Why I took a break from TH-cam here: th-cam.com/video/zBWWLMHK-lI/w-d-xo.html Thank you all for continuing to be here and continuing to support my journey as a creator, it means more than you know ❤️
❤❤❤ oh Sweetie, You, and a coupla others have been such a help. The rump’s lies, his gaslighting me, my family, half the bleedin’ 🩸 country, Covid, the shameless sycophancy of so many people in public office, my sister died… Thank You, Thank You, Thank You 🙏🙏🙏 … Ima geezer, 68 y.o., it’s never been this bad, and the soothing Sweetness of You, and a few other actual angels, the ones here and now, and into the TH-cam future - Y’all Golden. I’m male, but feel as Cassandra must have. I’ve seen it, others have, but being condescended to, ignored, silenced. It’s been too much. Thank You, and them. - JanusPan Prometheus
YESSS.... I know... I started my own TH-cam channel about two years ago because I wanted to share some information about hair straightening. It quickly turned into a hobby for me... I'm mostly talking about anything BUT my hair in my videos right now... but I like sharing my personal experience, my knowledge on topics that are important to me ( mental health being one of them)... I'm barely a channel... only having just over 200 subs... but I used to enjoy it. Then, something very traumatic happened in my life and I HAD to take a break... after a couple of months I felt like going back to creating content for TH-cam, only to realize that about 25% of my subs were gone... some of them are people from my personal life... my best friend for example, and he told me that he NEVER unsubscribed at all!!.. I was watching how the algo was working against me, day by day... but almost two years after my last video b4 the break/trauma - here I am, putting out content as a hobby functioning as a counterpart to my still trauma shacken life..! :) I'm rooting 4 you Kati! I've always been and I always will!
I hope that you'll always take a break whenever you need one. I personally appreciate the education and guidance you've provided. It doesn't hurt at all if we just watch past episodes while you refresh your personal life and consider your own well-being. I wish you all the best going forward. Thank you.
Hi, Katie, thank you so much for talking about how youre feeling because I didn't realize that the reason why I had a complete meltdown. I've been listening to you for quite a while now since I moved to Iowa. And I love how you make me think. You make it okay for me to take a deeper look at myself. Give permission to make it okay to look deeper at my issues and work on myself. I haven't been able to for a while. I have been in survival mode for the past year and a half and it led me down a very, very dark road. I went to an inpatient facility for seven weeks. Gotta love the VA. They're really really nice. And I'm better-ish now. I need to remember the tools they shared with me. Anyways...im rambling too much about me. (Sorry ♥︎). I just wan to tell you how much I appreciate you. I'd been white knuckling it since we moved to Iowa last year. When I listen to you, you help me feel that I'm not so alone. It help to know that these feelings happen to you too. It happens to everyone! We're all human! If anybody is holding their head high, stoic, saying that nothing bothers them. Yeah, they're lying. So anyways, I just want to send you my love. And I want you to know that you have all of our permission to take care of you. I like you and I need to thank you for everything you do. ♡
About 10 years ago when I was still an intern MFT, I had a supervisor say "as a therapist, you need at least 2 weeks off, at least twice a year. When you take a vacation, it takes one week just to let go of stress and another to start to relax and even begin to recharge." Your approach of taking a month off every 3-4 months sounds even better. Thanks for the reminder and I'm so glad you're taking care of yourself.
Kati, I genuinely appreciate all sides you share with us. From the information to the personal struggles. It brings a serious authenticity to your 'product'.
Kati, you inspire me so much, especially when you say that you like the part of you that's soft and vulnerable. For someone who is still learning that vulnerability is my strength, your words mean a lot to me, and yes please take breaks more frequently even if it's just for a week. I hope you find a therapist soon as it will help a lot too. I'm rooting for you🥰❤ Happy belated birthday❤
Hello Katie, I can't imagine having 1.21 MILLION subscribers, and what that means. I spend three hours every morning, just responding to comments. That's such a tiny drop of what your viewers must expect, and you're doing an extraordinary job. You're very fortunate to have a team, but your message is powerful and necessary. It must be hard to walk away for any break. Your viewers must be in your head all the time. I appreciate you and am sure that others also understand the burden you've taken on. We also assign a "tone, or attitude" to text, that can enhance or add an edge to comments. I wish you all the best!
Kati I've always respected and looked up to you. I've been watching you since I was 15. I'm 28 now lol. You're just so awesome. Thank you for everything and for inspiring so many. Please take breaks when you need them ❤️
Please feel free to do these “unfiltered” video longterm! Maybe do them once a month, once a quarter, etc. It is SO helpful seeing this from a therapist.
Sometimes people are soooo stressful. And honestly, the world needs empathetic people like you❤️ I’m also a very soft soul ❤️ don’t be disheartened. Cruel is not the new cool.
Katie, I so appreciate your honesty, vulnerability, and heart. I am a Psychotherapist as well. I have felt burnout at times myself. I think you are spot on. Take time for you! A few yrs ago, I had to recharge by taking time off, going to therapy, getting involved in a consultation therapy group, and making an effort to make new friends that energized me. Your empathetic nature is your super power! You are a warrior! I am rooting for you and cheering you on Katie! Holly
roxy is a gorgeous dog. happy birthday. thanks for being a helper. thanks for sharing your struggles. breaks=self care. glad you won't be shorting yourself in the future. don't let algorithms dictate your life.
Ive been watching alot of the oldder videos. And Ive been thinking that the Katie in those videos is happy, bubbly Katie. The Katie of late has seemed even on video to just be dragging herself through it. So, we are greatful that you are taking the you time thats so needed right now. And, thank you from the bottom of my heart, because this video, literally spoke to me and my situation now, today. This morning, you were describing me, and how Ive gone to a puffer fish. Much love, and thank you!!!💜
06:57 'I like the fact that I'm soft, and vulnerable, and empathic (...)' Good, because all these three are incredibly positive yet equally underrated, especially nowadays in our hardened global society.
