My Silent Struggle At The Hands Of A Family Member
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ย. 2024
- Welcome back to Unfiltered Stories! In today's powerful episode, we listen to Steven Smith's life journey. Raised in a dysfunctional home with an aggressive father, Steven endured a challenging childhood. He turned to another family member hoping to find a father figure in his life. Tragically, this person took advantage of Steven's vulnerable situation, causing him even more pain.
After he started his healing journey, he realized he had to leave this man and the pain he had left behind. That's why he forgave him despite what he did. This act of forgiveness allowed Steve to move forward and find peace within himself.
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If you only knew 😢
Idk how the jelly small works but I filled it out hoping u get back to me I got a story to tell your was so inspiring I’m not scared anymore
I've got a library worth of stories.
🙏🏾 Lord he went through so much. He was so unprotected. His father was demonic and abusive. It's also sickening what the family member did to him. This is more common than people realize. In the end I'm glad he was able to forgive them and properly heal.
Amen!!!
I don’t have kids yet, but stuff like this makes me want to keep my future children away from EVERYONE.
@@kinley.-. I completely understand
Definitely
Who was the Abuser 💁🏾♀️ the brother??
I was sexually abused by my oldest brother who was 11 when I was 3. I have a B.S. in Accounting and I have nothing to do with any siblings and my EVIL MOTHER who knew
So sorry you went through that and the fact that your mom knew is even worse.🙏
Tbh your brother was most likely abused first and he knew no better when he abused you. Everyone of yall need therapy just avoiding and not having a breakthrough doesnt help , those feelings will come back
@@RvaStreetInterviews You are so true. I had an opportunity to tell him that he was a child himself. I forgave him but he never admitted it. He said I open Pandoras box. Mind over matter. I'm in my PEACE.
@@CookieMonster910 you will prevail to the highest Its crazy this happened to my family members and I was the voice for them decades later , I became the black sheep because I "opened Pandora's box" it's crazy . I really feel for survivors
@@RvaStreetInterviews Thanks. My brothers exacts words when I finally confronted him is I opened up PANDORAS BOX. I'm from Brooklyn NY and I'm in Montgomery Al and none of my siblings was not allowed here. They feel CRUNCHY because I successfully moved on and I won't turn into a pillow of salt.
I'm so sorry for the awful childhood traumas that you endured, Steven. I pray for your continued healing and happiness. You deserve happiness. 🫶🏽💞
She pulled that gun on the wrong person.
I was thinking that
But who has her kids when she in jail for it ?
DV situations are very sticky
Get smacked one day
No couches to surf on plus kids
Plus no money
Not to say it’s impossible
But it’s so many hard solutions needed at one time that they really are stuck until they can break
The "father figuring " ? Was really just the grooming process
Yes, it was
We all love you, Steven...God Bless you my brother in Christ. Thank You Jesus, for healing this man's soul and using him for YOUR GLORY!!
My dad was just as mean, drunk, violent, verbally abusive, financially irresponsible, etc..just like your dad..the only difference was he didn’t abuse me and my brother…it caused a lot of damage in us…what we didn’t know was he was a very hurt man himself….
How did you find out he was a hurt man? Did he tell you? Just curious
@@BigNoe-u7u some things were revealed that we didn’t know about…
Same situation for me and my husband but I and my husband fathers were abused by their father although it wasn't sexual they were abusing a whole lot a ways
That is abusive just not physical..verbal and physically abuse cause the same damage internally
What is the deal with women failing to get their children out of harm's way? Its just horrible. Thank you for your story, brother.
Because they sell their kids to em
Mothers can be just as bad. There are mothers who abuse their children.
I wish she had that energy with her husband she had with the woman
Exactly. I’m sure this mother may have had love for her children but you can’t love nobody if you don’t truly love God and yourself, she had all the energy to pull out a gun on the woman and passing, but allowed her kids to clean up Dookie after a grown ass man. Disgusting both parents.
It doesn’t take medicine for people to become crazy so it won’t take medicine to heal trauma. It takes something deeper and spiritual.
I lived in an abusive environment and experienced similar traumas. Was diagnosed with BP 2 and given meds. Decided after a few years that I did not want to depend on pills. My mood and sense of peace has actually improved (no more fits of range or bottlled up anger coming out sideways) and I agree that meds are not the answer. It's about finding peace in God.
