I'm a bit saddened by how rude or ignorant some of those assumptions are. Wow. To me minimalism is about living with only the things you want, need and use. Why is that so challenging to some people? Your clarity and stylishness is inspiring!❤
I was thinking the same thing. This must be comments from people that are new to Benita's channel and to the idea of minimalism. I thought that her response was perfect, what works for her might not work for you and that's okay 👍😁.
Honestly it seems like people want to pick fights from some of them. 😅 I'm not surprised tho, people forget the internet is not anonymous but they feel like they are so they just say whatever.
I am so pleased I come across the Benitas profile and videos....it really helps me focus and realise what is important...even more ..I don't need stuff... I agree with your post ... totally...
After divorce, I’ve downsized 3 times. What my daughter didn’t want was removed. At 60 I find that “stuff” and all the commercialism is exhausting. I’ve worked at creating a calm, neutral space in a one bedroom apartment that I love. 😊
I am also living in a one room apartment - organized, clean, decluttered and free of stress! Without anything that exhausts me! Best wishes to you from Germany 💛🙋🏻♀️🌈
I am in a 1600 sq ft house and I am always decluttering, it's just me and my hubby now, I hate extra stuff, I don't get excitement out of pulling all the boxes down to decorate for Christmas then putting them all away again, that just sounds so stressful to me although I did it for years, even seeing all the Christmas decorations in the stores makes me overwhelmed, I am looking now for what brings me peace in my home, I love the change I am 62, Maybe it's an age thing too
I know you are known for your minimalism, but I think when all is said and done your legacy will be coming to know oneself and creating a lifestyle unique to one’s identity. Your freedom is contagious!
I always feel lighter and less stressed after watching your videos. You always inspire me to downsize, de-clutter and live a more simple life. Your philosophy is very freeing...thank you Benita!
I was an educator and when I helped scholars prepare for exams and they had to spend a lot of time concentrating, every hour or so, I placed brightly colored construction paper on their study table. This has been known to WAKE UP the brain and helps extend study time. I share this because I can certainly understand the pallet you have chosen for calm and concentration, rest and refuge. As for me now, I am surrounded by color! I have lots of wonderful paintings and am a practicing artist, a writer, painter and potter. Color makes me HIGH!!!! And so, it is how I live now. I used to be a natural minimalist-it is a glorious way to live and I moved a lot between the States and Europe and it made things so easy. I was a musician when I was young and we had very little money, so minimalism was a calming and affordable way to exist in our world. Now, I am retired and I have more stuff than ever before. If I don't use something in a month's time, I make a note and it doesn't last long...As I am now settled and have roots I consciously purchased vintage furniture locally. When I buy clothes, I purchase quality and have a one-in, one-out policy and find purging therapeutic! Bravo to Sweden for the intricate and convenient recycling differentiation; Italy recycles as well, but the materials are not divided the way they are where you live. What a joy to come to your home and visit the cats and the calm...Thank you for sharing your time. Take care, S I want to say that when my parents died, I took photos of objects and photos and now have them in my phone so I can look at them when I want to remember and become nostalgic. If I had kept their things, they would be in a box and put away and I would look at them less, I think. Everybody has their vision of a life and I celebrate my friends' approach to memory and refuge. It comforts me to know they are happy, too.
I watch your videos all the time. I’m not a minimalist, however I find you and your lifestyle so inspiring. I’m amazed that some of the questions and statements from the viewers have been so negative. Everyone is different. You are a wonderful inspiration. And even though, I can be a maximalist, I can recognize the gem 💎 of a person you are.💓
I do not understand people policing others on the internet as if they were holding up the purity of minimalism, family affections, etc. I appreciate all the wisdom and cool solutions you have to share as well as the peeks into Swedish life. I'm looking forward to how you organize and style your new home -- and I love the calm palette!
I really appreciate how you presented your FAQ video. Instead of talking to the camera, you showed us real life examples. Thank you for addressing the assumptions which some people have. I like your perspective.
I want to tell those people who think that they need more things as they get older that it’s really hard on your families when you die anyway. It makes even harder, though, when they are saddled with having to get rid of all your junk you’ve accumulated. I saw it over and over when I managed seniors apartments. Then I watched a friend get so overwhelmed when his parents died, leaving a two story house and enormous garage stuffed with things they hadn’t used in decades.
My sister did some research into the impulse to buy and the regret after we do purchase things we don't really need. Research has found that there are some steps you can take to stop buying things, but also not feel deprived. Pick up the item and really look at it, give yourself that moment to enjoy it, then take a moment to consciously realize that moment is the most enjoyment you're going to get from the item, then put it back. All those steps make it so you don't feel a sense of loss for not having bought the item. I find it very helpful.
Once you do it, it's a game changer, I no longer have any decorations the house for all the seasons, sold everything even their containers, I can look forward to Christmas without feeling stressed
As I get older , I also find that all the stuff that was in my home when my children were young I just have no need to have. I love seeing your Minimalist life. I'm also living a Minimalist life and loving it. Please know that your Vlogs I so enjoy. ❤❤
Thank you for saying you aren’t very sentimental. That is me too! It’s very helpful to me to hear it said in such a matter of fact way, it’s okay to not be sentimental! Great reminder. ❤
I am extremely sentimental but I was able to toss a ton of stuff as I don't want my daughter to be burden with the stuff when I pass, I even got rid of my year books, that was a tough one
I do it just like you and it gives me a calm and relaxed life: no colors (they hurt my eyes), no unnecessary "keepsakes". My memories are stored in my head and what I forget shall be forgotten. It's always tidy, it gives me a good overview and I have control over things, not things over me. I'm looking forward to see your new home and also how you will decorate it 🙂
I’ve said this before: I’m not a minimalist, nor is it my direct intention to be one… but I have found that owning less stuff has alleviated so much stress in my life. I love how soft and calming your videos and your home are. they have inspired me to pursue my own version of a relaxing home
Cold-hearted? I just shake my head. I remember a decluttering show where the host was giving someone permission to declutter a painting their mother had done just before she died. He said, "The painting is not your mother, and it is not your mother's love." I found that very profound and very helpful when I consider what sentimental items to keep (hardly any)
I hear you Benita and it seems I'm hearing myself. So many of my friends just don't understand my way of living but nothing makes me happier than having my home organized and cozy minimalist ... I got so many ideas from you by the way ... can't thank you enough !!❣
Hi Benita! Love your videos and can't wait to see your new apartment. You are such an inspiration to me as I continue to let go of the things that are weighing down my life. Every time I get rid of something, there is a little sense of relief, like the lightening of a burden. Every time you decide to get rid of something, I like to hear your explanation and it always makes perfect sense to me. Thank you for continuing the videos. I appreciate all the work that goes into them!
Love your videos, always a fresh delight. I have decluttered probably half of my house, my closet, Christmas decor and sentimental things. It feels so freeing; and I only keep what I need or really want or has a very special meaning. I still have things to declutter, mainly my garage, but one day at a time. Looking forward to your new home videos.
