You said, the bath houses are much better in other countries than those in the US. I haven’t been for decades but I would like to know what they are like elsewhere and better in what ways? And which place would you say the best exist? Sorry for all the questions, I have never thought about this, it might be fun to experience that again. Of coarse, I would prefer to visit the country that finds older guys hot. Here if you hit 45 your over the hill, I think, that was so long ago🤷♂️
@@danafreddy Well, for one thing, you pay an entrance fee and that's it. No top-ups like paying for a cabin. There are few cabins, they may be occupied, so you play in the open, in the steam bath, and that's way more fun. Oh, and younger clientele.
I met my now husband at a bath house in Dallas Texas. Within a week we had moved in together. Now 46 years later we are still madly in love and in the twilight of our lives. We somehow avoided the AIDS epidemic but lost many of our close friends to that. We learned how to be safe during our early years and it is paying off now later in life. We WILL see our 50th anniversary and still be madly in love. Bath houses are wonderful if you approach them with respect. To all my young and old brothers: Play safe even when you have protection.
Awesome story! You never know where you’re going to meet your love match. I met my hubby at a straight party. Was supposed to be a one-night stand, but now we’ve been together over 20 years. Share your good fortune with us: I hope to make it to 46 years, too! Congrats to you!
I don’t know how I got here either but, I’m glad, I miss that bath house experience... I remember 🤔 there I was, Just spending A quiet, boring evening at the ‘8709’ in West Hollywood, California, with 600 - 800 naked guys! That was my first visit, I went back, the next night, and stayed for the entire decade of the seventies. Oh my dear! I just realized, over that 10 years, I ran naked with a few million naked guys! Suddenly I feel cheap... forgot I said anything 🤦🏼♂️ ok? if I had a time machine and went back there, I couldn’t get in because you had to be under 30 to get in. So just to be accurate, that would have been 600 - 800 naked guys, all under thirty! Oh my gosh, just thinking about it makes me get a, umm - oh look at the time, I gotta run, something just came up, that requires my immediate attention!!! 🤗
I came here thinking it was an "ex-gay" bathhouse employee, with a lot of expectations and a lot to laugh at. Instead, it was really informational. Thanks!
Men have as many reasons to NOT go to a bathhouse as they have to go there. For me, my first visit was more out of curiosity than anything else. I never even had sex on my first visit -- probably due to the time of day I went. I figured out pretty quickly that bathhouses were just like really big men's locker rooms --- where some guys just happened to get lucky and have sex. For me, going to bathhouses allowed me to feel comfortable being naked around other guys (something I was always shy about before). It made me comfortable being gay, and comfortable with my body type. It led me to join a gym and get into better shape. And it made me less inhibited about having sex with guys. Overall, I consider my bathhouse visits to be very positive experiences. 😊👍
@@dennis-qu7bs -- The vast, vast majority of men walk around the public areas of a bathhouse wearing a towel -- although underwear, jockstrap, or naked would also be acceptable though not too common. I was referring to the "wet areas" where nudity is the norm: the steamrooms, the saunas, the jacuzzis, and the showers. In those areas, it is customary to hang your towel on a hook or bar and go naked. And, of course, you tend to be nude in the small private rooms you rent to take guys back to. But you can stay as covered up as you want in the public areas and no one will judge you -- provided you don't judge the guys who prefer nudity. 😊
@@markmh835 You only "rent" those rooms in the US. In all other countries, they are included in the entrance fee, which also tends to be lower than in the US.
I have used bathhouses that have rooms to avoid Driving Under The Influence Tickets, after a night of partying. Also as a place to take a guy that I just met vs going to his place or mine. I even use them for Grindr,Ect. Hookups. It is much safer that way than random hookups in a park or cruising ground.
Nah. New technology rarely replaces old technology. It merely complements it. Planes did not replace cars, trains and bikes. We just have more options now. Gay bath houses will never go away. It has a lot that Grindr and the like cannot give you. I go to gay saunas (as most of the world calls them) nearly every day. Grindr is something I use very rarely.
Damn @@LockerNinety still no new videos? I will say this, I have directed several people to this video because to this day this is STILL the most comprehensive video about bathhouses.
I must admit, I wasn't sure what to expect from your title but I thought you were quite informative. Great job! You've got the right voice, your cadence is perfect and you're quite charming. I wish you much luck in this forum and look forward to future vids. Perhaps next time you'll share some SCANDALOUS stories ;) Ref: Reddit
Oh I am all for this chat. I’m aging out at 65. I’ve spent so much time in bathhouses since I discovered them at 25. The first was in a small city and it was nasty. Over the years I love many of them. Montreal was my major playground. When I traveled between NY and FL I spent my nights. Pools. Inexpensive. The chat, novelty, the pools and spas and the choice. Feel free any of you want to talk please feel free. Thanks for this video!!!
You guys are making me want to make a video where I ask YOU questions!! If you have a twitter, feel free to look me up @LockerNinety and send me direct message! I’d love to be in touch.
Why do you say you’re ageing out ? There’s no age limits ... and don’t internalise ageism ... if you still want to go ... GO ... whether you’re 25, 65 or 95
Aging out? I am 72. I met a guy at our local bathhhouse (now closed due to COVID restrictions) who was 84. Sweet, funny and remarkably sexy. No “aging out!”
I know, I know. I'm 64 and definitely feel too old. Maybe it's because of my time in the Army and not letting myself be intimate with enlisted or junior officers, or now that I'm out and a civilian, I'm used to keeping my hands, thoughts, and feelings to myself. I not only feel judged and found wanting by other guys but don't feel confident in myself. So funny -- B4 the Army, I used to be a real slut, now I turned back into a shy virgin! LOL!
I'm about the age you guys were when you discovered bathhouses and gotta say... I really admire y'all confidence why it gotta be about age tho ? nothing wrong with older men. *Be the confident man you were back then !*
What a fascinating video! I never have been to a bath house, but was curious, and you answered a lot of my questions. Thank you for the education, and for your attractive presence.
