Not responding doesn't necessarily imply you agree with them and are insecure, it could be that others words simply no longer bother you and responding is a waste of time and energy. Good video anyway!
No. Not responding is always a bad thing.The problem is, *you* might think "I don't care. Why would I bother?" but that doesn't count for the other person. There are many ways one can interpret silence but none of them is positive. Even if you really don't care, you should react. You can do something as simple as saying "Ok, if you think so." and then just walk away. This way you will ignore them. It's not even much more but the effect is a whole different. Most typically, people will count silence as a victory (in what ever they're trying to achieve...). And that might even make things worse. However, if you react and then move on, you show them "yeah I heared you but I don't care.".
There's a lot of people who laugh off an insult and respond the "confident" way, suggested in this video. And deep down, behind their fake laugh, they are feeling hurt. I think the third method also allows people to insult you and tells them that it's acceptable behavior. I remember when I was young I never knew I was insulting my sister's friends and our cousins because they would laugh it off. Until their moms would call my mom talking about how distressed we made their daughters feel by our jokes. I think it's better to correct the person by letting them know that they made an inappropriate remark and it doesn't and it does not deserve the dignity of a response.
Moromo Music I do what he says, laugh it off and joke about it if it’s not that bad. But there are times when you have to be firm about what you dislike and really just don’t care about. I believe that is what he should also include in the video. Because you shouldn’t let everything offend you but you shouldn’t brush off stuff that means a lot to you.
but arent you being too nice to assholes by just telling they hurt you? Assholes should be hurt more than they did to you imo. Only problem is - how to not get hurt even more from some people after that :( I think that way goes to killing people sometimes.
I rarely have people insult me. But when I do, I literally laugh and genuine struggle to take it seriously if the insult holds no real weight xD If its constructive criticism, I happily take it and remove any emotion from the equation. It was awesome seeing your perspective. Keep the videos coming, you really got something here.
the thing is about somebody being insulting is they gain power out of the situation. They enjoy pissing you off and get a kick out of it. The video shows one way to take their enjoyment away because you laugh it off. However with some people, such as passive aggressives, this laughing it off is a declaration of war and they will come at you all the more because they'll say you can take it and laugh it off. This is when things get more interesting because you've got deal with not just their rude comments but also the underlying bullying. The best way is to remember that they're doing for kicks so you take the fun or of it by owning the insult (shown in video) and give it back to them. You look like you've put on weight. Yea I have, you inspired me, lol The idea is they stop insulting you when they realise it's being reflected back on themselves.
I agree. I always was the quiet person that would just laugh it off but suddenly realized the same person would continue to attack me.... i would pretend i'm not hurt but I actually am and replay what they said in my head. I think there is not a one size fits all -- you have to know generally who the person doing the insulting is and what insult is it, I believe.
You'll break your arm and end up looking like a weakling. The human skull is the hardest part of the body and your hand is the weakest. You do the math.
***** exactly the reason why you shouldn't get emotional. Most people have never punched anyone before, and if they do it ends up in their wrist being injured. Reality sucks, but hey...what can you do? Emotional idiots are going to be emotional.
ya mom swallows kids on the daily That's not good. Ive used that method every time someone insults me, it's not good people start getting scared and avoiding you.
i have hard time responding to insults as well. Usually when someone insults me i stay quiet and i take it too personally. but next time i'll try this method.
i stay quiet too except i don't really get offended......just think most ppl opinions are pointless and even if they are true so what i know my weaknesses way better than anyone ........it's like they are telling me that the sky is blue or sumthing
Zexion98 This video was intended for people who get offended easily when the other person means no offense. Dealing with someone who is actually trying to offend you might be a different topic.
If you are staying silent you open the door more... They notice that they can do it without any response, feeling a dominant position where they use it against you, basically how bullying works...
no you're actually befriending him. now that you have replied to his insult in positive manner, you too can insult him next time without offending him.
mcsnurtle that is so insulting and fucking boring at the same time that halfway of the sentence, person who insulted you will just go away and never talk to you neither positively nor negatively.
Feeling hurt is necessary to help you agree to the insult. Just agree what they said and work on it. Because you're hurt, you'll be motivated to do whatever it takes so they no longer can insult you on the thing they insulted you on before.....
No no no you stop it at its source at the beginning your basically asking them to keep evolving their strategies come on there's no pacifist way out of this
I am a pychologist and i can say that depends of three factors of how you could react: 1) Who is the person who says that. 2)The magnitude of the insult. 3)The context of the situation or your day.
I would disagree and amplify. You want the insulter to be stigmatized for being rude...otherwise they won't conform to unspoken social rules, thus becoming a rude person altogether
I once was in a family reunion and a number of my relatives wouldn't stop commenting on how much weight I have put in. Initially I laughed it off, joked about it with them and did not show them that I was offended. They kept coming at me all throughout the day (we arrived in the morning, and was there until around 9 PM, so yeah) repeating the same comments everytime they see me or pass by me. It drained me so much I ended up crying in a room and feeling so depressed. It caused me to not meet anyone of my relatives for more than a year and that's when they realized that they were wrong. The whole incident scarred me until now, traumatized me so much I avoid social gatherings altogether as much as I can. Sometimes there are just some people who wouldn't stop until they see you break, no matter how much you agree or disagree with them.
yeah i got so fucking fat I don't know how to look at myself anywhere below my boobs. no I actually been fasting - no food for 3 days. I'm proud of myself - now i can fit into clothes not especially made for me :). and I'm getting even better thanks for worrying about me though.
