just to clarify!!! raising your kids without enforcing gender stereotypes: YES telling your kid they’re non binary and using they/them pronouns for them straight out the womb: not my vibe personally
Nobody tells their kid they are NB. People use they/them prns for their kids to help them understand their gender. They don't gender them until they tell them how to.
as a cis woman, i feel 10000000% more violated by having to "prove I'm a woman" to use a restroom than I do when a trans woman uses the same bathroom as me. why do people think that other women using a stall affects them so much??????? like bruh just piss and get out of there, it's not that deep
yeah absolutely same. many places don't even have separate restrooms but suddenly transwomen using one is such a big problem. like no sane person cares about this.
My mum likes to remind me shes very loving and supportive of my transition until I ask her about all gender bathrooms. Then suddenly she cant use the same bathroom as a man because "he'd be fertling with his bits in there" I daren't ask her about trans women
Tbh when it’s a single stall bathroom like that I’ll just use whichever is available. I’ve used a single stall men’s restroom on multiple occasions if the women’s is already in use. I’d probably just use the men’s bathroom in this scenario instead of having to ask for a key.
@@superdrwholock Ngl I was kinda one of those kids, maybe not very homophobic but I really thought that I was born in wrong generation lol. It's very easy when your parents always tell you that their times were better in every aspect.
literally, my sister came out as a lesbian to my grandma and my grandma said, "well that's a bit sad, isn't it". like, we're not crying grandma, get over it, my sister is super happy in her life
My grandmother went on about it being a phase, stole my binders and undid my sewing so they're literally just disgusting bras now, like the design is NOT suited for that kind of use, it's supposed to be a binder. I literally hate old people so much
She shouldnt be touching your stuff ik shes old but if u have let her know how u feel and ur boundaries and to never touch ur stuff again (depends on ur age be careful with my advice)
Came out to my bf today and his reaction is leaving me crying tears he literally went :”so I have a boyfriend now? Im gay? HELL YEA!” :’) help- Edit: we broke up due to family complications but we're still friends :)
I’ve tried offing myself twice, one because I was scared of myself, and what people would think of me for being trans. One because my mother rejected me when I did tell her, when I realized I don’t know how to do anything. Today I’m lucky, I live with my father who supports me, I have friends who are my family. And I’m six months on T. It is still hard, some days more then others, but I’ve worked hard and I’m almost at my top surgery goal. The only thing keeping me going is my best friend/brother who wants to chill in a hot tub when we both can be shirtless. Stay strong everyone.
When your little girl likes monster trucks and you have to force (force being the key word here) her to wear dresses and do girly things. The argument isn't that we think it's transphobic, the argument is that it's ABUSIVE! The only time it's okay to "force" your kid to do anything, is when it's for their well being and to keep them safe. If you're doing it just because you "don't want them to turn gay" or "it's not proper for a young lady to act like that" etc. it's abusive and manipulative and toxic. That's the argument!
its so sad, grown women force their children to wear dresses because they're insecure about their kids gender. wtf it doesn't mean they're trans if they don't like dresses. the majority of my female identifying friends hate wearing dresses and the one friend I have that is questioning their gender likes dresses. the way someone dresses doesn't mean shit relating to their gender identity!
@@greysonholtz Exactly. I love dresses, makeup, painting my nails, pink, and other traditionally “feminine” things, but I’m still trans. Those types of things mean nothing
it's not even transphobic its just deeply sexist " you are a girl so you must wear dresses". I didn't realise I wanted to be a boy as a kid even tho the signs were so clearly there bc i didn't have massive social distinctions between boys and girls growing up, p.e was mixed and i played for the boys team in school tournaments and even the local boys football club. when i decided i hated pink and dresses my parents were like lol okay you'll grow out of it and just left me to wear what i want, a lot of my clothes were my brothers clothes that he grew out of :) .
If I have a kid when I'm older I am not going to make them wear things they don't want to wear just because it's the gender norm like if I have a girl I'm not going to go out of my way to get more dresses for her and if I have a boy I'm not going to go out of my way to get him a little suit but I'm also not going to go out of my way to buy them clothes that are typically worn by the opposite gender if I see something cute I'm going to get it and not really care if its not meant for my child's gender. Also with that, it would just be when they are too young to care what they wear when they're old enough to choose what they want to wear if my son wants to wear a dress then I'll buy him a dress its really not that hard to let your kid wear the clothes they want to wear
Ok here opinion as a cis woman, pee and leave, literally it does not affect anyone if a trans woman pees, and if it does affect you seek therapy, let people be themselves
@@FreeTheDonbas uhh because then if they are able to enter the bathroom with the gender they are in freely then they’d feel more accepted and validated?
I told someone I use he/they pronouns and their response was "wait because u have ""they"" pronouns does that mean if u go to McDonald's and buy a big Mac for $9 does that mean you have to pay $18?"🤯
"I bet every time these people have arguments they'll sit in the shower for hours on end, and you know, come up with comebacks or things they should've said in the argument." -Noah 2021
I'm FtM and the first time I came out my mom and her partner forced me back in the closet. I came back out and my mom still isn't accepting. She refuses to use my pronouns and consistently uses my dead name, she also says I'm selfish for being myself and how badly it's going to hurt my kids and how much they will be bullied because I'm trans. She even got mad at me because my two year old got into nail polish and painted his nails and I didn't tell him it was wrong, she says I have some agenda to turn my son gay...
when my little brother was ages 2-5 he would always ask our mother if she could paint his nails, today he is 13 and probably one of the straightest boys I know so yeah anyone who says that boys liking nail polish is an agenda to turn them gay, can deal with it because guess what make-up and clothing has no gender you can be a cishet boy who likes make-up you can be a cishet boy who likes wearing skirts or croptops wear and do things that make you happy not other people
Kids are curious little things 💀 my brother always wants to paint his nails when my mom paint her's and she does only one finger ( he currently has one toe that painted purple) but aside from like nail painting , he may be three but he is the perfect definition of a boy 😭
I can sadly relate. I came out of the closet as FtM Trans, but my parents forced me back into the closet again. It’s been quite a while, and I don’t know if I should come out again. I don’t want them to like hurt me again or something.
10:19 so, im a trans boy. im still a minor and my parents claim im “too young” to be thinking about “adult topics” but they don’t understand it makes me uncomfortable. they use she/her, my deadname, call me a girl, try to get me to wear feminine clothes, wont let me cut my hair in a more masc way and they wonder why i wont open up to them. this is why noah is one of my favorite people on the internet.
You poor poor thing. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Don’t give up, it is 100% possible to live as your true self, even if that life seems a million light years away❤️
boy am I glad my parents actually let me play with more "boyish" toys like Avengers figurines and dinosaurs and remote control cars... and see? I'm cis. I don't think giving your kids certain toys affects their gender at all, toys are toys. They're fun to play with. and if your kid ends up being trans in the end?? Don't blame it on the toys.
@@katiejohnson3571 What would be the best is to tell them that men have been wearing skirts for centuries, you see paintings of kings, queens, nobles etc. wearing skirts. Same with heeled shoes, they were originally designed for men, but later became a fashion for women which eventually became the norm. Clothing is a social structure, but these people act like its related to biology, which is bs of course.
@ThatCoolKid pls I’m from the south in America and people are like “huh? I’m straight” or “I don’t have pronouns” when I ask them their pronouns and it’s so funny🤣
@EightFootSativa so the people who think there’s more than two genders have screws loose but the people who don’t look at the science and see that’s it proven that there are not only more than 2 biological sexes but also has been proven to be more than 2 genders? that’s the stupidest thing i’ve seen all day
Heres the thing about trans women in bathrooms I'm a trans woman, and I like men. I'm in the closet so I'm in the mens restroom all the time But I'm not attacking men in the restroom And by their logic those men would be safer if I was in the womens restroom... right?
And above all they straight up ignore gay, lesbian,queer and bisexual people's whole entire existence. Like literally I'm into women, but that doesn't mean I'd do anything stupid, as in attacking/violating their privacy and making them uncomfortable
@@vanessadmitrivosco5631 yeah, and sometimes they say "women don't want exposed to male genitalia" Oh yes, let me just walk into the bathroom with my junk out, totally, people do that
The thing is, it’s not just transphobia, it’s also sexist because if we strip away some of the layers the core premise is that all afab people are weak and delicate and need protecting and all amab people are beasts whose sole motive in life is sex. Like I can understand not wanting people to get assaulted, but maybe then we should teach cis men to not assault people, instead of assuming that is inevitable and forcing women to have to be afraid of men?? But also if not wanting people to get assaulted is their supposed premise, then they should want trans women to be protected most of all since they are statistically the most likely to be assaulted.