Thank you for bringing up the bath house experience. It triggered fond memories of my life, a long time past. Hope you don’t mind, I thought I’d like to tell you of my first experience at the baths. I was at the ‘tubs’ 3-5 times a week in the seventies, that’s what lot of guys called them. My favorite place at that time was Called the “8709” which was located at 8709 ‘3rd’ street in West Hollywood. It wasn’t long and the name sort of became ‘3rd street’. In the beginning, I was insecure about my looks, like lots (most) guys, I had body issues but on my very first visit, I became a member and when I had met all the qualifications and paid the fee, I was buzzed in the front door where I was met at the counter just inside and handed a ‘small’ white towel and a locker key on an elastic band,that was so you could wear it around you wrist so it was out of the way and you wouldn’t lose it. I found my locker and as I stripped naked a very cute, totally naked guy walked right up to me and said, “ I saw you come in and watched you timidly take off your clothes, I guessed it was your first time. You seemed nervous as you slowly undressed, it took you forever to pull down your Underware. I found this very sweet and innocent. I just want to tell you what a hot young body you have”. I was embarrassed and shy and barely looking at him Then he said, “please turn around”. I turned and faced him. He he pointed at his crotch as he said, “see this is what seeing you does to me.” He was fully aroused. He reached out and gave me a slow kiss and said, I will see you in a bit and if you like, we can spend some time together”. As he walked off I felt a smile on my face He made me feel attractive and confident. I could get into telling many great experiences that I had there over the next ten years but I just wanted to share what a positive experience I had right off the bat. I felt good about myself after that. I no longer had body issues, I would glance at myself in the mirror and realize that I looked pretty darn good. I went on to learn that there were like, 5,000 things about sex that I didn’t have a clue about but being there amongst 800 to 900 naked horny guys, I had the opportunity to learn through experience. Did I mention, it is really fun, extremely erotic and is totally as safe as you make it for yourself. Explore and enjoy your sexuality.
Thanks, this was a great and fun video to watch! I haven't been to one in years (too old, and I don't want to be ''that old creep') but they were some of the best times in my life. In Chicago we had 4, then 3, then 2. Now we might have one, but it depends on COVID. Everything is certainly closed for the time being. The apps like Grindr have really hit the gay life and culture hard. It felt like people were too afraid to talk to people face to face, and just 'ordered in'. What they don't know or didn't figure out was that when you had the buffet standing in front of you, you could choose and not worry about getting catfished or scammed or lied to. You could experience everything from a private one-on-one to an orgy. Also, no fruitless driving. Pun-pun. It was one-stop shopping at the mall! :D Thanks again for bringing up some great memories. Oh, and you have a new subscriber!
I loved this and wish I had been able to see a video like this when I was younger. You covered it all - and in a super accessible way. Also, like others who have posted, I think you’re great to watch and listen to, please make us more content! :)
My first experience with Bathhouses was in London. It was so much fun. There’s a variety of them so you can find the right one for you. In Houston we only have 1 and it can be a bit cliquey
@@LockerNinety omg talk about the nicest people. I fit more of the “bear/cub” community so to find a bathhouse who caters specifically to them was very nice. I do miss bathhouses.
Great topic! Bathhouses just aren't the same anymore and many are closing their doors. However, I do think men still need places to go for anonymous encounters. A great alternative are Korean Spas. If you never been its basically a wet area and a sleep room. No bathing suits are allowed so everyone is nude. They also offer massages and body scrubs. I really think this could be a profitable business. You don't need a lot of space and instead of rooms like bathhouses what I would do if I owned one would be to install private shower stalls with benches inside. Easy, no mess. I would also offer body scrub services but would set it up inside a steam room. Biggest complaint men have are getting too cold during the scrubs. I would also offer good customer service and be a men's only place. Moving more towards wellness and relaxation is the way to go. You will definitely have happy customers. I hope someone opens one in Austin. A booming gay population here with no spa to go to. If I had the money I'd open one myself.
They have to go through HEAVY regulation. It only seems like the kind of venue that requires little overhead but I’ve seen the books at my bath and let me tell you.... pain. Only pain. 🥲
@@LockerNinety Yeah it sucks. I think that's why guys just end up cruising public gyms. I really can't see how bathhouses are going to be able to keep their doors open. Especially after this whole pandemic.
So much fun! Thank you for the great effort! I love the variety of guys and the social aspect to encounter people you would never meet anywhere else...plus, it’s fun to be around guys and not be dressed!
i loved this!! i feel like you can go even deeper tho (no pun intended!) my favorite bathhouses: Midtowne / DTLA Melrose / North Hollywood Flex / Silverlake 1350 Club / Willmington Hollywood Spa / Hollywood Steamworks / Berkley West Side Club / NYC
I met my boyfriend Jake at a gay bathhouse. We love the bathhouse. If we need a place to hangout and talk, we go there. It was a clean one and he was the one who hit on me first. We’ve been together for 10 years. 🏳️🌈🌈😃🥰
i wasnt sure if i was going to subscribe but you closed the deal with that last question. now i find myself addicted to your youtube videos but there are only 2? please please please make more.
I'm gay and have never been to a bathhouse. I can't believe they even still exist. I think the one here in Austin closed a long time ago. Anyway, I find all this kind of interesting to hear about
I have a friend who frequently goes to a bath house and would tell me what it's like. Still I wanted more details but was shy to ask. You did a great job of answering most of them. Still i have one more question. I'm a gay transman and was wondering if it would be ok to go to a bath house
I went into more detail in the second video but basically... it’s going to depend on the place. I feel like most places are okay with trans guests. My bath didn’t care what gender our customers presented as or if they were transitioning or anything, we just needed their ID to indicate that they were male. I would let y’all in regardless tho...
Personally I’m not going to get angry at a customer touching me when I’m walking round, for some reason if you are wearing uniform in them it makes you attractive to everyone.
You know I thought this way for a long time too. But then idk... customers start to feel like you owe them something? I was going through a really personal thing and clocked into work not feeling myself and this dude comes up and gropes and honestly... it was more my fault for not putting up those boundaries earlier. Like it’s a fun job most days but this is still a job and you don’t always clock in at 100%.
I loved this video. I have a cousin who happens to be gay, and he’s refer to the bathhouse as the “beach house” he’d always say, “I’m going to the BH”. 😆 I miss those days. ❤️
I have wanted to go to a bathhouse for a long time. I have actually made it to the front door twice, only to chicken out.... Having to drive a 100 miles doesn't help any, but after watching your video I want it even more. Thanks! btw, your really cute!