@@smustipher some medicines are helpful but some aren’t. I think it’s about finding God first and trusting in these other things secondarily.
JESUS 🙏🙏🙏
You spoke a good word @kingmulahoo4925.
👍.❤️❤️❤️.
My doctor told me to write a book to tell my story. You have inspired me, brother. I have had snippets published online in abuse healing programs. I pray in Jesus’ HOLY NAME that the abuse I have endured to be used for His glory. Amen.
Many blessings to u and write that book i need to write like two lol… i love ur name by the way 🩷🧡🩷🧡🩷🧡
It's crazy the abuse children suffer in their lives these testimonies are uplifting when you're been there and understand
Hello, you are welcome. This is Steven Smith. Thank you for listening to my story. I'm glad it inspired you..
So proud of you. My psychology professor told me to write a book to tell my story as well. When you have Jesus, you can handle the toughest situations. May the Lord bless you!!!
@@Eurael Please do it it will release a lot from within your soul
This man is a real man, one who can talk about his pain and teach others how to deal with these horrible situation. Gay doesn't make you bad it makes you real. I hope this man is happy and always will be
He was a weekend warrior. Drank up his pay check. When the money was gone he was angry with his family.. A sick cycle.
This man is the perfect example of God's Forgiveness, God's Love and God's Mercy. The perfect example of The Love of a Praying Mother. The perfect example of The Love children have for their parents. That we all need forgiveness and we all need to forgive. Thank you for this amazing story. I'm so happy you came through it with such light ❤
My sentiments exactly. I couldn’t have said this any better myself ❤
Your self awareness and transformative perspective is incredible to listen. Your presence is a gift 🤎
Steve in sorry that you and your mother and siblings were treated so horribly im glad that you were able to forgive the people who hurt you and managed to heal and move on with your life you are a survivor
yes it was so rough growing up, the way we were beaten, verbally abused, I thought Satan lived with us too, I felt like we lived with a slave owner, we starved, brothers tied to the furnace, both parents beat us, cords, switches, hoses, church Sunday, party Sunday night, molested, missing school, foster care multiple times, talking to brothers from a window in foster care, my soul look back & wonder how I got over 🙌🏽
I’m so sorry 😢
@@justred5164 thank you 🥰
🙏🏾🙏🏾JESUS!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@Sharon-cm5dmAmen😔❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾
God❤❤
Many times, when people are molested by the same sex this creates the desire, that same sex attraction. He mentioned that he & the other gae guys who were traumatized were hoping to find that same man. God can heal. He can deliver ❤
Amen!!! The LORD can heal and deliver anyone from their sins if they have faith in JESUS CHRIST alone! 🙏
@miaflowers3572 Indeed. We overcome by the blood of the lamb
@@inmyownwords9798 -Amen and Amen sister!!! ❤🙏
They actually drop off demonic lust spirits, soul ties are formed
@@tiaroulhac1485 oh yeah
We need more men to stand up for women! Thank you!
Lord Have Mercy 🙏 🥺 😫 😩 😪 😭 🙏
This story brought me to tears you never know what someone is going threw always be kind and treat people with love kindness and respect this story has taught me to do more with my life and God loves everyone no matter what keep putting him forward I will forever pray for you your such a beautiful man and I pray God will forever be with you and your brother
Wow! Your story pointed out some of my traumas. God prepared me for 30 days that my momma was going to die. I had some molestations that I have never dealt with.
Praying for you 🙏
May our LORD JESUS comfort you, heal you, and restore your soul.
WOw!! What a beautiful ending, love this !! God is so good, I'm so happy for you, Thank you Jesus
Sending a virtual hug! Thanks for sharing this testimony. God is indeed a healer and the one who transforms our lives. You are right! No matter how deep the trauma goes, our Father can find us where we are and bring healing that not only transforms our lives but that of others as well. Blessings to you Steven!
The stress from growing up with an abusive father in a violent and chaotic home is real: my mother passed from cancer in her early 40s, my older brother passed from cancer in his early 30s, my younger sister had a stroke in her 30s and another have sibling has an autoimmune disease. I recieved a mental health diagnosis and have PTSD. If I end up passing early I would not be surprised, I am physically healthy and do my best to enjoy my life while I still have it.