If they were seriously so worried about people getting attacked in restrooms maybe they should plan the spaces better. Like offer gender-neutral single toilets that are not hidden in some shady back corridor of a shopping center like too many public restrooms at the moment. But of course they won't, because they're not really worried about women getting attacked, but of trans people being accepted as humans!
Noah taking about having transphobic parents really makes me feel a lot better about my situation. I’ve have to deal with transphobic parents for the last three years, I’ve come out four times and each time was dismissed. I’ve started recently socially transitioning, and I’ve found that my friends are living examples that my parents *should* be more accepting. I’ve asked them to call me by my chosen name and pronouns and was turned down, I asked to buy a binder and was told that it was, “a big commitment that we’re not ready to make” not a commitment for me. For them. I also bought the binders with my own money and they were stolen by my parents. I struggle with coming to terms with the fact that they could be better and that they should be better. I feel like they aren’t bad parents, but if it were someone else’s situation, I would say they were. Thank you Noah, you saying that transphobic parents are sh*tty means more than you know.
Similar situation here. I knew my parents wouldn't support me so i didn't come out to them, but they found out on their own. Not once have they even tried to gender me correctly, use my name, or let me dress fem. I had to do all of that in secret. And yet they still claim to "support" me, even tho all they did was try to talk me out of being trans and misgender and deadname me daily. And i never really said anything about it, because i knew it was pointless. I'm sorry you're in that situation. Just know that there are people who've also been there and that you aren't alone ❤
8:51 When I told my parents I’m lesbian, they said that they “accept me”, but that they still think I’m too young to make that type of decision, and that the internet has been feeding me lies?? Like how is that acceptance 💀
@@wingsofthv aaaa same!! I want to adopt; but they keep saying that they don’t care if I’m lesbian, I need to have children! I’m legit NEVER having children.
@@bunny.boo531 uhuh same if i’m ever having kids - which is unlikely, i prefer getting a dog instead - i’d adopt. And I’m sorry they’re being like that, it must suck :(
Im cis, i have a baby who is afab, i use she/her pronouns for her (but if she realises others suit her better when she is older then absolutely i will use other ones). I dont dress her girly and have asked people to avoid dresses and pink because as soon as people hear you have a girl that is allllll they get her. Her clothes are very neutral, mainly from the boys section but some from the girls. I bought her one dress recently but i keep things like that to a minimum. Partly because i would hate for her to be trans and then hate that i dressed her all super girly, whereas if the clothes are a bit more neutral she wouldn't necessarily be as ashamed to show baby photos etc... but also because i dont want to put gender stereotypes on her. Like regardless of anything trans related, i don't want her thinking she has to play with "girls" toys and only wear pink dresses. That way, when she gets old enough to show a preference she hasnt been pre-programmed to like those things. And no doubt the world will try and put stereotypes on her, but i want to try and limit any that we put on her (nobody's perfect, we all live in this world after all). That's just my opinion on it and i dont look down on anyone who wants to dress their child more gendered (although you would be surprised how offended other mums are or they tell you, oh she will choose pink herself anyway!), like what you do is up to you. I didnt find out the sex and i remember a woman at my work saying if you have a boy, your partner can go take him to play sports.... i just said, oh he can take a girl too... 🙃 what person in this day and age thinks only boys like sports... its 2021.
@@smhmyhead9184 no but with clothing comes lots of expectations and I know if i had a boy i probably wouldnt put a dress on him for fear of backlash from people (although if he chose to then I absolutely would let him). So keeping clothes a bit more neutral just feels more comfortable to me than overly gendered. It's not just about clothing because as she understands more, it's about not overly reinforcing stereotypes. Clothes may not have a gender but in society they are treated like they do. Her grandma has already bought her a bright pink walker that is shaped like a pushchair with a doll in it but waited until her boy cousin was out of the room (3 weeks between them) to tell me it was for my child. Even though i have explained not wanting to overly gender her with clothes and toys.. Also it feels like colour coding my child for her genitals which to me feels a bit icky. Like, i dont care what others do, but i just dont want to.
It's so tiring as an LGBT+ person to have the same arguments OVER and OVER again when there's evidence out there supporting us and our right to exist, jeez
Your right to exist is never disputed. Stop your transperbole. The objection is to men, and that includes transwomen, using women's facilities and competitions.
hey Noah! just wanted to say thank you because you educated me and showed me how to be there for my trans friend. i didn't know how, until like six months ago when I found your videos. i met him three months ago and if i wouldn't watch you i wouldn't know how to act. i really want to be kind to people so thank you for showing me what should i do. my friend is suffering now (because of gender dysphoria and family stuff) and i really want to be there for him because he is a lovely person and i just want him to be happy. so again thank you, love your content
I am cis female and, when I had short hair, a child asked me if I was a “boy or a girl”. The child asked innocently and I don’t hold it against them, but it was tough for me to hear that I didn’t look feminine.. I’ve had multiple men say “thank you, sir” and it upset me.. I think for trans people it must be 1000x worse
LOL, I love how Terfs and Transphobes think that simply liking (gender associated product) means that is the only sign that someone is trans. No Honey. knew I was trans because whenever I looked into the mirror pre transition, I would break down from dysphoria. And transitioning made me happier with my very existence.
To help with Noah’s detransition statistic argument, one of my classmates had a 3% chance of surviving his brain cancer (dw hes alive and no longer has cancer!!). The doctors still wanted to go through with the treatments. 3%. And ppl are tryna say that more than a 99% chance isn’t worth it?? Yes that -1% still exists. That’s why it’s so hard to get these transitions in the first place -Sincerely, your local trans man who almost became part of that 40 something % bc his parents suck
Just wanna say, Hope you’re better now dude & things are easier for you. And if not that’s kinda sad but well, it happens, regardless what it is, I hope you have a good life out there, good luck, much love & you're awesome for keeping your grip on life. Btw I like your channel design, both pfp and background heh.
@@FreeTheDonbas i believe i was referencing something said in the video, but it’s a statistic of how many trans people have unalived themselves. frankly i’m not sure why i mentioned it
@@Anasumi i know it’s been over a year but you have no idea how much i appreciate this. i didn’t see it at the time and frankly i don’t remember exactly how i was doing but i’m doing so much better now than i was before, i can guarantee that much
@@contravictoire You think 40% of trans people have unalived themselves? i haven't been able to find a source for that stat. At best it might be 40% self-reported attempted unaliving themselves. Actual unaliving stats are under 1%, even the high ones.
i love how there are people from countries where english is official language that have problem with they/them prounauns. like dude, it's gramaticly correct. what the f am i suppouse to do with language, where even a table has a gender?
IKR!! Are you Polish? I'm just guessing based on the lightning bolt on your pfp. But yeah English speakers don't realise how lucky they are compared with many European languages when it comes to gender and gender neutral pronouns etc. In Polish gender neutral = masculine, basically, which is, uh, not great :/
Same with Romanian. We literally learn the gender of nouns in school and they/they pronouns don't even exist. Wish me luck telling my Romanian parents in Romanian that my pronouns are she/they 🤪
the amount of transphobic people on tiktok is rising currently but at the same time more and more people are coming out as trans. I guess its a good and bad time for the trans community.
it reminds me hella of the time when tumblr was a very open and safe space for queer (especially trans people) there were endless jokes about “1000 genders” and “apache helicopter” and what not. while awareness is raising it seems so is hate. 2020&2021 have been the most deadly year for trans non-binary people and yet our community is growing and stronger than ever. it’s a horrible double edged sword
@@FreeTheDonbas There's this thing where when times get safer and safer for gay and trans people, the more they'll feel safe coming out. There's nothing trendy about about being trans/non-binary and there's nothing trendy about being cis. I'm non-binary myself. Sorry, having barely any rights doesn't seem like a fun trend, buddy. And, clearly you're just here to stir up drama, as I've seen you in other comments sections. And, maybe, I'm proud to be non-binary and like to flaunt it as I damn well please. It is not my fault that people are transphobic. Transphobes are gonna find ways to be transphobic regardless. I wasn't put on this Earth to please ANYBODY, especially transphobes. So, your problem is with transphobes, not us. I do experience dysphoria, but euphoria is way more positive and clear. It's why I'm planning on going on hormones and getting top surgery, but not bottom surgery because I'm not dysphoric down there. You can kindly fuck off about with your whole "they make us look bad". No, I am not gonna pretend to be someone I'm not just so I can get some cis approval. I ain't nobody's bitch, you got that? Suck on a dick.