Hearing about your struggles just makes you more relatable. I think it's an admirable thing to do to share. Reminds us that we're all human, we're imperfect, and that's what makes us all amazing. Without all of our imperfections we would all just be emotionless robots that are all identical and extremely boring. And yes you need regular time off from work. I've been at my job for almost 15 years now and I get 3 vacation weeks a year and so I space them out evenly about every 4 months I take a week. If I don't I nearly go insane. Gives your brain time to reset from stress.
What a real, authentic and beautifully vulnerable message that I needed to hear and be reminded about. I am also an LMFT and I can't tell you how this resonated with me and for me! Thank you for your sharing and your willingness to do so, Kati!
I am glad you are trying to take care of yourself! I am so glad you are realizing the things that will get you to your most healthy state and are taking steps for making this happen for yourself.
I noticed I’ve been more sensitive lately as well. If someone says something negative towards me, I’m a little more emotionally volatile about it. I’m currently working and in a master program, and this semester was harder with a manuscript due and more hours out of my time for clinical hours. I think the burnout has gotten to me and my reaction to the world is a manifestation. Thank you for sharing. You validate the emotional state of so many people out there right now. ❤sending love for your recovery journey
Kati, thank you for your sincerity and love. Thank you for expressing your humanness so wholeheartedly and openly. You are helping with everything you share here, be it personal or therapeutic!
Kati maybe you can share with us your process of finding a good therapist. I’ve seen your video about which characteristics a good therapist has but maybe you can go through the actual process of finding one?
I had the same thought 👍. It feels nearly impossible since COVID to find a good therapist. Many have gone corporate and the corporate construct is very depersonalizing and very expensive. I hope Kati might share more about finding a good local therapist. Psychology Today is not a very helpful way.
I totally understand why I emotionally shut down. Thank you very much for reminding me that I was experiencing the intensity of “survival mode”. That’s why now to harmonize and heal myself, I have quiet time, journal, meet up with friends and family, but I need to take a short vacations, which are misses. I’m grateful you brought that up. And I love how you encourage us to do eternal inventories, too. Maybe you could help us feel more so that you feel more, too, by taking us through meditations, journaling sessions, and various creative outlets to for internal inventories and such? You’re KIND and UNDERSTAND: you’re the BEST for being real, for being you. ❤️
You are an amazing breath of fresh air. Your willingness to be vulnerable, honest and forthright is encouraging to those of us who also operate in that framework.
You do amazing work and you should be proud of yourself! I've experienced burnout myself and it's a slow process to heal from it, I wish I had a magic trick for you but sadly I don't. Putting yourself first is a good first step, I wish you all the best!
Thanks for setting a great example to follow and teaching us how to make decisions about how best to care for ourselves. I'm so grateful for this type of conversation.
My therapist and I were discussing burnout, and he mentioned the impact that burnout and stress have on the body. If you're comfortable, maybe schedule yourself a spa day! Go all out and schedule a massage, go get your nails done, etc. The release of tension that comes from a massage helps me immensely! You're wonderful, Katie. Good on you for recognizing you need breaks in order to recharge and feel better!
I am so excited to hear you saying these things! The realisation about pufferfishing, the importance of connection, that you finally maybe found a therapist. These things are so important! I've always been drawn to your content because of your softness. I'm all marshmallowy too and I know the toll that takes so no judgement at all that you pufferfish to self-protect. But I know it can disconnect us from ourselves sometimes too. And I'm seeing more and more that the biggest lesson from the pandemic and the chaos of the last years is that the only hope we have is in connection: with others and with ourselves. I have so much respect and compassion for you. And a tip or trick... just a gentle suggestion to add one addition to your list of solutions: Maybe turn that amazing, strong, beautiful softness towards yourself a little too with some self-compassion and cutting yourself some slack? Thank you so much for this and all your life-changing videos over the years.
You are so sweet! If you need time away, you should take it. No need for apologies. The Pandemic and negative political climate surrounding it has changed me too, and I don’t feel the same as before. It feels like PTSD. I get overwhelmed easily and still isolate all too easily. You are not alone. ❤
Howdy hi hi. One of the things I've learned over the past several years as I prepare to share what I've learned with the online community. Is that for almost everyone. The primary pathway toward feeling good is emotional (affective) empathy. However we need to have personal contact, to see a person's face. Thus the push back on wearing masks. Hear their voice with all it's various inflections. Experience the reality affirming element of touch. Hand shakes work wonders in this regard. And is why pets are so often eager to engage in touch as a form of greeting. Even a person's scent can play a role in this regard. All of these elements are the tools that are observed by our mirror neurons so that we have the reliable information we need in order to assess the emotional state of the person we are interacting with. When we emotionally empathize. We quite literally do so by also experiencing their emotional state. When these states are perceived to match. Each party that realizes this will experience the release of reward endorphins. This coincidentally, is why therapy works. We share the empathy provided by our therapist. Thereby reaping those endorphins. And this makes processing traumatic events, and abuses easier to endure. And in so doing. Reach a place where we can resolve those things we have had so much trouble with. With the pandemic. And the requisite isolation it imposed upon us. Many of our go to tools were suddenly ripped away in an almost violent manner by the authority of our governing organizations. The effects of this, in a very real way. Mimics how we react to long term abuse. A suggestion for how to take a break without feeling as much of a financial hit from doing so. Each time you take a break. Prepares a kind of greatest hits of Kati to be released during your absence. Something akin to: "During my break I plan to focus on this, that, the other thing. oh oh and this thing too!" Republishing video segments that relate to those things. It will allow your viewers to still feel a connection during these times. While also keeping the adsense algorhythms happily chugging out referrals to your channel.