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What a coward of a dad! I wish you guys could have called the cops 😢. I'm sorry you had to go through that. My step dad was verbally, mentally and physically abusive to mom when he got drunk.
Such a great testimony!!! I've always said that most gay ppl were molested at a young age and thats what made them think they were gay! Ur testimony is beautiful!!
So so many of them were....you're very right.
It's so true and this isn't talked about.
Yes, that's what I've noticed about them. They're so confused and hurt from the abuse.
His story and words of comfort and advice really inspired and touched me dearly. I too have experienced some stuff and my life has been a struggle and I’ve often wondered what the blockage but now I realise I have so much anger and rage and I am struggling with forgiveness. I seek validation and vindication from my tormentors and abusers which I will never get. Even as I type this it’s such a struggle to let go but I realise it’s the only way.
So sorry you experienced such a traumatic childhood. Thanks for sharing your story, your helping me and others. It must have been so difficult as a man on top of that a black gay man to speak your truth. You are a very strong, brave man. That man groomed you. I really believe as a young boy who suffered molestation in the hands of a man, the chemicals in your brain where disrupted therefore you took the path as being gay. Like you when I suffered molestation in childhood I myself grew up a very angry person and at times I would come up in to a man's face and didn't care. Trauma does lead to stress and illnesses on the body. To except the love of God in your life really helps you to go on, it did me. I cannot find the heart to forgive, however, I have moved on. Counselling helps. I pray continuous love, light. healing and peace over your life 💜🙏🏾💜
And that's the hard thing about sin, knowing that your life and identity would've been completely different before encountering sin. Also, with sin, even if it's something inflicted on you as a child, you are pretty much on your own with deliverance and healing.
I think of it like this: someone you trusted fed you something that made you sick, but there aren't really any specialty doctors or nurses that can help with your illness. And that's how it is for some people. They need specialty health care but where are the equipped ministries?
So much wisdom in what you’ve said!
These stories sound so unreal to the point that I can’t realize. I didn’t grow up like that in an abusive home. I glad you made it through.
I didn’t realize how often these things happen in homes…physical abuse I knew about, but sexual abuse is messed up. From a family member …. I thought that was a rare occurrence. My heart goes out to folks who have experienced that.
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It's bad when z father rapes his own daughter..but his own SON!!! Jesus please come now😭😭😢
Mr. Smith what a beautiful soul in that picture. You suffered so much. You are not alone. I pray that you have peace in your life and I'm praying for you. You are a survivor, a winner and fighter.
Thank you for sharing your testimony. My heart broke for you, your brother, and Mother. We don't know each other, but I love you with the love of Christ, my brother!
God bless you. You are such a strong man, and I learned a lot from you!!!
Thank you
I wish the rest of the Gay men would come out and tell their stories. Mostly ALL gay men were molested.
Its true though.
@@ronin8402 Yep, I actually started researching this about 10 yrs ago and also talked to about 50 or so + gay men and they all pretty much had the same story, they were all m olested at a young age. Its so Sad and it needs to be told, so we can shame those who feel so comfortable doing this disgusting vile things to innocent children.
False
Not true
Not true at all.
Excellent testimony from start to finish. God truly is a miraculous God and lifesaver. Thank you Steven for sharing your impactful story. God bless you.❤️
I listen to your story you are an amazing man I'm so glad you were able to heal from the trauma. I just want to say how blessed your mom was to have you and your brother by her side. I sit here and listen to you and think about my own life and get chills from the past thank you so much for sharing your life with us and congratulations on your marriage.
@unfilteredstories Thank you for sharing my truth. Thank you for allowing me to come when you platform and be able to vocalize my truth to help others in this world. God bless you. Thank you everyone that is listening to my story. It really is a blessing to be able to tell my truth.
Your story is powerful. How you not only endured but how you overcame is amazing! GOD Bless you 🙏🏾
It's never easy to relive childhood trauma.Thank you for sharing your story. Sending you much love sweet angel!!
Which we was the flyest 😂
Bless you for sharing this: you are an amazing man and I appreciate you so much
I was serving at the local centers that serviced unsheltered community members, formally, incarcerated individuals, those with substance use disorders, those with past traumas or current ones, those with abuse, whether domestic or from childhood; they shared stories and they inspired me to start families against incest, rape, and families against incarceration rape. F.A.I.R.
