The illusion of choice. Everyone thinks they have so many options so they quit at the first sign of difficulty. Then they end up alone at 35 wondering why they never got married. We should be picky but within reason. I had a very healthy relationship with some bumps, but we worked it out. I wonder is this an American problem or is this a worldwide phenomenon of everyone giving up…
@@KellyStamps Exactly!! Difficulties are meant to be a test for your relationship. If you love the person and care about the relationship, addressing difficulties mutually is vital to nurturing the relationship. No one said it’s easy, but I don’t get how else people think they will get through life if they refuse to do some inner healing. It makes me sad that our generation doesn’t get out more. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is more prominent in America. I wish it was 1995 lol
@@KellyStamps it's global, not just America. Birth rate is dropping globally, age of marriage raising, rate of singleness raising. All global, unfortunately.
Age isn’t the problem. The underdevelopment of values and weak dedication to developing their character is the problem. It’s likely that the older you get, the more ingrained your values become but if those values are crappy…you got a crappy older person. Your hair looks really nice!
As someone who has been single for nearly 8 years and is approaching her thirties. I still have faith that God will ultimately connect me with my husband when the time is right. I was praying once, asking God why I wasn't having any success in the dating world, and I felt the Holy Spirit speak to me to remain patient, as the guy God was preparing for me is still not ready. I trust God's timing and His word. God never intended for us to be alone, and I trust that ultimately His love for me is greater than I can ever imagine. I also have learnt from my own experience that whenever I do take matters into my own hand, things have got a tendency to go horribly wrong 😂. So yeah, I am going to just wait on the Lord. I do intend on getting married one day, and I don't intend on ever getting divorced either, so finding the right person to settle down with is crucial. Don't get me wrong, I do have my moments of self-pity and impatience, but I find that in times like that, it's important to recognise where these thoughts are coming from and how they are serving you. The devil doesn't attack from the outside. He attacks from the inside. Be careful not to feed those thoughts, but instead focus on God's promises instead. I watched this other podcast today, and the guy made a statement that really resonated with me. God will often give you the vision, but it's faith that ultimately gets you there. We need to trust the process, irrespective of how long it takes, because only He knows the bigger picture. Sometimes, it's our own impatience and stubbornness that prolong our journey, e.g. look at Sarah and Abraham. It's a good thing that our God, irrespective of our character, still provides us with His grace, and He never goes back on His word. His grace and love for us unconditional. He is and will always be my first husband. May God continue to bless you ❤
I’m a guy in my early 30’s and the biggest issue I’ve noticed is what you mention about 3/4 of the way through the video, all of the good people aren’t out, they’re at home. So finding the good men and women is becoming harder and harder because they’re not as out & about as the bad ones
Yes, and this is precisely why this year I am making a concerted effort to be out among the people. I feel I have a lot to offer in a relationship, out there surely must be a guy who has the same, but we won’t find each other if we’re both at home! So I am on my social zoom in 2024 lol!
I know a single Christian guy in his late 30s who's a great guy, is against hook-up culture, anti-porn, politically sane, highly responsible, hard worker, dependable, and wants a wife he can respect. He also jokes about being like an old man all the time. I wish I could hook y'all up 😭
@@LauranChilds I've tried, but can't dm her on anything, and my comment keeps getting auto-filtered out. I think I'd need to resort to her business e-mail, but usually they don't want to be contacted there.
I would meet if he was in San Diego! haha. And yes, I’m sorry about that. I made myself virtually unreachable because I got tired of all the inappropriate photos and mean spirited emails being sent to me.
I've never dated or been in a relationship and I'm almost 30. 😂 It's really hard to find a good partner nowadays since this generation is very immature and commitment phobic. Might as well focus on yourself for now and hope that things will fall into place in the future.
Same here but then again ive never had any interest in humanity outside of forming communities and bonds. Even now, they dont even value you as a person. You're moreso an object they'd like to use or show off...
Same , I just turned 29, and I've never been in a relationship. Men don't want commitment, they just want to sleep around. I've given up on finding love, and I'm just going to focus on myself and career.
If you have a certain look and you’re quiet and shy people- I mean all kind of people try to hurt and destroy you. They literally try to kill you, so yes you are strong and you’re beautiful.❤❤❤
I totally sympathize with all of you. I’m in the same shoes I was so nice. I still am at heart but I threw the book away. I still live in reality lol but for me, I realize that I have to watch people not what they say to me, they’ll tell me anything. I have to watch what they do. ❤️❤️
OR that would make him get his shit together even more in order for me to stay. I even told him he was immature for his age and that really caused him to rethink his life. Change is possible, people are just lazy@@iridescentraindrops
Well Of course, us guys know we can get sex without marriage(or anything serious) so of course we will prefer it like that. I’m borderline asexual but even I can easily understand that
@@iridescentraindropsI don’t think they will try to see it from the guys viewpoint. One of a guys main needs is sex and many women are willing to give it out fairly easily these days so
I've been celibate for a couple of years. Last year I would randomly meet men when I was just minding my business. Good conversations exchanged numbers. Went on dates then after a few weeks I got ghosted, or the guy would tell me he wasn't about to leave his wife 😂😂. Or the other just had a baby but was sort of in separation. The 1 single guy that spoke to me was aggressive. I was like why even talk to me and waste my time to all of them! Last year was really strange! People make something nice and simple, way too traumatic and complicated. I'm thinking of remaining celibate until the end.
Nah you gotta ask them are there any women under the impression that they are together because they will be talking to five other women but call themselves single or they will just lie about it it’s a cold world we live in
I am 50 years old and dating at any age is HARD!!!! It doesn’t get easier as you get older!!!! 😅 and as you get older the amount of men in my age group that are “available” is SLIM picking. Sorry ladies!!!!!