Moved to Chicago shortly after I came out. Didn’t know a soul when I moved there. Started going to “Steam” on North Halsted on a weekly base. Met so many great guys and had loads of fun. For me it was an important part of my coming out and adjusting to what it meant to be Gay. Currently yin a relationship of 5 years. Met him online…
Thanks for your informative and honest video. I have always felt more comfortable in bath houses than in bars, for various reasons. My experiences over the years have been mostly positive, though not always what I wanted. I am hopeful that the nearest Club will be able to reopen before too long. Iknow that there is a new puritanism among many younger gay men who think that anonymous hookups via apps are somehow okay but honest lust in a bathouse is not.
I worked at 357 in Sydney for 3 months back in 2003, it was a hoot especially as we could "play" during work (it was stopped 6 months later). Everyone wanted to land the attendants. Went home exhausted every shift but not from the work.
There used to be a sweet older man that came in who would always bring me fruit to eat on my break-oranges, apples, bananas, and once persimmons. Never in my life had persimmons before. He was short and couldn’t reach the top lockers and the bottom lockers started at 90. Every time I’d see him he gave me fresh fruit and say in the best English he could, “Locker Ninety!” I miss my customers so much. 🥺
The pop-up text is sooooooooooo instantaneous in this video that I don't even have enough time to FREEZE the screen to see what the pop-up text says! WTF???
I was buddies with a former manager of a bathhouse. He was the manager during the 1970's and 1980's and I never went to a bathhouse until the early 1990's. He died of a heart attack around 1995 but he had some wild stories to tell. One was that the bathhouse use to be raided by the police all of the time (in this city) until they got rid of the orgy rooms. This bathhouse use to have two orgy rooms...one big and one small and there were mats all over the floor...that was the only furniture. The orgy rooms were before my time. But my buddy told me that the only light was a tiny little red light in the center of the ceiling. It was apparently a tiny little light that you would find on a Christmas tree. Just enough light so you wouldn't trip over someone but not enough to make out their face. In order to enter this bathhouse you had to surrender your driver's license to the bathhouse manager for your entire and stay there. That was a good idea because it put everyone on their best behavior. My friend said that one day this twenty year old kid came from to the manager's window crying. My friend asked what was wrong. The kid said, "I think I just had sex with my dad in the orgy room. Would you please check his driver's license to confirm it? My dad is forty years old." My friend the manager said, "You know I can't do that." The kid left crying. However, my buddy couldn't resist checking for himself. My friend checked through the driver's licenses for someone forty years old with the same last name and yes you guessed it...the kid had sex with dear old dad. I wonder if the kid waited outside the bathhouse for his dad to walk out. I would have.
lmao I liked this vid; cause it just brings back memories to all of my experiences I've had at bath houses. oh good times ahahahah I can definitely say I've lived! LOL
This came up in my recommended and I loved it. Thanks sm for the content! It’d be super awesome if some of the text also coincided with audio because I don’t tend to always watch the videos super close and missed some of the text when I wasn’t focusing (like the prompts etc.)
Oh my God I remember going to The bathhouse back in the days ahead really good time we had lotta colleges you’re very clean people that were there the bath houses to change his sheets every time someone checked out the woods cleaned up wipe wipe everything down. But it’s those days that I worry about VD But I would love to go again one day
Your video was great, dude. Thank you for starting this conversation that for many can be so taboo. Do you think your location will open back up after COVID? I was heart broken to see some establishments close their doors for good 😌.
It’s worth noting that the experience in bathhouses or saunas can be different depending on the country you are in. It’s not complicated they are safe, they are as safe as the people that use them. Just as they are as clean as the people that use them. They all have hard working staff that clean around the clock but they can’t be everywhere at all times especially during busy periods. Your experience with bathhouses in the states (I’m guessing) is a bit different to what I’ve experienced in Europe. They are incredibly safe and have to be clean because of the different regulations they are held under. The individual councils in the UK are kind of positive about them because they create safe spaces for guys to meet rather than in public places. Most saunas here won’t ever take information from you, unless they have a membership option even then they information is minimal. If you’re closeted don’t fear going because if you see someone you know there, they are also gay, maybe also closeted, they won’t out you, it would be mutually destructive. Best way to cruise is show respect to others and don’t fear rejection. I waste no time in showing my interest. Again cultures in different countries react to grabbing differently, in some countries grabbing and touching someone sleeping is almost expected, the person will almost always wake up and continue the fun, I saw this a lot in Japan.
@@LockerNinety The baños arrived with the Spaniards, of course, and had arrived in Spain with the Moors. It is a different culture from the US and the baths are more like the ones in Turkey. They are unfortunately disappearing due to the expense of maintenance.
How could we tell if you have pants on if don’t show us? ;) lol I loved this video. I would definitely say you’re confident in this video, I’d love to see more! You’re a great storyteller and you keep it engaging. 👍
Nice video, in my country you don't need to register (or even give your name). My local bathhouse allows anyone to walk around fully dressed and I think that every guy (straight or not) should go at least once in their life to see what's happening inside on.
IF you have someone that is physically showing interest in you and you have told him no your not interested and he wont leave you alone, other than leaving the venue, what other options would I have?
Go talk to the front desk. Usually the humiliation of being called up to the “Principal’s Office” will get them to stop. 😉 Also, If they’re a repeat offender, MGMT might ask them to leave.
This is sooooo frustrating to watch because the supporting pop-up text disappears instantly! Please just give it a second before you let it vanish! I have to freeze the screen so that I can see that the pop-up text reads 'A TV Playing Adult Movies'! I beg you, just give us a second to read it! We. Are. Not. Ants.
So eloquent. I've been there..but both were with same person. Obviously the guy is waaaay older than me(so maybe it's common back then and natural thing for 'em). Also there is no way I'm gonna go on my own alone... I paranoid for being (even verbally harrassed?) let alone to decline any 'offer'... so with friends is the only way to go. It's fantastic! Being naked there from start to end 😂😆
The only bathhouse I know of in my city is actually co-ed most days. I'm trans and I actually would prefer co-ed days. Is that the case in most cities, or did I just get lucky?
i’m 29 and i went to a bathhouse for the first time last weekend (Steamworks, Berkeley CA) and it was a decent experience. i don’t know if i’d make it a habit though.
