His lover gave him a great gift. Who knows if they would have been compatible for a relationship, but our boy here was treated tenderly and respectfully, and he has that memory to look back on for as long as he lives.
I hope, and pray that his 1st time, probably his 1st love (corny I know) is still out there and they could meet just one time. He looks like he needs it and he deserves it.
I have read the pretty vitriolic comments below, and all I can say is, that this man for whom it was a not only a first experience but clearly a profound and emotional experience, is simply telling it how it was for him. Why rubbish this mans experience as if it counts for nothing?
Its plainly obvious to me that all the people who are making rude and nasty comments don't have one fucking clue as to what they are saying. They haven't bothered to LISTEN to the man's story. They automatically judged him according to their own selfish and narrow minded views.
He doesn't say whether that was a turning point for him toward being gay, though it is a very touching video and he's very fortunate that he didn't get some selfish person who didn't treat him so compassionately.
One place I know has a communal urinal. It's a circular concrete tub with a water spray in the middle. When you approach the tub, there is a metal ring around the bottom that when stepped on, starts the water flowing so it flushes the pee down the drain. When you pee, everyone is standing facing each other doing their business. It's considered OK to look, just don't cross your streams.
These places had long been closed in the Twin Cities when I came of age--in fact, they were gone by the late 1970's, I remember being home on Christmas break in 1977 and visiting the Gay 90's and asking about the baths. (Having never been; actually having never been anywhere in gay culture, although by age 24 I was traveling internationally and always managing to find gay bars wherever I went--but I never even considered the baths. I "sort of" knew about them but the thought of hanging out with a bunch of ugly old naked strangers appalled me. I thought myself extremely sophisticated, and i was, but found myself utterly baffled by the bath-and by the gay community in general-- and hadn't the slightest idea even how to find them. ) but by 1977 they had lost whatever cachet they might once have had. My comments on TH-cam keep being censored for no reason.
Definitely got lucky. Being Catholic and in the military one of the first times I went to a gay baths was with a "friend" and it really kind of freaked me out. Knowing all those men were looking to hook up with each other...and a few giving me the kind of looks that said they couldn't wait to "have their way with me" just unnerved me. The next time that I went to a gay baths was almost as unnerving. I went to a different baths near the base and I had no sooner entered my "room" when there was a knock at the door. The cashier from the front door came in, got down on his knees, opened my Levis, and proceeded to give me a blow job. For a guy who was still quite closeted, it was unbelievable.
This is beautiful! Shame is often a part of our gay experience. Everyone wants to be loved. Physical pleasure can be liberating and healing..especially if there have been previous painful experiences. Thanks for sharing!
onefunseaguy I believe in your words but what about men, who do not look so good and are rejected by their peers in the gay community ? They still are forced to remain in themselves and sadly so.
Thom4 xxx Post-Stonewall + pre-AIDS = era of gay sex liberation. Read a book about it, saw a groovy documentary (aptly titled “Gay Sex in the ‘70s”). As a hetero chick born during the early days of AIDS I definitely blushed a bit, but it was very interesting, historically/culturally.
sounds like the 1970s. The ad in the paper said "homophile" which is more of a 1950s and 1960s term, and he went to a bathhouse that was part of the Club Baths chain of bathhouses, and I think those started in the 1970s. If his girlfriend was a law student... I'll assume he was in his mid or late 20's
My boyfriend really wants to go to one with me but I’m really anxious about it because it seems like it’s just for meeting other people, not exactly a place for dates. Does anyone who has more experience with this sort of thing have any tips to calm me down?
How can u go and have sex with someone who u just met few minutes earlier?. This is wrong on so many levels. And this story isn't inspiring but teaches young people the wrong values.
@@zanettaczika It's a tradeoff. Also, AIDS wasn't a thing when the bath houses were popular in the 70's and early 80''s. The most common STD back then was gonorrhea and it was easily cured.