This came right on time, I just joined hinge and I’m FIGHTING FOR MY LIFE. Don’t judge me girlies but I even paid. Man, I should’ve taken my ass to coursera instead to study.
men tell you what you want to hear to get what they want from you. you may or may not be in too deep/pregnant once you realize he's stringing you along. refraining from dating is a good idea because the blame always falls on you that you picked a bad guy and must live with he consequences.
You have such stories to tell. Have you ever thought about writing a novel? A script for Amazon or Netflix? A movie script for a short at Sundance? You have the talent😂
This dating hell is real but I hate to bring unfortunate news but older men are with the games too. I dated a man 15 years older and he was worse than the younger guys😅.
You're speaking alot of truth. The hook up culture is strong. Finding someone of similiar mind and belief is alot harder then people realize. Especially with all the dating sites and apps. But you're guy is out there i believe it. Maybe watching this video. I love the way this was shot.
Relationships don’t necessarily make you happy maybe just wait for a really good friend, you can be open to that and if it goes further than fine but if it doesn’t that is okay too but don’t ever compromise your values or boundaries to have a relationship.
The key is to a relationship is not just being romantic. You need to see your partner as your best friend. Because the honeymoon phase will end and you'll see sides of your partner that'll drive you nuts. My fiance drives me nuts but I love him. He's my buddy ❤️
Listen Kels we're the same age and I thought the same thing about older men. My last attempt was a 35 year old. Unfortunately, it isn't true. I tried. Don't fool yourself with wishful thinking like I did. Someone older who is actually a quality person isn't going to be interested in someone our age (for the most part at least)! The problem is the other introverts are also avoiding society so it's hard for us to find each other. It's just going to take time. I just keep believing that we'll all find our partner when it's the right time and it can't be rushed or forced. It will be when it is meant to be. There a great people and terrible people of every generation. If you're 27 year old with a good heart, statistically, there must be more out there!
I have guy friends who are struggling in the dating market. It seems the good girls & good guys can't find each other. Friend has house in TX, truck, several forms of income, doing medical school & can't find wife. Always getting ghosted cause he wants a wife not just gf
00:00 🧘 Realization: The speaker, once a hopeless romantic, now contemplates dying alone due to the hookup culture and challenges in dating in her generation. 01:47 🔄 Preparing for solitude: The speaker engages in activities like stretching, figure skating, and cooking to prepare for a potential life of singleness. 02:56 🌍 Sponsorship plug: The speaker briefly promotes Earth Breeze, an eco-friendly laundry detergent, emphasizing its convenience and environmental benefits. 04:35 🍲 Meal preparation: The speaker plans to make rotisserie chicken into chicken noodle soup and shares details of her cozy evening routine. 06:43 📚 Reading habits: The speaker describes her love for reading and advises people to go where someone with similar interests would be found. 09:01 💔 Relationship reflections: The speaker expresses disappointment in her generation's dating culture, sharing her preference for an older, monogamous partner. 11:29 🧠 Self-reflection: The speaker advises people to question their motives before entering relationships, suggesting the importance of addressing loneliness and codependency.
I know people say that we seek human connection but honestly fuk that. There are so many other way to have a fulfilling life. Get smarter, build your skills, and travel. A lot of people get stuck in a fantasy world but you just have to live your life. Don’t live your life wishing or hoping for someone to bring you happiness.
No beautiful classic lady. You are too beautiful to pass up. Before you know it, you will meet the right one, because in the end, we are all looking for the same thing.
These new men are unlovable and the women who have decided to match their energy are beast. If I were a man I’d play nice😂😅 I digress…can’t lose if you don’t play the game.🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
Hello Kelly, I’m an R&D engineer and I’ve worked with those “paper sheet” detergent things. They are very practical but the cost per kg of surfactant in those is a bit high. Also they are not very much environmentally friendly. Best detergent option is by far to use powder detergent. And only a little bit, less that they tell you to is probably enough.
Mm this is interesting. Thank you for the information! We can always strive to be better, but it seems there’s no perfect way to be sustainable and ethical at the same time. 😭
Legit like a tablespoon of detergent is enough for a load. Any more and it actually prevents the clothes from getting clean. Worth the rabbit hole to learn about this!
@@AvgJane19 Yeah, too much powder detergent can damage your cloths. Especially if it has whitening agents. Too much detergent in general can also cause bad “fatty” smells in your machine. Same with too much softener, especially on synthetic clothing for the softener.
@@KellyStamps indeed there isn’t😂. The sheets still are a great product because of how practical they are. And the low surfactant dosage can actually be good for people who tend to overdose detergent. Plus, nowadays clothes are usually not that dirty when you wash them, so no need to use too much detergent anyway. Love your videos by the way. Keep up the good work 👌
Doll, I have been celibate for over a decade - after living my early 20’s with all the sex, drugs, rock n’ roll, in Hollywood, one could handle. The struggle is very real.
It's different when you're young, but I'm 56 and am much happier without the burden of dealing with a man in my life. They don't bring all that much to the table that's worth the effort of having to put up with them. It's so much more peaceful this way.
The key to a relationship is not just being romantic. You need to see your partner as your best friend. Because the honeymoon phase will end and you'll see sides of your partner that'll drive you nuts. That will cause the partner to be bored hence the cheating. My fiance drives me nuts but I love him. He's my buddy ❤️ he makes me laugh, i can be myself around him and he tells me there's things that i do that drive him nuts. Love is not just romance. Marriage is not just romance. Also remember you and your partner are not perfect! Youll never be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We're human. If you can look past that false reality you two will be ok.
cap it at 35 sis .. most men over 35 still single likely isn’t a good man .. and any woman who meets a man over 40 online life is in danger .. 😮 but on a lighter note i need those laundry sheets and definitely gonna sign up for golf 😂
Kelly connecting with her fairytale romance of having an elder gentleman sweeping her off her feet (and probably breaking his back doing so) by swinging and failing to hit that golf ball was a hole-in-one moment for me.