I am a little bit sentimental and that’s why decluttering is hard for me. Your video prove that memories don’t need stuff at all! I love your lifestyle 👍
I think minimalism means something different for everyone. One can be a minimalist and have a lot of color in their homes. Or another person might love all white, or black etc. . As you said, need, use and love. I think those are the key elements. I could never be a minimalist, but I do love having a clean, tidy and spacious home. Thanks for the video ! 🥰🦃🍃🍁🍂💗✝
Dear Benita, I was nodding my head throughout the entire video - I understand, sign and underline every single word you say!! In the run of the past couple of years I reduced my belongings tp a similar minimum: I use, need and love every single item and go through them and declutter or replace every now and then. I got rid of all thouse hundreds of „memory items“ - I want to decide by myself when and who I would like to think of and don‘t want to be „urged“ doing so because these things are always somewhere in my living space. I have just moved from a small apartment in the countryside to a one-room apartment. It is actually really very tiny, but modern and somehow exclusive. It took me 2 weeks to decide to move and to complete the process - including packing, organizing and unpacking. My belongings fit into 25 boxes. There were times when I moved and only for my books I owned at these times required 17 boxes! 😂🙈 My furniture is white and timeless and easy to move and combine, so they fitted into the size and style of my new apartment easily. My clothes are 99% black and 100% timeless and of good quality. I take care of my belongings, keeping everything clean, pure and organized. I avoid colors as much as possible, even my cleaning rags and bathroom stuff are grey or of natural colors - I feel stressed and disturbed when my eyes are caught by a pink or orange towel hanging or drying around somewhere in my apartment which is furnished and equipped all white and grey all over. I think living in a pure, clean, tidy and minimal but cosy surrounding is absolutely satisfying and calming. And a decluttered lifestyle brings a lot of personal freedom and peace to me. All thumbs up for this video and all the other ones you have posted! And all my best wishes to you from Germany 🙋🏻♀️💛🌈
Benita, thank you for another inspiring video. The little mantra I say to myself when cleaning and organizing is..... 'be like Benita' :) (also, I'm sorry to hear that people have been so rude to you, telling you how you will feel about anything you do.) I'm looking forward to your next video already! :)
I have great admiration for you as you have and are working towards what works best for you and do not judge others♥What works for you is great what works for me is great! I recently mentioned to a neighbour I'm working on reducing my 'stuff' 'decluttering'. To the point that if I were to move I would want to be able to pack up everything in a day without having to decide should I take it, recycle it, donate it or garbage. It really is mind blowing what we are holding on to, but now I see I want to hold on to things I love, or have a purpose; everything else is no long necessary. It feels freeing and embracing the less is more for my home. It will take time but already seeing a difference.
I admire how you are so confident in your decisions. People try to shake you but holding your ground in knowing what you need and don’t need is admirable. When my grandmothers house burned down, I realized that “stuff” can be replaced (or not). People and making memories are what we hold dear.
I love your use of bins. I realized that, in addition to keeping things tidy, bins act like drawers in places where things in the back of a shelf are inaccessible. Love your channel!
Excellent video. Some years ago we were the victims of several breakins over a multi-year period. Yes, there were awful feelings, but in the end I learned a valuable lesson about non-attachment to things. Most of what we lost we never replaced and have not missed.
In this chaotic world, I, too, appreciate the calm and comfort of a quiet and functional living space. I keep a box in my guest room closet floor and when it is full I pass the items on appropriately. It is an ongoing process.
That‘s the point! 👍😊👍 In a chaotic world it is a lifesaver to have a calm, organized living space. This is what we can control and shape to feel as comfortable and in peace as possible!
Yes, we are all different and we can learn and get inspired from and by each other. What a boring world if we were all the same!!! Hugs from Northern California!!!
That was fun! Why I keep getting surprised by how many people do not understand that the minimalism essence is the act of letting go, not some specific box number you have to own. Minimalism is just the opposite of the consumerism. Finding the balance of desires and needs liberate us to be more ourselves. I am waiting for your new home room tour 🏡
There are many voices in this world. We focus on what brings us good energy. I’m still trying to be as minimal as possible. It’s a journey and I enjoy learning through your videos. Your videos bring me a lot of calm and soothing vibes, and I really love to watch / rewatch them during every breakfast. I’m super excited with your upcoming videos on your new move. YEAH 🥳
I like how you response to the FAQ, assumption, criticism, and different opinions. So calm and civil. Even minimalistic in getting your point across and be done with it. And the fact that you don’t dodge it, ignore it, or apologize for your way of living; is that Scandinavian? Thanks for sharing!
I am surprised by the questions people ask. Do they ask themselves why they feel the need to surround themselves with stuff, while continuing to buy more stuff. Why keep items which serve no purpose or function, or are kept boxed in a garage or storage unit and not used or valued. In my youth I subscribed to more is better until I understood the depth of influence by marketers, as well as understanding I was often accumulating to fill a void in my life. I now live with intentionality. Every person who has come to my home, comments on how calm and comfortable they feel. Such a lovely compliment. Benita, your vlog will encourage people to maybe think about their own environment.
i love your space, people don't understand that people that are minimalist need/want less and it is more calming for them. I get people always telling me that I need more furniture but they all seem to find a seat just fine when they come over.
Thank you for being my inspiration. I declutter every day or organize 1 small space. My home is looking calmer and calmer. I can’t even remember what I sent out of my life. Thank you! ❣️
BAHAHAHA "Even an extreme minimalist has to replace their toothbrush (hopefully) and their one worn out pair of underwear-eventually!" lol that cracked me up! Thanks for another great video, Benita! I wish people wouldn't be so rude though, some of these really just floored me.
It’s pretty cool that she’s not so attached to things, and finds value in spending time with her people. The older I become, the less stuff I want, let alone need in my life. Great tip on textile recycling. I didn’t know that such a thing existed. Because of Benita, I searched for and found one near me. Score!👍🏾😉🥰
Live so much your videos. The peace, quietness, this swedish vibe they provide. They encourage me to pursue my own decluttering and simple living process. Looking forward seeing your new place. Regards from Spain.
Just a perfect video .. Thank you for taking the time to make it for us .. I am astonished at other peoples harsh words ..and I am so sorry that you have had to receive this from others .. I personally am extremely grateful to you for all that you so for us , Keep up with the hard work because it means more than you know to all of your viewers who truly appreciate your words, and look forward to the new films on Tuesdays . PS .. You also reminded me that I really did need to order some new socks x
Such a lovely video Benita. I always feel calm and centered after watching and reflecting on your videos. You have been so helpful on my minimalism journey
Good evening Benita and thank you very much for this beautiful video, it is always a pleasure to meet you again. I really like the layout of your bright accommodation filled with softness. As Renaissance genius Leonardo da Vinci said, “Simplicity is supreme sophistication”, and I agree with him completely. Bonsoir Benita et merci beaucoup pour cette très belle vidéo, c'est toujours un plaisir de vous retrouver. J'aime beaucoup l'aménagement de votre logement lumineux rempli de douceur. Comme a dit le génie de la Renaissance Léonardo da Vinci « La simplicité est la sophistication suprême » et je suis tout à fait d'accord avec lui.
Love watching your video, so peaceful. Sometimes I am dreaming of a minimal house, but most of the time I enjoy my adult, messy children living with me. I only can have my bedroom the way I want and we agreed to keep the living room organized, but the rest, oh well, messy.
Great video. So well written and shot, and well said! Good luck with the move, I can’t wait to see what you do with the new space. Off to declutter my socks. Lol Take care as you settle in! 🌻 Hugs to M&B!
"Everything that I have now is what I need, use, and love." I will try to remember this when moving to my new place. I can let go of things that I don't need, use, and love - and give them to someone else who will cherish them.
I too like a physical book I can hold, but if I’m decluttering I will donate reference books to my local library, so if I find in the future I want to look at something again, I can go and borrow it back for a short while. 😻 I’m not a minimalist, but I know I have to get on top of all my stuff. I like the way you tackle little areas at a time. Instead of procrastinating on a seemingly overwhelming task, little by little it’s getting done. I’m using the same method with my diet, just tweaking here and there to make it a bit healthier.🙏💖
I love how you respond to the comments that project how you will feel or make a judgment. You find humor in it, respect the commenter and restate your minimalist position. How very kind and mature. Inspiring.
I will never understand how people can be so rude and mean with their comments. Why bother. Like my mother always said, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. Your home is charming and what you keep and get rid of is your business.