Awesome!
God bless u
Wowww you’ve blown me away ! God bless you babe and may you continue to heal through all that hurt and pain ! You look great and you’ve inspired me so much ❤️🥰
God bless you I’m so sorry you had to grow up that way and that your family was treated so badly. You are a beautiful person and inspiring
God never gives us more than we can handle. You're such a strong person.
I think gay men got that way from being sexually abused, all of the ones I knew had been abused. The demons enter through the horrendeous act that only God can cure. I hope for healing for these people.
Ghirl all gay men have not been abused.
What a awesome testimony of the goodness of God.😊
As the man (Gen 1:26-28) KJV, a husband (Gen 2:21-25) and a father (Gen 3:16), the minister of God (Rom 13), teacher (Eph 4) and one of the survivors who was bullied in school, I am so sorry this happened to you. If I could have protected you from being harmed by "it", I would have, but I can not be everywhere all at once. (1 John 4)
What a beautiful testimony ! God bless you🙏🏾💕
His mom failed them. She was weak and that dumb religion kept her in that position. Also, pull a gun on the woman but not the bandit that beat you down. SMH
You have it all twisted. God is not dumb…!
Shut up! Have you been in a situation like that before? Don't judge someone's life, especially if you haven't gone through it
How is it unfiltered stories if you're filtering out the words?!
20 min in and the struggle of holding back my tears has come to an end 🥺
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR MARRIAGE❤❤❤❤
Sending you huge , giant, warm hugs 💕💕💕
I'm so sorry this happened to you, sir 😢❤ I pray you continue to find strength in God and His love ❤ you were so strong to come through the darkness and come out the other side with a heart of gold and love ❤
Sending a virtual hug 🫂 Keep going and inspiring people to overcome!❤
Wow! You're a beautiful soul. I felt so much pain listening to your story. God Bless you. 🙏
Sending Love ❤❤❤ This is why you don't judge anybody for good or bad ❤❤❤
It's so so hard to forgive but once you do a release happens and the hate floats away and leaves peace of mind in it's place.
Forgiveness means the harm never happened. There has got to be a better word so true forgiveness is not tainted.
Your patience and bravery is remarkable and inspiring ! Love u brother and sending u prayers
He was a VERY Handsome man back in the day WOW!
Right 😅 lol and still is 😍
Jesus Christ this man went through a lot, thank God for his story
My dear Steven, you are so correct about "a life spiraling out of control," and we have to be on guard and very alert when it comes to our most precious gems: our children.
That was a victory story given Our Father God the Glory in Jesus name.
May the rest of your long life be the best of your life .💯🔥🕊️. Praising our Jesus
LOVE speaks volumes 💓
Amen! Thank you brother for you have overcome the darkness in Jesus name🙌🏾
Thank you everyone
God bless you, your story has so much power in it. I was saddened by listening at first but left with a smile. Happy to hear that you’ve overcome!!
and society, including religion, would say this person is the problem. this person is a complainer, this person causing issues by speaking up
this situation sounds like my life back then.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Yessssssss Brother I'm so proud of You and I'm so sorry for what you had endured, you and your mom and siblings. Peace and Blessings to You and Your Family 😊
Omg what an amazing strong, beautiful sole you are 💜 i wish you and your siblings all the health, happiness for the future, and hope you all find peace 💖
Laaaaaaaawd he's talking 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 he spoke nothing but facts. That looking in the mirror! 👏👏🗣🗣
You look so familiar ❤ I'm in Houston TX. God continue to cover him in the blood of jesus AMEN ❤❤❤
I use to visit Houston doing fashion shows
My gay brother when I listen to this video I just could not stop crying 😢. I will keep you in my prayers ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾
He’s no longer gay, the LORD has redeemed him and delivered him! 🙏 GLORY! ALLELUYAH!! THANK YOU KING JESUS, OUR REDEEMER AND DELIVERER!!!!! THE ONLY ONE WHO SAVES!!! THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN DO THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!
Much respect to you
This testimony blessed me so much. Thank you for being so strong and encouraging others.
God is good. What a wonderful testimony
Thank you for your testimony thank you for sharing! I am so sorry what you and your family had to go through prayers
Your story made me cry because it reminded me of my childhood house of horror, God Bless you Sir❤️
I’m sorry to hear that. 🌹🙏 JESUS bless you and keep you. May HE provide you love, peace, healing and comfort. Stay strong!!
