UPDATE: Wow this blew up! I'm going to add a little more info after reading some comments. My husband and I live across the country and the rest of the siblings live at least a couple hours from each other, the last family get-together was Christmas so it's been awhile. Due to distance majority of our big announncements happen over the group chat (although usually pregnancies come with photos and some kind of fanfare). INFO: I shouldn't have used the word overruled (on the weedding), with the boyfriend Tiffany's fiance said they should get to know him at a few events and get a sense for his vibe and then make the call on the invite. Boyfriend is a super chill , kind guy, so Tiffany said he could come and moved on to a different problem. With my graduation my parents said they would be attending and fiance stepped in saying there was another date that month that he liked better/would work better. I did call my parents and let them know, and they are excited, though told me that I should be delicate in how I phrase it to not upset Tiffany. I said this isn't her first child and she should honestly be happy for me. If I had gotten pregnant just to spite her I would get it, but my husband and I have been trying for awhile and we are super excited. They told me I should gush over her and say how happy and excited I am for her and then add how excited I am to have kids so close together. I'm not honestly sure how happy about that I am though. I want my child to have family and cousins, but I'm not sure how much I want him/her to be around Tiffany since she is a major gossip and negative busybody. I would much rather have him/her be around Chloe's kids. I also called Chloe, asked how she's been and generally caught up then told her. She is thrilled for us and super excited to be an auntie again. We talked a little about the back and forth in the group chat and she laughed and said, "It was inevitable, if it wasn't a baby it would have been a new thing about one of her other kids or a new recipe or something." She said she would leave it up to me how I announce it. She also sent me more photos of Bess, and honestly: cutest fricking dog I've ever seen. Chloe has had a really tough year and Bess is her husband's gift to her for weathering the storm and being amazing (everyone in the family knows this, so it was very apparent Tiffany was trrying to quash all that). We've put up with Tiffany's shenanigans for years and never pushed back because we wanted to be sensitive to her insecurities, but in the last couple years she has really upped the ante. Chloe's kids have allergies so Tiffany went and called several members of the family saying that she just "doing it for attention" and that the kids aren't actually allergic (they definitely are). She only calls me to gossip about other people and when I've shut it down or said "you seem really concerned and I'm not there to see for myself so maybe you need to talk to the person directly if it really is this big of an issue" she comes up with excuses and then will ghost me for weeks to months. I am honestly worried that she will try to name steal/gossip or lie about my husband and I to family members no matter what I do. I should be able to find out gender through blood test in a few weeks (Tiffany has not announced gender yet) and I'm leaning towards announcing to everyone else then. Also, to everyone who commented along the lines of as Palpatine/Sidious said: Dew it! Thanks for the laughs! 😆
OP should run it by Chloe first. Maybe they could collaborate together on it; have OP make the mirror announcement and Chloe completely goes out of her way to congratulate OP in the group chat and ONLY talk about OP’s pregnancy and not Tiffany’s. And if Tiffany or the parents try to call them out, they should act all shocked and feign ignorance on the situation.
There is another way to do it if Chloe doesn't want to partake: Send a message to all your family except Mom, Dad, and Tiffany. Write a message saying that you're pregnant, but to keep it from the three mentionned above, explaining that you and Chloe have always been scorned for doing what Tiff does and you don't want high stress to lead to a miscarrıage. Either a) the extended family will get involved and bash your parents for letting Tiffany steal both your glories, or b) you'll be able to keep it a secret until your child is born and then tell your parents, in front of the extended family, how you were always warned not to ruin Tiffany's pregnancy with your own.
Not the a-hole if OP does do it. The sister needs to put in her place & get a taste of her own medicine. The parents also enabling the sisters behavior is absolutely unacceptable. They too need to be put in their places.
Like Mia said, the original message was Chloe's dog announcement, so your revenge will end up hurting the good sister in the process... like cuttıng off your nose to spite your face. So ask Chloe first. Also, you can get back to your parents by reminding them how sensitive you guys are at getting your special moments taken away and that they should get over it.