I so enjoy your videos Benita. I find them very relaxing & calming. I do agree many of us do have too much ‘stuff’ cluttering up our lives. I hold up both hands & am guilty as charged on that one! So I have now decided I, too, am going to endeavour to start de cluttering my home as a result of your inspiring posts. Can’t wait to see your new home when you eventually move in! Best wishes. 😀
I have been watching your chanel ever since you started and it has greatly transformed not just my physical space, but my headspace to let go of stuff that I don’t need. Your videos always motivates me whenever I needed the push to clean and let things go. You are doing great Benita and I still have so much to learn from you! 🙌🏻
My mom passed about 5 years ago, she had a 4 bedroom house full , I kept about 5 pieces, small pieces like jewelry, I took pics of everything and sent them to friends and family, sent items to whoever wanted them, after that I sold the rest and then donated what was left, I don't think my mom cared, I felt extremely relieved when the last piece left, I get you 100%. I by the way have 6 books, all have been read, use them as reference now, once I read a book I pass it on for someone else to enjoy
I enjoyed this video as I do all of them. They evoke a sense of peace and calm. You are right. We are all different and need our space to be a reflection of who we are. We need our space to make us feel peaceful. I lived in a very small beach cottage and got used to and loved the small space and minimalist ideas. I had to think carefully about what I bought. I am now remarried and am working towards a more minimalist home and love the capsule wardrobe idea. I so appreciate your videos. Thank you. God Bless.
I've always been tidy and organised but in the last year or so I've been decluttering and find I don't want so much stuff anymore. My home feels lighter, quick and easy to tidy up and am way more mindful with what I buy. Even my husband has been decluttering the garage. My kids don't like to much clutter in their rooms either and don't ask for much. We are definitely all living now by what we really need, want, value and appreciate and even paying off our home quicker too. It's a good feeling going back to a more simple life, no debt (other than a small mortgage debt), not having to work so much and having more free time.
Dearest Benita, I really admire you so much. Your videos are always an inspiration to me. I find your way of life very interesting and I like the absence of judgment of this video, we are all different and unique on this earth. Thank you for sharing your insight and experience with us. And I can't wait to see your new apartment! With love, Eugenie
I love how intentional you are with your possessions. As a mom of five in a small home, I am somewhat forced to purge things regularly. I am not sentimental about most things, I think because I lost my home in a fire as a teenager and realize that the important things are not stuff. Excited for your new space! Thanks for sharing with us.
I'm 62 and live in a tiny apartment . I've decluttered several times by contacting a local auction house . I really dislike dusting and don't want my precious time to be spent cleaning objects . I have a small china cabinet that I keep some things in . But I don't collect any more and if I bring something in my home it has to be useful and special . I love your outlook and style , it's so calming . I'm looking forward to seeing your new place ! 💕🇨🇦
I agree about family heirlooms. The memories live in my heart and mind so I don't need to hang onto all those objects. I also declutter as soon as I come across things I just don't use anymore. No point in hanging onto things just in case you might need them someday.
Good Morning, Benita! (Morning for me 😀) I love your fashion sense - I do believe my fashion sense is that way unintentionally - I have a basic wardrobe, but I love fashion ❤ - I don't purchase trendy items (everything is very basic and I buy quality - so it lasts longer). I support local as well - actually more often than I even realize. I like the phrase 'living with intention' - I feel this describes the journey I am on currently. I am decluttering, at a very slow pace - but I am doing it, I feel very accomplished and 'light' (if that makes sense). Yes, we are all different - and I love that! Thank you so much for all that you share with us - enjoy your week. 💗💓💗
I feel the same way you do about possessions and have had people say the exact same things to me. Nope! I’m fine with my wardrobe and the amount of things I have. Good luck with your move! Exciting times for you. ❤
I love the continual inspiration I draw from your videos. I have always been fairly minimal and did a major reduction during the pandemic. We reduced our wardrobe so much we were able to remove a closet in the matter bedroom. Someone asked us what we were making room for. Our answer: "Light and space!"
Hello Benita, recently chanced upon your channel and I'm grateful for that. Thank you for sharing your take on minimalism us. It'll be interesting for me personally, if you were to share more ideas on sustainability in minimalism. You do you and you are great at what you're doing! Keep up the good work ❤
My mom had moved away to another continent recently and I am the only person here to manage all the belongings she’s left behind. I myself have been forever decluttering my apartment, I would make amazing progress for a week and then nothing much for the next few months, work and life happened. Now I find myself needing to continue decluttering mine in order to inherit some of the things from mom which I love. A huge task but I really want to do it as enjoyable as possible because there are so much memory there. I’ve donated 90% of the Xmas things already, t’is the season that some other people can enjoy them too.
I second that. ALL garments should have pockets. Props to Lilysilk for putting them into a dress. 👍But some of the questions and statements of the people were very rude. Why? I am not a minimialist at all but I keep decluttering things I don't need or have used for a certain time. Yet I have discovered to miss some of them later. But that still doesn't keep me from decluttering. That's how it is. Some things I've kept for years and after throwing them away, I realized they would have just been useful a few weeks later. But gone is gone. That's life. You can't hold on to everything. ☺
I used to hold onto sedimental objects and photos but that all changed once I moved from the USA to the UK. Packing only a few boxes and suitcases from a 3 bedroom house is not easy to do. 3 years later, we moved back to the USA, once again removing all we accumulated. Once you have to do something like that, you suddenly realized how freeing it really is to let it go with no regrets whatsoever. I never went back to the way I used to live again. Minimalists purchase quality, not quantity. All things in our home represent calmness. It is a known fact humans are connected to nature which we showcase in our homes. Ambient lighting, scents, textures etc add to the relaxed feeling. I also watch videos on explorers going into abandoned homes due to death of the owner or some other reason. Everything they have ever paid for and loved is either trashed, stolen or sold/given away. The real point is knowing its all just material things that take time to clean, oganize and fix. In the end, none of it will matter. Many would be surprised to know, family do not have the same attachement to your things. A good majority of your most loved items will eventually end up in a landfill. Through experience, I have learned what is really important...that is life itself, not stuff. I have saved money yet my space looks high end for being minimal. I love it!
I have been set free of keeping things because they belonged to significant people. I agree, each to their own. I have recently moved house, am aghast at how large the collection of goods are, that fill up the very large garage. I am freshly inspired to declutter yet again. My small simple wardrobe is wonderful. Less choice, but items that are artistic and beautiful. All in all, declutterting is taking me to the simple clear clean living I used to follow 30 years ago, prior to four children and a full house. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I take those I love and utilize them in my way.
Need use and love…that seems like a perfect method for deciding what to keep even if you aren’t a minimalist. I often struggle with what to keep or get rid of. I recently moved and we have a lot to go through when spring comes. I’m going to keep this in mind! I think it will be extremely helpful! I also agree that people often project their own feelings about things onto minimalists. I’ve often wished I could be better at living with less. You know what you need. You seem very content with your life. I’m very much looking forward to seeing how the new apartment comes along.
It's funny how some people think of mineralism as a bad thing. Having a clean organized not overflowing crowded home is a joy to live in!!! You don't need stuff to remember your loved ones that have gone. Having one or two small items that are special can be enough, it's the memories that are important. I don't have much colour in our home either . My husband and I are comfortable with warm wooden floors, light cream walls and colors of cream, black and and touches the blue. It's calming, peaceful and enough. Best wishes on your move and new home!!!😊🍁
I'd read a quote once that was something along the lines of: People filter your choices and experience through the lens of their own, and have found that to be true. Whether it's something big or small, too many people feel free to express some pretty strong opinions and assumptions, especially without recognizing or respecting individuality. I get that a lot in my own life, for having cut out an abusive, toxic family member, from people who had "normal," healthy family structures. I did get a chuckle in your video when you said you were accused of being cold for not wanting to keep a bunch of sentimental things. Years ago, my toxic family member flew off the handle with me (complete with crying, screaming, swearing, and insults) because I didn't express an interest in having ALL of their many collections in my own home one day. I was happy for them that they enjoyed their things, but their things were not my tastes, nor do I have the space in my home. Yet I was expected to want everything. Full stop. I'd much rather see those kinds of things go to people who will be excited for them.