This video is a lot of help, but I'm not very good at responding to complements either. they make me feel awkward and I'm never really sure what to say besides thanks.
Gta5410 u dumb fuk, your english is not good that doesn't imply that Indians are not good at it, infact if u research u'll find that indians r among the top best english speaking people. leave alone the benefits u've got from this video in ur 3rd class college.
when you get a compliment just look them in the eye and say thank you. (perfect) thanks for noticing ( a bit arrogant) you think so? I always though you're the smart one. (insecure) ookay?(unappreciative,rude or not accepting the compliment) if it's like a questions you start with thanks and then you actually answer if you dont really know you can say something like thanks. though i don't know I guess I was born this way. (slightly funny and arrogant.) thank you. my intelligence comes from lots and lots of books(short simple) thank you. i try to improve myself a lot including biography books, movies, tutorials for which i spend at least 3 hours every day.(long and easy to continue if the person you speak with wants to know more.)
Thank you....I was just being bullied online by some people I thought were my friends... I shut off my computer in sadness and regret..... I got my phone to go on TH-cam because that always cheers me up. I saw this video in my recommended and watched it. It helped so much. Thanks you!
I don't agree with this video. Here, you are talking about jokes between (most of the time) friends. I am interested about how to react to someone who insults you in a way he disrespects you and whants a fight. Someone who challanges you. So not about jokes.
The best way to hit inside the one that offended u is using sarcasm that does not appear offending in the outside. But in tbe inside. It will make ur opponent looking like a fool of he reacts to much of it. And u can just say.. I didnt say that. U the one who thoughy about it hahaha
When somebody says something and says it again later, like your so ugly, and then later they say it again, just say, “You already said that” and if the person gets pissed off easily say, You already said that, do not repeat yourself” and then say the same thing again repeating yourself and they will be confused, pissed, annoyed, or will just give up, it is so simple and effective.
but they can beat you then if they are pissed. Its kind of conflict. On one hand you want to piss them and annoy them because they did it to you. But if they can hurt you physically - you do not want that. How to deal with that?
Improvement Pill hey man I have a question.I am usually the funny kid in each of my classes until one day there was just someone who beat me to it; now when ever I say something it doesn't even seem to be funny anymore because the other guy is the one making all the jokes and stealing my mojo.I feel like I can't be be the funny one when someone else is doing it better.Any tips on how I can make my jokes flow with his or top his?
I had been an Option 2 for so long. Thanks for the insight. This video actually help me understand myself more. I will change now. This is quality content.
This happens to me most of the time and I’m always freaking out! I kept quiet every time people insulted me not until they crossed the line. 😅 Thank you for making this vid! Such a huge help buddy!
I used to stay quiet when people would insult me in their joking/ but not really joking way, and sometimes I would try to go along and make a joke, It's the worst thing to do, if someone insults you and its deliberate, let them know right away that it's rude and you don't appreciate it. Agreeing and playing it off or keeping quiet makes you a target for bullying.
My question how to respond when people go way below the belt with a comment? This seems to be the norm today? It's very childish, immature and disrespectful, it's ok laughing and joking with friends but let's say you have a dog, you have it from a pup and it passes away at a ripe old age, now this dog has been with you through thick and thin, the good the bad and some one outside your circle makes a wise crack? Like it's just a dog get over it? That's just one off the top of my head, I find this from the younger generations, ego, image, getting that last one in kind of attitude, now I'm not saying all are like this but in my line of work this is common place? Life can take some real shitty turns for some people and a below the belt comment when people are at a all time low is not needed? What's the best way to deal with such people?
+Greg Rodgers By asking them questions that decode their behaviour and makes them self reflect. In your example with the dog you can ask: "Why have you said that it is "just a dog?" " He/she might reply: "Because the lives of dogs don't matter so much" "Why don't they matter so much?" "Because they are less developed species than us" . . . "So are you saying that a less developed being has lesser value than a more advanced one?" "Yes" "Why?" "..." If you keep asking these types of questions you will get to the truth why that person is doing what is doing; whether that person has a different belief system from you or whether that person is just plain mean. Then you can decide for yourself if he/she has a point or not. If he has, you can acknowledge their right and shift your perspective, if you want to. If not, then he/she might self reflect and change point of view(if that person is not a fool). Either way, problem solved. If you keep practising this strategy, you will reach a point where when people cross the line, you will immediately know the answer to their behaviour and don't even bother about it. It will be their problem, not yours.
+Greguar12345 If you ask "Do lesser developped species deserve less rights?" and they answer "Yes", then just say: "In that case, you obviously don't warrant the right of my attention" and walk away. End of story.
Jacob Williamson Unfortunately when I say that, they try to “correct” me and say “No its not a opinion its a fact”. I tell them well it’s your opinion that your opinion is a fact, until they get confused and give up.
actually I thought it was really kind and thoughtful of you to answer someone's question and help us to deal with abusive people in a humerous way that doesn't hurt anyone. thank you
Dear Improvement Pill, I'd like to ask you to make a video to my following questions : - What to do to not to be racially abused or commented on? - How to stay awake to focus on studying for examples? - How to gain youtube videos views? - What's the best way to study? Thanks in advance. Your videos are so intellectually helpful!!!
If their main purpose in insulting you to piss you off and you keep undermining their comments like this video has taught they will stop insulting you. Easy! Agree and Amplify will always work.