There's large sex parties in a house, done by this one guy for a long time in OC. Google LA AND OC JACKS with no spaces. Almost went a few times, but I'm in San Diego. There were 3 in San Diego, but now just 1. Club San Diego in Hillcrest, google for their website, which has lots of details and a calendar. Open weekends and some hours during the week. Mid sized club with all amenities.
@@LockerNinety There's large sex parties in a house, done by this one guy for a long time in OC. Google LA AND OC JACKS with no spaces. Almost went a few times, but I'm in San Diego. There were 3 in San Diego, but now just 1. Club San Diego in Hillcrest, google for their website, which has lots of details and a calendar. Open weekends and some hours during the week. Mid sized club with all amenities.
Great video, when I was in my 20s I found out about club tampa, for a year I was afraid to go in, then I met a very good friend who took me there and had the best time, this was before the aids epidemic but I kept going over the years, then met my partner, we were together almost 30 years before he died, we went to the bath house in his home town of grand rapids once, and when we went on vacation we would go, I loved Amsterdam, now I'm in my mid 60s and have gone back to being afraid, I have had so many guys on apps today, just tell me they aren't interested in an old man, I feel the baths would be the same
@@LockerNinety There are a lot of advantages to anonymous sex. You see someone you find attractive and are free to indulge without inhibitions which often leads to a passionate encounter ending in satisfaction. That's it then, it's done and can remain a perfect memory unable to be spoiled by any discoveries or revelations about the other party.
In my country you get arrested for going to bathhouse if the police suspect there's a sexual activity LOL. The most well known bathhouse were closed down and it became national news. I feel bad for the men who got ashamed because they were literally naked and forced to the police office. Their face were blurred but some of them are twitter or Instagram celebrities and you know how fast information can be spread amongst media social user. I once wanted to try it but the risk is too big (aside from the stis)
@@LockerNinety it's in Jakarta, Indonesia. Happens few times back in few years ago. But I think it's about money. The police may ask more money for the security reasons and the bathhouse owner may refused then there they go, they will find reason to break the bathhouse. Indonesia is one of those hypocrite country whose the men shot out about it is 'haram'/sin for having sex premarital and other stuff (also anti LGBT) but yet most of them get caught in crime regarding to sexual harassment.
I go into more detail on the second video i uploaded but basically it’s gonna change! Typically, younger guys show up on weekend nights and older men on weekday mornings... typically...
This info seems very location-specific. I’ve been going to bathhouses across the globe and the US is the only places where I may have been asked to sign something or show id or even be a member. Most places I’ve been to you pay your money and go in ... that’s it
should put in a proviso .. talking about bathhouses in the US. It's significantly elsewhere round the world.
My only regret!
@@LockerNinety It's too bad they are all closed cause of CO VID
Indeed. The saunas in other countries are much much much better than those in America.
You said, the bath houses are much better in other countries than those in the US. I haven’t been for decades but I would like to know what they are like elsewhere and better in what ways? And which place would you say the best exist? Sorry for all the questions, I have never thought about this, it might be fun to experience that again. Of coarse, I would prefer to visit the country that finds older guys hot. Here if you hit 45 your over the hill, I think, that was so long ago🤷♂️
@@danafreddy Well, for one thing, you pay an entrance fee and that's it. No top-ups like paying for a cabin. There are few cabins, they may be occupied, so you play in the open, in the steam bath, and that's way more fun.
Oh, and younger clientele.
I met my now husband at a bath house in Dallas Texas. Within a week we had moved in together. Now 46 years later we are still madly in love and in the twilight of our lives. We somehow avoided the AIDS epidemic but lost many of our close friends to that. We learned how to be safe during our early years and it is paying off now later in life. We WILL see our 50th anniversary and still be madly in love. Bath houses are wonderful if you approach them with respect. To all my young and old brothers: Play safe even when you have protection.
Great to hear. I myself have never been to a bathhouse but am happy that you found your life love anywhere! Another Dallas guy
Well said. Great that you have had a long, meaningful relationship!!
Awesome story! You never know where you’re going to meet your love match. I met my hubby at a straight party. Was supposed to be a one-night stand, but now we’ve been together over 20 years.
Share your good fortune with us: I hope to make it to 46 years, too! Congrats to you!
Congrats. I loved hearing that. May you have many more years, and all the years that are in store for you guys; may they always be mad with love ❤️
A. Reavis are we related?
I'm not sure why this came up on my recommendations but ay im here for it
Same
Sameee here lol random asf
Lmfaooo I’m so sorry 😂😅😭
Same lol
I don’t know how I got here either but, I’m glad, I miss that bath house experience...
I remember 🤔 there I was, Just spending A quiet, boring evening at the ‘8709’ in West Hollywood, California, with 600 - 800 naked guys! That was my first visit, I went back, the next night, and stayed for the entire decade of the seventies.
Oh my dear! I just realized, over that 10 years, I ran naked with a few million naked guys!
Suddenly I feel cheap... forgot I said anything 🤦🏼♂️ ok?
if I had a time machine and went back there, I couldn’t get in because you had to be under 30 to get in.
So just to be accurate, that would have been 600 - 800 naked guys, all under thirty!
Oh my gosh, just thinking about it makes me get a, umm - oh look at the time, I gotta run, something just came up, that requires my immediate attention!!! 🤗
I came here thinking it was an "ex-gay" bathhouse employee, with a lot of expectations and a lot to laugh at. Instead, it was really informational. Thanks!
Haha no, not ex gay. Still very much gay!
Got put off by what he saw ;)
Men have as many reasons to NOT go to a bathhouse as they have to go there. For me, my first visit was more out of curiosity than anything else. I never even had sex on my first visit -- probably due to the time of day I went. I figured out pretty quickly that bathhouses were just like really big men's locker rooms --- where some guys just happened to get lucky and have sex.
For me, going to bathhouses allowed me to feel comfortable being naked around other guys (something I was always shy about before). It made me comfortable being gay, and comfortable with my body type. It led me to join a gym and get into better shape. And it made me less inhibited about having sex with guys. Overall, I consider my bathhouse visits to be very positive experiences. 😊👍
I really love this. Thanks a lot for your perspective.
Makes me want to go back to the bathhouses as long as I'm single.
Do you have to walk around totally naked? Or, is it OK to wrap a towel around your waist?
@@dennis-qu7bs -- The vast, vast majority of men walk around the public areas of a bathhouse wearing a towel -- although underwear, jockstrap, or naked would also be acceptable though not too common.