Wow! Some of those questions and comments are rude and felt invasive. Why is it so difficult to understand that we are all different and have different needs, wants, and likes? Why would you miss anything that you no longer want? Why is it hard to understand people have different priorities in their lives? I love your way of live Benita. You are an inspiration to me and many others! I am looking forward to your next chapter of your life (your new place). Much love and kindness from Los Angeles, California, USA
I love your home, it's so peaceful. Before watching the video I was looking at some cute Christmas decor items and thinking to myself I didn't need them no matter how cute (but I still kind of wanted them), watching your relaxed and calm home just confirmed that for me that I don't want the clutter. x
I have been enjoying your videos for a long time now… my home is all neutral pallet and I love it so does my husband. So calming. So sad that some people have to comment negatively. Just don’t watch I say. Looking forward to seeing your new apartment. Much love from NZ 💕🍒
I'm so excited for your move. I would sooner declutter and tidy than go out for dinner with friends. The feeling of peace and satisfaction it gives me is amazing. Love your videos Benita.
Decluttering is my project this winter since I will be in the house more. I agree about not saving sentimental stuff. When I moved last year, I threw out tons of photos. They are now stored in my heart & mind 😌. As for a Christmas tree, I use a ceramic one a family member made that lights up. Perfect. Great video!
I have been embracing the minimal life style and have gone through and eliminated a lot but still have such a long way to go! Thank you for your inspiration and helpful hints to keep pressing on! I am looking forward to seeing your new home and the changes you will experience. I love your current home and the neutral pallet. 🪴🍂🍁
You live the life, that you love and that is good for you and that is amazing. How stressless, that you are so clear. I need a little bit more of stuff to feel good but I like the clearness of your point of view. We all need it to live our way of a lucky life.
I'm definitely still in the process of decluttering my sentimental items. It definitely doesn't help when family and the like can unintentionally cause you guilt when you're thinking of parting with something.
I’m lucky in that my son is also quite minimal and has a very distinct sense of style. He’s also letting go more and more and doesn’t have a problem with me parting with things.
@@BenitaLarsson I'm glad you both are in sync with that! For me, my husband and I are both in our early twenties and aspiring minimalists. However, our parents are definitely not minimalists and continue to covet memorabilia. They give us physical gifts that we accept to not seem ungrateful, but the worry that we'll offend them by quickly decluttering said gifts can be burdensome.
I asked my daughters if they could remember what they bought me for Christmas last year and they couldn't remember. I also put some things away for a few months to see if anyone noticed ,they didn't so it went to the charity shop 😊
Benita. Youhave given my daughter and me so much pleasure this past year with all your beautiful videos. If you ever travel to the US and happen to be on the East Coast please stop in Richmond Virginia so my daughter and I can take you around and show you all the beautiful parks and botanic gardens here. We would love to "pay you back" for all the wonderful ideas you have given us.
Love your videos they really inspire with me. I've been decluttering for years and slowly but surely my wardrobe is getting smaller and smaller and my drawers, cupboards and storage spaces are getting clearer. I'm buying only clothes that suit my lifestyle and that I can wear everyday. I feel my home is now staying clean and tidy without having to rule out mornings to do a clean. The odd five minutes here and there keep it looking good. The journey goes on and watching your videos always give me a little nudge to get a bit more done. Thank your
As I was watching this, my husband came in looking for a recipe binder someone gave me 30 years ago with his (not my husband’s) grandma’s authentic Mexican recipes. Never once did I make anything from that binder, so recently I passed it on as I will do all my recipe books soon. You are an inspiration.
I could not in any way be called a minimalist, but I keep my things very organized. I also declutter quite often. Color is my thing. I like deep jewel tones. Hate living with clutter so I have what I consider a small amount of "decor". Just things for my mantle and dresser in my bedroom. Loved the video.
Benita! I love your response to these questions. Keep doing you. Oh by the way, I live near a little township here in the U.S. a park in the waterfront was settled by the Swedes. They gave Dani a there and I got a chance to view inside. It made me feel closer to you and Sweden 😊
I am in the process of downsizing as well. I still have a long way to go. Everytime I declutter a drawer, piece of furniture or category, I do feel better. I love the look and feel of a simple, Scandinavian, minimalist space like yours. One day I will get there. Keep up the good work and continue to live the life that makes you happy.
Great vlog. I too have been called out as being “unsentimental”. Perhaps I am, but I find as I get older I carry the memories of people in my heart. I have had so many clearances of “stuff” and do you know what, none of it is missed. However, I live with a pack rat who actually retrieved a pair of 30 year old pjs from the garbage and hid them in the garage. I keep the “common” areas in our home as I like them, I have very few clothes to worry about. Husband has his workshop (nightmare), and the garage. I have a bag of donations constantly on the go. I am looking forward to clearing out the family photographs as I saw you do. That I will have to do quietly in the basement.🇨🇦
I love that you are a minimalist. I have learned so much from you. Thank you so much!! I also love those shoes you are wearing in this video. Practicality is a dirty word to some but I really feel it enriches my life.
I think it's great and a very attractive way to live. And, if you ever do find you need something you declutter, it's probably something you can easily purchase at that time. Just because you might need something in the future doesn't mean you must store it in all the interim time. I wish I was less attached to stuff. I believe I would be much happier with about 50% fewer items and it would certainly be easier to clean. I am hoping you will continue to influence me to declutter because I want to feel calmer and less stressed in my home. Thank you!
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I'm a bit saddened by how rude or ignorant some of those assumptions are. Wow. To me minimalism is about living with only the things you want, need and use. Why is that so challenging to some people? Your clarity and stylishness is inspiring!❤
I was thinking the same thing. This must be comments from people that are new to Benita's channel and to the idea of minimalism. I thought that her response was perfect, what works for her might not work for you and that's okay 👍😁.
Aww, thank you, that's so sweet!
Honestly it seems like people want to pick fights from some of them. 😅 I'm not surprised tho, people forget the internet is not anonymous but they feel like they are so they just say whatever.
I am so pleased I come across the Benitas profile and videos....it really helps me focus and realise what is important...even more ..I don't need stuff...
I agree with your post ... totally...
I think what is most disturbing is why they waste their time watching these type of videos in the first place lol.
After divorce, I’ve downsized 3 times. What my daughter didn’t want was removed. At 60 I find that “stuff” and all the commercialism is exhausting. I’ve worked at creating a calm, neutral space in a one bedroom apartment that I love. 😊
I love that! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I am also living in a one room apartment - organized, clean, decluttered and free of stress! Without anything that exhausts me! Best wishes to you from Germany 💛🙋🏻♀️🌈
I am 60 also and totally agree
I am in a 1600 sq ft house and I am always decluttering, it's just me and my hubby now, I hate extra stuff, I don't get excitement out of pulling all the boxes down to decorate for Christmas then putting them all away again, that just sounds so stressful to me although I did it for years, even seeing all the Christmas decorations in the stores makes me overwhelmed, I am looking now for what brings me peace in my home, I love the change I am 62, Maybe it's an age thing too
I know you are known for your minimalism, but I think when all is said and done your legacy will be coming to know oneself and creating a lifestyle unique to one’s identity. Your freedom is contagious!
Thank you, I appreciate that!😊
spot on - Benita's freedom is contagious.
I agree, I am inspired to clean up and throw out after watching her videos
Agree. You are at peace w yourself and THAT is inspiring. ❤
I always feel lighter and less stressed after watching your videos. You always inspire me to downsize, de-clutter and live a more simple life. Your philosophy is very freeing...thank you Benita!
Aww, thank you so much, that's so sweet!
I agree
100% me too. Benita🥰
I was an educator and when I helped scholars prepare for exams and they had to spend a lot of time concentrating, every hour or so, I placed brightly colored construction paper on their study table. This has been known to WAKE UP the brain and helps extend study time. I share this because I can certainly understand the pallet you have chosen for calm and concentration, rest and refuge. As for me now, I am surrounded by color! I have lots of wonderful paintings and am a practicing artist, a writer, painter and potter. Color makes me HIGH!!!! And so, it is how I live now. I used to be a natural minimalist-it is a glorious way to live and I moved a lot between the States and Europe and it made things so easy. I was a musician when I was young and we had very little money, so minimalism was a calming and affordable way to exist in our world. Now, I am retired and I have more stuff than ever before. If I don't use something in a month's time, I make a note and it doesn't last long...As I am now settled and have roots I consciously purchased vintage furniture locally. When I buy clothes, I purchase quality and have a one-in, one-out policy and find purging therapeutic! Bravo to Sweden for the intricate and convenient recycling differentiation; Italy recycles as well, but the materials are not divided the way they are where you live. What a joy to come to your home and visit the cats and the calm...Thank you for sharing your time. Take care, S
I want to say that when my parents died, I took photos of objects and photos and now have them in my phone so I can look at them when I want to remember and become nostalgic. If I had kept their things, they would be in a box and put away and I would look at them less, I think. Everybody has their vision of a life and I celebrate my friends' approach to memory and refuge. It comforts me to know they are happy, too.