@@esausanchez473 good as in it's a good thing more people are coming out as transgender or good as in there are more people who feel the right/need to disrespect others?
Yeah, my kid has a problem that destroys all his self-confidence, that makes him hate himself, destroys his mental health and maybe self-****, develop eating disorders or addictions and more, anxiety and depression that wil last for many years if not kinda all their life once its there, prevent him to be successfull in school and so have all the chances to have the job he wants, and not have a joyfull social life. We should definitely wait until he's 18 to do anything.
5:27 he’s right, i WOULDNT want to date a trans woman. i’m gay, she’s a girl, so i wouldnt date her 🤷🏼♂️ update: i wouldn’t date anyone actually ☠️ aroacecore
I really think teaching kids about LGBTQIA+ is extremely important, and somewhat easy I don’t believe kids are born homophobic and therefore we can prevent them from hurting people in the future I can only speak for myself but as a kid who were taught without it being some extremely odd thing to look at wide eyed it was clear as glass that I was going to support the community. It’s horrible to face discrimination and oppression by people of something you can’t change
I think parents should always be supportive of their children that come out to them. At least they could entertain the idea of a social transition. If they truly are “confused” they’ll realize at some point “oh this isn’t right for me, I was wrong,” but that’s when you support them unconditionally like pls
The funny thing is, before I realized I was non-binary, I was the most confused and now that I know I am non-binary, I have more clarity than ever. Like I feel like I’m an actual whole person now.
(3:50) the fack that all my friends used to call me potato instead of my name just so they didn’t have to call me my dead name around my family is that made that comment funny now all my friends just call me Billy around my family
just want to say that watching your videos and listening to your music helped me come out as trans to family and they were super supportive and i just wanted to say thank you
Ahh, thank you for this. I had to spend the day in a doctor's office with a transphobe, and today was the first day that the doctors and staff started to call me by my preferred name. That was a really pleasant surprise for me, and a horrific one for her. The result of the whole thing was my arm being too petrified to move since I got two shots and two vials of blood drawn from me and my mom's blatant transphobia and newfound hatred for my dad, all combining to make my head feel lighter than air. Again, I thank you.
my grandmother and grandfather have two lgbtq+ kids, have an lgbtq+ daughter in law (one of my moms) and all three of my siblings are in the lgbtq community, and they are accepting. You can be old and okay with the lgbtq, you cant use your age to not like the lgbtq.
@@ray-13-T.S yeah I was allergic to it but my brother wore it so they wanted to see me in it or something 😭 This happened with so many hats from relatives to
my mom told me 'no you're not trans" and 'you're confused' next morning she apologised, like yea nice but it doesnt fix what you said, and now im actually questioning if i am really trans :/ before i came out i was like 99% sure i was trans .
@@elisaciardiello9308 yeah my mom told me that she “didn’t think i was” and said “satan is at work”. like, thanks but i’m pretty sure i know myself better that you. also, i think the best way to figure out if you’re trans is to just socially transition and see how comfortable you are with that first. gender is fluid and you don’t need to know right away. so no pressure. i hope you’re doing well
I tried killing myself multiple times coz I didn't have support my family abandoned me and it took me alot to get where I am and the help of u Noah too I'd watch your videos and be like right I can do this so thank u for doing your videos am so happy your doing well I wish. I could come to your tours 💝
little bit of a vent tbh sorry (Tw: Transphobia and mentioning unaliving) My mother being extremely transphobic and putting me down for it, and gas lighting me and saying im a terrible horrible kid and making me cry and feel so uncomfy even being by her, and she expects me to keep it to myself and not to talk about it at all, and she expects me to not unalive myself, and let it rot my insides, and then when she catches me telling my friends that shes kind of a sh***y mother she goes straight into a panic mode and she doesnt understand why I said it and she takes everything away from me thinking that would 'fix' it, and she found out by accident that I was trans and she keeps saying im 'lying' to her about my gender like woman thats what coming out is for ahhh sorry
): i'm sorry u have to deal with people like this they're terrible i think ur mother will except you soon, try to explain it a little more maybe i wish u luck, and PLS dont unalive urself
“They’ll have all the time when adults.” But the damage is already done by then. All the time in the world to deal with the trauma of going through a puberty that dramatically alters your body in ways that are so abhorrent to you. What’s fair in that?
Exactly. My parents say I can only transition when I'm over 18. Now, I would understand this if they were referring to me getting top and bottom surgery because it's a pain to reverse if I get this wrong and two, it's expensive to reverse. But they said that I need to 'tow the line' as a girl and that hurt. It hurt knowing they knew what I was going through and were still forcing me be a girl with girl pronouns and a girl name. Hell, I couldn't even change my style of dressing. Luckily, I have three of my big bro's shirts that I wear all the time.
@@LAURA--- Great people like you are the only thing keeping me going. Continue being your amazing self and if someone exploits you for that, i dont know, punch em in the mouth😅🤣❤
I look up to you for a number of reasons Noah, i am starting to find myself and realise that, I think I'm trans, your videos have helped me so much, I spent a few hours binging your trans videos and they have really helped, I just wanted to say thank you 🖤
Folks arguing against a point that wasn’t actually made by the opposing group is called a “Straw Man Argument.” So like saying that trans people are saying cis people can’t raise their children as their AGAB, I’ve never heard that come from a trans person and never thought that myself. Something I do identify is looking back and wishing I had grown up with less strict gender stereotypes and had been able to dress the way I wanted, and done the things I wanted to do. Straw men arguments are designed to be weak because as the name would imply, they’re a lot easier to burn than any actual argument one is making.
i loved this video, i normally can’t engage in content that looks into transphobic/hateful content, but it feels like you’re holding my hand through this so thank you
Love coming to this channel to hear Noah school transphobes right after I was misgendered by my grandma and her boyfriend today.. don’t you just love people using the wrong pronouns for you? especially on your birthday?! 🥲🙃🎉 I suck at correcting people I just melt internally lol anybody got advice?
Look the person in the eye and say,"my name is (insert name here). My pronouns are (insert chosen pronouns here). I would like you to use my correct name and pronouns." Practice saying it alone. And lemme know if you need more help,ok?
Do those washrooms not lock from the inside? They either added a needless hurdle for women to be judged or they expect men to be completely okay with people opening the door while they're going to the washroom and I'm not comfortable with either of those scenarios.
ppl be like "children aren't allowed to make any lifelong permanent decisions" then tell 12 y/o kids to choose a carreer path. like, when I was 16 I still didn't have an idea what I wanted to work as, but I sure knew whether or not I was comfortable with the pronouns people addressed me with/the way I looked etc.
I’m gay, and in middle school (eighth grade I think) someone in my class asked me if I would date a trans guy. And I said “yes, trans guys are guys too” and he told me that made me bi because I apparently was willing to date girls 🙄
I've only recently accepted I'm trans and what always annoys me is when people say it's a choice. It's really not. I'd choose to be cis if I could. I'd choose not to be a demiguy if I could. Being a demiguy is really complicated to explain and it only complicates my life. But I know deep down that I'm a masculine person. I don't like she/her pronouns. It feels wrong to be referred to as female. I know I won't be happy pretending I'm a woman because I'm not a woman. I feel extremely dysphoric over my own body rn since I have "feminine features" as my family puts it.
14:52 i am a 13 y/o he/they, i know by the time i am an adult i might not still feel this way but still, i am a he/they and i look like a she/her and i hate it, but i still lile skirts and honestly i am definitely confused but this is right now so, but i am definitely thankful that my parents let me get a binder because for right now, that makes me comfortable
MY MOM WAS GONNA GET ME TICKETS TO A MISTKI CONCERT BUT THEY SOLD OUT AND SHE ASKED IF THERES ANY CONCERT I WANNA GO TO BECAUSE SHE FELT BAD AND I SAID YOUR CONCERT AND ITS GONNA BE MY FIRST CONCERT EVER AND IM SO EXCITED AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Great video as always. Though for someone who does their research, you did miss the point completely on gender neutral parenting. It's not about claiming your child is nonbinary, but about not allowing society to force gender stereotypes on them by publicly stating their sex, and to give the child the chance to explore their own gender without feeling forced to conform to the one they were assigned at birth, and allowing them to express themselves however they like. Most parents who raise their child gender neutral don't force the idea onto others, and don't claim their child is nonbinary. Those who do are on the same level as transphobes, in my opinion. Just don't force shit on your kids, whether you raise them gender neutral or not. And if your child tells you their gender, name, and pronouns, try to be respectful and accept it.