I'd be very careful with these thoughts, our generation has it's problems but I'd say they're just more vocal and easier to spot when it comes to red flags. In that past men would cheat, beat, and more (not much differences to now) except it was a hush hush type of thing or the wife turned a blind eye in order to stay in a marriage in fear of being a single mother or divorced woman. I personally cannot be attracted to anyone past 5 years of my age ( with rare exceptions), although there is much work to be done, men have come some ways in terms of understanding life as it is and better dynamics with women. For the most part cheating and beating a woman is less encouraged, and there are men our age with sensible personalities, they're just hard to find. Even harder to find if you're Christian because from what I'm seeing, the are nearly non existent in churches these days. You could say they were more present in the past, but that's probably because there was a different culture, they probably did lots of things a modern man would do, even while in a church.
Me, whose been dating off and on for 3 years, I am officially done 😂. Trying to find someone who wants to be friends first and build from there and have similar values is hard. I don't see the point of putting myself out there anymore. I like being celibate and to my own space anyways
Hey Kelly, I just thought i let you know that your videos got me through some hard times during sewing projects late at night in fashion school. I really appreciate that you share your perspective, your ups and downs, i resonated with your dating stories and found it so funny when you brought in your spatula haha :) stay openminded and keep it going your, energy rocks!
As a 28 year old male, dating has been hell. The girls I’ve dated bring nothing but drama and headache and a lot of hoe tendencys. Shit the one I just broke up with was sending nudes and videos to guys on Facebook and saw nothing wrong with it. People are just all screwed up in this generation.
IMHO church isn't the place to meet men. The idea seems like a good one but from my experience men go to church to find wounded women to take advantage of. They know that the women would be enthusiastic to get married to a God fearing man and will rush a relationship dodge some important questions. There is also that submission part. Any couple that I've known who have met in church, the guy turned out to be a nightmare. Coming from difficult pasts like prison, addiction etc. Everyone has a past but I think church is one of those places where the wounded take refuge and look for redemption. Even the married ones can be problematic as they will sleep with the other women in the congregation. There aren't many single men at church to begin with so the competition is real. My father started going to church in his 70's and these women were so aggressive that they were blocking me, his daughter, from sitting next to him at a church dinner.
I'm in my 40s and age doesn't equal maturity. I was lucky enough to come across a widower that nevet chested or left his sick wife. Its a needle in a haystack. Just live your life. Don't be serious until they are. Luckily a serious man is gonna jump in and take care of you immediately and propose in under a yr. You will know the difference. Just live and continue being unbothered.
Wow, it's been a while since one of your videos came down my feed. I hear you, but those old dudes are no better and don't deserve someone in their prime.
Seriously I need the eco sheets! I never heard of them before and now I’m in a studio apartment I need to save space anywhere I can. Thank you for sharing!
I'm 27 and I go thru this same thing. Ppl need Jesus fr. It's getting outta hand and I'm tired of being hurt, or someone's last pick when all I did was be there for them. It sucks. But I trust God and He's making me strong thru hese challanges, I'm also really sensitive and I love hard. God has blessed me with this pure heart. I'm also a virgin. People laugh at me but idc. I'm just me. The things that God has for you are worth the work. We just gotta learn how to rest in Him.
We need an app for the men who actually want monogamy and doesn’t think marriage is monogamy for the woman and a open marriage for the guy 💀 I feel your pain, sis 😭
Hi,Kelly.I am proud of you as a mother of four adult women.2are married,one is22and is celibate,so proud of her,the other one is 28and being intimate with men,I talk to her slit to know her worth,and become celibate to no avail.
I learned from experience dating apps just arent for me. I tried them multiple times with not much success. I do agree with you! I have personality im more engaging and comfortabel in person then on them
lol Kelly, we Defo understand. It’s unfortunate most women wind up either pricing ourselves out the dating market because we make so much in comparison to the men our age. And/or our standards for literally the BARE MINIMUM of decency, thoughtfulness and consistency won’t let us settle😅 So, single it is.and I’m 33..so..you might wana go even older still😭
My dude is 9 years older than me and I love it! We are similar enough that we get cross age society, relevant references but also we’re different enough with nearly a decade between us. Wishing you much luck 🍀 we also share an astrological sign!
I love dry laundry sheets and shower bars. I love hand washing my clothing in the shower listening to a podcast while wasting someone else’s water on vacation. Even better if it’s an outdoor shower in an exotic location. 😅😅 that plus steaming my clothes. Silly…but it truly brings my joy when i travel (especially as someone to doesn’t like lugging a bunch of stuff.
lol u gotta love kellz man. im not religious but im open minded to everything and i jus love to hear diff perspectives. u be making some points!!! im 31 i feel in between old and young but it's fire im having a great time lol keep killing it sis
Imagine the men these days who aren't trying to smash everything walking. Typically by the second date sometimes third I get "You haven't even tried to sleep with me, you must not like me."
kelly, i come to you from the future, going older will more than likely just increase your chances of getting traumatized in a way you will not be able to entirely recover from ... turn and stay inward.
I'm 25F. My partner (24M) are in a healthy monogomous relationship. We didn't meet on a dating app; it was at DnD 6 months ago. We were friends before we started a relationship. We discussed compatibility (long term, short term goals, food/allergies, finances, emotional sore spots, sex and intimacy, how we handle conflict and how we want to handle it as a couple, etc.) very early onto the relationship. You person exists out there :) just takes some serendipity.
Girl I don’t know that they are any better. Good luck with your quest. It does seem like most people aren’t interested in a relationship and not just a hook up. 😢
Older men aren't necessarily better, just older and set in their ways. Most often they're on the 2nd or 3rd wife if they found someone naive/desperate enough to put up with them. MANY of them don't change. Takes real accountability and ownership to do the work needs to be done on ourselves, most don't want to do it.
