similar tragedy in life. At least we know that those people know what we are struggling with. You have such a precious way of expressing what we all feel too. To all of you out there that are feeling so broken, please know that time is your friend, love is your strength, hope is your guide, faith is your choice. Much love to all of you.
You are bringing us such a mental comfort.Thank You!
Greetings Susan! I have gone through exactly what you describe, except for the car wreck. I do feel like my old self is gone, but I definitely haven't recovered yet. I still feel so damaged and almost transparent. Have you ever felt that way? Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. I truly appreciate you. Love and blessings ♥️🙏
I "broke" at 59. I think life's shackles had become too abrasive. I wanted to break out of them and only saw one way out to make things "stop". Fortunately, I had one vision that turned my car from the train tracks. I drove myself instead to the hospital and checked myself in as a threat to me. My very first glimmer of hope came the day the therapy dogs came to my floor. Something inside warmed ever so slightly. I teensy glimmer of a memory....what joy felt like long ago. I've always loved animals. It was at that point I knew I was "salvageable". Soooo much more to the story of my road back as that was four years ago. You are spot on though about hell. I've been there and know now I don't care what other people think. It is freedom.
Susan, I want to thank you for taking time to give us these uplifting videos. Thank you for sharing your life and Desi with us too. I always find peace when I listen to your wise words. The lowest point in my life was when I lost my first Irish Goldendoodle. I cried every day for seven months. I truly thought I would lose my mind..... he was my baby boy. Then I picked myself up and called the breeder to get another Irish Goldendoodle. When I made that phone call I felt happy again and couldn’t wait to get my puppy. I really believe I would have never healed if I had not gotten another dog. I know this is not like losing a human loved one to most people but to me it hurt just as much. Love to you and Desi ❤️
Rosemary I cried everyday for 13 years when I lost Molly, my first cocker spaniel. It was worse than all the people I've lost. God gave us precious little creatures to love. I have a Chihuahua now and she has my heart. Glad you gave another pet a home and help your heart heal and give
I do understand Rosemary....it has taken me years to smile when I see pictures of my dog Cooper...it hurts..they are our babies that we care for. I am so glad you got your puppy!
During the worst time in my life I had to move and couldn't take my sweet Chloe pug, who was 16 years old, with me. No one in my family helped me and I had to give her to a pug rescue. It broke my heart and I still cry when I think of the day I gave her away. As I write this I am crying for her as she was my little shadow for so long and I cared for that sweet dog with all my heart. I felt so guilty that I couldn't take care of her.
@@luciagonzalez4899 You did the right thing, you rehomed her to a breed specific rescue. I was unable to take and care for my Cockatiel who came to me when she flew into the tree in my backyard, so I rehomed her to a vet tech. These organizations loved our pets and were the best place to take them to during our time of need.
@@luciagonzalez4899 biggest hugs Lucia. If you didn't' care you would not still be grieving. My heart hurts with you.
I love your openness and honesty so much. Thank you. Twenty one years ago my Mother died when I was only 31 with two small kids. A little over a month later my husband decided he needed to tell me he was gay and our marriage wouldn’t last. Kept this info private while I figured out how to divorce and keep my kids in their same home and protect them from bullying if anyone found out their Father was gay. Remember this was 2003 and attitudes were different then. Ended up destroying my gallbladder and my thyroid raged out of control. Lived as roommates for 7 years until I could figure out and get divorced. Today I’ve been in a committed relationship for 10 years and engaged. It’s a long road but you get there and can have happiness and peace again.
Thankyou for reminding us that it's not all roses and skittles but even when life is tough there is always a way to find joy... thankyou
I have watched this video so many times and I admire you so much Susan!! ♥️ Your courage to not give up resonates within me. Yesterday I made a decision to stop isolating and staring out the window. I am trying to rejoin life after so much loss and today's a new day! Thank you for giving me the courage to get out one foot in front of the other. I have a makeover planned and no looking back waiting for him to return! I have new adventures still awaiting me! ♥️♥️♥️
Susan from Ar ( 63) and alone.