Hi, I just watched your FORD video with Practical Psychology. I really like the way you animate your videos and wanted to say keep up the good work. Not subscribing for now (since most of your videos seem to be male-focused), but you've got some quality stuff.
I have been called a nerd or Weaboo or much worse thing but I have been subconsciously doing this to everyone for the last few years, and I don’t have any majors issues or depression because if you do this then you come off as a better person to both the Bully and the people watching. Then you can meet people because they think that your funny. This technique really increases your strength as a person in all ways.
I assume many people watched this video because they are insecure about themselves, or they do not know how to deal with insults. Well, a good comeback should not just absorb whatever was said. That's a very shallow interpretation. A good comeback should be true, both to the situation, and to the context. In other words, do not just retort nonsense about the other person, because that makes you look like a fool. Furthermore, if you are going to insult another person, at least come up with a real insult, one that is actually true. That is how you truly insult another person. A good retort should be specially suited to the person and circumstance, so do not memorize rhetoric from an online website. It is not poetry class! Remember to be dynamic and knowledgable. A knowledgable is invincible when it comes to rhetoric. Read a lot of rhetoric and witticisms. And do not go around looking to engage in fights, just so you can practice some jargon.
this video literally speaks to how I am personally, especially option 2, i normally just tell people who insult me like "okay" or" think what you want", however what they say keep playing over and over in my head and makes me angry.
Unless were just talking about cracks amongst friends... honestly this might be your worst video, if you respond like that it sends the message that your ok with it much more so than even the second option. Only use option 3 if you found the insult and the person saying it, so beneath you that you GENUINELY find it humorous.
I enjoy the thoughts that you make me think. It's like giving me the power to take the buildings/structures in my mind and lift them up and sweep under them. Thank you
I guess it comes down to your ability to creatively come up with an alternative of what to say, based off your experience with conversations like that. Someone outgoing and always in a group talking will firstly be less likely to be the focus of an insult, and will also have experienced it happen to other people and know how it feels too. All these social experiences allow you to decide creatively about your response. Try and try again. If you say something stupid and get dropped on because of what you said to yourself make your answer a little less believable and try again next time it happens. Don't let this become a big concern every time you go out with friends
some people call me something which i am not ..how should i respond to them ....i try to ignore them but their words keep hurting me from inside ..what should i do
The way you respond to insults depends on the audience. If the audience is a friend then this video is perfect. if the audience is a stranger then a few other optimal options come to mind: asking "why do you think that?" and potentially showing vulnerability as you ask for feedback, or saying "bother someone else!", or making a game of it and sparring by saying "Yeah, I might catch up with you!". People who are vulnerable get hurt more often, but they also are happier overall, and they are much more resilient to bad stuff happening.
I usually give them the "you sure you wanna play this game" stare and if they don't back down I'll engage in their little game, but I don't take it too far. I'm a lover not a fighter. I'm not scared to let someone have the last word, in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter because I've usually focused more on turning the frame in my favor, and at that point I've won anyways no matter what their little quip is.
I used to be Option A. Later on, I was option B. But thanx to this vid, I will try my best to be option C, to do whatever it takes to not get offended by whenever my friends insult me. Thank U once again.✌
dude i this is the first time i seen the video but i have been doing the 3rd option even before. but sometimes when i do this other people would continue insulting me even more about the topic and as a result ill go to option 2.
Like +OnePercentBetter has said, I rarely have people insult me. But when I do, I say nothing back. Nothing. It's the mature thing to do, it shows that you're mature and makes the person who insulted you look bad.
Trust me bro. You're not a mistake. You have some sort of purpose in this crazy life. I too have questioned why I'm here. It's a very difficult question to answer but if you find your purpose, you'll feel better.
I agree with your solution in certain instances. But sometimes, when someone says something offensive as a joke I reply as “Are you saying that I am this or that ?” This way they become aware of why they are saying without you have to change the frame of the conversation
Before they try to get into my mind? One of two things will happen, I will either laugh and walk away or? Instantly go straight into rage and be looking for a fight
thanks IMPROVEMENT PILL for this awesome video i got insulted by other people but i never understood why i usually got insulted and people start making fun of me now i get it bcoz of my way of dealing it with by staying quiet thanks a lot man keep making this video
Best option is to look at them sharp in the eyes so you both make eye contact, chuckle for a moment and continue watching them in the eyes.. They maybe gonna try to insult you later again, but that hurts them from inside very hard and they will stop it :) . Im glad if i help you !
this video this channel is a gem I've found, thank you improvement pill, you've changed my life... I've become a stronger person bcoz of u... you're my virtual bestie ♥️♥️
Ignoring works best.... Unless you work directly under an insulter or live with one, but I just read cold showers also work so, Praying helps a bit too. A combination usually works best. Use combos!
i am using an app where people (strangers) are oftenly get insulted ..My way to dodge that problem is to face it...I started making fun of the situation and sometimes a witty reply can stun and shock them..and others laugh at it. so the tip is you have to be witty, extremely funny, wise , intelligent at the same time to counter that problem..
You can just shake your head with a "I feel sorry that you are like this" motion. It will make them feel like they tried to bring you down, but instead you brought them down.
Hey man, I'm a simple guy that just wants to go out there and be better at what I do, playing piano. I've been like 14 years playing piano, but I always have problems with one specific thing, feeling not good enough, specially when somebody I see is much better than me, I feel useless and I feel I will never be able to do as good as, or feel confortable around those people because I think I'm just not good enough, or I feel this is not what I should do as a career, etc. I have done research about it, I'm progressing but sometimes I still get that feeling of useless and not good enough.