I watch your videos all the time. I’m not a minimalist, however I find you and your lifestyle so inspiring. I’m amazed that some of the questions and statements from the viewers have been so negative. Everyone is different. You are a wonderful inspiration. And even though, I can be a maximalist, I can recognize the gem 💎 of a person you are.💓
Aww, that’s so sweet, thank you!
I do not understand people policing others on the internet as if they were holding up the purity of minimalism, family affections, etc. I appreciate all the wisdom and cool solutions you have to share as well as the peeks into Swedish life. I'm looking forward to how you organize and style your new home -- and I love the calm palette!
I’m so looking forward to moving in and sharing everything!
Yes, I can't wait to see her new home and what she does with it
I really appreciate how you presented your FAQ video. Instead of talking to the camera, you showed us real life examples. Thank you for addressing the assumptions which some people have. I like your perspective.
I’m so happy you enjoyed the video!
I agree! It was brilliant 😊
I want to tell those people who think that they need more things as they get older that it’s really hard on your families when you die anyway. It makes even harder, though, when they are saddled with having to get rid of all your junk you’ve accumulated. I saw it over and over when I managed seniors apartments. Then I watched a friend get so overwhelmed when his parents died, leaving a two story house and enormous garage stuffed with things they hadn’t used in decades.
That is an excellent point!
I admire your discipline for not filling your home with decorative objects. I need to practice this. Sometimes things just look better in the store.
Yes, I love window shopping but rarely bring new decor home unless I really need it.
My sister did some research into the impulse to buy and the regret after we do purchase things we don't really need. Research has found that there are some steps you can take to stop buying things, but also not feel deprived. Pick up the item and really look at it, give yourself that moment to enjoy it, then take a moment to consciously realize that moment is the most enjoyment you're going to get from the item, then put it back. All those steps make it so you don't feel a sense of loss for not having bought the item. I find it very helpful.
Once you do it, it's a game changer, I no longer have any decorations the house for all the seasons, sold everything even their containers, I can look forward to Christmas without feeling stressed
I have come to realize I despise decorations so I decluttered them all , my local thrift store was thrilled. Your videos are my favorite 😁
What a great realization!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
And even more, I despise picking up decor to clean it and around it!
awesome, I am right there with you except I sold all mine then the thrift got the las of them, feels like heaven
As I get older , I also find that all the stuff that was in my home when my children were young I just have no need to have. I love seeing your Minimalist life. I'm also living a Minimalist life and loving it. Please know that your Vlogs I so enjoy. ❤❤
I’m so happy you’re enjoying them!
Thank you for saying you aren’t very sentimental. That is me too! It’s very helpful to me to hear it said in such a matter of fact way, it’s okay to not be sentimental! Great reminder. ❤
Two peas in a pod, you and I 😅
@@BenitaLarsson 😇😇
I am extremely sentimental but I was able to toss a ton of stuff as I don't want my daughter to be burden with the stuff when I pass, I even got rid of my year books, that was a tough one
I do it just like you and it gives me a calm and relaxed life: no colors (they hurt my eyes), no unnecessary "keepsakes". My memories are stored in my head and what I forget shall be forgotten.
It's always tidy, it gives me a good overview and I have control over things, not things over me.
I'm looking forward to see your new home and also how you will decorate it 🙂
I love it! And I’m so excited for the move! Soon!
I’ve said this before: I’m not a minimalist, nor is it my direct intention to be one… but I have found that owning less stuff has alleviated so much stress in my life.
I love how soft and calming your videos and your home are. they have inspired me to pursue my own version of a relaxing home
Cold-hearted? I just shake my head. I remember a decluttering show where the host was giving someone permission to declutter a painting their mother had done just before she died. He said, "The painting is not your mother, and it is not your mother's love." I found that very profound and very helpful when I consider what sentimental items to keep (hardly any)
I hear you Benita and it seems I'm hearing myself. So many of my friends just don't understand my way of living but nothing makes me happier than having my home organized and cozy minimalist ... I got so many ideas from you by the way ... can't thank you enough !!❣
Thank you so much for watching the videos!
Same 🙋🏻♀️💛
Hi Benita! Love your videos and can't wait to see your new apartment. You are such an inspiration to me as I continue to let go of the things that are weighing down my life. Every time I get rid of something, there is a little sense of relief, like the lightening of a burden. Every time you decide to get rid of something, I like to hear your explanation and it always makes perfect sense to me. Thank you for continuing the videos. I appreciate all the work that goes into them!
Aww, thank you so much!😊
I loved the line" has to replace their one pair of underwear, eventually!"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Let us pray they will 🤣
I died laughing, too!
As always, Bonita doesn't disappoint with her videos! ❤️
Love! It....!!! 💗💞💕💗💞💕💗💞💕
Thank you so much!!
Love your videos, always a fresh delight. I have decluttered probably half of my house, my closet, Christmas decor and sentimental things. It feels so freeing; and I only keep what I need or really want or has a very special meaning. I still have things to declutter, mainly my garage, but one day at a time. Looking forward to your new home videos.
Exactly! One day at a time and you’ll get there and can sigh even more in relief!
We have our garage to do as well, we have a 2 car garage and my side is cleaned out now to figure out how to get hubby's side looking pretty lol
I am a little bit sentimental and that’s why decluttering is hard for me. Your video prove that memories don’t need stuff at all! I love your lifestyle 👍
That makes it a bit harder but you can do it if you set your mind to it😊
I think minimalism means something different for everyone. One can be a minimalist and have a lot of color in their homes. Or another person might love all white, or black etc. . As you said, need, use and love. I think those are the key elements. I could never be a minimalist, but I do love having a clean, tidy and spacious home. Thanks for the video ! 🥰🦃🍃🍁🍂💗✝
Thank you so much for watching it!
Dear Benita, I was nodding my head throughout the entire video - I understand, sign and underline every single word you say!! In the run of the past couple of years I reduced my belongings tp a similar minimum: I use, need and love every single item and go through them and declutter or replace every now and then. I got rid of all thouse hundreds of „memory items“ - I want to decide by myself when and who I would like to think of and don‘t want to be „urged“ doing so because these things are always somewhere in my living space. I have just moved from a small apartment in the countryside to a one-room apartment. It is actually really very tiny, but modern and somehow exclusive. It took me 2 weeks to decide to move and to complete the process - including packing, organizing and unpacking. My belongings fit into 25 boxes. There were times when I moved and only for my books I owned at these times required 17 boxes! 😂🙈 My furniture is white and timeless and easy to move and combine, so they fitted into the size and style of my new apartment easily. My clothes are 99% black and 100% timeless and of good quality. I take care of my belongings, keeping everything clean, pure and organized. I avoid colors as much as possible, even my cleaning rags and bathroom stuff are grey or of natural colors - I feel stressed and disturbed when my eyes are caught by a pink or orange towel hanging or drying around somewhere in my apartment which is furnished and equipped all white and grey all over. I think living in a pure, clean, tidy and minimal but cosy surrounding is absolutely satisfying and calming. And a decluttered lifestyle brings a lot of personal freedom and peace to me. All thumbs up for this video and all the other ones you have posted! And all my best wishes to you from Germany 🙋🏻♀️💛🌈
Sounds like we are very alike!