@@melovekittie you didn't see his reply, did you? I listened to what he said, and his words suggested he assumed gender neutral parenting equals assuming a child is nonbinary. He made it clear in his reply that his wording was off, but not ill intended. It was a misunderstanding, which was clarified, nothing more. Also, don't call me bro, please. I don't like it.
Kinda a lil story of my life: I'm an afab enby and usually wear more feminine clothes, but this day I was wearing jeans and a hoodie. I was on the bus and had my headphones in, and the lady that asked for the ticked called me a guy, how I love wearing a mask
I'm planning on coming out to my parents during the summer but I'm dreadfully scared of words like... Its just a phase You're just copying your friend You're hanging out with the wrong people You're too young to know about that What have you been watching online? There are people in this world who will hate on you You might get bullied Give me your phone This sounds stupid but I put so much pressure on myself to be perfect in every way , shape or form but I just need my parents understand, I'm still their child, that will never change, but after denying it multiple times so I wouldn't have to tell my parents , he/him just suits me, I've also decided on my trans name, I love the name Oliver, i smile when I'm called it by my friends , I've wanted short hair since I was young. Oliver .... just sounds so perfect :) Also I've been in a relationship with a girl before my mother and father knew about it and supported me but weren't interely happy as I have a no dating rule. And I agree with that rule, I need to focus on school, not partners. I also have a ftm bestie who is the nicest person I have ever met. He's protective over me and protects me from some bullies who try to make me feel insignificant. And that's what makes him the best. (Also you've gotta love it when he brings his friends to the merry go round and one t-poses in the middle, that's just the cherry on top) Anyways telling parents soon I'll update on how it went
hey, the first name i chose after realizing i was a trans man was oliver! it didn't suit me personally but i'm glad it does for someone else. i hope your coming out went well :)
11:22 100% understand that! I didn’t want to believe that I was transmasc, so I went with gender fluid, agender, non-binary and so on, because accepting that, was easier to me than accepting me being transmasc. Now I’ve come out to a lot of people as transmasc and I found out my mother is transphobic af and talks sh*t about me behind my back ;-;
Him: I don't think anyone wants to date someone who doesn't like them! Thats not a vibe Me a lesbian in love with a straight girl: nope not a vibe at all
Me a trans lesbian: “why is the girl I enjoy spending time with straight?” Girl I enjoy spending time with: “I don’t think I’m not straight, but I also think you pretty, I’d like to try dating you” Me: *surprised pikachu*
but.. the gas station bathroom.. it was.. it was a single toilet bathroom. there is only.. one toilet.. and one sink in there.. why do they.. i’m what there’s literally no point only ONE person can use it at a time wtf
just to clarify!!!
raising your kids without enforcing gender stereotypes: YES
telling your kid they’re non binary and using they/them pronouns for them straight out the womb: not my vibe personally
understandable lol
understandable lol
yeah thats just really weird :/
Yup understandable 🤷🤷
Nobody tells their kid they are NB. People use they/them prns for their kids to help them understand their gender. They don't gender them until they tell them how to.
as a cis woman, i feel 10000000% more violated by having to "prove I'm a woman" to use a restroom than I do when a trans woman uses the same bathroom as me. why do people think that other women using a stall affects them so much??????? like bruh just piss and get out of there, it's not that deep
yeah absolutely same. many places don't even have separate restrooms but suddenly transwomen using one is such a big problem. like no sane person cares about this.
My mum likes to remind me shes very loving and supportive of my transition until I ask her about all gender bathrooms. Then suddenly she cant use the same bathroom as a man because "he'd be fertling with his bits in there"
I daren't ask her about trans women
@Sophia Aguirre wtf how
Tbh when it’s a single stall bathroom like that I’ll just use whichever is available. I’ve used a single stall men’s restroom on multiple occasions if the women’s is already in use. I’d probably just use the men’s bathroom in this scenario instead of having to ask for a key.
@@shortbiscuits4444 Do you mean there's a unisex bathroom and the separate bathrooms or just a unisex bathroom because I'm a bit confused
Personal favourite was the pick me who talks about the “generation I was born into” homie you’re 16, you ARE part of this generation lmaoooo
trans generational or pick me up girl?
Lol fr, like those kids who are super conservative bcus their parents are like dude ur not special ur just brainwashed
@@superdrwholock Ngl I was kinda one of those kids, maybe not very homophobic but I really thought that I was born in wrong generation lol. It's very easy when your parents always tell you that their times were better in every aspect.
@@alexf225 yeah fairs, when your mind is developing it's easy to fall in to that, it's more on the parents for not teaching diversity of opinion
Why is she a pick me?
“I know many 80 yrs olds who would cry if I told them I was trans”
No one:
Me:*speaks*
My grandma:*cries*
Me: o_o
LITERALLY my grandma. EVERY SINGLE TIME I speak to her she starts crying. I didn't come out to her. She is not ready for this and she would never.
literally, my sister came out as a lesbian to my grandma and my grandma said, "well that's a bit sad, isn't it". like, we're not crying grandma, get over it, my sister is super happy in her life
My grandmother went on about it being a phase, stole my binders and undid my sewing so they're literally just disgusting bras now, like the design is NOT suited for that kind of use, it's supposed to be a binder. I literally hate old people so much
She shouldnt be touching your stuff ik shes old but if u have let her know how u feel and ur boundaries and to never touch ur stuff again (depends on ur age be careful with my advice)
I am more concerned about why i should care about their opinions? Just because they are dying?😐
IF MY SON CAME OUT AS TRANS, ID HAVE NO SON, I’d have a daughter
Most based parent ever
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The only correct response
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Saw something that said if theyre son came out as trans, supportive parents and homophobic parents agree on "i have no son"
Came out to my bf today and his reaction is leaving me crying tears he literally went :”so I have a boyfriend now? Im gay? HELL YEA!” :’) help-
Edit: we broke up due to family complications but we're still friends :)
That's amazing
Icon moment
awww
❤ That's so cute!
That is so wholesome:,)
I’ve tried offing myself twice, one because I was scared of myself, and what people would think of me for being trans. One because my mother rejected me when I did tell her, when I realized I don’t know how to do anything. Today I’m lucky, I live with my father who supports me, I have friends who are my family. And I’m six months on T. It is still hard, some days more then others, but I’ve worked hard and I’m almost at my top surgery goal. The only thing keeping me going is my best friend/brother who wants to chill in a hot tub when we both can be shirtless.
Stay strong everyone.
Youre so strong, keep going💪
man something really nerds to be done about how trans ppl are viewed when it gets this bad. I wish you the best 💙💙
im glad you're still here! cant wait till you can enjoy that hot tub
we're all so proud of you for making it this far :)
hope your top surgery goes well!
Woooooo yay! Proud of you!!
When your little girl likes monster trucks and you have to force (force being the key word here) her to wear dresses and do girly things. The argument isn't that we think it's transphobic, the argument is that it's ABUSIVE! The only time it's okay to "force" your kid to do anything, is when it's for their well being and to keep them safe. If you're doing it just because you "don't want them to turn gay" or "it's not proper for a young lady to act like that" etc. it's abusive and manipulative and toxic. That's the argument!
its so sad, grown women force their children to wear dresses because they're insecure about their kids gender. wtf it doesn't mean they're trans if they don't like dresses. the majority of my female identifying friends hate wearing dresses and the one friend I have that is questioning their gender likes dresses. the way someone dresses doesn't mean shit relating to their gender identity!
@@greysonholtz Exactly. I love dresses, makeup, painting my nails, pink, and other traditionally “feminine” things, but I’m still trans. Those types of things mean nothing
it's not even transphobic its just deeply sexist " you are a girl so you must wear dresses". I didn't realise I wanted to be a boy as a kid even tho the signs were so clearly there bc i didn't have massive social distinctions between boys and girls growing up, p.e was mixed and i played for the boys team in school tournaments and even the local boys football club. when i decided i hated pink and dresses my parents were like lol okay you'll grow out of it and just left me to wear what i want, a lot of my clothes were my brothers clothes that he grew out of :) .