@@DavidLS1 aids was a thing back then but people didn’t know about that. Chlamida you have for life. HPV you have for life ( causes cancer and condom do not protect you from it)… Therefore …. No thanks. I will stick to my values. Sex isn’t meaning of life. Love is.
My first homosexual experience was with a black guy too. Loved it. And of course my spouse of 30 years is also a black guy. The first one though i didn't meet at the baths oh no. I met him via the BBS scene. Yeah dialup.
There are so many men who have not acted upon their homosexual tendencies and or attractions. Like Oprah once said, “If all the gay men and lesbians on earth stood up at the same time, it would change the world.
I'm a somali man of 22 years of age. Born and living in Sweden because my parents migrated here from Somalia which is a country in the horn of Africa. I've been fighting my bisexuality my whole life. I have decided to forever stay away from men (haven't done anything before with the same gender) and in a couple of years marry a woman. My Somali culture won't allow it because Somalis live in clans and we are expected to carry on our lineage. Which means i Will deny these feelings expression and Only act on my desire for women and stay away from the men.
bath houses and sex clubs can be fun, when i lived in los angeles i would frequent 1350 in long beach, kohler between 7th and 8th street and melrose spa, for a time there was basic plumbing in silverlake, the zone in santa monica and slammer by vermont street, i was fortunate to have moved to my home country because if i stuck long enough i can be a candidate for Aids, i remember a small bath house by 4th street frequented by latinos plus the 2 adult moviehouses on santa monica, for a time there was an adult moviehouse by 17th and bristol in santa ana
@@dariusanderton3760 I'm a somali man of 22 years of age. Born and living in Sweden because my parents migrated here from Somalia which is a country in the horn of Africa. I've been fighting my bisexuality my whole life. I have decided to forever stay away from men (haven't done anything before with the same gender) and in a couple of years marry a woman. My Somali culture won't allow it. Which means i Will deny these feelings expression and Only act on my desire for women and stay away from the men.
If any still exist you should go. Just keep an open mind and remember nobody will make you do anything you don’t want to do. In some cases, going there can be social.
So this guy burst his cherry with a guy he met five minutes earlier... Gotta love gays who are so honest about their sexuality. However, it's not throwing out much in the way of hope for gays. Just sexuality, and nothing in terms of pair bonding. I'm not really overwhelmed from this recount of his first experience in a gay bath house. Just another gay dude who is interested in nothing other than gay sex.
Eric Richards LOL so you’ve never heard of gay people who’ve, ummmm, “pair-bonded”? For decades? Just like straight people? I guess you think gay marriage is just a farce? I’m a hetero girl... I have several hetero female friends who lost their virginity on one-night stands and never, ever regretted it. Once in university I got off with three fellas in one night... One of the most awesome nights of my life. Assuming you’re a straight bloke, have you never messed around with a woman you just met - i.e., without “pair-bonding”? Have you never *wanted* to?
@@JackAShepherd Sure, i've heard of gays staying with the same partner in a monogamous relationship. it's not uncommon, but it's also atypical. I've known many gays over my many years, and they seem to have a lot more relationships than anybody I know. Yes, I've messed around with a woman who I had just met. She was a whore, and was my elder brother's 18th birthday present. I took two showers, and still felt dirty afterwards. Sorry, but what you're describing with your friends and your three guy situation is a slut, and that's not exactly normal. Every guy knows they're out there, and there are a lot of man sluts. It's just not something normal people do. Maybe nowadays, but three guys in one night? Sorry, but I'm old school and think there are two kinds of girls. The ones you marry, and the ones you don't. You ask if I have ever wanted to. I mean, sure i've seen girls I would love to do. But to just have sex with and then say "adios"? No, I couldn't do that. Maybe it's better to say I've seen girls I would love to claim as my own right then and there, and put a big "Property of Eric! Do NOT touch" sign on her forehead. To just dip my wick and then tell the next guy in line behind me that it's his turn? No.