I was referring to the "wet areas" where nudity is the norm: the steamrooms, the saunas, the jacuzzis, and the showers. In those areas, it is customary to hang your towel on a hook or bar and go naked. And, of course, you tend to be nude in the small private rooms you rent to take guys back to. But you can stay as covered up as you want in the public areas and no one will judge you -- provided you don't judge the guys who prefer nudity. 😊
@@markmh835 You only "rent" those rooms in the US. In all other countries, they are included in the entrance fee, which also tends to be lower than in the US.
I have used bathhouses that have rooms to avoid Driving Under The Influence Tickets, after a night of partying. Also as a place to take a guy that I just met vs going to his place or mine. I even use them for Grindr,Ect. Hookups. It is much safer that way than random hookups in a park or cruising ground.
Bath house in my city has an on-site clinic, that does testing and will help you get started on PREP.
I heard prep does kidney damage??
Ok come on now I'm jealous :(
@@mayahex7089 Only to small numbers if people, which is why you need to see a doctor to check on kidney functions before taking it
+Maya Hex So can Vancomycin and sulfa drugs. The key is to take the meds exactly as directed, and stay hydrated.
stop behaving like a total slag, and you wont get STD's
Grindr is the bathhouse of the 2000s
Nah. New technology rarely replaces old technology. It merely complements it. Planes did not replace cars, trains and bikes. We just have more options now. Gay bath houses will never go away. It has a lot that Grindr and the like cannot give you. I go to gay saunas (as most of the world calls them) nearly every day. Grindr is something I use very rarely.
@@ixlnxs yes, that makes good sense!
The algorithm seems to be treating this video well, and this is REALLY well done for someone with this amount of subs!
Right?? Only two videos and this many subs?? That SEO class I took in college is doing something....
Damn @@LockerNinety still no new videos? I will say this, I have directed several people to this video because to this day this is STILL the most comprehensive video about bathhouses.
I must admit, I wasn't sure what to expect from your title but I thought you were quite informative. Great job! You've got the right voice, your cadence is perfect and you're quite charming. I wish you much luck in this forum and look forward to future vids. Perhaps next time you'll share some SCANDALOUS stories ;) Ref: Reddit
Oh I am all for this chat. I’m aging out at 65. I’ve spent so much time in bathhouses since I discovered them at 25. The first was in a small city and it was nasty. Over the years I love many of them. Montreal was my major playground. When I traveled between NY and FL I spent my nights. Pools. Inexpensive. The chat, novelty, the pools and spas and the choice. Feel free any of you want to talk please feel free. Thanks for this video!!!
You guys are making me want to make a video where I ask YOU questions!! If you have a twitter, feel free to look me up @LockerNinety and send me direct message! I’d love to be in touch.
Why do you say you’re ageing out ? There’s no age limits ... and don’t internalise ageism ... if you still want to go ... GO ... whether you’re 25, 65 or 95
Aging out? I am 72. I met a guy at our local bathhhouse (now closed due to COVID restrictions) who was 84. Sweet, funny and remarkably sexy. No “aging out!”
I know, I know. I'm 64 and definitely feel too old. Maybe it's because of my time in the Army and not letting myself be intimate with enlisted or junior officers, or now that I'm out and a civilian, I'm used to keeping my hands, thoughts, and feelings to myself. I not only feel judged and found wanting by other guys but don't feel confident in myself. So funny -- B4 the Army, I used to be a real slut, now I turned back into a shy virgin! LOL!
I'm about the age you guys were when you discovered bathhouses and gotta say... I really admire y'all confidence
why it gotta be about age tho ? nothing wrong with older men. *Be the confident man you were back then !*
What a fascinating video! I never have been to a bath house, but was curious, and you answered a lot of my questions. Thank you for the education, and for your attractive presence.
Thank you for bringing up the bath house experience. It triggered fond memories of my life, a long time past. Hope you don’t mind, I thought I’d like to tell you of my first experience at the baths.
I was at the ‘tubs’ 3-5 times a week in the seventies, that’s what lot of guys called them. My favorite place at that time was Called the “8709” which was located at 8709 ‘3rd’ street in West Hollywood. It wasn’t long and the name sort of became ‘3rd street’. In the beginning, I was insecure about my looks, like lots (most) guys, I had body issues but on my very first visit, I became a member and when I had met all the qualifications and paid the fee, I was buzzed in the front door where I was met at the counter just inside and handed a ‘small’ white towel and a locker key on an elastic band,that was so you could wear it around you wrist so it was out of the way and you wouldn’t lose it. I found my locker and as I stripped naked a very cute, totally naked guy walked right up to me and said, “ I saw you come in and watched you timidly take off your clothes, I guessed it was your first time. You seemed nervous as you slowly undressed, it took you forever to pull down your Underware. I found this very sweet and innocent. I just want to tell you what a hot young body you have”. I was embarrassed and shy and barely looking at him Then he said, “please turn around”. I turned and faced him. He he pointed at his crotch as he said, “see this is what seeing you does to me.” He was fully aroused. He reached out and gave me a slow kiss and said, I will see you in a bit and if you like, we can spend some time together”. As he walked off I felt a smile on my face He made me feel attractive and confident.
I could get into telling many great experiences that I had there over the next ten years but I just wanted to share what a positive experience I had right off the bat. I felt good about myself after that. I no longer had body issues, I would glance at myself in the mirror and realize that I looked pretty darn good.
I went on to learn that there were like, 5,000 things about sex that I didn’t have a clue about but being there amongst 800 to 900 naked horny guys, I had the opportunity to learn through experience. Did I mention, it is really fun, extremely erotic and is totally as safe as you make it for yourself. Explore and enjoy your sexuality.
OMG I’ve met him at work!! He was great ;)
Is that bathhouse still open?
Hi 🙊
@@LockerNinety and I’d toooootally love to catch up ;)
Thanks, this was a great and fun video to watch! I haven't been to one in years (too old, and I don't want to be ''that old creep') but they were some of the best times in my life. In Chicago we had 4, then 3, then 2. Now we might have one, but it depends on COVID. Everything is certainly closed for the time being. The apps like Grindr have really hit the gay life and culture hard. It felt like people were too afraid to talk to people face to face, and just 'ordered in'. What they don't know or didn't figure out was that when you had the buffet standing in front of you, you could choose and not worry about getting catfished or scammed or lied to. You could experience everything from a private one-on-one to an orgy. Also, no fruitless driving. Pun-pun. It was one-stop shopping at the mall! :D Thanks again for bringing up some great memories. Oh, and you have a new subscriber!
in a way it sure sounds a lot less anxiety inducing than dating apps are...