If I have a kid when I'm older I am not going to make them wear things they don't want to wear just because it's the gender norm like if I have a girl I'm not going to go out of my way to get more dresses for her and if I have a boy I'm not going to go out of my way to get him a little suit but I'm also not going to go out of my way to buy them clothes that are typically worn by the opposite gender if I see something cute I'm going to get it and not really care if its not meant for my child's gender. Also with that, it would just be when they are too young to care what they wear when they're old enough to choose what they want to wear if my son wants to wear a dress then I'll buy him a dress its really not that hard to let your kid wear the clothes they want to wear
@@elijahsamuel8177 damn that sounds like a great enviorment
the depression of americans whenever this guy announces a concert is insane BXHXBXHX
bro i’m in ireland ONE COUNTRY OVER, my pain is worse
Me 😔
@@0jemimah0 OK TRUE THATS WORSE 😭✋
and other europeans.
oh how it feels to be Canadian PAIN
Ok here opinion as a cis woman, pee and leave, literally it does not affect anyone if a trans woman pees, and if it does affect you seek therapy, let people be themselves
If it doesn't affect anyone then why can't they pee in the men's room instead?
@@FreeTheDonbas BRAVO!!!
@@FreeTheDonbas uhh because then if they are able to enter the bathroom with the gender they are in freely then they’d feel more accepted and validated?
@@cabbageman2184 there are no drawbacks to anyone of trans-identified males used male spaces.
@@FreeTheDonbas you literally didn't even consider the reason you were given. :/
I told someone I use he/they pronouns and their response was "wait because u have ""they"" pronouns does that mean if u go to McDonald's and buy a big Mac for $9 does that mean you have to pay $18?"🤯
Has nobody heard of shakespere? Didn’t he use they singular alot?
okay that’s rlly funny
"I bet every time these people have arguments they'll sit in the shower for hours on end, and you know, come up with comebacks or things they should've said in the argument." -Noah 2021
I felt so called out by this tho 😭
@@elisr.6588 Me too.
Me be like:
@@elisr.6588 same😭
I do that....
I'm FtM and the first time I came out my mom and her partner forced me back in the closet. I came back out and my mom still isn't accepting. She refuses to use my pronouns and consistently uses my dead name, she also says I'm selfish for being myself and how badly it's going to hurt my kids and how much they will be bullied because I'm trans. She even got mad at me because my two year old got into nail polish and painted his nails and I didn't tell him it was wrong, she says I have some agenda to turn my son gay...
when my little brother was ages 2-5 he would always ask our mother if she could paint his nails, today he is 13 and probably one of the straightest boys I know
so yeah anyone who says that boys liking nail polish is an agenda to turn them gay, can deal with it because guess what make-up and clothing has no gender
you can be a cishet boy who likes make-up
you can be a cishet boy who likes wearing skirts or croptops
wear and do things that make you happy not other people
I love you.
Ye my mom does the same to me... exept I don't have a kid
Kids are curious little things 💀 my brother always wants to paint his nails when my mom paint her's and she does only one finger ( he currently has one toe that painted purple) but aside from like nail painting , he may be three but he is the perfect definition of a boy 😭
I can sadly relate. I came out of the closet as FtM Trans, but my parents forced me back into the closet again. It’s been quite a while, and I don’t know if I should come out again. I don’t want them to like hurt me again or something.
10:19 so, im a trans boy. im still a minor and my parents claim im “too young” to be thinking about “adult topics” but they don’t understand it makes me uncomfortable. they use she/her, my deadname, call me a girl, try to get me to wear feminine clothes, wont let me cut my hair in a more masc way and they wonder why i wont open up to them. this is why noah is one of my favorite people on the internet.
Cut your hair yourself, then!
U good now or Is it still the same way
As in have they come to accept the fact that you are a boy and not a girl
I’m so sorry you have to go through that. I’m not trans but dude that must suck so so so much
You poor poor thing. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Don’t give up, it is 100% possible to live as your true self, even if that life seems a million light years away❤️
boy am I glad my parents actually let me play with more "boyish" toys like Avengers figurines and dinosaurs and remote control cars...
and see? I'm cis. I don't think giving your kids certain toys affects their gender at all, toys are toys. They're fun to play with.
and if your kid ends up being trans in the end?? Don't blame it on the toys.
Gen Z isn’t “too sensitive,” we just call people out when they are being a-holes.
True. And of course conservatives don't like being called out smh
Yeah they say we r snowflake but then have a whole temper tantrum over a guy wearing a dress 🙄
@@katiejohnson3571 like that dress is the biggest problem is society lmao
@@yourlocalgeek600 right like bruh
@@katiejohnson3571 What would be the best is to tell them that men have been wearing skirts for centuries, you see paintings of kings, queens, nobles etc. wearing skirts. Same with heeled shoes, they were originally designed for men, but later became a fashion for women which eventually became the norm. Clothing is a social structure, but these people act like its related to biology, which is bs of course.
they call us the sensitive ones yet get pissed when someone asks them their pronouns💀
Exactly 💀 😂
I’ve gotta make the pun, sorry.
“When you ask Them/Their pronouns.”
“exCuse mE I dOn’t hAve pRonOuns”
-Most Southern American straight cis white women when you ask their pronouns
@ThatCoolKid pls I’m from the south in America and people are like “huh? I’m straight” or “I don’t have pronouns” when I ask them their pronouns and it’s so funny🤣
@EightFootSativa so the people who think there’s more than two genders have screws loose but the people who don’t look at the science and see that’s it proven that there are not only more than 2 biological sexes but also has been proven to be more than 2 genders? that’s the stupidest thing i’ve seen all day
Heres the thing about trans women in bathrooms
I'm a trans woman, and I like men. I'm in the closet so I'm in the mens restroom all the time
But I'm not attacking men in the restroom
And by their logic those men would be safer if I was in the womens restroom... right?
This 🙌
And above all they straight up ignore gay, lesbian,queer and bisexual people's whole entire existence. Like literally I'm into women, but that doesn't mean I'd do anything stupid, as in attacking/violating their privacy and making them uncomfortable
@@vanessadmitrivosco5631 yeah, and sometimes they say "women don't want exposed to male genitalia"
Oh yes, let me just walk into the bathroom with my junk out, totally, people do that
The thing is, it’s not just transphobia, it’s also sexist because if we strip away some of the layers the core premise is that all afab people are weak and delicate and need protecting and all amab people are beasts whose sole motive in life is sex. Like I can understand not wanting people to get assaulted, but maybe then we should teach cis men to not assault people, instead of assuming that is inevitable and forcing women to have to be afraid of men?? But also if not wanting people to get assaulted is their supposed premise, then they should want trans women to be protected most of all since they are statistically the most likely to be assaulted.
If they were seriously so worried about people getting attacked in restrooms maybe they should plan the spaces better. Like offer gender-neutral single toilets that are not hidden in some shady back corridor of a shopping center like too many public restrooms at the moment. But of course they won't, because they're not really worried about women getting attacked, but of trans people being accepted as humans!
Noah taking about having transphobic parents really makes me feel a lot better about my situation. I’ve have to deal with transphobic parents for the last three years, I’ve come out four times and each time was dismissed. I’ve started recently socially transitioning, and I’ve found that my friends are living examples that my parents *should* be more accepting. I’ve asked them to call me by my chosen name and pronouns and was turned down, I asked to buy a binder and was told that it was, “a big commitment that we’re not ready to make” not a commitment for me. For them. I also bought the binders with my own money and they were stolen by my parents. I struggle with coming to terms with the fact that they could be better and that they should be better. I feel like they aren’t bad parents, but if it were someone else’s situation, I would say they were. Thank you Noah, you saying that transphobic parents are sh*tty means more than you know.
Similar situation here. I knew my parents wouldn't support me so i didn't come out to them, but they found out on their own. Not once have they even tried to gender me correctly, use my name, or let me dress fem. I had to do all of that in secret. And yet they still claim to "support" me, even tho all they did was try to talk me out of being trans and misgender and deadname me daily. And i never really said anything about it, because i knew it was pointless. I'm sorry you're in that situation. Just know that there are people who've also been there and that you aren't alone ❤
8:51
When I told my parents I’m lesbian, they said that they “accept me”, but that they still think I’m too young to make that type of decision, and that the internet has been feeding me lies?? Like how is that acceptance 💀
We willl see when you get older and you might look back at this all and cringe.
@@hollyjewels787 why would they cringe?
my mother told me the same thing when i said i was bisexual and then she was like “but how are you gonna have kids? I want grandchildren” lmao😭
@@wingsofthv aaaa same!! I want to adopt; but they keep saying that they don’t care if I’m lesbian, I need to have children! I’m legit NEVER having children.