It is DEFINITELY okay to be soft and empathic and to realize that about yourself and still find pride in it. You keep being a soft gooby-goob awesome empath!!! I appreciate you. I feel similar to you in that way and I appreciate you sharing your experiences and all the truths like saying how 8 days wasn't enough and coming back from it you're not 100% happy-go-lucky positive vibes about it. Like you state, things take time especially healing. So thank YOU for taking YOUR time sharing your own healing experiences, all the ups and downs, good and questionable, because doing so is helping MANY others heal vicariously through these shared experiences. Much love 💚
As for the YT algo and avoining punishment for taking a break: Prepare a rack stack that you can release instead of fresh content. That could be some shorts cliipped from existing videos or even framed replays where you re-present a former episode about a timeless or revived topic with a fresh introduction by yourself and maybe completed with updating comments on what else you learned since then.. That's totally legit. Bust out your treasure trove, there's plenty of material already stored up.
I have Adhd and am hyper sensitive and burnout regularly. Sorry it’s got you. I wouldn’t say I’m a empath but see it in you for sure and it must be exhausting feeling others emotional turbulence and all the complications of living in today’s stressful world. Good luck
I appreciate you being honest and sharing your vulnerable issues. It's refreshing to see a therapist that isn't always putting up a "I'm a superhuman and I always have my life together 100% of the time". I've been hypervigilant since retirement to a new location in 2018 (it's not working out), then Covid isolation, then most of last year recovering from 2 surgeries. Easily triggered and feel like I'm trying to be human again after being in a 3 year coma. Take care.
Hi Kati, glad to hear that you were able to take a short break! I am not a YT but I totally emphasise with the puffer fish description, and feeling totally overwhelmed and needing to protect myself. I hope you will take more breaks, I always watch your videos and get great help from them. Take care of yourself ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and modeling taking time off. I learned something from a friend how she would try to plan monthly getaways to keep on top of stress management. It could be as simple as a one night in a hotel in the next town or a day trip to the next county over. Just something to have a change of scenery. I try to incorporate that myself. When I was married we'd go on Priceline or some website and find last minute getaway prices locally. We got to stay in nice places for a lot cheaper. It helped tremendously to keep going. Thanks for sharing the wellness tools you use.
Kati, it’s okay to take a break. Take as much time as you need! I recently recognized that I need to take a break for myself as I haven’t been doing well lately. We all need to recharge and do things we enjoy.
Hi Katie, I’m a therapist who is burning out post pandemic as well. Thank you for sharing this, you gave me words for things I’m experiencing that I couldn’t articulate. Sending you love ❤️
Wow Kati. I feel that you and I are so close as to the type of person we ware. I am a sensitive person, that feels for others, and am a crier myself. That's not an easy thing to deal with sometimes in a world where a man is not supposed to cry, but I have leaned to cry like a real man and not hide my tears. It's the best thing I have ever done for myself (apart from seeing a therapist who is wonderful). I can't believe it took me this long to figure out that I need to look after myself more than the other people around me. I am at that mid-life crisis part where I am looking to change the way I live my life. It will be a long, difficult journey, but I'll make it. Thank you for sharing who you are. No bullshit.
I relate! Love your sweet dog 😘Very stuck in burnout. Frontline clinical work with animals and their humans right through the worst of the pandemic (2020-2021). Corporate therapy, whether online or local, was an expensive disaster. The real person, private therapist (or doctor, nurse or veterinarian) cannot be replaced. It might help many out here to learn how you source a compassionate and skilled local therapist who has experience treating trauma/burnout among clinical people, or anyone else in crisis. I’ve tried every avenue, without success. I realize therapists are also overwhelmed by demand and their own burnout. So, any sharing of your own experience in searching could be supportive and helpful to the community of your followers. Thanks for sharing. Please take best care of yourself. Your doggo will be an excellent support!! Other YTubers pre-prepare vlogs to post while they take a break. You also have a great library of vlogs for us to access! Best wishes for joy and a good break, with loved ones and laughter, over the holidays! 🤗
Kati, you are very special - enjoy your breaks. Thank you for sharing your truth and vulnerability. I miss inperson connection too since the world changed with covid.
Absolutely loved that you posted this video. I've always been a soft and sensitive person, and grew up hating that part of myself. The world makes it hard to be vulnerable, but I've accepted my soft side and I'm still learning to take time to take care of me. Working in healthcare supporting patients plus being a wife and mom can be challenging most days, but I'm trying to be resilient everyday and to look out for others and taking a break to take care of me. Thank you Kati, and keep staying true to yourself. 💖
Kati your videos have been instrumental in my healing journey! I've commented in the past that I have DID. I've been seeing a trauma specialist for nearly two years now, and because of how far I've come, I feel like I am finally ready to leave therapy and face life with the tools I have to deal with whatever comes my way. Do you know who gave me the idea to leave therapy? YOU DID! I had gotten to a place where I didn't think I needed it anymore but was not sure I could or even should leave. With my diagnosis, I thought I would be in therapy for much longer. But I watched a video of yours that talked about it and then came up with a game plan with my therapist. I'm so proud of myself for coming this far, and in part I have you to thank for that! Please don't ever sacrifice your mental health for the sake of us, Kati. Just the fact that you exist is enough. We love you.
I'm so glad you're on the path to feeling better Kati! I think it could be super helpful for a lot of people - myself included- to hear about your recovery and how you find a way to balance out that vulnerability with the reality of being online.
An honest, wonderful, helpful video. Thank you Kati. I hope you get to love & look after yourself now the way you say for us to love ourselves through trauma. Your channel is such a help for countless people. ❤
So glad to hear more about your break and your discoveries of self. I was one who kept thinking "when is her break starting?" I too am rebuilding life and trying to understand my deepest needs so that I can create my sufficient, wonderful life. You had the pandemic, then you moved states, then you gave up your clients, you couldn't find a therapist, and you bought a house. All very big changes and stressors even the happy ones. You go Kati. Make changes. Get your needs met. We'll be here for you.
I Love Your Dog ... you are awesome and smart- hope you understand the deeper meaning behind my declaration. And, yes finding a good therapist is frustrating! They are all booked solid!