Finding God gave me patience and understand how important the courtship is during dating and into a relationship. I spent my 20s smothering and trying to push things to get sexual fast, where now im in my 30s and im patient and I love spending time away from the person im dating to work on other things.
40 plus men are where its at TBH. Nothing like a silver fox with a nice home, grown kids, and no baby mama drama or underdeveloped male ego trying to compete financially w/ you ✌🏽
You understand the difference between happiness and pleasure, I love that about you! Ok.. possibly with the exception of tiramisu in which case the difference might be inseparable!
"Hear, hear"! Celebrate, cute, calm, and unbothered. The million dollar question 11:46-11:48) Sidenote/ I sometimes take 1-2 year breaks, from television.
Kelly, do you ever "Jones" for tacos or carne asada fries??? Being back on the East Coast, I'm in hoagie and cheesesteak heaven but missing the Mexican culinary connections available in California (oh, and the warmer weather).....safe travels to you, be well.
I was in a relationship with a man for a year who was: 10 years older than me (40), from another continent, and there still isn’t that emotional maturity. Am hoping for my person soon so I can have children before I’m infertile… it’s a struggle
Girl these men don’t start emotionally maturing till they are in their late 40s or maybe 50s 😒.. I’m 35 and these 30 yrs old be playing games too. I’m probably your oldest subscriber lol my sis is in her early 40s and she pretty much decided she rather be single the rest of her life and I don’t blame her!
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Update I have a man LOL. It happened right after I gave up. Maybe there’s hope for everyone.
Our generation thinks they want a relationship until they realize it takes work. It’s way too easy to get caught up in a false reality nowadays.
The illusion of choice. Everyone thinks they have so many options so they quit at the first sign of difficulty. Then they end up alone at 35 wondering why they never got married. We should be picky but within reason. I had a very healthy relationship with some bumps, but we worked it out. I wonder is this an American problem or is this a worldwide phenomenon of everyone giving up…
No Work. Be Free of work.
@@KellyStamps Exactly!! Difficulties are meant to be a test for your relationship. If you love the person and care about the relationship, addressing difficulties mutually is vital to nurturing the relationship. No one said it’s easy, but I don’t get how else people think they will get through life if they refuse to do some inner healing. It makes me sad that our generation doesn’t get out more. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is more prominent in America. I wish it was 1995 lol
@@KellyStamps Wooow! I hear some wisdom coming through...
@@KellyStamps it's global, not just America. Birth rate is dropping globally, age of marriage raising, rate of singleness raising. All global, unfortunately.
Age isn’t the problem. The underdevelopment of values and weak dedication to developing their character is the problem. It’s likely that the older you get, the more ingrained your values become but if those values are crappy…you got a crappy older person.
Your hair looks really nice!
This is so accurate
They have to change, but men don´t get it !
This is accurate
Facts I’m 49 and trust character is the issue not age
@@--Singularity--it's not just men
Guys I’m not gonna date a senior please don’t start emailing me from your nursing homes. This is a joke 😂
Omg noooo way!!! This is too much 😭
SHE SAID WHAT SHE SAID 🤣
As someone who has been single for nearly 8 years and is approaching her thirties. I still have faith that God will ultimately connect me with my husband when the time is right. I was praying once, asking God why I wasn't having any success in the dating world, and I felt the Holy Spirit speak to me to remain patient, as the guy God was preparing for me is still not ready. I trust God's timing and His word. God never intended for us to be alone, and I trust that ultimately His love for me is greater than I can ever imagine. I also have learnt from my own experience that whenever I do take matters into my own hand, things have got a tendency to go horribly wrong 😂. So yeah, I am going to just wait on the Lord. I do intend on getting married one day, and I don't intend on ever getting divorced either, so finding the right person to settle down with is crucial. Don't get me wrong, I do have my moments of self-pity and impatience, but I find that in times like that, it's important to recognise where these thoughts are coming from and how they are serving you. The devil doesn't attack from the outside. He attacks from the inside. Be careful not to feed those thoughts, but instead focus on God's promises instead. I watched this other podcast today, and the guy made a statement that really resonated with me. God will often give you the vision, but it's faith that ultimately gets you there. We need to trust the process, irrespective of how long it takes, because only He knows the bigger picture. Sometimes, it's our own impatience and stubbornness that prolong our journey, e.g. look at Sarah and Abraham. It's a good thing that our God, irrespective of our character, still provides us with His grace, and He never goes back on His word. His grace and love for us unconditional. He is and will always be my first husband. May God continue to bless you ❤
@@danielbanic3738”Italy’s” 😭😭😭😭
Whats email dear I do plan to write you a letter though
This world is ghetto. I will stay committed to my anime husbands. The only males who have dignity and dedication.
Anime husbands 😂
😂who’s yours?
This is me for real though lol. I don't need a real man, I have Artem Wing to keep me company.
@@ambivelent-artistI have Corazon from One Piece 🥹 We are travelling the world and fighting bad guys
For me its forest gump 🥺 if only i could find him irl 😪
I’m a guy in my early 30’s and the biggest issue I’ve noticed is what you mention about 3/4 of the way through the video, all of the good people aren’t out, they’re at home. So finding the good men and women is becoming harder and harder because they’re not as out & about as the bad ones
That's a good point.
Yes, and this is precisely why this year I am making a concerted effort to be out among the people. I feel I have a lot to offer in a relationship, out there surely must be a guy who has the same, but we won’t find each other if we’re both at home! So I am on my social zoom in 2024 lol!
@@bmartin4549 there's only evil out there
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@west3 - that's actually a really good point.