@@bunny.boo531 uhuh same if i’m ever having kids - which is unlikely, i prefer getting a dog instead - i’d adopt. And I’m sorry they’re being like that, it must suck :(
Im cis, i have a baby who is afab, i use she/her pronouns for her (but if she realises others suit her better when she is older then absolutely i will use other ones). I dont dress her girly and have asked people to avoid dresses and pink because as soon as people hear you have a girl that is allllll they get her. Her clothes are very neutral, mainly from the boys section but some from the girls. I bought her one dress recently but i keep things like that to a minimum. Partly because i would hate for her to be trans and then hate that i dressed her all super girly, whereas if the clothes are a bit more neutral she wouldn't necessarily be as ashamed to show baby photos etc... but also because i dont want to put gender stereotypes on her. Like regardless of anything trans related, i don't want her thinking she has to play with "girls" toys and only wear pink dresses. That way, when she gets old enough to show a preference she hasnt been pre-programmed to like those things. And no doubt the world will try and put stereotypes on her, but i want to try and limit any that we put on her (nobody's perfect, we all live in this world after all).
That's just my opinion on it and i dont look down on anyone who wants to dress their child more gendered (although you would be surprised how offended other mums are or they tell you, oh she will choose pink herself anyway!), like what you do is up to you. I didnt find out the sex and i remember a woman at my work saying if you have a boy, your partner can go take him to play sports.... i just said, oh he can take a girl too... 🙃 what person in this day and age thinks only boys like sports... its 2021.
I like you mortal you are doing a good job.
this is how i’ll do it too !! when they’re like 3-4 i’ll let them begin to pick out their own clothes from a shop too
And this restores my faith on future
I understand you're trying to do good, but putting dress on her won't affect her gender identity, it's just a piece of clothing, god.......
@@smhmyhead9184 no but with clothing comes lots of expectations and I know if i had a boy i probably wouldnt put a dress on him for fear of backlash from people (although if he chose to then I absolutely would let him). So keeping clothes a bit more neutral just feels more comfortable to me than overly gendered. It's not just about clothing because as she understands more, it's about not overly reinforcing stereotypes. Clothes may not have a gender but in society they are treated like they do. Her grandma has already bought her a bright pink walker that is shaped like a pushchair with a doll in it but waited until her boy cousin was out of the room (3 weeks between them) to tell me it was for my child. Even though i have explained not wanting to overly gender her with clothes and toys..
Also it feels like colour coding my child for her genitals which to me feels a bit icky. Like, i dont care what others do, but i just dont want to.
It's so tiring as an LGBT+ person to have the same arguments OVER and OVER again when there's evidence out there supporting us and our right to exist, jeez
Adopting a "transgender identity" is just misgendering yourself. Privileges aren't rights.
@@FreeTheDonbas LOL funny joke
@@FreeTheDonbas I suggest you do more research on the topic you're misrepresenting.
Your right to exist is never disputed. Stop your transperbole.
The objection is to men, and that includes transwomen, using women's facilities and competitions.
@@soniaess28 Why are you watching a trans guy's channel where he's ranking transphobes?
hey Noah!
just wanted to say thank you because you educated me and showed me how to be there for my trans friend. i didn't know how, until like six months ago when I found your videos. i met him three months ago and if i wouldn't watch you i wouldn't know how to act. i really want to be kind to people so thank you for showing me what should i do.
my friend is suffering now (because of gender dysphoria and family stuff) and i really want to be there for him because he is a lovely person and i just want him to be happy.
so again thank you, love your content
That's so sweet of you :D
I can tell through this comment that you're an amazing friend to him. he's so lucky to have someone like you around !!
Faith in humanity restored
thankyou for being such a good friend to him
I am cis female and, when I had short hair, a child asked me if I was a “boy or a girl”. The child asked innocently and I don’t hold it against them, but it was tough for me to hear that I didn’t look feminine.. I’ve had multiple men say “thank you, sir” and it upset me.. I think for trans people it must be 1000x worse
14:07 as an American, I can unfortunately confirm your suspicions
LOL, I love how Terfs and Transphobes think that simply liking (gender associated product) means that is the only sign that someone is trans.
No Honey. knew I was trans because whenever I looked into the mirror pre transition, I would break down from dysphoria. And transitioning made me happier with my very existence.
“Hello Underachievers!”
Ello
why can’t i like this twice
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To help with Noah’s detransition statistic argument, one of my classmates had a 3% chance of surviving his brain cancer (dw hes alive and no longer has cancer!!). The doctors still wanted to go through with the treatments. 3%. And ppl are tryna say that more than a 99% chance isn’t worth it?? Yes that -1% still exists. That’s why it’s so hard to get these transitions in the first place
-Sincerely, your local trans man who almost became part of that 40 something % bc his parents suck
Just wanna say, Hope you’re better now dude & things are easier for you. And if not that’s kinda sad but well, it happens, regardless what it is, I hope you have a good life out there, good luck, much love & you're awesome for keeping your grip on life.
Btw I like your channel design, both pfp and background heh.
what happens to the 40%?
@@FreeTheDonbas i believe i was referencing something said in the video, but it’s a statistic of how many trans people have unalived themselves. frankly i’m not sure why i mentioned it
@@Anasumi i know it’s been over a year but you have no idea how much i appreciate this. i didn’t see it at the time and frankly i don’t remember exactly how i was doing but i’m doing so much better now than i was before, i can guarantee that much
@@contravictoire You think 40% of trans people have unalived themselves? i haven't been able to find a source for that stat. At best it might be 40% self-reported attempted unaliving themselves. Actual unaliving stats are under 1%, even the high ones.
To the lady in 14:18 What are your pronouns
5:27 bros actin like trans women wanna date him🙀
i love how there are people from countries where english is official language that have problem with they/them prounauns. like dude, it's gramaticly correct. what the f am i suppouse to do with language, where even a table has a gender?
IKR!! Are you Polish? I'm just guessing based on the lightning bolt on your pfp.
But yeah English speakers don't realise how lucky they are compared with many European languages when it comes to gender and gender neutral pronouns etc. In Polish gender neutral = masculine, basically, which is, uh, not great :/
Agreed, yeah
are you German or polish or maybe smth different?
cuz I'm German and like chairs have a stupid masculine pronouns
Same with Romanian. We literally learn the gender of nouns in school and they/they pronouns don't even exist. Wish me luck telling my Romanian parents in Romanian that my pronouns are she/they 🤪
@@yourlocalgeek600 mmmm i feel bad for you :'D
the amount of transphobic people on tiktok is rising currently but at the same time more and more people are coming out as trans. I guess its a good and bad time for the trans community.
it reminds me hella of the time when tumblr was a very open and safe space for queer (especially trans people) there were endless jokes about “1000 genders” and “apache helicopter” and what not. while awareness is raising it seems so is hate. 2020&2021 have been the most deadly year for trans non-binary people and yet our community is growing and stronger than ever. it’s a horrible double edged sword
how are transtrenders good? they undermine the whole thing.
@@FreeTheDonbas There's this thing where when times get safer and safer for gay and trans people, the more they'll feel safe coming out. There's nothing trendy about about being trans/non-binary and there's nothing trendy about being cis. I'm non-binary myself. Sorry, having barely any rights doesn't seem like a fun trend, buddy. And, clearly you're just here to stir up drama, as I've seen you in other comments sections. And, maybe, I'm proud to be non-binary and like to flaunt it as I damn well please. It is not my fault that people are transphobic. Transphobes are gonna find ways to be transphobic regardless. I wasn't put on this Earth to please ANYBODY, especially transphobes. So, your problem is with transphobes, not us. I do experience dysphoria, but euphoria is way more positive and clear. It's why I'm planning on going on hormones and getting top surgery, but not bottom surgery because I'm not dysphoric down there. You can kindly fuck off about with your whole "they make us look bad". No, I am not gonna pretend to be someone I'm not just so I can get some cis approval. I ain't nobody's bitch, you got that? Suck on a dick.
Good
@@esausanchez473 good as in it's a good thing more people are coming out as transgender or good as in there are more people who feel the right/need to disrespect others?
"Hello underachievers"
2 words made my whole day, thx Noah 🖤
@go logan go away Oops hi 😁
@go logan go away it is haha
“This generation is too sensitive” nah we just don’t put up with people’s shit💀
8:16 this song made me go back in the closet and untransition.
"I wouldent date a trans women
Cmon you wouldent too"
Me a trans man dateing a trans women rn : are you sure?
I usually stay away from people like this, I don't want my patience nor my braincells to be lost because of them
Yeah, my kid has a problem that destroys all his self-confidence, that makes him hate himself, destroys his mental health and maybe self-****, develop eating disorders or addictions and more, anxiety and depression that wil last for many years if not kinda all their life once its there, prevent him to be successfull in school and so have all the chances to have the job he wants, and not have a joyfull social life. We should definitely wait until he's 18 to do anything.