Eric Richards LOL, dude who effed a prostitute thinks I’m a slut for messing about in university! Did you attend university? Living away from home, drinking 5+ nights a week... Sorry to tell you but that is indeed “normal.” After university I was “pair-bonded” with a fella for 10 years, and I never cheated on him either. Women should listen to their bodies and do what they’re comfortable with and not be bothered about what blokes like you have to say about it... And that includes being understanding of women who’re uncomfortable/disinterested in being sexual and consequently feel social pressure to mess around with men when they really don’t want to. We can do as we like - so long as it’s consensual - just the same as men. My parents were hippies and had countless relationships and encounters before they met and when they were non-exclusively dating... Then they “pair-bonded” and were happily, exclusively together for 40 years. “Not uncommon but atypical” isn’t much of a contrast. Even gay penguins “pair-bond”... Penguins and many, many other species.
Eric Richards Therein lies the problem: It’s not your right or your privilege to tell the next guy in line it’s his turn... It’s the girl’s decision. Even at my most drunk and disorderly I have never, ever messed around with a guy I didn’t fancy. Never.
@@JackAShepherd If that makes a difference to you, then okay. To me, I couldn't do that. You asked me for a hypothetical, and I told you that I could never do that. If it's you being on the receiving end of a train or anybody, I couldn't take part in it. Just too disgusting.
older people like this upset me. I can't imagine living life in a closet, I enjoy my life to the fullest and can't imagine constantly watching my back. What are you gaining by staying in the closet? It is such a small leap, and you don't realize what you are missing out on.
Do you mean the fact that he felt he couldn't be himself upsets you? There is a difference in coming out in your time then in his time.It took a lot for him and others like him to make those bold leaps. I'm confused on why you feel it would be such a "small" leap when this man was in his 20's?
YOU HAVE SUCH BLISS STORY .IT WAS WHAT SHOULD BE FOR EVERY ONE. YOUR FREINDS RIGHT THE CLUB IS FIX IN SOULS AWAY FROM WHO THEY ARE IN DARK.EXPERIENCE. WHAT YOU EXPERIENCE WAS TRUE LOVE GOD WANTS TO.LEARN FROM YOU. I BE HAPPY TO HAVE GUYS THAT HAD THAT MOD LOOK IN SIXTIES JUST HOLD MY HAND PLAY IN SUN AND CARESS. AND ENJOY THE ENERGY OF ALL AS ONE. THIS IS WHAT HAPPEN TO YOU. I CAN FEEL.YOUR BLISS AND YOUR EMOTIONS REAL. SOON AWAKEN WILL BE AND PEOPLE CAN BE IN PURE LOVE AGAIN. AND NO UNSAFE NESS NO HURT COMPASHION. AND PURE BLISS
Maxwell Alberts -- Notice my hat tip to George Michael. Butt the best part is his crying while remembering his first time getting stuffed like a goose.
What do I care about George Michael? He wrote a couple of good songs--"Hand to Mouth" being--in my opinion---the best of the lot. He was a big old pothead. A very rich, VERY promiscuous pothead. We are not amused. I do NOT approve of drug or alcohol, both of which are rampant in the "gay" community". I also do NOT approve of their lack of religion/spirituality. If I have sex with anyone I never disclose who where or why.
Yes, first time at a bathhouse. Keep in mind during the 60s-early 80s bath houses served as an accepted meeting place and alternative to the gay bars. Many bathhouses offered STD testing, held social functions that didn’t involve anonymous random gay sex, and also served as a men’s club where like-minded men could meet, work out, have a steam (really!) and socialize.
What ABOUT love and commitment??! Many men have met their long term partners in a bathhouse/sauna. You can meet people ANYWHERE! Grocery stores, post office, libraries, church, street, football games, parks, jail, parties, concerts, zoo's, . . . .
@@wu7690 oh don't I know it - so inconvenient having to go to the doctor! Of course that's why they need to do something about the lighting. Although it would ruin the moment, asking folk "exactly how long have you had this rash?".
I've been to several bathhouses over the years. I never saw them as places of darkness. The only thing warped is your judgmental attitude. Maybe you should see a therapist to work on that.