Was seriously watching old Lucille Ball interviews and Wendy Williams then this came up as a recommended video. Very informative. Big TY
Lmfaooo good ol TH-cam algorithm strikes again.
I loved this and wish I had been able to see a video like this when I was younger. You covered it all - and in a super accessible way. Also, like others who have posted, I think you’re great to watch and listen to, please make us more content! :)
My first experience with Bathhouses was in London. It was so much fun. There’s a variety of them so you can find the right one for you. In Houston we only have 1 and it can be a bit cliquey
I dream about lurking the Euro baths lmaooo they sound so much fun
@@LockerNinety omg talk about the nicest people. I fit more of the “bear/cub” community so to find a bathhouse who caters specifically to them was very nice. I do miss bathhouses.
In Houston, you mean Club Houston? Is midtowne spa closed?
Very well done video! This opens a door to a conversation that needs to happen.
Great topic! Bathhouses just aren't the same anymore and many are closing their doors. However, I do think men still need places to go for anonymous encounters. A great alternative are Korean Spas. If you never been its basically a wet area and a sleep room. No bathing suits are allowed so everyone is nude. They also offer massages and body scrubs. I really think this could be a profitable business. You don't need a lot of space and instead of rooms like bathhouses what I would do if I owned one would be to install private shower stalls with benches inside. Easy, no mess. I would also offer body scrub services but would set it up inside a steam room. Biggest complaint men have are getting too cold during the scrubs. I would also offer good customer service and be a men's only place. Moving more towards wellness and relaxation is the way to go. You will definitely have happy customers. I hope someone opens one in Austin. A booming gay population here with no spa to go to. If I had the money I'd open one myself.
They have to go through HEAVY regulation. It only seems like the kind of venue that requires little overhead but I’ve seen the books at my bath and let me tell you.... pain. Only pain. 🥲
@@LockerNinety Yeah it sucks. I think that's why guys just end up cruising public gyms. I really can't see how bathhouses are going to be able to keep their doors open. Especially after this whole pandemic.
I wouldn’t advise this. I’m pretty sure Korean bathhouses are for just relaxation.
So much fun! Thank you for the great effort!
I love the variety of guys and the social aspect to encounter people you would never meet anywhere else...plus, it’s fun to be around guys and not be dressed!
I loved this so muuuuch can’t wait for more videos😭
i loved this!! i feel like you can go even deeper tho (no pun intended!)
my favorite bathhouses:
Midtowne / DTLA
Melrose / North Hollywood
Flex / Silverlake
1350 Club / Willmington
Hollywood Spa / Hollywood
Steamworks / Berkley
West Side Club / NYC
Omg! 1350 was my main club. I would literally stop there all the time! I miss it so much. Ive wanted to go to Flex but never got the chance
@@josephill99 is it still open?
@@JL-qg3gz Flex is still open but 1350 has closed 🥲
I worked at a bathhouse here in San Diego for 4 years and I approve this message !
Club San Diego?
I met my boyfriend Jake at a gay bathhouse. We love the bathhouse. If we need a place to hangout and talk, we go there. It was a clean one and he was the one who hit on me first. We’ve been together for 10 years. 🏳️🌈🌈😃🥰
i wasnt sure if i was going to subscribe but you closed the deal with that last question. now i find myself addicted to your youtube videos but there are only 2? please please please make more.
i miss going since this covid started, i used to go 2 times a month, and this dude in the video worked there
Hi. 🙈
Used to go to them all the time I didn't know that we're back? This is cool news
I'm gay and have never been to a bathhouse. I can't believe they even still exist. I think the one here in Austin closed a long time ago. Anyway, I find all this kind of interesting to hear about
I loved the one in Austin.
I have a friend who frequently goes to a bath house and would tell me what it's like. Still I wanted more details but was shy to ask. You did a great job of answering most of them. Still i have one more question. I'm a gay transman and was wondering if it would be ok to go to a bath house
I went into more detail in the second video but basically... it’s going to depend on the place. I feel like most places are okay with trans guests. My bath didn’t care what gender our customers presented as or if they were transitioning or anything, we just needed their ID to indicate that they were male. I would let y’all in regardless tho...
I'm a straight guy but I was curious about the truth about this besides all the anti gay jokes I hear.
Great comment re: “less than consensual.” I had one - and only one - bad experience with a very aggressive guy. All other times “no” was respected.
Lol the mail question is a valid question though. You never truly know this day in age it’s all about pushing boundaries in advertisements
True. More and more companies are selling and trading customer information every day. But baths have to rely on anonymity to stay afloat haha.
Personally I’m not going to get angry at a customer touching me when I’m walking round, for some reason if you are wearing uniform in them it makes you attractive to everyone.
You know I thought this way for a long time too. But then idk... customers start to feel like you owe them something? I was going through a really personal thing and clocked into work not feeling myself and this dude comes up and gropes and honestly... it was more my fault for not putting up those boundaries earlier.
Like it’s a fun job most days but this is still a job and you don’t always clock in at 100%.
I want to quit my job and work at a bathhouse now omg idk i just feel like i would have the best stories to tell people
Best working experience of my adult life. Wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. ❤️
You did very well and made an informative video. Keep up the good work.
I loved this video. I have a cousin who happens to be gay, and he’s refer to the bathhouse as the “beach house” he’d always say, “I’m going to the BH”. 😆 I miss those days. ❤️
We love a supportive cousin ❤️
I have wanted to go to a bathhouse for a long time. I have actually made it to the front door twice, only to chicken out.... Having to drive a 100 miles doesn't help any, but after watching your video I want it even more. Thanks!
btw, your really cute!
Really great video! I hope you make more 💕
It is so refreshing to hear your info. thanks!
I enjoyed the video and subscribed. Great job! Looking forward to more of your content.
Moved to Chicago shortly after I came out. Didn’t know a soul when I moved there. Started going to “Steam” on North Halsted on a weekly base. Met so many great guys and had loads of fun.