Another video being mesmerised by Noah’s perfect hair lmao
5:27 he’s right, i WOULDNT want to date a trans woman. i’m gay, she’s a girl, so i wouldnt date her 🤷🏼♂️
update: i wouldn’t date anyone actually ☠️ aroacecore
old people: this generation is to sensitive
me: im nonbinary and i don't believe in god
old people: -start crying and screaming shit at me-
I really think teaching kids about LGBTQIA+ is extremely important, and somewhat easy
I don’t believe kids are born homophobic and therefore we can prevent them from hurting people in the future
I can only speak for myself but as a kid who were taught without it being some extremely odd thing to look at wide eyed it was clear as glass that I was going to support the community. It’s horrible to face discrimination and oppression by people of something you can’t change
A man is a man and a woman is a woman
@@ericb5457 what do you mean by that? Yes, a man is a man and a woman is a woman. If you’re transphobic just say it
@@ericb5457 Huh?
@@ericb5457 What?
@@ericb5457 I agree if people say what their gender is we should respect it no matter what
I will now walk through life slightly happier knowing that I have the same necklace as Noah :))
Where did y'all get it :0
@@ashytashy I got it from asos a while ago :))
same bestay
I think parents should always be supportive of their children that come out to them. At least they could entertain the idea of a social transition. If they truly are “confused” they’ll realize at some point “oh this isn’t right for me, I was wrong,” but that’s when you support them unconditionally like pls
The funny thing is, before I realized I was non-binary, I was the most confused and now that I know I am non-binary, I have more clarity than ever. Like I feel like I’m an actual whole person now.
HAHAHA TRANSPHOBES!
Ikr theyre so ridiculous
@@elliot22131 The most ridiculous of all the most ridiculing.
Don’t laugh! They can’t even deal with pronouns, who are they gonna handle this too?
(3:50) the fack that all my friends used to call me potato instead of my name just so they didn’t have to call me my dead name around my family is that made that comment funny now all my friends just call me Billy around my family
i came out as trans a week ago and im so happy that my mom is supportive (:
👍
Good for you, hun! We stan your mom✨💅
I love your mom.
I'm happy for you
yay! congrats and good luck on your transition
just want to say that watching your videos and listening to your music helped me come out as trans to family and they were super supportive and i just wanted to say thank you
hey good for you
Ahh, thank you for this. I had to spend the day in a doctor's office with a transphobe, and today was the first day that the doctors and staff started to call me by my preferred name. That was a really pleasant surprise for me, and a horrific one for her. The result of the whole thing was my arm being too petrified to move since I got two shots and two vials of blood drawn from me and my mom's blatant transphobia and newfound hatred for my dad, all combining to make my head feel lighter than air.
Again, I thank you.
Oof. Good luck, friend
my grandmother and grandfather have two lgbtq+ kids, have an lgbtq+ daughter in law (one of my moms) and all three of my siblings are in the lgbtq community, and they are accepting. You can be old and okay with the lgbtq, you cant use your age to not like the lgbtq.
noah thanks so much for everything youve done!! ur like an older brother to me
I clicked faster than the super straights could change their pfp to orange and black
PERIODT 💅✨
Super straight is normal and the way its meant to be
@@Cobson_GamingYT Lol you trolling?
@@yourlocalgeek600 Nah its literally the way its meant to be. Humans are meant to be straight otherwise we couldn’t breed.
@@Cobson_GamingYT uhm- ok? Have you thought that maybe not everyone want to breed maybe?
10:37 my parents actually made me wear a hat that gave me rashes
Wait rly lol
@@ray-13-T.S yeah I was allergic to it but my brother wore it so they wanted to see me in it or something 😭
This happened with so many hats from relatives to
15:31 what if everyone just used the mens bathroom.
Noah: can we get some jazz hands in here please?
Me: shut up and lemme see your jazz hands
Me: *sees this comment and starts whispering Na Na Na*
Dad: That thing is definitely my son
YSSSSES
do u remember when u were a mad man tho
@@georgiabradley3751 hyeah they thought they were Batman lmfao
@@chaz8940 but-but did they kill the party with a gas can? mayhaps?
my parents told me i'm confused and that i "shouldn't think about it" - like it's something i'm able to keep my mind off of.
That's what mine told when I came out as non binary
my mom told me 'no you're not trans" and 'you're confused' next morning she apologised, like yea nice but it doesnt fix what you said, and now im actually questioning if i am really trans :/ before i came out i was like 99% sure i was trans .
@@elisaciardiello9308 dang well good luck your valid
@@elisaciardiello9308 yeah my mom told me that she “didn’t think i was” and said “satan is at work”. like, thanks but i’m pretty sure i know myself better that you.
also, i think the best way to figure out if you’re trans is to just socially transition and see how comfortable you are with that first.
gender is fluid and you don’t need to know right away. so no pressure.
i hope you’re doing well
@@eternallustformedusa4844 tysm! i'm doing pretty good at the moment, also so sorry about your mom, it really sucks
I tried killing myself multiple times coz I didn't have support my family abandoned me and it took me alot to get where I am and the help of u Noah too I'd watch your videos and be like right I can do this so thank u for doing your videos am so happy your doing well I wish. I could come to your tours 💝
same..
i hope your doing better now ik how hard it is :/
little bit of a vent tbh sorry (Tw: Transphobia and mentioning unaliving)
My mother being extremely transphobic and putting me down for it, and gas lighting me and saying im a terrible horrible kid and making me cry and feel so uncomfy even being by her, and she expects me to keep it to myself and not to talk about it at all, and she expects me to not unalive myself, and let it rot my insides, and then when she catches me telling my friends that shes kind of a sh***y mother she goes straight into a panic mode and she doesnt understand why I said it and she takes everything away from me thinking that would 'fix' it, and she found out by accident that I was trans and she keeps saying im 'lying' to her about my gender like woman thats what coming out is for
ahhh sorry
): i'm sorry u have to deal with people like this
they're terrible
i think ur mother will except you soon, try to explain it a little more maybe
i wish u luck, and PLS dont unalive urself
@@nonbinaryphrog Im 100% not going to, but thank you so much for the advice!!!!
"If you call someone the wrong pronoun they'll cry" trans kid here, I beg to differ!
“They’ll have all the time when adults.”
But the damage is already done by then. All the time in the world to deal with the trauma of going through a puberty that dramatically alters your body in ways that are so abhorrent to you.
What’s fair in that?
Exactly. My parents say I can only transition when I'm over 18. Now, I would understand this if they were referring to me getting top and bottom surgery because it's a pain to reverse if I get this wrong and two, it's expensive to reverse. But they said that I need to 'tow the line' as a girl and that hurt. It hurt knowing they knew what I was going through and were still forcing me be a girl with girl pronouns and a girl name. Hell, I couldn't even change my style of dressing. Luckily, I have three of my big bro's shirts that I wear all the time.
@@Paradigm-Shift208 I’m so sorry to hear that 😔 I wish you all the best with your journey and hopefully things can improve 🙏🏼
@@LAURA--- Great people like you are the only thing keeping me going. Continue being your amazing self and if someone exploits you for that, i dont know, punch em in the mouth😅🤣❤
@@Paradigm-Shift208 😂 aw thank you! Same to you!
I better start practicing my punch skills. I’ll break a wrist 😂🤜🏼🤜🏼
@@LAURA--- Hell yeah dude, I'll do the same for you if anyone bothers ya🤣🤣🤘🏾
Funny how hearing “Hello underachievers!” makes my day every time
I look up to you for a number of reasons Noah, i am starting to find myself and realise that, I think I'm trans, your videos have helped me so much, I spent a few hours binging your trans videos and they have really helped, I just wanted to say thank you 🖤
YESSS SLAYYY
@@lopsidedlizzie 🥰🖤
I love your pfp and username
@@noahlauzon8162 thanks!
Folks arguing against a point that wasn’t actually made by the opposing group is called a “Straw Man Argument.” So like saying that trans people are saying cis people can’t raise their children as their AGAB, I’ve never heard that come from a trans person and never thought that myself. Something I do identify is looking back and wishing I had grown up with less strict gender stereotypes and had been able to dress the way I wanted, and done the things I wanted to do.
Straw men arguments are designed to be weak because as the name would imply, they’re a lot easier to burn than any actual argument one is making.
i loved this video, i normally can’t engage in content that looks into transphobic/hateful content, but it feels like you’re holding my hand through this so thank you
I feel the same way. He makes it feel safer.