Benita, thank you for another inspiring video. The little mantra I say to myself when cleaning and organizing is..... 'be like Benita' :) (also, I'm sorry to hear that people have been so rude to you, telling you how you will feel about anything you do.) I'm looking forward to your next video already! :)
That’s so sweet, thank you!😊
be like Benita, my thoughts exactly
I have great admiration for you as you have and are working towards what works best for you and do not judge others♥What works for you is great what works for me is great!
I recently mentioned to a neighbour I'm working on reducing my 'stuff' 'decluttering'. To the point that if I were to move I would want to be able to pack up everything in a day without having to decide should I take it, recycle it, donate it or garbage. It really is mind blowing what we are holding on to, but now I see I want to hold on to things I love, or have a purpose; everything else is no long necessary. It feels freeing and embracing the less is more for my home. It will take time but already seeing a difference.
Decluttering is so freeing!
I admire how you are so confident in your decisions. People try to shake you but holding your ground in knowing what you need and don’t need is admirable. When my grandmothers house burned down, I realized that “stuff” can be replaced (or not). People and making memories are what we hold dear.
I love your use of bins. I realized that, in addition to keeping things tidy, bins act like drawers in places where things in the back of a shelf are inaccessible. Love your channel!
Excellent video. Some years ago we were the victims of several breakins over a multi-year period. Yes, there were awful feelings, but in the end I learned a valuable lesson about non-attachment to things. Most of what we lost we never replaced and have not missed.
Love your answers. I share the same level of minimalism as you do. I don't need the stuff to have a full and memorable life. Thank you, Benita.
Thank you so much for watching!
In this chaotic world, I, too, appreciate the calm and comfort of a quiet and functional living space. I keep a box in my guest room closet floor and when it is full I pass the items on appropriately. It is an ongoing process.
Having a donation box is a great way to stay decluttered!
That‘s the point! 👍😊👍 In a chaotic world it is a lifesaver to have a calm, organized living space. This is what we can control and shape to feel as comfortable and in peace as possible!
Yes, we are all different and we can learn and get inspired from and by each other. What a boring world if we were all the same!!! Hugs from Northern California!!!
I know! I’m glad there are differences!
That was fun! Why I keep getting surprised by how many people do not understand that the minimalism essence is the act of letting go, not some specific box number you have to own. Minimalism is just the opposite of the consumerism. Finding the balance of desires and needs liberate us to be more ourselves. I am waiting for your new home room tour 🏡
I’m excited to share my new place once I’m officially in!
There are many voices in this world. We focus on what brings us good energy. I’m still trying to be as minimal as possible. It’s a journey and I enjoy learning through your videos. Your videos bring me a lot of calm and soothing vibes, and I really love to watch / rewatch them during every breakfast. I’m super excited with your upcoming videos on your new move. YEAH 🥳
Aww, thanks so much for watching!
I like how you response to the FAQ, assumption, criticism, and different opinions. So calm and civil. Even minimalistic in getting your point across and be done with it. And the fact that you don’t dodge it, ignore it, or apologize for your way of living; is that Scandinavian?
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you! I do't know if it's a Scandinavian trait 😅
I am surprised by the questions people ask. Do they ask themselves why they feel the need to surround themselves with stuff, while continuing to buy more stuff. Why keep items which serve no purpose or function, or are kept boxed in a garage or storage unit and not used or valued. In my youth I subscribed to more is better until I understood the depth of influence by marketers, as well as understanding I was often accumulating to fill a void in my life. I now live with intentionality. Every person who has come to my home, comments on how calm and comfortable they feel. Such a lovely compliment. Benita, your vlog will encourage people to maybe think about their own environment.
That is a lovely compliment to receive!
i love your space, people don't understand that people that are minimalist need/want less and it is more calming for them. I get people always telling me that I need more furniture but they all seem to find a seat just fine when they come over.
Thank you for being my inspiration. I declutter every day or organize 1 small space. My home is looking calmer and calmer. I can’t even remember what I sent out of my life. Thank you! ❣️
BAHAHAHA "Even an extreme minimalist has to replace their toothbrush (hopefully) and their one worn out pair of underwear-eventually!" lol that cracked me up! Thanks for another great video, Benita! I wish people wouldn't be so rude though, some of these really just floored me.
It’s pretty cool that she’s not so attached to things, and finds value in spending time with her people. The older I become, the less stuff I want, let alone need in my life. Great tip on textile recycling. I didn’t know that such a thing existed. Because of Benita, I searched for and found one near me. Score!👍🏾😉🥰
Live so much your videos. The peace, quietness, this swedish vibe they provide. They encourage me to pursue my own decluttering and simple living process. Looking forward seeing your new place. Regards from Spain.
Just a perfect video .. Thank you for taking the time to make it for us .. I am astonished at other peoples harsh words ..and I am so sorry that you have had to receive this from others .. I personally am extremely grateful to you for all that you so for us , Keep up with the hard work because it means more than you know to all of your viewers who truly appreciate your words, and look forward to the new films on Tuesdays . PS .. You also reminded me that I really did need to order some new socks x
I really enjoy making them! Have fun sock shopping!🧦
Such a lovely video Benita. I always feel calm and centered after watching and reflecting on your videos. You have been so helpful on my minimalism journey
I’m so happy if my videos have inspired you a little!
Good evening Benita and thank you very much for this beautiful video, it is always a pleasure to meet you again. I really like the layout of your bright accommodation filled with softness. As Renaissance genius Leonardo da Vinci said, “Simplicity is supreme sophistication”, and I agree with him completely. Bonsoir Benita et merci beaucoup pour cette très belle vidéo, c'est toujours un plaisir de vous retrouver. J'aime beaucoup l'aménagement de votre logement lumineux rempli de douceur. Comme a dit le génie de la Renaissance Léonardo da Vinci « La simplicité est la sophistication suprême » et je suis tout à fait d'accord avec lui.
Love watching your video, so peaceful. Sometimes I am dreaming of a minimal house, but most of the time I enjoy my adult, messy children living with me. I only can have my bedroom the way I want and we agreed to keep the living room organized, but the rest, oh well, messy.
When you live with others of course you’ll compromise!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Great video. So well written and shot, and well said! Good luck with the move, I can’t wait to see what you do with the new space.
Off to declutter my socks. Lol
Take care as you settle in! 🌻 Hugs to M&B!
Haha, have fun with your 🧦🧦
"Everything that I have now is what I need, use, and love." I will try to remember this when moving to my new place. I can let go of things that I don't need, use, and love - and give them to someone else who will cherish them.
Yes! Best of luck with your move!
I too like a physical book I can hold, but if I’m decluttering I will donate reference books to my local library, so if I find in the future I want to look at something again, I can go and borrow it back for a short while. 😻 I’m not a minimalist, but I know I have to get on top of all my stuff. I like the way you tackle little areas at a time. Instead of procrastinating on a seemingly overwhelming task, little by little it’s getting done. I’m using the same method with my diet, just tweaking here and there to make it a bit healthier.🙏💖
As you say, we're all different, but I find myself agreeing with your answers every time. Your brutal honesty is so refreshing.
Thank you so much!
I love how you respond to the comments that project how you will feel or make a judgment. You find humor in it, respect the commenter and restate your minimalist position. How very kind and mature. Inspiring.
Thank you! I try to keep up with every single comment the first day 😊
I will never understand how people can be so rude and mean with their comments. Why bother. Like my mother always said, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. Your home is charming and what you keep and get rid of is your business.
I love that saying!
I was also told as a child that if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. It was very good advice.
I so enjoy your videos Benita. I find them very relaxing & calming. I do agree many of us do have too much ‘stuff’ cluttering up our lives. I hold up both hands & am guilty as charged on that one! So I have now decided I, too, am going to endeavour to start de cluttering my home as a result of your inspiring posts. Can’t wait to see your new home when you eventually move in! Best wishes. 😀
Yay for you! Have fun!
@@BenitaLarsson Wish me luck! I think I’m going to need it 😂
I have been watching your chanel ever since you started and it has greatly transformed not just my physical space, but my headspace to let go of stuff that I don’t need. Your videos always motivates me whenever I needed the push to clean and let things go. You are doing great Benita and I still have so much to learn from you! 🙌🏻
Thank you! I’m so happy they’ve helped!