Katie, I applaud your open honesty ! As an individual who worked in the medical field & trained as a therapist, I applaud you for your openness and honesty. Counseling is a field for helpers. You truly are a helper, and your passion for your work is clearly apparent ♥️ I am glad that you are taking care of yourself ! As helpers we often put the "wounded" that we are caring for in the primary point of focus in our lives. It is an attribute of a phenomenally affective therapist. I was in military emergency medicine when I was younger. One of my instructors told me that while you are out there saving the wounded make sure to care for yourself. There are lots people counting on you to aid them. So take of yourself first, so that you will be able to fulfill your mission of helping others♥️ I love your videos, & your channel is a bright spot ☮ Take as much time as you need. We will be here awaiting your return☮♥️🍀🙂
Struggling with burnout myself, it's such a comfort to hear you talk about this! For one, knowing I'm not alone and that even therapists have this, is a relief. Secondly hearing your self-talk is a super great example for me 😊 I've been following for quite some time but have had troubles recognizing my own cruel self-talk until my new therapist (she's great!) pointed it out. I hope you can find a therapist that suits you! ❤️
Katie, Thanks for being very transparent. I hope you will find a therapist that is a lovely fit for you. I am a highly sensitive person so I can relate to the challenges of being open-hearted and vulnerability. I recently started with a new therapist and I think it will be supportive in my inner healing. 💗
Hi Katie, I hope you will feel much better. You are a precious woman🌸💗 and you have helped so many people including me and I am very greatful. My heart is with you. Your doggie is very pretty❤️
That was lovely to hear. Small breaks. An evening out with friends. One hour a week doing lunch. These are simple but so hard to get doing. Because of fear of returning to overwhelming work (hence the no breaks at all) yes CONNECTIONS! Xxx 😘
I'm so glad you took a break for yourself and took a vacation, everyone, no matter what profession you have, needs a break/vacation. Roxy is adorable! 😍 I have had the same sort of burnout you talk about. I love to help people and also have a soft heart for people in need of help. I found a word that described me perfectly "careworn". I don't know if that is something you might feel or not, but I thought I'd share being I'm now trying to figure out how to keep my boundaries and say no now and then so I can protect myself from overdoing the "helping others" part and making sure I help myself out too. 10:20 Snowboarding: Spirit Mountain Recreation, Duluth, MN 😃 I think the longer we're stressed, the longer we need to decompress. I've started to measure how stressed out I am by how much time off I think I would need to feel better and find my baseline again. We're all people helping people.🙂
So glad you got away on a break, very important for everyone to do, escape everything you normally do!! I can't ever relax at home, getting away is the only way to unwind, leaving the laundry room and appointments behind you. Look after yourself and take 2 weeks next time xxxx
Kati, We love you. Your work helps so much and I hope that the time away helped and continues for you and your husband. Recharge, recoup and we'll be here. :)
Please take breaks! This is a lesson I'm still learning in animal rescue and it's tough to do. But with you doing this, you really need to. And, I LOVE your dog ❤️
I am so glad you are finding yourself on the way back to you! You are amazing and although I haven't been following you for long I have learned so much from your videos. Yesterday I used your trick of painting my nails in order to give myself time to think before engaging in self-harm. And by the time my nails were dry I realized I could make it through till my partner got home. And sure enough I did. Thanks for having an impact on my life. I'm going to tell my case manager that tip when I see her next. I think it's a great one that every one who struggles in this way should know. Thanks again.
Why I took a break from TH-cam here: th-cam.com/video/zBWWLMHK-lI/w-d-xo.html Thank you all for continuing to be here and continuing to support my journey as a creator, it means more than you know ❤️
Take care of yourself Katie and recharge. It's fine to take some time off ❤
❤❤❤ oh Sweetie, You, and a coupla others have been such a help. The rump’s lies, his gaslighting me, my family, half the bleedin’ 🩸 country, Covid, the shameless sycophancy of so many people in public office, my sister died… Thank You, Thank You, Thank You 🙏🙏🙏 … Ima geezer, 68 y.o., it’s never been this bad, and the soothing Sweetness of You, and a few other actual angels, the ones here and now, and into the TH-cam future - Y’all Golden.
I’m male, but feel as Cassandra must have. I’ve seen it, others have, but being condescended to, ignored, silenced. It’s been too much. Thank You, and them.
- JanusPan Prometheus
Kati, dealing with TOXIC people, the plan-de-mic, and isolation, is hard for us all. Goodluck on your journey.
YESSS.... I know... I started my own TH-cam channel about two years ago because I wanted to share some information about hair straightening. It quickly turned into a hobby for me... I'm mostly talking about anything BUT my hair in my videos right now... but I like sharing my personal experience, my knowledge on topics that are important to me ( mental health being one of them)...
I'm barely a channel... only having just over 200 subs... but I used to enjoy it.
Then, something very traumatic happened in my life and I HAD to take a break... after a couple of months I felt like going back to creating content for TH-cam, only to realize that about 25% of my subs were gone... some of them are people from my personal life... my best friend for example, and he told me that he NEVER unsubscribed at all!!..
I was watching how the algo was working against me, day by day... but almost two years after my last video b4 the break/trauma - here I am, putting out content as a hobby functioning as a counterpart to my still trauma shacken life..! :)
I'm rooting 4 you Kati! I've always been and I always will!
You are such a real human being !!
I hope that you'll always take a break whenever you need one. I personally appreciate the education and guidance you've provided. It doesn't hurt at all if we just watch past episodes while you refresh your personal life and consider your own well-being. I wish you all the best going forward. Thank you.
Agreed
Hi, Katie, thank you so much for talking about how youre feeling because I didn't realize that the reason why I had a complete meltdown. I've been listening to you for quite a while now since I moved to Iowa. And I love how you make me think. You make it okay for me to take a deeper look at myself. Give permission to make it okay to look deeper at my issues and work on myself. I haven't been able to for a while. I have been in survival mode for the past year and a half and it led me down a very, very dark road. I went to an inpatient facility for seven weeks. Gotta love the VA. They're really really nice. And I'm better-ish now. I need to remember the tools they shared with me. Anyways...im rambling too much about me. (Sorry ♥︎). I just wan to tell you how much I appreciate you. I'd been white knuckling it since we moved to Iowa last year.