He seems to be such a sweet and gentle soul. Everyone’s “first” should be that special.
It's great to hear someone speak of their first sexual experience in such glowing terms. I am happy for him just listening to his story
His lover gave him a great gift. Who knows if they would have been compatible for a relationship, but our boy here was treated tenderly and respectfully, and he has that memory to look back on for as long as he lives.
This comment tho 😍
What a sweet heart, the emotion in his voice!
the seamen in semi-colon!!!
This was really a touching story. Wow.
Men who stayed closeted too long have major issues.
It is really sad and it does have long term mental issues
closeted men are the worst type of men
Men with major issues stay closeted too long.
Its scary
As in the Wizard of Oz....come out,come out wherever you are!
The guy he met must have had really been something,...he’s still “blown”away pun intended !
I'm happy for him. He found happiness.
He almost started crying thinking back about the amazing black man and his giant "personality."
There's happiness and there's sadness because he never saw him again.
Glad he had a positive experience with that black guy because I am so tired of people saying a lot of negative things about my people.
😄😄😄😄😄😄 ☝☝☝☝☝☝☝
I hope, and pray that his 1st time, probably his 1st love (corny I know) is still out there and they could meet just one time. He looks like he needs it and he deserves it.
I have read the pretty vitriolic comments below, and all I can say is, that this man for whom it was a not only a first experience but clearly a profound and emotional experience, is simply telling it how it was for him. Why rubbish this mans experience as if it counts for nothing?
Unfortunately, Trolls will be trolls.
what a lucky man to have such a positive first experience like that
I wish because of this video, he will meet the man he met once in the bath house. This is such a sweet story.
Its plainly obvious to me that all the people who are making rude and nasty comments don't have one fucking clue as to what they are saying. They haven't bothered to LISTEN to the man's story. They automatically judged him according to their own selfish and narrow minded views.
Exactly!
"I don't know what they said" LOL I can imagine a few phrases...
What a lovely memory lovingly shared ❤
He doesn't say whether that was a turning point for him toward being gay, though it is a very touching video and he's very fortunate that he didn't get some selfish person who didn't treat him so compassionately.
Thanks for your sharing. I can relate so much to this...including being Catholic and coming to terms with being both gay and Catholic.
Christopher Thorkon -- Did you also get snaked by a Mandingo?
Did you also lose your innocence to a Mandingo?
me 2. I'm Catholic. So much guilt. No more. Trust
God made me perfect... ;)
Mandingo he was one he'll of hot guy IT was Ken Norton who played the part.
One place I know has a communal urinal. It's a circular concrete tub with a water spray in the middle. When you approach the tub, there is a metal ring around the bottom that when stepped on, starts the water flowing so it flushes the pee down the drain. When you pee, everyone is standing facing each other doing their business. It's considered OK to look, just don't cross your streams.
Now, that is what I would love to see and perform in. Wish there was one like that in UK.
@@lesburybear Castro District San Francisco
@@obsoleteprofessor2034 Have you taken a photo of it?
@@lesburybear 45 years ago ..
@@obsoleteprofessor2034 I have found one in UK you might like to see if I could send it......
Is anyone other than myself scared of getting STDs with encounters with unknown partners? Anyway, this story is beautiful to me.
These places had long been closed in the Twin Cities when I came of age--in fact, they were gone by the late 1970's, I remember being home on Christmas break in 1977 and visiting the Gay 90's and asking about the baths. (Having never been; actually having never been anywhere in gay culture, although by age 24 I was traveling internationally and always managing to find gay bars wherever I went--but I never even considered the baths. I "sort of" knew about them but the thought of hanging out with a bunch of ugly old naked strangers appalled me. I thought myself extremely sophisticated, and i was, but found myself utterly baffled by the bath-and by the gay community in general-- and hadn't the slightest idea even how to find them. ) but by 1977 they had lost whatever cachet they might once have had. My comments on TH-cam keep being censored for no reason.
You are who you are, you can't change that!