My mom passed about 5 years ago, she had a 4 bedroom house full , I kept about 5 pieces, small pieces like jewelry, I took pics of everything and sent them to friends and family, sent items to whoever wanted them, after that I sold the rest and then donated what was left, I don't think my mom cared, I felt extremely relieved when the last piece left, I get you 100%. I by the way have 6 books, all have been read, use them as reference now, once I read a book I pass it on for someone else to enjoy
I always love how you are so intentional with things and sounds like life in general. Always look forward to your new videos!
Thank you so much!
I enjoyed this video as I do all of them. They evoke a sense of peace and calm. You are right. We are all different and need our space to be a reflection of who we are. We need our space to make us feel peaceful. I lived in a very small beach cottage and got used to and loved the small space and minimalist ideas. I had to think carefully about what I bought. I am now remarried and am working towards a more minimalist home and love the capsule wardrobe idea. I so appreciate your videos. Thank you. God Bless.
The beach cottage sounds lovely! Have fun making your new home, home!
I've always been tidy and organised but in the last year or so I've been decluttering and find I don't want so much stuff anymore. My home feels lighter, quick and easy to tidy up and am way more mindful with what I buy. Even my husband has been decluttering the garage. My kids don't like to much clutter in their rooms either and don't ask for much. We are definitely all living now by what we really need, want, value and appreciate and even paying off our home quicker too. It's a good feeling going back to a more simple life, no debt (other than a small mortgage debt), not having to work so much and having more free time.
Dearest Benita, I really admire you so much.
Your videos are always an inspiration to me.
I find your way of life very interesting and I like the absence of judgment of this video, we are all different and unique on this earth.
Thank you for sharing your insight and experience with us.
And I can't wait to see your new apartment!
With love, Eugenie
Aww, that’s so sweet, thank you!
I love how intentional you are with your possessions. As a mom of five in a small home, I am somewhat forced to purge things regularly. I am not sentimental about most things, I think because I lost my home in a fire as a teenager and realize that the important things are not stuff. Excited for your new space! Thanks for sharing with us.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting!
I'm 62 and live in a tiny apartment . I've decluttered several times by contacting a local auction house . I really dislike dusting and don't want my precious time to be spent cleaning objects . I have a small china cabinet that I keep some things in . But I don't collect any more and if I bring something in my home it has to be useful and special . I love your outlook and style , it's so calming . I'm looking forward to seeing your new place ! 💕🇨🇦
I'm excited to see your new place! Your videos always make me feel so good. 🙂
I’m so happy to hear that!
I agree about family heirlooms. The memories live in my heart and mind so I don't need to hang onto all those objects. I also declutter as soon as I come across things I just don't use anymore. No point in hanging onto things just in case you might need them someday.
Like I say Justine Case is not a good friend. 😉
Haha, Justin Case!🤣 I love it!
I agree. I have a rule. If it's so sentimental then it should be displayed with pride. If it's hidden and tacked away, then it's not that important.
So inspiring I love your white minimalist look ! I have a one bedroom flat and I love minimalism and decluttering it's so freeing.
It IS so freeing!🙌🏻
Good Morning, Benita! (Morning for me 😀) I love your fashion sense - I do believe my fashion sense is that way unintentionally - I have a basic wardrobe, but I love fashion ❤ - I don't purchase trendy items (everything is very basic and I buy quality - so it lasts longer). I support local as well - actually more often than I even realize. I like the phrase 'living with intention' - I feel this describes the journey I am on currently. I am decluttering, at a very slow pace - but I am doing it, I feel very accomplished and 'light' (if that makes sense). Yes, we are all different - and I love that! Thank you so much for all that you share with us - enjoy your week. 💗💓💗
I love that feeling of "lightness" too after a declutter!
Benita. I love your philosophy of life. I also like your objectivity in answering. You are my inspiration and watching your videos soothe me.
I feel the same way you do about possessions and have had people say the exact same things to me. Nope! I’m fine with my wardrobe and the amount of things I have. Good luck with your move! Exciting times for you. ❤
Isn’t it odd when people project onto you? And thank you, exciting times indeed!
I love the continual inspiration I draw from your videos. I have always been fairly minimal and did a major reduction during the pandemic. We reduced our wardrobe so much we were able to remove a closet in the matter bedroom. Someone asked us what we were making room for. Our answer: "Light and space!"
Hello Benita, recently chanced upon your channel and I'm grateful for that. Thank you for sharing your take on minimalism us. It'll be interesting for me personally, if you were to share more ideas on sustainability in minimalism. You do you and you are great at what you're doing! Keep up the good work ❤
My mom had moved away to another continent recently and I am the only person here to manage all the belongings she’s left behind. I myself have been forever decluttering my apartment, I would make amazing progress for a week and then nothing much for the next few months, work and life happened. Now I find myself needing to continue decluttering mine in order to inherit some of the things from mom which I love. A huge task but I really want to do it as enjoyable as possible because there are so much memory there. I’ve donated 90% of the Xmas things already, t’is the season that some other people can enjoy them too.
That’s a big job but like you say, take your time and think of which things will add value to your life. Either practically or emotionally.
I second that. ALL garments should have pockets. Props to Lilysilk for putting them into a dress. 👍But some of the questions and statements of the people were very rude. Why? I am not a minimialist at all but I keep decluttering things I don't need or have used for a certain time. Yet I have discovered to miss some of them later. But that still doesn't keep me from decluttering. That's how it is. Some things I've kept for years and after throwing them away, I realized they would have just been useful a few weeks later. But gone is gone. That's life. You can't hold on to everything. ☺
Yes, gone is gone and it’s most often a good thing!
I used to hold onto sedimental objects and photos but that all changed once I moved from the USA to the UK. Packing only a few boxes and suitcases from a 3 bedroom house is not easy to do. 3 years later, we moved back to the USA, once again removing all we accumulated. Once you have to do something like that, you suddenly realized how freeing it really is to let it go with no regrets whatsoever. I never went back to the way I used to live again. Minimalists purchase quality, not quantity. All things in our home represent calmness. It is a known fact humans are connected to nature which we showcase in our homes. Ambient lighting, scents, textures etc add to the relaxed feeling. I also watch videos on explorers going into abandoned homes due to death of the owner or some other reason. Everything they have ever paid for and loved is either trashed, stolen or sold/given away. The real point is knowing its all just material things that take time to clean, oganize and fix. In the end, none of it will matter. Many would be surprised to know, family do not have the same attachement to your things. A good majority of your most loved items will eventually end up in a landfill. Through experience, I have learned what is really important...that is life itself, not stuff. I have saved money yet my space looks high end for being minimal. I love it!
I’m happy for you!
I have been set free of keeping things because they belonged to significant people. I agree, each to their own. I have recently moved house, am aghast at how large the collection of goods are, that fill up the very large garage. I am freshly inspired to declutter yet again.
My small simple wardrobe is wonderful. Less choice, but items that are artistic and beautiful.
All in all, declutterting is taking me to the simple clear clean living I used to follow 30 years ago, prior to four children and a full house. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I take those I love and utilize them in my way.
Need use and love…that seems like a perfect method for deciding what to keep even if you aren’t a minimalist. I often struggle with what to keep or get rid of. I recently moved and we have a lot to go through when spring comes. I’m going to keep this in mind! I think it will be extremely helpful! I also agree that people often project their own feelings about things onto minimalists. I’ve often wished I could be better at living with less. You know what you need. You seem very content with your life. I’m very much looking forward to seeing how the new apartment comes along.
It's funny how some people think of mineralism as a bad thing.
Having a clean organized not overflowing crowded home is a joy to live in!!! You don't need stuff to remember your loved ones that have gone. Having one or two small items that are special can be enough, it's the memories that are important. I don't have much colour in our home either . My husband and I are comfortable with warm wooden floors, light cream walls and colors of cream, black and and touches the blue. It's calming, peaceful and enough.