When I listen to you, you help me feel that I'm not so alone. It help to know that these feelings happen to you too. It happens to everyone! We're all human! If anybody is holding their head high, stoic, saying that nothing bothers them. Yeah, they're lying. So anyways, I just want to send you my love. And I want you to know that you have all of our permission to take care of you. I like you and I need to thank you for everything you do. ♡
Couldn't agree more with this 💕
Except she didn’t take a break. She kept on making videos which is what taking a break means
About 10 years ago when I was still an intern MFT, I had a supervisor say "as a therapist, you need at least 2 weeks off, at least twice a year. When you take a vacation, it takes one week just to let go of stress and another to start to relax and even begin to recharge." Your approach of taking a month off every 3-4 months sounds even better. Thanks for the reminder and I'm so glad you're taking care of yourself.
Even those who help others sometimes needs to take a break.
actually, it's ESPECIALLY those who help others NEED to take breaks!
Especially.
Except she didn’t take a break . She kept on posting videos
You’re such a strong person. Thank you for being you.
Kati, I genuinely appreciate all sides you share with us. From the information to the personal struggles. It brings a serious authenticity to your 'product'.
Thanks Brian. xoxo
Yes, it does!!! 😊❤
Kati you are wonderful.
Kati, you inspire me so much, especially when you say that you like the part of you that's soft and vulnerable. For someone who is still learning that vulnerability is my strength, your words mean a lot to me, and yes please take breaks more frequently even if it's just for a week. I hope you find a therapist soon as it will help a lot too. I'm rooting for you🥰❤ Happy belated birthday❤
Be ever so gentle with yourself and do the things that feed your soul. Thank you for being transparent with us. Keep it real.
Hello Katie, I can't imagine having 1.21 MILLION subscribers, and what that means. I spend three hours every morning, just responding to comments. That's such a tiny drop of what your viewers must expect, and you're doing an extraordinary job. You're very fortunate to have a team, but your message is powerful and necessary. It must be hard to walk away for any break. Your viewers must be in your head all the time. I appreciate you and am sure that others also understand the burden you've taken on. We also assign a "tone, or attitude" to text, that can enhance or add an edge to comments. I wish you all the best!
Kati I've always respected and looked up to you. I've been watching you since I was 15. I'm 28 now lol. You're just so awesome. Thank you for everything and for inspiring so many. Please take breaks when you need them ❤️
Me too, I found your channel when I was 22 and now I'm 32. Thank you Kati xxx
Please feel free to do these “unfiltered” video longterm! Maybe do them once a month, once a quarter, etc. It is SO helpful seeing this from a therapist.
Sometimes people are soooo stressful. And honestly, the world needs empathetic people like you❤️ I’m also a very soft soul ❤️ don’t be disheartened. Cruel is not the new cool.
Katie, I so appreciate your honesty, vulnerability, and heart. I am a Psychotherapist as well. I have felt burnout at times myself. I think you are spot on. Take time for you! A few yrs ago, I had to recharge by taking time off, going to therapy, getting involved in a consultation therapy group, and making an effort to make new friends that energized me. Your empathetic nature is your super power! You are a warrior! I am rooting for you and cheering you on Katie! Holly
We love you Katie and you’re HUMAN!!!! You’re allowed! I do know I love you and Sean! Stay true to yourself ! Love always , Jackie ✨🙏💜
roxy is a gorgeous dog. happy birthday. thanks for being a helper. thanks for sharing your struggles. breaks=self care. glad you won't be shorting yourself in the future. don't let algorithms dictate your life.
Ive been watching alot of the oldder videos. And Ive been thinking that the Katie in those videos is happy, bubbly Katie. The Katie of late has seemed even on video to just be dragging herself through it. So, we are greatful that you are taking the you time thats so needed right now. And, thank you from the bottom of my heart, because this video, literally spoke to me and my situation now, today. This morning, you were describing me, and how Ive gone to a puffer fish. Much love, and thank you!!!💜
06:57 'I like the fact that I'm soft, and vulnerable, and empathic (...)'
Good, because all these three are incredibly positive yet equally underrated, especially nowadays in our hardened global society.
Hearing about your struggles just makes you more relatable. I think it's an admirable thing to do to share. Reminds us that we're all human, we're imperfect, and that's what makes us all amazing. Without all of our imperfections we would all just be emotionless robots that are all identical and extremely boring. And yes you need regular time off from work. I've been at my job for almost 15 years now and I get 3 vacation weeks a year and so I space them out evenly about every 4 months I take a week. If I don't I nearly go insane. Gives your brain time to reset from stress.
What a real, authentic and beautifully vulnerable message that I needed to hear and be reminded about. I am also an LMFT and I can't tell you how this resonated with me and for me! Thank you for your sharing and your willingness to do so, Kati!
I am glad you are trying to take care of yourself! I am so glad you are realizing the things that will get you to your most healthy state and are taking steps for making this happen for yourself.
I noticed I’ve been more sensitive lately as well. If someone says something negative towards me, I’m a little more emotionally volatile about it. I’m currently working and in a master program, and this semester was harder with a manuscript due and more hours out of my time for clinical hours. I think the burnout has gotten to me and my reaction to the world is a manifestation. Thank you for sharing. You validate the emotional state of so many people out there right now. ❤sending love for your recovery journey
You're so sweet. Don't worry about taking time for yourself, you deserve it! Enjoy your life ❤👍
Ooooooo Roxy 💞🐺 Thank you for showing her. Dogs are the best therapy
FACTS, Katie. 4:30-5:00. You’re amazing and have led this path. I hope you find the space you need. ❤
Continue to take care of yourself, Kati! 💚 Try not to be hard on yourself. We're all on a journey. Thanks for sharing it here.