Loved this! Everyone has a time in their lives where they need a hand up which is very different than a handout. You supply this to so many just by being real and stressing the importance of falling in love with yourself first and foremost. Like attracts like. Be the kind of person you want in a friend or partner. When I was divorced for almost 5 years and found myself broken, it’s what made me realize that it’s not so much you know what or who you are as an individual that you find out who and what you are not. That’s the real foundation from where I began to build upon. Turns out, I was a pretty darned good human being despite what I was made to believe. I wish nothing less than every woman out here to take the time to become your own best friend and not say anything to yourself or about yourself that you wouldn’t want your child to say to themselves. Much love to all of you 🙏🏻☺️ We can do hard things 😉
Hello Kay Z ! Thank you so much for leaving me such a sweet comment...it means the world to me. I loved reading your words and you will help others here...so thank you so much. Have a great new week! Stay safe and happy.... Susan and Desi
Found myself divorced after 34 years, sold our family business, and I moved back to my home town. That gave me a feeling of comfort and belonging. For 7 months I lived with a close friend I'd known since I was 11 years old. I recovered, made a short term plan for my new life, bought a small condo and almost 5 years later I'm enjoying being alone. I still have moments of the hidden sadness you talk about in another video. It sneaks up on my, just not as often as it used to. I'm glad I found your channel. It's inspiring me to branch out of my little life I've created, my hideaway. It's time to make it bigger and more joyful.
How scary the head on collision with a drunk driver! Very happy 🐸 you are still here with us. Just finished watching the Dottie West movie on TH-cam with Kenny Rogers & Willie Nelson they show her fatal car crash in the movie after she lost everything. I ♥️'d the made for tv movie. "BIG DREAMS BROKEN HEARTS".
I can identify with you. I’m a stronger person as a result of changes in my life… BIG changes!!!
In 1972 I married at age 19. Within 9 months I discovered motel receipts where my husband had spent time with someone other than me. He told me he was working on that day but my discovery revealed otherwise. I struggled to keep my marriage together… to finally accept 20 years later he wasn’t going to be faithful. As I was so scared if I’d make it I was determined to move forward. Over time, one step at a time, I’m happy and enjoying life to the fullest.
During those times I started gifting myself with a birthday gift and a Christmas gift. I finally accepted I’m Worthy.
The 20 years I was with my husband I knew the life of “which item I can
buy “ but now through hard work and living a more simple lifestyle I don’t have to worry about it. I buy anything I want.
For the 1st time ever, I'm leaving a comment for a video ... In January 2020, I was diagnosed with hyperparathyrodism, type 2 diabetes, and uterine cancer. My son was in rehab across the country. My marriage was falling apart. My mom then passed, and last year my dad did also. I filed for divorce in October, and this past April I lost my job of 11 years. Ugh. In the meantime, I've gained 45 pounds, rarely go out, lack energy, and am not sure what the future holds. Your talk in this video completely grabbed my attention, especially when you said you became your own parent, and started to do lists. Letting go of the past, with a new adventure ahead. Thank you for your honesty and vunerability - it's got me thinking. I've punished myself long enough, time to live again.
Oh, Melanie! you are not only beautiful on the outside, you are so beautiful on the inside..your words and your heart...your wisdom. You make what I went through look like a day at the beach! You should have done this video but I sure feel completely blessed you are here and shared your story of grit and courage. Thank God you made it through and are taking life by the tale again...and I have a feeling now you might have a curfew! Being your own best parent can be a drag but it sure does help in finding our way back to living our best life...my love to you always, Susan
True, after the first hell, there is no other. Happened to me when I was a young mom of a 2 year old. His dad left us and married someone else after 4 months. I told myself it's ok to cry but only for 30 days because I had a son looking up at me to take care of him no matter what. After the 30 days, I got myself back into college, earned my degree, still had some stumbles along the way but mostly, it was a lot of hard work. Met my husband who treats me like a queen as I treat him like a king...we have 2 awesome boys and getting ready for retirement in the next 5 years or so...
I went through the roughest time for a year and a half, 20 years ago...when I lost my dad, my mother-in-law, my husband of nearly 35 years, and then finally my dear mother. I focused on gardening and my music, plus continued to run my late husband's kiosk advertising business. I really didn't want to be a burden to my close friends or family, so I kept busy. I remember searching for a Bible verse that would give me focus and also strength to face the rest of my life, no matter what else happens. It is Jeremiah 29:11...
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
I am here to declare that His word is true. He has given me more than I ever thought possible or than I deserve. My life at 75 y.o. is really good, He has kept me healthy, and I am thankful for each new day!
My favorite verse as well!!
@@sharon7522 I can remember searching for something to cling to right before my husband's memorial service. This verse came out of nowhere...to give me hope, and the promise of a future!
I wish I would have found you when I went through my divorce 15 years ago. You are an Angel. Thank you Susan.