I know a single Christian guy in his late 30s who's a great guy, is against hook-up culture, anti-porn, politically sane, highly responsible, hard worker, dependable, and wants a wife he can respect. He also jokes about being like an old man all the time. I wish I could hook y'all up 😭
What state is he in? 🧍🏾♀️
@@KellyStamps From San Diego, but moved to New Mexico for work, still maybe interested? I could send you his socials 👀
So do it. 👍
@@LauranChilds I've tried, but can't dm her on anything, and my comment keeps getting auto-filtered out. I think I'd need to resort to her business e-mail, but usually they don't want to be contacted there.
I would meet if he was in San Diego! haha. And yes, I’m sorry about that. I made myself virtually unreachable because I got tired of all the inappropriate photos and mean spirited emails being sent to me.
Girl my ex was 10 years older and that did not change a thing. It really comes down to the person
Exactly! The male population of all ages just need to work on themselves already.
I second that
I feel you girl I stopped having crushes shits so embarrassing
😂 embarrassing is actually the only word to describe it
Emotional intelligence is very important. That's what I've learned from my dating experiences.
I met my husband in 2005. I feel bad for anyone who dates during these times of social media situationships 😢
I gave up on dating a long time ago. I’d rather work on loving myself and if someone happens to come along coo… if not, coo 🤷🏽♀️
I've never dated or been in a relationship and I'm almost 30. 😂 It's really hard to find a good partner nowadays since this generation is very immature and commitment phobic. Might as well focus on yourself for now and hope that things will fall into place in the future.
Same here but then again ive never had any interest in humanity outside of forming communities and bonds. Even now, they dont even value you as a person. You're moreso an object they'd like to use or show off...
Looorrddd I felt this comment in my soul
Same , I just turned 29, and I've never been in a relationship. Men don't want commitment, they just want to sleep around. I've given up on finding love, and I'm just going to focus on myself and career.
sis/bro just enjoy life...
If you have a certain look and you’re quiet and shy people- I mean all kind of people try to hurt and destroy you.
They literally try to kill you, so yes you are strong and you’re beautiful.❤❤❤
This is why nice turns turn into mean girls and pretend to be hard 🥹 but we are all lover gworls at heart
Yep. Be careful and take care of your health first, beautiful souls.❤
@@KellyStampsYep, and some of us aren’t capable of pretending to be mean because it’s not in our nature, so we REALLY get fucked over 😂
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I totally sympathize with all of you. I’m in the same shoes I was so nice. I still am at heart but I threw the book away. I still live in reality lol but for me, I realize that I have to watch people not what they say to me, they’ll tell me anything. I have to watch what they do. ❤️❤️
age isn't the problem. I thought that it was too but then I dated a guy in his 40s (I'm 27) and he still was on the f-boy energy.
I'm 41 and dated a 58 year old with the same energy. I had to dead that immediately
Well why would he grow up and get his act together when he can date women in their 20s in his 40s? Think about that.
OR that would make him get his shit together even more in order for me to stay. I even told him he was immature for his age and that really caused him to rethink his life. Change is possible, people are just lazy@@iridescentraindrops
Well
Of course, us guys know we can get sex without marriage(or anything serious) so of course we will prefer it like that. I’m borderline asexual but even I can easily understand that
@@iridescentraindropsI don’t think they will try to see it from the guys viewpoint. One of a guys main needs is sex and many women are willing to give it out fairly easily these days so
33 and grieving the family I’ll never have. It is what it is
:(
I've been celibate for a couple of years. Last year I would randomly meet men when I was just minding my business. Good conversations exchanged numbers. Went on dates then after a few weeks I got ghosted, or the guy would tell me he wasn't about to leave his wife 😂😂. Or the other just had a baby but was sort of in separation. The 1 single guy that spoke to me was aggressive.
I was like why even talk to me and waste my time to all of them! Last year was really strange!
People make something nice and simple, way too traumatic and complicated.
I'm thinking of remaining celibate until the end.
A WHOLE BABY
I got a short cut for you ladies: Just ask the guy if he is single!
Nah you gotta ask them are there any women under the impression that they are together because they will be talking to five other women but call themselves single or they will just lie about it it’s a cold world we live in
@@123pb Great, unfortunately 🫤 people lie and a lot of men will say anything for sex.
I am 50 years old and dating at any age is HARD!!!! It doesn’t get easier as you get older!!!! 😅 and as you get older the amount of men in my age group that are “available” is SLIM picking. Sorry ladies!!!!!
This came right on time, I just joined hinge and I’m FIGHTING FOR MY LIFE. Don’t judge me girlies but I even paid.
Man, I should’ve taken my ass to coursera instead to study.
Never too late for Coursera!!
It’s not too late to ask for a refund😂
lol I paid for Bumble and Tinder once. Waste of money. Marriage minded men are hard to come by
"If an attractive woman is single, it's because she is smarter than all the others." - Carl Jung
I’m 53, and the men are the same in this age group. I stopped dating almost two years ago?! Not worth the brain ache and the heartache!
oh my godddd
In their 50s ?? Jeez...and I thought 34 yo f boys were immature
true
The men in your age group are trying to date women 20 years younger, ask me how I know 😅
@@rosewatersweettea I already know!! Seen it too often! lol and smh!!
The wise once said: “If you date older men, you’ll get worms”
Don’t shoot the messenger 🤷🏾♀️
WORMS?? Like what dogs get? 😂
If he’s an ‘early bird’ 🤓 iykyk
@@KellyStamps lol yes girl. A message passed down from our foremothers.
I was told the same thing lol
@@KellyStamps yeah, worms are for real. You will start itching all over especially down there.
You can only choose from the ones that sincerely want you. Everybody else is no more than "increasing one's body-count".
Even the ones that "sincerely" want you end up flaking on you.
@@serenedione Either they're not sincere, or sometimes two "good" people are simply not always compatible.
men tell you what you want to hear to get what they want from you. you may or may not be in too deep/pregnant once you realize he's stringing you along. refraining from dating is a good idea because the blame always falls on you that you picked a bad guy and must live with he consequences.