Definitely got lucky. Being Catholic and in the military one of the first times I went to a gay baths was with a "friend" and it really kind of freaked me out. Knowing all those men were looking to hook up with each other...and a few giving me the kind of looks that said they couldn't wait to "have their way with me" just unnerved me.
The next time that I went to a gay baths was almost as unnerving. I went to a different baths near the base and I had no sooner entered my "room" when there was a knock at the door. The cashier from the front door came in, got down on his knees, opened my Levis, and proceeded to give me a blow job.
For a guy who was still quite closeted, it was unbelievable.
Howard Kerr are you open now
Tell us in detail howard of the experience...
Sounds like a five-star rating on Yelp for customer service.
@@guydreamr- You’re funny 😂. (Good for a boring Sunday afternoon here in Amsterdam)
This is beautiful! Shame is often a part of our gay experience. Everyone wants to be loved. Physical pleasure can be liberating and healing..especially if there have been previous painful experiences. Thanks for sharing!
onefunseaguy I believe in your words but what about men, who do not look so good and are rejected by their peers in the gay community ? They still are forced to remain in themselves and sadly so.
@@goodlinksmax1 You have suffered Max
What a gorgeous story - a credit to both men. ♥️♥️
My goodness. That was such a wonderfully touching story-and very elegantly told.
during the 1970s I went to the baths on Fridays and Saturdays it was GREAT time
Thom4 xxx Post-Stonewall + pre-AIDS = era of gay sex liberation. Read a book about it, saw a groovy documentary (aptly titled “Gay Sex in the ‘70s”). As a hetero chick born during the early days of AIDS I definitely blushed a bit, but it was very interesting, historically/culturally.
@@JackAShepherd Schlongopolis
It's not up to you to judge. You don't walk in his shoes or inhabit his skin. He's out there, and sharing. Keep your bigotry to yourself.
Julian Coulden -- He was Romancing the Snake, after all.
Ppl keeping their bigotry to themselves is why ppl stay bigots
Yep
Sticks -- He cried when he reminisced on his first buggering at the hands of a large Mandingo. Not much of a life story.
Ooh miss sticks and miss conservativeathem are so hungry for cock it's unbelievable
. At 12 years old I was seeking out male companionship and had my first sexual encounter actually three of them at 12
I wish he said what year it was,and how old he was.
sounds like the 1970s. The ad in the paper said "homophile" which is more of a 1950s and 1960s term, and he went to a bathhouse that was part of the Club Baths chain of bathhouses, and I think those started in the 1970s. If his girlfriend was a law student... I'll assume he was in his mid or late 20's
Does anybody know if the book he talks about is available anywhere?
My 1st time I ended up at an ER...on an airforce base...bleeding out my *ss. They were not even amused.
What did they say...?
@@laroyrichardson36They were very professional...other than how they looked at me & how they tried to get rid of me as fast as they could.
Sounds mesmerising and enchanting. What wonderful memories.
I used to frequent the Boston Club Baths back in the day. Lots of fond memories.
I think the guy had to be a local if he went to talk to his friends, if he was from out of town he wouldn't have friends there.
He might have been traveling with friends.
It's lovely and it warms my gay heart!
Oh my god, we're you ever lucky. What a positive experience .
Sweet as honey! My second - or third time watching this. I’ve lost count. 😭 😊
My boyfriend really wants to go to one with me but I’m really anxious about it because it seems like it’s just for meeting other people, not exactly a place for dates. Does anyone who has more experience with this sort of thing have any tips to calm me down?
Jake Stowers it’s all for sex , you can have fun but won’t make friends
I think you should just do what you feel and wait untill the right moment will come for you! : )
Slam Daddy McNasty don't go if u in relationship
Here's a tip: Stay home.
Don t have an open relationship. Yours wont last.
How can u go and have sex with someone who u just met few minutes earlier?. This is wrong on so many levels. And this story isn't inspiring but teaches young people the wrong values.
How?? QUITE EASILY.
It's exciting. Women (not all) tend to put too much meaning in sex.