I had a question for you.... please give me tips or make a video on how to take others success more as a motivation than discouragement..... sometimes I am motivated but most of the time I feel discouraged
Theres this guy in my art class that always has something to say but i always say something worse back and everyone goes “ooo” then he shuts up for the whole period....works for me🤷♀️
But what if you're a little old fashioned and you don't accept disrespect from others. What if you just have certain principles and do not tolerate insults with ill intentions? Should one still agree and amplify while disapproving of someone's bad behaviour? Doesn't that send the message that I accept being treated like that? Doesn't that condone bad behaviour of others towards you?
Not responding doesn't necessarily imply you agree with them and are insecure, it could be that others words simply no longer bother you and responding is a waste of time and energy. Good video anyway!
Exactly, sometimes ur silence is the best answer!
that's what it may mean to you but to the rest of the group or audience... it still looks like you are agreeing that it's okay for them to offend you
No. Not responding is always a bad thing.The problem is, *you* might think "I don't care. Why would I bother?" but that doesn't count for the other person. There are many ways one can interpret silence but none of them is positive.
Even if you really don't care, you should react. You can do something as simple as saying "Ok, if you think so." and then just walk away. This way you will ignore them. It's not even much more but the effect is a whole different.
Most typically, people will count silence as a victory (in what ever they're trying to achieve...). And that might even make things worse.
However, if you react and then move on, you show them "yeah I heared you but I don't care.".
Sbeast I agree. Those who know how to speak, know also when.
elgato9o Don't care about what other people think. Don't let others influence your actions. Do it for you, not them. Silence is probably better.
There's a lot of people who laugh off an insult and respond the "confident" way, suggested in this video. And deep down, behind their fake laugh, they are feeling hurt. I think the third method also allows people to insult you and tells them that it's acceptable behavior. I remember when I was young I never knew I was insulting my sister's friends and our cousins because they would laugh it off. Until their moms would call my mom talking about how distressed we made their daughters feel by our jokes. I think it's better to correct the person by letting them know that they made an inappropriate remark and it doesn't and it does not deserve the dignity of a response.
Moromo Music I do what he says, laugh it off and joke about it if it’s not that bad. But there are times when you have to be firm about what you dislike and really just don’t care about. I believe that is what he should also include in the video. Because you shouldn’t let everything offend you but you shouldn’t brush off stuff that means a lot to you.
but arent you being too nice to assholes by just telling they hurt you? Assholes should be hurt more than they did to you imo. Only problem is - how to not get hurt even more from some people after that :( I think that way goes to killing people sometimes.
@@shhuayb woah let’s calm down brother 😂
Hey it's been a long time.... ah, uhm, almost 1 year... How are ya'll
I rarely have people insult me. But when I do, I literally laugh and genuine struggle to take it seriously if the insult holds no real weight xD If its constructive criticism, I happily take it and remove any emotion from the equation. It was awesome seeing your perspective. Keep the videos coming, you really got something here.
Here's one: you're an idiot
OnePercentBetter here's an insult for you
XDDDD
OnePercentBetter same here m’dude
Shannen Canton omg did you just guess their gender wooooow
just messing with you lol 😂
Insults online are given out like candy on Halloween my friend. Stay a while longer lol
the thing is about somebody being insulting is they gain power out of the situation. They enjoy pissing you off and get a kick out of it. The video shows one way to take their enjoyment away because you laugh it off. However with some people, such as passive aggressives, this laughing it off is a declaration of war and they will come at you all the more because they'll say you can take it and laugh it off.
This is when things get more interesting because you've got deal with not just their rude comments but also the underlying bullying. The best way is to remember that they're doing for kicks so you take the fun or of it by owning the insult (shown in video) and give it back to them.
You look like you've put on weight.
Yea I have, you inspired me, lol
The idea is they stop insulting you when they realise it's being reflected back on themselves.
Thanks for this man
Reflecting it back is what I'm struggle with... I Can't really insult people... I lack content...!!!
What to do??
naib singh narwal I’m in the same boat as you, buddy.
genius
I agree. I always was the quiet person that would just laugh it off but suddenly realized the same person would continue to attack me.... i would pretend i'm not hurt but I actually am and replay what they said in my head.
I think there is not a one size fits all -- you have to know generally who the person doing the insulting is and what insult is it, I believe.
Humor it.. that's it. youre welcome.
Politically correct speech isn't my thing, fk off your name is longer than ur comment :P
lmao!!
XD
It's not so easy for me. I think I'm not smart enough for that.
Ikr I have no idea why people think it’s so difficult
When people insult me I don't respond and instead become a godfather planning how to destroy their lives lol 😅😅
Sameee
Me too
i would just say “okay?”
Well you could just do that. 😂😂😂😂
Planning now !
What about option 4 which is punching the insulter in the face and letting them know you are not one to be fucked with?
i like that
You just stooped yourself WAY below the insulter's level.
You'll break your arm and end up looking like a weakling. The human skull is the hardest part of the body and your hand is the weakest. You do the math.
***** exactly the reason why you shouldn't get emotional. Most people have never punched anyone before, and if they do it ends up in their wrist being injured. Reality sucks, but hey...what can you do? Emotional idiots are going to be emotional.
ya mom swallows kids on the daily That's not good. Ive used that method every time someone insults me, it's not good people start getting scared and avoiding you.