If only I could grab some tickets!
(I’m a kid in the US)
Same🥲
Love coming to this channel to hear Noah school transphobes right after I was misgendered by my grandma and her boyfriend today.. don’t you just love people using the wrong pronouns for you? especially on your birthday?! 🥲🙃🎉 I suck at correcting people I just melt internally lol anybody got advice?
Look the person in the eye and say,"my name is (insert name here). My pronouns are (insert chosen pronouns here). I would like you to use my correct name and pronouns."
Practice saying it alone. And lemme know if you need more help,ok?
I'm a trans woman that lives in GA. You most certain don't have to prove anything to go to the womens room
That American one is literally “my pronouns are USA🦅”
Do those washrooms not lock from the inside? They either added a needless hurdle for women to be judged or they expect men to be completely okay with people opening the door while they're going to the washroom and I'm not comfortable with either of those scenarios.
ppl be like "children aren't allowed to make any lifelong permanent decisions" then tell 12 y/o kids to choose a carreer path. like, when I was 16 I still didn't have an idea what I wanted to work as, but I sure knew whether or not I was comfortable with the pronouns people addressed me with/the way I looked etc.
or those "would u date a trans guy?" honey have u SEEN trans guys? the question is would a trans guy date u
~ 8:13 Those kinds of vids seem just AGGRESSIVELY supportive to the point it feels like they just want social points.
I’m gay, and in middle school (eighth grade I think) someone in my class asked me if I would date a trans guy. And I said “yes, trans guys are guys too” and he told me that made me bi because I apparently was willing to date girls 🙄
I've only recently accepted I'm trans and what always annoys me is when people say it's a choice. It's really not. I'd choose to be cis if I could. I'd choose not to be a demiguy if I could. Being a demiguy is really complicated to explain and it only complicates my life. But I know deep down that I'm a masculine person. I don't like she/her pronouns. It feels wrong to be referred to as female. I know I won't be happy pretending I'm a woman because I'm not a woman. I feel extremely dysphoric over my own body rn since I have "feminine features" as my family puts it.
As a straight, Cis mother with a daughter... I nearly puked at that "childrens" hooters shirt... THE FUCK
I love the argument one! (imma not type it bc I'm lazy asf so yeh) @NOAHFINNCE I get to start T next year!
Congratulations!
Sing with you head voice before it cracks lol
14:12 as a southerner, we don't claim her 😌
I use they/them pronouns and I don’t want my boobs.
Same
I don't want mine either
Can I have them?
@@Sarisjackoviak1815 oop
@@karinborgerding-ross6075?
14:52 i am a 13 y/o he/they, i know by the time i am an adult i might not still feel this way but still, i am a he/they and i look like a she/her and i hate it, but i still lile skirts and honestly i am definitely confused but this is right now so, but i am definitely thankful that my parents let me get a binder because for right now, that makes me comfortable
MY MOM WAS GONNA GET ME TICKETS TO A MISTKI CONCERT BUT THEY SOLD OUT AND SHE ASKED IF THERES ANY CONCERT I WANNA GO TO BECAUSE SHE FELT BAD AND I SAID YOUR CONCERT AND ITS GONNA BE MY FIRST CONCERT EVER AND IM SO EXCITED AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HEYO noah just wanted to say I CAME OUT AS TRANS officially yesterday and and you inspired me to come out to my family. THANK YOU :)
Friendly reminder that Harry Potter tattoos have a higher regret rate than transitioning
Sensitive ≠ calling a-holes who are being a-holes
Sensitive = being emotional
That was learning with a trans person :)
14:25 is pretty much 70% of Americans
Great video as always.
Though for someone who does their research, you did miss the point completely on gender neutral parenting.
It's not about claiming your child is nonbinary, but about not allowing society to force gender stereotypes on them by publicly stating their sex, and to give the child the chance to explore their own gender without feeling forced to conform to the one they were assigned at birth, and allowing them to express themselves however they like.
Most parents who raise their child gender neutral don't force the idea onto others, and don't claim their child is nonbinary.
Those who do are on the same level as transphobes, in my opinion.
Just don't force shit on your kids, whether you raise them gender neutral or not.
And if your child tells you their gender, name, and pronouns, try to be respectful and accept it.
no i agree with not enforcing gender stereotypes i just didn’t word it very clearly
Bro you didn’t listen to what Noah said at all did you
@@melovekittie you didn't see his reply, did you?
I listened to what he said, and his words suggested he assumed gender neutral parenting equals assuming a child is nonbinary.
He made it clear in his reply that his wording was off, but not ill intended.
It was a misunderstanding, which was clarified, nothing more.
Also, don't call me bro, please.
I don't like it.
i officially came out as trans a couple days ago and Im so happy!!
yay I’m so happy for you!!
Congratulations!!
KIAHL
Congratulations, I hope you live a happy life
“If you call people the wrong pronouns they’ll cry” *me getting misgendered every day and not crying about it*
its funny how people say gen z is too sensitive , yet throw THE BIGGEST tantrum over a person wanting to transition or be a girl/boy/non-binary
Kinda a lil story of my life:
I'm an afab enby and usually wear more feminine clothes, but this day I was wearing jeans and a hoodie. I was on the bus and had my headphones in, and the lady that asked for the ticked called me a guy, how I love wearing a mask
These types of people love to say 'let them decide when they are adults' yet still treat adult transgender people like shit
“I love jazz HaNdS 👹”
8:00 this makes me want to be cis😥
FR
I accidentally pressed a button that played my spotify while I was watching this video and it just blasted NOAHFINNCE songs over the video-
I'm planning on coming out to my parents during the summer but I'm dreadfully scared of words like...
Its just a phase
You're just copying your friend
You're hanging out with the wrong people
You're too young to know about that
What have you been watching online?
There are people in this world who will hate on you
You might get bullied
Give me your phone
This sounds stupid but I put so much pressure on myself to be perfect in every way , shape or form but I just need my parents understand, I'm still their child, that will never change, but after denying it multiple times so I wouldn't have to tell my parents , he/him just suits me, I've also decided on my trans name, I love the name Oliver, i smile when I'm called it by my friends , I've wanted short hair since I was young. Oliver .... just sounds so perfect :)
Also I've been in a relationship with a girl before my mother and father knew about it and supported me but weren't interely happy as I have a no dating rule. And I agree with that rule, I need to focus on school, not partners.
I also have a ftm bestie who is the nicest person I have ever met. He's protective over me and protects me from some bullies who try to make me feel insignificant. And that's what makes him the best.
(Also you've gotta love it when he brings his friends to the merry go round and one t-poses in the middle, that's just the cherry on top)
Anyways telling parents soon
I'll update on how it went
Did you tell them yet? If you did, I hope it went well.
hey, the first name i chose after realizing i was a trans man was oliver! it didn't suit me personally but i'm glad it does for someone else. i hope your coming out went well :)
11:22 100% understand that! I didn’t want to believe that I was transmasc, so I went with gender fluid, agender, non-binary and so on, because accepting that, was easier to me than accepting me being transmasc. Now I’ve come out to a lot of people as transmasc and I found out my mother is transphobic af and talks sh*t about me behind my back ;-;
it's hilarious and slightly concerning how "hello underachievers" always makes my day
Don't make it concerning just know there's someone there for u when he says that :D
@@ashytashy aww thas sweet :)
@@cor-ad-cor :D we have the same name lol hello ash
Him: I don't think anyone wants to date someone who doesn't like them! Thats not a vibe
Me a lesbian in love with a straight girl: nope not a vibe at all
Me a trans lesbian: “why is the girl I enjoy spending time with straight?”
Girl I enjoy spending time with: “I don’t think I’m not straight, but I also think you pretty, I’d like to try dating you”
Me: *surprised pikachu*
@@IceFoxPlaysActual is this a good thing? If so yay, if not, sorry about that
@@Lynn_B25 well we have been together for 6.5 months now, and things are going well
@@IceFoxPlaysActual oh wonderful!!!
but.. the gas station bathroom.. it was.. it was a single toilet bathroom. there is only.. one toilet.. and one sink in there.. why do they.. i’m what there’s literally no point only ONE person can use it at a time wtf
i want a rat
I am a rat
Why
Me too :DD
Rats are cute
At least two, three if you care, five is perfect
This is American phobic I would kill to see you on tour
**claps in Asian**
@@kelsewer9672 I feel your pain 😔
*claps in central european* this... Is very deep😔
**claps in Australian**
me being bi and trans is the ultimate “you’re confused” thing so that’s fun for me lol