We are being fed three video in a week, grateful for mother
Henlo my child 🧎🏾♀️
😂😂😂
You have such stories to tell. Have you ever thought about writing a novel? A script for Amazon or Netflix? A movie script for a short at Sundance? You have the talent😂
Yes a script !!!
This dating hell is real but I hate to bring unfortunate news but older men are with the games too. I dated a man 15 years older and he was worse than the younger guys😅.
The older ones have had DECADES to practice their lies and manipulation. They are the worst!
Same here
Of course they are. They seek naïve young women to prey on. Can't understand why so many women like them much older. 🤦🏾♀️ It's never been my thing.
You're speaking alot of truth. The hook up culture is strong. Finding someone of similiar mind and belief is alot harder then people realize. Especially with all the dating sites and apps. But you're guy is out there i believe it. Maybe watching this video. I love the way this was shot.
This video resonates with me on so many levels that it's funny and not funny at the same time 😂😂😂
Relationships don’t necessarily make you happy maybe just wait for a really good friend, you can be open to that and if it goes further than fine but if it doesn’t that is okay too but don’t ever compromise your values or boundaries to have a relationship.
The key is to a relationship is not just being romantic. You need to see your partner as your best friend. Because the honeymoon phase will end and you'll see sides of your partner that'll drive you nuts. My fiance drives me nuts but I love him. He's my buddy ❤️
Listen Kels we're the same age and I thought the same thing about older men. My last attempt was a 35 year old. Unfortunately, it isn't true. I tried. Don't fool yourself with wishful thinking like I did. Someone older who is actually a quality person isn't going to be interested in someone our age (for the most part at least)! The problem is the other introverts are also avoiding society so it's hard for us to find each other. It's just going to take time. I just keep believing that we'll all find our partner when it's the right time and it can't be rushed or forced. It will be when it is meant to be. There a great people and terrible people of every generation. If you're 27 year old with a good heart, statistically, there must be more out there!
At 27 you are mature a 35 yo is not old
Yuuuuup
I have guy friends who are struggling in the dating market. It seems the good girls & good guys can't find each other. Friend has house in TX, truck, several forms of income, doing medical school & can't find wife. Always getting ghosted cause he wants a wife not just gf
@mangosteena he is Christian man. What is your IG? Maybe I can connect you two
00:00 🧘 Realization: The speaker, once a hopeless romantic, now contemplates dying alone due to the hookup culture and challenges in dating in her generation.
01:47 🔄 Preparing for solitude: The speaker engages in activities like stretching, figure skating, and cooking to prepare for a potential life of singleness.
02:56 🌍 Sponsorship plug: The speaker briefly promotes Earth Breeze, an eco-friendly laundry detergent, emphasizing its convenience and environmental benefits.
04:35 🍲 Meal preparation: The speaker plans to make rotisserie chicken into chicken noodle soup and shares details of her cozy evening routine.
06:43 📚 Reading habits: The speaker describes her love for reading and advises people to go where someone with similar interests would be found.
09:01 💔 Relationship reflections: The speaker expresses disappointment in her generation's dating culture, sharing her preference for an older, monogamous partner.
11:29 🧠 Self-reflection: The speaker advises people to question their motives before entering relationships, suggesting the importance of addressing loneliness and codependency.
People became too cowardly to date....if one is unable to be vulnerable and honest with themselves and others they are not suited for a relationship.
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This is exactly why I stay single.
Agreed.
Yes I too was feed the lies of Disney. A sad sad world… but I too have the dream of finding a good man I’m attracted to.
Men are wildly disappointing. I have zero effort for them
And women these days are terribly classless and fatherless. Both genders need work.
I know people say that we seek human connection but honestly fuk that. There are so many other way to have a fulfilling life. Get smarter, build your skills, and travel. A lot of people get stuck in a fantasy world but you just have to live your life. Don’t live your life wishing or hoping for someone to bring you happiness.
Im finally starting to realize this at 30 , just be happy for you and whoever wants to join will
No beautiful classic lady. You are too beautiful to pass up. Before you know it, you will meet the right one, because in the end, we are all looking for the same thing.
These new men are unlovable and the women who have decided to match their energy are beast. If I were a man I’d play nice😂😅
I digress…can’t lose if you don’t play the game.🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️🚶🏾♀️
Hello Kelly, I’m an R&D engineer and I’ve worked with those “paper sheet” detergent things. They are very practical but the cost per kg of surfactant in those is a bit high. Also they are not very much environmentally friendly. Best detergent option is by far to use powder detergent. And only a little bit, less that they tell you to is probably enough.
Mm this is interesting. Thank you for the information! We can always strive to be better, but it seems there’s no perfect way to be sustainable and ethical at the same time. 😭
Legit like a tablespoon of detergent is enough for a load. Any more and it actually prevents the clothes from getting clean. Worth the rabbit hole to learn about this!
@@AvgJane19 Yeah, too much powder detergent can damage your cloths. Especially if it has whitening agents. Too much detergent in general can also cause bad “fatty” smells in your machine. Same with too much softener, especially on synthetic clothing for the softener.
@@KellyStamps indeed there isn’t😂. The sheets still are a great product because of how practical they are. And the low surfactant dosage can actually be good for people who tend to overdose detergent. Plus, nowadays clothes are usually not that dirty when you wash them, so no need to use too much detergent anyway. Love your videos by the way. Keep up the good work 👌
Vinegar solves everything
Doll, I have been celibate for over a decade - after living my early 20’s with all the sex, drugs, rock n’ roll, in Hollywood, one could handle.
The struggle is very real.
We must stay this way 🥲
@@KellyStamps i agree , a modest life is a peaceful life
my perfect man is probably in a whole different universe or timeline 😭
It's different when you're young, but I'm 56 and am much happier without the burden of dealing with a man in my life. They don't bring all that much to the table that's worth the effort of having to put up with them. It's so much more peaceful this way.