I'm always insulted because I'm Asian and I can't speak well and in home i cry. so I decided to watch this and it really helped. Thanks man
cocolove 0730 that’s called them being racist don’t give them a reaction just be like “okay”
Love you coco! Listen to some comedy, adopt a dog, dedicate yourself to drawing
If people dont like you so what :)
Life is what you make of it :)
I feel you... Came to Germany when I was 13 and now I'm 18 but still kinda self-conscious about my German...
Same i always get called short
@@justsomelilimposter8103 just say great things come in small packages
i have hard time responding to insults as well. Usually when someone insults me i stay quiet and i take it too personally. but next time i'll try this method.
MimicTheFakeTreasureChest Hey man, you are not cool! Wachu gonna do about it?
Milenatureza. well. eh your right. im not cool, but popularity really doesn't matter to me.
MimicTheFakeTreasureChest Hey dude, you were suppose to joke about it...
Milenatureza oh. dammit! i did it again!
i stay quiet too except i don't really get offended......just think most ppl opinions are pointless and even if they are true so what i know my weaknesses way better than anyone ........it's like they are telling me that the sky is blue or sumthing
i'm the aggresive type. when someone insults they go to the dentist :D
JohnyMST u r great enough don't change
😂😂
Looool thats what i like lmaooo😂😂😂
Why to the dentist?
JohnyMST I’m the 2nd type. I hold everything in. Help me out please.
Aren't you just opening the door for someone to be rude on a daily basis.
Zexion98 That's what I was thinking.
Zexion98 This video was intended for people who get offended easily when the other person means no offense. Dealing with someone who is actually trying to offend you might be a different topic.
If you are staying silent you open the door more... They notice that they can do it without any response, feeling a dominant position where they use it against you, basically how bullying works...
no you're actually befriending him. now that you have replied to his insult in positive manner, you too can insult him next time without offending him.
mcsnurtle that is so insulting and fucking boring at the same time that halfway of the sentence, person who insulted you will just go away and never talk to you neither positively nor negatively.
I am the agree and amplify type of person, but I still feel hurt and replay the situation. Can someone help?
Feeling hurt is necessary to help you agree to the insult. Just agree what they said and work on it. Because you're hurt, you'll be motivated to do whatever it takes so they no longer can insult you on the thing they insulted you on before.....
No no no you stop it at its source at the beginning your basically asking them to keep evolving their strategies come on there's no pacifist way out of this
niecers Thank you for that :)
***** You're obviously not from Philly.
Say something back
I am a pychologist and i can say that depends of three factors of how you could react: 1) Who is the person who says that. 2)The magnitude of the insult. 3)The context of the situation or your day.
I like it a lot! I really liked it when you said: "The way that you re-act is creating the frame".
Such a power thing. Thank you for this video.
I would disagree and amplify. You want the insulter to be stigmatized for being rude...otherwise they won't conform to unspoken social rules, thus becoming a rude person altogether
Gabneyy example
What do you mean? We need more
I once was in a family reunion and a number of my relatives wouldn't stop commenting on how much weight I have put in. Initially I laughed it off, joked about it with them and did not show them that I was offended. They kept coming at me all throughout the day (we arrived in the morning, and was there until around 9 PM, so yeah) repeating the same comments everytime they see me or pass by me. It drained me so much I ended up crying in a room and feeling so depressed. It caused me to not meet anyone of my relatives for more than a year and that's when they realized that they were wrong. The whole incident scarred me until now, traumatized me so much I avoid social gatherings altogether as much as I can. Sometimes there are just some people who wouldn't stop until they see you break, no matter how much you agree or disagree with them.
All when someone thought you gained weight... Waoh
disagree and amplify works pretty well too.
how would that look like in the given scenario of "hej, you gained some weight!" ?
hahaha. They're all situational and it's a bit hard to make a disagree and amplify on that scenario.
no I didn't gain any weight, but alot of it!
yeah i got so fucking fat I don't know how to look at myself anywhere below my boobs.
no I actually been fasting - no food for 3 days. I'm proud of myself - now i can fit into clothes not especially made for me :). and I'm getting even better thanks for worrying about me though.
*hater* :"You suck!"
*me* ;"Honey, I also swallow"
awsomwgirlbr lol good one!
This video is a lot of help, but I'm not very good at responding to complements either. they make me feel awkward and I'm never really sure what to say besides thanks.
what if they complement with question like why are you so smart? And further more , if they are smart persons too,.
Gta5410 u dumb fuk, your english is not good that doesn't imply that Indians are not good at it, infact if u research u'll find that indians r among the top best english speaking people. leave alone the benefits u've got from this video in ur 3rd class college.
when you get a compliment just look them in the eye and say thank you. (perfect)
thanks for noticing ( a bit arrogant)
you think so? I always though you're the smart one. (insecure)
ookay?(unappreciative,rude or not accepting the compliment)
if it's like a questions you start with thanks and then you actually answer if you dont really know you can say something like
thanks. though i don't know I guess I was born this way. (slightly funny and arrogant.)
thank you. my intelligence comes from lots and lots of books(short simple)
thank you. i try to improve myself a lot including biography books, movies, tutorials for which i spend at least 3 hours every day.(long and easy to continue if the person you speak with wants to know more.)