@@DavidLS1 thanks to it we don’t suffer from aids and other crap
@@zanettaczika It's a tradeoff. Also, AIDS wasn't a thing when the bath houses were popular in the 70's and early 80''s. The most common STD back then was gonorrhea and it was easily cured.
@@DavidLS1 aids was a thing back then but people didn’t know about that. Chlamida you have for life. HPV you have for life ( causes cancer and condom do not protect you from it)… Therefore …. No thanks. I will stick to my values. Sex isn’t meaning of life. Love is.
your very brave and sad at the same time about your lady. But you have to dance to your own beat life is sooo short x
what a RESPECTFUL world/scene he experienced !
My first homosexual experience was with a black guy too. Loved it. And of course my spouse of 30 years is also a black guy. The first one though i didn't meet at the baths oh no. I met him via the BBS scene. Yeah dialup.
@@aslscott78 And bzzzr wrong.
did he get bummed? i must know.
lol I hope so :)
Best part 2:51 😙
I'd like to meet a gay who was a virgin when he tied the knot and stayed monogamous till death separated him from his spouse.
🙄
I am so glad he DIDN'T SAY, "It was my first time with a *black* man."
How sweet of a first experience ❤
Hello ,, I'm from California 40 yrs old single gay,, are you????,.
yes
skip the bars and go "straight" into a bathhouse? lol odd bit of advice. it could have been a very bad experience too.
Why
There are so many men who have not acted upon their homosexual tendencies and or attractions. Like Oprah once said, “If all the gay men and lesbians on earth stood up at the same time, it would change the world.
I'm a somali man of 22 years of age. Born and living in Sweden because my parents migrated here from Somalia which is a country in the horn of Africa. I've been fighting my bisexuality my whole life. I have decided to forever stay away from men (haven't done anything before with the same gender) and in a couple of years marry a woman. My Somali culture won't allow it because Somalis live in clans and we are expected to carry on our lineage. Which means i Will deny these feelings expression and Only act on my desire for women and stay away from the men.
the Christian brother therapist told him about the baths?
That was beautiful. The way we would all have wanted it. Good for you. I also find you handsome. ❤
Thanks for sharing that fascinating experience!
bath houses and sex clubs can be fun, when i lived in los angeles i would frequent 1350 in long beach, kohler between 7th and 8th street and melrose spa, for a time there was basic plumbing in silverlake, the zone in santa monica and slammer by vermont street, i was fortunate to have moved to my home country because if i stuck long enough i can be a candidate for Aids, i remember a small bath house by 4th street frequented by latinos plus the 2 adult moviehouses on santa monica, for a time there was an adult moviehouse by 17th and bristol in santa ana
I have been to several of these bathhouses I had a orgy once I had two cocks in my mouth and a cock in my asshole it felt amazing.
@@hooversideadam good times :)
@@dariusanderton3760 I'm a somali man of 22 years of age. Born and living in Sweden because my parents migrated here from Somalia which is a country in the horn of Africa. I've been fighting my bisexuality my whole life. I have decided to forever stay away from men (haven't done anything before with the same gender) and in a couple of years marry a woman. My Somali culture won't allow it. Which means i Will deny these feelings expression and Only act on my desire for women and stay away from the men.
I'm confused. So his conversion therapist sent him to a place to have gay sex?
DEAR SOUL GOD BLESS...
Great story
I soooooooo want to go to a bathhouses, I get so nervous
If any still exist you should go. Just keep an open mind and remember nobody will make you do anything you don’t want to do. In some cases, going there can be social.
awwwww
Kiere Espinoza I
Adorable! How wonderful to have such a positive first experience.
Now this is honesty
Don't bring God in to this God is love not hate god loves everyone
Mmmmmmmmm...............
Lol he gave gave him that good good.
😉
What a beautiful story
Love your honesty.
So this guy burst his cherry with a guy he met five minutes earlier... Gotta love gays who are so honest about their sexuality. However, it's not throwing out much in the way of hope for gays. Just sexuality, and nothing in terms of pair bonding. I'm not really overwhelmed from this recount of his first experience in a gay bath house. Just another gay dude who is interested in nothing other than gay sex.