Hi. This is so scary and sad! I'm sorry to this sweet man
Love ❤and forgive Thank you for sharing your story
Thanks for sharing. Despite your journey you're so wise.
You were such a handsome young boy. Wow!
God Bless you Steven 🙏🏾
Thank you God bless you too.
I was in a lesbian for 13yrs Lord I thank you for turning me around 💜🙏🏾
You weren’t a lesbian. Likely bisexual and suppressed your desire for men, smh. Now you’re likely doing the opposite. Also possible you never really liked women, it was just easier than facing your issues with men.
@@03nowwowpreach
YOUR STORY IS SO BEAUTIFUL .I Thank GOD for You .❤ LOVE YOU
Instead of forgiving him ,you should have told everyone what he has done.
I am so sorry for your abuse, I too was abused by a close relative. But yet today God delivered his punishment to him.
How was he punished
It’s ok and good for you to forgive. However you should press charges on him!!! They have recently raised the statue of limitation’s on these kind of crimes. People must be held accountable!!! They rarely ever are and this is why they do it AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN!
GOD BLESS YOU for sharing your life story❤
GRATEFUL YOU MADE IT THROUGH! THANK GOD!❤ MANY OF 'US' HAS EXPERIENCE SERIOUS 'TRAUMA' FROM PEOPLE WHO SHOULD HAVE LOVED YOU....GOD ' GOT ME THROUGH ISSUES...I FORGIVE...HOWEVER I DONT PURSUE...RE ENTRANCE (I DONT HATE THEM ANY LONGER) GOD DIRECTS ME AND I TRUST HIM TO LIFT ME UP❤. I SEND YOU BLESSINGS❤❤❤CONGRATS' ON YOUR BOOKS..WHICH I BELIEVE IS PART OF 'YOUR HEALING. LOVE TO YOU.
Pioneer..all blessings to you Sir 🎉🎉
So sad.. My Question is for the majority of Gayez who endure Being Rapped... why as an adult do you continue to relive this ordeal with other men? Not to mention the denial that it ever happened? The first step of healing is to expose who rapped you...and to know that sodomy is wrong.. Stop reliving this experience every day!
Powerful! JESUS bless you, brother!!!!!!
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THERE IS NO ONE THAT JESUS CHRIST CAN NOT SAVE!!!! JESUS CAN SAVE YOU, CALL ON HIS NAME, TODAY!!! 🙏🌹🙌
Thank you for sharing and acknowledging the Lord. You bring hope for others. Romans 8:28
Thank you for sharing your story. Im rivetted to the phone listening. So glad you healed yourself. I know it was a lot of work and hurt. Be well and at peace.
God is able to do all things and ur a perfect example! He specializes ❤Thank you for your story!
WHY DO WOMEN STAY IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS????
Unless you've been there or know someone very close to you, you will never understand Also it is possible that you already know someone that is in or in the past has been a DV relationship
You should be thankful for your walk (which isn't perfect) and have some mercy and grace
I will never understand either!! Somebody beating your azz every wkend in front of your kids and you’re terrified to live in your own home?! This is ridiculous.
@@kimberlyb6522sometimes its financial support....sometimes they have been threatened and scared. The kids have been threatened. Unless you know, you don't know. Please dont be so quick to judge. A close friend of mine was killed by DV. We had no idea until she was killed. She stayed because he was the "man" and the provider. The only blessing was, he didn't do it in front of her children. And because of this, she hid it from everyone.
Neither of them deserved forgiveness! You should give the name of the low life that abused you... Don't protect his identity!
May The Almighty God in Heaven continue to bring peace & happiness in your life....Amen.🙏🏾
Congratulations to you for going to Christ. You will not regret it. May peace be into you❤
ladies GET JOBS!! and leave at the 1st sign of abuse, if not for you, for your babies !!!🤧😡😡😡
Absolutely, thank you for sharing I also looked up to someone as a big sister and it quickly turned into abuse, I will never consider it a relationship because I was a minor, I myself was saved and delivered by God and now is Obsessed with watching the evil and horror of this World, Thank you for sharing to God be the Glory 🙌🏽