The key to a relationship is not just being romantic. You need to see your partner as your best friend. Because the honeymoon phase will end and you'll see sides of your partner that'll drive you nuts. That will cause the partner to be bored hence the cheating. My fiance drives me nuts but I love him. He's my buddy ❤️ he makes me laugh, i can be myself around him and he tells me there's things that i do that drive him nuts. Love is not just romance. Marriage is not just romance. Also remember you and your partner are not perfect! Youll never be perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect partner. We're human. If you can look past that false reality you two will be ok.
My best friend better love sex
Sounds like romance to me…
We need to end “situationships” as well. Nothing beats real ❤️ you’re good looking though, maybe you need a foreigner who values family 😊
Loving the mock style u tube video plus the super chic lady fashion. So iconic on you!
Thank you!
I think it's less the age and more the culture, I noticed the same thing comparing dating in North America vs everywhere else.
Was it different in other countries
This video is so relatable!!! This generation of men ain’t it 😅
cap it at 35 sis .. most men over 35 still single likely isn’t a good man .. and any woman who meets a man over 40 online life is in danger .. 😮 but on a lighter note i need those laundry sheets and definitely gonna sign up for golf 😂
I never even started dating😂. I’d stay commited to my webtoon husbands thank you.
Where is webtoon husband?
@@fatemad4012Do you know what webtoon is?
Kelly connecting with her fairytale romance of having an elder gentleman sweeping her off her feet (and probably breaking his back doing so) by swinging and failing to hit that golf ball was a hole-in-one moment for me.
GOOD DAY FUZZY/NATALIE
Probably breaking his back 😂
I'd be very careful with these thoughts, our generation has it's problems but I'd say they're just more vocal and easier to spot when it comes to red flags. In that past men would cheat, beat, and more (not much differences to now) except it was a hush hush type of thing or the wife turned a blind eye in order to stay in a marriage in fear of being a single mother or divorced woman. I personally cannot be attracted to anyone past 5 years of my age ( with rare exceptions), although there is much work to be done, men have come some ways in terms of understanding life as it is and better dynamics with women. For the most part cheating and beating a woman is less encouraged, and there are men our age with sensible personalities, they're just hard to find. Even harder to find if you're Christian because from what I'm seeing, the are nearly non existent in churches these days. You could say they were more present in the past, but that's probably because there was a different culture, they probably did lots of things a modern man would do, even while in a church.
Me, whose been dating off and on for 3 years, I am officially done 😂. Trying to find someone who wants to be friends first and build from there and have similar values is hard. I don't see the point of putting myself out there anymore. I like being celibate and to my own space anyways
Hey Kelly, I just thought i let you know that your videos got me through some hard times during sewing projects late at night in fashion school. I really appreciate that you share your perspective, your ups and downs, i resonated with your dating stories and found it so funny when you brought in your spatula haha :) stay openminded and keep it going your, energy rocks!
As a 28 year old male, dating has been hell. The girls I’ve dated bring nothing but drama and headache and a lot of hoe tendencys. Shit the one I just broke up with was sending nudes and videos to guys on Facebook and saw nothing wrong with it. People are just all screwed up in this generation.
😳 sorry
Give the nerdy homebodies a chance- they’re not catching bodies 🥲
😮 you lie !
Lol yes Kelly us nerdy homebodies are minding our business 😂 we don’t wanna be bothered though!
IMHO church isn't the place to meet men. The idea seems like a good one but from my experience men go to church to find wounded women to take advantage of. They know that the women would be enthusiastic to get married to a God fearing man and will rush a relationship dodge some important questions. There is also that submission part. Any couple that I've known who have met in church, the guy turned out to be a nightmare. Coming from difficult pasts like prison, addiction etc. Everyone has a past but I think church is one of those places where the wounded take refuge and look for redemption. Even the married ones can be problematic as they will sleep with the other women in the congregation. There aren't many single men at church to begin with so the competition is real. My father started going to church in his 70's and these women were so aggressive that they were blocking me, his daughter, from sitting next to him at a church dinner.
I'm in my 40s and age doesn't equal maturity. I was lucky enough to come across a widower that nevet chested or left his sick wife. Its a needle in a haystack. Just live your life. Don't be serious until they are. Luckily a serious man is gonna jump in and take care of you immediately and propose in under a yr. You will know the difference. Just live and continue being unbothered.
They say there's a lack of third places, I say let's meet at church! Luv u Kelly
i accepted the fact that i will die alone. Now i'm pretty content with life and can focus on other things :)
Wow, it's been a while since one of your videos came down my feed. I hear you, but those old dudes are no better and don't deserve someone in their prime.
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Seriously I need the eco sheets! I never heard of them before and now I’m in a studio apartment I need to save space anywhere I can. Thank you for sharing!
I'm 27 and I go thru this same thing. Ppl need Jesus fr. It's getting outta hand and I'm tired of being hurt, or someone's last pick when all I did was be there for them. It sucks. But I trust God and He's making me strong thru hese challanges, I'm also really sensitive and I love hard. God has blessed me with this pure heart. I'm also a virgin. People laugh at me but idc. I'm just me. The things that God has for you are worth the work. We just gotta learn how to rest in Him.
😊I LOVE YOUR PERSONALITY AND YOUR CHANNEL I WATCH YOUR VIDEOS FROM BEGINNING TO END AND I HIT THE NOTIFICATION BUTTON ALSO IAM PROUD OF YOU 😊
THANK YOU FERNARD FOWLER I APPRECIATE YOU COMING BACK TO SUPPORT MY THEATRICS
@@KellyStamps you are smart and beautiful don't you ever forget that. You are my FAVORITE.
tbh yeah this video is where a lot of us are but at least we will have tiramisu 🙈
We need an app for the men who actually want monogamy and doesn’t think marriage is monogamy for the woman and a open marriage for the guy 💀 I feel your pain, sis 😭
Omg this right here😆
I'm not settling until I've lived all my fantasies
Hi,Kelly.I am proud of you as a mother of four adult women.2are married,one is22and is celibate,so proud of her,the other one is 28and being intimate with men,I talk to her slit to know her worth,and become celibate to no avail.