Kim Jinhwan Exactly lol
Thank you....I was just being bullied online by some people I thought were my friends... I shut off my computer in sadness and regret..... I got my phone to go on TH-cam because that always cheers me up. I saw this video in my recommended and watched it. It helped so much. Thanks you!
Oh god... please no more of the generic vlogger background music
yeah agree
use czech vibes... best on yt
AustrianKronos I gave this a dislike for no fucking reason oh my allah....
Yeah!
This can actually send the message that your flaws are funny and it's ok for your friends to mock them.
I don't agree with this video. Here, you are talking about jokes between (most of the time) friends. I am interested about how to react to someone who insults you in a way he disrespects you and whants a fight. Someone who challanges you. So not about jokes.
Tell him you are on a tight schedule:-P
Usually i just be sarcastic lol
Ignore or be sarcastic as he said^
DJDobrev you just need to understand sarcasm to agree
The best way to hit inside the one that offended u is using sarcasm that does not appear offending in the outside. But in tbe inside. It will make ur opponent looking like a fool of he reacts to much of it. And u can just say.. I didnt say that. U the one who thoughy about it hahaha
literally no matter what negative things someone says to me my response is always thanks I appreciate it
this was unbelievably on point
nice Video!
the one who asked for this video is actually proving he's superior, as he wishes to learn
I'm like the second one.
I keep quiet, put it in my head. lol
"lol"?
Seriously?
@@shawarmageddonit I also just keep quiet because I don’t know any insults
As of recently, I've just started lambasting them in my head. It's not a bad strategy
Time flies...
It's just hurt so much whenever if we think about it
When somebody says something and says it again later, like your so ugly, and then later they say it again, just say, “You already said that” and if the person gets pissed off easily say, You already said that, do not repeat yourself” and then say the same thing again repeating yourself and they will be confused, pissed, annoyed, or will just give up, it is so simple and effective.
but they can beat you then if they are pissed. Its kind of conflict. On one hand you want to piss them and annoy them because they did it to you. But if they can hurt you physically - you do not want that. How to deal with that?
@@Name-lt2tz i thinl this strategy is only use for youtube comment
That was soooo good. Subscribed.
Same, this is the third video I saw and I am impressed by how interesting and easy to understand all your videos are
Improvement Pill hey man I have a question.I am usually the funny kid in each of my classes until one day there was just someone who beat me to it; now when ever I say something it doesn't even seem to be funny anymore because the other guy is the one making all the jokes and stealing my mojo.I feel like I can't be be the funny one when someone else is doing it better.Any tips on how I can make my jokes flow with his or top his?
Moses Chavarria 👍
Moses Chavarria make em your bff 😂👏
I carry a pocket knife wherever I go.
*I'll just leave it at that.*
Nah that can put you in trouble
The best way is to become a bodybuilder
I bet no one will ever insult u
Mee too
@@lopkiza5935 not really
And my dick swings past my knees
imagine trying to act hard in the yt comment section lol
this guy deserves more subs
I had been an Option 2 for so long. Thanks for the insight. This video actually help me understand myself more. I will change now. This is quality content.
This happens to me most of the time and I’m always freaking out! I kept quiet every time people insulted me not until they crossed the line. 😅 Thank you for making this vid! Such a huge help buddy!
I used to stay quiet when people would insult me in their joking/ but not really joking way, and sometimes I would try to go along and make a joke, It's the worst thing to do, if someone insults you and its deliberate, let them know right away that it's rude and you don't appreciate it. Agreeing and playing it off or keeping quiet makes you a target for bullying.
Just ask gordon ramsay for insult ideas
Unique Bacon Hair Idiot sandwich is the best one
THIS BEEF IS SO RAW IT'S EATING THE SALAD
My question how to respond when people go way below the belt with a comment? This seems to be the norm today? It's very childish, immature and disrespectful, it's ok laughing and joking with friends but let's say you have a dog, you have it from a pup and it passes away at a ripe old age, now this dog has been with you through thick and thin, the good the bad and some one outside your circle makes a wise crack? Like it's just a dog get over it? That's just one off the top of my head, I find this from the younger generations, ego, image, getting that last one in kind of attitude, now I'm not saying all are like this but in my line of work this is common place? Life can take some real shitty turns for some people and a below the belt comment when people are at a all time low is not needed? What's the best way to deal with such people?
Greg Rodgers Punch them in the face.
+Greg Rodgers By asking them questions that decode their behaviour and makes them self reflect. In your example with the dog you can ask:
"Why have you said that it is "just a dog?" " He/she might reply: "Because the lives of dogs don't matter so much"
"Why don't they matter so much?"
"Because they are less developed species than us" . . .
"So are you saying that a less developed being has lesser value than a more advanced one?"
"Yes"
"Why?"
"..."
If you keep asking these types of questions you will get to the truth why that person is doing what is doing; whether that person has a different belief system from you or whether that person is just plain mean.
Then you can decide for yourself if he/she has a point or not. If he has, you can acknowledge their right and shift your perspective, if you want to. If not, then he/she might self reflect and change point of view(if that person is not a fool). Either way, problem solved.
If you keep practising this strategy, you will reach a point where when people cross the line, you will immediately know the answer to their behaviour and don't even bother about it. It will be their problem, not yours.
Greguar12345 thanks for that really helpful insight how to deal with this kind of reply, really appreciate it
+Greguar12345 If you ask "Do lesser developped species deserve less rights?" and they answer "Yes", then just say: "In that case, you obviously don't warrant the right of my attention" and walk away.