Kati, thank you for your sincerity and love. Thank you for expressing your humanness so wholeheartedly and openly. You are helping with everything you share here, be it personal or therapeutic!
Thanks, Kati!
Thank you... For who you are and all you do... 😊 ( Have you noticed that the word Rest is in Restoration)?
Everyone has stuff. Those who help the most also need help.
Kati maybe you can share with us your process of finding a good therapist. I’ve seen your video about which characteristics a good therapist has but maybe you can go through the actual process of finding one?
I had the same thought 👍. It feels nearly impossible since COVID to find a good therapist. Many have gone corporate and the corporate construct is very depersonalizing and very expensive. I hope Kati might share more about finding a good local therapist. Psychology Today is not a very helpful way.
I was away from Internet too and I saw Kati got a pitty and my day is now better. My pitty approves
I totally understand why I emotionally shut down. Thank you very much for reminding me that I was experiencing the intensity of “survival mode”. That’s why now to harmonize and heal myself, I have quiet time, journal, meet up with friends and family, but I need to take a short vacations, which are misses. I’m grateful you brought that up. And I love how you encourage us to do eternal inventories, too. Maybe you could help us feel more so that you feel more, too, by taking us through meditations, journaling sessions, and various creative outlets to for internal inventories and such? You’re KIND and UNDERSTAND: you’re the BEST for being real, for being you. ❤️
I affirm all the work you do online Kati. I have found your videos to be very helpful, and I appreciate your kindness.
Thank you for being so vulnerable you are such a great asset to people in recovery. 💪❤️💪 Here's to a wiser/ healthier 2023 for you and your loved ones
I’m grateful that you’re living the advice you give others. Thank you for taking care of yourself and seeing a good example ❤
To put it briefly, you are a phenomenal, brave, soft and strong young woman. Such a good human being. Thank you!
You are an amazing breath of fresh air. Your willingness to be vulnerable, honest and forthright is encouraging to those of us who also operate in that framework.
The REAL is very much appreciated in this world and on this platform. You're more human because you're real and open. Happy belated birthday. ❤️
Oh, Roxy!! Love her!
You do amazing work and you should be proud of yourself! I've experienced burnout myself and it's a slow process to heal from it, I wish I had a magic trick for you but sadly I don't. Putting yourself first is a good first step, I wish you all the best!
honey life is short, take all the time you need!
Thanks. xoxo
6:54 We love that you're soft and vulnerable and empathic too.
Kati, please, it is okay to take a break. You take time to listen and help others. You always deserve a break. Thank you for sharing with us.
Thanks for setting a great example to follow and teaching us how to make decisions about how best to care for ourselves. I'm so grateful for this type of conversation.
I feel better seeing how you can just be where you are, and it's great to see you prioritizing yourself. Hope you start to feel better soon. ❤
My therapist and I were discussing burnout, and he mentioned the impact that burnout and stress have on the body. If you're comfortable, maybe schedule yourself a spa day! Go all out and schedule a massage, go get your nails done, etc. The release of tension that comes from a massage helps me immensely!
You're wonderful, Katie. Good on you for recognizing you need breaks in order to recharge and feel better!
You might love Bend, Oregon. Snowboarding at Mt. Bachelor is an awesome time. Stay well. 💛
I am so excited to hear you saying these things! The realisation about pufferfishing, the importance of connection, that you finally maybe found a therapist. These things are so important! I've always been drawn to your content because of your softness. I'm all marshmallowy too and I know the toll that takes so no judgement at all that you pufferfish to self-protect. But I know it can disconnect us from ourselves sometimes too. And I'm seeing more and more that the biggest lesson from the pandemic and the chaos of the last years is that the only hope we have is in connection: with others and with ourselves. I have so much respect and compassion for you. And a tip or trick... just a gentle suggestion to add one addition to your list of solutions: Maybe turn that amazing, strong, beautiful softness towards yourself a little too with some self-compassion and cutting yourself some slack? Thank you so much for this and all your life-changing videos over the years.
You are so sweet! If you need time away, you should take it. No need for apologies. The Pandemic and negative political climate surrounding it has changed me too, and I don’t feel the same as before. It feels like PTSD. I get overwhelmed easily and still isolate all too easily. You are not alone. ❤
Howdy hi hi.
One of the things I've learned over the past several years as I prepare to share what I've learned with the online community. Is that for almost everyone. The primary pathway toward feeling good is emotional (affective) empathy. However we need to have personal contact, to see a person's face. Thus the push back on wearing masks. Hear their voice with all it's various inflections. Experience the reality affirming element of touch. Hand shakes work wonders in this regard. And is why pets are so often eager to engage in touch as a form of greeting. Even a person's scent can play a role in this regard.
All of these elements are the tools that are observed by our mirror neurons so that we have the reliable information we need in order to assess the emotional state of the person we are interacting with. When we emotionally empathize. We quite literally do so by also experiencing their emotional state. When these states are perceived to match. Each party that realizes this will experience the release of reward endorphins. This coincidentally, is why therapy works. We share the empathy provided by our therapist. Thereby reaping those endorphins. And this makes processing traumatic events, and abuses easier to endure. And in so doing. Reach a place where we can resolve those things we have had so much trouble with.
With the pandemic. And the requisite isolation it imposed upon us. Many of our go to tools were suddenly ripped away in an almost violent manner by the authority of our governing organizations. The effects of this, in a very real way. Mimics how we react to long term abuse.
A suggestion for how to take a break without feeling as much of a financial hit from doing so. Each time you take a break. Prepares a kind of greatest hits of Kati to be released during your absence. Something akin to: "During my break I plan to focus on this, that, the other thing. oh oh and this thing too!" Republishing video segments that relate to those things. It will allow your viewers to still feel a connection during these times. While also keeping the adsense algorhythms happily chugging out referrals to your channel.