Best wishes on your move and new home!!!😊🍁
I'd read a quote once that was something along the lines of: People filter your choices and experience through the lens of their own, and have found that to be true.
Whether it's something big or small, too many people feel free to express some pretty strong opinions and assumptions, especially without recognizing or respecting individuality. I get that a lot in my own life, for having cut out an abusive, toxic family member, from people who had "normal," healthy family structures. I did get a chuckle in your video when you said you were accused of being cold for not wanting to keep a bunch of sentimental things. Years ago, my toxic family member flew off the handle with me (complete with crying, screaming, swearing, and insults) because I didn't express an interest in having ALL of their many collections in my own home one day. I was happy for them that they enjoyed their things, but their things were not my tastes, nor do I have the space in my home. Yet I was expected to want everything. Full stop. I'd much rather see those kinds of things go to people who will be excited for them.
Good for you for cutting them out of your life. It’s not worth it to deal with that kind of toxicity.
Wow! Some of those questions and comments are rude and felt invasive. Why is it so difficult to understand that we are all different and have different needs, wants, and likes? Why would you miss anything that you no longer want? Why is it hard to understand people have different priorities in their lives? I love your way of live Benita. You are an inspiration to me and many others! I am looking forward to your next chapter of your life (your new place). Much love and kindness from Los Angeles, California, USA
Thank you so much!😊
I love your home, it's so peaceful. Before watching the video I was looking at some cute Christmas decor items and thinking to myself I didn't need them no matter how cute (but I still kind of wanted them), watching your relaxed and calm home just confirmed that for me that I don't want the clutter. x
I have been enjoying your videos for a long time now… my home is all neutral pallet and I love it so does my husband. So calming. So sad that some people have to comment negatively. Just don’t watch I say. Looking forward to seeing your new apartment. Much love from NZ 💕🍒
I’m so glad you enjoy my channel!
I enjoyed so much watching this video. Thanks Benita. You're truly my minimalist guru:)
Aww, that’s so sweet, thank you!
Kind of you to address the questions, I enjoyed the video and have always been inspired by them by you. Thank you.
I'm so happy you enjoy them, thank you!
I'm so excited for your move. I would sooner declutter and tidy than go out for dinner with friends. The feeling of peace and satisfaction it gives me is amazing. Love your videos Benita.
Oh, I’m with you on that most of the time!
Decluttering is my project this winter since I will be in the house more. I agree about not saving sentimental stuff. When I moved last year, I threw out tons of photos. They are now stored in my heart & mind 😌. As for a Christmas tree, I use a ceramic one a family member made that lights up. Perfect. Great video!
The cold and dark season is a great one for decluttering!
I have been embracing the minimal life style and have gone through and eliminated a lot but still have such a long way to go! Thank you for your inspiration and helpful hints to keep pressing on! I am looking forward to seeing your new home and the changes you will experience. I love your current home and the neutral pallet. 🪴🍂🍁
I’m so excited to finally be actually moving soon!
You live the life, that you love and that is good for you and that is amazing. How stressless, that you are so clear. I need a little bit more of stuff to feel good but I like the clearness of your point of view. We all need it to live our way of a lucky life.
Yes, exactly, we all have different needs and that’s ok!
That dress looks wonderful on you! Such a beautiful piece. Looking forward to your moving videos!
I love it so much and it will be so useful to have when I feel the need to dress up!
Love your videos Benita, can't wait to see the new space 😁
I can’t wait for moving day! Getting closer!
I'm definitely still in the process of decluttering my sentimental items. It definitely doesn't help when family and the like can unintentionally cause you guilt when you're thinking of parting with something.
I’m lucky in that my son is also quite minimal and has a very distinct sense of style. He’s also letting go more and more and doesn’t have a problem with me parting with things.
@@BenitaLarsson I'm glad you both are in sync with that! For me, my husband and I are both in our early twenties and aspiring minimalists. However, our parents are definitely not minimalists and continue to covet memorabilia. They give us physical gifts that we accept to not seem ungrateful, but the worry that we'll offend them by quickly decluttering said gifts can be burdensome.
I asked my daughters if they could remember what they bought me for Christmas last year and they couldn't remember. I also put some things away for a few months to see if anyone noticed ,they didn't so it went to the charity shop 😊
Benita. Youhave given my daughter and me so much pleasure this past year with all your beautiful videos. If you ever travel to the US and happen to be on the East Coast please stop in Richmond Virginia so my daughter and I can take you around and show you all the beautiful parks and botanic gardens here. We would love to "pay you back" for all the wonderful ideas you have given us.
I’m so happy to hear that! And thanks for the sweet invitation!
Dear Benita! Clear and self confident, also empathetic with other opinions! I really like that! Thx again for another great video! Cheers from Iris🤩
Thank you for watching!😊
Love your videos they really inspire with me. I've been decluttering for years and slowly but surely my wardrobe is getting smaller and smaller and my drawers, cupboards and storage spaces are getting clearer. I'm buying only clothes that suit my lifestyle and that I can wear everyday. I feel my home is now staying clean and tidy without having to rule out mornings to do a clean. The odd five minutes here and there keep it looking good. The journey goes on and watching your videos always give me a little nudge to get a bit more done. Thank your
I love that you’ve been able to really feel the benefit of decluttering!
As I was watching this, my husband came in looking for a recipe binder someone gave me 30 years ago with his (not my husband’s) grandma’s authentic Mexican recipes. Never once did I make anything from that binder, so recently I passed it on as I will do all my recipe books soon. You are an inspiration.
Recipes can be such clutter! Most of the time one only uses a few on rotation!
I could not in any way be called a minimalist, but I keep my things very organized. I also declutter quite often. Color is my thing. I like deep jewel tones. Hate living with clutter so I have what I consider a small amount of "decor". Just things for my mantle and dresser in my bedroom. Loved the video.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it despite our different color preferences!😊
@@BenitaLarsson I actually love the way your things look, but I do have to have color.
Benita! I love your response to these questions. Keep doing you. Oh by the way, I live near a little township here in the U.S. a park in the waterfront was settled by the Swedes. They gave Dani a there and I got a chance to view inside. It made me feel closer to you and Sweden 😊
Thank you!😊
I am in the process of downsizing as well. I still have a long way to go. Everytime I declutter a drawer, piece of furniture or category, I do feel better. I love the look and feel of a simple, Scandinavian, minimalist space like yours. One day I will get there. Keep up the good work and continue to live the life that makes you happy.
Decluttering is so satisfying, isn’t it!
Great vlog. I too have been called out as being “unsentimental”. Perhaps I am, but I find as I get older I carry the memories of people in my heart. I have had so many clearances of “stuff” and do you know what, none of it is missed. However, I live with a pack rat who actually retrieved a pair of 30 year old pjs from the garbage and hid them in the garage. I keep the “common” areas in our home as I like them, I have very few clothes to worry about. Husband has his workshop (nightmare), and the garage. I have a bag of donations constantly on the go. I am looking forward to clearing out the family photographs as I saw you do. That I will have to do quietly in the basement.🇨🇦
It’s hard maneuvering around someone who isn’t of the same mindset but it sounds like you found a method that works for you. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Love the dress and how you styled it with the shoes! Investing in beautiful, quality natural fabrics is well worth it!
I love that you are a minimalist. I have learned so much from you. Thank you so much!! I also love those shoes you are wearing in this video. Practicality is a dirty word to some but I really feel it enriches my life.
Thank you! The shoes/slippers are from Zara Home!
I think it's great and a very attractive way to live. And, if you ever do find you need something you declutter, it's probably something you can easily purchase at that time. Just because you might need something in the future doesn't mean you must store it in all the interim time. I wish I was less attached to stuff. I believe I would be much happier with about 50% fewer items and it would certainly be easier to clean. I am hoping you will continue to influence me to declutter because I want to feel calmer and less stressed in my home. Thank you!
Some questions are completely "déplacées" ...Thank you for saying that a few items do not remplace the memories of beloved and good moments 👍😘❤
I’m glad we feel the same way!