Eric Richards LOL so you’ve never heard of gay people who’ve, ummmm, “pair-bonded”? For decades? Just like straight people? I guess you think gay marriage is just a farce?
I’m a hetero girl... I have several hetero female friends who lost their virginity on one-night stands and never, ever regretted it. Once in university I got off with three fellas in one night... One of the most awesome nights of my life. Assuming you’re a straight bloke, have you never messed around with a woman you just met - i.e., without “pair-bonding”? Have you never *wanted* to?
@@JackAShepherd Sure, i've heard of gays staying with the same partner in a monogamous relationship. it's not uncommon, but it's also atypical. I've known many gays over my many years, and they seem to have a lot more relationships than anybody I know.
Yes, I've messed around with a woman who I had just met. She was a whore, and was my elder brother's 18th birthday present. I took two showers, and still felt dirty afterwards. Sorry, but what you're describing with your friends and your three guy situation is a slut, and that's not exactly normal. Every guy knows they're out there, and there are a lot of man sluts. It's just not something normal people do. Maybe nowadays, but three guys in one night? Sorry, but I'm old school and think there are two kinds of girls. The ones you marry, and the ones you don't.
You ask if I have ever wanted to. I mean, sure i've seen girls I would love to do. But to just have sex with and then say "adios"? No, I couldn't do that. Maybe it's better to say I've seen girls I would love to claim as my own right then and there, and put a big "Property of Eric! Do NOT touch" sign on her forehead. To just dip my wick and then tell the next guy in line behind me that it's his turn? No.
Eric Richards LOL, dude who effed a prostitute thinks I’m a slut for messing about in university! Did you attend university? Living away from home, drinking 5+ nights a week... Sorry to tell you but that is indeed “normal.” After university I was “pair-bonded” with a fella for 10 years, and I never cheated on him either. Women should listen to their bodies and do what they’re comfortable with and not be bothered about what blokes like you have to say about it... And that includes being understanding of women who’re uncomfortable/disinterested in being sexual and consequently feel social pressure to mess around with men when they really don’t want to. We can do as we like - so long as it’s consensual - just the same as men. My parents were hippies and had countless relationships and encounters before they met and when they were non-exclusively dating... Then they “pair-bonded” and were happily, exclusively together for 40 years.
“Not uncommon but atypical” isn’t much of a contrast. Even gay penguins “pair-bond”... Penguins and many, many other species.
Eric Richards Therein lies the problem: It’s not your right or your privilege to tell the next guy in line it’s his turn... It’s the girl’s decision. Even at my most drunk and disorderly I have never, ever messed around with a guy I didn’t fancy. Never.
@@JackAShepherd If that makes a difference to you, then okay. To me, I couldn't do that. You asked me for a hypothetical, and I told you that I could never do that. If it's you being on the receiving end of a train or anybody, I couldn't take part in it. Just too disgusting.
Eddie became addicted to the Liberace All-Protein Diet.
older people like this upset me. I can't imagine living life in a closet, I enjoy my life to the fullest and can't imagine constantly watching my back. What are you gaining by staying in the closet? It is such a small leap, and you don't realize what you are missing out on.
Do you mean the fact that he felt he couldn't be himself upsets you? There is a difference in coming out in your time then in his time.It took a lot for him and others like him to make those bold leaps. I'm confused on why you feel it would be such a "small" leap when this man was in his 20's?
YOU HAVE SUCH BLISS STORY .IT WAS WHAT SHOULD BE FOR EVERY ONE. YOUR FREINDS RIGHT THE CLUB IS FIX IN SOULS AWAY FROM WHO THEY ARE IN DARK.EXPERIENCE. WHAT YOU EXPERIENCE WAS TRUE LOVE GOD WANTS TO.LEARN FROM YOU. I BE HAPPY TO HAVE GUYS THAT HAD THAT MOD LOOK IN SIXTIES JUST HOLD MY HAND PLAY IN SUN AND CARESS. AND ENJOY THE ENERGY OF ALL AS ONE. THIS IS WHAT HAPPEN TO YOU. I CAN FEEL.YOUR BLISS AND YOUR EMOTIONS REAL. SOON AWAKEN WILL BE AND PEOPLE CAN BE IN PURE LOVE AGAIN. AND NO UNSAFE NESS NO HURT COMPASHION. AND PURE BLISS
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm............