It is DEFINITELY okay to be soft and empathic and to realize that about yourself and still find pride in it. You keep being a soft gooby-goob awesome empath!!! I appreciate you. I feel similar to you in that way and I appreciate you sharing your experiences and all the truths like saying how 8 days wasn't enough and coming back from it you're not 100% happy-go-lucky positive vibes about it. Like you state, things take time especially healing. So thank YOU for taking YOUR time sharing your own healing experiences, all the ups and downs, good and questionable, because doing so is helping MANY others heal vicariously through these shared experiences. Much love 💚
I love genuine authentic professionals! Thk you for keeping me barely afloat lately Katie!
Pre-film videos! That way you can schedule them to be released in a time when you're not present and filming.
A good suggestion 👏 Other YTubers do that when they’re planning a break
If someone is burned out, they hardly can make one video, forget about 2 at a time … :(
As for the YT algo and avoining punishment for taking a break: Prepare a rack stack that you can release instead of fresh content. That could be some shorts cliipped from existing videos or even framed replays where you re-present a former episode about a timeless or revived topic with a fresh introduction by yourself and maybe completed with updating comments on what else you learned since then.. That's totally legit. Bust out your treasure trove, there's plenty of material already stored up.
I believe this misses the whole point = Burnout doesn't mean "time to do MORE."
Aw bless your heart, you are such an amazing sympathetic person who deserves more time in the sun and experience your own joy and laughter!
I have Adhd and am hyper sensitive and burnout regularly. Sorry it’s got you. I wouldn’t say I’m a empath but see it in you for sure and it must be exhausting feeling others emotional turbulence and all the complications of living in today’s stressful world.
Good luck
I appreciate you being honest and sharing your vulnerable issues. It's refreshing to see a therapist that isn't always putting up a "I'm a superhuman and I always have my life together 100% of the time".
I've been hypervigilant since retirement to a new location in 2018 (it's not working out), then Covid isolation, then most of last year recovering from 2 surgeries. Easily triggered and feel like I'm trying to be human again after being in a 3 year coma. Take care.
Thank you for your service and input. Good luck with all your endeavors. May you find peace and comfort.
Hi Kati, glad to hear that you were able to take a short break! I am not a YT but I totally emphasise with the puffer fish description, and feeling totally overwhelmed and needing to protect myself. I hope you will take more breaks, I always watch your videos and get great help from them. Take care of yourself ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and modeling taking time off. I learned something from a friend how she would try to plan monthly getaways to keep on top of stress management. It could be as simple as a one night in a hotel in the next town or a day trip to the next county over. Just something to have a change of scenery. I try to incorporate that myself. When I was married we'd go on Priceline or some website and find last minute getaway prices locally. We got to stay in nice places for a lot cheaper. It helped tremendously to keep going. Thanks for sharing the wellness tools you use.
Kati, it’s okay to take a break. Take as much time as you need! I recently recognized that I need to take a break for myself as I haven’t been doing well lately. We all need to recharge and do things we enjoy.
Hi Katie, I’m a therapist who is burning out post pandemic as well. Thank you for sharing this, you gave me words for things I’m experiencing that I couldn’t articulate. Sending you love ❤️
I love you sharing about yourself, love you chatting away with your dog hanging out with you
Really appreciate your work. Thankyou.
We love you. You are great! Thank you for everything.
Everyone needs "ME" time, especially those who's job is to give so much. Thank you for sharing. Best wishes and lots of Loving Kindness.
Wow Kati. I feel that you and I are so close as to the type of person we ware. I am a sensitive person, that feels for others, and am a crier myself. That's not an easy thing to deal with sometimes in a world where a man is not supposed to cry, but I have leaned to cry like a real man and not hide my tears. It's the best thing I have ever done for myself (apart from seeing a therapist who is wonderful). I can't believe it took me this long to figure out that I need to look after myself more than the other people around me. I am at that mid-life crisis part where I am looking to change the way I live my life. It will be a long, difficult journey, but I'll make it. Thank you for sharing who you are. No bullshit.
I relate! Love your sweet dog 😘Very stuck in burnout. Frontline clinical work with animals and their humans right through the worst of the pandemic (2020-2021).
Corporate therapy, whether online or local, was an expensive disaster. The real person, private therapist (or doctor, nurse or veterinarian) cannot be replaced.
It might help many out here to learn how you source a compassionate and skilled local therapist who has experience treating trauma/burnout among clinical people, or anyone else in crisis. I’ve tried every avenue, without success. I realize therapists are also overwhelmed by demand and their own burnout. So, any sharing of your own experience in searching could be supportive and helpful to the community of your followers.
Thanks for sharing. Please take best care of yourself. Your doggo will be an excellent support!! Other YTubers pre-prepare vlogs to post while they take a break. You also have a great library of vlogs for us to access!
Best wishes for joy and a good break, with loved ones and laughter, over the holidays! 🤗
Kati, you are very special - enjoy your breaks. Thank you for sharing your truth and vulnerability. I miss inperson connection too since the world changed with covid.
You sharing, helps us do a better job treating patients. Thank you for being vulnerable.
Absolutely loved that you posted this video. I've always been a soft and sensitive person, and grew up hating that part of myself. The world makes it hard to be vulnerable, but I've accepted my soft side and I'm still learning to take time to take care of me. Working in healthcare supporting patients plus being a wife and mom can be challenging most days, but I'm trying to be resilient everyday and to look out for others and taking a break to take care of me. Thank you Kati, and keep staying true to yourself. 💖
Kati your videos have been instrumental in my healing journey! I've commented in the past that I have DID. I've been seeing a trauma specialist for nearly two years now, and because of how far I've come, I feel like I am finally ready to leave therapy and face life with the tools I have to deal with whatever comes my way. Do you know who gave me the idea to leave therapy? YOU DID! I had gotten to a place where I didn't think I needed it anymore but was not sure I could or even should leave. With my diagnosis, I thought I would be in therapy for much longer. But I watched a video of yours that talked about it and then came up with a game plan with my therapist. I'm so proud of myself for coming this far, and in part I have you to thank for that! Please don't ever sacrifice your mental health for the sake of us, Kati. Just the fact that you exist is enough. We love you.