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UPDATE: Wow this blew up! I'm going to add a little more info after reading some comments. My husband and I live across the country and the rest of the siblings live at least a couple hours from each other, the last family get-together was Christmas so it's been awhile. Due to distance majority of our big announncements happen over the group chat (although usually pregnancies come with photos and some kind of fanfare).
INFO: I shouldn't have used the word overruled (on the weedding), with the boyfriend Tiffany's fiance said they should get to know him at a few events and get a sense for his vibe and then make the call on the invite. Boyfriend is a super chill , kind guy, so Tiffany said he could come and moved on to a different problem. With my graduation my parents said they would be attending and fiance stepped in saying there was another date that month that he liked better/would work better.
I did call my parents and let them know, and they are excited, though told me that I should be delicate in how I phrase it to not upset Tiffany. I said this isn't her first child and she should honestly be happy for me. If I had gotten pregnant just to spite her I would get it, but my husband and I have been trying for awhile and we are super excited. They told me I should gush over her and say how happy and excited I am for her and then add how excited I am to have kids so close together. I'm not honestly sure how happy about that I am though. I want my child to have family and cousins, but I'm not sure how much I want him/her to be around Tiffany since she is a major gossip and negative busybody. I would much rather have him/her be around Chloe's kids.
I also called Chloe, asked how she's been and generally caught up then told her. She is thrilled for us and super excited to be an auntie again. We talked a little about the back and forth in the group chat and she laughed and said, "It was inevitable, if it wasn't a baby it would have been a new thing about one of her other kids or a new recipe or something." She said she would leave it up to me how I announce it. She also sent me more photos of Bess, and honestly: cutest fricking dog I've ever seen. Chloe has had a really tough year and Bess is her husband's gift to her for weathering the storm and being amazing (everyone in the family knows this, so it was very apparent Tiffany was trrying to quash all that).
We've put up with Tiffany's shenanigans for years and never pushed back because we wanted to be sensitive to her insecurities, but in the last couple years she has really upped the ante. Chloe's kids have allergies so Tiffany went and called several members of the family saying that she just "doing it for attention" and that the kids aren't actually allergic (they definitely are). She only calls me to gossip about other people and when I've shut it down or said "you seem really concerned and I'm not there to see for myself so maybe you need to talk to the person directly if it really is this big of an issue" she comes up with excuses and then will ghost me for weeks to months.
I am honestly worried that she will try to name steal/gossip or lie about my husband and I to family members no matter what I do. I should be able to find out gender through blood test in a few weeks (Tiffany has not announced gender yet) and I'm leaning towards announcing to everyone else then.
Also, to everyone who commented along the lines of as Palpatine/Sidious said: Dew it! Thanks for the laughs! 😆
Thank You For The Update
OP should run it by Chloe first. Maybe they could collaborate together on it; have OP make the mirror announcement and Chloe completely goes out of her way to congratulate OP in the group chat and ONLY talk about OP’s pregnancy and not Tiffany’s. And if Tiffany or the parents try to call them out, they should act all shocked and feign ignorance on the situation.
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NTA. Tiffany needs serious therapy.
There is another way to do it if Chloe doesn't want to partake: Send a message to all your family except Mom, Dad, and Tiffany. Write a message saying that you're pregnant, but to keep it from the three mentionned above, explaining that you and Chloe have always been scorned for doing what Tiff does and you don't want high stress to lead to a miscarrıage. Either a) the extended family will get involved and bash your parents for letting Tiffany steal both your glories, or b) you'll be able to keep it a secret until your child is born and then tell your parents, in front of the extended family, how you were always warned not to ruin Tiffany's pregnancy with your own.
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@@threadtales77 thanks.
Nta. Give Tiffany a taste of her own medicine.
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Not the a-hole if OP does do it. The sister needs to put in her place & get a taste of her own medicine. The parents also enabling the sisters behavior is absolutely unacceptable. They too need to be put in their places.
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Like Mia said, the original message was Chloe's dog announcement, so your revenge will end up hurting the good sister in the process... like cuttıng off your nose to spite your face. So ask Chloe first.
Also, you can get back to your parents by reminding them how sensitive you guys are at getting your special moments taken away and that they should get over it.
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@@threadtales77 parents are tools. They forsake two kids for one.