For me it was an important part of my coming out and adjusting to what it meant to be Gay.
Currently yin a relationship of 5 years. Met him online…
Thanks for your informative and honest video. I have always felt more comfortable in bath houses than in bars, for various reasons. My experiences over the years have been mostly positive, though not always what I wanted. I am hopeful that the nearest Club will be able to reopen before too long. Iknow that there is a new puritanism among many younger gay men who think that anonymous hookups via apps are somehow okay but honest lust in a bathouse is not.
Good to hear that the place you worked at looked after you even after you were laid off.
Excellent video!!!! BTW ur voice is so soothing! 😴
Great channel , so glad i found this, really enjoyed bathhouse video, Thanks
I worked at 357 in Sydney for 3 months back in 2003, it was a hoot especially as we could "play" during work (it was stopped 6 months later). Everyone wanted to land the attendants. Went home exhausted every shift but not from the work.
disgusting!
Optimal is using Grindr while you’re at the bathhouse, I’m assuming. Unless, of course, you can’t carry your phone around with you.
What is the significance of using the name Locker 90? I’m sure there is a story there I’d love to hear.
There used to be a sweet older man that came in who would always bring me fruit to eat on my break-oranges, apples, bananas, and once persimmons. Never in my life had persimmons before.
He was short and couldn’t reach the top lockers and the bottom lockers started at 90. Every time I’d see him he gave me fresh fruit and say in the best English he could, “Locker Ninety!”
I miss my customers so much. 🥺
@@LockerNinety -- Sweet story! 😊😉
The pop-up text is sooooooooooo instantaneous in this video that I don't even have enough time to FREEZE the screen to see what the pop-up text says! WTF???
This video was awesome :))) very entertaining and love your energy!
I was buddies with a former manager of a bathhouse. He was the manager during the 1970's and 1980's and I never went to a bathhouse until the early 1990's. He died of a heart attack around 1995 but he had some wild stories to tell. One was that the bathhouse use to be raided by the police all of the time (in this city) until they got rid of the orgy rooms. This bathhouse use to have two orgy rooms...one big and one small and there were mats all over the floor...that was the only furniture. The orgy rooms were before my time. But my buddy told me that the only light was a tiny little red light in the center of the ceiling. It was apparently a tiny little light that you would find on a Christmas tree. Just enough light so you wouldn't trip over someone but not enough to make out their face. In order to enter this bathhouse you had to surrender your driver's license to the bathhouse manager for your entire and stay there. That was a good idea because it put everyone on their best behavior. My friend said that one day this twenty year old kid came from to the manager's window crying. My friend asked what was wrong. The kid said, "I think I just had sex with my dad in the orgy room. Would you please check his driver's license to confirm it? My dad is forty years old." My friend the manager said, "You know I can't do that." The kid left crying. However, my buddy couldn't resist checking for himself. My friend checked through the driver's licenses for someone forty years old with the same last name and yes you guessed it...the kid had sex with dear old dad. I wonder if the kid waited outside the bathhouse for his dad to walk out. I would have.
As a bottom, that's hot
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lmao I liked this vid; cause it just brings back memories to all of my experiences I've had at bath houses. oh good times ahahahah I can definitely say I've lived! LOL
Wow you kinda look like him
This came up in my recommended and I loved it. Thanks sm for the content! It’d be super awesome if some of the text also coincided with audio because I don’t tend to always watch the videos super close and missed some of the text when I wasn’t focusing (like the prompts etc.)
Oh my God I remember going to The bathhouse back in the days ahead really good time we had lotta colleges you’re very clean people that were there the bath houses to change his sheets every time someone checked out the woods cleaned up wipe wipe everything down. But it’s those days that I worry about VD But I would love to go again one day
Love it, please keep going with the good work
please upload more! you are very entertaining.
Your video was great, dude. Thank you for starting this conversation that for many can be so taboo. Do you think your location will open back up after COVID? I was heart broken to see some establishments close their doors for good 😌.
There's one near me I was always too timid to try alone
It’s worth noting that the experience in bathhouses or saunas can be different depending on the country you are in. It’s not complicated they are safe, they are as safe as the people that use them. Just as they are as clean as the people that use them. They all have hard working staff that clean around the clock but they can’t be everywhere at all times especially during busy periods.
Your experience with bathhouses in the states (I’m guessing) is a bit different to what I’ve experienced in Europe.
They are incredibly safe and have to be clean because of the different regulations they are held under. The individual councils in the UK are kind of positive about them because they create safe spaces for guys to meet rather than in public places.
Most saunas here won’t ever take information from you, unless they have a membership option even then they information is minimal.
If you’re closeted don’t fear going because if you see someone you know there, they are also gay, maybe also closeted, they won’t out you, it would be mutually destructive.
Best way to cruise is show respect to others and don’t fear rejection. I waste no time in showing my interest.
Again cultures in different countries react to grabbing differently, in some countries grabbing and touching someone sleeping is almost expected, the person will almost always wake up and continue the fun, I saw this a lot in Japan.
very informative 👍
There is a gay bathhouse down my street and I was always curious about it. Thanks for this info.
I'm curious to go to one I know about, just too timid to go alone
I go to a really nice Turkish style bath house in Mexico City and I miss going since COVID. It has excellent masseurs.
I really would love to know more about baths in my home country of Mexico! I’ve never been.
@@LockerNinety The baños arrived with the Spaniards, of course, and had arrived in Spain with the Moors. It is a different culture from the US and the baths are more like the ones in Turkey. They are unfortunately disappearing due to the expense of maintenance.
I applied to work at a bath house. But it was a recession & they were slow. Otherwise I would have been hired. The manager was cool & liked me.
How could we tell if you have pants on if don’t show us? ;) lol I loved this video. I would definitely say you’re confident in this video, I’d love to see more! You’re a great storyteller and you keep it engaging. 👍
Bathhouses are different from country to country
I miss the 12 hour stays
Great job, enjoyed it!
Great video, loved your insight. Will definitely check subscribe amd check your channel regularly. Good job, congrats.
I actually met my now boyfriend of 4 years at a bathhouse in San Antonio Tx. The funny thing was I was actually working out the bathhouse as well.
Looking forward to more.
Nice video, in my country you don't need to register (or even give your name). My local bathhouse allows anyone to walk around fully dressed and I think that every guy (straight or not) should go at least once in their life to see what's happening inside on.