I love this message. I wish I could find a therapist just like you. Thanks for doing what you do!
I'm so glad you're on the path to feeling better Kati! I think it could be super helpful for a lot of people - myself included- to hear about your recovery and how you find a way to balance out that vulnerability with the reality of being online.
An honest, wonderful, helpful video. Thank you Kati. I hope you get to love & look after yourself now the way you say for us to love ourselves through trauma. Your channel is such a help for countless people. ❤
So glad to hear more about your break and your discoveries of self. I was one who kept thinking "when is her break starting?" I too am rebuilding life and trying to understand my deepest needs so that I can create my sufficient, wonderful life. You had the pandemic, then you moved states, then you gave up your clients, you couldn't find a therapist, and you bought a house. All very big changes and stressors even the happy ones. You go Kati. Make changes. Get your needs met. We'll be here for you.
I pray for Kati that she is doing better. People who help others need a break too. Cute dog.
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... you are awesome and smart- hope you understand the deeper meaning behind my declaration.
And, yes finding a good therapist is frustrating! They are all booked solid!
Katie,
I applaud your open honesty !
As an individual who worked in the medical field & trained as a therapist, I applaud you for your openness and honesty.
Counseling is a field for helpers.
You truly are a helper, and your passion for your work is clearly apparent ♥️
I am glad that you are taking care of yourself !
As helpers we often put the "wounded" that we are caring for in the primary point of focus in our lives. It is an attribute of a phenomenally affective therapist.
I was in military emergency medicine when I was younger.
One of my instructors told me that while you are out there saving the wounded make sure to care for yourself. There are lots people counting on you to aid them. So take of yourself first, so that you will be able to fulfill your mission of helping others♥️
I love your videos, & your channel is a bright spot ☮
Take as much time as you need.
We will be here awaiting your return☮♥️🍀🙂
I love when you share your feelings. Hug
xoxox
Struggling with burnout myself, it's such a comfort to hear you talk about this! For one, knowing I'm not alone and that even therapists have this, is a relief. Secondly hearing your self-talk is a super great example for me 😊 I've been following for quite some time but have had troubles recognizing my own cruel self-talk until my new therapist (she's great!) pointed it out. I hope you can find a therapist that suits you! ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience. This encourages us to be upfront when we're not feeling OK.
Katie you are so relatable. I have learned so much from you. Thank you for being strong enough to be so vulnerable. You have really helped me so much
Thank you for sharing. I can totally relate to what you are experiencing. Be gentle with yourself.
Katie, Thanks for being very transparent. I hope you will find a therapist that is a lovely fit for you. I am a highly sensitive person so I can relate to the challenges of being open-hearted and vulnerability. I recently started with a new therapist and I think it will be supportive in my inner healing. 💗
Hi Katie, I hope you will feel much better. You are a precious woman🌸💗 and you have helped so many people including me and I am very greatful. My heart is with you. Your doggie is very pretty❤️
No one is perfect
You're human too
Don't take it personally look at the caliber of people You're helping we are definitely imperfect...
I love you Kati. You are so giving and kind. Thank you for all your wonderful content. 🥰
I like your character. It's ok to cry, to laught, to get angry...to feel, dear. Feel we are similar.
That was lovely to hear. Small breaks. An evening out with friends. One hour a week doing lunch. These are simple but so hard to get doing. Because of fear of returning to overwhelming work (hence the no breaks at all) yes CONNECTIONS! Xxx 😘
I'm so glad you took a break for yourself and took a vacation, everyone, no matter what profession you have, needs a break/vacation. Roxy is adorable! 😍
I have had the same sort of burnout you talk about. I love to help people and also have a soft heart for people in need of help. I found a word that described me perfectly "careworn". I don't know if that is something you might feel or not, but I thought I'd share being I'm now trying to figure out how to keep my boundaries and say no now and then so I can protect myself from overdoing the "helping others" part and making sure I help myself out too.
10:20 Snowboarding: Spirit Mountain Recreation, Duluth, MN 😃
I think the longer we're stressed, the longer we need to decompress. I've started to measure how stressed out I am by how much time off I think I would need to feel better and find my baseline again.
We're all people helping people.🙂
wow, YT algo PUNISHES creators when they take a break. new level of techno-toxicity.
I know right.. ugh :/
😂 usual anti capitalist mourners
That’s a good point.
I wonder how Vsauce got by so long with so rarely publishing new videos
Thank you!
I'm okay, struggling the last 2 days, but it's getting less. You helped.
Thank you!
Hugs
So glad you got away on a break, very important for everyone to do, escape everything you normally do!! I can't ever relax at home, getting away is the only way to unwind, leaving the laundry room and appointments behind you. Look after yourself and take 2 weeks next time xxxx
I hope for you that you are able to connect with this new therapist. Wishing for you to find mental health for yourself as you wish it for all of us!
Kati, We love you. Your work helps so much and I hope that the time away helped and continues for you and your husband. Recharge, recoup and we'll be here. :)
Much love and light sent your way. Thank you for sharing such an authentic video. XOXO:)
Good job taking care of yourself. I'm proud of you 👏 may you have another vacation soon.
Please take breaks! This is a lesson I'm still learning in animal rescue and it's tough to do. But with you doing this, you really need to. And, I LOVE your dog ❤️
I am so glad you are finding yourself on the way back to you! You are amazing and although I haven't been following you for long I have learned so much from your videos. Yesterday I used your trick of painting my nails in order to give myself time to think before engaging in self-harm. And by the time my nails were dry I realized I could make it through till my partner got home. And sure enough I did. Thanks for having an impact on my life. I'm going to tell my case manager that tip when I see her next. I think it's a great one that every one who struggles in this way should know. Thanks again.