Wow what a story
Beautiful story!
Mike Stephens --Then he slept in the giant black gay man's jock strap like a hammock while he drifted off to George Michael lullabyes
You must be really fun at parties. I don't suppose you realize this is 2018, not 400 B.C.
Maxwell Alberts -- Notice my hat tip to George Michael. Butt the best part is his crying while remembering his first time getting stuffed like a goose.
What do I care about George Michael? He wrote a couple of good songs--"Hand to Mouth" being--in my opinion---the best of the lot. He was a big old pothead. A very rich, VERY promiscuous pothead. We are not amused. I do NOT approve of drug or alcohol, both of which are rampant in the "gay" community". I also do NOT approve of their lack of religion/spirituality. If I have sex with anyone I never disclose who where or why.
Maxwell Alberts: George Michael was an amazing talent. But he didn't seem very happy. Agree with all the above.
And so, what did he do?!
I love the gys.
What THIS???! I thought there would be bathhouse footage!
Now he s seen the light. He got. D. K. D and now he full of himself and ready to rumble.
Great vid...very emotionally true. But gawd...a bathhouse is pretty intense for a newbie...but it sure worked out ok
good night. This dude is obviously a fruit and they do fruity things. Why would he want anyone to know it though. Dammit boy.
Love you thanks for that
Man. I'm glad for him, but a first time at a bathouse?
Yes, first time at a bathhouse. Keep in mind during the 60s-early 80s bath houses served as an accepted meeting place and alternative to the gay bars. Many bathhouses offered STD testing, held social functions that didn’t involve anonymous random gay sex, and also served as a men’s club where like-minded men could meet, work out, have a steam (really!) and socialize.
@@alioramus1637 i am sorry for you
@@ajh9187 why?
Any older guys out there hi
Sin kills the soul and body .
Lol stop it ! Lol OMG I’ve got gas ..... I can’t stop laughing
12 I was seeking out male companionship
is he gay he is handsome
No clue, it's really hard to tell from that story alone.
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How lovely
Nice story
Pause.
God FORGIVE HIM!
For what?
J B fuck off.
Forgive him for what? He’s done NOTHING wrong! I’m as straight as an arrow and I will ALWAYS believe.....LOVE IS LOVE.
JB.he did!!!! I am quite happy with myself!
But what about love? What about commitment?
What ABOUT love and commitment??! Many men have met their long term partners in a bathhouse/sauna. You can meet people ANYWHERE! Grocery stores, post office, libraries, church, street, football games, parks, jail, parties, concerts, zoo's, . . . .
Lust black
Very nice.
I'm wondering if the guy was Obama........................mmmmmm.
I was taught by the Catholic Christian Brothers and I do not believe for one moment he would have instructed this man to go to a gay bath house.
Plenty of clergymen used to go to the baths. They were darker and more private than the clubs.
idolatry of the mind
Sad.
Maybe he was the devil stranger things have happened
Maybe he was Santa Claus.
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What a warped perspective. These bathhouses are places of darkness.
Yes the lighting is often very poor, but most people come out smiling.
@@treescape7 they come out smiling until they test positive for an STD weeks later.
@@wu7690 oh don't I know it - so inconvenient having to go to the doctor! Of course that's why they need to do something about the lighting. Although it would ruin the moment, asking folk "exactly how long have you had this rash?".
I've been to several bathhouses over the years. I never saw them as places of darkness. The only thing warped is your judgmental attitude. Maybe you should see a therapist to work on that.
One can have a lot of fun in the dark.
Ok Jeffrey dahmer 😂😂
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