I learned from experience dating apps just arent for me. I tried them multiple times with not much success. I do agree with you! I have personality im more engaging and comfortabel in person then on them
lol Kelly, we Defo understand. It’s unfortunate most women wind up either pricing ourselves out the dating market because we make so much in comparison to the men our age. And/or our standards for literally the BARE MINIMUM of decency, thoughtfulness and consistency won’t let us settle😅 So, single it is.and I’m 33..so..you might wana go even older still😭
My dude is 9 years older than me and I love it! We are similar enough that we get cross age society, relevant references but also we’re different enough with nearly a decade between us. Wishing you much luck 🍀 we also share an astrological sign!
I'm thinking of dating again, however, my motto is that if someone awesome and if not also awesome! 😎 I'm enjoying my life cause you only live once!
I love dry laundry sheets and shower bars. I love hand washing my clothing in the shower listening to a podcast while wasting someone else’s water on vacation. Even better if it’s an outdoor shower in an exotic location. 😅😅 that plus steaming my clothes. Silly…but it truly brings my joy when i travel (especially as someone to doesn’t like lugging a bunch of stuff.
lol u gotta love kellz man. im not religious but im open minded to everything and i jus love to hear diff perspectives. u be making some points!!! im 31 i feel in between old and young but it's fire im having a great time lol keep killing it sis
You are not old at all
Gosh😭😭😭😭
haha i know das why i said in between! still full of life⛽@@asia_nzeako
Imagine the men these days who aren't trying to smash everything walking. Typically by the second date sometimes third I get "You haven't even tried to sleep with me, you must not like me."
She literally vocalizes my thoughts so well
Men in the nursing home dialing you as fast as they can on their rotary dial phones
jkjk
kelly, i come to you from the future, going older will more than likely just increase your chances of getting traumatized in a way you will not be able to entirely recover from ... turn and stay inward.
I'm 25F. My partner (24M) are in a healthy monogomous relationship. We didn't meet on a dating app; it was at DnD 6 months ago. We were friends before we started a relationship. We discussed compatibility (long term, short term goals, food/allergies, finances, emotional sore spots, sex and intimacy, how we handle conflict and how we want to handle it as a couple, etc.) very early onto the relationship. You person exists out there :) just takes some serendipity.
I appreciate you Kelly, stay within your truth, i know you'll eventually find someone you aspire to your own values. Love, Lu
Great show Kelly. Love watching you from Germany.
“…loneliness [and codependency] epidemic that’s taking place in this country…” LOL! THANK YOU for calling it what it is.
Girl I don’t know that they are any better.
Good luck with your quest. It does seem like most people aren’t interested in a relationship and not just a hook up. 😢
They’ll hook up too and probably use younger women for an ego boost
Older men aren't necessarily better, just older and set in their ways. Most often they're on the 2nd or 3rd wife if they found someone naive/desperate enough to put up with them. MANY of them don't change. Takes real accountability and ownership to do the work needs to be done on ourselves, most don't want to do it.
The audio is phenomenal
Finding God gave me patience and understand how important the courtship is during dating and into a relationship. I spent my 20s smothering and trying to push things to get sexual fast, where now im in my 30s and im patient and I love spending time away from the person im dating to work on other things.
WW2 and the moon landing?
Sis.
😂😂😂😂
Very happy with this eco product ad and the camcorder video :)
40 plus men are where its at TBH. Nothing like a silver fox with a nice home, grown kids, and no baby mama drama or underdeveloped male ego trying to compete financially w/ you ✌🏽
Wow, the men over 40 I meet, can't even pay a con Ed bill , I rarely meet men who are financially stable or are honest.
Girl the older ones ain’t no better lol
AT ALL!!! They’re worse.
You understand the difference between happiness and pleasure, I love that about you! Ok.. possibly with the exception of tiramisu in which case the difference might be inseparable!
"Hear, hear"! Celebrate, cute,
calm, and unbothered.
The million dollar question 11:46-11:48)
Sidenote/ I sometimes
take 1-2 year breaks, from
television.
Kelly, do you ever "Jones" for tacos or carne asada fries??? Being back on the East Coast, I'm in hoagie and cheesesteak heaven but missing the Mexican culinary connections available in California (oh, and the warmer weather).....safe travels to you, be well.
I hate to break it to you girly, but the 35-year-olds are still part of this problem you’re gonna have to go older than that I suggest 55+
I just clicked the thumbs up button which is located under the video 👍
Lol Jamal Bryant is available! Good luck lil sis. At this point I'd just stay single and wait on God!
😂Jamal Bryant 😂 ♥️ wait on God ❤
YEES the very last part of this video. Let’s check in with ourselves.. let’s get self aware up in here!! It’ll save everybody’s time.
Prayers for everyone looking and working for "happily ever after"
omg... this is me... best of love for you girl... he is watching... and not a creep
YOU are so spot on.
there is peace to be found in being single
I was in a relationship with a man for a year who was:
10 years older than me (40), from another continent, and there still isn’t that emotional maturity. Am hoping for my person soon so I can have children before I’m infertile… it’s a struggle
Age does not confer maturity.
Praying you find a great partner Kelly!
Girl these men don’t start emotionally maturing till they are in their late 40s or maybe 50s 😒.. I’m 35 and these 30 yrs old be playing games too. I’m probably your oldest subscriber lol my sis is in her early 40s and she pretty much decided she rather be single the rest of her life and I don’t blame her!