End of story.
+anythingnew The same goes with me . .
Officially, my number 1 chanel on youtube. And i'm thinking, maybe even the best psychology chanel also.
when someone insults me I just say: well, thanks like your opinion man.
Always gets them xD
Jacob Williamson Unfortunately when I say that, they try to “correct” me and say “No its not a opinion its a fact”. I tell them well it’s your opinion that your opinion is a fact, until they get confused and give up.
niw10pro just respond "yeah just like how bad your grammar is"
actually I thought it was really kind and thoughtful of you to answer someone's question and help us to deal with abusive people in a humerous way that doesn't hurt anyone. thank you
you know the lessons are gonna be wise when they come from shikamaru
kevin gonzalez damnit man, that's what I was thinking
😅 right
Dear Improvement Pill,
I'd like to ask you to make a video to my following questions :
- What to do to not to be racially abused or commented on?
- How to stay awake to focus on studying for examples?
- How to gain youtube videos views?
- What's the best way to study?
Thanks in advance.
Your videos are so intellectually helpful!!!
Good video, but you don't want to continously accept their frame when they keep on insults you. You also want to draw some boundaries if it continues.
If their main purpose in insulting you to piss you off and you keep undermining their comments like this video has taught they will stop insulting you. Easy! Agree and Amplify will always work.
I cannot thank you enough for this channel, channels like yours, and charisma on command have really changed my life.. Thank you!
Hi, I just watched your FORD video with Practical Psychology. I really like the way you animate your videos and wanted to say keep up the good work. Not subscribing for now (since most of your videos seem to be male-focused), but you've got some quality stuff.
okashi10 ...yes, nice animation.
I have been called a nerd or Weaboo or much worse thing but I have been subconsciously doing this to everyone for the last few years, and I don’t have any majors issues or depression because if you do this then you come off as a better person to both the Bully and the people watching. Then you can meet people because they think that your funny. This technique really increases your strength as a person in all ways.
I assume many people watched this video because they are insecure about themselves, or they do not know how to deal with insults. Well, a good comeback should not just absorb whatever was said. That's a very shallow interpretation. A good comeback should be true, both to the situation, and to the context. In other words, do not just retort nonsense about the other person, because that makes you look like a fool. Furthermore, if you are going to insult another person, at least come up with a real insult, one that is actually true. That is how you truly insult another person. A good retort should be specially suited to the person and circumstance, so do not memorize rhetoric from an online website. It is not poetry class! Remember to be dynamic and knowledgable. A knowledgable is invincible when it comes to rhetoric. Read a lot of rhetoric and witticisms. And do not go around looking to engage in fights, just so you can practice some jargon.
this video literally speaks to how I am personally, especially option 2, i normally just tell people who insult me like "okay" or" think what you want", however what they say keep playing over and over in my head and makes me angry.
Unless were just talking about cracks amongst friends... honestly this might be your worst video, if you respond like that it sends the message that your ok with it much more so than even the second option. Only use option 3 if you found the insult and the person saying it, so beneath you that you GENUINELY find it humorous.
I enjoy the thoughts that you make me think. It's like giving me the power to take the buildings/structures in my mind and lift them up and sweep under them. Thank you
amplifying is hard.. i just say somethin stupid.. that makes me look more douchebag
John Proud but your comment is actually funny.😂
And then people start insulting you with the insult you said to yourself when someone insulted you.
Not cool...
Exactly!!
I guess it comes down to your ability to creatively come up with an alternative of what to say, based off your experience with conversations like that. Someone outgoing and always in a group talking will firstly be less likely to be the focus of an insult, and will also have experienced it happen to other people and know how it feels too. All these social experiences allow you to decide creatively about your response. Try and try again. If you say something stupid and get dropped on because of what you said to yourself make your answer a little less believable and try again next time it happens. Don't let this become a big concern every time you go out with friends
I knew a guy who would reply to a insult with something so fucked up you wouldn't know what to say
You can also agree/disagree and call out their rudeness in a calm way, that always puts people back on their heels
If someone insults you, use your golden weapon:
No, u
You don’t know how much this has helped me in school, especially in late middle school. Thx
some people call me something which i am not ..how should i respond to them ....i try to ignore them but their words keep hurting me from inside ..what should i do
Freddy Brainy I did this, he responded with “ Yeah, he tells himself that” goes to show that that response doesn’t work all the time.
The way you respond to insults depends on the audience. If the audience is a friend then this video is perfect. if the audience is a stranger then a few other optimal options come to mind: asking "why do you think that?" and potentially showing vulnerability as you ask for feedback, or saying "bother someone else!", or making a game of it and sparring by saying "Yeah, I might catch up with you!".
People who are vulnerable get hurt more often, but they also are happier overall, and they are much more resilient to bad stuff happening.
But I mean, fat is an easy example to laugh off.
Not that easy.....
I usually give them the "you sure you wanna play this game" stare and if they don't back down I'll engage in their little game, but I don't take it too far. I'm a lover not a fighter. I'm not scared to let someone have the last word, in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter because I've usually focused more on turning the frame in my favor, and at that point I've won anyways no matter what their little quip is.
What should ya say when someone says "so funny I forgot to laugh"
Agree and amplify
I used to be Option A. Later on, I was option B. But thanx to this vid, I will try my best to be option C, to do whatever it takes to not get offended by whenever my friends insult me. Thank U once again.✌
dude i this is the first time i seen the video but i have been doing the 3rd option even before.
but sometimes when i do this other people would continue insulting me even more about the topic and as a result ill go to option 2.