IF you have someone that is physically showing interest in you and you have told him no your not interested and he wont leave you alone, other than leaving the venue, what other options would I have?
Go talk to the front desk. Usually the humiliation of being called up to the “Principal’s Office” will get them to stop. 😉
Also, If they’re a repeat offender, MGMT might ask them to leave.
I really liked this video. Very interesting and very informative.
This is sooooo frustrating to watch because the supporting pop-up text disappears instantly! Please just give it a second before you let it vanish! I have to freeze the screen so that I can see that the pop-up text reads 'A TV Playing Adult Movies'! I beg you, just give us a second to read it! We. Are. Not. Ants.
Lovely guy, saw your post on reddit. 😁
Great video, thanks for the info!
Great video. Liked your humor and style. Very funny and cute. Thanks!
Make more videos. It's interesting. I was around when bath houses were being affected by hiv/aids in 80s and 90s
One will be out this coming week keep an eye out! Also i can’t imagine what that must have been like...
woah my eyes felt funny (in a cool way) after watching you and this background for a while lmao
Lmfaooo my eyes burn after editing these.
obsessed w your content. please make more!!!!
So eloquent. I've been there..but both were with same person. Obviously the guy is waaaay older than me(so maybe it's common back then and natural thing for 'em). Also there is no way I'm gonna go on my own alone... I paranoid for being (even verbally harrassed?) let alone to decline any 'offer'... so with friends is the only way to go. It's fantastic! Being naked there from start to end 😂😆
The only bathhouse I know of in my city is actually co-ed most days. I'm trans and I actually would prefer co-ed days. Is that the case in most cities, or did I just get lucky?
Why do they take your ID? In the Uk all you have to do is pay your fee.
I guess if you damage something or hurt someone since some people are high or drunk. I never minded it, my wallet is safe there locked up.
VERY INTERESTING! please make more vids please! This was so informative to me lol
More to come! Bet!
Locker Ninety 💖
what city did you work at?
i’m 29 and i went to a bathhouse for the first time last weekend (Steamworks, Berkeley CA) and it was a decent experience. i don’t know if i’d make it a habit though.
Same here dude!
Same. Nothing happened when I went but it seemed meh
Just to comment on a point. I had several employees approach me during their work time and we fooled around. Just saying, there is always a way
;)
Trust me, we know. 🤫
Any bathhouses open round Orange county/LA Area?
It seems if you’re in the LA area you’re gonna have to travel all the way to Palm Springs and try the resorts there. 😔
North Hollywood Spa ....closed for Covid but will hopefully reopen. The outdoor patio is a great getaway in the summertime.
There's large sex parties in a house, done by this one guy for a long time in OC. Google LA AND OC JACKS with no spaces. Almost went a few times, but I'm in San Diego. There were 3 in San Diego, but now just 1. Club San Diego in Hillcrest, google for their website, which has lots of details and a calendar. Open weekends and some hours during the week. Mid sized club with all amenities.
@@LockerNinety There's large sex parties in a house, done by this one guy for a long time in OC. Google LA AND OC JACKS with no spaces. Almost went a few times, but I'm in San Diego. There were 3 in San Diego, but now just 1. Club San Diego in Hillcrest, google for their website, which has lots of details and a calendar. Open weekends and some hours during the week. Mid sized club with all amenities.
@@JJ-in3bc
Got it
Ironically, a bathhouse sounds like you're going to need a good bath after being there.
I like your approach on the topic . Awesome. My friends like to go.
Great video, when I was in my 20s I found out about club tampa, for a year I was afraid to go in, then I met a very good friend who took me there and had the best time, this was before the aids epidemic but I kept going over the years, then met my partner, we were together almost 30 years before he died, we went to the bath house in his home town of grand rapids once, and when we went on vacation we would go, I loved Amsterdam, now I'm in my mid 60s and have gone back to being afraid, I have had so many guys on apps today, just tell me they aren't interested in an old man, I feel the baths would be the same
I've gone a couple times and had fun but did come across some guys that did not want leave me alone and that freaked me out :(
I love steam works in Berkeley
Great job. Thanks for all your hard work on this.
Many men say some of their most romantic experiences happened in bath houses.
I had a few instances like this at well. They’re really good for building connections.
@@LockerNinety There are a lot of advantages to anonymous sex. You see someone you find attractive and are free to indulge without inhibitions which often leads to a passionate encounter ending in satisfaction. That's it then, it's done and can remain a perfect memory unable to be spoiled by any discoveries or revelations about the other party.
@@antonhaq3503 Thats a really interesting and unique perspective. It really is exactly like that sometimes!!
What's pay like?
In my country you get arrested for going to bathhouse if the police suspect there's a sexual activity LOL. The most well known bathhouse were closed down and it became national news. I feel bad for the men who got ashamed because they were literally naked and forced to the police office. Their face were blurred but some of them are twitter or Instagram celebrities and you know how fast information can be spread amongst media social user. I once wanted to try it but the risk is too big (aside from the stis)
May I ask what country this was in? I’m always interested in how baths work in other parts of the world.
@@LockerNinety it's in Jakarta, Indonesia. Happens few times back in few years ago. But I think it's about money. The police may ask more money for the security reasons and the bathhouse owner may refused then there they go, they will find reason to break the bathhouse. Indonesia is one of those hypocrite country whose the men shot out about it is 'haram'/sin for having sex premarital and other stuff (also anti LGBT) but yet most of them get caught in crime regarding to sexual harassment.
@@jamezholong8214 thank you very much for the tip. I’ll look into it a little more. ❤️
Hi. Just curious but:
What were the average ages of guys visiting your bathhouse?
I go into more detail on the second video i uploaded but basically it’s gonna change! Typically, younger guys show up on weekend nights and older men on weekday mornings... typically...
@@LockerNinety Thank you! Ill watch that one, too.
I think some States don't allow them. If there are any in New England I've never been able to find one.
Great vid.
this is a great way to start a youtube channel
This info seems very location-specific. I’ve been going to bathhouses across the globe and the US is the only places where I may have been asked to sign something or show id or even be a member. Most places I’ve been to you pay your money and go in ... that’s it
Yess!! Someone already commented about this and I’m kicking myself over not mentioning that this is US specific!! 😭😭