Hi Susan. This is my favorite video you’ve done. I can relate to so much of what you went through, thank you for opening up your life and heart to us. You are a beautiful person inside and out. What really struck me today was parenting yourself. I’ve had chronic depression for years and I’ve fallen into the self care trap and indulge myself and don’t hold myself to any accountability. I used to use the “to do”lists and I have to start again. Like you said “I’m not afraid of dying but I’m afraid of living”, I’m in a new State, new City and I never leave my house so I relate to being withdrawn. Your suggestion of calling a senior center for activities is brilliant! Even though at 61 I have trouble thinking of myself as a senior lol. On my good days I entertain the idea of starting a you tube channel of about starting over in Hawaii, depression, adjusting to downsizing to a 630sq foot apartment, cooking, decorating it and maybe do some photography around this beautiful island (to get me out of the house) etc. I’m not sure I could deal with mean comments though. If you have time, could you let me know if you think anyone would even be interested? You and Rxstrmom and others have set the bar pretty high! Love to you and Desi.
Tamara why would anybody make me in comments if you're just taking pictures tons of people take pictures in Hawaii it's beautiful
Go for it!
Tamara you should go for it. Why not just try it. It will make you feel good! I would definitely watch it. You are living in one of the best places for beauty.
@@nancyvelasquez546 Thank you so much for the encouragement!
@@kelleyrancher Hawaii is so beautiful! It would be more than than just pictures though, being on camera and doing the other things I mentioned.
You are strong you just didn’t know it at the time. But you survived and that is the key. We all have faced adversity either by traumatic events or by the pain caused by others but you, me and other commentators have Survived and we have all grown too.
I have been divorced for 31 years and can relate to so much that you have shared. Life is still a struggle but people like you have helped me along my journey. Thanks.
My “annus horribilis” was 28 years ago - major losses made me feel like a ball in a pinball machine, with the final blow the death of my husband and father of our four children. Reaching for anything that would get me out of despair, I finally found art and hope. I began to see colours again and met new friends, went on art trips. I got into art college and moved three times over twenty years, from a five-bedroom home to a townhouse to a large one-bedroom apartment and finally a 530-square foot home That all sounds simple now, but it was hard. Like you, I found myself. I still mourn the life that was but wouldn’t trade my life now. I share my story to help others too - in the darkest days, we don’t think we will survive. But we can and we can come out stronger. Thank you for sharing yours!
Littlepoet, you got your life back and so much more.
You are an inspiration🥰😘
Thank you so much 🤗Nanette!!! we gals ares strong!!!
God blessed you to be here with us today 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I have followed you from almost the beginning .You have grown in so many ways, and you aren't bitter . You try to find make the best of what life hands you, and you always share your joy. I think this video was so important. We all go through stuff, I don't think it can be avoided but what matters is what you make of it. You and Desi have a great week !
Last November my oldest brother of 5 died, 2 months later my youngest brother died, and then my aunt died 2 weeks after that, and another brother is in poor health. I had to move in with my son I am, was broke, no job and it seemed like my life was falling apart all at once. I am still healing from the deaths but it's getting better, and I still don't have a job and I am losing my self esteem but I know in time I will be fine and I will learn life's lessons. At least my life isn't dull. LOL
Oh I am so sorry for your loss Oma,,,
@LittlePoet Than you! I am getting through it with faith. I appreciate the TH-cam videos that you post.
Thank you again for this!
Susan, How is it that on Saturday night when I meet my friend (you) you know exactly what I need to hear. My life's been blowing up for awhile now but you've given me hope. With tears stream down my face, I thank you for sharing, my friend. You are a sweet and precious woman. Give Desi a hug and kiss for me. I have to put my boy Rhett down this week. He's 14 and has dementia. It's very sad but it's the right thing to do, my poor boy is suffering. Love you Susan. Melanie....and Rhett.
I suffer from depression and when I feel it coming on, I tell myself to give it time, it will pass. But I don't waste time trying to convince myself that I have nothing to be depressed about, or that I am weak or that there is no hope, so why go on. I accept that I will have those times and that there is a legitimate reason for them and I will feel better in a little while. My depression is the result of bad experiences in my childhood . It is my life cycle and it makes me appreciate the positive things in my life .
Grannie Cyndy from South Australia here.
Just met you for the first time. New subscriber now.
I have been there too. First time, I went back as a mature age student at High School. Passed my 3 subjects with a Merit and 2 High Distinctions. That year pulled me out of my severe depression. X