You are doing a great job man. The stuff was one of the best a person can get on youtube. Again, thanks for making these amazing videos.
When you realize you've been doing option2 for most of your life
Like +OnePercentBetter has said, I rarely have people insult me. But when I do, I say nothing back. Nothing. It's the mature thing to do, it shows that you're mature and makes the person who insulted you look bad.
I got a life but don't have a life so people can say what ever cause God put me here as a mistake
Trust me bro. You're not a mistake. You have some sort of purpose in this crazy life. I too have questioned why I'm here. It's a very difficult question to answer but if you find your purpose, you'll feel better.
Bully: Youre a fanny!
Me: Yes you're right I'm a big fanny.
Hey man firt awesome content and second could you do a video on how to trat emotion abuse or how to respond to en abuser?
I know a few channels like this and i must say, this is extremely useful, i really got to thank you
Option 4-Use the meme army and get them harambed
i would have sad that my mom cooks food very tasty thats why i am fat u as
@@shashankmall6077 does not sound like effective.
I agree with your solution in certain instances. But sometimes, when someone says something offensive as a joke I reply as “Are you saying that I am this or that ?” This way they become aware of why they are saying without you have to change the frame of the conversation
I’ve noticed a lot of red pill teachings in his videos
Damn his voice is so sexy
I've made a habit of simply smiling at any insult thrown my way, works every time.
man how should I insult someone in a rap please tell me brother.....
Improvement Pill thanks man
I would really appreciate if u analyse all techniques needed to rap and make a video
I gotta spit sick bars
hit them really hard
as hard as a fart
bombard ....haha lol
Sarbjit Singh hey thats pretty good
Nikola Kraev o thanks hahhaaa where u from buddy
Sarbjit Singh im from Bulgaria,and you?
I use this all the time!!!! People love it ! It makes the conversation so much fun :D
When you judge another, it doesn't define them, it defines yourself.
Silence has been working great so far for me.
Before they try to get into my mind? One of two things will happen, I will either laugh and walk away or? Instantly go straight into rage and be looking for a fight
one of the best video on TH-cam 😮😮😮
thanks IMPROVEMENT PILL for this awesome video i got insulted by other people but i never understood why i usually got insulted and people start making fun of me now i get it bcoz of my way of dealing it with by staying quiet thanks a lot man keep making this video
Best option is to look at them sharp in the eyes so you both make eye contact, chuckle for a moment and continue watching them in the eyes.. They maybe gonna try to insult you later again, but that hurts them from inside very hard and they will stop it :) . Im glad if i help you !
I once got insulted but didn’t realise and just carried on talking as if nothing happened then thought “was that supposed to insult me”
this video this channel is a gem I've found, thank you improvement pill, you've changed my life... I've become a stronger person bcoz of u... you're my virtual bestie ♥️♥️
if they are actually trying to hurt you then silence dissaproving headshake and strong eyecontact followed by leaving always works for me.
When they insult you and then say “i was joking” like um- sir/ma'am....
HOW THE HELL WAS THAT FUNNY!?!
When I’m getting insulted I just stay quiet and talk to my most overprotective, strong friends
My family insults me every single day and minute but I'm proud of me that I am still alive 💪😊
Ignoring works best.... Unless you work directly under an insulter or live with one, but I just read cold showers also work so, Praying helps a bit too. A combination usually works best. Use combos!
i am using an app where people (strangers) are oftenly get insulted ..My way to dodge that problem is to face it...I started making fun of the situation and sometimes a witty reply can stun and shock them..and others laugh at it. so the tip is you have to be witty, extremely funny, wise , intelligent at the same time to counter that problem..
And another great video!!!! Keep it up bro!
but if someone say something like "shut up ur so annoying" idk how agreeing and anplafying works
Yeah 🤔
couldn't thank you enough for make this video, by the way I was #2
I think a video about how to deal with anger would be awesome and helpful to people
You can just shake your head with a "I feel sorry that you are like this" motion. It will make them feel like they tried to bring you down, but instead you brought them down.
Somebody insulted me on facebook but when I opened youtube, I saw this video on my recommendation list, what a coincidence
now i open my eyes, and new ways to improve my social skills.
Hey man, I'm a simple guy that just wants to go out there and be better at what I do, playing piano. I've been like 14 years playing piano, but I always have problems with one specific thing, feeling not good enough, specially when somebody I see is much better than me, I feel useless and I feel I will never be able to do as good as, or feel confortable around those people because I think I'm just not good enough, or I feel this is not what I should do as a career, etc. I have done research about it, I'm progressing but sometimes I still get that feeling of useless and not good enough.
Thanks,now I know how to respond to my judgemental family members and relatives.
I had a question for you.... please give me tips or make a video on how to take others success more as a motivation than discouragement..... sometimes I am motivated but most of the time I feel discouraged
Theres this guy in my art class that always has something to say but i always say something worse back and everyone goes “ooo” then he shuts up for the whole period....works for me🤷♀️
But what if you're a little old fashioned and you don't accept disrespect from others. What if you just have certain principles and do not tolerate insults with ill intentions?
Should one still agree and amplify while disapproving of someone's bad behaviour? Doesn't that send the message that I accept being treated like that? Doesn't that condone bad behaviour of others towards you?
WHAT A DEEP VOICE!!!